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 | How easier it is for women to have matches and intimate experience without putting the miniscule amount of effort which men have to do (being rich, grooming, being funny, being good at talking) makes me wonder if men even have standards? submitted by Virgin_Mascot_ to Indiangirlsontinder [link] [comments] I've seen women's profile prompts are the demands from men which they want to be fulfilled whereas for men it's them trying to standout by displaying their personality. is dating scene fucked up? |
2024.06.09 16:24 Smooth-Housing1979 AITAH?
Aitah for telling my boyfriend he won't pass his exams?
I F18 is dating my boyfriend, Marcus M20. I'm a very studious person as my parents used to put a lot of pressure and effort into me in school. I wasn't allowed out past 5pm and I wasn't allowed out on Saturdays as I attended a weekend school. As a kid I would protest, rebel and sneak out of the house, only to be dragged back and given a pen and paper to write down what I did wrong.
Nothing worked for some years, till my dad told me how ill go no where in life without a good education. His words stuck with me so I began to work harder. The more effort I put into my studies the less rules I had. I was allowed out on Saturdays and my home time on weekdays was no longer 5pm, it was 10pm. Even with little rules, I still stayed with my books.
I met my boyfriend through a tutor group I was a part of. He needed his grades to go up in order to get a scholarship for socar. We agreed on a price that his father paid for. 20 dollars per session. I know of others who asked for more as the upcoming exams were very important, yet I didn't do it for the money, I did it as I needed to join a club to graduate.
His name was Marcus and he was a nice guy. He was hard to teach at first as all he'd talk about was his plans after with his friends. I would make sure he was given breaks in between studying so he could talk and get something to eat, but he'd never stop talking. I found it annoying at first, I was even contemplating on switching partners. I guess he found out about that and started working with me better.
He acted like the typical star socar player, has a hot girlfriend, everyone either wants to be with him or be him sorta guy. As time went on he started to be himself, he wore less of the branded clothes that probably cost more than my house and more sweaters and chill clothes.
Our relationship began when he asked me out for coffee, on a day we were studying. I agreed, thinking it would be a good time to bond our relationship for studying so it wasn't as boring for him. I actually had a really good time. A week or so later his girlfriend broke up with him as there was a new boy in the school. He was pretty upset about it but assured me it was more of a good look on the two of them and less of a relationship.
Over time we grew closer, the next thing I knew he asked me to be my girlfriend. We dropped our tutoring as he said he wanted me to tutor his friend. I agreeded and started my lessons. Marcus would come over every Saturday, some days we'd go out other days we'd stay at mine or his.
As the exams were coming up closer and closer I realised Marcus wasn't doing any studying at all. He hid it well in class when he was asked questions. He'd say he needs to go to the bathroom or he'd reply with a joke. I didn't find it funny but the rest of the class seemed to.
As the exams were two weeks away. I sat my boyfriend down. For the last while all he's been doing is playing games and drinking. I told him I can start tutoring him again as I feel like he needs it. He flipped out saying I sound like his mom, telling him what to do. I assured him I just want what's best for him but he raged pretty quickly. He started throwing his hands about, then turned away, turning his xbox on and started to mute me out. I sat on his bed, motionless for some time, watching him shoot down other players, groaning when they got him back. I think I sat there for an hour, just staring, blankly till I stood up.
I packed up my things and left, without a goodbye, he didnt even watch me leave.
Aitah?
submitted by Smooth-Housing1979 to AITAH [link] [comments]
I F18 is dating my boyfriend, Marcus M20. I'm a very studious person as my parents used to put a lot of pressure and effort into me in school. I wasn't allowed out past 5pm and I wasn't allowed out on Saturdays as I attended a weekend school. As a kid I would protest, rebel and sneak out of the house, only to be dragged back and given a pen and paper to write down what I did wrong.
Nothing worked for some years, till my dad told me how ill go no where in life without a good education. His words stuck with me so I began to work harder. The more effort I put into my studies the less rules I had. I was allowed out on Saturdays and my home time on weekdays was no longer 5pm, it was 10pm. Even with little rules, I still stayed with my books.
I met my boyfriend through a tutor group I was a part of. He needed his grades to go up in order to get a scholarship for socar. We agreed on a price that his father paid for. 20 dollars per session. I know of others who asked for more as the upcoming exams were very important, yet I didn't do it for the money, I did it as I needed to join a club to graduate.
His name was Marcus and he was a nice guy. He was hard to teach at first as all he'd talk about was his plans after with his friends. I would make sure he was given breaks in between studying so he could talk and get something to eat, but he'd never stop talking. I found it annoying at first, I was even contemplating on switching partners. I guess he found out about that and started working with me better.
He acted like the typical star socar player, has a hot girlfriend, everyone either wants to be with him or be him sorta guy. As time went on he started to be himself, he wore less of the branded clothes that probably cost more than my house and more sweaters and chill clothes.
Our relationship began when he asked me out for coffee, on a day we were studying. I agreed, thinking it would be a good time to bond our relationship for studying so it wasn't as boring for him. I actually had a really good time. A week or so later his girlfriend broke up with him as there was a new boy in the school. He was pretty upset about it but assured me it was more of a good look on the two of them and less of a relationship.
Over time we grew closer, the next thing I knew he asked me to be my girlfriend. We dropped our tutoring as he said he wanted me to tutor his friend. I agreeded and started my lessons. Marcus would come over every Saturday, some days we'd go out other days we'd stay at mine or his.
As the exams were coming up closer and closer I realised Marcus wasn't doing any studying at all. He hid it well in class when he was asked questions. He'd say he needs to go to the bathroom or he'd reply with a joke. I didn't find it funny but the rest of the class seemed to.
As the exams were two weeks away. I sat my boyfriend down. For the last while all he's been doing is playing games and drinking. I told him I can start tutoring him again as I feel like he needs it. He flipped out saying I sound like his mom, telling him what to do. I assured him I just want what's best for him but he raged pretty quickly. He started throwing his hands about, then turned away, turning his xbox on and started to mute me out. I sat on his bed, motionless for some time, watching him shoot down other players, groaning when they got him back. I think I sat there for an hour, just staring, blankly till I stood up.
I packed up my things and left, without a goodbye, he didnt even watch me leave.
Aitah?
2024.06.09 16:24 moomunequita Venting/Advice
TRIGGER WARNING- SA, etc.
It's a very very long story and there's more that I could go on about but- My parents had me young, mom (19), bio dad (21). They separated when I was around 3 or 4 y/o and that's when my dad (19) (that later adopted me) came into my life. When he went to adopt me at about 7 y/o, before sibling 1 was born, they needed bio dad to release his rights; he agreed on one condition from my mom, 'Don't talk to my family anymore, I will handle it'. So he signed, with the additional agreement that he would not have to pay child support, dad adopted me. I ended up with 1 little sibling and I wanted nothing to do with bio dad at this point, he was already out of my life since the adoption. At around 12 years old, my parents started their divorce, moms second divorce. This divorce was completely different. At first, I hated my (adopted) dad but then again, he used to work 3 jobs to support us, only had 1 day off and used it as a "cleaning day" (which I later appreciated as an adult because I had SEVERE allergies, but in the moment I was just like wtf man fr?) From 13 y/o to about 15 y/o my moms at the time bf was sexually abusing me, forcing me to "cuddle" on the couch, he would pretend to fall asleep (in 5 seconds) and touch my non existent boobs and coochie while grinding his boner against my butt until he had enough. I would lay there silently crying until he actually fell asleep, slowly crawl away, and be up the whole rest of the school night, in shock, crying, cutting myself, and writing very depressing poems. He would break open the bathroom door while I was bathing and would try to peep at me in the tub. I'd cover myself under the bubble bath for HOURS until I had no bubbles and the water was cold. I then tried hurting myself even worse but sibling walked in on me. I broke down and thought if I do this, this dude is going to go for my sibling so I'll just take whatever it is to protect them. So I did. I dealt with all the things plus him walking in on me SERVERAL times in my bedroom each time after I'd have a bath/shower (no lock on the door). This guy also apparently would hit, strangle, and rape my mom. I came to find out that he had a record too, he and his brother abducted a 17 y/o or 18 y/o girl, took her to a trap house, raped her in a bathroom with a pole-blood in the tub, sink, toilet, floor, etc. He also was busted because he put a garbage bag over another man's head and lit it on fire-because the man was black. (Dude ended up being dishonorably discharged later on btw) Eventually, she got rid of him, dated a bit, and settled with a new bf, my now step dad of over 10 years. At this point, I was 16 y/o, had a GREAT relationship with (adopted) dad (not so much my mom), and became curious about my bio dad-where I came from, family customs/traditions, similarities/differences, interests, the other half of who I am. I found him on social media, reached out but didn't get a response for 2-3 weeks. Shortly after us chatting, I went to see him (adopted dad and sibling 1 came with). I had 2 more siblings from bio dad, they were a decade or so younger than me, and sibling 3 didn't resemble me much but did with sibling 2 BUT sibling 2 looked so much like me at that age, weird. A short time later, there was a family event by bio dad, I was invited but had no way to get there (about a 6 hour drive from where I was at the time) so his sistemy aunt said she'd take me. She picked me up and I was to spend the night at her house (with my 2 cousins) then we would travel in the morning. I was so excited because I vaguely remember cousin 1 from childhood, apparently we were super close growing up together, I was eager to reconnect and bond with my cousins. When spending the night, cousin 2 went to sleep early (a bit younger than cousin 1 and I), so cousin 1 and I were talking for hours, it was great being able to reconnect/re-establish our relationship...until he kissed me, threw himself on me, tried getting me to touch him as he started to touch me. I said stop wtf what are you doing we are FIRST cousins!! He chuckled and said "We are but we're not" ... "wtf are you talking about?" ... "I'm not supposed to say but your dad had a DNA test done during tour parents divorce and told all of us your mom cheated on him, you're not ACTUALLY his acoording to the test" ... so at this point, I'm disgusted, have so many questions, confused, am in a house of 'family' that I don't know/don't believe that I am family-I went to sleep. Next day we traveled to see bio dad and after the event I asked him and step mom about it and also mentioned that because of this cousin 1 tried "xyz". Bio dad's response to the DNA-"Your mother had the DNA test done and it said I was not your bio father, she probably lied/gave me a fake test so I would stay out of your life." I went to my mom and questioned her, she said "Absolutely not, you know your (adopted) father and I don't talk so you can even ask him to verify that I'm not lying. I have no idea about anything that has to do with a DNA test, we never had one as he (bio das) was my first and we got married then I was prengant with you about 3-4 months after getting married." I asked (adopted) dad and his story lined up perfectly with my mom's. So bio dad lied to me and his entire side of the family to save face. He lied to all of them because his agreement of giving up his rights to me and not having to pay child support would not have been supported by his side of the family so he told them I wasn't his and supposedly provided a (fake) test so they'd get off his back about it. My grandfather from him said he saw the test-but there was no test! Beyond fucked up man...but whatever. I still wanted a connection. I wanted to leave the bullshit in the past and move forward right? So, fast forward a bit, I was in a 3 year (3 out of 3.5 year) relationship with a TRUE P.O.S. bf that was physically, mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive. We lived together for 3 years out of our 3.5 year relationship. He was addicted to porn, would call me a bitch every single day amoung other things, ended up raping me and thought it was funny, would hit, kick, choke me (not in the good way), and push me off the bed but then say "You think I want to be like this?! You think I want to do this to you?! Hurt you?! You're making me do it, it's your fault because you have issues." I wasn't "allowed" to talk to my guy friends because they're guys (and I didn't have many girl friends at all), especially my best guy friend that I grew up with and had known since 3 y/o. Bf would isolate me from my families even. At work, I only would talk to my guy friends/male co-workers if bf wasn't there otherwise he would ignore me the whole shift and be brutal when we got home (yeah, we also worked together for a bit over 3 years). I then found out that bf went on the dark web and watched a man kidnap someone, rape her, murder her, and proceed to rape her corpse...my bf was getting off on it! He even said he went back on the next night to do it again but site was blocked. FUCKING PSYCHOTIC. I could go on and on about his craziness. I was his 3rd virgin btw and at work we had a "work daughter" (was so close to that girl, she was 3 years younger than me, 5 years younger than bf and I used to go to her (when bf didnt have same shift as me) crying and telling her everything that would happen with him, so she knew all the shit he did). I was scared he was going to kill me one day, I was scared to stay, scared to leave, all the stupid things and all I wanted was consistent love. We did end up breaking up a few months after I turned 21, he ended up dating our work daughter and took her virginity too! He also did all the shit to her as he did to me! I felt bad for her at first but then thought no you dumb fuck, you knew EVERYTHING you were getting into smh. Anyway, I went to a family event for bio dad, bf was working, they wanted to meet him; we set up lunch for the following day. Bio dad said he was going to give bf the "talk" yk...with the shot gun type of talk. I said I don't feel comfortable with that because firstly, it's not his place, I have my dad (adopted), secondly, bio dad even agreed that we more so have a friend relationship at this point, and third, I've already been with bf for 3 years so it's not appropriate. He got REALLY salty the morning of the meet. We were coordinating plans and everything when he said along the lines, "We haven't seen you in person for almost 2 years now yet you always have time to go out...etc.etc." I responded, "The two times that you have seen me post that I was out, I was across the street from work. I went there for about 2 hours both times with bf and co-workers. I cannot drive 6-8 hours to you and 6-8 hours back in the same day. I work two full time jobs and am going to college online full-time. I'm sorry that I'm making you feel this way or that I've been distant but I try talking and seeing you all (on Skype and such) as much as I can. I don't know what else you want me to do or say at this point. That's why I'm excited for this meet up today. You also could have put in the effort to come out this way these last two years to visit me as well, but again, I'm sorry. I hope you all aren't mad at me, I'm really trying here." He then tells me "I'm going to have to cancel lunch today. I don't think meeting today is a good idea. Now I'm going to have to tell your (LITTLE) siblings that you don't want to see them today since you never have time for us and have basically disappeared from our lives these last 2 years." Aaaaand that's when I ✨️lost✨️ my shit and popped off 🙃 "ME?! I'm the one that disappeared?!?! How fucking dare you say that. How fucking dare you try to do that to them and me. YOU disappeared from MY life at 4 years old, LIED to the entire family (they still questioned if I'm "there's" or not, even had received the comment "Even though you're not ours, your ours because we've known you since a baby" and only 1 of bio dad's parents is still somewhat in touch with me to this day btw) I didn't see YOU for 12 YEARS of my life! I reached out to YOU, I have been the only one making an effort to keep the line of communication open and going and even after all of that plus my explaining that I work TWO full-time jobs plus full-time school, you still have the nerve and audacity to make me the bad guy and say I'm the one not trying here?! YOU are going to continue to LIE and tell MY siblings that I don't want to see them when that couldn't be further from the truth?! I'm going to tell you this ONCE, YOU blew your first chance of staying in my life when I was a child, now you're blowing it a SECOND time with me as an adult; there WILL NOT be a third time. I WILL NOT subject myself to this nor do I need your added stress. I WILL NOT allow you to do this to me EVER again. If my siblings or even step mom (or that side of the family) want to be in contact with me-I will gladly accept that but YOU are DEAD to me. Don't talk to me, don't contact me, I want NOTHING to do with YOU anymore, sperm donor." ... no response ...every couple of years after that I got a "happy birthday" or "merry christmas" here and there but I never responded. It's been a few years with no interaction from him. I just miss my siblings. I got so attached to them and I miss them, I tried staying in contact through video chats but they were still fairly young at that point so it was difficult plus having him or step mom in the background sometimes was awkward. They're now getting a bit older, sibling 2 is turning 18, sibling 3 will be 16. We have each other on social media but don't talk and very very VERY rarely interact with likes on posts. I'm afraid to make the first move, I don't want to push anything, I don't know what bio dad has been feeding into their brains about me, etc. My relationship with them will NEVER be as close as with my almost 21 y/o sibling 1 from (adopted) dad, which I can accept, I absolutely love my sibling 1 that I grew up with like nothing and no one else; I practically raised him tbh. But I do think about the other 2 siblings, I miss them, I just don't know if I should respect unspoken boundaries or make the first move? What do you think? And lmk if you want more of these batshit crazy stories that I've went through (tbh I'm probably going to post another seeking advice on another subject). ✌🏻
submitted by moomunequita to Advice [link] [comments]
It's a very very long story and there's more that I could go on about but- My parents had me young, mom (19), bio dad (21). They separated when I was around 3 or 4 y/o and that's when my dad (19) (that later adopted me) came into my life. When he went to adopt me at about 7 y/o, before sibling 1 was born, they needed bio dad to release his rights; he agreed on one condition from my mom, 'Don't talk to my family anymore, I will handle it'. So he signed, with the additional agreement that he would not have to pay child support, dad adopted me. I ended up with 1 little sibling and I wanted nothing to do with bio dad at this point, he was already out of my life since the adoption. At around 12 years old, my parents started their divorce, moms second divorce. This divorce was completely different. At first, I hated my (adopted) dad but then again, he used to work 3 jobs to support us, only had 1 day off and used it as a "cleaning day" (which I later appreciated as an adult because I had SEVERE allergies, but in the moment I was just like wtf man fr?) From 13 y/o to about 15 y/o my moms at the time bf was sexually abusing me, forcing me to "cuddle" on the couch, he would pretend to fall asleep (in 5 seconds) and touch my non existent boobs and coochie while grinding his boner against my butt until he had enough. I would lay there silently crying until he actually fell asleep, slowly crawl away, and be up the whole rest of the school night, in shock, crying, cutting myself, and writing very depressing poems. He would break open the bathroom door while I was bathing and would try to peep at me in the tub. I'd cover myself under the bubble bath for HOURS until I had no bubbles and the water was cold. I then tried hurting myself even worse but sibling walked in on me. I broke down and thought if I do this, this dude is going to go for my sibling so I'll just take whatever it is to protect them. So I did. I dealt with all the things plus him walking in on me SERVERAL times in my bedroom each time after I'd have a bath/shower (no lock on the door). This guy also apparently would hit, strangle, and rape my mom. I came to find out that he had a record too, he and his brother abducted a 17 y/o or 18 y/o girl, took her to a trap house, raped her in a bathroom with a pole-blood in the tub, sink, toilet, floor, etc. He also was busted because he put a garbage bag over another man's head and lit it on fire-because the man was black. (Dude ended up being dishonorably discharged later on btw) Eventually, she got rid of him, dated a bit, and settled with a new bf, my now step dad of over 10 years. At this point, I was 16 y/o, had a GREAT relationship with (adopted) dad (not so much my mom), and became curious about my bio dad-where I came from, family customs/traditions, similarities/differences, interests, the other half of who I am. I found him on social media, reached out but didn't get a response for 2-3 weeks. Shortly after us chatting, I went to see him (adopted dad and sibling 1 came with). I had 2 more siblings from bio dad, they were a decade or so younger than me, and sibling 3 didn't resemble me much but did with sibling 2 BUT sibling 2 looked so much like me at that age, weird. A short time later, there was a family event by bio dad, I was invited but had no way to get there (about a 6 hour drive from where I was at the time) so his sistemy aunt said she'd take me. She picked me up and I was to spend the night at her house (with my 2 cousins) then we would travel in the morning. I was so excited because I vaguely remember cousin 1 from childhood, apparently we were super close growing up together, I was eager to reconnect and bond with my cousins. When spending the night, cousin 2 went to sleep early (a bit younger than cousin 1 and I), so cousin 1 and I were talking for hours, it was great being able to reconnect/re-establish our relationship...until he kissed me, threw himself on me, tried getting me to touch him as he started to touch me. I said stop wtf what are you doing we are FIRST cousins!! He chuckled and said "We are but we're not" ... "wtf are you talking about?" ... "I'm not supposed to say but your dad had a DNA test done during tour parents divorce and told all of us your mom cheated on him, you're not ACTUALLY his acoording to the test" ... so at this point, I'm disgusted, have so many questions, confused, am in a house of 'family' that I don't know/don't believe that I am family-I went to sleep. Next day we traveled to see bio dad and after the event I asked him and step mom about it and also mentioned that because of this cousin 1 tried "xyz". Bio dad's response to the DNA-"Your mother had the DNA test done and it said I was not your bio father, she probably lied/gave me a fake test so I would stay out of your life." I went to my mom and questioned her, she said "Absolutely not, you know your (adopted) father and I don't talk so you can even ask him to verify that I'm not lying. I have no idea about anything that has to do with a DNA test, we never had one as he (bio das) was my first and we got married then I was prengant with you about 3-4 months after getting married." I asked (adopted) dad and his story lined up perfectly with my mom's. So bio dad lied to me and his entire side of the family to save face. He lied to all of them because his agreement of giving up his rights to me and not having to pay child support would not have been supported by his side of the family so he told them I wasn't his and supposedly provided a (fake) test so they'd get off his back about it. My grandfather from him said he saw the test-but there was no test! Beyond fucked up man...but whatever. I still wanted a connection. I wanted to leave the bullshit in the past and move forward right? So, fast forward a bit, I was in a 3 year (3 out of 3.5 year) relationship with a TRUE P.O.S. bf that was physically, mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive. We lived together for 3 years out of our 3.5 year relationship. He was addicted to porn, would call me a bitch every single day amoung other things, ended up raping me and thought it was funny, would hit, kick, choke me (not in the good way), and push me off the bed but then say "You think I want to be like this?! You think I want to do this to you?! Hurt you?! You're making me do it, it's your fault because you have issues." I wasn't "allowed" to talk to my guy friends because they're guys (and I didn't have many girl friends at all), especially my best guy friend that I grew up with and had known since 3 y/o. Bf would isolate me from my families even. At work, I only would talk to my guy friends/male co-workers if bf wasn't there otherwise he would ignore me the whole shift and be brutal when we got home (yeah, we also worked together for a bit over 3 years). I then found out that bf went on the dark web and watched a man kidnap someone, rape her, murder her, and proceed to rape her corpse...my bf was getting off on it! He even said he went back on the next night to do it again but site was blocked. FUCKING PSYCHOTIC. I could go on and on about his craziness. I was his 3rd virgin btw and at work we had a "work daughter" (was so close to that girl, she was 3 years younger than me, 5 years younger than bf and I used to go to her (when bf didnt have same shift as me) crying and telling her everything that would happen with him, so she knew all the shit he did). I was scared he was going to kill me one day, I was scared to stay, scared to leave, all the stupid things and all I wanted was consistent love. We did end up breaking up a few months after I turned 21, he ended up dating our work daughter and took her virginity too! He also did all the shit to her as he did to me! I felt bad for her at first but then thought no you dumb fuck, you knew EVERYTHING you were getting into smh. Anyway, I went to a family event for bio dad, bf was working, they wanted to meet him; we set up lunch for the following day. Bio dad said he was going to give bf the "talk" yk...with the shot gun type of talk. I said I don't feel comfortable with that because firstly, it's not his place, I have my dad (adopted), secondly, bio dad even agreed that we more so have a friend relationship at this point, and third, I've already been with bf for 3 years so it's not appropriate. He got REALLY salty the morning of the meet. We were coordinating plans and everything when he said along the lines, "We haven't seen you in person for almost 2 years now yet you always have time to go out...etc.etc." I responded, "The two times that you have seen me post that I was out, I was across the street from work. I went there for about 2 hours both times with bf and co-workers. I cannot drive 6-8 hours to you and 6-8 hours back in the same day. I work two full time jobs and am going to college online full-time. I'm sorry that I'm making you feel this way or that I've been distant but I try talking and seeing you all (on Skype and such) as much as I can. I don't know what else you want me to do or say at this point. That's why I'm excited for this meet up today. You also could have put in the effort to come out this way these last two years to visit me as well, but again, I'm sorry. I hope you all aren't mad at me, I'm really trying here." He then tells me "I'm going to have to cancel lunch today. I don't think meeting today is a good idea. Now I'm going to have to tell your (LITTLE) siblings that you don't want to see them today since you never have time for us and have basically disappeared from our lives these last 2 years." Aaaaand that's when I ✨️lost✨️ my shit and popped off 🙃 "ME?! I'm the one that disappeared?!?! How fucking dare you say that. How fucking dare you try to do that to them and me. YOU disappeared from MY life at 4 years old, LIED to the entire family (they still questioned if I'm "there's" or not, even had received the comment "Even though you're not ours, your ours because we've known you since a baby" and only 1 of bio dad's parents is still somewhat in touch with me to this day btw) I didn't see YOU for 12 YEARS of my life! I reached out to YOU, I have been the only one making an effort to keep the line of communication open and going and even after all of that plus my explaining that I work TWO full-time jobs plus full-time school, you still have the nerve and audacity to make me the bad guy and say I'm the one not trying here?! YOU are going to continue to LIE and tell MY siblings that I don't want to see them when that couldn't be further from the truth?! I'm going to tell you this ONCE, YOU blew your first chance of staying in my life when I was a child, now you're blowing it a SECOND time with me as an adult; there WILL NOT be a third time. I WILL NOT subject myself to this nor do I need your added stress. I WILL NOT allow you to do this to me EVER again. If my siblings or even step mom (or that side of the family) want to be in contact with me-I will gladly accept that but YOU are DEAD to me. Don't talk to me, don't contact me, I want NOTHING to do with YOU anymore, sperm donor." ... no response ...every couple of years after that I got a "happy birthday" or "merry christmas" here and there but I never responded. It's been a few years with no interaction from him. I just miss my siblings. I got so attached to them and I miss them, I tried staying in contact through video chats but they were still fairly young at that point so it was difficult plus having him or step mom in the background sometimes was awkward. They're now getting a bit older, sibling 2 is turning 18, sibling 3 will be 16. We have each other on social media but don't talk and very very VERY rarely interact with likes on posts. I'm afraid to make the first move, I don't want to push anything, I don't know what bio dad has been feeding into their brains about me, etc. My relationship with them will NEVER be as close as with my almost 21 y/o sibling 1 from (adopted) dad, which I can accept, I absolutely love my sibling 1 that I grew up with like nothing and no one else; I practically raised him tbh. But I do think about the other 2 siblings, I miss them, I just don't know if I should respect unspoken boundaries or make the first move? What do you think? And lmk if you want more of these batshit crazy stories that I've went through (tbh I'm probably going to post another seeking advice on another subject). ✌🏻
2024.06.09 16:24 EfficiencyVivid9669 Hinge date Ghosting - what can I do?
TL;DR Hinge date ghosting me - how do I stop feeling stung?
I (F19) had this really amazing hinge date (M20)the other day. Felt like we really clicked and conversation was smooth and easy like we'd known each other for ages. He seems funny, kind, emotionally available and intelligent and happens to be from a country I visit often (even though we currently live in the same city). I really just thought we hit it off and was super excited to see him again - couldn't stop smiling all evening.
Since then though he's basically ghosted me and left my last message on read. I am pretty crushed by this and am wondering if my feelings about him were rather delusional? Perhaps he didn't feel that same chemistry? I know this is bound to happen to everyone at some point or another but I can't shake the stinging feeling.
Wondering if tbere is anything I can do? Or otherwise if you have any advice for how to recover from this it would be much appreciated!
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I (F19) had this really amazing hinge date (M20)the other day. Felt like we really clicked and conversation was smooth and easy like we'd known each other for ages. He seems funny, kind, emotionally available and intelligent and happens to be from a country I visit often (even though we currently live in the same city). I really just thought we hit it off and was super excited to see him again - couldn't stop smiling all evening.
Since then though he's basically ghosted me and left my last message on read. I am pretty crushed by this and am wondering if my feelings about him were rather delusional? Perhaps he didn't feel that same chemistry? I know this is bound to happen to everyone at some point or another but I can't shake the stinging feeling.
Wondering if tbere is anything I can do? Or otherwise if you have any advice for how to recover from this it would be much appreciated!
2024.06.09 16:22 moomunequita AITA/Venting/Advice?
TRIGGER WARNING- SA, etc.
It's a very very long story and there's more that I could go on about but- My parents had me young, mom (19), bio dad (21). They separated when I was around 3 or 4 y/o and that's when my dad (19) (that later adopted me) came into my life. When he went to adopt me at about 7 y/o, before sibling 1 was born, they needed bio dad to release his rights; he agreed on one condition from my mom, 'Don't talk to my family anymore, I will handle it'. So he signed, with the additional agreement that he would not have to pay child support, dad adopted me. I ended up with 1 little sibling and I wanted nothing to do with bio dad at this point, he was already out of my life since the adoption. At around 12 years old, my parents started their divorce, moms second divorce. This divorce was completely different. At first, I hated my (adopted) dad but then again, he used to work 3 jobs to support us, only had 1 day off and used it as a "cleaning day" (which I later appreciated as an adult because I had SEVERE allergies, but in the moment I was just like wtf man fr?) From 13 y/o to about 15 y/o my moms at the time bf was sexually abusing me, forcing me to "cuddle" on the couch, he would pretend to fall asleep (in 5 seconds) and touch my non existent boobs and coochie while grinding his boner against my butt until he had enough. I would lay there silently crying until he actually fell asleep, slowly crawl away, and be up the whole rest of the school night, in shock, crying, cutting myself, and writing very depressing poems. He would break open the bathroom door while I was bathing and would try to peep at me in the tub. I'd cover myself under the bubble bath for HOURS until I had no bubbles and the water was cold. I then tried hurting myself even worse but sibling walked in on me. I broke down and thought if I do this, this dude is going to go for my sibling so I'll just take whatever it is to protect them. So I did. I dealt with all the things plus him walking in on me SERVERAL times in my bedroom each time after I'd have a bath/shower (no lock on the door). This guy also apparently would hit, strangle, and rape my mom. I came to find out that he had a record too, he and his brother abducted a 17 y/o or 18 y/o girl, took her to a trap house, raped her in a bathroom with a pole-blood in the tub, sink, toilet, floor, etc. He also was busted because he put a garbage bag over another man's head and lit it on fire-because the man was black. (Dude ended up being dishonorably discharged later on btw) Eventually, she got rid of him, dated a bit, and settled with a new bf, my now step dad of over 10 years. At this point, I was 16 y/o, had a GREAT relationship with (adopted) dad (not so much my mom), and became curious about my bio dad-where I came from, family customs/traditions, similarities/differences, interests, the other half of who I am. I found him on social media, reached out but didn't get a response for 2-3 weeks. Shortly after us chatting, I went to see him (adopted dad and sibling 1 came with). I had 2 more siblings from bio dad, they were a decade or so younger than me, and sibling 3 didn't resemble me much but did with sibling 2 BUT sibling 2 looked so much like me at that age, weird. A short time later, there was a family event by bio dad, I was invited but had no way to get there (about a 6 hour drive from where I was at the time) so his sistemy aunt said she'd take me. She picked me up and I was to spend the night at her house (with my 2 cousins) then we would travel in the morning. I was so excited because I vaguely remember cousin 1 from childhood, apparently we were super close growing up together, I was eager to reconnect and bond with my cousins. When spending the night, cousin 2 went to sleep early (a bit younger than cousin 1 and I), so cousin 1 and I were talking for hours, it was great being able to reconnect/re-establish our relationship...until he kissed me, threw himself on me, tried getting me to touch him as he started to touch me. I said stop wtf what are you doing we are FIRST cousins!! He chuckled and said "We are but we're not" ... "wtf are you talking about?" ... "I'm not supposed to say but your dad had a DNA test done during tour parents divorce and told all of us your mom cheated on him, you're not ACTUALLY his acoording to the test" ... so at this point, I'm disgusted, have so many questions, confused, am in a house of 'family' that I don't know/don't believe that I am family-I went to sleep. Next day we traveled to see bio dad and after the event I asked him and step mom about it and also mentioned that because of this cousin 1 tried "xyz". Bio dad's response to the DNA-"Your mother had the DNA test done and it said I was not your bio father, she probably lied/gave me a fake test so I would stay out of your life." I went to my mom and questioned her, she said "Absolutely not, you know your (adopted) father and I don't talk so you can even ask him to verify that I'm not lying. I have no idea about anything that has to do with a DNA test, we never had one as he (bio das) was my first and we got married then I was prengant with you about 3-4 months after getting married." I asked (adopted) dad and his story lined up perfectly with my mom's. So bio dad lied to me and his entire side of the family to save face. He lied to all of them because his agreement of giving up his rights to me and not having to pay child support would not have been supported by his side of the family so he told them I wasn't his and supposedly provided a (fake) test so they'd get off his back about it. My grandfather from him said he saw the test-but there was no test! Beyond fucked up man...but whatever. I still wanted a connection. I wanted to leave the bullshit in the past and move forward right? So, fast forward a bit, I was in a 3 year (3 out of 3.5 year) relationship with a TRUE P.O.S. bf that was physically, mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive. We lived together for 3 years out of our 3.5 year relationship. He was addicted to porn, would call me a bitch every single day amoung other things, ended up raping me and thought it was funny, would hit, kick, choke me (not in the good way), and push me off the bed but then say "You think I want to be like this?! You think I want to do this to you?! Hurt you?! You're making me do it, it's your fault because you have issues." I wasn't "allowed" to talk to my guy friends because they're guys (and I didn't have many girl friends at all), especially my best guy friend that I grew up with and had known since 3 y/o. Bf would isolate me from my families even. At work, I only would talk to my guy friends/male co-workers if bf wasn't there otherwise he would ignore me the whole shift and be brutal when we got home (yeah, we also worked together for a bit over 3 years). I then found out that bf went on the dark web and watched a man kidnap someone, rape her, murder her, and proceed to rape her corpse...my bf was getting off on it! He even said he went back on the next night to do it again but site was blocked. FUCKING PSYCHOTIC. I could go on and on about his craziness. I was his 3rd virgin btw and at work we had a "work daughter" (was so close to that girl, she was 3 years younger than me, 5 years younger than bf and I used to go to her (when bf didnt have same shift as me) crying and telling her everything that would happen with him, so she knew all the shit he did). I was scared he was going to kill me one day, I was scared to stay, scared to leave, all the stupid things and all I wanted was consistent love. We did end up breaking up a few months after I turned 21, he ended up dating our work daughter and took her virginity too! He also did all the shit to her as he did to me! I felt bad for her at first but then thought no you dumb fuck, you knew EVERYTHING you were getting into smh. Anyway, I went to a family event for bio dad, bf was working, they wanted to meet him; we set up lunch for the following day. Bio dad said he was going to give bf the "talk" yk...with the shot gun type of talk. I said I don't feel comfortable with that because firstly, it's not his place, I have my dad (adopted), secondly, bio dad even agreed that we more so have a friend relationship at this point, and third, I've already been with bf for 3 years so it's not appropriate. He got REALLY salty the morning of the meet. We were coordinating plans and everything when he said along the lines, "We haven't seen you in person for almost 2 years now yet you always have time to go out...etc.etc." I responded, "The two times that you have seen me post that I was out, I was across the street from work. I went there for about 2 hours both times with bf and co-workers. I cannot drive 6-8 hours to you and 6-8 hours back in the same day. I work two full time jobs and am going to college online full-time. I'm sorry that I'm making you feel this way or that I've been distant but I try talking and seeing you all (on Skype and such) as much as I can. I don't know what else you want me to do or say at this point. That's why I'm excited for this meet up today. You also could have put in the effort to come out this way these last two years to visit me as well, but again, I'm sorry. I hope you all aren't mad at me, I'm really trying here." He then tells me "I'm going to have to cancel lunch today. I don't think meeting today is a good idea. Now I'm going to have to tell your (LITTLE) siblings that you don't want to see them today since you never have time for us and have basically disappeared from our lives these last 2 years." Aaaaand that's when I ✨️lost✨️ my shit and popped off 🙃 "ME?! I'm the one that disappeared?!?! How fucking dare you say that. How fucking dare you try to do that to them and me. YOU disappeared from MY life at 4 years old, LIED to the entire family (they still questioned if I'm "there's" or not, even had received the comment "Even though you're not ours, your ours because we've known you since a baby" and only 1 of bio dad's parents is still somewhat in touch with me to this day btw) I didn't see YOU for 12 YEARS of my life! I reached out to YOU, I have been the only one making an effort to keep the line of communication open and going and even after all of that plus my explaining that I work TWO full-time jobs plus full-time school, you still have the nerve and audacity to make me the bad guy and say I'm the one not trying here?! YOU are going to continue to LIE and tell MY siblings that I don't want to see them when that couldn't be further from the truth?! I'm going to tell you this ONCE, YOU blew your first chance of staying in my life when I was a child, now you're blowing it a SECOND time with me as an adult; there WILL NOT be a third time. I WILL NOT subject myself to this nor do I need your added stress. I WILL NOT allow you to do this to me EVER again. If my siblings or even step mom (or that side of the family) want to be in contact with me-I will gladly accept that but YOU are DEAD to me. Don't talk to me, don't contact me, I want NOTHING to do with YOU anymore, sperm donor." ... no response ...every couple of years after that I got a "happy birthday" or "merry christmas" here and there but I never responded. It's been a few years with no interaction from him. I just miss my siblings. I got so attached to them and I miss them, I tried staying in contact through video chats but they were still fairly young at that point so it was difficult plus having him or step mom in the background sometimes was awkward. They're now getting a bit older, sibling 2 is turning 18, sibling 3 will be 16. We have each other on social media but don't talk and very very VERY rarely interact with likes on posts. I'm afraid to make the first move, I don't want to push anything, I don't know what bio dad has been feeding into their brains about me, etc. My relationship with them will NEVER be as close as with my almost 21 y/o sibling 1 from (adopted) dad, which I can accept, I absolutely love my sibling 1 that I grew up with like nothing and no one else; I practically raised him tbh. But I do think about the other 2 siblings, I miss them, I just don't know if I should respect unspoken boundaries or make the first move? What do you think? And lmk if you want more of these batshit crazy stories that I've went through (tbh I'm probably going to post another seeking advice on another subject). ✌🏻
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It's a very very long story and there's more that I could go on about but- My parents had me young, mom (19), bio dad (21). They separated when I was around 3 or 4 y/o and that's when my dad (19) (that later adopted me) came into my life. When he went to adopt me at about 7 y/o, before sibling 1 was born, they needed bio dad to release his rights; he agreed on one condition from my mom, 'Don't talk to my family anymore, I will handle it'. So he signed, with the additional agreement that he would not have to pay child support, dad adopted me. I ended up with 1 little sibling and I wanted nothing to do with bio dad at this point, he was already out of my life since the adoption. At around 12 years old, my parents started their divorce, moms second divorce. This divorce was completely different. At first, I hated my (adopted) dad but then again, he used to work 3 jobs to support us, only had 1 day off and used it as a "cleaning day" (which I later appreciated as an adult because I had SEVERE allergies, but in the moment I was just like wtf man fr?) From 13 y/o to about 15 y/o my moms at the time bf was sexually abusing me, forcing me to "cuddle" on the couch, he would pretend to fall asleep (in 5 seconds) and touch my non existent boobs and coochie while grinding his boner against my butt until he had enough. I would lay there silently crying until he actually fell asleep, slowly crawl away, and be up the whole rest of the school night, in shock, crying, cutting myself, and writing very depressing poems. He would break open the bathroom door while I was bathing and would try to peep at me in the tub. I'd cover myself under the bubble bath for HOURS until I had no bubbles and the water was cold. I then tried hurting myself even worse but sibling walked in on me. I broke down and thought if I do this, this dude is going to go for my sibling so I'll just take whatever it is to protect them. So I did. I dealt with all the things plus him walking in on me SERVERAL times in my bedroom each time after I'd have a bath/shower (no lock on the door). This guy also apparently would hit, strangle, and rape my mom. I came to find out that he had a record too, he and his brother abducted a 17 y/o or 18 y/o girl, took her to a trap house, raped her in a bathroom with a pole-blood in the tub, sink, toilet, floor, etc. He also was busted because he put a garbage bag over another man's head and lit it on fire-because the man was black. (Dude ended up being dishonorably discharged later on btw) Eventually, she got rid of him, dated a bit, and settled with a new bf, my now step dad of over 10 years. At this point, I was 16 y/o, had a GREAT relationship with (adopted) dad (not so much my mom), and became curious about my bio dad-where I came from, family customs/traditions, similarities/differences, interests, the other half of who I am. I found him on social media, reached out but didn't get a response for 2-3 weeks. Shortly after us chatting, I went to see him (adopted dad and sibling 1 came with). I had 2 more siblings from bio dad, they were a decade or so younger than me, and sibling 3 didn't resemble me much but did with sibling 2 BUT sibling 2 looked so much like me at that age, weird. A short time later, there was a family event by bio dad, I was invited but had no way to get there (about a 6 hour drive from where I was at the time) so his sistemy aunt said she'd take me. She picked me up and I was to spend the night at her house (with my 2 cousins) then we would travel in the morning. I was so excited because I vaguely remember cousin 1 from childhood, apparently we were super close growing up together, I was eager to reconnect and bond with my cousins. When spending the night, cousin 2 went to sleep early (a bit younger than cousin 1 and I), so cousin 1 and I were talking for hours, it was great being able to reconnect/re-establish our relationship...until he kissed me, threw himself on me, tried getting me to touch him as he started to touch me. I said stop wtf what are you doing we are FIRST cousins!! He chuckled and said "We are but we're not" ... "wtf are you talking about?" ... "I'm not supposed to say but your dad had a DNA test done during tour parents divorce and told all of us your mom cheated on him, you're not ACTUALLY his acoording to the test" ... so at this point, I'm disgusted, have so many questions, confused, am in a house of 'family' that I don't know/don't believe that I am family-I went to sleep. Next day we traveled to see bio dad and after the event I asked him and step mom about it and also mentioned that because of this cousin 1 tried "xyz". Bio dad's response to the DNA-"Your mother had the DNA test done and it said I was not your bio father, she probably lied/gave me a fake test so I would stay out of your life." I went to my mom and questioned her, she said "Absolutely not, you know your (adopted) father and I don't talk so you can even ask him to verify that I'm not lying. I have no idea about anything that has to do with a DNA test, we never had one as he (bio das) was my first and we got married then I was prengant with you about 3-4 months after getting married." I asked (adopted) dad and his story lined up perfectly with my mom's. So bio dad lied to me and his entire side of the family to save face. He lied to all of them because his agreement of giving up his rights to me and not having to pay child support would not have been supported by his side of the family so he told them I wasn't his and supposedly provided a (fake) test so they'd get off his back about it. My grandfather from him said he saw the test-but there was no test! Beyond fucked up man...but whatever. I still wanted a connection. I wanted to leave the bullshit in the past and move forward right? So, fast forward a bit, I was in a 3 year (3 out of 3.5 year) relationship with a TRUE P.O.S. bf that was physically, mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive. We lived together for 3 years out of our 3.5 year relationship. He was addicted to porn, would call me a bitch every single day amoung other things, ended up raping me and thought it was funny, would hit, kick, choke me (not in the good way), and push me off the bed but then say "You think I want to be like this?! You think I want to do this to you?! Hurt you?! You're making me do it, it's your fault because you have issues." I wasn't "allowed" to talk to my guy friends because they're guys (and I didn't have many girl friends at all), especially my best guy friend that I grew up with and had known since 3 y/o. Bf would isolate me from my families even. At work, I only would talk to my guy friends/male co-workers if bf wasn't there otherwise he would ignore me the whole shift and be brutal when we got home (yeah, we also worked together for a bit over 3 years). I then found out that bf went on the dark web and watched a man kidnap someone, rape her, murder her, and proceed to rape her corpse...my bf was getting off on it! He even said he went back on the next night to do it again but site was blocked. FUCKING PSYCHOTIC. I could go on and on about his craziness. I was his 3rd virgin btw and at work we had a "work daughter" (was so close to that girl, she was 3 years younger than me, 5 years younger than bf and I used to go to her (when bf didnt have same shift as me) crying and telling her everything that would happen with him, so she knew all the shit he did). I was scared he was going to kill me one day, I was scared to stay, scared to leave, all the stupid things and all I wanted was consistent love. We did end up breaking up a few months after I turned 21, he ended up dating our work daughter and took her virginity too! He also did all the shit to her as he did to me! I felt bad for her at first but then thought no you dumb fuck, you knew EVERYTHING you were getting into smh. Anyway, I went to a family event for bio dad, bf was working, they wanted to meet him; we set up lunch for the following day. Bio dad said he was going to give bf the "talk" yk...with the shot gun type of talk. I said I don't feel comfortable with that because firstly, it's not his place, I have my dad (adopted), secondly, bio dad even agreed that we more so have a friend relationship at this point, and third, I've already been with bf for 3 years so it's not appropriate. He got REALLY salty the morning of the meet. We were coordinating plans and everything when he said along the lines, "We haven't seen you in person for almost 2 years now yet you always have time to go out...etc.etc." I responded, "The two times that you have seen me post that I was out, I was across the street from work. I went there for about 2 hours both times with bf and co-workers. I cannot drive 6-8 hours to you and 6-8 hours back in the same day. I work two full time jobs and am going to college online full-time. I'm sorry that I'm making you feel this way or that I've been distant but I try talking and seeing you all (on Skype and such) as much as I can. I don't know what else you want me to do or say at this point. That's why I'm excited for this meet up today. You also could have put in the effort to come out this way these last two years to visit me as well, but again, I'm sorry. I hope you all aren't mad at me, I'm really trying here." He then tells me "I'm going to have to cancel lunch today. I don't think meeting today is a good idea. Now I'm going to have to tell your (LITTLE) siblings that you don't want to see them today since you never have time for us and have basically disappeared from our lives these last 2 years." Aaaaand that's when I ✨️lost✨️ my shit and popped off 🙃 "ME?! I'm the one that disappeared?!?! How fucking dare you say that. How fucking dare you try to do that to them and me. YOU disappeared from MY life at 4 years old, LIED to the entire family (they still questioned if I'm "there's" or not, even had received the comment "Even though you're not ours, your ours because we've known you since a baby" and only 1 of bio dad's parents is still somewhat in touch with me to this day btw) I didn't see YOU for 12 YEARS of my life! I reached out to YOU, I have been the only one making an effort to keep the line of communication open and going and even after all of that plus my explaining that I work TWO full-time jobs plus full-time school, you still have the nerve and audacity to make me the bad guy and say I'm the one not trying here?! YOU are going to continue to LIE and tell MY siblings that I don't want to see them when that couldn't be further from the truth?! I'm going to tell you this ONCE, YOU blew your first chance of staying in my life when I was a child, now you're blowing it a SECOND time with me as an adult; there WILL NOT be a third time. I WILL NOT subject myself to this nor do I need your added stress. I WILL NOT allow you to do this to me EVER again. If my siblings or even step mom (or that side of the family) want to be in contact with me-I will gladly accept that but YOU are DEAD to me. Don't talk to me, don't contact me, I want NOTHING to do with YOU anymore, sperm donor." ... no response ...every couple of years after that I got a "happy birthday" or "merry christmas" here and there but I never responded. It's been a few years with no interaction from him. I just miss my siblings. I got so attached to them and I miss them, I tried staying in contact through video chats but they were still fairly young at that point so it was difficult plus having him or step mom in the background sometimes was awkward. They're now getting a bit older, sibling 2 is turning 18, sibling 3 will be 16. We have each other on social media but don't talk and very very VERY rarely interact with likes on posts. I'm afraid to make the first move, I don't want to push anything, I don't know what bio dad has been feeding into their brains about me, etc. My relationship with them will NEVER be as close as with my almost 21 y/o sibling 1 from (adopted) dad, which I can accept, I absolutely love my sibling 1 that I grew up with like nothing and no one else; I practically raised him tbh. But I do think about the other 2 siblings, I miss them, I just don't know if I should respect unspoken boundaries or make the first move? What do you think? And lmk if you want more of these batshit crazy stories that I've went through (tbh I'm probably going to post another seeking advice on another subject). ✌🏻
2024.06.09 16:21 No-Problem3183 Why does my boyfriend hate me so much?
I've been dating my boyfriend (M31) for over 3 years, and we've lived together for 2 of those years. I'm aware that there is a significant age gap, as I'm (F21). My boyfriend is Korean, and I'm half Japanese, half Spanish. At first, he thought I was too young, but I begged him to stay with me regardless of our age difference. He works full time 6 or 5 days a week & im a student & I work full time as well but the days varies so I’m home more often.
The issue is that I've tried changing almost everything about myself to make him like me, but nothing seems to work. I've changed my personality, clothing, hair, interests, and even tried to be more sexy or cute. However, my boyfriend is not very interested in sex, as I was his first partner and I didn't have much experience either. He said he was never really interested in sex and just likes playing PC games, especially League of Legends. I've tried learning to play, but he gets upset when I'm not a pro at it when he "teaches" me, and he doesn't even last a minute teaching me before getting frustrated.
Before I say anything to him, he sighs and says he doesn't care or that it's stupid. He often assumes I'll say or do something I've never done, and this leads to arguments. He makes me cry both inside and outside the house which is always so embarrassing, but he's never apologized or tried to make me feel better. He just has a cold expression and gets even more annoyed, looking away.
There are times when he is nice and loving, but it's very rare. I get confused when he acts that way, and I forget everything he's done to hurt my feelings. I would never forgive anyone else for the things he's done, but I'm very grateful for all he's done for me, and I always let him know.
I tell him I'm grateful, I tell him he's handsome, I praise him, I love him, I always hug him & caress him. But sometimes, I’ll give him his space for like 3 weeks but it isn’t enough. After a while he’ll come home from work and he’ll go straight to his pc and if I try to cuddle him or kiss him for a few minutes , he gets super mad and annoyed, telling me he just wants to play bc he’s tired.
He never says I'm pretty, but he gets annoyed when guys message me on social media saying they think I'm pretty. I always ask him if he thinks I'm attractive because he never looks at me or says I'm pretty. I don't feel like he finds me attractive at all. When I try on sexy or pretty clothes and ask him if I look good, he'll just say "yeah" or "ugh, I'm playing," without ever looking at me and continue playing his game. He doesn’t look into my eyes!
When I try to talk to him about funny videos or things that happened to me or interest me, he always says, "Ugh, I don't want to hear about that." He says that about everything. It breaks my heart that he's so uninterested in me. I know guys don’t like clothes, makeup, and those kinds of things but fashion interests me a lot and when my partner talks about his interest I feel happy seeing how his face lights up so why does he hate when my face lights up? Why does he ALWAYS turn that smile into tears? Why is he with me if he seems to hate me so much?
I've lost a lot of weight and try to look my best for him, he says that I care about my looks way too much but I feel like he treats me according to how I look. When I ask him why he doesn't pay attention to me, he just says always says "ugh" “ugh” that Korean sound angry Koreans make. It always triggers me. I don't know why he doesn't like me, so I try to fix myself in any way I can. I'm already smart and nice, so I feel like it’s my looks and now I feel extremely insecure with my looks and personality. I starve myself to try to be as pretty/slim as I can, like the girls he had saved on his phone when I had first met him but nothing seems to be enough. He doesn’t have any photos of me either btw. He doesn’t post me though, he doesn’t post anything on social media he only scrolls on Facebook like, a lot.
I get a lot of attention from others, but not at home. He hates that I like TikToks funny cat memes, and other "dumb" stuff, but they're just innocent jokes, and I have nothing else interesting in my life. I'm very lonely because this situation makes me so depressed and it makes me feel stupid and useless. I don't feel like I'll ever be liked/loved by anyone If my own partner doesn't love me.
He yells at me and starts arguments over the simplest things, like sharing something I thought was funny or interesting. It’s never negative or insulting. Everything makes him angry and annoyed. I sometimes feel scared that he'll get too angry and break things again, as he's already broken 4 TVs. I don't even do anything to him; he just gets so angry when I ask for a bit of attention. I just don't understand why. I feel so lonely.
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The issue is that I've tried changing almost everything about myself to make him like me, but nothing seems to work. I've changed my personality, clothing, hair, interests, and even tried to be more sexy or cute. However, my boyfriend is not very interested in sex, as I was his first partner and I didn't have much experience either. He said he was never really interested in sex and just likes playing PC games, especially League of Legends. I've tried learning to play, but he gets upset when I'm not a pro at it when he "teaches" me, and he doesn't even last a minute teaching me before getting frustrated.
Before I say anything to him, he sighs and says he doesn't care or that it's stupid. He often assumes I'll say or do something I've never done, and this leads to arguments. He makes me cry both inside and outside the house which is always so embarrassing, but he's never apologized or tried to make me feel better. He just has a cold expression and gets even more annoyed, looking away.
There are times when he is nice and loving, but it's very rare. I get confused when he acts that way, and I forget everything he's done to hurt my feelings. I would never forgive anyone else for the things he's done, but I'm very grateful for all he's done for me, and I always let him know.
I tell him I'm grateful, I tell him he's handsome, I praise him, I love him, I always hug him & caress him. But sometimes, I’ll give him his space for like 3 weeks but it isn’t enough. After a while he’ll come home from work and he’ll go straight to his pc and if I try to cuddle him or kiss him for a few minutes , he gets super mad and annoyed, telling me he just wants to play bc he’s tired.
He never says I'm pretty, but he gets annoyed when guys message me on social media saying they think I'm pretty. I always ask him if he thinks I'm attractive because he never looks at me or says I'm pretty. I don't feel like he finds me attractive at all. When I try on sexy or pretty clothes and ask him if I look good, he'll just say "yeah" or "ugh, I'm playing," without ever looking at me and continue playing his game. He doesn’t look into my eyes!
When I try to talk to him about funny videos or things that happened to me or interest me, he always says, "Ugh, I don't want to hear about that." He says that about everything. It breaks my heart that he's so uninterested in me. I know guys don’t like clothes, makeup, and those kinds of things but fashion interests me a lot and when my partner talks about his interest I feel happy seeing how his face lights up so why does he hate when my face lights up? Why does he ALWAYS turn that smile into tears? Why is he with me if he seems to hate me so much?
I've lost a lot of weight and try to look my best for him, he says that I care about my looks way too much but I feel like he treats me according to how I look. When I ask him why he doesn't pay attention to me, he just says always says "ugh" “ugh” that Korean sound angry Koreans make. It always triggers me. I don't know why he doesn't like me, so I try to fix myself in any way I can. I'm already smart and nice, so I feel like it’s my looks and now I feel extremely insecure with my looks and personality. I starve myself to try to be as pretty/slim as I can, like the girls he had saved on his phone when I had first met him but nothing seems to be enough. He doesn’t have any photos of me either btw. He doesn’t post me though, he doesn’t post anything on social media he only scrolls on Facebook like, a lot.
I get a lot of attention from others, but not at home. He hates that I like TikToks funny cat memes, and other "dumb" stuff, but they're just innocent jokes, and I have nothing else interesting in my life. I'm very lonely because this situation makes me so depressed and it makes me feel stupid and useless. I don't feel like I'll ever be liked/loved by anyone If my own partner doesn't love me.
He yells at me and starts arguments over the simplest things, like sharing something I thought was funny or interesting. It’s never negative or insulting. Everything makes him angry and annoyed. I sometimes feel scared that he'll get too angry and break things again, as he's already broken 4 TVs. I don't even do anything to him; he just gets so angry when I ask for a bit of attention. I just don't understand why. I feel so lonely.
2024.06.09 16:13 Rehman2255 Charla’s best book , also keep the Taylor trolling alive 🙏🏽
Shit is so funny; idk why people complain but the dynamic they have with her makes the show so much funnier. But easily Charla’s most well rounded book, short chapters, and an easy concise read. Finished it yesterday and really enjoyed it. Mainly touches on demanding more from the information you engage with, avoiding unnecessary/inauthentic convos, and obviously staying away from headlines. He does a good job packaging every point into examples that as a fan of BI or Breakfast Club, you can pick up on easily (Charla’s comments on Drake + SZA song) and I was surprised at how recent some of the examples were too. This seems like an obvious step for Charlamagne’s evolution though; I’d imagine someone that’s on Breakfast club that had the rumor reports and jess with the mess, you’d get tired of hitting those same talking points after a while. Nonetheless. a good read, deff recommend.
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2024.06.09 16:13 ThrowRA-4937284728 I [31M] am in a relationship with someone [29M] but it doesn't feel like my first love. Do I keep searching in the hope I find that feeling again?
I [31M] met my first boyfriend when we were both 18. He was my first date, my first kiss, my first everything. I was the same to him.
We had a really, truly special relationship - it lasted for a 9 years. It wasn’t perfect, but was as close as. I really loved him, and I thought he really loved me.
A few years ago, I found out he had been cheating on me. It wasn’t a one time thing - it was repeatedly, over months, with the same person. I was blindsided.
Obviously he was living in a different relationship to me. In the brief set of conversations we had afterwards, I guess the summary I would give is that the curiosity of exploring outweighed his loyalty to me - and he liked what he found, probably the excitement being a factor too.
The person I had met all those years ago was not the person I was in a relationship with at the end. I guess that’s the danger of meeting someone so young.
I could go on and on about just much I was affected by this - depression, isolation etc. but I’m sure anyone who’s been through something similar knows.
Since our breakup, I’ve moved to the other side of the country. We have no mutual friends, I have no idea what he’s doing, where he is. He feels like a distant memory, albeit one I still have very strong feelings for.
I’ve massively improved my life - my career is going very well, I’ve bought a house, got a dog. I’m really into fitness and the gym. I honestly feel, from an objective sense, I am way better off now than I was when I was with him.
I’d been dating since about 6 months after we broke up. At first it was a fun distraction, then it became a chore. I didn’t really click with anyone, and the few people I did click with didn’t feel the same about me. Also, I’d never experienced modern (gay) dating before - in my experience it’s material, shallow and cruel.
Around a year ago, I met someone online who bucked that trend big time. He’s wonderful, a truly beautiful human. We’ve been in a relationship for a while now. But here’s the crux of my situation:
It does not feel anywhere near as intense as my first love. I love this guy - I find him funny, attractive, intelligent. He’s easily the best person I’ve dated since I started again - by a long way - but it doesn’t feel like my first.
Everything feels less intense - like someone’s turned the saturation down on a photograph. It’s all still there - the butterflies, the feeling of excitement when I see him - but like there’s some sort of filter that reduces it all. I also find myself comparing the two men a lot, even though I am making a conscious effort too.
I don’t know if I’ll ever get those feelings I had 13 years ago again. I’m older, more mature, and frankly scarred from what happened. But sometimes I feel like this new guy can’t be “the one” if I don’t feel more strongly about him than I did my ex.
I feel incredibly guilty. I feel like I’m wasting his time, and I should keep searching because it’s not fair on him I still have these feelings for someone else, and also feel like this relationship is somehow “less” than the other one.
But, I’ve thought about breaking up with him (almost did at one point), but I couldn’t. The thought of losing him upsets me deeply. I am confident in saying that I love him - but it does not feel the same as my last love.
Anyway I feel like I’ve got myself into quite a bind here, and really hoping some internet strangers have some wise words of wisdom.
Do you think I should end my current relationship and keep searching for someone who makes me feel like I did 13 years ago?
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We had a really, truly special relationship - it lasted for a 9 years. It wasn’t perfect, but was as close as. I really loved him, and I thought he really loved me.
A few years ago, I found out he had been cheating on me. It wasn’t a one time thing - it was repeatedly, over months, with the same person. I was blindsided.
Obviously he was living in a different relationship to me. In the brief set of conversations we had afterwards, I guess the summary I would give is that the curiosity of exploring outweighed his loyalty to me - and he liked what he found, probably the excitement being a factor too.
The person I had met all those years ago was not the person I was in a relationship with at the end. I guess that’s the danger of meeting someone so young.
I could go on and on about just much I was affected by this - depression, isolation etc. but I’m sure anyone who’s been through something similar knows.
Since our breakup, I’ve moved to the other side of the country. We have no mutual friends, I have no idea what he’s doing, where he is. He feels like a distant memory, albeit one I still have very strong feelings for.
I’ve massively improved my life - my career is going very well, I’ve bought a house, got a dog. I’m really into fitness and the gym. I honestly feel, from an objective sense, I am way better off now than I was when I was with him.
I’d been dating since about 6 months after we broke up. At first it was a fun distraction, then it became a chore. I didn’t really click with anyone, and the few people I did click with didn’t feel the same about me. Also, I’d never experienced modern (gay) dating before - in my experience it’s material, shallow and cruel.
Around a year ago, I met someone online who bucked that trend big time. He’s wonderful, a truly beautiful human. We’ve been in a relationship for a while now. But here’s the crux of my situation:
It does not feel anywhere near as intense as my first love. I love this guy - I find him funny, attractive, intelligent. He’s easily the best person I’ve dated since I started again - by a long way - but it doesn’t feel like my first.
Everything feels less intense - like someone’s turned the saturation down on a photograph. It’s all still there - the butterflies, the feeling of excitement when I see him - but like there’s some sort of filter that reduces it all. I also find myself comparing the two men a lot, even though I am making a conscious effort too.
I don’t know if I’ll ever get those feelings I had 13 years ago again. I’m older, more mature, and frankly scarred from what happened. But sometimes I feel like this new guy can’t be “the one” if I don’t feel more strongly about him than I did my ex.
I feel incredibly guilty. I feel like I’m wasting his time, and I should keep searching because it’s not fair on him I still have these feelings for someone else, and also feel like this relationship is somehow “less” than the other one.
But, I’ve thought about breaking up with him (almost did at one point), but I couldn’t. The thought of losing him upsets me deeply. I am confident in saying that I love him - but it does not feel the same as my last love.
Anyway I feel like I’ve got myself into quite a bind here, and really hoping some internet strangers have some wise words of wisdom.
Do you think I should end my current relationship and keep searching for someone who makes me feel like I did 13 years ago?
2024.06.09 16:11 taromochisupremacy Does your impulsivity make people around you tense and anxious?
Hi 29F (recently diagnosed and medicated). I got married a year ago to the person I've been dating for a long time (majorly long distance). There's been a lot of conflicts after marriage. One thing in particular is that I do something without giving it a thought or discussing and I end up getting him worked up. Two examples - I wanted to burn 4 papers after therapy, thought it would be therapeutic. He was in the house at the time, I was crying during the session, came out hugged him, I went to the kitchen, closed the door because I didn't want the smoke to reach him. Kitchen only because I can use the burner flame that way :( I went away from the stove after lighting it. Waited till it burnt fully and put it in the dustbin. But by then the smoke had built up went to the room he was in, He came running scared and anxious. I didn't Crack open a window also. It sounds so stupid while I'm writing this :/ Second time - I swallowed a big edible ball and ended up choking myself. The instructions clearly read that you have to dissolve it in warm water first before consuming it. Again he had to run to my rescue. I've been reckless like this before, but parents scolding became white noise and with friends it's a funny joke after some time. How do I do this? I don't want to cause stress and further strain the relationship :(
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2024.06.09 16:01 -UNKAP- I pretended I was selling something on Craigslist and got two strangers to meet awkwardly
Years ago I made a new email address and got two potential buyers for a playstation that I was pretending to sell. I confirmed a date and time with both of them. Decided on the mall near a certain store. I asked what they'd be wearing so I could find them. I gave them each other's description for myself, and then went and hung out.
One walked up to the other. You could tell there was an immediate confusion. They started arguing over who had what. You could see them get pissed once they realized what happened and wasted their time. They both stormed off on their phones. Sure enough, I got angry emails from both of them lol
I feel kind of bad about it, but it was a funny interaction to witness.
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One walked up to the other. You could tell there was an immediate confusion. They started arguing over who had what. You could see them get pissed once they realized what happened and wasted their time. They both stormed off on their phones. Sure enough, I got angry emails from both of them lol
I feel kind of bad about it, but it was a funny interaction to witness.
2024.06.09 15:47 Due-Bath2062 [30/M] Anywhere - Just a French single dad looking for my everything, with selfie inside! :)
Hi! I'm Raphaël, a French single guy living near Paris with my 9yo son. It's been just us two for a while now, and since dating apps don't seem to be working on me, here I am trying my luck on Reddit :)
About me? Well I'm kind of a nerd, think Star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on games and science stuff! Lots of humor, chess addict too, and a plant dad. My living room is slowly turning into a jungle, with all the plants and aquariums, just got my third. I also love cooking, homemade baguettes and sourdough bread for instance, if you have some good recipes to share I'm always open for trying!
What else, I'm bearded, tall and a mostly funny guy. With apparently a sexy voice, got alot of positive feedback on that lol, here's a pic of me : https://imgur.com/a/JcTl42A
So if you're interested in chatting let me know, I'm mostly here to try and build something durable and passionate. I don't mind the distance as long as communication and love is here :) See you soon!
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About me? Well I'm kind of a nerd, think Star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on games and science stuff! Lots of humor, chess addict too, and a plant dad. My living room is slowly turning into a jungle, with all the plants and aquariums, just got my third. I also love cooking, homemade baguettes and sourdough bread for instance, if you have some good recipes to share I'm always open for trying!
What else, I'm bearded, tall and a mostly funny guy. With apparently a sexy voice, got alot of positive feedback on that lol, here's a pic of me : https://imgur.com/a/JcTl42A
So if you're interested in chatting let me know, I'm mostly here to try and build something durable and passionate. I don't mind the distance as long as communication and love is here :) See you soon!
2024.06.09 15:40 Own_Astronaut7206 AIO for asking my guy why he would ask me if I wanted to go to a strip club as a fourth date?
I (F44) was dating a guy (M42) who seemed like he was a reasonable person. We had discussions about our relationship being closed, unless I “wanted a sister wives situation,” which I do not. Either we are open and supportive of each other wanting to sleep with other people (I am straight) or we are closed. He doesn’t get another girl if he’s not open to me having another guy. Before we started dating, my man asked for a topless photo. I told him no, that I was trying to be taken seriously. I did tell him that if he wanted a topless photo before meeting me, he could pay me 6.99 for such photo and we would probably never date. His response was, “I don’t pay for porn or to see girls naked.” Somehow, I was still interested in this man. We met, and he wanted something serious fast. Other than the topless photo comment, nothing this guy did or said gave me pause. He was super fun to be around and I was starting to fall fast and hard. Cut to a few weeks in, I ask him why he never sent me anything naughty but always demanded I send him notice if I did stuff to myself and wanted a booty pic of some sort every day. His answer was that it was his private time to get away and both his hands were busy. He made a joke and when I told him my question was serious, he told me he thought I was joking and did not mean to make me feel used sexually, but still failed to address the question appropriately or act like he would at least work on addressing my request. He would also immediately tease me when I sent something sexy, asking me who I was fantasizing about in said video… we were brand new and when I got confused as to why he’d ask that, because I made the videos for HIM, he treated me like I was stupid. We had conversations about not wanting to see people of the opposite sex rub up on each other. I couldn’t use the word train (like “I’m chugging along like a train to get my shit done so I can see you faster) because it conjured up images of a train being pulled on me, according to him. He told me he’d be the only penis I’d ever see again, and then almost next breath was “I’m gonna force you to watch porn with me.” I just thought it was a part of his control kink… I won’t get anything sexual unless HE provides it. That wasn’t a deal breaker for me as long as he respected my boundaries. A few weeks later, he told me that before he met me, he wasn’t into mothers, because being a mother was a flaw to him prior to meeting me, but now he checks out every woman pushing a stroller or with a gaggle of kids. To me, this was a direct violation of being in a closed relationship because he was actively (not passively) checking out women (almost in a fetishized way) and mentally keeping his options open. I thought maybe I was overreacting in my head, maybe I’m too sensitive, so I sort of brushed off the comment. I really did want to spark back with, “oh that’s funny, everytime I see pigeon toed man, I feel the same way,” but I wasn’t trying to disrespect him because I was upset he had been so callous, because I really loved him and who cares if he’s got flaws? I do too. Then when discussing a safe word (his request) and I told him “stop” works just fine. He told me it wasn’t enough. So I said “banana” as in “I will fuck up your banana if you don’t STOP.” I did not tell him my reasoning, only the word. I did not threaten his dick verbally. He ignored the suggestion, and asked what to do if I am gagged and can’t respond. I told him I hope he would just check on my safety frequently and stop and get medical help if needed. He said, “right…so finish, then do CPR” This post makes it sound like he’s just a raging butthole, but I thought he had a great personality if you set aside his “jokes.” Easy to be around. He did wake me up most mornings telling me he felt insecure in our relationship but after talking to me, would say it was just his anxiety. I would have to constantly reassure him. Then as a fourth date, he decided to ask if I wanted to go to a strip club. When I said LOL WHAT? He sent me the definition of a strip club. When I said LOL I know what one is, why are you asking me that, are you bored with me? He told me he was going to “keep to himself the rest of the day because I was insecure and ruining his chance for a peaceful weekend.” He said we do nothing but argue (this was the first and not even an argument, just stating boundaries and asking why he felt the need to joke in such a manner, I’m tired of being the butt of all the jokes) and he couldn’t win with me, he was in a lose/lose situation with me and refused to resolve the issue. He then said he wasn’t breaking up with me, merely wanted an undefined timeline of a break where neither of us dated anyone else and I needed therapy because I’m unhinged and too insecure. I told him that him withdrawing is withholding affection and not appropriate for the situation. Even longer story short, it’s been over a week and still not even a single word from this man. Even if he thinks he didn’t break up with me, I say he did. Am I being overly sensitive (I’m neurodivergent and he knows this)? AIO?
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2024.06.09 15:38 Due-Bath2062 30{M4F] Anywhere - Just a french single dad looking for my everything, with selfie inside :)
Hi! I'm Raphaël, a French single guy living near Paris with my 9yo son. It's been just us two for a while now, and since dating apps don't seem to be working on me, here I am trying my luck on Reddit :)
About me? Well I'm kind of a nerd, think Star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on games and science stuff! Lots of humor, chess addict too, and a plant dad. My living room is slowly turning into a jungle, with all the plants and aquariums, just got my third. I also love cooking, homemade baguettes and sourdough bread for instance, if you have some good recipes to share I'm always open for trying!
What else, I'm bearded, tall and a mostly funny guy. With apparently a sexy voice, got alot of positive feedback on that lol, here's a pic of me : https://imgur.com/a/JcTl42A
So if you're interested in chatting let me know, I'm mostly here to try and build something durable and passionate. I don't mind the distance as long as communication and love is here :) See you soon!
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About me? Well I'm kind of a nerd, think Star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on games and science stuff! Lots of humor, chess addict too, and a plant dad. My living room is slowly turning into a jungle, with all the plants and aquariums, just got my third. I also love cooking, homemade baguettes and sourdough bread for instance, if you have some good recipes to share I'm always open for trying!
What else, I'm bearded, tall and a mostly funny guy. With apparently a sexy voice, got alot of positive feedback on that lol, here's a pic of me : https://imgur.com/a/JcTl42A
So if you're interested in chatting let me know, I'm mostly here to try and build something durable and passionate. I don't mind the distance as long as communication and love is here :) See you soon!
2024.06.09 15:35 Due-Bath2062 30[M4F] Anywhere - Just a French single dad looking for my everything, with selfie inside! :)
Hi! I'm Raphaël, a French single guy living near Paris with my 9yo son. It's been just us two for a while now, and since dating apps don't seem to be working on me, here I am trying my luck on Reddit :)
About me? Well I'm kind of a nerd, think Star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on games and science stuff! Lots of humor, chess addict too, and a plant dad. My living room is slowly turning into a jungle, with all the plants and aquariums, just got my third. I also love cooking, homemade baguettes and sourdough bread for instance, if you have some good recipes to share I'm always open for trying!
What else, I'm bearded, tall and a mostly funny guy. With apparently a sexy voice, got alot of positive feedback on that lol, here's a pic of me : https://imgur.com/a/JcTl42A
So if you're interested in chatting let me know, I'm mostly here to try and build something durable and passionate. I don't mind the distance as long as communication and love is here :) See you soon!
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About me? Well I'm kind of a nerd, think Star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on games and science stuff! Lots of humor, chess addict too, and a plant dad. My living room is slowly turning into a jungle, with all the plants and aquariums, just got my third. I also love cooking, homemade baguettes and sourdough bread for instance, if you have some good recipes to share I'm always open for trying!
What else, I'm bearded, tall and a mostly funny guy. With apparently a sexy voice, got alot of positive feedback on that lol, here's a pic of me : https://imgur.com/a/JcTl42A
So if you're interested in chatting let me know, I'm mostly here to try and build something durable and passionate. I don't mind the distance as long as communication and love is here :) See you soon!
2024.06.09 15:35 Due-Bath2062 30[M4F] Anywhere - Just a French single dad looking for my everything, with selfie inside! :)
Hi! I'm Raphaël, a French single guy living near Paris with my 9yo son. It's been just us two for a while now, and since dating apps don't seem to be working on me, here I am trying my luck on Reddit :)
About me? Well I'm kind of a nerd, think Star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on games and science stuff! Lots of humor, chess addict too, and a plant dad. My living room is slowly turning into a jungle, with all the plants and aquariums, just got my third. I also love cooking, homemade baguettes and sourdough bread for instance, if you have some good recipes to share I'm always open for trying!
What else, I'm bearded, tall and a mostly funny guy. With apparently a sexy voice, got alot of positive feedback on that lol, here's a pic of me : https://imgur.com/a/JcTl42A
So if you're interested in chatting let me know, I'm mostly here to try and build something durable and passionate. I don't mind the distance as long as communication and love is here :) See you soon!
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About me? Well I'm kind of a nerd, think Star wars tattoos and way too much knowledge on games and science stuff! Lots of humor, chess addict too, and a plant dad. My living room is slowly turning into a jungle, with all the plants and aquariums, just got my third. I also love cooking, homemade baguettes and sourdough bread for instance, if you have some good recipes to share I'm always open for trying!
What else, I'm bearded, tall and a mostly funny guy. With apparently a sexy voice, got alot of positive feedback on that lol, here's a pic of me : https://imgur.com/a/JcTl42A
So if you're interested in chatting let me know, I'm mostly here to try and build something durable and passionate. I don't mind the distance as long as communication and love is here :) See you soon!
2024.06.09 15:22 No_Funny3533 Scam Artist mingmei1344 (Yomi) and her accounts at: Aiu_Agency, asiahug.com, datesteady.com, cudate.com, Jpndate.com, sayhiup.com, Rose, Miyuki Miyamoto, SW Entertainment and more
 | My name is Mark Faraday. I was just looking for love back around January 20th, 2024 but I don’t want to see anyone else get scammed. I had a human profile picture when I was using these website, and was honest. I ran into a whole lying network run by a Woman, her friends, and a man. I will update this story if I have more to say in the future. Her nickname is Yomi, she told me her name was Miyuki Miyamoto and she was from Japan. Her real name is Jeong Nahyeon and she is from South Korea. She also has fake Chinese accounts like: submitted by No_Funny3533 to Romance_Scamer [link] [comments] Mingmei1344: https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ Mingmeichan: https://www.instagram.com/mingmeichan/ mingmei1344 Mingmei Liu My Story is long but it is worth reading. From January to June as the writing of this post. I labeled each part so it easy to jump around to the parts you want to read.
Account 1: (Kawaii, Silly girl fake account) https://www.instagram.com/yuyu_only5/ yuyu_only5 Account 2: https://www.instagram.com/_yuyu_only5?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== _yuyu_only5 Yomi Newest Account: Chloee_asuna https://www.instagram.com/chloeee_asuna/p/C7kNkmzSIEi/?img_index=1 chloeee_asuna Jeong Nahyeon Lover or Friend 🙁(Scam Artist Man) 🙁 https://www.instagram.com/_xijii_/ _xijii_ Jpndate.com the site where I met Yomi (Jeong Nahyeon) original, closed on May 1st 2024. Never came back as the writing of this post. However, their sister site DateSteady.com is still very active. https://www.datesteady.com/ datesteady.com Another Scam website they own: https://www.asiahug.com/ asiahug.com
There is this dangerous woman who I am mad in love with (same person) running many fake Chinese/Japanese/Korean Romance scam websites, fake Instagram pages, tik tok, We chats, and many Chinese porn sites. It is the same person, she uses her looks with pictures and videos to steal money from men. She has many names she goes by, probably even more than I found. She also uses bots to get fake likes and weird Anime filters to try to look like an idol. She has scam artist female friends also I found. She the leader. I know a lot of scammers steal from other people's identities but that is not the case here. This is the same person as the scammer. My story will explain it. As well as this person has pictures of the same person you can’t find anywhere else on the Internet. Even if you do a Reverse Face image search. They said information that match to an unbelievable level. The person who Scammed me: Has Many names (Such As) And a talent for speaking many languages
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gracegracemei Email: [miyukilovee@outlook.com](mailto:miyukilovee@outlook.com) (Something about BlessCeline Lovee) Skype ID: live:.cid.737fb9ac2ad5655c
(Make Sense) u/mingmei1344 https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ https://www.facebook.com/liuliu.meimingmei (Owner of aiu_agency since 2015) u/aiu_agency https://www.instagram.com/aiu_agency/
Google Drive (AI_U Agency) Hotel Connected: SHILLA STAY Gwanghwamun Her Scam Artist friends who work for both Ai_U Agency and JPNDATE CUDATE (That I found) (Some of these might also be her, not sure) Vynnie_nat : https://www.instagram.com/vynnie_nat/# (I think this Yomi friend and the next 2 images may also be that person 1 of 3)vynnie_natjiejierui_ngc: https://www.instagram.com/jiejierui_ngc/ (2 of 3)jiejierui_ngcVeravera_zhangg: https://www.instagram.com/veravera_zhangg/ (3 of 3)veravera_zhanggElle_owo_elle : https://www.instagram.com/elle_owo_elle/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)elle_owo_elleQiqi_shenglim : https://www.instagram.com/qiqi_shenglim/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)qiqi_shenglimMyemye_owo_ : https://www.instagram.com/myemye_owo_/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)myemye_owo_Her Friends are connected somehow but not sure how yet. They appear everywhere with the fake accounts or it just her also. Riyandiwilliam : https://www.instagram.com/riyandiwilliam/ (Either her lover, friend, or work with her) 🙁Summary: January to March 2024Jpndate.com / Datesteady.com / Cudate.com / Sayhiup.com are dangerous Romance scams. All the women are paid actors for the website from Korea/China. They will try to get into a relationship with you very fast, don’t fall for it. They are milking you for money like if you're a cow. They will threaten to kill you or your family if you call out their scam. They might also say they will sue you. If you stop paying them, they will text you very little. They will never video call you face-to-face. Jpndate.com has a sister scam website from the same people called sayhiup.com. When you buy something on Jpndate the payment goes to Cudate Limited, so that site must be part of the scam also.There also Datesteady with the same layout. There is a company in China doing all type of illegal and immoral practices. Their name is Zhengzhou Zhongzhiqi Technology Co., Ltd. / 郑州市中之祺科技有限公司 . They have their main technology business but they also run a list of many scam websites stealing money from American men, Asian, and European men. Such as Cudate, JPNDate, DateSteady.com, SayhiUp. These are romance scam sites where all the women work for the company. If you make a female account it will pend forever. Only men get approved. They claimed before to be an American-owned company then I exposed them now they claim to be Dutch. Their servers are all in China. They never filed paperwork with any foreign country. They are none of these the Chinese pretending to run many dating sites when in fact it’s all fake. They claim to be in nations their not. They have fake terms of service. I used PayPal before I didn't know it was a scam. I paid in dollars, but they refused to refund me till I told PayPal. PayPal made them pay me back. Then they refused to pay me the total amount they wanted to pay me on yuan when I paid dollars. I reported them to FTC. They also try to hack my laptop for me telling the government the truth about them. They probably get funds from the Communist Party government or SW Entertainment in South Korea. They are very very bad people. Please look into it or forward this message somewhere where it can be looked into. Pretends to be a legit dating site but feels more like a pay-to-use website for fake love. All women here are paid actors for the site. The same few women have multiple profiles pretending to be different people. The funny part is anytime you call out JPNDate bs they change their terms of service. Screenshot everything people. They have a fake page saying they're trying to stop scammers, it all bs they are the scammers. Host of JPNDate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of DateSteady Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.47.54 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of Cudate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.52.110.73 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of AsiaHug Servers: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) My Story: January to March 2024 My Story: January to March 2024 (Update): I know it is the same person, They told me in a text message by accident. They also replied with different accounts knowing info about me I only told the other account. Do you like Asian women? Real Asian women? These ones are real! I know who they are. Hi! This is Mark Faraday talking to you. This is my story of how a website named JPNDate Dancing Idol scammed me out of 4080 American dollars. From the time period of January to March 2024. First, I was on Japan Cupid, a dating site. On Japan Cupid, no one can chat unless one of you has a membership. I bought a 1-week membership. Within 5 minutes to 10 minutes, a woman nicknamed Yomi from Japan messaged me; this should have been a red flag for me. We talked for a while. She said she was interested in me. She asked me if I could move over to the dating site JPNDate because she paid for membership there and not Japan Cupid. She also promised to delete her account on Japan Cupid after we changed sites. She does delete her account off Japan Cupid. Japan Cupid is sus also. I don’t think it is the same company but it is still very sus. However, these women used that site to find men like me. That is a story for a different day. Unlike a normal scam artist, who may only have 1 or 2 photos, she has several photos on her profile. My trust in her grows a bit seeing that. She then privately messaged me several more photos of her. She asked me for some photos, which I sent. She then sends back happy and heartfelt emojis. She told me she doesn’t date Asian men anymore because they were violent to her in the past and her last boyfriend cheated on her. She talked about how she didn’t want to fight with me. She also said we could talk about any topic. She would compliment me often, as I did for her. Of course, on my profile page, I try to post my best pictures. Throughout my life, I have had many different hairstyles. She even mentioned this and got very happy and asked if I was a hairstylist. The spam of talking on JPNDate.com between us was from January 20th, 2024, to March 24th, 2024. On JPNDate, there is an upgrade system. You need Blue Diamond to chat with others. Crown to send videos. Blue Diamond is 20 dollars per month, and Crown is 80 dollars per month. I got the Blue Diamond membership at first. It showed her with it too. After a day or two, she asked me to upgrade like she did to the Crown membership so she could send me a video. I upgraded it, and she did actually send me a video. All pictures and the video match the same person and the same face. Some pictures were in different locations, and some were like three different pictures in the same place. We then later buy a 6-month Crown membership for each other because it is cheaper than 1 month at a time. I bought it for her, and she bought it for me. At this point, I start to believe. This person was giving me all their time. They reply very often, and their texting time was the same as Japan timezones every single day. They spoke not only English but also Japanese almost fluently. However, they did let me know that they're still learning English and sometimes use a translator. She let me know that this website has something called a mall. This should have been red flag number 2. You pay 1 American dollar for each gold point. Paypal is the only thing that works. When we started dating, she said it was normal for couples in Japan to send each other gifts. It was a symbol of forever love in Japan, she claimed. As an American, I didn’t know if this was true. I googled it and couldn’t get a clear answer. She said whatever I bought her, she would buy me as well. She asked if I liked necklaces or charms. I said anything was fine. She wanted me to pick up a necklace. At first, she picked up a $1,000 necklace from the site mall and asked me. I said no; that's way too much money for that. She said how about a 300-dollar Jade Romance charm. She told me to get her white one; she would get me the green one. I questioned if she was legit. She started crying. She somehow convinced me at the time that she was legit again. I did buy it. A few weeks later, I did receive the overpriced Green Jade Romance love charm to my address from her. I never told her which day exactly my tracking information said it would come to my house, but I asked her, and her tracking date was the same week as mine. By the way something almost the same as this necklace is 12 dollars on Amazon. It also broke when I got it in the mail. Probably cost them 2 cent to make. For the next few days, we had a wonderful, happy conversation. It is late January, and I know Valentine's Day is coming. I offered to get her flowers. I got her flowers and chocolate at a very high price of multiple hundred dollars. She then gets so happy. She told me many times how she wanted to go to America and find me. We talked about many topics for several more days. She told me she worked in an office in Tokyo. Yomi told me her real name was Miyuki Miyamoto. Which is very funny because I told her before I was a Nintendo fan, and this is the same last name as Mario and Zelda Creator. She also said she had her apartment to herself, which is true; she does own an apartment. She talked about how life is stressful right now in Japan. She claimed to have grown up in the Japanese town of Nagano, Japan. She also said she had gone to a university in Tokyo with a major in computer science. She wanted to visit America in July for 15 days when she had her time off. July is a normal time for people to get off in Japan for vacation, so I thought nothing of it. I told her that I was from a smaller town in California, but I lived not far from San Francisco. I told her how my town is quiet and how I could see mountains outside my house. She said she wanted a peaceful life and that life in Tokyo is too fast. And she always had great things to say about every picture I sent. We also talk about going on dates. I asked most of the questions, but she did ask me questions as well. I started to ask her a lot of questions about Japan. Like if she visited Himeji Castle, she said no. However, she did say yes to visiting Mount Fuji. I should have asked for a photo of this, but I didn’t. She was very happy; she told me very many topics about Japan. We even briefly talked about anime. She told me she liked Digimon, Dragon Ball Z, One Piece, and Detective Conan. This information is important later. We also talked about how both of us were big Disney fans growing up. She told me she wanted to go to Disney Land when she came to California to visit me. One day she told me, how work was busy today. I told her it was okay and we didn’t need to talk today. She did, however, still text me a little bit that day. This was the only day during our whole time talking when she was super busy. There is nothing wrong with this; all humans get busy. I decided to spend my evening drawing a picture of me and Yomi on a date to surprise her. When I sent it to her, she did not react. This was a red flag for me. I tried to convince myself that she just didn’t like drawings that much. I know I sound really dumb right here, but whoever I was talking to is very smart and knows a lot of things. I was in deep love. We started talking a few days later about the idea of meeting and going on dates together. I know that the yen is weak against the American dollar right now. I told them I would pay for anything they wanted when they were in America because I was in love. This was a big, big, big mistake. They then asked if I could give them 1500 dollars to buy a plane ticket. Never give money to people you never meet in real life, folks. Don’t be dumb like me. Turns out the ticket was actually 2100, so they asked for another 500 dollars the next day, claiming their friend let them borrow the money, and they paid the difference. They did show me a picture of a plane ticket. With the name Yomi and the correct airports in Tokyo and San Francisco. This gave me more trust in them; I got a lot of photos, videos, and even a picture of a plane ticket. At some point, I talked to them about social media. They claim to only have Skype and Line. I found it very hard to believe a woman in her 20s wasn’t on Instagram or Tik Tok. I went on Instagram and typed Yomi, and I found a Yomi who looked just like her. This made me think: why did she lie? What confused me is that all the pictures on her Instagram were different from the ones she sent me, other than one image that was the same. Meaning that the images were not clearly stolen from there. I looked up JPNDate online; there isn’t much info on this website (Right Now), other than one reddit forum from 1 year ago. Someone said something about being scammed by an IDOL on this site. They also said the website wasn’t in Japan but in China. I was wondering why I never saw new females joining the website; it was the same 23 pages worth of them. I wanted to test the website to see if it was legit. I made another account, a fake male account with AI artwork. It was approved in one second. I then made a fake female account; it said pending approval. It has now been 2 weeks since I made that account, and it still says pending approval. This means all the women on this website have to be fake actors. There is also a setting on JPNDate to see who has been online last or which accounts are the oldest. When I asked weeks before, Yomi claimed she had been on this website only for a short time. Her oldest picture was dated October 20, 2023. Yet she has the sixth-oldest account on JPNDate, according to the website. The Reddit forum I talked about before was over a year old. When I was on this website for a month, at least 10 other women tried to text me. There was this one profile of a woman from Taiwan, age 20. She texted me three times in one month. When I joined, her age was listed as 20, and at some point, she changed her age to 25 on her profile. I ignored all these women. This proves again that all these women are fake. I do know these are women based on how they type, but they are not truthful like they act like they are. As I write this, I just realized this is Yomi's friend or sister; it matches the other Yomi account's sister tag. They are part of the same dance agency Aiu_Agency on Instagram from SW Entertainment in South Korea. I knew this website wasn’t telling the truth. I found the JPNDate IP address and tracked it to a server in Hong Kong, China, hosted by Alibaba cloud servers. Reddit was right; the website is Chinese. However, Yomi is Korean which I learned later. I took pictures of the website code just in case. I asked Yomi if she knew Alibaba. Then she asked if I’m going to China—a very strange follow-up question. At this point, I was confused. Who is Yomi? I couldn’t find anything about Miyuki Miyamoto, only Yomi. On Yomi’s Instagram, she speaks Korean, not Japanese. I started to think there are no Japanese women on this website like they claim to be. She does speak Japanese, though. I started using more than 10 different software programs to track who Yomi was since she kept asking me for money. I found like 1000 pictures of an idol, WeChat model, singer, dancer, person on endless Chinese dating sites, and a valiant professional gamer part of the AI’U agency for over 8 years. I found two other Instagram accounts with Yomi's face. Another account in Chinese with an idol name other than Yomi also had a Facebook page. The Chinese account has a post about her going to Australia in early 2024, where she is typing in English words. It was a fake trip. I also found an account where she speaks only Korean on Instagram. I also found a tik-tok where someone dances and looks 100% the same as Yomi, to whom I’m talking. The part that is crazy is that none of the images are 100% the same, but the person is the same in all of them. This shocked me; I follow all the accounts. I saw the stories daily to see who this person was. Her Yomi account is just her normal pictures and atm company or something. Her Korean account is about traveling to Singapore, Spain, and South Korea. She also posts a lot about Disney toys here. When I talked to the scammer about Disney, I had no idea about this. At this point, I knew that many men had been scammed out of money for fake love, not just me. These women are real women. However, there are actors pretending to be in love. They will crush your heart and call you names after a few weeks if you don’t buy their stuff. It has to be from JPNdate Mall only, nowhere else. JPNdate Mall prices are crazy high. I am not sure if the point of the website is just for money or if it is actually for women to study English or what. Chinese women, pretending to be Japanese (most of them), that have connections to Korean music, dancing, and gaming on professional teams. Man, what a hell of a story this is. This sounds like a Hollywood movie, but it's real, or at least partly. At this point, everything I say seems to be true based on what I know. They are connected deeply with SW Entertainment. Yomi told me early on that she had one older sister and one younger brother. It seems like she is actually a twin, and she is the younger sister. Or it’s her friend she calls a sister from the dance Aiu Agency. Yomi claims to be 25, but I think she is closer to 27 or 28 based on finding a listing of her work in 2015 at Twitch Gaming. You have to be 18 or older to work at Twitch gaming, unless your parents sign things. Unless this job is fake, I don’t know. When I showed the pictures I found to Yomi on JPNdate, she played the victim card on me. Saying she thinks I’m a liar and she wants to break up. Then she gave me her Skype account to try to prove it was legit, and all the other images and accounts were stolen and fake. Her Skype name is Rose, with a One Piece picture. She sent me many voice clips, crying, trying to convince me that she was real. I put them in software, and the voice was 30% human, 70% AI. Clearly, a woman is changing her Chinese or Korean voice to sound Japanese. A PC gamer would know how to do this; they do it all the time to troll. Yomi told me she didn’t play video games anymore, but I found a picture that wasn’t that old of a woman who looked the same as her; she had a Nintendo Switch with a white OLED in it. Btw it’s a known fact that Yomi uses software to cheat in the Pc FPS games. We talk for a few more weeks on Skype. I can’t let Yomi, her sister, whoever the man is (I think her lover), and her idol dance friends scam men for their time and money. Yomi Chiense's name is Vera Yuanxin (维拉). Her twin sister goes by veravera_zhangg. Yomi “deleted her profile” when I exposed her. But One Yomi is still there with no pictures. Two they clearly have other accounts with people who look like she just changed hairstyle, talking and trying to scam other men. Remember when I said the anime part was important? On Yomi's Korean account, she has a friend with whom she talks about Digimon. She gave him a Disney toy. She told me she wanted to cosplay a fox; his profile is a fox. There is just so much proof that these are the same people. Later someone hit me up on Reddit from the Phillippines and told me how the same person Yomi scammed them. How for months Yomi promise them so many things. Then when they said it came to going on the plane to visit him they said they were sick or dying or something. Yomi also made a fake Instagram pretending to be Joe Biden and sent me a friend invite. I messaged and it was so funny how bad it was on their part. I said “Yomi are you trolling me?” then they deleted their account. This was on April 6th, 2024. Yomi tries so hard but use a lot of cheap things that are clearly fake like ai artwork, bots for like at ai_u agency, and fake profiles where she comments herself and attacks anyone who calls her out fairly. After exposing Jpndate they Ip ban my address lol. Then on social media joke about attacking me. If you call out their BS they threaten your family and yourself. Just stay away from all these sites if you're going to date online use well-known legit sites. I contacted Paypal and me and JPNDate.com had many emails back and forth. They pretended to do an investigation on Yomi real identity and said she was really Miyuki Miyamoto. It was so bullshit. I told them I would sue them if they were lying, The site no longer exists. The scam does, however. What happened After JPNDATE? April-June 2024 In April many fake Instagram accounts started following me each day. They are romance scams I never got them like this before. I didn’t fall for any of them. All or most were likely Yomi and her friends. Paypal did get me 4000 of 4080 dollars back but it took 6 weeks and multiple emails. JPNDate tells me they will be closing soon after PayPal went after them hard. Like I said I just wanted to find love. I made some stupid decisions along the way. However, I want to find out the truth and make sure other men don’t get scammed by them. I keep messaging Yomi's skype during this period, they never block me. They unfriended me but I could still send messages I wasn’t blocked. They even responded 2 times out of the 50 times I did this in the multiple-week span. I contacted the Aiu_Agency on Instagram (It is the same people as JPNDate) they pretended to be different people. I told them about Jpndate. They called me a hero, they said they loved me, and they thanked me for sending them all the pictures that Yomi sent me on Jpndate and Skype. They follow me on Instagram for 2 days. Then they unfollowed me randomly for no reason. They said their agency would do a police report and kill the scammer. I knew this was so bullshit. I told them how the scammers were making new profiles of them on Japan Cupid. Which is true. The leader Mingmei1344 (Which is Yomi Chinese account) claimed I was the scammer setting them up. She plays the victim card on me. I showed her all the messages and how I got the pictures, I didn’t steal anything. She told me her and her friends are okay if I hacked them, because I’m from the CIA. I am not from the CIA. It was a joke I made a few days before when she pretended to be a mob boss in Korea. I told her I am not a hacker. Right after that she and her friends all ban me other then Mingmei1344 account. Mingmei1344 Message me 1 more day, then block me. However, Mingmei1344 and the Aiu_Agency keep posting things on topics I told them days or weeks before. I checked their old post they never talked about any of this before that. I told these to Yomi on JPNDate and skype not Mingmei1344 again proving it is the same person. They look the same as well. Like the blue feather concept in love mythology, Gundams, Nintendo, Persona, and many many other topics. Yomi claimed to not know anything about videogames before I talked about it with her. I think this is partly a lie. This confuses me so I make fake Instagram accounts to message Mingmei1344 and Aiu_agency. She replies to my messages and Mingmei1344 even does a ask me a question thing on Instagram and replies to all of them. She clearly knows these accounts are from me Mark however she replies anyway. The replies were nice and positive things. Then later she bans them all again. Often Aiu-Agency Women (Yomi and her friends, Mostly Yomi) pretend to go to countries they are not actually in the picture, it’s all greenscreen effects. They also use Ai for Music covers Artwork. For music covers they pretend to sell millions of copies of but there is nowhere to buy such a music cover CD they claim to sell. Their music covers are claimed to be from popular songs kpop songs. I looked, at least not right now such CDs aren’t real. Of course, the songs are real but not their covers. Yomi is most of the women in the pictures but not all. They will post Ai cover artwork, multiple pictures of them using the greenscreen effect, then put a high-quality image of a famous Korean male singer. They never took these pictures of these Korean male singers. They download them and edit them. They pretend to perform with them but it is all fake. Mingmei1344 started always putting her with all the famous Mark’s in Korea. Only her not her staff with Mark’s. I think it’s a reference to me. She didn’t do this before meeting me I looked at her old post. Again Mingmei1344 is Yomi who is Jeong Nahyeon, who pretends to be Miyuki Miyamoto. She still references me sometimes in other ways and I send them messages to see what will happen next. One time I wrote about loving her to see what she would say. I do love Yomi, however I don’t want anyone to get scammed. I told her we could travel across the world together. She wrote in her next post on Aiu_agency on Instagram she liked this future with her future husband. It was a direct reply to what I asked the day before. I joined DateSteady after being contacted by a woman on Japan cupid. She is very interested in me and Yomi so I tell her everything. |
2024.06.09 14:50 Hi_ItsM3 I 'F31' just wrote this to my husband 'M37' trying to get my thoughts straight. Advice?
Last August, I learned you made a new Instagram account and did not tell or add me. I only found out when Instagram suggested you as a friend. I looked through the photos you posted and noticed that a female liked every photo. This alerted my instinct. I asked you about the page, and you said it was for your military stuff. When I asked why you didn't add me, you said you didn't think of it because you were adding other military people. I then asked about her, and stated she did not look military now or prior. You claimed she was just some old recruit, which was no big deal. I asked if you all had ever dated her, and you said no. Then I asked about you liking her photos too, and you said, "I can just not like photos; I'm sorry I was trying to make you feel any certain way." The next day, you had unfollowed her on the "new" account but said nothing, so I took that as you were taking action on your own. I did notice you followed her on your other two accounts but she did not follow you, but at this point i let it go. It still felt off, but I had no real reason to think you would lie to me. Over the next year, I noticed that various habits started changing, especially concerning your phone. You never post me or about me; when you have, it is under private stories. You started not picking up your phone if i was near and if i asked you too look at something i sent you on Instagram you would angle your phone away from me. I thought maybe i was being silly but I've seen these signs before when my ex was cheating. You left for training, and something told me to go through your iPad. This time i noticed something that i did not before. This girl I was questioning you about was the ex right before we met. It was a very serious relationship; you had moved your entire life for her. This wasn't just some minor girl you took out on a date but a serious relationship. So you lied to my face. I also found various photos and videos of yourself naked. You've told me they were for me in the past, but you just got "nervous" and never sent them... The funny thing about iPads is they save to albums...like Instagram albums.
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2024.06.09 14:19 Codaass I accidentally yeet Sokka's boomerang into space while training with Toph (It involved Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson and a clickbait article, don't ask)
Alright, buckle up, because this story is wilder than a Katara waterbending exhibition. So I (17M, Earthbender) am training with Toph (the blind earthbending master, you know her) to try and improve my earthbending moves. It's not going great. Toph keeps calling my techniques "limp like a Kardashian's acting career." Ouch.
Anyway, we're in the middle of some intense earthbending drills when a freaking clickbait article pops up on Toph's earth phone (because apparently those exist now). The headline screams something about Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson challenging Sokka to a boomerang duel. Toph, bless her soul, falls for it hook, line, and sinker.
"That Sokka needs all the help he can get," Toph snorts, snatches her meteorite bracelet (super deadly), and hurls it towards the sky. "This'll teach that Rock a lesson!"
Now, me? I still have the reflexes of a confused badgermole. Before I can even yell "Earthbending 101: Don't throw meteorites at celebrities based on clickbait!", I see Sokka's boomerang soaring through the air. Instinct kicks in, and I try to block it with a hastily formed earth wall. Big mistake.
Instead of a satisfying clang, there's a sickening sproing as the boomerang ricochets off my pathetic earth wall and flies off into the stratosphere. Toph, ever the optimist, grins. "Nice save, kid! Though, maybe a little more... oomph next time?"
Sokka, who apparently witnessed the whole thing from his window (peeping Tom much?), goes ballistic. He storms over, throws a boomerang-shaped tantrum (very dramatic), and accuses me of ruining his chance to impress The Rock. I tried explaining the clickbait thing, but Sokka just gave me a look that could curdle yak milk.
So, yeah. AITA for yeeting Sokka's boomerang into the cosmos with my terrible earthbending skills? Toph thinks it's hilarious, but Sokka is threatening to write a haiku about my earthbending failures and post it on Space MySpace (because apparently, that's a thing now too). Someone please send help (and maybe a boomerang retrieval rocket).
EDIT 1: Apparently, Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson saw this whole thing go down live because Sokka was live-streaming the whole "challenge" (again, questionable decisions). The Rock posted a video on his earth-phone thingy, basically calling Sokka a "boomerang boomer" and Sokka is even madder now. This is a disaster of epic proportions.
EDIT 2: Sokka just informed me that boomerangs don't actually go into space. Apparently, they just travel really far and then come back down. So, there goes my hopes of getting an autograph from an astronaut Sokka. Toph still thinks it's funny though. Maybe I should just move in with Azula. She can't be worse than this, right? Right...
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Anyway, we're in the middle of some intense earthbending drills when a freaking clickbait article pops up on Toph's earth phone (because apparently those exist now). The headline screams something about Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson challenging Sokka to a boomerang duel. Toph, bless her soul, falls for it hook, line, and sinker.
"That Sokka needs all the help he can get," Toph snorts, snatches her meteorite bracelet (super deadly), and hurls it towards the sky. "This'll teach that Rock a lesson!"
Now, me? I still have the reflexes of a confused badgermole. Before I can even yell "Earthbending 101: Don't throw meteorites at celebrities based on clickbait!", I see Sokka's boomerang soaring through the air. Instinct kicks in, and I try to block it with a hastily formed earth wall. Big mistake.
Instead of a satisfying clang, there's a sickening sproing as the boomerang ricochets off my pathetic earth wall and flies off into the stratosphere. Toph, ever the optimist, grins. "Nice save, kid! Though, maybe a little more... oomph next time?"
Sokka, who apparently witnessed the whole thing from his window (peeping Tom much?), goes ballistic. He storms over, throws a boomerang-shaped tantrum (very dramatic), and accuses me of ruining his chance to impress The Rock. I tried explaining the clickbait thing, but Sokka just gave me a look that could curdle yak milk.
So, yeah. AITA for yeeting Sokka's boomerang into the cosmos with my terrible earthbending skills? Toph thinks it's hilarious, but Sokka is threatening to write a haiku about my earthbending failures and post it on Space MySpace (because apparently, that's a thing now too). Someone please send help (and maybe a boomerang retrieval rocket).
EDIT 1: Apparently, Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson saw this whole thing go down live because Sokka was live-streaming the whole "challenge" (again, questionable decisions). The Rock posted a video on his earth-phone thingy, basically calling Sokka a "boomerang boomer" and Sokka is even madder now. This is a disaster of epic proportions.
EDIT 2: Sokka just informed me that boomerangs don't actually go into space. Apparently, they just travel really far and then come back down. So, there goes my hopes of getting an autograph from an astronaut Sokka. Toph still thinks it's funny though. Maybe I should just move in with Azula. She can't be worse than this, right? Right...
2024.06.09 14:18 1000andonenites As Flies to Wanton Boys
Annette was looking forward to meeting her new Tinder match. She knew he was just another older fuckboy, but she had just got out of a longrelationship and she wanted a bit of fun. And he was just so fucking handsome. Part of her was surprised he swiped right on her.
He arrived late, apologizing slightly, yet gracefully. For once, real life was better than the photos, and Annette found it difficult to collect herself, not just at his stunning, Mediterranean-style looks, but his movie-star aura of moving effortlessly and easily in a world made to please him.
The conversation flowed easily and Annette was looking forward to the night ahead, as there was no doubt where they were heading. He made that clear in the longer-than-necessary shoulder touches, complimenting her earrings and touching them, showing her funny memes on his phone and bending too close, bringing his mouth close to her ear to repeat something she missed in the polite hum of the restaurant. Advances that on another first date would have been too forward, too creepy, too unwelcome, on him were just perfect. Even his effontry at leaving his Tinder app, blossoming with notifications, visible on his screen seemed attractive- at least he wasn’t checking them surreptitiously, as some do. His focus was wholly on Annette, and she felt seen as never before. Desire combined with foreboding filled her. What was going on?
They finished their appies -he had made clear that he would be paying- and the server was coming up with their entrees, Annette making sure she ordered something less expensive than her companion but not the cheapest - when a hubbub broke out at the door. Her heart sank. She knew it had to do with her date.
As a woman with a wavy waterfall of purple-black hair strode towards their table she felt fear- there was danger in those flashing large brown eyes.
“Again!” cried the woman. “Have you no shame, no respect for me, your wife-”
Wife? That was not part of the deal. Annette shot a deadly look at the now sheepish man before her, painfully aware of the enjoyment of the other restaurant guests at the unexpected yet delightful addition to their evening.
Her date scrambled inelegently to his beautifully-shod feet. “Who told you to find me here?” Although caught red-handed, he had not lost his composure. If anything, Annette caught a whiff of viciousness not seen earlier.
The wife flung a hand towards Annette. “With this? This - this worm! What is your problem Zeus, that you copulate with mud when you can have a goddess!”
A horrible hush fell over the restaurant. Then Annette heard herself whimpering in fear.
The wife impatiently twitched her fingers.
The last thing Annette felt as a human was falling forward to the ground on her arms and hands, as together with everyone else in the restaurant they transformed into a flock of sheep, flicking their tails helplessly before their masters.
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He arrived late, apologizing slightly, yet gracefully. For once, real life was better than the photos, and Annette found it difficult to collect herself, not just at his stunning, Mediterranean-style looks, but his movie-star aura of moving effortlessly and easily in a world made to please him.
The conversation flowed easily and Annette was looking forward to the night ahead, as there was no doubt where they were heading. He made that clear in the longer-than-necessary shoulder touches, complimenting her earrings and touching them, showing her funny memes on his phone and bending too close, bringing his mouth close to her ear to repeat something she missed in the polite hum of the restaurant. Advances that on another first date would have been too forward, too creepy, too unwelcome, on him were just perfect. Even his effontry at leaving his Tinder app, blossoming with notifications, visible on his screen seemed attractive- at least he wasn’t checking them surreptitiously, as some do. His focus was wholly on Annette, and she felt seen as never before. Desire combined with foreboding filled her. What was going on?
They finished their appies -he had made clear that he would be paying- and the server was coming up with their entrees, Annette making sure she ordered something less expensive than her companion but not the cheapest - when a hubbub broke out at the door. Her heart sank. She knew it had to do with her date.
As a woman with a wavy waterfall of purple-black hair strode towards their table she felt fear- there was danger in those flashing large brown eyes.
“Again!” cried the woman. “Have you no shame, no respect for me, your wife-”
Wife? That was not part of the deal. Annette shot a deadly look at the now sheepish man before her, painfully aware of the enjoyment of the other restaurant guests at the unexpected yet delightful addition to their evening.
Her date scrambled inelegently to his beautifully-shod feet. “Who told you to find me here?” Although caught red-handed, he had not lost his composure. If anything, Annette caught a whiff of viciousness not seen earlier.
The wife flung a hand towards Annette. “With this? This - this worm! What is your problem Zeus, that you copulate with mud when you can have a goddess!”
A horrible hush fell over the restaurant. Then Annette heard herself whimpering in fear.
The wife impatiently twitched her fingers.
The last thing Annette felt as a human was falling forward to the ground on her arms and hands, as together with everyone else in the restaurant they transformed into a flock of sheep, flicking their tails helplessly before their masters.
2024.06.09 14:02 Historian-Expert Looking for a boyfriend
welp
I am looking for a long-distance relationship ha ha.
What I am: 1. Single, sassy and won’t shut up about pottery 2. A wreck at every arcade game, it’s embarrassing (n im tryin to be better at it) 3. Reader (we can go on reading dates like total silence, just a book n coffee, idk) 4. From Southeast Asia 5. Also… looking for someone who might wanna do random trips around Asia (i hv one planned in July) 6. Brown and petite 7. Oh ya a female
What I am not: 1. A bot 2. Super hot blonde Asian
Who you can be: 1. Male 2. Not a pedo 3. Preferably, funny 4. Genuinely wants to connect
/So if anyone is looking for a girlfriend/ 💃🏽
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I am looking for a long-distance relationship ha ha.
What I am: 1. Single, sassy and won’t shut up about pottery 2. A wreck at every arcade game, it’s embarrassing (n im tryin to be better at it) 3. Reader (we can go on reading dates like total silence, just a book n coffee, idk) 4. From Southeast Asia 5. Also… looking for someone who might wanna do random trips around Asia (i hv one planned in July) 6. Brown and petite 7. Oh ya a female
What I am not: 1. A bot 2. Super hot blonde Asian
Who you can be: 1. Male 2. Not a pedo 3. Preferably, funny 4. Genuinely wants to connect
/So if anyone is looking for a girlfriend/ 💃🏽
2024.06.09 13:52 Low-Turn-4342 AITAH for leaving a former ex at a concert last Friday?
In August last year I (M 56) began dating a woman (F 51) that I had known since high school. To be honest at the time I couldn’t remember exactly who this girl was until we went on a couple dates to learn more about each other. She knew who I was the entire time. We had fun together but we weren’t really compatible long term and I could see the writing on the wall. We mutually broke up around Thanksgiving the same year so we were serious for about three months. No one cheated. No one did anything bad to the other. I felt that any time I brought up my future goals or ideas or really anything, she would say that I’m wrong and explain alternative ways of doing things that just didn’t align with what I was looking for. We remained friends. No hard feelings. She had helped me move from my apartment last January to a new place. Neither one of us have dated since our breakup and are both still single. We both understand that we are friends and nothing else and we are both fine with that. I had bought myself a ticket to a concert for this past Friday and had planned to meet a couple of friends at the concert. Last weekend I called my ex and asked if she would like to go. I knew she liked the band and it was her birthday coming up. My treat. To my surprise she said that she would love to go. Great, I bought her a ticket and looked forward to the show. I live closer to the venue so it was decided that she would drive to my house and then I would drive to the show. We get to the show and parked but spent about 40 minutes in the car just catching up. It was a pleasant conversation but the first band had already started and I was anxious to get inside. Once we were inside, I saw some of my friends and we chatted briefly. She had met my friends before and talked to my friend’s wife so all is good. She wanted to go over to the merchandise table. She bought 2 vinyl records, a hat and a shirt which took a while. The venue is a very small amphitheater. They had food and drinks and the merchandise table where you couldn’t see the stage. I excused myself to by a beer and a jack and coke for her. The bar counter was close and we could see each other the whole time. I made it back to her before she finished her purchase. She kept calling her adult kids (in their 30’s) to see if she could pick something up for them. She was on her phone a lot. The first band finished and the second band had already started. I mentioned that I would like to grab a bite to eat and asked if she wanted anything. She agreed to meet me at concession stand. Like I said this is a very small venue and everything was close. Between each band, a lot of the audience would walk out to the concession area. It is general admission seating. First come, first served. I ordered the food and was waiting for it. Right after she joined me the food was ready. She said she didn’t want anything but I bought her something just in case thinking I would eat it if she didn’t. She ate half the food so I’m glad I bought extra. While we were standing there eating she would wander off leaving me to watch her purse and merchandise. If she wasn’t wandering off, she was texting on her phone. I felt a little weird about this. I’m not a baby sitter of her stuff while she just walked away looking around and she is ignoring me when she isn’t wandering but so far I’m cool. We are just friends and I bought her ticket as a gift. We finish eating and by now, the 3rd band is setting up. There are 4 bands total. I had explained to her before that I really wanted to see the final two bands. But now she has to go to the bathroom. The 3rd band starts playing. I’m like go ahead and once again I’m watching her stuff waiting for her. She comes back and says there is a flyer in the bathroom that she wanted to take a picture of but she didn’t have her phone. She retrieved her phone and goes back to the bathroom. I still haven’t seen any bands yet and I really wanted to see this band. She comes back and starts texting. I’m like maybe we should go find seats. She doesn’t say anything and continues texting. I mention again that we should go find some seats. She ends texting and starts rummaging through her purse doing I don’t know what. Between the merchandise table, eating the food, the texting and bathroom trips we lost a lot of time. I say for the third time we should find some seats and whatever she is doing, she can once we’re seated. Finally, we go inside and sit down. She mentioned that she would like to see if she can get the headlining band to sign her vinyl and she wants to go near the stage right before they come on and I agree if that’s what she wants to do. The rest of the time that the third band plays (3 songs because we had missed so much) she is seated next to me but isn’t watching the band. She is facing away from me and is texting the whole time. The third band finishes their set and up she goes to use the bathroom again and I’m left watching her stuff. When she returns, she grabs her wallet and runs off to buy herself another drink never offering or asking if I would like something. The headlining band begins. I guess the signatures weren’t that important since I am still holding her record. A little time goes by and I look over to the end of the isle to see her dancing and talking with some dude. Really, I don’t care that she is talking to someone but I am beginning to feel a little disrespected. We missed most of the overall show and she began ignoring me as soon as we stepped inside the venue. The headlining band is now halfway through their set and I see her in the aisle doing I don’t know what. She looks up and sees me and I give her the hand/arm signal like what are you doing? She waves me to come over. I can’t leave her stuff and I know that if I move, someone else will take our seats. Besides, I don’t want to stand in the aisle when we have seats. I don’t see the point. Two more songs and we meet eyes again. I give her the what are you doing signal again. Two more songs and she still hasn’t returned. Now, I’ve had enough. I feel totally disrespected. Missed more than half the show. Never see my friends again so I grab her stuff walk out to her, hand her all the merchandise and say I want to go home and start walking. She follows and asks me what is going on? I explain to her how she has made us miss half the show, she is on her phone texting the whole time and has basically ignored me the entire time that we have been there preferring to watch the show from the aisle instead of our seats. She says hey we are only friends, I can text if I want. I said sure you can but it was rude and disrespectful and friends don’t treat each other that way. She doesn’t want to hear it. She wants to go to my car, grab her things and stay. She wants to get an Uber home. So, we walk out to the car, she grabs her things, closes the door and walks back to the venue. I would have given her a ride but she just walks off. AITAH for leaving her there?
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2024.06.09 13:46 RainAffectionate6382 Conflicted. Am I in denial?
I've been in a happy same sex relationship for around 2 years. We met in a Christian space and she was the one who confessed first.
She's the best thing that's ever happened to me. She's kind, intelligent, funny and we never run out of things to talk about. I've never felt so comfortable or happy around anyone else.
We've known each other for almost 7 years and I think I'm in love with her. She's so compassionate and so good to me - I'm incredibly grateful for her and I feel like I've been blessed, even though I'm scared that our relationship is disobeying God.
I am capable of being attracted to the opposite sex, but no one will ever be her. And the thought of leaving my partner after leading her on would be so unfair. She is only attracted to women. I don't think I could ever be as happy with a man unless he was literally just her but as a guy. Sometimes I wish that were the case so our partnership would not be condemned.
I am attracted to her but that feeling is mostly romantic. We haven't pursued sexual intimacy yet - only cuddling & kissing. Neither of us have a very high libido and our relationship is very vanilla. Any explicit SSA is possible for me to ignore/suppress.
If we just never cross this line, will I be allowed to stay with her? I feel like I'm bargaining. I don't want to make an idol out of this relationship. But the thought of having to give this up makes me want to cry.
Advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm so confused and conflicted. I want to live a life that honours God. I'm also scared of losing the happiest relationship I've ever had.
It's hard for me not to feel like our relationship is abhorrent when participating in Christian spaces. Am I in denial when I question these teachings? Anyone in my life would tell me to end the relationship but I don't want to lose her. Is there any way we can date and still honour God?
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She's the best thing that's ever happened to me. She's kind, intelligent, funny and we never run out of things to talk about. I've never felt so comfortable or happy around anyone else.
We've known each other for almost 7 years and I think I'm in love with her. She's so compassionate and so good to me - I'm incredibly grateful for her and I feel like I've been blessed, even though I'm scared that our relationship is disobeying God.
I am capable of being attracted to the opposite sex, but no one will ever be her. And the thought of leaving my partner after leading her on would be so unfair. She is only attracted to women. I don't think I could ever be as happy with a man unless he was literally just her but as a guy. Sometimes I wish that were the case so our partnership would not be condemned.
I am attracted to her but that feeling is mostly romantic. We haven't pursued sexual intimacy yet - only cuddling & kissing. Neither of us have a very high libido and our relationship is very vanilla. Any explicit SSA is possible for me to ignore/suppress.
If we just never cross this line, will I be allowed to stay with her? I feel like I'm bargaining. I don't want to make an idol out of this relationship. But the thought of having to give this up makes me want to cry.
Advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm so confused and conflicted. I want to live a life that honours God. I'm also scared of losing the happiest relationship I've ever had.
It's hard for me not to feel like our relationship is abhorrent when participating in Christian spaces. Am I in denial when I question these teachings? Anyone in my life would tell me to end the relationship but I don't want to lose her. Is there any way we can date and still honour God?