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READ THE FAQ & RULES BEFORE POSTING OR COMMENTING! A safe space to trade experiences, frustrations, worries, analyze cultural reactions, or just chat with fellow cougars and cubs. Working definition: a cougacub relationship is one where the woman (cougar) is a woman of 40 who at least 10 years older than the man (cub) or woman (kitten). A woman under 40 is a Puma.
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2012.10.14 15:05 SurvivorType R4R30Plus: Meet fellow redditors over 30

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2019.10.27 09:37 Brian_Kinney GayYoungOld dating

GayYoungOldDating is about gay younger men and older men looking for intergenerational dates, hookups, relationships, chats, whatever.
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2024.06.09 13:36 Duckyalarm Tired of “femcels”

I was scrolling through ig reels cuz i have fuck all to do and i see this reel that made me so mad it’s unbelievable this emo looking girl is like “when i die i wanna go to femcel heaven” Literally what the fuck? she probably has thousands of dudes simping for her yet she’s talking about being a “femcel”. I swear women will watch one episode of lain or go on 4chan for a good 5 minutes and claim they’re a femcel. Also, stop for a second and imagine if it was an ugly dude, instead of the simps in the comments being all like “hear me out guys!!!!” (even tho it’s just a normal woman, nothing to hear you out on) the comments would probably be just mocking him for his face and acting like he’s a subhuman. Another thing, most men (non chad) have to work on their physique for literal years just to have a small chance for someone to look at them like a human being, this girl can just exist and have their dating life set for them.
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2024.06.09 13:35 Yorukaaa I kinda hate that everybody gets away with everything

Kemi Badenoch gets to openly admit that she and her party had to stack the minister spots with transphobes in order to push the right agenda in trans healthcare, and that they did in fact aim to ban trans healthcare with the publishing of the Cass Review (had conversion therapy activists on the board and openly excluded transgender specialists), and she doesn't seem to get any sort of penalty or anything for this.
"The third reason was having gender-critical men and women in the UK government, holding the positions that mattered most in Equalities and Health.
You only need to look at what the SNP did in Scotland to see what would have happened had we not intervened.
The Cass Review would \*never** have been commissioned under a Labour govt. Labour did not want to know.*
We had incredible opposition from the system on everything. It was when the ministers changed that everything changed." - from her twitter.
It's just so deeply depressing that the best you can do is vote her out. IDK I think something else should happen regarding this blatant conspiracy.
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2024.06.09 13:33 Illustrious_World_56 Apolitical world can totally happen 😂.

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2024.06.09 13:32 Dtr_1555 AITA for wanting sole custody of my son until my ex fiance got his mental health straight?

So I (20f) met my ex fiance(22m) when I was living in TN and met him off of bumble and just before a year after dating we got engaged and shortly later we were getting kick out of my aunts house (very long story) so I was moving back to Utah to live with my mom while getting back on my feet. He followed with me to Utah. Shortly after we moved I ended up pregnant, we didn't think I could because we had went MONTHS with nothing but it turned out to be stress preventing my body from allowing pregnancy.
Everything was wonderful. Great sweet guy caring and thoughtful, not the best at communicating especially with his emotions. He was better than any person on social media as a support person during labor and shortly after, our som was in the nicu and I had a c section so it was rough. But he was amazing with it all! And a great dad and very involved and caring.
Then 4 months post partum I find out all this stupid shit.
This is our first son and there was complications and he's a little extra needy when it comes to food and gaining weight, he had a iugr and was 1 month premature. I was going to be staying at home to take care of our kiddo cause that was my dream and at the time he said he wouldn't be able to take care of kiddo by himself.
Well about 2.5 months into post partum he stopped being fully present, I was doing everything with the rare times he would do stuff. I thought everything was okay and he was struggling with post partum depression because he was still sweet, caring, loving and still seemed like he wanted to be apart of the family. Arguments started about him not helping around the house, him hardly helping with kiddo, and when I would try to wake him up he would lay there pretending to be asleep or yelling at me that he's not gonna wake up.
He started to live in his truck as I started to speculate cheating but couldn't figure out how to pin point it, and the engagement ring came off.
Small background when we were engaged and he pretty much was getting screwed over with a car his parents pulled a loan for when he was 16 but he was paying for it. He couldn't purchase a car and needed one asap so I helped by putting the loan in my name. Well shortly after kicking him out I told him if he couldn't get the loan in his name I'll have to get rid of the car cause of the dept to income for an apartment even if he pays on it as well as me being scared that he'd just screw me over.
One other back story i saw him texting a women on snapchat and I asked who she was (because previously there was multiple arguments about him needing to stop talking and unadd the same ex of his an another about him liking half naked women on instagram). He says that it's one of the people from his gaming group and she lived in a neighboring state, which turned out as a lie. One day when doing laundry at a mat I was loading up in the back of the car and saw him open a snap of hers and respond, both of them putting in a lot of effort in the photos (which he doesn't do for me). I get in and tell him that's not her being friendly she's trying to fuck you and be a home wrecker, hah I was right... but he tried to convince me she was a friend, I never believed it.
One day, the day before mother's day, before he got his vehicle he was needing a ride with the car to put stuff in his storage unit from the car. I was going to get a breather because things were getting emotional and he stole my car. Cops were called and some women had picked him up. It was the girl he said months ago is a gaming buddy. Later we talked and he said he wanted to work on us and he'd remove her, she knows he has a family and us just a friend and stuff like that. I didn't really believe him. Well he removed her then said he's gonna go for a drive to get fresh air and think, turns out he re added her then went to her work event.
Shitty part of mothers day, my first mind you, finding out I'm being cheated on, and then goes "she said happy mothers day btw" like why the hell are you talking to her when your "trying to make it up to me for the damage so my first mothers day ain't ruined." He admits "She's a friend" that he had went to a concert with, goes to the bar with and visits her on lunch. There was arguments of how that's not what friends do and beginning to ask him how many times did he fuck her. He kept trying to convince me she's just a friend.
Some time when buy with arguing about that and him going "I blocked her I'll follow your boundaries to fix this" then couple hours later re add her. I began talking to men and an old ex because having people to talk to even when it's not about the drama is how I cope and it kept me above water.
Mind you at this time he really hasn't asked to see his kid and hasn't really acknowledged him unless I say something. We also were broken up before I started talking to other people.
He got pissed that I was talking to other people and started yelling at me about it.
Well I was tired of "she's just a friend" arguments cause I knew something was off. One morning I left work early (my shift starts way early) I went home took his phone while he was sleeping and went through it. Yup confirmed that I was right the past couple months and shit. So I woke him up and was like I know now tell me.
His pitty excuse that I don't believe anymore but at the time did is: I had an ex back when I was dealing drugs in Florida ask if she can move with me to my home state on one run but I told her I couldn't cause I was still under age and living with my parents and she killed herself when I left because I didn't take her with me and her dad is abusive. Well he said one time when he went to the bar he saw her looking at him and then he went to smoke and then came back in the bar and she was still staring so he went to talk to her because he "didn't feel loved so why the fuck not"
Side note he was jealous of our infant son because (starting at less than 1 month old of feeling jelous) that I was giving kiddo all move attention and loving on kiddo and my cats. Because I was suffering PPD PPA and Post partum anger, he wasn't there for me and even yelled saying things like "you shouldn't feel that way, things happen and it's fine there's alternatives" when I would cry about things that were struggling with kiddo like breast feeding and things like that. Fucking jealous of an infant dude.
Then said that they only fucked twice and it started when he saw her at the concert and gave her a ride home because she was drunk and her friends left her. That was brought up because I saw her tiktok with her post him with them in the car. I said you could have bought her an Uber and I don't believe her friends left her. The truth later be told 1 month after I found out about him full on cheating was he got on tinder, met her, picked her up and took her to the concert, fucked her then came home.
He was constantly gone while I was taking care of our kid so he can fuck around many times.
Well I forgot most stuff because of my ptsd response and blockage but recently he had kept seeing her and I said I was done. One day he's begging to work on things and the next day he blocks my number saying he never wants to hear from me again.
This past week has been fucked. To put it short. He refused to see his son when I was available in between work and doctors appointments because he didn't want to move his date and he already has went over a week without seeing the little guy. He did this twice.
He kept trying to say I think we will work out and come back to each other in the future. Saying things like I wanna see where things go with Jessica, if they work out great if not great and then we can try on us. Saying he will wait for me and that he will compete with the other men that I talk to or date. And stupid shit like that.
I told him I was first I should have never been second. Told him if he continues to pursue her I will never be willing to wrap back around to this even years from now when he's done with his stupid manic episode. He's showing heavy heavy traits of bipolar.
Well anyways
When he was in kiddos life and I went back to work I would tap in on the Alex to check in since he would never answer me and I would hear kiddo awake for hours or crying for so long wanting food that I would constantly have to leave work. I have gotten a video of him saying he won't wake up to feed our kid from a recent event. Kiddo has torticolis in his neck causing flat head and he needs off of it as much as possible but he hardly ever was up so kiddo would be on his head from bed time at 8 to 9 pm all the way till he woke up at 12 pm on later days but no earlier than 10 am when kiddos wake up time that he actually wakes up at is 7 am. He's constantly drinking and admitted to drinking and driving on the way home from work. The first thing in his fridge at his apartment was beer and constantly going to the bars.
Even when I was around with kiddo he would almost never acknowledge him.
He's always threatened since kid was 1.5 months old (way before I knew about anything) he would just sign his rights away. Well just this past Friday he said he wanted to so I said I can print off the papers to fill out and sign so I did and Saturday after he slept on it, had a calm conversation about it, the papers were notarized and emailed to the courts.
He blocked my number even though he technically can't and doesn't give a shit.
I feel like I failed my kid. I promised I would never find someone that was going to be a father to my kid the same way my dad was to me and I failed. No one saw this everyone was like it was a flip of a switch cause he was over the moon for me and was so excited to be a dad and now he's saying things like she's worth loosing my family and never seeing the family again. I hurt for my son the most.
:((
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2024.06.09 13:26 TheAuroraSystem How come more Women don’t ask Men out? Is this an America thing?

I saw a post about men not asking women out, and not realizing hints, so I wondered about this.
For context, I’m 26F. I myself will most likely never actually a man out on a date for a few reasons. One being that I can’t always tell intentions. Or I think a man is flirting with me, and then I find out that no, he was just checking in cause I looked like I needed help instead or he was asking just a regular question about some item on the shelf.
There have been several times where I’ve thought someone was interested and ent ahead to “shoot my shot” only for men to get angry or insulted that I was the one to ask them out. As if it was demasculating to be asked out.
I’ve also had times where people have thought we were dating when I didn’t think of our relationship that way. I typically am the type to be considered very very friendly and tactile, so I can see this to a point, but why not just ask if we’re a thing? Why just assume?
So basically at this point, I’ve come to terms that with the way I am and just my overall issues, as well as all the personal issues I have even with Therapy, that I’ll probably remain single for the rest of my existence. I tend to be the kind at this point where if someone asks me out, awesome, but I’m not going out of my way to find someone.
In online spaces though, especially with foreigner friends, I commonly hear about the woman being the one to ask someone out. Where they send the first message, or they’re asked explicit permission, or they’re the ones who start the relationship.
So I’m just wondering, is this just a minority that I’m somehow being surrounded with online? Are women outside of America the majority to ask out people? If this is an America only thing, why?
Thank you for any and all explainations, and have a wonderful day!
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2024.06.09 13:24 SinlessTitan The Struggles of Gen Z Men: Facing Economic and Relationship Realities in the Modern World

As a younger Gen Z guy, it feels pointless to strive for success anymore. There are so many reasons as a man, to not try it seems, both economically and in relationships. Examples being: economic problems (inflation), movements like 4B and Man vs. Bear, declining birth rates due to Gen Z having less sex, high divorce rates, and the whole gender war fueled by feminism and redpill movements and social media.
Social media, TikToks, and podcasts keep bashing men and women, and then it doesnt help that a lot of gen z women have unrealistic height and financial standards of men, plus many women in Gen Z don't seem interested in having kids anymore, or being stay-at-home moms, or they like the idea of it but do not like it in practice.
All this makes it feel like we were sold a lie as young men growing up, and that dream of working hard, finding a partner in our twenties or early thirties, getting married, being loyal, buying a house, having kids, and creating a beautiful family. That entire dream now seems like a joke or a big miscalculation of how things would turn out.
Without that goal being realistic anymore, there's not much motivation for young males to be their best physically, socially, or economically. Even if you work hard and become successful, the sad truth is you will probably still end up alone and unmarried statistically. The desire to provide for a family just can't be fulfilled because of the current gender politics and mutual hate.
With the rise of equality and feminism, guys now also have to compete with both men and women in the workforce, doubling the competition economically. This makes it harder to get into a relationship and manage the financial burden of traditional relationships where guys are expected to pay for everything. Even in non traditional relationships where the man only pays half, it’s just still too expensive to go on dates today.
We're in a weird phase, moving away from traditional values but still holding onto some expectations. As someone from Gen Z, it seems people either sleep with everyone or no one, and there is not much in between these days, neither of which promotes building a healthy long term relationship with someone. It’s a very depressing situation.
I know many women are dealing with similar issues, and my words might sound like generalizations. I'm just sharing my experience and opinions, as I know there are exceptions. I get that women were abused and mistreated in the days of past, and I don't wish that to return. I'm just voicing the depression that I feel from the lack of companionship and the hopelessness caused by the absolute all-out gender war in my generation.
I would love to hear what other people think about the current gender dynamics we are going through today. Thank you.
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2024.06.09 13:11 Saucy_n_Spicy What do non black men have against Black Women?

This is something that I have pondered on for a while now. But why do non Black men seem to dislike black women so much when most black women don't bother them and have never done anything to them? I was on Instagram and a reel came up of this black woman influencer doing one of those trends where they state problematic things men do and then start running away. For example it will say men with 3 baby mama's and then the woman starts running away flailing or it'll say men who ask women what they bring to the table and again she will start running away. This is obviously meant to be funny/humorous and to show red flags women should be avoiding in men.
As I said the influencer is black and by the statements said in the video she was obviously talking about black men. Why when you read the comments it's nothing but racist non black men doing what they do..being racist and hateful to Black women and of course black men are teaming up with them per usual. I don't understand this shit because the video wasn't even for or about them so what tf are they mad for???
Why does it seem like black women are the only group of women on earth who bring out the ire in men outside of their group for no reason? Does this shit even happen in other parts of the animal kingdom?? Like is it Normal for male tigers and cheetahs to attack lionesses?? Like I know that probably sounded silly but for real we are probably the only race/species of female in the whole entire animal kingdom who has to deal with constant unprovoked attacks from males outside of their group.
Like in real life I never see Black women doing anything to non black men or even interacting with them like that. It's for the most part neutralness/indifference. The only time in real life I will see a black woman having an issue with a non black man will be if he started and instigated it first. And another thing is it's literally men from all non black races hating on us. Not just white, like I've seen Indian men talking shit...?? like most black women aren't even in close proximity to these people for them to be so negatively strongly impacted by us. Like I don't understand this shit.
What can we do about this shit?? Like how are we supposed to date and keep our options open to non blacks when they are so disgustingly racist for literally no fucking reason?? But you can't keep it black either because look how black nikkas be acting. Like what the fuck are we supposed to do about this shit?? I understand not all non black men are like this but the same way how people say black women have bad PR is how I feel about non black guys in modern day era (in the 90s their PR was better). Their current PR sucks so fucking bad it's not even funny. It kills the desire to give one of them a chance. It not only kills the desire but starts to make you feel repulsed. How do y'all navigate this??
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2024.06.09 13:06 lemonsaltwater Colin + Pen = Swans: A Deep Dive

Colin + Pen = Swans: A Deep Dive
A joint research effort of u/sc127 and u/lemonsaltwater
Throughout Seasons 2 and 3, swans are a recurring theme in Colin and Pen’s story, both in terms of explicit imagery/sound and allusions to swan behavior and stories. There are so many allusions that it is clear the showrunners, and Julia Quinn,* want us to make these associations, as every detail is intentional.
(\while neither of us have read the books, but based on character names, as well as references to the books on this sub, we can assume this. If you've read the books, please comment with more swan references! We do not present this as something hidden/new but rather for the fun of finding all of the references.)*
The biggest allusion to swans is how swans mate for life and form into bonding pairs quite young, well before mating age. Trumpeter swans bond as young as 20 months — but then wait several years and don’t mate until at least the age of 4-7. Colin and Pen meet at a young age and form a friendship but it then takes several years for it to become romantic.
Let’s plunge our beaks underwater and dive into how these associations play out for Colin and Pen individually and then as a couple.

Colin’s character as a swan

Colin has always been a swan, even if he didn’t lean into it. It shows up in a variety of character traits throughout the seasons.
Male swans are fiercely protective of their partners. We see Colin’s protectiveness over Pen show up multiple times. I did a longer post on the evolution of Colin's protectiveness a few weeks ago, but here are some scene highlights:
  • Ep 1x01: After Penelope beams at how happy she is to be wearing a pink dress, Cressida then spills her drink on her. Colin feels defensive of her, and rejects Cressida's bid to dance (big social no-no!) and dances with Penelope instead
  • Ep 2x07, 2x08 (Cousin Jack’s scam): He not only gets angry at Mondrich for insulting the Featherington family, but also at Cousin Jack for taking advantage of the Featherington women
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  • Season 3 has multiple examples of Colin protecting Pen: after his dating help is revealed, balloon, protecting her from a mistake. It is notable that the few times we see Colin angry, they are all related to Pen’s feelings.
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We'll likely see more of this in Part 2 (and various book spoilers indicate this as well).
Male swans are also one of the few species of waterfowl that take an active role in rearing children. Male swans will sit on the eggs and protect them, unlike other waterfowl. In Seasons 1 and 2, Colin is often seen playing with his younger siblings. We see the male swan’s interest in child rearing most obviously in 2x02 when Eloise recoils from Daphne’s baby and Colin swoops in to tenderly and lovingly hold him.
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Swans are known for mating for life and for being dedicated partners, unlike other species of waterfowl. Colin “My Wife” Bridgerton, hello. But even before Season 3, we see this in Season 2 when Colin is the only one in the front row who appears happy at Anthony and Edwina’s wedding, and according to Luke, Colin is actually crying because he loves love so much. He delights in love.
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Afterwards, Colin finds himself somewhat depressed and “searching for answers at the bottom of his flask” after their “bungled nuptials.” For someone who sees love as "the one thing in life that holds genuine meaning," to see an engagement broken off at that point is deeply distressing. (We'll return to Anthony's wedding later.)
His recurring appearance changes after his extended travels: Swans shed all of their feathers during their annual summer migration period. After his travels between S1 and S2, he returns with facial hair. After his travels between S2 and S3, he returns with new clothing.

Penelope: Duck => Swan

Penelope, meanwhile, needs to go through a transformation in order to become a swan.
(There are a lot of motifs used for Penelope throughout the show: butterflies, cake, etc, but here we’re going to focus on ducks and swans.)
Let’s start with her name. To get all Colin-season-2 for a moment, “Penelope” is believed to derive from the Ancient Greek word penelops, which means “duck.” In modern language, “pen” is the official name for a female swan. And her last name is Featherington.
Something that starts as a duck and becomes a swan… that sounds a lot like the HC Andersen short story The Ugly Duckling, which is about a duck who is cast aside by society for being ugly, only to later learn that the reason it looked different was because it was actually a swan.
While Colin and Pen are more likely to quote Byron than Danish fairy tales, the allusions to The Ugly Duckling are quite strong throughout Penelope’s character arc. (And indeed, fantasy plays a huge role in their worldviews.)
This is directly referenced in the book:
“I thought you believed in me," she said, "that you saw beyond the ugly duckling.”
For a brief refresher on The Ugly Duckling, let’s take Wikipedia’s summary and annotate it:
After a mother duck's eggs hatch, one of the ducklings takes longer to hatch and is bigger and perceived by the other animals as an ugly little creature. It suffers much verbal and physical abuse from its mother and siblings, and has an absent father.
Penelope is the youngest of three children. From the first episode, it is clear that her mother regards her as less desirable and less beautiful than her sisters. Her father is neglectful and largely absent. She is repeatedly subject to unkind comments and treatment by her mother and sisters. To take just one example, when suitors come over to meet Marina, and her mother closes courting hour, she says “Please feel free to bid farewell to Phillipa or Prudence, or even Penelope.” (Colin is the only one to take her up on this.)
Portia also insists that Penelope wear bright yellow dresses even though she herself prefers pink. Yellow is the color of baby ducks. Portia tends towards green, often in iridescent fabrics, which roughly maps to the coloring of several types of adult ducks (even females). (In the Ugly Duckling, the ugly duckling is gray rather than yellow like it’s siblings. However, they’ve taken a bit of artistic license here to reinforce the duck imagery.)
It wanders from the barnyard and lives with wild ducks and geese until hunters slaughter the flocks. It finds a home with an old woman, but her cat and hen tease and taunt him mercilessly, and once again he sets off alone.
We don’t have a direct literal correlation to the cats and hens, but we can interpret “leaving the barnyard” as Penelope being too early presented in society, and the “cats and hens” being the multitude of catty comments and “clucking hens” (judgmental, gossipy mothers) of society.
It’s also interesting how Cousin Jack is presented quite clearly as a hunter in Season 2, and the gun rack on the wall clearly makes Portia uncomfortable. There aren’t direct references to duck hunting, yet that was a common hobby. (We admittedly don’t know anything about rifles and can’t figure out if any of them he displays on the wall are specifically for duck hunting, but would love it if someone knew!) Cousin Jack, of course, nearly destroys their family.
The duckling sees a flock of migrating wild swans. It is delighted and excited but cannot join them because he is too young, ugly, and unable to fly. When winter arrives, a farmer finds and carries the freezing duckling home but he is frightened by the farmer's noisy children and flees the house. The duckling spends a miserable winter alone outdoors, mostly hiding in a cave on the lake that partly freezes over.
We can read this as being when Pen watches Colin leave for Greece, and when she looks at the happy Bridgerton household. She is also too young and immature to fervently declare her feelings as she states one should. Nicola plays her as immature (the little hop when she speaks, high voice), and she is trapped in her mother’s house.
The allusion of the migrating swans is also interesting as one could see all of the Bridgertons as swans who glide gracefully on the surface of society (“pretty Bridgertons”). While not all of the Bridgertons exhibit swan-like behavior, Violet and Edmund do (but more on that below). Note how in 3x02 Penelope says the place she feels the most comfortable is/was the Bridgerton Drawing Room at Sunday tea -- surrounded by the flock of swans.
We could be a bit literal with our interpretation here and say that Colin’s protection of Pen with the Ruby scam is equivalent to the farmer’s care, and then is scared off not by children but his own friends. But I think we can look at it more broadly to say that Penelope goes from thinking she will be cared for — as Colin says during their dance in 2x08 — but then feels cast aside.
She then spends a miserable summer alone, without Eloise or Colin. We know she was miserable by how she is dressed and carries herself in the beginning of 301: hunched over and back in an old gown with her protective helmet of curls.
The duckling, now having fully grown and matured, cannot endure a life of solitude and hardship anymore. It decides to throw himself at a flock of swans, feeling that it is better to be killed by such beautiful birds than to live a life of ugliness.
When we first meet her in 3x01, it is clear she has had an awful, lonely summer. She is shown in her old clothing -- notably more pink but still yellow, a sign of the impending transition -- and looking shy and hunched over.
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But she resolves to fully break free of her family and marry. Her first dress is iridescent emerald green — the color of peacocks, which is likely the most direct motif given she hides behind a peacock in the garden, but it is also the color of adult mallards and several other duck species.
She throws herself into the fray at great personal risk rather than having to continue to live with her family of ducks that reject her. However, she is still awkward and unsure of herself. While she walks down the stairs with confidence, once she's on the floor, she's isn't fully carrying herself with confidence, and sort of slides her feet along the floor in a slouchy manner. She then proceeds to bungle her conversation with the lords who approach her. In other words, she still sees herself as an ugly duckling -- or perhaps ugly duck since she's grown. But Colin is able to see beyond that and has the first glimmers of starting to notice her as something different than everyone else.
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Part 2 speculation:
The Ugly Duckling is shocked when the swans welcome and accept it, only to realize by looking at his reflection in the water that it had been not a duckling but a swan all this time. The flock takes to the air, and it spreads its wings to take flight with the rest of its new family.
Penelope is shocked when Colin has feelings for her, and according to the trailer, is welcomed with open arms by Violet and the rest of the swan’s family (except Eloise, who does not exhibit swan-like behaviors herself, but that's a different topic). Given the focus on mirrors so far this season, perhaps this combined mirrougly duckling/swan theme will reappear. Penelope will then integrate herself into the Bridgerton family and identify more with them, rather than her family of birth. She thus gets both self-acceptance, a husband, a loving family, and freedom all at the same time.
Given the use of mirrors this season, I expect Colin will literally and figuratively help Penelope see herself in the mirror the way he sees her, in a parallel to what Colin says in S2 E2 about her letters:
Your letters were so encouraging. I thought, if Penelope can see me this way, then surely I can too.
A brief note on Penelope's clothing
We can see hints of this in her clothing. Over Season 3 Part 1, Penelope’s clothing changes from Featherington green to Bridgerton blue. Yet in the kiss scene and Colin’s dream, she’s wearing dresses that are such light blue/green that they almost appear to be white, and she doesn't seem to wear these dresses in other scenes. (The dream one is similar to the market scene, but the sleeve detailing is different -- it's much more feathery. Hmmm.) While white dresses can imply wedding, perhaps another thread to pull here is their swan-like whiteness. The moment when they kiss is the first time it occurs to him to see her romantically, and it is also the first time he sees her in a white dress. That she is in white in his dream reinforces the idea that he sees her a swan.
(Yet they aren't fully white — so there is still evolution to happen.)
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Colin calling her Pen — "swan" — from the very beginning
And lastly, back to her nickname. The first time we ever see Colin talk to Penelope is in S1 E1 after Colin visits the Featherington house during courting hour for Marina, he refers to her as Pen. He refers to her again as Pen when they dance later in that episode. The viewer thus sees her transition from Penelope, a duck, and then becomes Pen, a swan. Colin has thus always seen her as a swan, even if he didn’t realize it.
(We have not done a full analysis of the times he calls her Penelope vs the times he calls her Pen, nor of other people using her nickname.)

Audio and visual swan motifs

So, Colin is always a swan, and Pen transitions from duck to swan. Several times throughout the seasons, we see direct and indirect nods to swans in terms of imagery, dialogue, and other scene elements when Colin and Pen are together.
It’s notable that, as far as we can tell, swans and swan noises largely only show up when Colin and Pen are together. (There is one exception, discussed in the next section.)
The most obvious is in 2x05:
COLIN: After all, everyone else is finding some purpose to their lives. Anthony is to be married. Benedict has his artistic pursuits. And, well, here I am... feeding the ducks. [Looks at a swan as he says this]
PENELOPE: I am sure the ducks are most grateful.
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The implication being, of course, is that Colin does not realize he's not looking at a duck but at a swan. His feelings for her aren't romantic yet. But he is really looking at a swan — Pen. And that she, not the ducks, is grateful for his company and conversation.
Interestingly, quacking is heard in the background. It’s hard to say whether it’s ducks or swans — perhaps it’s intentionally ambiguous.
Singing swans = courting activities? Or a shift in feelings for Colin?
But let’s pull that thread a bit, as swans singing comes up several more times. Swan songs have historically had an association with death, yet “their sounds are more distinguishable during courting rituals and not correlated with death.” We could then interpret hearing swan songs as times that are courting-esque, or perhaps moments when Colin’s perspective on Penelope is starting to shift.
In 2x06, Penelope has a heated conversation with Eloise about Eloise’s feelings about Theo. Eloise asks her if she’s ever felt the torment of feelings for someone, and Penelope says she could only imagine it. She then looks over at Colin and swans are heard in the background.
A few moments later, when Penelope walks over to Colin for the “purpose” conversation, swans are again heard in the background. (Listen very closely as she walks over to him.)
In 3x01, when Colin and Penelope talk in the garden after the presentation, swans are heard in the background as Colin looks at her while she looks away. In this scene, Colin is wearing his beautiful embroidered vest, which features a duck near the collar. It also features a parrot. (Shout out to u/EverEarthling for this amazing deep dive on the vest!) Perhaps when Colin bought this vest in Paris, he still viewed Penelope as a duck, and himself as a parrot (i.e. one who parrots the behaviors of what society expects). Given this, we might not see this vest again, as gorgeous as it is.
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While we might think these were coincidences because they happened to be near water, it seems unlikely, as there are a lot of garden/park/outdoor scenes where no swans are seen or heard.
In 303, at the end of the Willow scene, swans are heard in the background as Penelope leaves. Swans then re-appear the Hawkins Balloon Fair. There is a giant wicker statue of a swan, decked in lilacs and light pink roses, off to the side of the balloon. (Lilacs being the favorite flower of the Bridgertons and light pink being the Bridgerton color of first love.) While we don’t get an obvious camera angle of this, based on body positions, Penelope would have been looking at this swan statue the entire time while talking to Debling.
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Here's Nicola goofing around with said swan statue.
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In 3x04, the Queen has dancing swans in her wig. And, this is the first time in the season when Colin and Penelope dance together.
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We also have a small wink in terms of grass. Swans who have not yet begun mating, even if they are paired, will gather in flocks in fields of grass. Paired swans who are too young to mate will move throughout the flock socially yet still be paired — much like the environment of a ball. In 2x03, Colin mentions how he once spent meditating for hours on a single blade of grass, and in 3x03, when trying to impress Debling and looking directly at a swan, Penelope says how she likes grass.
(Perhaps we can also interpret this to mean that Eloise is not a swan: she says she’d rather watch grass grow than talk to other debutantes. But, again, that’s for another post on Eloise being different than her siblings.)
Interestingly, at these swan social gatherings, “some individuals will have several courtships with other members of the flock, whilst others, tend to stay away from densely populated parts of the herd and do their own thing.” Sounds like Colin and Pen!
From the book, there's a mention of a "swan song:" (credit to u/leadwithlovealways)
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Colin + Pen = Swans

Let’s talk for a moment about the behaviors of bonded swan pairs and their mating behaviors, as there are a lot of parallels.
One important part of the beginning of the swan courting ritual is that both will drop their wings completely to their sides, and not puff themselves up at all. We can see this literally in terms of Colin and Pen in the carriage (both have their arms down at their sides), but also metaphorically: they are both at their most vulnerable, their least puffed-up, in the entire season.
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When swans are bonded, they will press their chests together and bend their necks together and rest their foreheads against one another, forming a heart shape. In their first kiss, we see Colin rest his forehead against Penelope’s ever so slightly — somewhat tentatively, almost, and his chest is not pressed to hers. (It is in his dream, though.). We see the forehead-resting and chests pressed together more times in the carriage scene.
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Mating dances
First, watch this video of swans doing a mating dance. (Or read, if you prefer.) Note how look away from each other and then back with intense eye contact.
They will stare at each other during the up and down motions of the necks and will sometimes raise both heads together at the same time to look at each other with sideways glances as they turn their heads from side to side.
Now, let's pivot back to Bridgerton -- and to another couple. In 2x05, Anthony and Kate’s pivotal dance when they can no longer ignore their feelings for one another resembles the courting dance of swans, with their arms interconnected and circling around another. While one could say that’s true of most dancing, this one is particularly striking, and perhaps it's when Anthony drops his rakishness or ability to think about others and starts to accept his committed, swan nature (though it takes him some time). You can also see echoes of the swan mating dance in how they pass one another side-by-side in Simon & Daphne's dance when they're truly in love, though the Kate/Anthony dance is much clearer.
The closest we’ve seen to Colin and Pen dance like this is 2x08, yet that dance is much more tentative than Kate and Anthony’s, and only bears a very faint resemblance to the swan mating dance. They make eye contact, but it is not intense or focused. Colin also refers to her as "Penelope", not "Pen," during that dance, and they barely touch. Distance is implied in multiple ways. But back to the topic of this post, one has to wonder whether we’ll see Colin and Pen dance in a way similar to a swan mating dance in Part 2.
Swan mating rituals
Now we're going to dive a bit deep in terms of parallels between swans and intimacy. Yes, this is completely fucking unhinged on an already unhinged post. I’m sorry if you will never be able to look at swans the same again.
  • Swans will keep intense eye contact during courting and mating. Yup, check.
  • While mating for most birds lasts only a few seconds, for swans it can be at least 20 minutes if not up to an hour. Seems fitting given the mentions of a 10-minute long intimacy scene in Episode 5!
  • Right before swans engage in the act, the male swan will drape his neck over the female swan’s. We seem to be getting hints of this in the trailer, with Colin standing behind her in the mirror.
  • We're going to skip over specifics of swan sex positions. That would simply be too unhinged.
  • Right after mating, swans stay close together and echo the head turning/tilting of the courting ritual. We get a glimpse of this after the carriage scene is interrupted, and one can hope this means we get lots of after-sex cuddling. If not, it’s totally in headcanon now.
  • After mating, swans will clean one another. We can see this in how Colin lovingly puts Pen’s dress and hair back in place before straightening his own clothes in the carriage scene.
  • Swans also tend to mate many more times than is necessary in order to fertilize eggs. Based on this, and based on what we’ve heard about Part 2, we’re probably going to see this parallel, too.
  • Male swans eagerly build a nest once they’ve decided to mate. This matches what we’ve heard about Colin quickly buying a house for him and Pen.
  • Swan couples that are new to a territory/nest usually don’t lay any eggs for the first year, so maybe they’ll wait a bit before having children. But that seems unlikely with these two given that birth control didn’t exist…

Looking forward

Given that swans mate for life, we can be guaranteed a happy ending here.
As the show goes on, one can predict that swans will represent the two of them in various ways, and that we might expect to see swan motifs in the decoration of their new home. (In the Part 2 trailer, in the wedding scene, the walls are decorated with a swan motif.)
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In terms of children, swans keep their children close to them during their early life. We therefore might be able to predict that both Colin and Pen will likely be very attached to their children, and we will be unlikely to see them without their children once their children are in the picture. Even though Colin loves to travel, we could also predict he’ll quickly want to settle down and delight in being at home with their children, just like a swan.
Since male swans actively participate in child rearing, we also hope we’ll get to see lots of heart-warmingly adorable scenes of Colin bouncing their babies on his knees and taking care of them in future seasons. Maybe we’ll be lucky and even get a Regency-ified version of baby wearing with Colin wearing their baby wrapped around him with a shawl!

Bonus: Press tour Easter eggs!

In the Netflix India Bollywood/Bridgerton video, Luke wore a duck sweater. u/sc127's read on this:
Black Swan theory regarding Nicola's outfit: Do you think it's alluding to Colin and Pen getting married? In the eyes of the Ton, they would consider the Polin relationship as a Black Swan. It fits the criteria of being a surprise, having a major effect, and can be rationalized in hindsight.
Pink Ducks on Luke: I think the symbolism is more straight forward compared to Nicola's outfit. Pink is Pen's favorite color and it is the Bridgerton color of first love. Colin is in love with a duck named Pen :)
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2024.06.09 12:44 desposito55 ANG “TUNAY”

Things you need to know about the Iglesia ni Cristo (Church Of Christ)
THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THE IGLESIA NI CRISTO (CHURCH OF CHRIST)
  1. INC is neither a protestant sect/denomination nor a member of any interreligious organization. It is an independent Christian religion, the largest in Asia.
  2. INC is not a cult. Critics consider us as such because we dont adhere to what they believe as "essential doctrines of mainstream Christianity" like the Trinity and some just want to discredit the Church.
  3. INC holds worship services twice a week and we believe that attending this holy gathering is our obligation to God. Men and women have separate seats. Everyone is welcome to join us.
  4. INC doesnt believe in Trinity. We believe in only one God--the Father.
  5. INC believes in our Lord Jesus Christ. We believe that He is human in nature, the Son of God, God's messenger, made Lord and Christ by God, the only mediator to God, and the foundation where the Church was built. He is the founder, head and savior of the Church. We also worship him as instructed by God.
  6. INC believes that the Holy Spirit is not a God but a power being sent by God and Jesus.
  7. INC doesnt practice tithing. Members give voluntary offerings and donations. It is not true that this Church is only for the rich or middle class. It is also not true that our offerings only go to ministers and INC leaders. Besides buying properties, the church is able to continue building and renovating houses of worship worldwide because of the wise management of the Church Administration--all for the glory of God.
  8. INC believes that the BIBLE is the word of God, the sole basis and service to God. It is not true that we are forbidden to read the Bible, but what members shouldnt do is private interpretation. We dont have our own Bible version.
  9. INC believes that membership in the Church is necessary for salvation. We dont believe that salvation can be attained only by faith alone. It is not true that there is a membership fee when joining the Church, a Bible student only needs to finish the indoctrination process and undergo a probation period before getting baptized and officially becoming a member.
  10. INC believes that baptism by means of immersion is necessary for salvation. The Church doesnt baptize babies.
  11. INC believes that Jesus established only one Church. We dont believe that all churches belongs to God.
  12. INC believes that Jesus built a Church in the 1st century. It was named after him and it is the Church that he will save however, it had fallen to apostasy like what happened to the ancient Israel--God's chosen nation. The apostatized church is now known as the Roman Catholic Church.
  13. INC believes that Bro. Felix Manalo is God's messenger in these last days. He was the instrument on re-establishing the true Church thru biblical prophecies. We never recognized him to be the founder of the Church and to be greater than Christ. We dont worship him.
  14. INC believes that being a member of the Church is not enough to be saved. One should lead a new life, and obey all the teachings of God until the end.
  15. INC believes in the Day of Judgment which will take place in the second coming of Christ. We also believe in resurrection and the second death which is the Lake of fire.
  16. INC believes that it is the will of God for us members to love one another as true brothers and sisters. We treat each other equally.
  17. INC believes that unity is God's teaching that should be practiced and there should be no division within the Church. We also practice voting in unity in relation to submitting to the Church Administration. It is not true that the church asks for money or anything in exchange of support for political candidates and there is no bidding.
  18. INC believes in the separation of Church and State. The Church doesnt meddle in politics. Members are advised to respect and observe the rules of the government, as long as it is not against God's will.
  19. INC members practice discipline and orderliness. It is not true that members are murderers or violent people. Church members/officers/ministers/officials who are found to have violated Church doctrines and teachings are expelled.
  20. INC believes that God is against eating/drinking blood as food, live-in relationships, inter-faith marriage, homosexual unions, same-sex marriage, divorce, annulment, legal separation, extra-marital affairs, drinking alcoholic drinks, and taking of drugs.
  21. INC doesnt believe in Catholic Saints and we do not keep images/statues of them in our homes and chapels. We also do not believe in the Catholic teachings about Mary and the cross.
  22. INC does not believe in purgatory and we do not pray for the dead. We also believe that the dead should not be cremated.
  23. INC members are advised not to believe in ghosts, Feng shuis, magics, fortune tellers, spiritists and superstitions.
  24. INC does not celebrate Christmas, Halloween, All Saints day, All Souls day, Valentines day, Lenten Season and Fiestas that are associated on honoring Saints/Patrons.
  25. INC believes that ministers are the ones who have the authority to preach the gospel through the guidance of the Holy Spirit. We members do not preach but only help in the missionary works as it is our duty to do so.
  26. INC members are taught how to pray and encouraged to pray everyday. We do not use the rosary and we do not pray in repetition (recited prayers). We do not perform the sign of the cross.
  27. INC members are taught to submit to the Church administration and church officers.
  28. INC supports the use of family planning and artificial contraceptives. The Church rejects rhythm/calendar method. It is against abortion, and assisted reproductive methods such as surrogacy.
  29. Church steeples/spires are not missiles and we dont believe that our chapels will fly up to heaven when judgement day comes.
  30. Church positions are not inherited most especially the Executive Minister and Deputy Executive Minister positions. Both are voted by the Church Ecumenical Council.
TRUE INC MEMBERS ARE EXPECTED TO:
▪️Not join labor unions, fraternities, and sororities.
▪️ Avoid attending/participating in Christmas Parties, Junior Senior Prom, fiesta activities, worship services in other religions and other assemblies that are not in accordance to Church's teachings.
▪️Not imitate wrong doings and use of profanity.
▪️Lead a new life and follow Church teachings.
▪️Actively participate in Church activities.
▪️Do things properly and orderly when attending worship services.
If you have questions to any of these, you can visit the locale nearest you. Our ministers or evangelical workers will be glad to explain and assist you.
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2024.06.09 12:43 Weary-Ad2202 Best and worst dressed?

Doing (yet another) rewatch of this show and I'm just struck by how much better dressed everyone was back then.
Best dressed for me: Lucy - always wore clean lines, casual but well put together.
Rosie - her clothes weren't to my taste but I appreciated her styling, it was different and had an edge.
Sophia Sassoon - loved her cool, black outfits. Always looked like she was on tour with a band. Just effortless style.
Liv Bentley - loved her androgynous looks, powerful silhouettes with striking slicked back hair. Again not my style but could appreciate the effort.
Hugo. So smart, even when casual. Dressed like he was from a different era.
Mark Francis. Always well turned out whatever weather or occasion. Not a hair out of place. I appreciated his effort.
Worst dressed
Cheska... oh Cheska. I have a lot of love for her but she was too overdressed and not in a good way. Remember the poodle dress. She always looked so uncomfortably dressed, with huge platform heels on dogwalks etc. I get it, she was on camera so wanted to dress up, but it just came across as too try hard. Love her though, and the Salcombe look really suits her, the dark hair! ❤
All the current cast.... just look like cheap influencers wearing fast fashion, overly tight and obvious clothing. Not a single good outfit between any of them. Both men and women.
Who are your best and worst dressed and why?
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2024.06.09 12:16 LeoLittlebook6 The Aquatic Ape Diet: cheap, low-calorie longevity

Table of Contents

  1. tl;dr
  2. Summary
  3. Intro
  4. 7 steps
    1. Omnivore
    2. 1 Fluid
    3. 2 Fuel
    4. 3 Fresh
    5. 4 Fat
    6. 5 Fruit
    7. 6 Veg
    8. 7 Snack
    9. Beyond AAD
  5. Regimen
    1. Morning
    2. Between meals:
    3. Afternoon
    4. Travel
  6. Details

tl;dr

Japanese women live the longest; traditional "ama" divers catch crustaceans by hand.
This inspired my chicken soup of the sea: rice, shrimp and mackerel.
Can you guess which causes the longevity?
PIC: How to tell when a shrimp is perfectly cooked
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Summary

Ama (海女, "sea women") are Japanese divers famous for collecting pearls, though traditionally their main catch is seafood.[1] The vast majority of ama are women.
An optimal diet should imitate the diet of the world's longest-lived people: Japanese women. What sets Japan apart from runners-up such as South Korea is high shrimp consumption.
Longevity is sexy:
I cut the seafood-rice diet down to the absolute minimum:
An elimination diet, also known as exclusion diet, is a diagnostic procedure used to identify foods that an individual cannot consume without adverse effects.
An optimal elimination diet follows the pattern of recovering from an upset stomach:
  1. For fluid, drink hot water with a pinch of sea salt "tea".
  2. For fuel, start with white rice congee. After #6 add brown rice, pre-soaked.
  3. For fresh, have 50g frozen sea meat (shrimp) per day. The rest can be canned.
  4. For fat, have a can of ocean fish (mackerel etc) per day. Watch the mercury.
  5. For fruit, have a small orange with the plain rice (vit c).
  6. For veg, lightly cook some spinach leaves with the shrimp (vit b).
  7. For snack, have dried seaweed sheets and a handful of mixed tree nuts soaked overnight.
Take it one step at a time. These are sequenced in order of short-term priority to stay productive. Everything is low-FODMAPS except the nuts.
1-4 are like a healthier version of chicken soup: Both are high in methionine, salt and rice.
Methionine stops hunger. Eating less extends lifespan dramatically:
The exact manner by which calories are reduced changes across studies, but the animals’ calorie intakes are generally reduced by as much as half their normal levels. Depending on the species, the most promising results have shown lifespan extensions between 50 and 300%.
This diet can probably cut your calorie intake in half without trying, and your food budget as well.
A strong baseline makes it easy to detect harmful foods. You can thrive on just this, but why limit yourself? Establish a performance baseline, then introduce a new ingredient.

Intro

When I was a young man, I regarded cooking as a chore and simply wanted to eat healthy to gain muscle without wasting time. As a result, I ate a lot of Campbell's Chunky Soup and crackers. Not great for my sodium intake.
I sympathize with those who insist that a "minimum viable diet" should mean something simple and repeatable such as beef, potatoes and greens. Sounds great! If you're looking for lazy cooking, just learn some simple pressure cooker recipes. It does get more complicated than "throw tasty things in pot".
I might've continued as a culinary barbarian, had I not made some bad life choices, chief among which was taking a light course of Accutane, which is proven to cause Inflammatory Bowel Disease by aging epithelial stem cells. This caused my gut lining to gradually age, until I must now eat mush like an old man.
The struggle to find foods that didn't incapacitate me lead me to elimination diets and a journey into true minimalism, the meaning of which I hadn't appreciated before: not minimum cooking effort, but minimum digestive difficulty.
My eventual solution happened to align with the diet of the longest-lived people in the world – the Japanese. (Well, the women are longest-lived. The men work and drink themselves to death.) Apparently, the secret to their longevity is eating a lot of shrimp and rice. White rice is considered hypoallergenic, and shrimp induces satiety via methionine, permitting calorie restriction.
Doctors have been unable to label my condition with any specific diagnosis, despite extensive tests and endoscopy. So I believe my solution is generalizable to those without specific problems, who nonetheless find themselves plagued with Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS).
The less energy the gut must spend on digestion, the more energy the brain has to focus productively. Ancestral hunter gatherers could afford to lie around after a big meal; office workers not so much.
Even healthy people may be interested in the productivity benefits of easy digestion. Soylent is popular for this reason. The aquatic ape diet is healthier, easier to digest, and much cheaper.
Soylent costs about $225 per month. In a typical day I eat:
As you can see, the AA baseline diet is slightly more expensive per calorie, but higher satiety so one eats less. If cost is a concern, you can easily cut to one small orange per day, dropping the price to $111 per month. Or replace oranges entirely with a vitamin c pill, which costs under 10 cents per dose. Then the cost would be $84 per month.
Most people don't want to eat minimally, and that's fine. However, those who hate cooking can keep the minimal ingredients at home, then indulge at restaurants. Or travel with Soylent and never miss a meal.

7 steps

Omnivore

Humans are omnivores. Thus a proper minimal diet will consume both plants and animals. Among mammals, even herbivores are usually opportunistic carnivores. Compensating for pure vegetarianism or carnivory complicates things considerably, as icebound Eskimos and smooth-brained koala vegans demonstrate.
Given omnivory, a minimal diet has three major requirements:
  1. Fuel: either eat enough carbs and fat, or burn your own fat.
  2. Fresh: for volatile water-soluble vitamins and animal protein.
  3. Fat: for fat-soluble vitamins and well-being.
These are listed in order of priority.
One can get water-soluble vitamins from lightly-cooked meat, if one eats the right animals or organs in sufficient quantities. However, it is usually easier to get them from fruits and vegetables.

1 Fluid

The Romans paid legionnaires in sea salt, leading to the expression, "Worth his salt". Without sea salt, humans develop goiters.
During a severe IBS episode, you often stop eating. That is fine, humans can fast for weeks. Just drink sea salt "tea" until your gut calms.
This staves off dehydration, but gets quite hungry. When ready to rise and cook, proceed to the next step. Until then, have a toothpick and relax. (Chewing on something is a good way to stop eating.)

2 Fuel

The first step of recovery is to have some bland white rice congee. It is usually the easiest thing to digest. (If not, try soaking or pick another grain.) Starch fuel prevents starvation, conserving body fat on skinny chronic IBS sufferers. You need enough calories to stay active.
Put a 1-2 handfuls of rice and generous water into the pressure cooker, then cook until congee.
Plain white rice does get boring. So alternate white with brown rice. Brown rice has insoluble fiber, which is hardest to digest. So start with just a pinch of brown rice in white, which will change the flavor of the pot enough to fool your brain. If you can tolerate insoluble fiber, then increase the ratio. Gas is a key sign you can't.
If you're constipated, increase the ratio of brown rice. Fiber keeps you regular.

3 Fresh

The next step is to consume healthy fresh meat. The healthiest sea meat is shrimp. Just a handful will induce satiety via methionine. Briefly auto-warm them in the pressure cooker until they curl into a c-shape, not o. (This is safe, because saltwater shrimp parasites can't transfer to freshwater hosts.) Eat the shrimp before cooling, and save the broth for the next rice pot.
Wild meat is healthier than farmed, and saltwater is healthier than terrestrial. Humans are primarily a littoral species, even today. Our hairlessness is an aquatic adaptation (hippos, elephants); chimps can't swim. Our other closest relative, the pig, is semi-aquatic like us, and shares many anatomical features such as nose shape and eye color. Pigs, not chimps, are the main animal source for organ transplants into humans.

4 Fat

Fat is the second hardest to digest, but the most rewarding. It's what puts a smile on your face and heat in your extremities. Fat soluble vitamins degrade slowly, so canned food is fine. Mackerel is incredibly cheap and delicious. At 13% fat, it is sufficient but not overwhelming to weak guts. The bones are easy to eat around. Save the broth for the next rice pot.
Watch the toxin accumulation. Maximum is 200g mackerel per day, due to arsenic. Try alternating with other fish, such as tuna, sardines and salmon.
If you have fat malabsorption, try putting cholestyramine powder in the rice pot preceding the fatty meal, and look into UDCA. Eating fat is essential to enjoy life. Hence the expression, "Fat and happy."

5 Fruit

Fruit poses two digestive challenges: fructose and insoluble fiber. We can dilute the former and minimize the latter.
Apples have lots of insoluble fiber, making them chewy. Oranges have little, making them juicy.
Fruit is full of concentrated sugar, and the fructose in particular can irritate weak guts. Sugar provides short term energy. Thus an orange complements a pot of white rice congee.
By itself, the congee is bland starch, which provides long-term energy and filling comfort. Eat the orange as appetizer, then the congee as main course. Having this twice per day is a treat.

6 Veg

Vegetables contain even more insoluble fiber than fruit. One solution is to cook them to mush, but this destroys their b-vitamins, the main reason to eat them.
The solution is to use a soft vegetable that can be eaten raw and is high in vitamin b. Parsley and spinach both work, and go nicely with shrimp. Just throw them both into the pot on auto-warm at the same time.

7 Snack

With diets, cheating is always a danger, so one should try to fulfill cravings with healthy snacks. Dried seaweed have the salt, crunch and complex flavor to satisfy the potato chip craving. A handful of mixed tree nuts soaked overnight satisfies the desire for something more substantial, and puts the pot to good use.

Beyond AAD

Congratulations, you've completed the Aquatic Ape diet! Now you can add whatever works for you.
Having a strong baseline means it's easy to tell when something makes you feel worse. Similarly, being malnourished makes it easy to tell when you eat something that was previously missing. Malnourishment is not a pleasant baseline, so I recommend the former!
I'm sure you're eager to get to the steak and potatoes. The Weston Price Foundation has many great recipes for healthy indulgence.

Regimen

Morning

  1. handful of unenriched white rice, pressure cooked to congee, eaten before cooling to avoid resistant starch. Small orange appetizer first.
  2. clean pot and dish
  3. 200g of wild-caught organic canned fish (no additives)
  4. in leftover broth, pressure cook longer a handful of white rice with pinch of organic tricolor brown rice (to fool blandness perception)
  5. clean pot and dish

Between meals:

Afternoon

  1. handful of unenriched white rice, pressure cooked to congee, eaten before cooling to avoid resistant starch. Small orange appetizer first.
  2. clean pot and dish
  3. handful of spinach and handful of wild-caught saltwater shelled shrimp (no additives) auto-heated to c-shape, not o-shape (that's overdone)
  4. in leftover broth, pressure cook longer a handful of white rice with pinch of organic tricolor brown rice (to fool blandness perception)
  5. clean pot and dish
The shrimp induces satiety for intermittent fasting.

Travel

Travel is tough. Suggestions welcome. Here's what I've got:

Details

Continued here due to length.
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2024.06.09 12:14 Sweetpage11 Avoidant attachment or something else? He broke up after 2 years

I was in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend for almost two years. It was a healthy relationship, or at least from my side; we never fought and I always respected his space. I prioritized communication to prevent any potential issues, and always gave him the chance to talk to me if he needed something more, so we could have worked it together during the relationship to solve any issues.. I was loyal, letting him know when I was going out and where to make him feel safe, giving him the password of my socials WITHOUT asking him the same even if he did it happily. I was loving, caring, but never NEEDY. He consistently appeared happy with me, was loving in person, and attentive in his messages even if he WAS NOT inclined towards physical displays of affection such as kissing, hugging, or cuddling. he told me he never liked physical contact in his PREVIOUS relationships, and he told me many times I was the first person he allowed to hug him or take his hand.... things he told me he never did it before. He told me he never felt love in the past and it was the first time with me.. And then, unexpectedly, after two years, he abruptly ended our relationship without ever communicating any issues or concerns along the way. However, I'll delve deeper into this aspect later on.
I started to think that he could have had an AVOIDANT ATTACHEMENT for several reasons, which I will now explain.
He had been involved in several long-term relationships in the past, all of which were consistently toxic., full of fights and drama, and this was the first healthy relationship for him. He confessed to me that he never considered the women of the past as his girlfriends, despite relationships of years or months, and claimed he had never truly loved anyone in his life. These prior relationships were characterized by a lack of affection, no gestures like kissing and hugging. Instead, they primarily revolved around sex, alcohol, and nocturnal enjoyment, with no meaningful discussions about the future. It was more of a routine to pass the weekend, engage in physical intimacy, and socialize, even though his previous partners considered him their boyfriend, he was not considering them as girlfriends.. Its also true that he has always been broke, without a job, and these women had their own house, and independence...
He mentioned that I was the first person he held hands with or allowed to hug him, he never did this in all his life. He didn't enjoy physical contact much and particularly disliked kissing, which he informed me about from the very beginning. SO yeah he was hugging me, taking my hand but kissing was very rare, if I dont start, he will never do it..
Another weird thing.. he had a very extroverted personality and would talk to everyone in the street or every place. He often said that he did this as if he was wearing a mask to show a perfect image of himself to people. However, the great contradiction was that despite being someone who talked to everyone, he didn't have any deep friendships or connections. Instead, he had many superficial, momentary acquaintances. Not a best friend, nobody to talk to a deeper level. Just people he knows and he calls them when he needs soething... same was for his family members..
He possessed a significant ego too and used to view himself as the most attractive man, admiring himself in the mirror. 24 h on 24 telling me he could cum just by looking at himself in the mirror.. He was looking himself all the time but never looked at me...
At the beginning of our relationship, he engaged in significant love bombing and appeared very happy, displaying a lot of emotion., and trying to be seductive However, he would only MEET ME ON WEEKENDS, despite he having no job or doing nothing during the week. He never tried to change this pattern or suggest anything different, as he preferred sticking to his routine to meet me in the weekend, and since he had no job, I was the one paying for our dinner or dates, clothes,,,he knew I am not rich, and he told me it was okay for him and he didnt care,
He was someone always trying to please people, the same he was doing it for me.. someone who always said yes, and never no. Whenever I asked if I could do something to improve myself or our relationship, he would always say that everything was perfect. He often told me that he was someone who kept his emotions bottled up and struggled with communication, despite my frequent efforts to encourage him to open up. Whenever I brought up topics like living together or our future, he would simply agree or mirror my words, making me feel like he was telling me what I wanted to hear, but without genuine conviction in his responses. Same for when I was telling him I love him in real life or messages, he was replying to me, but sometimes I felt he was not genuine, just mirroring my behavior because THIS is what a boyfriend should do...
Furthermore, he was someone who never talked about himself or his life, he was replying to my questions thats it. He would listen to me, but he never tried to talk about the future or express his feelings, it was always coming from my side.
From the very first day of our relationship even when sexual activity began, it was always initiated by him. There was never any initial physical affection, but rather he would tell me to go to the bedroom so we can start having sex, he was literally just pulling down his pantalon and thats it. No kisses, no hugs to start the sex just him going to the bedroom, and this since the first day of our relationship. When I attempted to engage in intimacy with him, he never let me start it and preferred looking the televison. In the sex there was not kissing, it was a more a hard violent sex, of domination and when he finished it there was absolutely no cuddling, he will go directly to take a shower or go to look himself in the mirror how handsome he is..
6 months before the end of our relationship, I changed my apartment, to be only 5 minutes close to him so we could have met more often or so some activity together, but he continued to see me only on weekends, without changing his habits.. and when I asked him to start to go to the gym together every day, he was clearly not happy of it, even if he tried to show me a sort of fake smile and telling me yeah we can do it...Everything with his was ... Yeah we can do it... but he never acted on it. I was always the one suggesting things for the future, making plans. He never talked about the future or anything else. He was simply said yes and continued meeting me only on weekends and never doing anything for me.
2-3 months before the end of the relationship, I wanted to finance with my money a project that we would undertake together, opening a business that would eventually lead us to live together and also a way for him to be economically independent. On his part, he always said Yes, also giving advices for the business. That project will have started soon and the project of living together it will have been far in the future, after 1 year. This business for obvious reason it will have never started because he dumped me before.
However, unexpectedly, after two years, he ended our relationship. He confessed that he had never truly been in love with me from the start. He admitted that while there was initial infatuation, it quickly faded after some weeks.. I was deeply shocked and asked why he had stayed with me for two years if he didn't love me. He explained that he initially tried to convince himself that he loved me because he wanted to believe it, but eventually realized he was just lying to himself. He said he realized he was not only lying to himself but also to me, he was faking to love me, and he was hurt to know he was making me waste time,, he said he stayed with me to avoid hurting me and because he lacked the courage to break my heart. The crazy thing in all of this its that he did a tatoo of my name in his body and he was the first one to tell me I love you for the first time in the relationship while he was crying... when I confronted him on all this incoherence..., how he did a tatoo, told me all the time he loved me.. came all the time at my house showing love... he told me he did this because wanted to believe it... Also he was talking often to my family all the time along and trying to create a relationship with them....
During the breakup, he exhibited behavior that was entirely unfamiliar to me. he was so cold, it was like he hated me for no reason, he told me things I didnt deserve and its not coherent with the idea that the stayed 2 years with me to avoid hurting me because during the breakup he literally destroyed me. He stated that he didn't find me physically attractive, that I didnt make him horny in the bed, that he didn't appreciate the time we spent together. He claimed when he was coming for our dates he was feel uncomfortable all the time and he just wanted to leave.. he told me that he attended our dates or sex out of a sense of obligation rather than genuine desire. He told me it was like a duty or job for him. He told me he didnt see a future with me, that the idea of going to live together it was making him sick, he told me that he also thought to kill hiself becasue he didnt have the courage to leave me. He was telling me horrible things, he had no empathy, and he told me he didnt even tried to find an excuse to leave me because I was the perfect loving girlfriend and he just simply didnt find. I asked him if in these 2 years together he experienced at least a happy moment together and he stayed silent, like to say NO.
He told me many times I am sorry, but he didnt mean it, I was perceving from him a zero empathy, zero care, he was completely deatched, and during 2 years of relationship he never discusses of issuses despite I always tried to ask how he was feeling...
Let me know what you think..
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2024.06.09 12:07 Less-Witness-7101 Would the world be a better place if everyone was apolitical? Is there such a thing as a pure, unadulterated anarchist utopia free of any form of government?

It seems the biggest fallouts, arguments and armed conflicts happen due to self-interested politics and political beliefs. I've seen supposedly self-proclaimed intelligent men, and women for that matter, stand on their pedestal with their red herrings and strawmen screaming til they're red and blue in the face, ardent about their political stance. But the irony is that when this happens these self-proclaimed philosopher kings of modernity throw all logic, objectivity and rationality out of the window to support their political stance.
I don't know if it's simply pride that makes this happen, Dunning-Kruger, or something else completely, but back to my starting question would the world be a better place if we were all apolitical and didn't ascribe to tribalism, identity politics, political agendas or any form of politics whatsoever?
I guess to carry the thought even further, what would humanity even look like without any form of government, would societies cease to exist and we would revert to family based hunter gatherers or can some sort of government-free anarchist utopia exist?
In closing I'll share my reflections around the matter, it's just sad seeing these supposedly intelligent humans, these amateur, dilettante demagogues, make fools of themselves, and for what... political ideology, a completely artificial artifact of human creation, which can just as easily be destroyed by collective human will.
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2024.06.09 12:04 Chrometo Could my day possibly get any better?

For a small bit of context, I work in a small (but relatively well-known) shoe brand in Australia as a keyholder (i.e. I have a key to the store and so can do stuff like opening and closing shifts). On Sundays (like today), we are open 10 am - 6 pm, so a pretty good 8 hours. Here's the story of how my day just kept getting better thanks to 3 different customers (apologies in advance for the length!)
\1. I got to work at around 9:55 this morning, leaving just enough time to do my start-of-day cash count, maybe opening like 2 minutes late. We had a new person do all day yesterday, and it was her first time doing EOD duties, so she wasn't too sure about the full procedure when it came to banking, so she left a note asking me to finish it off for her. No problem, meant I'd probably be opening about 5 minutes late. At this point, I noticed an old man in maybe his 70s standing outside our front door taking a phone call, which whatever, people stand outside our store for all sorts of reasons all the time, especially given our proximity to the escalators and the toilets
I finished fixing up last night's banking and EOD slip and got onto my SOD slip and cash count, at maybe about 10:03 at this point. I had all the cash out on the register, clearly visible through the windows (doors locked of course), so it's obvious I am doing important stuff. Old guy starts knocking on the front door, however I just ignored him as I counted the cash. He realises I won't look up from my count and comes around to the side door and starts knocking on that. Once again, I don't respond, just keep counting and writing down what I need to on my slip. He does this a few more times, back and forth between the doors and knocking, increasingly louder while I'm counting cash, during which time I realise I've miscounted (off by around $4), as a result of him trying to get my attention
By this time, it was around 10:07. I start checking increasingly smaller amounts starting at $2 coins, emptying the pre-counted bags to make sure I've counted properly, in full view of anyone going by. Old guy is STILL knocking. I eventually got my SOD all figured out and got the POS area ready for trading and started approaching the door at like 10:10. At this point, old guy has stopped knocking and is instead gesturing at his wrist, asking "what time do you guys open?" to which I give a vague "I just had some admin stuff to do". He looks at our shoes for about 30 seconds before asking if we have any belts to which I inform him we do, just next to the counter. Has a quick look before asking if we have anything similar to what he was wearing, which we didn't. He says he bought it at a store in the city (great, we live about 25 km south of the city so that's not helpful). I just apologise and recommend either [nearby menswear stores T and C] or [nearby department store M]. He walks off at 10:12. Why did you wait a whole 10 - 15 minutes for me to open, just to be disappointed that we don't sell what you're after (which by the way, our belts are also visible through the window)
  1. Sometime after coming back from lunch, I had these two sweet customers (mum and daughter) come in and start looking around at shoes they wanted to wear for an upcoming holiday. I grab them the ones they were after and make sure the sizing is fine. Just before they came to pay for them, they wanted to quickly try on a pair from our clearance rack, so I suggested that we have several pairs under $50 there (for reference, our women's generally range from $100 - $300 and our men's around $150 - $250). They picked up a pair of the $38 heels we have which we just so happened to have in their size. In the end, the mother ended up buying a pair of sandals as well as some shoe care (very thankful for due to stupid $30 daily target). The daughter got two pairs of shoes, which meant I got a little shout-out from the owners for a "multi" sale. Overall they were very sweet and we had a good chat about their holiday plans :)
  2. Around 4:45 pm at this point, a well-put-together man in his 30s comes in and just wants to try on a pair of European-made boots, which I grab for him while I help other customers. Eventually, he tells me he needs a replacement for another pair of boots of ours which he has owned in the past and so I start suggesting some options, going through maybe 5 or 6 different styles to find a few he liked. I grab those for him to try on and the whole time checking how each pair fits, and what he does and doesn't like about each pair. He ended up picking one of these pairs to get as well as the initial pair he came in for. At this point I thought the transaction was nearing the end, but he suddenly asked if I had one of the styles in any other colours too, to which I responded we had the tan and dark brown and got those to show him. He ends up trying on the tan and liking it, decides to get that and the original black pair which he wasn't too sure on. At this point now he is getting 4 pairs of shoes
For a bit of additional context, we have a "multi competition", essentially sell $800+ worth of shoes in one transaction ($500+ if you work at the outlet store) and get a $300 visa gift card! As I'm packing away the shoes I'm thinking "is this $800??" I knew a few of the pairs were just under $200 but wasn't sure of their exact prices. I get everything up to the counter and scan it all. $830. I was practically shitting myself at this point as I never thought the day would come were I would win the multi prize. I inform him of his total and ask if he is a member, which he is, so get that all put in. At the end of the transaction, I send him off wishing him an excellent evening before giddily sending off an email to the owners to let them know I'd hit the target! I was just so elated and shocked simultaneously, like "did I seriously just win this?!" That confirmation email practically made my night, to the point where I just stopped being mad at the customer from that morning, as this basically doubles my pay for the week
I honestly just cannot believe how amazing my day has been and how it's been able to go from a terrible start to a surprising but exciting end! It's days like these that I think make the job worth it, especially as a broke 1st-year uni student
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2024.06.09 11:56 Dramatic-Buffalo-285 Personal: Reaction Formation & Derealisation

At the typical age of around 12/13, I developed feelings for both the same and opposite gender. Feelings that were generally more about physical attributes, not someone's personality, leaning more towards boys my age. However, it was very difficult for me to find out if what I felt was physical attraction or admiration. There's a difference between the two. Do I like them because I want to be them, or cause I want to be with them?
C2 [U1] attraction - Cambridge Dictionary the feeling of liking someone, especially sexually, because of the way they look or behave:
B2 admiration - Cambridge Dictionary to respect and approve of someone or their behaviour.
Considering I didn't quite know what to do with these feelings, and how to interpret them, I decided to bury them deeply. And as a result, avoided intimacy altogether, strengthened by anxiety to confront these feelings if and when they resurfaced. Moreover, I had to determine what weighed heavier. The burden of carrying all the prejudice, or living an inauthentic life. In theory I could've started a relationship with a girl at this age, but stalling self-acceptance can alter your self image and confidence, as well as your ability to open up, perhaps leading you to avoid intimacy completely. There's many psychological factors at play for wanting to avoid it. If you're not comfortable with what you are, people can choose to avoid intimacy altogether - as was the case in my situation. Not because I wasn't attracted to them, but because I couldn't be transparent. I wasn’t even honest with myself, let alone someone else.
REACTION FORMATION:
Because of wanting to get rid of certain feelings, I exposed myself to as much anti-Igbtq sentiment as possible. I created friendships strengthened by our shared disapproval of this movement, using derogatory words like 'f*g', 'homo' and 'gay' (in a negative sense) almost daily. Additionally, I frequently used 'kanker' (meaning cancer) as a hurtful adjective before these words, a common practice in the Netherlands. I took down pride flags sometimes. I stated conversion therapy works.
Looking back, you could see this as a form of reaction formation or projection. Reaction formation is a psychological phenomenon used to manipulate people into thinking something about you that's contrary to what your feelings truly contain. Projection is sometimes fuelled by jealousy & envy, towards someone who already has something that you don't, in my case; the environment & self-acceptance to be who they wanted to. Not to say all anti-Igbt people are closeted, as suggested by author Dan Savage, that's just taking it to the extremes again. But, in my case specifically, these psychological tools were intended to sketch a different image of myself to outsiders, almost like a form of deception to protect me from prejudice, even if temporary.
I expressed my disapproval of gay and bisexual people in certain awareness lessons we had in college. Not just that, but individuals that did choose to be transparent about their sexuality, I slandered verbally during college and high-school, either in their face directly or without their knowledge. I had done this for roughly 8 years. Out of fear of not being taken as seriously in social settings, or being harmed physically or verbally. This wasn't because I hated what I was. I didn't. This was a protective mechanism.
There were a couple of times where this façade was almost breached. It genuinely felt like everything came crumbling down. Heartrate skyrocketing, inflammation of my skin, dizziness and confusion. Moments like those definitely show the subconscious significance. This is a prime example of how suppression and reaction formation cannot change what you truly are. This was only a handful of times though, I had done a great job of pushing this artificial version of me to outsiders. Perhaps to a point where it's basically irreversible.
NUMBNESS
The problem with living inauthentically for such a prelonged period of time, especially in those neuroplastic younger years where you're meant to be experimenting, is that you start losing your sense of identity and presence. I was never depressed, it seems more like I was developing something psychologists tend to call derealisation. Almost like you're detached from your surroundings, a coping mechanism formed in the brain, seemingly to deal with this deception and inner conflict. Living in the passenger seat of your own life. One time, while I was on my way to Mexico from Amsterdam, the first time I had traveled alone, at 18 -- I didn't feel a single thing. Just neutrality. Even when seeing the beautiful landscapes and beaches in real life for the first time, not even once did I feel anything that came close to excitement or nervousness. Almost like watching life pass you by. How's that possible? My first time traveling alone, to another continent no less, for three months - and I don't feel a single thing. I still don't fully understand why. Another example was when I had my exams this year. Not a single form of nerve. When I traded financial derivatives like futures & options at incredibly high leverage, or played roulette in the middle of the night, or when my crypto wallet got drained by a smart contract exploit -- the total losses ramped up to about €25,000 in total. Not once did I have any reaction to it. It's quite a substantial amount at my age at the time (17). I realized that when I had told a colleague about losing five grand in a single day, and he looked me dead in the eyes and said: "You know that's not normal, right?". I guess that might not be caused by inner suppression alone, but it's probably a factor in it. I never quite felt any excitement or nerves in situations as such, perhaps powered by the derealisation mentioned before. I seemingly had built myself up to become numb against stimulation. I interpreted this lack of emotion as maturity. Being decoupled from your life, you never stand still to think about if your actions (or lack thereof) can have consequences on the long term, thus also resulting in a general lack of motivation in daily life.
Only a while back, when I started reflecting on my past, did I stop to think about how much this could impact me on the longer term. Maybe causing an inability to build up true authentic relationships in the long run, perhaps even permanently. Regardless of those relationships being with men or women. Creating true authentic relationships is supposed to be such a big part of what makes life enjoyable. Avoiding it for the sake of avoiding confrontation isn't the best way to live life.
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2024.06.09 11:42 Southern-Ad-9105_4 Adam Kadmon and the so-called "first humans".

The figure of the Mesopotamian "Anu" corresponds to what is commonly referred to as "Adam Kadmon" in Hebrew culture; who is sometimes interpreted as the First Man but called the "cosmic man" and not the "earthly man" (because there was another Adam according to Hebrew tradition who was the "earthly man" instead) – and this "cosmic" or "heavenly man" is thus Adam Kadmon and he corresponds to the Sumerian Anu and Greek Uranus.
But on other occasions Adam Kadmon is instead worshipped as "god" himself and as the purest manifestation of god – so in that case Anu/Uranus is interpreted as God and the first man Adam is instead considered to be equivalent with the "earthly Adam" mentioned previously, and not with the "cosmic one" in those cases. So traditions are ambivalent towards him – because they still consider him as occupying the slot of the "first man" thus having embodied the position of the "cosmic" man and first creation ever created; but then at the same time he’s also regarded as being equivalent with God himself in other stories – so in those cases the position of Adam is instead occupied by the earthly Adam instead, the "other" Adam (called "Adam Ha’Rishon" in Hebrew meaning "the earthly Adam"; who is distinguished from "Adam Qadmon" which is the "cosmic Adam").
The fact that Uranus is the first Adam or the "cosmic Adam" i.e. Adam Kadmon – is also apparent in the description of the creation of the first couple of beings called "Adam and Eve" (because as stated in previous posts there was more than one couple of individuals who bore the names "Adam and Eve") – and Uranus and Gaia being the first set of "Adams and Eves" ever (the first ones who bore those names ever); they were claimed in Greek mythology to have been born conjoined or "united" originally; with Uranus pointing upwards thus being "the sky" and Gaia pointing downwards thus being "the earth". This is why Uranus was called the sky (among other reasons) and Gaia was addressed as the earth.
Likewise when Adam Kadmon is created – Hebrew culture stated that he was conjoined with his twin-sister Eve and Adam was said to have had his face pointing towards the sky while Eve had her face pointing down towards the earth according to Rabbinical writings. This was the original "man-woman" united called Adam Kadmon – who corresponds to the first ever couple called "Adam and Eve" and to Uranus and Gaia themselves.
An image of a mosaic of Uranus (Roman: Caelus) and Gaia (Roman: Terra or Tellus) inside the garden – with the symbols of the twelve zodiac signs and four seasons around them (the four seasons being represented by their four children): https://commons.m.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Aion_mosaic_Glyptothek_Munich_W504.jpg#mw-jump-to-license. These symbologies were placed to indicate that at the time when they ruled on earth the seasons were continuously fertile and plants were producing fruits all year long – which is exactly what’s stated in the Bible – which claims that the Garden had all the plants that produced good fruits to eat and good vegetables for consumption – and that these plants would keep producing and giving off fruits all year-long since artificial conditions had been created on earth that made it so that this was the case for plants and fruits. And not coincidentally the first man Adam Kadmon is also depicted while surrounded by the 12 zodiac signs in Hebrew culture and he’s called the "man inside the zodiac" himself (just like in the mosaic with Aion/Uranus).
This was the first couple of beings called "Adam and Eve". Then – as mentioned in this other post as well: https://www.reddit.com/EsotericOccult/s/Ve7RWrSWkN; there was another set of "Adam and Eve" who were Hades (the young brother of Persephone, the twin-god of death) and Persephone herself (who was the twin-goddess of death); and they were kicked out of the Garden for their transgression of being romantic partners. This subsequent couple of individuals who were also called "Adam and Eve" themselves – is sometimes addressed with the proper names "Adam and Eve" in the Bible (for example when they eat the fruit and they are kicked from the garden) – but they are confused as being the same Adam and Eve as the first ones (i.e. Uranus and Gaia) due to confusion (so the myths of the "second Adam and Eve" were then confused with the ones of the "first Adam and Eve" – and the mythologies of both were thus fused together into a single account because they were believed to be one and the same people due to confusion and due to the overlapping of figures who bore the same names despite being multiple distinct individuals); but then at other times this second set of "Adam and Eve" (Hades and Persephone) are instead addressed with other names in the Bible; like for example the second Adam (who corresponds to "Dionysus" or to the "younger version of Hades" who’s the brother of Persephone) being also addressed with the name "Seth" by the Bible or the woman being addressed as "Lilith" when she was banished. (Seth was claimed to have been a copy of Adam since he looked exactly like him and was created "in the image of Adam" according to the Bible in Genesis 5:3; so Seth himself was essentially a second Adam or a copy/clone of Adam and they were indistinguishable because of that. He was technically the "third Adam" created because there had also been an even earlier "earthly Adam" who was created after Uranus i.e. after Adam Kadmon, but this first "earthly Adam" was claimed to have died, so he was replaced by Seth – and this previous earthly Adam corresponds to Abel the brother of Cain; but since Abel had been killed, Seth remained as the only Adam available after Adam Kadmon/Uranus).
But one thing that was to common to all of them is that both sets of Adams and Eves were claimed to have done a "transgression" at some point in the their lives: the "first transgression" of the first couple called "Adam and Eve" i.e. Uranus and Gaia; was that the woman (in this case "Gaia") betrayed the husband (Adam/Uranus) and joined the Serpent (Cronus) having an evil son with him i.e. Cain (who corresponds to "Typhon" in Greek mythology as the offspring of Cronus and Gaia). Typhon will then murder Zeus (or "mutilate" him out of jealousy – like Cain did with Abel and Set with Osiris; and not coincidentally Horus is then born as a replacement for Osiris much like Seth is born to be a replacement for the dead Abel).
On the other hand the "second transgression" of the second couple called "Adam and Eve" i.e. Hades/Dionysus (the younger Hades) and Persephone – was that they discovered each other’s "nakedness" and shared their sexuality with each other; when in fact they were brother and sister and that was something that was forbidden (Uranus and Gaia and the other gods usually married their "half-sisters" or "half-brothers", not full siblings) – but in this case the two siblings were much more related to each other so it was considered sinful and a transgression.
As a quick note: the reason why Uranus is claimed to be the son of Gaia in Greek mythology – is only because Tiamat herself (the Babylonian goddess who was said to have given birth to the gods) also came to be worshipped as the "Mother Earth" at some point and Tiamat was the mother of Anu, so she was sometimes confused with his wife Ki (the earth) i.e. Gaia because Tiamat was also worshipped as Gaia as well at some point. So Uranus was the son of Gaia but not the one "Gaia" who was his wife i.e. the Mesopotamian "Ki" – and he was instead the son of the one "Gaia" who was equated with Tiamat and who was a previous Gaia herself.
The Sibylline Oracles (a work written in Greek which explained how Hebrew, early Christian and Greek culture all speak of the same events only called with different names – and these cultures thus all have common origins) states flat out that Uranus and Gaia were the first couple of human beings – and that they were the first "intelligent" or "sentient" humans because everyone around them were savages at the time when they lived. The Sibylline work then explains how nobody knew the real names of Uranus and Gaia but that they were called with the names "Uranus" and "Gaia" only posthumously by people who worshipped them after their deaths. Uranus kept himself in the skies and didn’t want to have much contact with earth (he did live on earth but most of the time he didn’t spend his life on earth – he was in "paradise") whilst Gaia spent most of her time on earth instead; especially when she left Uranus and the two became separated, so she was called "the earth" as a result. The Greek translation for the term "Adam Kadmon" was not out of coincidence "Adam Ouranios" or "οὐράνιος ἄνθρωπος" (Ouranios Anthropos) meaning "heavenly man" – "heaven" being the word "Ouranos"; or he was also referred to as "Adam Elyon" and "Adam Ilah'ah" meaning "Supreme Adam" or "Higher Adam", the one "who’s above".
The terms "Elyon" and "Ilah'ah" will then be kept intact when Adam Kadmon will come to be worshipped as a "god" instead of a man by some other cultures (the Hebrews only worshipped "one god" – so to them it was forbidden to call anyone else with the title "God" or to state that anyone else is a "divinity" outside of the "one god", because it was forbidden according to their culture – and because of this – in the Bible we have all of these pagan deities who are addressed as mere "men and women" or as simple "humans" by the Bible itself as a result of this culture, when in fact they were actually all of them gods and they were even worshipped as "deities" in other cultures as well) – but this didn’t stop other groups of Semites who practiced polytheism to address these other figures as "gods" instead; because they didn’t have these kinds of problems in their cultures so they straight up worshiped these "first men" or "first humans" as deities in their own right and even called them with divine titles; which is why Adam Kadmon was worshipped as the god "El" (which is what the title "Ilah’ah" actually means – it’s an aspired way of pronouncing the word "El" or "Il" as "Ilah") and this one "El" was worshipped as the "highest above all others" – so this is why the epithet "Elyon" (Most High) was applied to him (this deity also appears in the Bible with his title "Elyon" in Deuteronomy 32:8).
Originally the Hebrews were polytheists as well (because the polytheistic cultures were actually the oldest ones and the Hebrew Bible is derived from them) – but after they became monotheists (first going through a phase of monolatry for some time and then becoming straight up monotheists completely) – the Hebrews rewrote the Bible multiple times and by the time they’d become full monotheists they rewrote the Bible removing all of the divine titles and the references to different "gods" throughout the Bible itself; and as such they wrote that Adam, Eve – the Patriarchs and the children of Israel were all mere "men and women" and they were simple "humans" who followed "the one and only god"; when instead originally in the previous polytheistic traditions – the original traditions claimed that these figures were all gods, and that they followed their "chief" who was the supreme god among them and he ruled over these "lesser gods" or – "gods who were lower in rank" when compared to him – but they were still all gods nonetheless, equal to him in terms of titles and dignity or "godhood". He was just the chief over them though.
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2024.06.09 11:39 creamandcoffees Dating after 4 yr Relationship - Culture Shock

I was off the market in a toxic but otherwise loving and deep relationship for 4 years. I almost proposed. Had the ring. I’m honestly struggling with being alone again. I started with high expectations, high standards, and clear goals. Then I downloaded OLD apps… I was depressed. I’m sorting through single moms, tattoos, numerous face piercings, clear mental illness, morbid obesity, tons of fake accounts and spam.
Moderately attractive, average women acting like princesses. Actually hot women are acting like royalty. Putting effort in feels pointless.
I asked out several med students and had alright dates. Neither looked like their photos. I’ve learned to mentally subtract makeup/filters and add 30 lbs to estimate someone’s true appearance. I’m 27, lots of gen z memes and phrases I don’t get. I pay on dates and barely get a thank you. I don’t say anything weird or sexual and feel used for my time, energy, and attention. Long term, I do want to t marriage and kids - with a smart, feminine, fit, moderately attractive woman. At this stage, I’m just trying to get laid and have fun, but that seems challenging. Barely getting matches. Watching videos on the algorithms, social norms, etc. I’m a fit, muscular, attractive young guy. 5’10”. White collar remote job and STEM education. Great sense of humor. At what point is it just not worth it as a guy to pursue women, pay, put effort in, etc?
My positive solutions so far: apps aren’t real life. I know I’m a 7-8 in real life. I know men don’t get attention on apps. I know to FaceTime first, screen for red flags, etc. I’m just not sure where else to meet people. I had a relatively easier time getting dates and getting laid in college. It was never super easy, but it wasn’t like this. Tinder support confirmed I’m not shadow banned and my account is working.
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2024.06.09 11:30 Equivalent-Cat5414 Just unsubbed from purplepilldebate…

Because there are way too many redpillers, especially guys in their early 20’s, complaining about what they think ALL women want (tall, rich guys named Chad), even when I a 36 year old woman give examples of both me personally and other couples I’ve known willing to have the complete opposite. There is some truth to the redpill philosophy of women valuing looks, but it’s no more than men valuing looks and us women don’t all agree on what makes someone attractive. Also there are far less female gold diggers than they act like there are and there’s no talk from them of the reality that there are some male gold diggers.
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2024.06.09 11:21 astupidlizard66 [Online] [MST] [5E] Veteran DM Looking for Players to bring along an epic Homebrew Exploration-focused Fantasy Campaign.

Hello Hopeful Storytellers and Fellow Adventurers!
I am looking for 4-6 new to experienced Dungeons and Dragons players to join me in a long form campaign in a fully homebrewed world. Preference will definitely be given to brand new players and people stuck in the forever GM seat. This game is friendly to women, people of color, and of course members of the LGBT+ community.
There's really nothing I can say here that isn't already better expressed in the New Player Guide that I've written up, so click that for a better feel of what to expect in terms of table style, campaign concept, and general vibes. The rest of this post is really just a rehashing of that.
Quick Overview 

The Campaign 

What I bring to the table 

Who should Apply? 

How to Apply 
Now that you've read all that (or skimmed it, I don't blame you!), the next step is to fill out the google form, located here.
I understand the reluctance to fill out a sheet of this length (it's ~12 questions after the basics are filled in), but I am in this for the long haul and want to find players that will fit together as well as possible. I've had fantastic finds using detailed forms on this subreddit in the past, and believe strongly that running a game is a commitment, time- and energy-consuming, and this is a way of offsetting the burden from my shoulders in order to find players who are just as committed and excited to play as I am.
This form will remain open until I get a decent pool of applicants (whether that be 5 or 50), at which point I will reach out to the top 10 players via Discord for either a voice or text convo to basically do a vibe check, hopefully by next weekend. Ideally I would like to have our Session 0 as soon as Saturday, June 22nd, and we can get to know each other better then.
If you've got any questions, my DMs are open.
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2024.06.09 11:16 Miserable-Chance-953 Please read and tell me , do you think that God has right to make one's life this miserable!??

My father didn't care about our family when he was in 30s..
Got cancer and never followed proper medication. All the ancestral land is selled by his greedy brothers. He died and I was just a kid back then. My mother is not able to see from her one eye. She was way traumatized all these years.
Being an elder son , I had to deal with my mother's narcissistic and highly traumatised personality which I myself justify because of the reasons.
My maternal and paternal relatives treated us like a shit. When my father was on deathbed , they made us untouchable because of the fear of infection. My mother raised me. But I grew up like a lifeless kid. I never played games , i studied hard because that was the only thing I could do that time.
By focusing on partime jobs and studies, i couldn't make friends ( believe me keeping friends was expensive for me!) Because you need daily at least 50 rupees if you have to sit with them for tea.
I had girlfriend when I was 18-19. She was 4 years older than me. She cheated me brutally with her old friend. I took a year to get back in my senses. I blame her for spoiling my college years.
Somehow , i became engineering graduate two years ago. Now I'm working, I have real life ahead to face. I earn very less. My mother is almost got old. My younger brother lives like he's Nawab by my money. If I refuse , my mother Gaslights me unconsciously. I understand her , I have to understand her why she is like this.
My only uncle (34) died before 3 years. His wife got married someone else. His daughter is 5 y/o and unfortunately she is mentally disabled. My grandmother lives with her separately because she has issues with my mother. She never miss a chance to increase my tension. I feel so bad , my own blood relatives can't see me like their child. My father had two sisters. They don't speak with me because they wants our ancestral house in village.
I failed at romantic relationships which gave me unbearable trauma. Society looks at my mother as a great woman but no one looks at me like a human. My insecurities are so hyper. I can't smile , i desparately find someone just to talk.
I have read too much philosophy when I was in isolation. That's why I'm facing an existential crisis. I don't remember when I smiled last time. My maternal relatives also treats me as the competitor of their children ( they are crorepatis) not as a son of their poor sister. My great grandfather was very close to the King of our province before independence. I have read too many books just to cure my loneliness. But nothing works anymore. After years of studying hard , i became a mediocre.
Today morning I got a call from my sister in law. She expressed her concerns that my cousin is not close to her and life seems boring. She said that if this is being normal life then I probably do something. And then she justified a woman who recently caught cheating her husband. I know my cousin is in too much loss in his business. That's why he's not able to give her attention. But this woman triggered my all insecurities again. I'm still living cause I have a hope for being loved someday, and the chaste lady like her feels cheating on her husband then it can happen with me too. I see no purpose in life is I don't get loved.
I look very playful and handsome according to some women. But trust me I don't believe in anything anymore.I want someone to motivate me for killing myself. Because I'm a coward. I can't see blood. If one really cares about me then they should really help me to end this miserable life. Please don't give me sympathy if anyone is reading this. Because I don't deserve it. I wish I die as soon as possible. I have no one in this world. I see nothing getting better.
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