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2011.05.17 22:03 Bulls729 The Un-official subreddit of the Un-carrier: T-Mobile

Welcome to the subreddit of the best wireless carrier in the industry! T-Mobile is the second largest wireless carrier in the U.S. offering affordable plans, the fastest network in America, no contract, and no overages. This is the place to discuss everything magenta!
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2024.05.15 15:10 Slight_Toe5095 AITAH for going no contact with my dad after he didn’t show up at my graduation?

First off, I am a girl from The Netherlands so English is not my first language so I apologise for any mistakes.
Let me give you a little back story. Before my dad met my mom he had a wife (lets call her Anna) they got married in 1999 and had been together since they were 16. Anna and him had a daughter in 1995 (my half sister, lets call her Charlotte) when they were 23 years old. Although Anna and my dad were very toxic for each other he never let that affect the way he loved Charlotte, more than anything and treated like a princess, as he should of course, eventually in 2002 Anna and dad got divorced. A year after the divorce my dad met my mom and had me on accident. They were kind of in a on/off relationship nothing official, then my mom got pregnant with me although they didn’t plan it they did decide to keep me but they never became a real couple. They never really had any problems with each other so they stayed friends. My dad is Italian and lives in Italy and my mom is Dutch and lives in The Netherlands, because my parents live in two different countries I needed a primary residence/parent which was my mom. I mainly lived with her and would go to my dad whenever i had holidays/vacations from school or he would come to me. He has always been a good dad but it was clear that Charlotte was the favourite. And i was always jealous of the attention and love that she got. I know my dad loves me very much but not like he loves Charlotte. Charlotte and I didn’t have a great bond she knew she was the favourite and would always make that known, she would bully me and make rude comments about me and my dad would just let it happen this went on for years and she made me really insecure.
One day when we were on vacation i wanted to go swimming in the ocean but I have epilepsy so I can’t swim unattended my dad send Charlotte to go with me, after an hour while i was still in the ocean Charlotte went back to our resort house without telling me and left me alone in the pool thankfully nothing happened but it could’ve ended badly. My dad for the first time ever stood up for me and made her apologise but i knew she wasn’t sorry.
As I got older I became more distant from my dad because of this, I used to be a big daddy’s girl but am now totally a mama’s girl. Skip forward to when i was 17, my mom passed away and i had to move in with my dad. Now let’s go forward a year later. At this point Charlotte was 25 and had already moved out en had gotten engaged. I was in my final year and was going to graduate, everyone including Charlotte and my dad knew my graduation was going to be on June 22 and out of nowhere Charlotte decided her wedding was going to be that same day she claimed she didn’t know that was my graduation date. I got mad at her and demanded that she would change the day because i had that date first but she didn’t want to. Our dad tried talking her into changing the date even to June 23 would’ve been fine but she didn’t want to and insisted on June 22. My dad was going to have to choose between walking Charlotte down the aisle or watching me graduate and I already knew what he was going to choose, Charlotte, and he did. I was secretly hoping he would change his mind so I reserved a spot for him but his seat at my graduation was empty. Not long after i moved back to The Netherlands and started living together with 2 of my friends and I haven’t been in contact with my dad or Charlotte ever since i moved and its been great. My uncle (dad’s brother) came to visit me because we still have a great bond. He told me he understood my side but he thought i was a little extreme for going no contact with them because he’s still my dad. I considered it and unblocked my dad’s number and sent him a text in the text message was talking about why i went no contact and how him and Charlotte made me feel and maybe meeting up so that he can apologise but he said he had nothing to apologise for and I took that as a sign of him also not being interested in contact anymore. Although him saying that he had nothing to apologise for kind of hurt me I expected it and was not surprised.
I have no desire to get back in contact with my dad anymore after all that’s happened over the years between me him and Charlotte which is more than the small portion i told you about in this post.
Personally i don’t think i was in the wrong but i need an unbiased opinion so I decided to come here.
AITAH?
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2024.05.15 15:10 GerryChampoux UI 6.1 now available for unlocked Fold3 in US

I checked for updates today for my unlocked Fold3, and found UI 6.1 available. It installed without issue. I heard several days ago that 6.1 was available from T-Mobile, which is my provider. I assume that was only for T-Mobile locked phones, as the update was unavailable to me at that time.
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2024.05.15 15:10 djdjdkdjfjdnfnofoks I (f22) started to feel romantically attracted to someone other than my bf(m24), help?

Im trying to understand why I developed this attraction for a mutual friend of ours, let’s call him Greg. Greg is also in a relationship btw.
So basically I’ve been in a relationship with my bf for 5 years now, I’m pretty sure I love him, but lately I’ve felt really uncomfortable with him(I’ll discuss the why in the next paragraph), and at the peak of my mental breakdown regarding the relationship, Greg saw me almost having a panic attack while I was trying to isolate from the friend group, came to me and asked me if i was ok. I tried to tell him that I was ok, tho since that obviously wasn’t the case he stayed with me and was really caring asking me if something triggered me, something about his tone or the fact that he helped me when even my boyfriend was ignoring me really changed something in me(?). I would never cheat on my bf btw, I’m trying to make sense of this to understand if there’s something to fix or if I should just leave
More context on the relationship: This all happened in February, when I found out my boyfriend had a “crush” for one of his classmates (he wrote it on his school notebook, thats why I found out). He didn’t act on it, but adding it up with the fact that he seems disinterested in me (sexually and tbh in every other way), plus the fact that when im sick he treats me like a bother, never cuddles me much, just stares at his phone or the void, (eg: im always the one cuddling him to sleep even tho im the one with sleep issues and would really appreciate some attention to calm down my anxiety before sleep), i started to feel even more unwanted.
When he gets angry he basically says that what I think is dumb or superficial, and overral is never receptive to my feelings, he also mocked my friends saying mean stuff about them, and then said im like them. I have an abusive family and he knows and compared me to my abusive mum. When I was having issues with my ED he got angry at me and often gives me the silent treatment. Last year in june he also broke up with me telling me that he “stopped feeling love for me one year ago” and since then I never fully recovered.
Communication: I try to tell him what I feel, but he doesn’t get it, he thinks I’m just too needy or something. It’s also very hard to put in words, because it’s not just that I want more affection, it’s more the attitude he always gives me of disinterest. On the flip side, one day I was walking behind the friend group, feeling a bit sad cause my bf was ignoring me again, and Greg told my him to hold my hand. And I thought that was nice of him to say, this was before I felt attracted.
More Greg: We were out for lunch with our friend group, and my boyfriend had to go to a party with his classmates after we ate while I stayed with the friend group, but when it came time to leave he just vanished, I had to ask Greg where my bf was and he told me he left. I didn’t yet realise I was feeling something for Greg, but we all went to his place. I was so worried about the fact that my bf would interact with the girl he likes that I started trembling, sat on the carpet and tried to calm down, and i was pretty discrete about it, im pretty shy and reserved normally so it’s not out of character for me to isolate myself, but again Greg sat close to me and started asking me stuff about what I was doing and engaging me in conversation and helped me calm down, then asked if I was hungry, cause he noticed I was trembling, and I said “a bit but if you don’t want to eat yet I can wait”, and he convinced our friend group to order food early just because I was hungry. After that he played switch games with me the whole night. He seems to be very observant of people, and he’s been so attentive with me. I hate myself for having developed feelings, I thought they would go away quickly but it’s been 4 months now.
I feel very ashamed, he is a good friend and a nice person, but now im avoiding him. Im trying to understand why I don’t feel the same with my boyfriend, im trying to fix our relationship, he is also kind but doesn’t seem too interested and whenever he gets angry it’s like a cold shower. I don’t know what to do.
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2024.05.15 15:09 UltimateTraders 5/15/2024 Daily Plays NXT MNDY slam earnings! PSEC CEO buys 800K shares for 5.48! AMC converts bonds 23.3 million shares avg 7, Ryan C falling asleep at the wheel of GME again! Sold SOFI 7.40 and bought DNUT 12. Wanted GME puts July 60 strike AMC July 10 strike WTF! Oh Well! ACMR CVS PERI YOU !

Good morning everyone. Premarket yesterday, man, AMC was 13 and GME was 80! I was even hoping that I could get 12 puts and 75 dollar puts with July Expiration. A few minutes in, both stocks were already at their highs, I did not even put in a bid for AMC… I put in a bid for GME but it quickly fell below the 60 strike.
I do not blame anyone for trading hot money..
All I say is know the facts, so that you can plan an exit strategy and be prepared for anything.
I warned that AMC as a company is worth about 800 million. [In 2019 when there were 100 million shares, the stock was 7-10!!! By the way!]
GME is worth closer to 700 million. [For many years it was worth 1 billion or less and they were a growing company!]
I don’t hate on the company… I hate that they are crap companies! Those are the facts!
I want everyone to make money, always! I just don’t want anyone lied to… I don’t want someone brainwashing anyone with junk!
AMC has authorization for 550 million shares
GME has authorization for 1 billion shares
AMC 2 days ago on Meme Monday sold 72.5 million shares at an avg of 3.45 for about 250 million dollars [Utilizing the at the market]
AMC yesterday agreed with a bond holder to convert 23.3 million shares for about 7 dollars to extinguish 164 million in debt.
You may think Adam is a bum, or doing AMC wrong…
What people do not understand is that he is doing what is best for the company to survive.. He is taking advantage of retail who is over pumping a stock!
8/6/2022 before APE and when AMC was near 30 I did this video!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lpIeONROO4

You need a company to stay in business if you want to keep trading the stock…
The stock price has 0 to do with the company. The stock price is shows the exit price of someone that has the stock and wants to move it…
A stock is a currency for a company when they do not have cash…
The stock market exists as a way for a company to get cash and for insiders to exit!!!
A stock was not created so traders can make money!
You need to come to this understanding.

Also, 90% of times a company does not need a vote to dilute shareholders thru a convertible bond… You must do DD and check each bond to see if they have a convertible option to swap for shares.. This is your job, not mines! Chances are when a company is in trouble they will do this, especially if they are out of ATM [At the market] AMC has about 355 million shares as of now, trust me, if the stock is hot they will do their best to unload the rest of the 200 million on retail… This is not up to AMC!
This is up to the bond holder!
You see, the bond holder agreed to 23.3 million shares at about 7 dollars. Now they are holding the bag! They will need the Apes to bid it up and hope to be able to unload the 23.3 on everyone…They will need a lot of volume…. When volume dries up, they will be stuck! No bond holder or person would want to agree to take tons of shares of something if they can not unload it. [Liquidity]
This should show you how dumb Ryan Cohen is… He is falling asleep at the wheel.
He has had authorization for 1 billion shares since March of 2022 and these pumps are when you unload to get cash… It is a crippling business… One where they only made a profit by firing people and cutting costs, this is not sustainable…
This is obvious as sales are at a 16 year low…. For the year sales were down 12% and for the quarter 20%! A Christmas quarter! WHAT A DISASTER!
FACTS! Once you have the facts, you do you….
Yeah, I understand people hate me, I am banned everywhere, this is what I get for trying to educate people that just want to get rich quick without knowing the facts!
So you trade and do what is comfortable for you. If you are making money ignore everyone! Just keep stacking! I want people to make money..
I just hate when people are scammed/lied to.

I forgot yesterday morning. I had an order to buy DNUT at 12… It hit by end of day… I am also in 13.55.. These buys were because of a MCD roll out… Without an expected slow roll out by 2026 no way I would buy it! I checked weeks ago and the earnings are shakey. I checked the financials yesterday… They are ok, but 2-3 bad quarters and they are in trouble.. The sales are slowly growing 5-10% but they are just getting by, so a few bad quarters… But I want anyone that reads to follow my thesis and see why…
I don’t buy and pray… No hopium… Some people like to roll the dice… they should just say they are taking the risk..

I was a super bull on ZIM as it was 9 dollars because I could clearly see containers over 2,000. I posted DD on it… That was not risky to me! Especially under 10. GME and AMC is a pure gamble, you can make money but be prepared to lose it too.
I wish that retail could buy better quality stocks and that we could all make money safely… but I do not have that power…. They think Ryan Cohen, Adam Aron and Keith Gill are heros… people like who they like, trade what they will trade.. but when you shoot up a stock of a company in ruis

EXPECT!

Insiders to dump their own stakes. [Ryan is really dumb this way]

The company itself to dilute shareholders for money

Youd do it too!

PSEC Chairman and CEO who owns 65 million shares of the company. Who has had 0 salary for years goes in and buys 800,000 shares for 5.48 on May 10th. This is right after earnings. That shows skin in the game.. yes, it is just 4.5 million dollars, but these were not vested options/warrants [Adam Aron never uses his own cash, its free shares!!] Insiders at PSEC own 30% of the company! SKIN IN THE GAME!
Yes, I wish retail would take PSEC to 6.25-6.50 fair value, and I do get frustrated when they buy junk like CVNA but I do not have the power.. CVNA insiders dumping left and right. I believe the CEO has sold over 300 million worth of CVNA over the last 90 days! 17% growth at CVNA, decent! But the company is worth at most, 20! AT MOST! There is a ton of risk!

5 Trade Ideas:
ACMR YOU – Both of these companies scored a 99 on my grading score for earnings. I have 1 block of ACMR at 25.45 and do not mind trading another block… No position in YOU , last trade was 17.50 to 18

PSEC – I have 2,000 shares at 5.50 and 2,000 at 5.90. I would like to trade these in blocks for 10-15 cents each, earnings were good, not great, but you wont get great from a BDC company, I have also been getting my 6 cent monthly dividend

CVS – I will keep trading this, fair value is near 70… I have a block at 84 from 2/2023 unfortunately…. Last trade 54.75 to 56

PERI – They will be coming to the auction, before the end of the month and will use the 75 million by June 30th. I also have a block at 21.. But I will keep trading blocks

DNUT – I am in at 12 and 13.55, 1,000 shares each. I would like to make 25-50 cents on each trade, so I hope 12.25… My buys were strictly on the MCD roll out. I am in belief that with MCD sales will be up at least 25% when it is completed

The contents of this post are for information and entertainment purposes only and does not constitute financial, accounting, or legal advice. ... By choosing to make a trade you are responsible for your own actions. Please do some due diligence. These are trades I am making and you can follow along. If you make a winning trade, I do not even expect a bravo or thanks but that’s fine, if you lose on a trade the same difference.. I do not even expect an upvote or reward… The Elite team is aware of the risks and volatility in the market.

Good luck everyone let’s make money. Share trades, ideas here during trading hours. Our main goal here is to make money so I hope we can help eachother. I will be in and out of here as well.
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2024.05.15 15:09 eric_harlan Does the Roth IRA five-year rule apply to individual investments or the account itself?

I hope this hasn’t been asked multiple times, though I have searched first:)
I understand that qualified withdrawals from a Roth IRA can take place tax free after I have held the account for more than five years, starting with the first investment made, once I am 59 1/2.
What happens to the investments made during those five years? Does each investment have to be held for five years?
For example, let’s say the account was started four years ago. I’ll be 59 1/2 next year. Today I buy 100 shares of stock X in the Roth IRA. Next year when I am 59 1/2, that investment has doubled. Can I withdraw all of the earnings tax free, even though I have only owned them for one year?
Thanks in advance!
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2024.05.15 15:09 Zealousideal-Fig5025 Stream of consciousness about Melina

Melina is an intriguing character because she is connected to many of the game's fundamental themes and secondary characters.
The character most similar to Melina is Millicent: they both wear the same robe and are in search of their destinies. However, Millicent's quest is driven by her lost memory, which she slowly regains, while Melina's motives are more ambiguous. I believe Melina lies about forgetting her purpose, as there are numerous inconsistencies in her statements throughout the game. For example, she initially says that seeking the Elden Ring involves violating the Golden Order, but then she takes us to the Round Table, where the Two Fingers instruct us to restore that very order. She claims not to know her purpose but already knows we should oppose the Order, which we do by burning the Erdtree—a task she helps us accomplish by enabling us to pass the thorns after she discover the purpose. The inconsistencies don’t stop there. Consider the famous issue of “what it means to be born of a mother”... Both Melina and Millicent head towards the tree where their mother is, but upon reaching Elphael, Millicent reveals that she is actually a blood relative of Malenia, while Melina never explicitly states who her mother is, if she even has one. You might think it’s obvious, yet the game doesn’t shy away from redundancy on key topics. Returning to Millicent, both characters understand their missions once they reach the base of the tree, and their sacrifices are necessary for us to fulfill their purposes. For both characters, this purpose becomes deeply subjective, driven not from above (by Gowry and ‘Melina’s mother’) but by their own set of values, closely connected to their nature. Both must rectify a mistake made by their mother, which led them to lose something. Both of their stories have double endings, one of which requires our betrayal. It is peculiar how betrayal reveals their true nature or their 'element.' Respecting their will also preserves their humanity. Even in the endings, there is a difference: Millicent's death is much more emotionally painful than Melina’s, who remains impassive even when burned by the flames of ruin. Melina, as usual, plays a role and is not entirely honest: she pretends to be the maiden and pretends to trust us but actually tests us, whereas Torrent trusts us immediately (despite initial appearances).
The second character who shares similarities with Melina is Ranni. They both have closed eyes, though opposite ones: the left for Ranni and the right for Melina, if considering Ranni's spiritual half. The parallels are subtle but clear: both have dual natures typical of the Empyrean and bring death back to the gods, believing it necessary to free the Lands Between from stasis. This contrasts with becoming the Lord of Chaos, which implies ruling an immutable and lifeless world. There are also notable differences between the two: Melina is a spirit who can physically manifest and fight, while Ranni is a soul who needs a puppet. We could almost say Melina is of the same substance as Torrent, connecting us to the third character, Miquella. However, until the DLC is released, it would be best to avoid further speculation about him.
Melina shares the same role as the Gloam-Eyed Queen. Bringing death to the gods. In the frenzied flame ending, the left eye finally opens. It’s not just the fact that Melina has a purple eye that is relevant; it’s the entire cinematic and narrative construction of the game that compels us to give importance to that eye. The last scene in the game before the end credits is a sequence where Melina finally opens her sealed eye—a detail that has intrigued us since the first trailer; this eye happens to be a gloam-colored eye, framed in close-up within a scene practically devoid of colors except for the eye itself; a fading that darkens the entire scene until it reaches a black screen, but the eye remains brilliant; at last, she says "Destined Death" and the game ends. Blaidd and Maliketh share the same shade of purple eyes, although the texture differs. Both are shadows of an empyrean. Their purpose is to ‘stop’ (kill) a god when it acts against the Greater Will. Thus, the Gloam-Eyed Queen and the shadows of the empyrean share the same role as godslayers. Vargram, aspiring to become a shadow, wields the godslayer greatsword. Melina comes back when we become the lord of the Frenzied Flame, which means to be its vessel; similarly, Marika serves as the vessel of the Elden Ring, so we can say we share the same level of 'divinity' as Marika, who is also killed by us only thanks to Melina; so, Melina's purpose lead to death of a god anyway.
In conclusion, for me Melina is an ambiguous and 'unfinished' character because she is the result of a broken bond between Marika and the Gloam-Eyed queen. A bond that is therefore impossible to reconstruct with certainty (and consequently perfectly coherent with the characteristic narrative of From Software games, in which the player is required to become an active participant), but necessary to bring balance to the Lands Between.
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2024.05.15 15:08 WhatCanIMakeToday Operational Efficiency Shares: Rehypothecating 🐇🐇🐇🐇 And Breaking Free Of Chains [WalkThrough] (4/n)

Operational Efficiency Shares: Rehypothecating 🐇🐇🐇🐇 And Breaking Free Of Chains [WalkThrough] (4/n)
From the prior DD in this series [1], we know that ComputerShare can “give” the DTC registered DSPP shares to hold onto for operational efficiency which are then “given back” as shares beneficially owned “for the benefit of” (“FBO”) DSPP Plan Participants at ComputerShare, as illustrated in this diagram:
From The Prerequisite DD
It’s time to explore what “operational efficiency” benefits may be gained by DSPP shares going around this roundabout. At first glance, shares are basically just going in a big circle from DSPP Plan Participants with registered ownership DSPP shares at ComputerShare heading to the DTC, who hands shares to ComputerShare’s broker who maintains those shares for the benefit of ComputerShare who holds those shares for the benefit of Plan Participants. While I think it’s unlikely that shares just go around in a big fat circle for no reason, I do remember people getting onto flights to literally go nowhere a few years ago [CNN, NYT]; so maybe these operational efficiency shares simply miss hanging out at the DTC?
Let’s look more closely… While title is held by a registered DSPP Plan Participant, ComputerShare is giving the DTC possession [1] of registered DSPP shares to the DTC to hold for operational efficiency which then ultimately end back in the possession of ComputerShare’s broker (who isn’t lending out shares) for the benefit of ComputerShare for the benefit of Plan Participants. If we treat the DTC’s operations as a big black box, we see registered shares going into the DTC black box and beneficially owned shares coming out of the black box to ComputerShare for Plan Participants.
DTCC Black Box: Inputs vs Outputs
Investopedia says that shareholders have rights, with a list of 6 main rights including:
  1. Voting power on major issues.
  2. Ownership in a portion of the company.
  3. The right to transfer ownership.
  4. Entitlement to dividends.
  5. Opportunity to inspect corporate books and records.
  6. The right to sue for wrongful acts.
By contrast, beneficial owners only need to have or share 2 of those rights (bolded) according to the definition of beneficial owner in Rule 13d-3: the power to vote and the power to dispose of the security (e.g., sell).
§ 240.13d-3 Determination of beneficial owner.
(a) For the purposes of sections 13(d) and 13(g) of the Act a beneficial owner of a security includes any person who, directly or indirectly, through any contract, arrangement, understanding, relationship, or otherwise has or shares:
(1) Voting power which includes the power to vote, or to direct the voting of, such security; and/or,
(2) Investment power which includes the power to dispose, or to direct the disposition of, such security.
ComputerShare basically confirms this list (except for the right to sue as that’s probably not one their issuer customers would emphasize) and adds that beneficially held shares may be lent by brokers generally (but not by ComputerShare’s broker).
Registered Shareholder Rights vs Beneficial Owner Rights
Maybe you’ve had different experiences from me, but I’ve never known Wall St to deliver more than the bare minimum they’re contractually obligated to. Which means the DTC black box is very likely watering down shareholder rights from the 6 that go in down to the 2 which come out. (And yet, we’re supposed to believe that all shares are equal. 🙄)
Dividends (#4 on the list) [2] may be the clearest example of a watered down shareholder right. Registered shareholders have the right “to directly receive share dividends” [CS FAQ] which means if a company (e.g., GameStop or OverStock) issues a dividend, registered shareholders have the right to directly receive the dividend as issued. If the company issues a crypto dividend (as OverStock tried to do), registered shareholders have the right to directly receive the issued crypto dividend. Beneficial shareholders would get an issued dividend, if available, or a cash equivalent if not. Historically, stock and other dividends to beneficial shareholders could easily be delivered as a cash equivalent, a watered down form. Crypto dividends don’t scale well with shorts (both naked and legal via, for example, share lending and borrowing) because crypto tokens are unique which makes it abundantly clear why a crypto dividend was nixed for a heavily shorted idiosyncratic stock like GameStop; especially given GameStop’s particularly active shareholders.
Ownership (#2 on the list) may be the second clearest example of a watered down shareholder right as more security interests to shares exist in the DTC’s beneficial ownership system than there are shares; with the SEC saying beneficial shares get a pro rata interest in the securities of that issue held by DTC. [See End Game Part Deux: Problems at the DTCC plus The Bigger Picture, particularly the section “The Pie Is Shrinking: Get Out (And DRS) While You Can”]
Voting (#1 on the list) is also an example watered down shareholder right; this one having a long history on this sub with, for example, BroadRidge tossing 7B votes and bragging about it. (Beneficial owners only need to get shared voting rights per Rule 13d-3 above so those 7B “shared” votes just lost out to who they shared with.) Unlike other beneficially held shares, voting rights for DSPP shares are not watered down as ComputerShare sends registered holders their voting forms.

Operational Efficiency Shares, Whatcha Doing In There?

A big black box is a pretty good description of the DTC which does not want us to know the ins and outs of what’s going on. Black holes are a pretty good example of a big black box and, most importantly, we know a lot about black holes even though they can’t be directly observed. Just as we learned about black holes without direct observation, we can similarly learn a lot about the Operational Efficiency shares even though we can’t directly observe them in the DTC habitat.
Even though we can’t look inside the DTC’s big black box, it turns out we don’t really have to in order to identify some benefits from these operational efficiency shares taking their roundabout trip to nowhere.
Locates A few commenters have suggested that OE shares could be used for locates so I’ll address this first. Possible, yes. But I don’t view this as the most interesting use for OE shares. Brokers are supposed to “locate” securities available for borrowing before short selling. [Wikipedia)] Basically, before selling short a broker is supposed to find a source to borrow. The “locate” requirement does NOT require the security to be borrowed before short selling which can result in a legal naked short.
You may be wondering why I don’t view “locates” as particularly interesting for OE shares if short sellers need to locate shares to borrow before shorting. Well, market makers are also exempt from this requirement as long as they’re market making. 🙄 On top of the market maker exemption, remember House Of Cards? In House Of Cards 3 [SuperStonk], we learned about the now 🤦‍♂️ hilarious F**3 key **- yeah, the one on a keyboard. Brokers like Goldman found the locate requirement simply too much work so they would press the F3 key and their system would auto-approve the locate requirement based only on the number of shares available to borrow at the beginning of the day; regardless of whether those shares were still available to borrow or not.
House Of Cards 3
Meaning as long as there were some shares available to borrow at the beginning of the day for their share copying system, brokers could just smash the F3 key to make as many copies of shares as they need. Even if only 1 share was available to borrow at the beginning of the day, a broker could simply smash the F3 key 100 times to approve the locate requirement for 100 shares.
So while OE shares could be used for locates, they wouldn’t need many shares each day to make an unlimited number of copies - even just 1 is enough.
Lending shares on the other hand…
Rehypothecation Rehypothecation is the reuse of customer collateral for lending. Per a 2010 IMF Working Paper, The (sizable) Role of Rehypothecation in the Shadow Banking System,
Rehypothecation occurs when the collateral posted by a prime brokerage client (e.g., hedge fund) to its prime broker is used as collateral also by the prime broker for its own purposes.
This IMF paper defined a “churning factor” to measure how many times an asset may be reused; and then estimated a churning factor of 4 noting that it could be higher because international banks (e.g., HSBC and Nomura) were not sampled. This IMF paper found a single asset may be lent and borrowed 4 times, or more; an average which could be higher globally.
https://preview.redd.it/ymr3j03zri0d1.png?width=795&format=png&auto=webp&s=1555314cefd520658a4f78dc4745867063e3bf34
Churn Factor Could Be Higher Globally
How much higher? We may have seen a churn factor as high as 10 for a less idiosyncratic meme stock per my prior post, Estimating Excess GME Share Liquidity From Borrow Data & Churn Factor. Presumably, the idiosyncratic meme stock would have a higher churn factor (but not that important for this post).
More recently (2018), the Federal Reserve published this Fed Note on ​​The Ins and Outs of Collateral Re-use studying how often collateral is reused (i.e., rehypothecated) for Treasury & non-Treasury securities [3] with a beautiful figure illustrating how “for any given moment in time, one security can be attributed to multiple financial transactions” where a share could be posted multiple times through Security Financing Transactions (SFTs) and sold short. [4] Sounds familiar, right?
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Figure 6c of this Fed Note shows a Collateral Multiplier over time illustrating how “PDs [Primary Dealers] currently re-use about three times as many securities as they own for non-Treasury collateral and seven times as many securities as they own for U.S. Treasury securities”.
AKA \"Money Multiplier\"
The Fed Note describes their Collateral Multiplier as a “money multiplier” (Seriously, I couldn’t have made this up in a million years.),
In a sense, our Collateral Multiplier is akin to a "money multiplier," as it compares private liabilities created by a firm with the amount of specific assets held to create those liabilities. [​​The Ins and Outs of Collateral Re-use]
And, of course, the Collateral Multiplier aka “money multiplier” ratio goes up when there’s less collateral available and down when there’s more collateral available. (Can I get one of these multipliers?)
Intuitively, we expect the ratio to increase when collateral is scarce and to decrease when collateral is more abundant.
Which means Primary Dealers [Wikipedia has a list of familiar names including Deutsche Bank, JP Morgan, Morgan Stanley, Nomura, BofA, Citigroup, TD, UBS, and Wells Fargo; amongst others] can simply kick securities around a few extra times (e.g., with SFTs and short sells) to effectively multiply the amount of money and/or collateral they have any time they need it. (Within limits, I hope…)
Thus, rehypothecation is a very interesting use of Operational Efficiency shares from ComputerShare as various primary dealers can simply “multiply” the number of shares they have – a concept that we’re already quite familiar with. As rehypothecation, short sells, and securities financing transactions are all perfectly legal, rehypothecating more GameStop shares provided to the DTC via operational efficiency satisfies Ground Rule #2 [defined in (1/n) in this series],
  1. All parties involved are all generally attempting to operate within the bounds of the laws and regulations wherever possible. (I know we often scream “crime”, but why break a law when money can simply [re]write laws to make activities legal. Regulatory failure is the reason why something that should be criminal, isn’t. And regulatory failure happens when armies of lawyers are paid to create and exploit loopholes so that actions which should be criminal, are instead legal.)
We can update our conceptual model to include rehypothecation to more clearly illustrate how Operational Efficiency shares held in the DTC can be rehypothecated (e.g., with SFTs and short sells) until a watered down share is delivered to ComputerShare’s broker to hold FBO ComputerShare, who holds the watered down share FBO DSPP Plan Participants.
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You might notice from this illustration that ComputerShare has been telling the truth satisfying Ground Rule #1 [defined in (1/n) in this series]. Neither ComputerShare’s nor their broker lend or need to lend shares. All the rehypothecation happens “upstream” amongst other DTCC and NSCC Participants until shares are finally delivered to ComputerShare’s broker at the end of the “Churn Chain”. ComputerShare has made no representations about what the DTC can or can not do with the shares in their possession. And, realistically, ComputerShare is in no position to make any representations about what happens within the DTCC system – ComputerShare is only responsible for themselves and, to some extent, their broker.
The Fed Note and IMF paper found assets may be churned and reused 3-4 times (overall market average) which means the end of the chain is typically around D3 or D4. (If my prior DD estimates are correct, there were signs a less idiosyncratic meme stock may be churned up to 10 times ending the chain at D10 which suggests a potentially longer chain for GME, the idiosyncratic meme stock.) If there is no collateral reuse for an asset, the chain would have zero length meaning Operational Efficiency shares go straight from the DTC directly to ComputerShare’s broker. (Programmers almost certainly understand zero length chains very well – go find one if you need an explanation.)
GameStop is idiosyncratic, thus atypical. Per the IMF paper, collateral reuse increases when collateral is scarce and decreases when collateral is abundant (quoted above). If we consider GameStop investors have been direct registering shares (i.e., DRS) and registering shares (e.g., DSPP) thereby removing title and/or possession of shares from the DTC/DTCC/Cede & Co, then GameStop share availability has been becoming more scarce and the “Churn Chain” for GME should be longer than average representing a higher collateral multiplier and churn value.
While we may not know the exact length of the Churn Chain for GameStop shares, we can pretty well surmise that it’s not a zero length Churn Chain where there is no collateral reuse based simply on scarcity. After all, a shortage of available shares is, by definition, required for any short squeeze (including MOASS). Requests by brokers to enable Share Lending [5] is another example indicator that GameStop shares are scarce.
In addition, according to Investopedia [6], “Banks, brokers, or other financial institutions may navigate a liquidity crunch and access capital by rehypothecating client funds” and we’ve seen indicators showing us banks are in deep trouble:
The downside to rehypothecation is the higher leverage increases risks of default and a single collapse can start a chain reaction knocking down others like dominos.
There are also leverage considerations that increase that risk of default. Overleveraged investments often face covenants; when specific conditions are met, trading accounts may receive a margin call or face debt default. As a row of dominos fall after a single collapse, a single margin call may cause other debts to fail their account maintenance requirements, setting off a chain reaction that places the institution at higher risk of overall default. [6]
This risk for rehypothecation sounds exactly like what the Options Clearing Corporation was complaining about to the SEC when the ​​OCC Proposed Reducing Margin Requirements To Prevent A Cascade of Clearing Member Failures [SuperStonk] early 2024. If the OCC can eliminate margin calls, then no dominos get knocked down. (Thankfully, apes have done a phenomenal job in convincing the SEC that this OCC proposal is a very bad idea. Support the SEC’s rejection of this as Simians Smash SEC Rule Proposal To Reduce Margin Requirements To Prevent A Cascade of Clearing Member Failures!)
Most importantly, it may be tough to regain possession of an asset when someone in the rehypothecation chain defaults. Remember from the prior DD the expression about possession: Possession is nine-tenths of the law.
Clients must be aware of rehypothecation as it is technically their own assets that have been pledged for someone else's debt. This creates complicated creditor issues where an investors shares may longer be in their possession due to their custodian's default. [6]
We know assets are rehypothecated 3-4 times on average, GameStop shares are scarce, banks are in trouble, stock loan volume is skyhigh, and the risks of rehypothecation are real. So it’s pretty clear that rehypothecation is happening generally with pretty darn good reason to expect GameStop’s Churn Chain is at least of non-zero length (i.e., GameStop stock is being rehypothecated).

Breaking The Chains

While some may like chains and being tied up, I’m not one of those apes. Especially as a Churn Chain waters down my shareholder rights and may make regaining possession of DSPP stock difficult in the event of a cascade of defaults, as warned by the OCC. (If you like chains, feel free to skip this section.)
As it turns out, we don’t need to know exactly how long the Churn Chain is for GameStop stock. Simply knowing a Churn Chain exists with non-zero length means there is a chain. Where there is a chain, it’s possible to break the chain. (Even if you don’t know how much health) your enemy has in a game, you still try to take your enemy out. Right?)
A churn chain that starts from ComputerShare holding DSPP shares in DTC for operational efficiency can easily be broken as “[a]n investor can, at any time, withdraw all or part of their shares in DSPP book-entry form and have them added to their DRS holding”. [ComputerShare] See also [7]. Quite possibly one of the easiest chains in the world to break as the Churn Chain is weak to DRS. Simply DRS the DSPP shares to take away the head of the chain and the rest of the chain falls apart. (And, DRS-ing "street name" shares cuts chains into pieces too!)
One side effect of breaking a Churn Chain is that all shares attributed to transactions in a broken chain (e.g., SFTs and short sells) need to be reallocated to other chains, effectively making other chains longer and increasing the risks from a default.
Analogy: Think of the shares as a deck of cards. If you deal 52 cards to 4 players (A, B, C and D), each player gets 13 cards. Each stack of 13 cards is basically a Churn Chain. But if you take out a stack by removing the bottom card from A and distribute the remaining 12 cards from A to B, C and D then B, C and D each now have 17 cards. If at any given time a card can cause a player to lose the game, it's better to have fewer cards than more. And, the players who get out early won't lose.
Any party in the Churn Chain who defaults will make it hard for the original owner to regain possession. Longer chains include more transactions and more parties so there’s more risk of default on longer chains than shorter chains. Thus we see another vicious cycle setup where incentives are aligned such that DSPP and beneficial shareholders may want to avoid the impending default and rehypothecation risk from their shares being held in DTC. In order to avoid the impending default and rehypothecation risks, shareholders are incentivized to Directly Register shares to ensure having both title and possession. (Shares held in “street name” have little or no protection from rehypothecation risk and simply registering shares in DSPP doesn’t guarantee possession [1].) As with the other vicious cycle, any remaining shareholders in DTC share a shrinking pie of diluted ownership so it is in their best interest to get out and DRS; thereby shrinking the diluted ownership pie even more which is more reason for remaining shareholders to get out. These vicious cycles will eventually leave few, if any, remaining shares at the DTC for beneficial shareholders. Nobody knows what will happen if this ♾️🏊 happens.

Footnotes

[1] If you haven’t already, please read the prerequisite DD in this WalkThrough Series to understand how ownership of property is separated into two concepts: title and possession. [See, e.g., StackExchange] Understanding the differences between title and possession are particularly important here where it’s worth being extra careful identifying how an entity is in control of an asset.
  1. DSPP is technically different from DRS [WalkThrough] (1/n)
  2. Definitely DIFFERENT "DRS Counts" [WalkThrough] (2/n)
[2] Dividends have been heavily discussed on SuperStonk with many DD posts, including for OverStock and the precedent OverStock set which would have allowed GameStop to issue their own crypto dividend, possibly as an NFT.
[3] Footnote 16 of the Fed Note itemizes various classes of non-Treasury collateral which includes equity which, per Investopedia, is a synonym for stocks.
[4] While short selling is pretty well known, Security Financing Transactions (SFTs) may be more obscure despite discussion of them in the past so here’s some historical SuperStonk links for you (where you may notice some well known OG DD apes):
[5] Simply search SuperStonk for share lending. Don’t make me Google That For You.
[6] https://www.investopedia.com/ REMOVE_FOR_AUTOMOD terms/r REMOVE_FOR_AUTOMOD /rehypothecation.asp
[7] Withdrawing whole DSPP shares into DRS seems to make a lot of sense as doing so guarantees possession. Selling fractionals, less so. If you intend to keep buying, I would think adding to the fractionals to later withdraw whole shares makes more sense. As for the concern about fractionals tainting the whole account, I’ll cover that in another post. For now, you do you.
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2024.05.15 15:08 ladisz25 MintSkull about The Singularity

So I just saw MintSkull's new video about The Singularity, and he suggested a build, that I tried. I'm gonna examine his build, tell the pros and cons abuit it, and then I (a P100 Singu player) suggest a build. MintSkull's suggested build was:
Add-Ons:
-Kid's ball glove
-Soma's family Photo
Perks:
-Bamboozle
-Pop goes
-Rapid Brutality
-STBFL
Discussion of Mint's build:
The Kid's ball glove add-on is based, Singu is pretty unplayable without this add-on. In Family Photo, my greatest problem is that the haste bonus is too low (5%) while the negative effect (Overclock time 20% reduced) is too high. Ball glove could counter this time reduction but imo the basic overclock time is also expire too fast.
Bamboozle can be good if you use a fast vault build. There is no big function for this perk in this build, cuz singu can already vault so fast. Pop Goes is pretty good. Rapid Brutality can be good, especially with Family photo. And STBFL is good for every M1 killer so it's a correct perk for him too.
Discussion of My Build:
Add-ons:
-Kid's ball glove
-Foreign Plant fibers
Perks:
-Lethal Pursuer
-Jolt/Surge
-Coup De Grâce
-Nowhere to Hide
So ball glove is the best add-on. As I already told you about that. Without family photo, the overclock mode's duration is pretty good. The plant fibers is a good add-on when you can use it aggressively. Some people are afraid of being pallett dropped in overclocked, but don't. While you're in overclocked, they'll most likely try to pre-drop, with a lunge attack, they will drop the pallet on you, it will break, and if you have Coup de Grâce token, maybe you can get a free hit.
Now the perks. Lethal is my go-to perk. It's always useful to know where the survivors spawn. Jolt, or Surge if you're old (/s) if the gen regression perk you'll only need. If you can down them fast enough there will be no gen safe from regression. (Now the 3gen solution is laughing at me) As I already said, coup de grâce is a fantastic perk, cuz when you're in overclock mode, you can easily get free hits near pallets, AND -1 pallet for the match. Nowhere to hide is the most "useless" perk in this build. Now "useless" doesn't mean that it is useless. You can get big values from it. But if you switch it to anything you want it won't really matter.
Now that was my opinion about MintSkull's build. And you should know that this post isn't against MintSkull. I like his videos. I just wanted to tell you guys my experiences.
(Also, I'm Hungarian so sorry if this text was hard to read. But I hope i was understanding and i was able to help)
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2024.05.15 15:07 ladisz25 MintSkull about The Singularity

So I just saw MintSkull's new video about The Singularity, and he suggested a build, that I tried. I'm gonna examine his build, tell the pros and cons abuit it, and then I (a P100 Singu player) suggest a build. MintSkull's suggested build was:
Add-Ons:
-Kid's ball glove
-Soma's family Photo
Perks:
-Bamboozle
-Pop goes
-Rapid Brutality
-STBFL
Discussion of Mint's build:
The Kid's ball glove add-on is based, Singu is pretty unplayable without this add-on. In Family Photo, my greatest problem is that the haste bonus is too low (5%) while the negative effect (Overclock time 20% reduced) is too high. Ball glove could counter this time reduction but imo the basic overclock time is also expire too fast.
Bamboozle can be good if you use a fast vault build. There is no big function for this perk in this build, cuz singu can already vault so fast. Pop Goes is pretty good. Rapid Brutality can be good, especially with Family photo. And STBFL is good for every M1 killer so it's a correct perk for him too.
Discussion of My Build:
Add-ons:
-Kid's ball glove
-Foreign Plant fibers
Perks:
-Lethal Pursuer
-Jolt/Surge
-Coup De Grâce
-Nowhere to Hide
So ball glove is the best add-on. As I already told you about that. Without family photo, the overclock mode's duration is pretty good. The plant fibers is a good add-on when you can use it aggressively. Some people are afraid of being pallett dropped in overclocked, but don't. While you're in overclocked, they'll most likely try to pre-drop, with a lunge attack, they will drop the pallet on you, it will break, and if you have Coup de Grâce token, maybe you can get a free hit.
Now the perks. Lethal is my go-to perk. It's always useful to know where the survivors spawn. Jolt, or Surge if you're old (/s) if the gen regression perk you'll only need. If you can down them fast enough there will be no gen safe from regression. (Now the 3gen solution is laughing at me) As I already said, coup de grâce is a fantastic perk, cuz when you're in overclock mode, you can easily get free hits near pallets, AND -1 pallet for the match. Nowhere to hide is the most "useless" perk in this build. Now "useless" doesn't mean that it is useless. You can get big values from it. But if you switch it to anything you want it won't really matter.
Now that was my opinion about MintSkull's build. And you should know that this post isn't against MintSkull. I like his videos. I just wanted to tell you guys my experiences.
(Also, I'm Hungarian so sorry if this text was hard to read. But I hope i was understanding and i was able to help)
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2024.05.15 15:07 xX_s0up_Xx Mother's Day Shenanigans

TLDR: Boomer grandma cancels existing plans on a whim and manipulates her way into a family day, making it about her behavior, instead of recognizing my wife on Mother's Day.
I (M47) live about an hour from my parents. With Mother's Day in the US last weekend, I try to plan things out so that we get to see my parents and also recognize my wife for being a wonderful mom. So the plan for weeks was that we would visit my mom on Saturday so she could see the grandkids at a local festival with rides games and music. Sunday was going to be family stuff here in town for my wife.
A little background: My parents don't care much for my wife. My dad has called her a gold-digger and lazy, asked why she does not have dinner ready for me when I get off work, etc. We've already discussed that, "If I'm happy, and I'm telling you I'm happy, then you have no business poking into how we run our home." My wife is not lazy or a gold digger, but she is neuro-spicy in several ways, and some days the ADHD does not let her get much done despite her wanting to. My sister had kids much earlier than I did with her kids being in their 30's, and mine are in elementary schhool. My parents don't understand why we won't leave the kids with them for a week during the summer, but my parents are elderly and unable to do basic things like pick the kids up if there was an accident or emergency. Mom had a stroke and has difficulty speaking clearly, and dad is a heart transplant pattient. They also don't parent the same we we do. My dad wants things done the way he wants and when he wants, or he yells, and we are trying to break generational traumas, lol. Not to mention that riding in a car with my dad driving is taking a gamble with your life.
On Friday night I call to finalize plans because we need to drive an hour there and an hour back. I tell Mom that my wife has a job in the afternoon so we will be there from about 8 AM to noon. Everyone agrees to the final plan. Then I get a text an hour later. "We have decided we are not going tomorrow". I ask if everything is okay, and I'm told everything is fine.
The next morning, my nephew texts that he is in town and wants to know if we are free. I'm nervous because he is staying with my parents, but he's a cool kid. so I tell him our plans to have a family day for Mother's Day but he's welcome to join us for lunch. He replies, "Great! Grandma and I will be there." Shit.
So, my mom canceled the plans we had because she wanted more time with the grandkids (which makes no sense). Then she used my nephew as her flying monkey to find out when and where we were doing our family things so she could stomp in and make it about her. I called and explained that there were some hurt feelings from Saturday but that I expected good behavior and Mother's Day lunch was not the time to bring it up and discuss it.
This was a local place that makes like 20 different types of amazing tacos. Mom hated it. We were polite and put on a happy face, talked, and left. The grandkids were not in a mood for hugs and we have never been the type of parents who force kids to give hugs. We don't like taking their autonomy away like that. I hugged Mom because she's my mom. Then she went to hug my wife, who accepted, but stood stiff and did not reciprocate, and turned around to load the kids in the car.
I simply don't understand the manipulative behavior, and the need to make it all about them. I know I should have Stood my ground and told her she was not welcome to come, but it's difficult when your mom is crying on the phone. She is a more manipulative person than I gave her credit for.
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2024.05.15 15:07 No_Association2998 Child-free wedding?

My fiancé and I are planning on having a child-free reception after we elope. Our venue will be in a beautiful historic mansion with lots of vintage decor. There is a balcony and stairs and we don’t want our venue turning into a playground, or causing an accident. All children have other family members that they could stay with during our 4-hour reception.
For those who did a child-free wedding, how did you communicate that to guests in a manner that they understood, acknowledged, and respected it?
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2024.05.15 15:06 ThumpNpump How Rudy Gobert proves that NBA Analytics Department is Incoherent.

Before I get into the Statistical Analysis I would like to say that Rudy Gobert is a phenomenal help defender, and he is great on ball against every team except for the 76ers and the Nuggets. Embiid and especially Jokic punk him and steal his French lunch money (euros).
What Gobert is not good at is absolutely anything on offense, and by “not good” I mean he is absolutely abhorrently bad. Because his skill set is so lacking, he is relegated to three options on offense. In this case I’ll refer to them as “The Rudy Three”.
The Rudy Three: 1. Stand weak side dunker spot (the low block on the opposing side of the floor to where the ball handler is). 2. Setting screens and rolling to the rim. 3. Attempting put backs when his teammates miss.
The problem with the Rudy Three: 1. Rudy’s hands are terrible, he routinely lets passes slip through his hands. His teammates do not trust him to catch the ball. So they don’t throw the lob. 2. Same issue as above. He can roll to the rim all game and he will maybe get one or two passes per game on a roll. 3. If he does not get the rebound or putback, he is last one up the court to be back on defense. What’s the point of having the DPOY, if he’s not back on defense? There is no point.
Because of these issues, Rudy Gobert’s defender knows that Rudy will not get the ball, and is then free to play help defense freely or double team the ball handler at will. Which makes offense incredibly difficult for all the rest of his teammates. The fact that Anthony Edwards is able to play as well as he has is a testament to how amazing he is.
The “Advanced Stats” on NBA.com list Rudy Gobert as LEADING the NBA playoffs in Screen Assists Per Game at 6.8, and Screen Assist Points Per Game at 16, with Jokic in 2nd in both at 6.5 and 14.3.
Respectfully, anyone with a pair of eyeballs and a semi functioning brain can see that the effect of a Jokic screen stresses a defense, while a Rudy screen is all but ignored.
Rudy Gobert missed game 2, where KAT played C, and while his defense is no where as good, KAT HAS TO BE RESPECTED on offense because he is an A+ threat to score. This opens up the paint and allows the rest of the Timberwolves to play without a help defender camping in the paint just waiting for them.
Gobert has a massively negative impact on offense, which greatly impacts the effectiveness of anyone sharing the floor with him.
If the Wolves want to win, they need to bench him and only play him when Jokic is not on the floor. But they won’t, and this series will be over in 6 games.
If any team wants to stand a chance in today’s NBA, every player on the floor needs to, at the very least, be able to shoot at league average.
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2024.05.15 15:06 Icy-Row-8602 Studying

Yo guys, so I noticed that I have been on my phone too much therefore avoiding HW. From next week I have to start studying for exams and I don't wanna constantly think of using my phone or act use it instead of studying. I have a study routine that works rlly well but I do t want my phone to stop me. Pls don't give me advice like Focus modes and Forest. With forest U can just leave the appp and with focus U just cancel the session..
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2024.05.15 15:06 DividedBiZer0 Just type it. It will be faster

A bit of a rant because it is currently happening while I am typing this.
My MIL (68F) lives with my wife and I. All things considered she just stays in her lair and doesn’t bother anybody but the Geek Squad from Best Buy at all hours of the night.
She will sometimes make surprise appearances for conversation when I am on a work call or vacuuming the house. Like she waits for the most inconvenient times to regurgitate the current MAGA BS
Today she came out while I was watching a movie. Not to join me or even talk to me. She came out of her suite to sit next to me and look up the address for somewhere a few towns over. She did this by saying the address to Siri.
The slow speaking, getting upset when Siri doesn’t understand, and trying again. For 15 Minutes straight. And when I brought up just typing it into her phone she insisted it was faster.
So I’m just watching in amazement at how long this “faster” way is going. just want to finish my movie in peace!!
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2024.05.15 15:05 Sufficient-Lead-3612 i don’t think i can visit my boyfriend’s house anymore

my mother and I are both HSP which I haven’t known up until recently. it really hit me when I started staying over at my boyfriend’s apartament. it’s really small, the bathroom door is like a swinging double door which has gaps on the top, bottom and the middle, it’s also broken, the house is dirty and they keep a big dog there. my bf loves the dog so much, i feel bad for getting so triggered around it. I get irritated instantly when walking into his apartament, and then his dog starts barking right into my ear and jumping on me. it almost always makes tears flow into my eyes. he lives with his mother, who’s a very nice woman, she says she has ADHD, she studies sociology, she’s understanding, but they’re both extroverts and very loud. she doesn’t respect our privacy, walks into his room constantly and when she starts talking, she doesn’t stop for an hour. she lives in the living room so there’s no getting into the kitchen without seeing her and inevitably talking to her. i get embarrassed when i get overwhelmed by her story and can’t answer eloquently. now, on the other hand, my house, which i was raised in, has more space, cats instead of dogs, is in a quiet neighborhood and is very clean. my mother is almost never home so i have lots of free time, and when she’s here, she gives me plenty of privacy, since she’s also an introvert and expects me to respect hers. last time i spent a weekend at his apartment, i couldn’t get a good night of sleep, i was constantly scared, sad or stressed out. i felt the urge to self medicate with alcohol after each day so i just blamed my bad mood on substances. on the third day, i got woken up in the morning by his mother cussing out a pigeon that got stuck on his balcony. she had a broomstick and it sounded like she was hitting it with it. the cussing part may sound funny, but her saying that all birds should be killed really got to me. birds are a great interest of mine, i can’t really explain it, i’ve just always been obsessed with them, so i instantly froze and started crying. i didn’t make a scene, just went home the same day. the minute i got home, i felt so much better, calmer. when i was shaken up, i told my boyfriend i won’t be coming to his house anymore. i feel terrible for it. i envy him for being able to withstand all possible, dire circumstances, while i get annoyed by such insignificant things. i feel like if i’m unable to face the world then i shouldn’t be here. i don’t know what to do. my boyfriend’s understanding but i don’t think anyone should be forced to endure any kind of relationship with me, my wishes and needs are too big. my main questions were, does anyone else feel this way? and is it an exaggeration to not want to come to my own boyfriend’s apartament?
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2024.05.15 15:05 Chips1709 Biden Officially challenges trump to 2 debates.

https://edition.cnn.com/2024/05/15/politics/joe-biden-debate/index.html
President Joe Biden’s campaign is calling on former President Donald Trump to join him for two presidential debates hosted by news organizations and has formally informed the Commission on Presidential Debates that Biden will not participate in its previously scheduled fall debates.
In the letter, the campaign proposed debate dates in June and September.
“Donald Trump lost two debates to me in 2020. Since then he hasn’t shown up for a debate. Now he’s acting like he wants to debate me again,” Biden said in a direct-to-camera video released Wednesday.
“Well, make my day, pal, I’ll even do it twice. So let’s pick the dates, Donald – I hear you’re free on Wednesdays,” Biden continued, alluding to Trump’s court schedule. In the letter, Biden’s campaign acknowledged that the first debate would likely take place after Trump’s criminal hush-money trial has concluded.
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2024.05.15 15:05 SmediumFry AITA for getting rid of a dog I couldn’t take care of?

I’ve been a lurker for a while but this has been on my mind lately and I wanted some insight from others. Bear with me, it’s gonna be a long one cuz there’s a lot of back story.
So, about 2 years ago I was doing lashes and started my own business and I met a woman, let’s call her Jen. Jen had 3 dogs that lived with her and her bf. She worked a lot and he did too but from home so it worked for the dogs. Except one of them, let’s call him Buddy. So they had found Buddy as a stray and took him in. He was a 90lb pit bull mix, super sweet but also barely 2 so he was still in his puppy phase a bit and VERY playful. Anyway she tells me that she’s trying to find a home for him and I tell her that my bf (at the time) really wanted his own dog.
So we talk about the dog she tells me he’s house trained and whatnot and I also talk to my bf and we agree to take the dog. We go get him shortly after and bring him home and she tells me “if you ever can’t take care of him please let me know and we’ll come take him back”. Things were fine at first since I already have a dog and they got along really well and played all the time. But then he started pooping in the house and generally just being fairly destructive. I was living in an apt so I didn’t have a yard but it was an 800+ sq ft loft with 2 floors and they had plenty of room to play in and plenty of toys for enrichment. And we took them on 2 30 min walks every day (plus shorter ones for bathroom breaks). Still he would poop in the house while we were working. And I wasn’t working much at this time, but I felt I couldn’t leave him free in the house and I do not like locking dogs in their kennel unless I really need to.
So next time I see her I ask her why she lied about him being house broken and she basically tells me that “well we just let him outside and he goes” and tells me he doesn’t really know how to use a leash or wait to use the bathroom. Like…this is a 90 lb dog and you DIDNT actually train him…at all?? And then lied about it?? Obviously I was upset but still kept him because I made the commitment.
A few weeks later, me and my bf got into a HUGE fight. We had spent the night drinking beer, listening to music, and playing video games and around 3 am he went to the bathroom. After about 30 min it was really quiet in the house so I assumed he went to bed and got ready to go upstairs myself. When I got up there he was in the bathroom so I laid in bed and started reading a book on my phone. He came out and asked if I was reading and when I said yes he sighed SUPER hard and I was like umm wtf? And he tried to say he just felt nauseous. I said “feeling nauseous ain’t never made me sigh like that but ok”. He gets upset that I “assumed” the sigh was towards me. I say “if I answer a question and you sigh right after it’s logical for me to assume it was towards me” and he says he understands and agrees. I try to go to sleep.
Here’s where it all blew up. He gets to going on and on about how I always assume the worst and I’m this and that and blah blah. It’s 330 am and I’m like fuck this I’m just gonna go. I start to get dressed and he gets to saying all this awful stuff about me like “you never loved me, you’re a horrible person” accuses me of cheating on him constantly. And at one point I just said “I’m gonna just agree to everything you say cuz I’m not arguing with you. He says “you prolly finna go fuck another nigga” I tell him yes I am. “You don’t love me” I tell him he’s right I don’t. He loses his shit. He’s literally screaming at me calling me a bitch, saying fuck you over and over, telling me how awful I am and how only somebody fucked up could lead him on like that, etc. It was honestly worse but I think you get the point.
One of the last things he does before he leaves is look me in my eyes and say “I’m gonna fucking k*ll myself and it’s your fault”. For reference, my first bf committed suicide a week after my 17th birthday. I was obviously devastated and traumatized by this and he knew about it. He said it to hurt me. Needless to say, the next day when he tried apologizing I simply told him I was done.
Fast forward a couple weeks and he’s still around cuz he didn’t really have anywhere else to go and I’m too kindhearted to let someone I cared about be homeless so he was sleeping on my couch. Me and an old ex got back in touch (we were still friends but distant) and he invited me to come see his house he had recently bought and to show me an album he’d been working on. I agreed and my ex (one living with me) overheard and was clearly upset but I told him it’s none of his business.
Next day I go over it ended up getting really late so I just stayed over there. Next morning I get a text telling me that my ex was in the hospital because he tried to commit suicide. His sister found him and he was gonna be in the hospital for a few days. This sent me into an emotional and mental spiral because I couldn’t help but blame myself. At the same time, I’m still talking care of both the dogs but it was just too much. So I reached out to Jen and tell her I’m really having a rough time mentally and I could really use some help and if she could please take him back. She basically tells me “it’s not a good time for us right now”. So I tell her that I’ll keep him until I find a home for him.
A few days later I could finally talk to my ex in the hospital and at first things were fine and then he started blaming me for what he did and I just couldn’t take it. I told him he needed to get all his things out of my house when he was better and he needed to find somewhere for his dog to go. Also again I reached out to Jen to see if she could take him. She still couldn’t and eventually my ex found a place for him. An older couple that his grandmother was close with had recently lost their dog who was about the same size. They also lived on a ranch. We thought it was perfect and so my ex took him there to live with them.
Probably about a week later I see Jen and she asks me about Buddy and I tell her what happened and that we rehomed him. She was really upset and was telling me that she didn’t know I needed help that bad and if she did she would have taken him back. Mind you, I asked her at least twice to take him and she said no. I reminded her of this and she said if she knew it was that bad she would have helped. I say I don’t think I should have to explain every detail of what’s going on in my life for her to understand that I needed help.
She was really upset still. And she texted me later saying how her and her bf had both been crying and how much they loved Buddy. But like…if you love him so much why not take him back?? Didn’t and still doesn’t make sense to me. Anyway that pretty much ended our friendship and I haven’t heard from her since. I don’t really think I did anything wrong but for some reason it’s been on my mind a lot lately. So AITA for rehoming the dog?
Tl;dr Me and bf adopted a dog from someone I knew. We broke up and he tried to unalive himself. I tried to give the dog back because I was spiraling mentally and they said no. I rehomed the dog to an older couple that lived on a ranch. The person I got the dog from was very upset and we haven’t talked since.
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2024.05.15 15:05 EnvironmentalRuin611 AITAH for wanting to leave my family

I’ve (19f) always had kind of a bad childhood, and I ran away at 17 to move in with my now husband, we’ll call him M (21m). His mom took custody of me, and they protected me until I turned 18. Once I turned 18, life went to shit. M left me for someone else, and I took it pretty hard, but within a month we were back together, and shortly after that, we got married.
Here’s where I need help. Last year, I got pregnant and we decided to move. The move went great until M decided to start working longer and longer hours (as a mechanic, I understand 10/11 hours days, but not 14, 15, or 16 hours). He started to drink and get lost in his work and tried throwing me out at 2 in the morning while I was three months pregnant. I snapped and took off for 3 months and spent time trying to destress, and relax, as M and his new girl were constantly blowing up my phone with new numbers, new accounts, telling me he wanted a divorce, that he hated me, that he hoped our baby didn’t make it because I’d miscarry no matter what. Well, fast forward about 4 months and M shows up out of the blue apologizing, crying, and promising me all these things. I took him back under the condition that this never happens again, and that we communicate or he leaves and doesn’t come back for me, our child, or our dog.
Recently I feel that he’s slipping away again. I refuse to snoop but I’ve noticed there’s more women on his Snapchat again, and he’s been distant with not just me but our family, and I’m at my wits end trying to hold together my family, and recently I’ve just decided to make additional plans for my baby and I out of fear that we’re about to be abandoned... AITAH for preparing for the worse and wanting to leave before he gets to me?
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2024.05.15 15:05 rmxttmgg [for hire] 2024 Q2-Q3: Is active and available for hire! Front-end/Back-end Development

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2024.05.15 15:05 rmxttmgg [for hire] 2024 Q2-Q3: Is active and available for hire! Front-end/Back-end Development

For Hire PHP/Python/JavaScript Developer. Front-end/Back-end Development full remote (14+ years freelance exp)

Welcoming Projects of All Sizes
Accelerated Development: Opt for my beast-mode development service, perfect for MVPs and projects needing a quick turnaround. With timelines ranging from 28 to 56 days, I’ll ensure your product is test-group ready in just 1-2 weeks.
Long-Term Engagement: Ready to support your projects with consistent productivity for months or years.
Exceptional Rates Without Compromising Quality: Benefit from rates that are up to 2x lower than other counterparts, without any sacrifice in the quality of output. I make premium development services more accessible to you.
Reserved for Genuine Business: To ensure dedicated focus and quality, I reserve my schedule for genuine engagements. This includes high-value, long-term projects, or interesting mid-tier projects.
Effortless for Clients: I aim to eliminate any additional effort on your part.
Project Interests: While I'm open to a wide range of projects, I have a keen interest in:
  • AI & Generative Technologies
  • Automation & Web Scraping
  • API Integration & Development
  • eCommerce Solutions (WITH ACTUAL ROI)
  • Custom Social Media Platforms & Communities
  • Website Cloning & Reverse Engineering
  • Advanced PHP/WordPress Development
  • Data-Driven Applications
  • Mobile App Development
  • Blockchain Technology
  • Web & 2D Games

Contact Me Directly for Offers/Tasks:

Please email me at [rmxttmgg@proton.me](mailto:rmxttmgg@proton.me) with any compelling projects (my response is guaranteed). I prioritize email communication and will not be monitoring comments or chat on Reddit. This helps me maintain focus and ensures I can respond to serious inquiries promptly. Upon receiving your email, I will quickly confirm my availability and discuss next steps. (more info below, keep reading)
No small “fix issue” offers, I prefer trouble-shooting for long-term clients only.
If you're considering hiring remotely, it's best to avoid overly complicated formalities. Simplifying the process can be more beneficial for both end.
Core Development Services:
  • Web & App Development: Expertise in PHP/Laravel, JavaScript/jQuery, NodeJS, ReactJS, CSS for mobile-responsive designs.
  • Full Stack Development: Skilled in both back-end and front-end, ensuring seamless, full-cycle project execution.
  • E-Commerce Solutions: Custom online stores with vendor management, shipping, subscriptions, and integrated payments (e.g., PayPal, Stripe).
  • Dynamic Websites & CMS: Bespoke content management for text, images, and videos.
  • Interactive & Social Media Applications: Development of chat, streaming, and social platforms for engaging user experiences.
  • Data-Driven Interfaces: Creation of map, table, calendar, and data pages for insightful information presentation.

(progress and demo driven approach, no hassle, super smooth transactions, easy to work with!)

Specialized Technical Services:
  • AI & Automation: Advanced implementation of machine learning and AI for automation and smart scripts/servers.
  • API Integration: Fluent in integrating diverse APIs for enhanced functionality and interoperability.
  • Security & Quality Assurance: Commitment to rigorous testing, including penetration tests and code audits, to ensure top-tier security and quality.
(I'm prepared to pick up where the previous developer left off, reorganizing the entire project to not only enhance the overall experience but also to deliver tangible results that will help advance your goals.)
Innovative & Niche Projects:
  • Blockchain & Cryptocurrency: Secure and forward-thinking development in blockchain and crypto projects.
  • Interactive & Game-Based Web Solutions: Custom development for game sites, hobby platforms, and interactive dashboards.
  • Adult, NSFW, and Sensitive Content: Experienced in handling projects of all content types with utmost privacy and professionalism.
  • Application Cloning: Tailored cloning of existing applications to meet specific business needs.
Discord, and Telegram services
Technical Adaptation & Support:
  • Migration & Conversion Services: Expertise in converting or migrating PHP apps to various platforms or updating to the latest versions with a modern stack.
  • Continuous Improvement: Offering unlimited revisions for perfection, adaptability to changes, and comprehensive post-launch support.
  • Diverse Technology Stack: Proficient with PHP, Python, JavaScript, PostgreSQL, and more to accommodate a broad spectrum of tech requirements.
Engagement & Commitment:
  • Problem Solving: Dedicated to identifying and implementing the best solutions to challenges.
  • Precision & Adaptability: Ensuring projects meet exact specifications with meticulous attention to detail and design.
  • Comprehensive Service: From conception to deployment, offering end-to-end services for long-term success.
Rates: Starting at $15-20 per hour, payable in USD/GBP/EUCAD/AUD/NZD etc, BTC/ETH/USDT. Payment methods: Cryptocurrency(preferred), or Wise, Paypal. many other options to accept payments.
Open to negotiation. Higher payments are appreciated but not mandatory. I prioritize projects that genuinely interest me.
For Serious Inquiries: Portfolio and previous work available to legitimate buyers. Please email me at [rmxttmgg@proton.me](mailto:rmxttmgg@proton.me). I prefer to discuss projects via email and chat.
Exclusive Content: Access to my personal site, private demos, prototypes, and live sites is reserved for committed clients only.
Working Hours: Available 7 days a week. Task lists typically finalized within 1-3 days, depending on current workload. FLEXIBLE TIMEZONE
Adaptability: Open to any project changes, ensuring flexibility throughout our collaboration.
Dedicated Focus: Once a project is entrusted to me, it receives my undivided attention, allowing you to focus on other critical areas with peace of mind.
Guarantee: Avoid the frustration of unfulfilled promises from developers. With me, you're assured dedication, focus, and delivery as expected.
Portfolio/Public reddit.com/usermxttmgg/comments/112wy36/rmxttmgg_portfolio/
Contact me (more options), Proof, Transactions, Feedback reddit.com/usermxttmgg/comments/155ghpi/web_developer_for_hire_short_or_long_term_projects/
Unfortunately, I am unable to offer my services for free as I have financial obligations to meet. The compensation I am requesting is both fair and necessary.
As a freelancer, I do not receive health insurance or similar benefits; my earnings are directly tied to my workload/output. Please consider this before offering a lower compensation, or realistically assess whether your budget can support the project you envision.
I am more than willing to go the extra mile for projects or clients that offer a rewarding experience, especially for those projects in which I have a high level of interest. (your service provider eventually go MIA because of change in interests)
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***
Cheers!
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2024.05.15 15:04 Zestyclose_Sort8374 Was I wrong for not visiting my mom more when she was in the hospital?

I’m just wondering if anyone can share their opinion about this situation that happened during Covid and tell me if I was the AH. My parents routinely bring it up and it just seems like it’s time to let it go, but I’m wondering if I really did something very horrible. For background my mom was physically abusive to me and I ‘escaped’ from her insanity about 6 months ago.
I got engaged in Spring 2020, and that summer (so early Covid days) I was a state employee and was asked to work at a Covid test site which soon became a vaccine site. This was 1.5 hours from my house and the hours were 6am-6pm so I was out of my house from 430am-730pm. It was at least 5 days/week, sometimes more. I was so exhausted that I started to lose my vision in 1 eye, that went away as soon as I stopped working those hours. My husband and I also had a small farm, multiple rental properties, there was just a lot going on.
My mom was making my wedding planning an absolute nightmare, she would call me and scream at me bringing up things from before I was even born (issues with my biological dad), sit my husband and I down for hours long discussions about why our wedding planning was selfish, etc. The issue for her was that we wanted a small wedding with only our families (25ish people) and my sister was having a huge $100k+ wedding that fall and we were planning on our small wedding being around that time as well, because I was told I have fertility issues and may not be able to become pregnant so we wanted to move things along quickly. I don’t even know why I entertained her opinions and these conversations but I was just terrified of upsetting her because she would unleash this rage that left me emotionally decimated for days or weeks at a time (I’m in therapy now and feel a lot better). Since our wedding was small we didn’t need any money for it from her and needed very little input from my parents, but I did let them invite some of their friends after enough arguing (it was super awkward and I hated it) and tried to entertain these conversations because they’re my parents.
July 2020 my mom went in for a routine surgery and I guess because she’s in absolutely terrible shape due to never exercising and eating junk food every day plus whatever error the doctor may have made, it turned into a near-death experience and she had to be in the hospital for 2ish weeks and after she went home she had to go back for another week. Lots of tests, infections, resulting in her being discharged ‘healthy’ and she went back to her normal life.
This was the height of my work at the Covid site and I was partly in charge of managing the site. The hospital she was it was an hour away from my house, the opposite direction as the test site. I got coverage and visited my mom a 2 or 3 times the first week she was in the hospital. This was during the heat of the screaming episodes she had at me so I felt really uncomfortable but pretended to be a good daughter and brought her everything I could, like self care packages, sat with her, did her hair, she’d text me when I was a few minutes from the hospital asking me to pick her up some smoothies or sandwiches from a place in the next town over and I’d just do it. When she went home I brought her healthy ready to eat groceries and homemade food that rotted in their refrigerator, while they asked for more. My stepdad was fully available this whole time and I cooked and brought him food too.
My mom would complain that I wasn’t involving her in my wedding plans enough while in the hospital. That was something I didn’t want to discuss with her bc of how stressful the conversations were, I tried to tell her we can talk about it later, but she got really upset and so I gave in and updated her on the progress. Immediately it turned into a fight and she screamed and cried at me. My stepdad called me and absolutely eviscerated me for ‘doing this’ to my mom. I was in shock and didn’t visit her for about a week after that.
A few months after her hospital situation, the calls started coming where she’d cry on the phone about how I never visited her at the hospital, I abandoned her, I’m horrible and selfish, etc. She got her medical records and read through them to try and make a lawsuit which never happened and apparently the only thing she saw in the records was that I was never visiting.
Yes, I could have visited more. But how much more? I wonder what was actually expected of me? I have a life, I was going into a panic freeze mode when I thought of her and completely shut down when I saw her. I was trying my best to balance everything. But now this situation is brought up and I don’t know what to think about it. Now my grandma is in the hospital and it’s turning into the same situation and I don’t know what to do or think.
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2024.05.15 15:04 celestebcg My amazing Bi-Salp Experience at 25!

A lot of write posts about peoples experience with their Bi-Salp helped me prepare for mine so I thought I would post about my personal experience!!
So about three years ago, I got my copper IUD placed. I didn’t want to try any hormonal birth control because I tend to be hormone imbalanced, considering I got my period when I was nine years old and I already had ovarian cyst when I was 12 I didn’t want to add to the mix. For the first two years of me having it because my wedding ended up getting postponed due to Covid January 2023, I got married started my first year with the copper IUD being actually sexually active. I always loved my IUD because of the presence of no side effects. Other than the fact that my periods were terrible my periods would fluctuate from being seven days to eight days to 14 days to 20 days long. Throughout the month, I would always spot and have random cramping and then on the day cycle or the day leading up, I was already spotting a lot.. I would take 800 mg of ibuprofen every four hours for the entirety of my period because I could not Barrett all of this medication definitely affected my gut health. Towards the fall of last year, I felt like my cycles were getting a little lighter. Finally I thought I’m about to be three years with this may be it will be regulating a little more soon even with the copper had an extreme paranoia of anxiety, but I didn’t realize how extreme my anxiety is now that this risk of getting pregnant I felt was so prevalent, even though I had a obsess over people and I didn’t use any other form of birth control like condoms because I didn’t really like how it felt. I was always paranoid sitting on the toilet for hours waiting for everything to come out not doing anything for two weeks out of the month I include my period and then my ovulation week because that would also make me more paranoid. The last few months of a light cycle I got the worst cycles I had ever gotten they lasted about three weeks with giant clotting and in general I would always be having to wear. Diapers. I would wear a diaper with a pad on the inside of it and I would go through that every hour and a half so my blood loss was intense after my cycle I would get super lightheaded and the worst part is that I have always been chronically anemic my whole life I’m also vegetarian. I don’t eat meat.. It was a perfect storm. The anemia was being affected by the IUD blood loss and then I was diagnosed with heavy menstrual hemorrhaging. so in January, I decided to go to the doctor and see if there was any other options. Still, I knew that birth-control with hormones was not some thing I wanted. I was referred to a minimally, invasive, OB/GYN surgeon, and I asked about getting a Bi-Salp. he spoke to me about the whole process, and I was very excited that day we decided to take my IUD out, which thankfully was not as painful as the torturous insertion. His plan was let’s see how my natural cycle after. Take the IUD out if my bleeding regulates and I’m not losing as much blood. Would be a good option, but then it will be evident that the IUD is not the cause and that it’s a further issue and then they were considering doing a hysterectomy so that I would no longer get a cycle and I wouldn’t have to worry about my anemia by taking the IUD out sure enough my cycles got better two months and my cycles went from a two week. 22 Would be a good option, but then it will be evident that the IUD is not the cause and that it’s a further issue and then they were considering doing a hysterectomy so that I would no longer get a cycle and I wouldn’t have to worry about my anemia, but by taking the IUD out sure enough my cycles got better two months and my cycles went from a two week period to a 2 to 3 day. to 3 day period. Not even days after removing my copper IUD I felt so much relief. I felt a fullness disappear that I didn’t even realize was there in the first place and a lot of other things changed to my skin got clear and overall I felt less anxious. I believe that the copper in the IUD had been causing me some sort of copper toxicity. so after two months, I called the doctor and told him that my period had gotten better so I went back and we schedule the Bi-Salp. So I went two months without any birth control and stayed away from my husband. Lol, thankfully at the end of the two months I was able to get my surgery and a week before my surgery. I went to a regular visit with my OB and they did an ultrasound and they saw that they’re good possibly be a polyp on my uterus so when they went in to do my procedure, they also did a Oppie with to see if there was any polyps and remove the polyps that were there. They also found some cysts that they removed and I also had some endometriosis growing on my left tube and ovary thankfully they were able to remove! For the surgery and leading up to it, I stayed away away from any foods that would make me gassy and anything that would constipate me. I was drinking MiraLAX in my tea every night for the week leading up to the surgery.
Surgery day of: On the morning of the surgery, I was advised to not take my Vyvanse, which I use for anxiety and ADHD. So I skipped it and just drink water since I have been fasting since 10 PM the night before. When I arrive to the hospital, I was able to go to the bathroom thankfully and then started getting prepped for surgery. They obviously had me do a urine test and then got me set up with my IV where they would insure all of my meds this was very painful, but I sat and waited before I was feeling loopy. They gave me the anti-stress and anxiety medication before they administered the anesthesia and suddenly I was knocked out. All I remember is walking into the surgery room and thinking wow this is like Grey’s Anatomy and then knocking out next thing, I remember I wake up in the room and I am very groggy and out of it. Thankfully, the anesthesia did not cause nausea. The hardest part during this transition was getting me to pee because I kept wanting to fall asleep so badly but they kept telling me if I didn’t pee then I wouldn’t be able to go home to finally sleep so I was bloated and swollen And I finally peed the second time. After that, I was discharged and my family did a great job at trying to keep me awake while we drove home because I was asleep in the car that could get nauseous and throw up, which would hurt my belly from making those kind of movements. Thankfully, I got home and I knocked out on the couch. I woke up dazed and confused but feeling a lot better and refreshed. I felt good for about an hour and then the pain started, but not any sort of abdominal pain from the surgery itself. It was just the Thankfully, I got home and I knocked out on the couch. I woke up dazed and confused but feeling a lot better and refreshed. I felt good for about an hour and then the pain started, but not any sort of abdominal pain from the surgery itself. It was just the pain from the gas pain from the laparoscopic surgery. This pain was definitely intense and it progressed my worst day was the day after the surgery. But that same night after the surgery was difficult because I could not find any position where I was comfortable. I was taking Gas-X every two hours charcoal pills every two hours and ibuprofen and Tylenol alternated every four hours. They gave me OXY if I wanted to take it, but I never did because I didn’t wanna get constipated and I really didn’t feel any pain that the oxy could resolve pain medication does not resolve gas pain. First night I slept propped up with a lot of pillows around me holding my belly holding me from every position where I could put more weight to add pain to my body well, I didn’t really sleep that night, but I tried to sleep, but I rested upright on the couch and I was up maybe every hour going to pee and walking around because the best advice I could give is just walk as much as it hurts. Everything hurts with these gas pain so I feel better to be walking around in pain than to be sitting down, knowing that I’m not actually resolving any of the gases that is the only way the gases will escape your body. That was exhausting because I could not sleep as much as I wanted to. the day was extremely painful trapped in my ribs. It felt like someone had a split my ribs but again I had no tenderness or soreness in my abdomen no cramping anything like that. I complain the most and the most uncomfortable part of everything was just being very very bloated and not being able to suck in my stomach. I’m naturally a very thin person so having my stomach was frustrating because none of my clothes fit me comfortably. The bloating started from the top of my rib cage all the way down. But I kept up with charcoal pills and Gas-X, and I’m thinking the charcoal definitely help because I would notice a difference after taking that even more so than the Gas-X. I finally was able to go to the bathroom after the surgery and thankfully it was a smooth transition to going into the bathroom. I’m sure the MiraLAX helped because of that and I had hardly been eating because my stomach was so swollen and were so severe that even one bite of food in my stomach would make everything swell up even more and it it would hurt me. So those first few days I kept it very light. The second night after the surgery was another miserable night. I almost cried that night because I thought I was gonna lose my mind. I hadn’t slept or napped all day because the pain would prevent me from being able to rest in a comfortable position and then all night again, I did not sleep, those were the hardest 2 nights. The following day I saw a tiny bit of progress with the gas pain. But eventually, I think I got used to it by Saturday surgery having been Monday. I felt significantly better still very swollen but better. Sunday I left the house for the first time got ready put normal clothes on. The loosest clothes that I had. And that was nice to finally leave the house and try to do something normal, came back and was definitely exhausted and rested for the rest of the day by this point I was no longer taking any pain medication. Just the charcoal pills. By Monday I was feeling significantly better. I had gotten my cycle over the weekend and it was not a very painful cycle. Just a little bit of mild cramping and bleeding but nothing crazy on Wednesday. I had my follow up appointment a week and a half after surgery and I was cleared for all activity and just told to be careful with how heavy things are when I lift them to stay away from anything more than 30 pounds. I had sex for the first time in three months because of the fact that I had no birth control before my surgery for those two months when they had taken my IUD out. It was a little bit painful because my body had gotten used to sex and no penetration at all. Very quickly my bodygot used to it again. And I enjoyed it so much. I was scared to have an orgasm because I had heard online that some people complained of cramping after the orgasm, but I had no cramping at all only enjoyment. The fact that I was able to do everything I wanted without any anxiety that I would get pregnant without having to do anything to prevent that was liberating and it literally has improved my sex life incredibly and just the short amount of time today I am 2 1/2 weeks postop. And I feel great. My incisions are healing really well and I’m about to start using scar tape for the scars. I have barely any gases. My stomach is as flat as it normally is, and I’ve been feeling wonderful. The only thing I noticed after my surgery was a little bit of breaking out right after the surgery, but they said that that was normal since a lot of the drugs and medicine they put into your system for surgery is basically detoxing after you come out of surgery so it comes out of your body in different ways. I do not regret this surgery. It has completely changed my mindset towards life. I feel free finally. I’m sure my age has a lot to do with my recovery time and overall I’m a very sickly person for my age so I was expecting for this recovery to take me weeks to months, but I am feeling wonderful. I’m about to be the maid of honor for a wedding this Friday and I feel no restraint and dancing or anything of this sort. I’m grateful I didn’t get any soreness or pain in my abdomen after the surgery and that all I had to deal with was the severe gas pain. I know that is not everyone’s experience, but that was mine and I’m very happy with it. Just wanted to share some details on how everything went and hopefully this can be helpful to someone. Thankfully, my insurance covered most of the procedure and all I had to pay was $1,500. I have never been happier with a decision in my life.
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