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2012.02.18 22:58 Taking the stress out of student success

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2024.05.14 12:45 42rodents How to improve speaking and writing skills (when listening and reading comprehension are already high)?

I live in the US and work at a German-speaking company, so German is my main language for 40 hours per week. There are a few americans like me but most are either German citizens or dual citizens.
I am at the mid level management and work every closely with regional management so we discuss a variety of important topics regularly. There are very few moments I don’t understand something in German, and usually that happens at lunch when people are speaking more casually and about something niche. So my listening and reading is at a very high level.
The problem is I express myself poorly. Some of it is a “me” problem, not a language problem (I often trip over my words in English—my brother calls it my “verbal dyslexia”) but some of it is just when I go to speak I can’t recall the right words on the spot, or it is so difficult to determine the right case while speaking) and it really limits how I express myself. Although my speaking is enough for me to “get-by” at my job, it’s nothing I’m proud of. My writing is definitely better than speaking but I would also like to be able to write a little quicker than I do now.
I’ve been working here for 2 years and I just assumed that the immersion would be enough to sharpen my skills, but I’m worried it’s not. I’ve probably progressed more in the past two years than I realize, but I still feel uncomfortable with it.
TLDR: Are there any recommendations to improving speaking and writing skills when reading and listening comprehension is high? 40 h week immersion doesn’t seem to be enough to make the progress I want
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2024.05.14 12:43 clash8920 Can't sleep and im bored. Keep me company??

Hello everyone. I am 24 year old living in the midwest and I am looking for new friends to talk with. I want to get to know all of you people as well as share things about myself. I welcome everyone as long as you keep it friendly and clean!
I am 420 🌿 and lgbt 🏳️‍🌈 friendly!
Im a introverted kind of person who generally prefers to stay indoors but im trying to be more social and get over my fear of the outside 🙃 especially since I live in such a beautiful state. I enjoy lots of music but my favorite genre is metal and im always looking for new music to listen to and share. I have spotify and im down to share playlists!
Im down to talk about whatever. Whether its your day, about yourself, your plans or anything else you got going on.
Hope to talk to yall.
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2024.05.14 12:43 Emmanuel-Vincent Dilemma

I have been using OnePlus 8t for the past 3 and a half years, I got the greenline issue on it again for the second time , but this time there is a small crack in the screen. So , I looked up in Amazon the phone exchange comes up to 9.5k incl bonus for 12r and effectively the phone price is 29k for 12r . On OnePlus 12 there is extra exchange bonus whic takes the exchange value upto 16k and the final price is 48k . which one should I choose between the two 12 and 12r ? My initial budget was around 30k and seeing OnePlus 12 48k just increased my confusion...
Also is there any reports of OnePlus 12 and 12r getting the greenline in the screen?
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2024.05.14 12:43 Dull-Name-6213 Confused by an infp female

Im an isfp male who was just chilling in class till i had my first interaction with this infp female. The year was fresh so i didn't really know her personally, she is super quiet and acts so serious most of the time. She sat next to me for the very first time and we hasn't talked much.. it was kinda awkward. After some time she got to know me a bit more.. we started to talk more.. and i started to know her better too. I just realized that she has a 'cute' side or something that she just dosen't show to anyone. I loved that side and i really liked how mysterious she is. We were sitting next to each other like everyday.. and i started to try to ask her some questions and throw some light jokes and some shit like that. She was acting so cold. After like one month passed i realized that she is actually following my friend and she actually sat behind him on purpose (cuz his best friend always sat next to him).. i wasn't really sure about her chasing for him thing until some time passed and she started to show more interest towards him and i just got it. All that happened and i was confused why she invites me to sit next to her while chasing him by sitting around him a lot. I had some kind of feelings for her and i didn't have such a great connection with her so i chose to move on. I can't fake being her 'friend' while having feelings for her. So i stopped sitting next to her and when she invites me i simply refuse. I didn't really ghost her or anything cruel, i just wanted to limit contact as a defense mechanism. She likes him and im sure but what i didn't get yet that she acts so goofy towards me and tease me a lot and smile when she sees me and while i was sitting alone i noticed many times that her best friend stares at me but i act like i didn't see her. What really confused me, that she treat us (me and him) so differently from others. She tease us, act goofy toward us and smile at us when she see us and all kind of interest signs. But for others she acts so cold.. just how she acted towards me at the beginning of the year. As the time passes we had 1 on 1 conversations and she was super talkative like i never imagined. And she became more interested.. i usually have the resting bitch face so whenever she sees me she thinks im sad and asks me if something is wrong. All of that yet she still chase him. One day we were in class and she started crying so much, that i felt shit for her and sat next to her and supported her emotionally.. i showed her that i care and told her that what she is feeling is totally ok and i spent two hours discussing what happened to her and i ever told her some emberrasing stuff that happened to me in the past just to make her smile. Im not a chase and im not a nice guy, i just wanted to provide her with the same support she gave me. Until she was okay again. The guy who she used to chase just told her ' to stop drama '. After some time she asked me a favor.. and ' please brother ' And here i got pissed off and just acted normal and i was thinking to really ghost her forever after that cuz she gave me hope after i moved on completely and now she destroyed my hopes. I remember that i was so mad that day and went for a long walk alone thinking about the whole situation and how girls just like assholes not someone who respects them. This time it was hard to move on and i just took a week off just to "process my feelings" cuz i really got obsessed with her for a long time and its hard to completely move on now. I get attached to people so fast. After that week i remember the day i was back.. she was extremely happy to see me or something and she came to me and teased me so much and i sat next to me and started talking and she said " I really like to teaasee you UwU " One day i came to school and she was so excited and told me to sit in front of her cuz she was sitting next to her bestfriend.. then i said okay whatever. Then her bestfriend was going to the bathroom and then she came sat next to me instantly and her best friend said so you're going to leave me alone then? She said no i will sit next to you when you're back. And then from here we started talking and she was asking me some personal questions and then we started talking about some deep and personal stuff. I asked her stuff about her personality and she answered me and the conversation was going so great.. she asked me to leave the classroom with her and i just refused but she didn't leave and sat next to me anyway. I noticed that she doesn't chase him much like she used to and she sit randomly in class yet she still jokes with him and stuff.
After that long story i just want to know what is going on, why she is giving me mixed signals and she acts interrested on both of us. If she doesn't like me romantically why acts that way.. why she just doesn't treat me like anyone else. Im really confused and i need an advice from you INFPs
Thank you so much for reading.
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2024.05.14 12:42 Tireddepressedstress Nightmares

I feel like I've come to a point in my life where I am just now learning how to cope with the fact that my childhood was not a normal one. I was verbally and emotionally abused, as well as being secluded from the world and basic human development skills due to religion.
The past month however I've been having terrible nightmares. In these nightmares I go back to sobbing and wishing so bad that I could turn back time and redo life.
I wish I could have gone to a public high school ot at the very least have been able to interact with kids my own age.
I wish I could have gone to a prom, or even just have been able to express myself in general.
Everything that I wanted growing was taking away from me. I wanted to dance but couldn't because it was "demonic".
I wanted to just be a normal fucking child but everything that normal children did was "evil" so I couldn't participate.
I feel like I've missed out and because I can't get that time back, it feels like I truly never got to experience life the way it is supposed to be lived.
I often wonder if this is really hell and I'm just going to have to deal with it. I fear ever being I'm a relationship as I was forbidden from normal human interaction.
I'm lonely most of time and I try so hard to move forward and heal and live in the present bur I feel like I'll never truly be happy. Once I came to term with the fact that none of my childhood trauma was my fault I feel like it broke me. It feels like my soul died and I fear I'll never get it back.
I've learned ways to cope, but still I feel so dull.
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2024.05.14 12:42 experts_on_demand 10 Best AI Apps for iPhone and Android in 2024

Artificial intelligence (AI) is no longer limited to science fiction movies. It's woven into the fabric of our daily lives, quietly working behind the scenes to enhance our smartphone experience. From streamlining communication to fueling creative expression, AI-powered apps determine the mannerisms through which we interact with our mobile devices.
In this article, we will look at the ten best apps for iPhone and Android. Alongside this, we will weigh their pros and cons for optimal transparency. Make better data-driven decisions with AI and big data by the end of this article. Here are our top ten picks.

1. Otter.ai

Drowning in sticky notes and illegible handwriting? Otter.ai is your AI-powered solution for effortless note-taking. This app uses real-time speech recognition to transcribe conversations and lectures as they happen.
Focus on the present moment during meetings, interviews, or classes, knowing Otter.ai captures every word. Search through the transcribed text later to pinpoint key points, revisit specific moments, and ensure you never miss a crucial detail again.
Pros: Ditch notes, capture every word, easy search later
Cons: Less clarity, limited free storage, freemium account

2. Grammarly

Grammarly is one of the top ten Android apps for users. Its AI-powered app analyzes your text, identifying grammatical errors, typos, and awkward phrasing. It doesn't just point out mistakes but also suggests corrections and improvements.
Whether crafting an email, composing a social media post, or tackling a report, Grammarly ensures your message shines.
It can even suggest synonyms to enhance your vocabulary and recommend different sentence structures for smoother flow. With Grammarly by your side, you can confidently write, knowing your communication is clear, concise, and polished.
Pros: Flawless writing, improves clarity, boosts vocabulary
Cons: Limited free features, over-reliance, lack of human editorship

3. Moises App

Moises uses AI to separate audio tracks, allowing you to remove vocals from a song to create karaoke tracks or isolate specific instruments for musical experimentation. This app is a treasure trove for musicians, music lovers, and anyone who wants to get creative with audio manipulation.
Pros: Create Karaoke tracks, isolate instruments for remixes, a treasure trove for music lovers
Cons: Mandatory subscription, may require high-quality audio, limited editing features

4. Lensa

Lensa takes your selfies and transforms them into captivating works of art. Explore a library of artistic styles, from classic oil paintings and Renaissance portraits to whimsical cartoon filters and edgy pop art.
Lensa.ai utilizes AI to blend your features with these artistic styles, thereby creating unique and personalized digital masterpieces.
What’s more? You can even experiment with various filters, find your perfect artistic doppelganger, and share your creations on social media to impress your followers. Whether you crave a touch of artistic grandeur or a playful cartoon makeover, Lensa.ai offers a fun and creative way to see yourself in a whole new light.
Pros: AI art makeover, explore art styles, fun social media fodder
Cons: In-app purchases, subjective taste in art, privacy concerns

5. ELSA Speak

Regarded as one of the top ten apps for iPhone, Elsa is a pioneer in language development. Struggling with English pronunciation? Look no further than ELSA Speak, your AI-powered English coach. This app utilizes AI to analyze your spoken English, identifying areas for improvement. It provides personalized feedback on your pronunciation, highlighting sounds and words that need work.
ELSA Speak goes beyond simple corrections. It offers interactive lessons and exercises to help you master specific sounds and improve your fluency.
With regular practice and ELSA Speak's guidance, you can gain the confidence to speak English clearly and effectively in any situation.
Pros: Personalized feedback, improves pronunciation, gains speaking fluency
Cons: Limited languages, requires commitment, subscription format

6. WOMBO Dream

Ever feel creatively blocked or simply yearn for your inner artist? Look no further than WOMBO Dream. This art generator takes the reins, transforming your simple text prompts into unique and captivating paintings.
Describe a "mystical underwater city" or a "portrait of a courageous astronaut" to the app. WOMBO Dream uses its artistic intelligence to translate your words into stunning visuals. Explore a variety of artistic styles, from dreamlike landscapes to classic oil paintings.
With this app, anyone can become an art director, generating conversation-starting masterpieces in seconds.
Pros: AI art generator, explore creative prompts, instant artwork
Cons: Limited control, subscription for extensive styles, lack of artistic interpretation
Overwhelmed with AI? Here’s a step-by-step guide to AI basics and platforms.

7. Color by Number

This app takes the classic coloring-by-number concept and injects a dose of AI. It utilizes AI to generate unique pixel art coloring pages based on various themes and styles. While coloring is a relaxing and therapeutic activity, the AI-generated aspect adds a touch of novelty and keeps things interesting for creative minds.
Pros: Short video clips, caption comprehension, target language learning
Cons: Lacks broader understanding of the topic, requires internet connectivity, does not emphasize speaking or writing

8. Socratic by Google

Stuck on a homework problem and traditional methods aren't cutting it? Look no further than Socratic by Google! This learning app is your virtual study buddy. Simply snap a picture of your math problem, science question, or even a historical passage you're struggling with.
Socratic uses its AI smarts to analyze the content and provide you with step-by-step explanations, relevant videos, and alternative solution methods.
It even tackles multiple subjects, making it a versatile tool for various academic challenges. While Socratic can't solve every problem for you, it acts as a powerful guide, helping you understand concepts and develop problem-solving skills for future success.
Pros: Step-by-step solutions, multiple subjects supported, explanatory videos
Cons: Limited problem-solving types, limited solving capabilities, best for understanding concepts

9. Adobe Premiere Rush

This is a great option for anyone who wants to create and edit professional-looking videos on their phone. It has a simple and intuitive interface, but it also offers a wide range of features, including the ability to add multiple video clips, music, and titles.
You can also use Premiere Rush to adjust the color and lighting of your videos and to add special effects.
Pros: Easy to use, mobile-friendly editing, rich asset library
Cons: Limited features, cloud dependence, export restrictions

10. PlayPhrase

This app combines AI and language learning to create a fun and interactive experience. PlayPhrase uses AI to analyze short videos and generate captions in multiple languages. You can choose a video clip, and select the target language you're learning, and the app will transcribe the audio with captions.
Pros: Engaging video clips, interactive learning experience, multilingual options
Cons: Limited context, Excessive comprehension, needs web connectivity
Read more: Take Your First Step With an AI Basics Course For Beginners
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2024.05.14 12:41 JamesNintendoTurd The Post Slobs Era in detail

As you may remember, the slobs went out with an amazing bang in 2021. That was a banner year of horrible content at Cinemassacre. The podcast, BTS, plagiarized monster madness, shitting out awful AVGNs every two weeks in a mad dash to get episode 200 out by Christmas. Which ep 200 also really sucked.
Remember the first post slobs video? When James was going to get back to basics and make videos on topics he liked. It was that damn VHS tribute video. Which was I think the third ode to VHS he had made. Boy if that wasn’t a sign of things to come. The Post Slobs Era could be renamed the Reheated Leftovers Era. Bimmy, just bankrupt of ideas, has been rehashing old topics and treading over the same ground for two years now. Here’s an itemized list of him recycling his own content:
  1. VHS memories
  2. Nosferatu 100th anniversary
  3. The Last Ninja (where he attempts to recreate his old style and look, the first self nostalgic moment.)
  4. Lloyd Kaufman returns! 5 Contra How I Remember It, including his recounting of the time he beat the game before school. Which is like his fifth retelling of that story.
  5. Joe Bob Briggs returns!
  6. Top Gun NES revisited, for a nonsensical comparison of an 8 bit game with a modern movie sequel.
  7. Rocky Climbed a Mountain (remember when he jumped a park bench?)
  8. Doom! Him talking more about his limited experiences with Doom and sharing the same two stories about it.
  9. Indiana Jones AVGN. He once more tried to mimic his own older style, doing the meta self nostalgic bit again.
  10. Beating Jekyll and Hyde. I can’t remember if this was his 3rd or 4th video on this obscure NES game. Just member berries
  11. And now more Castlevania. Because he hasn’t spoken enough about Castlevania and that fucking eight directional whip from Super Castlevania 4. Did anyone really need to hear this guy whining about the whip again. Bonus #13. Neighbor Nerds. Which is the off brand James and Mike Mondays. Only James doesn’t have to leave his house.
I mean damn. The Slobs produced a ton of awful content, but I’ll give them credit for trying some things. At least they were able to get Bimdog out of his comfort zone. He’s been in nothing but his comfort zone the past two years and it’s been a total snooze fest.
What is your prediction for his next bit of recycled content?
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2024.05.14 12:40 Specialist_Bake6514 Vapiano P3: Italian Food Made in Germany

Vapiano P3: Italian Food Made in Germany
The kitchen is on fire. Welcome to the final part of the Vapiano story where the tables are turning. In the first two episodes we followed Mark Korzilius' journey from setbacks to founding Vapiano, a groundbreaking restaurant concept, highlighting its fresh ingredients, dynamic atmosphere, and data-driven operations that drove rapid success. While achieving initial profitability and garnering attention from industry giants like McDonald's, Vapiano's global expansion has led to stellar revenue growth. However, it has also resulted in the emergence of numerous side projects (or distractions), operational challenges, increased costs, significant investments, and a notable accumulation of debt. This underscores the prioritization of top-line growth over profitable growth. We will continue on this thread and see how the story ends, but I would encourage you to read part one and two for better context. Vapiano P1: Italian Food Made in Germany (substack.com). Let's dig in.
Before Going Public
We are now in 2015 and the year is a disaster for Vapiano's PR department. Employee time stamps are being manipulated, endless overtime for employees and high turnover in managerial roles are reported; mice in the kitchen and even rotten food allegedly found.
The company is confronted with allegations of exceeding working hours among trainees in an article published by Welt am Sonntag, while the same outlet accuses Vapiano of manipulating punch times. The auditing firm PwC is commissioned to investigate the allegations and finds that there is no systematic approach but rather misconduct by individual employees, a mistake that’s being corrected. Internal however, investigations into stamp times are carried out regularly now and beyond its obvious reputational impact, this sucks up valuable management time and attention.
In the summer of 2015 CEO, co-founder and investor Gregor Gerlach, who has been running the group since 2011 is stepping down and Jochen Halfmann is taking over. A new Vapiano People Program with an App is being developed with the aim to better interact with customers that will incorporate innovate features such as mobile pay. The German website sees a launch of new magazine to further promote the brand and there is now a full inhouse blogger and Instagram team being installed. In October the company buys seven restaurants from original co-founder, former co-investor and ex-president previously responsible for internation expansion Kent Hahne (2x Bonn, 3x Cologne, 1x Koblenz and one in Cologne that’s under construction). This package of Vapiano restaurants is very successful and generates net sales of more than 20 million euros in 2014. Hahne opened his first Vapiano restaurant in Cologne in August 2006 and in 2015 with his company apeiron AG, Hahne operates six L'Osteria franchise restaurants, a direct Vapiano competitor, and two self-owned restaurants GinYuu.
Then in November of 2015, the next public relations bomb goes off with allegations regarding the company's quality standards. The company immediately investigates the issue through internal and external specialists but finds no evidence of any quality issues. Nevertheless, knowing that the group is now being closely watched, the company’s already in place hygiene standards are being reinforced. Additional audits and inspections are performed nationally. Further, all Vapianos worldwide are being audited twice by the partners SGS Institut Fresenius and SAI Global. Auditing software is purchased to simplify the implementation of the audits and the resulting measures. Apart from the external examinations, there is a food sampling plan in place being performed continuously. Again, all of this sucks up costs, management time and attention. With all these tumultuous developments the company’s growth engine is undeterred. Revenue grows by a whopping 50 million euros to 202 million euros, an increase of 33%. Impressive. While average spent per customer increases in all countries, the number of customers per day in Germany decreases by 3.3% partially due to the negative press towards the end of the year. Five own, four JV and 19 new franchise restaurants are added that year to the group, the total number of own managed restaurants grows to 51, there are 31 JVs and 84 franchises which bringing the total to 166 Vapiano restaurants. Global restaurant sales are now above 400 million euros.
But while revenue grows by an astronomical 50 million euros, operating profits, alarmingly, shrink again. Gross margins are staying perfectly healthy above 75% but operating costs keep growing disproportionately fast. The Company’s outstanding debt jumps by almost 30 million, close to 85 million euros by the end of the year. With operating profits at 9.5 million euros, alarm bells should be going off right now.
In Q4 of 2015, new CEO Jochen Halfmann introduces Strategy 2020. The new strategy includes five essential points. One, profitable growth in the newly defined core markets of Germany and Austria as well as in the UK, Netherlands, France and USA. Two, operational excellence through strict “best practice” management. Three, further development and digitalization of the concept considering guest feedback. Four, greater focus on long-term employee retention and five, building a modern and sustainable IT landscape. Sound’s good on paper but let’s see how things pan out.
Vapiano's investments (capital expenditures) that year are primarily directed towards new restaurant openings, renovations of existing establishments, and share acquisitions in other Vapiano restaurants from franchisees or JV partners. A significant portion of funds is allocated to the digitalization of the guest experience, including the development of a new app scheduled for market release in 2016 and the implementation of a time recording system across all group restaurants. The world's first standalone Vapiano restaurant with a delivery service that year is built in Fürth, Germany. The company keeps expanding its presence in both inner-city locations and international markets, such as Shanghai, China.
To finance all of this, the group has its own operating cash flow which comes in at 18 million while capital expenditures are 26 million euros plus 14 million for acquisitions. The funding gab is filled with 26 million euros of new debt and a seven-million-euro equity raise. At that end of the year and after the equity raise Gregor Gerlach (through his AP Leipzig GmbH & Co. KG entity) holds 30.1%, Hans-Joachim and Gisa Sander through their Exchange Bio GmbH hold 25.5% and the Tchibo heirs, Herz through their Mayfair Beteiligungsfonds II GmbH & Co. KG hold 44,4%.
But for the first time the restaurant’s concept that was so successful to date is being questioned. Some customers are starting to mislike the operational flow of the concept itself. If you want pasta, you must queue for pasta. If you want pizza you stand in a different queue. A small side salad, yet another queue. "You spend more time carrying trays than an actress in Berlin-Mitte. The audience in the pasta limbo can only consist of people who have worked for an insurance company for a long time and, like Stockholm syndrome, they can no longer get away from the industrial canteen feeling," writes TV host Beisenherz provocatively. While overly harsh in his assessment he's not entirely wrong judging by customers venting their frustrations in forums and social media channels. It isn’t uncommon for those who ordered pizza to have already finished eating while there is little movement in the pasta queue. Long term that doesn't go down well, QSRs competitors like L’Osteria are handling this process differently, with much success.
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Tipping Point

Where are now in the year 2016 and things start to deteriorate visibility. Perhaps not for the leman’s eye but any business minded observer can see that there are problems under the hood. Yes, revenue grows yet another whopping 50 million to almost 250 million euros but half of that growth, comes from acquisitions of restaurants that the group didn’t already own 100%, which is now being fully consolidated within the group’s accounts. Here is a concrete example. In the past, Vapiano SE, the group’s top holding company held an indirect 50% stake in a French subgroup via the subsidiary VAP Restaurants SA, based in Luxembourg, and included this as an associated company in the Vapiano SE consolidated financial statements using the equity method. Due to the acquisition of additional shares in September of 2016, Vapiano SE's indirect share in the French subgroup increased to 75%. This means that Vapiano SE takes control of the French subgroup, which is therefore included in the group’s financial statements as part of the full consolidation. The revenue from the acquired subsidiary now recorded in the consolidated income statement amounts to 12.8 million euros. While that’s great for the top line, the loss of the fully consolidated entity equates to 0.2 million euros. Yes, you are buying revenue, but there are losses attached to them, not profits. A similar case is the Swedish entity that runs eight restaurants with revenue of 11.5 million euros but has losses of 235 thousand euros. So much for Strategy 2020 and “profitable” growth.
That year the group’s operating profits are absolutely tanking, halving to 3.5 million euros. Operating profits are now a mere 1,4% of revenue. Remember original founder Mark Korzilius who talked about operating margins of 25% to 28% at the restaurant level? Yes, there are overhead costs for the organization that sits above the chain of restaurants, but operating margins that low indicates a course correction is needed. What’s telling is that in the annual report, in the management discussion section, the company starts talking about EBITDA as a proxy measure of profitability, rather than operating profit or net income. This wasn’t the case in the years before. Is this window dressing for an upcoming IPO? EBITDA is short for earnings before interest, tax, depreciation, and amortization. How can you measure profitability of a restaurant chain that absolutely and unequivocally needs capital investment to maintain its restaurant operations, the very source of cash generation, by simply excluding this maintenance charge (depreciation in the income statement)? Vapiano’s own annual report talks about the fact that existing restaurants must be rejuvenated from time to time and that new interior designs have to be implemented every few years. These things wear and tear, they go out of style, kitchen equipment breaks and needs replacement. This business absolutely needs maintenance capital expenditure, why anyone talks of profits before these maintenance costs is beyond me. Fun fact: in the previous annual report EBITDA is mentioned seven times, mostly around restaurant acquisitions and financing, not however as a profit indication for the group. In the new annual report, EBITDA is mentioned 28 times. Maybe it’s just me but belated Charlie Munger liked to call EBITDA: bullsh*t earnings. When in doubt I stick with Charlie. Interestingly, EBITDA for Vapiano keeps growing while operating and net profits keep falling.
Operating cashflow for the group that year is about 21 million euros, but capital expenditure is 30 million and acquisitions for subsidiaries another 20 million. To finance these expenditures another 28 million euros of debt and 16 million of equity is raised. Net debt rises above 130 million euro. The operating cashflow of the group before any capital expenditures is 21 million euros. I am not sure free cash flow would be significantly positive after maintenance capex is paid out; it’s not broken out so we can’t be sure. Granted, I am not on the ground during this time, and I am not in the board room, I am simply reading what’s in front of me, but to me this is starting to look like a distressed situation. Regardless, the following year the company goes public.

IPO

Where are now in the year 2017 and its Vapiano’s first year as public company. The company’s annual report reads the following “Sales revenue, like-for-like growth (LfL) and the earnings figures EBITDA and adjusted EBITDA are used as the most important financial performance indicators for controlling operational business activities.” The very same report however also says: “The majority of the group's investments regularly go towards opening new restaurant locations and modernizing existing restaurants. The latter are differentiated into regular replacement investments that occur during ongoing operations (Maintenance CAPEX) and fundamental investments in the renovation of a restaurant (Remodeling CAPEX). On average, a restaurant remodeling takes place nine years after opening.” It says it right there in their own report; every nine years a remodeling is taking place. Remodeling and updating is not cost free, so why exclude depreciation charges which reflect capital expenditures? I understand that perhaps you would want to strip out one-off opening costs, that’s fine and fair, but don’t go overboard.
The number of restaurants increases by 26 (previous year: 13) to a total of 205. The increase consists of 27 new openings and one closure. Group revenue grows to an astonishing 325 million euros but here comes the shocker, operating profits turn negative to 25 million. Fine, strip out foreign exchange losses of 3 million, IPO costs of 5.8 million and new opening costs of 6.1 million and you still have 10 million euros of operational losses. All the while the debt load of almost 130 million hasn’t materially changed, so those operating losses are before a six-million-euro interest payment. 184 million euros are raised through the IPO of which 85 million go to the company. This money is earmarked for further expansion as the group has ambitions to almost double the footprint to 330 restaurants by the end of 2020. The company is currently not profitable on an operating basis, and still wants to expand aggressively? I don’t get it. The remaining 100 million euros of the IPO money raised is distributed to co-founder Gregor Gerlach and Wella heirs Hans-Joachim and Gisa Sander. The family office of the former Tchibo owners Günter and Daniela Herz with a 44% stake, don’t sell a single share. After the IPO, 32% of all the company’s shares are now in free float.
One year later, in 2018, things get even worse. Revenue grows to 371 million, but operating losses mount to 85 million euros, that’s before interest expenses of 9 million. Even the beloved EBITDA figure turns negative, meaning the operating business before any expansionary or even maintenance capital expenditures is loss making. All regions are experiencing significant deterioration in their earnings profiles. Like for like sales are down 1% across the board. That’s revenue, not profitability. The question naturally arises: is the Group approaching its natural saturation point here or this operational by nature? The operating cash flow is now 9 million while financing cost are close to 7 million. That leaves 2 million for maintenance capital for 74 own restaurants and 76 joint ventures ones. Describing this as financially tight, would be an understatement.
Things are not looking good at this point. Yet the company still grows restaurants by 26 new sites. 64 million euros are spent on acquisitions, new openings, and maintenance costs, financed through a 20 million-euro equity raise and 72 million of new debt. The Company now has net debt outstanding of over 160 million euros. After the equity raise and by the end of the year 2018, Mayfair owns 47.4%, VAP Leipzig, Gregor Gerlach’s entity owns 18.9% and the Sander couple own 15.5% of the company. Yes, the Sanders and Gerlach may have taken 100 million euros off the table, but they still have substantial skin in the game. Plus, Mayfair hasn’t sold a single share and instead injects more money into the company through the equity round. The stock has now fallen from its IPO price of 23 euros per share to under 6 euros by the end of 2018. Something must be done here. And indeed, there is pivot in strategy and a hard push for change. At last, the management team abandons its aggressive growth plan and curtails new openings significantly. Additionally, the team wants to run a thorough analysis of weak locations to then either discontinue or sell sites. In Europe, the operating focus will be put on corporate restaurants and joint ventures in major cities to ensure the ideal size and location to match the respective demographic target group. Outside of Europe, the franchising business is being expanded and at the same time a consolidation of the existing corporate and joint venture markets is being sought. All future investments will be reviewed to achieve higher rates of returns on new openings. Investments are also being made in the renovation of older restaurants. The goal in the future is to also open smaller formats, like Mini-Vapianos (less than 400 square meters) or Freestander at prominent transportation hubs outside city centers (currently in Fürth and Toulouse) to cater to individual location requirements, and to enter new partnerships. I am not sure why management hasn’t stopped all expansion altogether, bringing the ship in order first, getting profitable, clean up, all hands-on deck before considering any further expansions whatsoever. But again, it’s easy to comment from the sidelines; maybe they saw white spaces that would be covered by competing concepts if they weren’t moving fast and aggressively enough. Although pushing internationally means competing with local players such as Jamie's Italian, Prezzo, Pizza Express, Wagamama, Nando's and many more which brings in its own dynamic.
Management also aims to enhance guest satisfaction. This involves refining operational processes, reorganizing the support center, and refocusing on the core offering: providing fresh and high-quality Italian food at affordable prices for a broad audience. The group also aims to reduce waiting times, especially during lunch, while also improving the evening atmosphere. There is even what I would call an evolution, away from Vapiano’s original concept, reorientating the customer journey. The ordering flow is being changed, offering guests synchronized preparations of all dishes while eliminating wait times at the cooking stations. The open show kitchen remains, staying true to original mantra of freshness and transparency but now guests can choose their preferred method of ordering through a mobile app, using a digital order point (kiosk), or by personally placing an order with a waiter. Guests can still freely choose their table and are then informed about the complete preparation of their order through a pager or their smartphone. This is a substantial deviation from the original concept, but a needed one. The group is also exploring and implementing the expansion of take-away and home delivery services but only at suitable locations, not universally across new openings. I am not sure why home delivery is even a priority here; it adds operational complexity. It’s better to clean up shop first and get back to the basics before adding new complexities. To be fair management does try to simplify. There are 49 different permanent dishes on the menu and additional 10 seasonal ones. Customers can choose from eleven different types of pasta. There is simply too much choice, and it makes orders complicated. The company announced to slim the menu down to its most popular and typical Vapiano dishes. There’s no need for an Asian salad at an Italian restaurant. "We have to go back to the roots, i.e. classic, honest Italian cuisine" says COO Everke. Regardless, in November of 2018, the supervisory board pulls the plug on CEO Jochen Halfmann and replaces him with Cornelius Everke. Everke himself has just become COO five months ago. Since 2017 he was responsible for international expansion. From 2011 to 2017 that role was filled by Mario Bauer – put a pin in that name, he’ll play a key role in the groups fate later. Then nine months later, in the middle of 2019, Cornelius Everke quits. He essentially concludes that his skillset and experience in the areas of internation expansion is no longer needed in the foreseeable future. To put it differently: Vapiano has moved from a growth story and has become a restructuring case, and other skills are required for that job. In June of 2019 Everke says the following “(we’ve) made a bit of a mistake when it came to foreign expansion”. No sh#t. Vapiano postpones the presentation of the 2018 annual financial statements three times in the spring of 2019, citing negotiations over an urgently needed loan of 30 million euros. It’s not until the end of May that a binding loan commitment comes through from the financing banks and major shareholders.
We are now in August of 2019 and the corona pandemic is just around the corner. Supervisory board chief Vanessa Hall takes over as interim-CEO and things are unravelling. Visitor numbers are declining; originally, it was planned to sell the US business but halfway through the year the buyer cannot come up with the money. But not all restaurants are performing poorly. The group's poor figures contrast starkly as an example with the experiences of the Swiss-German franchisee, who runs six restaurants. The Sodano family in Switzerland pays Vapiano a royalty of 6% of sales for the use of the brand. Enrico Sodano explains in an interview that they operate largely autonomously from the licensor. If an “accident” were to occur, he could immediately replace the Vapiano sign with Sodano, he says. The family concluded the rents and contracts with employees and suppliers independently. The Sodano family have six locations in Bern, Basel and Zurich, around one million guests every year and 350 employees. Things are going well on the ground. The delivery service they’ve built is offering them a second income stream. Expansion into Winterthur, St. Gallen and Lucerne are being planned; small locations with 150 to 250 square meters and an attached delivery service. Originally, Vapiano restaurants used to be huge but for such a large restaurant to be profitable, 800 to 1,000 guests per day are needed. That’s possible in medium-sized cities, but not in smaller towns which is why the Vapiano group now also supports smaller formats. Back to our corporate drama. The 2019 annual report would be the last report the group files. By the end 2019 the outstanding debt of the company is at an astronomical 450 million euros. Revenue has grown by another 7%, produced by four net new openings through two JVs and two franchise restaurants but operating losses come in at 317 million euros. That sound like an absolute shocker at first but depreciation and amortization charges are 345 million, so that operating cash flow is actually positive but unfortunately capital expenditures and interest payments are so large that they are eating up all of the company’s operating cash flow. Then in the beginning of 2020 Corona hits with full force and the world shuts down. As a result of the measures to prevent further spreading of the virus, the group is forced to cease all global business operations (except in Sweden). While all these shutdowns are happening, the group is the middle of negotiating with its lending banks and main shareholders. There are additional financing needs for restructuring measures, even without a pandemic happening in the background. The situation is so dire that the company starts pleading to the German government to roll out the package of financial help more quickly. Unfortunately, it’s to no end. The rapid closure of restaurants and the resulting lack of operating cash inflows in conjunction with the additional financing requirements, lead to the company’s final knockout punch. In April of 2020, the Vapiano group officially files for insolvency proceedings. The end of an era.

New Beginnings

Because of the pandemic, the majority of the group's subsidiaries in Austria, the Netherlands, Denmark, the United States, Sweden, and China also file for insolvency or seek liquidation. The US business never gets sold in the end and is wound down. In the summer of 2020, significant group divestments occur, including the sale of 75% shares in the group's French subsidiaries, shares in franchisor companies, Australian subsidiaries, German subsidiaries, associated companies, self-managed restaurants in Germany, and insolvency-related sales in the Netherlands, Great Britain, and Sweden. The buyer of the Vapiano brand and one of these bundles of Vapiano restaurants is company named Love & Food Restaurant Holding, a consortium led by Mario C. Bauer – a name I told you to remember. Bauer was a former Vapiano board member and led the national and international expansion, opening 200 sites in 33 countries from 2011 to 2017 until he was succeeded by Cornelius Everke. Bauer didn’t feel comfortable with the IPO at the time but clearly has a lot of managerial and entrepreneurial talent.
The buyer consortium is an absolute A-Team comprised of European QSR top league hitters, including the founder of the Pret A Manger chain Sinclair Beecham; Henry McGovern, the founder and Ex-CEO of the giant international restaurant and foodservice operator AmRest; the Van der Valk Family that runs hotels and Vapiano restaurants in the Netherlands, and co-founder and ex-CEO Gregor Gerlach. The acquisition value is 15 million euros and entails 30 Vapiano restaurants in Germany, albeit that’s just the purchase price which comes on top of any capital investment needed to refresh and return the sites to its former glory. Nevertheless, just as a thought experiment, if you can get each site to 2 million euros of revenue and 400,000 euros in operating profit on average, which wouldn’t be an overly aggressively assumption given the company’s history, you’ve got yourself a package that can deliver restaurant-level operating profits of 12 million euros or more. It’s not disclosed how much capex was needed to refresh the operations, just that fact that the overall investment plus purchase price was a middle double-digit million-euro figure. Stil, it probably was a decent purchase. The same consortium buys Vapiano’s French business for 25 million euros just two weeks prior. After the transaction concludes, the master franchise is given to Delf Neumann and his Gastro & Soul GmbH. Neumann is an experienced operator, and he is ambitious to revitalise the brand with new services and products. For example, instead of pizza, the restaurants will be serving pinsa - a flatbread made from sourdough, wheat and rice flour, topped similarly to a pizza. It targets a more health-oriented customer base looking for a less calory heavy option. The menu overall is expanded by including a variety of vegan and vegetarian dishes.
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Today Neumann’s Gastro & Soul GmbH operates 18 Vapianos on its own account and has 29 franchise sites, amongst other brands. By the year 2021, Vapiano operates 191 restaurants in 34 countries. This is around 50 fewer sites than before the bankruptcy. The number of branches is particularly thinned out in Germany – from 80 to 55. Nevertheless, Vapiano's home country remains by far the largest market, followed by France with 35 restaurants and Austria with 15 locations. “We have shrunk ourselves to health,” says Bauer in the aftermath and there is no further shrinking planned. Quite the opposite, the smell of expansion is in the air again – pun intended. Not as aggressively as before and with a new menu and ordering process.
Overall, the team around Bauer is filled with industry experts with knowledge and networks gained over decades who have a great track record, a long-term view, and the staying power to let Vapiano breath and finds its way back to success. The pressure of being a public company with all the associated quarterly, half-year and yearly disincentives have been removed. The menu is changed and extended with new types of pasta and sauces with significantly more vegetarian and vegan dishes available. Guests can order with restaurant staff, at terminals or on their phones and there are barcodes attached to the tables identify the respective seat. The food is brought to your table, all at the same time if you are in a group, no more annoyances with waiting in line. There is a plan for smaller, 350 square meter locations, with half the number of guests and significantly fewer staff and less set-up costs required to make the economics work. Locations that capitalize on remote work and increased demand for local lunch options, higher population density with shorter delivery routes and therefore cost-effective in house delivery services are targeted. And Bauer is testing the concept of ghost kitchens, which operate without a dining room or service staff, focusing solely on preparing food for delivery services, which for obvious reasons have a very different operational set up and footprint. Original founder Mark Korzilius however is not entirely convinced. He is not a fan of the pinsa for instance and he considers Vapiano's pizza as its cash cow, flagship product and believes that the core Vapiano proposition of Pizza, Pasta, Bar that has given the company its original success is being diluted. He instead admires the competitor L'Osteria, saying they’ve done a better job by focusing on Italian classics, especially the impressively large pizzas that sticks out beyond the plate is leaving every customer in awe. The guys who run L’Osteria are the same guys who have built Vapiano with him in the first place. Bauer on the other hand, like a true business leader, remains undeterred, stating that he is frequently asked whether Vapiano's restart was bold or foolish. He believes in entrepreneurship, franchising, in his experienced fellow partners and importantly the Vapiano concept. By the year 2024 you can find over 140 Vapiano branded restaurant in 27 countries across the globe, including locations far away from its birthplace like Australia, USA, Columbia, Chile, Bahrain, and Saudi Arabia. And why not? Italian food is, and will remain to be, incredibly popular. Vapiano offers fresh and tasty food at affordable prices in a good atmosphere. This combination of attributes should attract a lot of customers. It certainly has in the past.
For more stories: WIP Thomas Weitzendoerfer Substack
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2024.05.14 12:40 Medical_Weather_968 AQA psychology past papers?

Anybody know why AQA have taken down the pre-2020 past papers from their website???? Tried to get them but they’ve vanished
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2024.05.14 12:40 oTalAmigoBi Wrapped up Superhot and Superhot: Mind Control Delete. The first one is a must-play, the second one not so much, but still pretty fun

Obviously skipping the VR one here as I do not have a VR set, nor am I planning in getting one.
SUPERHOT
At risk of hyping up a game that's already hyped up as a modern classic by a fair share of people, I have to say that Superhot is absolutely fantastic. Plays out like a really good mix of basic FPS gameplay and puzzles, in the sense that you actively have to figure out what's the next best move for you to do, as you clear out a room that would usually result in your death if played in real time. It's a great twist on the concept of shooters, and the result is an amazing game that is only held back by annoying button prompts and sections that are required to advance through the story.
The game was already great by itself, but it absolutely shines with the post-game challenges. No story segments to push through, just straight up gameplay, one level after the other, with different challenges that force you to see and replay the levels in a different style, to a point where you just zone out and fully focus on clearing level after level after level... at that point you're entranced, thus mimicking something the game talks about during the story.
It's simple. It's short. But you can get a lot out of it.
As for Mind Control Delete... there are ups and downs.
SUPERHOT: MIND CONTROL DELETE (MCD)
The best thing about this sequel is how they improved enemy AI. Katana wielders now deflect bullets as well, and if you throw something at a guy using a bat he will use it to cancel it out. They have more erratic movement, which can be either a plus or a negative to you. Personally I like it, makes it more challenging to kill the dudes.
On top of that, you now have several power ups that you can use to spice up your gameplay. You can spawn with a katana, or a random gun. You can be faster. You can have more bullets. You can become temporarily invincible by engaging in melee combat, skip your reload if your shot kills, accumulate HP as you kill more and more enemies, slow down bullets near you even further, increase your throwing strength so now shurikens come back to you if they hit an opponent... in short the powers are a great addition!
But to me... it lost a bit of the charm. This sequel plays like an entire game was made based around one of the alternative modes in the original Superhot (and not even my favourite), so it feels like a sort of spin off, rather than a true sequel. To me, the joy of Superhot was in figuring a carefully built level out (solving the puzzle) and then tackling it in different ways without getting hit, not even once!
MCD simply throws you into a gauntlet of levels (and give you at least 2 hearts, so you can get hit at least once) and while that is certainly fun... it feels a lot like a separate mode, rather than the Superhot experience I've had with the original. Which results in a game that feels more like a shooter employing Superhot mechanics, and is still technically Superhot, but it's just not the same. It's too random. Too reliant on killing X dudes in this well-designed room. At least the original could tell a very small, self-contained story with each level. In this one you're just there.
By no means do I consider the latest entry a bad game! Far from it. It just doesn't scratch the same itch.
CONCEPT
I'm using concept here instead of plot since it fits Superhot better. I mean... there is a plot and some lore, sure, but I feel this game is more concept-driven than the other way around. Meaning that there is a theme, and there is a narrative going on, but it all circles around this idea of the game being very addicting and spreading like a virus. Both the original and the sequel play off these tones, but in different ways.
SOUND
Other than certain sections, there is no music. Just straight up beautiful, satisfying, eargasmic sound design. I also enjoyed how in certain levels you can actually hear the background if you don't stop, especially in the Disco level in MCD where the music gets less muted if you keep moving, thus sort of influencing you to play it as close to real-time as possible.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Absolutely a modern classic for sure with an idea that just works in both gameplay and in a conceptual sense. MCD is also pretty fun, but if the puzzle aspect is what captivated you the most in the first game, curb your expectations a little before playing it.
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2024.05.14 12:39 BigKowalsky [For Sale] Couple Boots that need to go: Macintosh Plus, Sigur Ros, Black Keys, Lost in Translation

I'd like to get rid of the rest of the boots i've left:
Macintosh Plus: Floral Shoppe (sealed, supposed to be the pink vinyl version with poster) (40€)
MACプラス – フローラルの専門店 (2017, Pink [Bubblegum Pink], Vinyl) - Discogs
Sigur Ros: Live At The BBC 2007 (clear vinyl, record is nm, cover is vg+ / very light seamsplit on top) (30€)
Sigur Rós – Live At BBC 2007 (2014, Clear, Vinyl) - Discogs
The Black Keys: BBC Sessions (black/white pinwheel vinyl, record & cover are in nm condition) (25€)
The Black Keys – BBC Sessions (2012, Black/White Swirl, Vinyl) - Discogs
Lost In Translation (clear vinyl, record & cover are in nm condition) (25€)
Lost In Translation (Music From The Motion Picture Soundtrack) (2008, Clear, Vinyl) - Discogs
Records are shipped from Germany with great care, i only use new cardboard mailers with additional cardboard layers and every record is bubble warped.
Shipping prices:
Germany: 6,99€
EU: 12,99€
US: 19,99€
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2024.05.14 12:39 Zaptor37 Audio music not loading

I have a problem since March, my audio game music is not loading, game is just silent but I can still hear the sound effects. Some people on CampFire told me they still have music in their peridot app, or that some of them music dissapeared earlier than March.
I was trying redownloading the game, logging out and in, changing settings, and nothing worked =\
Any idea how I can get my game music back?
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2024.05.14 12:37 ottermail806 How to stop getting math quests?

How to stop getting math quests?
A couple weeks ago I decided to try the math course just for fun and ever since then it’s been showing up in my quests. I’ve deleted the course and I’ve been ignoring the quests for the past month but they’re still showing up. Obviously I could just do them but as it’s so easy it kind of feels like I’m just farming XP/cheating. Also, I feel like I’d be spending time doing these braindead math exercises instead of doing my language. Will they go eventually if I just keep ignoring them or am I stuck with them forever? I get one basically every day so it just means I can complete one fewer quest each time which is annoying when I’m trying to reach the monthly challenge.
I was just sure that deleting the course (i.e. deleting my progress) would get rid of them but if that didn’t do it I don’t know what else to do.
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2024.05.14 12:37 leured88 My month of hyper focus produced some lasting results - has that happened to you?

I got obsessed with the idea of recording some music, which I'e never done before. I wrote songs, and recorded them in my shed. I purchased a couple of thousand dollars of equipment. A new guitar I haven't touched since. A microphone. Other random stuff I just have zero interest in any more. But I was totally obsessed with recording music for a few weeks - now it just seems so weird that I even did it.
Anyway, I got my songs on Spotify - I'm the only one who listens to them, of course. I did this before I was diagnosed, and listening to them now, it's like I'm just singing about life with ADHD. I don't have a great voice, and I'm not a talented musician, but it's just sort of jarring that I'm proud of what I did, and I have more songs that I didn't get around to recording, but now, even on meds and more focussed and all that normal shit - I still won't do it.
I know heaps of people do this sort of thing, and I was wondering what results people have achieved in that hyper focus period - only to dump it forever?
Here's a link to my Spotify profile for anyone interested. I'm not trying to like 'get my music out there' or anything, it's super amateur, but I would still love to hear any feedback. And I wonder how many other people have produced some lasting stuff in a really short, intense period. Please share it!
Leumas Redneval: https://open.spotify.com/artist/2DhEvoUohYye1kjbShc2eL?si=zBphQadyTZSORv92oO_26g
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2024.05.14 12:36 Several-Incident-315 Universe doesn’t want me to eat TW numbers

So for me, lately, i don’t keep anything that i can eat without having to cook other than healthy stuff like rice cakes, fruit, veggies, canned sardines etc , because if i have good tasting food easily available im scared i will eat it multiple times in a day. I don’t binge (i say I do but in reality this is like a couple days in the past few months i ate at maintenance) but i am terrified of the possibility of it. I’m a good cook so i have an excuse at least, but the meals I prepare are usually very very low calorie or small anyways
anyways ive been trying to get myself to eat because my restriction is getting worse. At first it was just >! 1200-1300 calories !< and i was already feeling exhausted and sick because I’m fairly active, but this past week I’ve gone >! Sub 1000 and sometimes under 500 !< . I’m feeling worse than ever before so i was like, ok, i have to eat real food. But then shit happens. I went out to eat and i found a hair in my food so had to stop. I went to a bakery i was really excited about and what i got was dry and mediocre so I stopped eating it.
The kicker was last night i ordered Thai food. The piece de resistance. I psyched myself up a lot for it and was proud of myself. But the place is cash only. Their on site ATM was broken. I wandered around and every shop with an ATM inside was closed. I found an outdoor atm and was excited but THAT ONE WAS BROKEN TOO. I took this all as a message that i was not meant to eat. I’m so hungry lol. I broke down crying in the parking lot and then in a churchyard . Even if I’d found the cash at that point i don’t think i would’ve gone to get my food. It was settled. Some higher power wants me to starve. I’m superstitious for whatever reason and probably delusional from hunger as it is. I am not even working out because of my weakness. Just walking. Nothing tastes good enough to justify the calories. It’s all a waste. All i can think about all day is my mom’s cooking and that’s the only thing i could psyche myself up to have right now and she’s a 5 hour drive away.
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2024.05.14 12:36 rikrolltoll plz help i cant get past these slowing thingos

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2024.05.14 12:34 Emotionaldamage6-9 My journey from being a loner to a more social person and things that I have learned.

you will eventually overcome this, remember this- socialising is a skill, the more you go outside the more outgoing you become, the more you socialise the more social you become if that is what you deeply want. I am 23, but till 2023 I was a loner and only had couple of friends, more like 2 buddies. I once went on a journey with my classmates 84 in total for 8 days. It was hard to socialise even then as I restricted myself because of my 2 friends who were very similar to me. we were kinda boys who wanted to socialise but never tried to put effort ,fearing embarrassment and awkwardness. After graduation, I joined some programming exam preparation course, Now I had 2 options. They offered same course in 2 ways, one was online and second was offline. I knew that to get better at interaction with people I have to meet people offline(I was tired of being a loner and decided to change it). Even though the tuition was far away I opted for the second. It was a new environment where nobody actually knew me. They didn't know my cringey past or embarrassing moments, or I was rejected in hallway by a girl that I tried to propose. To them I as a person was a total blank page which they had no info about. So it was easy for me to fake my confidence and Interact with people. Everyone there thought I was a very social person. I used to interact with everyone, even kids from other batches. Some friends there used to call me to the go outside and hangout at first and then after sometime everyone formed their own group, it wasn't like they ghosted me or stopped talking to me, but like just stopped inviting me to go outside with them. I for a long time wondered what went wrong and what wrong did I do. Our 1 month course got over and everyone went their own way, made a few connection with boys but never interacted with girls as I was bit awkward around them. After 3 month or so after that I cracked the exams and I joined the 6 month crash course(currently 2 months in) and have made good friends here, the difference is now I am getting Invited to parties, to hang out at night, to go go-karting, music fest, and a lot. This time I got my answer as to why I wasn't getting invited when doing 1 month course. It was because I wasn't taking the initiative to invite. Things I have learned: 1. Its easy to get into new group of friend than to enter a already long formed friend circle, humans are territorial and possessive, we feel infiltrated when someone tries to barge in our group. 2. Things take time, you can't force friendship on others, let it be natural and people will naturally come closer to you. 3. Start doing activities you like and you will find like minded people who enjoy doing same things as you. 4. you should know when to let go and when to hold on to people. Some people I have tried to stop from leaving me and they still left no matter how hard I tried and some only needed me to remind them only once that lets stay in contact and we still have that connection. 5. Don't try to be alone everytime, go out and interact. being alone for longer time can lead to loneliness and sad state of mind. it's a slippery slope or a spiral downward, nothing good comes out of it. 6. Initiate- be the first to interact, if you are uncomfortable with girls just start by interacting with boys, men, older men. Most people don't mind and are sweet. The more you do it, the better you get. 7. Hang out with people who you want to be like, try socialising with social people more, Interact with everyone but don't try to hang out with people who are not willing to(e.g- I went for drinks with my friends and this one good friend we tried to invite her and she was not feeling like it, we still tried to convince her twice and after that we just went on our own and enjoyed, cracking joke,dancing,singing...) 8. Do it anyways- if you want to go out with friend or group and they are not in the mood, don't let their mood affect yours. Go out anyways without them but also at first try to invite them to hangout, if they say yes then it's good, if no then just say to yourself I am going regardless , I enjoy my own company. 9. Don't limit yourself to certain group of people or friends. If you feel like going out and some friends say no, its good to have many people that you can ask. 10. Now as a social person I am looking for more social people to hangout, age, gender, race don't matter to me. what you are is what you attract. 11. live in present, start new. Just think you are a social and spontaneous person and act according to it. Now I just think and do it without giving a second thought. If I want to go to a bar, I just put my shoes on and go(ofcourse ask if anyone is down for it), If I want to travel to certain city I just pack my bag and leave(if possible due to work or else I follow my plan and travel on holidays) Don't wait for things to fall in place or right time, there is no right time. 12. I wish I started interacting with people a long ago, but yk the best time to plant apple tree was 10 yrs ago and the next best time is today. Start it from today. 6 months are enough to change a person. At first I thought this is all bs, but for me it took only 6 month. for 23 years I was in your position, and it only took 6 months for a better start. If anyone wants to talk more about this or just have a convo, don't mind DMing me. I love interacting with people and I don't judge(positivity is what I seek and positivity is what i radiate)
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2024.05.14 12:34 Choc-Blocked Shy Girl At Work

There's a girl in my old workplace I think about still frequently. I've never had so many mixed signals.
Context: Work together in a restaurant in Europe with live-in staff accommodation.
Me: 36, 5'7 150 pounds, used to be beautiful but my face has melted with age.
Her: 23/24 (had birthday) petite and slender, very quiet and softly spoken. Not outright antisocial but just struggles to think of things to say, much like myself. Lots of eye contact when we talk but little otherwise. She makes even less with others. All we ever did was make small talk really. Nose ring. Possible nipple ring.
Reasons she might like me: (in chronological order from arriving to quitting, first four are very mild)
Before we started a shift together and introduced myself, I pass her a couple of times on my induction. The first she mentions to her female friend she needs a haircut and the second time she has got a super low cut top on (never seen her wear it before or since).
We meet properly and I think it goes OK. I compliment her voice and she smiles. I compliment her again at the end and she brushes the front of her hair, looks pleased and slightly flustered.
The next 10 or so days nothing much at all happens we just make small talk like always and are nice to each other. I think I can see a nipple piercing but can never quite tell.
Came downstairs when I was working and asked if I wanted some small packets of chips she bought and didn't like. I say sure and give her some change.
OK here we go. I come down to start my shift and she catches me just before we go in. She is completely dolled up, with pink pigtails, and says her name tag has broke, rubbing her boob over her clothing where the tag should go. I just look and smile and go oh and walk off with a semi (sigh). She follows me into the dining room and says she has fixed it now. All my **** tier gane can manage is "have you got any tattoos" She rolls up her sleeve crazy quick and shows me one on her shoulder. I say it looks expensive and walk off. 2 mins later she wants to practise my waitering skills by pretending to be a customer. She sits at a table and I go "what can I get you, young lady? In my best flirty voice. I think a customer came in at that point so we stopped. *Later she pretends to through a pen at me with a big smile, she then walks over and gives it me. *She clocks me out my shift for me. Fin.
We were polishing cutlery in the back alone for the first time (she said the supervisor had sent her) and she said do you wanna listen to music, she puts Fantasy by Maria Carey on my phone?
Another colleague asked if I wanted to go for a walk with her dog, we did but she is a piss head and I have zero attraction. Two days later, I see X again and in the loudest voice I've ever heard her use, just blurts out I banged on the window and waved out you yesterday! I didn't see her. I just go should have knocked harder then and go into a different room briefly. She then sits next to me for a bit.
Next day says she waved again. Again I have missed it. Stands next to me during the fire drill.
She went home for her birthday and has gotten her nails done. They look nice and all, but she is constantly flaunting them at me (stroking the radiator, the clipboard whilst I'm next to her.) I say they look expensive, then remember I said the sane compliment about her tatt (sigh).
***Reasons she doesn't like me
*Has never ever touched me apart from accidental very brief, platonic fingehand touching when passing items to each other.
*Never brought up sexual topics/things once.
In two months has touched three other male coworkers once each, one on the back, the others pretending to dust *** off their uniform. The WEIRD thing was they were all just as I had entered the room? She went on a date with one of them before I started, but she said nothing happened, and him and the other guy displayed absolutely zero interest in her sexually at any time (didn't touch her back) He left about 1 week after I started.
She did go for at least one walk with thr guy and for drinks with him and supervisor. They invited her but not me. I saw them all and they spotted me and turned round and she waved briefly. I left shortly after.
Towards the end she wad pining (exaggeration but only just) for the supervisor guy when he's not there. I think she means it in a work context as she is put in charge when he's not there and struggles a lil bit because of her quietness. But what do I know?
I mentioned the kitchen staff thought I was gay, and she said "are you?" in a strange stern tone.
I leave job. I still have some feelings for her. I need closure (she had no socials I can contact her on).
Thanks for coming to my Tedtalk.
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2024.05.14 12:34 Bubbly-Emu95 Ex boyfriend (30M) wants an abortion, I (28F) want to keep the baby but I am scared to raise the baby on my own

I am currently 6 weeks pregnant with my ex boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. We spent the last 2 years having sex almost everyday without contraceptives, as we were ready for any risks, we were not actively trying, but not actively preventing.
We decided to take a break due to arguments over the past month, and on our last day together, we had unprotective sex (we didn’t have sex for 3 weeks at that point). I took a test upon unusual symptoms and missed period, and discovered I am pregnant.
I informed him last week and I think he’s still in denial. He asked me to go for a scan to confirm so he can tell his parents and he has expressed that he doesn’t think it’s a good time for him, and I should get an abortion. He is not ready for fatherhood and doesn’t see that we can work things out in the future. I encouraged him to reconcile, not as a couple, but as civil adults to make communications easier in the following weeks or potentially years. He refused and told me I should talk to people for advice. I have spoke to my best friends and I don’t have a solution, I don’t know what to do. I don’t want my child to grow up without a father figure but I also don’t want to have this kind of father in its life. I only had one sex partner my whole life so there is no possibility that he is not the father. I’m personally also not ready to raise the child as a single mother without support. If this pregnancy happened few months back, I would not have the same doubts I currently have. I considered abortion after the conversation with him but I don’t want to end my own child’s life because of our unresolved issues. My family don’t live in the same country as me, so I will not have day-to-day help. My friends are supportive but I don’t think it’s realistic for me to raise the baby without a partner. I have all sorts of concerns and I am not in the right headspace at the moment to be thinking clearly.
For context - I (28F) moved in to live with my boyfriend (30M) after 2 years of dating, we barely had any disagreements throughout the first 2 years, we were both in love, and decided that we were ready for our next stages in life so we moved in together. We were certain that we were compatible despite our differences in interests - we are very different people in the best ways, and grew to love and learn of each other’s character. Our lives are very intertwined, and our respective friend groups are very involved in our lives. We had a healthy lifestyle and socially active ever since we got together.
Fast forward to 2 months ago, we were discussing wedding plans. We previously agreed that we would move in together > get engaged > married > have children. I expressed that I didn’t really want to move in together until I get a reassurance from him this is for lifetime, he told me not to worry because he already had plans to propose to me and it’s ok to move in first and then get married as we are living together. He suggested that we could plan the wedding first because weddings take at least a year ahead to plan, and the proposal will happen sometime later this year. Our first big argument came because of his unrealistic expectations and lack of logic and sense in event planning (he was never really a planner or an organized person, I do most of our travel logistics and household plannings).
Few weeks later I discovered that he was withholding his plans made with a colleague that I didn’t particularly liked, I felt strange that he had to hide this fact from me. I don’t believe that he was disloyal or anything but I didn’t understand why he lied. I exploded, demanded to check his phone, then I discovered more things he was hiding from me, including going on walks during lunch with the same female colleagues. I also discovered the group chat with his boys where they were making jokes about us getting married. I was livid and we argued over our definition of commitment, I questioned his maturity and his intentions to settle. He told me he was ready to settle with me, and suggested that we go pick out rings the next day.
The real issue came in when he called his parents to ask them for their blessing in our marriage. His parents disapproved, and called me materialistic, questioned my family, my social circle, my religion, my political views… etc. My boyfriend could’ve easily justified every one of the points they have made about me but I guess he was too in shock of their response to defend me. His parents never really agreed with our relationship to begin with, they never wanted him to date and thinks he should be focused on his career at this age rather than dating, despite this we spent every holidays and celebrations the last two years with his family and we thought they have grown to accept me as they had been very friendly with me, I guess it was all a facade. I was disappointed and lashed out at him. And somehow our previous issue with his ‘commitment’ was brushed under the rug.
He says he cannot propose to me when he doesn’t have his parents blessing. I gave him a deadline the next day to make a decision, if he cannot talk it out with his parents then I will have to let this end. He came back the next day, and told me his dad apologized and would like to reconcile with me. And he came back to tell me he was ready to settle.
The following weeks we continued to have smaller disagreements and I was still uncomfortable to face his parents, as he would return home a different person, and treats me worse every time after every time he had met up with his parents. Before all these issues, we had made plans to visit my grandparents and his extended family who were both living in the same country. On our way there, I expressed that I would want to remain with my grandparents and not join his family trip as I’m not ready to face his parents yet. He tried to persuade me to go and that his parents will apologize to me, but I was still very uncomfortable. I told him I’ll only go if he can give me reassurance and that I will only go on another family trip with him if he can give me the status as his fiancé before I can face them. He said if he were to propose to me now he cannot face his parents, and he told his parents he has plans to propose to me on this trip, but they insisted that they should reconcile with me before he can propose as I would potentially “steal their grandchildren away from them” in the future if we don’t make up. He told me he even brought the ring with him but he can’t do it. I walked away from him, I felt so betrayed and lost in a foreign country. I got very emotional and told him he made feel worthless and want to end my life. I was not in the right headspace after a whole month of torment and I didn’t have the energy to reason with him any longer. I gave in and proceeded with the rest of our trip.
The day before we went to meet his family, I told him I wanted to go somewhere else instead and I still wasn’t ready. When he was making changes to our tickets, I saw his sister’s message on his phone, saying that it’ll be better in the long run if he sort out the parents issue first and don’t propose to me yet. I snatched his phone and spoke with his sister. After I told her everything, she apologized and gave me the reassurance that their family will treat me with respect and will apologize to me the first thing they see me, and that they just want to reconcile before we move forward to the next stage in life. I felt it was reasonable and reassured after my conversation with her, so I decided to give it a go.
When we did finally meet up with his parents, they pretended as if nothing has happened. Few days later we finally had the ‘conversation’. His dad started off by saying he doesn’t think it’s appropriate for us to get married at the moment, and kept going on about their same points again, he said our relationship hasn’t been long enough for us to decide marriage at this stage. They claimed their comments weren’t a personal attack, they didn’t apologize and said that I was ‘thinking too much’ for this to be a personal attack because it was simply a generalization, then dismissed me for being upset for hearing from my bf because he wasn’t supposed to tell me, and proceeds to keep commenting about me and my friends and how they disagree with their celebrations of weddings.
I respectfully explained we are not having these discussions about marriage out of no where, we have been having discussions on marriage throughout our 2 years. In fact our plans to have children was the basis of our relationship and were his requirements, and we just want to move forward with the next part of our lives. His mom doesn’t think I need to think about having children at this moment and it’s not a good time for us to have children, because she had kids much later in life and apparently so is everyone else, and we shouldn’t be following my ‘timeline’ on when things should be happening. Apparently I should not have such control over the timing of giving birth ‘like a reproduction machine’, and it’s not right to have to set such timeline on how much time I need for recovery and time between having each children. She asks why do we feel the need and so early in life to get married now? And ditch your own families and start your own life.
His dad said I should not decide right now how many kids we need to have and it’s rather in gods hands to decide, and some people are not even be able to have more than 1 kid, I asked him why is this relevant in regards to our plans to have kids… so I have to listen to god now and have kids without planning? And then he started giving this bs about god and how we are not meant to plan ‘these things’ out in life so specifically. I asked him: What is wrong with being practical and setting realistic goals. He claimed he doesn’t think it’s wrong to have plans but we shouldn’t be so set and ‘controlling’ over our own lives. He has experience and we should listen to the grown ups with experience… I knew the conversation wasn’t going to get anywhere as soon as he brings religion into this.
My boyfriend just stood there in silence. After the conversation ended we both walked away from his parents, he apologized to me and told me he’s sorry for any of the things his parents have said to me and I didn’t deserve it. He says he won’t listen to his parents anymore, and he knows how to make this right, and he will propose once we return to my grandparent’s place. I didn’t challenge him anymore because I that was the reassurance I needed from him, and I was happy that he was finally able to see his parents for who they are.
The following days of the trip, his dad tried to isolate him from rest of the family to give him the same lecture. Every time he rejoins the group I can see from his expression that their conversation did not go well, I didn’t comment. On the day we returned to my grandparent’s home, he told me he can’t follow through with his promises. And his dad told him he should feel guilty for making promises to me and be pressured into marriage. Somehow this convinced himself into thinking he’s not ready for marriage all along. I walked away from him and we spent 3 days apart before our flight to return home.
On our last day, we met up for closure, talked through what happened and we had sex. I told him I wasn’t ready to fly back home with him and I didn’t want to fall back into the vicious cycle of arguments, and that we should have some time to cool things down before we reconnect. We agreed to give each other some space and he wants to learn more about himself before he makes commitment to me as he doesn’t want to disappoint me again.
A week after he got back, he told me he wants to move out of our co-rented apartment, and he wants to break lease. I was a bit confused because I thought he wanted to work on himself, and him moving out essentially is an indication of a break up to me. He said if I don’t let him move out, I’m not giving him space to work on himself. I didn’t really have an option so I agreed. We didn’t talk afterwards.
3 weeks later, I missed my period, I took a test and was positive.
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2024.05.14 12:33 Life_Veterinarian783 I am searching a Music Video where a man trying to find his wife was transported from Snowy Mountains to a River Lake by a Transparent Cube

So I was trying to find a music video that I remeneber for so long, and it was probably favourite song. Even though I can't remember the title of a Music Video or who made it, I still remember how the music video plays out. So the Music Video starts a man and his wife (both of them are black btw) at a Snowy mountain where his wife tried to convince her husband that is something interesting over there, her husband turned it down by "No" so his wife decide to go there by herself. Once the man realized that his wife was missing, he started to look for her, he saw his wife in a far distance and tried calling out her name but she was consumed by a giant creature or something. I guess the creature lays down for the man to enter the mouth, which is basically a cave. As he was looking for his wife, he was suddenly trapped by a transparent cube and pulled down to the earth's core, and he reach to the other surface where he end up on a river lake. I assumed that both man and his wife are probably the only survivors because there was not a single person on earth and it was completely empty while the man walks. In the middle of the night, as the song gets intense, we get a glimpse of roman soldiers fighting the enemies surrounding the man as he walks to the building. He finally find his wife and they kiss each other, both of them can be seen transported by a transparent cube. Can someone find the Music Video that I was seeking it for so long, please!!!
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2024.05.14 12:33 Mkyhhd Washington Tries to Break Power Grid Logjams;

New rules aim to boost renewables and meet surging electricity demand
Patterson, Scott. Wall Street Journal (Online); New York, N.Y.. 13 May 2024.
https://www.wsj.com/politics/policy/washington-tries-to-break-power-grid-logjams-cb2eb006
WASHINGTON—A little-known but powerful regulator has finalized sweeping new rules designed to expand the construction of big power lines and bring more renewable energy to U.S. homes and businesses.
The rules approved by the Federal Energy Regulatory Commission, which oversees wholesale electricity markets, are expected to make it easier for big regional transmission projects to get approval.
FERC approved two rules Monday, one that will require companies that produce and transmit electricity to weigh factors such as supply and demand over at least two decades and another that addresses permitting of critical projects in areas that lack adequate transmission capacity.
The rule requiring long-term planning is "the biggest single action by the federal government to advance transmission," said Rob Gramlich, president of Grid Strategies, a power consulting firm.
The long-term plans will need to account for the impact of extreme weather tied to climate change along with the cost of projects. By expanding transmission capacity, regions hit by weather disasters will be more resilient because they can access power from other parts of the country.
Most utilities already plan for future demand and other contingencies, but few do so decades in the future. What has resulted is a largely ad-hoc national grid that has at times left utilities behind the curve amid shifting power generation technologies, demand and destructive weather events fueled by climate change.
In Georgia, the state's main utility, Georgia Power, has increased demand projections sixteen-fold and plans to burn more natural gas to meet that demand. Virginia's largest utility, Dominion Energy, which supplies electricity to most of the state's data centers, expects their power use to quadruple over the next 15 years , representing 40% of the utility's demand in the state.
"Our country is facing an unprecedented surge in demand for affordable electricity while confronting extreme weather threats to the reliability of our grid and trying to stay one step ahead of the massive technological changes we are seeing in our society," FERC Chairman Willie Phillips said Monday.
Republican Commissioner Mark Christie voted against the long-term planning rule, which he said is unfair to consumers and oversteps FERC's authority.
Senate Majority Leader Chuck Schumer (D., N.Y.) said on a media call Monday that FERC's planning rule helps make up for Congress's failure in the past few years to pass legislation to expand power transmission. He said he doesn't expect Congress to pass transmission legislation this year.
Across the U.S., plans for myriad new power projects, largely wind and solar, are languishing due to delays in their ability to connect to the grid. The backlog of new power projects, mostly solar, wind and battery storage, seeking to connect to the grid jumped by 30% in 2023 from the previous year, according to a recent report by the Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory. New projects "are mired in lengthy and uncertain interconnection study processes," the report said.
The rule is designed to push projects that benefit ratepayers, resulting in more transmission capacity that can deliver cheaper electricity. It also addresses how costs are spread out among ratepayers in projects that include multiple states.
"Cost allocation is a huge issue, and it's a contentious one," said Larry Gasteiger, executive director of Wires, a trade association.
Critics of the rule say it could clash with oversight of utilities by local regulators and potentially lead to increases in consumer bills. Several Republican attorneys general have threatened to sue the government over the rule, claiming FERC is overstepping its authority in a bid to bring more clean energy onto the grid.
Utilities aren't always proponents of long-distance power lines, which can bring in power cheaper than their own generation. The cost of wind and solar energy has plunged in recent years, making it more competitive with natural gas.
"One of the main reasons utilities don't want to build a major transmission [project] is because it can harm their power-plant business," said Ari Peskoe, director of Harvard Law School's Electricity Law Initiative.
The planning rule also provides new guidelines for the role of states in big transmission projects and seeks to enlist their input in the early stages of project planning.
The new rules come as demand for power is rising, driven by new manufacturing, electric vehicles and giant data centers catering to artificial intelligence. That has caused utilities to scramble to adapt, some backtracking on plans to retire fossil-fuel power plants or add new natural-gas generation.
The planning requirements will also spur utilities to adopt more so-called grid-enhancement technologies , such as sensors and power flow control devices, which can improve the transmission of electricity across existing lines. Such technologies are often cheaper than building new power lines.
The Biden administration is pulling other levers to spur transmission construction. Last month, the Energy Department moved to become the lead federal agency coordinating environmental approval of major transmission projects across the U.S. in a bid to fast-track grid-infrastructure construction . The new process seeks to reduce the red tape grid planners faced as they sought separate approvals from a patchwork of federal agencies such as the Environmental Protection Agency, Interior Department and the Agriculture Department.
Write to Scott Patterson at [scott.patterson@wsj.com](mailto:scott.patterson@wsj.com)
Credit: By Scott Patterson
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2024.05.14 12:32 InterestingBoat4931 Aita for telling my long term boyfriend I'm practically single?

My (26f) boyfriend (26m) have been dating for 7 years, living together for 3 years, have 2 dogs under both our names that we adopted together.
I work from home and my bf is office based with some work on-site (he's a Geotechnical engineer that sometimes installs stuff in the mines). Lately that sometimes on site has been a lot more common even though he was hired as a designer and programmer and not a technician. And by a lot, I mean I've seen him maybe 3-4 weeks in the past 3 months. He'll stay at work until 7pm sometimes even 9pm to prepare for these site visits and very often wake up 4am to leave for these site visits too. The site visits can range from a day or an overnight stay to an entire week away. On top of that he's taken a family vacation for a week recently (I didn't join because his family often turns us into babysitters and I couldn't arrange dog sitters) and soon he'll be taking a golf tour.
All in all, I've been keeping house and taking care of the dogs by myself. And in my free time I took up and completed a project that my bf had said he'd do when he got the time. And it's all gone pretty well given I've never lived alone before.
Yesterday, my bf was home between a site visit and I was making supper while he was doing emails. I don't remember the exact conversation but he remarked about how clean the house is (I'm a type B cleaner, he's type A, so he believes I'm dirty because I'm willing to clean later instead of right now) and I replied saying I'm getting along better than most people would have thought as a practically single person.
To me that was a joke because everyone thought I'd fall apart living alone but my bf did not take that 'practically single' part very well at all. He got pretty upset saying he didn't have a choice, he did what anyone would do to keep their job and he couldn't just say no to the working on site and making such a comment on something he couldn't change was uncalled for. We got into an argument because I told him he was just as frustrated as me about his constant on site working but at least he got his meals made for him, his cleaning and laundry done for him and got to have a beer at the end of the day with his colleagues whom he's great friends with. I'm doing it all alone and the only complaining I've done is say I'm 'practically single' one time as a joke.
He still thinks I'm TA for the comment because we can't afford to be picky about his work in the current economic climate but I think I need perspective. AITA?
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