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Help me decide: Carry-on from Travelpro, Eagle Creek or Samsonite
2024.06.09 17:34 Hustlinbones Help me decide: Carry-on from Travelpro, Eagle Creek or Samsonite
Hey guys,
I have had a big "weekender" leather bag for almost 15 years that likely will last for the rest of my life. BUT I have to carry it so it's unhandy for trips that include a lot of walking around with luggage, which will be the case for me in a few weeks.
That's why I'm looking for carry-on luggage that works for as many airlines as possible, which seems to be 55x35x25cm (sorry Americans). Important to me is that it has wheels so I don't need to carry it, that it's not too heavy, a certain sturdyness would be nice so that snacks and stuff inside don't get crushed too easily and last but definitely not least: Service Quality. I want to be sure I don't have to throw the whole bag when something breaks.
My budget is 150€ and I found following 3 options that could meet my requirements:
Maxlite® Air Compact Carry-On Expandable Hardside Spinner 55cm (55 X 35 X 23 Cm)
EXPANSE 2-WHEEL 21.5" INTERNATIONAL CARRY ON LUGGAGE
Samsonite Airea 35
Visually / Aesthetically I'm leaning towards Travelpro, also I like it's hardshell. But from what I read their service is probably the worst out of those three brands and basically non-existent. The Eagle Creek one is the opposite: I don't like how it looks but it's practical and service aswell as their warranty seems to be awesome.
As Samsonite is somewhere in between both of them I lean towards get that one. But wanted to get some more experienced opinions on that choice.
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I have had a big "weekender" leather bag for almost 15 years that likely will last for the rest of my life. BUT I have to carry it so it's unhandy for trips that include a lot of walking around with luggage, which will be the case for me in a few weeks.
That's why I'm looking for carry-on luggage that works for as many airlines as possible, which seems to be 55x35x25cm (sorry Americans). Important to me is that it has wheels so I don't need to carry it, that it's not too heavy, a certain sturdyness would be nice so that snacks and stuff inside don't get crushed too easily and last but definitely not least: Service Quality. I want to be sure I don't have to throw the whole bag when something breaks.
My budget is 150€ and I found following 3 options that could meet my requirements:
Maxlite® Air Compact Carry-On Expandable Hardside Spinner 55cm (55 X 35 X 23 Cm)
EXPANSE 2-WHEEL 21.5" INTERNATIONAL CARRY ON LUGGAGE
Samsonite Airea 35
Visually / Aesthetically I'm leaning towards Travelpro, also I like it's hardshell. But from what I read their service is probably the worst out of those three brands and basically non-existent. The Eagle Creek one is the opposite: I don't like how it looks but it's practical and service aswell as their warranty seems to be awesome.
As Samsonite is somewhere in between both of them I lean towards get that one. But wanted to get some more experienced opinions on that choice.
2024.06.09 17:14 Hustlinbones Help me decide: Travelpro, Eagle Creek or Samsonite Carry-On
Hey guys,
I have had a big "weekender" leather bag for almost 15 years that likely will last for the rest of my life. BUT I have to carry it so it's unhandy for trips that include a lot of walking around with luggage, which will be the case for me in a few weeks.
That's why I'm looking for carry-on luggage that works for as many airlines as possible, which seems to be 55x35x25cm (sorry Americans). Important to me is that it has wheels so I don't need to carry it, that it's not too heavy, a certain sturdyness would be nice so that snacks and stuff inside don't get crushed too easily and last but definitely not least: Service Quality. I want to be sure I don't have to throw the whole bag when something breaks.
My budget is 150€ and I found following 3 options that could meet my requirements:
Maxlite® Air Compact Carry-On Expandable Hardside Spinner 55cm (55 X 35 X 23 Cm)
EXPANSE 2-WHEEL 21.5" INTERNATIONAL CARRY ON LUGGAGE
Samsonite Airea 35
Visually / Aesthetically I'm leaning towards Travelpro, also I like it's hardshell. But from what I read their service is probably the worst out of those three brands and basically non-existent. The Eagle Creek one is the opposite: I don't like how it looks but it's practical and service aswell as their warranty seems to be awesome.
As Samsonite is somewhere in between both of them I lean towards get that one. But wanted to get some more experienced opinions on that choice.
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I have had a big "weekender" leather bag for almost 15 years that likely will last for the rest of my life. BUT I have to carry it so it's unhandy for trips that include a lot of walking around with luggage, which will be the case for me in a few weeks.
That's why I'm looking for carry-on luggage that works for as many airlines as possible, which seems to be 55x35x25cm (sorry Americans). Important to me is that it has wheels so I don't need to carry it, that it's not too heavy, a certain sturdyness would be nice so that snacks and stuff inside don't get crushed too easily and last but definitely not least: Service Quality. I want to be sure I don't have to throw the whole bag when something breaks.
My budget is 150€ and I found following 3 options that could meet my requirements:
Maxlite® Air Compact Carry-On Expandable Hardside Spinner 55cm (55 X 35 X 23 Cm)
EXPANSE 2-WHEEL 21.5" INTERNATIONAL CARRY ON LUGGAGE
Samsonite Airea 35
Visually / Aesthetically I'm leaning towards Travelpro, also I like it's hardshell. But from what I read their service is probably the worst out of those three brands and basically non-existent. The Eagle Creek one is the opposite: I don't like how it looks but it's practical and service aswell as their warranty seems to be awesome.
As Samsonite is somewhere in between both of them I lean towards get that one. But wanted to get some more experienced opinions on that choice.
2024.06.09 17:06 Oxiclean4me Mid May trip report: 2 weeks in Tokyo, Kyoto, Takamatsu, art islands, Beppu, Fukuoka
Hey all, This subreddit was an indispensable resource in my planning my trip, so I wanted to return the favor with highlights from my trip and general experiences/tips. I spent 14 days (+ 3 travel days from/to the states), with 3 friends that joined me for different parts of the trip. Here's my itinerary with highlights/comments:
Number of nights per city: Tokyo(3), Kyoto(3), Takamatsu(3), Beppu(2), Fukuoka(4)
Day 1 - Tokyo (9.24 miles walked)
Oh man, this island is jam packed with amazing art. We ran out of time to see everything, but with the aid of e-bikes we managed to check out the Art house project, Chichu art museum, Benesse museum. People who really want to see everything may want to budget 1.5-2 days for this island. This was also one of my favorite days of the trip. Really unique art work in a beautiful setting.
Day 8 - Day trip to Teshima island (12.07 miles).
If you are going on a Monday, beware: most of the museums on Naoshima are closed so everyone is hitting up Teshima.... our ferry got sold out while we were waiting in line, forcing us to take an alternative route by detouring to a different island first. By the time we got to Teshima, most of the e-bike rental stores were out of stock. Despite those hang-ups, we were able to see the Teshima art museum, Teshima Yoko House, and ride around part of the island. We were worried about the return ferry getting sold out so we staked out the office for like a solid hour before the ticket counter opened. Although we didn't have a full day, we felt pretty content with what we saw/what the island had to offer.
Day 9 - Takamatsu Beppu (5.91 miles*)
Day 10 - Day trip to the Kunisaki peninsula (6.96 miles)
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Number of nights per city: Tokyo(3), Kyoto(3), Takamatsu(3), Beppu(2), Fukuoka(4)
Day 1 - Tokyo (9.24 miles walked)
- Stayed in Roppongi, which I really enjoyed- great location with fun side streets to wander down.
- Rainy day so I hit up museums nearby: Suntory art museum, which houses classic Japanese art/artifacts; and the Tokyo national art center, which was hosting this massive juried exposition of contemporary art. Made for a cool juxtaposition.
- Checked out some specialty stores in Shibuya.
- Harukor for lunch- a small hole in the wall restaurant serving indigenous cuisine with friendly owners.
- Afura for dinner- low-key ramen/dipping noodle spot.
- Walked around Meiji shrine and surrounding neighborhood
- Shinjuku to check out some specialty stores (Sekaido stationary store, etc).
- Walked around Shimokitazawa neighborhood- very cute, young neighborhood with vintage stores. I wasn't planning on doing any clothes shopping because I'm tall by Japanese-standards and clothes shopping isn't generally my idea of a fun time, but I stumbled across an amazing 70's vintage dress here that is probably my most treasured purchase from the trip.
- Had an amazing kaseiki dinner at Ise sueyoshi. 100% recommend. Was the most expensive meal of my life to date (to be fair, I'm not much of a foodie) but it was such a great experience. They are also unusually accommodating for dietary restrictions, so vegetarians/vegans/gluten intolerant folks take note!
- Stored our luggage at Tokyo station before a day of sightseeing.
- Walked around Imperial Palace grounds, then Kagurazaka neighborhood (this was ok, some nice little shops but I think maybe I was expecting a bit more?). My friends hit up a wood block studio that was located in a neighborhood east of Kagurazaka, they found some really great prints here. Sorry, don't have the name of the store.
- Walked through Ginza before hopping on the bullet train. There was an elevated highline-esque walkway over by the Miyazaki clock that was nice, but I otherwise wasn't super into Ginza. A lot of European designer stores, if that's your thing.
- Took a silly amount of time to find our stored luggage (air tags were helpful!) and then find the bullet train section of Tokyo station. I had read warnings to give yourself plenty of time to find the train platform after purchasing the shinkansen ticket, but the ticket machines for our line were immediately adjacent to the platforms so we ended up spending 40 minutes sitting on the floor of the station waiting for our train...seriously there are like no benches in that station!
- Rented an older home in a fantastic location- small quiet neighborhood just north east of Shosei-en garden.
- This was probably my favorite day of the entire trip. Got an early start at Murin-an garden, then headed over to Nanzen-ji, Saisho-in, Okunoin temples. Okunoin temple was a rec that I found on here, it's kinda hidden behind the Nanzen-ji complex. A hilly path leading up to a waterfall with altars(?) along the way. There was this man with some sort of instrument made from a turtle shell who was playing at each altar. It was hella enchanting. Walked north on the Philosopher's path, stopping at Honenin temple and Higashiyama jisho-ji. I was really worried about crowds but for a mid-week morning/early afternoon there really wasn't that many people around, except for Higashiyama.
- Again on a reddit rec, we wandered through the woods to find Mo-an, this somewhat hidden cafe with amazing desserts. The experience of forging through a forest unsure where we were going (took a wrong turn and stumbled into the Yoshida shrine) and finding this tree-house like oasis was incredible. The matcha chiffon cake was delicious.
- In the evening we checked out an antique shop in Gion and walked Pontocho Alley after dinner. Honestly, the alley was too crowded to enjoy.
- Got up early and hiked up Fushimi inari taisha. I think we made it back down by like 9:30 am which helped avoid crowds.
- Near our rental was Shosei-en garden and a lovely matcha soft-serve ice cream cafe (Walden woods- they also sold great candles).
- In the afternoon we headed north to do some shopping: the Kyoto Handicraft Center and some small antique stores between there and the Kyoto Gyoen national garden. We were pretty exhausted at that point so we didn't venture very far, just walked along the southern edge.
- Went to a curry restaurant that was veg-friendly: Koisus curry and tempura.
- Taking a rec that I read on here, we waited until later in the night (~8:30ish?) to check out Sannenzaka and Ninenzaka neighborhoods. Very few people around that late so that was a success.
- Hopped on the bullet train to Takamatsu with a stop to tour Himeji castle. It's one of the few original castles still standing and considered one of Japan's best so it seemed foolish not to check it out. While we were there the city was having a parade/festival so that was fun to watch.
- We picked Takamatsu as our home base for touring the art islands. The ferry ride is shortest here (compared to Okayama) and the port is walkable from downtown. Many of the restaurants here turned us away with out dinner reservations (hard to tell if that was the actual policy or if they didn't want to serve 4 Americans?) but we had a great time watching the chef at the grill of this small izakaya, Kuishinbo.
Oh man, this island is jam packed with amazing art. We ran out of time to see everything, but with the aid of e-bikes we managed to check out the Art house project, Chichu art museum, Benesse museum. People who really want to see everything may want to budget 1.5-2 days for this island. This was also one of my favorite days of the trip. Really unique art work in a beautiful setting.
Day 8 - Day trip to Teshima island (12.07 miles).
If you are going on a Monday, beware: most of the museums on Naoshima are closed so everyone is hitting up Teshima.... our ferry got sold out while we were waiting in line, forcing us to take an alternative route by detouring to a different island first. By the time we got to Teshima, most of the e-bike rental stores were out of stock. Despite those hang-ups, we were able to see the Teshima art museum, Teshima Yoko House, and ride around part of the island. We were worried about the return ferry getting sold out so we staked out the office for like a solid hour before the ticket counter opened. Although we didn't have a full day, we felt pretty content with what we saw/what the island had to offer.
Day 9 - Takamatsu Beppu (5.91 miles*)
- Before hopping on the train to Kyushu, we checked out Ritsurin garden. They have lockers for luggage and an impressive giftshop.
- In Beppu, we stayed in a ryokan that had private onsen rentals which was nice for the naked-squeamish. Had dinner at an izakaya (Robata Jin) that was another reddit rec. Pro-tip: when we showed up, the hostess told us they were full but when I pushed about later availability ("atode?") she conferred and was like, we can sit in 30 minutes. So don't be afraid to ask instead of accepting defeat, haha.
Day 10 - Day trip to the Kunisaki peninsula (6.96 miles)
- Rented a car to drive up to Kunisaki peninsula. Was a really unique experience driving through rural mountainous terrain, visiting ancient temples (Futagoji) and ruins (Kyu sento ji) and an amazing panoramic view from a cliffside temple (Itsutsuji Fudou). I had a couple other potential sites on my list, but we ran out of time/steam to check them out. Restaurants are a bit scarce up there so we packed snacks to tide us over.
- On the way back to Beppu we stopped and had a soak at an onsen in the middle of a bamboo grove (Yoyama no sato). There were like 6 or so different outdoor pools next to a waterfall/stream- such a cool experience.
- In the evening, took a walk along the beach front.
- Decided to hold onto the rental car and make the 2 hour drive across Kyushu to the last city of the trip, Fukuoka. Stopped in Hita to check out Onta pottery village- this community still produces their clay and fires their ceramics without electricity- was a cool experience watching that. There was maybe 10 studios all in close proximity of each other. I was really excited to get lunch at Ohara Chaya, but they were closed for the day, but there were plenty of other options in the area- we settled for a cute Italian pasta restaurant (Luciano?) run by a single guy. Also stopped at Ukiha inari shrine. We opted to drive to the top instead of doing the hike.
- Stayed in Tenjin neighborhood in Fukuoka- very vibrant nightlife/restaurant/shopping scene here. Very walkable and close to the subway. After dinner, walked around Ohori Park.
- Cute bakery for breakfast (BREAD) and then did a lot of shopping. There are so many multi-level shopping complexes in Tenjin that finding a specific store ended up being difficult because we couldn't tell if we were in the right building. Takumi Gallery had a great assortment of crafts/souvenirs, Yokka was a cute little gift store.
- Went to Fukuoka art museum in Ohori Park- the permanent collection (contemporary art) is on the small side but free and well curated. Stopped for gelato on the walk back (Raccolto)
- For dinner went to a homey neighborhood restaurant to try okonomiyaki (Mimi). More wandering around Tenjin in the evening.
- Took a cab to Aburayama Citizens Forest to do some bird watching in the early morning. Would recommend if you are into camping or hiking (or birding)- great vista viewpoints, many waterfalls, new facilities and a number of trail options ranging from easy/paved to steep/rugged. BUT, getting out here was kinda a pain in the ass. Despite being a 35 min drive from downtown Fukuoka, taxi drivers were generally confused as to where I wanted to go and the nearest bus stop is an hour walk from the center of the park. I still found it worth it despite the inconvenience.
- Back in Fukuoka by noon, had a nice curry lunch at Re cell kitchen.
- For dinner I ventured out to try the yatai food stall experience. Went to Remy's which is run by French expats. Was a fun experience and definitely recommend for solo travelers.
- In the early AM, took the train out to Hakata Bay Imazu tidal flats. Kinda a bust for the birds, but it was nice walking along the beach and there was a cute bakery nearby (right by Imajuku station).
- In the afternoon, I went out to Dazaifu. From the station to the shrine it was an absolute zoo (it was a Sunday I think), but the Kyushu national museum was much less busy and had cool exhibits on the history of Kyushu/Japan in a beautiful building. Also stumbled across a cute little Italian cafe (CoRicco) that was thankfully empty, although a little pricey (but still cheap compared to US restaurants).
- Back in Tenjin, I wandered around some shopping plazas and tried to hit up the yatai's again for dinner but it started pouring rain.
- Definitely could have used a third day in Kyoto. Some people may be bored with 4 full days in Fukuoka (there isn't as many daytime sights in the city proper) but I really enjoyed the city's vibe and it was nice to end the trip with a longer stay in one place. Overall was very happy with the mix of urban, rural, outdoorsy, cosmopolitan, and art experiences that this itinerary gave us.
- My packing strategy was to head over with a carry-on travel backpack (Peak Design 45L). I held off on making large purchases until I got to Kyushu, which was perfect- Fukuoka has great shopping options. I bought a cheap duffle bag from Don Quixote to stuff my clothes in and checked that for the flights back.
- I opted for a data sim card delivered to my first hotel and confirmed that my phone was unlocked/compatible....only to discover that my phone had an extra layer of lockedness and couldn't use the sim card (this seems to be a common issue according to others on google?). So that was an unexpected stressowaste of money. I ended up finding a portable wifi rental store in Shibuya that I could return at the Fukuoka airport so it wasn't a complete disaster. But still an unpleasant surprise after being awake for over 24 hours just arriving in a new country/city.
- I was really nervous about driving in Japan (opposite side of the road from where I live), but it ended up not being that bad. It helped having 3 other attentive passengers, being in a rural area, and I had recovered from jetlag by that point of the trip. Also, Japanese drivers are way less aggressive in than east coast Americans.
- I had grand plans to get through all 5 modules of Pimsleur's Japanese course, but I only made it through unit 1 and was glad I did it. Like 90-95% of the content was relevant for tourists and it gave me enough of a familiarity with pronunciation to fill in the gaps with phrases I found through google searches. I filled out a couple index cards with phrases I thought would be most helpful and they were really indispensible. Especially dining out vocab (asking for a table for 4, how to order from the menu, polite expressions, etc). I think the locals appreciated that I was trying and if they said something I didn't understand (which was frequently), I would say sumimasen, yoku wakarimasen (I'm sorry, I don't understand well) and they usually could supply the necessary english words to communicate their question, etc. So I'm glad I put in the effort. It took me maybe 30 hours to get through unit 1 of the course.
- As a pescatarian/vegetarian, it took a little bit of work and trial and error to find veg friendly restaurants/communicate my diet with staff. Some people didn't understand what I meant when I said I'm vegetarian (Watashiwah bejitarian dis), but everyone understood "I don't eat meat" (Ohnekuwah chotto). I found it helpful to state that and then pointedly ask, what can I eat? (my grammar is probably wrong, but I think I would say "nanio taberaremaska?"). I suggest this approach because at one restaurant I had stated that I was vegetarian, the waiter seemed to understand what I meant but then I went ahead and ordered items that seemed vegetarian and they ended up having meat in them. Wasn't a big deal for me, I didn't have a problem eating around it, but it may be a problem for more strict vegetarians. In terms of finding veg friendly restaurants, I did a lot of cross-referencing with Happy Cow. By no means comprehensive, but it was a helpful resource.
- Related, if you are capable of calling a restaurant to make dinner reservations, try to. A lot of restaurants don't seem to take walk-ins (especially teppanyaki restaurants) and a lot of restaurants didn't seem to have online reservation systems. Restaurants in Kyoto were fine with walk-ins but there were so many tourists you had to deal with long waits to get in. Don't wait until you're hungry to figure out dinner plans- you'll just end up really hangry.
- Despite heavily relying on the train for getting from city to city, we didn't bother with the JR pass. Didn't seem worth the price, especially since it doesn't cover Nozomi trains.
- I'm not seasonal allergy prone, but the pollen was brutal in Kyoto in May. We were all very puffy faced, but still able to enjoy sightseeing. So pack allergy meds or plan to hit up a drug store. Funnily enough, we were fine everywhere else in Japan.
- Used the GO app for hailing taxis. A lot more taxis use this than Uber. It didn't work in Takamatsu or Beppu, however.
2024.06.09 16:48 Subject_Ordinary2699 Haven’t been getting along for months, every day I feel closer to being so over this and done.
Umm… it’s a long story I guess. TL/DR at the bottom.
Sometimes I really want to divorce. But I also really don’t. I do love my husband a lot and we have had such incredible times together and built a really amazing life. I don’t want to leave it all behind, to start over with someone new, blow up my life and start with literally nothing, but man am I hurting right now. I feel so lonely in my marriage that sometimes I feel like it would just be easier to actually be alone. I don’t like how I’m being treated and I don’t like that I’m asking for bare minimum and not even getting that. Sometimes I feel like I am growing up and outgrowing him/our dynamic and things feel stagnated (I want kids, he wants to drink and party).
My husband (30M) and I (29F) have hit a rough patch, except I’m not even sure if it’s just a rough patch anymore or if we are truly falling apart. Together for nearly 6 years, married for 3. It makes me sick to think about because I feel as if my husband is a totally different person now. I’m so confused because our relationship has never ever felt this wrong or hurtful, I used to believe our love was so healthy and nurturing; my husband used to communicate and be open and loving and now he’s just passive aggressive (he’ll even admit it), hot/cold and mean to me.
He has said some very hurtful things but will never take accountability or apologize for what he has said to me, he often times will spin things around and blame me for all the ways I’m hurting him and never acknowledge what I have come to him with; like I will raise a concern and somehow by the end of it, I’m left apologizing while my feelings were never acknowledged. Or he just goes “ok!?” Like ok so what??? A lot of DARVO and defensiveness, he will twist my words and insist I said something when I know I didn’t. If I call him out, I just get a “sorry I misspoke” from him. If I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says it’s a me problem. That he has no problems. That I should just be happy and move on. In his mind, we wake up the next day and be happy and all is well because we choose to be better (ok sure, fine) but with no apology or repair attempts, I have a hard time “just moving on”. It’s hard to forgive a person that can’t even admit they hurt you or show remorse for how they have done so. I have gone to bed sobbing next to him and it’s never brought up or talked about the next day and he wonders why I’m growing distant. He has zero compassion and empathy for my feelings and I feel really alone in that.
Last year, we were long distance for the whole year (military). Our fights started in September when I went to visit and I felt he was disrespecting me, mocking me, not taking me seriously, disregarding my suggestions in front of our friends. One night, he started picking fights with me at a bar and insisted we go home “because I wasn’t having fun”. I never expressed that, though the bar scene is not my thing, I still went with him and our friends and was enjoying our time. I told him to go have fun, dance, hang out and I’ll enjoy my drink. He kept saying I wasn’t having fun and we needed to leave and I kept insisting I was totally happy to just be there (that was the truth). A lot of times he will project his own interpretations of my feelings onto me and assume he knows what I’m thinking/feeling without asking. We left that night without our friends and grabbed dinner on the way back to the hotel, except he completely ignored me and stonewalled me the entire time. I tried to make conversation but took the hint, let him know I don’t feel welcome in this interaction since he wasn’t engaging in return, and that I was going back to the hotel alone since he clearly didn’t want me there. His defensiveness is usually cold and silent, he has admitted that he “stonewalls me because he’s done talking with me”. He refuses to talk a lot of the time or will say there’s nothing he wants to talk about.
After I had come back home, our fights continued. I asked him a handful of times to please send me the pics we took on our vacations and it took him over a month of me reminding him to please just do it. Finally he became angry and BLEW UP on me and sent them, only half, and I reminded him that there’s more and he spit back at me “THAT’S ALL I HAVE, WE’RE NEVER TAKING PICTURES ON MY PHONE AGAIN” when I knew there were more. What a stupid, petty thing to get mad at me over?
Another time, he completely disappeared on me for 3 whole days and I hardly heard a word from him. I knew exactly where he was (drunk in his dorm playing video games, on a complete bender with his friends online, only taking breaks to go to work drunk/hungover and come back to drinking again). I attempted to reach out, say hi, stay connected, because I feel that’s important long distance? To make an effort to communicate? Because we have a responsibility to each other? I don’t feel like I’m asking for much here, but he was just gone for 3 days. When I finally heard from him and let him know how hurt I was because I felt like he didn’t have time for me (I have often felt second to his online friends, I spent a year and a half going to bed alone and existing without him because he would stay up drinking with them), all he said was “sorry sometimes I just fuck off into my own world”. Like dude you have a wife that you need to be involved with too? I have a really big problem with his drinking and his online life as it’s taken a higher priority over me a lot of times. For a long time, all I saw him do was go to work, come home, drink and game.
Between September to now, things have only spiraled and gotten so much worse. In January, we moved abroad. I knew it would be a hard adjustment for me as I’ve never left home, am incredibly close to my family and overall just a big change, plus I had all my luggage and our two pets to drag through airports and onto flights with. I needed help. I wanted to do it together, as husband and wife, I wanted his support and for us to be doing this new thing in life together… except I had to BEG him to come pick me up. I knew I would need him as my heart was aching over leaving home. There was so much resistance from him though, he said I’d be fine and to just meet him at our next duty station. That it’s such a big waste of time and money to come get me from Asia (he gets a free flight home though??), just to fly back to Asia. Then he started talking about going home to his home state before our move, to see friends and family, and I asked, ok so if you’re in the states already, why not just come up to me and pick me up and we go to Japan together (also, he has time and money to go them but not for me?)? At this point he came unglued and hysterical, insisting again how it’s a waste of time and money and who is going to pay for him to go home? Me? (I’m like, wtf why would I pay for you to go party but you can’t make time to pick me up for a big transition???) he let me know how much I frustrate him and honestly the whole fight just turned into something so bizarre and vague, I wondered what we even were fighting about anymore (as often is the case). I was sobbing and so hurt that he clearly wasn’t choosing me when I needed him, and we fell silent on the phone while I just cried and cried. All he could say was “yeah I know you’re pissed at me”.
Since moving, our sex life has completely declined (my fault). I’ve been depressed, stressed, tired and honestly so hurt by him that I don’t want to have sex with him, especially when he won’t even acknowledge that he has hurt me or apologize. That’s not someone I want to be intimate with. So I have rejected him a couple times, letting him know I’m feeling really insecure about us. I have tried SO HARD to not reject him because I know how hurtful it is, and sometimes in the past, I was just tired. Not in the mood. It doesn’t happen frequently at all (maybe 3 times in our time together), and the times I have said no, he literally will throw himself over in a tantrum like manner and it’s so gross and childish to me. Now, since things have gotten worse, he just goes cold. He told me that if it weren’t for us being married, my couple of times saying no recently would’ve been enough for him to be done with me. And that hurts, because not once has he even attempted to ask what’s wrong, why am I feeling this way, what can we do differently, how is my heart? He can throw everything away over that without even talking to me first? I told him I’m straight up depressed/homesick and having a hard time since moving, not to mention our lack of connection, and he never expressed concern, only his hurt feelings for how rejected and ugly he feels because I won’t have sex with him. He makes weird, off handed snarky comments about how he sometimes “considers going to the gym and getting in shape just to attract some attention and that he never would do that, but he’s thought about it”. The weird comments have happened here and there over a few subjects, leaving me dead in my tracks thinking “what the fuck was that? Where did that comment even come from?”
I have begged him to meet me half way outside of the bedroom, because I don’t feel emotionally connected anymore and that we really need help, and he’s still so dumbfounded that I won’t have sex even though I’ve clearly laid out the ways in which I’m hurting and feeling like we are falling apart. I can’t even remember the last time he told me he loved me first, that he appreciates me, is proud of me, feels lucky to have me, but he used to say those things.
At one point, I wrote him a very long, heartfelt letter stating exactly what was hurting me and why I was feeling the way I am. He read it and didn’t speak to me or even look at me for a week. LITERALLY. When he finally responded (opposite shifts and never any time to talk, a lot of our conversations have been letters or texts lately, because there’s no time/we never see each other and our in person fights derail anyways), he told me he “read my note and felt nothing and that he didn’t care, but knows that he should care so he’ll consider how he should feel.”
I have asked for counseling, to which he insisted he was never going to do again because it’s just a crying/shit-on-the-husband-fest (he is divorced once, I assume he went with his ex), he told me there’s nothing wrong with him, he doesn’t need someone telling him how to live his life, he’s happy with who he is and will not go to counseling. I told him it’s not an option anymore and so we went once (didn’t go well) and he reminded me more than once how stupid it was. I told him I want a husband that has a growth mindset and someone who is wanting to work on things with me, who takes me seriously when I say we need help, someone who is open to talking and communicating. He took offense that I don’t think he’s growth minded because of his spiritual journey and personal growth but I asked him, how are you showing up as a husband? He tells me “we don’t need to be checking in and talking about things”.
He says I’m trying to change him and want him to be different (because I’ve asked him for help around the house but he doesn’t see the mess the same so it doesn’t matter to him? But to me it does because it’s his mess too and we exist together, therefore we both need to be making an effort? I have taken on 90% of the household chores for a while now and let him know I need help and suddenly he’s saying I’m trying to change him and asking him to “put on his husband mask”, what does that even mean?????) I’ve asked him to attempt to speak my love language more (touch and words), as there’s hardly any intimacy between us (no hand holding, cuddling, hardly any affection outside the bedroom) and that’s asking him to be someone he is not?? Because he’s not touchy feely? He will slap my ass or grope my boobs (huge pet peeve and I’ve expressed that) and when I ask him for a hug instead, there’s push back? He gets mad and guilts me when I won’t drink with him (I don’t need or want to drink every night at home, sorry). One time he was poking and pinching at my sides and I asked him not to as it was making me uncomfortable (struggling with binge eating at the moment) and he got irritated and defensive because “he’s just playing and why can’t I have fun”.
Through all of this, I feel like I am the one saying I want to work on things, I love him and our life and let’s do better, let’s fix things, let’s grow together, I’m the one still making an effort to bridge the gap even though we are hurting, and all I’m hearing from him are all the ways he doesn’t like me: he thinks I’m boring (because I won’t drink with him), that I can’t do anything for him that he doesn’t do for himself (yes he literally said this, what do I even offer him?), that he fell in love with me for my independence and what am I doing now? (I uprooted my entire life and moved to another country to support him, I got a job within 2 weeks of being here and have since secured a government position, I’ve bought and paid off a car in 3 months, I go out and travel in a country where I can’t even speak the language, made friends, and he says I’m not independent?? WTF), that he doesn’t need me or this relationship and only fears I’m wasting his time. He can’t think of a single thing he appreciates about me (his words) when I feel I have given up everything and bend over backwards for him to care for him and our relationship. I really feel he doesn’t like me or respect me, but he’ll say he wants me around. He insists I don’t love him or like him, but I feel that is his own projection onto me. We are long distance again and I have expressed multiple times that it’s important to me to stay engaged and check in at least once daily, to say hi, and I’ve been doing that despite being incredibly busy myself, but he ghosts me constantly and is hardly reciprocating effort. I have hardly heard from him in a month, despite my efforts (I’m starting to feel like a damn fool by continuously reaching out, if I don’t text, we don’t talk, I’m tired of the games and have since pulled back but that feels so shitty to even have to do???). I want someone that WANTS to say hi to me and see how I’m doing???
I don’t feel I have a friend in him, as he never asks about me, my life, my inner world, what’s going on with me, does not express interest in my new jobs, new friends etc, when I am constantly interacting with his world and engaging with him. I have expressed to him I feel like I am his friend but he is not mine because he doesn’t express an interest. We do a lot of what he wants and not a lot of what I want.
I told him I want to go home for my 30th birthday in July (it’s a big deal to me!) and I asked him to meet up with me in my state (he will already be in the states for a work trip). He told me he doesn’t want to come hang out with me on my birthday and was instead thinking of going to a big get together with his online friends in a different state to party and drink with them. That really hurt me. Do I not matter to him at all???
I have a big problem with his drinking (he has driven drunk at least 3 times that I know of, 2 of which I was in the car with him, once my family was also involved), I have expressed my concerns about his drinking and he says “I don’t think it’s a problem”. I told him I don’t want our future kids thinking it’s ok to wake up and pop open a beer for breakfast every day and he dismissed it.
We are not agreeing or seeing eye to eye on our next 5-10 years together: we want kids, but I want to be in the states closer to home so we can have our families be involved with our kids too, meanwhile he wants to live abroad as long as possible and retire out of the military overseas. He wants nothing to do with his family and doesn’t care to be close to them. I knew this, and thought I would be ok with it, but I’ve since realized that it’s actually really important to me to have our families involved and not be on the other side of the world at the moment. We can’t find a way to meet in the middle on this, but I don’t want to be this far away for too long (current trajectory is 3-7 years). He says he isn’t sure if he can compromise because he’s always done for others and not himself. Meanwhile, I feel like: maybe you should’ve thought about that before getting married? Aren’t your spouse’s feelings enough to move you in a direction that would be fulfilling for both of us, not just yourself? I agreed to 4 years overseas when I really didn’t want to, and now that I’m asking that we go home after, now it’s an issue?
We went to a marriage retreat that only further revealed what I have been hurting and expressing concern about: that I don’t feel connected and that we need to be digging deeper and investing more into our relationship. I cried so hard when we returned from that retreat and all he could tell me was how frustrated he was that he took us there only for me to come home and cry about it.
He is ok with pushing my boundaries and disregarding my feelings: example of this a couple months ago, I let him know multiple times and many hours in advance we had dinner reservations (we need to leave by 7). He gets ready around 630. I tell him, ok time to go. He says, just 5 more minutes (on his pc gaming and drinking). I say, ok it’s been 5 minutes, let’s go. He says, wait just another minute. 20 minutes pass and I’m now visibly irritated and telling him, I’m leaving, now we’re going to be late. He gets pissy and storms behind me, I let him know that it’s really important to me to be on time for things and I felt really disrespected by him making us late. He told me with attitude that “it’s fine” and it’s “not a big deal because we’ll still be there and we’ll get there when we get there”.
In the store, I will ask for his input on groceries and he will mutter under his breath to leave him alone, only to admit later that he did that and it was disrespectful: but just as an admittance and matter of fact, nothing more, like he’s ok with disrespecting me and declaring it??
Honestly there’s still so much to this, but it’s getting long - bottom line, I just really feel he doesn’t respect me or like me. I don’t feel like he loves me as a husband should or how I envision a marriage to be. I feel a lot of disinterest and complacency. I wonder if he could ever even properly be there for me in the ways I would want my husband to be (what happens when my dog or parents die, is he just going to dismiss my feelings then too and tell me to get over it? He is very emotionally avoidant, numb and dismissive). I don’t feel loved, supported, heard or understood, I feel so incredibly lonely in our marriage. I feel I am reaching a breaking point and it hurts deeply. He was NEVER like this, our relationship used to be so good and I have no idea what happened or why things changed but I am deeply unhappy now and don’t see a way forward with an unwilling partner who will not participate or sees nothing wrong. I deserve better and I want a husband and partner in life that is just as invested and just as loving and interested in me and willing to grow, as I am to him. I’m a damn good wife and I know that, I know what I have to offer, and I want someone that sees that and appreciates that. I feel my husband is very childish and immature and emotionally unavailable, I have wondered but whether or not he is manipulative doesn’t really matter and I don’t think labels are helpful, at this point all I know is I’m hurting and this isn’t working for me.
Of course this is only my side of the story, and no I have not been perfect. I have found myself in a dark, contemptuous state of mind towards him and tried my best to turn that around and reflect and do things differently. I am reading books, listening to podcasts, going to counseling, trying to model to him real apologies (sincerely too). He will say that I criticize him (I do have a harsh start up at times but have since tried to communicate softer and take more responsibility for my feelings and not find fault in his actions), that I want him to be someone he is not (he says I want him to put on a husband mask??), that he feels ugly and rejected because I won’t have sex with him, that I’m hurting him (but I’m honestly confused as to how because he can’t give specifics when I ask how or what I can do differently).
Sometimes I just feel so done with this and like it’s not worth it. I gave up everything to be in another country with him, I gave up friends, family, a career that I wanted to pursue, EVERYTHING, and this does not feel worth the pain I am feeling being so far away from the things that bring me joy outside of him. I feel deeply unfulfilled day to day.
We used to be so happy. He was so sweet and nurturing and cared for me, took interest in me, prioritized me. We had a wonderful life and home together, supported each other’s dreams and desires, used to communicate openly without defense or combative behavior. This is so left field for him/us that it’s left me deeply confused and feeling so much ambivalence. I used to feel #1 to him and now I just feel like his roommate.
Jesus this is long, if you read it and have any advice, thank you. I feel so alone in these feelings and don’t want to dump on my family and friends more than I have already. I am in individual counseling and that helps but I just needed to get it out of me and into the void.
TL/DR: basically I feel like I started challenging some bad behaviors and speaking up when my feelings were hurt (previously I guess I was the “cool girl” and chill and wouldn’t speak up and now I have resentment), and our relationship has become toxic. I am constantly torn between should I stay or should I go? I really don’t have much optimism anymore as my husband will spin things around and blame me, and I’m really not trying to act like a victim here, but he doesn’t take accountability or step up into being a leading man or husband and I’m tired. I’m tired of fighting, feeling sad, being long distance from my family and life in what feels like a failing marriage and not feeling like I’m being met half way on repairing/moving forward in a healthy manner.
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Sometimes I really want to divorce. But I also really don’t. I do love my husband a lot and we have had such incredible times together and built a really amazing life. I don’t want to leave it all behind, to start over with someone new, blow up my life and start with literally nothing, but man am I hurting right now. I feel so lonely in my marriage that sometimes I feel like it would just be easier to actually be alone. I don’t like how I’m being treated and I don’t like that I’m asking for bare minimum and not even getting that. Sometimes I feel like I am growing up and outgrowing him/our dynamic and things feel stagnated (I want kids, he wants to drink and party).
My husband (30M) and I (29F) have hit a rough patch, except I’m not even sure if it’s just a rough patch anymore or if we are truly falling apart. Together for nearly 6 years, married for 3. It makes me sick to think about because I feel as if my husband is a totally different person now. I’m so confused because our relationship has never ever felt this wrong or hurtful, I used to believe our love was so healthy and nurturing; my husband used to communicate and be open and loving and now he’s just passive aggressive (he’ll even admit it), hot/cold and mean to me.
He has said some very hurtful things but will never take accountability or apologize for what he has said to me, he often times will spin things around and blame me for all the ways I’m hurting him and never acknowledge what I have come to him with; like I will raise a concern and somehow by the end of it, I’m left apologizing while my feelings were never acknowledged. Or he just goes “ok!?” Like ok so what??? A lot of DARVO and defensiveness, he will twist my words and insist I said something when I know I didn’t. If I call him out, I just get a “sorry I misspoke” from him. If I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says it’s a me problem. That he has no problems. That I should just be happy and move on. In his mind, we wake up the next day and be happy and all is well because we choose to be better (ok sure, fine) but with no apology or repair attempts, I have a hard time “just moving on”. It’s hard to forgive a person that can’t even admit they hurt you or show remorse for how they have done so. I have gone to bed sobbing next to him and it’s never brought up or talked about the next day and he wonders why I’m growing distant. He has zero compassion and empathy for my feelings and I feel really alone in that.
Last year, we were long distance for the whole year (military). Our fights started in September when I went to visit and I felt he was disrespecting me, mocking me, not taking me seriously, disregarding my suggestions in front of our friends. One night, he started picking fights with me at a bar and insisted we go home “because I wasn’t having fun”. I never expressed that, though the bar scene is not my thing, I still went with him and our friends and was enjoying our time. I told him to go have fun, dance, hang out and I’ll enjoy my drink. He kept saying I wasn’t having fun and we needed to leave and I kept insisting I was totally happy to just be there (that was the truth). A lot of times he will project his own interpretations of my feelings onto me and assume he knows what I’m thinking/feeling without asking. We left that night without our friends and grabbed dinner on the way back to the hotel, except he completely ignored me and stonewalled me the entire time. I tried to make conversation but took the hint, let him know I don’t feel welcome in this interaction since he wasn’t engaging in return, and that I was going back to the hotel alone since he clearly didn’t want me there. His defensiveness is usually cold and silent, he has admitted that he “stonewalls me because he’s done talking with me”. He refuses to talk a lot of the time or will say there’s nothing he wants to talk about.
After I had come back home, our fights continued. I asked him a handful of times to please send me the pics we took on our vacations and it took him over a month of me reminding him to please just do it. Finally he became angry and BLEW UP on me and sent them, only half, and I reminded him that there’s more and he spit back at me “THAT’S ALL I HAVE, WE’RE NEVER TAKING PICTURES ON MY PHONE AGAIN” when I knew there were more. What a stupid, petty thing to get mad at me over?
Another time, he completely disappeared on me for 3 whole days and I hardly heard a word from him. I knew exactly where he was (drunk in his dorm playing video games, on a complete bender with his friends online, only taking breaks to go to work drunk/hungover and come back to drinking again). I attempted to reach out, say hi, stay connected, because I feel that’s important long distance? To make an effort to communicate? Because we have a responsibility to each other? I don’t feel like I’m asking for much here, but he was just gone for 3 days. When I finally heard from him and let him know how hurt I was because I felt like he didn’t have time for me (I have often felt second to his online friends, I spent a year and a half going to bed alone and existing without him because he would stay up drinking with them), all he said was “sorry sometimes I just fuck off into my own world”. Like dude you have a wife that you need to be involved with too? I have a really big problem with his drinking and his online life as it’s taken a higher priority over me a lot of times. For a long time, all I saw him do was go to work, come home, drink and game.
Between September to now, things have only spiraled and gotten so much worse. In January, we moved abroad. I knew it would be a hard adjustment for me as I’ve never left home, am incredibly close to my family and overall just a big change, plus I had all my luggage and our two pets to drag through airports and onto flights with. I needed help. I wanted to do it together, as husband and wife, I wanted his support and for us to be doing this new thing in life together… except I had to BEG him to come pick me up. I knew I would need him as my heart was aching over leaving home. There was so much resistance from him though, he said I’d be fine and to just meet him at our next duty station. That it’s such a big waste of time and money to come get me from Asia (he gets a free flight home though??), just to fly back to Asia. Then he started talking about going home to his home state before our move, to see friends and family, and I asked, ok so if you’re in the states already, why not just come up to me and pick me up and we go to Japan together (also, he has time and money to go them but not for me?)? At this point he came unglued and hysterical, insisting again how it’s a waste of time and money and who is going to pay for him to go home? Me? (I’m like, wtf why would I pay for you to go party but you can’t make time to pick me up for a big transition???) he let me know how much I frustrate him and honestly the whole fight just turned into something so bizarre and vague, I wondered what we even were fighting about anymore (as often is the case). I was sobbing and so hurt that he clearly wasn’t choosing me when I needed him, and we fell silent on the phone while I just cried and cried. All he could say was “yeah I know you’re pissed at me”.
Since moving, our sex life has completely declined (my fault). I’ve been depressed, stressed, tired and honestly so hurt by him that I don’t want to have sex with him, especially when he won’t even acknowledge that he has hurt me or apologize. That’s not someone I want to be intimate with. So I have rejected him a couple times, letting him know I’m feeling really insecure about us. I have tried SO HARD to not reject him because I know how hurtful it is, and sometimes in the past, I was just tired. Not in the mood. It doesn’t happen frequently at all (maybe 3 times in our time together), and the times I have said no, he literally will throw himself over in a tantrum like manner and it’s so gross and childish to me. Now, since things have gotten worse, he just goes cold. He told me that if it weren’t for us being married, my couple of times saying no recently would’ve been enough for him to be done with me. And that hurts, because not once has he even attempted to ask what’s wrong, why am I feeling this way, what can we do differently, how is my heart? He can throw everything away over that without even talking to me first? I told him I’m straight up depressed/homesick and having a hard time since moving, not to mention our lack of connection, and he never expressed concern, only his hurt feelings for how rejected and ugly he feels because I won’t have sex with him. He makes weird, off handed snarky comments about how he sometimes “considers going to the gym and getting in shape just to attract some attention and that he never would do that, but he’s thought about it”. The weird comments have happened here and there over a few subjects, leaving me dead in my tracks thinking “what the fuck was that? Where did that comment even come from?”
I have begged him to meet me half way outside of the bedroom, because I don’t feel emotionally connected anymore and that we really need help, and he’s still so dumbfounded that I won’t have sex even though I’ve clearly laid out the ways in which I’m hurting and feeling like we are falling apart. I can’t even remember the last time he told me he loved me first, that he appreciates me, is proud of me, feels lucky to have me, but he used to say those things.
At one point, I wrote him a very long, heartfelt letter stating exactly what was hurting me and why I was feeling the way I am. He read it and didn’t speak to me or even look at me for a week. LITERALLY. When he finally responded (opposite shifts and never any time to talk, a lot of our conversations have been letters or texts lately, because there’s no time/we never see each other and our in person fights derail anyways), he told me he “read my note and felt nothing and that he didn’t care, but knows that he should care so he’ll consider how he should feel.”
I have asked for counseling, to which he insisted he was never going to do again because it’s just a crying/shit-on-the-husband-fest (he is divorced once, I assume he went with his ex), he told me there’s nothing wrong with him, he doesn’t need someone telling him how to live his life, he’s happy with who he is and will not go to counseling. I told him it’s not an option anymore and so we went once (didn’t go well) and he reminded me more than once how stupid it was. I told him I want a husband that has a growth mindset and someone who is wanting to work on things with me, who takes me seriously when I say we need help, someone who is open to talking and communicating. He took offense that I don’t think he’s growth minded because of his spiritual journey and personal growth but I asked him, how are you showing up as a husband? He tells me “we don’t need to be checking in and talking about things”.
He says I’m trying to change him and want him to be different (because I’ve asked him for help around the house but he doesn’t see the mess the same so it doesn’t matter to him? But to me it does because it’s his mess too and we exist together, therefore we both need to be making an effort? I have taken on 90% of the household chores for a while now and let him know I need help and suddenly he’s saying I’m trying to change him and asking him to “put on his husband mask”, what does that even mean?????) I’ve asked him to attempt to speak my love language more (touch and words), as there’s hardly any intimacy between us (no hand holding, cuddling, hardly any affection outside the bedroom) and that’s asking him to be someone he is not?? Because he’s not touchy feely? He will slap my ass or grope my boobs (huge pet peeve and I’ve expressed that) and when I ask him for a hug instead, there’s push back? He gets mad and guilts me when I won’t drink with him (I don’t need or want to drink every night at home, sorry). One time he was poking and pinching at my sides and I asked him not to as it was making me uncomfortable (struggling with binge eating at the moment) and he got irritated and defensive because “he’s just playing and why can’t I have fun”.
Through all of this, I feel like I am the one saying I want to work on things, I love him and our life and let’s do better, let’s fix things, let’s grow together, I’m the one still making an effort to bridge the gap even though we are hurting, and all I’m hearing from him are all the ways he doesn’t like me: he thinks I’m boring (because I won’t drink with him), that I can’t do anything for him that he doesn’t do for himself (yes he literally said this, what do I even offer him?), that he fell in love with me for my independence and what am I doing now? (I uprooted my entire life and moved to another country to support him, I got a job within 2 weeks of being here and have since secured a government position, I’ve bought and paid off a car in 3 months, I go out and travel in a country where I can’t even speak the language, made friends, and he says I’m not independent?? WTF), that he doesn’t need me or this relationship and only fears I’m wasting his time. He can’t think of a single thing he appreciates about me (his words) when I feel I have given up everything and bend over backwards for him to care for him and our relationship. I really feel he doesn’t like me or respect me, but he’ll say he wants me around. He insists I don’t love him or like him, but I feel that is his own projection onto me. We are long distance again and I have expressed multiple times that it’s important to me to stay engaged and check in at least once daily, to say hi, and I’ve been doing that despite being incredibly busy myself, but he ghosts me constantly and is hardly reciprocating effort. I have hardly heard from him in a month, despite my efforts (I’m starting to feel like a damn fool by continuously reaching out, if I don’t text, we don’t talk, I’m tired of the games and have since pulled back but that feels so shitty to even have to do???). I want someone that WANTS to say hi to me and see how I’m doing???
I don’t feel I have a friend in him, as he never asks about me, my life, my inner world, what’s going on with me, does not express interest in my new jobs, new friends etc, when I am constantly interacting with his world and engaging with him. I have expressed to him I feel like I am his friend but he is not mine because he doesn’t express an interest. We do a lot of what he wants and not a lot of what I want.
I told him I want to go home for my 30th birthday in July (it’s a big deal to me!) and I asked him to meet up with me in my state (he will already be in the states for a work trip). He told me he doesn’t want to come hang out with me on my birthday and was instead thinking of going to a big get together with his online friends in a different state to party and drink with them. That really hurt me. Do I not matter to him at all???
I have a big problem with his drinking (he has driven drunk at least 3 times that I know of, 2 of which I was in the car with him, once my family was also involved), I have expressed my concerns about his drinking and he says “I don’t think it’s a problem”. I told him I don’t want our future kids thinking it’s ok to wake up and pop open a beer for breakfast every day and he dismissed it.
We are not agreeing or seeing eye to eye on our next 5-10 years together: we want kids, but I want to be in the states closer to home so we can have our families be involved with our kids too, meanwhile he wants to live abroad as long as possible and retire out of the military overseas. He wants nothing to do with his family and doesn’t care to be close to them. I knew this, and thought I would be ok with it, but I’ve since realized that it’s actually really important to me to have our families involved and not be on the other side of the world at the moment. We can’t find a way to meet in the middle on this, but I don’t want to be this far away for too long (current trajectory is 3-7 years). He says he isn’t sure if he can compromise because he’s always done for others and not himself. Meanwhile, I feel like: maybe you should’ve thought about that before getting married? Aren’t your spouse’s feelings enough to move you in a direction that would be fulfilling for both of us, not just yourself? I agreed to 4 years overseas when I really didn’t want to, and now that I’m asking that we go home after, now it’s an issue?
We went to a marriage retreat that only further revealed what I have been hurting and expressing concern about: that I don’t feel connected and that we need to be digging deeper and investing more into our relationship. I cried so hard when we returned from that retreat and all he could tell me was how frustrated he was that he took us there only for me to come home and cry about it.
He is ok with pushing my boundaries and disregarding my feelings: example of this a couple months ago, I let him know multiple times and many hours in advance we had dinner reservations (we need to leave by 7). He gets ready around 630. I tell him, ok time to go. He says, just 5 more minutes (on his pc gaming and drinking). I say, ok it’s been 5 minutes, let’s go. He says, wait just another minute. 20 minutes pass and I’m now visibly irritated and telling him, I’m leaving, now we’re going to be late. He gets pissy and storms behind me, I let him know that it’s really important to me to be on time for things and I felt really disrespected by him making us late. He told me with attitude that “it’s fine” and it’s “not a big deal because we’ll still be there and we’ll get there when we get there”.
In the store, I will ask for his input on groceries and he will mutter under his breath to leave him alone, only to admit later that he did that and it was disrespectful: but just as an admittance and matter of fact, nothing more, like he’s ok with disrespecting me and declaring it??
Honestly there’s still so much to this, but it’s getting long - bottom line, I just really feel he doesn’t respect me or like me. I don’t feel like he loves me as a husband should or how I envision a marriage to be. I feel a lot of disinterest and complacency. I wonder if he could ever even properly be there for me in the ways I would want my husband to be (what happens when my dog or parents die, is he just going to dismiss my feelings then too and tell me to get over it? He is very emotionally avoidant, numb and dismissive). I don’t feel loved, supported, heard or understood, I feel so incredibly lonely in our marriage. I feel I am reaching a breaking point and it hurts deeply. He was NEVER like this, our relationship used to be so good and I have no idea what happened or why things changed but I am deeply unhappy now and don’t see a way forward with an unwilling partner who will not participate or sees nothing wrong. I deserve better and I want a husband and partner in life that is just as invested and just as loving and interested in me and willing to grow, as I am to him. I’m a damn good wife and I know that, I know what I have to offer, and I want someone that sees that and appreciates that. I feel my husband is very childish and immature and emotionally unavailable, I have wondered but whether or not he is manipulative doesn’t really matter and I don’t think labels are helpful, at this point all I know is I’m hurting and this isn’t working for me.
Of course this is only my side of the story, and no I have not been perfect. I have found myself in a dark, contemptuous state of mind towards him and tried my best to turn that around and reflect and do things differently. I am reading books, listening to podcasts, going to counseling, trying to model to him real apologies (sincerely too). He will say that I criticize him (I do have a harsh start up at times but have since tried to communicate softer and take more responsibility for my feelings and not find fault in his actions), that I want him to be someone he is not (he says I want him to put on a husband mask??), that he feels ugly and rejected because I won’t have sex with him, that I’m hurting him (but I’m honestly confused as to how because he can’t give specifics when I ask how or what I can do differently).
Sometimes I just feel so done with this and like it’s not worth it. I gave up everything to be in another country with him, I gave up friends, family, a career that I wanted to pursue, EVERYTHING, and this does not feel worth the pain I am feeling being so far away from the things that bring me joy outside of him. I feel deeply unfulfilled day to day.
We used to be so happy. He was so sweet and nurturing and cared for me, took interest in me, prioritized me. We had a wonderful life and home together, supported each other’s dreams and desires, used to communicate openly without defense or combative behavior. This is so left field for him/us that it’s left me deeply confused and feeling so much ambivalence. I used to feel #1 to him and now I just feel like his roommate.
Jesus this is long, if you read it and have any advice, thank you. I feel so alone in these feelings and don’t want to dump on my family and friends more than I have already. I am in individual counseling and that helps but I just needed to get it out of me and into the void.
TL/DR: basically I feel like I started challenging some bad behaviors and speaking up when my feelings were hurt (previously I guess I was the “cool girl” and chill and wouldn’t speak up and now I have resentment), and our relationship has become toxic. I am constantly torn between should I stay or should I go? I really don’t have much optimism anymore as my husband will spin things around and blame me, and I’m really not trying to act like a victim here, but he doesn’t take accountability or step up into being a leading man or husband and I’m tired. I’m tired of fighting, feeling sad, being long distance from my family and life in what feels like a failing marriage and not feeling like I’m being met half way on repairing/moving forward in a healthy manner.
2024.06.09 15:14 DrivingMyLifeAway1 The High and the Mighty - 1954 - SPOILERS
Just finished watching this movie on Amazon Prime and didn’t find any previous posts here with any significant discussion about the content. I’m curious what others think of it, good or bad. I’m going to focus on the bad but others feel free to share what you liked or correct me if I’m out of line with my critical thoughts.
I found it entertaining but also seriously lacking. As you may know, it is considered by many to be the precursor to later airline and other disaster movies, including the comedy Airplane. It does some things well but not enough, in my opinion.
Spoilers
The film starts out with a mild dose of humor as we are introduced to the passengers of the doomed airliner, via a style that I immediately recognized from the tv shows Love Boat and Fantasy Island. We also get the much more serious intro to John Wayne’s character pilot Dan Roman and his losses.
Then as the flight begins from Hawaii to San Francisco, we learn more about the passengers, largely through flashbacks, as more of their stories are told, with some humor and some much more melodramatic, also a precursor to the future airliner disaster movies especially.
But for my purposes I want to focus on the aspects that simply didn’t make sense to me and detracted from what should have been building tension and a feeling of realism which would have made the film better for me. First, while there was later discussion of what was going wrong with the plane and what they needed to do to survive, there were several points where the lack of dialogue among the pilots and navigator seemed unrealistic. Specifically the unexplained vibrations that everyone was feeling but was initially shrugged off. It wasn’t until the stewardess got burned by spilled coffee and told the pilots that they even started to do something to find the cause. They knew there was an oil leak in engine 4 (from the preflight inspection) but that never got mentioned again.
Then, the scene where the passenger with the gun gets up and ends up discharging the gun in the struggle that ensued. Simultaneously, engine one catches on fire and the propeller disintegrates, causing a fuel leak that means they are almost certainly going to have to ditch in the ocean. I had to rewatch the scene four times before I finally concluded that the gunshot had nothing to do with the engine fire and the timing of the two events was purely coincidental!
I’m sorry but that severely damaged the entire credibility of the movie for me because nothing about that made sense to me. A single pistol gunshot seems extremely unlikely to cause an engine to be destroyed but yet that’s exactly how the filmmaker appeared to set it up and lead the audience to believe. But none of the follow through made sense, given that premise. Yes the Swedish (?) passenger took the gun away from the jealous man, but none of the other passengers talked about what had just happened to either clarify that the gun had nothing to do with it or that the guy had nearly or potentially killed them all if the plane crashes. Surely some would believe he was entirely to blame! Or the crew would explain what the facts are and that the gunshot was not the cause. No one even mentions that they have a homicidal man onboard and they all just act like he’s no longer a threat. Even the Swede gives him the gun back when he asks, only to watch him immediately get up with the intention of killing the man he wants to kill in the first place! No one else knows or cares.
This alone ruins any credibility the movie had. But wait, there’s more! After the engine failure, supposedly there are 11 minutes they have to make up to reach San Francisco. And they think they have made it up, until the navigator realizes he made a terrible mistake and got confused about miles vs nautical miles. But then shortly afterwards 11 minutes becomes the magic number again. The only hinted at explanation that is given for how they made this time up is that they flew slightly slower and lower to conserve fuel. If that’s true, why weren’t they doing that earlier? Instead they throw luggage overboard but never discussed whether that helped or not. Apparently it did!
Finally, most of the final scene is ludicrous, with the exception of Dan Roman walking off at the very end whistling the memorable theme, which was perfect. My criticism is of the lack of seriousness concerning the multiple engine fires and fuel leaks. Yeah, the press is there but the passengers disembark as though everything was normal, except for the rush to avoid the press and see loved ones. No emergency procedures. No cautions from the crew, just sauntering down the steps. The PR guy is smoking a cigar! I honestly don’t know what would have been procedure in the 50s for a near disaster. But certainly medical personnel would have been on hand to evaluate any possible injuries, information would have been written down about reimbursement for the luggage, follow up by the FAA, or SOMETHING. And the crew all just says good night and walks away like it was just another flight. Even if formal inquiries were not done in the 1950s, I still can’t imagine they wouldn’t have wanted to talk about what they just survived amongst themselves, even if briefly. Not to mention that the attempted murderer is allowed to disembark normally too!
Also I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the slap scene that obviously plays into the 1980 Airplane. It wasn’t believable in 1954 but gives an antecedent to the hilarious scene in Airplane. Wayne really wasn’t that heroic. He just had to be the voice of reason and calmness in the midst of Robert Stack’s meltdown as the lead pilot.
The movie was too long and 20 or more minutes could have easily been cut. Even drawn out, I was mostly entertained, despite my criticism, and enjoyed seeing where disaster films began.
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I found it entertaining but also seriously lacking. As you may know, it is considered by many to be the precursor to later airline and other disaster movies, including the comedy Airplane. It does some things well but not enough, in my opinion.
Spoilers
The film starts out with a mild dose of humor as we are introduced to the passengers of the doomed airliner, via a style that I immediately recognized from the tv shows Love Boat and Fantasy Island. We also get the much more serious intro to John Wayne’s character pilot Dan Roman and his losses.
Then as the flight begins from Hawaii to San Francisco, we learn more about the passengers, largely through flashbacks, as more of their stories are told, with some humor and some much more melodramatic, also a precursor to the future airliner disaster movies especially.
But for my purposes I want to focus on the aspects that simply didn’t make sense to me and detracted from what should have been building tension and a feeling of realism which would have made the film better for me. First, while there was later discussion of what was going wrong with the plane and what they needed to do to survive, there were several points where the lack of dialogue among the pilots and navigator seemed unrealistic. Specifically the unexplained vibrations that everyone was feeling but was initially shrugged off. It wasn’t until the stewardess got burned by spilled coffee and told the pilots that they even started to do something to find the cause. They knew there was an oil leak in engine 4 (from the preflight inspection) but that never got mentioned again.
Then, the scene where the passenger with the gun gets up and ends up discharging the gun in the struggle that ensued. Simultaneously, engine one catches on fire and the propeller disintegrates, causing a fuel leak that means they are almost certainly going to have to ditch in the ocean. I had to rewatch the scene four times before I finally concluded that the gunshot had nothing to do with the engine fire and the timing of the two events was purely coincidental!
I’m sorry but that severely damaged the entire credibility of the movie for me because nothing about that made sense to me. A single pistol gunshot seems extremely unlikely to cause an engine to be destroyed but yet that’s exactly how the filmmaker appeared to set it up and lead the audience to believe. But none of the follow through made sense, given that premise. Yes the Swedish (?) passenger took the gun away from the jealous man, but none of the other passengers talked about what had just happened to either clarify that the gun had nothing to do with it or that the guy had nearly or potentially killed them all if the plane crashes. Surely some would believe he was entirely to blame! Or the crew would explain what the facts are and that the gunshot was not the cause. No one even mentions that they have a homicidal man onboard and they all just act like he’s no longer a threat. Even the Swede gives him the gun back when he asks, only to watch him immediately get up with the intention of killing the man he wants to kill in the first place! No one else knows or cares.
This alone ruins any credibility the movie had. But wait, there’s more! After the engine failure, supposedly there are 11 minutes they have to make up to reach San Francisco. And they think they have made it up, until the navigator realizes he made a terrible mistake and got confused about miles vs nautical miles. But then shortly afterwards 11 minutes becomes the magic number again. The only hinted at explanation that is given for how they made this time up is that they flew slightly slower and lower to conserve fuel. If that’s true, why weren’t they doing that earlier? Instead they throw luggage overboard but never discussed whether that helped or not. Apparently it did!
Finally, most of the final scene is ludicrous, with the exception of Dan Roman walking off at the very end whistling the memorable theme, which was perfect. My criticism is of the lack of seriousness concerning the multiple engine fires and fuel leaks. Yeah, the press is there but the passengers disembark as though everything was normal, except for the rush to avoid the press and see loved ones. No emergency procedures. No cautions from the crew, just sauntering down the steps. The PR guy is smoking a cigar! I honestly don’t know what would have been procedure in the 50s for a near disaster. But certainly medical personnel would have been on hand to evaluate any possible injuries, information would have been written down about reimbursement for the luggage, follow up by the FAA, or SOMETHING. And the crew all just says good night and walks away like it was just another flight. Even if formal inquiries were not done in the 1950s, I still can’t imagine they wouldn’t have wanted to talk about what they just survived amongst themselves, even if briefly. Not to mention that the attempted murderer is allowed to disembark normally too!
Also I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the slap scene that obviously plays into the 1980 Airplane. It wasn’t believable in 1954 but gives an antecedent to the hilarious scene in Airplane. Wayne really wasn’t that heroic. He just had to be the voice of reason and calmness in the midst of Robert Stack’s meltdown as the lead pilot.
The movie was too long and 20 or more minutes could have easily been cut. Even drawn out, I was mostly entertained, despite my criticism, and enjoyed seeing where disaster films began.
2024.06.09 13:18 pouch189 Traveling with distilled water for CPAP machine
Hello fellow CPAP users, I've come to you all for some advice.
I'd like to ask you specifically about packing distilled water for my humidifier to travel abroad for an extended time.
In the past, I'd simply bring a gallon jug of distilled water for road trips because I have the space in my car. If I'm flying for a short trip, I'd bring US-approved travel-sized containers (3.6 ounces) and usually 2 bottles per night are enough.
For long international trips, I've packed a gallon jug in a sealable storage bag with my checked baggage. I went to Japan twice using this method and never had an issue.
However, last year, I went to the UK and my luggage was likely tossed around or handled roughly because the jug broke. Thankfully, the sealable bag that I packed it in kept my belongings dry, but the problem was finding distilled water in a foreign country. I tried to salvage as much as I can, but eventually, I ran out and had to do some research. After many visits to various supermarkets and pharmacies, I finally found a local pharmacy with a jug of purified/ionized water, which I was told was the next best thing.
We are heading back to the UK for a week and I don't want a repeat situation. Can anyone provide any advice on how to pack enough distilled water short of bringing multiple travel-sized bottles?
Any advice is helpful and appreciated.
Thanks a lot!
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I'd like to ask you specifically about packing distilled water for my humidifier to travel abroad for an extended time.
In the past, I'd simply bring a gallon jug of distilled water for road trips because I have the space in my car. If I'm flying for a short trip, I'd bring US-approved travel-sized containers (3.6 ounces) and usually 2 bottles per night are enough.
For long international trips, I've packed a gallon jug in a sealable storage bag with my checked baggage. I went to Japan twice using this method and never had an issue.
However, last year, I went to the UK and my luggage was likely tossed around or handled roughly because the jug broke. Thankfully, the sealable bag that I packed it in kept my belongings dry, but the problem was finding distilled water in a foreign country. I tried to salvage as much as I can, but eventually, I ran out and had to do some research. After many visits to various supermarkets and pharmacies, I finally found a local pharmacy with a jug of purified/ionized water, which I was told was the next best thing.
We are heading back to the UK for a week and I don't want a repeat situation. Can anyone provide any advice on how to pack enough distilled water short of bringing multiple travel-sized bottles?
Any advice is helpful and appreciated.
Thanks a lot!
2024.06.09 11:21 sm0llville Hands free travel questions
Hi! I am traveling around Japan and I know there are a few luggage handling services like Yamato but I have a specific problem someone might have a solution for. I am going to Okinawa from Osaka and the last part of my trip is in Tokyo. Are there any services that would take my luggage (that I won’t need for 4 days) to Tokyo and keep it there? I only found next day delivery so far. Basically, I want to send most of my luggage from Osaka to Tokyo but I’d pick it up 4 days later.
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2024.06.09 06:27 StatisticianSuch13 Need help in how to travel
I am planning a trip to Japan soon! I am looking forward to visiting and want to pack adequately. This blog I came across discussed different types of luggage and the ones they recommend to use. Would any of you agree with this blog, more specifically for traveling to Japan, specifically in big cities like Toledo? I just don't know if it's too much, or not enough. Thank you!
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2024.06.09 05:46 Significant-Tower146 Best Fireproof Document Bags
 | submitted by Significant-Tower146 to u/Significant-Tower146 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/xhgvgywrwg5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b667f4bd05e1cb3f401215c0024e63065f56d67b The Top 7 Best Fireproof Document Bags
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2024.06.09 04:10 lucretias Advice about planning a first trip for an anxious person
Hey all, I am an anxious and first-time traveler going on a 10-day solo trip to Japan in November 2024. Making decisions is hard sometimes, and I want to be as informed as possible, so I just have a couple questions about the nitty gritty!
I was initially planning on doing Tokyo>Kyoto>Osaka, because I'm most looking forward to going to Kyoto and Osaka and wanted to save those for last - I've seen most folks recommend saving Tokyo for last for when you do most of your shopping so you don't have to haul luggage around. I also wanted to do it this way because I get easily overwhelmed, and I figured that Kyoto and Osaka would be maybe a little more chill compared to Tokyo, and I could end my trip on a relaxing note. BUT ... after thinking it through a little more, I would lose the bulk of my last day to traveling from Osaka back to Narita, so I think I'm going to do Kyoto>Osaka>Tokyo.
SOO here is where my questions start. For context, my flight arrives around 4:30pm.
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I was initially planning on doing Tokyo>Kyoto>Osaka, because I'm most looking forward to going to Kyoto and Osaka and wanted to save those for last - I've seen most folks recommend saving Tokyo for last for when you do most of your shopping so you don't have to haul luggage around. I also wanted to do it this way because I get easily overwhelmed, and I figured that Kyoto and Osaka would be maybe a little more chill compared to Tokyo, and I could end my trip on a relaxing note. BUT ... after thinking it through a little more, I would lose the bulk of my last day to traveling from Osaka back to Narita, so I think I'm going to do Kyoto>Osaka>Tokyo.
SOO here is where my questions start. For context, my flight arrives around 4:30pm.
- Do I have to make a reservation for the bullet train? How many spots are typically open on the day of? If I miss my reservation, do I get charged? How far in advance can you cancel? I'm just nervous about this because I won't know until the day of if my flight is going to be delayed (I'm flying out of Vancouver, Canada), how long customs/getting my luggage is going to take, or how adept I'm going to be at finding the right terminals/trains/transfers/etc on the first try.
- ... I guess that was my only real question. Just looking for suggestions/advice. I'm also trying to consider the fact that this is going to be my first time traveling internationally, using a subway system, being a solo traveler, and I'm going to be very overwhelmed anyway, so don't want to extra overwhelm myself with trying to figure out all these things while my brain is already sleep deprived. I'm obviously going to do tons of research on my specific route, but things are just so different when you actually get to a place, yknow? This is all another reason why I initially wanted to start my stay in Tokyo, but I feel like I would rather do the bulk of my traveling in one day, wake up fully refreshed in Kyoto, then when I end in Tokyo I'll be much closer to the airport when I leave (my departure isn't until 6:30pm).
2024.06.09 03:05 Subject_Ordinary2699 Haven’t been getting along for months, every day I feel closer to being so over this and done.
Umm… it’s a long story I guess. TL/DR at the bottom.
Sometimes I really want to divorce. But I also really don’t. I do love my husband a lot and we have had such incredible times together and built a really amazing life. I don’t want to leave it all behind, to start over with someone new, blow up my life and start with literally nothing, but man am I hurting right now. I feel so lonely in my marriage that sometimes I feel like it would just be easier to actually be alone. I don’t like how I’m being treated and I don’t like that I’m asking for bare minimum and not even getting that. Sometimes I feel like I am growing up and outgrowing him/our dynamic and things feel stagnated (I want kids, he wants to drink and party).
My husband (30M) and I (29F) have hit a rough patch, except I’m not even sure if it’s just a rough patch anymore or if we are truly falling apart. Together for nearly 6 years, married for 3. It makes me sick to think about because I feel as if my husband is a totally different person now. I’m so confused because our relationship has never ever felt this wrong or hurtful, I used to believe our love was so healthy and nurturing; my husband used to communicate and be open and loving and now he’s just passive aggressive (he’ll even admit it), hot/cold and mean to me.
He has said some very hurtful things but will never take accountability or apologize for what he has said to me, he often times will spin things around and blame me for all the ways I’m hurting him and never acknowledge what I have come to him with; like I will raise a concern and somehow by the end of it, I’m left apologizing while my feelings were never acknowledged. Or he just goes “ok!?” Like ok so what??? A lot of DARVO and defensiveness, he will twist my words and insist I said something when I know I didn’t. If I call him out, I just get a “sorry I misspoke” from him. If I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says it’s a me problem. That he has no problems. That I should just be happy and move on. In his mind, we wake up the next day and be happy and all is well because we choose to be better (ok sure, fine) but with no apology or repair attempts, I have a hard time “just moving on”. It’s hard to forgive a person that can’t even admit they hurt you or show remorse for how they have done so. I have gone to bed sobbing next to him and it’s never brought up or talked about the next day and he wonders why I’m growing distant. He has zero compassion and empathy for my feelings and I feel really alone in that.
Last year, we were long distance for the whole year (military). Our fights started in September when I went to visit and I felt he was disrespecting me, mocking me, not taking me seriously, disregarding my suggestions in front of our friends. One night, he started picking fights with me at a bar and insisted we go home “because I wasn’t having fun”. I never expressed that, though the bar scene is not my thing, I still went with him and our friends and was enjoying our time. I told him to go have fun, dance, hang out and I’ll enjoy my drink. He kept saying I wasn’t having fun and we needed to leave and I kept insisting I was totally happy to just be there (that was the truth). A lot of times he will project his own interpretations of my feelings onto me and assume he knows what I’m thinking/feeling without asking. We left that night without our friends and grabbed dinner on the way back to the hotel, except he completely ignored me and stonewalled me the entire time. I tried to make conversation but took the hint, let him know I don’t feel welcome in this interaction since he wasn’t engaging in return, and that I was going back to the hotel alone since he clearly didn’t want me there. His defensiveness is usually cold and silent, he has admitted that he “stonewalls me because he’s done talking with me”. He refuses to talk a lot of the time or will say there’s nothing he wants to talk about.
After I had come back home, our fights continued. I asked him a handful of times to please send me the pics we took on our vacations and it took him over a month of me reminding him to please just do it. Finally he became angry and BLEW UP on me and sent them, only half, and I reminded him that there’s more and he spit back at me “THAT’S ALL I HAVE, WE’RE NEVER TAKING PICTURES ON MY PHONE AGAIN” when I knew there were more. What a stupid, petty thing to get mad at me over?
Another time, he completely disappeared on me for 3 whole days and I hardly heard a word from him. I knew exactly where he was (drunk in his dorm playing video games, on a complete bender with his friends online, only taking breaks to go to work drunk/hungover and come back to drinking again). I attempted to reach out, say hi, stay connected, because I feel that’s important long distance? To make an effort to communicate? Because we have a responsibility to each other? I don’t feel like I’m asking for much here, but he was just gone for 3 days. When I finally heard from him and let him know how hurt I was because I felt like he didn’t have time for me (I have often felt second to his online friends, I spent a year and a half going to bed alone and existing without him because he would stay up drinking with them), all he said was “sorry sometimes I just fuck off into my own world”. Like dude you have a wife that you need to be involved with too? I have a really big problem with his drinking and his online life as it’s taken a higher priority over me a lot of times. For a long time, all I saw him do was go to work, come home, drink and game.
Between September to now, things have only spiraled and gotten so much worse. In January, we moved abroad. I knew it would be a hard adjustment for me as I’ve never left home, am incredibly close to my family and overall just a big change, plus I had all my luggage and our two pets to drag through airports and onto flights with. I needed help. I wanted to do it together, as husband and wife, I wanted his support and for us to be doing this new thing in life together… except I had to BEG him to come pick me up. I knew I would need him as my heart was aching over leaving home. There was so much resistance from him though, he said I’d be fine and to just meet him at our next duty station. That it’s such a big waste of time and money to come get me from Asia (he gets a free flight home though??), just to fly back to Asia. Then he started talking about going home to his home state before our move, to see friends and family, and I asked, ok so if you’re in the states already, why not just come up to me and pick me up and we go to Japan together (also, he has time and money to go them but not for me?)? At this point he came unglued and hysterical, insisting again how it’s a waste of time and money and who is going to pay for him to go home? Me? (I’m like, wtf why would I pay for you to go party but you can’t make time to pick me up for a big transition???) he let me know how much I frustrate him and honestly the whole fight just turned into something so bizarre and vague, I wondered what we even were fighting about anymore (as often is the case). I was sobbing and so hurt that he clearly wasn’t choosing me when I needed him, and we fell silent on the phone while I just cried and cried. All he could say was “yeah I know you’re pissed at me”.
Since moving, our sex life has completely declined (my fault). I’ve been depressed, stressed, tired and honestly so hurt by him that I don’t want to have sex with him, especially when he won’t even acknowledge that he has hurt me or apologize. That’s not someone I want to be intimate with. So I have rejected him a couple times, letting him know I’m feeling really insecure about us. I have tried SO HARD to not reject him because I know how hurtful it is, and sometimes in the past, I was just tired. Not in the mood. It doesn’t happen frequently at all (maybe 3 times in our time together), and the times I have said no, he literally will throw himself over in a tantrum like manner and it’s so gross and childish to me. Now, since things have gotten worse, he just goes cold. He told me that if it weren’t for us being married, my couple of times saying no recently would’ve been enough for him to be done with me. And that hurts, because not once has he even attempted to ask what’s wrong, why am I feeling this way, what can we do differently, how is my heart? He can throw everything away over that without even talking to me first? I told him I’m straight up depressed/homesick and having a hard time since moving, not to mention our lack of connection, and he never expressed concern, only his hurt feelings for how rejected and ugly he feels because I won’t have sex with him. He makes weird, off handed snarky comments about how he sometimes “considers going to the gym and getting in shape just to attract some attention and that he never would do that, but he’s thought about it”. The weird comments have happened here and there over a few subjects, leaving me dead in my tracks thinking “what the fuck was that? Where did that comment even come from?”
I have begged him to meet me half way outside of the bedroom, because I don’t feel emotionally connected anymore and that we really need help, and he’s still so dumbfounded that I won’t have sex even though I’ve clearly laid out the ways in which I’m hurting and feeling like we are falling apart. I can’t even remember the last time he told me he loved me first, that he appreciates me, is proud of me, feels lucky to have me, but he used to say those things.
At one point, I wrote him a very long, heartfelt letter stating exactly what was hurting me and why I was feeling the way I am. He read it and didn’t speak to me or even look at me for a week. LITERALLY. When he finally responded (opposite shifts and never any time to talk, a lot of our conversations have been letters or texts lately, because there’s no time/we never see each other and our in person fights derail anyways), he told me he “read my note and felt nothing and that he didn’t care, but knows that he should care so he’ll consider how he should feel.”
I have asked for counseling, to which he insisted he was never going to do again because it’s just a crying/shit-on-the-husband-fest (he is divorced once, I assume he went with his ex), he told me there’s nothing wrong with him, he doesn’t need someone telling him how to live his life, he’s happy with who he is and will not go to counseling. I told him it’s not an option anymore and so we went once (didn’t go well) and he reminded me more than once how stupid it was. I told him I want a husband that has a growth mindset and someone who is wanting to work on things with me, who takes me seriously when I say we need help, someone who is open to talking and communicating. He took offense that I don’t think he’s growth minded because of his spiritual journey and personal growth but I asked him, how are you showing up as a husband? He tells me “we don’t need to be checking in and talking about things”.
He says I’m trying to change him and want him to be different (because I’ve asked him for help around the house but he doesn’t see the mess the same so it doesn’t matter to him? But to me it does because it’s his mess too and we exist together, therefore we both need to be making an effort? I have taken on 90% of the household chores for a while now and let him know I need help and suddenly he’s saying I’m trying to change him and asking him to “put on his husband mask”, what does that even mean?????) I’ve asked him to attempt to speak my love language more (touch and words), as there’s hardly any intimacy between us (no hand holding, cuddling, hardly any affection outside the bedroom) and that’s asking him to be someone he is not?? Because he’s not touchy feely? He will slap my ass or grope my boobs (huge pet peeve and I’ve expressed that) and when I ask him for a hug instead, there’s push back? He gets mad and guilts me when I won’t drink with him (I don’t need or want to drink every night at home, sorry). One time he was poking and pinching at my sides and I asked him not to as it was making me uncomfortable (struggling with binge eating at the moment) and he got irritated and defensive because “he’s just playing and why can’t I have fun”.
Through all of this, I feel like I am the one saying I want to work on things, I love him and our life and let’s do better, let’s fix things, let’s grow together, I’m the one still making an effort to bridge the gap even though we are hurting, and all I’m hearing from him are all the ways he doesn’t like me: he thinks I’m boring (because I won’t drink with him), that I can’t do anything for him that he doesn’t do for himself (yes he literally said this, what do I even offer him?), that he fell in love with me for my independence and what am I doing now? (I uprooted my entire life and moved to another country to support him, I got a job within 2 weeks of being here and have since secured a government position, I’ve bought and paid off a car in 3 months, I go out and travel in a country where I can’t even speak the language, made friends, and he says I’m not independent?? WTF), that he doesn’t need me or this relationship and only fears I’m wasting his time. He can’t think of a single thing he appreciates about me (his words) when I feel I have given up everything and bend over backwards for him to care for him and our relationship. I really feel he doesn’t like me or respect me, but he’ll say he wants me around. He insists I don’t love him or like him, but I feel that is his own projection onto me. We are long distance again and I have expressed multiple times that it’s important to me to stay engaged and check in at least once daily, to say hi, and I’ve been doing that despite being incredibly busy myself, but he ghosts me constantly and is hardly reciprocating effort. I have hardly heard from him in a month, despite my efforts (I’m starting to feel like a damn fool by continuously reaching out, if I don’t text, we don’t talk, I’m tired of the games and have since pulled back but that feels so shitty to even have to do???). I want someone that WANTS to say hi to me and see how I’m doing???
I don’t feel I have a friend in him, as he never asks about me, my life, my inner world, what’s going on with me, does not express interest in my new jobs, new friends etc, when I am constantly interacting with his world and engaging with him. I have expressed to him I feel like I am his friend but he is not mine because he doesn’t express an interest. We do a lot of what he wants and not a lot of what I want.
I told him I want to go home for my 30th birthday in July (it’s a big deal to me!) and I asked him to meet up with me in my state (he will already be in the states for a work trip). He told me he doesn’t want to come hang out with me on my birthday and was instead thinking of going to a big get together with his online friends in a different state to party and drink with them. That really hurt me. Do I not matter to him at all???
I have a big problem with his drinking (he has driven drunk at least 3 times that I know of, 2 of which I was in the car with him, once my family was also involved), I have expressed my concerns about his drinking and he says “I don’t think it’s a problem”. I told him I don’t want our future kids thinking it’s ok to wake up and pop open a beer for breakfast every day and he dismissed it.
We are not agreeing or seeing eye to eye on our next 5-10 years together: we want kids, but I want to be in the states closer to home so we can have our families be involved with our kids too, meanwhile he wants to live abroad as long as possible and retire out of the military overseas. He wants nothing to do with his family and doesn’t care to be close to them. I knew this, and thought I would be ok with it, but I’ve since realized that it’s actually really important to me to have our families involved and not be on the other side of the world at the moment. We can’t find a way to meet in the middle on this, but I don’t want to be this far away for too long (current trajectory is 3-7 years). He says he isn’t sure if he can compromise because he’s always done for others and not himself. Meanwhile, I feel like: maybe you should’ve thought about that before getting married? Aren’t your spouse’s feelings enough to move you in a direction that would be fulfilling for both of us, not just yourself? I agreed to 4 years overseas when I really didn’t want to, and now that I’m asking that we go home after, now it’s an issue?
We went to a marriage retreat that only further revealed what I have been hurting and expressing concern about: that I don’t feel connected and that we need to be digging deeper and investing more into our relationship. I cried so hard when we returned from that retreat and all he could tell me was how frustrated he was that he took us there only for me to come home and cry about it.
He is ok with pushing my boundaries and disregarding my feelings: example of this a couple months ago, I let him know multiple times and many hours in advance we had dinner reservations (we need to leave by 7). He gets ready around 630. I tell him, ok time to go. He says, just 5 more minutes (on his pc gaming and drinking). I say, ok it’s been 5 minutes, let’s go. He says, wait just another minute. 20 minutes pass and I’m now visibly irritated and telling him, I’m leaving, now we’re going to be late. He gets pissy and storms behind me, I let him know that it’s really important to me to be on time for things and I felt really disrespected by him making us late. He told me with attitude that “it’s fine” and it’s “not a big deal because we’ll still be there and we’ll get there when we get there”.
In the store, I will ask for his input on groceries and he will mutter under his breath to leave him alone, only to admit later that he did that and it was disrespectful: but just as an admittance and matter of fact, nothing more, like he’s ok with disrespecting me and declaring it??
Honestly there’s still so much to this, but it’s getting long - bottom line, I just really feel he doesn’t respect me or like me. I don’t feel like he loves me as a husband should or how I envision a marriage to be. I feel a lot of disinterest and complacency. I wonder if he could ever even properly be there for me in the ways I would want my husband to be (what happens when my dog or parents die, is he just going to dismiss my feelings then too and tell me to get over it? He is very emotionally avoidant, numb and dismissive). I don’t feel loved, supported, heard or understood, I feel so incredibly lonely in our marriage. I feel I am reaching a breaking point and it hurts deeply. He was NEVER like this, our relationship used to be so good and I have no idea what happened or why things changed but I am deeply unhappy now and don’t see a way forward with an unwilling partner who will not participate or sees nothing wrong. I deserve better and I want a husband and partner in life that is just as invested and just as loving and interested in me and willing to grow, as I am to him. I’m a damn good wife and I know that, I know what I have to offer, and I want someone that sees that and appreciates that. I feel my husband is very childish and immature and emotionally unavailable, I have wondered but whether or not he is manipulative doesn’t really matter and I don’t think labels are helpful, at this point all I know is I’m hurting and this isn’t working for me.
Of course this is only my side of the story, and no I have not been perfect. I have found myself in a dark, contemptuous state of mind towards him and tried my best to turn that around and reflect and do things differently. I am reading books, listening to podcasts, going to counseling, trying to model to him real apologies (sincerely too). He will say that I criticize him (I do have a harsh start up at times but have since tried to communicate softer and take more responsibility for my feelings and not find fault in his actions), that I want him to be someone he is not (he says I want him to put on a husband mask??), that he feels ugly and rejected because I won’t have sex with him, that I’m hurting him (but I’m honestly confused as to how because he can’t give specifics when I ask how or what I can do differently).
Sometimes I just feel so done with this and like it’s not worth it. I gave up everything to be in another country with him, I gave up friends, family, a career that I wanted to pursue, EVERYTHING, and this does not feel worth the pain I am feeling being so far away from the things that bring me joy outside of him. I feel deeply unfulfilled day to day.
We used to be so happy. He was so sweet and nurturing and cared for me, took interest in me, prioritized me. We had a wonderful life and home together, supported each other’s dreams and desires, used to communicate openly without defense or combative behavior. This is so left field for him/us that it’s left me deeply confused and feeling so much ambivalence. I used to feel #1 to him and now I just feel like his roommate.
Jesus this is long, if you read it and have any advice, thank you. I feel so alone in these feelings and don’t want to dump on my family and friends more than I have already. I am in individual counseling and that helps but I just needed to get it out of me and into the void.
TL/DR: basically I feel like I started challenging some bad behaviors and speaking up when my feelings were hurt (previously I guess I was the “cool girl” and chill and wouldn’t speak up and now I have resentment), and our relationship has become toxic. I am constantly torn between should I stay or should I go? I really don’t have much optimism anymore as my husband will spin things around and blame me, and I’m really not trying to act like a victim here, but he doesn’t take accountability or step up into being a leading man or husband and I’m tired. I’m tired of fighting, feeling sad, being long distance from my family and life in what feels like a failing marriage and not feeling like I’m being met half way on repairing/moving forward in a healthy manner.
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Sometimes I really want to divorce. But I also really don’t. I do love my husband a lot and we have had such incredible times together and built a really amazing life. I don’t want to leave it all behind, to start over with someone new, blow up my life and start with literally nothing, but man am I hurting right now. I feel so lonely in my marriage that sometimes I feel like it would just be easier to actually be alone. I don’t like how I’m being treated and I don’t like that I’m asking for bare minimum and not even getting that. Sometimes I feel like I am growing up and outgrowing him/our dynamic and things feel stagnated (I want kids, he wants to drink and party).
My husband (30M) and I (29F) have hit a rough patch, except I’m not even sure if it’s just a rough patch anymore or if we are truly falling apart. Together for nearly 6 years, married for 3. It makes me sick to think about because I feel as if my husband is a totally different person now. I’m so confused because our relationship has never ever felt this wrong or hurtful, I used to believe our love was so healthy and nurturing; my husband used to communicate and be open and loving and now he’s just passive aggressive (he’ll even admit it), hot/cold and mean to me.
He has said some very hurtful things but will never take accountability or apologize for what he has said to me, he often times will spin things around and blame me for all the ways I’m hurting him and never acknowledge what I have come to him with; like I will raise a concern and somehow by the end of it, I’m left apologizing while my feelings were never acknowledged. Or he just goes “ok!?” Like ok so what??? A lot of DARVO and defensiveness, he will twist my words and insist I said something when I know I didn’t. If I call him out, I just get a “sorry I misspoke” from him. If I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says it’s a me problem. That he has no problems. That I should just be happy and move on. In his mind, we wake up the next day and be happy and all is well because we choose to be better (ok sure, fine) but with no apology or repair attempts, I have a hard time “just moving on”. It’s hard to forgive a person that can’t even admit they hurt you or show remorse for how they have done so. I have gone to bed sobbing next to him and it’s never brought up or talked about the next day and he wonders why I’m growing distant. He has zero compassion and empathy for my feelings and I feel really alone in that.
Last year, we were long distance for the whole year (military). Our fights started in September when I went to visit and I felt he was disrespecting me, mocking me, not taking me seriously, disregarding my suggestions in front of our friends. One night, he started picking fights with me at a bar and insisted we go home “because I wasn’t having fun”. I never expressed that, though the bar scene is not my thing, I still went with him and our friends and was enjoying our time. I told him to go have fun, dance, hang out and I’ll enjoy my drink. He kept saying I wasn’t having fun and we needed to leave and I kept insisting I was totally happy to just be there (that was the truth). A lot of times he will project his own interpretations of my feelings onto me and assume he knows what I’m thinking/feeling without asking. We left that night without our friends and grabbed dinner on the way back to the hotel, except he completely ignored me and stonewalled me the entire time. I tried to make conversation but took the hint, let him know I don’t feel welcome in this interaction since he wasn’t engaging in return, and that I was going back to the hotel alone since he clearly didn’t want me there. His defensiveness is usually cold and silent, he has admitted that he “stonewalls me because he’s done talking with me”. He refuses to talk a lot of the time or will say there’s nothing he wants to talk about.
After I had come back home, our fights continued. I asked him a handful of times to please send me the pics we took on our vacations and it took him over a month of me reminding him to please just do it. Finally he became angry and BLEW UP on me and sent them, only half, and I reminded him that there’s more and he spit back at me “THAT’S ALL I HAVE, WE’RE NEVER TAKING PICTURES ON MY PHONE AGAIN” when I knew there were more. What a stupid, petty thing to get mad at me over?
Another time, he completely disappeared on me for 3 whole days and I hardly heard a word from him. I knew exactly where he was (drunk in his dorm playing video games, on a complete bender with his friends online, only taking breaks to go to work drunk/hungover and come back to drinking again). I attempted to reach out, say hi, stay connected, because I feel that’s important long distance? To make an effort to communicate? Because we have a responsibility to each other? I don’t feel like I’m asking for much here, but he was just gone for 3 days. When I finally heard from him and let him know how hurt I was because I felt like he didn’t have time for me (I have often felt second to his online friends, I spent a year and a half going to bed alone and existing without him because he would stay up drinking with them), all he said was “sorry sometimes I just fuck off into my own world”. Like dude you have a wife that you need to be involved with too? I have a really big problem with his drinking and his online life as it’s taken a higher priority over me a lot of times. For a long time, all I saw him do was go to work, come home, drink and game.
Between September to now, things have only spiraled and gotten so much worse. In January, we moved abroad. I knew it would be a hard adjustment for me as I’ve never left home, am incredibly close to my family and overall just a big change, plus I had all my luggage and our two pets to drag through airports and onto flights with. I needed help. I wanted to do it together, as husband and wife, I wanted his support and for us to be doing this new thing in life together… except I had to BEG him to come pick me up. I knew I would need him as my heart was aching over leaving home. There was so much resistance from him though, he said I’d be fine and to just meet him at our next duty station. That it’s such a big waste of time and money to come get me from Asia (he gets a free flight home though??), just to fly back to Asia. Then he started talking about going home to his home state before our move, to see friends and family, and I asked, ok so if you’re in the states already, why not just come up to me and pick me up and we go to Japan together (also, he has time and money to go them but not for me?)? At this point he came unglued and hysterical, insisting again how it’s a waste of time and money and who is going to pay for him to go home? Me? (I’m like, wtf why would I pay for you to go party but you can’t make time to pick me up for a big transition???) he let me know how much I frustrate him and honestly the whole fight just turned into something so bizarre and vague, I wondered what we even were fighting about anymore (as often is the case). I was sobbing and so hurt that he clearly wasn’t choosing me when I needed him, and we fell silent on the phone while I just cried and cried. All he could say was “yeah I know you’re pissed at me”.
Since moving, our sex life has completely declined (my fault). I’ve been depressed, stressed, tired and honestly so hurt by him that I don’t want to have sex with him, especially when he won’t even acknowledge that he has hurt me or apologize. That’s not someone I want to be intimate with. So I have rejected him a couple times, letting him know I’m feeling really insecure about us. I have tried SO HARD to not reject him because I know how hurtful it is, and sometimes in the past, I was just tired. Not in the mood. It doesn’t happen frequently at all (maybe 3 times in our time together), and the times I have said no, he literally will throw himself over in a tantrum like manner and it’s so gross and childish to me. Now, since things have gotten worse, he just goes cold. He told me that if it weren’t for us being married, my couple of times saying no recently would’ve been enough for him to be done with me. And that hurts, because not once has he even attempted to ask what’s wrong, why am I feeling this way, what can we do differently, how is my heart? He can throw everything away over that without even talking to me first? I told him I’m straight up depressed/homesick and having a hard time since moving, not to mention our lack of connection, and he never expressed concern, only his hurt feelings for how rejected and ugly he feels because I won’t have sex with him. He makes weird, off handed snarky comments about how he sometimes “considers going to the gym and getting in shape just to attract some attention and that he never would do that, but he’s thought about it”. The weird comments have happened here and there over a few subjects, leaving me dead in my tracks thinking “what the fuck was that? Where did that comment even come from?”
I have begged him to meet me half way outside of the bedroom, because I don’t feel emotionally connected anymore and that we really need help, and he’s still so dumbfounded that I won’t have sex even though I’ve clearly laid out the ways in which I’m hurting and feeling like we are falling apart. I can’t even remember the last time he told me he loved me first, that he appreciates me, is proud of me, feels lucky to have me, but he used to say those things.
At one point, I wrote him a very long, heartfelt letter stating exactly what was hurting me and why I was feeling the way I am. He read it and didn’t speak to me or even look at me for a week. LITERALLY. When he finally responded (opposite shifts and never any time to talk, a lot of our conversations have been letters or texts lately, because there’s no time/we never see each other and our in person fights derail anyways), he told me he “read my note and felt nothing and that he didn’t care, but knows that he should care so he’ll consider how he should feel.”
I have asked for counseling, to which he insisted he was never going to do again because it’s just a crying/shit-on-the-husband-fest (he is divorced once, I assume he went with his ex), he told me there’s nothing wrong with him, he doesn’t need someone telling him how to live his life, he’s happy with who he is and will not go to counseling. I told him it’s not an option anymore and so we went once (didn’t go well) and he reminded me more than once how stupid it was. I told him I want a husband that has a growth mindset and someone who is wanting to work on things with me, who takes me seriously when I say we need help, someone who is open to talking and communicating. He took offense that I don’t think he’s growth minded because of his spiritual journey and personal growth but I asked him, how are you showing up as a husband? He tells me “we don’t need to be checking in and talking about things”.
He says I’m trying to change him and want him to be different (because I’ve asked him for help around the house but he doesn’t see the mess the same so it doesn’t matter to him? But to me it does because it’s his mess too and we exist together, therefore we both need to be making an effort? I have taken on 90% of the household chores for a while now and let him know I need help and suddenly he’s saying I’m trying to change him and asking him to “put on his husband mask”, what does that even mean?????) I’ve asked him to attempt to speak my love language more (touch and words), as there’s hardly any intimacy between us (no hand holding, cuddling, hardly any affection outside the bedroom) and that’s asking him to be someone he is not?? Because he’s not touchy feely? He will slap my ass or grope my boobs (huge pet peeve and I’ve expressed that) and when I ask him for a hug instead, there’s push back? He gets mad and guilts me when I won’t drink with him (I don’t need or want to drink every night at home, sorry). One time he was poking and pinching at my sides and I asked him not to as it was making me uncomfortable (struggling with binge eating at the moment) and he got irritated and defensive because “he’s just playing and why can’t I have fun”.
Through all of this, I feel like I am the one saying I want to work on things, I love him and our life and let’s do better, let’s fix things, let’s grow together, I’m the one still making an effort to bridge the gap even though we are hurting, and all I’m hearing from him are all the ways he doesn’t like me: he thinks I’m boring (because I won’t drink with him), that I can’t do anything for him that he doesn’t do for himself (yes he literally said this, what do I even offer him?), that he fell in love with me for my independence and what am I doing now? (I uprooted my entire life and moved to another country to support him, I got a job within 2 weeks of being here and have since secured a government position, I’ve bought and paid off a car in 3 months, I go out and travel in a country where I can’t even speak the language, made friends, and he says I’m not independent?? WTF), that he doesn’t need me or this relationship and only fears I’m wasting his time. He can’t think of a single thing he appreciates about me (his words) when I feel I have given up everything and bend over backwards for him to care for him and our relationship. I really feel he doesn’t like me or respect me, but he’ll say he wants me around. He insists I don’t love him or like him, but I feel that is his own projection onto me. We are long distance again and I have expressed multiple times that it’s important to me to stay engaged and check in at least once daily, to say hi, and I’ve been doing that despite being incredibly busy myself, but he ghosts me constantly and is hardly reciprocating effort. I have hardly heard from him in a month, despite my efforts (I’m starting to feel like a damn fool by continuously reaching out, if I don’t text, we don’t talk, I’m tired of the games and have since pulled back but that feels so shitty to even have to do???). I want someone that WANTS to say hi to me and see how I’m doing???
I don’t feel I have a friend in him, as he never asks about me, my life, my inner world, what’s going on with me, does not express interest in my new jobs, new friends etc, when I am constantly interacting with his world and engaging with him. I have expressed to him I feel like I am his friend but he is not mine because he doesn’t express an interest. We do a lot of what he wants and not a lot of what I want.
I told him I want to go home for my 30th birthday in July (it’s a big deal to me!) and I asked him to meet up with me in my state (he will already be in the states for a work trip). He told me he doesn’t want to come hang out with me on my birthday and was instead thinking of going to a big get together with his online friends in a different state to party and drink with them. That really hurt me. Do I not matter to him at all???
I have a big problem with his drinking (he has driven drunk at least 3 times that I know of, 2 of which I was in the car with him, once my family was also involved), I have expressed my concerns about his drinking and he says “I don’t think it’s a problem”. I told him I don’t want our future kids thinking it’s ok to wake up and pop open a beer for breakfast every day and he dismissed it.
We are not agreeing or seeing eye to eye on our next 5-10 years together: we want kids, but I want to be in the states closer to home so we can have our families be involved with our kids too, meanwhile he wants to live abroad as long as possible and retire out of the military overseas. He wants nothing to do with his family and doesn’t care to be close to them. I knew this, and thought I would be ok with it, but I’ve since realized that it’s actually really important to me to have our families involved and not be on the other side of the world at the moment. We can’t find a way to meet in the middle on this, but I don’t want to be this far away for too long (current trajectory is 3-7 years). He says he isn’t sure if he can compromise because he’s always done for others and not himself. Meanwhile, I feel like: maybe you should’ve thought about that before getting married? Aren’t your spouse’s feelings enough to move you in a direction that would be fulfilling for both of us, not just yourself? I agreed to 4 years overseas when I really didn’t want to, and now that I’m asking that we go home after, now it’s an issue?
We went to a marriage retreat that only further revealed what I have been hurting and expressing concern about: that I don’t feel connected and that we need to be digging deeper and investing more into our relationship. I cried so hard when we returned from that retreat and all he could tell me was how frustrated he was that he took us there only for me to come home and cry about it.
He is ok with pushing my boundaries and disregarding my feelings: example of this a couple months ago, I let him know multiple times and many hours in advance we had dinner reservations (we need to leave by 7). He gets ready around 630. I tell him, ok time to go. He says, just 5 more minutes (on his pc gaming and drinking). I say, ok it’s been 5 minutes, let’s go. He says, wait just another minute. 20 minutes pass and I’m now visibly irritated and telling him, I’m leaving, now we’re going to be late. He gets pissy and storms behind me, I let him know that it’s really important to me to be on time for things and I felt really disrespected by him making us late. He told me with attitude that “it’s fine” and it’s “not a big deal because we’ll still be there and we’ll get there when we get there”.
In the store, I will ask for his input on groceries and he will mutter under his breath to leave him alone, only to admit later that he did that and it was disrespectful: but just as an admittance and matter of fact, nothing more, like he’s ok with disrespecting me and declaring it??
Honestly there’s still so much to this, but it’s getting long - bottom line, I just really feel he doesn’t respect me or like me. I don’t feel like he loves me as a husband should or how I envision a marriage to be. I feel a lot of disinterest and complacency. I wonder if he could ever even properly be there for me in the ways I would want my husband to be (what happens when my dog or parents die, is he just going to dismiss my feelings then too and tell me to get over it? He is very emotionally avoidant, numb and dismissive). I don’t feel loved, supported, heard or understood, I feel so incredibly lonely in our marriage. I feel I am reaching a breaking point and it hurts deeply. He was NEVER like this, our relationship used to be so good and I have no idea what happened or why things changed but I am deeply unhappy now and don’t see a way forward with an unwilling partner who will not participate or sees nothing wrong. I deserve better and I want a husband and partner in life that is just as invested and just as loving and interested in me and willing to grow, as I am to him. I’m a damn good wife and I know that, I know what I have to offer, and I want someone that sees that and appreciates that. I feel my husband is very childish and immature and emotionally unavailable, I have wondered but whether or not he is manipulative doesn’t really matter and I don’t think labels are helpful, at this point all I know is I’m hurting and this isn’t working for me.
Of course this is only my side of the story, and no I have not been perfect. I have found myself in a dark, contemptuous state of mind towards him and tried my best to turn that around and reflect and do things differently. I am reading books, listening to podcasts, going to counseling, trying to model to him real apologies (sincerely too). He will say that I criticize him (I do have a harsh start up at times but have since tried to communicate softer and take more responsibility for my feelings and not find fault in his actions), that I want him to be someone he is not (he says I want him to put on a husband mask??), that he feels ugly and rejected because I won’t have sex with him, that I’m hurting him (but I’m honestly confused as to how because he can’t give specifics when I ask how or what I can do differently).
Sometimes I just feel so done with this and like it’s not worth it. I gave up everything to be in another country with him, I gave up friends, family, a career that I wanted to pursue, EVERYTHING, and this does not feel worth the pain I am feeling being so far away from the things that bring me joy outside of him. I feel deeply unfulfilled day to day.
We used to be so happy. He was so sweet and nurturing and cared for me, took interest in me, prioritized me. We had a wonderful life and home together, supported each other’s dreams and desires, used to communicate openly without defense or combative behavior. This is so left field for him/us that it’s left me deeply confused and feeling so much ambivalence. I used to feel #1 to him and now I just feel like his roommate.
Jesus this is long, if you read it and have any advice, thank you. I feel so alone in these feelings and don’t want to dump on my family and friends more than I have already. I am in individual counseling and that helps but I just needed to get it out of me and into the void.
TL/DR: basically I feel like I started challenging some bad behaviors and speaking up when my feelings were hurt (previously I guess I was the “cool girl” and chill and wouldn’t speak up and now I have resentment), and our relationship has become toxic. I am constantly torn between should I stay or should I go? I really don’t have much optimism anymore as my husband will spin things around and blame me, and I’m really not trying to act like a victim here, but he doesn’t take accountability or step up into being a leading man or husband and I’m tired. I’m tired of fighting, feeling sad, being long distance from my family and life in what feels like a failing marriage and not feeling like I’m being met half way on repairing/moving forward in a healthy manner.
2024.06.09 01:20 Various-Difference69 Thoughts on this luggage?
 | So I picked up this Samsonite luggage from a Burlington. I cannot find this model anywhere online and believe that it was made for this discount store. I know Samsonites have a good reputation (atleast I think they do), but this model is worrying me a bit. To start the gap between the zippers (the fabric in between) I am not sure how I feel about the gap as my my old luggage had faced a tear inbetween that gap leaving my clothing exposed (granted it is a off brand suitcase). The quality of this particular luggage is good some parts pull handle and subpar on others like (some of the handles) ex: the one on the bottom near the wheels, the wheels themselves have some wobble I’m not sure if that’s normal or not for spinners??? The tag inside claims that the luggage is made from polyethylene vinyl acetate and polyethylene foam. Anywho any thoughts on this? Should I keep to or return it. Costco has a Desley hard luggage 2pc (checked & carryon) set for $99.. submitted by Various-Difference69 to BuyItForLife [link] [comments] |
2024.06.08 21:52 visionswell My first one bag travel (carry-on only) experience to Key West for 7 days
I spent 7 days in key west with one carry-on only bag (Matador SEG28). It was my first time trying one bag-ish travel.
The only things I washed on the road were my swim shorts to get the chlorine or sand out and my handkerchief. I would throw them on the luggage rack in front of the air conditioner overnight after washing them in the shower with the hotel’s shampoo. It worked really well.
In the future, I’d definitely forego the snorkel, the 2 extra shirts, and the hard case for my over ear headphones. None of them were really necessary.
As for the bag, I did really like it. The materials are amazing, it looks nice, it was comfortable to carry, but I felt like it was almost too big.
The more I get into minimizing my things for travel, the less I want to lug around so much. It makes it too easy and convincing to pack too much because it just keeps having extra capacity.
It’s too big for a personal item as well. It could be squeezed, but you’d have zero leg room. I love the bag and I will keep it for when I intend to bring a little more (cold climate, specific gear needs, etc), on car trips, or when I’m okay using the overhead bin. I got it on a flash sale for $175 last year and I don’t regret it one bit.
Feel free to ask any questions or leave any comments below.
Packing List:
ACCESSORIES ***************
Bic Lighter Binder Clip Bottle Opener Keychain Cheap AAA Flashlight Duct Tape Extra Disposable Zip Top Quart Bag Fisher Space Pen Hero Clip Humangear Spork Lego Luggage Tag Metal Chopsticks Metal Straw with Silicone Mouthpiece Napkins Neck Gaiter Neodymium Magnet Nite Ize Locking S Carabiner (2) Number 36 Bank Line Papermate Pen Reusable Silicone Quart Bag Rite in the Rain Notebook Rubber Bands Sendero Handkerchief Snorkel Mask TSA Compliant Pen Scissors Utensil Holder Waterproof Phone Case w/ Lanyard Zip Ties
CLOTHING ***********
Astral Loyak Shoes Chubbies Hybrid Shorts/Swim Trunks Fresh Clean Threads Henley and V-Neck Tees (5) Grip 6 Belt Hanes Comfort Waist Boxer Briefs (7) Land's End Khaki Shorts Lululemon ABC Travel Pants Proper Cloth Chambray Long Sleeve Button Down Saxx Boxer Briefs Sendero Hat Smartwool No Show Socks Tipsy Elves Hawaiian Shirt (2) Warby Parker Sunglasses
DOPP KIT **********
Arm and Hammer Essentials Deodorant Cologne Atomizer Contact Lens Case Dove Soap Bar Matador Soap Bag Mini Purell Hand Sanitizer Reusable Silicone Bottles (2) Reusable Silicone Quart Bag Toothbrush Travel-Sized Crest Toothpaste
FIRST AID **********
Bandages / Boo Boo Kit Chapstick Fingernail Clippers Hearos Ear Plugs Ibuprofen Imodium Pepto Bismol Tums Tylenol
MAIN BACKPACK ******************
Matador SEG28 Backpack
MISSION CRITICAL ********************
Apple iPhone 15 Pro Apple Watch Ekster Wallet Leatherman Carabiner Orbitkey Passport Rovyvon Flashlight
PACKABLE BAGS ******************
Eddie Bauer Stowaway 20L Packable Backpack Packable Tote
PACKING CUBES ******************
Bagail Packing Cubes (2) Packing Cube Shoe Bag
POUCHES ***********
CLC Custom Leathercraft Multi-Purpose Clip-on Zippered Poly Bags (2)
SLING BAG ************
Aer City Sling 2
TECH ******
Anbernic RG35XX H Case Anbernic RG35XX H Console Anker 100w GaN Charger Anker 20,000 mAh power bank Anker 5,000 mAh MagSafe power bank Apple Watch Charger Aux Cable Headphone Hardcase Long USB-A to USB-C Cord Samsung Bean Earbud Headphones Skull Candy Wired Earbud Headphones Sony WH-1000XM4 Headphones Tech Pouch Universal Charging Cable USB-C to 35mm Headphone Jack Dongle USB-C to USB-C Cord
TOWEL ********
Matador Packable Microfiber Beach Towel
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The only things I washed on the road were my swim shorts to get the chlorine or sand out and my handkerchief. I would throw them on the luggage rack in front of the air conditioner overnight after washing them in the shower with the hotel’s shampoo. It worked really well.
In the future, I’d definitely forego the snorkel, the 2 extra shirts, and the hard case for my over ear headphones. None of them were really necessary.
As for the bag, I did really like it. The materials are amazing, it looks nice, it was comfortable to carry, but I felt like it was almost too big.
The more I get into minimizing my things for travel, the less I want to lug around so much. It makes it too easy and convincing to pack too much because it just keeps having extra capacity.
It’s too big for a personal item as well. It could be squeezed, but you’d have zero leg room. I love the bag and I will keep it for when I intend to bring a little more (cold climate, specific gear needs, etc), on car trips, or when I’m okay using the overhead bin. I got it on a flash sale for $175 last year and I don’t regret it one bit.
Feel free to ask any questions or leave any comments below.
Packing List:
ACCESSORIES ***************
Bic Lighter Binder Clip Bottle Opener Keychain Cheap AAA Flashlight Duct Tape Extra Disposable Zip Top Quart Bag Fisher Space Pen Hero Clip Humangear Spork Lego Luggage Tag Metal Chopsticks Metal Straw with Silicone Mouthpiece Napkins Neck Gaiter Neodymium Magnet Nite Ize Locking S Carabiner (2) Number 36 Bank Line Papermate Pen Reusable Silicone Quart Bag Rite in the Rain Notebook Rubber Bands Sendero Handkerchief Snorkel Mask TSA Compliant Pen Scissors Utensil Holder Waterproof Phone Case w/ Lanyard Zip Ties
CLOTHING ***********
Astral Loyak Shoes Chubbies Hybrid Shorts/Swim Trunks Fresh Clean Threads Henley and V-Neck Tees (5) Grip 6 Belt Hanes Comfort Waist Boxer Briefs (7) Land's End Khaki Shorts Lululemon ABC Travel Pants Proper Cloth Chambray Long Sleeve Button Down Saxx Boxer Briefs Sendero Hat Smartwool No Show Socks Tipsy Elves Hawaiian Shirt (2) Warby Parker Sunglasses
DOPP KIT **********
Arm and Hammer Essentials Deodorant Cologne Atomizer Contact Lens Case Dove Soap Bar Matador Soap Bag Mini Purell Hand Sanitizer Reusable Silicone Bottles (2) Reusable Silicone Quart Bag Toothbrush Travel-Sized Crest Toothpaste
FIRST AID **********
Bandages / Boo Boo Kit Chapstick Fingernail Clippers Hearos Ear Plugs Ibuprofen Imodium Pepto Bismol Tums Tylenol
MAIN BACKPACK ******************
Matador SEG28 Backpack
MISSION CRITICAL ********************
Apple iPhone 15 Pro Apple Watch Ekster Wallet Leatherman Carabiner Orbitkey Passport Rovyvon Flashlight
PACKABLE BAGS ******************
Eddie Bauer Stowaway 20L Packable Backpack Packable Tote
PACKING CUBES ******************
Bagail Packing Cubes (2) Packing Cube Shoe Bag
POUCHES ***********
CLC Custom Leathercraft Multi-Purpose Clip-on Zippered Poly Bags (2)
SLING BAG ************
Aer City Sling 2
TECH ******
Anbernic RG35XX H Case Anbernic RG35XX H Console Anker 100w GaN Charger Anker 20,000 mAh power bank Anker 5,000 mAh MagSafe power bank Apple Watch Charger Aux Cable Headphone Hardcase Long USB-A to USB-C Cord Samsung Bean Earbud Headphones Skull Candy Wired Earbud Headphones Sony WH-1000XM4 Headphones Tech Pouch Universal Charging Cable USB-C to 35mm Headphone Jack Dongle USB-C to USB-C Cord
TOWEL ********
Matador Packable Microfiber Beach Towel
2024.06.08 21:34 PedanticSeal What was short distance sea travel like for the wealthy during the late Victorian and early Edwardian era?
Like, would they have their own cabin even if they wouldn't be staying on the ship over night? How big would the cabin be? If they didn't have a cabin what would they do with all the heavy luggage they had? How big did the ships that made these short voyages tend to be? What would the ships amenities be like, if they had any?
The specific year that I need information for is 1900. The specific voyage - England to the Netherlands. This is for a story I'm writing as a hobby though, so information from the time frame presented in the question would suffice.
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The specific year that I need information for is 1900. The specific voyage - England to the Netherlands. This is for a story I'm writing as a hobby though, so information from the time frame presented in the question would suffice.
2024.06.08 20:45 PedanticSeal What was short distance sea travel like for the wealthy during the late Victorian and early Edwardian era?
Like, would they have their own cabin even if they wouldn't be staying on the ship over night? How big would the cabin be? If they didn't have a cabin what would they do with all the heavy luggage they had? How big did the ships that made these short voyages tend to be? What would the ships amenities be like, if they had any?
The specific year that I need information for is 1900. The specific voyage - England to the Netherlands. This is for a story I'm writing as a hobby though, so information from the time frame presented in the question would suffice.
submitted by PedanticSeal to AskHistorians [link] [comments]
The specific year that I need information for is 1900. The specific voyage - England to the Netherlands. This is for a story I'm writing as a hobby though, so information from the time frame presented in the question would suffice.
2024.06.08 15:01 uhwithfiveHs Tax-Free Question
Hello!
I’m currently in Japan and bought some things tax free. The clerk allowed my friend to use their passport as the exemption scan but I purchased the items for myself. I was unaware that it was tied to your specific passport and the clerk also didn’t inform me before I purchased them, even asking one of my friends for their passport for me. Will it be a problem if I have the items on my checked luggage? Or, should we ask to pay the tax when we get to the airport to avoid any issues?
Thank you!
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I’m currently in Japan and bought some things tax free. The clerk allowed my friend to use their passport as the exemption scan but I purchased the items for myself. I was unaware that it was tied to your specific passport and the clerk also didn’t inform me before I purchased them, even asking one of my friends for their passport for me. Will it be a problem if I have the items on my checked luggage? Or, should we ask to pay the tax when we get to the airport to avoid any issues?
Thank you!
2024.06.08 14:55 toejamster9 Does delta not reimburse for damaged baggage and items?
I recently took a flight and upon landing found that my garment bag was completely destroyed. In fact, it was beat up so badly that my suit and shoes for the wedding I had flown in for were also damaged.
I got in contact with customer service chat the day I arrived. They asked me to file a complaint and to ask for reimbursement which I did.
A week later I got an email from a delta baggage manager claiming they won’t reimburse for “pre-existing” damage and that my entire claim is denied. It doesn’t help that on the way back we got stuck in a layover city overnight due to delays on the way in.
Has anyone had this type of issue with luggage bags and items that were severely damaged and delta refused to do anything about it, claiming pre-existing damage? How did you get the issue resolved?
Just really frustrated and disappointed at the moment. Thanks for your help.
Edit: this was a durable, nylon garment bag made for airline travel. In the past I have been asked specifically by baggage check attendees to check this bag due to the dimensions being too large for carryon.
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I got in contact with customer service chat the day I arrived. They asked me to file a complaint and to ask for reimbursement which I did.
A week later I got an email from a delta baggage manager claiming they won’t reimburse for “pre-existing” damage and that my entire claim is denied. It doesn’t help that on the way back we got stuck in a layover city overnight due to delays on the way in.
Has anyone had this type of issue with luggage bags and items that were severely damaged and delta refused to do anything about it, claiming pre-existing damage? How did you get the issue resolved?
Just really frustrated and disappointed at the moment. Thanks for your help.
Edit: this was a durable, nylon garment bag made for airline travel. In the past I have been asked specifically by baggage check attendees to check this bag due to the dimensions being too large for carryon.
2024.06.08 14:19 ep1993 Hi r/Philippines! I spent 6 months putting together an ambitious music video in Bohol. Here's my story behind it. [Long read]
Hello everyone. I'm a southern California hip-hop music artist that's proudly half filipino through my mother. My artist name is "Elijvh", pronounced as "Elijah", and i'm a small independent music artist. I wanted to share my new music video and a wholesome story with all of you.
STORY TIME: After my 25th birthday in 2018, I decided to take a random plunge in the summer and travel to my mom's native province of Bohol, Philippines. Honestly, I didn't have a specific reason to visit, but I thought it would be a nice change of pace after spending most of my life growing up in SOCAL. I actually did visit the Philippines in 2004, but most of my memories from that trip are blurry. So long story short, I packed up my luggage and flew to Bohol around June 2018. I had a great time connecting with my family and made so many new friends. That inspired me to visit more frequently in the years to come and explore various cities like Manila, Cebu, Cagayan De Oro, and Palawan. All these trips made me fall in love with the people and filipino culture. It had a profound influence on my music as well.
After many years of visiting, I decided to show my appreciation for the Philippines with a special project. I wanted to create something that captured my mother's culture with a song and video that's inspired by everything pinoy. That's when I created a song called "Ghost" in 2023 which has hints of Visayan folk music and classic OPM, while combining elements of soul, pop and r&b (influences that come directly from my African American father). The lyrics were inspired by a female muse I had in Bohol. I produced, composed, and mixed the instrumental with some help from my musician friends here in America.
Ghost was officially released in audio form on November 2023 and I went on my 1st self funded Philippines tour soon after. I could tell the people loved Ghost whenever I performed it on my tour dates. Once my tour ended, I assumed all this positive reception from Ghost should lead into an ambitious music video that celebrated the entire country as my love letter to the people. My goal was to make a video that could show the beauty of filipino culture to the entire world. Simultaneously, I also wanted this video to have a simple message of appreciating life while you're still alive.
So, I went out of my way to save up a ton of money in January 2024, with the help of many family members in California. My cousin, who happens to be the mayor of Loboc, also helped a lot with financing this project. That led to my decision of filming in Bohol only since I knew the island very well and felt it could represent Philippines as a whole. The pre-production process was a little stressful due to the fact that I had to lead two separate teams to make this video come to life. Native born Filipinos are very different in the way they operate, business-wise, compared to what I normally deal with here in the states as an American. I had very little creative connections in Bohol, which meant I was busy handling online networking by myself for weeks. Lots of people in Bohol turned me down or straight up ghosted me... ironically. Regardless, I was determined putting my teams together to film this project. I managed to find talent overseas so it worked out in the end!
In early January 2024, I got together with my friends here in the states and created Ghost's music video concept pretty quickly. I had a budget in mind, and cut down personal expenses by staying at my uncle's house in Bohol. Around late January, I reached out to my cousins in Bohol and they agreed to help bring this project to life, which became a great bonding experience for us. This music video was actually directed by my 20 year old cousin Earllane from Tagbilaran City and is her debut directorial project! Now off I was, flying back to Bohol in late February. That led to 2.5 weeks of extensive shooting all over Bohol with my new team as exec. producer and lead star.
I came back to California in late march and went into shooting our last scenes with the USA team around SOCAL till late April. Then there was an extensive editing process which took place from late april - late may. Now the video has finally released on Youtube this past Friday, June 7th. To say i'm relieved now is an understatement. Haha.
So here is my music video... Ghost: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HK-1Es6ydMc
Salamat for reading my long story. Let me know what you think of the music video. :)
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STORY TIME: After my 25th birthday in 2018, I decided to take a random plunge in the summer and travel to my mom's native province of Bohol, Philippines. Honestly, I didn't have a specific reason to visit, but I thought it would be a nice change of pace after spending most of my life growing up in SOCAL. I actually did visit the Philippines in 2004, but most of my memories from that trip are blurry. So long story short, I packed up my luggage and flew to Bohol around June 2018. I had a great time connecting with my family and made so many new friends. That inspired me to visit more frequently in the years to come and explore various cities like Manila, Cebu, Cagayan De Oro, and Palawan. All these trips made me fall in love with the people and filipino culture. It had a profound influence on my music as well.
After many years of visiting, I decided to show my appreciation for the Philippines with a special project. I wanted to create something that captured my mother's culture with a song and video that's inspired by everything pinoy. That's when I created a song called "Ghost" in 2023 which has hints of Visayan folk music and classic OPM, while combining elements of soul, pop and r&b (influences that come directly from my African American father). The lyrics were inspired by a female muse I had in Bohol. I produced, composed, and mixed the instrumental with some help from my musician friends here in America.
Ghost was officially released in audio form on November 2023 and I went on my 1st self funded Philippines tour soon after. I could tell the people loved Ghost whenever I performed it on my tour dates. Once my tour ended, I assumed all this positive reception from Ghost should lead into an ambitious music video that celebrated the entire country as my love letter to the people. My goal was to make a video that could show the beauty of filipino culture to the entire world. Simultaneously, I also wanted this video to have a simple message of appreciating life while you're still alive.
So, I went out of my way to save up a ton of money in January 2024, with the help of many family members in California. My cousin, who happens to be the mayor of Loboc, also helped a lot with financing this project. That led to my decision of filming in Bohol only since I knew the island very well and felt it could represent Philippines as a whole. The pre-production process was a little stressful due to the fact that I had to lead two separate teams to make this video come to life. Native born Filipinos are very different in the way they operate, business-wise, compared to what I normally deal with here in the states as an American. I had very little creative connections in Bohol, which meant I was busy handling online networking by myself for weeks. Lots of people in Bohol turned me down or straight up ghosted me... ironically. Regardless, I was determined putting my teams together to film this project. I managed to find talent overseas so it worked out in the end!
In early January 2024, I got together with my friends here in the states and created Ghost's music video concept pretty quickly. I had a budget in mind, and cut down personal expenses by staying at my uncle's house in Bohol. Around late January, I reached out to my cousins in Bohol and they agreed to help bring this project to life, which became a great bonding experience for us. This music video was actually directed by my 20 year old cousin Earllane from Tagbilaran City and is her debut directorial project! Now off I was, flying back to Bohol in late February. That led to 2.5 weeks of extensive shooting all over Bohol with my new team as exec. producer and lead star.
I came back to California in late march and went into shooting our last scenes with the USA team around SOCAL till late April. Then there was an extensive editing process which took place from late april - late may. Now the video has finally released on Youtube this past Friday, June 7th. To say i'm relieved now is an understatement. Haha.
So here is my music video... Ghost: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HK-1Es6ydMc
Salamat for reading my long story. Let me know what you think of the music video. :)
2024.06.08 09:00 luxury_toe_dipper Itinerary check Tokyo/Disney/Kyoto/Tokyo with 2 kids aged 7&10
I’m travelling by myself with 2 kids in the Autumn for ~10 days to see Tokyo, Tokyo Disney Parks and Kyoto.
It’s a very kid-focused trip with hopefully lots of cultural immersion in between sightseeing. I’m not trying to pack a whole heap in, I’d just like my kids to experience the wonder of Japanese culture.
I’m looking for a few recommendations for the best temples to visit with kids in Tokyo and Kyoto as well as any specific kid-friendly cultural activities or recommendations for food experiences 😋
Here’s what I’ve planned so far:
Day 0 - Sept 20 * arrive Haneda 8pm * Stay in Shibuya
Day 1 - Sept 21 * TeamLab borderless * Stay in Shibuya
Day 2 Sept 22 * studio Ghilbi * Stay in Shibuya
Day 3 Sept 23 * Wander around Tokyo and get lost * Stay in Shibuya
Day 4 - Sept 24 * travel to Tokyo Disney 6 am * Tokyo Disneyland vacation pkg tickets * Stay in Disney hotel
Day 5- Sept 25 * Tokyo Disney sea vacation pkg tickets * Stay in Disney hotel
Day 6 - Sept 26 * Tokyo Disney sea tickets + fantasy springs vacation pkg tickets * Stay in Disney Hotel
Day 7 - Sept 27 * Travel to Kyoto by Shinkansen * Maiko Dance performance * Stay in Kyoto Ryokan
Day 8 - Sept 28 * Visit Kyoto temples - love suggestions * Stay in Kyoto Ryokan
Day 9 Sept 29 * travel to Tokyo by Shinkansen * Drop bags in Shinjuku hotel * Visit a Tokyo temple - need recommendations for best temple with kids please! * Stay in Shinjuku
Day 10 Sept 30 * Visit ninja cafe Harajuku * Wander around Harajuku * Stay in Shinjuku
Day 11 - October 1 * Store bags at hotel * Recommendations for activities to do during day when we need to fly out at 10pm (maybe teamLab planets If we can store luggage nearby? ) * Arrive Haneda 7pm to fly home
Any feedback or suggestions would be appreciated.
Edits after suggestions from mods.
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It’s a very kid-focused trip with hopefully lots of cultural immersion in between sightseeing. I’m not trying to pack a whole heap in, I’d just like my kids to experience the wonder of Japanese culture.
I’m looking for a few recommendations for the best temples to visit with kids in Tokyo and Kyoto as well as any specific kid-friendly cultural activities or recommendations for food experiences 😋
Here’s what I’ve planned so far:
Day 0 - Sept 20 * arrive Haneda 8pm * Stay in Shibuya
Day 1 - Sept 21 * TeamLab borderless * Stay in Shibuya
Day 2 Sept 22 * studio Ghilbi * Stay in Shibuya
Day 3 Sept 23 * Wander around Tokyo and get lost * Stay in Shibuya
Day 4 - Sept 24 * travel to Tokyo Disney 6 am * Tokyo Disneyland vacation pkg tickets * Stay in Disney hotel
Day 5- Sept 25 * Tokyo Disney sea vacation pkg tickets * Stay in Disney hotel
Day 6 - Sept 26 * Tokyo Disney sea tickets + fantasy springs vacation pkg tickets * Stay in Disney Hotel
Day 7 - Sept 27 * Travel to Kyoto by Shinkansen * Maiko Dance performance * Stay in Kyoto Ryokan
Day 8 - Sept 28 * Visit Kyoto temples - love suggestions * Stay in Kyoto Ryokan
Day 9 Sept 29 * travel to Tokyo by Shinkansen * Drop bags in Shinjuku hotel * Visit a Tokyo temple - need recommendations for best temple with kids please! * Stay in Shinjuku
Day 10 Sept 30 * Visit ninja cafe Harajuku * Wander around Harajuku * Stay in Shinjuku
Day 11 - October 1 * Store bags at hotel * Recommendations for activities to do during day when we need to fly out at 10pm (maybe teamLab planets If we can store luggage nearby? ) * Arrive Haneda 7pm to fly home
Any feedback or suggestions would be appreciated.
Edits after suggestions from mods.
2024.06.08 08:27 BigWolf01 Question about flying with Larp weapons
I wanted to check before I fly next week if Larp weapons are safe to be checked luggage on flights. Specifically in regards to air pressure, I want to make sure the foam doesn’t change due to the difference in air pressure as I fly across Australia.
NOTE: I do have a travel safe container for the weapons that is within the guidelines for my airline’s oversize baggage
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NOTE: I do have a travel safe container for the weapons that is within the guidelines for my airline’s oversize baggage
2024.06.08 06:44 Significant-Tower146 Best Eylar Gun Cases
 | https://preview.redd.it/bsr9ausy1a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=17030f7702ba03544bcd240b45a101ab652f6e16 submitted by Significant-Tower146 to u/Significant-Tower146 [link] [comments] Gear Up with Eylar Gun Cases The Top 19 Best Eylar Gun Caseshttps://preview.redd.it/6i8hqyaz1a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d87663fb734aab2d5123221dacef3c793f9082ce
Reviews🔗Tough Vault Takedown Rifle & Shotgun Case by Pelicanhttps://preview.redd.it/aenlllwz1a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=eb0c5d122c43f9d41e059bebf651b041ef0bab99 I recently discovered the Pelican V700 Vault Takedown Rifle and Shotgun Case, and it's truly a game changer for transportation of your beloved firearms. As an avid hunter, I appreciate that this case provides a high level of security, offering crushproof, dustproof, and weather resistant protection. The sturdy handles ensure your rifles or shotguns can withstand even the toughest conditions on your hunting trips. One feature I particularly love is the presence of six push button latches that offer secure closure with easy-open access. This ensures your weapons are safe and secure while also making it convenient for you to access them when needed. The case also comes with specific foam designed to fit takedown firearms and related accessories, providing your gear with excellent protection during transportation. However, like any product, there are some cons as well. The case is quite bulky and heavy, making it less ideal for those looking for a lightweight solution. Additionally, cutting and shaping the foam to fit your specific equipment can be time-consuming. Overall, despite its drawbacks, I would highly recommend this gun case to anyone in need of a reliable and resilient transportation solution for their takedown firearms. 🔗Durable, Crushproof Double Rifle Casehttps://preview.redd.it/4szssc802a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ac3cc1a8293927c72bdde3e5817246dd679ab553 I recently had the chance to use the Pelican V800 Vault Double Rifle Case in tan, and I must say it's been a game-changer in keeping my firearms safe and secure. The high-impact polymer exterior is not only incredibly durable but also has a sleek, modern look that I absolutely love. One of the standout features for me is the customizable protective foam lining the interior. Having a secure fit for my rifles is so important, and this case makes it easy to create that level of protection. Plus, the added benefit of being crushproof, dustproof, and weather-resistant gives me peace of mind when traveling with my gear. However, cutting the foam to fit my rifles exactly was a bit time-consuming and messy. It would have been nice if the case came with "pluck" foam, like some other brands offer, to make customization easier and less stressful. In terms of ease of use, the handles are ergonomic and sturdy, making it comfortable to carry even when the case is fully loaded with scoped rifles. The wheels are also a great addition for those times when you need to roll your gear instead of lifting it. Overall, the Pelican V800 Vault Double Rifle Case has been an excellent investment for keeping my firearms protected during transport. Its combination of durability, security features, and customizable foam make it a top choice for anyone in need of a high-quality rifle case. 🔗Ultimate Guitar Rifle Case for Discreet Transporthttps://preview.redd.it/woxgm6n02a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6f26326125304af3da3b50ce36f08e853cf3fc64 I've been using the Savior Equipment Ultimate Guitar Rifle Case to keep my rifle safe and secure during transportation. This case has been a lifesaver, providing discreet protection that doesn't draw unwanted attention. One of the best features is the fully customizable foam inserts that let me configure the case to fit my specific gear perfectly. With three inserts included, I can easily switch between two different layouts depending on the trip. The high-impact polymer outer shell and enclosed wheels make it easy to transport my rifle without any hassle. The six lock-ready latches add an extra layer of security, giving me peace of mind when traveling with my firearm. The only downside I've noticed is the need to purchase locks separately, but overall, I couldn't be happier with my investment in this case. 🔗Plano 44" Durable Wheeled Gun Casehttps://preview.redd.it/uxkhgqy02a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=caf7f952eea78d4b44ae7168da1b44d4da58c0ce As an avid hunter, I've always been on the lookout for durable cases to protect my beloved firearms. When I came across the Plano Double Tactical Field Locker Case, I knew it was exactly what I needed. This wheeled case, designed specifically for tactical firearms, is no lightweight contender! The reinforced construction and industrial draw-down latches give me peace of mind when transporting my AR-15 platform. The double-density foam interiors provide excellent cushioning during transit, keeping my rifle safe from any unexpected bumps along the way. However, one drawback worth mentioning is its weight. It can get quite heavy once you've packed everything in, but hey, it's better to be safe than sorry! Plus, the built-in wheels make it easier to maneuver around. In summary, if you're looking for a high-quality case that offers top-level protection and security, the Plano Double Tactical Field Locker Case is definitely worth considering. Just make sure you have some strong arms to carry it! 🔗Allen Corral Rifle Case: Durable Storage for Your Gunhttps://preview.redd.it/qaknvjb12a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a326d9367b940fb4cec91a3305b09cf110546d54 I recently purchased the Allen Corral Rifle Case in black, and it has truly been a game-changer for me as a gun owner. The first thing that stood out to me was its sturdy construction and the high-density foam padding that gives me peace of mind knowing my rifle is protected from bumps and scratches while on the go. I love how convenient the Corral Rifle Case is to use, with its high-strength webbed carrying handles and ample storage space in the front exterior pocket. This is perfect for storing all my shooting essentials, making it easy for me to stay organized and prepared for any situation. However, I do have one concern: the metal D-ring at the top of the spine is a little difficult to locate, especially when I'm in a hurry. It would be great if this could be slightly more prominent or even highlighted with a different color to make it easier to spot. Despite this minor issue, I am thrilled with my purchase and can already see the positive impact it's had on my shooting experience. The Allen Corral Rifle Case has made it easy for me to keep my rifle safely and securely stored while I'm on the move, and I have no doubt it will be a faithful companion on many hunting trips to come. 🔗Eylar Blue 8.12" x 6.56" x 3.56" TSA-Compatible Protective Case for Small Itemshttps://preview.redd.it/cha852n12a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f4c1a13561003433574667239588fb1c8d308066 As a product reviewer, I've recently been trying out Eylar's Protective Hard Case. This compact case with foam has been a game-changer for me, as it provides excellent protection for my most valuable items. I've been using it to store my small camera, some jewelry, and even a few small electronics. The outer dimensions are 8.12 inches by 6.56 inches by 3.56 inches, making it perfect for those who need a portable solution. The inner dimensions are slightly smaller, at 7.25 inches by 4.75 inches by 3.06 inches, providing just enough space to fit my belongings perfectly. One of the things I appreciate most about this case is its durability. It's designed to be water, dust, and shockproof, which has given me peace of mind when traveling with valuable items. Additionally, the case features an integrated pressure-equalizing valve to ensure that there's no damage when traveling to different altitudes. The three layers of foam, including one customizable pluck-and-pull layer, provide ample protection and organization for small items. The case's compact size and built-in handle make it extremely convenient for travel. I love that the handle folds up for easy storage and can be quickly pulled out when I need it. Plus, the case is TSA compliant, so I don't have to worry about any issues with airport security. However, one potential downside of this case is its size. While it may be perfect for those with minimal belongings, it can be a bit small for others. I've had to leave some of my camera accessories at home, as they simply won't fit. Still, for those with small electronics or other items that require secure and compact storage, Eylar's Protective Hard Case with foam is a top choice. In summary, Eylar's Protective Hard Case has been a great addition to my travel gear. Its durability, size, and convenience make it a perfect choice for anyone looking for a reliable case for their most treasured belongings. 🔗Durable Black Waterproof and Shockproof Gear Case for Equipment and Valuableshttps://preview.redd.it/f81eu3022a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=28a5e3ad0100deb5372c59a4caeeac6f36dce5b4I recently decided to upgrade my gear storage, and the Eylar SA00001 Hard Case has been a game changer. The first day I received it, I was immediately impressed with its sleek black design. The case is made of high-pressure polypropylene plastic, which makes it both waterproof and shockproof. I've taken it on multiple camping trips and even a flight, and my gear has remained completely safe and dry. One of my favorite features of this case is its customizable foam inserts. It comes with three layers of foam, including two fully customizable pull-and-pluck layers and one layer of egg-crate foam padding. This allowed me to perfectly tailor the space inside the case to fit my specific gear. However, it's not all sunshine and roses. The handle of the case can be a little difficult to fold up at first, requiring a bit of elbow grease. Additionally, the case's size might be a bit too large for some people, as it can take up quite a bit of space in a bag or on the go. Overall, I'd highly recommend the Eylar SA00001 Hard Case to anyone looking for a reliable and secure way to store and transport their valuable gear. Its waterproof and shockproof design, combined with its customizable foam inserts, make it an excellent choice for any adventurer. 🔗Rigid Protective Gun Case with Wheels and Customizable Foamhttps://preview.redd.it/ekgbm9i22a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7fdf728bfb5712d92a915a30c70f35a78307d710 While I wasn't the one to pick the Eylar 53-inch Mil-Spec White Protective Roller Hard Case for a journey, my buddy did and it became the center of attention. We initially thought it was just another suitcase but boy, were we in for a surprise! The moment our eyes laid on that milky white exterior, we knew it was something special. It's not your regular luggage; it's got reinforced roller wheels which allow us to haul even the heaviest loads with ease. Plus, no stress about fitting all the stuff we need—it can hold up to two large items securely. This product isn't just designed for air travel; its customizable foam layers cater to all your storage needs, whether it's for valuables or firearms (as it meets TSA's luggage lock fittings). And speaking of TSA, this beauty is not just airtight but also waterproof, ensuring protection from any unpredictable weather conditions or accidents. One thing that stood out for me was its adaptive pressure equalization valve. Now, this might sound a bit techie, but it essentially means that the case can handle extreme temperature fluctuations and altitude changes without causing any damage to your belongings inside. Plus, its stackable design gives an extra edge during multi-case transportation. On the downside, though, it lacks some extra convenience features like a bottle pocket or hydration bladder compatibility, making it not the best choice for long hikes or camping trips. However, considering all its other capabilities, these cons seem quite negligible. To sum up, the Eylar 53-inch Mil-Spec White Protective Roller Hard Case proved to be a reliable travel companion, offering both sturdy protection and handy customization options. If you're someone who values their belongings and wants them secure during travel, this one is a definite must-have! 🔗20 Inch Large Waterproof Gun Case with Cubed Foamhttps://preview.redd.it/7q1qxuv22a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b0e3a4e8bf03c5be580d3c24d5cd567f65cbbea5 Eylar Gun Case: A Durable Companion for Your Valuables I recently found the Eylar Gun Case in Beige during one of my shopping sprees, and I must say, it has become a staple in my travels! This 20-inch beige case is not only stylish but also incredibly secure and functional. The first thing that caught my attention was its IP67 rating, meaning it's water- and dust-proof. It has even survived a couple of accidental spills without any damage to its contents. Additionally, this case features a pressure-equalization valve that prevents unwanted pressure build-up inside. The Eylar Gun Case comes with two customizable pull-and-pluck cubed foam layers, along with one solid foam layer and an egg-crate foam padding layer. This ensures that your valuables are well-cushioned and protected, be it cameras, electronics, or even firearms. Plus, the multiple layers make it TSA compliant, making my check-in process at airports much smoother. One minor downside I've noticed is the weight – weighing in at 9.5 pounds, it can be a bit cumbersome to carry around frequently. However, this seems like a reasonable trade-off considering the protection it offers. All in all, the Eylar Gun Case provides unbeatable security and protection without compromising on style. It's definitely a worthwhile addition to my collection of travel essentials. 🔗Eylar XL Waterproof Shockproof Equipment Roller Case with Pick N Pluck Foamhttps://preview.redd.it/exmk1e832a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8257d58ea1f9efa5c8aff48312f8d72b9a059e52 I was in desperate need of a reliable case to transport my camera equipment safely across multiple locations for my photography business. The Black Eylar SA00006 XL Waterproof and Shockproof Transport Roller Hard Case with Foam Insert has been a lifesaver! Its crush-proof design and edge-to-edge protection give me peace of mind knowing that my gear is in safe hands. The two lockable TSA-approved fittings provide added security when traveling. One of my favorite features is the customizable Pick 'n' Pluck foam insert - it allows me to create a snug fit for each of my camera lenses and accessories, ensuring they don't move around during transit. Additionally, the reinforced polypropylene body provides excellent durability, and the retractable pull handle and smooth-rolling wheels make it easy to maneuver even when loaded with heavy gear. However, there are some minor drawbacks to this case - the weight can be a bit cumbersome, especially if you're walking long distances or need to lift it onto an airplane overhead bin. And while the interior foam is highly customizable, it can be time-consuming to adjust the foam cubes to fit all your items perfectly. Overall, despite these minor cons, I highly recommend the Black Eylar SA00006 XL Waterproof and Shockproof Transport Roller Hard Case with Foam Insert for anyone looking for a high-quality, secure, and reliable way to transport their valuable gear! 🔗Waterproof and Durable Protective Gear Case by Eylarhttps://preview.redd.it/lh8dm5m32a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=47f763088680545f6eefc903a1ceee758d4b8ee6 I recently got my hands on the Eylar Large 20.62in Protective Gear Case Water and Shock Resistant w/ Foam, and I must say, it has been a game-changer! I use it to transport my camera gear, and it's been incredibly sturdy and reliable. The first thing that caught my eye was its sleek black design. It's not just about looking good; it also means this case can blend in with any bag or luggage, making it perfect for travel. One feature that stands out is its customizable foam layers. The two layers of pull-and-pluck cubed foam allow me to adjust the compartments according to what I'm carrying, ensuring maximum protection for my fragile items like lenses or flashlights. Another perk is its pressure-equalizing knob, which prevents the case from swelling due to changes in altitude or pressure. This means I don't have to worry about my case bursting open when I'm traveling through the mountains or flying to a remote destination. However, there's one thing I wish was different - the lack of an integrated handle. While the case does come with a detachable shoulder strap, I sometimes prefer to carry it by hand. A built-in handle would make this much easier. All in all, the Eylar Large 20.62in Protective Gear Case Water and Shock Resistant w/ Foam has made my life as a photographer so much easier by providing reliable protection for my gear. Its sturdiness and customizable foam layers make it worth every penny. 🔗Durable and Customizable Eylar XL Case with Foamhttps://preview.redd.it/7z9f6s142a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=85c356359500901f8b01cdee7ccda2552039d796 I want to share my experience with the Eylar Extra Large 24 in. Protective Case with Foam. This case has been a game-changer for me when it comes to storing and transporting my gear. The interior is customizable with the pick n pluck foam, which really helped me organize all my stuff securely. Plus, the rubber grip ergonomic handle makes it easy to carry around. The highlights for me were definitely the water and shockproof shell, the edge-to-edge crushproof design, and the reinforced polypropylene body. These features make me feel confident that my gear will stay safe no matter where I take it. However, the only downside I've noticed is that the lockable fittings are TSA approved, but I would've liked to see some additional security options included. Overall, I believe the Eylar Extra Large 24 in. Protective Case with Foam is a fantastic choice if you're looking for a protective and customizable storage solution for your valuable gear. 🔗Waterproof Shockproof Gear Hard Case with Customizable Foam Inserthttps://preview.redd.it/qgqo9wf42a5d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=141edecef25a5d917a0111ccc6a38498ac108876 When I first received the Eylar SA00001 Standard Waterproof and Shockproof Gear Hard Case, I was immediately impressed by its sleek, Gray appearance. I had been searching for a reliable case to protect my fragile equipment during transportation, and this one seemed like the perfect solution. The first thing that caught my eye was the crushproof, folding carry handle. It made it incredibly easy to transport the case or store it inside a backpack or other small bag. The construction quality was top-notch, with the case being injection-molded from reinforced, high-pressure polypropylene plastic. 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2024.06.08 04:42 Count-Daring243 Best Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent
 | submitted by Count-Daring243 to u/Count-Daring243 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/pal1exq9g95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=eef47171168e123089384728b9bfcabd4e01452b Looking for a reliable camping tent that can accommodate up to six people? Look no further than the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent. In this article, we'll provide you with a comprehensive review of this impressive product, highlighting its key features, benefits, and overall performance. Whether you're an avid camper or a novice looking for a high-quality tent, the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent is definitely worth considering. So, let's get started on our journey of discovering what makes this tent a top choice among outdoor enthusiasts. The Top 19 Best Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent
Reviews🔗High-Capacity Light Shield Tent: Eureka Silver Canyon 6https://preview.redd.it/k2ml0zbag95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2e73b916434171cd08d10fd44fd18466042e4657 Every time I plan a camping trip, I have to remember to pack my trusty tent, the Member's Mark 6-Person Instant Cabin Tent with Light Shield Technology. It's a complete game-changer. The moment it arrived, it felt like a well-engineered product, designed to provide the best experience for avid campers. The most noticeable thing about this tent is its ease of set-up. Unpack, unfold, and extend for instant assembly – it simply does not get easier than that. It's perfect for both new campers and veterans who want a quick and reliable shelter. The fact it's lightweight and compact is an added bonus for packing purposes. However, there are a couple of drawbacks that I've noticed. The awning and zippers can be a bit tricky to work with, especially for beginners. Additionally, in areas with strong winds, you'd need to be cautious not to have the doors or awning flapping around. But overall, this tent provides the perfect blend of spaciousness and protection, making it an excellent choice for camping trips. With Light Shield Technology, it provides the right combination of darkness and privacy, ensuring a restful sleep even when there's natural light filtering in. The removable rainfly also adds a layer of protection for any unpredictable weather conditions. Despite a couple of minor glitches, the Member's Mark 6-Person Instant Cabin Tent is an impressive piece of equipment. It ticks all the right boxes for avid campers looking for a spacious, easy-to-set-up, and comfortable shelter. It's made me confident that for my upcoming trips, I'll have a reliable and comfortable base to start my outdoor adventures. 🔗Affordable, Durable Camping Tent for Adventurershttps://preview.redd.it/guhzu1oag95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=49cf9e022be7d646a8cd498e4fbdff4856059708 The Eureka Timberline SQ Outfitter 6 Person Tent has been my trusted companion on numerous camping trips and adventures. This tent has proven to be sturdy, reliable, and versatile, adapting to different weather conditions with ease. One feature that stands out to me is the A-frame construction, which makes setting up a breeze. The proprietary Sequoia frame provides strength and excellent internal volume, while the mid-span spreader bar accentuates the curves in the tent body, adding more internal space. This allows for a spacious interior with enough room to accommodate up to six people comfortably. The tent doors and windows offer ease of access and excellent ventilation options, thanks to the heavy-duty #10 zippers and zippered windows. The large mesh window in the rear, combined with the zippered cover, lets in plenty of natural light and provides ample air circulation. The interior pockets help keep essentials close at hand, while the heavy-duty 4 oz Oxford nylon floor ensures a watertight, bathtub-style protection against splashes and standing water. While I appreciate the Lite-Set Footprint as it protects the floor from punctures and dirt, I'd have preferred if the footprint came included with the purchase. Other than that minor inconvenience, this tent has been an outstanding choice for my camping needs. It's easy to carry, set up, and tear down, making it an ideal option for both solo campers and groups of six. Overall, the Eureka Timberline SQ Outfitter 6 Person Tent has proven to be a reliable and durable companion in the great outdoors. Despite occasional challenges like dealing with rain or ventilation, the tent's numerous standout features make it a top choice for those seeking a spacious and sturdy shelter during their camping adventures. 🔗Eureka Solitaire AL: Compact, Lightweight 3-Season Solo Tent for Adventurous Travelershttps://preview.redd.it/ghkq6t9bg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5225a2350385e0756bc1e59addc1a0d76bc79c1a The Eureka Solitaire AL tent has become my go-to for all my solo adventures. Its lightweight build and quick setup make it the perfect companion for my backpacking and camping trips. The two-pole tunnel design is a breeze to set up after a long day of hiking or climbing, and it has proven to handle some serious wind. The integrated full-coverage fly is rolled back for stargazing on clear nights, giving me the best views of the night sky. The tent's durability and weatherproof protection have made even the most unpredictable weather conditions a non-issue. The only drawback is that it can be a bit hard to stake down in rocky terrain, but that's a minor inconvenience compared to the overall experience. If you're looking for a lightweight, easy-to-use shelter for your solo adventures, the Eureka Solitaire AL tent is a fantastic choice. 🔗Roomy, Weather-Resistant Family Tent with High Visibility - Perfect for Campinghttps://preview.redd.it/ptk73rgbg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=323a016c2f5b3f846861e8aa4b2fabf26b6e1d71 I recently had the opportunity to use the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent on a camping trip, and I must say, it was a game-changer. The dark green, 6-person tent stood out from the other options available, offering a spacious interior and an easy setup. The roomy interior allowed me and my family to move around comfortably, while the near-vertical wall design added extra space for standing up and changing. Setting up the tent was a breeze, thanks to the color-coded poles and easy-to-follow instructions. In just 10 minutes, my partner and I had the tent up and running, and we were ready to enjoy the great outdoors. The high-tech coating material and sealed seams provided excellent weather protection, ensuring that we stayed dry during a surprise downpour. One of my favorite features of this tent was the mesh tent top and doors. Not only did they offer great views of the surrounding landscape, but they also allowed for excellent ventilation, keeping us cool on hot summer days. The gear loft with a lantern hook and mesh storage pockets provided ample storage for all our camping essentials, leaving the tent floor neat and organized. Overall, the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent was a fantastic addition to our camping experience. Its roomy interior, easy setup, and weather protection made it a top choice for our family adventure. If you're looking for a versatile, spacious, and reliable tent for your next camping trip, this one should definitely be on your shortlist. 🔗Eureka El Capitan 2+ Outfitter 2 Person Tent: Durable, Spacious, and Versatile Camping Solutionhttps://preview.redd.it/3a0hplsbg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2d2dde84916d6dc646f20905814c540c234719ce As a frequent camper, I was thrilled to try out the Eureka El Capitan 2+ Outfitter 2 Person Tent. This tent is a perfect blend of durability and practicality, making it a great choice for outdoor enthusiasts. The 2-pole dome design with an integrated ridgepole provided excellent headroom and shoulder space, allowing me to move around comfortably inside. One of the standout features that caught my attention was the 15% more floor space compared to traditional designs. This extra room was incredibly helpful for storing gear and moving around without feeling cramped. The heavy-duty, 150D poly oxford floor defended against abrasion and punctures, giving me peace of mind during my camping trips. The oversized YKK brand zippers added an extra touch of durability, ensuring that they would last through various weather conditions. Additionally, the front and rear doors made entry and exit a breeze. I also appreciated the front and rear vestibules with Eureka's High/Low Vent-Air Exchange System, which helped regulate the temperature inside the tent. However, there were a couple of drawbacks I noticed. The tent's height of 7 inches might be a bit restrictive for taller campers, and the weight of 7.6 lb could make it a bit cumbersome for longer hikes. Overall, the Eureka El Capitan 2+ Outfitter 2 Person Tent has become a reliable companion on my camping adventures. The thoughtful design and high-quality materials make it a worthy investment for outdoor enthusiasts. 🔗Beyondhome 6-Person Camping Tent for Familyhttps://preview.redd.it/8039rvccg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c5978c9387cf0a24476632cb63957f453c42d27e During our recent family camping trip, we decided to give the Beyondhome Tent a try. Our first impression was the tent's sleek design, which stood out among other camping gear. The 6-person tent is surprisingly lightweight, weighing only 16.75 lbs, making it easy to carry and set up. We were excited to experience the instant cabin-like feel promised by the setup process. In our opinion, the key highlight of this tent is its easy 60-second setup. The pre-attached poles and simple directions made assembly a breeze. Additionally, the tent's water-resistant and windproof features come in handy, especially when dealing with unpredictable weather. The rainfly and waterproof seams helped keep us dry during a sudden downpour. However, the tent's ventilation system was a little disappointing. We found the single mesh door and 4 mesh windows too few to promote proper airflow on sweltering nights. On the other hand, the mesh tent top and side ventilation window helped in minimizing condensation and keeping us cooler. In terms of durability and design, we were pleased with the double-thick fabric that met CPMA-84 flammability requirements. With so many mesh windows, the view from inside the tent is truly spectacular. Despite a few minor flaws, our family appreciated the Beyondhome Tent's ease of use and comfort during our camping trip. 🔗Eureka! 6-Person Canyon Fitted Footprint for Tent Protectionhttps://preview.redd.it/dcb3admcg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d82a8c28ed812f91a7616ef38c1ac4ca38abeb70 I recently had the pleasure of using the Eureka Canyon 6-Person Fitted Footprint during a camping trip. The moment I laid it down, I appreciated the sturdy webbing stake-out loops and grommet attachments that held the footprint firmly beneath the tent without requiring any extra effort. The heavy coating of nylon fabric that the footprint boasts added a sense of durability and protection to the tent floor from punctures and wear. While setting up the footprint, I noticed the custom-cut shape that perfectly fitted the tent's edges without any overlapping on the ground. It was like the footprint was tailored just for my tent, providing a seamless integration between the floor and the footprint. Despite its strong points, the footprint did have one drawback for me. I had noticed that the size seemed slightly larger than my tent's floor, causing a pool of water to accumulate on one side during heavy rain. However, this issue could be addressed by folding and taping the edges of the footprint to create a smaller area to prevent water collection. Overall, the Eureka Canyon 6-Person Fitted Footprint proved to be a reliable and well-designed accessory that provided my tent with much-needed protection. 🔗Eureka Boondocker Hotel 6 Person Tent for Camping Adventureshttps://preview.redd.it/gg4uq0zcg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7abbc294b56d4f1b821765ed1f14dc794cc7aa1d The Eureka Boondocker Hotel 6 Person Tent is a fantastic addition to any camping adventure. The tent has a spacious interior that can hold up to six people comfortably, making it perfect for larger families or groups. The design is both functional and visually appealing, with a large vestibule that can hold bikes, backpacks, and other gear when the tent is guyed out or act as a sun shade or rain break. One of the standout features of the Eureka Boondocker Hotel 6 Person Tent is the high/low air exchange venting system. This allows for easy adjustment of airflow to suit any weather conditions. The mesh roof and windows provide ample ventilation, which can make a big difference during hot summer nights. The footprint included with the tent is a great addition, as it helps protect the floor from wear and tear. Unfortunately, the tent does have a few drawbacks. First and foremost, the 210 denier floor fabric may not be sturdy enough for families with children and pets. Setup can also be a bit confusing, especially for those who are new to camping tents. However, these minor issues do not detract significantly from the overall quality and performance of the Eureka Boondocker Hotel 6 Person Tent. In conclusion, the Eureka Boondocker Hotel 6 Person Tent is a reliable and spacious option for anyone looking to take their camping adventures to the next level. Despite a few minor shortcomings, its many features make it a strong contender for your next camping trip. 🔗Spacious 6-Person Dome Tent for Campinghttps://preview.redd.it/mvo96uidg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ff36b9bee8c844cec57b5ffe3689a9bb59de1610 I recently tried the CORE 6 Person Dome Tent and it exceeded my expectations for a camping trip. The bent-pole connector design gave me extra room to stretch out inside, and I appreciated the durable 75D fabric that resisted wear and tear. The ample interior storage pockets come in handy for keeping essentials organized. However, the rainfly was a bit of a challenge to attach, and the minimum trail weight of 18 pounds felt a bit heavy. Overall, the CORE 6 Person Dome Tent is a reliable option for camping enthusiasts who value comfort and functionality in their gear. 🔗Comfortable 6-Person Camping Tent for Familieshttps://preview.redd.it/66g0f3seg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4c55b5109fb8e679995a07bc22139caada79a1a9 Last summer, I went camping with a group of friends and we decided to upgrade from our department store tents. We opted for the Sierra Designs Fern Canyon 6, which was a wise choice. Our tent had enough space for all six of us and the peak height was perfect for tall campers, although a bit cramped for the very tall ones. It may have been heavier than other tents, but the construction made it strong and sturdy. I particularly appreciated the large front door and convenient entry, and the mesh interior pockets helped keep our belongings organized. The integrated pass-throughs were handy for storing modern electronics, making our camping experience more comfortable. The tent's mesh body and ventilation system were effective in regulating internal temperature, preventing condensation buildup. Although the fiberglass poles were heavier and more fragile than aluminum poles, wrapping construction made them stronger than other tents on the market. The tent's weather protection was also impressive. The 68D PU-coated polyester taffeta floor and awning-style rainfly shielded us from wind and rain, and fully taped seams ensured our tent stayed dry even in the stormiest conditions. Though the Sierra Designs Fern Canyon 6 may not be the lightest or most budget-friendly option, it provided reliable durability and convenience for our camping trip, and I'd recommend it to any family looking for a spacious and robust tent. 🔗Beyondhome 6-Person Instant Camping Tent with 600mm Water Resistance & 35 Mile Wind Resistancehttps://preview.redd.it/dnp7ud1fg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=95853f466ba87d445184d733b25f7bca10b598d6 The Beyondhome Instant Cabin Tent is an absolute game-changer for anyone looking to set up camp in a snap. Just ask me, I finally got to try it out with my family on our recent camping trip, and boy, was it a breeze! The first thing that stood out was the tent's lightning-fast setup. No kidding, it took us a mere 60 seconds to go from unboxing to having a fully assembled cabin tent! It's a true testament to the tent's intuitive design, with pre-attached poles that just snap into place. I loved how seamless it was, even for a camping newbie like me. But here's the kicker - this tent is not just an engineering marvel, it's also a weather warrior. Even in some rather inclement conditions, we stayed nice and dry, all thanks to the 600mm water-resistant and 35-mile wind-resistant materials. The detachable rainfly and sturdy steel stakes were a major bonus, making us feel like we were bunkered down in a real-life fortress. The additional headroom was a pleasant surprise too. It gave us a lot more room to move around and even fit in a queen-sized air mattress, which made our camping experience even more comfortable. Plus, the mesh windows and top provided better ventilation, ensuring we stayed nice and cool on those warm nights. Now, let's not forget about the portability factor. Fitting this tent into a carry bag that's smaller than a carry-on luggage was a testament to the designers' genius. The weight was also very manageable, making it a perfect companion for camping trips. However, it wasn't all smooth sailing. I did notice that one of the tent's legs was broken right out of the box, which was a bit of a headache. Plus, the zipper wasn't the smoothest, which required a bit of finesse to open and close. All in all, the Beyondhome Instant Cabin Tent was a real winner in our book. Its speedy setup, weather resistance, and comfy amenities more than made up for the minor hiccups. I'd definitely recommend it to anyone planning a camping adventure. 🔗Emergency Reflective Tent for Outdoor Survivalhttps://preview.redd.it/6fpw3mxhg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d31af1d2f73dcfeea13d0dfe2909d2607d3df75b When I first heard about the Ultimate Survival Technologies' survival reflect tent, I was intrigued by the idea of a quick and easy-to-pack shelter. As someone who frequently ventures into the great outdoors, I found this little lifesaver a perfect fit for my gear bag. Setting it up was incredibly simple – no poles needed, just a bit of suspension cord to strap it down. This makes it a cinch to pitch, especially when you need it in a hurry. Plus, the reflective material really does its job – it reflects your body heat, keeping you warmer and brighter in the wilderness. However, the shelter isn't perfect. It's quite small, making it not ideal for adults. It might be just enough for an anxious child, but anyone bigger would find it cramped and uncomfortable. Also, the ends are wide open, which can be a little unsatisfying if you want a bit of security in the face of adversity. But overall, I'd like to say that I've been quite satisfied with the UST survival reflect tent. It's a dependable piece of kit and gives me the reassurance that I'll have a shelter should things take a turn for the worse during my adventures. So while it might not the perfect solution for everyone, it's definitely worth considering if you're looking for an emergency shelter that doesn't take up a lot of room in your bag. 🔗Eureka Jade Canyon 6-Person Camping Tent with Premium Frame Materialshttps://preview.redd.it/gw4kqm6ig95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2ee613c1840280d0022f94d91fbf7b078ceca707 As someone who loves camping trips, I recently used the Eureka Jade Canyon x 6 Person Tent for a family camping adventure. This tent made room for all of us with its spacious and kid-friendly design. The Jade Canyon X6 features a 7-foot interior peak height that accommodated even the tallest camper in our group. The CabinMAX architecture provided 30% more livable space when compared to traditional cabin tent designs, making it perfect for big families like mine. One of the most impressive features of this tent was its overhanging open rain fly that created a dry entry porch awning. Four floor-to-ceiling windows were perfect for promoting cooling air circulation even during light rain. The tent's strong frame made of steel and aluminum materials stood up to every storm we encountered, making it a durable option for our next family camping trip. However, there were some downsides to the Jade Canyon x 6 Person Tent. Setting it up took a little more time than I expected, and while it's generally easy to assemble, I found myself struggling with a few parts. Additionally, while the tent is perfect for small families or car camping, it might not be the best choice for rough weather conditions or heavy-duty camping situations. Overall, the Eureka Jade Canyon x 6 Person Tent is a fantastic choice for families or individuals who enjoy the great outdoors. Its spacious design, high-quality materials, and ability to withstand various weather conditions make it an excellent addition to any camping gear collection. 🔗Comfortable Family Tent with Weather-Resistant Design and Enhanced Featureshttps://preview.redd.it/kvysp0oig95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8a2944afc862c7ac466ff01eca9cc8b93d21a8d1 I recently had the pleasure of using the Eureka Copper Canyon LX 6-person tent on a family camping trip. This tent lived up to my expectations and provided a cozy and spacious home-away-from-home during our outdoor adventure. One of the first things that stood out to me was the sturdy design of the tent, featuring a steel and fiberglass frame that was easy to set up on my own. The near-vertical walls provided ample standing room, which was perfect when camping with our air mattress and cots. The large mesh windows with waterproof curtains proved to be highly effective at providing ventilation and keeping the interior cool. However, I did encounter a few minor drawbacks during my experience. The tent body's polyester taffeta fabric with PU coating seemed a bit thin for my liking, which left me concerned about long-term durability. Additionally, setting up the tent took a bit longer than expected, especially when it came to securing the four corner poles. Overall, the Eureka Copper Canyon LX proved to be a comfortable, roomy, and user-friendly tent, ideal for family car camping. With some minor adjustments in design, this tent has the potential to become an even better choice for outdoor enthusiasts. Buyer's GuideWhen it comes to choosing the right tent for your outdoor adventures, there are several factors to consider. Whether you're planning a weekend camping trip or an extended hiking expedition, having a reliable and durable tent can make all the difference in ensuring a comfortable and enjoyable experience. In this guide, we'll discuss some important features to look for and general advice about the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent category.Tent SizeOne of the most important factors to consider when purchasing a tent is the size. The Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent is designed to comfortably accommodate 2-3 adults. Make sure to consider the size of your intended sleeping area and choose a tent that provides enough space for you and your gear. https://preview.redd.it/cc9rbe6kg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e35da3485bda83cc28fc7d9f2fdb87417d2e0d65 Tent MaterialsThe materials used to construct a tent are crucial for its durability, weight, and weather resistance. For the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent, the canopy is made of 68D polyester, while the floor is made of 150D polyester. Look for tents with high-quality, waterproof materials that can withstand various weather conditions.VentilationProper ventilation is essential for keeping the air inside your tent fresh and preventing condensation buildup. The Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent features a mesh roof and two zippered windows that can be opened to increase airflow. When shopping for tents, look for ones with well-designed ventilation systems to ensure a comfortable and breathable space.Set-Up and PortabilityThe ease of set-up and portability can greatly influence your overall camping experience. The Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent is designed with a free-standing frame that allows for quick and easy set-up. Additionally, the tent is lightweight, making it easy to transport. When choosing a tent, consider your preferred method of set-up and the overall weight for portability. https://preview.redd.it/cdurb8fkg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=23b5ea59c906fb739146dd156c94db96924e5c44 Additional FeaturesSome additional features to look for when purchasing a tent include: integrated gear lofts, large vestibules, and additional storage pockets. These features can enhance the overall functionality and organization of your tent space.When browsing for the perfect Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent, remember to consider the size, materials, ventilation, set-up, and portability, as well as any additional features that might be important to your outdoor adventure needs. By doing so, you'll be sure to find the right tent to provide a comfortable and enjoyable experience on your camping trips. FAQWhat is the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent designed for?The Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent is designed for campers who need a roomy, versatile, and easy-to-set-up tent. It can accommodate up to six people and is ideal for family camping trips or group outings. https://preview.redd.it/irsp73zkg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=559784838bf56c142e99145fa3a853dea5957546 What are the key features of the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent?
How big is the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent?The tent measures approximately 10 feet by 12 feet when fully set up, providing ample space for up to six people to sleep comfortably. The vestibule adds an additional 6 feet of storage space.What materials is the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent made of?The tent is made of heavy-duty, 68-denier nylon ripstop fabric for the body and a 68-denier silicone-coated ripstop fabric for the rainfly. It also features a mesh canopy for enhanced breathability and sturdy steel poles for durability. https://preview.redd.it/abt85v7lg95d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f2d4659c33101e53b0545f601f47497c91c3b0ef How much does the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent weigh?The tent weighs approximately 13.5 pounds, making it a relatively lightweight option for a 6-person tent.What storage options are available for the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent?In addition to the internal storage space within the tent, the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent comes with a vestibule that provides an additional 6 feet of storage space for gear and equipment.How easy is it to set up the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent?Setting up the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent is a straightforward process, even for first-time campers. The tent's color-coded poles and clip system help ensure a quick and accurate setup, making it a great option for both weekend warriors and seasoned campers.What types of weather conditions is the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent suitable for?The Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent is designed to withstand various weather conditions, thanks to its full-coverage rainfly that protects the interior from rain, snow, and even heavy winds. However, it is still advisable to choose an appropriate campsite and secure the tent properly in case of extreme weather conditions.What is the warranty period for the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent?Eureka offers a limited warranty on their products, covering defects in materials and workmanship. The warranty period for the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent is 1 year from the date of purchase.Where can I purchase the Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent?The Eureka Silver Canyon 6 Tent is available at various outdoor supply stores and online retailers. We recommend checking your local outdoor gear shops or popular online marketplaces like Amazon or REI.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |