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2015.01.13 22:03 CultOfTrading Swing Trading Ideas, Tips, General Talk
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2024.05.29 07:03 Eastern_Charity_2866 Are there opportunities for months off at a time in this trade?
I have a pretty standard backstory for someone considering on making a career switch from white collar into the trades. I’m sure I’ll get tons of grief about how I’m over-romanticizing it and should stick with my cushy office job. That’s fine, it’s part of the territory.
Once you’re done chastising me however, I would appreciate any insight on if this trade offers the opportunity to take a couple months off at a time? Currently I’m weighing the options between switching into a merchant mariner career or a trade. What’s the relationship between the two? Absolutely nothing! I’m motivated by schedule more than money per se. A five day work week in exchange for for a two day weekend just isn’t a worthwhile exchange rate imo. I would much rather grind for months then take months off at a time. I know for a fact that the maritime industry is ripe with opportunities to grind for 6-8 months out of the year and take the remaining time off while still pulling in 6 figures annually. Does lineman work offer anything like this?
If these opportunities exist, I know I won’t have access to them immediately but I’m asking is there a light at the end of the tunnel once I’m done with an apprenticeship. Even if I don’t have the option to grind in exchange for multiple months off consecutively like I could in maritime, is it commonplace to have any sort of schedule where maybe you work 4 weeks on and have 2 weeks off or any variation of the like?
Obviously more money would be great but even if I could pull in 70-80K working 6-8 months out of the year I would be happy with that. Any info is appreciated and if anyone has additional insight on other trades that potentially fit this criteria I would appreciate that info as well. Thanks for hearing me out.
submitted by Eastern_Charity_2866 to Lineman [link] [comments]
Once you’re done chastising me however, I would appreciate any insight on if this trade offers the opportunity to take a couple months off at a time? Currently I’m weighing the options between switching into a merchant mariner career or a trade. What’s the relationship between the two? Absolutely nothing! I’m motivated by schedule more than money per se. A five day work week in exchange for for a two day weekend just isn’t a worthwhile exchange rate imo. I would much rather grind for months then take months off at a time. I know for a fact that the maritime industry is ripe with opportunities to grind for 6-8 months out of the year and take the remaining time off while still pulling in 6 figures annually. Does lineman work offer anything like this?
If these opportunities exist, I know I won’t have access to them immediately but I’m asking is there a light at the end of the tunnel once I’m done with an apprenticeship. Even if I don’t have the option to grind in exchange for multiple months off consecutively like I could in maritime, is it commonplace to have any sort of schedule where maybe you work 4 weeks on and have 2 weeks off or any variation of the like?
Obviously more money would be great but even if I could pull in 70-80K working 6-8 months out of the year I would be happy with that. Any info is appreciated and if anyone has additional insight on other trades that potentially fit this criteria I would appreciate that info as well. Thanks for hearing me out.
2024.05.29 07:02 MikeForVentura Main Street Moves from a councilmember's perspective
At our May 21 Council meeting, Council made some key decisions about keeping Main Street open to pedestrians. Main Street will remain closed to cars for now.
The current permit expires June 30. Without Council taking some sort of action, Main Street would have reopened to cars by July 1. So we will:
--Use the vehicle code to close it through Jan 31, 2025
--Hire an independent firm to conduct a survey of property and business owners, to be completed and sent through a committee and then get to Council in November
--Complete the Environmental Impact analysis to justify a permanent-ish closure (meaning, it could stay a pedestrian facility until Council decides to reopen it to cars).
The opponents of Main Street Moves showed up en masse, but they're not the majority. No Council member wants to implement a policy that will hurt local businesses, but failing to keep Main Street Moves would hurt other businesses, businesses which benefit from the increased foot traffic. Some of them spoke up at the meeting or emailed us; others have made it clear over the past couple years where they stand. Many of those who demanded we reopen the street to cars are tenants of property owners who have been trying mightily to take authority over the future of downtown. Property owners have been lied to, told that if we keep the street closed to cars, the city will assess them tens of thousands of dollars. Not only would Council not do that, it’s not even legal. What’s especially gross is, some property owners are threatening they’ll demand the city pay damages to them, and that the city will then pass those bills on to the other properties. (Don’t even get me started on the notion of “damages”.) Property owners have also been told we could do a “flex model.” We heard at the meeting how we should have it open to cars and trucks Monday through Thursday. Weekend closures are not going to happen. Maybe, maybe, it could be open to cars from, say, September to June, but I have real concerns, including I want the parklets to look nice, not like they were thrown together to last a summer. More importantly, it’s not clear from the data I’ve seen that limiting pedestrian access during busy December or slow February will help businesses. I’ve requested that data, going back six years; what data we were shown suggests that Main Street Moves insulates those businesses from the seasonal drops seen elsewhere in the city. While we heard Main Street is a ghost town during the week, that’s not my own anecdotal experience as a customer, nor is it what I’ve heard from other restaurants and retailers. The data we have points to increased foot traffic. Council is charging ahead with building a five-story parking garage, because core lots fill up on weekdays even in winter. Vacancies are low and turnaround is quick.
Space on Main Street has never been so expensive – the old Nature’s Grill is listed at an unprecedented $3.75/sq ft, one of the most expensive leases on the local market. Peter Goldenring is the owner, Jeff Becker the property manager; I can’t imagine what they’d raise the price to if we reopen the street to cars! Until now, $3/sq ft was the high end of the market for a restaurant downtown, and this is not exactly a new or renovated space. $3.75/sq ft will get you a lovely, turnkey restaurant renovated five years ago on lower State Street in Santa Barbara. It’s been on the market for months.
So it’s not just how many people demand something at the microphone on a Tuesday night. We are elected to Council to make tough decisions. It’s not just benefits and drawbacks, it’s “This benefits These People and harms Those People.” So often, it looks like we side with the moneyed elites and screw the residents. This time, it looks the other way ‘round. It’s not that, of course, but what is different is, when the residents feel like the Council screwed them over, they’re not surprised. They don’t assume Council must bow to their demands. Council takes as much as we can into account, not just sponsored Instagram posts, or public speakers.
A colleague indicated he’d want to reopen Main Street if that’s the wish of a majority of property owners. That’s something I’d consider, but it’s not high on the list. I care more about maximizing revenues downtown (and thus our slice of the taxes), both now and in the future. I want restaurants and merchants in Ventura to have more than one car-centric model to choose from, and I want residents to have the option of living in a pedestrian-focused neighborhood. The overwhelming majority of the city, and even most of downtown, already provide car-centric commercial opportunities.
I believe retail in Main Street Moves will be insulated from the increasing downward pressure wrought by online shopping. Restaurants as well: as the industry shifts to filling online orders, more restaurants will discourage walk-ins needing face-to-face customer service. The Main Street restaurants that want cars pulling up to grab a to-go order can do that elsewhere in the city for less. They can even forgo seating (and wait staff, and bussers) altogether and do deliveries/take-out only, it just wouldn’t make sense in the closure area. Let's have a pedestrian-centric area for those businesses that want to locate there.
In November, the survey will come back to Council. I think it's a waste of money and time, but it's to placate the opponents (who have challenged the results of every single survey we've done so far). I'll request data on parking, vacancy rates, six years of sales tax trends, asking prices for leases. I'll point out that other factors affecting businesses downtown: all that rain, the continued growth of Amazon and UberEats, and Downtown Ventura Partners' withholding economic development resources in the closure area. I'm more concerned about the impact DVP is having on Main Street than I am the closure.
submitted by MikeForVentura to ventura [link] [comments]
The current permit expires June 30. Without Council taking some sort of action, Main Street would have reopened to cars by July 1. So we will:
--Use the vehicle code to close it through Jan 31, 2025
--Hire an independent firm to conduct a survey of property and business owners, to be completed and sent through a committee and then get to Council in November
--Complete the Environmental Impact analysis to justify a permanent-ish closure (meaning, it could stay a pedestrian facility until Council decides to reopen it to cars).
The opponents of Main Street Moves showed up en masse, but they're not the majority. No Council member wants to implement a policy that will hurt local businesses, but failing to keep Main Street Moves would hurt other businesses, businesses which benefit from the increased foot traffic. Some of them spoke up at the meeting or emailed us; others have made it clear over the past couple years where they stand. Many of those who demanded we reopen the street to cars are tenants of property owners who have been trying mightily to take authority over the future of downtown. Property owners have been lied to, told that if we keep the street closed to cars, the city will assess them tens of thousands of dollars. Not only would Council not do that, it’s not even legal. What’s especially gross is, some property owners are threatening they’ll demand the city pay damages to them, and that the city will then pass those bills on to the other properties. (Don’t even get me started on the notion of “damages”.) Property owners have also been told we could do a “flex model.” We heard at the meeting how we should have it open to cars and trucks Monday through Thursday. Weekend closures are not going to happen. Maybe, maybe, it could be open to cars from, say, September to June, but I have real concerns, including I want the parklets to look nice, not like they were thrown together to last a summer. More importantly, it’s not clear from the data I’ve seen that limiting pedestrian access during busy December or slow February will help businesses. I’ve requested that data, going back six years; what data we were shown suggests that Main Street Moves insulates those businesses from the seasonal drops seen elsewhere in the city. While we heard Main Street is a ghost town during the week, that’s not my own anecdotal experience as a customer, nor is it what I’ve heard from other restaurants and retailers. The data we have points to increased foot traffic. Council is charging ahead with building a five-story parking garage, because core lots fill up on weekdays even in winter. Vacancies are low and turnaround is quick.
Space on Main Street has never been so expensive – the old Nature’s Grill is listed at an unprecedented $3.75/sq ft, one of the most expensive leases on the local market. Peter Goldenring is the owner, Jeff Becker the property manager; I can’t imagine what they’d raise the price to if we reopen the street to cars! Until now, $3/sq ft was the high end of the market for a restaurant downtown, and this is not exactly a new or renovated space. $3.75/sq ft will get you a lovely, turnkey restaurant renovated five years ago on lower State Street in Santa Barbara. It’s been on the market for months.
So it’s not just how many people demand something at the microphone on a Tuesday night. We are elected to Council to make tough decisions. It’s not just benefits and drawbacks, it’s “This benefits These People and harms Those People.” So often, it looks like we side with the moneyed elites and screw the residents. This time, it looks the other way ‘round. It’s not that, of course, but what is different is, when the residents feel like the Council screwed them over, they’re not surprised. They don’t assume Council must bow to their demands. Council takes as much as we can into account, not just sponsored Instagram posts, or public speakers.
A colleague indicated he’d want to reopen Main Street if that’s the wish of a majority of property owners. That’s something I’d consider, but it’s not high on the list. I care more about maximizing revenues downtown (and thus our slice of the taxes), both now and in the future. I want restaurants and merchants in Ventura to have more than one car-centric model to choose from, and I want residents to have the option of living in a pedestrian-focused neighborhood. The overwhelming majority of the city, and even most of downtown, already provide car-centric commercial opportunities.
I believe retail in Main Street Moves will be insulated from the increasing downward pressure wrought by online shopping. Restaurants as well: as the industry shifts to filling online orders, more restaurants will discourage walk-ins needing face-to-face customer service. The Main Street restaurants that want cars pulling up to grab a to-go order can do that elsewhere in the city for less. They can even forgo seating (and wait staff, and bussers) altogether and do deliveries/take-out only, it just wouldn’t make sense in the closure area. Let's have a pedestrian-centric area for those businesses that want to locate there.
In November, the survey will come back to Council. I think it's a waste of money and time, but it's to placate the opponents (who have challenged the results of every single survey we've done so far). I'll request data on parking, vacancy rates, six years of sales tax trends, asking prices for leases. I'll point out that other factors affecting businesses downtown: all that rain, the continued growth of Amazon and UberEats, and Downtown Ventura Partners' withholding economic development resources in the closure area. I'm more concerned about the impact DVP is having on Main Street than I am the closure.
2024.05.29 07:02 WilkyNina2- Getting kicked out
 | Is this even legal? My mother has been living at the apartment for 23 years!!! I’m devastated and shocked this can be happening. She’s always paid on time and hasn’t done anything wrong in the 23 years that she’s been there. Anyone have any legal advice or suggestions? Anything will help. submitted by WilkyNina2- to burbank [link] [comments] |
2024.05.29 07:01 Dry_Question_1484 Medi-Cal A&D FPL eligibility question
My parents are both over 65, their social security income is $2700 a month. This is over the threshold of $2352 for a couple.
California expanded non-magi allowing medical expenses to be deducted from income calculation. Is this calculation accurate and they can qualify for medi-cal without share of cost? I am spending more time taking care of them as they both had major health issues so I can't work as much so I want to get IHSS for them.
Calculation as follow
$2700 combined social security -$20 unearned income deduction -$174.70 my mom's medicare part b premium -$174.70 my dad's medicare part b premium =$2330.60 countable income
They have an IRA and they both need to make yearly RMD, which would put them over the income limit on the month they make the distribution. Assuming they withdraw a combined $1000, putting their countable income at $3330.60 would they lose the medi-cal on that month or would they be converted to medi-cal with SOC for that month?
submitted by Dry_Question_1484 to Medicaid [link] [comments]
California expanded non-magi allowing medical expenses to be deducted from income calculation. Is this calculation accurate and they can qualify for medi-cal without share of cost? I am spending more time taking care of them as they both had major health issues so I can't work as much so I want to get IHSS for them.
Calculation as follow
$2700 combined social security -$20 unearned income deduction -$174.70 my mom's medicare part b premium -$174.70 my dad's medicare part b premium =$2330.60 countable income
They have an IRA and they both need to make yearly RMD, which would put them over the income limit on the month they make the distribution. Assuming they withdraw a combined $1000, putting their countable income at $3330.60 would they lose the medi-cal on that month or would they be converted to medi-cal with SOC for that month?
2024.05.29 07:01 SharkEva [Oldie] - AITA for respecting my late wife’s wishes about keeping her family out?
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/notofamily posting in AmItheAsshole
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 21st March 2021
Update - 20th April 2021
AITA for respecting my late wife’s wishes about keeping her family out?
My wife unfortunately passed away last year when our daughter was only 3 months old. It was very difficult to get through but my little girl and I are keeping it together.
My daughter is 16 months now and there’s been pressure from my wife’s sister to let her side of the family see my daughter.
The issue is my wife had absolutely no contact with her family since she was 18, so 16 years of not seeing them. Her home life was something she never wanted to talk about.
It always made her upset so I never pushed her to tell me. All I know is they were manipulative and abusive in some form. She left as soon as she was 18, changed her last name and never spoke to them again.
4 years ago she got into contact with her older sister and she’s the only person my wife allowed into our lives. By that I mean we met through video chat but never actually in person.
We still maintained contact after my wife passed and we met a couple times before and during my wife’s funeral. My sister-in-law called me a few weeks ago. She mentioned her parents would really like to meet their granddaughter and want to start over.
They didn’t attend my wife’s funeral because they knew she wouldn’t want them to be there.
One thing my wife always made clear is that she did not want them near our daughter. Ever.
Telling my SIL this...well she got very upset. She said it’s been years and yes her parents were awful people (again won’t say exactly what they did) but losing their daughter has made them reflect on things. And they want to meet my daughter since my wife never gave them that chance.
She’s still trying to convince me and so far I’ve said no. Each time I just feel more and more bad for denying them but it’s what my wife wanted.
Her parents found my Facebook (pretty sure SIL might’ve told them) and I’ve gotten dozens of messages begging me to let my daughter know her moms side of the family. And I shouldn’t keep her from knowing her grandparents for past mistakes.
None of them will leave me alone and SIL has said a few times that I may be grieving losing a wife but to have some empathy for them losing a child. Because right now I’m being “too heartless” for denying them the chance to meet the only piece of my wife they have left.
I’m at my wits end with this because I’m not sure if I am being an asshole or not. I don’t know the whole reason why my wife never wanted to see them again. Even if I did though, I’d still like to honor her wish.
The way they are being however, makes it hard not to wonder if I am?
Comments
birdiepet
NTA
Big_Fans_Comedy
If the family really didn’t attend the funeral to “respect her wishes”, I’m sure they’d do the same here. Don’t let them near your daughter ever, OP
pugluv91
NTA. Do not let them have anything to do with your daughter. The last thing you want is to allow them to have a relationship with your daughter and then after a while you see exactly why your wife didn't want anything to do with them, because depending where you live if they have an established relationship with your daughter they can go for grandparents rights, as of right now they have no grounds. Cut the sil off to she's just giving you a taste of how toxic the rest of your wife's family are. Protect your child.
Permit-Extreme-117
And do not believe the parents crap that they are grieving the loss of their child. They abused her and lost her completely 16 years ago. They deserve nothing.
The fact neither your wife or her sister can even indicate in even a vague or more generalised way the abuse that occurred, means it was truly horrendous.
Tell your SIL this is a permanent and hard no, and if she cannot accept and respect that fully (which means providing no information to her parents), then she cannot have contact with your child either. You need to be very very careful with her even if it appears she's going along with this. You'll likely need to cut her off too anyway, as she's already shown she's on their side.
**Judgement - NTA*\*
Update - 1 month later
Thank you everyone for all the lovely comments and support. I was really worn down with this whole ordeal so all your input was so very appreciated . There was a lot of you that expressed your concerns about what my wife’s family’s intentions were and warned me about taking precautions to keep my daughter safe. I have taken these into consideration and have made steps to ensure they have no access to any information that could disclose our location.
And yes in the end I did decide it was best to cut off all contact, not only with my wife’s parents but her sister too. I tried to get through to her many times about why I’d like to to respect my wife’s call on this since she knew her family best and what they did. Despite all the reassurance that her parents have changed she’s still refused do actually say what went down so that was not at all convincing for me.
Once I blocked them all I was getting calls from different numbers the following days. I sent one final message to her sister stating they’re never allowed near me or my daughter and if they ever tried to come harass us I will get authorities involved. Since then it was radio silence for the last couple weeks but I decided to play it safe a few days ago and changed my phone number.
I’ve also deleted my Facebook since I don’t use it that often but have put my other social media accounts on private. Got many great suggestions from many of you about how to make sure they have absolutely no access to my daughter so I really appreciate that! I’ve saved a few of these comments incase I need some extra tips in the future as my daughter gets older and starts school.
Since I last posted and have cut contact I feel like I can finally breathe. You have no idea how stressful and draining the whole thing was for me so really, thank you all for the help! I’ve been more at peace putting this all behind me and focusing on my beautiful little girl. Just wanted to leave this update since I know there was a lot of concern about how this would all play out.
Thanks again, internet strangers! :)
Comments
[deleted]
You can tell you did the right thing because they were already bringing a lot of bad energy without them being in your's or your daughter's life yet (and now never) : "You have no idea how stressful and draining the whole thing was for me so really,"
DanetteGirl
Please tell me you have a will and a plan if (God forbid) anything happens to you. These people have shown themselves to be untrustworthy in concerns to your child.
CarmenNirvana
I remember reading your original post and am happy to hear that you worked it out!
Based on the way your SIL was deflecting the question of what happened I think the reason why your late wife went NC (and why she never told you) would absolutely justify keeping your child away from them. The possibilities are endless but all progressively worse. If you know if the authorities were involved or other people in your late wife's life that would have an idea, it might be worth it to look into it/get a PI just so you have that peace of mind.
Regardless, you made the right decision and best wishes!!!
Snarky_Boojum
Some things are best left alone. If they’re being quiet now, I’d suggest leaving the entire situation in the past and, as you put it, focus on your beautiful little girl.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
submitted by SharkEva to BORUpdates [link] [comments]
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 21st March 2021
Update - 20th April 2021
AITA for respecting my late wife’s wishes about keeping her family out?
My wife unfortunately passed away last year when our daughter was only 3 months old. It was very difficult to get through but my little girl and I are keeping it together.
My daughter is 16 months now and there’s been pressure from my wife’s sister to let her side of the family see my daughter.
The issue is my wife had absolutely no contact with her family since she was 18, so 16 years of not seeing them. Her home life was something she never wanted to talk about.
It always made her upset so I never pushed her to tell me. All I know is they were manipulative and abusive in some form. She left as soon as she was 18, changed her last name and never spoke to them again.
4 years ago she got into contact with her older sister and she’s the only person my wife allowed into our lives. By that I mean we met through video chat but never actually in person.
We still maintained contact after my wife passed and we met a couple times before and during my wife’s funeral. My sister-in-law called me a few weeks ago. She mentioned her parents would really like to meet their granddaughter and want to start over.
They didn’t attend my wife’s funeral because they knew she wouldn’t want them to be there.
One thing my wife always made clear is that she did not want them near our daughter. Ever.
Telling my SIL this...well she got very upset. She said it’s been years and yes her parents were awful people (again won’t say exactly what they did) but losing their daughter has made them reflect on things. And they want to meet my daughter since my wife never gave them that chance.
She’s still trying to convince me and so far I’ve said no. Each time I just feel more and more bad for denying them but it’s what my wife wanted.
Her parents found my Facebook (pretty sure SIL might’ve told them) and I’ve gotten dozens of messages begging me to let my daughter know her moms side of the family. And I shouldn’t keep her from knowing her grandparents for past mistakes.
None of them will leave me alone and SIL has said a few times that I may be grieving losing a wife but to have some empathy for them losing a child. Because right now I’m being “too heartless” for denying them the chance to meet the only piece of my wife they have left.
I’m at my wits end with this because I’m not sure if I am being an asshole or not. I don’t know the whole reason why my wife never wanted to see them again. Even if I did though, I’d still like to honor her wish.
The way they are being however, makes it hard not to wonder if I am?
Comments
birdiepet
NTA
All I know is they were manipulative and abusive in some form.The best prediction of future behavior is past behavior
None of them will leave me aloneYou're getting a glimpse of their manipulative tactics
I’m at my wits end with this because I’m not sure if I am being an asshole or not.
One thing my wife always made clear is that she did not want them near our daughter. Ever.Honor her wish.
Big_Fans_Comedy
If the family really didn’t attend the funeral to “respect her wishes”, I’m sure they’d do the same here. Don’t let them near your daughter ever, OP
pugluv91
NTA. Do not let them have anything to do with your daughter. The last thing you want is to allow them to have a relationship with your daughter and then after a while you see exactly why your wife didn't want anything to do with them, because depending where you live if they have an established relationship with your daughter they can go for grandparents rights, as of right now they have no grounds. Cut the sil off to she's just giving you a taste of how toxic the rest of your wife's family are. Protect your child.
OOP: Thank you for the advice. With everything on my plate it’s just been so overwhelming and now this whole situation. I want to be able to honor my wife’s wishes. Whatever the reason was that made her cut all contact with them
Permit-Extreme-117
And do not believe the parents crap that they are grieving the loss of their child. They abused her and lost her completely 16 years ago. They deserve nothing.
The fact neither your wife or her sister can even indicate in even a vague or more generalised way the abuse that occurred, means it was truly horrendous.
Tell your SIL this is a permanent and hard no, and if she cannot accept and respect that fully (which means providing no information to her parents), then she cannot have contact with your child either. You need to be very very careful with her even if it appears she's going along with this. You'll likely need to cut her off too anyway, as she's already shown she's on their side.
**Judgement - NTA*\*
Update - 1 month later
Thank you everyone for all the lovely comments and support. I was really worn down with this whole ordeal so all your input was so very appreciated . There was a lot of you that expressed your concerns about what my wife’s family’s intentions were and warned me about taking precautions to keep my daughter safe. I have taken these into consideration and have made steps to ensure they have no access to any information that could disclose our location.
And yes in the end I did decide it was best to cut off all contact, not only with my wife’s parents but her sister too. I tried to get through to her many times about why I’d like to to respect my wife’s call on this since she knew her family best and what they did. Despite all the reassurance that her parents have changed she’s still refused do actually say what went down so that was not at all convincing for me.
Once I blocked them all I was getting calls from different numbers the following days. I sent one final message to her sister stating they’re never allowed near me or my daughter and if they ever tried to come harass us I will get authorities involved. Since then it was radio silence for the last couple weeks but I decided to play it safe a few days ago and changed my phone number.
I’ve also deleted my Facebook since I don’t use it that often but have put my other social media accounts on private. Got many great suggestions from many of you about how to make sure they have absolutely no access to my daughter so I really appreciate that! I’ve saved a few of these comments incase I need some extra tips in the future as my daughter gets older and starts school.
Since I last posted and have cut contact I feel like I can finally breathe. You have no idea how stressful and draining the whole thing was for me so really, thank you all for the help! I’ve been more at peace putting this all behind me and focusing on my beautiful little girl. Just wanted to leave this update since I know there was a lot of concern about how this would all play out.
Thanks again, internet strangers! :)
Comments
[deleted]
You can tell you did the right thing because they were already bringing a lot of bad energy without them being in your's or your daughter's life yet (and now never) : "You have no idea how stressful and draining the whole thing was for me so really,"
OOP: So very true! My god I didn’t realize just how exhausted I truly was until after I completely blocked them off
DanetteGirl
Please tell me you have a will and a plan if (God forbid) anything happens to you. These people have shown themselves to be untrustworthy in concerns to your child.
OOP: Oh absolutely. We already had one prepared before my wife passed. My daughter’s godparents (my sister and her husband) would be the ones who’d look after her
CarmenNirvana
I remember reading your original post and am happy to hear that you worked it out!
Based on the way your SIL was deflecting the question of what happened I think the reason why your late wife went NC (and why she never told you) would absolutely justify keeping your child away from them. The possibilities are endless but all progressively worse. If you know if the authorities were involved or other people in your late wife's life that would have an idea, it might be worth it to look into it/get a PI just so you have that peace of mind.
Regardless, you made the right decision and best wishes!!!
OOP: I’ve thought about that but part of me isn’t sure if I’d feel better or worse knowing what happened and what exactly it was that my wife had to live with in silence. I’m still thinking about it
Snarky_Boojum
Some things are best left alone. If they’re being quiet now, I’d suggest leaving the entire situation in the past and, as you put it, focus on your beautiful little girl.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
2024.05.29 07:01 Signal_Journalist899 How to do camping?
Hi! I'm (47f) going camping for the first time this weekend. I wasn't planning on doing it on my own, but my partner cancelled so it's just me and my puppers, and I have watched ALL the youtube videos on camping, but I still have some questions. I booked a camp site at an army core of engineers campground and it says it has bathrooms and a public hydrant nearby. What exactly is a public hydrant? Can my dog drink from it?
how much firewood should I bring? They sell it in packs at the grocery store, is one pack of firewood enough?
Is it ok to set up my tent and then leave it there? Like, if I forget something and have to run back to town, or if I want to drive down to the beach a few miles up-river, do I need to pack up all my stuff, or do people usually just leave it there?
We're going to need copious amounts of bug spray because we live in a swamp. But when you go to sleep at night, do you wash off the bug spray or sleep with it on? I'm worried about getting it all up in my sleeping bag because I understand they're hard to wash. What do people usually do?
This time of year, there's pretty much a storm once a day that only lasts about half an hour as it blows through. But the wind can be crazy - 60mph is normal. Is that too much wind for a tent? Like if that happens, should I pack it all back up and wait it out in my car and set it up again when it's over? do army core of engineers campgrounds have storm shelters?
Do campgrounds have check in and check out times? Am I supposed to let anyone know when I arrive and leave? There are pretty much no instructions on the website where I made the reservation.
Anyway, I'm pretty excited, I'm just not clear on a few of the finer details.
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how much firewood should I bring? They sell it in packs at the grocery store, is one pack of firewood enough?
Is it ok to set up my tent and then leave it there? Like, if I forget something and have to run back to town, or if I want to drive down to the beach a few miles up-river, do I need to pack up all my stuff, or do people usually just leave it there?
We're going to need copious amounts of bug spray because we live in a swamp. But when you go to sleep at night, do you wash off the bug spray or sleep with it on? I'm worried about getting it all up in my sleeping bag because I understand they're hard to wash. What do people usually do?
This time of year, there's pretty much a storm once a day that only lasts about half an hour as it blows through. But the wind can be crazy - 60mph is normal. Is that too much wind for a tent? Like if that happens, should I pack it all back up and wait it out in my car and set it up again when it's over? do army core of engineers campgrounds have storm shelters?
Do campgrounds have check in and check out times? Am I supposed to let anyone know when I arrive and leave? There are pretty much no instructions on the website where I made the reservation.
Anyway, I'm pretty excited, I'm just not clear on a few of the finer details.
2024.05.29 07:01 MetroIMAX Converting to NRE account
I have an account in HDFC with demat, trading, PPF, and some FDs.
I now work in Hong Kong and wish to convert it into a NRE account. I filled the form when I was in India - they said I need to close trading & demat account first. I submitted application, flew back to Hong Kong, and my parents are tracking it since.
Based in East Delhi, we had to travel to Central Delhi branches to talk to anyone who even deals w Demat or Trading account.
I sold all the shares I had, and the trading account got closed. But demat didn’t.
After several weeks of painful calls, they said they need to deduct some annual fee money and then they’ll close demat account. Deduction happened, got a 3rd reference number and a “7 day promise”, but didn’t hear back.
A month later, been chasing them every week. They don’t reply on 𝕏 or the emails I write. Call centre guy promises and does nothing. Bank employees are clueless. And my process of converting it into an NRE account is stuck.
Any advice? Any experience anyone has had before with this bs?
Thanks!
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I now work in Hong Kong and wish to convert it into a NRE account. I filled the form when I was in India - they said I need to close trading & demat account first. I submitted application, flew back to Hong Kong, and my parents are tracking it since.
Based in East Delhi, we had to travel to Central Delhi branches to talk to anyone who even deals w Demat or Trading account.
I sold all the shares I had, and the trading account got closed. But demat didn’t.
After several weeks of painful calls, they said they need to deduct some annual fee money and then they’ll close demat account. Deduction happened, got a 3rd reference number and a “7 day promise”, but didn’t hear back.
A month later, been chasing them every week. They don’t reply on 𝕏 or the emails I write. Call centre guy promises and does nothing. Bank employees are clueless. And my process of converting it into an NRE account is stuck.
Any advice? Any experience anyone has had before with this bs?
Thanks!
2024.05.29 07:00 The_oneandonlykiwi My thoughts on Convention this year
Alright so I just got back from convention with my PIMI mom on Sunday night and here are my thoughts on it. the theme this years convention had was "Declare the good news!" Which is real creative, I know. Adding onto that I feel like they're just recycling topics at this point, like, I know how I'm 14 and probably 'hard to please' but DEAR GOD. They're literally just out of ideas for topics at this point. for all I know, next year is gonna be "wait a little longer" or some shit.
Not to mention the building was FREEZING as well. I literally had to bring a blanket and manuever it around myself like a MANIAC just so I could SLIGHTLY feel the teensy bit of warmth that was available for me.
Anywho, as for the talks? Boring. As expected. I literally could barely stay awake for most of them because of how much they all said THE SAME THING IN DIFFERENT WORDS. Like, the whole premise of EVERY talk was something like "We don't fear the future because Jehovahs gonna protect us blahblahblah!!" The only time I really "paid attention" was for when they told us to open up to a certain scripture (because my mom always gets on my ass about that.) other than, it was just a 3 day long yapping session.
The good parts? lunch. Also the "new song" is kinda a banger tbh. But I cant wait till I'm able to get out of JW because doing this every year SUCKS
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Not to mention the building was FREEZING as well. I literally had to bring a blanket and manuever it around myself like a MANIAC just so I could SLIGHTLY feel the teensy bit of warmth that was available for me.
Anywho, as for the talks? Boring. As expected. I literally could barely stay awake for most of them because of how much they all said THE SAME THING IN DIFFERENT WORDS. Like, the whole premise of EVERY talk was something like "We don't fear the future because Jehovahs gonna protect us blahblahblah!!" The only time I really "paid attention" was for when they told us to open up to a certain scripture (because my mom always gets on my ass about that.) other than, it was just a 3 day long yapping session.
The good parts? lunch. Also the "new song" is kinda a banger tbh. But I cant wait till I'm able to get out of JW because doing this every year SUCKS
2024.05.29 07:00 EntertainmentWeary57 Anhedonia issues,and diabetes adventure stories to chear us all up. Hopefully.
I was diagnosed at 20 months old back in 1989, been here since early on. I'm not super depressed, just really numb. Yes tried meds and counseling, still trying. I used to think it would be awesome to be 'that guy' who made diabetes seem ok. I wanted so much to help others. Went to camp, volunteered at camp multiple years. I wanted to be the success story to show others what can be accomplished. But now in my 30s my body is breaking down and I don't know where I went wrong. Seems like dopamine decided to take a break for me. I even went on multiple week long canoe trips only to need rescue on my third one because my pump cracked and let water in. I was humiliated because I was hundreds of miles from the nearest hospital. My fellows were remarkable and found a way, but it's not the only time I "adventured with problems". Needed rescue when winter camping with my uncle because my Lantus froze. The only place that hasn't tried to kill me was the desert SW USA. Just had water issues lol. I've been diabetic a long while and would probably benefit from your "I tried" stories. I've got more, but would like to chat about your's too.
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2024.05.29 07:00 acuteCamelcase Just not feeling ok right now
Hi everyone, So, my girlfriend broke up with me a month ago out of nowhere, and I’m feeling so broken right now. She didn’t give me any exact reasons except to say that it was because of things about me that I couldn’t change. We had a long distance relationship and FaceTimed every night and snapped back and forth throughout the day. I just feel so alone now and every night doesn’t feel complete anymore.
To top it off- my last relationship before her was abusive. This was the first time I felt like I could actually trust someone. Now I feel like I have to go back through the same process again to find someone I feel safe with, and I’m feeling hopeless that I’ll be able to.
I’d appreciate advice and some hope. I just want to move on.
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To top it off- my last relationship before her was abusive. This was the first time I felt like I could actually trust someone. Now I feel like I have to go back through the same process again to find someone I feel safe with, and I’m feeling hopeless that I’ll be able to.
I’d appreciate advice and some hope. I just want to move on.
2024.05.29 07:00 Acceptable-Bet4603 AITAH for losing my cool with my husband after he offered to help with chores and then didn’t do it?
I (27f) and my husband (32m) have been married 2 years. I generally work in an office all 5 days of the week while he works from home. I called in sick today after spending the better part of the night sick in the bathroom but felt well enough by afternoon to get some chores done. I ended up doing a couple days worth of cooking, cleaning the kitchen, and tidying the place with hubby coming out periodically to talk or spend some time with me. I usually have no time or energy for this stuff on the days im working so I wanted to get everything out of the way while I had time and energy.
After hubby was done with work, I gave him some small tasks on his insistence and after he was done with them, he said he was tired and asked if he can play games, which I was fine with. He played for a while and then started complaining that he feels anxious because I’m doing so much work and he’s not helping. I told him I can give him tasks but he had said earlier that he’s tired and it’s fine, I don’t need help. He then kept repeating that he felt anxious and repeatedly asking if I’m done yet, even after I gave him a time I would be done by. I asked if he’d like to help me with one thing, and gave him a simple task (putting away the grinder with the washed parts) to do when he said yes, mainly so he would stop pestering me about feeling anxious or asking me when I’ll be done. He continues playing his game for another hour and continues asking if I’m done yet but hasn’t moved at all to do the task I asked him to do. I finally lost my cool and went off on him about constantly pressuring me to be done with the chores while doing absolutely nothing to help despite offering to help. He got all upset that I reacted angrily to him feeling bad and anxious instead of being understanding. From my pov, I was understanding for the entire evening and only lost my cool after he kept repeatedly asking if I’m done yet and that he feels anxious but doing absolutely nothing to change that feeling or helping me finish chores faster. Am I TA for losing my cool? Some advice would be good too.
Edit: a couple things to note: - this is not a one time thing, he does this constantly when I’m doing chores, repeatedly telling me he feels anxious that I’m doing them alone and offering to help but then not doing the things I asked him to do. I will ask him a few times and end up doing them myself.
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After hubby was done with work, I gave him some small tasks on his insistence and after he was done with them, he said he was tired and asked if he can play games, which I was fine with. He played for a while and then started complaining that he feels anxious because I’m doing so much work and he’s not helping. I told him I can give him tasks but he had said earlier that he’s tired and it’s fine, I don’t need help. He then kept repeating that he felt anxious and repeatedly asking if I’m done yet, even after I gave him a time I would be done by. I asked if he’d like to help me with one thing, and gave him a simple task (putting away the grinder with the washed parts) to do when he said yes, mainly so he would stop pestering me about feeling anxious or asking me when I’ll be done. He continues playing his game for another hour and continues asking if I’m done yet but hasn’t moved at all to do the task I asked him to do. I finally lost my cool and went off on him about constantly pressuring me to be done with the chores while doing absolutely nothing to help despite offering to help. He got all upset that I reacted angrily to him feeling bad and anxious instead of being understanding. From my pov, I was understanding for the entire evening and only lost my cool after he kept repeatedly asking if I’m done yet and that he feels anxious but doing absolutely nothing to change that feeling or helping me finish chores faster. Am I TA for losing my cool? Some advice would be good too.
Edit: a couple things to note: - this is not a one time thing, he does this constantly when I’m doing chores, repeatedly telling me he feels anxious that I’m doing them alone and offering to help but then not doing the things I asked him to do. I will ask him a few times and end up doing them myself.
- he does other chores and until the last few months, did a large chunk of the household chores, which is why I don’t mind taking a large share of them right now. He supported me when I needed it and I’m supporting him now when he needs it. But when he was doing a large chunk of them, I didn’t constantly pester him about when he will be done, or offer to help and then didn’t actually help.
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2024.05.29 07:00 ProfessionalProud914 I need help, should i (23 m) date my dad's (64f) ex (56 f)?
Me 18M and my dad have had a very close relationship prior to this incident, now he won't let me live under the same roof as him.
It started when my dad started dating right after our mothers death, times were tough for him as the loss of our mother left us all with a deep scar. 2 Weeks after my dad started looking into finding a new mother for my family as the youngest child 4F needed a mother figure in her life.
Until one night my dad brought home the most beautiful blonde chick I had ever seen. She had a womanly charm around her that tickled something inside of me. As I glanced at her, she gave me a slight grin and winked at me. After that she and my dad hung out in the living room until she left, I couldn't help but to stare at her behind as she walked out the door.
She and my dad hit it off well for a whole 2 months, but I started to realize that I wanted her more than my dad, as those hints she sent my way sparked something inside of me. Later I framed my dad, to convince her that he was cheating on her, which stopped her from visiting us anymore.
I Dreamed day in and day out about her delicious scrimption ass then once my time came I struck. She was sitting home alone, as I stared through her window something rose. I walked to the door and knocked, as she answered I shoved my face into hers, feeling her warm lips in my mouth. As we made out she started to strip and so did I, 2 hours later we were laying on her bed.
My dad became distant after the incident, as I later found out he had cameras planted throughout her house and had seen the activities we had partaken in.
I don't know what i should do now as I feel like after my dad had broken up with her she could be taken by any man she wants.
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It started when my dad started dating right after our mothers death, times were tough for him as the loss of our mother left us all with a deep scar. 2 Weeks after my dad started looking into finding a new mother for my family as the youngest child 4F needed a mother figure in her life.
Until one night my dad brought home the most beautiful blonde chick I had ever seen. She had a womanly charm around her that tickled something inside of me. As I glanced at her, she gave me a slight grin and winked at me. After that she and my dad hung out in the living room until she left, I couldn't help but to stare at her behind as she walked out the door.
She and my dad hit it off well for a whole 2 months, but I started to realize that I wanted her more than my dad, as those hints she sent my way sparked something inside of me. Later I framed my dad, to convince her that he was cheating on her, which stopped her from visiting us anymore.
I Dreamed day in and day out about her delicious scrimption ass then once my time came I struck. She was sitting home alone, as I stared through her window something rose. I walked to the door and knocked, as she answered I shoved my face into hers, feeling her warm lips in my mouth. As we made out she started to strip and so did I, 2 hours later we were laying on her bed.
My dad became distant after the incident, as I later found out he had cameras planted throughout her house and had seen the activities we had partaken in.
I don't know what i should do now as I feel like after my dad had broken up with her she could be taken by any man she wants.
2024.05.29 07:00 AragornTheGrey Flip the Switch
Today’s the day I’m finally making a serious commitment to change my life. I’ve tried hitting the gym, doing calisthenics, and eating healthy before, but something always messed up my flow. Not this time. I’m going all in for a full year to get fit, eat clean, and grow both physically and mentally.
Here’s my plan:
I’ll check back in exactly one year from today to update you all on my progress. Hold me accountable, Reddit. I’m ready for this challenge.
Wish me luck!
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Here’s my plan:
1. No more excuses. I’ll stick to a regular workout routine, whether it’s at the gym or doing bodyweight exercises at home. Even if it’s just 15 mins of bodyweight workout. I am going to get it done EVERY SINGLE DAY. 2. Focus on a balanced diet. Being a vegetarian, I always found it difficult to get enough protein to bulk up. Any suggestions from the community is appreciated. 3. Gonna work on my social skills and build better relationships.I want to build better habits and a stronger mindset.
I’ll check back in exactly one year from today to update you all on my progress. Hold me accountable, Reddit. I’m ready for this challenge.
Wish me luck!
2024.05.29 07:00 Interesting-Main-790 Forgotten title 🥺 Uke is searching for seme only to learn that seme is married to a woman now !!
(lost title ) I wanna make this post as miserable so you'll help me look for it ! This is my 5th post here pity me fujoshis I am searching for this manga for years now 😞
Context - The manga is about two ex classmates and childhood friend . ( for the sake of understanding I am referring the characters as uke and seme , but they never actually had any s e x ) Uke is the guy (extrovert)who confessed to seme, who is a serious,( more introvert ) and later marries a woman . The artsyle is the classic old Japanese. It's in black and white .
Details - The uke and seme share a bickering kinda friendship . One day when they were alone uke ( directly , indirectly) confessed that he likes men . Seme is shocked but he also understands him . Noone other than seme knows in their class . They studies in same class .
Later in the manga seme had to move to a different city , town but he promises uke that he'll return and wait for him . Seme after moving to a different city had a second thought and got scared of society. He then marries a woman to live a "normal" life . He never contacted uke ( who remains unknown that seme is married now ) but deep down seme regrets it everyday .
Unknown to the fact , uke never goes into another relationship. He continues waiting for seme but years have passed so he decided to go to the city, town seme is in and searches for him . Somehow he stumbled with semes wife who learns uke is friends with seme . So she invites him over to dinner without telling seme . Seme after work arrives home . while his wife is preparing their dinner doorbell rang . Seme went to open the door and is shocked to see uke at the doorstep . His wife tells she invited him for dinner . Seme excuses himself saying he wants to catch up and buy some ingredients to his wife he leaves with uke and outside he reminded of the past . He apologize profusely to uke . He tells him he got scared . Uke who is heartbroken puts on a smile forgiving him .
It's a bittersweet and definitely sad unrequited bl love . If you know or have read something similar to this plot please comment. I'll check every manga . If you don't know you can help me by sharing this post to different people under different categories!! I don't mind you sharing this post on different sites put please comment once you find the title 🥺 I am putting my hopes on you !!
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Context - The manga is about two ex classmates and childhood friend . ( for the sake of understanding I am referring the characters as uke and seme , but they never actually had any s e x ) Uke is the guy (extrovert)who confessed to seme, who is a serious,( more introvert ) and later marries a woman . The artsyle is the classic old Japanese. It's in black and white .
Details - The uke and seme share a bickering kinda friendship . One day when they were alone uke ( directly , indirectly) confessed that he likes men . Seme is shocked but he also understands him . Noone other than seme knows in their class . They studies in same class .
Later in the manga seme had to move to a different city , town but he promises uke that he'll return and wait for him . Seme after moving to a different city had a second thought and got scared of society. He then marries a woman to live a "normal" life . He never contacted uke ( who remains unknown that seme is married now ) but deep down seme regrets it everyday .
Unknown to the fact , uke never goes into another relationship. He continues waiting for seme but years have passed so he decided to go to the city, town seme is in and searches for him . Somehow he stumbled with semes wife who learns uke is friends with seme . So she invites him over to dinner without telling seme . Seme after work arrives home . while his wife is preparing their dinner doorbell rang . Seme went to open the door and is shocked to see uke at the doorstep . His wife tells she invited him for dinner . Seme excuses himself saying he wants to catch up and buy some ingredients to his wife he leaves with uke and outside he reminded of the past . He apologize profusely to uke . He tells him he got scared . Uke who is heartbroken puts on a smile forgiving him .
It's a bittersweet and definitely sad unrequited bl love . If you know or have read something similar to this plot please comment. I'll check every manga . If you don't know you can help me by sharing this post to different people under different categories!! I don't mind you sharing this post on different sites put please comment once you find the title 🥺 I am putting my hopes on you !!
2024.05.29 07:00 Teach307 No Contact/ she still rushes out like nothing happned.
I meant to say reaches out in Title. My ex and I had been friends for years before we dated. Confessed feelings for each other and started to date. Things were going awesome! Had similar values and alot in common. We dated about a year and a half. She was really kind, and especially supportive when one of my parents got diagnosed with cancer. I had to move somewhere else for work and the plan was for her to come join once her job contract was up. She was on board and everything seemed fine. I didn't have any worries. Out of the blue, a guy she knew asked her out randomly. She told me what happend but instead of declining him, she told me she wanted me to think about our relationship and if I wanted to keep dating. I told her I was very much invested with her and that I wanted to continue dating. I was a little shocked she didn't decline and was giving the new guy serious thought. I gave her space to think about it. Although I was heartbroken at the thought of things ending, I thought she would at least call and tell me what she decided. She never got back to me... I thought she was deciding about what she wanted to do. Never officially broke up with me. Just ghosted me completely. Worst of all, she ghosted me the day where I told her earlier that my parent had a cancer relapse. 3 dats later, I found out her decision after she posted a BeReal pic with the guy in his apartment with a heart for a caption.
After that, everything became pretty obvious. She had doubts, didn't address concerns she had about the relationship and got cold feet about a future with me. I was bothered by everything about it. Especially with the timing of her ghosting on a traumatizing day for me. Here is where my no contact thing pops up. I was so upset at what she did, I pretty much decided to completely cut her out of my life. Hide her on social media, don't reach out and move on with my life. What bugs me the most is a year plus after everything ended, she will reach out to me like nothing even happened. Send me birthday texts, Sent condolences when my parent did pass away, something that made her think about me etc. All still while now being engaged to the new guy. I've ghosted her, been very short with her about leaving me alone and even ignored messages. I know she feels bad, I think she still cares about me, misses the friendship and is sad she hurt me. What I don't get or understand is why can't she either just leave me alone or apologize? When I talk to my friends and family about the situation, they say they are equally perplexed by her. What should I do? Block her, tell her off? Might need Reddit's help.
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After that, everything became pretty obvious. She had doubts, didn't address concerns she had about the relationship and got cold feet about a future with me. I was bothered by everything about it. Especially with the timing of her ghosting on a traumatizing day for me. Here is where my no contact thing pops up. I was so upset at what she did, I pretty much decided to completely cut her out of my life. Hide her on social media, don't reach out and move on with my life. What bugs me the most is a year plus after everything ended, she will reach out to me like nothing even happened. Send me birthday texts, Sent condolences when my parent did pass away, something that made her think about me etc. All still while now being engaged to the new guy. I've ghosted her, been very short with her about leaving me alone and even ignored messages. I know she feels bad, I think she still cares about me, misses the friendship and is sad she hurt me. What I don't get or understand is why can't she either just leave me alone or apologize? When I talk to my friends and family about the situation, they say they are equally perplexed by her. What should I do? Block her, tell her off? Might need Reddit's help.
2024.05.29 07:00 TheLast747 Highstrangenessville
This town is a hotspot. (post deleted by the time I got to it)
https://www.reddit.com/Paranormal/comments/1d2szgj/what_to_do_when_nothing_else_works_help/
What to do when nothing else works? (Help)May 28th 2024, 20:03, by whiskeyhurricanes5
Hi all, this is my first post here so I hope I'm doing it correct and forgive me for the length.
First, I want to establish some things.
1) we've lived in this home for 20 years, we're the first owners in what was a new development at the time.
2) were religious and it's been blessed+mass had several times (prayers, holy water, crosses, holy medals, the whole religious nine yards)
3) during some renovation years ago we found scorched earth over a large location and realize at one point a fire was had on the land
4) recently a friend who's also a historian was able to bring some information to light about the land we're on and the fact that it was actually part of a war happening between several different native tribes over 2 specific things that are on/close to this area and that this area of land was likely burial ground due to the available history about the war that happened
5) I'm a very science and fact based person. Although I've grown up religious, I find myself to be someone who is evidence and science based and I believe strongly that the most likely explanation is often the cause, I wouldn't consider myself to be easily influenced by the unexplained.
***I would ALSO like to add that our neighbors over the years (as neighbors have moved and new ones have come in) have all experienced paranormal events in their own respective homes, it’s not just ours but specifically seems to be this area. How can different people- who aren’t necessarily even friends or talk to each other on a regular basis- all experience similar or unexplained phenomenon.
I know you can only take me on my word here, but I promise, I wouldn't have come to the conclusion that my house is so f*cking haunted if there was ANY other explanation. I also have witnesses that aren't related to me who have experienced things and pictures/videos of things we can't explain that have gone into solidifying my belief.
Things have gotten worse in the last 3 months and we’re exhausted. There’s construction going on around our area and they’re making a lot of big renovations/digging up ground and I believe there has to be some correlation.
Now that you have some context/back story, I'll continue.
Things started to happen in this area almost immediately after moving in, almost 20 years ago.
The things that have occurred are
•Apparitions of a woman and young boy (she seems to be the most active as she’s often seen peering around corners or standing just out of the line of vision)
• THE OWL!!! This might be one of the most unbelievable thing, I understand. However, there is a phantom owl that is heard. Everyone has collectively looked for this owl and no one can find it, the insane thing is that it seems to move around the home in a binaural sound effect. Late at night an owl can be heard outside of every window in the home (even the windows where there is no tree) we will go and look for this owl and never find it. You can hear it (it’s coming from right next to you) but you’ll never see it. We’ve cut back trees and installed motion sensor lights, cams with night vision AND have removed certain tree entirely and even when it’s there, loud and clear, it has never been seen. This goes deeper and there is more about the incidents surrounding this creature in specific but it’s very lengthy and has lore of its own.
• phantom drumming. There was even a Dedicated “watch” group made in the neighborhood to try and find the phantom native drums that occurred at 3am nightly and of course, no one has ever found them. No, these aren’t drums from a Drum set and yes we’re all very sure of the distinct rhythm and sound that it’s native in nature. (To add, I myself am native on both sides)
•UFO sightings in the area. Over the years we have captured photos and footage of unexplained objects making strange patterns that oddly look like certain mathematical symbols (we have photos of it creating the square root symbol out of light)
Other occurrences are
•Running on the roof
•knocking in the house
•moving items
•shadow figures / hooded figures
•Speaking and disembodied voices
•A woman constantly singing at night in our back yard
•feeling touched
•doors opening/closing
•Certain physical aggressions
•a certain white/grey creature seen in the yard that disappears when you get close to it
there is honestly MUCH much more that has happened over 20 years and no, moving isn’t an option.
We’ve tried priest, blessings, sage, prayers. No, we don’t dabble in anything where something could have been done and yes, we have exhausted all natural explanations as to how these things happen.
I’m so tired. Please, if you have experience clearing out something this stubborn, what did you do?
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What to do when nothing else works? (Help)May 28th 2024, 20:03, by whiskeyhurricanes5
Hi all, this is my first post here so I hope I'm doing it correct and forgive me for the length.
First, I want to establish some things.
1) we've lived in this home for 20 years, we're the first owners in what was a new development at the time.
2) were religious and it's been blessed+mass had several times (prayers, holy water, crosses, holy medals, the whole religious nine yards)
3) during some renovation years ago we found scorched earth over a large location and realize at one point a fire was had on the land
4) recently a friend who's also a historian was able to bring some information to light about the land we're on and the fact that it was actually part of a war happening between several different native tribes over 2 specific things that are on/close to this area and that this area of land was likely burial ground due to the available history about the war that happened
5) I'm a very science and fact based person. Although I've grown up religious, I find myself to be someone who is evidence and science based and I believe strongly that the most likely explanation is often the cause, I wouldn't consider myself to be easily influenced by the unexplained.
***I would ALSO like to add that our neighbors over the years (as neighbors have moved and new ones have come in) have all experienced paranormal events in their own respective homes, it’s not just ours but specifically seems to be this area. How can different people- who aren’t necessarily even friends or talk to each other on a regular basis- all experience similar or unexplained phenomenon.
I know you can only take me on my word here, but I promise, I wouldn't have come to the conclusion that my house is so f*cking haunted if there was ANY other explanation. I also have witnesses that aren't related to me who have experienced things and pictures/videos of things we can't explain that have gone into solidifying my belief.
Things have gotten worse in the last 3 months and we’re exhausted. There’s construction going on around our area and they’re making a lot of big renovations/digging up ground and I believe there has to be some correlation.
Now that you have some context/back story, I'll continue.
Things started to happen in this area almost immediately after moving in, almost 20 years ago.
The things that have occurred are
•Apparitions of a woman and young boy (she seems to be the most active as she’s often seen peering around corners or standing just out of the line of vision)
• THE OWL!!! This might be one of the most unbelievable thing, I understand. However, there is a phantom owl that is heard. Everyone has collectively looked for this owl and no one can find it, the insane thing is that it seems to move around the home in a binaural sound effect. Late at night an owl can be heard outside of every window in the home (even the windows where there is no tree) we will go and look for this owl and never find it. You can hear it (it’s coming from right next to you) but you’ll never see it. We’ve cut back trees and installed motion sensor lights, cams with night vision AND have removed certain tree entirely and even when it’s there, loud and clear, it has never been seen. This goes deeper and there is more about the incidents surrounding this creature in specific but it’s very lengthy and has lore of its own.
• phantom drumming. There was even a Dedicated “watch” group made in the neighborhood to try and find the phantom native drums that occurred at 3am nightly and of course, no one has ever found them. No, these aren’t drums from a Drum set and yes we’re all very sure of the distinct rhythm and sound that it’s native in nature. (To add, I myself am native on both sides)
•UFO sightings in the area. Over the years we have captured photos and footage of unexplained objects making strange patterns that oddly look like certain mathematical symbols (we have photos of it creating the square root symbol out of light)
Other occurrences are
•Running on the roof
•knocking in the house
•moving items
•shadow figures / hooded figures
•Speaking and disembodied voices
•A woman constantly singing at night in our back yard
•feeling touched
•doors opening/closing
•Certain physical aggressions
•a certain white/grey creature seen in the yard that disappears when you get close to it
there is honestly MUCH much more that has happened over 20 years and no, moving isn’t an option.
We’ve tried priest, blessings, sage, prayers. No, we don’t dabble in anything where something could have been done and yes, we have exhausted all natural explanations as to how these things happen.
I’m so tired. Please, if you have experience clearing out something this stubborn, what did you do?
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2024.05.29 06:59 KallerWhom Baby hates the stroller [BC]
I would love to get out most days and walk with my baby (mix of sidewalks, not so smooth paved trails and actual trails). We live near to parks and I plan to bring her there lots in the summer. I'd like to be able to walk with my mom and her dog (mostly on gravel trails). We live walking distance to lots of things. BUT my baby fusses and whines and eventually cries almost every time in the stroller. It makes me dread taking her out in it. She's a bit better in the car seat on top the stroller but she's getting close to outgrowing the car seat (she's nearly 7 months old). I have a jogging stroller so she can only face forward in the actual seat. I've tried it lying down more, as upright as possible, I've adjusted the footrest to different levels, I've added toys, I've tried using the 5 harness tighter and looser, or just using the 3 point harness, I feel like I've tried everything for months now and no matter what I do, it never seems to go well! Yes, I can put her in the carrier but that's not really the point and it's not always convenient. Do I keep trying or do I just break down and buy a cheap reversible stroller? I'm looking at the evenflo reversi.
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2024.05.29 06:59 Kitchen-Laugh2560 When does it get easier?
Just as the title says. I feel like I jumped into choppy waters and I don’t know how to swim. I have a 3 month old and 17 month old. My 3 month old has crazy gas issues/colic so he’s always fussy. He also is a total Velcro baby and wants to be held and nursed all day long. My 17 month old is teething (he has 4 molars and a bottom tooth coming in at once) so he’s whiny and isn’t feeling too hot. Between my needy toddler and my Velcro baby I feel like I don’t have time to breathe. I find it hard to keep up with the cleaning, laundry, and cooking and definitely don’t have any time for self-care of any sorts. My husband works 12-14 hour days and comes home once our toddler is asleep. He can’t really help with the baby because I EBF.
tl;dr - mama is gassed. If and when will things get easier? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? Will I always be this tired or am I just dramatic lmao
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tl;dr - mama is gassed. If and when will things get easier? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? Will I always be this tired or am I just dramatic lmao
2024.05.29 06:59 OpticalPrime35 As a first timer all milestones are exciting. So here's my first Tomatoes growing!
 | I planted 4 Goliath tomato plants back in late March. Over the last week these things have exploded in size, doubling and well over tbr tops of the cages now, flowering all over the place and over the last couple days tomatoes on all but 1 plant! submitted by OpticalPrime35 to gardening [link] [comments] I've counted 12 tomatoes growing so far. 6 on one plant alone! Can't wait to see how these do over the next month or so. Excited about having all these tomatoes to make my own sauces with |
2024.05.29 06:59 ilovenapes 240529 Current Status of Award Votings
Hi fellow EverAfters!
Wanna vote but don't have time to grind and watch ads?
Not a problem!👌
Just participate in our Donation Drive (GCash/PayPal) and let the voting team handle the rest! 😎
However, if you do have time to spare, kindly help us with a few taps on your phone and vote! 😁
Here is a list of on-going voting campaigns and their current status:
In case you missed it, we lost. 😅
It was a really good try though. It has only been 2 months and a day since our group's debut but we still managed to go toe-to-toe with others who have been in the industry for almost a decade. 🤣
Our votes were even halved because we're nominated for 2 different categories at the same time. 🤯
Anyways, let's now focus on voting for Gehlee below! 👍
We know that there are other rappers in UNIS, but Gehlee was the only one nominated by UPICK, so please don't be confused. 😅
Since blue jams are going to expire soon anyway, let's give Gehlee our all! 🔥🔥
❗️Blue jams will expire at the end of the month (May 31, Friday), so make sure you don't forget to use them! ❗️
Judging Criteria (as per last year's): 1. Professional judges and SMA Organizing Committee (50%) 2. Album sales (25%) 3. Mobile voting worldwide (25%) - monthly voting contributes to the main voting as per SMA's current front page notice.
As per F&F CEO, an extension of two more years will be considered if UNIS wins the "Rookie of the Year" award.
I have a feeling this is not the only one with an award of this kind though. Please comment below if you have information regarding other "Rookie of the Year" awards.
Did I miss something?
If yes, please mention them in the comments so I can include them on my next update 👍. Thanks!
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Wanna vote but don't have time to grind and watch ads?
Not a problem!👌
Just participate in our Donation Drive (GCash/PayPal) and let the voting team handle the rest! 😎
However, if you do have time to spare, kindly help us with a few taps on your phone and vote! 😁
Here is a list of on-going voting campaigns and their current status:
Winnable Purely by Fan Votes 🤳
UPICK (Best Idol Chemistry):
Deadline: May 28, 2024 (yesterday)In case you missed it, we lost. 😅
It was a really good try though. It has only been 2 months and a day since our group's debut but we still managed to go toe-to-toe with others who have been in the industry for almost a decade. 🤣
Our votes were even halved because we're nominated for 2 different categories at the same time. 🤯
Anyways, let's now focus on voting for Gehlee below! 👍
UPICK (Best Idol Rapper):
Deadline: May 29, 2024 (today, 10pm KST 😱)| App Name | Current Place | Opponent |
|---|---|---|
| UPICK | 5th - 7,583,525 votes | 1st - 8,389,652 votes |
Since blue jams are going to expire soon anyway, let's give Gehlee our all! 🔥🔥
❗️Blue jams will expire at the end of the month (May 31, Friday), so make sure you don't forget to use them! ❗️
Includes Other Criteria 📊
34th SMA Rookie Award (Monthly Voting - May):
Deadline: May 31, 2024| App Name | Current Place | Opponent |
|---|---|---|
| PODOAL | 1st - 370,900 votes | 2nd - 90,000 votes |
| my1pick | 1st - 60.75% | 2nd - 31.57% |
| K-POP SEOUL | 1st - 5,487 votes | 2nd - 1,712 votes |
As per F&F CEO, an extension of two more years will be considered if UNIS wins the "Rookie of the Year" award.
I have a feeling this is not the only one with an award of this kind though. Please comment below if you have information regarding other "Rookie of the Year" awards.
If yes, please mention them in the comments so I can include them on my next update 👍. Thanks!
2024.05.29 06:59 yaaa25 Outings with opposite nap schedules
Hi everyone,
I have a 10 week old and a just-turned 2 yr old as of a few days ago (22 month age gap). My 2 yr old naps once in the middle of the day, and we used to make it out of the house most days for an activity before her nap.
I’m worried that once my newborn is on a nap schedule, it’s going to be really hard to leave the house. She doesn’t seem to be the type that will just fall asleep when she gets tired, she is very easily stimulated and needs a good sleep environment.
Parents that have a similar age gap or parents with multiple kids on opposite nap schedules, how did you manage to do anything? It seems that one of them will be napping pretty much all day long and I’m not sure how to get out of the house?!
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I have a 10 week old and a just-turned 2 yr old as of a few days ago (22 month age gap). My 2 yr old naps once in the middle of the day, and we used to make it out of the house most days for an activity before her nap.
I’m worried that once my newborn is on a nap schedule, it’s going to be really hard to leave the house. She doesn’t seem to be the type that will just fall asleep when she gets tired, she is very easily stimulated and needs a good sleep environment.
Parents that have a similar age gap or parents with multiple kids on opposite nap schedules, how did you manage to do anything? It seems that one of them will be napping pretty much all day long and I’m not sure how to get out of the house?!