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Hey everyone, I’m in need of some advice regarding how I can transition from my current career into the career that I actually want. I’m struggling to figure out how to do this so I was wondering if anybody would be willing to give some guidance.
So a bit of background, I’m 22 years old living in the UK, currently undertaking an apprenticeship in property maintenance. Since my days in secondary school, I haven’t really had a clue what to do with my life and I’ve tried a range of things: Going to university twice and eventually dropping out both times, then working a number of different jobs (retail, construction, delivery, restaurants, just to name a few) which usually lasts for 6 months before I get fed up and leave. I understand that my reason for leaving these jobs consistently aswell as dropping out of university twice is because I have no interest in the work that I’m doing, therefore it’s not sustainable.
I was somewhat interested in construction after doing labouring for a few months but wasn’t sure which trade to specialise in, hence why I went the maintenance route as you get to learn all trades on a basic level and then I could make an informed decision from there. However once again, 6 months later I find myself in the same predicament wanting to leave. The job in itself can be tolerable but the physical demands and being on your feet for 8 hours a day drains me and takes away from the things I like to do in my free time - the main thing being exercising and going to the gym. I come home and I’m too tired to do anything but lay down, sleep and prepare for the next day. On top of this I don’t see much career progression past a certain point, other than a management role, which doesn’t interest me and also won’t provide the salary or work life balance I’d want for my future.
One career that has been in my mind for the past few years is software development and for many reasons. One, I like to build things, and software development will allow me to do so in an unconventional way, as in I don’t have to physically build things but rather mentally, which will keep me stimulated enough to somewhat enjoy the job. Secondly I believe once I get to a certain point in this career, I will have a greater work life balance, a much better salary and overall improved quality of life than if I were to stay in my current role. Third, I studied computer science at GCSE and got a high grade but still struggled with some aspects of coding, so I gave up and never took it further. Now I want to return and develop these skills - Over the past 3 years, I keep finding myself going back to coding and spending 2-3 hours a day learning new languages on websites like Codecademy etc and it comes fairly naturally to me since I’ve done it in the past and I actually kind of enjoy it but then I get caught up with life and I forget about it for a few months before returning again.
Im not entering this field as a get rich quick scheme, ideally I want to land a degree apprenticeship which will take 3-5 years, but will give me all of the fundamental knowledge, qualifications and experience that I need to become a full fledged developer. I’d personally rather do this than go the self taught route, although I’d still consider it.
So my initial plan was to spend the rest of this year studying 2-3 hours every day and building upon my basic knowledge of a few programming languages and then applying for some apprenticeships but there’s some problems that I’m going to face.
I’m already enrolled in an apprenticeship, so to land a new apprenticeship this year I would have to leave this current apprenticeship within the next few months, find a normal job and then apply for some software apprenticeships when positions open up, however this will add ANOTHER 2 jobs on my CV that only lasted 3-6 months and will kind of show the employer that I’m not committed - I have nearly 10 jobs on my CV since 2018 and all of those have lasted 6 months so it’s a repeating pattern.
My other option is to finish this current apprenticeship which doesn’t end until December 2025, which just seems super long to me and I’d much rather spend that extra year and a half working towards my software career plus the job is genuinely starting to make me feel depressed. However, completing this apprenticeship will show my future employers that I can be committed to something and I’ll also have an extra 1.5 years to work on my coding skills further, so there are benefits.
What should I do?
Is it even possible to land an apprenticeship this year with only 6 months to teach myself the basics?
Any feedback is greatly appreciated!
Sorry for the long post, and thank you for taking the time to read this.

Hey everyone, I’m in need of some advice regarding how I can transition from my current career into the career that I actually want. I’m struggling to figure out how to do this so I was wondering if anybody would be willing to give some guidance.
So a bit of background, I’m 22 years old living in the UK, currently undertaking an apprenticeship in property maintenance. Since my days in secondary school, I haven’t really had a clue what to do with my life and I’ve tried a range of things: Going to university twice and eventually dropping out both times, then working a number of different jobs (retail, construction, delivery, restaurants, just to name a few) which usually lasts for 6 months before I get fed up and leave. I understand that my reason for leaving these jobs consistently aswell as dropping out of university twice is because I have no interest in the work that I’m doing, therefore it’s not sustainable.
I was somewhat interested in construction after doing labouring for a few months but wasn’t sure which trade to specialise in, hence why I went the maintenance route as you get to learn all trades on a basic level and then I could make an informed decision from there. However once again, 6 months later I find myself in the same predicament wanting to leave. The job in itself can be tolerable but the physical demands and being on your feet for 8 hours a day drains me and takes away from the things I like to do in my free time - the main thing being exercising and going to the gym. I come home and I’m too tired to do anything but lay down, sleep and prepare for the next day. On top of this I don’t see much career progression past a certain point, other than a management role, which doesn’t interest me and also won’t provide the salary or work life balance I’d want for my future.
One career that has been in my mind for the past few years is software development and for many reasons. One, I like to build things, and software development will allow me to do so in an unconventional way, as in I don’t have to physically build things but rather mentally, which will keep me stimulated enough to somewhat enjoy the job. Secondly I believe once I get to a certain point in this career, I will have a greater work life balance, a much better salary and overall improved quality of life than if I were to stay in my current role. Third, I studied computer science at GCSE and got a high grade but still struggled with some aspects of coding, so I gave up and never took it further. Now I want to return and develop these skills - Over the past 3 years, I keep finding myself going back to coding and spending 2-3 hours a day learning new languages on websites like Codecademy etc and it comes fairly naturally to me since I’ve done it in the past and I actually kind of enjoy it but then I get caught up with life and I forget about it for a few months before returning again.
Im not entering this field as a get rich quick scheme, ideally I want to land a degree apprenticeship which will take 3-5 years, but will give me all of the fundamental knowledge, qualifications and experience that I need to become a full fledged developer. I’d personally rather do this than go the self taught route, although I’d still consider it.
So my initial plan was to spend the rest of this year studying 2-3 hours every day and building upon my basic knowledge of a few programming languages and then applying for some apprenticeships but there’s some problems that I’m going to face.
I’m already enrolled in an apprenticeship, so to land a new apprenticeship this year I would have to leave this current apprenticeship within the next few months, find a normal job and then apply for some software apprenticeships when positions open up, however this will add ANOTHER 2 jobs on my CV that only lasted 3-6 months and will kind of show the employer that I’m not committed - I have nearly 10 jobs on my CV since 2018 and all of those have lasted 6 months so it’s a repeating pattern.
My other option is to finish this current apprenticeship which doesn’t end until December 2025, which just seems super long to me and I’d much rather spend that extra year and a half working towards my software career plus the job is genuinely starting to make me feel depressed. However, completing this apprenticeship will show my future employers that I can be committed to something and I’ll also have an extra 1.5 years to work on my coding skills further, so there are benefits.
What should I do?
Is it even possible to land an apprenticeship this year with only 6 months to teach myself the basics?
Any feedback is greatly appreciated!
Sorry for the long post, and thank you for taking the time to read this.

Hey everyone, I’m in need of some advice regarding how I can transition from my current career into the career that I actually want. I’m struggling to figure out how to do this so I was wondering if anybody would be willing to give some guidance.
So a bit of background, I’m 22 years old living in the UK, currently undertaking an apprenticeship in property maintenance. Since my days in secondary school, I haven’t really had a clue what to do with my life and I’ve tried a range of things: Going to university twice and eventually dropping out both times, then working a number of different jobs (retail, construction, delivery, restaurants, just to name a few) which usually lasts for 6 months before I get fed up and leave. I understand that my reason for leaving these jobs consistently aswell as dropping out of university twice is because I have no interest in the work that I’m doing, therefore it’s not sustainable.
I was somewhat interested in construction after doing labouring for a few months but wasn’t sure which trade to specialise in, hence why I went the maintenance route as you get to learn all trades on a basic level and then I could make an informed decision from there. However once again, 6 months later I find myself in the same predicament wanting to leave. The job in itself can be tolerable but the physical demands and being on your feet for 8 hours a day drains me and takes away from the things I like to do in my free time - the main thing being exercising and going to the gym. I come home and I’m too tired to do anything but lay down, sleep and prepare for the next day. On top of this I don’t see much career progression past a certain point, other than a management role, which doesn’t interest me and also won’t provide the salary or work life balance I’d want for my future.
One career that has been in my mind for the past few years is software development and for many reasons. One, I like to build things, and software development will allow me to do so in an unconventional way, as in I don’t have to physically build things but rather mentally, which will keep me stimulated enough to somewhat enjoy the job. Secondly I believe once I get to a certain point in this career, I will have a greater work life balance, a much better salary and overall improved quality of life than if I were to stay in my current role. Third, I studied computer science at GCSE and got a high grade but still struggled with some aspects of coding, so I gave up and never took it further. Now I want to return and develop these skills - Over the past 3 years, I keep finding myself going back to coding and spending 2-3 hours a day learning new languages on websites like Codecademy etc and it comes fairly naturally to me since I’ve done it in the past and I actually kind of enjoy it but then I get caught up with life and I forget about it for a few months before returning again.
Im not entering this field as a get rich quick scheme, ideally I want to land a degree apprenticeship which will take 3-5 years, but will give me all of the fundamental knowledge, qualifications and experience that I need to become a full fledged developer. I’d personally rather do this than go the self taught route, although I’d still consider it.
So my initial plan was to spend the rest of this year studying 2-3 hours every day and building upon my basic knowledge of a few programming languages and then applying for some apprenticeships but there’s some problems that I’m going to face.
I’m already enrolled in an apprenticeship, so to land a new apprenticeship this year I would have to leave this current apprenticeship within the next few months, find a normal job and then apply for some software apprenticeships when positions open up, however this will add ANOTHER 2 jobs on my CV that only lasted 3-6 months and will kind of show the employer that I’m not committed - I have nearly 10 jobs on my CV since 2018 and all of those have lasted 6 months so it’s a repeating pattern.
My other option is to finish this current apprenticeship which doesn’t end until December 2025, which just seems super long to me and I’d much rather spend that extra year and a half working towards my software career plus the job is genuinely starting to make me feel depressed. However, completing this apprenticeship will show my future employers that I can be committed to something and I’ll also have an extra 1.5 years to work on my coding skills further, so there are benefits.
What should I do?
Is it even possible to land an apprenticeship this year with only 6 months to teach myself the basics?
Any feedback is greatly appreciated!
Sorry for the long post, and thank you for taking the time to read this.

Hey everyone, I’m in need of some advice regarding how I can transition from my current career into the career that I actually want. I’m struggling to figure out how to do this so I was wondering if anybody would be willing to give some guidance.
So a bit of background, I’m 22 years old living in the UK, currently undertaking an apprenticeship in property maintenance. Since my days in secondary school, I haven’t really had a clue what to do with my life and I’ve tried a range of things: Going to university twice and eventually dropping out both times, then working a number of different jobs (retail, construction, delivery, restaurants, just to name a few) which usually lasts for 6 months before I get fed up and leave. I understand that my reason for leaving these jobs consistently aswell as dropping out of university twice is because I have no interest in the work that I’m doing, therefore it’s not sustainable.
I was somewhat interested in construction after doing labouring for a few months but wasn’t sure which trade to specialise in, hence why I went the maintenance route as you get to learn all trades on a basic level and then I could make an informed decision from there. However once again, 6 months later I find myself in the same predicament wanting to leave. The job in itself can be tolerable but the physical demands and being on your feet for 8 hours a day drains me and takes away from the things I like to do in my free time - the main thing being exercising and going to the gym. I come home and I’m too tired to do anything but lay down, sleep and prepare for the next day. On top of this I don’t see much career progression past a certain point, other than a management role, which doesn’t interest me and also won’t provide the salary or work life balance I’d want for my future.
One career that has been in my mind for the past few years is software development and for many reasons. One, I like to build things, and software development will allow me to do so in an unconventional way, as in I don’t have to physically build things but rather mentally, which will keep me stimulated enough to somewhat enjoy the job. Secondly I believe once I get to a certain point in this career, I will have a greater work life balance, a much better salary and overall improved quality of life than if I were to stay in my current role. Third, I studied computer science at GCSE and got a high grade but still struggled with some aspects of coding, so I gave up and never took it further. Now I want to return and develop these skills - Over the past 3 years, I keep finding myself going back to coding and spending 2-3 hours a day learning new languages on websites like Codecademy etc and it comes fairly naturally to me since I’ve done it in the past and I actually kind of enjoy it but then I get caught up with life and I forget about it for a few months before returning again.
Im not entering this field as a get rich quick scheme, ideally I want to land a degree apprenticeship which will take 3-5 years, but will give me all of the fundamental knowledge, qualifications and experience that I need to become a full fledged developer. I’d personally rather do this than go the self taught route, although I’d still consider it.
So my initial plan was to spend the rest of this year studying 2-3 hours every day and building upon my basic knowledge of a few programming languages and then applying for some apprenticeships but there’s some problems that I’m going to face.
I’m already enrolled in an apprenticeship, so to land a new apprenticeship this year I would have to leave this current apprenticeship within the next few months, find a normal job and then apply for some software apprenticeships when positions open up, however this will add ANOTHER 2 jobs on my CV that only lasted 3-6 months and will kind of show the employer that I’m not committed - I have nearly 10 jobs on my CV since 2018 and all of those have lasted 6 months so it’s a repeating pattern.
My other option is to finish this current apprenticeship which doesn’t end until December 2025, which just seems super long to me and I’d much rather spend that extra year and a half working towards my software career plus the job is genuinely starting to make me feel depressed. However, completing this apprenticeship will show my future employers that I can be committed to something and I’ll also have an extra 1.5 years to work on my coding skills further, so there are benefits.
What should I do?
Is it even possible to land an apprenticeship this year with only 6 months to teach myself the basics?
Any feedback is greatly appreciated!
Sorry for the long post, and thank you for taking the time to read this.

Hi,
FTB so we have literally 0 knowledge here. We’re in the final stages of enquiries and got our search results back - one thing that I am unsure about.
The search results came back saying ourselves and neighbours may be liable to contribute to the cost of maintaining and repairing the private sewer or drain. Then on the enquiry responses the seller’s solicitor has indicated they use Thames water “for water and sewage”.
If the sewer or drain needs repairs on our property, I understand that would likely fall on our lap. However, the wording of maintaining sounds like it’s something we contribute to monthly? Or is this standard practice?
Asked for a copy of a water bill but the seller hasn’t lived in the UK for a long time and they seem hesitant to provide, not sure they’re taking our enquiry seriously.
Am I just fussing over nothing? Is paying towards maintaining sewage and drains consistently a thing?

I’ve been talking to this guy for more than a month and I met him online on a chatting app. I’m 19 and he’s 34. Our relationship is basically based on a flirtatious nature. We exchanged pics and videos and we called few times. I kinda got attached to him since he is the first guy to see my personal intimate ( not nudes) pics.
He started to get more demanding about me sending him more pics of sexual nature which is draining and sometimes I don’t feel like to send such pics. But he keeps getting mad over it and he feels sort of entitled to my pics. He once blocked me because of this and then unblocked me after a day and told me that he missed me and he’s not used to not talk to me..he told me that has feelings toward me and that he feels something different with me..
so I don’t know what to do. I just kinda feel stuck between ending this and trying to continue the relationship and it’s hard for me to say no. So I don’t know why am I like this? Any advice how to get over this relationship and end it? Am I gonna be able to move on from this after I have gone against my values and morals as he emotionally manipulated me?

Hi All, I have hit a wall in life where I’m not sure what to do next. Some advice or reality check would be helpful!
I’m an ACCA(like CA) although I haven’t cleared all papers but I still managed to get into companies like Amazon and Deloitte in the UK as I studies for my qualification there. Somewhere along the line, I lost interest to pursue the course to completion due to being busy with work and life.
During COVID, I got into an unhealthy relationship and got into a team with a hostile team lead. Both sent me into so much anxiety and depression, developed a binge eating disorder. Decided to return back last year and pursue fitness training or teaching ACCA, also wanted to be close to my immediate family.
Now that I’m here, I feel like I’m behind my peers and societal pressure to get a corporate job. I started taking ACCA classes and train Pilates in a major gym, but it’s only fetching so much money. Like 25 to 30k month so to speak, obviously it’s part time and like a 10 hour commitment a week in total with travel n prep.
The corporate culture here seems so stressful from what I’ve heard from friends who work in Bangalore where I’m based.
You see I’m 29 and only child, I am in a relationship which will lead to marriage and he is a supportive partner and so is my family. I feel like I’m not doing enough(I don’t have any savings as I drained it last year but have some MF investments) but I don’t want to spoil my mental and physical health by plunging into a corporate job.
Please let me know what you think!

Hi All, I have hit a wall in life where I’m not sure what to do next. Some advice or reality check would be helpful!
I’m an ACCA(like CA) although I haven’t cleared all papers but I still managed to get into companies like Amazon and Deloitte in the UK as I studies for my qualification there. Somewhere along the line, I lost interest to pursue the course to completion due to being busy with work and life.
During COVID, I got into an unhealthy relationship and got into a team with a hostile team lead. Both sent me into so much anxiety and depression, developed a binge eating disorder. Decided to return back last year and pursue fitness training or teaching ACCA, also wanted to be close to my immediate family.
Now that I’m here, I feel like I’m behind my peers and societal pressure to get a corporate job. I started taking ACCA classes and train Pilates in a major gym, but it’s only fetching so much money. Like 25 to 30k month so to speak, obviously it’s part time and like a 10 hour commitment a week in total with travel n prep.
The corporate culture here seems so stressful from what I’ve heard from friends who work in Bangalore where I’m based.
You see I’m 29 and only child, I am in a relationship which will lead to marriage and he is a supportive partner and so is my family. I feel like I’m not doing enough(I don’t have any savings as I drained it last year but have some MF investments) but I don’t want to spoil my mental and physical health by plunging into a corporate job.
Please let me know what you think!

Hello all. I’m new to Reddit - I’ll probably post a version of this across the personal finance/FIRE UK/entrepreneurship channels. Apologies in advance for the long post but it’s all connected for me!
I am a dual UK/US citizen and I moved to the UK (London) two years ago after completing my masters degree in the US, and have been struggling financially since. I’m 30, single, and am unable to save or make any meaningful investment contributions, or make any significant dent in my loans debt.
Im making £37,000 a year as a landscape architect (I’m still shocked at the low salaries here). My colleagues in the US with my experience level make around $70K (more or less, depending on the city)
I’m $60K in debt from the student loans I took out for my masters. While I don’t regret pursuing higher education, I’m not convinced that the investment was worth it for this field, and I’m considering leaving the field anyway because I’m not really enjoying it (nor can it support me financially in London). So in addition to the financial stress I’m also questioning my career goals and interests. I’ve also got a few thousand on credit cards as I need to put a lot of my expenses on cc because I don’t have the cash. I do also travel a lot for pleasure/holiday and recognise some of my cc debt is due to travelling - but I have to have some fun too! I have about $50K in a US account from a previous jobs retirement fund and an inheritance from a grandparent that is invested in some etfs in the US.
I’m limited with the salary I can make within this field (landscape design, planning). Changing jobs or asking for raise will only get me a couple thousand more (unless of course I move back to the US). So I’m starting to explore other options - particularly entrepreneurship and business. I’ve always had a gut feeling that I want to work for myself, although having my own garden design or landscape architecture firm (I.e offering design services) doesn’t feel aligned either. I feel so stuck with what direction to go, finding the energy and time while I work full time, and feeling mentally drained and stressed that with each day that goes by I’m both not doing work I love and I also not able to live the life I want financially or set myself up for the future.
I would really love to become financially independent, while also be working on something that is meaningful and contributing. I love nature, plants, design, yoga, cooking, health and well-being, animals, and art - I feel that my interests don’t tend to align with high earning (I.e tech, finance, etc) I’d love to be able to pay off my debt, not live paycheck to paycheck, treat those I love, own my own home, and spend guilt free, but it seems a long way away. Id love to “retire early” as well but I’m also realistic with how far I am behind and how little I have saved/invested in relation to my debt and salary.
The taxes situation regarding investing etc between the US and UK is enough to make me want to just move back to the US as well. If anyones got it all figured out and is open to providing a UK/US taxes 101 - especially as it relates to working towards FIRE - I would be forever grateful!
So to wrap up - I’m looking for advice on any of these topics: Salaries and finances in the UK (London) FIRE in the UK as a a dual US/UK citizen Career alignment Entrepreneurship and business
Thanks to anyone who read this all the way through!

I’ve been talking to this guy for more than a month and I met him online on a chatting app. I’m 19 and he’s 34. Our relationship is basically based on a flirtatious nature. We exchanged pics and videos and we called few times. I kinda got attached to him since he is the first guy to see my personal intimate ( not nudes) pics.
He started to get more demanding about me sending him more pics of sexual nature which is draining and sometimes I don’t feel like to send such pics. But he keeps getting mad over it and he feels sort of entitled to my pics. He once blocked me because of this and then unblocked me after a day and told me that he missed me and he’s not used to not talk to me..he told me that has feelings toward me and that he feels something different with me..
so I don’t know what to do. I just kinda feel stuck between ending this and trying to continue the relationship and it’s hard for me to say no. So I don’t know why am I like this? Any advice how to get over this relationship and end it? Am I gonna be able to move on from this after I have gone against my values and morals as he emotionally manipulated me?

I’ve been talking to this guy for more than a month and I met him online on a chatting app. I’m 19 and he’s 34. Our relationship is basically based on a flirtatious nature. We exchanged pics and videos and we called few times. I kinda got attached to him since he is the first guy to see my personal intimate ( not nudes) pics.
He started to get more demanding about me sending him more pics of sexual nature which is draining and sometimes I don’t feel like to send such pics. But he keeps getting mad over it and he feels sort of entitled to my pics. He once blocked me because of this and then unblocked me after a day and told me that he missed me and he’s not used to not talk to me..he told me that has feelings toward me and that he feels something different with me..
so I don’t know what to do. I just kinda feel stuck between ending this and trying to continue the relationship and it’s hard for me to say no. So I don’t know why am I like this? Any advice how to get over this relationship and end it? Am I gonna be able to move on from this after I have gone against my values and morals as he emotionally manipulated me?

Dear Poetry Fanciers,
Welcome back for a special Victorian edition of Poetry Corner, brought to you by u/NightAngelRogue and a splendid accompaniment for our upcoming read of The Thrilling Adventures of Lovelace and Babbage. Just a reminder, if there is a special poem you would like to feature in Poetry Corner, just send me a message and we'll get it the schedule!
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Q: Nelson Mandela, Tuberculosis and Long John Silver walk in a bar. Who are they talking about as they go in?
A: Probably William Ernest Henley (1849-1903).
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Poet, journalist, literary critic, editor, publisher, translator and Victorian-extraordinaire, Henley, was a good friend to Robert Louis Stevenson, who he inspired to write the character "Long John Silver" in Treasure Island. Stevenson, writing to Henley-" I will now make a confession: It was the sight of your maimed strength and masterfulness that begot Long John Silver ... the idea of the maimed man, ruling and dreaded by the sound, was entirely taken from you". The friendship was a tumultuous and long one.
Henley's sickly daughter, Margaret, was the inspiration of "Wendy" in J.M. Barrie's Peter Pan. She would not live long past her 5th birthday, the only child Henley had with his wife, Hannah "Anna" Johnston Boyle. Tragedy had long painted his life even before this sad event. He was diagnosed with a rare form of tuberculosis at age 12, that affected his bones. His left leg had to be amputated below the knee when Henley was a young man, and he was often in the hospital with various abscesses that need to be drained. Frequent illness kept him out of school and interrupted his professional work. Henley eventually sought out the advice of Joseph Lister, who was pioneering new techniques, including antiseptic operating conditions and doing groundbreaking research on wounds, when his right foot become affected by the tuberculosis. Still, his ill-health did not keep him from practicing his art. While Lister kept him under observation at the Royal Infirmary of Edinburgh, from 1873-75, Henly wrote and published a collection of poems, which includes today's selection, In Hospital (1903). This collection of poems is notable also because it was one of the earliest examples of free verse in English poetry. Henley and others in his group became known as the "Henley Regatta" for their championing of realism, such as the poor working conditions in the Victorian underbelly, in opposition to the Decadent movement in France and the Aesthetic movement closer to home. This would be the last collection of poetry and the most impactful of his work; his death would follow later that year. Unfortunately, a fall from a carriage reawakened the latent tuberculosis hiding inside him, which carried him off age 53. He was buried next to his daughter, in Cockaney Hatley, Bedfordshire. His wife would later also be buried alongside her family.
His legacy is one that is both inspiring and rather dispiriting. His poetry was used for jingoistic and imperialist causes, and to champion war, though much of it was about personal striving and inner resolve-the mythical "Stiff Upper Lip" of the Victorian era. This led to push back in the literary world, as D.H. Lawrence's short story, "England, My England and Other Stories" took flight from one of the lines from "Pro Rege Nostro", which is more patriotic than his usual work. Admittedly, he counted himself as a conservative and supported the imperial effort, as much of Victorian society did at this time. Still, his work fell into obscurity, with the main exception of "Invictus"-Latin for "unconquered". It is well known that Nelson Mandela recited this poem to his fellow inmates in Robben Island as a reminder to stay strong and keep one's dignity. There are also, of course, the Invictus Games, which are held for injured and sick service men and women and veterans in the UK.
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Winston Churchill to the House of Commons, September 9, 1941:
"“The mood of Britain is wisely and rightly averse from every form of shallow or premature exultation. This is no time for boasts or glowing prophecies, but there is this—a year ago our position looked forlorn, and well nigh desperate, to all eyes but our own. Today we may say aloud before an awe-struck world, ‘We are still masters of our fate. We still are captain of our souls.'” (link)
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Sidney Low, in "Some Memories and Impressions – William Ernest Henley". The Living Age (1897–1941) describing his friend:
"... to me he was the startling image of Pan come to Earth and clothed—the great god Pan...with halting foot and flaming shaggy hair, and arms and shoulders huge and threatening, like those of some Faun or Satyr of the ancient woods, and the brow and eyes of the Olympians." (link)
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Andrzej Diniejko on Henley as "poet as a patient" and his work predating modern forms of poetry "not only in form, as experiments in free verse containing abrasive narrative shifts and internal monologue, but also in subject matter". (link)
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"Invictus"
by William Ernest Henley
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
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This poem is in the public domain.
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Some things to discuss might be the title. How does the defiant spirit of this "Unconquered" opening play throughout the lines of the poem? There is also a reference to the Bible Verse Matthew 7:14 in the poem, "Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it". Why do you think this is included? What lines stand out to you? How do you see him fit into the Victorian literary furniture, if you will? Have you heard this poem before? How does this fit in with the melancholy feel of the Bonus Poem, if you read it? What other poets do you enjoy from this era of literature?
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Bonus Poem: We'll Go No More a-Roving
Bonus Link #1: "Love Blows As the Wind Blows" (1911) song-cycle by George Butterworth, with Henley's poetry put to music and song.
Bonus Link #2: A literary review of the Victorian Era.
Bonus Link #3: Read the other poems included in the collection, In Hospital.
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If you missed last's month poem, you can find it here.

Update: marking this as solved. I don't know what caused the lock out - I'm 100% certain I only entered my password once. "Resolution" if it counts: I'm thankful I had the DSfinder app installed on my ipad through which I was able to see "IP Blocking" settings and managed to unblock the IP address of my PC. Had forgotten I had installed it on that device. Don't think it contributed to the issue as again, device is WiFI only and never open the Synology app. Just massively relieved!
Hi All,
Would appreciate some help here. I'm really confused what's going on.
Background
I last logged into my DSM 2 days ago on my PC. Just tried to log in right now and something odd happened, I'm used to signing in by entering my password followed by 2FA code even though it's my personal device. This time on attempting to sign on to my admin account, after entering my username I received a message to validate my log in using the Synology Secure SignIn app instead of entering a password. I do not have the app. I tried another non-admin account, still the same message. Upon attempting to log in with a password, instead I receive a message saying too many failed attempts have been made to log in and the IP address has been blocked. To be clear, I had not made any prior attempts from my personal device (it was sleeping until about 5 minutes before I attempted to log in). Although I couldn't access my DSM account, I was still able to access my mapped network drives. I tried to restart my PC and tried to log in again, but same result, and this time no luck with accessing mapped network drives either.
Edit to add: I never log into my NAS through any other devices besides this PC in my home network.
Existing Security
My NAS is exposed to the internet only via Plex. It is port forwarded so not the standard 32400 and behind a double nat. Plex has a secure password and also has 2FA.
I have firewall rules set up so only can be accessed in my country of origin UK, and after 3 or 5 wrong attempts I believe it blocks the IP. Prior to this I've never had any attempts made on my NAS.
I have my original admin account disabled, and the new one is super obscure. My password is beyond what is reflected here: https://caltechsites-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/imss/images/2023_Password_Table_Square.original.jpg
In addition, I haven't logged into my authenticator app on this device.
Oddities
One of the drives I have is dedicated to media. I'm still able to access this through Plex. I run Plex through docker and I am still able to access this through my NAS IP address.
Edit to add: I have DLNA enabled on my NAS, I'm able to access media through this as well (including through my PC).
I have another laptop that was also sleeping. I've just switched it on, it is still connected to my mapped network drives and I can access the majority of them (different limited access credentials), but none of the content is blocked by any means. I never attempt to log into DSM through this laptop. Only the initial mapping of the drives.
I've not received any emails notifying that I've been hacked/my content has been locked until I pay
Synology assistant isn't having luck finding the Synology NAS on the network at all either.
Maybe related
I've requested a speed upgrade from my internet provider. They've sent me a new router and asked me to plug it in within 5 days. I've not done this yet and was actually logging into my DSM account to double check all my settings prior to switching out.
If you're still reading, thanks so much!
At this point I'm clueless if it's something malicious or not. I'm going to run Malwarebytes overnight on my PC. Is there a chance that a change at my ISP side could result in the above?
I'm thinking worst case scenario I've been hacked, but let's say I have a keylogger on my machine, is it possible for them to break into my NAS based on my passwords alone? My 2FA is always from my personal phone and I don't log into that on my PC. Really not sure how else they could have gotten access, and again, no emails or anything, nothing has been zipped.
Would appreciate your help / suggestions on what I can do here please!
Thanks!

M22 looking for retail, warehouse, admin, graduate among paralegal and other jobs through company websites indeed, reed, etc after recently completing uni (graduating after receiving final grade in September of this year) in BA (Hons) Criminology, have applied to 150-175 jobs in the past 2 weeks and have gotten 6 interviews all were rejections, i feel like i fucked those up though as I have Asperger's and the process of applying for jobs, form filling, wanking off (figuratively) to the company in the surveys on the sites and emails and generally ritually exterminating brain cells and motivation/excitement to get a job at all at this shit most days a week, 5-6 of 7.
The most recent application was to an Aldi in my area within an easily commutable distance 40 min walk or 20 min cycle, for an shop floor assistant, general retail shebang stacking shelves, cleaning, manual handling in back warehouse till work etc, all shit I've done before in previous employment for Sainbury's and nights at a Morrison's petrol station.
The interview was 15 mins long, which was promised in their invitation email, the manager was approachable and likable, came across very human through the words he chose and the fact he said at the start he could go through my CV, which he had next to him open on his laptop, and ask bland corporate questions, but that he much prefers getting to know the person he has to consider hiring -- fully agree with this one was very relieved to hear that. He then went on to ask me to describe myself and my hobbies, to which I told him I'm into RPGs, mainly SRPGs because the numbers game is very appealing, levelling up separate units and turn-based combat and that I like marine biology.
He responds with interest and deepens with is own insight on Vidya and he says he loves travelling that he went to Japan this year and that he learns the culture of the places he goes to act respectfully to locals and speak their language -- again totally agree that this should be the bare minimum standard for travelling somewhere, especially poignant if you're interacting with the culture or the locals. I ask him where else he plans to travel this year and he says South America, he's planning on exploring the mountain range there and that he dislikes touristy areas.
At this point, I'm totally relaxed to be talking with a real person. His next question is "What specifically do you think this role will entail, given your experience in retail already, and can you give examples of skills you have learned from your previous work that can be applied at our store?", and I do just that. He remarked that I had "hit the nail on the head", again thinking well shit this is going great, feeling so hopeful and happy that the job search might finally be over, especially having the chance to work under this manager who gets how it is? is the best way I can describe the feeling.
He then asked his final questions on the speed of the work (told him I prefer working quickly and always having something to do, having the flexibility to switch between departments as and when needed), how many hours I'd be looking to get (advertised hours were part-time, but due to current circumstances and an 88% availability needs improvement checkmark on a board in the staff room, I said I'd be happy with 35-40hrs) and finished with asking how I have dealt with an angry customer before (like every angry customer, take whatever they say, find the root cause of the issue, resolve, if you can't escalate). Shook hands, said our goodbyes at the end of the 15 mins and left, go home feeling confident and happy. 2 days later receive an email from Aldi, rejection --their reasoning was ol reliable: too many applicants can't give a real reason for your rejection you daft cunt.
Spent 3 hours today looking for jobs, barely motivated to move the mouse and type the same thing 8 million more times for entry level jobs. I feel like no matter how hard I try and no matter what I do to my CV, my appearance and trying to mask that it always crumbles away. Why is this the biggest fucking part of being an adult? Why is it done this way? What is the point of doing any of this dogshit apply intervew fail cycle worth? Is this the only way to go about doing this shit? How do you stay sane and confident and happy through this process?
I just want to scream or cry or die or something that isnt this insane ridiculous bullshit monotonous task until another job comes around again, then doing it again when I can't take how the workplace is like with every other job I've had before.
I have attached my CV with sensitive details removed, if anyone would be able to help me rewrite or help with pointers, anecdotes, advice, criticism anything and everything to help this monkey on a rock out. Sorry for the long ass post. tl;dr help with CV blz
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1LEt9Ry64VGKSKpayU_0ySrOsMoHyOJl1/view?usp=sharing

*DRAIN XD
Hey everybody
So live in a new build (3.5 years old) and over the last week or two one of our showers has decided it's no longer going to drain very fast.
Nothing has changed Shower drain seems fine (ran unblockers through it, snakes etc) The weirdest thing is without the waste, drainage isn't an issue whatsoever. Waste seems fine, again, nothing changed.
Anyone got any idea what the hell is going on?

I need to contact my bank in the uk to unblock my card but my sim won’t work while in China. What are my options? Anywhere you know in Chengdu where I can make an international phone call?

Good morning everyone!!
I have a renewable energy company in Birmingham.
Already have a few pending clients that are asking me for this specific product. I know the technology isn't new, and are other manufacturers, but from my sorces, these guys are the real deal. Guys, no advert here, genuine help is needed.
I'm looking for this technology - "Thermodynamic Panel" regarding
Domestic Hot Water
and
Climatization.
I heard this new technology, in terms of efficiency, is greater than anything I've ever seen in the market. I know the company responsible for this, it's called
ENERGIE
And I don't know if they are a Portugal or Spain based company, but they don't sell to me since the quantities are small. Only to large distributors.
What I need is, a UK based supplier for this products, does anyone has any idea what company might have these products? I've already drained all my resources, from City Plumbing to Warmflow.
Please HELP!!

I'm putting fake names... (A lot of the timelines are spread out but they talk about those specific moments, I hope they make since)
I have a friend, I'll call her J. I have known J for almost 9 years. She and I grew up pretty close and we were inseparable. Over the first few years of our friendship she had lost my parents trust from an incident involving a boy, she wasn't allowed to stay over for sleepovers and I practically lost my whole summer that year. I was pretty angry at my parents and blamed things on them. I regret my actions and I did learn but in my mind I thought J was the only person who understood me.
After the whole incident settled down. School started up again and she would jokingly push me into a boy or a locker. She started putting her arm around my neck, trying to choke me. She would continuously punch me or smack me on the head. I honestly got annoyed by it but I acted like it was nothing. She had suddenly became obsessed with TikTok and she posted a whole TikTok about her friends, their was a video of me that stood out. I wasn't wearing a shirt. Which completely made me uncomfortable because I wasn't wearing a shirt and she took the video while I was changing. She didn't take it down. She also would post photos without my consent. Like ones that made me feel ugly or disgusting. And I would tell her how they made me feel. But she would still post them. I started telling her no when she asked for photos and she always would sneak one when I wasn't looking. She doesn't take no for an answer. She will start whining when you don't listen. I used to trust her with my feelings and I would tell her about everything. And now I feel like she knows too much.
This past school year all of my friends (king, J, Joe, Bell) and I went to SDYC. And well when we went J was lying a bunch and starting a bunch of drama and it threw all of my friends off. We all didn't trust J and Joe that well during that time. I felt like the only people I had was my friends King and Bell. Because they both understood how I felt.
After that. King, J, and I had a sleepover. During the middle of the night I was watching a movie and J began to bug me. She started pushing on me saying I was taking up too much room. But honestly I was the one who was sleeping in between two couches there's no way I was taking that much space because I was falling in the crack. She then proceeded to call me a fat roll. I said "no your a fat roll" jokingly. And then she freaks out and she went to tell her boyfriend. It annoyed me because all her boyfriend knows how to do is talk bad. After that sleepover. She started working at the same place as me and I told her about my big crush on this coworker of ours. And so then she decided to start flirting with him in front of me. She would throw something at him jokingly and giggle. I didn't try to think anything of it. But then when we were talking about him the next thing she decided to say was, "your just jealous because he talks to me and not you". The thing is I don't want to talk to him that's why I don't try to talk to him. He has talked to me before, but I rather admire him from afar. He's like 13 years older than me. He was just hot to me at the time.
I'll just say I am lighter than a 5'6 girl. I might have a little bit of belly fat but that's just my body. And I do have an eating disorder. I don't eat enough, I practically starve myself. J honestly made me feel worse and I started having moments where I would basically pass out from no iron in my body. J continued to body shame me even from the amount of food I would eat. She straight up made is feel like she was calling me ugly and fat. It hurt and it made me angry. I told my dad and he said she's just jealous and not to worry about it. I brushed it off but she basically would say something everyday. It got to a point where I was crying all the time.
During my last year of highschool J didn't have a vehicle. So she would ask me to drive her places. I didn't mind because we would be going to the same places. And I started offering to pay for her drink or something. I didn't think much of it in tell I was always taking her places and buying her drinks but she still wanted me to pay her back for stuff when I didn't have much money. She managed to buy a vehicle for a small price by saving up the money she didn't spend. I feel stupid for offering. One day her mom even texted me asking for the small money I "owed" J. But my parents think I don't owe her anything because I have given her most of my money and that she owes me money.
J also does this thing where if you don't give her your attention she'll keep tapping you. Over and over again. Everytime she asks for my attention it's always for something so pointless and stupid. Nothing serious. And everytime I ask for her attention she'll ignore me. She does it a lot. She only wants to have the attention. I stopped telling her about how I feel because all I know is she'll either use it against me or not actually listen and move past it. Like once she asked me how I felt and when I told her that I cried about something she moved on from it into her talking about her crying over some movie she watched.
The way she treated me made me so angry that I texted her boyfriend anonymously asking him to control his girlfriend and get her to be nicer to others. He didn't like the message and told his girl on the spot and J tried to call my fake number. I didn't answer and then she ran to me to tell me the tea. She later assumed it was a boy she was flirting with that she pushed away.
I hate her boyfriend but he deserves better.. because she has talked to another boy behind his back. When I started liking this one boy. I told her about it and then she began to tell me how she met this UK boy and she thinks he's all that. She later found out he was lying about his age and she got back to reality before she lost her in person boyfriend.
She told king I was flirting with this one dude but I wasn't. J told me to add this guy she found on Facebook on snap, I said okay and I called the dude a nickname like a Grandma would call their grandchildren. And I thought it was funny and the guy thought it was chill. I didn't think anything of it and then I blocked him because I didn't want to talk to him. She then decided to add the guy on snap. And she starts talking to him. The amount of times she has lied is crazy. I blocked him but she still has him on snap. For what reason I don't know.
J and Joe and I have recently had a lot of problems with each other. It's always J and Joe fighting and I'm between listening to them both argue about each other. I was getting tired of it. J hit my breaking point when she decided to ask me for my boyfriends sisters snap. You don't just ask your friend for her boyfriends sisters snap. That's weird. She also asked for my boyfriends and she looked him up when I told her no and she added a bunch of dudes with the same name. She didn't find him but there is no way I want her knowing him or his sister. I have too many trust issues with her. She's the main reason why a lot of my relationships didn't work out. They didn't like her and she manipulated me into saying things that upset them. She makes me so uncomfortable. She made me seem lesbian once when I know I'm not. But she made a TikTok about it and a lot of people from my school saw it. I don't like false accusations. I'm pretty sure she used it for clout. But also my parents think she's inlove with me because she can never leave me alone and she always HAS to hold hands or hug.
J doesn't understand a lot of things. And she calls me stupid. I honestly want karma to come get her but that's bad and I don't mean to say that. It hurts a lot.
I had blocked J on everything. But since I worked with J I saw her and she started bawling her eyes out at me saying she did nothing, I felt bad but I was annoyed because she kept bugging me. So I unblocked her. I decided to block her again after because my boyfriend said she was manipulating me. And well the more I had her blocked the nicer she was. After a while Joe did something to make me give up on my friendship with her too and J expected that to be a chance to get me back. And well she did practically. She was a lot nicer and I felt like she changed. But Man was I wrong.. Just today I was working my second night shift. I said something as a joke because I was hoping J would get what I meant. Her boyfriend was on the call... He took everything out of context and said something that made me feel less about myself. I already feel like crap being the person I am. I want to better myself but the more people say things the more I give up. I want to be encouraged not dragged down. I don't know why he has to be so mean. I never did anything to him. I don't know why they both have to be... I listen to her call people ugly all the time. Like just stop. I want her to stop. I'm leaving for the military soon, and she said that I can't get rid of her. That sounds psycho. And it honestly makes me want to get away more. I'm tired of the toxic environment and I want to get away. But she's everywhere. She knows everything about me. She has photos of me I hate. She has so many things she can use against me. I'm honestly scared. I want to block her again but I know she's just going to keep bugging me about it. And she might turn people against me. She's good at talking to people. I'm not I'm an introvert. I don't want her ever find me again once I leave. But I know she might try. People always find a way. And she's creepy. Because I know she'll be able to. But I just want to move on with my life. I don't know how to remove her from my life. What should I do?

I'm putting fake names... (A lot of the timelines are spread out but they talk about those specific moments, I hope they make since)
I have a friend, I'll call her J. I have known J for almost 9 years. She and I grew up pretty close and we were inseparable. Over the first few years of our friendship she had lost my parents trust from an incident involving a boy, she wasn't allowed to stay over for sleepovers and I practically lost my whole summer that year. I was pretty angry at my parents and blamed things on them. I regret my actions and I did learn but in my mind I thought J was the only person who understood me.
After the whole incident settled down. School started up again and she would jokingly push me into a boy or a locker. She started putting her arm around my neck, trying to choke me. She would continuously punch me or smack me on the head. I honestly got annoyed by it but I acted like it was nothing. She had suddenly became obsessed with TikTok and she posted a whole TikTok about her friends, their was a video of me that stood out. I wasn't wearing a shirt. Which completely made me uncomfortable because I wasn't wearing a shirt and she took the video while I was changing. She didn't take it down. She also would post photos without my consent. Like ones that made me feel ugly or disgusting. And I would tell her how they made me feel. But she would still post them. I started telling her no when she asked for photos and she always would sneak one when I wasn't looking. She doesn't take no for an answer. She will start whining when you don't listen. I used to trust her with my feelings and I would tell her about everything. And now I feel like she knows too much.
This past school year all of my friends (king, J, Joe, Bell) and I went to SDYC. And well when we went J was lying a bunch and starting a bunch of drama and it threw all of my friends off. We all didn't trust J and Joe that well during that time. I felt like the only people I had was my friends King and Bell. Because they both understood how I felt.
After that. King, J, and I had a sleepover. During the middle of the night I was watching a movie and J began to bug me. She started pushing on me saying I was taking up too much room. But honestly I was the one who was sleeping in between two couches there's no way I was taking that much space because I was falling in the crack. She then proceeded to call me a fat roll. I said "no your a fat roll" jokingly. And then she freaks out and she went to tell her boyfriend. It annoyed me because all her boyfriend knows how to do is talk bad. After that sleepover. She started working at the same place as me and I told her about my big crush on this coworker of ours. And so then she decided to start flirting with him in front of me. She would throw something at him jokingly and giggle. I didn't try to think anything of it. But then when we were talking about him the next thing she decided to say was, "your just jealous because he talks to me and not you". The thing is I don't want to talk to him that's why I don't try to talk to him. He has talked to me before, but I rather admire him from afar. He's like 13 years older than me. He was just hot to me at the time.
I'll just say I am lighter than a 5'6 girl. I might have a little bit of belly fat but that's just my body. And I do have an eating disorder. I don't eat enough, I practically starve myself. J honestly made me feel worse and I started having moments where I would basically pass out from no iron in my body. J continued to body shame me even from the amount of food I would eat. She straight up made is feel like she was calling me ugly and fat. It hurt and it made me angry. I told my dad and he said she's just jealous and not to worry about it. I brushed it off but she basically would say something everyday. It got to a point where I was crying all the time.
During my last year of highschool J didn't have a vehicle. So she would ask me to drive her places. I didn't mind because we would be going to the same places. And I started offering to pay for her drink or something. I didn't think much of it in tell I was always taking her places and buying her drinks but she still wanted me to pay her back for stuff when I didn't have much money. She managed to buy a vehicle for a small price by saving up the money she didn't spend. I feel stupid for offering. One day her mom even texted me asking for the small money I "owed" J. But my parents think I don't owe her anything because I have given her most of my money and that she owes me money.
J also does this thing where if you don't give her your attention she'll keep tapping you. Over and over again. Everytime she asks for my attention it's always for something so pointless and stupid. Nothing serious. And everytime I ask for her attention she'll ignore me. She does it a lot. She only wants to have the attention. I stopped telling her about how I feel because all I know is she'll either use it against me or not actually listen and move past it. Like once she asked me how I felt and when I told her that I cried about something she moved on from it into her talking about her crying over some movie she watched.
The way she treated me made me so angry that I texted her boyfriend anonymously asking him to control his girlfriend and get her to be nicer to others. He didn't like the message and told his girl on the spot and J tried to call my fake number. I didn't answer and then she ran to me to tell me the tea. She later assumed it was a boy she was flirting with that she pushed away.
I hate her boyfriend but he deserves better.. because she has talked to another boy behind his back. When I started liking this one boy. I told her about it and then she began to tell me how she met this UK boy and she thinks he's all that. She later found out he was lying about his age and she got back to reality before she lost her in person boyfriend.
She told king I was flirting with this one dude but I wasn't. J told me to add this guy she found on Facebook on snap, I said okay and I called the dude a nickname like a Grandma would call their grandchildren. And I thought it was funny and the guy thought it was chill. I didn't think anything of it and then I blocked him because I didn't want to talk to him. She then decided to add the guy on snap. And she starts talking to him. The amount of times she has lied is crazy. I blocked him but she still has him on snap. For what reason I don't know.
J and Joe and I have recently had a lot of problems with each other. It's always J and Joe fighting and I'm between listening to them both argue about each other. I was getting tired of it. J hit my breaking point when she decided to ask me for my boyfriends sisters snap. You don't just ask your friend for her boyfriends sisters snap. That's weird. She also asked for my boyfriends and she looked him up when I told her no and she added a bunch of dudes with the same name. She didn't find him but there is no way I want her knowing him or his sister. I have too many trust issues with her. She's the main reason why a lot of my relationships didn't work out. They didn't like her and she manipulated me into saying things that upset them. She makes me so uncomfortable. She made me seem lesbian once when I know I'm not. But she made a TikTok about it and a lot of people from my school saw it. I don't like false accusations. I'm pretty sure she used it for clout. But also my parents think she's inlove with me because she can never leave me alone and she always HAS to hold hands or hug.
J doesn't understand a lot of things. And she calls me stupid. I honestly want karma to come get her but that's bad and I don't mean to say that. It hurts a lot.
I had blocked J on everything. But since I worked with J I saw her and she started bawling her eyes out at me saying she did nothing, I felt bad but I was annoyed because she kept bugging me. So I unblocked her. I decided to block her again after because my boyfriend said she was manipulating me. And well the more I had her blocked the nicer she was. After a while Joe did something to make me give up on my friendship with her too and J expected that to be a chance to get me back. And well she did practically. She was a lot nicer and I felt like she changed. But Man was I wrong.. Just today I was working my second night shift. I said something as a joke because I was hoping J would get what I meant. Her boyfriend was on the call... He took everything out of context and said something that made me feel less about myself. I already feel like crap being the person I am. I want to better myself but the more people say things the more I give up. I want to be encouraged not dragged down. I don't know why he has to be so mean. I never did anything to him. I don't know why they both have to be... I listen to her call people ugly all the time. Like just stop. I want her to stop. I'm leaving for the military soon, and she said that I can't get rid of her. That sounds psycho. And it honestly makes me want to get away more. I'm tired of the toxic environment and I want to get away. But she's everywhere. She knows everything about me. She has photos of me I hate. She has so many things she can use against me. I'm honestly scared. I want to block her again but I know she's just going to keep bugging me about it. And she might turn people against me. She's good at talking to people. I'm not I'm an introvert. I don't want her ever find me again once I leave. But I know she might try. People always find a way. And she's creepy. Because I know she'll be able to. But I just want to move on with my life. I don't know how to remove her from my life. What should I do?