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2024.05.16 22:53 Legitimate_Royal_463 9 months later, still missing my ex that I broke things off with ... a long story, with no good ending, no resolution, and no great moral
I'm not sure what I'm looking for, I guess just wanted to write out what I'd been feeling and put it somewhere. I'm using a burner account, and no real names, I just needed to vent this somewhere
I dated my ex (I won't bother with names) for 4 years, and broke things off last summer. Like all relationships it was complicated, but now - nine months later - I still have no idea if I did the right thing, and am left feeling rudderless and adrift.
I'm 41, she's 32 - we met online four-ish years ago, immediately hit it off and started seeing each other 3-4 times a week. We started dating in Jan 2020 ... two months later, covid hit, and our entire state was essentially locked down. We went from dating to basically living together after two months - which, at the time, was great with me .. we were in love, and things seemed great. My parents split up when I was 19. In my 20's and early 30's, I'd made some bad choices with romantic partners - and chased after people who were emotionally unavailable, fundamentally. It took many years of therapy and introspection, but I had been actively making and effort to only date people I saw a real future with.
She (at 28) had never really dated anyone before. She explained she had some very severe trauma as a child, and coupled with abusive parents, she had never put herself out there really, and had focused on work, and fitness, and school. Her father had cheated on her mother when she was a child, and she knew about it (from a very young age). I heard all this, and tried to be as empathic and understanding and reassuring as I could -> after all, it wasn't anything she had done, and I thought she was a badass for overcoming that kind of abuse. We hit it off straight away, and seemed to have tons in common, and those first few months together were incredible. She still lived at home, with her parents - and for the duration of our relationship never moved out, or found her own space.
Things started to get strange when one day, I liked a female friend's post on Instagram ... this was someone I'd known for 5-6 years, and I was friends with long before I knew my gf. In retrospect, my friend's post was a bit thirsty .. your classic "I'm powerful, self possessed" look-at-me photos that showed a bit too much skin - and I should have just kept browsing, but I tapped 'like' (one of probably 20 posts I liked that day from all kinds of different friend) and moved on.
A few hours later, my gf called me, furious, and accused me of using her 'as a place holder' because - in her mind - I obviously REALLY wanted to be with this other friend of mine, and was using her. This came completely out of left field to me, and we had a 2-hour phone argument where I apologized, told her I'd remove the 'like', whatever she wanted. She kept circling back again and again that it was "totally normal" to go through a partners friend list / liked posts because "anyone can see them, they're public". We went back and forth, I was frantic and after we got off the phone, I went through my Instagram and basically purged any attractive female friend I had, and removed any likes I had to any post that might be weird or suspect. From them on I rarely used social media at all - but every few months my ex would find a new friend on my social media she didn't like, or suspected - even after I stopped interacting with social media at all.
This same sort of low-level suspicion persisted throughout our relationship. If I was looking at my phone, she wanted to know what I was reading, who I was talking to, etc. I have never cheated on a partner in my life, in fact I had been cheated on twice - so the sort of dull, constant suspicion really upset me - and after a while it almost felt like she was trying to manifest / discover some kind of secret infidelity. The tragic part is that we got along great otherwise, she loved my (male) friends, loved my family, and we had a relaxed and loving relationship besides occasional flare ups. But the suspicion never went away, or changed - and this sort of underlying insecurity was a constant background white noise of our relationship. She especially took a disliking to my roommates girlfriend, and made it a point to always talk about how much she disliked her, how they weren't going to last - etc (I can't say I blame her, the girl in question was not awesome .. but I never understood why his g/f should have such an outsized effect on our relationship). Despite all this, I thought she was an a kind, empathic, intelligent woman - and I saw a life with her, I saw starting a family with her - as real possiblities.
She grew very attached to my family, which also started to make me wonder what was going on. Many times, first thing in the morning, before coffee or anything else, she'd ask me "how's your mom? how's your dad?" - and would always want to know if she was 'still their favorite'. The first few times I thought it was charming - but it kept going on, to the point I had to push back and ask her "hey, please stop asking me first thing in the morning about the status of my family" ... for reference, I lived on the opposite side of the country from them, and would only get to see them for the holidays (which she was always invited to). I had a very challenging period of my life with my family, from 15-30 my family was fractured, my parents split up, it was messy ... but through years of effort, and time and patience forgiveness, I had built strong, loving relationships with both my parents individually, and my siblings besides. I sometimes got the sense that she even loved my family more than me, and that I was - weirdly - almost an obstacle between her and them. I told her as much, that sometimes I almost was jealous of how much she loved them, and wished that she could point that in my direction sometimes - knowing that they would be part of the package. She never did that same work with her own family - who were deeply dysfunctional, combative and sometimes outright hostile to one another. As crazy as it sounds, I often felt like she was almost trying to reap the rewards of the many years of hard work I had done - without an appreciation for how hard it had been to build new, adult relationships with my parents.
After a year and a half she found a new job, in a new industry, at a high profile company - and for the first six months she was there, she seemed to be able to manage the stress. I asked her if she wanted to maybe find a place together, to move in together for real ... but she kind of brushed it off. I would ask her again every few months, and would be met with the same sort of half-maybe-sorta-we'll-see ...
She suffered a major concussion two years into our relationship, which is when things really started to change. She never went to therapy, or saw a doctor to get treated ... and as the months went by, she became obsessed, almost addicted, to her job. It was all-consuming for her, and occupied all her thought and effort and time ... our relationship became an afterthought, and would mostly be relegated to her staying over (because my apt was closer to her office than her parent's house) - then me cooking her breakfast and seeing her off in the morning - and getting take out when she got back at night. She became more and more locked into her job, and our relationship became more and more platonic and less and less romantic / sexual... which is not uncommon when people are stressed out, or exhausted - but we couldn't seem to find time or space to fix what was happening. We talked, and communicated - but her reaction to stress was to go inside herself, and cut the world off -> and my stress reaction has often been the same.
We grew more and more distant over the next year, I also got a new job that ate up a ton of my time, so we would only see each other for an hour or two in the evenings, or on the weekends when we were up for it. I have a habit of pushing the people I care about away when I am not doing well emotionally .. it's the biggest recurring issue I've had in my life. I've been to therapy for it, and have ways to manage stress including meditation, exercise and a healthy diet - all of which allow me to function. But as the months went by, I got more and more stressed out as we became more distant - and I started to fall apart, and started to feel more and more alone and isolated. I'm sure I could have been better, or more attentive, or more patient ... and I in no way want to trying to pin any blame on her. After all, I'm just 1/2 of the relationship, and 1/2 of the story. After not seeing each other for a few weeks, I had to go out of town for a week for my job - to deal with a long and stressful convention ... and when I came back, we didn't see each other for another week.
I wanted her to come see me, but couldn't come out and say it ... I wanted her to intuit my needs, which she OF COURSE was not able to do. She wanted me to tell her I desperately wanted to see her, which she couldn't articulate because she wanted ME to intuit her needs ... and round and round it went. Lack of communication.
We did see each other eventually, what started as a small disagreement blew up. It started after my ex starting talking about my roommate's girlfriend, or she said something nasty about her. I was upset because we hadn't seen each other in weeks, why would this girl be the first thing on her mind? What about us? I totally overreacted and pushed her away - it was a long and stupid argument, where we both ended up dredging up things from months and years before .. we broke up, she left. In my self-righteous indignation, I felt justified in the moment ... but as the hours passed, and days passed, I was miserable and knew I had made a horrible mistake. My friends at the time told me I'd done the right thing, and that we had long standing issues that I had been mentioning throughout our relationship ... she liked her well enough, but wanted me to be happy, and told me that I had, ultimately, done what I thought was right at the time - and not to doubt myself. But I did, I got fully stuck in my head about it - and was desperate (yes, the D word) to try again.
Over the next few weeks she totally ignored me, wouldn't respond to my calls, or messages. I didn't expect her to - but I practically begged her to give it another chance with me. But she had totally shut down, and in her (later) words "she was never going to speak to me again." She did, eventually, after a few weeks, respond to me. We talked, I apologized, tried to explain that she was the world to me, and I knew I had made a massive mistake, and desperately wanted a chance to try again - to make things right.
She agreed, eventually. We met up for dinner, and slowly talked things out - I was still honestly pretty upset, but we kept seeing each other, started making it a point to go on dates, to get to know each other again. She believed I had cheated on her, that I had met another woman and that this had all been a pretext ... I caught her going through my phone after I got out of the shower. There was nothing to find, but I couldn't believe that she still, after years together, suspected I had been unfaithful to her. But that was just a bump in the road, we talked it out. Things seemed to be getting better. We shared an amazing thanksgiving together, and I genuinely felt like we had turned a corner and were as close as we had ever been ... so did she.
The next Monday, at work, she got another concussion - worse than the first. From this point on, her entire personality shifted ... Which I have learned, in the months that followed, is just something that can happen with head trauma. She didn't want to spend time together nearly as much, she fully retreated into herself, and her family. She wouldn't come visit at all anymore - even if I was willing to pick her up / drop her off ... she would only agree to meet for platonic dinners at a halfway point between our houses. She started seeing a doctor, a neurologist, doing PT work ... but she just kept seeming to get further and further away. If I invited her over, she was always want to know if my roomate's g/f "might" be there, or if we'd be alone ... and if there was even a chance this girl would be there (even though we could spend time in my room, or in the common living room without interference) - my ex would just stay home.
Six or seven months of this went by ... we kept sort of drifting apart, and it seemed like no matter how much I tried to communicate, or bridge the divide between us (which, to be honest, it felt like I was doing 3/4 of the work to keep this thing going) - we just kept drifting. After her second concussion, we stopped being intimate all together ... she was still convinced I had been with other women while we were apart, and demanded I get tested for STDs for her to trust me again. I let my pride get in the way, and should just have done it - but I had not been with or dated anyone else in the few weeks we were apart, and I couldn't get over that she still wouldn't trust me at my word.. after almost 4 years together, I still had to prove myself.
But I didn't, I was stubborn and dug my heels in - so our last potential shot at intimacy evaporated. We became basically platonic buddies ... we still loved each other, said we loved on another every day - but I always felt like I was chasing her, hoping for some kind of emotional connection or breakthrough or common ground that never manifested. By the time July rolled around, I was a total mess ... I felt completely alone, isolated, and like the person I knew and loved had drifted off, and there wasn't a way to get her back. For two months I said that I was really struggling, I was feeling really disconnected and that I missed her all the time - that I wanted to get back to baseline but didn't know how, and that I wanted her help or guidance. She said she felt like she was gradually getting back to where she started, but had no clear picture of how long that might take, and couldn't give me any kind of definitive answer if things would get better again - or how things might get better again.
It never happened. With another month-long work event looming on the horizon, and my stress levels climbing and climbing, I felt like I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown. Eventually, after one of our platonic dates, I had a full on breakdown, and tearfully told her how isolated I was feeling, how I felt like I'd lost her, and how I felt totally clueless how to fix things. She had no ideas to offer, no guidance on how to navigate any of this, and no suggestions how to get back to some kind of baseline. It all poured out from both sides ... she didn't feel like she could trust me ever since we'd got back together, I felt like she neve really let me back in. But we both agreed that that one thanksgiving had been amazing ... and we wished we could find a way back to that place - but had no idea how.
I told her I needed a month, or two, I needed to start seeing a therapist, I needed to put myself back together because I felt like I was falling apart. I told her I wished that we could take a breathe - and come back on more solid footing because I had fucked up when I broke things off before. I had come back from a place of sadness and desperation - and had not given either of us a chance to heal before trying to undo the damage I'd caused. I wanted to meet her on even footing, from a place of mutual strength and try again ...
To her, this was just me breaking up with her again.. which I tried to say "no, I don't want to lose you, but I'm fucked up and need to just right the ship a bit in my life because I am totally losing it ..." But, sometimes it doesn't matter. To her, I was leaving her again, giving up. I had no idea if she'd speak to me again, but I felt so broken I didn't know what else to do.
I took two months, without contact, and started seeing a therapist, started exercising again, got through my hell-month at work. I tried reaching out again to her, multiple times after that ... but I never heard back. A few months went by - I missed her more and more, I didn't heal or get better, I didn't feel like I'd done the right thing. My friends told me I had, my family was supportive - my friends especially have told me time and time again that ultimately, I did the right thing, that I did what was right 'for me' ... but to me, the reassurance didn't matter. There was a giant, gaping hole in my life that I had no idea what to do with. This was a woman I had wanted to marry, that I had wanted to life with, to build and share a life with -> and at one point, I know she wanted the same. I felt so terrible, and couldn't handle the memories of the place I was in, that I resigned from my job (which was ok, it was a horrible grind, that while it paid ok, didn't have any kind of upward mobility) .. and after a lot of thought, I moved back across the country because it was too painful for me to be in that place, surrounded by the memories - living with the ghosts. My friend group had been slowly dispersing, getting new jobs in new cities, having kids and getting on with life - and I didn't see a reason to stay anymore. I debated reaching out to my ex to let her know I was moving - but it had been months without a word, she had not responded to any of my attempts to talk to her, to meet her even for coffee, or to return the few things of hers I still had - and I knew that if I did reach out - it would ultimately be a selfish act, hoping that somehow she might say 'oh no, he's leaving for good' ... so I didn't. I'm still not sure if she knows I left.
I've been saying with family, slowly putting the pieces of my life back together. I'm taking classes, and plan on switching careers into a new field that I may actually am passionate about. I'll find my own place again in a month or two, but truth is I missed my family dearly, and have been helping both my aging parents with years of neglected repairs and yard work - and seeing my siblings and their families again after a decade of living on the opposite coast and getting to see them 'maybe' once a year around the holidays. Plus after paying insane rent to random landlords for over a decade, its been nice to have a few months of feeling grounded, and to put work into where I'm living. My family has been thrilled, and glad to have me around again.
But it's made no difference, really. I still think of her every day. Some days are easier than others, and I can manage to stay focused on classes and work and fitness - but in so many ways my life feels totally hollow now. I'm stuck wondering if I completely fucked up a good thing, and wasted what might have been my last shot at starting a family of my own, of having a real partner. I'm 41, realistically my chances get slimmer by the year. Or maybe I did totally the right thing, and I got out of a degenerating situation that had been nagging at me for months and months that something was deeply wrong. Or maybe it was somewhere in between those two poles. There's no way to know, and I'm limited to my own side, and my own perspective - and trapped in that middle ground of wondering how things "MIGHT" have gone had X Y or Z happened differently. I wish I had some kind of clarity, or certainty, but I don't.
I guess things are getting a bit easier, as the days and weeks and months go by - but its only by fractions of a degree. I miss her, or maybe just miss the person she used to be, if that person still exists. Head trauma is ... complicated - because the person looks the same, sounds the same ... but the person you knew, the person you fell in love with, isn't really the same person anymore. Its almost like, mourning the death of someone who is still alive, if that makes sense.
So here I am, taking it one day at a time, hoping for some brighter tomorrow, some slow healing or revelation or clarity that I did the right thing - but all I have are doubts. There's no closure to be found because all I ever got was silence. I've done everything people have recommended - focused on myself, focused on health and fitness, focus on learning new skills, on meeting new people, gone on dates, focused on family, focused on growing -> but it hasn't helped the giant, gaping hole in my life, and the never-ending uncertainty.
I expect no sympathy, or empathy ... and knowing reddit, I'll get a lot of people piling on to tell me what a piece of shit I am, lol'ing at how I fucked up my own life, and telling me she's better off without me. But then again sometimes even Reddit can surprise you with the insightful and thoughtful responses. More than anything, I just wanted to write this down somewhere, anywhere - to get it out of my head and my heart. Because the more it stews, the worse I feel. Thanks for reading, if you managed to make it this far.. its a long, messy, meandering story without any real ending. Will I hear from her again? Probably not. Will I get over her? Eventually I'm sure ... but what happens between now and then is anyone's guess. What ever it is, it'll happen on day, one moment at a time.
tldr; sometimes things just end - without someone cheating, or abusing the other person, or any real good way to sum it up. Life and relationships are long, complicated, nuanced and messy. Take care all, appreciate what you have while you have it, take it one day at a time
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I dated my ex (I won't bother with names) for 4 years, and broke things off last summer. Like all relationships it was complicated, but now - nine months later - I still have no idea if I did the right thing, and am left feeling rudderless and adrift.
I'm 41, she's 32 - we met online four-ish years ago, immediately hit it off and started seeing each other 3-4 times a week. We started dating in Jan 2020 ... two months later, covid hit, and our entire state was essentially locked down. We went from dating to basically living together after two months - which, at the time, was great with me .. we were in love, and things seemed great. My parents split up when I was 19. In my 20's and early 30's, I'd made some bad choices with romantic partners - and chased after people who were emotionally unavailable, fundamentally. It took many years of therapy and introspection, but I had been actively making and effort to only date people I saw a real future with.
She (at 28) had never really dated anyone before. She explained she had some very severe trauma as a child, and coupled with abusive parents, she had never put herself out there really, and had focused on work, and fitness, and school. Her father had cheated on her mother when she was a child, and she knew about it (from a very young age). I heard all this, and tried to be as empathic and understanding and reassuring as I could -> after all, it wasn't anything she had done, and I thought she was a badass for overcoming that kind of abuse. We hit it off straight away, and seemed to have tons in common, and those first few months together were incredible. She still lived at home, with her parents - and for the duration of our relationship never moved out, or found her own space.
Things started to get strange when one day, I liked a female friend's post on Instagram ... this was someone I'd known for 5-6 years, and I was friends with long before I knew my gf. In retrospect, my friend's post was a bit thirsty .. your classic "I'm powerful, self possessed" look-at-me photos that showed a bit too much skin - and I should have just kept browsing, but I tapped 'like' (one of probably 20 posts I liked that day from all kinds of different friend) and moved on.
A few hours later, my gf called me, furious, and accused me of using her 'as a place holder' because - in her mind - I obviously REALLY wanted to be with this other friend of mine, and was using her. This came completely out of left field to me, and we had a 2-hour phone argument where I apologized, told her I'd remove the 'like', whatever she wanted. She kept circling back again and again that it was "totally normal" to go through a partners friend list / liked posts because "anyone can see them, they're public". We went back and forth, I was frantic and after we got off the phone, I went through my Instagram and basically purged any attractive female friend I had, and removed any likes I had to any post that might be weird or suspect. From them on I rarely used social media at all - but every few months my ex would find a new friend on my social media she didn't like, or suspected - even after I stopped interacting with social media at all.
This same sort of low-level suspicion persisted throughout our relationship. If I was looking at my phone, she wanted to know what I was reading, who I was talking to, etc. I have never cheated on a partner in my life, in fact I had been cheated on twice - so the sort of dull, constant suspicion really upset me - and after a while it almost felt like she was trying to manifest / discover some kind of secret infidelity. The tragic part is that we got along great otherwise, she loved my (male) friends, loved my family, and we had a relaxed and loving relationship besides occasional flare ups. But the suspicion never went away, or changed - and this sort of underlying insecurity was a constant background white noise of our relationship. She especially took a disliking to my roommates girlfriend, and made it a point to always talk about how much she disliked her, how they weren't going to last - etc (I can't say I blame her, the girl in question was not awesome .. but I never understood why his g/f should have such an outsized effect on our relationship). Despite all this, I thought she was an a kind, empathic, intelligent woman - and I saw a life with her, I saw starting a family with her - as real possiblities.
She grew very attached to my family, which also started to make me wonder what was going on. Many times, first thing in the morning, before coffee or anything else, she'd ask me "how's your mom? how's your dad?" - and would always want to know if she was 'still their favorite'. The first few times I thought it was charming - but it kept going on, to the point I had to push back and ask her "hey, please stop asking me first thing in the morning about the status of my family" ... for reference, I lived on the opposite side of the country from them, and would only get to see them for the holidays (which she was always invited to). I had a very challenging period of my life with my family, from 15-30 my family was fractured, my parents split up, it was messy ... but through years of effort, and time and patience forgiveness, I had built strong, loving relationships with both my parents individually, and my siblings besides. I sometimes got the sense that she even loved my family more than me, and that I was - weirdly - almost an obstacle between her and them. I told her as much, that sometimes I almost was jealous of how much she loved them, and wished that she could point that in my direction sometimes - knowing that they would be part of the package. She never did that same work with her own family - who were deeply dysfunctional, combative and sometimes outright hostile to one another. As crazy as it sounds, I often felt like she was almost trying to reap the rewards of the many years of hard work I had done - without an appreciation for how hard it had been to build new, adult relationships with my parents.
After a year and a half she found a new job, in a new industry, at a high profile company - and for the first six months she was there, she seemed to be able to manage the stress. I asked her if she wanted to maybe find a place together, to move in together for real ... but she kind of brushed it off. I would ask her again every few months, and would be met with the same sort of half-maybe-sorta-we'll-see ...
She suffered a major concussion two years into our relationship, which is when things really started to change. She never went to therapy, or saw a doctor to get treated ... and as the months went by, she became obsessed, almost addicted, to her job. It was all-consuming for her, and occupied all her thought and effort and time ... our relationship became an afterthought, and would mostly be relegated to her staying over (because my apt was closer to her office than her parent's house) - then me cooking her breakfast and seeing her off in the morning - and getting take out when she got back at night. She became more and more locked into her job, and our relationship became more and more platonic and less and less romantic / sexual... which is not uncommon when people are stressed out, or exhausted - but we couldn't seem to find time or space to fix what was happening. We talked, and communicated - but her reaction to stress was to go inside herself, and cut the world off -> and my stress reaction has often been the same.
We grew more and more distant over the next year, I also got a new job that ate up a ton of my time, so we would only see each other for an hour or two in the evenings, or on the weekends when we were up for it. I have a habit of pushing the people I care about away when I am not doing well emotionally .. it's the biggest recurring issue I've had in my life. I've been to therapy for it, and have ways to manage stress including meditation, exercise and a healthy diet - all of which allow me to function. But as the months went by, I got more and more stressed out as we became more distant - and I started to fall apart, and started to feel more and more alone and isolated. I'm sure I could have been better, or more attentive, or more patient ... and I in no way want to trying to pin any blame on her. After all, I'm just 1/2 of the relationship, and 1/2 of the story. After not seeing each other for a few weeks, I had to go out of town for a week for my job - to deal with a long and stressful convention ... and when I came back, we didn't see each other for another week.
I wanted her to come see me, but couldn't come out and say it ... I wanted her to intuit my needs, which she OF COURSE was not able to do. She wanted me to tell her I desperately wanted to see her, which she couldn't articulate because she wanted ME to intuit her needs ... and round and round it went. Lack of communication.
We did see each other eventually, what started as a small disagreement blew up. It started after my ex starting talking about my roommate's girlfriend, or she said something nasty about her. I was upset because we hadn't seen each other in weeks, why would this girl be the first thing on her mind? What about us? I totally overreacted and pushed her away - it was a long and stupid argument, where we both ended up dredging up things from months and years before .. we broke up, she left. In my self-righteous indignation, I felt justified in the moment ... but as the hours passed, and days passed, I was miserable and knew I had made a horrible mistake. My friends at the time told me I'd done the right thing, and that we had long standing issues that I had been mentioning throughout our relationship ... she liked her well enough, but wanted me to be happy, and told me that I had, ultimately, done what I thought was right at the time - and not to doubt myself. But I did, I got fully stuck in my head about it - and was desperate (yes, the D word) to try again.
Over the next few weeks she totally ignored me, wouldn't respond to my calls, or messages. I didn't expect her to - but I practically begged her to give it another chance with me. But she had totally shut down, and in her (later) words "she was never going to speak to me again." She did, eventually, after a few weeks, respond to me. We talked, I apologized, tried to explain that she was the world to me, and I knew I had made a massive mistake, and desperately wanted a chance to try again - to make things right.
She agreed, eventually. We met up for dinner, and slowly talked things out - I was still honestly pretty upset, but we kept seeing each other, started making it a point to go on dates, to get to know each other again. She believed I had cheated on her, that I had met another woman and that this had all been a pretext ... I caught her going through my phone after I got out of the shower. There was nothing to find, but I couldn't believe that she still, after years together, suspected I had been unfaithful to her. But that was just a bump in the road, we talked it out. Things seemed to be getting better. We shared an amazing thanksgiving together, and I genuinely felt like we had turned a corner and were as close as we had ever been ... so did she.
The next Monday, at work, she got another concussion - worse than the first. From this point on, her entire personality shifted ... Which I have learned, in the months that followed, is just something that can happen with head trauma. She didn't want to spend time together nearly as much, she fully retreated into herself, and her family. She wouldn't come visit at all anymore - even if I was willing to pick her up / drop her off ... she would only agree to meet for platonic dinners at a halfway point between our houses. She started seeing a doctor, a neurologist, doing PT work ... but she just kept seeming to get further and further away. If I invited her over, she was always want to know if my roomate's g/f "might" be there, or if we'd be alone ... and if there was even a chance this girl would be there (even though we could spend time in my room, or in the common living room without interference) - my ex would just stay home.
Six or seven months of this went by ... we kept sort of drifting apart, and it seemed like no matter how much I tried to communicate, or bridge the divide between us (which, to be honest, it felt like I was doing 3/4 of the work to keep this thing going) - we just kept drifting. After her second concussion, we stopped being intimate all together ... she was still convinced I had been with other women while we were apart, and demanded I get tested for STDs for her to trust me again. I let my pride get in the way, and should just have done it - but I had not been with or dated anyone else in the few weeks we were apart, and I couldn't get over that she still wouldn't trust me at my word.. after almost 4 years together, I still had to prove myself.
But I didn't, I was stubborn and dug my heels in - so our last potential shot at intimacy evaporated. We became basically platonic buddies ... we still loved each other, said we loved on another every day - but I always felt like I was chasing her, hoping for some kind of emotional connection or breakthrough or common ground that never manifested. By the time July rolled around, I was a total mess ... I felt completely alone, isolated, and like the person I knew and loved had drifted off, and there wasn't a way to get her back. For two months I said that I was really struggling, I was feeling really disconnected and that I missed her all the time - that I wanted to get back to baseline but didn't know how, and that I wanted her help or guidance. She said she felt like she was gradually getting back to where she started, but had no clear picture of how long that might take, and couldn't give me any kind of definitive answer if things would get better again - or how things might get better again.
It never happened. With another month-long work event looming on the horizon, and my stress levels climbing and climbing, I felt like I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown. Eventually, after one of our platonic dates, I had a full on breakdown, and tearfully told her how isolated I was feeling, how I felt like I'd lost her, and how I felt totally clueless how to fix things. She had no ideas to offer, no guidance on how to navigate any of this, and no suggestions how to get back to some kind of baseline. It all poured out from both sides ... she didn't feel like she could trust me ever since we'd got back together, I felt like she neve really let me back in. But we both agreed that that one thanksgiving had been amazing ... and we wished we could find a way back to that place - but had no idea how.
I told her I needed a month, or two, I needed to start seeing a therapist, I needed to put myself back together because I felt like I was falling apart. I told her I wished that we could take a breathe - and come back on more solid footing because I had fucked up when I broke things off before. I had come back from a place of sadness and desperation - and had not given either of us a chance to heal before trying to undo the damage I'd caused. I wanted to meet her on even footing, from a place of mutual strength and try again ...
To her, this was just me breaking up with her again.. which I tried to say "no, I don't want to lose you, but I'm fucked up and need to just right the ship a bit in my life because I am totally losing it ..." But, sometimes it doesn't matter. To her, I was leaving her again, giving up. I had no idea if she'd speak to me again, but I felt so broken I didn't know what else to do.
I took two months, without contact, and started seeing a therapist, started exercising again, got through my hell-month at work. I tried reaching out again to her, multiple times after that ... but I never heard back. A few months went by - I missed her more and more, I didn't heal or get better, I didn't feel like I'd done the right thing. My friends told me I had, my family was supportive - my friends especially have told me time and time again that ultimately, I did the right thing, that I did what was right 'for me' ... but to me, the reassurance didn't matter. There was a giant, gaping hole in my life that I had no idea what to do with. This was a woman I had wanted to marry, that I had wanted to life with, to build and share a life with -> and at one point, I know she wanted the same. I felt so terrible, and couldn't handle the memories of the place I was in, that I resigned from my job (which was ok, it was a horrible grind, that while it paid ok, didn't have any kind of upward mobility) .. and after a lot of thought, I moved back across the country because it was too painful for me to be in that place, surrounded by the memories - living with the ghosts. My friend group had been slowly dispersing, getting new jobs in new cities, having kids and getting on with life - and I didn't see a reason to stay anymore. I debated reaching out to my ex to let her know I was moving - but it had been months without a word, she had not responded to any of my attempts to talk to her, to meet her even for coffee, or to return the few things of hers I still had - and I knew that if I did reach out - it would ultimately be a selfish act, hoping that somehow she might say 'oh no, he's leaving for good' ... so I didn't. I'm still not sure if she knows I left.
I've been saying with family, slowly putting the pieces of my life back together. I'm taking classes, and plan on switching careers into a new field that I may actually am passionate about. I'll find my own place again in a month or two, but truth is I missed my family dearly, and have been helping both my aging parents with years of neglected repairs and yard work - and seeing my siblings and their families again after a decade of living on the opposite coast and getting to see them 'maybe' once a year around the holidays. Plus after paying insane rent to random landlords for over a decade, its been nice to have a few months of feeling grounded, and to put work into where I'm living. My family has been thrilled, and glad to have me around again.
But it's made no difference, really. I still think of her every day. Some days are easier than others, and I can manage to stay focused on classes and work and fitness - but in so many ways my life feels totally hollow now. I'm stuck wondering if I completely fucked up a good thing, and wasted what might have been my last shot at starting a family of my own, of having a real partner. I'm 41, realistically my chances get slimmer by the year. Or maybe I did totally the right thing, and I got out of a degenerating situation that had been nagging at me for months and months that something was deeply wrong. Or maybe it was somewhere in between those two poles. There's no way to know, and I'm limited to my own side, and my own perspective - and trapped in that middle ground of wondering how things "MIGHT" have gone had X Y or Z happened differently. I wish I had some kind of clarity, or certainty, but I don't.
I guess things are getting a bit easier, as the days and weeks and months go by - but its only by fractions of a degree. I miss her, or maybe just miss the person she used to be, if that person still exists. Head trauma is ... complicated - because the person looks the same, sounds the same ... but the person you knew, the person you fell in love with, isn't really the same person anymore. Its almost like, mourning the death of someone who is still alive, if that makes sense.
So here I am, taking it one day at a time, hoping for some brighter tomorrow, some slow healing or revelation or clarity that I did the right thing - but all I have are doubts. There's no closure to be found because all I ever got was silence. I've done everything people have recommended - focused on myself, focused on health and fitness, focus on learning new skills, on meeting new people, gone on dates, focused on family, focused on growing -> but it hasn't helped the giant, gaping hole in my life, and the never-ending uncertainty.
I expect no sympathy, or empathy ... and knowing reddit, I'll get a lot of people piling on to tell me what a piece of shit I am, lol'ing at how I fucked up my own life, and telling me she's better off without me. But then again sometimes even Reddit can surprise you with the insightful and thoughtful responses. More than anything, I just wanted to write this down somewhere, anywhere - to get it out of my head and my heart. Because the more it stews, the worse I feel. Thanks for reading, if you managed to make it this far.. its a long, messy, meandering story without any real ending. Will I hear from her again? Probably not. Will I get over her? Eventually I'm sure ... but what happens between now and then is anyone's guess. What ever it is, it'll happen on day, one moment at a time.
tldr; sometimes things just end - without someone cheating, or abusing the other person, or any real good way to sum it up. Life and relationships are long, complicated, nuanced and messy. Take care all, appreciate what you have while you have it, take it one day at a time
2024.05.16 22:36 SpiritedTelevision89 Am I Actually Trans?
This is a little tangent-y, so I apologize. For context, I (AFAB20) have had questions about my gender identity since I was 14.
I always felt as though I identified more with male characters in TV, movies, book, and other media, and I've always preferred hanging out with my brother's friends and being considered "one of the guys," which I know doesn't automatically make me trans, but I cut my hair off when I was 15 and the difference in how I felt was immediately noticeable.
I never told anyone back then, partly because I hadn't ever personally met anyone who openly identified as trans so the concept was still unfamiliar to me and therefore I was under the impression that maybe I was just a tom-boy as I had frequently been called as a child, and partly because I was still content to exist as a girl. As I mentioned, I was a tom-boy for most of my childhood, so the majority of my clothing lacked any traditionally feminine traits, I didn't yet wear make-up, and the majority of my friends were either equally as tom-boy-ish girls or guys that me and my brother were mutually friends with.
As I got older, however, I did more research into gender identity and was exposed to a larger variety of queer-identifying people, and the discontentment began to grow.
I would start to grow my hair out with the intention of returning to a more feminine appearance, but once my hair reached a certain length I would begin to detest the way it made me look and inevitably I would have it cut short again. The same thing happened with the clothes I wore. My older sister gifted me some of her hand-me-downs, and I tried to enjoy wearing them because they made me look like other teenage girls, but I ultimately hated the way they accentuated the female characteristics of my body. Make-up followed the same pattern.
I tried speaking to a friend about it, but he told me to consider that perhaps I was just frustrated and unsettled by the way women are treated in the world, and it was manifesting in a way that made me believe it would just be easier if I were a guy. I, whether for better or worse, accepted that as being the truth and continued to keep quiet about it.
I continued to attempt to present more femininely, consistently managing to convince myself that I was happy as a girl if it meant getting to live the life I knew was easiest, but without fail I would always revert back to presenting more masculine and without fail it always made me feel the most comfortable in my own skin.
When I was 17, I finally spoke up about it again to some other friends and they each helped me organize my thoughts and try to process what exactly it was that I was feeling. They encouraged me to be open and honest, reassured me that they wouldn't judge me because I was at an age when self-discovery was just as important as it was confusing, and helped me realize that maybe I really was trans.
I continued to present masculine for a while, gave excuses to anyone who asked about it, and just existed. Close friends started using male pronouns for me when we spoke one-on-one or online, and it made me feel so incredibly happy, that I decided to come out a few months later when I was 18.
This lasted a month.
I told my mom in person, and she said, "I believe this is what you think you are right now." She didn't say anything else, and I know I should be thankful that that's all it was, but it still felt like a slap in the face— just a roundabout way of telling me it was a phase that I'd get over.
I was too afraid to tell my dad in person after that, so I made a post online. He never saw it, or at least never acknowledged it. So I sent him the link through text. He responded with, "I didn't want to make a big deal out if it because I didn't think you'd want me to." He then proceeded to never acknowledge it again.
A month after the initial coming out (which I had been so proud of myself for), the constant anxiety that came from wondering what my family was secretly saying about me became too much and I rescinded it all and went back into the closet.
I haven't come out again since, but a few close friends still know about how I feel and continue to support and encourage me in private.
I'm used to being perceived as a woman because that's what I've been my whole life, and I think I've been in the closet for such a long time that I've resigned myself to continue living this way, so I guess my question is does that make me not trans? I can convince myself that being a woman is what makes me happy, but I know deep down that I will always want to be a man. At the same time, I've been told that if I'm not depressed or suicidal about not being able to transition either socially or surgically, that means I'm not actually trans.
Does it hurt not being able to live the way I want? Absolutely. Does it hurt knowing I've been able to educate my parents about trans folk since then, but they still refuse to ever acknowledge my own coming out from a couple years ago? Absolutely. Would I come out and begin the process of transitioning if I could financially support myself on my own and ensure I'd be able to leave if I needed to? Absolutely.
I'm just not sure if actually being able to exist as I want is in the cards for me, I guess.
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I always felt as though I identified more with male characters in TV, movies, book, and other media, and I've always preferred hanging out with my brother's friends and being considered "one of the guys," which I know doesn't automatically make me trans, but I cut my hair off when I was 15 and the difference in how I felt was immediately noticeable.
I never told anyone back then, partly because I hadn't ever personally met anyone who openly identified as trans so the concept was still unfamiliar to me and therefore I was under the impression that maybe I was just a tom-boy as I had frequently been called as a child, and partly because I was still content to exist as a girl. As I mentioned, I was a tom-boy for most of my childhood, so the majority of my clothing lacked any traditionally feminine traits, I didn't yet wear make-up, and the majority of my friends were either equally as tom-boy-ish girls or guys that me and my brother were mutually friends with.
As I got older, however, I did more research into gender identity and was exposed to a larger variety of queer-identifying people, and the discontentment began to grow.
I would start to grow my hair out with the intention of returning to a more feminine appearance, but once my hair reached a certain length I would begin to detest the way it made me look and inevitably I would have it cut short again. The same thing happened with the clothes I wore. My older sister gifted me some of her hand-me-downs, and I tried to enjoy wearing them because they made me look like other teenage girls, but I ultimately hated the way they accentuated the female characteristics of my body. Make-up followed the same pattern.
I tried speaking to a friend about it, but he told me to consider that perhaps I was just frustrated and unsettled by the way women are treated in the world, and it was manifesting in a way that made me believe it would just be easier if I were a guy. I, whether for better or worse, accepted that as being the truth and continued to keep quiet about it.
I continued to attempt to present more femininely, consistently managing to convince myself that I was happy as a girl if it meant getting to live the life I knew was easiest, but without fail I would always revert back to presenting more masculine and without fail it always made me feel the most comfortable in my own skin.
When I was 17, I finally spoke up about it again to some other friends and they each helped me organize my thoughts and try to process what exactly it was that I was feeling. They encouraged me to be open and honest, reassured me that they wouldn't judge me because I was at an age when self-discovery was just as important as it was confusing, and helped me realize that maybe I really was trans.
I continued to present masculine for a while, gave excuses to anyone who asked about it, and just existed. Close friends started using male pronouns for me when we spoke one-on-one or online, and it made me feel so incredibly happy, that I decided to come out a few months later when I was 18.
This lasted a month.
I told my mom in person, and she said, "I believe this is what you think you are right now." She didn't say anything else, and I know I should be thankful that that's all it was, but it still felt like a slap in the face— just a roundabout way of telling me it was a phase that I'd get over.
I was too afraid to tell my dad in person after that, so I made a post online. He never saw it, or at least never acknowledged it. So I sent him the link through text. He responded with, "I didn't want to make a big deal out if it because I didn't think you'd want me to." He then proceeded to never acknowledge it again.
A month after the initial coming out (which I had been so proud of myself for), the constant anxiety that came from wondering what my family was secretly saying about me became too much and I rescinded it all and went back into the closet.
I haven't come out again since, but a few close friends still know about how I feel and continue to support and encourage me in private.
I'm used to being perceived as a woman because that's what I've been my whole life, and I think I've been in the closet for such a long time that I've resigned myself to continue living this way, so I guess my question is does that make me not trans? I can convince myself that being a woman is what makes me happy, but I know deep down that I will always want to be a man. At the same time, I've been told that if I'm not depressed or suicidal about not being able to transition either socially or surgically, that means I'm not actually trans.
Does it hurt not being able to live the way I want? Absolutely. Does it hurt knowing I've been able to educate my parents about trans folk since then, but they still refuse to ever acknowledge my own coming out from a couple years ago? Absolutely. Would I come out and begin the process of transitioning if I could financially support myself on my own and ensure I'd be able to leave if I needed to? Absolutely.
I'm just not sure if actually being able to exist as I want is in the cards for me, I guess.
2024.05.16 22:17 vintagedispositi0n Late 2000s-Early 2010s TVO Kids Shows, Song, and Flashgames
I grew up watching a lot of TVO kids and playing their games online in the late 2000s/early 2010s (I am 18). There are a number of things I remember but have been unable to find, so would love some help. I’ll provide as much info as I can!!
TV SHOWS:
-Jackie’s School of Dance: there is an IMBD up for this one, but I can’t find any footage. It would play in between full length shows, and featured this girl Jackie teaching you different dances in colour themed rooms (ie: the white room or the red room). My cousin and I were dancers and found this show hilarious when we were about 8-10.
-Cave Man Manners: Unsure of the actual title of this show, or if it played on the channel. My cousin and i discovered it on the website and found it very funny. Basically it was just about a caveman learning manners. I believe it had a narrator talking over to him as if it were an instructional video. Think the SpongeBob is episode with the Krusty Krab training video.
SONGS: these played on the channel in between shows.
-A song about the province of Ontario: I am certain it had the lyrics “Come on let’s go to a place I know, in Ontario where the green grass grows”. Acoustic guitar was in the background. -Most of the older songs from this time period I am unable to find, and I would love to see any of them. “Get Silly” and “Keep on moving” are two from this era that are on YouTube, but they had all sorts of songs on their programming block that seem to be lost now
FLASHGAMES:
-One where you put characters on to a stage to make them play in a rock band. Standard 2D animation, I believe it featured the TVO kids hosts of the time period. Was definitely up as early as 2010 as this is when I recall playing it with my older brother.
-Series of mystery themed games that taught you about grammar and spelling: I remember in one it had a song about verbs on a record player. It opened with “a verb is an action word”, and then began listing off verbs like “I jumped I ran, etc”. I remember the end went “and then it rained, I ___ (can’t remember which verb they used here), i skipped, I skipped, I skipped” as the record began to skip.
This is all I can think of right now. Please help me out and let me know if these are out there right under my nose!
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TV SHOWS:
-Jackie’s School of Dance: there is an IMBD up for this one, but I can’t find any footage. It would play in between full length shows, and featured this girl Jackie teaching you different dances in colour themed rooms (ie: the white room or the red room). My cousin and I were dancers and found this show hilarious when we were about 8-10.
-Cave Man Manners: Unsure of the actual title of this show, or if it played on the channel. My cousin and i discovered it on the website and found it very funny. Basically it was just about a caveman learning manners. I believe it had a narrator talking over to him as if it were an instructional video. Think the SpongeBob is episode with the Krusty Krab training video.
SONGS: these played on the channel in between shows.
-A song about the province of Ontario: I am certain it had the lyrics “Come on let’s go to a place I know, in Ontario where the green grass grows”. Acoustic guitar was in the background. -Most of the older songs from this time period I am unable to find, and I would love to see any of them. “Get Silly” and “Keep on moving” are two from this era that are on YouTube, but they had all sorts of songs on their programming block that seem to be lost now
FLASHGAMES:
-One where you put characters on to a stage to make them play in a rock band. Standard 2D animation, I believe it featured the TVO kids hosts of the time period. Was definitely up as early as 2010 as this is when I recall playing it with my older brother.
-Series of mystery themed games that taught you about grammar and spelling: I remember in one it had a song about verbs on a record player. It opened with “a verb is an action word”, and then began listing off verbs like “I jumped I ran, etc”. I remember the end went “and then it rained, I ___ (can’t remember which verb they used here), i skipped, I skipped, I skipped” as the record began to skip.
This is all I can think of right now. Please help me out and let me know if these are out there right under my nose!
2024.05.16 22:15 Corporal_Cavernosa Real Racing 3(v12.4) 24 Hours of Le Mans Update
Real Racing 3 - 24h of Le Mans
Get behind the wheel of unlimited power as the hybrid engine of the Ferrari 499P roars to life on the tarmac! Experience the class-dominating powerhouse that is the Oreca 07 LMP2 as it speeds across the tracks.New cars
| Car | Performance Rating | Service Time | Cost |
|---|---|---|---|
| Oreca 07 LMP2 | 78.5 -> 94.6 | 3 hours | M$2,500,000 |
| Ferrari 499P | 90.9 -> 109.7 | 3 hours | M$2,750,000 |
ROUND 7 Begins
This update marks the beginning of ROUND 7, bringing new cars, events, and prizes to earn by collecting VP!ROUND 7
Start date: 20 May 2024
Last day to start events in this round (without owning the car in the event): 01 Jul 2024
Grand Prize: BMW M2 Competition
Alternative Grand Prize: 75 Gold
Old Rounds Are Expiring
Your time is running out to complete the Round 3 of Season 3! The following Round is going to be disappearing from the game soon:SEASON 3 ROUND 3 - 16th July 2024
New Special Events
| Special Event | Start Date | Duration | Rewards |
|---|---|---|---|
| FAST AND FERRARI | June 12, 2024 | 5 days | Ferrari 499P, M$170,000, 70 Gold, 6,500VP |
Flashback Events
| Flashback Event | Start Date | Duration | Rewards | Alternate Rewards |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| LE MANS: FERRARI | May 28, 2024 | 7 days | Ferrari 488 GTE (2016), 40 Gold, R$100,000, 5,000VP | 15 Gold, R$40,000, 5,000VP |
| Pinnacle of Performance | June 18, 2024 | 7 days | McLaren Senna GTR, 60 Gold, R$150,000, 5,000VP | 25 Gold, R$45,000, 5,000VP |
New Limited Time Events
| Limited Series | Start Date | Duration | Rewards | Max Required PR |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Oreca 07 LMP2 Limited Series | May 20, 2024 | 7 days | Oreca 07 LMP2, 60 Gold, M$150,000, 5,250VP | 90.6 |
| BMW M6 GT3 Limited Series | June 5, 2024 | 7 days | BMW M6 GT3, 70 Gold, R$200,000, 5,250VP | 79.6 |
| Chevrolet Corvette C7 ZR1 Limited Series | June 25, 2024 | 7 days | Chevrolet Corvette C7 ZR1, 55 Gold, R$100,000, 5,250VP | 63.7 |
| Time Trial Competition | Cars | Rewards | Start Date | End Date |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Rimac Nevera vs. Lotus Evija TTC | RIMAC NEVERA, Lotus Evija | 1,000 VP, up to 100 Gold | June 3, 2024 | June 16, 2024 |
| Ferrari 812 Superfast vs. McLaren F1 GTR TTC | Ferrari 812 Superfast, McLaren F1 GTR | 1,000 VP, up to 100 Gold | June 18, 2024 | July 1, 2024 |
New Bonus Series
| Bonus Series | Cars | Rewards | Location | Unlocks From | Max Required PR |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 2023 LMDh Champions Series | Ferrari 499P | 75 Gold, M$75,000 | ENDURANCE PROTOTYPES | FAST AND FERRARI | 107.5 |
| LMP2 2023 Season | Oreca 07 LMP2 | 75 Gold, M$75,000 | ENDURANCE PROTOTYPES | Oreca 07 LMP2 Limited Series | 92.8 |
| Battle for Le Mans | Oreca 07 LMP2,BMW M HYBRID V8,Acura ARX-06,Porsche 963 LMDh, Ferrari 499P | 86 Gold, M$86,000 | ENDURANCE PROTOTYPES | Unlock Porsche 963 LMDh, BMW M Hybrid V8, Acura ARX 06, Ferrari 499P, Oreca 07 LMP2 | 102.0 |
New Exclusive Series
| Exclusive Series | Rewards |
|---|---|
| Lotus Emira | 80 Gold, R$150,000 |
Weekly Time Trial Schedule
| Week | Start Date | End Date | Cars |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | May 20, 2024 | May 27, 2024 | McLaren 12C Spider (loaned), McLaren F1 GTR, McLaren 765LT |
| 2 | May 28, 2024 | June 3, 2024 | Koenigsegg Agera R (loaned), Koenigsegg Jesko, Koenigsegg Jesko Absolut |
| 3 | June 4, 2024 | June 10, 2024 | Porsche 718 RSK (loaned), Chevrolet Stingray 427 (1969), Lamborghini Countach |
| 4.1 | June 11, 2024 | June 12, 2024 | Ferrari 488 GTE Evo (AF Corse) (loaned), Ford GT Le Mans (2019) (loaned), Porsche 911 RSR (2018) (loaned) |
| 4.2 | June 13, 2024 | June 14, 2024 | Audi R18 e-tron quattro (2014) (loaned), TOYOTA TS040 Hybrid (2014) (loaned), Porsche 919 Hybrid (2014) (loaned) |
| 4.3 | June 15, 2024 | June 17, 2024 | Oreca 07 LMP2 (loaned), Acura ARX-06, BMW M HYBRID V8, Porsche 963 LMDh, Ferrari 499P |
| 5 | June 12, 2024 | June 24, 2024 | Mazda RX-3 (loaned), NISSAN 240Z (S30), Audi quattro B2 |
| 6 | June 25, 2024 | July 1, 2024 | BMW Driving Experience M4 Racing (loaned), Mercedes-AMG C 63 Touring Car (loaned), Porsche 911 GT3 R (loaned) |
Online Multiplayer Schedule
| Week | Start Date | End Date | Cars |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | May 20, 2024 | May 27, 2024 | Jaguar XE SV Project 8 (loaned), McLaren Senna, Ferrari FXX K Evo |
| 2 | May 28, 2024 | June 3, 2024 | NISSAN SILVIA (S15) R3 Spec (loaned), Ford SHELBY GT350R R3 Spec, Lamborghini HURACÁN R3 Spec |
| 3 | June 4, 2024 | June 10, 2024 | Mercedes-AMG A 45 (loaned), Aston Martin Vantage 59, Acura NSX Type S |
| 4 | June 11, 2024 | June 17, 2024 | Alfa Romeo 155 V6 TI (loaned), SPADA Codatronca Barchetta, Lotus 3-Eleven |
| 5 | June 18, 2024 | June 24, 2024 | Porsche 718 Cayman GT4 Clubsport (loaned), Porsche 911 GT3 RSR (997), Bentley Continental GT3 |
| 6 | June 55, 2024 | July 1, 2024 | Ford Mustang GT Premium (loaned), Ferrari F430, Chevrolet Corvette Stingray C8 |
2024.05.16 21:36 ProjectCaffeinePills [osu!std and osu!mania] Ivaxa Possible Cheating and Multiaccounting
Ivaxa has been well known for his high BPM stream plays along with his obscene singletapping skills over the course of a few weeks at the time of writing. His most notable achievement is his S rank on Deceit [pishi’s Extra] +DT (Score) (Replay). However there is some unusual behavior that Ivaxa has that should be looked into. This thread will look into quite a few cases of these weird findings.
As of the current date, May 16th, 2024, we have collected enough information to submit our public review of Ivaxa’s activity. We are asking the osu! staff and other independent researchers to validate our information and proof-check every single aspect of it. If our findings would be proven to be incorrect and/or not substantial - that's completely fine. Our goal is not to just blindly accuse but to establish the truth.
This document contains currently collected information about Ivaxa, his scores, profiles, and potential connections to other “alt” accounts in the game. We, as an independent team, are trying to establish the legitimacy or lack thereof of said player.
As always, harassment of any of the people mentioned/involved in the report is inappropriate. Please be civil when partaking in the discussion.
Replays, and VODs can be found in a google drive at the end of the thread so you can investigate and see moments listed in the thread yourself.
But first, here's a few things to consider:
The Deceit +DT
There are a few things to mention about this score. The first is an unusual UR bar behavior from 91076 ms (~1 minute 31 seconds) to 93123 ms (~1 minute 33 seconds). The UR bar looks like this in the end. This type of UR bar behavior is often found in 125 hz keyboards with a map that has a BPM that is a multiple of 125 (125 BPM, 250 BPM, 375 BPM, etc.). However, Ivaxa doesn’t use a 125hz keyboard or keypad, he uses one that is rated at 8000hz. This is rather unusual since this type of UR is only found in this section of the map only. Also, if he were to play on a 125hz keyboard/keypad, the type of UR that was shown above would be all over the map since the Deceit with DT is mostly 375 BPM.
The second would be his aim, particularly at around 1885 combo, his cursor shakes at an abnormal magnitude from the rest of the map. This shake can be caused by nerves, tapping strain of the left hand, or a mix of both. But, Ivaxa’s alleged sensitivity is so low that the shake that has been shown in the replay is either really hard to do or impossible.
Gotta go Fast +DTSO
This score has one thing that is quite suspicious. at 47582 ms (~48 seconds) into the map, an awkward edge hit is found where he over-aimed and seemingly snapped back to the circle. This kind of edge hit is something that a normal osu! player wouldn’t be able to hit entirely, especially at the speed at which the map is being played at. Another edge hit can be found in the same map at 28852 ms (~29 seconds), where the cursor doesn’t naturally curve at the end, instead snapping to the edge of the circle. Both cases may allude to the usage of some sort of aim assist.
Metal Crusher +DT
There are two things to note about this score, the first is some unusual cursor movement at the ending section of the map. Ivaxa’s cursor slightly follows the slider at 59128 ms (~59 seconds), and another right after at 60400 ms (~one minute). Movement like this paired with the speed at which the map is being played at just seems unusual/suspicious.
There are also five edge hits within the map, four out of the five edge hits are at the very edge of a circle. The probability of hitting these types of edge hits is rather low, especially when there are four of them in one map.
Edge Hit #1: https://i.imgur.com/g3VlDoz.png
Edge Hit #2: https://i.imgur.com/vpTKuw7.png
Edge Hit #3: https://i.imgur.com/oQiEwVR.png
Edge Hit #4: https://i.imgur.com/nJyVbiq.png
Edge Hit #5: https://i.imgur.com/MN9MfwN.png
Sendan Life +DTHD
There is something to be said about some of the 100’s that Ivaxa is hitting. More specifically some 100’s within a few of the maps that have been observed so far are very near the barrier of being a 300 hit regardless of whether the note is early or late (https://i.imgur.com/cxFSdjf.png, https://i.imgur.com/bHLurZn.png). The sayu is precise enough to actually hit these types of 100’s, however it feels like these have occurred too often, so much so that this play has half of the 100’s in the map has these “edge 100’s,” for a lack of a better term. There are also two 100’s (100 #1 and 100 #2) that have been hit at exactly the same lateness/timing.
100 #1: https://i.imgur.com/KR4BhWe.png
100 #2: https://i.imgur.com/pzg7zMn.png
100 #3: https://i.imgur.com/z5qIocV.png
100 #4: https://i.imgur.com/pgEBsKK.png
100 #5: https://i.imgur.com/rQ50Uhs.png
100 #6: https://i.imgur.com/oMkQ3O5.png
Stream title: #18 #2PL we back boys PL/ENG
At 15:37, Ivaxa is seen to be double tapping 270 bpm streams even though he S ranked the Deceit with DT around three days after said stream (390 BPM). At 49:15 mins of the same stream: he is seen to singletap 191 BPM streams, probably because he was warm when playing at his point.
Stream title: #17 #2PL Yomi yori 3 mod pass happening right now wtf,
On March 31st, 2024, on the VOD where he S ranked The Deceit +DT, at the end of the VOD at 2:58:42 Ivaxa is seen singletapping a 390 BPM burst. After which he paused the game and blamed Steam notifications. Despite the bottom half of his monitor being visible on stream through the webcam, where no steam notifications or pop-ups are visible, he then opened Steam to "change notifications settings.'' After allegedly changing the settings, his cursor trajectory on the visible parts of the monitor on stream tells us that he moved the mouse from the top most left corner, while usually Steam settings are located in a pop-up window at the center of the screen. Afterwards His stream allegedly "crashed."
To see the moment, play the following .mp4 file: 20240331 #17 #2PL Yomi yori 3 mod pass happening right now wtf Part 3 and go to the near end.
Stream title: #9 #2PL if i want to i'll farm req closed
On April 7th, 2024 Ivaxa showed on the osu! Game discord server that he is able to singletap 191 BPM (better picture of the graph), however six days later after the message, on his stream on April 13th, 2024 Ivaxa showed that he was able to singletap PoNo’s Yomi Yori 220 BPM streams at the end. This type of BPM jump in such a short amount of time can only be reasoned with by hardware abuse via rapid trigger. Either that, or some sort of relax hack that assists the player in tapping.
The Mulitiaccount & Play Count Graphs
Pipecat is the suspected multiaccount. First of all, both Pipecat and Ivaxa are placed 1st and 2nd on the osu!mania leaderboard in Lower Silesian Voivodeship, Poland (This is done by using osu! subdivide nations). Both play count graphs also seem to compensate for each other as of 2024, April 4th (the graph for Ivaxa has been warped in order to have a better visualization).
Time-pp Scatter Chart & Best Performances
The same thing happens with their Best Performance Time-pp Scatter Chart from ameobea/osu!track (Pipecat's Mania Chart and Ivaxa's Mania Chart non warped). Both graphs seem to compensate for each other, especially at around the month of March, as of 2024, April 5th (again, Ivaxa's chart has been warped for better visualization of score submissions).
Speaking of pp, both accounts have similar maps in their best performances list (Ivaxa is on the left, Pipecat on the right). If you want to see more, just check their mania profiles.
This may ask the reason as to why Ivaxa hasn’t played any vsrg (Vertical Scrolling Rhythm Game), and yet his performance in mania is abnormal for his time played. As seen from the play count graph from above, Ivaxa would’ve most likely played mania first on the Pipecat account, and then proceeded to play mania again on the other.
Names/Naming Scheme & Last Seen
Their naming scheme can also be taken into account as, Ivaxa’s name was inspired by Vaxei, and Pipecat was inspired by Whitecat.
It is also worth noting that Ivaxa and Pipecat’s Last Seen times are near each other, being more or less one hour apart from each other.
https://i.imgur.com/uVucqXr.png
https://i.imgur.com/lYh4Gbb.png
For ease of understanding the entry's level of absurdity, we marked them with color tags. The marking process for each entry was completely subjective so even the most absurd ones could be a potential aid for independent investigators/osu! staff as an additional lead where we “hit the wall.”
Fact: Could be used as a potential lead
Fact + Assumption: Not substantial enough to be included in previous sections/Assumption
Pure Speculation: Completely speculative fact/information
Fact: BayOfEvil (Ivaxa’s old username), does have an osu!report on it, although the report isn’t very helpful. One of the thread's replies includes a Discord recording with Ivaxa playing as “proof” of him being legit. This should be investigated further (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cVQDdw1SSLs).
Fact: Ivaxa’s Mania score on Ne uchi +DT was set 22 days after his no-mod score.
Fact: In Pipecat's osu profile a discord server can be found (https://discord.gg/jkMydV3PTB), upon searching "Ivaxa" the only two mentions of the name is from the user Pipecat (https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/577365869949354025/1225631393820708914/image0.jpg?ex=6621d52f&is=660f602f&hm=e3589cb93e9ffb2b7c0ef7ffbdedcc3b09df919a7082d11468035ff4f4f6e65e&).
Fact: Guitar to Kodou to Aoi Hoshi: Edge hit at the very edge at 202358 ms (~3 minutes 22 seconds) (https://i.imgur.com/PAWsyh7.png) Similar to the edge hit on FUCK YOU.
Fact + Assumption: FUCK YOU: Very erratic cursor movement at 4485 ms (~4.5 seconds) (https://i.imgur.com/mkRw4Ki.png) combined with his sensitivity and the map’s speed, this is basically impossible. Also he's been under-aiming a lot in this map but that might just be me. There is also an edge hit at the very edge at 60301 ms (~1 min) (https://i.imgur.com/GFxZctS.png), which can be questioned.
Fact + Assumption: Gotta go Fast HDDTHR: The UR bar is acting the same way that was observed with the deceit score from above (Gotta go Fast: https://i.imgur.com/ywA8XAu.png, Deceit: https://imgur.com/cbUtzya). With both maps being 375 BPM with DT, Ivaxa may or may not have used the same method of cheating if he is.
Fact + Assumption: Stream title: #18 #2PL we back boys PL/ENG, at 15:37 mins, Ivaxa is seen to be double tapping 270 bpm streams even though he S ranked the Deceit with DT around three days after said stream (390 BPM).
Fact + Assumption: A Thread created by sampierat on twitter: https://vxtwitter.com/sampierat/status/1775216723743875457?s=20
Pure Speculation: During a congregation, several people have noted/proposed that Ivaxa may or may not be using three keys in order to stream higher bpm’s, using a software that alternates the middle key (since he plays ring-index) between key 1 and key 2 to insure that nothing is suspicious with his tapping count.
Pure Speculation: We condone an anonymous survey inside the mania community, including some of the top players, regular 4k, 7k, and 8k players, and some tournament organizers. Most of the participants agree that Ivaxa’s progression and improvement curve is abnormal.
Pure Speculation: Stream title: #18 #2PL we back boys PL/ENG, within the first hour of the stream, Ivaxa is seen to have completely lost his aim (44:46 min), even though he nearly fc'd Brazil on Fiery's Extreme with HDHRDT ten days prior to the stream. Although this evidence may not be as substantial as the others because of retry spamming Brazil.
Pure Speculation: The earliest known screenshots of Ivaxa grinding The Deceit Pishi's Extra, was on 2023, December 22nd (https://twitter.com/Ivaxaosu/status/1738245663631024453, https://twitter.com/Ivaxaosu/status/1738268599129632811, He later achieved an S rank on 2024, March 31st. He would've grinded the map for the past 3 months, however his play count seems to not reflect the grind, only having 237 plays as of 2024, April 5th (https://i.imgur.com/dg4HdSl.png).
Pure Speculation: https://youtu.be/Isp233epRAA the hands, and tapping technique may be similar to Ivaxa.
Pure Speculation: Potential lead/connection between Ivaxa and Pipecat could be found via steam accounts.
Ivaxa’s has two steam accounts (Both Steam profiles were sent to aknzx at one point):
Pure Speculation: Pipecat is recording videos on his Youtube channel using both a PC and a Laptop. The PC is running Windows 11, and the Laptop is running Windows 10. This Could be a potential lead.
It is suggested/encouraged that you look into this yourself.
We’ve also included one of the “VOD analyzer” test result files, which includes cursor positions from an analyzed stream segment (#11 #2PL 1.3k pp achieved). It was a completely custom-coded solution that analyzed the video frame by frame but it wasn’t used during the investigation, so we are unsure about the accuracy of the cursor detection.
Input data:
Approximate osu! playfield area on a 1920x1080 monitor:
Google Drive: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1LTDABXcFHSJnk5KNfHWdH1XPJwcdf4S1?usp=sharing
Streams Timeline
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As of the current date, May 16th, 2024, we have collected enough information to submit our public review of Ivaxa’s activity. We are asking the osu! staff and other independent researchers to validate our information and proof-check every single aspect of it. If our findings would be proven to be incorrect and/or not substantial - that's completely fine. Our goal is not to just blindly accuse but to establish the truth.
This document contains currently collected information about Ivaxa, his scores, profiles, and potential connections to other “alt” accounts in the game. We, as an independent team, are trying to establish the legitimacy or lack thereof of said player.
As always, harassment of any of the people mentioned/involved in the report is inappropriate. Please be civil when partaking in the discussion.
Replays, and VODs can be found in a google drive at the end of the thread so you can investigate and see moments listed in the thread yourself.
But first, here's a few things to consider:
- Ivaxa’s mouse is a HyperX Pulsefire Haste 2, he allegedly plays on 800 DPI with a 0.62x sens multiplier on osu!. The only reason as to why it’s alleged is because of his recent streams, his sensitivity seems higher than it actually is.
- He plays with a Sayu O3C keypad that runs at 8000hz (Peripheral information can be found from Ivaxa’s Twitch channel.)
- He is able to singletap 191 BPM streams consistently.
- Ivaxa used to be a DT aim player, not much of a stream player until recently.
- The player does have skill, however he may be using some sort of outside assistance software-wise like aim assist or relax hacks.
- All replays in this thread were inspected using Circleguard.
- Most of the information down below was conducted in the empirical (perceived) sense, so take all of it with a grain of salt.
Section one: Replays
There are a few moments within Ivaxa’s recent replays that felt unusual or very strange; mostly unusual edge hits, but also weird UR bar behavior.The Deceit +DT
There are a few things to mention about this score. The first is an unusual UR bar behavior from 91076 ms (~1 minute 31 seconds) to 93123 ms (~1 minute 33 seconds). The UR bar looks like this in the end. This type of UR bar behavior is often found in 125 hz keyboards with a map that has a BPM that is a multiple of 125 (125 BPM, 250 BPM, 375 BPM, etc.). However, Ivaxa doesn’t use a 125hz keyboard or keypad, he uses one that is rated at 8000hz. This is rather unusual since this type of UR is only found in this section of the map only. Also, if he were to play on a 125hz keyboard/keypad, the type of UR that was shown above would be all over the map since the Deceit with DT is mostly 375 BPM.
The second would be his aim, particularly at around 1885 combo, his cursor shakes at an abnormal magnitude from the rest of the map. This shake can be caused by nerves, tapping strain of the left hand, or a mix of both. But, Ivaxa’s alleged sensitivity is so low that the shake that has been shown in the replay is either really hard to do or impossible.
Gotta go Fast +DTSO
This score has one thing that is quite suspicious. at 47582 ms (~48 seconds) into the map, an awkward edge hit is found where he over-aimed and seemingly snapped back to the circle. This kind of edge hit is something that a normal osu! player wouldn’t be able to hit entirely, especially at the speed at which the map is being played at. Another edge hit can be found in the same map at 28852 ms (~29 seconds), where the cursor doesn’t naturally curve at the end, instead snapping to the edge of the circle. Both cases may allude to the usage of some sort of aim assist.
Metal Crusher +DT
There are two things to note about this score, the first is some unusual cursor movement at the ending section of the map. Ivaxa’s cursor slightly follows the slider at 59128 ms (~59 seconds), and another right after at 60400 ms (~one minute). Movement like this paired with the speed at which the map is being played at just seems unusual/suspicious.
There are also five edge hits within the map, four out of the five edge hits are at the very edge of a circle. The probability of hitting these types of edge hits is rather low, especially when there are four of them in one map.
Edge Hit #1: https://i.imgur.com/g3VlDoz.png
Edge Hit #2: https://i.imgur.com/vpTKuw7.png
Edge Hit #3: https://i.imgur.com/oQiEwVR.png
Edge Hit #4: https://i.imgur.com/nJyVbiq.png
Edge Hit #5: https://i.imgur.com/MN9MfwN.png
Sendan Life +DTHD
There is something to be said about some of the 100’s that Ivaxa is hitting. More specifically some 100’s within a few of the maps that have been observed so far are very near the barrier of being a 300 hit regardless of whether the note is early or late (https://i.imgur.com/cxFSdjf.png, https://i.imgur.com/bHLurZn.png). The sayu is precise enough to actually hit these types of 100’s, however it feels like these have occurred too often, so much so that this play has half of the 100’s in the map has these “edge 100’s,” for a lack of a better term. There are also two 100’s (100 #1 and 100 #2) that have been hit at exactly the same lateness/timing.
100 #1: https://i.imgur.com/KR4BhWe.png
100 #2: https://i.imgur.com/pzg7zMn.png
100 #3: https://i.imgur.com/z5qIocV.png
100 #4: https://i.imgur.com/pgEBsKK.png
100 #5: https://i.imgur.com/rQ50Uhs.png
100 #6: https://i.imgur.com/oMkQ3O5.png
Section Two: Twitch Streams
The two pieces of information down below are more focused on his single tapping skills, along with some weird/suspicious moments during his stream.Stream title: #18 #2PL we back boys PL/ENG
At 15:37, Ivaxa is seen to be double tapping 270 bpm streams even though he S ranked the Deceit with DT around three days after said stream (390 BPM). At 49:15 mins of the same stream: he is seen to singletap 191 BPM streams, probably because he was warm when playing at his point.
Stream title: #17 #2PL Yomi yori 3 mod pass happening right now wtf,
On March 31st, 2024, on the VOD where he S ranked The Deceit +DT, at the end of the VOD at 2:58:42 Ivaxa is seen singletapping a 390 BPM burst. After which he paused the game and blamed Steam notifications. Despite the bottom half of his monitor being visible on stream through the webcam, where no steam notifications or pop-ups are visible, he then opened Steam to "change notifications settings.'' After allegedly changing the settings, his cursor trajectory on the visible parts of the monitor on stream tells us that he moved the mouse from the top most left corner, while usually Steam settings are located in a pop-up window at the center of the screen. Afterwards His stream allegedly "crashed."
To see the moment, play the following .mp4 file: 20240331 #17 #2PL Yomi yori 3 mod pass happening right now wtf Part 3 and go to the near end.
Stream title: #9 #2PL if i want to i'll farm req closed
On April 7th, 2024 Ivaxa showed on the osu! Game discord server that he is able to singletap 191 BPM (better picture of the graph), however six days later after the message, on his stream on April 13th, 2024 Ivaxa showed that he was able to singletap PoNo’s Yomi Yori 220 BPM streams at the end. This type of BPM jump in such a short amount of time can only be reasoned with by hardware abuse via rapid trigger. Either that, or some sort of relax hack that assists the player in tapping.
Section Three: Multiaccounting
There are many pieces of information that suspect that Ivaxa is multiaccounting, however there is currently no concrete evidence on whether or not he is indeed multiaccounting. Please keep this in mind when reading this section of the thread.The Mulitiaccount & Play Count Graphs
Pipecat is the suspected multiaccount. First of all, both Pipecat and Ivaxa are placed 1st and 2nd on the osu!mania leaderboard in Lower Silesian Voivodeship, Poland (This is done by using osu! subdivide nations). Both play count graphs also seem to compensate for each other as of 2024, April 4th (the graph for Ivaxa has been warped in order to have a better visualization).
Time-pp Scatter Chart & Best Performances
The same thing happens with their Best Performance Time-pp Scatter Chart from ameobea/osu!track (Pipecat's Mania Chart and Ivaxa's Mania Chart non warped). Both graphs seem to compensate for each other, especially at around the month of March, as of 2024, April 5th (again, Ivaxa's chart has been warped for better visualization of score submissions).
Speaking of pp, both accounts have similar maps in their best performances list (Ivaxa is on the left, Pipecat on the right). If you want to see more, just check their mania profiles.
This may ask the reason as to why Ivaxa hasn’t played any vsrg (Vertical Scrolling Rhythm Game), and yet his performance in mania is abnormal for his time played. As seen from the play count graph from above, Ivaxa would’ve most likely played mania first on the Pipecat account, and then proceeded to play mania again on the other.
Names/Naming Scheme & Last Seen
Their naming scheme can also be taken into account as, Ivaxa’s name was inspired by Vaxei, and Pipecat was inspired by Whitecat.
It is also worth noting that Ivaxa and Pipecat’s Last Seen times are near each other, being more or less one hour apart from each other.
https://i.imgur.com/uVucqXr.png
https://i.imgur.com/lYh4Gbb.png
Section Four: Misc, additional “facts,” and Speculations
This section is dedicated to the additional miscellaneous information and our speculation formed from the data we discovered during the process of the investigation. These entries are not verbosely written due to us not finding enough evidence/information to make them included in the previous sections.For ease of understanding the entry's level of absurdity, we marked them with color tags. The marking process for each entry was completely subjective so even the most absurd ones could be a potential aid for independent investigators/osu! staff as an additional lead where we “hit the wall.”
Fact: Could be used as a potential lead
Fact + Assumption: Not substantial enough to be included in previous sections/Assumption
Pure Speculation: Completely speculative fact/information
Fact: BayOfEvil (Ivaxa’s old username), does have an osu!report on it, although the report isn’t very helpful. One of the thread's replies includes a Discord recording with Ivaxa playing as “proof” of him being legit. This should be investigated further (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cVQDdw1SSLs).
Fact: Ivaxa’s Mania score on Ne uchi +DT was set 22 days after his no-mod score.
Fact: In Pipecat's osu profile a discord server can be found (https://discord.gg/jkMydV3PTB), upon searching "Ivaxa" the only two mentions of the name is from the user Pipecat (https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/577365869949354025/1225631393820708914/image0.jpg?ex=6621d52f&is=660f602f&hm=e3589cb93e9ffb2b7c0ef7ffbdedcc3b09df919a7082d11468035ff4f4f6e65e&).
Fact: Guitar to Kodou to Aoi Hoshi: Edge hit at the very edge at 202358 ms (~3 minutes 22 seconds) (https://i.imgur.com/PAWsyh7.png) Similar to the edge hit on FUCK YOU.
Fact + Assumption: FUCK YOU: Very erratic cursor movement at 4485 ms (~4.5 seconds) (https://i.imgur.com/mkRw4Ki.png) combined with his sensitivity and the map’s speed, this is basically impossible. Also he's been under-aiming a lot in this map but that might just be me. There is also an edge hit at the very edge at 60301 ms (~1 min) (https://i.imgur.com/GFxZctS.png), which can be questioned.
Fact + Assumption: Gotta go Fast HDDTHR: The UR bar is acting the same way that was observed with the deceit score from above (Gotta go Fast: https://i.imgur.com/ywA8XAu.png, Deceit: https://imgur.com/cbUtzya). With both maps being 375 BPM with DT, Ivaxa may or may not have used the same method of cheating if he is.
Fact + Assumption: Stream title: #18 #2PL we back boys PL/ENG, at 15:37 mins, Ivaxa is seen to be double tapping 270 bpm streams even though he S ranked the Deceit with DT around three days after said stream (390 BPM).
Fact + Assumption: A Thread created by sampierat on twitter: https://vxtwitter.com/sampierat/status/1775216723743875457?s=20
Pure Speculation: During a congregation, several people have noted/proposed that Ivaxa may or may not be using three keys in order to stream higher bpm’s, using a software that alternates the middle key (since he plays ring-index) between key 1 and key 2 to insure that nothing is suspicious with his tapping count.
Pure Speculation: We condone an anonymous survey inside the mania community, including some of the top players, regular 4k, 7k, and 8k players, and some tournament organizers. Most of the participants agree that Ivaxa’s progression and improvement curve is abnormal.
Pure Speculation: Stream title: #18 #2PL we back boys PL/ENG, within the first hour of the stream, Ivaxa is seen to have completely lost his aim (44:46 min), even though he nearly fc'd Brazil on Fiery's Extreme with HDHRDT ten days prior to the stream. Although this evidence may not be as substantial as the others because of retry spamming Brazil.
Pure Speculation: The earliest known screenshots of Ivaxa grinding The Deceit Pishi's Extra, was on 2023, December 22nd (https://twitter.com/Ivaxaosu/status/1738245663631024453, https://twitter.com/Ivaxaosu/status/1738268599129632811, He later achieved an S rank on 2024, March 31st. He would've grinded the map for the past 3 months, however his play count seems to not reflect the grind, only having 237 plays as of 2024, April 5th (https://i.imgur.com/dg4HdSl.png).
Pure Speculation: https://youtu.be/Isp233epRAA the hands, and tapping technique may be similar to Ivaxa.
Pure Speculation: Potential lead/connection between Ivaxa and Pipecat could be found via steam accounts.
Ivaxa’s has two steam accounts (Both Steam profiles were sent to aknzx at one point):
- Main account https://steamcommunity.com/profiles/76561199027517248
- Alt (thanks for Ivaxa posting it on one of the discord servers) https://steamcommunity.com/profiles/76561199081700184
- Has a VAC ban on it
- Pipecat’s steam account:
- “Main account” https://steamcommunity.com/profiles/76561199389486073
- Their youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/@pipe_cat (We tried to use it compare Ivaxa’s voice and Pipecat’s voices already, not enough information)
- Their GD (GeometryDash) profile: https://gdbrowser.comNotPipeCat
Pure Speculation: Pipecat is recording videos on his Youtube channel using both a PC and a Laptop. The PC is running Windows 11, and the Laptop is running Windows 10. This Could be a potential lead.
Verdict
Ivaxa’s single tapping speed is very abnormal, especially considering that he was able to stream 220 BPM in just six days, starting from 191 BPM, all singletapped. His aim on some maps feels weird, and some edge hits are questionable in terms of legitimacy. The incident on his stream on March 31st of this year also felt suspicious and weirdly timed, as if he was covering something up. And Pipecat’s graphs line up in such a way that it seemingly compensated for Ivaxa’s play count, and pp-scatter chart. From the information that was gathered about Ivaxa, there is a likelihood that the player is cheating, via aim assist, partial relax, or a mix of both.It is suggested/encouraged that you look into this yourself.
Files and Documents
For Ivaxa stream mp4’s, each “part” is in one hour segments (because untwitch). So part 1 would be the first hour of a stream, part 2 would be the second hour of a stream, etc. There are some parts where it didn’t download the full hour, so be aware of that.We’ve also included one of the “VOD analyzer” test result files, which includes cursor positions from an analyzed stream segment (#11 #2PL 1.3k pp achieved). It was a completely custom-coded solution that analyzed the video frame by frame but it wasn’t used during the investigation, so we are unsure about the accuracy of the cursor detection.
Input data:
Approximate osu! playfield area on a 1920x1080 monitor:
-Top left of playfield area: (384, 126) -Bottom right of playfield area: (1536, 990)Ivaxa's Approximate playfield area on stream:
-Top left of playfield area: (329, 120) -Bottom right of playfield area: (1283, 835)Analyzed segment: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UOceGo6udbGH0p7jbZKvst4wqsIVWIWF/view?usp=drive_link
Google Drive: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1LTDABXcFHSJnk5KNfHWdH1XPJwcdf4S1?usp=sharing
Streams Timeline
| Date | Stream Title | VOD Links |
|---|---|---|
| March 20th 2024 | we back boys | https://drive.google.com/drive5/folders/1xFtwoU82d_qAKPyp7qEm2v4JVd8m-PDF |
| March 31st 2024 | Yomi Yori 3 mod pass | https://drive.google.com/drive5/folders/1PJQOhrao4CFsaeLg4wcwFPtBybdocAnB |
| March 31st 2024 | 1.3k pp achieved | https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UOceGo6udbGH0p7jbZKvst4wqsIVWIWF/view |
| April 1st 2024 | play game and then deceit farming | https://drive.google.com/drive5/folders/1TsTmiNzDRIMpFn4lmUzwzS6n3AjyE3rY |
| April 9th 2024 | Yomi Yori DT Farming Right now | N/A |
| April 13th 2024 | singletap practice | N/A |
2024.05.16 21:24 a_drunk_paladin 31 [M4A] #NY #Rochester Anxious person trying to get back on their feet and make a connection
Background: Got a bit of a story for you. One that starts pretty sad, but (hopefully) ends a little better. As stated in the title, I'm a 31yo guy. I come from a pretty privileged position (come from one of the surrounding suburbs) My entire adult life has been mental health hell. First it was BPD (think emotion dysregulation), then severe depression, now my main issue is mostly just really bad anxiety. As a matter of fact, it's been that way for several years now. I haven't really had any friends or even left my apartment much at all until recently. Finally I decided I had enough, and I have started to get out again. I moved to a new place, one where I'd be forced to interact with people more, and I have been practicing taking the bus places. Still don't have any friends though, that's where this post comes in.
What I'm looking for: First and foremost looking for a friend. Even if I did end up dating whoever hopefully answers this, I'd really like to be friends first before we even talk about that. I've really worked hard on myself over the last few years, so I like to think I'm pretty easy to get along with. I'm a huge a nerd. Video games, movies, books, shows, basically I love fiction. Especially fantasy and sci-fi. I'm also a huge fan of animation whether it be anime or otherwise. Currently I'm learning to play the guitar. I have a bit of a musical background (used to play cello and double bass in school, then played bass guitar for a while) so I'm hoping I'll pick it up pretty quick (cord shapes are hard though!) During my time of isolation, I unfortunately gained quite a bit of weight but I really enjoy active things like hiking or sports (used to really love soccer). I've been working on losing weight, and I've been doing pretty good so far, but it hasn't been very long so I'm still pretty chubby lol. Oh, and I also used to be big into D&D and other tabletop roleplaying games. I would love to be in an irl group again (I've tried online, but it's just not the same!)
Who I'm looking for: Honestly I'm not too picky here. I don't really care about age, gender, or background, though I kind of doubt I'd have much in common with anyone under the age of 25. As long as we have some common interests whether it be music, nerd stuff, or getting active, I think it'll be alright. Currently I live in the city, and I do not drive, so meeting somewhere in the city/on a bus route would be preferable. We can talk about specific ideas once we have a conversation going.
If you are interested please DM me and maybe we could talk more on the reddit chat? (I also have a discord which I actually prefer if you got it.)
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What I'm looking for: First and foremost looking for a friend. Even if I did end up dating whoever hopefully answers this, I'd really like to be friends first before we even talk about that. I've really worked hard on myself over the last few years, so I like to think I'm pretty easy to get along with. I'm a huge a nerd. Video games, movies, books, shows, basically I love fiction. Especially fantasy and sci-fi. I'm also a huge fan of animation whether it be anime or otherwise. Currently I'm learning to play the guitar. I have a bit of a musical background (used to play cello and double bass in school, then played bass guitar for a while) so I'm hoping I'll pick it up pretty quick (cord shapes are hard though!) During my time of isolation, I unfortunately gained quite a bit of weight but I really enjoy active things like hiking or sports (used to really love soccer). I've been working on losing weight, and I've been doing pretty good so far, but it hasn't been very long so I'm still pretty chubby lol. Oh, and I also used to be big into D&D and other tabletop roleplaying games. I would love to be in an irl group again (I've tried online, but it's just not the same!)
Who I'm looking for: Honestly I'm not too picky here. I don't really care about age, gender, or background, though I kind of doubt I'd have much in common with anyone under the age of 25. As long as we have some common interests whether it be music, nerd stuff, or getting active, I think it'll be alright. Currently I live in the city, and I do not drive, so meeting somewhere in the city/on a bus route would be preferable. We can talk about specific ideas once we have a conversation going.
If you are interested please DM me and maybe we could talk more on the reddit chat? (I also have a discord which I actually prefer if you got it.)
2024.05.16 21:10 Mono_Amarillo Infatuation / Limerence (Only) With Unhealthy Individuals
TL;DR: I keep falling for toxic women, particularly ENFJs, and I'm not as attracted to healthier, more balanced women. Seeking insights into why this happens and advice on avoiding limerence towards the wrong people. Have you experienced this with ENFJs? What psychological causes might underlie this behavior? Any techniques, habits, or books to recommend?
Hi everyone! I'm opening this thread because after a few years of dating and actively pursuing girls I've noticed a pattern that doesn't look very positive: I seem to exclusively fall in love with women that are quite toxic and even sociopathic in some cases (an ENTP friend told me once: "the girls you like are usually quite sus lol"), These women have always been xNFJ. At the same time, I'm not so passionately attracted to other women that could be considered healthier and more balanced.
I would really want to understand what the explanation for this phenomenon could be.
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Hi everyone! I'm opening this thread because after a few years of dating and actively pursuing girls I've noticed a pattern that doesn't look very positive: I seem to exclusively fall in love with women that are quite toxic and even sociopathic in some cases (an ENTP friend told me once: "the girls you like are usually quite sus lol"), These women have always been xNFJ. At the same time, I'm not so passionately attracted to other women that could be considered healthier and more balanced.
I would really want to understand what the explanation for this phenomenon could be.
- Below I'm giving more context and some reflections that I hope some of you will find useful, but for those who are unwilling to keep reading, I would like to ask you a few questions.
- Have you ever experienced this before (more specifically with ENFJs) and in a recurrent manner
- What do you think are the underlying ultimate psychological causes of this kind of unhealthy behaviour?
- Which techniques, methods, habits have worked for you to avoid becoming limerent towards the wrong person?
- Any books you think are worth recommending (preferably something practical and prescriptive, I already read Love and Limerence, but it was eminently descriptive)?
Conditions to Fall in Love
I've identified these characteristics in all the women I've considered as potential soulmates.- Attraction towards Fe-proficient individuals. I'm not sure if this is the case for all INTPs. I don't remember having such a liking for xNFJs when I was younger; it seems to have begun after I started treating Extraverted Feeling as an area I really need to improve. I like when people show (an exaggerated) interest in my pastimes and ideas or when they put my needs first (e.g. pouring water in your glass first during a dinner). And I guess it makes sense. In Projection and Personality we can read that we can "idealize the opposite attitude, especially in the opposite sex, making partnerships in order that the partner will play a complementary role for us. Jung commented that this was fairly frequent in marriage and even necessary, but such idealizing biases are just as deluded as the negative biases. Each “attitude-type” projects attributes onto the other that are not rightly his or hers", and that the use of the inferior function can lead one to become "addicted to or infatuated by activities or individuals associated with the function." Personality Cafe's user Entropic wrote an interesting comment about this as well.
- Attraction towards Ni-Se Axis Users. Despite what Socionics proposes, I've never found our duals (ESFJs) attractive at all. Notwithstanding their command of Fe, they appear to me as shallow, uninteresting, and simple-minded (no offense intended, I'm just stating what I perceive). The same for ISFJs; in the last weeks I ran into a very beautiful ISFJ girl a few times, and despite finding her very physically appealing, no infatuation could take place there because her conversation was one-sided, superficial, and ultimately, unfulfilling. On top of that, they (and people in the Si-Ne Axis in general) tend to lack a fondness for touching, which I personally find very interesting in a romantic partner.
- Importance of physical attractiveness. Infatuation does not happen with every INFJ and ENFJ I encounter. I also need to feel the urge to mix my genes together with those of the other person. I know a slightly older ENFJ girl who is a good friend of an ENTP girl friend of mine Although she displays a lot of behaviours I know I would consider attractive under different conditions, I don't find her hot enough, so the spell does not work out, and I am able to impartially see how unhinged she is.
Why Limerence Keeps Coming Back
- Immature Fi. This is a bit speculative, but I believe if I still feel limerent every so and so despite being 28 it is because of an incapacity to control and structure my own strong emotions, which is the territory of Introverted Feeling (recently, I read a biography of Madame Curie and found super relatable her affair with Paul Langevin, during which she behaved in a complete irrational manner in spite of being over her 40s). There could, of course, be non-personality-type-related reasons (which is what I'm actually trying to find out), but Fi-doms don't seem to experience this state of anxiety that frequently. I discussed this with my ISFP mother, and she admitted feeling "butterflies in her belly" only once in her lifetime, when she was in high school. Never again felt that way, not even with my ENTJ father, but that doesn't prevent her from loving him. I also discussed it with an INFP colleague, and he also said that maybe he felt this way when he was a teenager but has never felt it in his adult relationships. To me that could point to an ability present in Fi-doms to quickly and intuitively learn how to self-adjust in certain situations that caused internal distress in the past. What makes me believe this could be true is that I know that, for example, ENFJs can also fall in love hard and can get depressed after a breakup. Another ENFJ friend of my ENTP girl friend broke up recently with a long-term partner and she seems to have been suffering from melancholy and a sentiment of meaninglessness and loss of direction. She said she has always believed that you need to feel infatuated to love someone, and I believe ENFJs also have Fi in a critical spot.
The Women I Have Fallen in Love With
I want to describe four women I've gotten to know well and who ended up being quite crazy despite having initially awaken very strong feelings in me. I hope to show with that that I'm not the problem and that there is a grounded pattern that involves different types of women that only share their psychological type. I also got infatuated with 2 other ENFJ women, but that was temporarily (after sleeping with one, and after seeing the other in a few social gatherings) and couldn't know them on a deeper level. And I pursued an ENFP an ESFP as well (which, in their way, are also quite proficient with Fe). I'm not including them because the ENFP, although she is very toxic, I met her first online and couldn't see the whole picture, and the ESFP is in fact a decent human being, and we are still friends.- My ENFJ supervisor (+40). She looked quite well despite her age, and I found interesting the fact that she was independent and presumably hard-working. Thought intensely about her for a month. Then I knew she had cheated on her boyfriend of 3 years with one of my best friends, and then lied to the boyfriend to make him believe it was my friend who was obsessed with her, and manipulated my friend to support her version. Then, when the boyfriend knew the truth, she accused him of being responsible for the situation. She also dated a guy from a LatAm country when she was younger, made him accompany her to her home country in Europe, and asked him to leave because she was bored of him after a month.
- The INFJ who texted me through Instagram (28). She saw me on Tinder, but she is 2 years older, so she didn't appear to me because of the age filter. Then replied to one of my stories. First, she told me she didn't like me because I was too young (she knew that from the beginning). Then, after making out, she didn't want to have a relationship because she said the chances of me leaving the country were too high, and in the end, she would leave the country herself a few months later to pursue a degree that has nothing to do with her original studies.
- The sociopathic ENFJ colleague (31). Met her in a bar and talked for 2 hours; everything fine. A few weeks later, we go to a dinner with other people. After I suggest that all Ethiopian dishes taste the same and after saying that if someone is Hispanic and has a Chinese surname, it is very likely that they are Peruvian, she exhorts me to keep my biases at home, accuses me of breaking social harmony and basically implies in an incredibly aggressive manner that I say racist things. I had to take a 10-minute walk to calm down after that. We were supposed to talk privately so I could explain her why I didn't like that moment, but then she decides a week later to expel me from a work-related group chat without giving any explanation. Never talked again after that.
- The ENFJ without clear ideas (24). Met her a few times through mutual friends and she seemed interested, but then I was told she was in a long-distance relationship. I decided not to pursue her because of that, but even though I knew the fact that she had not mentioned her boyfriend for 6 months was a HUGE red flag, I found her super interesting. Confessed my feelings to her and asked her to tell me if I had 0 chances so I could move on; her reply: "you should act as if you had 0 chances." Went on 2 more dates, but then she got incredibly emotional because of a discussion we had on nature vs. nurture stuff (it had been quite amusing for me, only realized she was triggered when her hands started literally shaking), sent me the longest text message I ever received in my life describing me as a soulless monster, and asked me for "time, space and boundaries" before we could meet again. Didn't hear about her in almost 2 months, then she apologized and proposed to meet again, but that never materialized.
2024.05.16 21:04 Mono_Amarillo Infatuation / Limerence (Only) With Unhealthy Individuals
TL;DR: I keep falling for toxic women, particularly ENFJs, and I'm not as attracted to healthier, more balanced women. Seeking insights into why this happens and advice on avoiding limerence towards the wrong people. Have you experienced this with ENFJs? What psychological causes might underlie this behavior? Any techniques, habits, or books to recommend?
Hi everyone! I'm opening this thread because after a few years of dating and actively pursuing girls I've noticed a pattern that doesn't look very positive: I seem to exclusively fall in love with women that are quite toxic and even sociopathic in some cases (an ENTP friend told me once: "the girls you like are usually quite sus lol"). These women have always been xNFJ. At the same time, I'm not so passionately attracted to other women that could be considered healthier and more balanced.
I would really want to understand what the explanation for this phenomenon could be.
Below I'm giving more context and some reflections that I hope some of you will find useful, but for those who are unwilling to keep reading, I would like to ask you a few questions.
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Hi everyone! I'm opening this thread because after a few years of dating and actively pursuing girls I've noticed a pattern that doesn't look very positive: I seem to exclusively fall in love with women that are quite toxic and even sociopathic in some cases (an ENTP friend told me once: "the girls you like are usually quite sus lol"). These women have always been xNFJ. At the same time, I'm not so passionately attracted to other women that could be considered healthier and more balanced.
I would really want to understand what the explanation for this phenomenon could be.
Below I'm giving more context and some reflections that I hope some of you will find useful, but for those who are unwilling to keep reading, I would like to ask you a few questions.
- Have you ever experienced this before (more specifically with ENFJs) and in a recurrent manner
- What do you think are the underlying ultimate psychological causes of this kind of unhealthy behaviour?
- Which techniques, methods, habits have worked for you to avoid becoming limerent towards the wrong person?
- Any books you think are worth recommending (preferably something practical and prescriptive, I already read Love and Limerence, but it was eminently descriptive)?
Conditions to Fall in Love
I've identified these characteristics in all the women I've considered as potential soulmates.- Attraction towards Fe-proficient individuals. I'm not sure if this is the case for all INTPs. I don't remember having such a liking for xNFJs when I was younger; it seems to have begun after I started treating Extraverted Feeling as an area I really need to improve. I like when people show (an exaggerated) interest in my pastimes and ideas or when they put my needs first (e.g. pouring water in your glass first during a dinner). And I guess it makes sense. In Projection and Personality we can read that we can "idealize the opposite attitude, especially in the opposite sex, making partnerships in order that the partner will play a complementary role for us. Jung commented that this was fairly frequent in marriage and even necessary, but such idealizing biases are just as deluded as the negative biases. Each “attitude-type” projects attributes onto the other that are not rightly his or hers", and that the use of the inferior function can lead one to become "addicted to or infatuated by activities or individuals associated with the function." Personality Cafe's user Entropic wrote an interesting comment about this as well.
- Attraction towards Ni-Se Axis Users. Despite what Socionics proposes, I've never found our duals (ESFJs) attractive at all. Notwithstanding their command of Fe, they appear to me as shallow, uninteresting, and simple-minded (no offense intended, I'm just stating what I perceive). The same for ISFJs; in the last weeks I ran into a very beautiful ISFJ girl a few times, and despite finding her very physically appealing, no infatuation could take place there because her conversation was one-sided, superficial, and ultimately, unfulfilling. On top of that, they (and people in the Si-Ne Axis in general) tend to lack a fondness for touching, which I personally find very interesting in a romantic partner.
- Importance of physical attractiveness. Infatuation does not happen with every INFJ and ENFJ I encounter. I also need to feel the urge to mix my genes together with those of the other person. I know a slightly older ENFJ girl who is a good friend of an ENTP girl friend of mine Although she displays a lot of behaviours I know I would consider attractive under different conditions, I don't find her hot enough, so the spell does not work out, and I am able to impartially see how unhinged she is.
Why Limerence Keeps Coming Back
- Immature Fi. This is a bit speculative, but I believe if I still feel limerent every so and so despite being 28 it is because of an incapacity to control and structure my own strong emotions, which is the territory of Introverted Feeling (recently, I read a biography of Madame Curie and found super relatable her affair with Paul Langevin, during which she behaved in a complete irrational manner in spite of being over her 40s). There could, of course, be non-personality-type-related reasons (which is what I'm actually trying to find out), but Fi-doms don't seem to experience this state of anxiety that frequently. I discussed this with my ISFP mother, and she admitted feeling "butterflies in her belly" only once in her lifetime, when she was in high school. Never again felt that way, not even with my ENTJ father, but that doesn't prevent her from loving him. I also discussed it with an INFP colleague, and he also said that maybe he felt this way when he was a teenager but has never felt it in his adult relationships. To me that could point to an ability present in Fi-doms to quickly and intuitively learn how to self-adjust in certain situations that caused internal distress in the past. What makes me believe this could be true is that I know that, for example, ENFJs can also fall in love hard and can get depressed after a breakup. Another ENFJ friend of my ENTP girl friend broke up recently with a long-term partner and she seems to have been suffering from melancholy and a sentiment of meaninglessness and loss of direction. She said she has always believed that you need to feel infatuated to love someone, and I believe ENFJs also have Fi in a critical spot.
The Women I Have Fallen in Love With
I want to describe four women I've gotten to know well and who ended up being quite crazy despite having initially awaken very strong feelings in me. I hope to show with that that I'm not the problem and that there is a grounded pattern that involves different types of women that only share their psychological type. I also got infatuated with 2 other ENFJ women, but that was temporarily (after sleeping with one, and after seeing the other in a few social gatherings) and couldn't know them on a deeper level. And I pursued an ENFP an ESFP as well (which, in their way, are also quite proficient with Fe). I'm not including them because the ENFP, although she is very toxic, I met her first online and couldn't see the whole picture, and the ESFP is in fact a decent human being, and we are still friends.- My ENFJ supervisor (+40). She looked quite well despite her age, and I found interesting the fact that she was independent and presumably hard-working. Thought intensely about her for a month. Then I knew she had cheated on her boyfriend of 3 years with one of my best friends, and then lied to the boyfriend to make him believe it was my friend who was obsessed with her, and manipulated my friend to support her version. Then, when the boyfriend knew the truth, she accused him of being responsible for the situation. She also dated a guy from a LatAm country when she was younger, made him accompany her to her home country in Europe, and asked him to leave because she was bored of him after a month.
- The INFJ who texted me through Instagram (28). She saw me on Tinder, but she is 2 years older, so she didn't appear to me because of the age filter. Then replied to one of my stories. First, she told me she didn't like me because I was too young (she knew that from the beginning). Then, after making out, she didn't want to have a relationship because she said the chances of me leaving the country were too high, and in the end, she would leave the country herself a few months later to pursue a degree that has nothing to do with her original studies.
- The sociopathic ENFJ colleague (31). Met her in a bar and talked for 2 hours; everything fine. A few weeks later, we go to a dinner with other people. After I suggest that all Ethiopian dishes taste the same and after saying that if someone is Hispanic and has a Chinese surname, it is very likely that they are Peruvian, she exhorts me to keep my biases at home, accuses me of breaking social harmony and basically implies in an incredibly aggressive manner that I say racist things. I had to take a 10-minute walk to calm down after that. We were supposed to talk privately so I could explain her why I didn't like that moment, but then she decides a week later to expel me from a work-related group chat without giving any explanation. Never talked again after that.
- The ENFJ without clear ideas (24). Met her a few times through mutual friends and she seemed interested, but then I was told she was in a long-distance relationship. I decided not to pursue her because of that, but even though I knew the fact that she had not mentioned her boyfriend for 6 months was a HUGE red flag, I found her super interesting. Confessed my feelings to her and asked her to tell me if I had 0 chances so I could move on; her reply: "you should act as if you had 0 chances." Went on 2 more dates, but then she got incredibly emotional because of a discussion we had on nature vs. nurture stuff (it had been quite amusing for me, only realized she was triggered when her hands started literally shaking), sent me the longest text message I ever received in my life describing me as a soulless monster, and asked me for "time, space and boundaries" before we could meet again. Didn't hear about her in almost 2 months, then she apologized and proposed to meet again, but that never materialized.
2024.05.16 20:55 efeekom How often does Antenati get new records?
Antenati has been a pivotal tool in my genealogical research as I've traced multiple lines of my ancestry to Italy. I'm now helping my wife try and break some brick walls of hers. She has relatives that were born in Gorizia in the north before fleeing to Rome in the 1930s. My wife's grandmother married my wife's grandfather in Rome in 1946 but it appears that the latest records only go to the early 1900s. Also, there don't appear to be any records online for Gorizia. I did some digging and Antenati's "Latest Published Archives" tab under "The Site" section seems to show the latest archives added were in 2020. Is that accurate still? If so, has the project ended or is that just not up to date? Does anyone know whether a timeline for other archives being digitized might be posted? That last bit might be wishful thinking though.
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2024.05.16 20:48 geo2298 How do I ask the question?
First time posting on Reddit ever, bear with me. To preface, I (25M) have never been in a relationship but have been getting with guys since I was 19. Came out of the closet at 22, and started actually going on dates with guys at 23.
After many failed situationships, I've come across a man (27M) who I've been seeing consistently for a month and a half now. We've gone over to each other's places, I've met and hung out with some of his friends (on accident, we ran into them at a bar), and I've even stayed the night with him at his place. When we first started talking, I noticed that he would put in effort and text first and all that good stuff.
When we first started getting to know each other, he said he enjoyed my "communication style" and wanted to go on more dates. He's a very busy guy with a lot of weekend trips to weddings and such, and hates doing things during the weekdays. We've seen each other minimum once a week on weekdays, and he even put his job at risk once to not bail on plans we had already made. He's expressed that he feels very comfortable around me, and we've had a great time whenever we're together, cracking jokes, learning about one another, etc... When asked, he told me that he's looking for a monogamous relationship, which I am as well.
Lately, I've noticed that his energy has shifted. I find myself sending him memes on Instagram that just get left on read, and just reactions to my texts, barely any responses. He's expressed that he's very lazy and that social media/texting is a lot for him, so I try not to take it personally. I've see him online on Grindr very often, but he seems to be on for like 2-3 minutes at a time, which makes me believe he's just checking notifications, but my insecurities with dating are taking my head to a dark place and making me believe that he's sleeping with other guys while we talk.
I've also noticed that he takes antidepressants and stimulants (like myself), and have taken note of his shifting energy. His place is a hazard zone of a mess, and I've even offered to help clean it up (without telling him his place is messy), and to even build some of his furniture (which I actually enjoy doing, it's like adult LEGOs.) I'm under the impression that he's going through a depressive episode and is struggling to get by, which I can really empathize with, and I've told him that I've been there before and am there to even just listen.
I've tried having conversations about where we see this "situation" going, and often left more confused with his answers. He usually brushes off the question and says something along the lines of "I mean, we've seen each other a lot, you tell me..." He has a very avoidant conflict style and has even expressed that to me, so I try not to take his avoidance of the question personally, but the uncertainty is taking a huge toll on me mentally.
Now, when we hang out, all he wants to do is cuddle and do nothing, which I don't mind. I'd like to think he likes me because his love language is physical touch, and we don't spend a moment where we're not at least holding hands. I really like him, I haven't felt this way about a man in a long time. He gets me in a way that many people don't, and has brought out a good side of me I didn't know existed. Whenever I see him on Grindr, my heart sinks to my stomach, and am just confused on how to have a conversation with him in regards to where he actually sees this relationship going, what we're doing, and if he wants to be exclusive so we can both get off the apps. I'm usually not this insecure, but since this is the farthest I've been able to get with a guy romantically, I don't want to mess up what myself and a lot of my friends think is a great guy.
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After many failed situationships, I've come across a man (27M) who I've been seeing consistently for a month and a half now. We've gone over to each other's places, I've met and hung out with some of his friends (on accident, we ran into them at a bar), and I've even stayed the night with him at his place. When we first started talking, I noticed that he would put in effort and text first and all that good stuff.
When we first started getting to know each other, he said he enjoyed my "communication style" and wanted to go on more dates. He's a very busy guy with a lot of weekend trips to weddings and such, and hates doing things during the weekdays. We've seen each other minimum once a week on weekdays, and he even put his job at risk once to not bail on plans we had already made. He's expressed that he feels very comfortable around me, and we've had a great time whenever we're together, cracking jokes, learning about one another, etc... When asked, he told me that he's looking for a monogamous relationship, which I am as well.
Lately, I've noticed that his energy has shifted. I find myself sending him memes on Instagram that just get left on read, and just reactions to my texts, barely any responses. He's expressed that he's very lazy and that social media/texting is a lot for him, so I try not to take it personally. I've see him online on Grindr very often, but he seems to be on for like 2-3 minutes at a time, which makes me believe he's just checking notifications, but my insecurities with dating are taking my head to a dark place and making me believe that he's sleeping with other guys while we talk.
I've also noticed that he takes antidepressants and stimulants (like myself), and have taken note of his shifting energy. His place is a hazard zone of a mess, and I've even offered to help clean it up (without telling him his place is messy), and to even build some of his furniture (which I actually enjoy doing, it's like adult LEGOs.) I'm under the impression that he's going through a depressive episode and is struggling to get by, which I can really empathize with, and I've told him that I've been there before and am there to even just listen.
I've tried having conversations about where we see this "situation" going, and often left more confused with his answers. He usually brushes off the question and says something along the lines of "I mean, we've seen each other a lot, you tell me..." He has a very avoidant conflict style and has even expressed that to me, so I try not to take his avoidance of the question personally, but the uncertainty is taking a huge toll on me mentally.
Now, when we hang out, all he wants to do is cuddle and do nothing, which I don't mind. I'd like to think he likes me because his love language is physical touch, and we don't spend a moment where we're not at least holding hands. I really like him, I haven't felt this way about a man in a long time. He gets me in a way that many people don't, and has brought out a good side of me I didn't know existed. Whenever I see him on Grindr, my heart sinks to my stomach, and am just confused on how to have a conversation with him in regards to where he actually sees this relationship going, what we're doing, and if he wants to be exclusive so we can both get off the apps. I'm usually not this insecure, but since this is the farthest I've been able to get with a guy romantically, I don't want to mess up what myself and a lot of my friends think is a great guy.
2024.05.16 20:48 Ok-Story-8715 Is there can I do way to watch Usyk vs Fury live StreamsfOr fRee?
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I pirate everything: games, movies, software, and even made my own plex server. But lately I have gotten really into UFC and haven't found a great way to watch Boxing Fight for free live.
Is there a way to Watch Alvarez vs Usyk Live Streams fRee Boxing? , I pirate everything: sports, movies, TV Channels, and even made my?
I don't care if there is a small delay or anything, but it needs to be at a good bitrate at 1080p or it isn't worth watch for me. Also preferably I would want a way to watch it on a smart TV in some way but im expecting to sacrifice that luxury honestly.
I have researched and found a few ways to watch it but I want to see what you guys recommend.
ESPN, ABC or Boxing Network. I'm sure you can stream as well. I pirate everything: games, movies, software, and even made my own plex server.
When is the Fury vs. Usyk fight?
Date: Saturday, May 18
Start time: 2 p.m. ET
Fight time (approximate): 11:15 p.m. ET
Location: Riyadh, Saudi Arabia
TV channel/streaming: PPV via TNTSPORTS, Amazon Prime
Tyson Fury and Oleksandr Usyk face off this Saturday, May 18 in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. The event will begin at 10 a.m. ET/2 p.m. PT. The pair are expected to face off in the ring around 11:15 p.m. that evening. The event will feature four fights.
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I don't care if there is a small delay or anything, but it needs to be at a good bitrate at 1080p or it isn't worth watch for me. Also preferably I would want a way to watch it on a smart TV in some way but im expecting to sacrifice that luxury honestly.
I pirate everything: games, movies, software, and even made my own plex server. But lately I have gotten really into UFC and haven't found a great way to watch Boxing Fight for free live.
Is there a way to Watch Alvarez vs Usyk Live Streams fRee Boxing? , I pirate everything: sports, movies, TV Channels, and even made my?
I don't care if there is a small delay or anything, but it needs to be at a good bitrate at 1080p or it isn't worth watch for me. Also preferably I would want a way to watch it on a smart TV in some way but im expecting to sacrifice that luxury honestly.
I have researched and found a few ways to watch it but I want to see what you guys recommend.
ESPN, ABC or Boxing Network. I'm sure you can stream as well. I pirate everything: games, movies, software, and even made my own plex server.
When is the Fury vs. Usyk fight?
Date: Saturday, May 18
Start time: 2 p.m. ET
Fight time (approximate): 11:15 p.m. ET
Location: Riyadh, Saudi Arabia
TV channel/streaming: PPV via TNTSPORTS, Amazon Prime
Tyson Fury and Oleksandr Usyk face off this Saturday, May 18 in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. The event will begin at 10 a.m. ET/2 p.m. PT. The pair are expected to face off in the ring around 11:15 p.m. that evening. The event will feature four fights.
2024.05.16 20:48 Ok-Story-8715 What's is about the ways of Live 'Tyson Fury vs. Oleksandr Usyk' live fRee PPV streams?
What's is about the ways of Live 'Tyson Fury vs. Oleksandr Usyk' live fRee PPV streams? I've been wanting to watch more games lately, but most online links I've found either skip frequently or are lower quality. UFC 301 promises to be one of the biggest events in Boxing history as Dana White lines up a mega card for the 2024 blockbuster next weekend. I pirate everything: sports, movies, TV Channels, and even made my own plex server. But lately I have gotten really into Boxing Streams and haven't found a great way to watch Boxing live for free...
🔴Visit🥊► Boxing Streams
🔴Watch🥊► Boxing Live
I don't care if there is a small delay or anything, but it needs to be at a good bitrate at 1080p or it isn't worth watch for me. Also preferably I would want a way to watch it on a smart TV in some way but im expecting to sacrifice that luxury honestly.
I pirate everything: games, movies, software, and even made my own plex server. But lately I have gotten really into UFC and haven't found a great way to watch Boxing Fight for free live.
Is there a way to Watch Alvarez vs Usyk Live Streams fRee Boxing? , I pirate everything: sports, movies, TV Channels, and even made my?
I don't care if there is a small delay or anything, but it needs to be at a good bitrate at 1080p or it isn't worth watch for me. Also preferably I would want a way to watch it on a smart TV in some way but im expecting to sacrifice that luxury honestly.
I have researched and found a few ways to watch it but I want to see what you guys recommend.
ESPN, ABC or Boxing Network. I'm sure you can stream as well. I pirate everything: games, movies, software, and even made my own plex server.
When is the Fury vs. Usyk fight?
Date: Saturday, May 18
Start time: 2 p.m. ET
Fight time (approximate): 11:15 p.m. ET
Location: Riyadh, Saudi Arabia
TV channel/streaming: PPV via TNTSPORTS, Amazon Prime
Tyson Fury and Oleksandr Usyk face off this Saturday, May 18 in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. The event will begin at 10 a.m. ET/2 p.m. PT. The pair are expected to face off in the ring around 11:15 p.m. that evening. The event will feature four fights.
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🔴Visit🥊► Boxing Streams
🔴Watch🥊► Boxing Live
I don't care if there is a small delay or anything, but it needs to be at a good bitrate at 1080p or it isn't worth watch for me. Also preferably I would want a way to watch it on a smart TV in some way but im expecting to sacrifice that luxury honestly.
I pirate everything: games, movies, software, and even made my own plex server. But lately I have gotten really into UFC and haven't found a great way to watch Boxing Fight for free live.
Is there a way to Watch Alvarez vs Usyk Live Streams fRee Boxing? , I pirate everything: sports, movies, TV Channels, and even made my?
I don't care if there is a small delay or anything, but it needs to be at a good bitrate at 1080p or it isn't worth watch for me. Also preferably I would want a way to watch it on a smart TV in some way but im expecting to sacrifice that luxury honestly.
I have researched and found a few ways to watch it but I want to see what you guys recommend.
ESPN, ABC or Boxing Network. I'm sure you can stream as well. I pirate everything: games, movies, software, and even made my own plex server.
When is the Fury vs. Usyk fight?
Date: Saturday, May 18
Start time: 2 p.m. ET
Fight time (approximate): 11:15 p.m. ET
Location: Riyadh, Saudi Arabia
TV channel/streaming: PPV via TNTSPORTS, Amazon Prime
Tyson Fury and Oleksandr Usyk face off this Saturday, May 18 in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. The event will begin at 10 a.m. ET/2 p.m. PT. The pair are expected to face off in the ring around 11:15 p.m. that evening. The event will feature four fights.
2024.05.16 20:46 DemureGay How do I ask him?
First time posting on Reddit ever, bear with me. To preface, I (25M) have never been in a relationship but have been getting with guys since I was 19. Came out of the closet at 22, and started actually going on dates with guys at 23.
After many failed situationships, I've come across a man (27M) who I've been seeing consistently for a month and a half now. We've gone over to each other's places, I've met and hung out with some of his friends (on accident, we ran into them at a bar), and I've even stayed the night with him at his place. When we first started talking, I noticed that he would put in effort and text first and all that good stuff.
When we first started getting to know each other, he said he enjoyed my "communication style" and wanted to go on more dates. He's a very busy guy with a lot of weekend trips to weddings and such, and hates doing things during the weekdays. We've seen each other minimum once a week on weekdays, and he even put his job at risk once to not bail on plans we had already made. He's expressed that he feels very comfortable around me, and we've had a great time whenever we're together, cracking jokes, learning about one another, etc... When asked, he told me that he's looking for a monogamous relationship, which I am as well.
Lately, I've noticed that his energy has shifted. I find myself sending him memes on Instagram that just get left on read, and just reactions to my texts, barely any responses. He's expressed that he's very lazy and that social media/texting is a lot for him, so I try not to take it personally. I've see him online on Grindr very often, but he seems to be on for like 2-3 minutes at a time, which makes me believe he's just checking notifications, but my insecurities with dating are taking my head to a dark place and making me believe that he's sleeping with other guys while we talk.
I've also noticed that he takes antidepressants and stimulants (like myself), and have taken note of his shifting energy. His place is a hazard zone of a mess, and I've even offered to help clean it up (without telling him his place is messy), and to even build some of his furniture (which I actually enjoy doing, it's like adult LEGOs.) I'm under the impression that he's going through a depressive episode and is struggling to get by, which I can really empathize with, and I've told him that I've been there before and am there to even just listen.
I've tried having conversations about where we see this "situation" going, and often left more confused with his answers. He usually brushes off the question and says something along the lines of "I mean, we've seen each other a lot, you tell me..." He has a very avoidant conflict style and has even expressed that to me, so I try not to take his avoidance of the question personally, but the uncertainty is taking a huge toll on me mentally.
Now, when we hang out, all he wants to do is cuddle and do nothing, which I don't mind. I'd like to think he likes me because his love language is physical touch, and we don't spend a moment where we're not at least holding hands. I really like him, I haven't felt this way about a man in a long time. He gets me in a way that many people don't, and has brought out a good side of me I didn't know existed. Whenever I see him on Grindr, my heart sinks to my stomach, and am just confused on how to have a conversation with him in regards to where he actually sees this relationship going, what we're doing, and if he wants to be exclusive so we can both get off the apps. I'm usually not this insecure, but since this is the farthest I've been able to get with a guy romantically, I don't want to mess up what myself and a lot of my friends think is a great guy.
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After many failed situationships, I've come across a man (27M) who I've been seeing consistently for a month and a half now. We've gone over to each other's places, I've met and hung out with some of his friends (on accident, we ran into them at a bar), and I've even stayed the night with him at his place. When we first started talking, I noticed that he would put in effort and text first and all that good stuff.
When we first started getting to know each other, he said he enjoyed my "communication style" and wanted to go on more dates. He's a very busy guy with a lot of weekend trips to weddings and such, and hates doing things during the weekdays. We've seen each other minimum once a week on weekdays, and he even put his job at risk once to not bail on plans we had already made. He's expressed that he feels very comfortable around me, and we've had a great time whenever we're together, cracking jokes, learning about one another, etc... When asked, he told me that he's looking for a monogamous relationship, which I am as well.
Lately, I've noticed that his energy has shifted. I find myself sending him memes on Instagram that just get left on read, and just reactions to my texts, barely any responses. He's expressed that he's very lazy and that social media/texting is a lot for him, so I try not to take it personally. I've see him online on Grindr very often, but he seems to be on for like 2-3 minutes at a time, which makes me believe he's just checking notifications, but my insecurities with dating are taking my head to a dark place and making me believe that he's sleeping with other guys while we talk.
I've also noticed that he takes antidepressants and stimulants (like myself), and have taken note of his shifting energy. His place is a hazard zone of a mess, and I've even offered to help clean it up (without telling him his place is messy), and to even build some of his furniture (which I actually enjoy doing, it's like adult LEGOs.) I'm under the impression that he's going through a depressive episode and is struggling to get by, which I can really empathize with, and I've told him that I've been there before and am there to even just listen.
I've tried having conversations about where we see this "situation" going, and often left more confused with his answers. He usually brushes off the question and says something along the lines of "I mean, we've seen each other a lot, you tell me..." He has a very avoidant conflict style and has even expressed that to me, so I try not to take his avoidance of the question personally, but the uncertainty is taking a huge toll on me mentally.
Now, when we hang out, all he wants to do is cuddle and do nothing, which I don't mind. I'd like to think he likes me because his love language is physical touch, and we don't spend a moment where we're not at least holding hands. I really like him, I haven't felt this way about a man in a long time. He gets me in a way that many people don't, and has brought out a good side of me I didn't know existed. Whenever I see him on Grindr, my heart sinks to my stomach, and am just confused on how to have a conversation with him in regards to where he actually sees this relationship going, what we're doing, and if he wants to be exclusive so we can both get off the apps. I'm usually not this insecure, but since this is the farthest I've been able to get with a guy romantically, I don't want to mess up what myself and a lot of my friends think is a great guy.
2024.05.16 20:42 WrongRun4764 Groomsman dress being destroyed?!
It’s been a long time I wanted to submit this story to the Potato Queen herself!
It’s a long story, actually it’s two stories in one, because as it involves the same person over more than decade long, it’s worth telling the whole story all at once (and it makes it may more fun too!). I decided to share it because it’s the kind of story that doesn’t seem to happen very often.
Below you will find goodies about an ex, a wedding, a dress, a delivery company and more! Please simply be mindful English is not my first language, trying my best to entertain you all the same.
This story goes back a long way, when (let’s name him) Frank (M) and myself (F) were both in college (both 17 at the time, we’re now 33), young and naive teenagers. We started as friends and eventually decided to be together. We then decided to move to another city together, as I was about to start university.
It went well for a while and then started to go south. So, long story short, after about two years together, we decided to break up. It wasn’t a mean breakup or anything, I think we were mostly disappointed it didn’t work out. Anyway.
We live in the province of Quebec. For those who don’t know, there is this weird tradition of starting and ending about any lease on July 1st. I have no idea why, but Canada’s Day has always been for anybody moving, in this province, a synonym of sweating under the sun, moving boxes, lifting heavy things and ending the day with cold beer and cheap pizza in a new and probably not so clean apartment. Why this context? Because we broke up two weeks before July 1st. It means it was virtually impossible to find another apartment so close to this date. We were about 7 hours away from both our families living on the countryside. We were also awfully broke students. We decided to give it a chance at being roommates.
Yes, it was super awkward at first, really not easy to manage to say the least. We were walking on eggshells and were definitely on edge for a while. There were also some pretty awkward situations, like this one time he decided to bring a one night home as I was sleeping in the adjacent room. Not only that, but the shameful phone call he had to make, waking me up in the middle of the night, so I could unlock the front door because he had forgotten his keys to find out he had brought home an acquaintance of mine. Nowadays I find this story delightfully funny tbh. But on that night, as I couldn’t go back to sleep because the gal decided to show off how an amazing singer she could have been —because, oh boy, this voice carried loudly all the way to my ears for more than an hour — I did not find it funny. I was furious, but prepared myself for the eventuality it would ever happen again. Do you remember the “Tiny Wall Challenges”? Let’s just say I had some games ideas after that night.
Anyway, anybody would probably have walked away but we still deeply cared for each other. We even did better than just survive through this whole year as roommates, we decided to move into a bigger apartment with two other friends. Believe it or not, we stayed there two more years. Moreover, these years were some of the best years and I still keep lots of good memories from this period.
Fast forward to the second part of the story. After being roommates for years, at some point we parted ways and lived our lives. We maintained contact throughout the years and when Frank finally started dating his wife to be, I was absolutely happy for him. He asked her to marry him and she said yes! Our friendship still held such a high place in both our hearts that he asked me to be one of his groomsmen, with his other best friend and his little brother. I felt so honoured, as I was technically a female, to be chosen to be on his side at the wedding.
The bridesmaids chose matching dresses in a beautiful forest green, all from a specialized website from UK, and I was to also be in a dress on the groom’s side, but matching the colour of the other groomsmen suits. With Frank, We all shopped together for their suits, chose a beautiful dark grey for his and a light grey for us, and we were able to match it perfectly with clothing samples I ordered from the website. Everything was going as planned. That being done, I ordered the dress, considering buying two inches heel shoes to go with it. It would take about four months to be done and the dress would arrive about a month and a half before the wedding. I decided to wait for the dress to arrive to pick shoes to go with it.
Four months passed, and I finally received a notice that the dress was on its way. The bridesmaids dresses arrived a bit before mine and they were all absolutely beautiful. As we all ordered from the same shop, we were able to choose different dresses that suited each of our styles, with identical fabrics that made the whole thing look fantastic.
I received the delivery’s notice, saying it was to be delivered by DHL. (If you never had to deal with this delivery company before, let’s just say this in itself is a red flag, but what could I do.)
I chose a delivery date that I could be home all day. I awaited their arrival, and waited. At some point I received a notification that they couldn’t deliver it because there was an error in the address. I called DHL customer service as soon as I read it and could verify with the clerk on the phone that there was no error on the original delivery address and that actually, internally, they miss-wrote a letter of the postal code. The person assured me that the delivery person would be notified and they would then be on their way back.
I waited. It never came.
The next morning, I received a notification that, unable to deliver it, the expeditor had agreed to DESTROY the package! I screamed! Why in the world would the UK online shop allow to destroy a custom made dress that took four months to do?! And why the hell the delivery service didn’t make any other attempt after being responsible of the address error in the first place. I was beyond mad. I called DHL, they confirmed someone at the company had agreed on the destruction of the item. I wrote to the person I was in contact with from the beginning at the online shop (this lovely clerk who clearly never asked for any of this). Over there, they couldn’t find who the hell agreed to this insane request to destroy the dress. They were also appalled and didn’t understand how it could have happened. They could put a request to redo the dress rush, but we first needed to either try to stop the destruction from happening by going to the DHL warehouse directly, or to obtain a proof from DHL that the dress was irreversibly lost forever.
It felt surreal! The fiancées were both furious too. There was only one DHL warehouse we could go to do this kind of request in the city and it was really far. As the clock was ticking, they jumped in their car, joined me, and to the warehouse we went, arriving a few minutes before closing like an epic movie scene. The clerk there was mind blown by the whole situation. It seemed we were too late and the best we could do was to have the proof that, in their system, the dress had effectively transited and was destroyed.
With photos as proof in hand, I forwarded everything to the clerk of the online dress shop. Days passed, as they were awaiting the okay to start sewing a new dress. They were really trying their best to help the situation but it seemed to be a mess over there about the whole situation. We were now a month before the wedding. At some point, I was starting to panic. They finally agreed to redo it, but it would be waaaay too close before the wedding to receive it. Like a few days before kind of close, if nothing happened in transport this time.
I decided to go shopping for another dress. I spent a whole day trying to find the perfect grey that would fit the other groomsmen suits. In the last possible boutique, there was one dress checking all the criteria. I bought the new one and wrote to the first shop, hoping they would agree to refund the lost dress.
I took an appointment later that week to do the adjustments on the new dress. I then shopped for shoes. I found a cute pair with one inch heel that would be perfect for me. I’m not used to walking with heels, so the lower the better after all.
Like all this turmoil wasn’t enough, my family called and told me that my grandfather’s health suddenly decreased. Remember? Seven hours drive from family. I canceled some plans and bought a ticket for the night’s bus ride right after the dress fitting. On that morning, the UK shop agreed to refund the dress. That part was a big relief. I went to the dress fitting. At last, three weeks before the wedding, The second dress would be ready in about seven days. I came back home to gather some things to get back out to catch my bus.
But suddenly, the doorbell rang.
I opened.
Some DHL delivery man casually gave me a package and left.
Yes. That’s what you think.
I closed the door, went to my room, sat on the bed, opened the bag. It was indeed the first dress. I had a melt down. I cried so hard. I put the dress down, looked at it, told it “I’ll deal with you when I come back” and went away to the bus station.
Few days later, coming back from the family, I collected the second dress and dealt with the first one, which no longer fitted the length of the shoes! My MIL at the time knew an old lady who was lovely enough to accommodate me and do the fitting of the first one for a as modest price. I decided to keep it a secret until the wedding day. (These friends wouldn’t do any drama about reveals etc, nor would they think it was stealing any of their thunder, don’t worry about that.)
On the wedding morning, I effectively surprised the bride and groom with both dresses. They were mind blowed, flabbergasted to say the least! I put the original one for the official photoshoot and discretely changed right after dinner for the other one. People around that had followed the incredible adventures were laughing out loud and finding it hilarious that I decided to wear both of them as I had so much troubles!
Quite a story with dresses and with an ex, right? Guess what, I’m also the godmother of their first child!
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It’s a long story, actually it’s two stories in one, because as it involves the same person over more than decade long, it’s worth telling the whole story all at once (and it makes it may more fun too!). I decided to share it because it’s the kind of story that doesn’t seem to happen very often.
Below you will find goodies about an ex, a wedding, a dress, a delivery company and more! Please simply be mindful English is not my first language, trying my best to entertain you all the same.
This story goes back a long way, when (let’s name him) Frank (M) and myself (F) were both in college (both 17 at the time, we’re now 33), young and naive teenagers. We started as friends and eventually decided to be together. We then decided to move to another city together, as I was about to start university.
It went well for a while and then started to go south. So, long story short, after about two years together, we decided to break up. It wasn’t a mean breakup or anything, I think we were mostly disappointed it didn’t work out. Anyway.
We live in the province of Quebec. For those who don’t know, there is this weird tradition of starting and ending about any lease on July 1st. I have no idea why, but Canada’s Day has always been for anybody moving, in this province, a synonym of sweating under the sun, moving boxes, lifting heavy things and ending the day with cold beer and cheap pizza in a new and probably not so clean apartment. Why this context? Because we broke up two weeks before July 1st. It means it was virtually impossible to find another apartment so close to this date. We were about 7 hours away from both our families living on the countryside. We were also awfully broke students. We decided to give it a chance at being roommates.
Yes, it was super awkward at first, really not easy to manage to say the least. We were walking on eggshells and were definitely on edge for a while. There were also some pretty awkward situations, like this one time he decided to bring a one night home as I was sleeping in the adjacent room. Not only that, but the shameful phone call he had to make, waking me up in the middle of the night, so I could unlock the front door because he had forgotten his keys to find out he had brought home an acquaintance of mine. Nowadays I find this story delightfully funny tbh. But on that night, as I couldn’t go back to sleep because the gal decided to show off how an amazing singer she could have been —because, oh boy, this voice carried loudly all the way to my ears for more than an hour — I did not find it funny. I was furious, but prepared myself for the eventuality it would ever happen again. Do you remember the “Tiny Wall Challenges”? Let’s just say I had some games ideas after that night.
Anyway, anybody would probably have walked away but we still deeply cared for each other. We even did better than just survive through this whole year as roommates, we decided to move into a bigger apartment with two other friends. Believe it or not, we stayed there two more years. Moreover, these years were some of the best years and I still keep lots of good memories from this period.
Fast forward to the second part of the story. After being roommates for years, at some point we parted ways and lived our lives. We maintained contact throughout the years and when Frank finally started dating his wife to be, I was absolutely happy for him. He asked her to marry him and she said yes! Our friendship still held such a high place in both our hearts that he asked me to be one of his groomsmen, with his other best friend and his little brother. I felt so honoured, as I was technically a female, to be chosen to be on his side at the wedding.
The bridesmaids chose matching dresses in a beautiful forest green, all from a specialized website from UK, and I was to also be in a dress on the groom’s side, but matching the colour of the other groomsmen suits. With Frank, We all shopped together for their suits, chose a beautiful dark grey for his and a light grey for us, and we were able to match it perfectly with clothing samples I ordered from the website. Everything was going as planned. That being done, I ordered the dress, considering buying two inches heel shoes to go with it. It would take about four months to be done and the dress would arrive about a month and a half before the wedding. I decided to wait for the dress to arrive to pick shoes to go with it.
Four months passed, and I finally received a notice that the dress was on its way. The bridesmaids dresses arrived a bit before mine and they were all absolutely beautiful. As we all ordered from the same shop, we were able to choose different dresses that suited each of our styles, with identical fabrics that made the whole thing look fantastic.
I received the delivery’s notice, saying it was to be delivered by DHL. (If you never had to deal with this delivery company before, let’s just say this in itself is a red flag, but what could I do.)
I chose a delivery date that I could be home all day. I awaited their arrival, and waited. At some point I received a notification that they couldn’t deliver it because there was an error in the address. I called DHL customer service as soon as I read it and could verify with the clerk on the phone that there was no error on the original delivery address and that actually, internally, they miss-wrote a letter of the postal code. The person assured me that the delivery person would be notified and they would then be on their way back.
I waited. It never came.
The next morning, I received a notification that, unable to deliver it, the expeditor had agreed to DESTROY the package! I screamed! Why in the world would the UK online shop allow to destroy a custom made dress that took four months to do?! And why the hell the delivery service didn’t make any other attempt after being responsible of the address error in the first place. I was beyond mad. I called DHL, they confirmed someone at the company had agreed on the destruction of the item. I wrote to the person I was in contact with from the beginning at the online shop (this lovely clerk who clearly never asked for any of this). Over there, they couldn’t find who the hell agreed to this insane request to destroy the dress. They were also appalled and didn’t understand how it could have happened. They could put a request to redo the dress rush, but we first needed to either try to stop the destruction from happening by going to the DHL warehouse directly, or to obtain a proof from DHL that the dress was irreversibly lost forever.
It felt surreal! The fiancées were both furious too. There was only one DHL warehouse we could go to do this kind of request in the city and it was really far. As the clock was ticking, they jumped in their car, joined me, and to the warehouse we went, arriving a few minutes before closing like an epic movie scene. The clerk there was mind blown by the whole situation. It seemed we were too late and the best we could do was to have the proof that, in their system, the dress had effectively transited and was destroyed.
With photos as proof in hand, I forwarded everything to the clerk of the online dress shop. Days passed, as they were awaiting the okay to start sewing a new dress. They were really trying their best to help the situation but it seemed to be a mess over there about the whole situation. We were now a month before the wedding. At some point, I was starting to panic. They finally agreed to redo it, but it would be waaaay too close before the wedding to receive it. Like a few days before kind of close, if nothing happened in transport this time.
I decided to go shopping for another dress. I spent a whole day trying to find the perfect grey that would fit the other groomsmen suits. In the last possible boutique, there was one dress checking all the criteria. I bought the new one and wrote to the first shop, hoping they would agree to refund the lost dress.
I took an appointment later that week to do the adjustments on the new dress. I then shopped for shoes. I found a cute pair with one inch heel that would be perfect for me. I’m not used to walking with heels, so the lower the better after all.
Like all this turmoil wasn’t enough, my family called and told me that my grandfather’s health suddenly decreased. Remember? Seven hours drive from family. I canceled some plans and bought a ticket for the night’s bus ride right after the dress fitting. On that morning, the UK shop agreed to refund the dress. That part was a big relief. I went to the dress fitting. At last, three weeks before the wedding, The second dress would be ready in about seven days. I came back home to gather some things to get back out to catch my bus.
But suddenly, the doorbell rang.
I opened.
Some DHL delivery man casually gave me a package and left.
Yes. That’s what you think.
I closed the door, went to my room, sat on the bed, opened the bag. It was indeed the first dress. I had a melt down. I cried so hard. I put the dress down, looked at it, told it “I’ll deal with you when I come back” and went away to the bus station.
Few days later, coming back from the family, I collected the second dress and dealt with the first one, which no longer fitted the length of the shoes! My MIL at the time knew an old lady who was lovely enough to accommodate me and do the fitting of the first one for a as modest price. I decided to keep it a secret until the wedding day. (These friends wouldn’t do any drama about reveals etc, nor would they think it was stealing any of their thunder, don’t worry about that.)
On the wedding morning, I effectively surprised the bride and groom with both dresses. They were mind blowed, flabbergasted to say the least! I put the original one for the official photoshoot and discretely changed right after dinner for the other one. People around that had followed the incredible adventures were laughing out loud and finding it hilarious that I decided to wear both of them as I had so much troubles!
Quite a story with dresses and with an ex, right? Guess what, I’m also the godmother of their first child!
2024.05.16 20:32 GrandPipe4 Jobs for 16 year olds
Hi everyone - my 16 year old with no prior work experience (other than volunteering) is looking for a summer job (and would be happy to continue on in the fall). A lot of places I would normally think of say they won't hire anyone under 18. Any leads? I don't want to mention any personal preferences because I'm guessing others might be looking for this same type of information. My kid has applied at 10+ places online and so far, no call backs at all.
(I know about this program through the county, but it's income-restricted. https://scdjfs.formstack.com/forms/summer_youth_24?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR3aQ1FNob1Pgq3T_UkJWXqjlnh_UpNjtZua2ZBhGvexNi_zZBcwtMkRhBA_aem_AaiHA6sFnLm-AhUJYJHfxGZG4I3Bbj1PFWwGLL9r_bHnIJJaML9SN_zwrM6Z_gD_KGJePHKSPkXQAxtQ-xMrFNIk )
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(I know about this program through the county, but it's income-restricted. https://scdjfs.formstack.com/forms/summer_youth_24?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR3aQ1FNob1Pgq3T_UkJWXqjlnh_UpNjtZua2ZBhGvexNi_zZBcwtMkRhBA_aem_AaiHA6sFnLm-AhUJYJHfxGZG4I3Bbj1PFWwGLL9r_bHnIJJaML9SN_zwrM6Z_gD_KGJePHKSPkXQAxtQ-xMrFNIk )
2024.05.16 20:05 Empty-Chocolate-2927 I'm thinking about adopting an old 40 yr old amazon, but I get anxious thinking about the possibility of injury to my current GCC if there were to be an accident. Can anyone share experiences with owning different-sized parrots? Is it a bad idea in general?
I saw a post online for a 40 yr old female Southern Mealy Amazon looking for her *sixth* home (wow)!
So far I've messaged the owner with a list of questions about her temperament, sociability, experience with other birds, etc and I'm waiting to hear back. He lives about 9 hours away but I wouldn't mind the drive if I felt confident she could be a good fit for us. Maybe I could drive over with Sunny and see how the amazon reacts to her being nearby? But idk, there are so many variables. AND the possibility of driving 18 total hours for no reason is kinda hhhggggh
I just worry a lot when it comes to my current baby Sunny. She's an 11 year old pineapple GCC and she LOVES every other bird she's ever come into contact with. It's quite the anomaly imo haha. But obviously I cannot guarantee that this amazon would feel the same, even about just Sunny's presence.
Apparently the owner's wife was the original 5th owner but she passed last year and the husband is looking to rehome her. I saw a couple pictures he uploaded and tbh it's clear that he is unable to take good care of her. I'm talking a literal mountain of poop under her in what I assume is the only spot she ever sits in, within this small rectangular cage. I wouldnt be surprised if she has bumblefoot. Her beak and nails are also getting overgrown. I guess on some level I can't blame him if he wasn't originally the owner, but I just feel bad for the bird.
Can anyone chime in with their experiences or advice on how to approach the situation if I do decide to make the drive over? Thank you!
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So far I've messaged the owner with a list of questions about her temperament, sociability, experience with other birds, etc and I'm waiting to hear back. He lives about 9 hours away but I wouldn't mind the drive if I felt confident she could be a good fit for us. Maybe I could drive over with Sunny and see how the amazon reacts to her being nearby? But idk, there are so many variables. AND the possibility of driving 18 total hours for no reason is kinda hhhggggh
I just worry a lot when it comes to my current baby Sunny. She's an 11 year old pineapple GCC and she LOVES every other bird she's ever come into contact with. It's quite the anomaly imo haha. But obviously I cannot guarantee that this amazon would feel the same, even about just Sunny's presence.
Apparently the owner's wife was the original 5th owner but she passed last year and the husband is looking to rehome her. I saw a couple pictures he uploaded and tbh it's clear that he is unable to take good care of her. I'm talking a literal mountain of poop under her in what I assume is the only spot she ever sits in, within this small rectangular cage. I wouldnt be surprised if she has bumblefoot. Her beak and nails are also getting overgrown. I guess on some level I can't blame him if he wasn't originally the owner, but I just feel bad for the bird.
Can anyone chime in with their experiences or advice on how to approach the situation if I do decide to make the drive over? Thank you!
2024.05.16 20:01 SimpingForLexi Once a cheater always a cheater?(M19)(F20)
For the past year I’ve been dating my gf. We met in 8th grade at the time she had a boyfriend so whenever I would make advances they’d just get shut down. We rekindled my senior year of high school when I discovered her instagram page. At the time I didn’t know if she was currently in a relationship and didn’t really care to ask. We made small talk here and there but never anything flirtatious or sexually suggestive. One day she texted me and asked if I wanted her to hook me up with one of her friends, so of course me being me I accepted the offer. She then proceeded to ask me if I was a cheater, I told her no. She then asked for my number to put us into contact and right after I sent it. She texted me on iMessage stating that she thinks we’d make a good couple. I had been tricked. And in this moment when I read her text I couldn’t help but feel like the nice guy who finished last and got what was left over. we started chatting again more frequently and this was probably at the peak of my “hoe phase” I had just recently got a car gifted to me by my loving parents. So as a horny teen who just recently graduated I was doing bad. Seeing girls daily (intimately) sometimes even two. So as you could imagine I was not in the mental head space to jump into a relationship especially seeing that I’ve never been in one. Mind you she knew the type of guy I was, Because during my “hoe phase” I would publicize me going on dates with various girls on my instagram story cause I thought it was cool and my buddies would always ask how can I maneuver so carelessly and still have women that still put up with me. Around this time we weren’t in a relationship yet so their wasn’t any consequences for my actions. She’d see it complain then brush it off. But seeing that I did use to like this girl a lot…and I mean a lot, Just to put it into perspective for you on how delusional and down bad I was. When we first started chatting again, I went to our old Snapchat messages and reread every single one which took about 3 hours and they were so cringey and sappy to me that I took the time to delete every single one. (She was one of those weird people who’d saved the messages instead of letting them automatically delete after 24 hours) I felt like I had to do this because I didn’t want her to have any recollection of that desperate version of myself. Fast forward a few weeks and we went on our first date. I decided to take things slow with her by limiting myself to only kissing and fingering her. Then About a month after that is when we first had sex. And it felt exactly like I expected it to…magical. It was like we were two bodies who were meant for each other that finally met. Fast forward a few more months now it’s time for her to go off to college and when she left I slowly started reverting back into my old ways of seeing multiple girls a week and being promiscuous. This continued up until about January the next year when I got caught. Long story short, she cried I cried and we both decided that we’d like to move forward. During this season of our relationship I was constantly feeling guilt so much to the point where I ever considered suicide. I was constantly in my head saying things like “is it even worth it” “she probably doing it too and you just don’t know” “leave her” “it’ll never work” “you won’t regain her trust” “our relationship is irreparable” “don’t waste anymore of your youthful years on this failing relationship”. And with due time these negative thoughts stopped consuming my mind and we actually started doing better. I quit my job moved in with her and started working remotely. At this point in my life I couldn’t be any happier. It felt like a dream come true. All it took was one weekend and all of this ended. At this point it’s around spring break so all the surrounding colleges are having parties. I devised a plan to pick all the boys and go on a little road trip. We hit different colleges daily to party, drink and smoke and the biggest of incentive all, to meet girls. Looking back on it, this was a recipe for disaster. On one particular night I uploaded a video of me getting twerked on my by a girl to my close friends on instagram not remembering that she was still included in it. And before I could even sober up and realize what the fuck I’ve just done she eventually saw it and messaged me stating that this is her last time and “we’re done”. In this moment when I read the text while being drunk & high I just couldn’t find it in me to care or fight for our relationship. So I just thought to myself “ok”. As the night proceeded I found myself in some random suite where a girl approached me and began express her interest in me and long story short I ended up cheating. When all the fun was over and I dropped all the guys back home. I was still tasked with having to drive my girlfriend m back to her dorm cause she stayed with family for the weekend. I didn’t want to take her but no other buses were departing and everyone who she could’ve possibly asked was already preoccupied or just didn’t feel like doing a 4 hour drive there and back. And plus before all this turmoil I had already promised to her that I’d drive her back. I go to pick her up and she’s all moody and for the first 3 hours of the ride she gives me silent treatment. And the first words out of her mouth were “you know when we get back to my dorm you’re packing your shit and leaving right?” At first I didn’t respond. I laughed actually, not hysterically but more of a “wow after all we been thru you’re really ending this?” Laugh. All types of thoughts started racing thru my head. Part of me wanted to serve the car in front of an oncoming 18 wheeler but then I remembered that she’s still here with me and as ironic as it sounds I’d never want to hurt her, especially in a way that could result in fatality. The laughing slowly turned into silent tears. The pain I was feeling in my stomach was so excruciating it felt as if I had just been stabbed with a 10 foot sword repeatedly over and over and over again. I eventually started uncontrollably crying and spewing out my feelings. While doing this I confessed to cheating on her and told how I’d been long before that weekend. I pulled over to the side of the interstate in the middle of nowhere with no reception got out and just started crying even harder so she couldn’t see. I felt like my life had been ruined and the only person I could blame for it was myself. I eventually got back in and started driving in silence again. After all that crying with the added partying the past week and weekend I must’ve been real tired cause I started to doze off which I usually don’t. I’ve taken the drive enough to become accustomed to it and have built up enough stamina to make it all the way through without having to fight the feeling of tiredness. She noticed this and offered to take the wheel which I respectfully declined. I then told her I’d be pulling over to the side of the road to catch a quick 2 minute nap. I typically do this whenever I’m on extra long drives and my friends know me for it. I set a 2 minute timer on my phone and let my body temporarily rejuvenate as much as possible. And chances are they usually fall asleep too. Because I’d literally rather trust myself to drive tired before I let one of my unlicensed friends behind the wheel. I put my head down for what felt like 10 seconds and woke up to her nudging my shoulder saying that 7 minutes have passed. This bothered me because if I was so tired to the point I myself didn’t hear the alarm she should have came to the realization that I was genuinely tired and let me rest a little longer. But because it was her birthday she probably overlooked this aspect of my situation because she was just tooeager to get to her own birthday party that her friends had started without her. I began driving again will still tired and now aggravated from being woken up. I began to speed at this point we’re 40 miles away from our destination. The tiredness began to take over again and before I knew it I wake up to the screaming of my name as the car is slowly drifting off the road and I’m stuck in mud on the side of the interstate. A state trooper and tow truck arrive to assess the situation and we end up taking a Uber the rest of the way. At this point I’m stranded. I spent my last on tow truck fees and don’t even have anything saved up to pay for the mechanic fees, let alone worry about gas money. We somehow managed talk and temporarily bandaid the under lying issue and sleep in the same bed that night but things progressively kept on getting worse and worse as the days went on. It got so bad to the point where we slept in different rooms, Or so I thought. The morning after I go into her room to check on her and see paper towels and her sitting up still crying in the same position she was the night before. I on the other hand actually slept pretty well. She then came into my room still with water in her cute pearly big eyes. And to my surprise sat down directly on my lap and told me how she couldn’t get no sleep. We hugged and talked and cried then ultimately came to the conclusion that our relationship is worth more than my stupid mistakes and I have some more maturing to do.
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2024.05.16 19:56 Then_Marionberry_259 MAY 15, 2024 STGO.TO STEPPE GOLD ANNOUNCES Q1 2024 FINANCIAL RESULTS
 | https://preview.redd.it/xiry63onut0d1.png?width=3500&format=png&auto=webp&s=8423601328368231a8bde0f2fc5ff8fcbaa1a27b submitted by Then_Marionberry_259 to Treaty_Creek [link] [comments] Ulaanbaatar, Mongolia--(Newsfile Corp. - May 15, 2024) - Steppe Gold Ltd. (TSX: STGO) (OTCQX: STPGF) (FSE: 2J9) ("Steppe Gold" or the "Company") is pleased to announce its financial results for the quarter ended March 31, 2024. HIGHLIGHTS First Quarter Highlights (all figures in US$000's unless stated otherwise, except per unit figures which are in US$)
The Proposed Transaction to acquire Boroo Gold is a transformational step for the Company. With an expected closing in the third quarter of 2024, the Proposed Transaction is expected to accelerate the path to a multi-asset Mongolia-focused mining group and, importantly, is projected to immediately provide strong cash flow to support growth plans, further improved with the recent strong gold prices. The Proposed Transaction is subject to customary closing conditions, including receipt of approval by the Company's shareholders at the annual general and special meeting of shareholders expected to be held at the end of June 2024, and certain regulatory approvals, including the approvals of the Toronto Stock Exchange and applicable Mongolian authorities. The near term focus for the Company is on maximising production and cash flows at ATO Phase 1, executing on a successful completion of the Phase 2 Expansion, where construction activity continues, with a planned commissioning in Q1 2026, and on working towards closing the Proposed Transaction and planning for the successful integration of Boroo Gold into the Company's operations. With the projected additional operating cash flow accruing from the Boroo Gold Transaction, the Company expects to be well-placed to increase exploration activities at both production centres with the aim of extending resources, reserves and production. The Company will also consider opportunistic acquisitions in Mongolia. The Company's condensed interim consolidated financial results for the quarter ended March 31, 2024 have been filed on SEDAR+. The full version of the condensed interim consolidated financial statements and associated management's discussion & analysis can be viewed on the Company's website at www.steppegold.com or under the Company's profile on SEDAR+ at www.sedarplus.ca. Steppe Gold Ltd. Steppe Gold is Mongolia's premier precious metals company. For Further information, please contact: Bataa Tumur-Ochir, Chairman and CEO Jeremy South, Senior Vice President and Chief Financial Officer Elisa Tagarvaa, Investor Relations [elisa@steppegold.com](mailto:elisa@steppegold.com) Shangri-La office, Suite 1201, Olympic Street 19A, Sukhbaatar District 1, Ulaanbaatar 14241, Mongolia Tel: +976 7732 1914 Non-IFRS Performance Measures The Company uses the following non-IFRS measures: Adjusted EBITDA, EBITDA and AISC. EBITDA is earnings before interest, taxes, depreciation and amortization. Adjusted EBITDA is defined as adjusted earnings before interest, taxes, depreciation and amortization. AISC is calculated using cash costs in addition to general and administration, asset retirement costs, and sustaining capital, less certain non-recurring costs (notably exploration costs at the Mungu deposit) to provide an overall company outlook on the total cost required to sell an ounce of gold. Management believes that these non-IFRS measures provide useful information to investors in measuring the financial performance of the Company for the reasons outlined below. These measures do not have a standardized meaning prescribed by IFRS and therefore they may not be comparable to similarly titled measures presented by other publicly traded companies and should not be construed as an alternative to other financial measures determined in accordance with IFRS. The Company believes that these measures, together with measures determined in accordance with IFRS, provide investors with an improved ability to evaluate the underlying performance of the Company. The inclusion of these measures is meant to provide additional information and should not be used as a substitute for performance measures prepared in accordance with IFRS. These measures are not necessarily standard and therefore may not be comparable to other issuers. Further details of non-IFRS measures noted above can be found in the Company's management's discussion & analysis for the three months ended March 31, 2024. Cautionary Note Regarding Forward-Looking Statements This news release contains certain statements or disclosures relating to the Company that are based on the expectations of its management as well as assumptions made by and information currently available to the Company which may constitute forward-looking statements or information ("forward-looking statements") under applicable securities laws. All such statements and disclosures, other than those of historical fact, which address activities, events, outcomes, results, or developments that the Company anticipates or expects may, or will occur in the future (in whole or in part) should be considered forward-looking statements. In some cases, forward-looking statements can be identified by the use of the words "continued", "focus", "scheduled", "will", "projected", "expected", "planned" and similar expressions. In particular, but without limiting the foregoing, this news release contains forward-looking statements pertaining to the following: the anticipated benefits of the Boroo Gold Transaction; the potential for value creation to Steppe Gold's shareholders; payments to be made under the A&R Prepay Agreement; consummation and timing of the Proposed Transaction; the satisfaction of the conditions precedent to the Proposed Transaction; the strengths, characteristics and potential of the resulting company and discussion of future plans, projections, objectives, estimates and forecasts and the timing related thereto, including with respect to the Phase 2 Expansion and the ATO gold mine. The forward-looking statements contained in this news release reflect several material factors and expectations and assumptions of the Company including, without limitation: required shareholder, regulatory and stock exchange approvals; approvals from applicable Mongolian authorities; exercise of any termination rights under the Share Exchange Agreement or the Share Purchase Agreements; meeting other conditions precedent to each of the Share Exchange Agreement and the Share Purchase Agreements material adverse effects on the business, properties and assets of the Company; changes in business plans and strategies; market and capital finance conditions; risks inherent to any capital financing transactions; changes in world commodity markets; currency fluctuations; costs and supply of materials relevant to the mining industry; change in government and changes to regulations affecting the mining industry; and such other risk factors detailed from time to time in Steppe Gold's public disclosure documents, including, without limitation, those risks identified in Steppe Gold's annual information form for the year ended December 31, 2023, which is available on SEDAR+ at www.sedarplus.ca. Forward-looking statements are based on information available at the time those statements are made and/or management's good faith belief as of that time with respect to future events and are subject to risks and uncertainties that could cause actual performance or results to differ materially from those expressed in or suggested by such forward-looking statements. Forward-looking statements speak only as of the date those statements are made. Except as required by applicable law, Steppe Gold assumes no obligation to update or to publicly announce the results of any change to any forward-looking statement contained or incorporated by reference herein to reflect actual results, future events or developments, changes in assumptions or changes in other factors affecting the forward-looking statements. If Steppe Gold updates any one or more forward-looking statements, no inference should be drawn that the company will make additional updates with respect to those or other forward-looking statements. All forward-looking statements contained in this news release are expressly qualified in their entirety by this cautionary statement. To view the source version of this press release, please visit https://www.newsfilecorp.com/release/209389 https://preview.redd.it/06xov8rnut0d1.png?width=4000&format=png&auto=webp&s=db599d4377c8b363e455eb4446adfe9cc104a2ca
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2024.05.16 19:53 Beneficial_Channel27 Hello!
I couldn't find a place for teens under 18 to find a date so I made one! Have fun and be safe!
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2024.05.16 19:29 secure-raspberry-763 AITA for refusing to pay for half of my ex-girlfriend’s flight that she can’t use because we broke up, and now possibly not even mine?
I am not OP. That is u/ProfessorBig5078 who posted in AmItheAsshole
Original Post April 21st, 2024
My girlfriend (F24) and I (M25) broke up about two weeks ago. It was more her call than mine, but we both knew things weren’t going well for a while. So, I was sad but not surprised. We ended things amicably and said we’d still be friends, whatever that means.
Anyway, we did the exchange of things in each other’s apartment a couple days after the break up and then didn’t talk again until two days ago when she texted me. We had been planning to go on a trip to the Canary Islands this year. The plane tickets were about $800 a piece and the AirBnb was like $1600, so we decided I’d just pay for the AirBnb and she’d pay for the flights.
The flights were non-refundable and we’re already past the date that I’d get any meaningful refund from the AirBnb, so I decided I’d just get a friend to split the AirBnb and go anyway.
I had been planning on telling my ex that I’d pay her for my ticket so she didn’t lose the money, but she texted me about it first. On Friday, she offered to pay me for the AirBnb minus the cost of my plane ticket, because she was still interested in going with a friend. I told her that I was actually planning on going with a friend, and I was going to pay her for my ticket and still go.
She said OK, but I actually needed to pay her for my ticket and half of the cost of hers because she can’t use it now. Basically, she says that she agreed to buy two plane tickets under the understanding that we would both go to on the trip. And I agreed to pay for an AirBnb under the same understanding. But since that’s not happening, we should evenly share the lost costs. Since I’m still using the room and my ticket, the only lost cost is her $800 ticket. And we should each bear $400 from that.
I told her that I didn’t think that’s fair at all. First of all, it was her idea to break up. So the reason we aren’t going is on her. Second, there’s no reason why she can’t use her ticket. She should just get an airbnb and still go with her friend. I even said I’d sit in her friend’s seat and let her friend in my seat so they can sit together. Whether or not she uses her ticket is on her, and she bears any cost of that.
She said she didn’t want to go at the same time as me and also the good AirBnbs are taken for that time. Anyway, we went back and forth and she even threatened to cancel the tickets even though she can’t get any money back. So I said, “You know what, go ahead cancel them, get whatever refund you can. I’ll just buy my own ticket and not pay you back anything.” She said, “I’m not gonna talk to you if you’re being a dick. Let’s talk about this later when you can be mature.”
That’s where it is right now. My friends are divided. Most say I should at least pay her for my ticket. Which I’m willing to do if she doesn’t cancel it! But some say I should pay for half of hers as well. I’m sticking firm that I won’t pay for half of her ticket, AITA?
Verdict was NTA
Update April 30th, 2024
Hey, thanks to everyone who commented on my last post. I got so much more advice than I was expecting, and I appreciate it. A lot of you were saying the airline could do something. I told that to my ex, and she actually bought the tickets from a discount agency online and there was no refund possibility. If you’re curious, I can tell you how it all ended.
I eventually told my ex that I was not going to pay her more than the $800 for my ticket under any circumstances, and she could take it or leave it and I’d just get my own ticket. She later asked if I’d be willing to let her use the AirBnb if she paid me the entire $1600, basically letting me out of the whole trip all together. To be honest, the Canary Islands were her idea in the first place. It’s not like it’s my #1 destination. I could take the money and go somewhere that I am more interested in.
I asked my friend who was going to go with me if he’d be interested in something cheaper and closer. He hadn’t bought his plane ticket yet because he was waiting for me to sort everything out with my ex.
We looked at options and decided to accept her offer and go to Belize. I had my ex agree in writing to pay for any fees or damages incurred at the AirBnb. I really don’t think there will be any. She’s not the type of person to damage a hotel room or something, but I just want to be sure.
I got Venmoed the money by a male coworker of hers. They have been work friends for a while now, and I have met him a couple of times. I don’t know if this is like a couple’s thing or what. I don’t really think she cheated on me with him. I could see maybe her being interested in him possibly being a factor for our breakup. But I don’t even know if they are together or going as friends.
At the end of the day, I don’t really care what she does. I got my money back, she gets her vacation. I’m guessing her coworker also bought his own plane ticket, so at the end of the day he’s the one eating the $800 loss. So he can have fun with that. My ex and I are technically “amicable” again, but I don’t really plan on talking to her again. Thanks again for the advice.
I am not the original poster. Please don't contact or comment on linked posts
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Original Post April 21st, 2024
My girlfriend (F24) and I (M25) broke up about two weeks ago. It was more her call than mine, but we both knew things weren’t going well for a while. So, I was sad but not surprised. We ended things amicably and said we’d still be friends, whatever that means.
Anyway, we did the exchange of things in each other’s apartment a couple days after the break up and then didn’t talk again until two days ago when she texted me. We had been planning to go on a trip to the Canary Islands this year. The plane tickets were about $800 a piece and the AirBnb was like $1600, so we decided I’d just pay for the AirBnb and she’d pay for the flights.
The flights were non-refundable and we’re already past the date that I’d get any meaningful refund from the AirBnb, so I decided I’d just get a friend to split the AirBnb and go anyway.
I had been planning on telling my ex that I’d pay her for my ticket so she didn’t lose the money, but she texted me about it first. On Friday, she offered to pay me for the AirBnb minus the cost of my plane ticket, because she was still interested in going with a friend. I told her that I was actually planning on going with a friend, and I was going to pay her for my ticket and still go.
She said OK, but I actually needed to pay her for my ticket and half of the cost of hers because she can’t use it now. Basically, she says that she agreed to buy two plane tickets under the understanding that we would both go to on the trip. And I agreed to pay for an AirBnb under the same understanding. But since that’s not happening, we should evenly share the lost costs. Since I’m still using the room and my ticket, the only lost cost is her $800 ticket. And we should each bear $400 from that.
I told her that I didn’t think that’s fair at all. First of all, it was her idea to break up. So the reason we aren’t going is on her. Second, there’s no reason why she can’t use her ticket. She should just get an airbnb and still go with her friend. I even said I’d sit in her friend’s seat and let her friend in my seat so they can sit together. Whether or not she uses her ticket is on her, and she bears any cost of that.
She said she didn’t want to go at the same time as me and also the good AirBnbs are taken for that time. Anyway, we went back and forth and she even threatened to cancel the tickets even though she can’t get any money back. So I said, “You know what, go ahead cancel them, get whatever refund you can. I’ll just buy my own ticket and not pay you back anything.” She said, “I’m not gonna talk to you if you’re being a dick. Let’s talk about this later when you can be mature.”
That’s where it is right now. My friends are divided. Most say I should at least pay her for my ticket. Which I’m willing to do if she doesn’t cancel it! But some say I should pay for half of hers as well. I’m sticking firm that I won’t pay for half of her ticket, AITA?
Verdict was NTA
Update April 30th, 2024
Hey, thanks to everyone who commented on my last post. I got so much more advice than I was expecting, and I appreciate it. A lot of you were saying the airline could do something. I told that to my ex, and she actually bought the tickets from a discount agency online and there was no refund possibility. If you’re curious, I can tell you how it all ended.
I eventually told my ex that I was not going to pay her more than the $800 for my ticket under any circumstances, and she could take it or leave it and I’d just get my own ticket. She later asked if I’d be willing to let her use the AirBnb if she paid me the entire $1600, basically letting me out of the whole trip all together. To be honest, the Canary Islands were her idea in the first place. It’s not like it’s my #1 destination. I could take the money and go somewhere that I am more interested in.
I asked my friend who was going to go with me if he’d be interested in something cheaper and closer. He hadn’t bought his plane ticket yet because he was waiting for me to sort everything out with my ex.
We looked at options and decided to accept her offer and go to Belize. I had my ex agree in writing to pay for any fees or damages incurred at the AirBnb. I really don’t think there will be any. She’s not the type of person to damage a hotel room or something, but I just want to be sure.
I got Venmoed the money by a male coworker of hers. They have been work friends for a while now, and I have met him a couple of times. I don’t know if this is like a couple’s thing or what. I don’t really think she cheated on me with him. I could see maybe her being interested in him possibly being a factor for our breakup. But I don’t even know if they are together or going as friends.
At the end of the day, I don’t really care what she does. I got my money back, she gets her vacation. I’m guessing her coworker also bought his own plane ticket, so at the end of the day he’s the one eating the $800 loss. So he can have fun with that. My ex and I are technically “amicable” again, but I don’t really plan on talking to her again. Thanks again for the advice.
2024.05.16 18:57 Capable-Thing3039 A company ordered an unwanted Credit Certificate in my name. Now I need to pay.
Me and my girlfriend moved in to a new apartment together at the 1. March. As usual, I needed my Debt Collection Information (Betreibungsauskunft). I bought this on the website of die Post. Here I ordered the online DCI (Debt Collection Information) for CHF 22.90. It mentions that you will order this from their partner. The name of that company is Tilbago AG. So I ordered and as promised, I received my DCI in 1 day. Everything good, so I thought.
4 days ago I suddenly received an email from an Debt Collection Company (EOS Schweiz AG), that I haven't payed a bill dating from 31.01.2024. This was from a company called CRIF AG. Since I did not order anything from that company, I gave them a call. They told me that I have ordered a Credit Certificate (Bonitätszertifikat) through them with a third party website credittrust.ch, which is not true. So I asked them, who gave them that order to do so, because clearly that wasn't me. The woman on the phone said the order came from a company called Emonitor, another company I have never heard of. I could tell, that the woman on the phone didn't believe, that I wasn't the one who ordered the Credit Certificate, because the only way to order the certificate is with your ID details (probably a copy). She told me if I scroll down on the website of Emonitor, I can see that they have a partnership with credittrust.ch, which leads to CRIF AG. I noticed that this woman wouldn’t be any further help to me, since she didn’t believe me + the fact that the company sold the bill to the Debt Collection Company (EOS Schweiz AG) and I have to deal with them. (yes, I know I'm not obliged to pay there bullshit fees, so I do not really care about them).
So, I'm still looking at the Emonitor website and click on the 'all partners & interface', and who do I see: Tilbago AG, the third party company of die Post, I ordered my DCI with. So I just went through the whole ordering proces again here. Since it has been a few months, I forgot what information I had to put it. On the third step, you have to upload the front- and backside of your ID. Can I conclude, that these people ordered something, without my knowledge and without my approval, a certificate which I have to pay? I looked at the General Terms and Conditions. I couldn't find anything them stating they gain the authority to do such a thing, by me signing the contract.
I payed for there services of Tilbago AG by TWINT. Now, the thing is: I tried to call them, but nobody is answering the phone (of course). I looked at their google review rating, and I don't have the feeling they will ever reply by phone, nor will they be very helpful by e-mail. The company is based in Luzern. I am able to visit them in person and ask them what happened in this situation, but I'm not sure if a) they’ll let me in, or b) this will bring me in trouble.
So my question is, what can I do, other than hire a lawyer, which doesn't make sense for the original amount of CHF 27.90 I need to pay for the Credit Certificate? It’s not about me not having the money, it's about the principle. I didn't order, I shouldn't have to pay for it.
_________________________ Since I couldn't copy a link:
The Subscriber Conditions for the use of tilbago credrep (hereinafter referred to as the “Product”) shall be deemed to have been accepted when the customer (hereinafter referred to as the “Subscriber”) uses the service.
Technical access to the Product is the responsibility of the Subscriber. tilbago is not liable for the network provider and also disclaims, to the extent permitted by law, any liability for the hardware and software required to use the Product.
tilbago accepts no liability for losses suffered by the Subscriber or its authorized representatives caused by transmission errors, technical defects, malfunctions, unlawful interventions in telecommunication devices and networks, overloading of the network, wilful blockage of the electronic channels by third parties, interruptions or other problems to the extent permitted by law. In particular, tilbago also accepts no liability if a request for creditworthiness information may be sent with a delay due to technical interruptions affecting the Product. tilbago accepts no liability for consequential damage arising from incorrect allocation of the addresses of offices, and liability for third-party services is also excluded. tilbago endeavours to provide access to the Product with as few malfunctions and interruptions as possible. However, it cannot guarantee this at all times. tilbago reserves the right to interrupt access to the Product and/or the services offered by the Product at any time, particularly in the event that increased security risks or irregularities are identified, and also for maintenance work.
Swiss law shall apply exclusively. The place of jurisdiction is the registered office of tilbago. This is subject to the proviso of a partially or fully mandatory place of jurisdiction.
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4 days ago I suddenly received an email from an Debt Collection Company (EOS Schweiz AG), that I haven't payed a bill dating from 31.01.2024. This was from a company called CRIF AG. Since I did not order anything from that company, I gave them a call. They told me that I have ordered a Credit Certificate (Bonitätszertifikat) through them with a third party website credittrust.ch, which is not true. So I asked them, who gave them that order to do so, because clearly that wasn't me. The woman on the phone said the order came from a company called Emonitor, another company I have never heard of. I could tell, that the woman on the phone didn't believe, that I wasn't the one who ordered the Credit Certificate, because the only way to order the certificate is with your ID details (probably a copy). She told me if I scroll down on the website of Emonitor, I can see that they have a partnership with credittrust.ch, which leads to CRIF AG. I noticed that this woman wouldn’t be any further help to me, since she didn’t believe me + the fact that the company sold the bill to the Debt Collection Company (EOS Schweiz AG) and I have to deal with them. (yes, I know I'm not obliged to pay there bullshit fees, so I do not really care about them).
So, I'm still looking at the Emonitor website and click on the 'all partners & interface', and who do I see: Tilbago AG, the third party company of die Post, I ordered my DCI with. So I just went through the whole ordering proces again here. Since it has been a few months, I forgot what information I had to put it. On the third step, you have to upload the front- and backside of your ID. Can I conclude, that these people ordered something, without my knowledge and without my approval, a certificate which I have to pay? I looked at the General Terms and Conditions. I couldn't find anything them stating they gain the authority to do such a thing, by me signing the contract.
I payed for there services of Tilbago AG by TWINT. Now, the thing is: I tried to call them, but nobody is answering the phone (of course). I looked at their google review rating, and I don't have the feeling they will ever reply by phone, nor will they be very helpful by e-mail. The company is based in Luzern. I am able to visit them in person and ask them what happened in this situation, but I'm not sure if a) they’ll let me in, or b) this will bring me in trouble.
So my question is, what can I do, other than hire a lawyer, which doesn't make sense for the original amount of CHF 27.90 I need to pay for the Credit Certificate? It’s not about me not having the money, it's about the principle. I didn't order, I shouldn't have to pay for it.
_________________________ Since I couldn't copy a link:
General Terms and Conditions
References to persons apply to both women and men as well as to more than one person.The Subscriber Conditions for the use of tilbago credrep (hereinafter referred to as the “Product”) shall be deemed to have been accepted when the customer (hereinafter referred to as the “Subscriber”) uses the service.
1. Product
The Product enables the Subscriber to order creditworthiness information anywhere and at any time.2. Service
The Product enables the Subscriber to procure creditworthiness information digitally. This information is produced by third parties and provided to the Subscriber via our Product, generally in electronic form. When payment is made successfully using the payment methods available in the Product, the order is completed. The Subscriber issues tilbago with a one-off order and authorization to obtain the creditworthiness information from the third party. The creditworthiness information is obtained from the third party directly through the Product and sent to the Subscriber or third party as soon as it is available if these were listed in the order. Orders are executed by the Product as quickly as possible. The Subscriber is not entitled to delivery of the creditworthiness information within a specific period of time.3. Prices and conditions
The Product is subject to a fee. Price details can be found in the order process. tilbago reserves the right to change prices and conditions at any time.4. Subscriber information
The Subscriber undertakes to enter the details required to order creditworthiness information truthfully. The Product helps the Subscriber to enter the data. The Product cannot guarantee the correctness of the information provided by the Subscriber, or the accuracy and completeness of the content. The Subscriber is obliged to report all breaches of these General Terms and Conditions to tilbago without delay. The Subscriber confirms that electronic communication is explicitly requested.5. Right to withdraw
Orders which have been placed are binding and it is not possible to withdraw subsequently.6. Refusal of creditworthiness information by the third party
If creditworthiness information is refused by the third party, we reserve the right to invoice the Subscriber for the associated additional costs; in addition, the Subscriber is not entitled to a refund of the payment already made.7. Liability
tilbago provides no assurances, guarantees or warranties of any kind concerning the delivery of creditworthiness information, and in particular with regard to the content being accurate, complete and up to date, or with regard to the quality of the service or its availability at any time, and excludes all liability for direct and indirect damage or loss in this context to the extent permitted by law. The Subscriber uses the Product entirely at its own risk and under its own responsibility.Technical access to the Product is the responsibility of the Subscriber. tilbago is not liable for the network provider and also disclaims, to the extent permitted by law, any liability for the hardware and software required to use the Product.
tilbago accepts no liability for losses suffered by the Subscriber or its authorized representatives caused by transmission errors, technical defects, malfunctions, unlawful interventions in telecommunication devices and networks, overloading of the network, wilful blockage of the electronic channels by third parties, interruptions or other problems to the extent permitted by law. In particular, tilbago also accepts no liability if a request for creditworthiness information may be sent with a delay due to technical interruptions affecting the Product. tilbago accepts no liability for consequential damage arising from incorrect allocation of the addresses of offices, and liability for third-party services is also excluded. tilbago endeavours to provide access to the Product with as few malfunctions and interruptions as possible. However, it cannot guarantee this at all times. tilbago reserves the right to interrupt access to the Product and/or the services offered by the Product at any time, particularly in the event that increased security risks or irregularities are identified, and also for maintenance work.
8. Data protection and security on the Internet
tilbago complies with the current legislation, especially regarding data protection law, to ensure the protection of personal data using suitable technical and organizational measures. The Product and the services it offers are used via the Internet, in other words across an open, publicly accessible network. tilbago uses encryption mechanisms for the transfer of data to the Subscriber that make it impossible in principle for unauthorized persons to access confidential data. Data is exchanged with the debt collection offices via sedex (secure data exchange from the Swiss Federal Statistical Office, a provision of the eSchKG standard). tilbago shall treat all confidential data as strictly confidential, shall only make confidential information accessible to those people who need access to the confidential data and its analysis, shall instruct people to treat confidential data as confidential and shall refrain from making confidential data accessible to unauthorized third parties in any form without the written consent of the Subscriber. In all cases, the confidential data may be used for the agreed purpose in accordance with these General Terms and Conditions. The duty to maintain confidentiality begins on the day on which the relevant confidential data is disclosed and continues indefinitely.9. Involvement of third parties
tilbago may involve third parties to fulfil the purpose of this agreement. The third party is subject to the same obligations with regard to guaranteeing data protection as tilbago itself and may not process the data for its own purposes, only on behalf and on the instruction of tilbago. tilbago undertakes to select, instruct and monitor such service providers in a prudent manner.10. Market research and data analysis
To ensure continuous quality assurance and to optimize and develop its services, tilbago may carry out market research. This market research makes use of the Subscriber’s data made available or collected as part of the business relationship or created as the relationship continues. tilbago may involve third parties in conducting market research surveys, to which the provisions of the General Terms and Conditions in the paragraph “Data protection and security on the Internet” also apply. tilbago may analyse, evaluate and further use all historical data of a Subscriber in accordance with legal data protection provisions to identify errors and continuously improve and develop its services.11. Other provisions
tilbago reserves the right to change the Product offered and these General Terms and Conditions at any time. Any changes shall be communicated in advance in an appropriate manner, indicating the date they come into effect. They shall be deemed to have been accepted when the Subscriber uses the Product.Swiss law shall apply exclusively. The place of jurisdiction is the registered office of tilbago. This is subject to the proviso of a partially or fully mandatory place of jurisdiction.
2024.05.16 18:44 NationalPaidResearch Adult Women USA NATIONWIDE to share opinions in a market research study on URINARY INCONTINENCE / BLADDER LEAKAGE PRODUCTS by a National Research firm
~FEMALES 18+ years old NATIONWIDE from the USA~ to share opinions in a market research study by Nation Research Firm
~TOPIC:~ URINARY INCONTINENCE / BLADDER LEAKAGE PRODUCTS
(We are looking for Females who use products for urinary incontinence/bladder leakage)
~STUDY:~ We have qualified respondents use their ~Smartphone~ (using an app you download on your phone) to share thoughts and experiences by recording videos of yourself and your environment around you.
This study will be 1-month in and will require 110 minutes (about 2 hours) of your time to complete. We pay you $200 to complete the activities!
*It is likely that this study will be extended for additional months. Each additional month will require about 40-minutes of your time for which you’ll receive an additional $75 incentive (per month).
~DATE:~ Starts the Week of May 20th
~Honorarium:~ We pay you $200 to complete the 1-month online study
(all incentives paid via tremendous.com)
($75 for any additional month(s) (per month)
Please click on the SurveyMonkey link and complete the questionnaire...
https://www.surveymonkey.com/WSBC96C
~\Please do not call us. If you fit the criteria for the study, you may receive a phone call from our recruiters!!~*
~\*Feel free to forward this to anybody in that age range that lives in the USA that you think may qualify….~*
Our clients are seeking a select few to join in these conversations. A representative of our company may call you with further questions to determine whether you meet with our client’s requirements for participation.
You must meet all client specifications for participation to receive the honorarium for any study. If upon rescreening, or at any other time during the course of the study, your qualifications are inconsistent with the answers you report to us during the prescreen interview, you will be excused from participating in the study without receiving the honorarium.
Our studies are strictly for research purposes and are designed to better our client’s products and services. ~No attempts will ever be made to sell you any products or services, nor will any personal or proprietary information be collected.~
Thanks!
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~TOPIC:~ URINARY INCONTINENCE / BLADDER LEAKAGE PRODUCTS
(We are looking for Females who use products for urinary incontinence/bladder leakage)
~STUDY:~ We have qualified respondents use their ~Smartphone~ (using an app you download on your phone) to share thoughts and experiences by recording videos of yourself and your environment around you.
This study will be 1-month in and will require 110 minutes (about 2 hours) of your time to complete. We pay you $200 to complete the activities!
*It is likely that this study will be extended for additional months. Each additional month will require about 40-minutes of your time for which you’ll receive an additional $75 incentive (per month).
~DATE:~ Starts the Week of May 20th
~Honorarium:~ We pay you $200 to complete the 1-month online study
(all incentives paid via tremendous.com)
($75 for any additional month(s) (per month)
Please click on the SurveyMonkey link and complete the questionnaire...
https://www.surveymonkey.com/WSBC96C
~\Please do not call us. If you fit the criteria for the study, you may receive a phone call from our recruiters!!~*
~\*Feel free to forward this to anybody in that age range that lives in the USA that you think may qualify….~*
Our clients are seeking a select few to join in these conversations. A representative of our company may call you with further questions to determine whether you meet with our client’s requirements for participation.
You must meet all client specifications for participation to receive the honorarium for any study. If upon rescreening, or at any other time during the course of the study, your qualifications are inconsistent with the answers you report to us during the prescreen interview, you will be excused from participating in the study without receiving the honorarium.
Our studies are strictly for research purposes and are designed to better our client’s products and services. ~No attempts will ever be made to sell you any products or services, nor will any personal or proprietary information be collected.~
Thanks!