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2024.06.09 18:27 cinnamoninquisitor I can't stop thinking about my estranged parents
I'm going to try really hard to keep this concise. There's a lot of info and I tend to ramble.
My mother is a Cuban immigrant. My father is a rock'n'roller and has always been in a band of some sort. They also smoked pot through my entire existence. I grew up with a love of music and an incredible work ethic that would elevate me quickly through my career. But I also grew up with physical, emotional, and verbal abuse from my mother and a father who was too afraid of her to step in and stop it or help us and parents who were never consistent in their responses. I have an older brother who experienced all of the same, but doesn't talk about it and *seems* to not phase him the way it does me.
I told my partner even before we got pregnant that if my parents watch our children, as the children get older and are able to dissent and have their own opinions, we'd need to keep an eye on how my parents are treating them. I've always maintained that my mom is great with babies, and terrible with children. So when I had my son seven years ago, they were our primary caregivers while we worked full time. It was my responsibility to pick him up after work from their house. After a while of this arrangement, I started indulging in a large glass of wine because I had to wait until rush hour died off before I could get on the road (stuck in traffic with a screaming baby is not fun). It felt out of necessity due to the constant judgment, critiques, and questioning that my mother would do to me about anything I mentioned- work, the baby, my partner, anything. It came to the point that my partner and I switched "shifts" and I started dropping my son off in the morning so that I would stop this behavior (which was also dangerous for everyone involved) and not give my mother the opportunity to critique because I had to turn around and leave for work right away. It's worth noting that I've been sober for two years (an intiative neither of my parents supported- "you just need to control yourself more, you don't have a problem").
My son grew older and has a close relationship with my parents and my brother. But my mom couldn't stop telling me he was too skinny, telling me she's concerned about him getting colds, telling me we're doing too much with him and need to slow down (referring to going to playgrounds...), and doing what I told her NOT to do with him. She wouldn't stop spoon-feeding him at three years old, and we had to have a blow out about it for her to listen to me after nicely asking her to stop and explaining why a billion times.
December of 2023 she was over for a little pizza party with us and my in-laws. My (now six year old) son took his shirt off and started dancing to some music (lol) and my mom exclaimed about "how skinny" he is because "you can see his ribcage". Which you can see most people's ribcages when their arms are in the air and they've taken a deep breath in... She turned to my mother-in-law (MIL) and said they needed to fatten him up. My MIL is a NICU nurse and her and her son (my husband) were both very skinny growing up. She confirmed for my mom that "no, we don't, he's a perfect weight for his height". I have also confirmed this for my mother countless times and ask about his weight at every pediatrician appointment. Because he's in the 99th percentile for height, he's just lanky. Medical professionals assure us it is fine and normal. THEN she turned to my son and told him to his face "You are too skinny and you need to eat more." Thankfully I wasn't there to hear it or it would've been a scene, but I was told about it after the fact. After confronting her she confirmed she did say that and she wouldn't take it back. I lost my shit about how disrespectful and untrusting it is of your own daughter to do something like that and she FINALLY realized the severity of it.
But at that point it was the last straw for me. I told my mother that if we were going to continue to have a relationship, that we needed to go to therapy. And that I thought it would be beneficial for ALL OF US to go (meaning my immediate, childhood family) but really I was mostly concerned with her and my relationship. After a few months of hoping it would blow over and it didn't, she finally made the appointment.
We did family therapy (with the whole family) for a few weeks. It was exhausting and eye-opening. It was primarily focused on my parents' marriage and the issues my family was having at home (my mother, father, and adult brother who still lives with them all coexisting in the house). So very little to do with me. Which was the whole reason we were supposed to be there.
Ultimately we discovered how insane my mother's anxiety is, she screamed at the therapist twice, kept validating her abuse, and couldn't list off more than two things she loved about me before getting to a critique. They also started going to marriage counseling at the suggestion of our family therapist, and things there started to get really bad. It became clear that a lot of my mom's anxiety around us came from her dissatisfaction with her marriage and feeling like she always had to be the disciplinarian. The family therapist watched me pop a pill as my mom laid in to me in one of our sessions about how unclean my house is and it's why my son (who is in public school) gets so many colds. After that, the therapist did some serious consideration and decided to pause our family therapy, citing that my mom wasn't ready and needs to do a lot of work on her own with her personal therapist, and I wasn't ready because every time I'm in there it's like I'm reliving it all. I agree with her wholeheartedly. I want to say here that our therapist was INCREDIBLY validating for me, and really drove home for me that this was NOT a me problem (which my parents had always led me to believe).
But now I don't know where to go from here. My therapist told me to stop reaching out- that I've been trying to fix the relationship my whole life (which isn't my responsibility), and they know now what the problem is so they need to try to fix it this time. Also both my individual and family therapist said going to their house is a non-starter and any time we spend together in the next few months needs to be in a public place with a structured activity to reduce the possibility of it being a negative experience. That was four weeks ago. We've seen each other once since then and my mom only texts to tell me about family-related things "so and so broke their ankle, it's your grandma's birthday, yada yada" and my dad doesn't text.
I worked through all the terrible feelings of being responsible for breaking up my parents' marriage and making things more difficult for him and my brother living in that house by forcing this. I know that isn't my fault. But I can't stop thinking about my parents, specifically my mom. It's clear my mother has her own abusive past that she's never processed, and it was the only parenting method she knew. And I'm sympathetic to that and have given her grace for the last few decades because of that. But it can't be this way for my whole life. I can't live my whole life feeling like my worth is based on how much I get done, how materially successful I am, stuffing my emotions down so I'm not "so dramatic" and feeling unlovable. As an adult I felt like my life was supposed to be a gift to them for raising me... like if it wasn't exactly what they wanted for me, then it was wrong. Since having my own child I've seriously reflected on all of that, and I don't want to raise my son the way I was raised and I don't think of him as "mine" as much as his own person with his own world and life. I don't see him as a reflection of me and my parenting- it isn't personal when he gets into trouble or says something mean like it was for my mom when I was a kid.
My brain just won't stop thinking of ways to make things "better". I keep trying to come up with an activity to do in a public place so they can see their grandkid but that's the thing- that's the only reason. I don't want to see them. I don't think my son really even wants to see them (he wants to see my brother- his Tio- because they're besties but not necessarily my parents who do very little with him- they just "want him around".) But then I realize that if I don't want to, then maybe I shouldn't. And then I think about how depressed my parents are sitting at home and I feel awful. They don't have friends or much of a life (besides dad's band), and were both depressed before this even started. I can't stop thinking about why she couldn't love me. How she told me she was the only one who would told me the truth, and then told me how horrible I am. And I still believe those things despite having all the evidence that they aren't true.
Ugh anyway I know I have a lot more to do to get through this. But has anyone else experienced this kinda constant distraction of thinking through it all but not really getting much of anywhere? Idk if it's emotional flashbacks that I'm feeling or what. I just don't really know where to go from here, so any advice is appreciated.
Also omg this wasn't concise at all I'm sorry <3
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My mother is a Cuban immigrant. My father is a rock'n'roller and has always been in a band of some sort. They also smoked pot through my entire existence. I grew up with a love of music and an incredible work ethic that would elevate me quickly through my career. But I also grew up with physical, emotional, and verbal abuse from my mother and a father who was too afraid of her to step in and stop it or help us and parents who were never consistent in their responses. I have an older brother who experienced all of the same, but doesn't talk about it and *seems* to not phase him the way it does me.
I told my partner even before we got pregnant that if my parents watch our children, as the children get older and are able to dissent and have their own opinions, we'd need to keep an eye on how my parents are treating them. I've always maintained that my mom is great with babies, and terrible with children. So when I had my son seven years ago, they were our primary caregivers while we worked full time. It was my responsibility to pick him up after work from their house. After a while of this arrangement, I started indulging in a large glass of wine because I had to wait until rush hour died off before I could get on the road (stuck in traffic with a screaming baby is not fun). It felt out of necessity due to the constant judgment, critiques, and questioning that my mother would do to me about anything I mentioned- work, the baby, my partner, anything. It came to the point that my partner and I switched "shifts" and I started dropping my son off in the morning so that I would stop this behavior (which was also dangerous for everyone involved) and not give my mother the opportunity to critique because I had to turn around and leave for work right away. It's worth noting that I've been sober for two years (an intiative neither of my parents supported- "you just need to control yourself more, you don't have a problem").
My son grew older and has a close relationship with my parents and my brother. But my mom couldn't stop telling me he was too skinny, telling me she's concerned about him getting colds, telling me we're doing too much with him and need to slow down (referring to going to playgrounds...), and doing what I told her NOT to do with him. She wouldn't stop spoon-feeding him at three years old, and we had to have a blow out about it for her to listen to me after nicely asking her to stop and explaining why a billion times.
December of 2023 she was over for a little pizza party with us and my in-laws. My (now six year old) son took his shirt off and started dancing to some music (lol) and my mom exclaimed about "how skinny" he is because "you can see his ribcage". Which you can see most people's ribcages when their arms are in the air and they've taken a deep breath in... She turned to my mother-in-law (MIL) and said they needed to fatten him up. My MIL is a NICU nurse and her and her son (my husband) were both very skinny growing up. She confirmed for my mom that "no, we don't, he's a perfect weight for his height". I have also confirmed this for my mother countless times and ask about his weight at every pediatrician appointment. Because he's in the 99th percentile for height, he's just lanky. Medical professionals assure us it is fine and normal. THEN she turned to my son and told him to his face "You are too skinny and you need to eat more." Thankfully I wasn't there to hear it or it would've been a scene, but I was told about it after the fact. After confronting her she confirmed she did say that and she wouldn't take it back. I lost my shit about how disrespectful and untrusting it is of your own daughter to do something like that and she FINALLY realized the severity of it.
But at that point it was the last straw for me. I told my mother that if we were going to continue to have a relationship, that we needed to go to therapy. And that I thought it would be beneficial for ALL OF US to go (meaning my immediate, childhood family) but really I was mostly concerned with her and my relationship. After a few months of hoping it would blow over and it didn't, she finally made the appointment.
We did family therapy (with the whole family) for a few weeks. It was exhausting and eye-opening. It was primarily focused on my parents' marriage and the issues my family was having at home (my mother, father, and adult brother who still lives with them all coexisting in the house). So very little to do with me. Which was the whole reason we were supposed to be there.
Ultimately we discovered how insane my mother's anxiety is, she screamed at the therapist twice, kept validating her abuse, and couldn't list off more than two things she loved about me before getting to a critique. They also started going to marriage counseling at the suggestion of our family therapist, and things there started to get really bad. It became clear that a lot of my mom's anxiety around us came from her dissatisfaction with her marriage and feeling like she always had to be the disciplinarian. The family therapist watched me pop a pill as my mom laid in to me in one of our sessions about how unclean my house is and it's why my son (who is in public school) gets so many colds. After that, the therapist did some serious consideration and decided to pause our family therapy, citing that my mom wasn't ready and needs to do a lot of work on her own with her personal therapist, and I wasn't ready because every time I'm in there it's like I'm reliving it all. I agree with her wholeheartedly. I want to say here that our therapist was INCREDIBLY validating for me, and really drove home for me that this was NOT a me problem (which my parents had always led me to believe).
But now I don't know where to go from here. My therapist told me to stop reaching out- that I've been trying to fix the relationship my whole life (which isn't my responsibility), and they know now what the problem is so they need to try to fix it this time. Also both my individual and family therapist said going to their house is a non-starter and any time we spend together in the next few months needs to be in a public place with a structured activity to reduce the possibility of it being a negative experience. That was four weeks ago. We've seen each other once since then and my mom only texts to tell me about family-related things "so and so broke their ankle, it's your grandma's birthday, yada yada" and my dad doesn't text.
I worked through all the terrible feelings of being responsible for breaking up my parents' marriage and making things more difficult for him and my brother living in that house by forcing this. I know that isn't my fault. But I can't stop thinking about my parents, specifically my mom. It's clear my mother has her own abusive past that she's never processed, and it was the only parenting method she knew. And I'm sympathetic to that and have given her grace for the last few decades because of that. But it can't be this way for my whole life. I can't live my whole life feeling like my worth is based on how much I get done, how materially successful I am, stuffing my emotions down so I'm not "so dramatic" and feeling unlovable. As an adult I felt like my life was supposed to be a gift to them for raising me... like if it wasn't exactly what they wanted for me, then it was wrong. Since having my own child I've seriously reflected on all of that, and I don't want to raise my son the way I was raised and I don't think of him as "mine" as much as his own person with his own world and life. I don't see him as a reflection of me and my parenting- it isn't personal when he gets into trouble or says something mean like it was for my mom when I was a kid.
My brain just won't stop thinking of ways to make things "better". I keep trying to come up with an activity to do in a public place so they can see their grandkid but that's the thing- that's the only reason. I don't want to see them. I don't think my son really even wants to see them (he wants to see my brother- his Tio- because they're besties but not necessarily my parents who do very little with him- they just "want him around".) But then I realize that if I don't want to, then maybe I shouldn't. And then I think about how depressed my parents are sitting at home and I feel awful. They don't have friends or much of a life (besides dad's band), and were both depressed before this even started. I can't stop thinking about why she couldn't love me. How she told me she was the only one who would told me the truth, and then told me how horrible I am. And I still believe those things despite having all the evidence that they aren't true.
Ugh anyway I know I have a lot more to do to get through this. But has anyone else experienced this kinda constant distraction of thinking through it all but not really getting much of anywhere? Idk if it's emotional flashbacks that I'm feeling or what. I just don't really know where to go from here, so any advice is appreciated.
Also omg this wasn't concise at all I'm sorry <3
2024.06.09 17:52 SevelarianVelaryon Why is this game so 'comfy'? I've never played anything like it; it does so much unique social stuff.
I'm a big MMORPG fan and have played pretty much all big ones and some niche ones since 2002. Also, i'm a locust-gamer, i'll absolutely ravage one game i'm in love with, and when i'm done....i'm done.
But FO76 seems different, 313 hours in and i'm still trucking. Some days i'll hop on for a quick daily, or a 6 hour sesh. Appalachia is starting to feel more than a game, but a comfort. Can't say I've had that since OG WoW back in 2005, but even then it was always transient spaces/nostalgia.
Camp vendor hopping, Camp building, the max cap limit. Normally any mmo economy has hoarders and stupid wealth systems. I feel like the ingame cap is super important to the games health, but i'm no economist so can't express what I mean by this, but I love it. Gifting/Donating is way more satisfying than another 10k caps. Sure theres trading discords, but it's not really real unless you want it to be, right?
I very much know about the rare items....but the sheer chance of these items or weapons being in some clueless low level, or generous VERY high level is great fun to do in of itself.
Player vendors itself is kind of an old school MMORPG thing too, the last time i've seen that in a game was some kinda-dead mmo called Project Gorgon on a master server. But here we have massive match-made servers with lots of roaming foot traffic, getting a kick out of a 5 cap sale will always been a hoot.
I always like to plan in my head what i'm going to play next, or think of similar games to try, but I honestly can't think of anything remotely close to what FO76 offers.
A massive map, voiced quests, genuine base building like a survival game, great community, easy economy with some treasures to be had and a seamless event system.
I still might be considered very new to some vets, well I am really. But I can definitely see how some of these multi thousand hour folks have stuck around. Hell sometimes i'll idle and fiddle fuck around in my camp, being a big Sims fan too those SPECIAL machines just remind me of training my sims.
So many good parts of many games, in a retro futuristic americana setting with all of the nice stuff mentioned above. Very lucky to have found this game and appreciate it very much.
Cheers
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But FO76 seems different, 313 hours in and i'm still trucking. Some days i'll hop on for a quick daily, or a 6 hour sesh. Appalachia is starting to feel more than a game, but a comfort. Can't say I've had that since OG WoW back in 2005, but even then it was always transient spaces/nostalgia.
Camp vendor hopping, Camp building, the max cap limit. Normally any mmo economy has hoarders and stupid wealth systems. I feel like the ingame cap is super important to the games health, but i'm no economist so can't express what I mean by this, but I love it. Gifting/Donating is way more satisfying than another 10k caps. Sure theres trading discords, but it's not really real unless you want it to be, right?
I very much know about the rare items....but the sheer chance of these items or weapons being in some clueless low level, or generous VERY high level is great fun to do in of itself.
Player vendors itself is kind of an old school MMORPG thing too, the last time i've seen that in a game was some kinda-dead mmo called Project Gorgon on a master server. But here we have massive match-made servers with lots of roaming foot traffic, getting a kick out of a 5 cap sale will always been a hoot.
I always like to plan in my head what i'm going to play next, or think of similar games to try, but I honestly can't think of anything remotely close to what FO76 offers.
A massive map, voiced quests, genuine base building like a survival game, great community, easy economy with some treasures to be had and a seamless event system.
I still might be considered very new to some vets, well I am really. But I can definitely see how some of these multi thousand hour folks have stuck around. Hell sometimes i'll idle and fiddle fuck around in my camp, being a big Sims fan too those SPECIAL machines just remind me of training my sims.
So many good parts of many games, in a retro futuristic americana setting with all of the nice stuff mentioned above. Very lucky to have found this game and appreciate it very much.
Cheers
2024.06.09 17:49 Mysterious_Radish386 What should I focus on for RMIT?
Hey all,
On my 2nd year for Bachelor of IT and graduating next year.
During my first year, I hated and loathed programming because I found it extremely stressful. Now that I can code in my free time I started to take a bit of interest in Programming now. I don’t really code all the time but I do it sometimes when i’m bored. Just like making a small project or 2.
I’m pretty familiar with GitHub and the whole commit change yata yata, still need to have a bit of a refresher on SQL cuz I haven’t used it since last year. I have pretty good understanding of HTML and CSS, but i’m like okay in Java I know like the wording n stuff. I have a good amount notes on all of these things so I might go re learn SQL.
Cyber Security does seem to interest me too! I have always taken some kind interest in protecting my data. I’m not sure if I should go down the Cyber Security role or maybe even a Software Engineering path.
I’m kind of confused on where to go at this point and time. I do want to have a successful career in IT and I always been passionate about technology. I know money isn’t everything but I still desire a career that pays pretty well. I just don’t want to end up like my parents that work pretty much every single day and both of them never graduated high school.
And how hard is it to land a job in the tech industry in Australia? I heard it’s extremely competitive.
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On my 2nd year for Bachelor of IT and graduating next year.
During my first year, I hated and loathed programming because I found it extremely stressful. Now that I can code in my free time I started to take a bit of interest in Programming now. I don’t really code all the time but I do it sometimes when i’m bored. Just like making a small project or 2.
I’m pretty familiar with GitHub and the whole commit change yata yata, still need to have a bit of a refresher on SQL cuz I haven’t used it since last year. I have pretty good understanding of HTML and CSS, but i’m like okay in Java I know like the wording n stuff. I have a good amount notes on all of these things so I might go re learn SQL.
Cyber Security does seem to interest me too! I have always taken some kind interest in protecting my data. I’m not sure if I should go down the Cyber Security role or maybe even a Software Engineering path.
I’m kind of confused on where to go at this point and time. I do want to have a successful career in IT and I always been passionate about technology. I know money isn’t everything but I still desire a career that pays pretty well. I just don’t want to end up like my parents that work pretty much every single day and both of them never graduated high school.
And how hard is it to land a job in the tech industry in Australia? I heard it’s extremely competitive.
2024.06.09 17:48 Key-Ear-838 [17/M] Reccomend me cartoons like my favrioute Teen Titans Go or recommend me songs
my friends are all busy with their exams, they have more papers than me i would like a relatiionship but friendship w do
I wanna do acting as a career and i like lion kig town of salem 2 and monster leegnds and soilitare sometimes also shawarmas
Sometimes i imagine myself as a scar wanting to take over my school by overthrowing ,my freind cause according to me hes the king of my school
ALso I am from pakistan so anyone from there woulld be good NOBODY OVER 23
Also also also i love teen titanns goo THE FIRST 4 SE
PLS no creeps or pedos or anything like that also I would prefer girls but for friendship on,y boys are welcome more in dms was too lazy to write a new one
Any brits or indians hmu
I like johnny test and the lion guard
PLS NO NSFW PROFILES
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I wanna do acting as a career and i like lion kig town of salem 2 and monster leegnds and soilitare sometimes also shawarmas
Sometimes i imagine myself as a scar wanting to take over my school by overthrowing ,my freind cause according to me hes the king of my school
ALso I am from pakistan so anyone from there woulld be good NOBODY OVER 23
Also also also i love teen titanns goo THE FIRST 4 SE
PLS no creeps or pedos or anything like that also I would prefer girls but for friendship on,y boys are welcome more in dms was too lazy to write a new one
Any brits or indians hmu
I like johnny test and the lion guard
PLS NO NSFW PROFILES
2024.06.09 17:20 Yui4united Dad wants to take away my phone because I’m not spending enough time with him.
Customized throwaway account for reasons, so I have a 58(D).
he’s selfish and never likes to take accountability for his actions either, constantly criticizes everything I do, yells at me for the littlest things and treats me with his mysognistic standards on how women should act.
“You’re a woman you should know how to cook” or “Your a woman you should wash the dishes!” Pretty much what he says all the time with different variations.
Sometimes I forget to wash the dishes and that’s okay, I don’t feel like being forced to greet you every morning and say good morning when I don’t even like you.
Aside from the trauma he gave me as a younger child, which I won’t get into it for purposes.
But the way he acts is absolutely terrible, what you’re reading in this post is just a tip of the iceberg of what he’s done and who he actually is as a person.
So basically, my brother recently bought me a new phone, after my old one hadn’t been performing at its best.
My D(58) does this thing where whenever I get a new piece of technology, whether that be a phone or laptop he finds an excuse to take it away from me.
Whenever I don't visit his room as often as I used to or spark conversation as much as he wants he gets angry, yes, I've been gray rocking him but he only seems even more hateful because of it.
He'll complain about me to my mom about it, then she'll pity-bait me into talking to him again, he has diabetes and is 58, but for some reason-
He's the laziest person I've ever known, he'll call me to get food for him and water when he's to lazy to do it himself, he'll ask me to grab the remote on the table when he's sitting right across from it.
He doesn't excersise, has only one job and comes home in the afternoon while working at night, he spends most of our money on buying useless iteams and stuff from TEMU.
Meanwhile, my mom who is 45, has multiple jobs, works tirelessly everyday making food for him and the family, still makes time to take me out, cleans and makes sure our bills for the month gets paid.
And this is what he uses her money for, so whenever she asks for money because she needs to pay something off he'll get angry, call her greedy and compare her to traditional women.
Besides all she does he still complains that she's not acting like a traditional woman, I hate that word so much.
As you expect they argue and it doesn't bother me anymore, because they never do anything to fix their relationship and say they're gonna divorce.
BUT WHERES THE DIVORCE PAPERS?? I thought we'd been talking about this for years?!
I know the truth is she doesn't want her friends to see her as a single mother because she cares so much about her image.
Including all her stress from work that she refuses to get help for, not only this but she also goes to school. Every weekend.Just so she has enough money to pay for me when I go to college.
She yells alot and it also infauirates me, always raising her voice whenever she's mad at the smallest thing and constantly comes up with conclusions about me.
My D(58), on the other hand, he's taken a laptop from me, removed my tv on the wall, taken a phone tablet and ipad from me too.
He'll take anything that distracts me from him, and always has the worst excuse for it.
Right now his excuse is because I don't answer whenver he calls me, not on the phone.
But whenever he calls me to do something that he's to lazy to do himself, he'll say my name really low, that way he can complain about me never answering him.
He just pulls this bs that makes me hate him even more, and my three older brothers, one is currently away right now, always ignore it.
Every time I talk to them or vent my frustrations about my parents to them they always say "we wet through the he same thing when w were younger trust me"
I feel like no one listens to me and I'm completely by myself in this family, besides that my brothers barely talk to me and the middle one always ignores me when I say hi to him every morning. Or whenever I try to talk to him.
It's like they know what's going on but don't want to face it themselves.
Smh my ass, I'm going to be the first person to move out this house as soon as I'm 18. Thinking of going no contact too.
.
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he’s selfish and never likes to take accountability for his actions either, constantly criticizes everything I do, yells at me for the littlest things and treats me with his mysognistic standards on how women should act.
“You’re a woman you should know how to cook” or “Your a woman you should wash the dishes!” Pretty much what he says all the time with different variations.
Sometimes I forget to wash the dishes and that’s okay, I don’t feel like being forced to greet you every morning and say good morning when I don’t even like you.
Aside from the trauma he gave me as a younger child, which I won’t get into it for purposes.
But the way he acts is absolutely terrible, what you’re reading in this post is just a tip of the iceberg of what he’s done and who he actually is as a person.
So basically, my brother recently bought me a new phone, after my old one hadn’t been performing at its best.
My D(58) does this thing where whenever I get a new piece of technology, whether that be a phone or laptop he finds an excuse to take it away from me.
Whenever I don't visit his room as often as I used to or spark conversation as much as he wants he gets angry, yes, I've been gray rocking him but he only seems even more hateful because of it.
He'll complain about me to my mom about it, then she'll pity-bait me into talking to him again, he has diabetes and is 58, but for some reason-
He's the laziest person I've ever known, he'll call me to get food for him and water when he's to lazy to do it himself, he'll ask me to grab the remote on the table when he's sitting right across from it.
He doesn't excersise, has only one job and comes home in the afternoon while working at night, he spends most of our money on buying useless iteams and stuff from TEMU.
Meanwhile, my mom who is 45, has multiple jobs, works tirelessly everyday making food for him and the family, still makes time to take me out, cleans and makes sure our bills for the month gets paid.
And this is what he uses her money for, so whenever she asks for money because she needs to pay something off he'll get angry, call her greedy and compare her to traditional women.
Besides all she does he still complains that she's not acting like a traditional woman, I hate that word so much.
As you expect they argue and it doesn't bother me anymore, because they never do anything to fix their relationship and say they're gonna divorce.
BUT WHERES THE DIVORCE PAPERS?? I thought we'd been talking about this for years?!
I know the truth is she doesn't want her friends to see her as a single mother because she cares so much about her image.
Including all her stress from work that she refuses to get help for, not only this but she also goes to school. Every weekend.Just so she has enough money to pay for me when I go to college.
She yells alot and it also infauirates me, always raising her voice whenever she's mad at the smallest thing and constantly comes up with conclusions about me.
My D(58), on the other hand, he's taken a laptop from me, removed my tv on the wall, taken a phone tablet and ipad from me too.
He'll take anything that distracts me from him, and always has the worst excuse for it.
Right now his excuse is because I don't answer whenver he calls me, not on the phone.
But whenever he calls me to do something that he's to lazy to do himself, he'll say my name really low, that way he can complain about me never answering him.
He just pulls this bs that makes me hate him even more, and my three older brothers, one is currently away right now, always ignore it.
Every time I talk to them or vent my frustrations about my parents to them they always say "we wet through the he same thing when w were younger trust me"
I feel like no one listens to me and I'm completely by myself in this family, besides that my brothers barely talk to me and the middle one always ignores me when I say hi to him every morning. Or whenever I try to talk to him.
It's like they know what's going on but don't want to face it themselves.
Smh my ass, I'm going to be the first person to move out this house as soon as I'm 18. Thinking of going no contact too.
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2024.06.09 17:14 atlantismysticc How do I help my brother with ADHD?
My brother (11) has been struggling developmentally since early childhood. I recently started working in a project regarding ADHD, Autism and neurodivergence and after a lot of research, I'm fairly certain he has ADHD (maybe Autism level 1-2). Some of his symptoms include soiling his pants even today (he's had this since early childhood), trouble communicating and auditory processing difficulty, inability to sit still, always fidgeting, repeating words over and over, taking things too literally, trouble focusing and completing tasks, always losing objects, doing basic things like putting down a mat, putting on clothes, fine motor skills and a lot more.
And now since he's in 6th grade he's been having trouble in school. He can only do homework on subjects he's interested in and when he sits down to do homework on subjects that do not interest him, he just blanks out and cannot focus. When I try to tutor him, he cannot pay attention to the point where he doesn't recall an answer I just told him. It's got to the point where he's making health excuses to not go to school and avoid his H/W. A while ago his teacher complained to my parents and asked if he had any problem, unfortunately, my parents have the "nothing is wrong with my kid" mentality and yelled at the teacher instead. I myself have tried to tell them about this many times in the past but always got the "it's his fault, you don't know any better" and "eti janne xau bhane afai kei gara na" kinda scolding.
Now I'm genuinely worried because I myself went through pretty much exactly this when I was his age. But being the elder kid, I was always neglected and somehow found a way to cope. But I don't think he can do that and he doesn't deserve this. My parents are always blaming him, calling him lazy, and irresponsible and not listening to him when he wants to explain and it makes me sad. A couple days ago, he was having a panic attack in my room telling me how nobody understands him. My heart truly broke because I saw myself in him. I'm just glad that while I didn't have anyone, he has me and I wanna make sure he doesn't go through the trauma I did while navigating my mental health around my parents.
So what should I do? I want to try talking to my parents again but this is a route that is surely going to fail and will cause me a lot of stress. Should I talk to his school? Honestly since something is definitely wrong with him, a diagnosis may not necessarily fix anything but at least his struggles will be validated and not "his fault". And there are medications for ADHD to make it manageable too, so that could be an option. If anyone has any advice and resources, I'd really appreciate it.
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And now since he's in 6th grade he's been having trouble in school. He can only do homework on subjects he's interested in and when he sits down to do homework on subjects that do not interest him, he just blanks out and cannot focus. When I try to tutor him, he cannot pay attention to the point where he doesn't recall an answer I just told him. It's got to the point where he's making health excuses to not go to school and avoid his H/W. A while ago his teacher complained to my parents and asked if he had any problem, unfortunately, my parents have the "nothing is wrong with my kid" mentality and yelled at the teacher instead. I myself have tried to tell them about this many times in the past but always got the "it's his fault, you don't know any better" and "eti janne xau bhane afai kei gara na" kinda scolding.
Now I'm genuinely worried because I myself went through pretty much exactly this when I was his age. But being the elder kid, I was always neglected and somehow found a way to cope. But I don't think he can do that and he doesn't deserve this. My parents are always blaming him, calling him lazy, and irresponsible and not listening to him when he wants to explain and it makes me sad. A couple days ago, he was having a panic attack in my room telling me how nobody understands him. My heart truly broke because I saw myself in him. I'm just glad that while I didn't have anyone, he has me and I wanna make sure he doesn't go through the trauma I did while navigating my mental health around my parents.
So what should I do? I want to try talking to my parents again but this is a route that is surely going to fail and will cause me a lot of stress. Should I talk to his school? Honestly since something is definitely wrong with him, a diagnosis may not necessarily fix anything but at least his struggles will be validated and not "his fault". And there are medications for ADHD to make it manageable too, so that could be an option. If anyone has any advice and resources, I'd really appreciate it.
2024.06.09 17:09 atlantismysticc How do I help my brother with ADHD?
My brother (11) has been struggling developmentally since early childhood. I recently started working in a project regarding ADHD, Autism and neurodivergence and after a lot of research, I'm fairly certain he has ADHD (maybe Autism level 1-2). Some of his symptoms include soiling his pants even today (he's had this since early childhood), trouble communicating and auditory processing difficulty, inability to sit still, always fidgeting, repeating words over and over, taking things too literally, trouble focusing and completing tasks, always losing objects, doing basic things like putting down a mat, putting on clothes, fine motor skills and a lot more.
And now since he's in 6th grade he's been having trouble in school. He can only do homework on subjects he's interested in and when he sits down to do homework on subjects that do not interest him, he just blanks out and cannot focus. When I try to tutor him, he cannot pay attention to the point where he doesn't recall an answer I just told him. It's got to the point where he's making health excuses to not go to school and avoid his H/W. A while ago his teacher complained to my parents and asked if he had any problem, unfortunately, my parents have the "nothing is wrong with my kid" mentality and yelled at the teacher instead. I myself have tried to tell them about this many times in the past but always got the "it's his fault, you don't know any better" and "eti janne xau bhane afai kei gara na" kinda scolding.
Now I'm genuinely worried because I myself went through pretty much exactly this when I was his age. But being the elder kid, I was always neglected and somehow found a way to cope. But I don't think he can do that and he doesn't deserve this. My parents are always blaming him, calling him lazy, and irresponsible and not listening to him when he wants to explain and it makes me sad. A couple days ago, he was having a panic attack in my room telling me how nobody understands him. My heart truly broke because I saw myself in him. I'm just glad that while I didn't have anyone, he has me and I wanna make sure he doesn't go through the trauma I did while navigating my mental health around my parents.
So what should I do? I want to try talking to my parents again but this is a route that is surely going to fail and will cause me a lot of stress. Should I talk to his school? Honestly since something is definitely wrong with him, a diagnosis may not necessarily fix anything but at least his struggles will be validated and not "his fault". And there are medications for ADHD to make it manageable too, so that could be an option. If anyone has any advice and resources, I'd really appreciate it.
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And now since he's in 6th grade he's been having trouble in school. He can only do homework on subjects he's interested in and when he sits down to do homework on subjects that do not interest him, he just blanks out and cannot focus. When I try to tutor him, he cannot pay attention to the point where he doesn't recall an answer I just told him. It's got to the point where he's making health excuses to not go to school and avoid his H/W. A while ago his teacher complained to my parents and asked if he had any problem, unfortunately, my parents have the "nothing is wrong with my kid" mentality and yelled at the teacher instead. I myself have tried to tell them about this many times in the past but always got the "it's his fault, you don't know any better" and "eti janne xau bhane afai kei gara na" kinda scolding.
Now I'm genuinely worried because I myself went through pretty much exactly this when I was his age. But being the elder kid, I was always neglected and somehow found a way to cope. But I don't think he can do that and he doesn't deserve this. My parents are always blaming him, calling him lazy, and irresponsible and not listening to him when he wants to explain and it makes me sad. A couple days ago, he was having a panic attack in my room telling me how nobody understands him. My heart truly broke because I saw myself in him. I'm just glad that while I didn't have anyone, he has me and I wanna make sure he doesn't go through the trauma I did while navigating my mental health around my parents.
So what should I do? I want to try talking to my parents again but this is a route that is surely going to fail and will cause me a lot of stress. Should I talk to his school? Honestly since something is definitely wrong with him, a diagnosis may not necessarily fix anything but at least his struggles will be validated and not "his fault". And there are medications for ADHD to make it manageable too, so that could be an option. If anyone has any advice and resources, I'd really appreciate it.
2024.06.09 17:08 Ok-Tangerine-3080 I have a crush...... I need help.
Soooo.... Basically I have this crush and I don't know what to do about. I also think that he maybe also like me, idk alot of thinks suggests that but I need outsider's opinion to know and not think that I am deulu, ya know? Soo anyway, we will call him k, for me k is very good looking n he is also kind , I sat next to him Olin class 6 n we talked alot but that's not when my crush started maybe it was around class 7 or 8 n we didn't talk much around that time bcz we didn't sit next to each other. But some things has been happening that the crush thing is the same for both of us's...? . I sound delulu. I will start will last year n the event. I come late to school on this particular day n the first class we have is BT (that is wood work, metal work n technical drawings) n I go to get my work book which I felt in school the day before n I can't find it. I thought that one of the boys took it bcz maybe they thought I wasn't coming, which is sooo annoying but anyway (￢‿￢ ) I go to the lad n sit next to a girl n ask if she could share her wb while also eyeing all the guys that were in the lad n the one's that were coming in n I see k come in class with a wb, I see it n I am like ,"that's mine 🤨y does he have it? "But class starts n I am thinking how to ask for my wb so I don't sound rude or nervous. But after a while k come n asks to the guy in front of me for a compas buttheyd don't have it so he turns to me n ask for it n I say yes bcz I don't have wb so I am not using it, while doing so I ask him if he has my wb n he says no n also goes back n check but still no, I was pretty sure that it was my wb but Okk, I guess.... Class is over n I am walking back my form(in my country we have to walk to class) he stops me n HAND'S ME MY WB WITH THE WORK COMPLETED! Most boys in my class will leave it empty bcz its not their wb n just need to show the teacher that they have the book. Event 2.it is lunch n I was standing outside alone bcz myffriend didn't come 😢😔, soo out of boredom I looked in my class n was eyeing my desk when k comes n for some reason leans in over my desk n takes picture out (we didn't need those picture I just had they) also his tuna covered fingers smudged tuna on my book,ewww but ok. Now events from this year I noticed that he keeps looking that direction sometimes n we made eye contact bcz of that too, n also one time in class we had a free period soo I was reading with a friend next to me so we can talk, then I get light on my face like a mirror reflecting light ignore it bcz I think it the guys but my friend asks how am I not annoyed by this , I said if I ignore it long enough then they'll leave me be so she turns around to see who is n say that it k n his friends 🥲also one of his friends has been staring at me a lot, like if It was the whole friend group then u can say that something is up but it's just this one practical dude n it's not a onetime thing either I caught him several times too,weird right? Ok, please help am I right? N want should I do?, I also have a few more thing but I am too lazy right now.
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2024.06.09 16:53 Accomplished-Cash746 Moral quandary
Greetings all. I’ve run into a morally tough problem.
Recently, the day of the total eclipse, my daily driver took a crap. She had over 400k miles on her so it was inevitable at this point.
Long story short, I lost my job due to lack of transportation. I live in a impoverished and dangerous area. Finding work was difficult with my background.
I enrolled in some schooling, and went back into car washing. I left the industry 5 years ago, just before covid. My schooling is in data analytics, codeing.
The wash company I was hired at needed a site manager and I fell into that position quickly. When I was hired, I just wanted to wipe cars and put some cash in my pocket while I did this data analytics course.
Anyways, I’ll mange the workload and earn my certificate. I structured my week to make it work. The company is in a transition period and there is ample opportunity for advancement with my previous experience and new skills I’ll be learning. They are old school and could use some guidance on moving into the future. I can help that without question.
My dilemma involves one of my employees. The previous manager hired a guy with a previous sex crime. He just got out like 9 months ago after doing 15years for his crime involving a minor. I don’t know the specifics, I haven’t looked.
My new bosses are not happy about this guy working there and are attempting to force him out. Only scheduling him one day a week, on the one day he needs off. They have confided in me their dislike of this guy. And in all honesty, his appearance is not desirable in a customer service environment.
Their background checks are laughable. They just go on public websites to search a guy up and see what pops. That why my background came clear. My cases are 30 years old now. I’ve been removed from all this public directories.
I pulled dude aside and basically told home I’d do my best to get him hours and whatnot. Said I’d go to bat for him when I could.
It’s difficult. They are unaware of my history, and honestly, I’d like to keep it that way if at all possible. But I don’t want to contribute to this guy’s struggles. I know that position. Hell I’ve been in it recently. But I can’t be too obvious in my support of him otherwise I’ll draw negative attention my way.
The pay bump I just got is significant enough that I don’t want to lose it if I could avoid that. I’m a single dad. My daughter is an adult now but she still at home. She works and contributes to the household, she isn’t ready for life on her own yet. My parents have both he kicked me to the curb in my youth, I refuse to do that to my kid.
My loyalty is to her. I feel real shitty participating in the discrimination against a fellow rso. I’m gonna do my best for him, but I can’t jeopardize my position and future as well.
I told dude I’d give him a rockstar reference if he found a different job. And I’ll get him into the wash as much as I can. Still feels shitty.
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Recently, the day of the total eclipse, my daily driver took a crap. She had over 400k miles on her so it was inevitable at this point.
Long story short, I lost my job due to lack of transportation. I live in a impoverished and dangerous area. Finding work was difficult with my background.
I enrolled in some schooling, and went back into car washing. I left the industry 5 years ago, just before covid. My schooling is in data analytics, codeing.
The wash company I was hired at needed a site manager and I fell into that position quickly. When I was hired, I just wanted to wipe cars and put some cash in my pocket while I did this data analytics course.
Anyways, I’ll mange the workload and earn my certificate. I structured my week to make it work. The company is in a transition period and there is ample opportunity for advancement with my previous experience and new skills I’ll be learning. They are old school and could use some guidance on moving into the future. I can help that without question.
My dilemma involves one of my employees. The previous manager hired a guy with a previous sex crime. He just got out like 9 months ago after doing 15years for his crime involving a minor. I don’t know the specifics, I haven’t looked.
My new bosses are not happy about this guy working there and are attempting to force him out. Only scheduling him one day a week, on the one day he needs off. They have confided in me their dislike of this guy. And in all honesty, his appearance is not desirable in a customer service environment.
Their background checks are laughable. They just go on public websites to search a guy up and see what pops. That why my background came clear. My cases are 30 years old now. I’ve been removed from all this public directories.
I pulled dude aside and basically told home I’d do my best to get him hours and whatnot. Said I’d go to bat for him when I could.
It’s difficult. They are unaware of my history, and honestly, I’d like to keep it that way if at all possible. But I don’t want to contribute to this guy’s struggles. I know that position. Hell I’ve been in it recently. But I can’t be too obvious in my support of him otherwise I’ll draw negative attention my way.
The pay bump I just got is significant enough that I don’t want to lose it if I could avoid that. I’m a single dad. My daughter is an adult now but she still at home. She works and contributes to the household, she isn’t ready for life on her own yet. My parents have both he kicked me to the curb in my youth, I refuse to do that to my kid.
My loyalty is to her. I feel real shitty participating in the discrimination against a fellow rso. I’m gonna do my best for him, but I can’t jeopardize my position and future as well.
I told dude I’d give him a rockstar reference if he found a different job. And I’ll get him into the wash as much as I can. Still feels shitty.
2024.06.09 16:45 theConsummateProf How should I feel. I’m not connected at all to my emotions
So I (24M) am going through a difficult time emotionally in terms of trying to figure out my current situation. One thing I can’t get over is what went wrong with my parents who are somehow still together. They both CLEARLY don’t like each other very much and I’m pretty sure the reason why is that they spend way too much time in the house together and it’s been going on for so long. My dad “worked” from home for a long time as a photographer (basically most of the time that I’ve known him) and things got real tough on his business for a good minute. But he went out of his way to not suck it up and do certain work that would’ve helped pay the bills (refused to shoot weddings, other things that annoyed him). It honestly comes off to me now as a bit lazy, and low and behold do I learn that he was a big pot head for my entire life. I personally don’t have an issue with weed, but I used to find it strange why he never really had energy. He also used to vent to me about his marital frustrations and how depressed he was CONSTANTLY, which I think I’ve figured out is because he smoked too much damn weed. This also made things very hard to enjoy when I was growing up bc I think I kinda felt responsible for him. He was always in an existential crisis. I’m gonna stick with the occasional joint but I’m going to be a booze guy from here on out (responsibly I might add, I’m not an idiot). Through all that, I generally have pretty good memories with him as he could be lots of fun at times. In terms of fatherly advice though, he kinda sounds like he barely, if at all, knows what he’s talking about. A lot. BUT, he did show up to everything that me or my brother were involved with and was and still is our biggest fan. He may just kinda repeat back what I say a lot when I ask for advice, but at least he’s trying. I appreciate the effort.
Mom was different. She worked a nursing job on the weekends that she had to commute to. This pretty much destroyed her mental health in my opinion, as she’s incredibly isolated and used to exaggerate how bad, irresponsible, and not caring I was as a kid and teen (I was the kind of kid adults DREAM of. 4.0 student, full ride, helpful, interesting hobbies but can also have fun. Never a burden to anyone really, club joiner, plenty of friends. The whole 9 yards). I was pretty introverted but I think it’s because of how they set everything up to be SO isolated. Putting me in an isolating school that was pretty far from our neighborhood because mom resented it. Our house is literally in a ditch that was pretty separated from everyone (only 1 neighborhood friend). Social skills were honestly at a premium to develop, but I survived. She always seemed so irritated at me, would point out a lot of insecurities I had to her friends to laugh about with, and never really cared to participate in things with me. Never showed up to school events or functions that I was involved with, blamed it on a fear of crowds (which she conveniently doesn’t have when it’s something she wanted to do). She was just kinda mean and distant. Did I jaw back and embarrass her occasionally? Sure, but considering other kids were shooting up heroin in our family (a true fucking story that she had to stick her nose in), I think I can be forgiven. This isolation had an incredibly negative impact on her health. The house is a wreck, her heart sucks as she had a heart attack a couple years back. It’s bad. Real bad. All she does is sit on her damn phone and watch tiktok. Her brain (which, she actually was acutely intelligent) is pretty much fried. It also didn’t help to learn from my aunt that my mom has had affairs (I want to think multiple but I can only confirm one), and the one I can confirm is with a convicted pedophile that she continues to defend (and my dad idiotically goes along with her bullshit on it)… so yeah. What the fuck am I supposed to do with that information.
So how do I make sense of all this. I’m very bad at communicating what I need unless I’m drunk, but I still want them to do better. I work from home with great pay for a single man, so I’m sorta using that to “make up for lost time” on things I missed out on as a kid, but I still feel isolated and stressed bc of the situation. I know I have a deep mistrust and fear of women that I need to get over as well, but I don’t know how to do that. I’m going to see yet another therapist about this, but even that’s burning me out. What’s with this situation?
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Mom was different. She worked a nursing job on the weekends that she had to commute to. This pretty much destroyed her mental health in my opinion, as she’s incredibly isolated and used to exaggerate how bad, irresponsible, and not caring I was as a kid and teen (I was the kind of kid adults DREAM of. 4.0 student, full ride, helpful, interesting hobbies but can also have fun. Never a burden to anyone really, club joiner, plenty of friends. The whole 9 yards). I was pretty introverted but I think it’s because of how they set everything up to be SO isolated. Putting me in an isolating school that was pretty far from our neighborhood because mom resented it. Our house is literally in a ditch that was pretty separated from everyone (only 1 neighborhood friend). Social skills were honestly at a premium to develop, but I survived. She always seemed so irritated at me, would point out a lot of insecurities I had to her friends to laugh about with, and never really cared to participate in things with me. Never showed up to school events or functions that I was involved with, blamed it on a fear of crowds (which she conveniently doesn’t have when it’s something she wanted to do). She was just kinda mean and distant. Did I jaw back and embarrass her occasionally? Sure, but considering other kids were shooting up heroin in our family (a true fucking story that she had to stick her nose in), I think I can be forgiven. This isolation had an incredibly negative impact on her health. The house is a wreck, her heart sucks as she had a heart attack a couple years back. It’s bad. Real bad. All she does is sit on her damn phone and watch tiktok. Her brain (which, she actually was acutely intelligent) is pretty much fried. It also didn’t help to learn from my aunt that my mom has had affairs (I want to think multiple but I can only confirm one), and the one I can confirm is with a convicted pedophile that she continues to defend (and my dad idiotically goes along with her bullshit on it)… so yeah. What the fuck am I supposed to do with that information.
So how do I make sense of all this. I’m very bad at communicating what I need unless I’m drunk, but I still want them to do better. I work from home with great pay for a single man, so I’m sorta using that to “make up for lost time” on things I missed out on as a kid, but I still feel isolated and stressed bc of the situation. I know I have a deep mistrust and fear of women that I need to get over as well, but I don’t know how to do that. I’m going to see yet another therapist about this, but even that’s burning me out. What’s with this situation?
2024.06.09 16:34 Ok_Machine_7229 Many mistakes were made. Need help.
I will give a lot of context of my situation, but I will try to make it as anonymous as possible (although, based on this, it is really easy to find me...). I won't try to justify, but rather explain the reasoning so you can understand it better. All of this is really embarrassing for me, but I'm so desperate that I feel like I need to tell you everything.
I, M23 non-citizen living in Europe in the process of acquiring citizenship, began my career around the Fall of 2021 as a Software Engineering Intern at a top 3 Password Manager company. I was 20yo at the time. I do not have a CS degree, but I had original personal projects that helped me during interviews. The fact that I failed a subject at school and couldn't join university was the trigger for a depression&anxiety (that had deeper reasons than just school failure) that I was in for over a year, and this new job sparked a joy inside me that I didn't experience during this time.
I was doing really great. After 4-5 months, I was offered a full-time Junior SWE position. I was even discharged from therapy. However, I was also interviewing for other companies as I didn't know if I'd make it into a full-time position. The offer came in as I passed Facebook interviews for a 3-month internship in London (I live in another country). I talked to my manager at the time, and he convinced me that it would be better to stay, as I had concerns about immigration & the fact that it didn't seem like Facebook had a long-term plan for me.
My salary as an intern was 24k€/year, remote. If I were to be full-time, I would be going into 32k€/year, remote.
Two weeks later, I also received feedback from another company, Company 2, B2B Fintech. I passed all the interviews for a remote Junior FE position. The salary was 72,8k€/year, but as a contractor, and I would be joining as an employee if I were to relocate to Paris. I discussed the matter with my parents, friends, and girlfriend, and I decided to take the offer. The company I was working at counter-offered for 45k€, but I didn't take it.
Then shit hit the fan.
Everything at work was fine, but I was going through a lot of stress at home. After roughly 2 months in this new company, I had two traumatic events outside work that put me into my first panic attack. Due to the high expectations I had for myself at this new job, I felt compelled to resign. I made up an excuse at midnight, wrote the resignation letter and sent it to my manager. He understood my situation and I left. I started to attend therapy sessions once more and took different medications as well.
I talked to colleagues at Company 1, and they accepted me back. One month later, I was back at my position, at 45k€. But things were different. I was giving my all, but I wasn't performing as well as I was before. My relationship with my girlfriend was getting worse, things at home were so tense, and responsibilities were piling up. My therapist thought (and she was right) that I was in the process of burnout. Closer to 6 months after my return, I was talking to my peers about taking a break, but I wasn't sure yet... Then the HR said I'd better take a sick leave because my performance was worse than before and this could trigger a PIP. I took the sick leave. 2 weeks weren't enough. The day I returned, I talked to HR again and I was surely going to PIP, so I told them I was not capable of doing more than I was already doing. I was exhausted. I resigned once more.
Two months later, I got another job at Company 3. I couldn't screw this up. 46k€, remote, I just had to go to Paris once a month. On the first day at this new job, I was so focused that I forgot to eat, and just noticed I was starving when my mom knocked on the door at 17h30 asking if I would eat something. I was dedicating 100% of my time to code.
On my first visit to the office, I had a great time, except for an interaction with a colleague that I really liked. He was asking about my story and I told him about my previous experiences. He said: "so you aren't going to leave us after 3 months, are you?". The voice tone was friendly, but I knew the concern was legit.
During my second visit to the office, I ran out of medication, so I was rationing the dose so I could make it until I was back home. I had a side project for a role-playing game, so I changed the whole BE & FE language & frameworks to match the Company 3 stack. I made a linkedin post to tell people I was practicing the stack after work hours on this project. On the next day, HR scheduled a meeting with my manager and asked me if I was founding a company, because that would clash against the non-competing clause in my contract, and that "Company 3 is the only entrepreneurship journey an employee should take".
Looking back, I understand the concern. In my mind, I was only sharing my RPG side project and showing commitment to improving, but they could not read my mind. I tried explaining that to my manager, and he suggested that instead of doing my side project, I could use those hours after work to solve more tasks from work, as my project would not give me any financial return. This whole thing made me feel horrible. I was so unstable due to medication and [sensitive information, trigger] that I thought of killing myself. I just didn't do it because I thought of my family, girlfriend and friends.
When I returned back home, I was worse. After two weeks I resigned, again. I made purchases with a credit card just so I could force myself to find a job to pay it later. My girlfriend also broke up with me, and lost contact with friends, so... I really asked my parents to stay in the hospital for rehab. I couldn't take it anymore. We searched for other therapists and they denied my hospitalization and we began working on my mental health again. They discovered that I have ADHD, alongside other childhood traumas...
After four months, I had an offer for an internship at Company 4. 21,6k€/year, but fully on-site in Paris. I had nothing to lose, so I went there. At the same time, it was my best and worst decision at the same time. It was good because I could prove to myself that I was a little bit stronger than I thought, but...
I began sharing a home with another 10 people (it was complete chaos, with a lot of fights between the people living there), taking 55% of my net salary (1380€/month) just for the rent, adding up to the interest payments I had, food, transportation, etc... I was basically paying to be able to do this internship. I couldn't pay the deposit for cheaper places. I decided I was going back home. I stood there for 6 months and, resigned and returned home.
Since then, I have taken some time to heal. Eventually, I had to stop therapy for some months as my parents had some financial issues (especially as they had to help me financially as well), but this month I will go back to it once more, thankfully. I tried job hunting, but either I couldn't pass the CV screening stage, or I failed during the process.
Right now, I'm doing some freelance for a LATAM client. I think will earn (as I don't have a contract or anything), 320€ a month.
I honestly feel like a kid. I made many mistakes and I feel like I've burnt bridges everywhere. If I weren't in the hustle from day one, I could've paid more attention to my health, to my ex, to my friends, and I wouldn't have made most of the decisions I did. I feel ashamed. I know part of the blame can be justified on the mental health issues I have, but I can't blame everything on it, I have my (the biggest) part of the blame as well.
I would like to have some advice on what to do. How to deal with this job hopping situation I have? My parents have a better financial condition now, so I'm going back to therapy and I'll be able to visit my home country. I have attached my CV, so you can have a look too and give me some advice on it. I also want to join the university next year and restart my social, professional, and academic life.
Thank you for your attention, this was really hard to share and I appreciate your time reading this.
CV: https://imgur.com/JfF4Ddy
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I, M23 non-citizen living in Europe in the process of acquiring citizenship, began my career around the Fall of 2021 as a Software Engineering Intern at a top 3 Password Manager company. I was 20yo at the time. I do not have a CS degree, but I had original personal projects that helped me during interviews. The fact that I failed a subject at school and couldn't join university was the trigger for a depression&anxiety (that had deeper reasons than just school failure) that I was in for over a year, and this new job sparked a joy inside me that I didn't experience during this time.
I was doing really great. After 4-5 months, I was offered a full-time Junior SWE position. I was even discharged from therapy. However, I was also interviewing for other companies as I didn't know if I'd make it into a full-time position. The offer came in as I passed Facebook interviews for a 3-month internship in London (I live in another country). I talked to my manager at the time, and he convinced me that it would be better to stay, as I had concerns about immigration & the fact that it didn't seem like Facebook had a long-term plan for me.
My salary as an intern was 24k€/year, remote. If I were to be full-time, I would be going into 32k€/year, remote.
Two weeks later, I also received feedback from another company, Company 2, B2B Fintech. I passed all the interviews for a remote Junior FE position. The salary was 72,8k€/year, but as a contractor, and I would be joining as an employee if I were to relocate to Paris. I discussed the matter with my parents, friends, and girlfriend, and I decided to take the offer. The company I was working at counter-offered for 45k€, but I didn't take it.
Then shit hit the fan.
Everything at work was fine, but I was going through a lot of stress at home. After roughly 2 months in this new company, I had two traumatic events outside work that put me into my first panic attack. Due to the high expectations I had for myself at this new job, I felt compelled to resign. I made up an excuse at midnight, wrote the resignation letter and sent it to my manager. He understood my situation and I left. I started to attend therapy sessions once more and took different medications as well.
I talked to colleagues at Company 1, and they accepted me back. One month later, I was back at my position, at 45k€. But things were different. I was giving my all, but I wasn't performing as well as I was before. My relationship with my girlfriend was getting worse, things at home were so tense, and responsibilities were piling up. My therapist thought (and she was right) that I was in the process of burnout. Closer to 6 months after my return, I was talking to my peers about taking a break, but I wasn't sure yet... Then the HR said I'd better take a sick leave because my performance was worse than before and this could trigger a PIP. I took the sick leave. 2 weeks weren't enough. The day I returned, I talked to HR again and I was surely going to PIP, so I told them I was not capable of doing more than I was already doing. I was exhausted. I resigned once more.
Two months later, I got another job at Company 3. I couldn't screw this up. 46k€, remote, I just had to go to Paris once a month. On the first day at this new job, I was so focused that I forgot to eat, and just noticed I was starving when my mom knocked on the door at 17h30 asking if I would eat something. I was dedicating 100% of my time to code.
On my first visit to the office, I had a great time, except for an interaction with a colleague that I really liked. He was asking about my story and I told him about my previous experiences. He said: "so you aren't going to leave us after 3 months, are you?". The voice tone was friendly, but I knew the concern was legit.
During my second visit to the office, I ran out of medication, so I was rationing the dose so I could make it until I was back home. I had a side project for a role-playing game, so I changed the whole BE & FE language & frameworks to match the Company 3 stack. I made a linkedin post to tell people I was practicing the stack after work hours on this project. On the next day, HR scheduled a meeting with my manager and asked me if I was founding a company, because that would clash against the non-competing clause in my contract, and that "Company 3 is the only entrepreneurship journey an employee should take".
Looking back, I understand the concern. In my mind, I was only sharing my RPG side project and showing commitment to improving, but they could not read my mind. I tried explaining that to my manager, and he suggested that instead of doing my side project, I could use those hours after work to solve more tasks from work, as my project would not give me any financial return. This whole thing made me feel horrible. I was so unstable due to medication and [sensitive information, trigger] that I thought of killing myself. I just didn't do it because I thought of my family, girlfriend and friends.
When I returned back home, I was worse. After two weeks I resigned, again. I made purchases with a credit card just so I could force myself to find a job to pay it later. My girlfriend also broke up with me, and lost contact with friends, so... I really asked my parents to stay in the hospital for rehab. I couldn't take it anymore. We searched for other therapists and they denied my hospitalization and we began working on my mental health again. They discovered that I have ADHD, alongside other childhood traumas...
After four months, I had an offer for an internship at Company 4. 21,6k€/year, but fully on-site in Paris. I had nothing to lose, so I went there. At the same time, it was my best and worst decision at the same time. It was good because I could prove to myself that I was a little bit stronger than I thought, but...
I began sharing a home with another 10 people (it was complete chaos, with a lot of fights between the people living there), taking 55% of my net salary (1380€/month) just for the rent, adding up to the interest payments I had, food, transportation, etc... I was basically paying to be able to do this internship. I couldn't pay the deposit for cheaper places. I decided I was going back home. I stood there for 6 months and, resigned and returned home.
Since then, I have taken some time to heal. Eventually, I had to stop therapy for some months as my parents had some financial issues (especially as they had to help me financially as well), but this month I will go back to it once more, thankfully. I tried job hunting, but either I couldn't pass the CV screening stage, or I failed during the process.
Right now, I'm doing some freelance for a LATAM client. I think will earn (as I don't have a contract or anything), 320€ a month.
I honestly feel like a kid. I made many mistakes and I feel like I've burnt bridges everywhere. If I weren't in the hustle from day one, I could've paid more attention to my health, to my ex, to my friends, and I wouldn't have made most of the decisions I did. I feel ashamed. I know part of the blame can be justified on the mental health issues I have, but I can't blame everything on it, I have my (the biggest) part of the blame as well.
I would like to have some advice on what to do. How to deal with this job hopping situation I have? My parents have a better financial condition now, so I'm going back to therapy and I'll be able to visit my home country. I have attached my CV, so you can have a look too and give me some advice on it. I also want to join the university next year and restart my social, professional, and academic life.
Thank you for your attention, this was really hard to share and I appreciate your time reading this.
CV: https://imgur.com/JfF4Ddy
2024.06.09 16:21 Faustina726 Angry middle-aged woman rants about a wedding
ChaCha has added "wedding expert" to her resume! Not that she's had one...or probably ever even been invited to one.
Does this woman ever get invited ANYWHERE? Does she have any idea how social gatherings work? I'm actually astounded at her take on the wedding of the Duke and Duchess of Westminster. Her insane rage about the Prince of Wales is ridiculous.
All of William’s leaking and briefing about Hugh’s wedding, and all he got was a shuttle ride, a position as an usher and no date. I wonder if Hugh even specified that William could not bring a plus-one. After the wedding service, William was seen hanging out with long-time friends like Rosie van Cutsem and dark-haired guy, who is probably Rosie’s husband William van Cutsem.
It's obvious she has no idea what the role of an usher is at a wedding.
And the dark-haired guy was "probably" Willam van Cutsem? That's some crack journalism there, ChaCha. Too lazy to even google.
William obviously didn’t come to the wedding with Kate, and it looks like he didn’t bring Prince George either. There were no photos of George, although there was some pre-wedding buzz that George would be one of the page boys, especially given that Hugh is George’s godfather. People Mag says George wasn’t there, likely because it was a school day. Apparently, someone in the crowd shouted "best wishes to Kate" as William exited the cathedral. He apparently “gave a nod and waved” in response. It’s bizarre that he seems so grumpy whenever anyone reminds him that his wife is supposed to be ill.
Here she goes again with reacting to a story in People magazine. Who cares what People magazine posts? People isn't even a British mag. Doesn't her internet provider allow her to see British publications?
And how is giving a nod and waving considered grumpy behavior? What was he supposed to do when people wished him the best? Fall to his knees and sob?
Then she starts frothing at the mouth about the Middletons not being at the wedding
where were the Middletons? All of the wisteria-sistering, all of that social climbing, and none of the Middletons were invited to the social event of the season? I have the feeling that Carole Middleton’s social climbing/hustler days are over, now that she’s been so thoroughly exposed as a rampant fraud. But what about Pippa and Terribly Moderately Wealthy James Matthews? What about James Middleton? Why weren’t they invited?
ChaCha is sooooooooo unnerved about the Middletons!!
She is twisting herself into knots over a beautiful wedding which is hardly surprising.
She has another post today criticizing the new Duchess of Middleton's wedding dress and shoes and a plywood platform used for photos and pretty much everything and of course throws in a mention of Meghan and I just can't.
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Does this woman ever get invited ANYWHERE? Does she have any idea how social gatherings work? I'm actually astounded at her take on the wedding of the Duke and Duchess of Westminster. Her insane rage about the Prince of Wales is ridiculous.
All of William’s leaking and briefing about Hugh’s wedding, and all he got was a shuttle ride, a position as an usher and no date. I wonder if Hugh even specified that William could not bring a plus-one. After the wedding service, William was seen hanging out with long-time friends like Rosie van Cutsem and dark-haired guy, who is probably Rosie’s husband William van Cutsem.
It's obvious she has no idea what the role of an usher is at a wedding.
And the dark-haired guy was "probably" Willam van Cutsem? That's some crack journalism there, ChaCha. Too lazy to even google.
William obviously didn’t come to the wedding with Kate, and it looks like he didn’t bring Prince George either. There were no photos of George, although there was some pre-wedding buzz that George would be one of the page boys, especially given that Hugh is George’s godfather. People Mag says George wasn’t there, likely because it was a school day. Apparently, someone in the crowd shouted "best wishes to Kate" as William exited the cathedral. He apparently “gave a nod and waved” in response. It’s bizarre that he seems so grumpy whenever anyone reminds him that his wife is supposed to be ill.
Here she goes again with reacting to a story in People magazine. Who cares what People magazine posts? People isn't even a British mag. Doesn't her internet provider allow her to see British publications?
And how is giving a nod and waving considered grumpy behavior? What was he supposed to do when people wished him the best? Fall to his knees and sob?
Then she starts frothing at the mouth about the Middletons not being at the wedding
where were the Middletons? All of the wisteria-sistering, all of that social climbing, and none of the Middletons were invited to the social event of the season? I have the feeling that Carole Middleton’s social climbing/hustler days are over, now that she’s been so thoroughly exposed as a rampant fraud. But what about Pippa and Terribly Moderately Wealthy James Matthews? What about James Middleton? Why weren’t they invited?
ChaCha is sooooooooo unnerved about the Middletons!!
She is twisting herself into knots over a beautiful wedding which is hardly surprising.
She has another post today criticizing the new Duchess of Middleton's wedding dress and shoes and a plywood platform used for photos and pretty much everything and of course throws in a mention of Meghan and I just can't.
2024.06.09 16:14 Straw_hat89 34[M4F] Mexico/Anywhere - Searching for my forever Netflix, and life partner.
Hello there,
I hope you're having an amazing weekend either enjoying all the activities that make you happy, or simply by just relaxing at home, and being lazy because why not, right? We all deserve to be lazy sometimes, but please don't neglect the classic Sunday routine... Yeah, I'm talking about cleaning, and doing laundry lol. But don't worry, I think we can enjoy a beautiful Sunday together.
About me:
Ok, let's start by putting a name and a face to whoever is writing this: My name is Miguel, and I'm just a 34 years old guy enjoying a peaceful, and simple life in a small town in Mexico. Here are a few pics because I know that for some people physical attraction is important. But keep in mind that those pics are all good angles and lightning, so maybe I'll have to send you a selfie after just waking up to show you my reality haha.
In terms of personality people describe me, primarily, as a really chatty, goofy, and curious person. But also as caring, supportive, empathic, and attentive. I value honesty, good communication, respect, loyalty, kindness, and empathy. So I'd love to find someone who's in the same channel because I'd love to receive what I can provide.
I consider myself a homebody type of person: I love to spend plenty of time at home watching Netflix, baseball games, interesting (they are random but I prefer to call them that) YT videos, sometimes listening to music, and I have been getting into reading recently (It helps me to sleep better). When I'm not at home I like to go for walks around town or spending time at the plaza or the park. On rare occasions I go to the city either to go to the movies, a baseball game, or just to buy clothes.
I have been slowly getting back into working out after some time dealing with injuries, so I'm taking things slowly, and being mindful about my body. Important to mention I workout at home, so if you're into that we can maybe be gym buddies. Another thing I'm getting back into learning new languages. On top of Spanish and English, I also speak Portuguese, a bit of French, and I'm currently starting with Norwegian (people say it's easy so why not).
Last but not least, animals are a really important part of my life, especially dogs, and even when I don't have pets of my own just yet, my family and I, we take care of a couple of stray dogs, and one feral cat (I'm pretty sure my parents love them more than they love me). So cute dog and cat pictures are always on the menu.
I hope the post is not too long, but I really wanted to share some random facts about myself just to make you laugh and learn a bit more about me.
Bonus:
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I hope you're having an amazing weekend either enjoying all the activities that make you happy, or simply by just relaxing at home, and being lazy because why not, right? We all deserve to be lazy sometimes, but please don't neglect the classic Sunday routine... Yeah, I'm talking about cleaning, and doing laundry lol. But don't worry, I think we can enjoy a beautiful Sunday together.
About me:
Ok, let's start by putting a name and a face to whoever is writing this: My name is Miguel, and I'm just a 34 years old guy enjoying a peaceful, and simple life in a small town in Mexico. Here are a few pics because I know that for some people physical attraction is important. But keep in mind that those pics are all good angles and lightning, so maybe I'll have to send you a selfie after just waking up to show you my reality haha.
In terms of personality people describe me, primarily, as a really chatty, goofy, and curious person. But also as caring, supportive, empathic, and attentive. I value honesty, good communication, respect, loyalty, kindness, and empathy. So I'd love to find someone who's in the same channel because I'd love to receive what I can provide.
I consider myself a homebody type of person: I love to spend plenty of time at home watching Netflix, baseball games, interesting (they are random but I prefer to call them that) YT videos, sometimes listening to music, and I have been getting into reading recently (It helps me to sleep better). When I'm not at home I like to go for walks around town or spending time at the plaza or the park. On rare occasions I go to the city either to go to the movies, a baseball game, or just to buy clothes.
I have been slowly getting back into working out after some time dealing with injuries, so I'm taking things slowly, and being mindful about my body. Important to mention I workout at home, so if you're into that we can maybe be gym buddies. Another thing I'm getting back into learning new languages. On top of Spanish and English, I also speak Portuguese, a bit of French, and I'm currently starting with Norwegian (people say it's easy so why not).
Last but not least, animals are a really important part of my life, especially dogs, and even when I don't have pets of my own just yet, my family and I, we take care of a couple of stray dogs, and one feral cat (I'm pretty sure my parents love them more than they love me). So cute dog and cat pictures are always on the menu.
I hope the post is not too long, but I really wanted to share some random facts about myself just to make you laugh and learn a bit more about me.
Bonus:
- I went to a Catholic school for elementary (used to get in trouble with the nuns because I was always talking during class).
- I was a teenager obsessed with Karate Kid movies.
- I broke my wrist when I was kid while playing on a slide.
- I like to do the dishes after each meal.
- I adore rainy days (you know getting wet is good right? Ok, bad lewd joke haha).
- I'm scared of heights, the open sea, and roaches... But who's not afraid of roaches, right?
- Dating tv shows are my guilty pleasure (and Mean Girls movie too).
- I had a raw bean stuck inside my nose for two days when I was a kid.
- Used to love ghost stories as a kid, and also used to scare the shit out of my cousins and friends by reading those stories to them.
- I think LOTR are the best Christmas movies.
- I cry watching emotional movies.
- Pandas are my favorite animal.
2024.06.09 16:13 Straw_hat89 34[M4F] Mexic/Anywhere - Let's go on picnics during Sundays!
Hello there,
I hope you're having an amazing weekend either enjoying all the activities that make you happy, or simply by just relaxing at home, and being lazy because why not, right? We all deserve to be lazy sometimes, but please dont neglect the classic Sunday routine... Yeah, I'm talking about cleaning, and doing laundry lol. But dont worry, I think we can enjoy a beautiful Sunday together.
About me:
Ok, let's start by putting a name and a face to whoever is writing this: My name is Miguel, and I'm just a 34 years old guy enjoying a peaceful, and simple life in a small town in Mexico. Here are a few pics because I know that for some people physical attraction is important. But keep in mind that those pics are all good angles and lightning, so maybe I'll have to send you a selfie after just waking up to show you my reality haha.
In terms of personality people describe me, primarily, as a really chatty, goofy, and curious person. But also as caring, supportive, empathic, and attentive. I value honesty, good communication, respect, loyalty, kindness, and empathy. So I'd love to find someone who's in the same channel because I'd love to receive what I can provide.
I consider myself a homebody type of person: I love to spend plenty of time at home watching Netflix, baseball games, interesting (they are random but I prefer to call them that) YT videos, sometimes listening to music, and I have been getting into reading recently (It helps me to sleep better). When I'm not at home I like to go for walks around town or spending time at the plaza or the park. On rare occasions I go to the city either to go to the movies, a baseball game, or just to buy clothes.
I have been slowly getting back into working out after some time dealing with injuries, so I'm taking things slowly, and being mindful about my body. Important to mention I workout at home, so if you're into that we can maybe be gym buddies. Another thing I'm getting back into learning new languages. On top of Spanish and English, I also speak Portuguese, a bit of French, and I'm currently starting with Norwegian (people say it's easy so why not).
Last but not least, animals are a really important part of my life, especially dogs, and even when I don't have pets of my own just yet, my family and I, we take care of a couple of stray dogs, and one feral cat (I'm pretty sure my parents love them more than they love me). So cute dog and cat pictures are always on the menu.
I hope the post is not too long, but I really wanted to share some random facts about myself just to make you laugh and learn a bit more about me.
Bonus:
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I hope you're having an amazing weekend either enjoying all the activities that make you happy, or simply by just relaxing at home, and being lazy because why not, right? We all deserve to be lazy sometimes, but please dont neglect the classic Sunday routine... Yeah, I'm talking about cleaning, and doing laundry lol. But dont worry, I think we can enjoy a beautiful Sunday together.
About me:
Ok, let's start by putting a name and a face to whoever is writing this: My name is Miguel, and I'm just a 34 years old guy enjoying a peaceful, and simple life in a small town in Mexico. Here are a few pics because I know that for some people physical attraction is important. But keep in mind that those pics are all good angles and lightning, so maybe I'll have to send you a selfie after just waking up to show you my reality haha.
In terms of personality people describe me, primarily, as a really chatty, goofy, and curious person. But also as caring, supportive, empathic, and attentive. I value honesty, good communication, respect, loyalty, kindness, and empathy. So I'd love to find someone who's in the same channel because I'd love to receive what I can provide.
I consider myself a homebody type of person: I love to spend plenty of time at home watching Netflix, baseball games, interesting (they are random but I prefer to call them that) YT videos, sometimes listening to music, and I have been getting into reading recently (It helps me to sleep better). When I'm not at home I like to go for walks around town or spending time at the plaza or the park. On rare occasions I go to the city either to go to the movies, a baseball game, or just to buy clothes.
I have been slowly getting back into working out after some time dealing with injuries, so I'm taking things slowly, and being mindful about my body. Important to mention I workout at home, so if you're into that we can maybe be gym buddies. Another thing I'm getting back into learning new languages. On top of Spanish and English, I also speak Portuguese, a bit of French, and I'm currently starting with Norwegian (people say it's easy so why not).
Last but not least, animals are a really important part of my life, especially dogs, and even when I don't have pets of my own just yet, my family and I, we take care of a couple of stray dogs, and one feral cat (I'm pretty sure my parents love them more than they love me). So cute dog and cat pictures are always on the menu.
I hope the post is not too long, but I really wanted to share some random facts about myself just to make you laugh and learn a bit more about me.
Bonus:
- I went to a Catholic school for elementary (used to get in trouble with the nuns because I was always talking during class).
- I was a teenager obsessed with Karate Kid movies.
- I broke my wrist when I was kid while playing on a slide.
- I like to do the dishes after each meal.
- I adore rainy days (you know getting wet is good right? Ok, bad lewd joke haha).
- I'm scared of heights, the open sea, and roaches... But who's not afraid of roaches, right?
- Dating tv shows are my guilty pleasure (and Mean Girls movie too).
- I had a raw bean stuck inside my nose for two days when I was a kid.
- Used to love ghost stories as a kid, and also used to scare the shit out of my cousins and friends by reading those stories to them.
- I think LOTR are the best Christmas movies.
- I cry watching emotional movies.
- Pandas are my favorite animal.
2024.06.09 16:10 DevoteeOfCittaDharma An 86-year-old grandma woke up after 20 days in a coma (苏醒)
Today, to save all sentient beings, I will learn from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva to spread Dharma. I will convince sentient beings to practice Buddhism using my experiences. May Guan Yin Bodhisattva bless me and help me turn my propagation into merits and virtues. I hope my propagation can form positive connections with all sentient beings, transform the right ones extensively, and awaken more beings. I, not my fellow practitioners, will be responsible for my own karma!
Hello everyone! I am a Dharma practitioner Jinglian from Jiangsu Province, China. Now I’d like to share with you: My husband hit an 86-year-old grandmother on the road, causing her to fall. Guan Yin Bodhisattva mercifully blessed and protected the grandmother so she regained consciousness after 20 days in a coma. She was discharged 30 days later.
My husband's birthday is in January. In November 2019, 3 months later he would be 59 years old. On November 1, 2019, I dreamed that the portrait of Guan Yin Bodhisattva on the Buddhist altar was missing. However, it did not draw my attention to it at that time.
On November 4, 2019, after 5:00 pm, my husband was riding his electric bicycle and accidentally hit a grandmother who was walking on the road. He fell a heel, helmet fell in half, but his body was not seriously hurt, just a bit of skin on the face. The grandmother lay on the ground unconscious, with her mouth and nose bleeding. The situation was very critical. He immediately called the police and sent the grandmother to the County People's Hospital for emergency care.
Hospital examination report discovered that the grandmother's brain had become a mass like bean curd, paste, and had a hematoma. The doctor said: “The 86-year-old grandmother, because of her age, cannot undergo surgery；the grandmother may not wake up, and even if she wakes up, she will enter vegetable state (post-coma unresponsiveness).” He was scared and called me to tell me that the grandmother's situation was very dangerous. When I heard the news, I didn't panic because I knew Guan Yin Bodhisattva would bless me! I reassured my frightened husband not to worry too much. Bodhisattva would bless and wake up the old grandmother. My husband said, "Is it possible?" I said, "What is impossible?" Many cancer patients have been cured by practicing the 3 golden Buddhist practices. Why can't we? If we sincerely pray to Bodhisattva, we can definitely do it".
I had been practicing Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door for >2 years by then. As a devotee of the greatly compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, I had witnessed too many miracles. In response to this, I made 3 vows to the Bodhisattva after offering incense:
Within a few days, the grandmother could move her hands. I understood in my heart that it was Bodhisattva's compassion that saved her.
After a few more days, the grandmother's eyes opened and she smiled at me. When the nurse saw that, the nurse said, "We give her an IV every day, but today she opened her eyes and smiled at you first. I can't believe that an 86-year-old person can recover so well in such a short time. This would not be possible without your sincerity and compassion!"
If one’s thoughts are sincere, the Buddha has a response. As long as we firmly have faith in Guan Yin Bodhisattva, the Bodhisattva will surely bless us sentient beings.
On the 20th day of the grandmother's hospital admission, a miracle happened: she woke up! I was so moved that I couldn't stop tears from flowing down my face. It was so amazing. I was full of Dharma joy. I was so grateful for Bodhisattva's compassion, who answered every request and saved the grandmother and our family.
On the 30th day of her hospital admission, she was discharged! The caregiver saw the change in her and exclaimed it was awesome. At such an old age and with such serious injuries, she woke up and was discharged from the hospital in 1 month. This is a miracle! Without Bodhisattva's compassionate rescue, the grandmother would have had a different outcome that none of us wanted.
On November 30, the grandmother's son negotiated with my husband to deal with the aftermath. As I recited 2 sets of Guan Yin Citta Emergency Code during the negotiations, I prayed that Bodhisattva would bless and allow the problem to be resolved smoothly and successfully. There was no unpleasantness between the two parties during the negotiation process. In the end, both parties reached a consensus and my family paid the other party ￥91,000 in CYN. Compassionate Bodhisattva turned a big problem into a small one. Once again, I was moved to tears.
In this traffic accident, Bodhisattva not only saved the grandmother's life, but also saved my husband‘s spiritual life. Previously, he was against studying Buddhism and reciting Buddhist scriptures. Through this incident, he changed his original attitude. In addition to listening to Master Lu's enlightenment and lectures on Buddhism in Plain Terms, he recites the holy name of the Bodhisattva. I know this is all due to Bodhisattva's compassionate blessing! The only way I could afford the Bodhisattva is to cultivate well and keep cultivating!
Four years have passed and the grandmother is still alive today. Every time I passed by her house, I saw clothes drying and lights on, and I was deeply touched. If I hadn't encountered such an excellent Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door, if it weren't for the compassionate help of fellow practitioners, how sad the grandmother's family would be if something happened to her. My husband and I would have suffered for the rest of our lives. The fates of our two families would not be as peaceful as now. I am infinitely grateful to Guan Yin Bodhisattva for saving our two families.
Now that we have listened to the rarely heard Dharma teachings, we must cherish this affinity with the Buddha. The only way to change our destiny is to practise Buddhism and recite Buddhist scriptures. The terrible fate in the past will become good after studying Buddhism, and the good fate in the past will become better after studying Buddhism. If one person practices Buddhism, the whole family will be blessed!
I vow: I will not forget the salvation of Bodhisattva and the teachings of Master Lu, study Buddhism well, practice Buddhism truly and practically, do more merits and virtues, awaken more sentient beings, respect my teacher and his teachings, devote myself to one Buddhist practice, and never quit! Introduce such good Dharma to more sentient beings, so that more sentient beings can benefit from studying Buddhism and be free from suffering and gain happiness! Only then will we be worthy of the Bodhisattva's kindness! Buddha's powers are unlimited, and only those who believe in Buddha will be saved! I am grateful to all the boundless compassionate fellow practitioners who have introduced me to Buddhism and helped me learn Buddhism. This has allowed me to encounter such a wonderful Dharma Door. I hope that all sentient beings who read or hear what I have shared will not hesitate to take up Buddhist scriptures and learn to recite them!
My deepest gratitude to Namo Sakyamuni Buddha!
My deepest gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
My deepest gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
My deepest gratitude to the Dharma protectors!
My deepest gratitude to the selfless and beloved Master Jun Hong Lu!
If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the truth in the presentation, I’d like to seek forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors, and Master Jun Hong Lu. I’d also like to seek forgiveness from my fellow Buddhist practitioners.
I, not my fellow practitioners, will be responsible for my own karma!
Buddhist Practitioner: Zhu, Gratitude and Namaste!
Received: 2020-01-11
Posted: 2023-03-27
Translator: Frank
Statement by translator
1 Story was translated by meaning, not word by word. If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the true meaning of the Chinese version, I’d like to seek forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors and Master Jun Hong Lu.
2 Author Zhu was interviewed by Frank during translation for the detailed information.
Propagation
It would be greatly appreciated if you would forward this presentation to all sentient beings you know, sick or healthy. You will accumulate immeasurable merits and virtues. Saving a life is more meritorious than building a seven-floor pagoda!
Would you like to change your destiny?
We will show you how to do the Five Golden Buddhist Practices of Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door: (1) making vows, (2) reciting Buddhist scriptures (sutras and mantras), (3) performing life liberation, (4) reading Buddhism in Plain Terms, and (5) repenting. You will personally witness how you and your family can achieve physical and mental stability, relief from illness and grievances, wisdom growth, academic progress, career advancement, and family happiness through Dharma. It’s free of charge.
Contact
Buddhist practitioner: Lily
Email: [sunnypurplelily@gmail.com](mailto:sunnypurplelily@gmail.com)
WeChat: HanJing20210820
原文如下：
先生肇事撞倒86岁老奶奶，观世音菩萨慈悲保佑，老奶奶20天后苏醒30天后出院
感恩南无释迦牟尼佛！
感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨！
感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨及龙天护法金刚菩萨！
感恩弘法度众舍身忘我的恩师慈父卢军宏薹长！
今天我学习观世音菩萨的大慈大悲精神弘法利生，所以现身说法。感恩观世音菩萨慈悲保佑把我的分享转成功德，希望我的分享能够广结善缘，广度有缘，度化更多的有缘众生！我自己的业障自己背，不让聆听的师兄们背。感恩菩萨！感恩师父！感谢大家！
大家好，我是来自江苏的净莲同修，现在分享一下：先生肇事撞倒86岁老奶奶，观世音菩萨慈悲保佑，老奶奶20天后苏醒30天后出院
我家先生是1月份生日，2019年11月，再过3个月先生就59岁了。2019年11月1日，我梦见佛台上的观世音菩萨像不见了，但我当时没有引起我的重视。
2019年11月4日傍晚5点多，先生骑着电瓶车，不小心撞到了一位在马路上行走的老奶奶。先生摔了一个跟头，头盔摔成了两半，但身体没大碍，只是脸上擦破了一点皮，而老奶奶倒地后却不省人事，嘴巴、鼻子里都是血，情况十分危急。先生爬起来后立刻报了警，并把老奶奶送往县城人民医院进行紧急抢救。
医院检查报告显示：老奶奶大脑里已成豆腐渣、糊了，还有一块血瘤。医生说：86岁的老奶奶，因为年龄大不能开刀做手术。老奶奶可能醒不过来了，即使醒过来也成植物人了。先生吓坏了，打电话告诉了我老奶奶的情况非常危险。听到消息后，我并没有心慌，因为我知道：观世音菩萨一定会保佑我的！我安慰受惊的先生不要太过担心，菩萨妈妈会保佑，让老奶奶醒过来。我先生说：“可能吗”？我说：“有什么不可能，很多的癌症病人，运用法门的三大法宝都治好了。我们为什么不可以？只要我们诚心求菩萨妈妈，一定可以的”。
我修学心灵法门已经两年多了，知道心灵法门的灵验，也见证了太多关于大慈大悲的菩萨妈妈创造的奇迹。针对此事，我诚心诚意地上香后，向菩萨许愿:
1. 给我先生的要经者，烧送21张小房子；
2. 给我家房子的要经者，烧送21张小房子。
得知我家情况的师兄们在11月9日，来我家助缘，帮我设好了心灵法门的新佛台（之前，我家只供奉了一尊观世音菩萨）。看着不是亲人却胜似亲人的师兄们忙前忙后无私的奉献，我真的很感动，心里无比的感恩！我跪在菩萨面前许愿：
没过几天，老奶奶手居然能动了。我心中明白是菩萨妈妈慈悲在救度老奶奶。
又过了几天，老奶奶眼睛能睁开了还对我笑了。一旁的护士看到后说：“我们天天给她打点滴都没知觉，今天竟然能睁开眼睛还第一个对你笑了。真不敢相信，86岁老人能在这么短时间内恢复得这么好，离不开你的诚心，慈悲心啊！”
人有诚心，佛有感应。只要我们坚信观世音菩萨，菩萨一定会保佑我们众生的。
就在老奶奶入院的第20天，奇迹出现了：老奶奶苏醒过来了！我感动得眼泪也是止不住往下流。真的是太好了，太法喜了。太感恩菩萨妈妈的慈悲，有求必应，救了老奶奶，也救了我们全家。
就在老奶奶入院的第30天，老奶奶出院了！旁边的护工看到老奶奶的变化，也直呼太神奇了。像这么大年龄，受伤这么严重，竟然能苏醒过来，而且1个月就能出院。这简直就是奇迹啊！倘若没有菩萨妈妈慈悲救度，老奶奶想必会出现另外一种我们谁都不想看到的结果。
11月30日，老奶奶的儿子与我先生协商处理善后事宜。协商期间，我念了2组心灵密码，求菩萨妈妈保佑事情能处理得顺利圆满。双方在协商过程中没发生任何不愉快。最后，双方达成共识，我家赔偿给对方9万1千元！菩萨慈悲让大事化小。我再一次感动得流泪了。
这次交通事故，菩萨不仅挽救了老奶奶的生命，还救了先生的慧命。之前，先生反对我学佛念经。通过这件事情，先生改变了原来的态度。他有时念菩萨圣号，听师父开示，听师父讲《白话佛法》。我知道这都是菩萨慈悲加持和保佑的结果！我只有好好修，坚持修学下去，才对得起菩萨！
一晃四年过去了，老奶奶如今还健在。每次路过她家门口时，看到晒着的衣服，屋里亮着的灯，我都深有感触。若不是接触到这么好的心灵法门，若不是师兄们慈悲帮助，万一老奶奶有个三长两短，老奶奶一家会多么悲痛。我和先生的心里会受一辈子的折磨。我们两家人的命运将完全不会是现在这般祥和。无限感恩观世音菩萨慈悲救度了我们两家人。
佛法难闻今已闻。我们要好好珍惜这份佛缘。唯有学佛念经才能改变命运，过去不好的学佛后会变好，过去好的方面学佛后会变得更好。真是一人学佛、庇佑全家！
我发愿：一定不忘菩萨妈妈的救度，不忘师父的教诲，好好学佛，真修，实修，多做功德，多度人，尊师重道，一门精进，永不退转！把这么好的佛法介绍给更多的有缘众生，让更多的有缘众生学佛受益，离苦得乐！只有这样，才对得起菩萨的恩情！佛法无边，信者得度！感恩度我学佛、帮助过我的无缘大慈、同体大悲的师兄们在学佛的路上对我的关心与帮助，让我有幸遇到这么灵验无比的心灵法门！希望看到或听到我分享的有缘众生，不要再犹豫了，赶紧捧起经书学佛念经吧！我的分享到此结束。
再次感恩南无释迦牟尼佛！感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨！感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨及龙天护法金刚菩萨！感恩弘法度众舍身忘我的恩师慈父卢军宏台长！
分享过程中如有不如理不如法之处，请南无释迦牟尼佛慈悲原谅！请南无大慈大悲观世音菩萨慈悲原谅！请十方三世诸佛菩萨和龙天护法菩萨慈悲原谅！请师兄们批评指正！我自己的业障自己背，不让师兄们背！
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Hello everyone! I am a Dharma practitioner Jinglian from Jiangsu Province, China. Now I’d like to share with you: My husband hit an 86-year-old grandmother on the road, causing her to fall. Guan Yin Bodhisattva mercifully blessed and protected the grandmother so she regained consciousness after 20 days in a coma. She was discharged 30 days later.
My husband's birthday is in January. In November 2019, 3 months later he would be 59 years old. On November 1, 2019, I dreamed that the portrait of Guan Yin Bodhisattva on the Buddhist altar was missing. However, it did not draw my attention to it at that time.
On November 4, 2019, after 5:00 pm, my husband was riding his electric bicycle and accidentally hit a grandmother who was walking on the road. He fell a heel, helmet fell in half, but his body was not seriously hurt, just a bit of skin on the face. The grandmother lay on the ground unconscious, with her mouth and nose bleeding. The situation was very critical. He immediately called the police and sent the grandmother to the County People's Hospital for emergency care.
Hospital examination report discovered that the grandmother's brain had become a mass like bean curd, paste, and had a hematoma. The doctor said: “The 86-year-old grandmother, because of her age, cannot undergo surgery；the grandmother may not wake up, and even if she wakes up, she will enter vegetable state (post-coma unresponsiveness).” He was scared and called me to tell me that the grandmother's situation was very dangerous. When I heard the news, I didn't panic because I knew Guan Yin Bodhisattva would bless me! I reassured my frightened husband not to worry too much. Bodhisattva would bless and wake up the old grandmother. My husband said, "Is it possible?" I said, "What is impossible?" Many cancer patients have been cured by practicing the 3 golden Buddhist practices. Why can't we? If we sincerely pray to Bodhisattva, we can definitely do it".
I had been practicing Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door for >2 years by then. As a devotee of the greatly compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, I had witnessed too many miracles. In response to this, I made 3 vows to the Bodhisattva after offering incense:
- Gratitude to Guan Yin Bodhisattva, I have been a vegetarian for more than two years, and I will insist on being a vegetarian for life and not killing beings;
- Recite Xiao Zai Ji Xiang Shen Zhou and Cundi Dharani times 108 times respectively per day to my husband for a month, praying to Bodhisattva to help my husband resolve his grievances;
- Recite the Great Compassion Mantra 49 times a day to the grandmother for one month, praying Bodhisattva to bless her to wake up and recover soon.
- Repay my husband's karmic creditors 21 Little Houses;
- Repay my home's karmic creditors 21 Little Houses.
- Be a vegetarian for the rest of my life;
- Observe the five precepts;
- Live an ascetic life;
- Devote myself to one Buddhist practice, and never quit.
Within a few days, the grandmother could move her hands. I understood in my heart that it was Bodhisattva's compassion that saved her.
After a few more days, the grandmother's eyes opened and she smiled at me. When the nurse saw that, the nurse said, "We give her an IV every day, but today she opened her eyes and smiled at you first. I can't believe that an 86-year-old person can recover so well in such a short time. This would not be possible without your sincerity and compassion!"
If one’s thoughts are sincere, the Buddha has a response. As long as we firmly have faith in Guan Yin Bodhisattva, the Bodhisattva will surely bless us sentient beings.
On the 20th day of the grandmother's hospital admission, a miracle happened: she woke up! I was so moved that I couldn't stop tears from flowing down my face. It was so amazing. I was full of Dharma joy. I was so grateful for Bodhisattva's compassion, who answered every request and saved the grandmother and our family.
On the 30th day of her hospital admission, she was discharged! The caregiver saw the change in her and exclaimed it was awesome. At such an old age and with such serious injuries, she woke up and was discharged from the hospital in 1 month. This is a miracle! Without Bodhisattva's compassionate rescue, the grandmother would have had a different outcome that none of us wanted.
On November 30, the grandmother's son negotiated with my husband to deal with the aftermath. As I recited 2 sets of Guan Yin Citta Emergency Code during the negotiations, I prayed that Bodhisattva would bless and allow the problem to be resolved smoothly and successfully. There was no unpleasantness between the two parties during the negotiation process. In the end, both parties reached a consensus and my family paid the other party ￥91,000 in CYN. Compassionate Bodhisattva turned a big problem into a small one. Once again, I was moved to tears.
In this traffic accident, Bodhisattva not only saved the grandmother's life, but also saved my husband‘s spiritual life. Previously, he was against studying Buddhism and reciting Buddhist scriptures. Through this incident, he changed his original attitude. In addition to listening to Master Lu's enlightenment and lectures on Buddhism in Plain Terms, he recites the holy name of the Bodhisattva. I know this is all due to Bodhisattva's compassionate blessing! The only way I could afford the Bodhisattva is to cultivate well and keep cultivating!
Four years have passed and the grandmother is still alive today. Every time I passed by her house, I saw clothes drying and lights on, and I was deeply touched. If I hadn't encountered such an excellent Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door, if it weren't for the compassionate help of fellow practitioners, how sad the grandmother's family would be if something happened to her. My husband and I would have suffered for the rest of our lives. The fates of our two families would not be as peaceful as now. I am infinitely grateful to Guan Yin Bodhisattva for saving our two families.
Now that we have listened to the rarely heard Dharma teachings, we must cherish this affinity with the Buddha. The only way to change our destiny is to practise Buddhism and recite Buddhist scriptures. The terrible fate in the past will become good after studying Buddhism, and the good fate in the past will become better after studying Buddhism. If one person practices Buddhism, the whole family will be blessed!
I vow: I will not forget the salvation of Bodhisattva and the teachings of Master Lu, study Buddhism well, practice Buddhism truly and practically, do more merits and virtues, awaken more sentient beings, respect my teacher and his teachings, devote myself to one Buddhist practice, and never quit! Introduce such good Dharma to more sentient beings, so that more sentient beings can benefit from studying Buddhism and be free from suffering and gain happiness! Only then will we be worthy of the Bodhisattva's kindness! Buddha's powers are unlimited, and only those who believe in Buddha will be saved! I am grateful to all the boundless compassionate fellow practitioners who have introduced me to Buddhism and helped me learn Buddhism. This has allowed me to encounter such a wonderful Dharma Door. I hope that all sentient beings who read or hear what I have shared will not hesitate to take up Buddhist scriptures and learn to recite them!
My deepest gratitude to Namo Sakyamuni Buddha!
My deepest gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
My deepest gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
My deepest gratitude to the Dharma protectors!
My deepest gratitude to the selfless and beloved Master Jun Hong Lu!
If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the truth in the presentation, I’d like to seek forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors, and Master Jun Hong Lu. I’d also like to seek forgiveness from my fellow Buddhist practitioners.
I, not my fellow practitioners, will be responsible for my own karma!
Buddhist Practitioner: Zhu, Gratitude and Namaste!
Received: 2020-01-11
Posted: 2023-03-27
Translator: Frank
Statement by translator
1 Story was translated by meaning, not word by word. If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the true meaning of the Chinese version, I’d like to seek forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors and Master Jun Hong Lu.
2 Author Zhu was interviewed by Frank during translation for the detailed information.
Propagation
It would be greatly appreciated if you would forward this presentation to all sentient beings you know, sick or healthy. You will accumulate immeasurable merits and virtues. Saving a life is more meritorious than building a seven-floor pagoda!
Would you like to change your destiny?
We will show you how to do the Five Golden Buddhist Practices of Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door: (1) making vows, (2) reciting Buddhist scriptures (sutras and mantras), (3) performing life liberation, (4) reading Buddhism in Plain Terms, and (5) repenting. You will personally witness how you and your family can achieve physical and mental stability, relief from illness and grievances, wisdom growth, academic progress, career advancement, and family happiness through Dharma. It’s free of charge.
Contact
Buddhist practitioner: Lily
Email: [sunnypurplelily@gmail.com](mailto:sunnypurplelily@gmail.com)
WeChat: HanJing20210820
原文如下：
先生肇事撞倒86岁老奶奶，观世音菩萨慈悲保佑，老奶奶20天后苏醒30天后出院
感恩南无释迦牟尼佛！
感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨！
感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨及龙天护法金刚菩萨！
感恩弘法度众舍身忘我的恩师慈父卢军宏薹长！
今天我学习观世音菩萨的大慈大悲精神弘法利生，所以现身说法。感恩观世音菩萨慈悲保佑把我的分享转成功德，希望我的分享能够广结善缘，广度有缘，度化更多的有缘众生！我自己的业障自己背，不让聆听的师兄们背。感恩菩萨！感恩师父！感谢大家！
大家好，我是来自江苏的净莲同修，现在分享一下：先生肇事撞倒86岁老奶奶，观世音菩萨慈悲保佑，老奶奶20天后苏醒30天后出院
我家先生是1月份生日，2019年11月，再过3个月先生就59岁了。2019年11月1日，我梦见佛台上的观世音菩萨像不见了，但我当时没有引起我的重视。
2019年11月4日傍晚5点多，先生骑着电瓶车，不小心撞到了一位在马路上行走的老奶奶。先生摔了一个跟头，头盔摔成了两半，但身体没大碍，只是脸上擦破了一点皮，而老奶奶倒地后却不省人事，嘴巴、鼻子里都是血，情况十分危急。先生爬起来后立刻报了警，并把老奶奶送往县城人民医院进行紧急抢救。
医院检查报告显示：老奶奶大脑里已成豆腐渣、糊了，还有一块血瘤。医生说：86岁的老奶奶，因为年龄大不能开刀做手术。老奶奶可能醒不过来了，即使醒过来也成植物人了。先生吓坏了，打电话告诉了我老奶奶的情况非常危险。听到消息后，我并没有心慌，因为我知道：观世音菩萨一定会保佑我的！我安慰受惊的先生不要太过担心，菩萨妈妈会保佑，让老奶奶醒过来。我先生说：“可能吗”？我说：“有什么不可能，很多的癌症病人，运用法门的三大法宝都治好了。我们为什么不可以？只要我们诚心求菩萨妈妈，一定可以的”。
我修学心灵法门已经两年多了，知道心灵法门的灵验，也见证了太多关于大慈大悲的菩萨妈妈创造的奇迹。针对此事，我诚心诚意地上香后，向菩萨许愿:
- 感恩观世音菩萨，我已经吃全素两年多了，一定会坚持终身吃全素，不杀生；
- 给我先生每天念《消灾吉祥神咒》和《解结咒》各108遍，念一个月，求菩萨妈妈帮我先生化解怨结；
- 给老奶奶每天念49遍《大悲咒》，念一个月，求菩萨妈妈保佑老奶奶能早日醒过来康复。
1. 给我先生的要经者，烧送21张小房子；
2. 给我家房子的要经者，烧送21张小房子。
得知我家情况的师兄们在11月9日，来我家助缘，帮我设好了心灵法门的新佛台（之前，我家只供奉了一尊观世音菩萨）。看着不是亲人却胜似亲人的师兄们忙前忙后无私的奉献，我真的很感动，心里无比的感恩！我跪在菩萨面前许愿：
- 终生吃全素；
- 守五戒；
- 清修；
- 一门精进，永不退转！
没过几天，老奶奶手居然能动了。我心中明白是菩萨妈妈慈悲在救度老奶奶。
又过了几天，老奶奶眼睛能睁开了还对我笑了。一旁的护士看到后说：“我们天天给她打点滴都没知觉，今天竟然能睁开眼睛还第一个对你笑了。真不敢相信，86岁老人能在这么短时间内恢复得这么好，离不开你的诚心，慈悲心啊！”
人有诚心，佛有感应。只要我们坚信观世音菩萨，菩萨一定会保佑我们众生的。
就在老奶奶入院的第20天，奇迹出现了：老奶奶苏醒过来了！我感动得眼泪也是止不住往下流。真的是太好了，太法喜了。太感恩菩萨妈妈的慈悲，有求必应，救了老奶奶，也救了我们全家。
就在老奶奶入院的第30天，老奶奶出院了！旁边的护工看到老奶奶的变化，也直呼太神奇了。像这么大年龄，受伤这么严重，竟然能苏醒过来，而且1个月就能出院。这简直就是奇迹啊！倘若没有菩萨妈妈慈悲救度，老奶奶想必会出现另外一种我们谁都不想看到的结果。
11月30日，老奶奶的儿子与我先生协商处理善后事宜。协商期间，我念了2组心灵密码，求菩萨妈妈保佑事情能处理得顺利圆满。双方在协商过程中没发生任何不愉快。最后，双方达成共识，我家赔偿给对方9万1千元！菩萨慈悲让大事化小。我再一次感动得流泪了。
这次交通事故，菩萨不仅挽救了老奶奶的生命，还救了先生的慧命。之前，先生反对我学佛念经。通过这件事情，先生改变了原来的态度。他有时念菩萨圣号，听师父开示，听师父讲《白话佛法》。我知道这都是菩萨慈悲加持和保佑的结果！我只有好好修，坚持修学下去，才对得起菩萨！
一晃四年过去了，老奶奶如今还健在。每次路过她家门口时，看到晒着的衣服，屋里亮着的灯，我都深有感触。若不是接触到这么好的心灵法门，若不是师兄们慈悲帮助，万一老奶奶有个三长两短，老奶奶一家会多么悲痛。我和先生的心里会受一辈子的折磨。我们两家人的命运将完全不会是现在这般祥和。无限感恩观世音菩萨慈悲救度了我们两家人。
佛法难闻今已闻。我们要好好珍惜这份佛缘。唯有学佛念经才能改变命运，过去不好的学佛后会变好，过去好的方面学佛后会变得更好。真是一人学佛、庇佑全家！
我发愿：一定不忘菩萨妈妈的救度，不忘师父的教诲，好好学佛，真修，实修，多做功德，多度人，尊师重道，一门精进，永不退转！把这么好的佛法介绍给更多的有缘众生，让更多的有缘众生学佛受益，离苦得乐！只有这样，才对得起菩萨的恩情！佛法无边，信者得度！感恩度我学佛、帮助过我的无缘大慈、同体大悲的师兄们在学佛的路上对我的关心与帮助，让我有幸遇到这么灵验无比的心灵法门！希望看到或听到我分享的有缘众生，不要再犹豫了，赶紧捧起经书学佛念经吧！我的分享到此结束。
再次感恩南无释迦牟尼佛！感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨！感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨及龙天护法金刚菩萨！感恩弘法度众舍身忘我的恩师慈父卢军宏台长！
分享过程中如有不如理不如法之处，请南无释迦牟尼佛慈悲原谅！请南无大慈大悲观世音菩萨慈悲原谅！请十方三世诸佛菩萨和龙天护法菩萨慈悲原谅！请师兄们批评指正！我自己的业障自己背，不让师兄们背！
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2024.06.09 15:44 Many-Barber6989 (LONG) Are Males really Inferior & Unhelpful Reproduction-Wise?
Yeah yeah, an old saying, reproduction isn't the purpose of life and doesn't determine value, but let me explain...
So, I am a 16 Year Old, who was introduced to ""feminism"" somewhere in 2022 (I think), thanks to a friend of mine. It turns out, this was actually Mysandry, in the sense that he shared how some of these "feminists" were trying to get rid of men in reproduction, one example being the "fact" that their vaginas will evolve into penises and clone themselves, except that would probably make them hermaphrodites and should happen with men too...
Nonetheless, I was "invested", since this gave me an idea about the two sexes (which would be used for a fictional piece in the end, just with a bit of spiece from our Universe, lol), since I am quite the brain stormer, not bragging or narcissism, I just come up with a lot ideas in general. But as time went on, I started to suffer from overthoughts and the amount of information I've found, including myths like "We were all Female", "Females came before Males", "Women have stronger legs", "You're Genetically Superior and Flawless due to XX", "Men are the weaker sex", "You were inside your Mother who was inside your Grandmother", "Inteligence is Mother Only", among other things, although that last one wasn't as common though). There are still fools, especially on Quora, who believe that all embryos start out as females, and just look at some individuals on that site like Anonymous04, horrors! I also tried to ask ChatGPT, but it's pretty much declining and INFURIATING! SO MANY WRONG ANSWERS! SOMETIMES IT'S OUTRIGHT LAZY!
These moments got soooo BAD, that I: -concerned my parents -made my dad think I was... drugged (since I acted blank when I was working with him once) -wasted my school-off week by overthinking -replied to many answers that ANNOYED me (arguably still do, and embarrassed myself, perhaps) -kept talking to my online friends-couldn't change the topic and basically made it my entire personality or routine for like the past few weeks (maybe even months!) -had an existencial crisis, outbursts, screaming, $u!c!d@l thoughts, etc. -and evenbecame skeptical and "mad" at God (yes, and screw off with the atheism)
Needless to say... It's quite complicated with me and I could go in-depth a lot more, but I managed to recover from most issues. However, before I settle things up, I need to settle one more thing, and that is reproduction. As far as we know, both Males & Females exist to reproduce genetically diverse offsprings, the only difference is their investments, Females for Offspring Support & Males for Competition or Attraction.
While I've noted and saved many things to read later on (like Seminal Fluids doing much more than just transfering Sperm Cells), I am still a bit concerned, stressed and annoyed, cause it just feels like females are the more favored sex in like existence (oversimplication to say it like that, really), and so, I'd like to ask some few things... Although I am definitely gonna give a lot due to overthinking and concerns:
1.Nucleous: So, as far as we know, both Ovum & Sperm Nuclei fuse to form a Zygote, a new life. Both parents guide the development of the child's characteristics and functions, however, APPERANTLY Ovum Cells have been illustrated to have a 'Nucleous' in their 'Nucleus', and turns out this is some sh!t that Zygotes "apperantly need". It's from this jackshit article from 2008: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2265587/#:\~:text=Sperm%20have%20no%20nucleoli%2C%20so,oocyte%20for%20its%20nucleolar%20beginnings. But allas, does this really make sense? No other information has been found or mentioned anywhere else. There's the "Germinal Vesicle" (Nucleus) and the "Germinal Spot" (Nuclelous), but apperantly when the Ovum goes through M II or however it was, the Germinal Vesicle breaks down and dissolves/mixes with the Cytoplasm or so. So is the Germinal Spot the actual Nucleus, and the "Germinal Vesicle" is just one of the ""expensive ingredients"" of the Ovum? Sperm Cells apperantly have Nuclear Vascoles, are those influencal?
2.Cytoplasm: Upon researching more and talking to some Chat Bots (for thes sake of sanity... or INsanity), does the Cytoplasm actually create and give rise to our cells and tissues or is that an outdaded misunderstanding, and it's main & actual function is to SUPPORT the development of the cells created by both parents? ChatGPT has also said that it also gives Building Blocks, Energy, Cell Growth & Differentiation or some confusing crap, but are those words actually referring to the processes of the Zygote's more stable and rapid growth? Is it true that this Cytoplasm is the Cytoplasm in our cells, or since it decreases, is it easily replaced by the production of our cells (combination of mom and dad, as we know)?
3.Organelles: Cytoplasmic components that are apart of the Cytoplasm' support, but again, are those organelles still the same as those in our cells? Shouldn't they decrease like the Cytoplasm and be created by our cells again since (and I am using Google Searches, cuz yes): ---Ribosomes apperantly originate from our Nucleo-lus? ---Lysosomes are formed by the fusion of transport vesciles budded from the trans Golgi network with endosomes ---Endosomes form by the inagination of the plasma membrance and are trigger by the activation of cell surface receptors ---Golgi Bodies originate from the endoplasmic reticulum ---The endoplasmic reticulum originates from the outer membrance of the nuclear envelop during cell division and among other things, but is Mitochondria the only organelle that manages to stay in by it's high number and self reproduction? Is Mitochondria like 90% of the Ovum's organelles hopefully thinking and the other organelles are a small amount compared to the Mitochondria?
4.Cytoskeleton: Apperantly, that is also a thing and it's not an organelle, but apperantly it also has evolved from prokaryotic cytomotive filaments. Even then, Sperm Cells apperantly have a highly specialized cytoskeletal organization or cytoskeletal proteins (like actin, tubulin and spectrin), so?...
5.RNA: Do we inherit more RNA from mom due to the freaking egg, or is it irrelevant because it is transient as the embryo starts to produce it's own RNA and proteins? But ChatGPT has also said this crap: "This maternal RNA helps to jump-start the developmental processes until the Zygote's own genome can take over". It has been said that Sperm has "vanishingly small" amount of RNA compared to the Ovum, but then there have been studies that Non-Coding RNA or so can influence Embryo Development or that Sperm delivers a complex population of RNAs to the Oocyte. Based on a Google Research, I've found this: "6871 proteins have been identified and reported in Sperm, 1376 in the Oocyte and 1300 in the Blastocyst. With a deeper analysis of the sperm proteome, 103 proteins with known roles in the processes of fertilization and 93 with roles in early embryo development have been identified." Can the RNA in seminal fluids/plasma be influential or inherited too? Isn't RNA small?
9.Paternal Contributions: It has been depicted and said that only the head of the Sperm gets delivered, but apperantly there are articles that say that this is also a misconception that the entire sperm enters the egg, with the assumptions being that the Paternal MtDNA not being transmitted, but apperantly, the Sperm Mitochondria actually enters the egg but needs to be destroyed to prevent issues like the Mitochondrial diseases. With this in mind though, what else does the Sperm contribute to the embryo? Centrioles, Centrosomes & the Microtubule System & Microspindle-... Apperatus needed for mitosis? are done by the Sperm too, and it also brings the Chemical Signal for the Egg to activate it's metabolism and complete meiosis? Does this chemical also do anything like give calcuim to the Egg or anything else too? If the entire sperm enters the egg, what else could it bring to the embryonic development? Can there be any paternal contributions to milk like the Y chromosome presence in women bodyparts due to boy pregnancy and the high estrogen, prolactin & a bit of progestertone in seminal fluids? Are there more Sperm components and organelles that we can't easily observe? Is it possible that the absorbtion of all Sperm Cells can benefit the cells of females if the tail has more than 1000 proteins? Does the Journey, Agility, Adapatations, Variability, Motility & Penentration of the Sperm influence the Nucleus (therefore Embryo) in any way? What about the penentrations of multiple sperms (even if they won't enter or mege with the egg)? Or am I just fantasing, and reality is cruel? What about the chromatin condensation sperm? Are sperm cells, and therefore males, just doomed to be not helpful and more limted?...
10.Male Investment: We know that Males invest time into various behaviors, but how exactly does this help the species? Do they optimize & improve their genes? Do they evolve new traits? Do they mutate more? Are males a great investment for evolution or adaptability? Anything else unique? If more females than males have reproduced, does that mean that males are inferior or not helpful and that nature prefers females more? If males and sperm cells are simpler, does that mean they are inferior, disadvantaged or not special? Do non-reproducing males still help with something (assuming they haven't died)? Do you need to almost always (excluding species like Orange Cats and Calico Cats) have a 50/50 amount of both sexes so you don't cause genetic problems even if fewer males will pass on their genes?
That's all I really have to say, I probably sound like I am being dramatic, impulsive and immature, but I really have been overthinking and so, I'd like if some help could be given. This sure was long, but I think I might have given something interesting and such. I thought this could be used as a last resort to settle this before I grow up more. I hope I didn't seem bad or anything like that. I am just in a "scared and confused" situation from the amount of stuff I've seen. ChatGPT really isn't good when it comes to mental health, lol
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So, I am a 16 Year Old, who was introduced to ""feminism"" somewhere in 2022 (I think), thanks to a friend of mine. It turns out, this was actually Mysandry, in the sense that he shared how some of these "feminists" were trying to get rid of men in reproduction, one example being the "fact" that their vaginas will evolve into penises and clone themselves, except that would probably make them hermaphrodites and should happen with men too...
Nonetheless, I was "invested", since this gave me an idea about the two sexes (which would be used for a fictional piece in the end, just with a bit of spiece from our Universe, lol), since I am quite the brain stormer, not bragging or narcissism, I just come up with a lot ideas in general. But as time went on, I started to suffer from overthoughts and the amount of information I've found, including myths like "We were all Female", "Females came before Males", "Women have stronger legs", "You're Genetically Superior and Flawless due to XX", "Men are the weaker sex", "You were inside your Mother who was inside your Grandmother", "Inteligence is Mother Only", among other things, although that last one wasn't as common though). There are still fools, especially on Quora, who believe that all embryos start out as females, and just look at some individuals on that site like Anonymous04, horrors! I also tried to ask ChatGPT, but it's pretty much declining and INFURIATING! SO MANY WRONG ANSWERS! SOMETIMES IT'S OUTRIGHT LAZY!
These moments got soooo BAD, that I: -concerned my parents -made my dad think I was... drugged (since I acted blank when I was working with him once) -wasted my school-off week by overthinking -replied to many answers that ANNOYED me (arguably still do, and embarrassed myself, perhaps) -kept talking to my online friends-couldn't change the topic and basically made it my entire personality or routine for like the past few weeks (maybe even months!) -had an existencial crisis, outbursts, screaming, $u!c!d@l thoughts, etc. -and evenbecame skeptical and "mad" at God (yes, and screw off with the atheism)
Needless to say... It's quite complicated with me and I could go in-depth a lot more, but I managed to recover from most issues. However, before I settle things up, I need to settle one more thing, and that is reproduction. As far as we know, both Males & Females exist to reproduce genetically diverse offsprings, the only difference is their investments, Females for Offspring Support & Males for Competition or Attraction.
While I've noted and saved many things to read later on (like Seminal Fluids doing much more than just transfering Sperm Cells), I am still a bit concerned, stressed and annoyed, cause it just feels like females are the more favored sex in like existence (oversimplication to say it like that, really), and so, I'd like to ask some few things... Although I am definitely gonna give a lot due to overthinking and concerns:
1.Nucleous: So, as far as we know, both Ovum & Sperm Nuclei fuse to form a Zygote, a new life. Both parents guide the development of the child's characteristics and functions, however, APPERANTLY Ovum Cells have been illustrated to have a 'Nucleous' in their 'Nucleus', and turns out this is some sh!t that Zygotes "apperantly need". It's from this jackshit article from 2008: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2265587/#:\~:text=Sperm%20have%20no%20nucleoli%2C%20so,oocyte%20for%20its%20nucleolar%20beginnings. But allas, does this really make sense? No other information has been found or mentioned anywhere else. There's the "Germinal Vesicle" (Nucleus) and the "Germinal Spot" (Nuclelous), but apperantly when the Ovum goes through M II or however it was, the Germinal Vesicle breaks down and dissolves/mixes with the Cytoplasm or so. So is the Germinal Spot the actual Nucleus, and the "Germinal Vesicle" is just one of the ""expensive ingredients"" of the Ovum? Sperm Cells apperantly have Nuclear Vascoles, are those influencal?
2.Cytoplasm: Upon researching more and talking to some Chat Bots (for thes sake of sanity... or INsanity), does the Cytoplasm actually create and give rise to our cells and tissues or is that an outdaded misunderstanding, and it's main & actual function is to SUPPORT the development of the cells created by both parents? ChatGPT has also said that it also gives Building Blocks, Energy, Cell Growth & Differentiation or some confusing crap, but are those words actually referring to the processes of the Zygote's more stable and rapid growth? Is it true that this Cytoplasm is the Cytoplasm in our cells, or since it decreases, is it easily replaced by the production of our cells (combination of mom and dad, as we know)?
3.Organelles: Cytoplasmic components that are apart of the Cytoplasm' support, but again, are those organelles still the same as those in our cells? Shouldn't they decrease like the Cytoplasm and be created by our cells again since (and I am using Google Searches, cuz yes): ---Ribosomes apperantly originate from our Nucleo-lus? ---Lysosomes are formed by the fusion of transport vesciles budded from the trans Golgi network with endosomes ---Endosomes form by the inagination of the plasma membrance and are trigger by the activation of cell surface receptors ---Golgi Bodies originate from the endoplasmic reticulum ---The endoplasmic reticulum originates from the outer membrance of the nuclear envelop during cell division and among other things, but is Mitochondria the only organelle that manages to stay in by it's high number and self reproduction? Is Mitochondria like 90% of the Ovum's organelles hopefully thinking and the other organelles are a small amount compared to the Mitochondria?
4.Cytoskeleton: Apperantly, that is also a thing and it's not an organelle, but apperantly it also has evolved from prokaryotic cytomotive filaments. Even then, Sperm Cells apperantly have a highly specialized cytoskeletal organization or cytoskeletal proteins (like actin, tubulin and spectrin), so?...
5.RNA: Do we inherit more RNA from mom due to the freaking egg, or is it irrelevant because it is transient as the embryo starts to produce it's own RNA and proteins? But ChatGPT has also said this crap: "This maternal RNA helps to jump-start the developmental processes until the Zygote's own genome can take over". It has been said that Sperm has "vanishingly small" amount of RNA compared to the Ovum, but then there have been studies that Non-Coding RNA or so can influence Embryo Development or that Sperm delivers a complex population of RNAs to the Oocyte. Based on a Google Research, I've found this: "6871 proteins have been identified and reported in Sperm, 1376 in the Oocyte and 1300 in the Blastocyst. With a deeper analysis of the sperm proteome, 103 proteins with known roles in the processes of fertilization and 93 with roles in early embryo development have been identified." Can the RNA in seminal fluids/plasma be influential or inherited too? Isn't RNA small?
- Is most of our makeup matrilineal and are we therefore more related, connected or like our mothers???!!
- Epi-Genetics: Is it true that epi-genetics tend to favor mothers more? ChatFuckingGPT has said that RNA can influence certain aspects of cellular function and gene expression, and that pregnancy and even nursing can cause genes to be expressed or some sh!t, but aren't there studies that say that Mammals are more like their fathers (even if outdaded) and that the sex determination & even seminal fluids can cause gene expression too? Do mothers give us more gene expressions? Are we more like our mothers because of the gene expressions? Or are these outdaded myths?!
9.Paternal Contributions: It has been depicted and said that only the head of the Sperm gets delivered, but apperantly there are articles that say that this is also a misconception that the entire sperm enters the egg, with the assumptions being that the Paternal MtDNA not being transmitted, but apperantly, the Sperm Mitochondria actually enters the egg but needs to be destroyed to prevent issues like the Mitochondrial diseases. With this in mind though, what else does the Sperm contribute to the embryo? Centrioles, Centrosomes & the Microtubule System & Microspindle-... Apperatus needed for mitosis? are done by the Sperm too, and it also brings the Chemical Signal for the Egg to activate it's metabolism and complete meiosis? Does this chemical also do anything like give calcuim to the Egg or anything else too? If the entire sperm enters the egg, what else could it bring to the embryonic development? Can there be any paternal contributions to milk like the Y chromosome presence in women bodyparts due to boy pregnancy and the high estrogen, prolactin & a bit of progestertone in seminal fluids? Are there more Sperm components and organelles that we can't easily observe? Is it possible that the absorbtion of all Sperm Cells can benefit the cells of females if the tail has more than 1000 proteins? Does the Journey, Agility, Adapatations, Variability, Motility & Penentration of the Sperm influence the Nucleus (therefore Embryo) in any way? What about the penentrations of multiple sperms (even if they won't enter or mege with the egg)? Or am I just fantasing, and reality is cruel? What about the chromatin condensation sperm? Are sperm cells, and therefore males, just doomed to be not helpful and more limted?...
10.Male Investment: We know that Males invest time into various behaviors, but how exactly does this help the species? Do they optimize & improve their genes? Do they evolve new traits? Do they mutate more? Are males a great investment for evolution or adaptability? Anything else unique? If more females than males have reproduced, does that mean that males are inferior or not helpful and that nature prefers females more? If males and sperm cells are simpler, does that mean they are inferior, disadvantaged or not special? Do non-reproducing males still help with something (assuming they haven't died)? Do you need to almost always (excluding species like Orange Cats and Calico Cats) have a 50/50 amount of both sexes so you don't cause genetic problems even if fewer males will pass on their genes?
That's all I really have to say, I probably sound like I am being dramatic, impulsive and immature, but I really have been overthinking and so, I'd like if some help could be given. This sure was long, but I think I might have given something interesting and such. I thought this could be used as a last resort to settle this before I grow up more. I hope I didn't seem bad or anything like that. I am just in a "scared and confused" situation from the amount of stuff I've seen. ChatGPT really isn't good when it comes to mental health, lol
2024.06.09 15:42 After-Ad-2188 Im hopeless
GOAL:Help me convince my parents to change my school.
Help anyone,first i was doing so well in 2023 in this government school,the only mistakes i made were venting to my parents and sometimes talking back(what teenagers do innit)i vent to my parents because i dont have anyone else to talk to about school problems and etc(BIG MISTAKE). AS usual my parents took the vents wrongly and thought I would do better at boarding school since I'm "undisciplined" and "lazy".They shifted my school from this government school thats really good and i know alot of people and have alot of friends in to a private boarding international school in another STATE .After 3 months i convinced them to change my school and they did.I was so focused on getting out of the school that i didnt really focus on choosing the school that I was going to go to(BIG MISTAKE).Now in that school as soon as I got in and sat in the hall a random guy came up and slapped the back of my head (not too hard) and said im sorry sarcastically and laughed with his freinds after.I dont feel like I belong in the school and I talked to my parents about it.I just cant cope in other schools that i dont have freinds in now. My graduation is in 1.5 or less years and I even thought of dropping out of school because I tried so much to convince my parents to send me back to my old school and theyre so skeptical and they want me to study here and said that they dont care if i fail my exams or not i just need to study here.They also said that they want a school that is nearby and easier for them.Shifting houses is also one of the reasons why they chose this school as it is nearby.Ive already found a transport for me to go and come back from if i shift back to my old school and study there.I have more motivation to study there and happy.I have school on monday and i dont wanna go im not mentally ready and im really deepressed I just wanna go back to my first school and everything will go well for me.I only wanna study if i go back to my old school, i have an exam coming up and i have no motivations to study for it in this school.The reason on why this school is bad is because theres an apartment/flat beside it which the government gave to poor people and most of them do drugs and gangsterism happens there which is one of the things that makes the school bad there have been cases like people having sex in school and people taking drugs too(according to one of my neighbours that has been studying there for 3 years and is going to shift schools next year).I havent done anything wrong in my previous school.
So the question is if there is anything i can do to convince them other than talking to them and trying to talk to them cuz ive tried. i really need someone to help or save me because i dont have anyone to talk to or discuss this topic with.Pls help me asap before monday because i really dont wanna go and try because im mentally tired of these racists and problematic idiots. thanks for reading all of this i really appreciate it.
you dont have to read this part below but its just how well i did in my previous school
ACHEIVEMENTS: -played for the schools football team and won 3rd place -got into the states selection for football( didnt get selected sadly as i wasnt prepared and had conjunctivitis too during the selection) -started playing chess and was going to play chess in 2024 for the schools chess team IF my parents didnt change my school -First time being a class topper in my exams for subjects like( history,geography,maths,english etc -Entered several competitions( robot building competition got 7th in the schools 5km compeetition(Idk if its bad luck but i overtrained and got acid reflux 1 week before the 5km because i wasnt eating well during training.I did a showcase for how green houses help the planet.
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Help anyone,first i was doing so well in 2023 in this government school,the only mistakes i made were venting to my parents and sometimes talking back(what teenagers do innit)i vent to my parents because i dont have anyone else to talk to about school problems and etc(BIG MISTAKE). AS usual my parents took the vents wrongly and thought I would do better at boarding school since I'm "undisciplined" and "lazy".They shifted my school from this government school thats really good and i know alot of people and have alot of friends in to a private boarding international school in another STATE .After 3 months i convinced them to change my school and they did.I was so focused on getting out of the school that i didnt really focus on choosing the school that I was going to go to(BIG MISTAKE).Now in that school as soon as I got in and sat in the hall a random guy came up and slapped the back of my head (not too hard) and said im sorry sarcastically and laughed with his freinds after.I dont feel like I belong in the school and I talked to my parents about it.I just cant cope in other schools that i dont have freinds in now. My graduation is in 1.5 or less years and I even thought of dropping out of school because I tried so much to convince my parents to send me back to my old school and theyre so skeptical and they want me to study here and said that they dont care if i fail my exams or not i just need to study here.They also said that they want a school that is nearby and easier for them.Shifting houses is also one of the reasons why they chose this school as it is nearby.Ive already found a transport for me to go and come back from if i shift back to my old school and study there.I have more motivation to study there and happy.I have school on monday and i dont wanna go im not mentally ready and im really deepressed I just wanna go back to my first school and everything will go well for me.I only wanna study if i go back to my old school, i have an exam coming up and i have no motivations to study for it in this school.The reason on why this school is bad is because theres an apartment/flat beside it which the government gave to poor people and most of them do drugs and gangsterism happens there which is one of the things that makes the school bad there have been cases like people having sex in school and people taking drugs too(according to one of my neighbours that has been studying there for 3 years and is going to shift schools next year).I havent done anything wrong in my previous school.
So the question is if there is anything i can do to convince them other than talking to them and trying to talk to them cuz ive tried. i really need someone to help or save me because i dont have anyone to talk to or discuss this topic with.Pls help me asap before monday because i really dont wanna go and try because im mentally tired of these racists and problematic idiots. thanks for reading all of this i really appreciate it.
you dont have to read this part below but its just how well i did in my previous school
ACHEIVEMENTS: -played for the schools football team and won 3rd place -got into the states selection for football( didnt get selected sadly as i wasnt prepared and had conjunctivitis too during the selection) -started playing chess and was going to play chess in 2024 for the schools chess team IF my parents didnt change my school -First time being a class topper in my exams for subjects like( history,geography,maths,english etc -Entered several competitions( robot building competition got 7th in the schools 5km compeetition(Idk if its bad luck but i overtrained and got acid reflux 1 week before the 5km because i wasnt eating well during training.I did a showcase for how green houses help the planet.
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I have my first job with my local school district this next school year. Most of my clothes are a little too edgy and/or revealing for the job, and the dress code is kind of strict since I’ll be in a teaching position.
I know I’ll end up dropping a lot of money buying outfits for the school year, so I want to buy clothes I’d like and will wear in the future. Does anyone know of some gothic/alternative brands that offer teacher-appropriate styles? Maybe corporate goth would be up my alley?
Thanks in advance!
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I know I’ll end up dropping a lot of money buying outfits for the school year, so I want to buy clothes I’d like and will wear in the future. Does anyone know of some gothic/alternative brands that offer teacher-appropriate styles? Maybe corporate goth would be up my alley?
Thanks in advance!
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2024.06.09 14:52 Fine-Masterpiece-570 Am I delusional
Hi guys I'd like to start off by saying I'm leaving a lot of important details and parts out because I'm typing this on my phone and lowkey too lazy to explain everything in depth but obviously if you guys need a better explanation I'm always open to replying. Also this story might sound confusing so if there's any questions feel free to ask. Grammar also prob bad because I'm writing this at 4 am in the morning.
People in the story: I'm F, 18 Claire F, 19 Nina F, 18 Tiffany F, 19 Nina's boyfriend M, 18
Okay firstly, I'd like to start off with how we met.
(To be honest she is chronically on reddit too so she might or might not stumble across this post, but since meeting and getting to know her I've come to a shocking discovery that she doesnt really date people which makes me more attracted to her oddly enough)
For the sake of identity and anonymity I will be calling her Claire.
I met Claire through a friend who just happens to also be her bestfriend. We'll call her Nina. We're all first years in college and I met Nina through instagram lol. The lore of that goes deeper but to summarize it, over the summer before school started, a class page for incoming freshman was created so that people could connect, and find roomies. I saw that page as an opportunity to find potential friends that could match my interests. I stumbled across Nina's post and instantly knew I wanted to be her friend. Not in a weird, psycho, stalker way but I thought she was really pretty and her hobbies and interests were similar to mine. Summers passing and I have yet to reach out to her or messaged her, but we followed each other on instagram. That's when I saw Claire in her posts and stories, and Claire really caught me attention. She very beautifully, and her smile is very contagious. She has that natural beauty 'pretty' that just makes her so attractive. At first I didn't really think much of it because school hadn't started and I'm just tryna to enjoy my last summer before officially heading to college.
College rolls around and I finally move into my dorm, the first few weeks were light and I really enjoyed every orientation event. Weeks gone by and I still have never talked to Nina. I've made some friends along the way so I completely forgot about her. But during week 2 or 3 into the term I finally see her for the first time in real life, and next to her was Claire. At first I was too scared to approach them and say anything because they were walking in this big group of people heading into a resident hall. Me being oblivious and nosy, I go onto instagram and finally sent a message to Nina. The DMs were just like "omg I think I just saw you etc etc"
We finally get to talking on DMs but eventually the convo died after like 3 days. So I'm like damn, I don't know if this girl even wants to be friends with me. So I move on with my day. College is the time to go out and make connections too so I was heavily involved in clubs and events. I went to my very first club meeting around October, and standing in the center of the room I see Claire. Now at this point, Claire doesn't even know who I am or that I know Nina, but for some reason I felt like I know Claire. Again, I was too scared to approach her so I ended up leaving the meeting after it ended.
This all happened in fall term, so eventually I just forgot about both Claire and Nina. That was until winter term started, and I was enrolled in this one class. Coincidentally Nina was also in this class and that's how we officially met. (Final fucking ly) We ended up having the same hobbies, interested, etc. creepily we also share the same birthday and our best friends (Claire and my best friend we'll call her Tiffany) also share the same birthdays etc. Till this day we all think it's such weird coincidence but we jokingly call it an invisible string or whatever that theory is.
Back to the story, eventually we all become close around the end of winter term going into spring term (current term right now). Before, me and Claire would never hang out one on one, it always involved or included our other friend Nina and sometimes her boyfriend. And usually our hangouts consists of eating out, sports, studying, or video games. But lately, we've been doing more stuff together one on one and I seem to enjoy it a lot. We recently picked up a hobby of running. And we actually have a lot in common. My interests align more with Claire than with Nina and it's been obvious as the group is always on us for being so alike. Anywho, overtime i had developed a crush on Claire but it's not in a way where I'd date her it's more of an admiration way because I don't really date people and I kind of think relationships are gross lol which defeats the whole purpose of a crush or liking someone, but i genuinely like this girl but I can't seem to point a finger at why I'm feeling this way when I don't even like dating. To my surprise she is the same. From what Nina and her bf told me Claire isn't really about the dating life either. Anyways the story is probably getting confusing and you guys are like wtf, so idk this post might be a flop. Anyways, when me, Claire, Nina, and her boyfriend would hang out as a group Nina and her boyfriend would always tease us and say something about how I want to be like Claire or how Claire wants to be like me and they would bring up stuff like "you guys should just date each other since you guys want to be each other" and everytime I would deny and be like ew gross don't say that but deep down I high key liked the tease. At the same time I've never personally asked Claire or heard Claire come out hinting at her sexuality but Nina would say somethings and Claire would just sit there and laugh it off or agree. To be honest I'm scared to even ask Claire myself so I don't know. Anywho I've talk to my bsf tiffany about this and my bsf says Claire def give off gay, and me not wanting to assume I just brush it off and try not to assume or anything. So, now that me and Claire are starting to hang out on our own I feel like we've definitely got comfortable with each other. I would also like to add that we both hate physical touch but lately it just happens randomly where we would compare hand sizes and pay hand games like chopsticks or whatever it's called. I might be overthinking it and delusional but who knows. One night me and Claire go for a late night run and we stop to take a break in front of our schools memorial building. This building had a flight of stairs which lead to the front entrance so we walked up to find it locked so as we were walking down I missed a step and fell but not really, I lowkey hurted my ankle but that didn't stop us from finishing our run. When we finally made it back to our start point I went to sit on the field where I could lay down for a bit and just stretch my foot. Claire came beside me and we just listened to music together. She kept asking if I was okay and I reassured her but I could tell she was lowkey worried. Fast forward to the next day we go out to eat with Nina, her boyfriend, and in the car I was seated next to Claire and just the thought of her arm touching mine made me feel so at peace and comforting. After dinner we went back to my dorm and we all as a group took edibles and made slime high. At the end of our slime session I felt really tired but I wanted to stay awake to talk to them because we were having a convo about relationships and somehow the topic directed towards me was what is my type. I start yapping about how I don't really have a type blah blah and then Nina's boyfriend mention something about me liking white guys, and when that came out Claire's eyes widen and went "you like white guys like Tiffany too" (cause I once mentioned how my bsf tiffany is a Oxford study victim) and yeah so Claire got real questionable and started asking about me and my type and what my lore was. And about my relationships. And that's when I said I like people who are smarter than me (I did this on purpose because I know that Claire is extremely smart) so after I said that Nina's boyfriend was quick to his feet and said something along the lines of "wait Claire is literally smarter than you why don't you guys just date instead" and that's when I blurted out ew no that's weird. And all I saw Claire do was turn to me and stare directly at me. Almost like she was waiting for me to agree or say soemthing to reinforce that. Minutes go by and the convo kind of became awkward but we were still talking about relationships and what not. And everytime I swear when someone says something Claire would look at me first and wait for me to answer before she answers and that's just something that I noticed. Anyways I'm yapping just to yap right now I will end it here if you guys have questions or want a more in depth explanation just reply to this post. Surely I'm missing A LOT of details.
But yeah what do you guys think am I being delusional and weird, am I overthinking, or this girl might be interested in me
I forgot to mention, we recently started following each other on Spotify and one day after a lecture me and Claire both had she made me get this app called Airbuds where you can see what your friends are listening to etc. I didn't really know how to work the app but this one morning I woke up and opened the app I saw her recent listening activity and it was all songs from my playlist so i took a ss and sent it to her asking why she was listening to Taylor Swift LOLL cuz she doesn't listen to Taylor Swift and she said it's because she was stalking my playlists. And then the other night when we went running I told her to start a jam because she's always making me start one and as she opened up her Spotify I kid yall not I see my playlists in her recent listening activity and I was like shocked. Anywho she tried brushing it off saying it's because that's the playlist we normally listen to on our runs but that's not true because I don't play off those playlists when we run so it's kinda sus🫣. But yeah that's the end of the story I go sleep now.
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People in the story: I'm F, 18 Claire F, 19 Nina F, 18 Tiffany F, 19 Nina's boyfriend M, 18
Okay firstly, I'd like to start off with how we met.
(To be honest she is chronically on reddit too so she might or might not stumble across this post, but since meeting and getting to know her I've come to a shocking discovery that she doesnt really date people which makes me more attracted to her oddly enough)
For the sake of identity and anonymity I will be calling her Claire.
I met Claire through a friend who just happens to also be her bestfriend. We'll call her Nina. We're all first years in college and I met Nina through instagram lol. The lore of that goes deeper but to summarize it, over the summer before school started, a class page for incoming freshman was created so that people could connect, and find roomies. I saw that page as an opportunity to find potential friends that could match my interests. I stumbled across Nina's post and instantly knew I wanted to be her friend. Not in a weird, psycho, stalker way but I thought she was really pretty and her hobbies and interests were similar to mine. Summers passing and I have yet to reach out to her or messaged her, but we followed each other on instagram. That's when I saw Claire in her posts and stories, and Claire really caught me attention. She very beautifully, and her smile is very contagious. She has that natural beauty 'pretty' that just makes her so attractive. At first I didn't really think much of it because school hadn't started and I'm just tryna to enjoy my last summer before officially heading to college.
College rolls around and I finally move into my dorm, the first few weeks were light and I really enjoyed every orientation event. Weeks gone by and I still have never talked to Nina. I've made some friends along the way so I completely forgot about her. But during week 2 or 3 into the term I finally see her for the first time in real life, and next to her was Claire. At first I was too scared to approach them and say anything because they were walking in this big group of people heading into a resident hall. Me being oblivious and nosy, I go onto instagram and finally sent a message to Nina. The DMs were just like "omg I think I just saw you etc etc"
We finally get to talking on DMs but eventually the convo died after like 3 days. So I'm like damn, I don't know if this girl even wants to be friends with me. So I move on with my day. College is the time to go out and make connections too so I was heavily involved in clubs and events. I went to my very first club meeting around October, and standing in the center of the room I see Claire. Now at this point, Claire doesn't even know who I am or that I know Nina, but for some reason I felt like I know Claire. Again, I was too scared to approach her so I ended up leaving the meeting after it ended.
This all happened in fall term, so eventually I just forgot about both Claire and Nina. That was until winter term started, and I was enrolled in this one class. Coincidentally Nina was also in this class and that's how we officially met. (Final fucking ly) We ended up having the same hobbies, interested, etc. creepily we also share the same birthday and our best friends (Claire and my best friend we'll call her Tiffany) also share the same birthdays etc. Till this day we all think it's such weird coincidence but we jokingly call it an invisible string or whatever that theory is.
Back to the story, eventually we all become close around the end of winter term going into spring term (current term right now). Before, me and Claire would never hang out one on one, it always involved or included our other friend Nina and sometimes her boyfriend. And usually our hangouts consists of eating out, sports, studying, or video games. But lately, we've been doing more stuff together one on one and I seem to enjoy it a lot. We recently picked up a hobby of running. And we actually have a lot in common. My interests align more with Claire than with Nina and it's been obvious as the group is always on us for being so alike. Anywho, overtime i had developed a crush on Claire but it's not in a way where I'd date her it's more of an admiration way because I don't really date people and I kind of think relationships are gross lol which defeats the whole purpose of a crush or liking someone, but i genuinely like this girl but I can't seem to point a finger at why I'm feeling this way when I don't even like dating. To my surprise she is the same. From what Nina and her bf told me Claire isn't really about the dating life either. Anyways the story is probably getting confusing and you guys are like wtf, so idk this post might be a flop. Anyways, when me, Claire, Nina, and her boyfriend would hang out as a group Nina and her boyfriend would always tease us and say something about how I want to be like Claire or how Claire wants to be like me and they would bring up stuff like "you guys should just date each other since you guys want to be each other" and everytime I would deny and be like ew gross don't say that but deep down I high key liked the tease. At the same time I've never personally asked Claire or heard Claire come out hinting at her sexuality but Nina would say somethings and Claire would just sit there and laugh it off or agree. To be honest I'm scared to even ask Claire myself so I don't know. Anywho I've talk to my bsf tiffany about this and my bsf says Claire def give off gay, and me not wanting to assume I just brush it off and try not to assume or anything. So, now that me and Claire are starting to hang out on our own I feel like we've definitely got comfortable with each other. I would also like to add that we both hate physical touch but lately it just happens randomly where we would compare hand sizes and pay hand games like chopsticks or whatever it's called. I might be overthinking it and delusional but who knows. One night me and Claire go for a late night run and we stop to take a break in front of our schools memorial building. This building had a flight of stairs which lead to the front entrance so we walked up to find it locked so as we were walking down I missed a step and fell but not really, I lowkey hurted my ankle but that didn't stop us from finishing our run. When we finally made it back to our start point I went to sit on the field where I could lay down for a bit and just stretch my foot. Claire came beside me and we just listened to music together. She kept asking if I was okay and I reassured her but I could tell she was lowkey worried. Fast forward to the next day we go out to eat with Nina, her boyfriend, and in the car I was seated next to Claire and just the thought of her arm touching mine made me feel so at peace and comforting. After dinner we went back to my dorm and we all as a group took edibles and made slime high. At the end of our slime session I felt really tired but I wanted to stay awake to talk to them because we were having a convo about relationships and somehow the topic directed towards me was what is my type. I start yapping about how I don't really have a type blah blah and then Nina's boyfriend mention something about me liking white guys, and when that came out Claire's eyes widen and went "you like white guys like Tiffany too" (cause I once mentioned how my bsf tiffany is a Oxford study victim) and yeah so Claire got real questionable and started asking about me and my type and what my lore was. And about my relationships. And that's when I said I like people who are smarter than me (I did this on purpose because I know that Claire is extremely smart) so after I said that Nina's boyfriend was quick to his feet and said something along the lines of "wait Claire is literally smarter than you why don't you guys just date instead" and that's when I blurted out ew no that's weird. And all I saw Claire do was turn to me and stare directly at me. Almost like she was waiting for me to agree or say soemthing to reinforce that. Minutes go by and the convo kind of became awkward but we were still talking about relationships and what not. And everytime I swear when someone says something Claire would look at me first and wait for me to answer before she answers and that's just something that I noticed. Anyways I'm yapping just to yap right now I will end it here if you guys have questions or want a more in depth explanation just reply to this post. Surely I'm missing A LOT of details.
But yeah what do you guys think am I being delusional and weird, am I overthinking, or this girl might be interested in me
I forgot to mention, we recently started following each other on Spotify and one day after a lecture me and Claire both had she made me get this app called Airbuds where you can see what your friends are listening to etc. I didn't really know how to work the app but this one morning I woke up and opened the app I saw her recent listening activity and it was all songs from my playlist so i took a ss and sent it to her asking why she was listening to Taylor Swift LOLL cuz she doesn't listen to Taylor Swift and she said it's because she was stalking my playlists. And then the other night when we went running I told her to start a jam because she's always making me start one and as she opened up her Spotify I kid yall not I see my playlists in her recent listening activity and I was like shocked. Anywho she tried brushing it off saying it's because that's the playlist we normally listen to on our runs but that's not true because I don't play off those playlists when we run so it's kinda sus🫣. But yeah that's the end of the story I go sleep now.
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2024.06.09 14:22 AdEast6878 About to graduate in high school but most likely won’t experience going up on stage and I feel guilty for my parents
School says everyone will graduate but some might not be able to go up the stage, and I’m already feeling guilty for my parents. They’ve paid for my tuition fee for years, and now I’ll have to subject them to this. I’m already a failure, and now this? I can’t even give this to them? I’m a terrible fucking person. I already can’t be like my brother who’s a literal perfect child who studies at one of the top schools in my country, studies one of the hardest subject, getting almost perfect grades, and good at at least one instrument. Such a simple thing and I can’t grant my parents that.
I’m just a lazy, good-for-nothing, unproductive, talentless, stupid fucking parasite, leeching off my parents. If I ever don’t walk up the stage, then I would have to do summer classes which also costs more money, and I can’t just let my parents spend any more money. I know it would go to waste, because I know I would be too unmotivated to do anything. I also realized that I am also going to college and it would be more difficult, so just ending it all would actually be a benefit for me. No more difficult shit to deal with.
I also can’t really open up to anyone. Not my parents, they will only scold me, too busy. Not my brother, he has too much responsibility already, most probably annoyed at me just for existing. Not my friends, too busy, they’ll get tired of my rants. So guess it’s just me, myself, and I as always! Don’t worry, my games and incoming packages are keeping me alive for now 👍
For years, school also makes me feel like shit every damn time and literally just hinders my ability to have any motivation (but this is probably a topic for another day)
Would love to add more, but mr brain is also tired of my shenanigans
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I’m just a lazy, good-for-nothing, unproductive, talentless, stupid fucking parasite, leeching off my parents. If I ever don’t walk up the stage, then I would have to do summer classes which also costs more money, and I can’t just let my parents spend any more money. I know it would go to waste, because I know I would be too unmotivated to do anything. I also realized that I am also going to college and it would be more difficult, so just ending it all would actually be a benefit for me. No more difficult shit to deal with.
I also can’t really open up to anyone. Not my parents, they will only scold me, too busy. Not my brother, he has too much responsibility already, most probably annoyed at me just for existing. Not my friends, too busy, they’ll get tired of my rants. So guess it’s just me, myself, and I as always! Don’t worry, my games and incoming packages are keeping me alive for now 👍
For years, school also makes me feel like shit every damn time and literally just hinders my ability to have any motivation (but this is probably a topic for another day)
Would love to add more, but mr brain is also tired of my shenanigans