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2011.07.01 16:22 rabbithole Far-out music for far-out people
A place for all psychedelic rock; classic, contemporary, experimental, or *something else altogether*.
2011.05.12 15:09 backrightpocket Folk-Punk
A community of punk folks, creating and enjoying folk punk music, and actively standing with Black Lives Matter.
2024.05.16 21:11 goddessofsole Started an international friendship bracelet trading group! Come swap with us!
Hi sweet Swifties!
So after making and swapping my fair share of friendship bracelets, I totally fell in love with the idea. It made me feel such loving camaraderie. The downside? I could only do it either at the tour or at an event. I realized how many folks were being left out of the fun because they didn’t have to opportunity to meet up with other fans or go to Eras.
So I decided to create a place for long-distance friendship bracelet trading! This is a page to coordinate friendship bracelet making and trading with Swifties of all ages from all over the world!
All you do is post what song or album, lyric etc. you either want or have on a bracelet, and a fellow Swiftie will DM you to coordinate a trade!
Let’s spread the love and energy of the Eras age to everyone!
I just started the page 2 days ago so it only has a few members, but I’d love for that to change!
https://www.facebook.com/share/g92KdSxR5Q4RsNXN/?mibextid=K35XfP
Come join!
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So after making and swapping my fair share of friendship bracelets, I totally fell in love with the idea. It made me feel such loving camaraderie. The downside? I could only do it either at the tour or at an event. I realized how many folks were being left out of the fun because they didn’t have to opportunity to meet up with other fans or go to Eras.
So I decided to create a place for long-distance friendship bracelet trading! This is a page to coordinate friendship bracelet making and trading with Swifties of all ages from all over the world!
All you do is post what song or album, lyric etc. you either want or have on a bracelet, and a fellow Swiftie will DM you to coordinate a trade!
Let’s spread the love and energy of the Eras age to everyone!
I just started the page 2 days ago so it only has a few members, but I’d love for that to change!
https://www.facebook.com/share/g92KdSxR5Q4RsNXN/?mibextid=K35XfP
Come join!
2024.05.16 20:38 calipups245 Emaciated, nameless & homeless boy asking for help outside of a Houston, TX restaurant. Let’s call him Blitz. There’s no further information. He has a foster, but needs pledges to attract a rescue! Pls help before he ends up in a kill-shelter like BARC! See details below & in the 2nd slide ⬇️
 | Posted on FACEBOOK submitted by calipups245 to National_Pet_Adoption [link] [comments] Names of who to contact are not censored as this was posted in a public forum & no other forms of contact are provided. If you’re able to help / find help from a rescue, you can also dm me here and I can get in contact with them myself. ———————————————————————— Quoted from post: “Toni Raquel wrote this on her page. She is the contact... THIS POOR DOG IS LOOKING THROUGH THE WINDOWS OF A RESTAURANT - BEGGING FOR HELP. THE POOR DOG IS EMACIATED. HELP NEEDED.” —— ”Update: someone wants him and can rescue him in July for good if someone can grab him and foster for two months. And not a damn person out in Texas has helped him yet he still sitting there. Shame on all you texans who see a dog and don't help. This does not happen in Sacramento California we HELP OUR ANIMALS !!! Please someone go” ———————————————————————— PLEASE USE THESE DIRECTORIES TO EMAIL RESCUES! THE USER INTERFACE IS VERY STRAIGHT FORWARD, BUT IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS JUST ASK! • https://www.petfinder.com/animal-shelters-and- rescues/search/ • https://www.dog.rescueshelter.com • https://www.pamperedpaws.com/resources/directory-of-rescue-clubs (this one may be out of date. idk) • https://secondchancepet.net/ • https://www.akc.org/akc-rescue-network/ ———————————————————————— |
2024.05.16 20:12 baambaay A complete cited timeline and THEORY of what I think could have happened.
Just a theory, possibly totally unrelated. But there are some new confirmable pieces and connections that I haven’t seen mentioned at all yet. So if I’m wrong at least there is a partially correct timeline here that can be edited to correctness. My last attempt to connect any dots I think. Please feel free to find holes and debunk it and suggest edits.
A 74 year old woman was murdered 1/18/23 and found on 1/21/23 bound, gaged, and SA’d in her ransacked apartment days later. This is on 83rd and The Mark Hotel is on 77th. Half a mile walk through the park away. EP mentioned a big bag that hotel staff was told to dispose of for Drake.
Here is what appears to be a bag in the video EP posted. There was a girl in the frame too.
A NY post article about this murder mentions:
“A young woman — who was entering the building carrying a large bag that appeared to contain clothing - choked back tears when asked if she was related to the victim. ‘It's very, very hard for me and my family. We've already talked to the police and the district attorney. I don't want to talk anymore,’ the woman said, without identifying herself.”
This woman was brutally SA’d. House was ransacked.
“The two suspects loaded up Hernandez’s belongings into a blue rolling Jansport backpack and a green rolling bag and were on CCTV divvying up cash, prosecutors said.”. The day this article is released, Drake is seen leaving The Mark hotel.. He is seen the next day at Lil Yatchy’s listening party in New Jersey.
These were posted August 2023 by EP on his Facebook page. They look like old lady clothes. I found other photos of the victim in this case and they look like what she would wear. They could just be things left behind at the hotel by others ofc.
The murder and robbery on 83rd street was almost certainly a boosting attempt, and by the sounds of the perpetrators counting cash on CCTV as reported by police, it sounds like it was a successful boost. This happens where I live but they typically steal from big chain stores. Ironically it keeps residential crime lower, it’s non-violent, and people would prefer new things anyway, or at least nice things. It’s a pretty common black market thing in cities to the point where I live, even regularly law abiding people will purchase things from boosters with the understanding it was stolen from a store. Iykyk. The victim being an upper east side woman she probably had some nice things, clothing and jewelry in particular as ladies do especially at her age. That’s what this looks like to me. And the jewelry EP posted didn’t look new or like it would have been for a younger girl.
This woman was brutally SA’d.Her home was ransacked. These were posted August 2023 by EP on his Facebook page.. They look like older lady clothes. I found other photos of the victim and they look like what she would wear. But ofc, this could just be things left behind at the hotel by others. Strange though, because these are the only clothes EP ever posted on his Facebook.
It is strange Drake only wanted one thing from a big bag and there was loads of jewelry left behind by him. They said the rest of the stuff in the big bag was trash but because the items were expensive and it’s Drake’s stuff, it was instead put into lost and found.
In my mind I would see it play out like this: a booster brings a bag of goods. Wealthy purchaser pays enough for one item he wants where the booster is like here, take this whole thing (get it off their own hands). And the purchaser only wanted one thing for so the rest, jewelry, clothing, etc. is disposed of.
OR
There was a specific item and something specific about this lady having it. The rest of what was in the bag was just to hide the one item. But I couldn’t find a single piece of info on her outside of crime articles and an obituary with family photos but no text to really know anything more about her. This theory would suit the little bag mentioned that was suppose to have been shipped somewhere.
Either way, Drake & crew take the one thing they need and the rest ends up with hotel staff for disposal, but it was a large bag full of expensive things. It appears EP was instructed to put it in lost and found.
There’s an incident report from Mark security on July 20th. Probably when EP had to protect Drake from protests that Theodore organized.. Or EP had to report an underage. Perhaps Drake was what led to the crackdown or a mandated report, and EP sees it as Drake’s fault he now had to deal with Theo and protect him from protestors, for which he nearly got arrested for doing his job. This was probably the next time he saw Drake since January. EP keeps mentioning 7/27/23. This is the day Theodore the underage drinking protest organizer filed a lawsuit naming EP as part of it.
Officer Viola had a CCRB citation for trying to contain the protest. Officer Viola and EP both got in trouble for protecting Drake that night. EP mentioned that this relationship probably saved him from getting arrested The two probably had probably had to help corroborate eachother’s stories from the protest incident.
EP is so fed up with Drake at this point. [EP cites many examples of why he takes offense to Drake and crew for their treatment of staff. Their hubris.
The man he almost got arrested for protecting and his team are treating EP and his coworkers like shit. He cites cultural reasons as well, echoing Kenny’s “not like us” sentiments.
At some point EP’s is instructed by his director to clean out the lost and found. By August he’s so fed up that he’s going to sell these things and not protect Drake by what might come out if anyone recognizes these items as belonging to that lady from 83rd street. He posts them on Facebook.
Fast forward to now, and Kendrick drops a diss track. At some point, either Akademiks snitched on EP for having the items. or him and Drake both did.
EP has been pushed and pushed. He has to take this treatment and give the friendly enjoy your evening.
“Meet the Grahams” comes out and EP said I understood the assignment. Kenny at some point gets the album art from EP with item’s that appear to have belonged to Drake.
Drake releases “The Heart Part 6” said that he fed the cover art content to Kenny. Why would he lie about that? Why not say wow Kenny you got people going through my trash? Because buying stolen goods is illegal, and if they’re connected to, or even worse you ordered or someone you know is involved in, a murder and horrific SA of an elderly woman… yikes bad optics any which way. But EP, on the other hand, obtained the items after they were disposed of, which is legal even if they were stolen and especially if they were unclaimed after x many days, from my understanding.
EP’s manager finds out about the album cover and questions him about how the items were obtained. But she knew that EP had these items already, as he was instructed by to not throw them in the trash originally and then months later instructed to throw them out. EP implies that policy/practice allows him to claim the items at this point. From what I’ve heard from people who worked at hotels throughout my life is that this is generally true for other hotels as well.
He explains to his boss how the items were obtained. She advises him to get a lawyer which is strange because staff knew these items were in the lost and found and that by law, if they aren’t claimed within a certain amount of time they’re fair game. But if they’re stolen from a murdered woman, yeah you might want to speak to a lawyer because possession of stolen property is illegal even if you didn’t know it was stolen and it also may implicate you in a murder that took place nearby. It doesn’t make sense to me that EP’s boss would advise a lawyer when she knew all of this, unless she knew ALL of that.
CA knew about this, perhaps due to proximity? He sees the bag or hears the conversation about it. He thinks he has to do the right thing and tell the police, or somehow gets assaulted so that he keeps quiet. EP alleges that police were called because someone got assaulted that night.
I’m not sure who this is but It appears to be the same man pictured about a minute later.
EP tweeted
“Those were good men… One was from Texas. He loved cowboy boots, guns, and horses. other was from the Bronx, and well on his way to becoming a "Blue H.E.N.R.Y."
There were two men charged with this murder. One was noted for saying something like “I didn’t do it. Check the scene check dna!” Police claim they have footage from other areas incriminating the men but it hasn’t been made publicly available. If I had anything left in me for this I would figure out if those things EP said apply to those men, or if they are connected to Ebony House, if they could have been been patsies.
Tweets about them: Here Here Here
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A 74 year old woman was murdered 1/18/23 and found on 1/21/23 bound, gaged, and SA’d in her ransacked apartment days later. This is on 83rd and The Mark Hotel is on 77th. Half a mile walk through the park away. EP mentioned a big bag that hotel staff was told to dispose of for Drake.
Here is what appears to be a bag in the video EP posted. There was a girl in the frame too.
A NY post article about this murder mentions:
“A young woman — who was entering the building carrying a large bag that appeared to contain clothing - choked back tears when asked if she was related to the victim. ‘It's very, very hard for me and my family. We've already talked to the police and the district attorney. I don't want to talk anymore,’ the woman said, without identifying herself.”
This woman was brutally SA’d. House was ransacked.
“The two suspects loaded up Hernandez’s belongings into a blue rolling Jansport backpack and a green rolling bag and were on CCTV divvying up cash, prosecutors said.”. The day this article is released, Drake is seen leaving The Mark hotel.. He is seen the next day at Lil Yatchy’s listening party in New Jersey.
These were posted August 2023 by EP on his Facebook page. They look like old lady clothes. I found other photos of the victim in this case and they look like what she would wear. They could just be things left behind at the hotel by others ofc.
The murder and robbery on 83rd street was almost certainly a boosting attempt, and by the sounds of the perpetrators counting cash on CCTV as reported by police, it sounds like it was a successful boost. This happens where I live but they typically steal from big chain stores. Ironically it keeps residential crime lower, it’s non-violent, and people would prefer new things anyway, or at least nice things. It’s a pretty common black market thing in cities to the point where I live, even regularly law abiding people will purchase things from boosters with the understanding it was stolen from a store. Iykyk. The victim being an upper east side woman she probably had some nice things, clothing and jewelry in particular as ladies do especially at her age. That’s what this looks like to me. And the jewelry EP posted didn’t look new or like it would have been for a younger girl.
This woman was brutally SA’d.Her home was ransacked. These were posted August 2023 by EP on his Facebook page.. They look like older lady clothes. I found other photos of the victim and they look like what she would wear. But ofc, this could just be things left behind at the hotel by others. Strange though, because these are the only clothes EP ever posted on his Facebook.
It is strange Drake only wanted one thing from a big bag and there was loads of jewelry left behind by him. They said the rest of the stuff in the big bag was trash but because the items were expensive and it’s Drake’s stuff, it was instead put into lost and found.
In my mind I would see it play out like this: a booster brings a bag of goods. Wealthy purchaser pays enough for one item he wants where the booster is like here, take this whole thing (get it off their own hands). And the purchaser only wanted one thing for so the rest, jewelry, clothing, etc. is disposed of.
OR
There was a specific item and something specific about this lady having it. The rest of what was in the bag was just to hide the one item. But I couldn’t find a single piece of info on her outside of crime articles and an obituary with family photos but no text to really know anything more about her. This theory would suit the little bag mentioned that was suppose to have been shipped somewhere.
Either way, Drake & crew take the one thing they need and the rest ends up with hotel staff for disposal, but it was a large bag full of expensive things. It appears EP was instructed to put it in lost and found.
There’s an incident report from Mark security on July 20th. Probably when EP had to protect Drake from protests that Theodore organized.. Or EP had to report an underage. Perhaps Drake was what led to the crackdown or a mandated report, and EP sees it as Drake’s fault he now had to deal with Theo and protect him from protestors, for which he nearly got arrested for doing his job. This was probably the next time he saw Drake since January. EP keeps mentioning 7/27/23. This is the day Theodore the underage drinking protest organizer filed a lawsuit naming EP as part of it.
Officer Viola had a CCRB citation for trying to contain the protest. Officer Viola and EP both got in trouble for protecting Drake that night. EP mentioned that this relationship probably saved him from getting arrested The two probably had probably had to help corroborate eachother’s stories from the protest incident.
EP is so fed up with Drake at this point. [EP cites many examples of why he takes offense to Drake and crew for their treatment of staff. Their hubris.
The man he almost got arrested for protecting and his team are treating EP and his coworkers like shit. He cites cultural reasons as well, echoing Kenny’s “not like us” sentiments.
At some point EP’s is instructed by his director to clean out the lost and found. By August he’s so fed up that he’s going to sell these things and not protect Drake by what might come out if anyone recognizes these items as belonging to that lady from 83rd street. He posts them on Facebook.
Fast forward to now, and Kendrick drops a diss track. At some point, either Akademiks snitched on EP for having the items. or him and Drake both did.
EP has been pushed and pushed. He has to take this treatment and give the friendly enjoy your evening.
“Meet the Grahams” comes out and EP said I understood the assignment. Kenny at some point gets the album art from EP with item’s that appear to have belonged to Drake.
Drake releases “The Heart Part 6” said that he fed the cover art content to Kenny. Why would he lie about that? Why not say wow Kenny you got people going through my trash? Because buying stolen goods is illegal, and if they’re connected to, or even worse you ordered or someone you know is involved in, a murder and horrific SA of an elderly woman… yikes bad optics any which way. But EP, on the other hand, obtained the items after they were disposed of, which is legal even if they were stolen and especially if they were unclaimed after x many days, from my understanding.
EP’s manager finds out about the album cover and questions him about how the items were obtained. But she knew that EP had these items already, as he was instructed by to not throw them in the trash originally and then months later instructed to throw them out. EP implies that policy/practice allows him to claim the items at this point. From what I’ve heard from people who worked at hotels throughout my life is that this is generally true for other hotels as well.
He explains to his boss how the items were obtained. She advises him to get a lawyer which is strange because staff knew these items were in the lost and found and that by law, if they aren’t claimed within a certain amount of time they’re fair game. But if they’re stolen from a murdered woman, yeah you might want to speak to a lawyer because possession of stolen property is illegal even if you didn’t know it was stolen and it also may implicate you in a murder that took place nearby. It doesn’t make sense to me that EP’s boss would advise a lawyer when she knew all of this, unless she knew ALL of that.
CA knew about this, perhaps due to proximity? He sees the bag or hears the conversation about it. He thinks he has to do the right thing and tell the police, or somehow gets assaulted so that he keeps quiet. EP alleges that police were called because someone got assaulted that night.
I’m not sure who this is but It appears to be the same man pictured about a minute later.
EP tweeted
“Those were good men… One was from Texas. He loved cowboy boots, guns, and horses. other was from the Bronx, and well on his way to becoming a "Blue H.E.N.R.Y."
There were two men charged with this murder. One was noted for saying something like “I didn’t do it. Check the scene check dna!” Police claim they have footage from other areas incriminating the men but it hasn’t been made publicly available. If I had anything left in me for this I would figure out if those things EP said apply to those men, or if they are connected to Ebony House, if they could have been been patsies.
Tweets about them: Here Here Here
2024.05.16 19:20 WonderFull4268 Selling my things in a 4b2b house
Hello! I'm looking for some advice/your insight. Here's my dilemma:
Main idea: how to get rid of my many things
Option 1 - I have an estate sale. A local highly rated business owner came over and looked at my items and quoted me to make about 5-7k if I were to have an estate sale. This estate sale that she can run would have to happen next weekend when I'm already scheduled to be in Florida, so it would happen with me not in the area (which makes me nervous). The lady said she will draft a contract which I haven't seen yet. She takes 35% of the total purchases and itemizes the big items I have for sale only. She would hire people to help with the sale, averaging $15 p/h, which we would split the cost for. She can haul anything that doesn't sale for extra $. This would also mean I have to board my dogs or rent an airbnb for the 3 days of the sale (thur-sat) so they are out of the house. The house would sit empty when the sale is not happening.
Option 2 - I sell everything myself for cheap/in bundles on Facebook marketplace. I listed about 5 things so far (small items) and about 50% has sold within a day. I would make far less money this way and would donate more (most likely) but I do have 2.5 weeks to sell things.
Option 3 - I would do my own yard sale or estate sale, but I don't have any help, so I would have to reach out and see if I can pay people to help.
Thoughts y'all? Open to any ideas
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Main idea: how to get rid of my many things
Option 1 - I have an estate sale. A local highly rated business owner came over and looked at my items and quoted me to make about 5-7k if I were to have an estate sale. This estate sale that she can run would have to happen next weekend when I'm already scheduled to be in Florida, so it would happen with me not in the area (which makes me nervous). The lady said she will draft a contract which I haven't seen yet. She takes 35% of the total purchases and itemizes the big items I have for sale only. She would hire people to help with the sale, averaging $15 p/h, which we would split the cost for. She can haul anything that doesn't sale for extra $. This would also mean I have to board my dogs or rent an airbnb for the 3 days of the sale (thur-sat) so they are out of the house. The house would sit empty when the sale is not happening.
Option 2 - I sell everything myself for cheap/in bundles on Facebook marketplace. I listed about 5 things so far (small items) and about 50% has sold within a day. I would make far less money this way and would donate more (most likely) but I do have 2.5 weeks to sell things.
Option 3 - I would do my own yard sale or estate sale, but I don't have any help, so I would have to reach out and see if I can pay people to help.
Thoughts y'all? Open to any ideas
2024.05.16 19:19 d49k "The Music Box" - A story from Brad Sundberg (About Little Susie)
 | A copy/paste from Brads Facebook, April 2011 submitted by d49k to MJs_HIStory [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/o70htmpvnt0d1.png?width=1050&format=png&auto=webp&s=ef4e0b722ac04f6d7d0bed710d5a66cc7b8388ea It's a song that most people have never heard. Quite often when someone finds out I worked and had a friendship with Michael for nearly two decades they will say something like "I love Michael Jackson!!" I know all of his songs!!" I smile and say something like "That's great!" I never start quizzing them, because that would be rude. Truthfully if someone started quizzing me about songs from eras I didn't work on, I would likely crash after a few questions! People ask me about songs from Off The Wall or Invincible and I don't have a clue, because I wasn't there. But I did have the privilege of watching many songs go from concept to finished mix (sometimes taking years), so I have a bit of an advantage with those. Of course I have also had conversations with "hard-core" MJ fans who don't like "Thriller" because it is overplayed at Halloween. But occasionally I will have them close their eyes and I will instruct them to forget the video and the commercials and the party mixes, let me just play the song for you on a great pair of speakers. Just listen to it, as if for the first time. It is usually pretty surprising when they discover how beautifully it was produced, performed, recorded and mixed. Because that's how Michael and his team made music. Last week I did a podcast called "Random Facts, Memories and Tidbits from the HIStory Album", where I listed and described ten random, well what I just said. It was fun to put the list together, and quite frankly it could have been much longer, but ten seemed like a good start, and I might add more in future podcasts. One that did not make this list was the music box. It almost deserves a podcast of its own (which I might do) because it represents the level of quality that we were pushing for. Of course I am talking about the song "Little Susie", which is one of those songs that few people would know. MJ fans know it, but you get my point. "Little Susie" is a dark, disturbing song about the death of a little girl. Not exactly a bubble-gum topic for a pop record, but Michael wanted it on the album. It was a very important piece of music for him, so we took it very seriously. The intro is almost a bit of audio theater, with the footsteps, the ticking clock, the little girl winding the music box and then listening to it. We painstakingly recorded these sounds at the Hit Factory, and the plan was to simply find a music box sound on a synth and play the melody, but nothing sounded right. So we did what anyone would do in that exact situation and bought a music box and tore it apart, then "played" each note on the comb. (It's really called a "comb", at least according to my Google-machine). Each note was played and recorded into a sampler, then it was played to make it sound like the little girl had just wound up the tiny machine, with the spring slowing down towards the end. This little intro (tucked between Pie Jesu and the body of the song) lasts around 70 seconds, but it represents at least two things. First, Michael wasn't afraid to do things other artists wouldn't even think about doing. He had done extended intros before, and they can be a very powerful lead-up to the song. And, if he is going to do it, it is going to be done well. I couldn't and wouldn't put a price tag on the cost involved in creating those 70 seconds, as it was part of a much larger project, but it didn't just happen in an hour, rather there was a good bit of trial and error involved. But we wanted to do it right. Michael loved theater and building suspense, and this was a classic example. He knew not to go too far, rather let the listener decide what the scene looked like for themselves. MJ fans, rightly so, either really love "Little Susie" or take a pass on it. It's not really a fun song or something to pop on during a party tucked between "Another Part Of Me" and "Jam", as it would quickly clear the dancefloor. But that little music box takes me back to a giant studio on West 54th in Midtown, as we put in long hours and long days and long months building a project that we could all be proud of. A project called "HIStory". And the music box reflects so many things, as no corners were cut. (In the US we have an expression "Don't cut corners", which means don't do a sloppy or fast job to get done more quickly. Do it right the first time. Of course this is said far more often than actually done.) We needed a choir for the song "They Don't Care About Us". There are lots of choirs in NYC, but Michael wanted the choir he knew and loved, so we flew the ENTIRE Andre Crouch choir from LA to NY. This way Bruce could record them his way, and Michael could work directly with Andre to get the sound he was looking for. I know it doesn't make sense to you, but the little music box reminds me of stuff like that. The music box reflects how Michael wrote songs, created records, performed for his fans, shot short movies (music videos). He wanted everything done correctly, with as much focus on quality as possible. I spent a couple hours today rewiring the playback system in my music room. I needed a matching pair of cables for a specific function, and there was no way I was going to drive around the city find them on a rainy Sunday. I had two mis-matched cables, which no one would ever know were mis-matched, except for me. But that would have driven me crazy and been nibbling in the back of my head every time I used that system with a pair of mismatched cables. So I kept digging through bins of cables and connectors until I found a matching pair. It was the right solution. It was my music box. Every time I set up a music system for a client or prepare a studio for one of my events I spend as much time as possible calibrating the speakers to make them sound as perfect as possible for my guests. I'm sharing my music box with them. My daughter Maddie and I have been rebuilding the new version of "In The Studio With MJ", which we hope to premier in Orlando next month. I am going back and hearing songs and nuances that I am so excited to talk about and share their stories. In it's own way each Michael song is a music box, waiting for it's story to be told. Have a great week. |
2024.05.16 19:04 Artistic-Unicorn AITA for not giving more money to my cousin's wedding as a MoH
I can feel a long post coming in the air tonight... 🎶
It was a few months ago when my fiance proposed!! We went on a trip, he proposed when we were alone in a beautiful place and I was extremely happy on this day, it was one of the best days of my life. But... the next day was a disaster! I called my cousin, lets call her Gina, and told her that I was getting married, I called because she was one of my best friends and we have been close all my life. Gina lives in a different city from me, but we managed to get together often, she stayed with me for a year after college and generally I thought we had a bf-cousin relationship.
I was always in a better position than her financially but I've always given her everything I could, I'd buy her clothes, I've been paying her drinks and meals whenever we got out and always trying to make her feel welcomed and safe.
l called to tell her the news but I specifically asked her not to tell my parents until I was home from the trip. I wanted to have the pleasure to tell that I am getting married to my parents myself. I am a lonely child and my parents were waiting this moment for a long time since I am kind of "old" in their minds. As you have guessed Gina CALLED my parents before I could return from the trip and tell them...
What a b*tch!!!
We had no idea, we were so happy, when we returned from the trip we first went to my in laws who are really lovely people!! His mother baked and neighbors were coming and my SIL came all wishing us the best and everybody where happy about us.
After that we went to my parents to announce the news and I was very excited.
Their reaction was I quote "ok nice, now please send an email for me (something related to their work)"
I was devastated, I had a panic attack and left crying at that moment. Actually I opened the door and stormed out while my fiance was trying to catch our cat that went running behind me. We saved the cat!!🐈
My parents didn't speak to me for 3 days and they were very mad. Remember, I didn't know that Gina blabbed about me and I thought that they were just indifferent or didn't liked my fiance.
After 3 days my mum called and informed me that Gina told them before I could return from the trip and they were angry because my first thought was to tell my friends that I am going to get married and not to my parents!! Personally idk why they were so shocked, since we aren't so close and I think my best friends ( including Gina) as more of my family (and the cat).
Gina didn't have the right to tell, I texted her but she avoided me and then I was so mad I didn't speak to her for three weeks.
I went to her city to straight things out and when I got there, she hides behind her fiance. He was mad with me for not contacting them for 3 weeks ( i think he just found something to grab on ) and I asked my cousin directly why you spoke to my parents when I told you not to and she didn't speak back to me. Her "lawyer" did the indictment and I said to him to stay out of this and that Gina can speak her mind without his "help and guidance". Finally she started talking and without the presence of our dear "lawyer", she told me that she called to tell my parents out of excitement and among other things she said that her fiance announced that they were getting married to facebook first!! And that was the way her parents found out .....you see where this is going right?? She was frustrated that she didn't have the time to announce this to her parents properly and i don't know why in this f** world but maybe she thought that I had to pass through the same sh*t.
I left silently because really I didn't want to lose a cousin over this, a mess that I didn't initiated.
Now regarding her wedding, Gina is not well financially so she struggles with the wedding costs and also she asked me to be her MoH, really I think it's because she doesn't have other friends, she hangouts only with the friends of her fiance. I accepted of course before all this happened and I planned and saved to give Gina 5.000$ for her wedding. After this story, I only gave her 500$ which she thanked me a week later with just a typical "Thanks".
Everyone is expecting, because i am more financially stable than my cousins ( Gina and her brothers), to support my cousin at her wedding, but I am f** tired. I am tired of giving everything I can, since I was little, so they don't feel less or unequal, I was trying always to be very careful with that balance. All I ever had in mind was their best interest and considered them the brothers and sisters I never had.
I recently gave my cousin ( her brother ) my used car without asking for money and even paid for his insurance and other costs and he didn't even had time for coffee. I asked him 3 times to go for coffee or dinner, that I would pay, just to celebrate his new car and he never came.
When I think of my proposal I get all teary because that day I won a husband but lost a friend and cousin.
I've always dreamed that Gina would have the best wedding but now my heart can't reach the generosity I thought I had, plus when i went to her city she didn't come to greet me.
This is how you slowly become the bad relative, the Scrooge McDuck relative who doesnt ever give to other relatives.
Also my fiance is furious with all of them. And the cat, the cat is mad with all of us.
I dont want to be the MoH but she doesn't have any other friends (and I don't like the groom) If I resing all the other relatives will wonder why I am not her MoH since we had been very close.
Thoughts???
Thank you and sorry for the long post!!!
Ps: I am used to that kind of behavior from my parents so it doesn't matter anymore!!
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It was a few months ago when my fiance proposed!! We went on a trip, he proposed when we were alone in a beautiful place and I was extremely happy on this day, it was one of the best days of my life. But... the next day was a disaster! I called my cousin, lets call her Gina, and told her that I was getting married, I called because she was one of my best friends and we have been close all my life. Gina lives in a different city from me, but we managed to get together often, she stayed with me for a year after college and generally I thought we had a bf-cousin relationship.
I was always in a better position than her financially but I've always given her everything I could, I'd buy her clothes, I've been paying her drinks and meals whenever we got out and always trying to make her feel welcomed and safe.
l called to tell her the news but I specifically asked her not to tell my parents until I was home from the trip. I wanted to have the pleasure to tell that I am getting married to my parents myself. I am a lonely child and my parents were waiting this moment for a long time since I am kind of "old" in their minds. As you have guessed Gina CALLED my parents before I could return from the trip and tell them...
What a b*tch!!!
We had no idea, we were so happy, when we returned from the trip we first went to my in laws who are really lovely people!! His mother baked and neighbors were coming and my SIL came all wishing us the best and everybody where happy about us.
After that we went to my parents to announce the news and I was very excited.
Their reaction was I quote "ok nice, now please send an email for me (something related to their work)"
I was devastated, I had a panic attack and left crying at that moment. Actually I opened the door and stormed out while my fiance was trying to catch our cat that went running behind me. We saved the cat!!🐈
My parents didn't speak to me for 3 days and they were very mad. Remember, I didn't know that Gina blabbed about me and I thought that they were just indifferent or didn't liked my fiance.
After 3 days my mum called and informed me that Gina told them before I could return from the trip and they were angry because my first thought was to tell my friends that I am going to get married and not to my parents!! Personally idk why they were so shocked, since we aren't so close and I think my best friends ( including Gina) as more of my family (and the cat).
Gina didn't have the right to tell, I texted her but she avoided me and then I was so mad I didn't speak to her for three weeks.
I went to her city to straight things out and when I got there, she hides behind her fiance. He was mad with me for not contacting them for 3 weeks ( i think he just found something to grab on ) and I asked my cousin directly why you spoke to my parents when I told you not to and she didn't speak back to me. Her "lawyer" did the indictment and I said to him to stay out of this and that Gina can speak her mind without his "help and guidance". Finally she started talking and without the presence of our dear "lawyer", she told me that she called to tell my parents out of excitement and among other things she said that her fiance announced that they were getting married to facebook first!! And that was the way her parents found out .....you see where this is going right?? She was frustrated that she didn't have the time to announce this to her parents properly and i don't know why in this f** world but maybe she thought that I had to pass through the same sh*t.
I left silently because really I didn't want to lose a cousin over this, a mess that I didn't initiated.
Now regarding her wedding, Gina is not well financially so she struggles with the wedding costs and also she asked me to be her MoH, really I think it's because she doesn't have other friends, she hangouts only with the friends of her fiance. I accepted of course before all this happened and I planned and saved to give Gina 5.000$ for her wedding. After this story, I only gave her 500$ which she thanked me a week later with just a typical "Thanks".
Everyone is expecting, because i am more financially stable than my cousins ( Gina and her brothers), to support my cousin at her wedding, but I am f** tired. I am tired of giving everything I can, since I was little, so they don't feel less or unequal, I was trying always to be very careful with that balance. All I ever had in mind was their best interest and considered them the brothers and sisters I never had.
I recently gave my cousin ( her brother ) my used car without asking for money and even paid for his insurance and other costs and he didn't even had time for coffee. I asked him 3 times to go for coffee or dinner, that I would pay, just to celebrate his new car and he never came.
When I think of my proposal I get all teary because that day I won a husband but lost a friend and cousin.
I've always dreamed that Gina would have the best wedding but now my heart can't reach the generosity I thought I had, plus when i went to her city she didn't come to greet me.
This is how you slowly become the bad relative, the Scrooge McDuck relative who doesnt ever give to other relatives.
Also my fiance is furious with all of them. And the cat, the cat is mad with all of us.
I dont want to be the MoH but she doesn't have any other friends (and I don't like the groom) If I resing all the other relatives will wonder why I am not her MoH since we had been very close.
Thoughts???
Thank you and sorry for the long post!!!
Ps: I am used to that kind of behavior from my parents so it doesn't matter anymore!!
2024.05.16 17:27 AffectionateFox8001 How my boomer MIL got herself uninvited from my son's graduation
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Have I got a boomemil story for you! Let's go on an adventure...warning...I tell stories with rabbit holes and tangents. This is probably gonna be too long. I'm sorry!!!
So, the characters are me (40f), boomer MIL (64f BM for short, like bowel movement bc she's caca), my oldest son, (17m), and my church "mom" (65f CM for short).
A little background: BM thinks she's an awesome mom and grandma even though she's not. She uses my kids as facebook props to show off how "wonderful" she is. The only reason she was around my kids so often was because we went to the same church. She lived 10 minutes down the road from us, but could never be bothered to come over or have anything to do with any of us is if we didn't initiate. She has always said that if we ever try to threaten to keep our kids away from her, like if we were having a disagreement, that she would not fight to see them. We've never threatened to keep our kids from her, she just wanted us to know that she didn't give a sh!t to see her gandkids. So, that tells you right there, that she's a grandma when it's convenient for her.
She's of the boomer mentality that mental health issues are made up and aren't real. "You have nothing to be depressed about." "Just snap out if it." "Just be happy." You get the point. I struggle with depression, I always have. She doesn't understand or even try to understand and is the least empathetic person I've ever met.
When I get overwhelmed, I get depressed, and I start shutting down. My plate is overflowing right now. Between the end of the school year and the possibility of us moving states, I've been overwhelmed. My oldest is a senior and the last month of senior year is crazy busy. I have another child (11m) in public school and this is his last year of elementary school, so this has been an extremely busy month for him. I have 3 more kids that do online public school/homeschool. So, they're home all day with online classes, but since they're a public school, they have mandatory state testing just like regular public school. I have had to take them to do state testing on 4 different days overyhe last few weeks and the meeting place was 45 minutes from home, at a conference room in a mall. I also babysit 3 kids (1m, 4m, 4f), so hanging out for 4 to 5 hours a day on 4 different days with a shitload of kids at the f#cking mall was not easy. Not to mention the positions and "jobs" that I hold at church. To say I'm busy is an understatement.
We've been planning on moving for the last few months because a position at my husband's work is coming open near where he grew up, which is in another state. His parents recently moved back to their hometown after my FIL retired, so one reason for the move would be to be closer to them. They are getting older, so I would be taking care of them once they needed it, so moving closer seemed like a great option. Also, it's a lower COL area than we live in now. Currently we live in the metro area of a capital city and we would be moving to a middle of nowhere po'dunk town.
Told you, rabbit holes, thanks for still being with me!!!
And this is just the straw that broke the camel's back, this is not the only reason for my decision.
So, to the actual story...
Last week, I got a mother's day card in the mail from BM. She's a dollar tree card fanatic. It was a very typical card that she sends me. Nothing handwritten except for "love, grandma and grandpa." This is what she writes in all my cards. (Another tangent...last year my mom passed a month before mother's day and that actual mother's day was her and my dad's anniversary. And I had a super complicated relationship with my momster. So, it was an exceptionally hard day for me. The card she got me said "Daughter" in huge letters on the front. I thought it was so incredibly passive aggressive and completely inappropriate for that year. If it would've been any other year, it would've been fine. Also, she never gets me cards that just say "daughter" so, to me, it was a low blow.) (Yet another tangent...she does passive aggressive crap all the time, for instance when she used to do fb birthday posts, she would always ask me to send her a pic to post. I'm picky about what pics are used and she knows that. Last year, I sent her a great pic of me and her son to use. So, she used one from about 12 years ago that looked like absolute poop. It was a surprise pic, so like not even posed, stupid look on my face. No matter what pic I send, and usually send like 3, she uses a completely different one that doesn't even look good.) I got the card last Tuesday. Hubby happened to be talking to her while driving home from work that day, so when he got home, I thanked her for the card and just wanted to give her a heads up that I hadn't gotten a chance to mail hers yet because of everything I had going on. I kinda broke down and was sharing how I felt and she basically just said, "suck it up, it'll be fine." She's always been dismissive of my feelings, always.
So, my CM is the sweetest lady you'll ever meet. She listens to me, lets me share my feelings without being dismissive, and actually shows she cares. I see her twice weekly at church, and text with her during the week. Since BM has moved 8 moths ago, she has called or texted "just to talk or check in on us" less than a handful of times. She only calls/texts when she needs something or on a special occasion. She called my husband to ask about something, not just to talk. I understand now why the oldest grandson, my nephew, didn't even bother to invite her to his and his girlfriend's baby shower where he proposed. She thinks she's an amazing grandma bc she sends birthday money in a card and posts their pics on Facebook. And, she even stopped posting the kids birthday messages on fb bc she said it was "too much trouble." So, she just sticks to her 30 daily inspirational Bible quotes posts. She's the type that was so pissed off that both of her kids went with courthouse marriages instead of going into debt for a wedding because she didn't get to walk down the aisle at her kids' weddings and post pics on fb. She's mentioned this several times, but definitely wasn't even willing to spend a dime towards a wedding that no one wanted except her. She was also unwilling to take a day off work to go to the courthouse with us. With both of her kids' marriages, the kids and partners were together for a while and had kids before getting married, so spending tons of money on a huge wedding for either of us couples wouldn't have been the best way to spend money.
On mother's day, I gave my CM a card with a few lines written in it about how amazing she is and how I'm so grateful for her. I'm way closer to her than BM. CM is my chosen family and to me, your chosen family is the one that means more because you chose them, you didn't just get stuck with them. My blood family is incredibly toxic, so I stick with my chosen family. CM made a fb post with all that she got for mother's day. It was gifts and cards from her own children, and of course my card as well. CM & BM are fb friends, so of course BM saw it. Also, BM has everyone convinced she's this sweet, little old church lady, but she is far from it.
So, this Tuesday she got her cards in the mail. I always give her one from hubby and myself, and a separate one from our boys. I wrote a nice little note in it. Not long, a line or 2, but it was more effort than she put into my card. She sent me and hubby the following in a group text...
Copy and pasted, only edited out names.
"Got my cards in the mail today. 😭. They were post marked Saturday. You could of kept them til I got there or next year. It's like yall bought them Saturday, wrote a few words and rushed to get them to post office. My heart 💔broken. I thought I deserved better. I wish I could send pictures of my card verses [CM] 😩 card. I couldnt tell which gift was yours. But least I have a year to try do better and be worthy of such wonderful words of love and praise that was written to her.
I don't mean to complain or seem ungrateful but I wished you hadn't mailed them.😭😭. I can't explain how crushed I am.😔 Anyway hopefully I will see yall on the 20th."
Note: my oldest son is graduating on the 20th. She was supposed to drive down and spend the night with us to attend the graduation. I honestly believe she picked this fight because she doesn't want to drive the 6 hours down here.
If you "don't mean to complain or seem ungrateful" then why tf did you send it? I asked my husband what was his initial reaction and he said, "Really?!? All she had to do was say thanks."
So, after I talked to my husband and oldest son (I wanted to make sure everyone was on board with what I was saying before I sent it) , I sent her this response:
"I mailed them on Friday, I bought them several weeks ago. I told you I hadn't mailed them yet because I've been in a deep depression and you dismissed my feelings like always. I have real, valid feelings and you always dismissed them as silly. And come after me because now you're feelings are hurt. Wow, ok. The absolute audacity. And it's not just with your cards that I'm slacking. It's with everything. Because I have depression. I'm overwhelmed on top of that and literally the only thing you care about is a card. I tried to express my feelings the other day on the phone and you dismissed them like you always do. I know things will be fine, but in this moment they are not and you don't get that. Because you don't understand how or why I feel the way I do, then my feelings are silly or invalid to you.
And I never gave [CM] a present. Don't know why you thought that.
Don't worry about coming down on the 20th."
She replies by trying to blackmail me;
"Well my am so sorry I said anything. I never realized you thought that about me. I never dismissed your depression but yes i never knew what to do for you. I am not going to go back and forth about this. I will text [son] and let him know you told me not to come."
She's not sorry to me for being dismissive, she's sorry because now she doesn't get her "Proud MeMe moment" and can't post pictures of her at his graduation on fb. And even if she didn't "know what to do" for me, all she had to do was ask. Or listen. Or give a damn hug. But, no, she just dismissed me bc to her depression isn't real. And she's not going back and forth bc she knows shes wrong! Little did she know that I had already cleared it with hubby and son before sending the text, so I think she thought it would make me look bad to my oldest son that I told her no to come. Oldest son said, "I'm neutral, I don't care if she comes or not. It's not like she's had anything to do with us since she moved, and barely had anything to do with us when she was here."
So, my last text to her said, "He knows. I asked him before I texted you, and he's good with it."
All she had to do was say thanks or not even say anything at all. But, no, she had to say something stupid. Even her own son said that she's lucky she even got a card bc if it was up to him, her actual son, she wouldn't have gotten anything. So, not only is she not invited to the graduation, she's never welcome in my home again. The great part is I don't have to share my holidays with her ever again!!! And please know that I'd never keep her grandchildren from her, but if she wants a relationship with them, she'll have to put some effort in. And we all know boomers hate effort.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading my rant. I appreciate you my friends!
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Have I got a boomemil story for you! Let's go on an adventure...warning...I tell stories with rabbit holes and tangents. This is probably gonna be too long. I'm sorry!!!
So, the characters are me (40f), boomer MIL (64f BM for short, like bowel movement bc she's caca), my oldest son, (17m), and my church "mom" (65f CM for short).
A little background: BM thinks she's an awesome mom and grandma even though she's not. She uses my kids as facebook props to show off how "wonderful" she is. The only reason she was around my kids so often was because we went to the same church. She lived 10 minutes down the road from us, but could never be bothered to come over or have anything to do with any of us is if we didn't initiate. She has always said that if we ever try to threaten to keep our kids away from her, like if we were having a disagreement, that she would not fight to see them. We've never threatened to keep our kids from her, she just wanted us to know that she didn't give a sh!t to see her gandkids. So, that tells you right there, that she's a grandma when it's convenient for her.
She's of the boomer mentality that mental health issues are made up and aren't real. "You have nothing to be depressed about." "Just snap out if it." "Just be happy." You get the point. I struggle with depression, I always have. She doesn't understand or even try to understand and is the least empathetic person I've ever met.
When I get overwhelmed, I get depressed, and I start shutting down. My plate is overflowing right now. Between the end of the school year and the possibility of us moving states, I've been overwhelmed. My oldest is a senior and the last month of senior year is crazy busy. I have another child (11m) in public school and this is his last year of elementary school, so this has been an extremely busy month for him. I have 3 more kids that do online public school/homeschool. So, they're home all day with online classes, but since they're a public school, they have mandatory state testing just like regular public school. I have had to take them to do state testing on 4 different days overyhe last few weeks and the meeting place was 45 minutes from home, at a conference room in a mall. I also babysit 3 kids (1m, 4m, 4f), so hanging out for 4 to 5 hours a day on 4 different days with a shitload of kids at the f#cking mall was not easy. Not to mention the positions and "jobs" that I hold at church. To say I'm busy is an understatement.
We've been planning on moving for the last few months because a position at my husband's work is coming open near where he grew up, which is in another state. His parents recently moved back to their hometown after my FIL retired, so one reason for the move would be to be closer to them. They are getting older, so I would be taking care of them once they needed it, so moving closer seemed like a great option. Also, it's a lower COL area than we live in now. Currently we live in the metro area of a capital city and we would be moving to a middle of nowhere po'dunk town.
Told you, rabbit holes, thanks for still being with me!!!
And this is just the straw that broke the camel's back, this is not the only reason for my decision.
So, to the actual story...
Last week, I got a mother's day card in the mail from BM. She's a dollar tree card fanatic. It was a very typical card that she sends me. Nothing handwritten except for "love, grandma and grandpa." This is what she writes in all my cards. (Another tangent...last year my mom passed a month before mother's day and that actual mother's day was her and my dad's anniversary. And I had a super complicated relationship with my momster. So, it was an exceptionally hard day for me. The card she got me said "Daughter" in huge letters on the front. I thought it was so incredibly passive aggressive and completely inappropriate for that year. If it would've been any other year, it would've been fine. Also, she never gets me cards that just say "daughter" so, to me, it was a low blow.) (Yet another tangent...she does passive aggressive crap all the time, for instance when she used to do fb birthday posts, she would always ask me to send her a pic to post. I'm picky about what pics are used and she knows that. Last year, I sent her a great pic of me and her son to use. So, she used one from about 12 years ago that looked like absolute poop. It was a surprise pic, so like not even posed, stupid look on my face. No matter what pic I send, and usually send like 3, she uses a completely different one that doesn't even look good.) I got the card last Tuesday. Hubby happened to be talking to her while driving home from work that day, so when he got home, I thanked her for the card and just wanted to give her a heads up that I hadn't gotten a chance to mail hers yet because of everything I had going on. I kinda broke down and was sharing how I felt and she basically just said, "suck it up, it'll be fine." She's always been dismissive of my feelings, always.
So, my CM is the sweetest lady you'll ever meet. She listens to me, lets me share my feelings without being dismissive, and actually shows she cares. I see her twice weekly at church, and text with her during the week. Since BM has moved 8 moths ago, she has called or texted "just to talk or check in on us" less than a handful of times. She only calls/texts when she needs something or on a special occasion. She called my husband to ask about something, not just to talk. I understand now why the oldest grandson, my nephew, didn't even bother to invite her to his and his girlfriend's baby shower where he proposed. She thinks she's an amazing grandma bc she sends birthday money in a card and posts their pics on Facebook. And, she even stopped posting the kids birthday messages on fb bc she said it was "too much trouble." So, she just sticks to her 30 daily inspirational Bible quotes posts. She's the type that was so pissed off that both of her kids went with courthouse marriages instead of going into debt for a wedding because she didn't get to walk down the aisle at her kids' weddings and post pics on fb. She's mentioned this several times, but definitely wasn't even willing to spend a dime towards a wedding that no one wanted except her. She was also unwilling to take a day off work to go to the courthouse with us. With both of her kids' marriages, the kids and partners were together for a while and had kids before getting married, so spending tons of money on a huge wedding for either of us couples wouldn't have been the best way to spend money.
On mother's day, I gave my CM a card with a few lines written in it about how amazing she is and how I'm so grateful for her. I'm way closer to her than BM. CM is my chosen family and to me, your chosen family is the one that means more because you chose them, you didn't just get stuck with them. My blood family is incredibly toxic, so I stick with my chosen family. CM made a fb post with all that she got for mother's day. It was gifts and cards from her own children, and of course my card as well. CM & BM are fb friends, so of course BM saw it. Also, BM has everyone convinced she's this sweet, little old church lady, but she is far from it.
So, this Tuesday she got her cards in the mail. I always give her one from hubby and myself, and a separate one from our boys. I wrote a nice little note in it. Not long, a line or 2, but it was more effort than she put into my card. She sent me and hubby the following in a group text...
Copy and pasted, only edited out names.
"Got my cards in the mail today. 😭. They were post marked Saturday. You could of kept them til I got there or next year. It's like yall bought them Saturday, wrote a few words and rushed to get them to post office. My heart 💔broken. I thought I deserved better. I wish I could send pictures of my card verses [CM] 😩 card. I couldnt tell which gift was yours. But least I have a year to try do better and be worthy of such wonderful words of love and praise that was written to her.
I don't mean to complain or seem ungrateful but I wished you hadn't mailed them.😭😭. I can't explain how crushed I am.😔 Anyway hopefully I will see yall on the 20th."
Note: my oldest son is graduating on the 20th. She was supposed to drive down and spend the night with us to attend the graduation. I honestly believe she picked this fight because she doesn't want to drive the 6 hours down here.
If you "don't mean to complain or seem ungrateful" then why tf did you send it? I asked my husband what was his initial reaction and he said, "Really?!? All she had to do was say thanks."
So, after I talked to my husband and oldest son (I wanted to make sure everyone was on board with what I was saying before I sent it) , I sent her this response:
"I mailed them on Friday, I bought them several weeks ago. I told you I hadn't mailed them yet because I've been in a deep depression and you dismissed my feelings like always. I have real, valid feelings and you always dismissed them as silly. And come after me because now you're feelings are hurt. Wow, ok. The absolute audacity. And it's not just with your cards that I'm slacking. It's with everything. Because I have depression. I'm overwhelmed on top of that and literally the only thing you care about is a card. I tried to express my feelings the other day on the phone and you dismissed them like you always do. I know things will be fine, but in this moment they are not and you don't get that. Because you don't understand how or why I feel the way I do, then my feelings are silly or invalid to you.
And I never gave [CM] a present. Don't know why you thought that.
Don't worry about coming down on the 20th."
She replies by trying to blackmail me;
"Well my am so sorry I said anything. I never realized you thought that about me. I never dismissed your depression but yes i never knew what to do for you. I am not going to go back and forth about this. I will text [son] and let him know you told me not to come."
She's not sorry to me for being dismissive, she's sorry because now she doesn't get her "Proud MeMe moment" and can't post pictures of her at his graduation on fb. And even if she didn't "know what to do" for me, all she had to do was ask. Or listen. Or give a damn hug. But, no, she just dismissed me bc to her depression isn't real. And she's not going back and forth bc she knows shes wrong! Little did she know that I had already cleared it with hubby and son before sending the text, so I think she thought it would make me look bad to my oldest son that I told her no to come. Oldest son said, "I'm neutral, I don't care if she comes or not. It's not like she's had anything to do with us since she moved, and barely had anything to do with us when she was here."
So, my last text to her said, "He knows. I asked him before I texted you, and he's good with it."
All she had to do was say thanks or not even say anything at all. But, no, she had to say something stupid. Even her own son said that she's lucky she even got a card bc if it was up to him, her actual son, she wouldn't have gotten anything. So, not only is she not invited to the graduation, she's never welcome in my home again. The great part is I don't have to share my holidays with her ever again!!! And please know that I'd never keep her grandchildren from her, but if she wants a relationship with them, she'll have to put some effort in. And we all know boomers hate effort.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading my rant. I appreciate you my friends!
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- How to redeem: Once you find a dice link, make sure you've reached level 15 in Monopoly GO to unlock the "Album" feature. Then, click the link on the device you have the game installed on. If the link is active, you'll be notified within the app that you've received free dice rolls.
- Playing the game: You'll earn free dice rolls naturally as you play, through rewards for leveling up, completing boards, progressing through daily events, and completing Quick Wins missions.
- Daily Treats: Log in to the game daily to claim your free dice roll bonus.
- Community Chest: Participate in the daily Community Chest minigame for a chance to earn 10 free rolls.
- Stickers: Complete sticker albums to receive dice roll rewards.
- Property sets: Completing a property tile color set grants you a free spin, which often rewards dice rolls.
- Events: Keep an eye out for Monopoly GO Partner Events, as they often offer dice rolls as prizes.
- Connect your accounts: Linking your Facebook account and inviting friends can grant you bonus dice.
- Claim rewards: Check the "Friends -> Timeline" section and hit "Claim All" to collect any unclaimed rewards, which might include dice rolls.
- Free Gifts: The Free Gift refreshes every eight hours and sometimes contains dice rolls.
2024.05.16 16:14 pirateng Anyone got free dice links for today?
I found free dice links here updated daily:
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
submitted by pirateng to MonopolyGoCommunity [link] [comments]
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
- How to redeem: Once you find a dice link, make sure you've reached level 15 in Monopoly GO to unlock the "Album" feature. Then, click the link on the device you have the game installed on. If the link is active, you'll be notified within the app that you've received free dice rolls.
- Playing the game: You'll earn free dice rolls naturally as you play, through rewards for leveling up, completing boards, progressing through daily events, and completing Quick Wins missions.
- Daily Treats: Log in to the game daily to claim your free dice roll bonus.
- Community Chest: Participate in the daily Community Chest minigame for a chance to earn 10 free rolls.
- Stickers: Complete sticker albums to receive dice roll rewards.
- Property sets: Completing a property tile color set grants you a free spin, which often rewards dice rolls.
- Events: Keep an eye out for Monopoly GO Partner Events, as they often offer dice rolls as prizes.
- Connect your accounts: Linking your Facebook account and inviting friends can grant you bonus dice.
- Claim rewards: Check the "Friends -> Timeline" section and hit "Claim All" to collect any unclaimed rewards, which might include dice rolls.
- Free Gifts: The Free Gift refreshes every eight hours and sometimes contains dice rolls.
2024.05.16 16:14 pirateng Free dice links
I found free dice links here updated daily:
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
r5ggh5g6
submitted by pirateng to MonopolyGoCommunity [link] [comments]
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
- How to redeem: Once you find a dice link, make sure you've reached level 15 in Monopoly GO to unlock the "Album" feature. Then, click the link on the device you have the game installed on. If the link is active, you'll be notified within the app that you've received free dice rolls.
- Playing the game: You'll earn free dice rolls naturally as you play, through rewards for leveling up, completing boards, progressing through daily events, and completing Quick Wins missions.
- Daily Treats: Log in to the game daily to claim your free dice roll bonus.
- Community Chest: Participate in the daily Community Chest minigame for a chance to earn 10 free rolls.
- Stickers: Complete sticker albums to receive dice roll rewards.
- Property sets: Completing a property tile color set grants you a free spin, which often rewards dice rolls.
- Events: Keep an eye out for Monopoly GO Partner Events, as they often offer dice rolls as prizes.
- Connect your accounts: Linking your Facebook account and inviting friends can grant you bonus dice.
- Claim rewards: Check the "Friends -> Timeline" section and hit "Claim All" to collect any unclaimed rewards, which might include dice rolls.
- Free Gifts: The Free Gift refreshes every eight hours and sometimes contains dice rolls.
r5ggh5g6
2024.05.16 16:13 pirateng 2000 free dice link?
I found free dice links here updated daily:
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
submitted by pirateng to MonopolyGoCommunity [link] [comments]
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
- How to redeem: Once you find a dice link, make sure you've reached level 15 in Monopoly GO to unlock the "Album" feature. Then, click the link on the device you have the game installed on. If the link is active, you'll be notified within the app that you've received free dice rolls.
- Playing the game: You'll earn free dice rolls naturally as you play, through rewards for leveling up, completing boards, progressing through daily events, and completing Quick Wins missions.
- Daily Treats: Log in to the game daily to claim your free dice roll bonus.
- Community Chest: Participate in the daily Community Chest minigame for a chance to earn 10 free rolls.
- Stickers: Complete sticker albums to receive dice roll rewards.
- Property sets: Completing a property tile color set grants you a free spin, which often rewards dice rolls.
- Events: Keep an eye out for Monopoly GO Partner Events, as they often offer dice rolls as prizes.
- Connect your accounts: Linking your Facebook account and inviting friends can grant you bonus dice.
- Claim rewards: Check the "Friends -> Timeline" section and hit "Claim All" to collect any unclaimed rewards, which might include dice rolls.
- Free Gifts: The Free Gift refreshes every eight hours and sometimes contains dice rolls.
2024.05.16 16:12 pirateng Monopoly GO! - Free Dice & Sticker Trading
I found free dice links here updated daily:
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
submitted by pirateng to MonopolyGoCommunity [link] [comments]
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
- How to redeem: Once you find a dice link, make sure you've reached level 15 in Monopoly GO to unlock the "Album" feature. Then, click the link on the device you have the game installed on. If the link is active, you'll be notified within the app that you've received free dice rolls.
- Playing the game: You'll earn free dice rolls naturally as you play, through rewards for leveling up, completing boards, progressing through daily events, and completing Quick Wins missions.
- Daily Treats: Log in to the game daily to claim your free dice roll bonus.
- Community Chest: Participate in the daily Community Chest minigame for a chance to earn 10 free rolls.
- Stickers: Complete sticker albums to receive dice roll rewards.
- Property sets: Completing a property tile color set grants you a free spin, which often rewards dice rolls.
- Events: Keep an eye out for Monopoly GO Partner Events, as they often offer dice rolls as prizes.
- Connect your accounts: Linking your Facebook account and inviting friends can grant you bonus dice.
- Claim rewards: Check the "Friends -> Timeline" section and hit "Claim All" to collect any unclaimed rewards, which might include dice rolls.
- Free Gifts: The Free Gift refreshes every eight hours and sometimes contains dice rolls.
2024.05.16 16:12 pirateng Free 🎲 LINKS ‼️‼️
I found free dice links here updated daily:
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
submitted by pirateng to MonopolyGoCommunity [link] [comments]
https://mply.io/DHg59w Latest link ⬅️
https://mply.io/vgXmvw
https://mply.io/a8KoEdyLRgk
- How to redeem: Once you find a dice link, make sure you've reached level 15 in Monopoly GO to unlock the "Album" feature. Then, click the link on the device you have the game installed on. If the link is active, you'll be notified within the app that you've received free dice rolls.
- Playing the game: You'll earn free dice rolls naturally as you play, through rewards for leveling up, completing boards, progressing through daily events, and completing Quick Wins missions.
- Daily Treats: Log in to the game daily to claim your free dice roll bonus.
- Community Chest: Participate in the daily Community Chest minigame for a chance to earn 10 free rolls.
- Stickers: Complete sticker albums to receive dice roll rewards.
- Property sets: Completing a property tile color set grants you a free spin, which often rewards dice rolls.
- Events: Keep an eye out for Monopoly GO Partner Events, as they often offer dice rolls as prizes.
- Connect your accounts: Linking your Facebook account and inviting friends can grant you bonus dice.
- Claim rewards: Check the "Friends -> Timeline" section and hit "Claim All" to collect any unclaimed rewards, which might include dice rolls.
- Free Gifts: The Free Gift refreshes every eight hours and sometimes contains dice rolls.
2024.05.16 15:50 0vdj0 Removals firm doubled my quote after work done.
I was quoted £500 by a removals firm to move all my possessions and furniture from one house to another.
The quote was made over Facebook Messenger but they sent a guy out a few weeks before to have a look at the size of the job. The only complication was a large assembled child's bunkbed/desk/wardrobe unit. I knew it would be complicated but they said they do that sort of thing every day. The quote was to include disassembly and reassembly of this item. Everything else was straight forward (I don't have a lot of stuff, no wardrobes or anything - just several boxes, couple of white goods, sofas etc.
Inevitably the bunk bed thing took them hours to reassemble. The gaffer pulled me to one side and said it would now be £1050 due to the time taken.
I might understand this if they'd done the job blind but as I mentioned - they sent someone to look at it first.
Not only that but they dropped my fridge freezer and made several scrapes and dents in it. I would have overlooked this because I felt sorry for the lad who dropped it. But now I'm not sure. I also helped them move a lot of stuff off the wagon as I was trying to help them complete the job quicker!
I've not yet paid what he claims I owe him- has anyone got any advice how to proceed?
submitted by 0vdj0 to LegalAdviceUK [link] [comments]
The quote was made over Facebook Messenger but they sent a guy out a few weeks before to have a look at the size of the job. The only complication was a large assembled child's bunkbed/desk/wardrobe unit. I knew it would be complicated but they said they do that sort of thing every day. The quote was to include disassembly and reassembly of this item. Everything else was straight forward (I don't have a lot of stuff, no wardrobes or anything - just several boxes, couple of white goods, sofas etc.
Inevitably the bunk bed thing took them hours to reassemble. The gaffer pulled me to one side and said it would now be £1050 due to the time taken.
I might understand this if they'd done the job blind but as I mentioned - they sent someone to look at it first.
Not only that but they dropped my fridge freezer and made several scrapes and dents in it. I would have overlooked this because I felt sorry for the lad who dropped it. But now I'm not sure. I also helped them move a lot of stuff off the wagon as I was trying to help them complete the job quicker!
I've not yet paid what he claims I owe him- has anyone got any advice how to proceed?
2024.05.16 15:41 hairpintrgger Taylor's love and support for sapphic artists 🌈
 | I already made a post about her super queer playlist by ME! but I feel like even that doesn't fully encapsulate just how many sapphic artists Taylor supports and has done so since the beginning of her career. I may miss some artists because she listens to so many of them that it's hard to keep up, but I just wanted to do a deep dive into just how queer Taylor's music taste always has been. Let's gooo! 🌈🌈 submitted by hairpintrgger to GaylorSwift [link] [comments] Pictured: Taylor probably googling new wlw artists to listen to Hayley Kiyoko:
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2024.05.16 15:31 altermwim2 Reacting to random show #40! 01/10/2015 Jam Cruise! This show: let’s play 5 whole Similar Skin tracks. Also this show: let’s invite the ENTIRE BOAT to guest!
 | I mean just look at those notes! We have Jason Hann several times, Skerik, IVAN FUCKING NEVILLE, Jen Hartswick….the list goes on. Had to have been an absolute blast! I hope I get an opportunity to join a Jam Cruise after discovering this show. Atmosphere was palpable through the recording! submitted by altermwim2 to Umphreys [link] [comments] [you know the drill:] 20 years, random shows, lots of fun. Let’s dive in! 40
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2024.05.16 15:31 amd6654 Scale of 1-10, how fucked up is it that I did this
Planned to meet with a guy on Facebook marketplace to sell an item. He asked me a dozen countless questions and I answered them thoroughly and respectfully. We plan to meet up, says he’s on the way, he then proceeds to block/ ghost me while I’m waiting.
I suppose he changed his mind about wanting the item last minute and decided to leave me hanging instead just telling me so.
I found his info on truepeoplesearch.com and signed him up for a bunch of insurance quotes/ spam.
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I suppose he changed his mind about wanting the item last minute and decided to leave me hanging instead just telling me so.
I found his info on truepeoplesearch.com and signed him up for a bunch of insurance quotes/ spam.
2024.05.16 13:48 Anonymotron42 The Unofficial Rush R50 Reddit Daily Song Poll #139: Freeze
Freeze (Part IV of "Fear" trilogy) is the twelfth song on the seventeenth studio album Vapor Trails (2002). What do you think of today's track? You can vote skippable (You can almost see the circuits blowing) to superb (The treasure of a life).
Writing credits: Music: Geddy Lee, Alex Lifeson, Lyrics: Neil Peart
Concurrent band member quote: "By then certain common musical themes had emerged, like a 'veiled complexity' in the parts and arrangements (the drum parts for 'Freeze' and 'Peaceable Kingdom' took me days to work out and refine, for example). Alex's particular agenda steered us away from the use of keyboards or guitar solos, and Geddy experimented with multi-tracked backing vocals as textural alternatives." -Neil in Behind the Fire: The Making of Vapor Trails tour book (2002)
Rush Official YouTube Channel link
This song was never performed live.
View Poll
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Writing credits: Music: Geddy Lee, Alex Lifeson, Lyrics: Neil Peart
Concurrent band member quote: "By then certain common musical themes had emerged, like a 'veiled complexity' in the parts and arrangements (the drum parts for 'Freeze' and 'Peaceable Kingdom' took me days to work out and refine, for example). Alex's particular agenda steered us away from the use of keyboards or guitar solos, and Geddy experimented with multi-tracked backing vocals as textural alternatives." -Neil in Behind the Fire: The Making of Vapor Trails tour book (2002)
Rush Official YouTube Channel link
This song was never performed live.
View Poll
2024.05.16 13:48 Anonymotron42 The Unofficial Rush R50 Reddit Daily Song Poll #138: Nocturne
Nocturne is the eleventh tune on the seventeenth studio album Vapor Trails (2002). How do you rank this song? The choices range from skippable (You can almost see the circuits blowing) to amazing (The treasure of a life).
Writing credits: Music: Geddy Lee, Alex Lifeson, Lyrics: Neil Peart
Contemporaneous band member quote: "I'm very pleased with how this one turned out; we stretched out a bit. I had my three bass channels assigned to three outputs on the console, but for some reason, during the verses I accidentally routed one of the channels to the wrong output, and it came up on a rail normally reserved for a vocal crack. There was this deep reverb on it, and it sounded so cool-so we wrote the song around that sound." -Geddy to Karl Coryat of Bass Player Magazine (July 2002)
Rush Official YouTube Channel link
This song was never performed live.
View Poll
submitted by Anonymotron42 to rush [link] [comments]
Writing credits: Music: Geddy Lee, Alex Lifeson, Lyrics: Neil Peart
Contemporaneous band member quote: "I'm very pleased with how this one turned out; we stretched out a bit. I had my three bass channels assigned to three outputs on the console, but for some reason, during the verses I accidentally routed one of the channels to the wrong output, and it came up on a rail normally reserved for a vocal crack. There was this deep reverb on it, and it sounded so cool-so we wrote the song around that sound." -Geddy to Karl Coryat of Bass Player Magazine (July 2002)
Rush Official YouTube Channel link
This song was never performed live.
View Poll
2024.05.16 12:48 oistenvich How many attempts at the EU form before giving up? (UK)
My story is the same as many others here. A fake instagram linked to my facebook, causing a suspension and just being trapped in an endless loop with no way to appeal.
I ave contacted my MP and they said they couldnt help. I have also addressed a letter directly to Meta Ireland Legal and also logged and ICO complaint, although the letter hasnt been recorded as delivered yet and the ICO also havent responded yet. I have no idea whether either route is effective.
The main success stories on here seem to be from using the EU hacked account form, but I have been filling these in day in day out since last Thursday with no success, just the same automated response telling me to f off. Ive tried differing variations in the fields and even given them different recovery emails to send a link to but they are just not interested.
How long did other people persist for? When do I just accept that this entire process is broken and just give up? Ive had that account for 17 years and it contains irreplaceable photo albums, contacts and I use it to manage the social media accounts for my (signed) band. All of this is now gone.
How can Meta be so utterly hopeless with this stuff?
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I ave contacted my MP and they said they couldnt help. I have also addressed a letter directly to Meta Ireland Legal and also logged and ICO complaint, although the letter hasnt been recorded as delivered yet and the ICO also havent responded yet. I have no idea whether either route is effective.
The main success stories on here seem to be from using the EU hacked account form, but I have been filling these in day in day out since last Thursday with no success, just the same automated response telling me to f off. Ive tried differing variations in the fields and even given them different recovery emails to send a link to but they are just not interested.
How long did other people persist for? When do I just accept that this entire process is broken and just give up? Ive had that account for 17 years and it contains irreplaceable photo albums, contacts and I use it to manage the social media accounts for my (signed) band. All of this is now gone.
How can Meta be so utterly hopeless with this stuff?
2024.05.16 12:41 Firm-Glove5345 ABYG kung pagbabayarin ko sa sira ng kotse ko yung friend ko while may utang ako sa kanya?
Heads up, long post ahead!
Nanghiram ako (F23) ng 30k sa friend ko (F22) para sana pambayad ng participation fee pampaayos ng sasakyan ko na nabangga ko sa barrier kakaiwas sa motorsiklo na walang ilaw. Nadamage yung right side bumper and first time ko sana magpaayos ng sasakyan under insurance so di ko alam magkano yung participation fee kaya ako nangutang. Meron naman ako funds pero iniisip ko sakaling magkulang at least, maoorder sana yung parts na kinakailangan asap.
Yung term namin, 20% 1 week so 36,000 pesos ibabalik ko. Nung araw na irerelease nya sakin yung pera, pumunta ako sa bahay nila, pinark ko lang yung sasakyan sa harap at di ko na pinatay since akala ko ready na yung perang hihiramin ko and may photocopy na akong dala ng ID ko. Pagkakatok ko sa bahay nila, binuksan nya pinto at sinabi nya need pala daw nya magwithdraw so ayun, sabi ko OK, pero bigla sya pumasok sa driver’s seat saka nilock yung pinto at sya daw magdadrive. Ilang beses ako nag NO, at hindi ako tumigil kakasabi na ako sana magdadrive kasi di ako comfortable may ibang hahawak ng manibela. Kaya lang, di nya ako pinapakinggan and since nagmamadali ako umabot sa cutoff ng casa, pumasok ako sa backseat (nasa passenger seat yung katulong ko na kasama ko that time). Kahit nung umaandar na yung sasakyan ilang beses ko sya sinabihan ayaw nya talaga ihinto at bumaba. Nainis pa ako kasi ang naiwan nya dawpala yung wallet nya and that includes SEVERAL stopovers sa mga kakilala nya sa lugar nila na binabati nya (she seemed to be showing off). Hanggang sa nag uturn sya sa isang street kung saan sumayad yung LEFT bumper ng sasakyan sa residential water meter. Ang lakas and rinig na rinig yung crisp ng pagkakasayad pero automatically dineny nya na wala lang daw yun. Pinagpark ko sya sa gilid at meron scratches and dents. Dito na ako nainis ng sobra sa lack of accountability nya huhu.. Sinabihan ko sya sana lang masama yung damage sa aayusin ng casa under my previous insurance claim sa right side bumper, otherwise I’ll let her know pag hindi.
Hindi ko na sya pinagdrive ulit pero sobrang TAGAL nya nirelease yung pera that it defeats the very purpose ng paghiram ko sa kanya. Alam nya na for repair ng sasakyan yung hihiramin ko and alam nya na hinahabol ko yung oras ng cutoff sa casa pero 4pm nya na binigay sakin yung pera after SEVERAL instances of SHOWING OFF sa mga kakilala nya.
Meron kaming agreement since emergency loan yung nature ng pagpapautang na kapag di ako nakapagbayad, magcocomment and magpopost sya sa Facebook account ko. I also explicitly told her that my husband knew nothing about this transaction and to keep it a secret kasi ayoko makaalam sya na nabangga ulit yung sasakyan tapos still inaccept ko yung pera pampagawa sa unang damages na tinamo nung sasakyan. (i know, medyo boppls ako)
2 days after the transaction, nagcocomment na sya ng reminders daw ng utang ko sa mga shared posts ko. That led to my husband knowing na pumunta ako sa city nya to loan money and nabangga ang sasakyan ulit. I also got nofitification a day before my due date sa loan ko sa kanya, from casa na dumating na yung ibang parts and when I went there to deposit the car, theyve given me separate quote for the left side bumper amounting to almost 35k and 3k lang pala yung participation fee for the 1st accident ko.
I told her na hindi karga ng insurance ko yung damages and will be going to take the service estimate sa kanya on the day of my due date (di ko po nagalaw yung pera).
Here is where I think PAANO AKO NAGING GAGO: On the day of my due date my husband told me to get a written agreement from her or at least a promissory note na willing sya ishoulder or ipaayos yung left side bumper sa casa since since casa maintained yung sasakyan and kakabili palang nung January 2024 before I pay my dues, so I went there and personally told her the same. I am willing to meet her halfway if diskumpyado sya sa figures na binigay ng casa, I can accompany her. Shes livid and dinala pa kuya nya. She demands her money back but I also need her to fix the car muna kasi 35k is not a joke.
For me, OK lang sana sakin if hindi alam ng asawa ko kasi I can just file another claim sa insurance but now he knows, hes telling me tataas daw premium namin next year which makes sense.
Here’s where I think hindi ako gago: she violated our agreement to keep it a secret first and she also did not honor our written agreement by continuously commenting and calling me out on social media just two days after nya niloan sakin ang pera.
Kaya nga ako nanghihiram kasi baka mag over sa budget yung perang nilaan ko for repairs tapos meron ulit repairs.
PS. She really insisted on driving. She's got a license too.
ABYG?
submitted by Firm-Glove5345 to AkoBaYungGago [link] [comments]
Nanghiram ako (F23) ng 30k sa friend ko (F22) para sana pambayad ng participation fee pampaayos ng sasakyan ko na nabangga ko sa barrier kakaiwas sa motorsiklo na walang ilaw. Nadamage yung right side bumper and first time ko sana magpaayos ng sasakyan under insurance so di ko alam magkano yung participation fee kaya ako nangutang. Meron naman ako funds pero iniisip ko sakaling magkulang at least, maoorder sana yung parts na kinakailangan asap.
Yung term namin, 20% 1 week so 36,000 pesos ibabalik ko. Nung araw na irerelease nya sakin yung pera, pumunta ako sa bahay nila, pinark ko lang yung sasakyan sa harap at di ko na pinatay since akala ko ready na yung perang hihiramin ko and may photocopy na akong dala ng ID ko. Pagkakatok ko sa bahay nila, binuksan nya pinto at sinabi nya need pala daw nya magwithdraw so ayun, sabi ko OK, pero bigla sya pumasok sa driver’s seat saka nilock yung pinto at sya daw magdadrive. Ilang beses ako nag NO, at hindi ako tumigil kakasabi na ako sana magdadrive kasi di ako comfortable may ibang hahawak ng manibela. Kaya lang, di nya ako pinapakinggan and since nagmamadali ako umabot sa cutoff ng casa, pumasok ako sa backseat (nasa passenger seat yung katulong ko na kasama ko that time). Kahit nung umaandar na yung sasakyan ilang beses ko sya sinabihan ayaw nya talaga ihinto at bumaba. Nainis pa ako kasi ang naiwan nya dawpala yung wallet nya and that includes SEVERAL stopovers sa mga kakilala nya sa lugar nila na binabati nya (she seemed to be showing off). Hanggang sa nag uturn sya sa isang street kung saan sumayad yung LEFT bumper ng sasakyan sa residential water meter. Ang lakas and rinig na rinig yung crisp ng pagkakasayad pero automatically dineny nya na wala lang daw yun. Pinagpark ko sya sa gilid at meron scratches and dents. Dito na ako nainis ng sobra sa lack of accountability nya huhu.. Sinabihan ko sya sana lang masama yung damage sa aayusin ng casa under my previous insurance claim sa right side bumper, otherwise I’ll let her know pag hindi.
Hindi ko na sya pinagdrive ulit pero sobrang TAGAL nya nirelease yung pera that it defeats the very purpose ng paghiram ko sa kanya. Alam nya na for repair ng sasakyan yung hihiramin ko and alam nya na hinahabol ko yung oras ng cutoff sa casa pero 4pm nya na binigay sakin yung pera after SEVERAL instances of SHOWING OFF sa mga kakilala nya.
Meron kaming agreement since emergency loan yung nature ng pagpapautang na kapag di ako nakapagbayad, magcocomment and magpopost sya sa Facebook account ko. I also explicitly told her that my husband knew nothing about this transaction and to keep it a secret kasi ayoko makaalam sya na nabangga ulit yung sasakyan tapos still inaccept ko yung pera pampagawa sa unang damages na tinamo nung sasakyan. (i know, medyo boppls ako)
2 days after the transaction, nagcocomment na sya ng reminders daw ng utang ko sa mga shared posts ko. That led to my husband knowing na pumunta ako sa city nya to loan money and nabangga ang sasakyan ulit. I also got nofitification a day before my due date sa loan ko sa kanya, from casa na dumating na yung ibang parts and when I went there to deposit the car, theyve given me separate quote for the left side bumper amounting to almost 35k and 3k lang pala yung participation fee for the 1st accident ko.
I told her na hindi karga ng insurance ko yung damages and will be going to take the service estimate sa kanya on the day of my due date (di ko po nagalaw yung pera).
Here is where I think PAANO AKO NAGING GAGO: On the day of my due date my husband told me to get a written agreement from her or at least a promissory note na willing sya ishoulder or ipaayos yung left side bumper sa casa since since casa maintained yung sasakyan and kakabili palang nung January 2024 before I pay my dues, so I went there and personally told her the same. I am willing to meet her halfway if diskumpyado sya sa figures na binigay ng casa, I can accompany her. Shes livid and dinala pa kuya nya. She demands her money back but I also need her to fix the car muna kasi 35k is not a joke.
For me, OK lang sana sakin if hindi alam ng asawa ko kasi I can just file another claim sa insurance but now he knows, hes telling me tataas daw premium namin next year which makes sense.
Here’s where I think hindi ako gago: she violated our agreement to keep it a secret first and she also did not honor our written agreement by continuously commenting and calling me out on social media just two days after nya niloan sakin ang pera.
Kaya nga ako nanghihiram kasi baka mag over sa budget yung perang nilaan ko for repairs tapos meron ulit repairs.
PS. She really insisted on driving. She's got a license too.
ABYG?
2024.05.16 12:01 Golden_Shart Tinfoil Hats On: If you have a history of posting long form comments, YouTube will basically shadowban you.
I'd like to preface this by stating that the way I behave on YouTube is the most G-Rated way I conduct myself both on and off the internet. I've kept up to date with YouTube's war on no-no words, dogwater automated moderation, and near decade-long censorship campaign following the adpocalypse & COPPA dilemma and have remained mindful of what I say on the platform for a very long time. I'm proactive about not using bad words, tastefully navigating sensitive subject matters, and preemptively censoring words I think might be flagged by T H E S Y S T E M. I rarely engage in heated discussions on YouTube, as I feel like a lot of commenters are probably kids. I pretty much never use cuss words, my display name isn't inappropriate, and I have zero history of abusive/offensive/inflammatory behavior on the platform. It's also probably worth stating that I do not harbor extreme views on most issues. I do not express any form(s) of homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, racism, etc. on YouTube.
However, over the past few months, all of my comments have been disappearing - and I mean almost ALL of them. I've seen posts about this issue all over the internet and decided to do some digging to find out what's happening.
Delving into the actual documentation of automated comment removal on the site points to supposed "inappropriate comment" notification website features that I've never encountered or even knew existed:
I looked into people having issues who have received these notifications and was not surprised with what I found: If you receive Community Guideline violation notifications, YouTube doesn't tell you which comment was flagged and almost never accurately interprets your comment's subject matter. The system is plagued with false positives for inappropriate or abusive material. If you unintentionally or unwittingly posted something inappropriate, there is absolutely no way for you to know what you said that was wrong and take corrective action.
What does this all mean? Well, If you're familiar with YouTube, you'll know that whenever a "feature" or policy is poorly explained, hard to get clarification on, or otherwise opaque, it often means there is a hidden mechanism or internal position at play that they don't want to be widely known.
So then I just started commenting other comments verbatim to see what would happen. The single sentence drive-by-gag bot-like Top Comments that are just garbage recycled one liners that add zero value to the platform. Direct quotes from the video, "HE WAS READY FOR ALL THE SMOKE😂", "Nah bruh didn't have to do him like that ☠️", etc.
Those stay up.
Then I would occasionally post a comment I would normally post. A longform response to the subject matter of the video, thoughtful attempts at starting discussions, or actual comprehensive explanations of something. Some examples would be an interpretation of a movie/show scene, my opinion on a music album, or just literally the "thoughts" the video's creator told me to post below lmfao.
Gone.
Don't even show up in my activity history.
There's your YouTube conspiracy tea for the week. Let me know your thoughts.
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However, over the past few months, all of my comments have been disappearing - and I mean almost ALL of them. I've seen posts about this issue all over the internet and decided to do some digging to find out what's happening.
YouTube on 'removed/disappearing comments'
The YouTube Help Community/Support forums have a bunch of posts about this that not only don't receive answers, but are locked and marked as redundant duplicates of this "Solved" post - a post that doesn't even address comments disappearing, but simply troubleshoots mobile app cache glitches where your comments won't display.Delving into the actual documentation of automated comment removal on the site points to supposed "inappropriate comment" notification website features that I've never encountered or even knew existed:
Comment remindersI have never once received a comment removal warning notification. I have never received any notifications about my account/comments violating the Community Guidelines. I have never received a notification about my commenting privileges being paused/revoked due to Community Guideline violations. I have also scoured all my emails with YouTube to see if there was ever any notice of actions taken against my account and there's nothing.
Before you post a comment, you may get a reminder that’s intended to encourage respectful interactions on YouTube. This reminder shows when our system finds that your comment could be considered offensive to others. Reflect on your comment, or review our Community Guidelines before you post it.
Note: This reminder is only available for English and Spanish comments right now.
Comment removal warnings
After you post a comment, you may get a notification that says the comment was removed. A comment may be removed when YouTube’s system finds your comments could be repeatedly violating YouTube’s Community Guidelines. If you disagree with the removal, you can submit feedback here.
Comment timeouts
After you post a comment, you may get a notification that says that commenting has been paused for your account. Commenting may be paused when YouTube’s system finds that you repeatedly left comments that could violate one or more of our Community Guidelines. Your ability to comment may be paused for up to 24 hours.Comment reminders
Before you post a comment, you may get a reminder that’s intended to encourage respectful interactions on YouTube. This reminder shows when our system finds that your comment could be considered offensive to others. Reflect on your comment, or review our Community Guidelines before you post it.
Note: This reminder is only available for English and Spanish comments right now.
I looked into people having issues who have received these notifications and was not surprised with what I found: If you receive Community Guideline violation notifications, YouTube doesn't tell you which comment was flagged and almost never accurately interprets your comment's subject matter. The system is plagued with false positives for inappropriate or abusive material. If you unintentionally or unwittingly posted something inappropriate, there is absolutely no way for you to know what you said that was wrong and take corrective action.
What does this all mean? Well, If you're familiar with YouTube, you'll know that whenever a "feature" or policy is poorly explained, hard to get clarification on, or otherwise opaque, it often means there is a hidden mechanism or internal position at play that they don't want to be widely known.
Experiment
Over the past few months, every time I leave a comment, I close out and come back later to see if it was removed, then try to determine if certain words I used were being flagged by YouTube as inappropriate slang or dog whistle terms. However, I couldn't identify anything specific in my comments that was problematic, nor could I find any correlation between their subject matter and YouTube's apparent dislike for them.So then I just started commenting other comments verbatim to see what would happen. The single sentence drive-by-gag bot-like Top Comments that are just garbage recycled one liners that add zero value to the platform. Direct quotes from the video, "HE WAS READY FOR ALL THE SMOKE😂", "Nah bruh didn't have to do him like that ☠️", etc.
Those stay up.
Then I would occasionally post a comment I would normally post. A longform response to the subject matter of the video, thoughtful attempts at starting discussions, or actual comprehensive explanations of something. Some examples would be an interpretation of a movie/show scene, my opinion on a music album, or just literally the "thoughts" the video's creator told me to post below lmfao.
Gone.
Don't even show up in my activity history.
Conclusion
The only reasonable conclusion I have for why this is happening is that YouTube's automated content monitoring systems are inundated with parsing tremendous amounts of data and can't reasonably contend with users who regularly post long comments. On top of this, the somewhat unsupervised nature of their algorithms has led to their bots conflating longer form comments with abusive/inappropriate material for two reasons:- Abusive/inappropriate comments are typically associated with arguments, which play out in longer form, or necessitate long responses.
- The most popular and well-received comments are short.
There's your YouTube conspiracy tea for the week. Let me know your thoughts.