The self-imposed MOH from hèĺl that I don't speak to anymore
In 2013 my (F42) now husband (M38) got married. Despite having been together for 7 years, I was still a commitment-phobe and didn't find the entire planning process any fun, but I did it all.
My BFF of 20+ years was to be my MOH and another friend to be a bridesmaid.
What I didn't know at the time was that my BFF was having health and family issues and so booked a trip to Bali.
Another friend of mine (Let's call her Felica) stepped in and self-claimed the MOH title for herself and started to plan my wedding. Yes, SHE decided to plan my wedding bc I was going "too far outside the norm". I spoke to all vendors and told them to 'ignore' her instructions.
This means, she also gave me a 1950's book on how to plan my wedding and be a good wife
Lol
Anyway, and my engagement gift and then wedding gift from her was a cake for the engagement and a cake for the wedding.
I was asked what flavours I wanted, and I said Chocolate. Bc what self-respecting woman would NOT want chocolate somewhere.
I was TOLD that my cake would be three layers. Top and bottom layer will be a fruit cake, and the middle layer would be chocolate. (Remember this for later!)
The 3 days leading up to the wedding.... Hubby and I and our 3 kids had to move roughly a week before the wedding. So Felica was 'struggling' with driving 75km (Roughly a 40 min drive) to help me. She said she would drop the cake to the reception location before heading to us for hair and make-up.
A lovely friend had offered to do this for free...
The 'MOH' arrived over 45 mins late.
Hair and make-up were completed by this point. But, she got snappy and said 'No, do it. I shouldn't have to go without bc I made your cake and dropped it off."
I do see her point, but she OFFERED!
Once we were ready, the photographer started her job... The ONE request from the photographer was that NO-ONE could smoke near her (cigs) And so, amid home photos with bridal team and my kids, this woman stood right next to the photographer and sparked a smoke.
And to make matters worse... amid these images, she was scowling and frowning and looking grumpy.
I didn't say anything.
After that, the 3 of us got in the 'bridal car' to be taken to the Rose Maze location for the ceremony.
As soon as we made it 5 mins up the road, I was being yelled at by the MOH for quite a while. "Your maps won't update! Stooped thing! Why can't we use a melways? This is so f**ked."
I said something about forgetting the bottle of champagne and glasses to use on the journey.
She not only yelled at me, but my other bridesmaid as well.
HOW DARE THE BRIDESMAID FORGET!?! IT WASNT YOUR JOB, BRIDE!
The driver (my mother's boyfriend) started getting upset at the noise... and basically said 'shut-up unless you walk from here'
Anyway, my SIL had recently turned 18 and didn't really want to be in the wedding party, but wanted to be apart of the wedding.
So I said she could be my witness that signed the certificate.
On the day, my MOH started scowling and griping to everyone around her that 'I don't know why I'm the MOH if I don't do any of those tasks.'
I never ASKED her to be my MOH, in fact, she was a self-proclaimed MOH.
Anyway, after the ceremony, the photographer walked us around the gardens and rose mazes to get the best images.
First, Felica had bought platform stilletos for a wedding in a park and with stones as the path... So ofc she fell, hurt herself, then complained about the cost of the shoes to not wear them for their purpose.
As we set up for another photo, Felica starts to complain. "On MY wedding, my husband was late and didn't have a suit. On my wedding, everyone was drunk before we got there. On my wedding day, my husband shagged a stripper.
Then, with one lot of photos, the photographer actually pulled her aside to say "Stop scowling and smile. You are at a wedding, not a funeral."
Anyway, after all that, we headed to the reception location and went to sit after being introduced.
Felica made a point of saying "I made the cake, so I will handle it, ok?"
Soooooo, when bar staff approached me to ask "Do you want us to cut up the cake? The chef leaves soon."
Given what she had said, my response was; "no, my MOH said she would handle all that." And so they packed up and left.
Meanwhile, Felica had discovered the staff had left and cake was in one piece.
So, at my reception, when she realised this, I got yelled at in front my family and friends about a freaken cake.
And after a day (my special day) of being snapped at, I finally broke and snapped back as well.
Anyway, I went in to the bathrooms for my bridesmaid to help me out of my wedding dress and into a typical dress.
I did notice I hadn't seen Felica in an hour or so, and asked a few people if they had seen her.
"Yes, the took a layer off your cake and left." WTF?!
Yeah, she took my chocolate cake layer to feed to her kids at home.
Needless to say, we're not friends anymore and after the abusive emails I got over this was horrendous.
I found out later (thru her kids) that she had taken up drinking whiskey - every night
And that appears to be the place that her head was at the night before my wedding. Drunk and already annoyed.
I continued to receive emails of abuse...
10 years ago now, and I cannot FATHOM letting her back in my life
Who needs friends, lol

This discussion around the new cell phone ban is proof to me that the people of this province don't care about learning. I haven't seen anyone else call this what is an admission from the government that are schools aren't working. Most students are unengaged and board. Instead of making our schools positive places, where the curriculum and the school experience is positive, engaging and interesting, the province is going after students for cell phone use which is most cases isn't disruptive to anyone else or otherwise harmful to anyone else. Students who want to be disruptive, don't need cell phones. And people instead of calling out their disservice to our students, offering schools that are negative and boring and where some students feel unsafe, and how instead of taking responsibility, they're blaming students, and people are supporting the principle.
People are criticizing this decision because they don't think it will mean anything, but they want it to. But let's talk about what this policy will mean when it's enforced because it will be somewhere in Ontario, at some time. There going to be a student who has their phone taken away. That's not going to cause an interest in the lesson. No, it's going to lead to resentment of the teacher and cause disruption. This policy will make our problems worse. We get nothing at best, and more negativity, conflict and hostility at worse. This policy is not going to lead to more learning. There's also the issue of ableism people are raising, where this policy is unfair to people with ADHD, and unfair to people with ASD.
People who care about education should be outraged. We should be demanding our leaders fight for our children to be offered the education they deserve, which is not where they're getting. But, instead from our leaders, and I'm not just talking about the government, I mean every party, every MPP, we have them deciding that its either to hard or not worth fighting for. This is unacceptable, and the children of Ontario deserve better. But, I see no one fighting for this but me.
But, I'm also going to call out the people supporting this too. I don't see people most people coming at this from the approach that cell phones have hooked our kids like drugs, and they must be stopped. If you do believe that, then you're wrong, but your heart is in the right place. No, instead most people are acknowledging that it is the free choice of students to use their phones, and not pay attention. But, instead of having respect for students and their property, they want them to be treated as lesser, because I know you'd never accept this treatment yourself. You have no empathy for students and do not care if they are learning. I do not know what motivates this hatred, but that's what it is, hatred of our children.
To those wondering how our schools got this way, where it all went wrong. I think I can answer that for you. Our schools became about accounting and numbers, and instead of working to solve real problems, all that mattered is making the problems disappear. Decades ago, there were warning signs when 10% people started leaving schools without their diplomas. Instead of asking why, they asked how can we avoid recording this problem. Simple, ban dropping out. That's the response to problems. Combined with a lack of respect for students, and we have a school system that's lost its vision. Instead of a positive environment for learning, with interested and engaged students, we have a place where people will do anything they can to suppressing knowledge of the problems, even if it means trampling over the rights of students.

I am having a hard time deciding what to do for my baby shower. These are my two options

1. Have the baby shower on a Saturday at a community centre and invite everyone to my house nearby (2 mins drive away) for a pool party with their kids and spouses plus enjoy a bbq/drinks afterwards.
   
2. Have the baby shower on a Sunday at a community centre and that’s it.
   

This would either be on August 24th or 25th. So it is asking for everyone’s saturday in the summer. I know people can have plans at the cabin or lake, or going to the beach, or wedding or prior engagements and that Sundays are usually free so maybe more people could make it if it’s on a Sunday? What sounds better? I’m so torn on what to do! What do you think friends/family would prefer?

I (33F) have been dating my (38M) for 10 months. About 6 months into our relationship a new woman started working out at his gym where he spends 2 hours a day, 6 days a week. When he initially told me about this woman he said there is this hot woman at the gym that could be interesting for 3 some, which yes we have talked about. However, when she met him he said there was a lot of heavy flirting and she didn't know about me. Their friendship progressed into long conversations and messages on Instagram talking about their common interests. I told him I was feeling uncomfortable about the interactions and that maybe I would feel more comfortable if I met her. He continued coordinating workouts and their friendship progressed. One day I called him after work and he was headed to a one-on-one dinner with the same woman I had told him I was feeling uncomfortable about. I got upset and told him after they finished dinner my feelings were hurt and I didn't feel like he was respecting my boundaries. He told me I should have told him right away and he would have left. A few days later my dog was at his house and we were both going to be gone a long time. He asked one of my friends if she could go by and let her out as she has done on several other occasions. She didn't respond right away so without asking or telling me reached out to the woman I was uncomfortable with and asked her. He then told me while I was at work that my friend would be going by and said nothing about the other woman. After work, I met him at a movie and he disclosed both had gone over. I was extremely upset and felt super disrespected. I did end up meeting her a few days later and it didn't help my anxiety. I told him I understood he enjoyed working out with her but asked if he could keep their friendship to just gym partners and cut back on communication outside of the gym. I thought everything was agreed upon and moved on. A few months later I got a message from my friend who also goes to the gym and said they were heavily flirting. I asked him about it and it turned into him inviting her over so we could have a “meeting” I expressed my concerns, and she cried and said she understood where I was coming from. After that, she asked my boyfriend if this meant they could start going to dinner together and stuff together which he responded let’s just take working out together as a win. The following days consisted of her telling my boyfriend about her going to a swinger orgy, telling him she got a nickname at the party, and that her hip flexors were sore. He skipped a workout with her so she said now I'm going to make you wait to hear the details. She brought up the party 5 days in a row. Talked about the guy now wanting to have a relationship with her and then today told him she was going to another party. Oh, she is also recently divorced. I told him I was very uncomfortable with her frequency and her need to tell him about her sex life and asked him not to talk to her about sex anymore. He said I was being controlling and made a comment about me being sensitive and maybe it wouldn't have hurt me if I didn't know about it. He then said not to invalidate his feelings by saying I didn't feel like I was being unreasonable by asking him to set boundarieseith her. AITA for asking him to set boundaries with this woman?

I'm 21 years old and I'm from Hungary, Central Europe (timezone CET).
Appearance wise I'm around 160 cm tall(about 5,2 - 5,3?) and chubby/fat. I'm really pale. I have brown eyes and dark brown hair.
As for my personality I’m an INFP. I'm sensitive (I can and will cry at anything). I'm an introvert. I'm kind of unhinged I can also be awkward and annoying sometimes (This is a warning). I'm childfree, monogamous, an occasional drinker and I don't smoke. Also I'm way too clumsy to be around fragile masculinity so keep that in mind.
My hobbies are drawing/doodling, watching movies/shows/game playthroughs/ect, reading (books/fanfics/graphic novels) and playing video games.
Some things that I like are my bed, raccoon & opossum memes, cats and puns.
Some things that I don't like are bugs & spiders (I'm scared of them), big crowds and loud noises.
What I would like my future partner (because we’re cowboys obviously🙄) to be like:
My age range is 18-25 (maybe older). Monogamous, Childfree (aka doesn't have any kids and doesn't want any in the future), Non smoker.
Either is an introvert or at least okay with me being one. Preferably has the same or a similar time zone as me (negotiable). Can make me smile and laugh, make me feel comfortable and safe when I'm with them. Lets me info dump about whatever I'm obsessed with at the moment. Lets me call them/calls me cute pet names.
And I think that's about it. If you're interested feel free to DM me.

Ok need some advice, 24F just got back into the serving industry again after 3 years of dealing with my mental health first and I’ve had this job for about almost 6 months. I got the busy section as most of the time I do, our manager wasn’t letting us use hand held tablets because someone didn’t return one the night before. I really didn’t think he was gonna go through with it so when I kept getting sat it was a little difficult because all of us had to use the computers as the tablets send it straight to the kitchen. I had gotten a 23 top. Instead of being understanding my manager expected me to input the orders without the tablet but it was a party that big I think the tablet would have been so much better and this problem wouldn’t have happened. So I messed up a lot of the orders because the tablets are my key to my work performance. It’s just so much easier. Instead of lending me one in the first place he had another server help out. Obviously I knew she was going to end up getting the whole tip. So he finally let me borrow the thing when it was too late. So he yelled at me in front of everyone saying I can’t take the 50s anymore because I kept messing up the orders. I never mess up until he took them away that day. I was so humiliated because it’s not the first time he yells at me like this about my work performance. I do my best to give it my all to get his approval or for him to just comment on how I’m doing. He has worked at other restaurants don’t want to say names but 🦉 🧡 Lol and so I didn’t think that was fair especially feeling all the tension in the restaurant so once I finished putting the dishes in the back I came back, different manager told me that if I wanted to just go home or what I planned on doing because they gave my section to another server instead without even letting me know. I was so mad and embarrassed I just wanted to go home. They had me pay for the food that they didn’t pay for and I still put the tips I had which was only $13 but I only came home with $4. I don’t think it was fair that he was gossiping about me and the mistakes I made even the cooks just said my name and that I’m always fucking up something. I knew I was going to mess up without that device but now he is denying my trades with other servers that want to trade afternoons with me and I don’t think it’s fair he still has me scheduled 5 days a week and I think I he just took advantage of me and I want to know what I can do before I look stupid bringing it up to him or another manager if I could. I still think he shouldn’t have done that when the day before that I did just fine and the other times before that. Do you think he did it on purpose to make it difficult for me?

This is not a city building game, this is not Banished 2.
City builder is just half of the game, the other half is combat. Both sides completement each other, a big city has people, money, and materials for you to field an army and the army can kill bandits for Influence and Gold for the city to grow faster.
If you are playing a game mode that has combat you HAVE to engage in combat otherwise the AI is going to grow unchecked, if you want to only engage with the city building side you can play a game mode that doesnt have combat.
People are complaining that the game is hard but most of the time its because they turtle around their city and dont leave not even to kill bandits, just a single bandit is 250-300 influence and 150-200 gold. You can claim a territory just by killing 3 bandits and building a church which gives 250 influence on its own. The best event in the game is to be attack by 4 bandit raiders, thats 1200 influence aka a free territory claim.

I had to back out as I found a work opportunity in another state and the company threw our lease into collections. It has been on my credit report ever since and has been hurting me financially ever since when looking for a place to rent, and hurting now as I am starting to look for my first home to buy.
I will try to be as descriptive as possible but concise. Two friends and I started the process in locking down our next housing situation very well before our current lease was up. (started process in ~February and new lease was to begin in August). We found a unit through a university affiliated building in a major US city. We started the process to sign the lease - we had to pay an application fee (but it was waived by the leasing agent), we needed grantors (we all used our parents - though, in my case, my parent took their time to sign the grantor paperwork and it never ended up being submitted to the leasing agent), and finally the contract (which was the lease).
We all were rushed by the leasing agent to sign because the waived application fee only lasted a few days to a week if I remember correctly. So my friends got their grantor's signatures and signed the lease and i signed the lease as well. At this point, a few days go by and I figured out that I would actually have to move away from the city because i got a better job prospect in another state. I notified my friends and we went to the leasing agent to notify that we have to cancel the lease. They said we are not allowed to cancel. We stated our case mentioning that the lease doesn't start for 5 months from then, we are giving ample time to find new tenants etc. My two friends are more well off than me so their families hired a lawyer, but the lawyer ended up not doing anything.
Fast forward to the lease start date in August 2017, the very first week the lease started, we all received letters that the total lease amount that we were each obligated to was sent to 3rd party collections. I believe the statute of limitation is 7 years so this August I am anticipating this to fall off my credit report which will be a relief of a lifetime. However, I still want to ask anyone in here who happens to specialize in this sort of area for advice on what can possibly be done about this.
(I wish i could sue the company for predatory behavior or something and get some kind of justice. I know i signed a contract and i am liable for that but i was also a college kid and was rushed and everything else.)

In his very first post on the Kitco forum, October 5, 1997, Another wrote "gold and oil can never flow in the same direction". This was a major theme in his writings. To understand Another is to understand what is going on with the gold market now. And in that spirit I have written a short story that will hopefully help you understand this first important message from Another:
Many decades ago the Saudi King realized his barren kingdom was sitting on a gold mine. Only it wasn't gold, it was oil. From his high perch as king, he was able to see the wide and very long view of the world, way off into the future. He saw a future filled with many riches, but he also knew that those oil reserves under foot were only finite cavities of value. As a king, he knew the workings of money and fiat currencies. He knew that the Western World needed his oil treasure, but he didn't want to exchange it for only paper. He wanted to turn his virtual "gold mine" into an actual pile of gold.
Back then, the paper which paid for the oil was redeemable for gold directly from the US Treasury. So there was no problem. He would take the paper and then turn it in for gold. Later, after much inflation, the US Treasury defaulted on the promise of gold. Chaos ensued for almost 10 years. The price of both oil and gold skyrocketed and there were long lines at the gas pumps. For this kingdom was only willing to trade it's finite supply of oil for an equally finite store of value, gold. And without a secured source of gold at a stable price, the oil wells just didn't have the incentive to run at peak production.
Then in the early 1980's, the markets were brought back under control. A secret deal was cut between the King and a few very high, and very powerful leaders in the West. These leaders probably included central bank chairmen and top level leaders in the US and the UK. The Western World was on it's way to world domination, both financially and militarily, but to maintain this power it needed cheap oil. The Kingdom was a good way through it's reserves of oil, and to part with this valuable commodity, the King needed the promise of an equally scarce store of value, gold. So the deal was that oil would be shipped to the West in exchange for dollars AND gold. The dollar price of oil would be kept low as long as the much more valuable gold could be had for those same low costs. The central bank's involved in the deal guaranteed this to the King by backing up the deal with their own vast stores of golden bars.
But these top bankers, like the King himself, were not as dumb as they may seem. In fact, they were the best and the brightest, for they knew that the true value of gold was probably somewhere around $50,000 per ounce in today's dollars. And that was the value of oil to the King as well. His oil reserves might only last his kingdom a mere century, but if he traded it for gold, not dollars, he would enjoy the wealth of his treasure for 1,000 years or more.
The central banks that backed this deal with their own gold NEVER intended to give the King any of their precious treasure. They knew they had a way around that. By using the open markets which traded paper contracts for gold, they could keep the price of gold down to $300 per ounce and the public would be none the wiser. Then, the King with his $30 per barrel of oil could buy future gold delivery straight out of the mines in backroom deals for a premium of perhaps 100% (which is a guess). So for 20 years, vast amounts of gold flowed from the West to the Middle East for maybe $600 per ounce (twice the spot price on COMEX at the time), and those sales were hidden from the price discovery exchanges so as not to affect the price, and the oil flowed to the west freely, at the seemingly cheap price of $30 per barrel. But in reality, the King was getting one ounce of gold for 20 barrels of oil, and if gold is really worth $50,000 an ounce, that's a price of $2,500 a barrel.
So who is paying that price? In a way, all of us are. The mines are making a profit for what they pull out of the ground. They are getting twice the cost of mining. That's a good profit. But the gold in the ground under us is flowing east, while the oil in the ground in the kingdom is flowing west. So who is getting the better part of this deal? I say the King is.
Sure, we have seen unprecedented prosperity for 30 years now. But that is about to end. On the other hand, the King has seen 50 years of amazing prosperity and is looking forward to another 950 years of extreme prosperity. You see, once the oil runs out, the kingdom does not become poor. In fact, that is when the party really begins! They have sold to the West 30 or 40 years of prosperity in exchange for a thousand years of unimaginable wealth.
Then, around 1997, some big money in the Far East became aware of this bargain on gold. But they couldn't get in on the back room deals that traded large amounts of physical without affecting the price. So they had to accumulate physical on the open market which started to drive the price up. This started the 10 year rise in the price of gold..... and oil! For now that the King has to pay more for his gold, we have to pay more for his oil.
And somewhere along the way, too much physical gold was heading east, both to the desert and to the great wall, and the mines could not cover it. This threatened a default in the paper gold price discovery markets used by the Central Banks to protect their own gold reserves. So they were faced with the option of either watching the whole monetary system crash, or parting with some of their own gold. They finally had to ship some of their precious treasure to the King. After that near disaster, they fought the markets even harder, with larger and larger short positions. But now, at this very time, they (the Central Bank's) have maybe half the gold they once had, and they have probably the largest short positions ever too. So they are standing right on the edge of a cliff, holding the end of a rope that's trying to pull them over.
It won't take much for this deal to fall apart. And when it does, we'll see the price of gold go up to probably $5,000 an ounce and then all trading will stop. No market will exist for gold at it's true value. For those that have all the gold in their possession are only buying, not selling. Oil will skyrocket too... if it flows west at all. This is coming, and soon. Buy gold. Hold gold. It only has to meet it's true price once in a lifetime and that will be more than worth the wait. I believe this is not a once in a lifetime opportunity right now, but possibly a once in the history of the world opportunity. Silver, platinum, commodities... they may all do well. But nothing will come close to the true value of gold. $50,000 an ounce may even be low. – FOFOA
ANOTHER (THOUGHTS!): The Inside Story on the Gold-for-Oil Deal that could Rock the World's Financial Centers:
https://www.usagold.com/goldtrail/archives/another1.html

just another person throwing hope out into this virtual void. def not addicted to this reddit love lootbox. and def not yearning for that grand prize of finding you, the lifetime supply of someone to sit next to and play animal crossing with. that endless supply of spending time with your best friend and soulmate with all the cuddles, affection and even, if you're feeling saucy, some hand holdage.
anyways I'm an introverted earth sign that wants nothing more than to stay in bed all day (or night rather since I'm a nightshift nightowl). I'm really boring tbh but some of my interests include hockey, chasing creativity, cute animal videos, collecting nerd shit, punk and metal music, sarcasm and overthinking. I don't party and im alcohol free (pretty lame I know). Not a cat person and kids are a big no.
as an ice breaker tell me what really grinds your gears or your include your favorite animal crossing villager in your message. bonus points if you're a creative and bonus bonus points if you recognize the song lyric in the title. hope to hear from you soon

Hi,
I tried to beat Rulers before my hard mode and tried a variety of strats and found it frustrating due to the RNG I experienced in the battle. I found the Brumal form strategies the most effective because they have a much shorter attempt time than others. Even so I just couldn't get the right sequence worked out on Sephiroth so I decided to go collect books and make my weapons stronger but in doing so I also decided to take the build that I was using and use it in my play through.
The final build I got to is based on this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mk4qkhoiyTs
That video used ceremonial rod which gets 6 materia slots when it is maxed out but I did not have max weapons so I made it work with Plumose Rod and made a couple tweaks to this build that makes various things more stable and once I did those changes I beat it in 3 or 4 tries taking 3:52 min.
I don't have max weapons so can't use ceremonial rod but I made it work with Plumose Rod and made a couple tweaks to this build that makes various things more stable and once I did those changes I beat it in 3 or 4 tries taking 3:52 min. I marked the changes with a bold

Cloud

• Weapon: Lightning+HP Absorb Lightning+MP Absorb Empowerment Luck up Gilgamesh
• Bracer: Lightning+Magnify Lightning+Magic Focus Time+Magnify HP UP ATB Stagger
• Acc: Chocoking's Cape

Yuffie

• Weapon: Vitality Up Vitality Up Spirit Up Spirit Up HP UP Steadfast Block
• Bracer: Fire+Elemental Speed Up ATB Stagger ATB Assist ATB Boost
• Acc: Speed Demon Keychain

Aerith

• Plummose Rod Weapon: Fire & Ice+Swiftcast Fire+HP Absorb Magic Up HP UP Bracer: Fire+MP Up Fire+Magic Focus Fire+Magnify First-Strike Auto-Unique Ability

Also make sure that you buy the corresponding elemental attack nodes in the weapon ability grid which buff your elemental attacks.
I made Aerith the leader, Cloud Second and Yuffie third (so switch sequence is Aerith > Yuffie > Cloud)
I used the following sequence: (exceptions noted for specific rounds)

• Immediately ATB Ward and switch to Yuffie and move to the side
• Cast Haste on all with Cloud (this is a massive increase to tempo such that sephiroth never was able to attack)
• Spam Brumal Form with Yuffie
• Get Arcane Ward up (you can do could and let Aerith use Auto Unique Weapon but cloud will move out anyway so for speed critical fights just put it on Aerith)
• Cloud casts Faith on just Aerith (She is the big DPS and cloud will cap 9999 on stagger anyway)

Notes:

• follow the video's advice for AOE vs single target
• Round 1: No need to cast stop on Kujata. Once you swap to Yuffie you can just kite a little as needed.
• Round 2: Runing Yuffie a bit further to the side helps avoid some BS.
  • Target Titan with AOE so if they spread out you prioritize burning Titan
• Round 3:
  • If you don't get Odin close enough to just use single target and you may even stagger > annihilate Odin.
  • When Odin is dead or gone switch back to AOE until one arm is gone
• Round 4:
  • Switch off Aerith immediately to Yuffie and run to the side.
  • Once you see agro on you, Make Aerith cast ATB ward on Yuffie and Have Cloud cast group haste.
  • Once you get off your first spells Gilgamesh will be toast pretty fast
• Round 5:
  • Cast ATB Ward
  • Immediately Switch to Yuffie and start dodging Get Cloud to cast haste (skip bravery and Arcane ward)
  • When ATB Ward lands start spamming Brumal
  • As soon as cloud or Aerith fill up 2 ATB, hammer Sephiroth with single target spells.
  • If both are at 2 ATB cast Aerith first since she has speed cast.
  • With party haste this cadence will chain stun him
  • When he gets to half hit him one more time with cloud and wait for the affinity change and do blizagga with Aerith
  • Continue rotation and he will die fast ^\^)

If you are still having trouble and have not played through hard mode, I would load up this build and swap swiftcast to cloud and play through the chapters. You will need to swap out elements and sometimes put other modifiers in for specific fights. This will give you a chance to learn the rotation and understand it, which will help you beat it. In my case I collected more books
There are a few bosses that are good models for Sephiroth like the fish boss in Junon where they do a disable party member attack. I credit my getting some experience with this rotation to beating it in less than an hour and figuring out th
Hope this helps others where were frustrated as heck with this.

I recently had to properly kick my first ever player, things got a little intense between us for it and well left me on the all sorts of spectrum of emotions sides. I just had to get both feelings and my logic for the reasons for this removal of at the start, a good player and good guy and character that.. to me just started to not be. Maybe to just vent out, maybe to see if I was justified, but also to hope that, if there were points I didnt see or think of at the time that someone can help me think better if a scenario ever bubbles up like this, I have a better headspace to go about things right.
To start, I am more or less a newby forever DM (1 oneshot game to my belt under as a player), my current running campaign is only my second, going 2 years strong now. Its been bumpy recently do to my work schedule last few months but we are nearly up to our 100th session together and things have begun to heat up story wise and excitement wise by my players. Everything's in the story is homebrew more or less, both my own works and others I found and my players bring up to me.
At the start of the game, I had 5 starting players, and the one in question was one of them. We lost a few of them, first sadly I more suggested he leave, as much as he wanted to play, it was to the point he was playing while traveling via busses, planes and others (he traveled alot for his daily life events he couldnt get out of) an never mentioned when these would happen. That went smooth, we were both polite and I wasnt upset with them, just upset a good player like him will have hard times with finding a table. Better ways, would have been having a blast with them to this day. The second was starting to act up, I had to shoot him down a bit hard at times, more so when a new player, a girl, joined up an he started being a bit inappropriate and not act like the character he told me he would be. After I started blocking his more chaotic antics, he pretty much ghosted the group all together. Our third player who left is more on a prolonged hiatus cause of his work schedule, but he keeps in contact. So as far as the original party goes there are only two, with the first whom replaced our enthusiastic but unable to stay with us player being 'Miss 3 1/2's'.
With most of that out of the way, I can get onto the player in question. Again, he was there from the start, only second in my player search to start this campaign. Wanting to play a neutral good paladin who grew up a simple farmers life and was on a life walk-about to enrich himself before his turn to take over the family farmlands. At the start things were bit fine, he showed a general interest to hooks that kinda developed in the intro fight, making some good goofy aspects with his character and interactions and at least at first, an interest to some of the things in the world at the time. But looking back, I did likely trust him with a bit much, the other characters likewise were very 'go with teh flow' but they liked to investigate and get into things outside the city that they were given slight hero titles to after the start of things. With him though, he did 'actively' have his character go to get the town effective 'quest board' and ask around if people needed help with things... and.. not tell the other PC's about it or try an start the missions or plots.
While in itself it wasnt 'bad' people also trusted him a bit as 'the note taker' at first, so maybe we just expected him to go into things later or something, but, this became something I was concerned of with him on it. I mentioned his own story progression aspects from the start of the game, well, when given a lead that would let him undo a poor families ailment he showed interests too with time to go at least check it.. he suddenly invented a sister for his character.. who was getting married, back in his home country, that they 'had' to visit right then an there.
He had been vague about his characters history, he may have mentioned a sister 'in passing' but nothing ever set in stone besides his Grandfather being the true head of the farm and his dad. Not even anything about his characters mother, an now suddenly he wanted to spend a week or two travel via air ship to go see a 'new fiance' on top of it. I admit, I wasn't too happy but I also didnt outright pull him to the side to talk about that. Mark against me I know.
But it kind of worked out, as because no one could do much since he was kinda blocking the group from reaching the intended quest givers that he swore he would get with (2 of the other remaining characters at the time mostly had their stuff working on things they were trying to do that wasnt too crazy but at least progressed their characters in ways). And Miss 3 1/2 wasnt sure of her character at the time so played a temp one to feel out being another class and style for a bit. It helped her bloom a little. They ended up helping another little quest idea i had for halloween, late it was, but had fun with it an great action. But do to how that took an bad dice rolls which I do no flub or such, they got sidetracked from things an had to go back to go onto a quest 3 1/2 got them to.. an he wasnt exactly actively happy or doing the quest (guard a noblewoman on a quest to one of the countries for buisness matters. Kinda.. avoided the woman in weird ways.. like trying to push the hotel cooks asideto 'show them how its done'..).
When the crew finished with it, it was with another teaser to quest lines he was kinda pinning the group with. Again unfortunately the rest were 'kinda' okay with his choice on it but they were doing a bit more to be active now so it wasnt likely to work out for long. Around this time is when 'Work Haitus' had to sadly step away, so i started to put feelers out for new players again. During this time, he was still kinda pulling back on things as best he could, but he started to show a.. interesting trait. He wanted to start 'grinding' for EXP.. without going into the literal forest where some creatures could be faught, instead, he went to the city coliseum. Now this was explained since session one, I dont give any real EXP for fights there, quit literally if you have a fun sparing match or a more rough bloody match in it against a tamed or caught creature or class person, you'll only end up with 1 xp point. I did this cause I heard of a number of stories of 'those' players showing up, going to fight pits to make themselves stronger an not bother with rp time stuff. But I also tweaked it, so you could make bets for yourself, and the boon of prize and noterity (IE, people start being more favorable to you, seek you out that sort of stuff.. which considering he had so many 'hidden to activate quests' at this point wouldnt have mattered either way). He very quickly stopped after his 2nd or so solo attempt and made a passing comment on being upset of it. I overlooked that time.
During this, the entire party collectively was sought out, as the city knew 'all of them' roughly, so no reason only someone looking to the quest board would be involved alone. They were given a new quest by a neighboring kingdom, to deal with monsters they had ties with from the start as an already active side-story plot. He kinda 'backed' a bit into doing his characters 'im off to clean the broom closet' antics during some of this.. alot.. so looking back it feels he was upset not only was he not 'in charge' of getting the quests, but that the whole party agreed to be invovled with it regardless of anything else. I did try to bring him bback in, by having that Sister and her Fiance appear to meet them since he couldnt make the meeting.
There was some .. issues.. he kinda started to instantly mistrust the fiance, he litterally used 'every' detection spell he had on them trying to sus if they were demon, enregy or otherwise. An more or less ignored the sister even when she asked him his plans on things.. an since he 'left the sibling things to me besides she pranks him maybe' he didnt seem thrilled that she was upset the 'Lord title' brother, who won plots of land in this country an was going to open, I kid you not, an 'Pizzaria Inn petting zoo pet super plant farm forge and factory' on said plot of land with 'secret super caves our befriended monster friend will terraforming for us'. Short version of the monster thing.. monster had no such ability and at best had very tiny cute versions of itself digging out the cave, one pebble at a time.. this is when i noticed he sort of 'half' listened to details given.
I will admit, I wanted to have a moment where the sister was going to become some sort of 'rival', if she couldnt find way to convince the older men who are currently running the farm that big bro might have more important things to do as 'a Lordship hero paladin' maybe its time to break 'the men run the farm' tradition. In character he was warned 'she really wants your farm, and as someone whose seen people go extremes maybe you should reach out to her so its not so bad an no bad blood has to happen'... he kinda took it that she wants him dead, sorta. Took a bit with the informer to correct it.
He .. 'kinda' tried to 'make it up to her' i think by baking her favorite pie an admittedly as a nice act gave her his holly symbol which was the family's given by grandpa to him.. no biggy as the city hade a temple of his goddess to get a replacement soo.. yeah. Honestly I did talk with him a little on it.. but this is when another aspect started being apparent.
I hadnt mentioned, but I am not a fan of no call no show specially when we had a constant schedule, he had a few, but 'did' sorta apologize, at first. We do everything discord and roll20, so when he starts to not appear i would '@' the group and then '@' via DM's, and there maybe 'weeks' to 'months' if theres nothing 'important' to talk to me about response wise. And at the start of those times he started missing alot. An also, not apologizing or saying why. He doesnt always have to I know, but given we were having fewer players, wed have sudden 'we cant plays' cause it was 2 people only..
Then, we get introduced to not one or two but three new players. I kinda worried with them being prior friends and click group but its been working out for most part. Timing for ones admittedly stunk, an their on a personal leave Im not faulting but having their character background for now. They show up, an their characters, well starting at high level for at least 2 fresh faces an one long term one is a little odd, but its been fun. They instantly get into their characters mindsets, weird quirks that fit their upbringings and own style of things, but they also work as a functional communicating and asking questions group with slight airs of 'they are not lower class but deal with both from the noble side of things' air to them. Again its worked out, given they lost a litter hard hitter the three work great.
As the plot went, they were actually being lured away by a group who they helped bust antics an get called out on it in the city, the bait was just 'oh it might be the same type of monster you guys are looking for who might eat an entire city', done via a modified memory spell on the patsy. They were lead to a campsite the badguys set up to be a kill/trap spot.. It was a bit rough with things, but the group was doing 'amazingly' well. But I had an even bigger surprise for everyone, to take our game to a new level an give a 'big' meaty plot hook to hype and put every character on an equal 'i dont know anyone around here/dont have the same resources you do' foot from how the characters went, as an idea to build their bonds.
The trap, got ambushed, by a big honken monster I teased the first players with barely into session 4 that was a corps but came back. An this thing was a beast, CR minimal 20+ an higher (i suck at figuren the maths) but yeah, it was 'not' a winnable fight they could escape from that even the badguys said 'truce till were not monster food???'
It blew apart the trap-badguys, an sent the PC's hurdling into a space that was supost to be instant death, but plot armor I intended for em saved them if only 'barely' but now, their in ' a ocean like space between the outter realm and multi realms', with faint contact by the holly characters gods saying 'theres a way back, you must return'. including to the Paladin an 3 1/2 (who is cleric).. and honestly, everyones raved to me about it.. but looking back agian, given lack of Paladins communications 'out' of his appearances in game.. he hasnt said much, unless someone else starts it..an even then its.. barely a sentence..
The players were picked up by 'friendly pirates' an have been discovering things and gaining new strengths.. least, most of them again. 3 1/2 really bounded with the new NPC's an been expanding their character (shes been very creative that way an shes really gotten into the player bug, im sooo happy i could get her into the hobby) the new players had their growths too, the full slightly higher brow noble of them has come to terms 'hes mortal an can die, but people need his strength' too, as well as 'living is hard.. their not just 'dirty' or something by chance its just the efforts of their brow' to the sorceress of his friends being delighted to be sailing the seas with quirky merman, turtle an other type pirates with treasures an jerks to kick in the seat of the pants. Even the other first player has tried new character aspects, trying to be a 'new version' of himself till an event happened (which he half told me of, but it was more workable then 'sudden sister quest').
But.. paladin has been a bit more missing an sadly we have had spotty game times cause this is when my own work schedule has been bad. An again, he never gets back or says 'oh sorry cant make it' or whatever happened. I brought up a bit ago about his passing remarks of the exp thing for this point to make, he doesnt like to have his character have much of my homebrew stuff.. despite how many treasures hes had that hes just gone 'i sell it' or 'eh if you want it take it dont want it' that has been (a) a plot starter, or (b) a pretty handy if maybe OP item, hes just passed them off even from session z where I give every player chances to pick a unique thing for their character that helps tie them to the world. He opted out of it, an through everything they have done an gathered.. hes held onto a grand total of 2 homebrew things.. a sword, that after a 'certin point' he used as his hexblade warlock focus point with his goddess also being his patron, and 'one' spell that I had to reach out to offer him, well, technically '2' spells. One that he could use to turn a mundane object into a powerful magic weapon, an a ritual spell that he needs to cast to regain uses of the other spell.
The reason this ties to the EXP block from the coliseum bit, is because as part of the ritual to regain usages, he has to create a small 'choke point' of a ritual spell ring to fight an unending horde of monsters that the spell summons to fight just him. Now, the monsters are extremely low level, like 1/4 cr, an they wont try an kill him, as the ritual ends when hes KO'ed. It took a bit before he had to properly cast it in ession (big surprise, had him recharging it on some of the missing day's of his). But when eh did, an he finished it, he did instantly ask 'how much exp to i get?' an kinda grew hushed when I said 'you.. get your six usages of your spell back?'. I.. low key wonder if he wanted to try an use it as a cheat to grind or something..
This also does not help that, just prior, 3 1/2 managed to do our 'biggest' damage in a single round during a hord fight, literally between her spells an a new weapon with some seriously amazing rolls, did over 200 hp of damage on her own. To the point she KO'ed the boss monster leader. granted it was with a smart play and some literal crit hits, but thats when his vibe for games started kinda feeling off big time. An come now, to the more recent events before the kick..
I had a rare day off i could have a game completely unhindered, an we agreed to all have it.. sadly starter 2 forgot the US has Daylights saving, so we did loose an hour for him getten outta work. Eh it happens. An sadly the new 3 didnt get to join in so it was an agreed on one shot. Well, that 'was' the idea..
When we started.. when we 'could' have started, I gave them the quick plot of how they got to this place (this all happened just before the event with the pirates so they had their stuff but meta'ed they were still their current levels). Now, Im loose with my own OS's, so I used a module i bought that looked fun an it was interesting. I did have to build a bunch of rough doubles of the maps, since turns out the PDF didnt want to let me get the pics right at the time, so wasnt focusing too much on some details but for key point ones. Its important for later. But anwyay after the basic 'you did a hero thing an was invited to a small isle city by its noble ruler who has big parties every week an your the guests of honor', you know the usual kinda crud. Well i started to get into the start of it, about to go to details of the maps location.. when he, stopped me an blocked me to go 'oh i climb the building or whatever to get that gun!'.....there was unfortunately an image of a gun on the part of the token i used to build the maps clocktower..didnt notice it.. he sure did.. an kinda derailed me a bit more..reminder, we were an hour late into session.
I managed to get back on track, the security at the start of the party line stoppen the crew an saying 'sorry its a costume party, dont worry we always have spares, pick one' an they got to pick a set of masks for themselves. They rolled to take turns, he got first dibs, an picked one he 'really liked', but I do kinda wonder cause my tag name relates to what it was.. Well, I sent them the screenshot of the masks an their effects as an item/equip card... he started to.. get sour sounding.
In prior in between an pre game times, hes mentioned hes.. not exactly a fan of alot of stuff. Even some of the oldest movies an comics that are still being made now an are big on fandoms, hes got zero interests or cares for.. an on troupes, he is not big on mysteries. An sadly, the mask gave him an ability thats great in discovering secrets...
Well, I started to bring one of the moduels NPC's to start pointing out details, give them some hook bits an background to what goes on normally in the city... and.. he used that one use ability to check if she liked her mask.. literally stepping the entire conversation, then walked away to break into that clocktower.. that had the guns on it..
3 1/2 an second 1'st decided 'lets try an get on with the actual story regardless' an tried to go to the party which they did, trying to get him to come with too, crossing the small castle bridge to get to there an start mingling as they do.. paladin did 'eventually'.. but first he shimmied the bridge to use up his stealth abilities from the mask... then when 3 1/2 noticed, tried to get him to come in, he... started climbing to the top of the castle wall..
His character, never acted like this, in any OS we had before or in game before. Second 1'st did do a little weird, but it was stuff his character was infamous for, but not good for the long run. I admit.. I lost my cool, I didnt shout, yell, or otherwise.. but at this point, from when we 'late started', to paladins 3'rd athletic roll to scale the building he was invited for, we had lost over 2 hours of our usual session time an it was very apparent he was really not going to act like the character we were accustomed to.. so I said, 'sorry guys, see you next time'.. admittedly, I did kinda vent in our group chat text wise.. I was pretty upset an tired i cant lie on this, i had spent very early hours on the maps an looking over to familair most of the thing as best i could while having lack of sleep beforehand. But, I basically just said, if you dont feel up to a game please just say so cause putting all that time en effort for even a one shot was time an tiring thing an just frankly kinda rude antics for no reason just hurt.... didnt use cures or otherwise but that was about it..
It did help that, the group reached out to me about it, even both our Hiatus ones.. everyone but Paladin who kinda went back to basic no coms with me pretty much like norm.. he kinda missed a few more sessions between then to now.. so lets get to what became the last straws of the DM..
So, in the 'undersea' places, the crew realized that, the party had something they could use with their nations rulers to try an breach peace with the races that was locking everyone up in this space between the multiverse, to escape some big dangers thats happening here. This thing was second 1'sts 'tie in starting choice' i gave the first party options too an hes loved ever since, giving his character a level of importance. Of course there is the risk the guys could go 'we dont need 'them' for just 'that'. but thankfully its the nicer space sea folks side so thankfully its all negotiations. I rolled beforehand to see what outcome would happen.. not the best roll but it was one with surprising good results but the meeting was postponed with the intended target cause.. well the system got fragged as they sent the unintended invite back to the outer realms and their time slot to reach out to there was lost. So the party an the friendly pirate captain npc buddy was told 'come back in several months well try again'. The captain was telling the leaders 'oh sure no problem' while giving a 'if we dont find you guys a way back to your side of the world to stop that big bad monster for good first 'wink' to them..
An paladin.. confronted an tried telling the nation guys the details in a... weird way. I really dont know how to explain how he said it it still sounds weird to me. But he basically wanted too.. convince the nation that 'the party' could end all their troubles.. against a hord of demons an undeads effectively 'not understanding' the monster that threw them here was not one of the creatures in question. Which even after i pointed out 'if he couldnt do more than 13 points of damage to that thing, how would he think he can beat the monster he 'thinks' made it?'... which on that matter, he was told multiple times it wasnt.
Well, the rest of the gang tried to talk reason to him, even pull him aaway.. an i had made split choice of the captain decided to put a 'command bracelet' on him, effectively 'if you fight the order given you get zapped an paralyzed'. telling him 'please stop an lets talk about this somewhere 'safe'... because the party and them werent safe..
People in the sea space place, dont like people 'from their side' not that any survive coming down to there. Again, they survived via their plot armor's they dont even fully get yet. With the leadership litterally saying to him before the captain dragged him to the doors a bit 'let them hang for all we care'...
Well, paladin passed the check against the paralyze effect (again, i give honest rolls unless absolutely necessary which i dont like doing..) an.. he had his character chop his hand off, use every will save till he passed the players spells an use his tp abilities to get out of any grapple an ran into the building to more or less brow beat the leaders into listening to him...I made a choice as the captain npc... an ran for the ship to get the heck out before his crew would be arrested an maybe killed for hiding the PC's, an the other PC's likewise, ran for the hills too with them saying 'your mad if you do this'..
That is where that session ended, he made a passing comment 'guess ill reroll a character for the time being'... an he never showed up for the following one despite knowing 3 weeks in advance..though it turns out he 'did' roll stats for a character after I left the chat an roll20... an 'then' designed his character... which at first i was iffy but gave him a sheet to fill in to go ahead an start worken it, not knowing he had pre existing stat rolls for it or clearing that with me.. something I dont like..
Well, cant say i fault him for not knowing this, none of them did.. but there was a planned event for the city they were in. After the 'meeting the outsiders' event, they were going to be there during a siege by the monsters the leaders were worried about. I had the mechanics that, theyd get swarmed by mooks they could likely kill in a round or two at worst with a few higher level front line commanders thrown in, for each one of these theyd get a -5 to around -15 against a d100 roll (which I infamously roll low on all the time) on how much the city gets damaged up (multiple of the results for fyi), where either (a) they would stand their grounds just enough to cause the enemy to tempt pull back from the current onslaught, (b) the do enough damage an pull back gettin more then they need for now (long story) or (c) the party retreats for the time trying to pick up some survives they could fit on the ship an get the heck out as the city is torn up...
Instead.. I roll flat 3d100's as the party 'just' avoided the guards an lockdown.. which didnt add any bonses for the city guards chance to prep ships an counter attackk.. of the three, 2 in the ninties, one over fifty.. the city was whiped out.. I was 'devastated' that now i may have put the paladins character in a state he was just outright mamed and couldnt even give his player a 'last hura an fade to black'...because they never showed up or said anything...
I had to take a day or two before i sent the news to him, i did kinda phrase it a little angerly but i was 'where were you what happend'?... no response the entire week, right up to our next game session with nothing being done to that character sheet i gave him for a month..
And then came to our last bit of communication.. one hour before we started, he wanted to ask me about his character creation thing.. he stuck with the class i was iffy on to begin with but he.. went with a completely different class, an frankly he was maxing out the stats on the class too..
I confronted him since at least then he was 'finally' speaking to me. He was giving me the 'he would have convince them' speach of his characters plans.. I was just getting more confused by some of his responses of what that even was. The 'misunderstandings' of his character of what things are going on, why he did an extrem like 'why would he cut his hand off' an then he admitted no matter what, his character was going to leave. All on the fact his 'Paladin Alignment as Lawful good' wouldnt let him 'let a bunch of people die in the city'... his character has pulled back from fights an stuff before, while yeah if he saw a fight he would totally try an defend someone if need be, but, the abandon the party thinking they were doing wrong, knowing that the plan the group would be involved with after the outsider meeting, was to go search for things that might power them all up enough to be on the same playing field as the monster that beat them, or event he ones attacking the undersea side.. He even made a passing comment 'yeah i know they all talked about it for an hour'.. when.. he caused the conversation to las tthe hour by having them repeat it different ways several times.. something he also did alot im afraid when the quest was not one he started/invested in specifically of himself (the starting foot of it happened to one of the new players an 3 1/2 while he was on one of his missing days again).
He made a slight passing comment about me jus killing off his character an how they were acting as a 'what if someone wanted to play something else' .. which i did ask 'did you want to play something new why didnt you just ask?' to which.. he kinda ignored an went on. It was roughly at this time that he said he was trying to focus on his wizard spell list that i clicked to he was playing a new type of character all together.. one he admitted he wanted to play as 'weird and kinda crazy'.. it honestly sent chills to me given his 'sane' character did something extreme out of the blue for no reason an would never had done before was a bad sign what he considers 'slightly weird/crazy' would be.. but i was further made up set he made up a character only 'after' getting rolls he didnt get clearance from me with beforehand. I asked if this was the case which he confirmed and simply asked 'what want me to do point buy instead?'... an thats when I said i dont think he was set for my game again.. most so since all this all he focused on, again, an hour before game time, was only the basic mechanics an nothing else (given my honest mistrust of him springing something on me on this point with the sister visit 'quest').
I had literally given him my reasons, told him didn tlike how many red flags hes pulled lately. Including our game communities famed words by players who do things that tend to do things that.. kinda make things weird or bad or start to trail from how they start as.. When he first started missing the bulk of sessions, an losing plot interest, was when he 'lost his notes'. Then an most infamous last appearance, literally last bits hes said when he decided to have his character leave (which in hindsight i think he may have just wanted but again.. pardon me for guessing since he never communicated) 'Its what my character would do' when he had him cut his hand off.. Then during our conversation when i was trying to figure out what the heck was all that an what happend he said 'because my lawful good paladin couldnt let that under his oath'... his 'netual good' character whose hidden monsters under his house, stolen from a school of magic, made friends with an had sight powers from a devil an a few other shady things to say the least...so he was plannen or taking that his character should have a diff alignment without communing with me on it..who knows ont hat one..
I honestly did my usual, 'i dont think this game is for you' exit speech... an he said 'dont bs me with this over polite crap' an tried to make me say 'i want you gone'.. he was more or less animate on the specifics of the words.. and I think i know why..
Because, the players have a private text chat, not that hes much on there himself unless his character name is mentioned multiple times, but they do have it for funnies an stuff between em. I dont mind it, but.. at some point when I officially announced I'd be removing the player in our whole group chat.. he sent a very cropped two lines that was the tail end of us with me saying him in the groups not looken good, but told them 'i shouldnt be contacted about this'..
Tooo bad for him, I screenshot everything big like this. An further bad for him, the new guys an me talk alot too, like constant, and he forgot, 3 1/2 are friends for over a decade. 3 1/2 told me that... so i reached out to the rest of the group, shared the entire thing with them on the spot, saying 'i am sorry, its been bad with all these points' (i mention in here better more details after all, given how it was an hour of getting heated an trying to get him to tell me what his game plan is or anything else if need be given everything else sounded like he was flipping between wanting to be something new or... again i can only speculate since he just went offensive/defenses with no explanations or stuff to understand him the player). an sent them the entire conversation the two of us had as a screenshot.
While I was polite an just saying 'dont think the games for you' which yeah is a little over gentle.. after i pointed out one of them mentioned with a tiny screenshot of only me saying 'you should go' an the 'dont talk to me about it'. He honestly said 'i told them they shouldnt bother with it' like they should have just listened to him on the get go...an that 'he' would send it.. told him I already had. And for that level of honestly kinda manipulative tactic, both trying to isolate the party from me and only showing the 'closest' he would have of me saying 'i want you gone' comment, which he had stressed for a bout a minute i should 'say' in our private chat, i cant help but wonder if he was seriously trying to poison the well between me and the others.. an then said he would 'show them the whole conversation.... well he kinda got super silent with the private group and to me when i said 'i already sent the whole. I told him, good luck an goodbye, an then removed him from my DND group.. he suddenly for the first time in 2 years 'went offline', on my notice thing, so i think he made himself invisible but at first i thought he blocked me.. made a passing comment to test, but he went 'no' an was suddenly fully online an back to his MMO's that he 'usually' played too much an overslept some of our early day games on... not surprising..
The rest of the party were.. thankfully understanding, 3 1/2 suggested we didnt play but i pressed on but we did kinda vent.. helped one of the experienced newby of the three was a dm, an said 'hey its what you feel too, if he was making you feel uncomfortable at the table with that, your alright to feel it an remove him' which helped too..
But part of me does have to have that nagging feel since, he is the 'first' true kick i have done. ALl my other possible problem players ghost themselves from my games an he had been in for 2 years.. not that we done much since we are nearly at our 100'th session an only 'now' getting to the possible tea of the world i have been sitting on for 3 years since started working on the campaign over it. I left it openf or them to discover, an things started to click when the new guys came in an started being able to 'take lead' a bit on group choices.. not waiting for the paladin to lead them.. but.
of course, communication is '2 way street' i know, I said he didnt talk to me on things but likewise maybe i shoulda been more active reaching to him. To a point I tried, but, unless it was 'hey want a new power or something' ...he didnt respond back much. Again we had not much on similar things an it feel slike he was cluing in that many of my influences was from comics, movies games an anime that even if he was into the fandoms of, he didnt know alot as I have a broad and little known spectrum of series. Maybe a bit of it was lill mix of we didnt upfront what we expected, but also disinterests... but I do know at least 2 of his fave games.. tha has owning land, getting bonus in some way from that, an thats that.. an some other aspects, kinda in hindsight were what he wanted/expected for his character at times.
Again, my thing is full homebrew, an always say 'hey if you find something you like, lemme know an see maybe we can toss it in.', sadly some of the gang dont take that up too much, but the new players have lately an its been fun. He did at first 'start' suggesting something.. but with no set things, so when i brought up things that we can do for it he kinda.. shot em down, like not say full on no but.. just went silent.
In the end, Im upset with myself over not confronting the problem a bit more 'first', but i guess i just started to let him just 'be silent all the time is fine the problem goes away' as much as he did it when i reached out to him. Hell if he stepped away for a bit, sadly perfect since his first character might be KO'ed, i may have taken him back if he just said 'been dealing with things' or 'wanted to be something new' or, 'can i try something crazy'.. but in the end he only wanted me to respond in the moment to what he came up without double checking things an it can happen so sparatically, so 'railroady' for me an the other players I just cant anymore. An knowing hell honestly try an manipulate my words behind my back to the rest of the players.. yeah Im not trusting that player at any of my games ever again and wont ever trust one like that... but I hope it doesnt turn to that for just that factor an not because of other reasons that can be avoided...
Anyone who reads, thanks for your time. If you got tips or mindsets to consider for me here, like to help get them like a mindworm to maybe help me over things, given how my head is still lill swimmen on it both emotionally an thoughts. I guess maybe im looking to see if I was valid (I know for my 'mental health' i was, but want to know its not just my own head thinking it an maybe cases like this is at least partly justified). An hey, if you ever had a sitch like this, lemme hear how ya felt too, never helps bottling it in. Just typing this at first as a note to myself before it showed up anywhere helped me clear my head a fair bit, so theres always getting the words out there wither someone's ear or eyes take it is a nice way to get the happy feels in. Next order buisness to feel better... getten to those cursed die rolls (come on Dice Gods treat me an my players failry, ah dangit another 1! I thought i blotted it out!)

My ex husband cheated on me and we got a messy divorce when our kids were 10/8/8/5. He may have not been a great husband but he is a good dad so we switch the kids every two weeks. Our younger kids are still kinda mad at him about the affair but my oldest "Karter" (15M) who has always been a daddy's boy. Anytime he wasn't feeling good or upset hed go cuddle up to his dad. Even to this day as a big tough football player and wrestler he goes to curl up next to his dad with his head in his lap like a little kid.
I've been seeing my live in fiance "Dexter" for awhile now. The other kids like him fine but Karter either treats Dexter likes hes invisible or its just non stop talking back and rudeness despite how much Dexter tries. I recently started mandatory family dinners every Monday night so I could try to force Karter to spend time with Dexter and see that hes a good guy. By the time the kids got home yesterday I noticed Karter wasnt with them.
I asked the twins and they said he was moping around school all day but didn't know why. He didn't walk home with them either. I immediately Knew then he was at his dad's. I was mad because this is my week plus family dinner. I called over and got no answer from either of them. I drove over and went in ( I still have a key to the old house) and of course there's Karter cuddled up to his dad both asleep on the couch with a game on.
My ex woke up hearing me walking over. He just looks at me like " yeah I know ". Karter wakes up and I tell him to go get in the car and he starts to objsct and I'm not having any of it. When its just me and my ex I just go off on him about how he didnt call to let me know that Karter was with him and how this was my weeks with the kids. He starts going on about how Karter's boyfriend dumped him this morning for another boy and that he just needed some dad time and comforting. I told him that wasnt any excuse to not at least call me and that Karter could've come to me instead of rushing over here. I shouldve known about his 1st real relationship imploding. My ex tells me he didnt want to talk about it with me and asked if Karter could just spend the night but I said no. Karter wouldn't talk to me all the way home and has been hiding in his room since. Dexter says I might have overreacted. AITA?

She's not even my husband's sister she married his youngest brother. The drama all started with her wedding where she claimed I tried to upstage her by wearing a white dress.
The first year I was dating my husband his youngest brother was getting married. We got invited to the ceremony but not the reception. No big deal to me but my now husband was super pissed about being excluded from the reception. My SIL was a huge bridezilla from what I've heard and had tried to ban him from the ceremony but my BIL's family made her invite him to the ceremony since it was his youngest brothers wedding. I wore a dress I had worn to another wedding with no issues. There was no color scheme to follow and no dress code so I thought it'd be fine.
When we got there she was mad that we were even there and seemed super stand offish to me which was confusing because I've never gotten that vibe from her before. I figured it was just nerves and hassle from the short time she had to plan the wedding. My other BIL's were making shotgun wedding jokes before the ceremony. Sure enough they were right.
Her dress was stunning but very clearly wasn't tailored. It was supposed to be a curve hugging tight dress but it was definitely too big for her and you could tell she was smuggling a baby bump. I will add for context that my husband's side was very well dressed. All of his brothers and their friends were in suits and his sisters were in nice dresses, even my MIL and FIL were dressed in formal wear. Her family was not dressed nearly as well. There was a girl (not sure how she knew the couple) that was wearing ripped jeans and a spaghetti strapped shirt and her bra was sticking out, it was definitely not wedding attire. The rest of her family were dressed the same. Even her parents weren't dressed nice it looked like they were wearing clothes to go do farm work in. I have no issues with casual weddings but it didn't even looked like they tried. I thought she'd be more mad at them than anything else considering how they were dressed.
The wedding was on a public beach and was very rushed. I stuck to the back because I wasn't super close with anyone but his family and made it a point to stay out of the way. When the ceremony was over we left and had a nice date night at the beach. All was good until the next day when my husband gets a call from my BIL's new wife screaming about how I specifically ruined her wedding and tried to show her up by wearing white to her wedding. He explained that my dress had some white in it but NO one was going to mistake me for the bride. She kept screaming that I ruined what was supposed to be her day for showing up when we weren't supposed to be invited because "I need the spotlight on me at all times" which I don't. If I'd have known it was going to be a big deal I would have worn a different dress or not even gone.
Every time since then she's made a huge ordeal around us when we show up to my MIL's. One such occasion was when we got the entire family together so they could have one last day together with my FIL. At the time he was battling ALS and was bed ridden. My husband was taking care of him and staying at their house. She had the nerve to kick us out of the house while she was there and excused it with PPD. My MIL ate it up and we spent most of the time outside except for when my husband was helping my FIL, when we had a prayer circle for him. She even threw a fit while WE were making dinner for 14 people and stayed in the basement throwing a tantrum.
I was quiet during all this because my husband needed support since him and his father were super close. Cut to the next year we had a family dinner we were both pregnant at the time both with boys and she was trying so hard to get my sons name out of me. I told her we hadn't settled on a name yet. She kept trying to ask everyone else if I told them the baby name and even asked my husband. My husband said the same thing. We did have a name picked out but we weren't sharing because we were dead set on our name and didn't have any other options that we liked.
I'm glad we kept it a secret because I'm 100% convinced she would've stolen our baby name had she found out. My sons name is pretty unique (I've only heard it one other time) and when I saw how she spelled her sons name I knew it was the right call to keep a secret. Not only is her sons name slightly unique but she butchered the spelling to make it more "unique". When she found out my sons name she threw another tantrum about it.
At another family dinner 6 months later everything came to a head. We were in the middle of planning our wedding and she made a comment about how it was a good thing we were finally getting married so we weren't "living in sin anymore" and how it was a shame that we didn't get married sooner because our son "was a bastard child". I finally snapped be rude to me all you want but don't make a comment about my kids. I said "Well if I'm paying 2 grand for a dress I actually want to fit in it" she got mad and asked "what's that supposed to mean" I said "Just what I said, it's not my fault you got pressured into a shotgun wedding to appease a cult but I actually want my wedding to be special and I wasn't about to be the third shotgun wedding in the family. Since I'm paying for it I'm going to enjoy it by drinking and having fun. It's not my fault you were to spineless to do the same."
This set her off and started a huge screaming match between us. My MIL told me that I needed to apologize and I refused so they stormed out and we haven't heard from them since. I feel bad my husband hasn't talked to his youngest brother since then but he agreed that it was a her issue and not a me issue and had my back during the argument.
This is not the first or last awful in law problem I've had with this family but I'm happy that I married a good man who has my back.

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I'm looking at buying a car secondhand in Sydney. Looking for any tips / things to watch out for, as well advice on what the procedure is.
I have a full NSW licence.
For reference, I'll explain how it works in the UK (which is the only place I've purchased cars before).

1. Go to a car yard, take a look and test drive the car.
   
2. Try and negotiate the price down and usually be offered some random stuff you don't want in exchange for the price not dropping.
   
3. If you agree to the price, pay a deposit of say 10% and agree roughly when you will be back to complete the purchase.
   
4. Sort out insurance for the car (third party is the legal minimum).
   
5. Go and pick up the car. You then sort out the paperwork for ownership transfer (can now be done online), and pay vehicle excise duty (known to most people as road tax) for 6 months or 1 year (also done online) - the previous owner applies to get a refund of any remaining months.
   
6. Drive away in the new car.
   
7. One side note is MOT - an annual test for cars over a certain age. Whoever is selling you the car will tell you the MOT expiry date (the test is valid for a year) and then you need to renew it during the month before it expires by taking it to be re-tested.
   

There have been two things to watch out for in recent years in the UK - one is that Vehicle Excise Duty has been restructured multiple times and cars with larger engines or higher emissions levels can end up paying a lot more - often this is a problem with older cars that were not tested the same way, so get charged a high amount, while newer nearly identical models have aligned to the standards and are much cheaper to tax.
The second one has become ULEZ compliance. Not just in London, but in other major cities, there are areas where you pay a daily charge unless your car is compliant with certain low emissions standards. Many people got caught out, because they bought cars a few years ago and then found they were not compliant so had to either sell or pay the fee every time they entered the city.

So - I guess a big part of my question is, what aspects of the process are completely different to what I outlined above. What additional charges are there on top of the agreed price of the car and are there any new regulations currently planned to come in that may impact these (my understanding is that Australia is currently fairly unregulated in terms of vehicle emissions compared to most OECD countries).
Do most people buy privately second-hand or from dealers? Are there any particular things to look out for on Australian cars in terms of wear (often in the UK for instance, rust is a big problem on the undersides of doors etc - in large part because of the salt they use on the roads in winter to reduce the amount of ice)
Any advice is welcomed.

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• Destiny & Lonerbox in Israel Still planning as of April 19 Lots working in the background, potential large figures to talk to Might do a documentary, reaching out to YT doc makers like TTom, Channel 5/Andrew Callaghan, Kraig Adams (Kraig messaged in chat)

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Wants to Chat: Michael Knowles) (said on Iced Coffee Hour Podcast)
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• Eli Hassell Discussion on Iran attack on Israel (April 2024)
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When I was a young girl growing up in Mormonism, I was very musically inclined. (Still am) My dad would sit down at the piano and we'd sing hymns and Disney songs to entertain the church members who would join us for big dinner parties every Sunday.
One of my favorite songs to sing with my dad was "God Help The Outcasts" from Disney's Hunchback of Notre Dame. I sang it with this idea in my mind that it was a song about praying to god and asking for help. The part of the song where the church-goers are saying their personal prayers about temporal wants seemed to me like an example of what not to ask god for.
One night, a new convert joined us for one of our parties. I sang the song and to my surprise she started sobbing. She wasn't crying loudly, but for some reason I couldn't understand why she reacted this way. I pushed it off as "oh, she must be feeling the holy ghost." I can't make assumptions about what she was thinking and feeling, even now. But, I relate to her more than ever because whenever I listen to this song again, I cry as well.
Now that I am out of the church, I have processed my anger (although still processing everything else) the song hits me with an emotional wrecking ball of pain. The first verse opens so strongly:
"I don't know if you can hear me Or if you're even there I don't know if you would listen to a gypsy's prayer Yes, I know I'm just an outcast I shouldn't speak to you Still I see your face and wonder Were you once an outcast too?"
I'll let those lyrics speak for themselves, I am sure all of you will understand what I mean when I say I feel that first verse as if someone had been listening to my mind.
That verse where the congregation is singing their personal prayers asking for wealth, fame, angel protection, love, and glory no longer feels like an example of what not to ask god for. It feels like I am listening to the Mormons I grew up with begging god to fulfill their lives in the ways we have been told that he will. As the choir in this song grows louder and more powerful, it reminds me of the voice of the Tabernacle Choir. I imagine myself standing in front of them in that forsaken general conference meeting place, listening one last time.
As the song finally comes close to an end, those last few words hurt the most. I am reminded of every Sunday in primary, singing I Am a Child of God as she sings,
"I thought we all were children of God. God help the outcasts, children of God."
I come back to that imagination, now taking a look at everything in that conference center, and I picture myself walking away for good.
God help the outcasts, children of God.
here's my favorite version if anyone wants to listen https://youtu.be/JE5MahcaYow?si=mx3DBXfbaTtdREZV