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CIG and the Problem of Eroding Integrity
2024.05.16 15:04 commonparadox CIG and the Problem of Eroding Integrity
Before I get to the meat of it, I want to make it known that this is my own opinion and criticism. I am an early backer from when the game was just switching over from Kickstarter. Ever since then, I've had high hopes and aspirations for the game. In the beginning, the space sim market was completely dead and many were saying PC gaming was an afterthought. I believe this game is changing both of those actively and so I still retain high hopes - though sometimes it feels like its against my better judgement due to actions (and inactions) CIG has taken. CIG's integrity as a company has been eroding gradually over the years in my eyes due to deliberate choices the company has made. I'd like to give some examples.
First, CIG started with stretch goals for backers, which we blew through with record levels of funding. Unfortunately, many of those stretch goals have yet to be fulfilled. On the whole, that's understandable as some are fairly complex to do, but there are others which seem like they'd be relatively easy and routine that haven't been done, such as the crossbow FPS weapon. CIG has plenty of experience making and implementing FPS weapons by this point and they comparatively take little development time to complete. Why hasn't it been done? When's the last time we even saw a new FPS weapon release aside from different colorations of existing ones? This and other examples like this makes us older backers feel forgotten about and, at worst, used and stepped on toward larger audiences who didn't take as large a risk as we did by putting faith in you so early.
The second point I'd like to draw attention to is the incident in which CIG decided to charge money for virtual tickets to a Citizen Con stream. We, as backers, had entrusted our money and hopes to CIG only for the company to make an attempt to charge admission for us to see what was supposed to be our yearly progress report and showcase for a game that hadn't been released yet. Surely a reasonable person could understand why this was insulting to fans of the game. It was said that this decision was made to foster a larger and more spectacular Citizen Con for the fans, but over the years other actions that seem driven by marketing and financial goals have cast doubt on this explanation for me.
A more gameplay related point is that of the F8C and F7A Mk. II ships. Initially, the F7A Mk. II was not supposed to be available to players. The F8C was only supposed to be obtainable upon completing SQ42. Now both are released into the wild and in the hands of players. What happened to the conviction to make these ships special? A, perhaps, cynical application of Occam's Razor leads me to believe it was a decision made to drive sales and finances. At best, it was an easement due to the long time development was taking. Even if the later were true, the suspicion of the former will always lurk in my mind and that of others, I'm sure; further eroding trust in CIG's decision making.
My final example, and perhaps the more recently relevant one, is that of the gradual degradation of "Death of a Spaceman" (DoaS). The first idea and design lettedocument around the concept was incredible, but so much of it has been compromised. To start, the cloning system was implemented. To be clear, the cloning aspect was always a part of DoaS, but it being implemented without medical gameplay intervention was strange. While I can understand that it may have been a necessity for gameplay realities, it was still disappointing, and now it appears to be a permanent solution - at least from a backer's perspective. Now recently we've been told that all current ship medical beds will be able to clone players back into existence. This is despite some of those medical beds not being able to treat critical injuries. How can a piece of equipment that can clone an entire human being not treat serious injuries? Where is the consistency? I think the larger point, however, is a feeling of betrayal imparted unto some of the backers who are enthusiasts of, arguably, one of the most ignored professions in the game; the medics. I, myself, am not one of these people, but I feel for them as what little profession gameplay they had has now been gutted. Entire organizations had the rug pulled out from them in the name of convenience, sadly. It begs the question "why?" and the answer that looms as the most likely isn't a pleasant one - to push and sell a new medical vehicle. I don't want to look at it so cynically, but the timing and the sudden nature of the change from out of nowhere makes the consideration of such a greed induced motive hard to shake. Especially in a world and hobby that has been riddled with greedy companies making decisions for the bottom line over the quality of gameplay recently.
So, for discussion, I'd like to hear from everyone else. Are there other examples that have deteriorated your trust in CIG over the years? Please sound off and let your voice be heard. I don't think it's too late for the company to either correct the misperception or avoid further erosion with choices in the future. Also, from one long-term backer to another, I'd like to hear what Jared ( u/therealdiscolando ) has to say on this, given his unique perspective and also the fact that he is ultimately one of us. Additionally, I'd like to invite any input Tyler ( u/CaptainZyloh ) might have as our dedicated and ever-enthusiastic Community Manager that very obviously does his damnedest for said community. Lastly, I invite any of the developers to comment because I want this project to succeed. I want CR to succeed. This black cloud that hovers over this project for some of us could be dispelled with some communication around it and I am coming from a place of concern, not anger, and promise to engage in the topic in good faith. Lastly, and just for the record, I have no intent of turning my back on the project - rather I want it to succeed in such an explosive way that anyone who disparaged it is riddled with regret for missing the experience of staying astride of its development. I firmly believe this game and company has the potential to change the face of gaming forever.
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First, CIG started with stretch goals for backers, which we blew through with record levels of funding. Unfortunately, many of those stretch goals have yet to be fulfilled. On the whole, that's understandable as some are fairly complex to do, but there are others which seem like they'd be relatively easy and routine that haven't been done, such as the crossbow FPS weapon. CIG has plenty of experience making and implementing FPS weapons by this point and they comparatively take little development time to complete. Why hasn't it been done? When's the last time we even saw a new FPS weapon release aside from different colorations of existing ones? This and other examples like this makes us older backers feel forgotten about and, at worst, used and stepped on toward larger audiences who didn't take as large a risk as we did by putting faith in you so early.
The second point I'd like to draw attention to is the incident in which CIG decided to charge money for virtual tickets to a Citizen Con stream. We, as backers, had entrusted our money and hopes to CIG only for the company to make an attempt to charge admission for us to see what was supposed to be our yearly progress report and showcase for a game that hadn't been released yet. Surely a reasonable person could understand why this was insulting to fans of the game. It was said that this decision was made to foster a larger and more spectacular Citizen Con for the fans, but over the years other actions that seem driven by marketing and financial goals have cast doubt on this explanation for me.
A more gameplay related point is that of the F8C and F7A Mk. II ships. Initially, the F7A Mk. II was not supposed to be available to players. The F8C was only supposed to be obtainable upon completing SQ42. Now both are released into the wild and in the hands of players. What happened to the conviction to make these ships special? A, perhaps, cynical application of Occam's Razor leads me to believe it was a decision made to drive sales and finances. At best, it was an easement due to the long time development was taking. Even if the later were true, the suspicion of the former will always lurk in my mind and that of others, I'm sure; further eroding trust in CIG's decision making.
My final example, and perhaps the more recently relevant one, is that of the gradual degradation of "Death of a Spaceman" (DoaS). The first idea and design lettedocument around the concept was incredible, but so much of it has been compromised. To start, the cloning system was implemented. To be clear, the cloning aspect was always a part of DoaS, but it being implemented without medical gameplay intervention was strange. While I can understand that it may have been a necessity for gameplay realities, it was still disappointing, and now it appears to be a permanent solution - at least from a backer's perspective. Now recently we've been told that all current ship medical beds will be able to clone players back into existence. This is despite some of those medical beds not being able to treat critical injuries. How can a piece of equipment that can clone an entire human being not treat serious injuries? Where is the consistency? I think the larger point, however, is a feeling of betrayal imparted unto some of the backers who are enthusiasts of, arguably, one of the most ignored professions in the game; the medics. I, myself, am not one of these people, but I feel for them as what little profession gameplay they had has now been gutted. Entire organizations had the rug pulled out from them in the name of convenience, sadly. It begs the question "why?" and the answer that looms as the most likely isn't a pleasant one - to push and sell a new medical vehicle. I don't want to look at it so cynically, but the timing and the sudden nature of the change from out of nowhere makes the consideration of such a greed induced motive hard to shake. Especially in a world and hobby that has been riddled with greedy companies making decisions for the bottom line over the quality of gameplay recently.
So, for discussion, I'd like to hear from everyone else. Are there other examples that have deteriorated your trust in CIG over the years? Please sound off and let your voice be heard. I don't think it's too late for the company to either correct the misperception or avoid further erosion with choices in the future. Also, from one long-term backer to another, I'd like to hear what Jared ( u/therealdiscolando ) has to say on this, given his unique perspective and also the fact that he is ultimately one of us. Additionally, I'd like to invite any input Tyler ( u/CaptainZyloh ) might have as our dedicated and ever-enthusiastic Community Manager that very obviously does his damnedest for said community. Lastly, I invite any of the developers to comment because I want this project to succeed. I want CR to succeed. This black cloud that hovers over this project for some of us could be dispelled with some communication around it and I am coming from a place of concern, not anger, and promise to engage in the topic in good faith. Lastly, and just for the record, I have no intent of turning my back on the project - rather I want it to succeed in such an explosive way that anyone who disparaged it is riddled with regret for missing the experience of staying astride of its development. I firmly believe this game and company has the potential to change the face of gaming forever.
2024.05.16 15:02 Professional-Dish298 Finally Free at a Long Year
I am finally gone after a long year of living with the worst person I have ever met in my entire life.
This is not your typical slob (though he is a messy slob), but someone with narcissistic and grandiose delusions of themselves that makes life with them absolutely miserable.
I moved into a filthy 4br apartment with four unknowns last June. At first “Joe” seemed to be a normal guy and I made the mistake of extending an offer of friendship to him early on. Little things were a bit annoying, he used the living room as his personal storage rendering it unusable, left all his dirty dishes in the sink, the common annoyances.
About a month in I realized there was something off about this guy. I began to hear him creep outside my door late at night and catch him lurking out there. I noticed he always knew where I was in the house and would let me know he knew. I would be talking to him and realize the conversation was always “one sided” and he was the type to drain and dominate you to the point of exhaustion. It’s strange because he seemed aware of what he was doing saying things like “I’ll let you go in a minute.” I started to feel exhausted being around him and the messes and clutter kept getting worse. I really started to think there was something off when I went into his room to get the vacuum with his permission and saw he had a wooden plank over his door that said “revenge”in red paint and a mirror with “nice girls wait at the finish line” drawn on it. He also started beating his meat with his bedroom door open.
For some reason I kept giving him chances, inviting him out with me and my Gf or other friends (where he would dominate the conversation and throw fits if everyone wasn’t catering to his wishes), holiday parties (where he showed up an hour late with 4 coronas rather than a thanksgiving dish or the other where he said he would buy solo cups but got too high and forgot). I started to pull away but he would use it against me by stealing my things from my room (AirPods, jerseys, clothes, tote bags) and destroy things (tore the shelving off my wall and made it look like an accident). He would get EXTREMELY weird and passive aggressive.
Joe is the type of guy to present himself as a compassionate, open minded/liberal thinking, male feminist (he told me he cries about how other men talk about women’s bodies), with a pristine moral compass, but this guy is a manipulative psychopath. Once I pulled away he also began to plant seeds of manipulation with other roommates, texting them who knows what. At the same time he would text me his plans to become “passive aggressive” and “miserable” to force other roommates out, to badmouth them and say me my gf and him should just move in or that he wants to turn the rented house into a co-op or a crash pad for airline attendants. Despite it being a rental he sees the place as his FOREVER. Joe also started doing things like intentionally slamming doors, hiding my things, throwing away my mail, turning off the heat (the thermostat is in nice room), screaming and yelling, Etc.
Joe is also 29 and in community college after dropping out of 3 other colleges. Nothing wrong with that on the surface but he comes from old money and acts poor, and tells people he has graduated from a respected 4 year place rather than just embracing his life state. Joe also never leaves the house and perpetually smokes weed causing him to cook food and forget it’s cooking, leave the doors wide open, etc.
Here are some things Joe has said recently:
“I probably didn’t get a job as a librarian because I’m over qualified, I am the most qualified CC student on the eastern seaboard”
Prefacing statements by saying “As an objectively attractive male”
“The way women’s bodies are talked about by my peers makes me cry”
“I know someone is going to come up and hit on me”
Making a joke about his penis then brining it up to my GF 3 other times acting like he was “so sorry” for making a joke about how big his wiener is.
General statements about how superior he is in morals, intelligence, attractiveness, etc. He is also a journalist and befriends people to use them for a story then discards them. He has started fractions between people/org he writes (poorly) about and does not understand the concept of burning bridges.
On top of all this the guy is a HUGE slob, hordes and leaves things everywhere. I had to clean the living room over the course of weeks to make it livable. The kitchen was disgusting with dishes and dirt. All he eats is hard boiled eggs, cereal, and spaghetti and it smells horrible. Despite this he would gaslight all the roommates blaming the mess on whoever he wasn’t talking to. The entire house constantly smelled like weed and hard boiled eggs. The guy forced us to install a bidet and it was covered in you know what all the time. He wrote chores for everyone (which of course he didn’t adhere to).
I know many may have had it worse but typing this out feels good. If you met this guy in person, you would see what I mean. A literal psychopath who manipulated and has a grandiose sense of self. The funny thing is he always tried to act like my “friend” but the day after I left he discarded me like a narcissist does. That’s because he uses people like objects. Now there is a new person in my room for him to manipulate (and continue to manipulate other roommates).
I’m glad it’s over.
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This is not your typical slob (though he is a messy slob), but someone with narcissistic and grandiose delusions of themselves that makes life with them absolutely miserable.
I moved into a filthy 4br apartment with four unknowns last June. At first “Joe” seemed to be a normal guy and I made the mistake of extending an offer of friendship to him early on. Little things were a bit annoying, he used the living room as his personal storage rendering it unusable, left all his dirty dishes in the sink, the common annoyances.
About a month in I realized there was something off about this guy. I began to hear him creep outside my door late at night and catch him lurking out there. I noticed he always knew where I was in the house and would let me know he knew. I would be talking to him and realize the conversation was always “one sided” and he was the type to drain and dominate you to the point of exhaustion. It’s strange because he seemed aware of what he was doing saying things like “I’ll let you go in a minute.” I started to feel exhausted being around him and the messes and clutter kept getting worse. I really started to think there was something off when I went into his room to get the vacuum with his permission and saw he had a wooden plank over his door that said “revenge”in red paint and a mirror with “nice girls wait at the finish line” drawn on it. He also started beating his meat with his bedroom door open.
For some reason I kept giving him chances, inviting him out with me and my Gf or other friends (where he would dominate the conversation and throw fits if everyone wasn’t catering to his wishes), holiday parties (where he showed up an hour late with 4 coronas rather than a thanksgiving dish or the other where he said he would buy solo cups but got too high and forgot). I started to pull away but he would use it against me by stealing my things from my room (AirPods, jerseys, clothes, tote bags) and destroy things (tore the shelving off my wall and made it look like an accident). He would get EXTREMELY weird and passive aggressive.
Joe is the type of guy to present himself as a compassionate, open minded/liberal thinking, male feminist (he told me he cries about how other men talk about women’s bodies), with a pristine moral compass, but this guy is a manipulative psychopath. Once I pulled away he also began to plant seeds of manipulation with other roommates, texting them who knows what. At the same time he would text me his plans to become “passive aggressive” and “miserable” to force other roommates out, to badmouth them and say me my gf and him should just move in or that he wants to turn the rented house into a co-op or a crash pad for airline attendants. Despite it being a rental he sees the place as his FOREVER. Joe also started doing things like intentionally slamming doors, hiding my things, throwing away my mail, turning off the heat (the thermostat is in nice room), screaming and yelling, Etc.
Joe is also 29 and in community college after dropping out of 3 other colleges. Nothing wrong with that on the surface but he comes from old money and acts poor, and tells people he has graduated from a respected 4 year place rather than just embracing his life state. Joe also never leaves the house and perpetually smokes weed causing him to cook food and forget it’s cooking, leave the doors wide open, etc.
Here are some things Joe has said recently:
“I probably didn’t get a job as a librarian because I’m over qualified, I am the most qualified CC student on the eastern seaboard”
Prefacing statements by saying “As an objectively attractive male”
“The way women’s bodies are talked about by my peers makes me cry”
“I know someone is going to come up and hit on me”
Making a joke about his penis then brining it up to my GF 3 other times acting like he was “so sorry” for making a joke about how big his wiener is.
General statements about how superior he is in morals, intelligence, attractiveness, etc. He is also a journalist and befriends people to use them for a story then discards them. He has started fractions between people/org he writes (poorly) about and does not understand the concept of burning bridges.
On top of all this the guy is a HUGE slob, hordes and leaves things everywhere. I had to clean the living room over the course of weeks to make it livable. The kitchen was disgusting with dishes and dirt. All he eats is hard boiled eggs, cereal, and spaghetti and it smells horrible. Despite this he would gaslight all the roommates blaming the mess on whoever he wasn’t talking to. The entire house constantly smelled like weed and hard boiled eggs. The guy forced us to install a bidet and it was covered in you know what all the time. He wrote chores for everyone (which of course he didn’t adhere to).
I know many may have had it worse but typing this out feels good. If you met this guy in person, you would see what I mean. A literal psychopath who manipulated and has a grandiose sense of self. The funny thing is he always tried to act like my “friend” but the day after I left he discarded me like a narcissist does. That’s because he uses people like objects. Now there is a new person in my room for him to manipulate (and continue to manipulate other roommates).
I’m glad it’s over.
2024.05.16 15:01 SharkEva My husband kicked me out of the home because I invited over his mother
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Actual-Beach-4400 and u/Affectionate_Egg895 posting in Marriage
Concluded as per OOP
Content warning - mention of child sexual abuse, miscarriage
2 updates - Medium
Original - 30th March 2024
Update1 - 20th April 2024
Update2 - 13th May 2024
My husband kicked me out of the home because I invited over his mother
I preface this by saying I think I screwed up massively.
Hubbie and I have been married for six years now. He's always been the "fun guy", always laughing and making me laugh, always seeing the bright side of things. However, one thing that bothered me was that I never knew much of his family. His father died when he was little and he has little relationship with his mom.
I'll keep this short: four months ago I looked up his mom on social media and found her. I sent a message, and she replied. We chatted and met up, she doesn't live far from us. She knew all about me and her son because she kept an eye on him on social. We became friends and I filled her in with details about our lives. I asked her why hubbie went no contact with her. She refused to tell me why if hubbie didn't tell me, just said it was all her fault and she's ashamed of it. I proposed to try what I could to help them reconcile and she agreed even if she was reluctant at first.
In the following weeks I tried talking to hubbie about his mother and what happened between them. He always changed topic or shut me down. When MIL asked me how it was going, I told her things were progressing and I was working on it.
Last week I decided to try and have them meet up so maybe we could spend Easter together. I invited MIL over before my husband would be back from work so we could surprise. She was a bit unsure about this, she said she wasn't comfortable surprising him like that, but I reassured her. I thought that any emotion hubbie could have would be better cooled by a hug.
Spoiler alert, MIL was right. Hubbie came home, and after the initial shock started yelling like I never heard him to her to get out immediately. She just grabbed her coat and stormed out. Afterwards, hubbie told me to get out too when I explained what I had done. He didn't yell at me, but his voice was cold and almost emotionless.
I've been staying at my sister's since. Hubbie won't take my calls. MIL cried on the phone and asked why I lied like that and never talked to my hubbie and "prepared" him for that. Now she stopped taking my calls as well.
I know I have screwed up big time, and I see now what a massive dork I've been. How can I fix this? I want to apologize to hubbie for what I did and maybe find out why his mom is dead to him.
Comments
Maze_C
You’re a manipulative liar with no concept of boundaries. You’re staring divorce in the face and STILL want details on a situation that has absolutely fuck all to do with you. You know you’re a despicable person when even the estranged mother wants nothing to do with you. Grow up.
Update - 3 weeks later
The last weeks have been rough, but we might be okay. Hubbie opened up about the reason he cut off his mother and many of you were right, it was s3xual abuse. Not from his mother, but his stepfather. They were engaged and his mom was pregnant with his child when the guy started giving my husband "attentions".
Husband went to his mom but she shut him down accusing him of being jealous and wanting to spoil her happiness. This went on until his mother came home from work unexpectedly and walked in on the guy "giving attention" to my husband. She kicked him out, pressed charges and annulled their engagement, but the damage was done and my husband no longer trusted her. She also lost the baby due to stress and although she never blamed my husband for it, he felt it was his fault.
All this felt like a gut punch for me, first for what he went through, and then because now I am the person who shattered his trust. He said he did consider divorce over this, but pretty bluntly said that he thinks my actions were out of stupidity rather than malice, and he wants to work things out.
I am committed to do my best to become a better and safe partner for him, I know I have this stupid and selfish tendency to think that I often know better than him, but I have to get over it because it hurt him massively and almost imploded our relationship. I don't want to be another person he trusted and ended up hurting him.
He also decided to reach out to his mom and start talking to her again. He's not sure they can repair the relationship, but he wants for both of them to find some closure.
Comments
Strange_Salamander33
Literally, she forced him to relive trauma and tell a secret she had no business knowing. I’d definitely have divorced
RegieRealtor49
To be fair he had not told her about the abuse. She had no idea
Another example of someone with a savior complex trying to "fix" things.
Update - 3 weeks later
My husband is doing better and our relationship is slowly getting back to what it was. I know it will take a lot of time to repair the damage I caused, but I am willing to give him all the time he wants and do anything he asks out of me.
The bitter irony of this whole story is that he told me he had been thinking about reaching out to his mother, but on his terms and time. By going behind his back I almost destroyed that chance of reconciliation and imploded our marriage. I am working on myself and will start seeing a therapist next month so I never do something like that ever again and more importantly, never betray his trust ever again. Also, with my husband's knowledge and consent, I apologized to MIL for leading her on with false promises and she has forgiven me.
As for him and MIL, they started talking to each other, have met a couple of times in public and yesterday my husband invited her over for dinner so that in his words we all can try to start over properly. She's a very sweet woman and she's eager to reconcile with him and get to know me. My husband said that for now he wants for all of us to get a bit used to each other, then he and MIL will get to work on their traumas (his words).
He says she's not the "villain" in what happened, but he needs to come to terms with her poor decisions and his own feelings of guilt for her losing her baby. MIL on the other hand is very apologetic and extremely sorry about what happened (in my husband's opinion, sincerely so) and doesn't blame him at all for the miscarriage.
As for me, I just sit aside and do my best to rebuild the trust with my husband and become a better and safe partner. He started being affectionate with me again and we are no longer on thin ice, but I can't stop thinking I almost lost him because I thought I knew better than him.
Comments
Veronika9216
I remember your story, and I hope you appreciate how lucky you are to be given a second chance.
You know you screwed up when both your husband and the estranged parent are upset at you for what you have done. It seems you all are on the road of reconciling, but never forget that your short-sighted actions could have nuked any possibility of them reconciling and your own marriage.
Be thankful you are given this chance, don't screw it up and although your husband and MIL have forgiven you for breaking both their trusts, it will take time to rebuild their trust for you.
Syclone11
I am happy for you OP. You know how you massively screwed up and have shown yourself to be remorseful and have grasped what you did to your husband.
He and his mother have a lot of healing to do. You are right to stay out of it going forward unless asked by your husband. He is being affectionate because he does love you and knows you deserve redemption and is looking to give you that gift. You are very lucky and I think this will make you a more complete partner. I wish nothing but the best for you, your husband and his mother.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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Concluded as per OOP
Content warning - mention of child sexual abuse, miscarriage
2 updates - Medium
Original - 30th March 2024
Update1 - 20th April 2024
Update2 - 13th May 2024
My husband kicked me out of the home because I invited over his mother
I preface this by saying I think I screwed up massively.
Hubbie and I have been married for six years now. He's always been the "fun guy", always laughing and making me laugh, always seeing the bright side of things. However, one thing that bothered me was that I never knew much of his family. His father died when he was little and he has little relationship with his mom.
I'll keep this short: four months ago I looked up his mom on social media and found her. I sent a message, and she replied. We chatted and met up, she doesn't live far from us. She knew all about me and her son because she kept an eye on him on social. We became friends and I filled her in with details about our lives. I asked her why hubbie went no contact with her. She refused to tell me why if hubbie didn't tell me, just said it was all her fault and she's ashamed of it. I proposed to try what I could to help them reconcile and she agreed even if she was reluctant at first.
In the following weeks I tried talking to hubbie about his mother and what happened between them. He always changed topic or shut me down. When MIL asked me how it was going, I told her things were progressing and I was working on it.
Last week I decided to try and have them meet up so maybe we could spend Easter together. I invited MIL over before my husband would be back from work so we could surprise. She was a bit unsure about this, she said she wasn't comfortable surprising him like that, but I reassured her. I thought that any emotion hubbie could have would be better cooled by a hug.
Spoiler alert, MIL was right. Hubbie came home, and after the initial shock started yelling like I never heard him to her to get out immediately. She just grabbed her coat and stormed out. Afterwards, hubbie told me to get out too when I explained what I had done. He didn't yell at me, but his voice was cold and almost emotionless.
I've been staying at my sister's since. Hubbie won't take my calls. MIL cried on the phone and asked why I lied like that and never talked to my hubbie and "prepared" him for that. Now she stopped taking my calls as well.
I know I have screwed up big time, and I see now what a massive dork I've been. How can I fix this? I want to apologize to hubbie for what I did and maybe find out why his mom is dead to him.
Comments
Maze_C
You’re a manipulative liar with no concept of boundaries. You’re staring divorce in the face and STILL want details on a situation that has absolutely fuck all to do with you. You know you’re a despicable person when even the estranged mother wants nothing to do with you. Grow up.
Update - 3 weeks later
The last weeks have been rough, but we might be okay. Hubbie opened up about the reason he cut off his mother and many of you were right, it was s3xual abuse. Not from his mother, but his stepfather. They were engaged and his mom was pregnant with his child when the guy started giving my husband "attentions".
Husband went to his mom but she shut him down accusing him of being jealous and wanting to spoil her happiness. This went on until his mother came home from work unexpectedly and walked in on the guy "giving attention" to my husband. She kicked him out, pressed charges and annulled their engagement, but the damage was done and my husband no longer trusted her. She also lost the baby due to stress and although she never blamed my husband for it, he felt it was his fault.
All this felt like a gut punch for me, first for what he went through, and then because now I am the person who shattered his trust. He said he did consider divorce over this, but pretty bluntly said that he thinks my actions were out of stupidity rather than malice, and he wants to work things out.
I am committed to do my best to become a better and safe partner for him, I know I have this stupid and selfish tendency to think that I often know better than him, but I have to get over it because it hurt him massively and almost imploded our relationship. I don't want to be another person he trusted and ended up hurting him.
He also decided to reach out to his mom and start talking to her again. He's not sure they can repair the relationship, but he wants for both of them to find some closure.
Comments
Strange_Salamander33
Literally, she forced him to relive trauma and tell a secret she had no business knowing. I’d definitely have divorced
RegieRealtor49
To be fair he had not told her about the abuse. She had no idea
OOP: I know I screwed up massively and I will do everything I can to become a better wife and safe partner for himxanif
Another example of someone with a savior complex trying to "fix" things.
Update - 3 weeks later
My husband is doing better and our relationship is slowly getting back to what it was. I know it will take a lot of time to repair the damage I caused, but I am willing to give him all the time he wants and do anything he asks out of me.
The bitter irony of this whole story is that he told me he had been thinking about reaching out to his mother, but on his terms and time. By going behind his back I almost destroyed that chance of reconciliation and imploded our marriage. I am working on myself and will start seeing a therapist next month so I never do something like that ever again and more importantly, never betray his trust ever again. Also, with my husband's knowledge and consent, I apologized to MIL for leading her on with false promises and she has forgiven me.
As for him and MIL, they started talking to each other, have met a couple of times in public and yesterday my husband invited her over for dinner so that in his words we all can try to start over properly. She's a very sweet woman and she's eager to reconcile with him and get to know me. My husband said that for now he wants for all of us to get a bit used to each other, then he and MIL will get to work on their traumas (his words).
He says she's not the "villain" in what happened, but he needs to come to terms with her poor decisions and his own feelings of guilt for her losing her baby. MIL on the other hand is very apologetic and extremely sorry about what happened (in my husband's opinion, sincerely so) and doesn't blame him at all for the miscarriage.
As for me, I just sit aside and do my best to rebuild the trust with my husband and become a better and safe partner. He started being affectionate with me again and we are no longer on thin ice, but I can't stop thinking I almost lost him because I thought I knew better than him.
Comments
Veronika9216
I remember your story, and I hope you appreciate how lucky you are to be given a second chance.
You know you screwed up when both your husband and the estranged parent are upset at you for what you have done. It seems you all are on the road of reconciling, but never forget that your short-sighted actions could have nuked any possibility of them reconciling and your own marriage.
Be thankful you are given this chance, don't screw it up and although your husband and MIL have forgiven you for breaking both their trusts, it will take time to rebuild their trust for you.
Syclone11
I am happy for you OP. You know how you massively screwed up and have shown yourself to be remorseful and have grasped what you did to your husband.
He and his mother have a lot of healing to do. You are right to stay out of it going forward unless asked by your husband. He is being affectionate because he does love you and knows you deserve redemption and is looking to give you that gift. You are very lucky and I think this will make you a more complete partner. I wish nothing but the best for you, your husband and his mother.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP. Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
2024.05.16 15:01 aznpersuazion Why Vancouver has THE BEST FOOD IN NORTH AMERICA
Alright, buckle up because we're diving into why Vancouver's food scene is straight-up legendary. Forget the regular city vibes; Vancouver is a melting pot of flavors, a culinary carnival that beats anything else in North America. Join me on this personal quest to unravel why the combo of Asian influence, Pacific Northwest goodness, and chill dining vibes makes Vancouver the top pick for foodies.
Asian Culinary Delights: Tradition and Creativity Unleashed
Vancouver's streets resonate with the aromas of traditional Asian dishes, prepared with a touch of authenticity that transports you across borders. Picture slurping savory ramen in Chinatown or savoring hand-pulled noodles in a cozy corner of East Van. But what makes Vancouver's Asian food scene truly exceptional is its fusion of tradition with modern creativity.
In this city, innovation meets tradition on a plate. Take, for instance, squid ink brioche with sea urchin pâté – a daring yet harmonious blend of flavors that pushes the boundaries of culinary expectations. Vancouver's chefs are culinary artists, creating dishes that not only pay homage to traditional recipes but also elevate them into extraordinary, palate-pleasing experiences.
And let's not forget the matcha mochi croissants that have taken the city by storm. A fusion of Japanese mochi and French croissants, these delectable pastries are a testament to Vancouver's culinary diversity. Each bite is a dance of textures and tastes, showcasing the city's flair for seamlessly blending cultures and cuisines.
Pacific Northwest's Grocery List: Seafood Galore and More
Living next to the Pacific Ocean is like having a seafood aisle in your backyard. Fresh salmon, sweet Dungeness crab, and chubby spot prawns – Vancouver's seafood game is on point. And let's not forget the local veggies and meats, straight from the region's green landscapes. It's like nature’s way of saying, "Hey, enjoy the good stuff!"
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Vancouver's layout is like a dating app for food and nature; they're a match made in heaven. Whether you're brunching in a leafy neighborhood or devouring seafood with an ocean panorama, the city serves up an Instagrammable backdrop for every meal. Picture this: a patio, a breeze, and the scent of fir trees – eating out just got a whole lot cooler.
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Conclusion
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Asian Culinary Delights: Tradition and Creativity Unleashed
Vancouver's streets resonate with the aromas of traditional Asian dishes, prepared with a touch of authenticity that transports you across borders. Picture slurping savory ramen in Chinatown or savoring hand-pulled noodles in a cozy corner of East Van. But what makes Vancouver's Asian food scene truly exceptional is its fusion of tradition with modern creativity.
In this city, innovation meets tradition on a plate. Take, for instance, squid ink brioche with sea urchin pâté – a daring yet harmonious blend of flavors that pushes the boundaries of culinary expectations. Vancouver's chefs are culinary artists, creating dishes that not only pay homage to traditional recipes but also elevate them into extraordinary, palate-pleasing experiences.
And let's not forget the matcha mochi croissants that have taken the city by storm. A fusion of Japanese mochi and French croissants, these delectable pastries are a testament to Vancouver's culinary diversity. Each bite is a dance of textures and tastes, showcasing the city's flair for seamlessly blending cultures and cuisines.
Pacific Northwest's Grocery List: Seafood Galore and More
Living next to the Pacific Ocean is like having a seafood aisle in your backyard. Fresh salmon, sweet Dungeness crab, and chubby spot prawns – Vancouver's seafood game is on point. And let's not forget the local veggies and meats, straight from the region's green landscapes. It's like nature’s way of saying, "Hey, enjoy the good stuff!"
Nature Vibes: Dining with a View
Vancouver's layout is like a dating app for food and nature; they're a match made in heaven. Whether you're brunching in a leafy neighborhood or devouring seafood with an ocean panorama, the city serves up an Instagrammable backdrop for every meal. Picture this: a patio, a breeze, and the scent of fir trees – eating out just got a whole lot cooler.
Neighborhood Chronicles: Culinary Adventures Off the Beaten Path
Downtown is cool, but venture out, and you'll hit foodie gold. Commercial Drive's eclectic spots or Richmond's legit Asian flavors – Vancouver's neighborhoods are like culinary treasure maps. Each area has its own flavor story, tempting you to be the food explorer you were born to be.
Conclusion
Vancouver isn't just a city with good food; it's a food fiesta waiting to happen. The Asian vibes, the Pacific Northwest's goodies, and the city's chill connection with nature make dining here a full-blown experience. Vancouver isn't just North America's food champion; it's a vibe, a journey through flavors, and a big, fat stamp on your foodie passport. So, next time you're craving a culinary adventure, Vancouver's got your back, fork, and knife.
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2024.05.16 14:59 Nikkii1221 How to distance yourself from a friendship
I 25F started being friends with Amy(alias)25F about four years ago. During our friendship I found that she wanted to spend every second of her waking time with me. She at the time did not work because her husband had good income.
I get tired of people really quick… I started going places without her and she would text me questioning why I didn’t invite her. I started distancing myself from her until she sent me a text saying that if I didn’t want to give her time or make time for her she didn’t want to be friends.
We didn’t talk for about a year. After that she got pregnant and we started being friends again but I maintained my distance because I didn’t want her to het too close to me and have to go over the same thing again.
Well…. We are back at the same thing. We don’t even live in the same state anymore. I dont talk frequently with my best friends, if they need something I’m always there but I’m not one to check in every couple of days. (That is how I like it)
Having any time of friendship with Amy feels exhausting. She is now a SAHM of two babies and still gets “sad” if we dont text often and keeps trying to make plans to travel and come see me. I may sound like the worst person on earth but I need her to understand I don’t want to be close. I am happy just being friends that talk every 6months or so.
She is now traveling to the state my mom lives in (she has briefly met my mom twice) and she has messaged my mother that she wants to see her…
How does she not get the signs that we are not close friends and I dont want to be close friends!!!
I know this might sound silly to some but I’m a really bad over thinker and don’t like hurting peoples feelings! I also hate confrontation
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I get tired of people really quick… I started going places without her and she would text me questioning why I didn’t invite her. I started distancing myself from her until she sent me a text saying that if I didn’t want to give her time or make time for her she didn’t want to be friends.
We didn’t talk for about a year. After that she got pregnant and we started being friends again but I maintained my distance because I didn’t want her to het too close to me and have to go over the same thing again.
Well…. We are back at the same thing. We don’t even live in the same state anymore. I dont talk frequently with my best friends, if they need something I’m always there but I’m not one to check in every couple of days. (That is how I like it)
Having any time of friendship with Amy feels exhausting. She is now a SAHM of two babies and still gets “sad” if we dont text often and keeps trying to make plans to travel and come see me. I may sound like the worst person on earth but I need her to understand I don’t want to be close. I am happy just being friends that talk every 6months or so.
She is now traveling to the state my mom lives in (she has briefly met my mom twice) and she has messaged my mother that she wants to see her…
How does she not get the signs that we are not close friends and I dont want to be close friends!!!
I know this might sound silly to some but I’m a really bad over thinker and don’t like hurting peoples feelings! I also hate confrontation
2024.05.16 14:55 Mamono29a What “new light” has come out the past few months?
I’ve been POMO for 30 years now, but my mom is still way PIMI. The other day I got this text from my cousin:
“Hey. Just wanted to say hi. Things have been crazy. I was just listening to some ex-JW YouTube video talking about the new changes and all the people waking up and it made me think of you guys. LOL How'd your mom take the changes?”
I’m going camping with my mom and I’d like to probe to see what she thinks about these changes, but I want to make sure I know them all. The ones I know of are:
Beards allowed No more ties required Soft birthday allowance (okay to celebrate, just don’t invite others from congregation)
I was a 80s/90s kid so, other than what I catch in here I don’t really know what’s happening on the day-to-day.
Thanks
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“Hey. Just wanted to say hi. Things have been crazy. I was just listening to some ex-JW YouTube video talking about the new changes and all the people waking up and it made me think of you guys. LOL How'd your mom take the changes?”
I’m going camping with my mom and I’d like to probe to see what she thinks about these changes, but I want to make sure I know them all. The ones I know of are:
Beards allowed No more ties required Soft birthday allowance (okay to celebrate, just don’t invite others from congregation)
I was a 80s/90s kid so, other than what I catch in here I don’t really know what’s happening on the day-to-day.
Thanks
2024.05.16 14:53 No_Funny3533 Miyuki Miyamoto/ Yomi / Jeong Nahyeon Scam Network Sites JPNDATE CUDATE DATESTEADY SAYHIUP
 | UPDATED INFO throughout it. submitted by No_Funny3533 to Romance_Scamer [link] [comments] They have a new Scam Website: https://www.datesteady.com/ (Reuses JPNDATE assets even) I think she Chinese and Korean. They try to scam me a second time, her friend (I just wanted real love) Yomi/ Miyuki Miyamoto/ Jeong Nahyeon Written Before: There is this dangerous woman (same person) running many fake Chinese Romance scam websites, fake Instagram pages, tik tok, We chats, and many Chinese porn sites. It is the same person, she uses her looks with pictures and videos to steal money from men. She has many names she goes by, probably even more than I found. She also uses bots to get fake likes and weird Anime filters to try to look like an idol. She has scam artist female friends also I found. She the leader. I know a lot of scammers steal from other people's identities but that is not the case here. This is the same person as the scammer. My story will explain it. As well as this person has pictures of the same person you can’t find anywhere else on the Internet. Even if you do a Reverse Face image search. They said information that match to an unbelievable level. The person who Scammed me: Has Many names (Such As) And a talent for speaking many languages
https://www.instagram.com/gracegracemei/ Email: [miyukilovee@outlook.com](mailto:miyukilovee@outlook.com) (Something about BlessCeline Lovee) Skype ID: live:.cid.737fb9ac2ad5655c
(Make Sense) u/mingmei1344 https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ https://www.facebook.com/liuliu.meimingmei (Owner of aiu_agency since 2015) u/aiu_agency https://www.instagram.com/aiu_agency/
Hotel Connected: SHILLA STAY Gwanghwamun Her Scam Artist friends who work for both Ai_U Agency and JPNDATE CUDATE (That I found) Vynnie_nat : https://www.instagram.com/vynnie_nat/#jiejierui_ngc: https://www.instagram.com/jiejierui_ngc/Veravera_zhangg: https://www.instagram.com/veravera_zhangg/Elle_owo_elle : https://www.instagram.com/elle_owo_elle/Qiqi_shenglim : https://www.instagram.com/qiqi_shenglim/Myemye_owo_ : https://www.instagram.com/myemye_owo_/Her Friends that are connected somehow but not sure how yet. They appear everywhere with the fake accountsRiyandiwilliam : https://www.instagram.com/riyandiwilliam/https://preview.redd.it/2d0g7b2las0d1.jpg?width=400&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f25ee7d014b3ae338612c980a5db88eca5ef6cb5Summary: Jpndate.com is a dangerous Romance scam. All the women are paid actors for the website from China. They will try to get into a relationship with you very fast, don’t fall for it. They are milking you for money like if you're a cow. They will threaten to kill you or your family if you call out their scam. They might also say they will sue you. If you stop paying them, they will text you very little. They will never video call you face-to-face. Jpndate.com has a sister scam website from the same people called sayhiup.com. When you buy something on Jpndate the payment goes to Cudate Limited, so that site must be part of the scam also. There is a company in China doing all type of illegal and immoral practices. Their name is Zhengzhou Zhongzhiqi Technology Co., Ltd. / 郑州市中之祺科技有限公司 . They have their main technology business but they also run a list of many scam websites stealing money from American men, Asian, and European men. Such as Cudate, JPNDate, SayhiUp. These are romance scam sites where all the women work for the company. If you make a female account it will pend forever. Only men get approved. They claimed before to be an American-owned company then I exposed them now they claim to be Dutch. Their servers are all in China. They never filed paperwork with any foreign country. They are none of these the Chinese pretending to run many dating sites when in fact it’s all fake. They claim to be in nations their not. They have fake terms of service. I used PayPal before I didn't know it was a scam. I paid in dollars, but they refused to refund me till I told PayPal. PayPal made them. Then they refused to pay me the total amount they wanted to pay me on yuan when I paid dollars. I report them to FTC. They also try to hack my laptop for tell the government the truth about them. They probably get funds from the Communist Party government. They are very very bad people. Please look into it or forward this message somewhere where it can be looked into. Pretends to be a legit dating site but feel more like a pay-to-use website for fake love. All women here are paid actors for the site. The same few women have multiple profiles pretending to be different people. Funny part is anytime you call out JPNDate bs they change their terms of service. Screenshot everything people. They have a fake page saying their trying to stop scammers, it all bs they are the scammers. Host of JPNDate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) My Story: (Update): I know it is the same person, They told me in a text message. Do you like Asian women? Real Asian women? These ones are real! I know who they are. Hi! This is Mark Faraday talking to you. This is my story of how a website named JPNDate Idols scammed me out of 4000 American dollars. First, I was on Japan Cupid, a dating site. On Japan Cupid, no one can chat unless one of you has a membership. I bought a 1-week membership. Within 5 minutes to 10 minutes, a woman nicknamed Yomi from Japan messaged me; this should have been a red flag for me. We talked for a while. She said she was interested in me. She asked me if I could move over to the dating site JPNDate because she paid for membership there and not Japan Cupid. She also promised to delete her account on Japan Cupid after we changed sites. She does delete her account off Japan Cupid. Unlike a normal scam artist, who may only have 1 or 2 photos, she has several photos on her profile. My trust in her grows a bit seeing that. She then privately messaged me several more photos of her. She asked me for some photos, which I sent. She then sends back happy and heartfelt emojis. She told me she doesn’t date Asian men anymore because they were violent to her in the past and her last boyfriend cheated on her. She talked about how she didn’t want to fight with me. She also said we could talk about any topic. She would compliment me often, as I did for her. Of course, on my profile page, I try to post my best pictures. Throughout my life, I have had many different hairstyles. She even mentioned this and got very happy and asked if I was a hairstylist. The spam of talking between us was from January 20th, 2024, to March 24th, 2024. On JPNDate, there is an upgrade system. You need Blue Diamond to chat with others. Crown to send videos. Blue Diamond is 20 dollars per month, and Crown is 80 dollars per month. I got the Blue Diamond membership at first. It showed her with it too. After a day or two, she asked me to upgrade like she did to the Crown membership so she could send me a video. I upgraded it, and she did actually send me a video. All pictures and the video match the same person and the same face. Some pictures were in different locations, and some were like three different pictures in the same place. We then later buy a 6-month Crown membership for each other because it is cheaper than 1 month at a time. I bought it for her, and she bought it for me. At this point, I start to believe. This person was giving me all their time. They reply very often, and their texting time was the same as Japan timezones every single day. They spoke not only English but also Japanese almost fluently. However, they did let me know that they're still learning English and sometimes use a translator. She let me know that this website has something called a mall. This should have been red flag number 2. You pay 1 American dollar for each gold point. Paypal is the only thing that works. When we started dating, she said it was normal for couples in Japan to send each other gifts. It was a symbol of forever love in Japan, she claimed. As an American, I didn’t know if this was true. I googled it and couldn’t get a clear answer. She said whatever I bought her, she would buy me as well. She asked if I liked necklaces or charms. I said anything was fine. She wanted me to pick up a necklace. At first, she picked up a $1,000 necklace from the site mall and asked me. I said no; that's way too much money for that. She said how about a 300-dollar Jade Romance charm. She told me to get her white one; she would get me the green one. I questioned if she was legit. She started crying. She somehow convinced me at the time that she was legit again. I did buy it. A few weeks later, I did receive the overpriced Green Jade Romance love charm to my address from her. I never told her which day exactly my tracking information said it would come to my house, but I asked her, and her tracking date was the same week as mine. By the way something almost the same as this necklace is 12 dollars on Amazon. It also broke when I got it in the mail. Probably cost them 2 cent to make. For the next few days, we had a wonderful, happy conversation. It is late January, and I know Valentine's Day is coming. I offered to get her flowers. I got her flowers and chocolate at a very high price of multiple hundred dollars. She then gets so happy. She told me many times how she wanted to go to America and find me. We talked about many topics for several more days. She told me she worked in an office in Tokyo. Yomi told me her real name was Miyuki Miyamoto. Which is very funny because I told her before I was a Nintendo fan, and this is the same last name as Mario and Zelda Creator. She also said she had her apartment to herself, which is true; she does own an apartment. She talked about how life is stressful right now in Japan. She claimed to have grown up in the Japanese town of Nagano, Japan. She also said she had gone to a university in Tokyo with a major in computer science. She wanted to visit America in July for 15 days when she had her time off. July is a normal time for people to get off in Japan for vacation, so I thought nothing of it. I told her that I was from a smaller town in California, but I lived not far from San Francisco. I told her how my town is quiet and how I could see mountains outside my house. She said she wanted a peaceful life and that life in Tokyo is too fast. And she always had great things to say about every picture I sent. We also talk about going on dates. I asked most of the questions, but she did ask me questions as well. I started to ask her a lot of questions about Japan. Like if she visited Himeji Castle, she said no. However, I did say yes to visiting Mount Fuji. I should have asked for a photo of this, but I didn’t. She was very happy; she told me very many topics about Japan. We even briefly talked about anime. She told me she liked Digimon, Dragon Ball Z, One Piece, and Detective Conan. This information is important later. We also talked about how both of us were big Disney fans growing up. One day she told me, how work was busy today. I told her it was okay and we didn’t need to talk today. She did, however, still text me a little bit that day. This was the only day during our whole time talking when she was super busy. There is nothing wrong with this; all humans get busy. I decided to spend my evening drawing a picture of me and Yomi on a date to surprise her. When I sent it to her, she did not react. This was a red flag for me. I tried to convince myself that she just didn’t like drawings that much. I know I sound really dumb right here, but whoever I was talking to is very smart and knows a lot of things. We started talking a few days later about the idea of meeting and going on dates together. I know that the yen is weak against the American dollar right now. I told them I would pay for anything they wanted when they were in America because I was in love. This was a big, big, big mistake. They then asked if I could give them 1500 dollars to buy a plane ticket. Never give money to people you never meet in real life, folks. Don’t be dumb like me. Turns out the ticket was actually 2100, so they asked for another 500 dollars the next day, claiming their friend let them borrow the money, and they paid the difference. They did show me a picture of a plane ticket. With the name Yomi and the correct airports in Tokyo and San Francisco. This gave me more trust in them; I got a lot of photos, videos, and even a picture of a plane ticket. At some point, I talked to them about social media. They claim to only have Skype and Line. I found it very hard to believe a woman in her 20s wasn’t on Instagram or Tik Tok. I went on Instagram and typed Yomi, and I found a Yomi who looked just like her. This made me think: why did she lie? What confused me is that all the pictures on her Instagram were different from the ones she sent me, other than one image that was the same. Meaning that the images were not clearly stolen from there. I looked up JPNDate online; there isn’t much info on this website (Right Now), other than one reddit forum from 1 year ago. Someone said something about being scammed by an IDOL on this site. They also said the website wasn’t in Japan but in China. I was wondering why I never saw new females joining the website; it was the same 23 pages worth of them. I wanted to test the website to see if it was legit. I made another account, a fake male account with AI artwork. It was approved in one second. I then made a fake female account; it said pending approval. It has now been 2 weeks since I made that account, and it still says pending approval. This means all the women on this website have to be fake actors. There is also a setting on JPNDate to see who has been online last or which accounts are the oldest. When I asked weeks before, Yomi claimed she had been on this website only for a short time. Her oldest picture was dated October 20, 2023. Yet she has the sixth-oldest account on JPNDate, according to the website. The reddit forum I talked about before was over a year old. When I was on this website for a month, at least 10 other women tried to text me. There was this one profile of a woman from Taiwan, age 20. She texted me three times in one month. When I joined, her age was listed as 20, and at some point, she changed her age to 25 on her profile. I ignored all these women. This proves again that all these women are fake. I do think they are women based on how they type, but they are not truthful like they act like they are. As I write this, I just realized this is Yomi's sister; it matches the other Yomi account's sister tag. I knew this website wasn’t telling the truth. I found the JPNDate IP address and tracked it to a server in Hong Kong, China, hosted by Alibaba cloud servers. Reddit was right; the website is Chinese. I took pictures of the website code just in case. I asked Yomi if she knew Alibaba. Then she asked if I’m going to China—a very strange follow-up question. At this point, I was confused. Who is Yomi? I couldn’t find anything about Miyuki Miyamoto, only Yomi. On Yomi Instagram, she speaks Chinese, not Japanese. I started to think there are no Japanese women on this website like they claim to be. She does speak Japanese, though. I started using more than 10 different software programs to track who Yomi was. I found like 1000 pictures of an idol, WeChat model, singer, dancer, person on endless Chinese dating sites, and a valiant professional gamer part of the AI’U agency for over 8 years. I found two other Instagram accounts with Yomi's face. Another account in Chinese with an idol name other than Yomi also had a Facebook page. The Chinese account has a post about her going to Australia in early 2024, where she is typing in English words. I also found an account where she speaks only Korean on Instagram. I also found a tik-tok where someone dances and looks 100% the same as Yomi, to whom I’m talking. The part that is crazy is that none of the images are 100% the same, but the person is the same in all of them. This shocked me; I follow all the accounts. I saw the stories daily to see who this person was. Her Yomi account is just her normal pictures and atm company or something. Her Korean account is about traveling to Singapore, Spain, and South Korea. She also posts a lot about Disney toys here. When I talked to the scammer about Disney, I had no idea about this. At this point, I knew that many men had been scammed out of money for fake love, not just me. These women are real women. However, there are actors pretending to be in love. They will crush your heart and call you names after a few weeks if you don’t buy their stuff. It has to be from JPNdate Mall only, nowhere else. JPNdate Mall prices are crazy high. I am not sure if the point of the website is just for money or if it is actually for women to study English or what. Chinese women, pretending to be Japanese (most of them), that have connections to Korean music and gaming on professional teams. Man, what a hell of a story this is. This sounds like a Hollywood movie, but it's real, or at least partly. At this point, everything I say seems to be true based on what I know. Yomi told me early on that she had one older sister and one younger brother. It seems like she is actually a twin, and she is the younger sister. Yomi claims to be 25, but I think she is closer to 27 or 28 based on finding a listing of her work in 2015 at Twitch Gaming. You have to be 18 or older to work at Twitch gaming, unless your parents sign things. When I showed the pictures I found to Yomi on JPNdate, she played the victim card on me. Saying she thinks I’m a liar and she wants to break up. Then she gave me her Skype account to try to prove it was legit, and all the other images and accounts were stolen and fake. Her Skype name is Rose, with a One Piece picture. She sent me many voice clips, crying, trying to convince me that she was real. I put them in software, and the voice was 30% human, 70% AI. Clearly, a woman is changing her Chinese or Korean voice to sound Japanese. A PC gamer would know how to do this; they do it all the time to troll. Yomi told me she didn’t play video games anymore, but I found a picture that wasn’t that old of a woman who looked the same as her; she had a Nintendo Switch with a white OLED in it. Btw it’s a known fact that Yomi uses software to cheat in the Pc FPS games. I can’t let Yomi, her sister, and her idol friends scam men for their time and money. Yomi Chiense's name is Vera Yuanxin (维拉). Her twin sister goes by veravera_zhangg. Yomi “deleted her profile” when I exposed her. But Yomi is still there with no pictures. Two they clearly have other accounts with people who look like she just changed hairstyle, talking and trying to scam other men. Remember when I said the anime part was important? On Yomi's Korean account, she has a friend with whom she talks about Digimon. She gave him a Disney toy. She told me she wanted to cosplay a fox; his profile is a fox. There is just so much proof that these are the same people. Later someone hit me up on Reddit from the Phillippines and told me how the same person Yomi scammed them. How for months Yomi promise them so many things. Then when they said it came to going on the plane to visit him they said they were sick or dying or something. Yomi also made a fake Instagram pretending to be Joe Biden and sent me a friend invite. I messaged and it was so funny how bad it was on their part. I said “Yomi are you trolling me?” then they deleted their account. This was on April 6th, 2024. Yomi tries so hard but use a lot of cheap things that are clearly fake like ai artwork, bots for like at ai_u agency, and fake profiles where she comments herself and attacks anyone who calls her out fairly. After exposing Jpndate they Ip ban my address lol. Then on social media joke about attacking me. If you call out their BS they threaten your family and yourself. Just stay away from all these sites if you're going to date online use well-known legit sites. 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2024.05.16 14:52 Unhappy-Yak-8648 Amazon pay credit card application rejected
I have two hdfc credit cards, both very recent. One is a moneyback plus and the other is a swiggy co branded credit card. I don't know why did my icici Amazon pay card got refused. I've never faltered on any emi payment or credit card payment. I had applied for a kotak bank credit card as well which got rejected even though I was sent an email invite for it.
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- Since I can't apply for the Amazon pay credit card for smother 6 months, any suggestions?
- I have applied for one card as well, the app says it is reserved but nothings been issued so far its almost a month since the application.
- My salary account is in HDFC and I don't have an account in icici bank. Could that be a reason?
2024.05.16 14:51 Mariahhope92900 (F4M) looking for a wholesome boyfriend role-play
Hi my name is Mariah I'm 23 years old I'm looking for someone to role play with me I prefer that we play in first person, I have several scenarios that you can pick from I have two requirements. 1. I prefer that we play in first person, 2. Just be patient with me because I don’t type that fast but I am starting to write a lot more detail during my role-play, so just be patient with me please .3. I accept experienced role-play players.only Please write a lot of detail during the role-play if you can. If you are interested in role-playing with me, just message me I roleplay comfort to dark roleplay I prefer role-playing in Reddit chat because it's easier for me but if you cannot role-play on,Reddit I do Role-play on Twitter,. I hope to chat with you soon, here's a list of the scenarios that you can pick from Let me know what scenario you would like to do with me please do not ghost me a lot of people do that because they don’t like the way I role-play ….please pick a scenario from the list please be 18+. Here the scenarios that we can do
1st scenario
Here’s the scenario You come home from work and your partner tells you that her parents are having a family gathering at their house and she wants to go. She tells you that she was diagnosed with a fainting disorder so you could be aware of it
2nd scenario
Here’s the scenario You come home from work you don’t see your partner in the living room with all the family and you go upstairs to look for them
3rd scenario
Here’s the scenario You come home from work you don’t see me in the living room and you start looking around for me you find me in the corner in our bedroom having a panic attack
4th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at the store you receive a text message from your partner that they are having another bad mingran and they ask you to bring medication from the store
5th scenario
Here’s the scenario You come home from work and you don’t find me anywhere in the house and you start looking everywhere and you find me in the kitchen having mental breakdown because I am stressed out about everything that’s happening in my life
6th scenario
Here’s the scenario You got home from work and you don’t see your partner in the living room you check everywhere for them you finally find them in the bathroom in the bedroom next to toilet
7th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at home relaxing from your busy day at work you receive a phone call from your partner and she is crying hysterically on the phone and she tells you that her dad and her got into another argument but it ended bad and she asks you to go get her from her house and take her back to your place.
8th scenario
Here’s the scenario You get home from work and you don’t see your partner in the living room you checked everywhere for them and you finally find them in the bedroom having a autism episode because people are bullying them at work
9th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at work and you are working as a paramedic and you are driving on the street with your coworker and you stop at a gas station and when you are in the gas station call comes in on the radio and says your home address and you come back to the ambulance and your coworker said they just said they just said your address on the radio and you start panicking because I am home alone and you know I have a couple medical conditions that they are aware of you call me but you don’t get an answer from me rush with your coworker and you go inside the house and you don’t find me anywhere but then your coworker find me in the basement unconscious
10th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at work and your partner called you from work.they tell you that they are going to go hang out with their friends from college at the club. you told them to be careful and you tell them to have a good time you get home from work and it’s late and you notice that your partner is not home yet and you called their phone no answer and then you get a call from Your partners phone and you answer it and you recognize it not your partner, voice the person told you that your partner was drug at the club and that your partner is on the way to the hospital
11th Scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at work and your partner calls you and tell you they are going to go swimming at a party with friends from college and you get home from work and it’s very late and you tried calling your partner and they don’t answer and get a call from the hospital, saying that your partner has been admitted to the hospital for being drugged and abuse and assaulted
12th Scenario
Here’s the scenario you are on your lunch break at work and you get a phone call from your partners parents and they tell you that your partner is having a Tourette episode and this one is bad and they cannot handle it and they need you to come help them with your partner you know that your partner has a really hard time coming out of these episodes and they pass out after having an episode.
13th Scenario Here’s the scenario you are in a long distance, relationship with your partner and you decide to fly them out to see you and meet your royalty family after your partner meets your family your family that they don’t like your partner and they do everything especially the mother get rid of your partner and you are a prince of England trying to find his queen
14th Scenario Here’s the scenario you are at work and your partner call you and tell you that they are gonna go to the store to get some stuff for the house and when you get home you are parked in the driveway and you get off the car and you go inside and you see them on the floor in the living room unconscious with all their clothes off and you see them beaten up and you see them with the rope around their neck
15th Scenario Here’s the scenario you come home from work early because you have to do a lot of stuff around the house and you call your partner to let them know that you’re coming home early from work you get home and you see your partner in the living room with the lights off and everything and you know that they are having a hard time with being abused, verbally emotionally and mentally and you see them crying hysterically in the living room
16thScenario
Here’s the scenario you are at working at the EMT station and you are doing paperwork and you receive a call from the dispatcher that there was a shooting at the high school they say the name of the school and you start freaking out because your partner works at the school and you get in the car and you start driving over to the school and you see your police officers helping everybody out and you go inside and you find me in the classroom unresponsive with the student on top of me and you can tell that they are unresponsive as well
17th Scenario
Here’s the scenario you come home from work and you let your partner know that you’re home from work and you tell your partner that we are going to go to your parents house because we were invited to a family gathering and we go to your parents house and all your family and greet us and when you are not in the area, they all treat me bad except for your mom
18th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at work You are doing report because you are a detective you receive a case that someone has been kidnapped and when you get the information on the computer and you realize it’s your partner and you start calling them and they don’t answer their phone
19th scenario
Heres the scenario You are on deployment for two years and you get home from being away for two years and you don’t tell your partner that you’re coming home and you go to the living room and you find them unconscious on the floor
20th scenario
Here’s the scenario you are working a late shift at the fire station and you are working on paperwork with all your coworkers and the captain comes in and says we got a call for a fire at the apartment complex on Hollywood Boulevard 1604 on the third Floor and we need everybody to go help put out the fire, do your coworkers get into the firetruck and get to the scene and realize that the fire is coming from your apartment and you remember that your partner is in the building
21st scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at your parents house after a late shift at the hospital and you stop by to see how your parents are doing and you receive a call the hospital and they tell you that they need you right away and you get back to the hospital and they tell you we have three casualties coming in and when the patients are brought into the hospital, you go up to one of the patient and you see it’s your partner
22nd scenario
Here’s the scenario you are at your parents house helping them clean the house and you are doing spring cleaning with them and you check your phone and you see that you had missed calls and a lot of messages from your partners mother and you call back and your partners mother says I’m worried about my daughter because I think she’s having one of her suicidal episodes and she looked herself in the room and I can’t get a hold of her father because he’s at work so can you come help me please.
23rd scenario
Here’s the scenario you are out home and you receive a call from your partner and they tell you that they are running away from home and they tell you they are running to your house when they get to your house. They are bleeding from their face and you can tell that they been beaten up and they are freaking out and screaming because they are scared
24th scenario
Here’s the scenario you are working as a secret agent for a big company you are on break and your leader calls out to everyone and says I need everybody’s help we are missing our medical team and when you hear that the medical team is missing you start freaking out because your partner works for the medical team of the company that you work for you’re leader says everybody has been kidnapped on the medical team and you are just freaking out because you don’t know what kind of condition your partner is in
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1st scenario
Here’s the scenario You come home from work and your partner tells you that her parents are having a family gathering at their house and she wants to go. She tells you that she was diagnosed with a fainting disorder so you could be aware of it
2nd scenario
Here’s the scenario You come home from work you don’t see your partner in the living room with all the family and you go upstairs to look for them
3rd scenario
Here’s the scenario You come home from work you don’t see me in the living room and you start looking around for me you find me in the corner in our bedroom having a panic attack
4th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at the store you receive a text message from your partner that they are having another bad mingran and they ask you to bring medication from the store
5th scenario
Here’s the scenario You come home from work and you don’t find me anywhere in the house and you start looking everywhere and you find me in the kitchen having mental breakdown because I am stressed out about everything that’s happening in my life
6th scenario
Here’s the scenario You got home from work and you don’t see your partner in the living room you check everywhere for them you finally find them in the bathroom in the bedroom next to toilet
7th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at home relaxing from your busy day at work you receive a phone call from your partner and she is crying hysterically on the phone and she tells you that her dad and her got into another argument but it ended bad and she asks you to go get her from her house and take her back to your place.
8th scenario
Here’s the scenario You get home from work and you don’t see your partner in the living room you checked everywhere for them and you finally find them in the bedroom having a autism episode because people are bullying them at work
9th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at work and you are working as a paramedic and you are driving on the street with your coworker and you stop at a gas station and when you are in the gas station call comes in on the radio and says your home address and you come back to the ambulance and your coworker said they just said they just said your address on the radio and you start panicking because I am home alone and you know I have a couple medical conditions that they are aware of you call me but you don’t get an answer from me rush with your coworker and you go inside the house and you don’t find me anywhere but then your coworker find me in the basement unconscious
10th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at work and your partner called you from work.they tell you that they are going to go hang out with their friends from college at the club. you told them to be careful and you tell them to have a good time you get home from work and it’s late and you notice that your partner is not home yet and you called their phone no answer and then you get a call from Your partners phone and you answer it and you recognize it not your partner, voice the person told you that your partner was drug at the club and that your partner is on the way to the hospital
11th Scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at work and your partner calls you and tell you they are going to go swimming at a party with friends from college and you get home from work and it’s very late and you tried calling your partner and they don’t answer and get a call from the hospital, saying that your partner has been admitted to the hospital for being drugged and abuse and assaulted
12th Scenario
Here’s the scenario you are on your lunch break at work and you get a phone call from your partners parents and they tell you that your partner is having a Tourette episode and this one is bad and they cannot handle it and they need you to come help them with your partner you know that your partner has a really hard time coming out of these episodes and they pass out after having an episode.
13th Scenario Here’s the scenario you are in a long distance, relationship with your partner and you decide to fly them out to see you and meet your royalty family after your partner meets your family your family that they don’t like your partner and they do everything especially the mother get rid of your partner and you are a prince of England trying to find his queen
14th Scenario Here’s the scenario you are at work and your partner call you and tell you that they are gonna go to the store to get some stuff for the house and when you get home you are parked in the driveway and you get off the car and you go inside and you see them on the floor in the living room unconscious with all their clothes off and you see them beaten up and you see them with the rope around their neck
15th Scenario Here’s the scenario you come home from work early because you have to do a lot of stuff around the house and you call your partner to let them know that you’re coming home early from work you get home and you see your partner in the living room with the lights off and everything and you know that they are having a hard time with being abused, verbally emotionally and mentally and you see them crying hysterically in the living room
16thScenario
Here’s the scenario you are at working at the EMT station and you are doing paperwork and you receive a call from the dispatcher that there was a shooting at the high school they say the name of the school and you start freaking out because your partner works at the school and you get in the car and you start driving over to the school and you see your police officers helping everybody out and you go inside and you find me in the classroom unresponsive with the student on top of me and you can tell that they are unresponsive as well
17th Scenario
Here’s the scenario you come home from work and you let your partner know that you’re home from work and you tell your partner that we are going to go to your parents house because we were invited to a family gathering and we go to your parents house and all your family and greet us and when you are not in the area, they all treat me bad except for your mom
18th scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at work You are doing report because you are a detective you receive a case that someone has been kidnapped and when you get the information on the computer and you realize it’s your partner and you start calling them and they don’t answer their phone
19th scenario
Heres the scenario You are on deployment for two years and you get home from being away for two years and you don’t tell your partner that you’re coming home and you go to the living room and you find them unconscious on the floor
20th scenario
Here’s the scenario you are working a late shift at the fire station and you are working on paperwork with all your coworkers and the captain comes in and says we got a call for a fire at the apartment complex on Hollywood Boulevard 1604 on the third Floor and we need everybody to go help put out the fire, do your coworkers get into the firetruck and get to the scene and realize that the fire is coming from your apartment and you remember that your partner is in the building
21st scenario
Here’s the scenario You are at your parents house after a late shift at the hospital and you stop by to see how your parents are doing and you receive a call the hospital and they tell you that they need you right away and you get back to the hospital and they tell you we have three casualties coming in and when the patients are brought into the hospital, you go up to one of the patient and you see it’s your partner
22nd scenario
Here’s the scenario you are at your parents house helping them clean the house and you are doing spring cleaning with them and you check your phone and you see that you had missed calls and a lot of messages from your partners mother and you call back and your partners mother says I’m worried about my daughter because I think she’s having one of her suicidal episodes and she looked herself in the room and I can’t get a hold of her father because he’s at work so can you come help me please.
23rd scenario
Here’s the scenario you are out home and you receive a call from your partner and they tell you that they are running away from home and they tell you they are running to your house when they get to your house. They are bleeding from their face and you can tell that they been beaten up and they are freaking out and screaming because they are scared
24th scenario
Here’s the scenario you are working as a secret agent for a big company you are on break and your leader calls out to everyone and says I need everybody’s help we are missing our medical team and when you hear that the medical team is missing you start freaking out because your partner works for the medical team of the company that you work for you’re leader says everybody has been kidnapped on the medical team and you are just freaking out because you don’t know what kind of condition your partner is in
2024.05.16 14:42 I-have-no-name000000 I feel kinda left out
So basically whenever I invite friend A to hang out with me, she usually declines by saying her mom won’t let her or she’s lazy and doesn’t wanna go out. Ok that’s cool, not everyone can go out.
Out of the blue, she invited me to watch a movie with friend B, which is kinda weird cause I don’t really talk much to friend B and kinda surprised that she would invite me. But that’s finee, I was gonna watch the movie anyways. Um turns out, they only invited me cause I can buy the tickets online and they couldn’t/ doesn’t know how.
Was surprised at first that friend A was able to go out when she says her mom doesn’t let her, but yeah she told me that she begged to her mom to go out. (Friend A also wasn’t interested in the movie)
Kinda don’t wanna go now cause I always feel left out whenever I’m with them, basically a third wheel 💀
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Out of the blue, she invited me to watch a movie with friend B, which is kinda weird cause I don’t really talk much to friend B and kinda surprised that she would invite me. But that’s finee, I was gonna watch the movie anyways. Um turns out, they only invited me cause I can buy the tickets online and they couldn’t/ doesn’t know how.
Was surprised at first that friend A was able to go out when she says her mom doesn’t let her, but yeah she told me that she begged to her mom to go out. (Friend A also wasn’t interested in the movie)
Kinda don’t wanna go now cause I always feel left out whenever I’m with them, basically a third wheel 💀
2024.05.16 14:37 Born_Radio3272 I need help to get rid of my AV
I’m 19 years old. I’ve never been sexually active. I’d say I have pretty good hygiene. I’ve had irregular periods from the day I started menstruating, & I’ve had 2 UTIs in the past (the first one was very severe), but other than that I’ve never really had any other issues down there.
Starting the first week of March (2024), I started experiencing unbearable itching out of the blue. A week later it evolved into burning, & I had lost all my vaginal fluids. so I went to the OBGYN that day. All of my symptoms lined up w/ a yeast infection so I was prescribed a pill & a cream. However, I felt zero difference. The day I finished my prescriptions I got my culture results back & I was negative for both yeast and BV.
A messaged my the doctor about this so I was invited to come back for a urine culture a few days later to see if I had another UTI. I had a different doctor this time but I was already familiar w/ her. The urine culture came back negative. The OB tried point pressure testing to see if the pain was coming from my urethra or closer to my uterus, but the only pain I was feeling was from the opening of my vagina when she was inserting it. She suggested it could be a ph imbalance & prescribed me a gel. We’ll that gel didn’t work bc I read the drug facts and it said it specifically targets BV, which I was negative for 🤦♀️
Around this time I wanted to wait to see the doctor again, so in the meantime, I switched soaps, ordered a probiotic, & chugged water everyday. For a while, my symptoms felt like they were almost gone. But alas, two weeks after this pure bliss my symptoms suddenly came back & were worse than before, both spontaneous & provoked. The itching dialed down but the burning intensified, accompanied by chafing when I walked, intense pain in & around my vulva to the point I couldn’t sit or lay down without pain, & my discharge did comeback but it still wasn’t a lot. It hurt to the touch when wiping, even inserting a tampon resulted in burning pain. Sometimes all of these symptoms would be so bad I’d have to waddle.
I went back to the OB and had a third doctor this time. I got another culture & she also suggested it could be the birth control I was on (Aurovela). I went cold turkey on the pill & overnight my vulva pain was almost gone, & for a few days I thought it had been that the whole time. Well, a few days later my OB called & said the culture detected a heavy growth of e.coli & would prescribe me antibiotics. Long story short the medicine didn’t work & my symptoms persisted, though at a lower intensity. Turns out my birth control had just been feeding my symptoms.
After getting my second period while having these symptoms, my discharge was completely back to normal, but it started to turn a pale yellow color & had its usual scent, but much stronger. I had to stop using ph wipes & vagisil cream because my entire vagina would feel like it caught on fire. My Mom helped do some research, including talking to an acquaintance who knew two ppl w/ my exact same dilemma, & my Mom and I found the problem: AEROBIC VAGINITIS! My symptoms & the type of bacteria I contracted line up with all of this! However, there’s no definitive way to cure it & in a lot of cases, it’s chronic, so that’s what scares me.
I ordered a couple packs of Neueve suppositories, & I thought they were working pretty well, I felt almost nothing & had felt back to normal before this all started. Well as of right now, it is mid May, & the last suppository is still in my system, & I had a symptom flare up last night & has persisted ever since. No itching, but the opening of my vag is tingly, stinging & sensitive. My Mom is going to try and find a specialist for me while I ordered a couple more Neueve packs. I’ve dealt w/ this for 2 1/2 months now! My heart goes out to anyone who had experienced this just like I am now.
If anyone has any advice or tips for me, please let me know. I don’t want this to overtake my life & I want my confidence back. I understand this takes time to go away but I need somewhere to start. Thank you.
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Starting the first week of March (2024), I started experiencing unbearable itching out of the blue. A week later it evolved into burning, & I had lost all my vaginal fluids. so I went to the OBGYN that day. All of my symptoms lined up w/ a yeast infection so I was prescribed a pill & a cream. However, I felt zero difference. The day I finished my prescriptions I got my culture results back & I was negative for both yeast and BV.
A messaged my the doctor about this so I was invited to come back for a urine culture a few days later to see if I had another UTI. I had a different doctor this time but I was already familiar w/ her. The urine culture came back negative. The OB tried point pressure testing to see if the pain was coming from my urethra or closer to my uterus, but the only pain I was feeling was from the opening of my vagina when she was inserting it. She suggested it could be a ph imbalance & prescribed me a gel. We’ll that gel didn’t work bc I read the drug facts and it said it specifically targets BV, which I was negative for 🤦♀️
Around this time I wanted to wait to see the doctor again, so in the meantime, I switched soaps, ordered a probiotic, & chugged water everyday. For a while, my symptoms felt like they were almost gone. But alas, two weeks after this pure bliss my symptoms suddenly came back & were worse than before, both spontaneous & provoked. The itching dialed down but the burning intensified, accompanied by chafing when I walked, intense pain in & around my vulva to the point I couldn’t sit or lay down without pain, & my discharge did comeback but it still wasn’t a lot. It hurt to the touch when wiping, even inserting a tampon resulted in burning pain. Sometimes all of these symptoms would be so bad I’d have to waddle.
I went back to the OB and had a third doctor this time. I got another culture & she also suggested it could be the birth control I was on (Aurovela). I went cold turkey on the pill & overnight my vulva pain was almost gone, & for a few days I thought it had been that the whole time. Well, a few days later my OB called & said the culture detected a heavy growth of e.coli & would prescribe me antibiotics. Long story short the medicine didn’t work & my symptoms persisted, though at a lower intensity. Turns out my birth control had just been feeding my symptoms.
After getting my second period while having these symptoms, my discharge was completely back to normal, but it started to turn a pale yellow color & had its usual scent, but much stronger. I had to stop using ph wipes & vagisil cream because my entire vagina would feel like it caught on fire. My Mom helped do some research, including talking to an acquaintance who knew two ppl w/ my exact same dilemma, & my Mom and I found the problem: AEROBIC VAGINITIS! My symptoms & the type of bacteria I contracted line up with all of this! However, there’s no definitive way to cure it & in a lot of cases, it’s chronic, so that’s what scares me.
I ordered a couple packs of Neueve suppositories, & I thought they were working pretty well, I felt almost nothing & had felt back to normal before this all started. Well as of right now, it is mid May, & the last suppository is still in my system, & I had a symptom flare up last night & has persisted ever since. No itching, but the opening of my vag is tingly, stinging & sensitive. My Mom is going to try and find a specialist for me while I ordered a couple more Neueve packs. I’ve dealt w/ this for 2 1/2 months now! My heart goes out to anyone who had experienced this just like I am now.
If anyone has any advice or tips for me, please let me know. I don’t want this to overtake my life & I want my confidence back. I understand this takes time to go away but I need somewhere to start. Thank you.
2024.05.16 14:35 gigov Is this considered Toxic femininity?
 | Hey all, submitted by gigov to Morocco [link] [comments] Need your opinion here, especially the women perspective. So I was scrolling Instagram today and I found this reel which I found funny at first then I scrolled the comments section (as you can see in the pictures) and I was quite surprised by the women reaction to what is considered an "ick" in a man I get that saying my mom is going to marry me or we have to split the household expenses can be an ick for women. But some are just delusional. my perspective to these comments is the following: • You are the wrong. You have to apologize (goes for both ) • Gift exchange should be in both ways ( I get that girls like to be treated like princesses and be pampered with gifts but how is giving a guy a gift especially for his birthday is considered an ick ) • If you are in a relationship you should not be calculating who should text first. • I am with the man leading the relationship, for example paying for dinners, activities but I see no harm in the woman inviting the man to a coffee/ dinner from time to time (especially if she is working and especially if this relationship is meant for marriage) Am I "a boy " for saying this ? |
2024.05.16 14:31 RainOrShine699 Sister Problem: Grave
So, my sister moved out to Utah to go to college. She ended up getting married and has three kids. Great kids. Good husband. The problem isn't distance. It's that she doesn't call my mother or return her phone calls very often. Like hardly. There has never been abuse or anything that would justify it. It's the same with me. I don't even really care about her calling me or want to call her. Her kids matter more to me than her. What's the problem: well, my mom is very depressed about it. And naturally. It's always "I'm busy" excuse...always gaslighting. She has time to be on social media and is all cozy with her family out there. I know being right there with them, you're going to have more contact with them, but little contact with your mother is unnatural. Here's how Mothers Day present went: sister sends my mom some picture frames for pictures of the kids. Doesn't send any pictures! "I have to go to Walmart," she told my mom. Like where you got the frames or you couldn't have just gone there if you're going to go through the trouble of sending frames for pics of grandchildren?
Well, my mom finally wrote her a letter. Gaslighting. Well, I'm trying to keep it brief. So my mom told her in a text message, after many BS reasons for not calling back, etc., she told my sister: "I'm done with you. Enjoy your life." Not quite disowned, but eight hours and she hadn't returned a text. Imagine your spouse says that. If you value your marriage, you're going to reply to that as soon as you see it.
Here comes the part where I think my sister needs to get serious, because if it did happen, she'll have blood on her hands. My mom says last night, "If it wasn't wrong, I would kill myself." So now, we're talking suicide...the level the doctors say is a cry for help...serious...SUICIDE.
I think I have to tell my sister. If this doesn't change things, I think...well. The problem is there has never been any signs of narcissism in my sister. I went through the DSM. Not one of the requirements met. I'm not going to call and tell her. Why? I don't want to have a gaslighting conversation with her, with excuses and all that. Text may seem the wrong way to go, but it just allows me to say it and then her to think. She might respond with a gaslight, but there's no game like in an actual conversation. It's basically, "Hey, I told you plain and simple, and if you don't understand that.....
Well, the suicide. It's serious. I mean, I can't just have the police come and take her to the hospital. There has to be an immediate threat for that, not just talk of it.
And one more thing. So my mom goes out there. She said my sister said they were going to do stuff. My mom said she just sat in the basement where the bedroom was on her phone. When she mentioned this to my sister, my sister said it was her fault for not coming up or something like that. My sister was watching re-runs of Grey's Anatomy. I think it is the HOST'S job to invite the guest to do things, not the guest's. I mean that seems the logic to me about that situation.
Well, my mom is removing her as power of attorney. She was going to split the house value when she dies. Now she's changing the will to where she doesn't get half. My mom says she gets nothing. She was never a beneficiary of the life insurance. My father died and the money I was supposed to get (he'd saved. It was 50k) went to her. He didn't know he was going to die prematurely. She and her husband needed some help with a downpayment. I mean it's only money, but that's why she's not on the life insurance. She got her cut, her husband makes pretty good money anyway....but power of attorney and half the house, gone. Which I think is just fine. Not because I want all of those financial benefits, but because it's just. She has a five bedroom house...you get the idea. Geez, you watch your father removed from life support....have to visit him in a coma and never talk to him again...you know you say stuff, but....now imagine you had to see your father comatose in a burn unit and then you have your mother kill herself.
It will be blood on her hands, and I don't know what I will do. I don't think she'll do it, but that she mentioned it, there's a problem. I'm just thinking of the right way to say it. Naturally, you want to be very angry. But, it's better to make it firm, but not too harsh.
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Well, my mom finally wrote her a letter. Gaslighting. Well, I'm trying to keep it brief. So my mom told her in a text message, after many BS reasons for not calling back, etc., she told my sister: "I'm done with you. Enjoy your life." Not quite disowned, but eight hours and she hadn't returned a text. Imagine your spouse says that. If you value your marriage, you're going to reply to that as soon as you see it.
Here comes the part where I think my sister needs to get serious, because if it did happen, she'll have blood on her hands. My mom says last night, "If it wasn't wrong, I would kill myself." So now, we're talking suicide...the level the doctors say is a cry for help...serious...SUICIDE.
I think I have to tell my sister. If this doesn't change things, I think...well. The problem is there has never been any signs of narcissism in my sister. I went through the DSM. Not one of the requirements met. I'm not going to call and tell her. Why? I don't want to have a gaslighting conversation with her, with excuses and all that. Text may seem the wrong way to go, but it just allows me to say it and then her to think. She might respond with a gaslight, but there's no game like in an actual conversation. It's basically, "Hey, I told you plain and simple, and if you don't understand that.....
Well, the suicide. It's serious. I mean, I can't just have the police come and take her to the hospital. There has to be an immediate threat for that, not just talk of it.
And one more thing. So my mom goes out there. She said my sister said they were going to do stuff. My mom said she just sat in the basement where the bedroom was on her phone. When she mentioned this to my sister, my sister said it was her fault for not coming up or something like that. My sister was watching re-runs of Grey's Anatomy. I think it is the HOST'S job to invite the guest to do things, not the guest's. I mean that seems the logic to me about that situation.
Well, my mom is removing her as power of attorney. She was going to split the house value when she dies. Now she's changing the will to where she doesn't get half. My mom says she gets nothing. She was never a beneficiary of the life insurance. My father died and the money I was supposed to get (he'd saved. It was 50k) went to her. He didn't know he was going to die prematurely. She and her husband needed some help with a downpayment. I mean it's only money, but that's why she's not on the life insurance. She got her cut, her husband makes pretty good money anyway....but power of attorney and half the house, gone. Which I think is just fine. Not because I want all of those financial benefits, but because it's just. She has a five bedroom house...you get the idea. Geez, you watch your father removed from life support....have to visit him in a coma and never talk to him again...you know you say stuff, but....now imagine you had to see your father comatose in a burn unit and then you have your mother kill herself.
It will be blood on her hands, and I don't know what I will do. I don't think she'll do it, but that she mentioned it, there's a problem. I'm just thinking of the right way to say it. Naturally, you want to be very angry. But, it's better to make it firm, but not too harsh.
2024.05.16 14:20 psychopathqueeniex AIO to my older sister copying EVERYTHING i do?
so my sister is 19, 3 years older than me and she’s actively going to school, working and everything. i always encourage her and compliment her and everything but she keeps comparing herself to me all the time in terms of looks. let me say my sister is not ugly and not fat but she thinks she is and im constantly reassuring her she’s beautiful the way she is and whatnot. she’s opened up about being jealous of me and saying how im “clearly the prettier sister” but im always reassuring her that’s not the case.
i am severely depressed and im in a very poor mental state and because of this, its been hard to leave the house or even just get out of bed on some days. she always makes fun of me for that and metaphorically kicks me while im already down, makes me feel even worse about myself than i already do. i always brush this off because im aware she’s struggling too and is insecure and whatnot so i just let it happen for her sake. up until i embarked on a self improvement journey last year. i was really motivated to get my shit together and get myself and my life back.
i started researching about mental health, about religion, started a no sugar diet, started praying, meditating, exercising, stopped eating junk food, going on walks and jogs and everything and id come home feeling all excited and she’d just be completely quiet and avoid me/ ignore me. the next day she started eating soft boiled eggs just like i did and said she was “inspired”, she started praying as well, reading all the stuff id compiled into a little notebook that i spent hours researching and took pictures of everything i had written in it and never thanked me or gave me credit or whatever, even caught her snooping in my diary multiple times.
she started going to the gym, starving herself and everything, trying to make me jealous but i’d always praise her and continue encouraging and complimenting her because i was genuinely proud of her and happy for her. he competitive behaviour, however just really demotivated me overall. she kept trying to one up me in everything i did. it affected me so much because she was watching my every move quietly and then going about doing the same thing i did the next day so casually…. these were the same thing she used to make fun of me for doing. i was so excitedly sharing with her everything and she’d always just put me down, up until i actually started doing all those and reaping the benefits. she’d be so secretive about whatever supplements she was taking or whatever makeup hack or hair hack she had when i would just excitedly share whatever i knew with her.
i cried to my mum and confided in her about all this but she’d just brush it off and disregard my feelings because she “didn’t want to get involved in our petty sister issues”. long story short, i gave up on my whole self improvement journey because i just missed my sister. stupid right? i missed her being my sister, not my competitor. well when i gave up, she also stopped doing all those and we continued getting along with each other, binging on unhealthy junk food together, wasting time binge watching our favourite movies together, our bond only grew and we were having so much fun together.
there were a few times id feel horrible about the unproductive, unhealthy lifestyle i was leading so id restart my self improvement journey and then she would start being cold and distant and do the same thing. its been a year since all this happened and right now we’re closer than ever and i really love spending time with her but i still notice she copies me from time to time. while she does this, she’ll complain about how our brother’s gf copies her, buying the same skincare products as hers when she does the same thing to me?? i tried out this new makeup look the other day and absolutely loved it and she doesn’t wear makeup at all but just now, she came home with the EXACT same makeup look i recently did and did not say a word about it and acted all casual. let me just say that this look isn’t trending or whatever i freestyled it myself and she didn’t idk compliment it or whatever she was just acting cold.
there’s so many other instances where shes done it before like when i started wearing this new skincare product and the next day she bought it as well when it wasn’t trending or whatever and many other instances but i do not want to confront her again because it’d lead to a big fight and i do not want her to gaslight me into thinking this is all happening in my head or whatever. recently i’ve been jogging and the pattern would repeat again but this time she also started jogging SECRETLY. she could’ve asked to tag along with me or maybe invite me so we could do it together like everything else we do, but she would go out of her way to not let me know she’s doing those stuff for no reason at all.
she gets really distant and cold whenever im really happy and excited doing something good for myself but when im really sad and and indulging in bad habits, she’d be really nice to me plus the casual insult droppings disguised as jokes. i have to see her everyday because we share a room together and nowadays i have to be very secretive in all i do as well because i remember how bad it got last time. i don’t want to keep living this unhealthy lifestyle but i also still want to be on good terms with her as i really love her but i feel like she’s constantly in competition with me and praying on my downfall which seems to be working. am i overreacting? what should i do? it’s so mentally draining.
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i am severely depressed and im in a very poor mental state and because of this, its been hard to leave the house or even just get out of bed on some days. she always makes fun of me for that and metaphorically kicks me while im already down, makes me feel even worse about myself than i already do. i always brush this off because im aware she’s struggling too and is insecure and whatnot so i just let it happen for her sake. up until i embarked on a self improvement journey last year. i was really motivated to get my shit together and get myself and my life back.
i started researching about mental health, about religion, started a no sugar diet, started praying, meditating, exercising, stopped eating junk food, going on walks and jogs and everything and id come home feeling all excited and she’d just be completely quiet and avoid me/ ignore me. the next day she started eating soft boiled eggs just like i did and said she was “inspired”, she started praying as well, reading all the stuff id compiled into a little notebook that i spent hours researching and took pictures of everything i had written in it and never thanked me or gave me credit or whatever, even caught her snooping in my diary multiple times.
she started going to the gym, starving herself and everything, trying to make me jealous but i’d always praise her and continue encouraging and complimenting her because i was genuinely proud of her and happy for her. he competitive behaviour, however just really demotivated me overall. she kept trying to one up me in everything i did. it affected me so much because she was watching my every move quietly and then going about doing the same thing i did the next day so casually…. these were the same thing she used to make fun of me for doing. i was so excitedly sharing with her everything and she’d always just put me down, up until i actually started doing all those and reaping the benefits. she’d be so secretive about whatever supplements she was taking or whatever makeup hack or hair hack she had when i would just excitedly share whatever i knew with her.
i cried to my mum and confided in her about all this but she’d just brush it off and disregard my feelings because she “didn’t want to get involved in our petty sister issues”. long story short, i gave up on my whole self improvement journey because i just missed my sister. stupid right? i missed her being my sister, not my competitor. well when i gave up, she also stopped doing all those and we continued getting along with each other, binging on unhealthy junk food together, wasting time binge watching our favourite movies together, our bond only grew and we were having so much fun together.
there were a few times id feel horrible about the unproductive, unhealthy lifestyle i was leading so id restart my self improvement journey and then she would start being cold and distant and do the same thing. its been a year since all this happened and right now we’re closer than ever and i really love spending time with her but i still notice she copies me from time to time. while she does this, she’ll complain about how our brother’s gf copies her, buying the same skincare products as hers when she does the same thing to me?? i tried out this new makeup look the other day and absolutely loved it and she doesn’t wear makeup at all but just now, she came home with the EXACT same makeup look i recently did and did not say a word about it and acted all casual. let me just say that this look isn’t trending or whatever i freestyled it myself and she didn’t idk compliment it or whatever she was just acting cold.
there’s so many other instances where shes done it before like when i started wearing this new skincare product and the next day she bought it as well when it wasn’t trending or whatever and many other instances but i do not want to confront her again because it’d lead to a big fight and i do not want her to gaslight me into thinking this is all happening in my head or whatever. recently i’ve been jogging and the pattern would repeat again but this time she also started jogging SECRETLY. she could’ve asked to tag along with me or maybe invite me so we could do it together like everything else we do, but she would go out of her way to not let me know she’s doing those stuff for no reason at all.
she gets really distant and cold whenever im really happy and excited doing something good for myself but when im really sad and and indulging in bad habits, she’d be really nice to me plus the casual insult droppings disguised as jokes. i have to see her everyday because we share a room together and nowadays i have to be very secretive in all i do as well because i remember how bad it got last time. i don’t want to keep living this unhealthy lifestyle but i also still want to be on good terms with her as i really love her but i feel like she’s constantly in competition with me and praying on my downfall which seems to be working. am i overreacting? what should i do? it’s so mentally draining.
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Kulassa, an acclaimed digital marketing company, understands the importance of presenting your podcast to an online audience in the most appealing manner. They know the intricate dynamics of the digital marketing world, making them your most reliable ally in a successful podcast launch. Kulassa offers tips and strategies tailored to your unique needs. They help you identify the target audience, strategize content, fine-tune your outreach plans, and guide you in choosing the right hosting platform. The company continually studies podcast industry trends to align your project with current market expectations.
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2024.05.16 14:09 Puzzleheaded-Use8431 My bf '25M' has a girl bestfriend and I '22F' can't stand it but I love him too much to break up, what should my next step be?
Me (22f) and my boyfriend (25m) have been dating for a year and I really love him but we’ve had lots of issues in our relationship and we’re mostly different in our personalities so we struggle in understanding each other, in the beginning of the relationship I was controlling and I only cared about him not hurting my feelings in any way because I went through trauma in my last relationship. He also had a girl bestfriend (she was creepy and she didn’t have any boundaries, she once called me to tell me that he would pick her over me , they had a weird friendship her bd date was his password, and he also told her how he could lose me but not her and hid the chat which I later found out about) and as the problems with her grew and we started to fight I started to put boundaries in their friendship that apparently she didn’t like so she told him either they have no boundaries and be like before I was in his life or she doesn’t want him in her life anymore so he obviously cut her off , and I felt so relieved about it so I made sure he always didn’t talk to her in any way and that made him feel controlled. Side story: I had this problem where I would $H because I felt unheard and I wanted him to understand me and that also caused a problem to our relationship. So back to the story I’ve always felt so insecure about their relationship (would throw up when I see them together, get chills all over my body when I hear her name, get nightmares about her etc.) . So recently I did a mistake and I hid it from him but somehow she found out and even tho she was supposed to stay out of his life she called him and told him what I did to make us break up and he hid the fact that she called and lied about it. He confronted me and we ended up fighting about and breaking up. (We usually break up and get back the next day) so during the breakup that lasted a day he called her and ranted to her about our break up claiming he was hurt and I found out which really hurt me so I took sleeping pills and I ended up in the hospital which was a huge problem because I almost died. Obviously he decided we should take a break and we did. (I was at my lowest point in my life and I had no one and he left but I couldn’t blame him because I’m wrong for trying to kms I’m clean now)and he said he wasn’t getting back with me until I completely change. The problem is he started to change to but for the worst and he changed from the sweetest person ever to the most selfish man I know . And he was done of the controlling so he started doing stuff that I usually didn’t allow but I had to say yes so we wouldn’t break up. but meanwhile the break I was passing by and saw them sitting together which caused me a panic attack and then he brought me and said me and her need to talk or else he would break up with me , she started talking shit to me and he obviously wasn’t taking my side or defending me he also was being to close and flirty with her and she ended up saying (keep in mind she is supposed to be out his life) that I shouldn’t get involved in their relationship and that she could do whatever she wants and I shouldn’t put boundaries for her and him and all he replied with was correcting the word relationship with friendship. And I had to shut up because he was gonna break up with me. Obviously this destroyed me and I started to drift myself from him and have my own life and go out with friends which caused a problem to him and he started to get jealous so he ended the break and started to distance himself from her but without any of my control because if I ever try to say my opinion on something he does the opposite. Right now we’re not on the best terms because I started To get attached again (I have anxious attachment) so he started to treat me bad again he also has anger issues and says the worst stuff to me when he’s mad. A few days ago he was invited to her bd and I didn’t want him to go but he fought with me and insisted he would go so I decided to let him go so we won’t fight or break up. Today we were fighting about if they’re allowed to take pics alone or not and he ended up calling me a child and hurting me and being so aggressive and saying he would do it anyways regardless of if I say yes or no and he started to hurt me pretty badly (verbally) and I sat wanting to relapse and having a breakdown. I know some of you might think it’s not a big deal but I’m so sensitive and insecure about it so it is a big deal to me and I feel I should break up (not just bcuz of that we’ve been having problems) and I love him but I think we should break up what advice could u give me ??
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2024.05.16 14:00 itsmadrigal The Reunion
I was that person.
I came from a poor, broken family, and was a prime target for bullies. Come high school, I had been struggling with anxiety, depression and stress, so naturally I kept to myself and kept a low profile. And, naturally, I was singled out as the odd one and bullied relentlessly.
Bullying leaves deep scars. Psychological, sometimes physical.
I never knew normalcy, never had many friends. And what I realized, even as a child, is that no one gives a shit. Even those meant to. There's already so much suffering in the world. Here, there, it's just too much. Bullying ... it's insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Still hurts like hell though, don't ever downplay it.
But you know what? Just because someone else somewhere else has it worse, it doesn't invalidate what you and I feel. We're allowed to feel bad for ourselves. The Universe dealt us a bad hand? We're allowed to cry, it's okay.
These days, I'm doing quite well for myself. While I'll probably never be rid of all the 'side-effects' I received from a foundation of psychological abuse in my formative years, things got easier.
With time.
On a fun note, my old class once planned a reunion, I used to be blissfully unaware about. Then out of the blue one day, one of my old tormentors reached out to me, to politely inform me that I wasn't invited – nor welcome.
I didn't care. Even told them as much.
A couple of months later, they reached out to me again, saying that everyone had had a hearty laugh at my expense, calling me names.
That was twenty-five years ago, today.
There are still side-effects. I don't have a big social circle, and you never really get rid of all the bad thoughts. All you can do is lock your demons up forever in the deep dark, where they can't do you any more harm.
You're probably wondering why I'm telling you all of this. It's not for validation or pity, or in some hope of understanding.
It's just to tell you, that I'm content.
That I won!
"I'm sorry," my old classmate sniffled. "Please ... I want to go home ... see my little girl again ..."
"No," I said. The withered wretch had curled up behind the steel bars, in the concrete confines of my soundproofed basement. "I'll tell you as much, that she's all grown up now, and seems joyful and free. That's more than either of us will ever be. Happy anniversary."
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I came from a poor, broken family, and was a prime target for bullies. Come high school, I had been struggling with anxiety, depression and stress, so naturally I kept to myself and kept a low profile. And, naturally, I was singled out as the odd one and bullied relentlessly.
Bullying leaves deep scars. Psychological, sometimes physical.
I never knew normalcy, never had many friends. And what I realized, even as a child, is that no one gives a shit. Even those meant to. There's already so much suffering in the world. Here, there, it's just too much. Bullying ... it's insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Still hurts like hell though, don't ever downplay it.
But you know what? Just because someone else somewhere else has it worse, it doesn't invalidate what you and I feel. We're allowed to feel bad for ourselves. The Universe dealt us a bad hand? We're allowed to cry, it's okay.
These days, I'm doing quite well for myself. While I'll probably never be rid of all the 'side-effects' I received from a foundation of psychological abuse in my formative years, things got easier.
With time.
On a fun note, my old class once planned a reunion, I used to be blissfully unaware about. Then out of the blue one day, one of my old tormentors reached out to me, to politely inform me that I wasn't invited – nor welcome.
I didn't care. Even told them as much.
A couple of months later, they reached out to me again, saying that everyone had had a hearty laugh at my expense, calling me names.
That was twenty-five years ago, today.
There are still side-effects. I don't have a big social circle, and you never really get rid of all the bad thoughts. All you can do is lock your demons up forever in the deep dark, where they can't do you any more harm.
You're probably wondering why I'm telling you all of this. It's not for validation or pity, or in some hope of understanding.
It's just to tell you, that I'm content.
That I won!
"I'm sorry," my old classmate sniffled. "Please ... I want to go home ... see my little girl again ..."
"No," I said. The withered wretch had curled up behind the steel bars, in the concrete confines of my soundproofed basement. "I'll tell you as much, that she's all grown up now, and seems joyful and free. That's more than either of us will ever be. Happy anniversary."
2024.05.16 13:59 mkn19787mkn Dinner with Rich Boomers Blew My Mind
 | I recently had the opportunity to attend a dinner party that I knew would be different from my usual gatherings. The invite came from a friend of a friend, and it was to be held at a lavish estate in the heart of the city. The hosts? A group of wealthy baby boomers who had made their fortunes in various industries over the past few decades. I was intrigued, to say the least, and a little apprehensive about what to expect. What followed was an evening that would shatter many of my preconceived notions and leave me with a new perspective on life, wealth, and the generations before mine. submitted by mkn19787mkn to foodtoday [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/5bnsgk6i4s0d1.png?width=512&format=png&auto=webp&s=8cbf1c404fe989f96cd2c7ecd08a45533d7e9001 The ArrivalAs I approached the grand mansion, I was struck by the sheer opulence of the place. The driveway was lined with luxury cars, and the entrance was adorned with immaculate landscaping and fountains. I felt a little out of place in my modest sedan, but my excitement outweighed any discomfort. I was greeted warmly by the hosts, who introduced themselves with the kind of charisma that only comes from decades of experience in the world of high-stakes business and networking.https://preview.redd.it/zlwgpqcg4s0d1.png?width=512&format=png&auto=webp&s=b4cfbe54dfd4bd2d854584249c6d60e6d13e4fcb The SettingInside, the mansion was even more impressive. The decor was a blend of classic and modern, with original artwork adorning the walls and state-of-the-art technology seamlessly integrated into the design. The dining room was set for an elaborate feast, with a long table covered in fine linens, crystal glasses, and silverware that gleamed under the chandelier’s light.The GuestsAs I mingled with the other guests, I quickly realized that I was in the presence of some truly remarkable individuals. These boomers were not only wealthy but also incredibly knowledgeable and experienced. There was a tech entrepreneur who had sold his startup for millions, a retired investment banker who now ran a successful charity, and a former CEO of a major corporation who had transitioned into a career as an author and speaker.https://preview.redd.it/mvztqz2e4s0d1.png?width=512&format=png&auto=webp&s=478f05e840ed59694ed2111c1e95899872ac2dc1 The ConversationOne of the most striking aspects of the evening was the conversation. These boomers had lived through significant historical events and had been at the forefront of technological and cultural shifts. They spoke with authority and insight on topics ranging from the evolution of the stock market to the impact of the internet on modern business practices.What blew my mind the most was their adaptability and willingness to embrace change. Contrary to the stereotype of older generations being resistant to new ideas, these individuals were open-minded and forward-thinking. They shared their thoughts on emerging technologies like artificial intelligence and blockchain, and their enthusiasm was contagious. The WisdomThroughout the dinner, I found myself absorbing a wealth of knowledge and wisdom. One guest shared his philosophy on wealth, emphasizing the importance of using one’s resources to create positive change in the world. Another spoke about the value of perseverance and resilience, recounting stories of business ventures that had failed before eventual success.These conversations challenged many of my preconceived notions about the baby boomer generation. I realized that wealth and success were not just about hard work and intelligence, but also about being adaptable, staying curious, and having the courage to take risks. https://preview.redd.it/ew47pu1c4s0d1.jpg?width=512&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9009aba4cb82a3c834c55ae9fecc29ae18c5d685 The FoodAnd then, of course, there was the food. The dinner was a culinary masterpiece, with each course carefully crafted by a renowned chef. From the exquisite appetizers to the decadent desserts, every bite was a testament to the hosts’ impeccable taste and commitment to excellence. The wine flowed freely, each glass paired perfectly with the dishes, enhancing the flavors and elevating the dining experience.The TakeawayAs the evening drew to a close and I made my way home, I couldn’t help but reflect on the experience. Dinner with these rich boomers had not only been an eye-opening glimpse into a world of luxury and success but also a profound lesson in life. I left with a renewed sense of motivation and a deeper appreciation for the knowledge and wisdom that comes with age.This dinner party had indeed blown my mind, and it reminded me that every generation has something valuable to offer. The key is to remain open, curious, and willing to learn from those who have walked the path before us. Alex Johnson is a freelance writer based in New York. He covers topics related to culture, technology, and personal growth.
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https://discord.com/invite/an7HamUC — — — — — — — — — — — — —2024.05.16 13:55 Zealousideal-Cat-488 AITA for having my boyfriend over once a week?
I (21F) have just recently got an apartment with my best friend (22F) It’s an hour away from my family and an hour and a half away from my boyfriend (23M) of 3 almost 4 years. My best friend doesn’t like my boyfriend due to past issues in our relationship that we have resolved and moved past but she hasn’t, because of that she doesn’t want me to ever have my boyfriend over at our apartment it seems. The first night moving in I was gonna be here in a new city by myself due to her working a few more days in our past town which is fine, but she got upset because I invited my boyfriend to stay the night so I wasn’t alone my first night in my new apartment. I made sure by the time she was coming he had came and went but she still was upset about it telling me she’s not comfortable with him being here. Another night I had gone to his house for the day by bus bc that’s my main source of transportation but he drove me home late that night and we got back to my apartment around 9pm, I had told her I was gonna have him sleep over because he wouldn’t have made it home until at least 10:30pm and he would leave with me first thing in the morning when I work at 7am, as soon as we come in the door she asks me to come in her room leaving her door open and saying loudly how she doesn’t want him here, i reiterate it’ll only be until I leave in the morning and head off to my room for the night. I felt bad for my boyfriend because he heard everything she had said and felt bad about being there but I reassured him it’s okay and I pay for my room so I should at least be able to have a guest in there if I so please. This last weekend I decided to go to his house to visit so it wouldn’t be an issue of him coming over and her being uncomfortable, she now has a problem with the fact that I’m out of town on the weekends because she says she’s bored and lonely when I’m not around, and I feel bad she’s lonely but she’s making it so hard to be able to maintain space for my relationship and for her as my best friend, am I the asshole because I feel if I pay half (if not more bc she owes me money due to being short during the move in process) that I should be able to have my boyfriend over at least one night a week?
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2024.05.16 13:48 Candid_Tradition4717 WIBTA, if I don’t attend my sisters wedding. Next month.
WIBTA if I don’t attend my sisters wedding in just over 3 weeks? I have been debating these feelings for a while as I feel I have more been invited out of politeness rather than her actually wanting me there. We used to be incredibly close I was always at her house, going out for drinks/lunches, helping out with her kids ALOT etc.. this all changed after the birth of my first child, from when he was around 2 months old, she became more and more distant. I would be given crappy excuses like she was busy working, but eventually it became very obvious it was just excuses. Which,whatever everyone has a life, however I had been suffering seriously bad with ppd and I needed her support, and i was literally all alone with this new born baby. Fast forward to a year ago, sister gets engaged. I was super happy for her, I knew they were trying to keep things cheap so I offered to help in any way I could. Our sistership slightly improved over the next few months. Or so I thought. While her cousin, mum, friends literally the female Immediate family of sisters fiancé, have all been involved in the wedding in some way or another, dress shopping, planning etc. But guess who wasn’t invited to any of it at all. The next thing was she tried uninviting my son, as they wanted to make the wedding child free, so asked me if I could not bring my son, but then said certain other family were allowed to bring there children ( one is a similar age to my son so age is not a factor here). Then just last week, we were on the phone and out of nowhere she tells me that the only reason I wasn’t invited to the bachelorette( took place last weekend) was because as the party was abroad, she didn’t want me to have the stress of finding a babysitter. Although I feel like that should have been my decision to make, I didn’t say anything. Come to find out, it wasn’t abroad, it wasn’t too far from where we live. I don’t know why I’m taking this so personally, but I just feels like a kick in the face because after everything we’ve eve been through and ( I hate this saying so much but there’s no other way to put it) everything I’ve done for her, how can she treat me like this?? I literally don’t understand, and seeing everyone say how nice it was to meet everyone made me realise that I’m going to go to my sisters wedding, ive been excluded from everything and I don’t really know anyone there, I can’t get past how embarrassing it is going to be for me at the wedding when I just pop up out of nowhere. Also I just feel that my sister really does just genuinely dislike me that much now why the f am I wasting my money and time on outfits,travel etc. I would just rather not go, as much as i know my sister will kick right off if I don’t, I can’t just let myself take over 3 years of disrespect, but I need to make a decision, the wedding is in less than a month. I’m so sorry for the long post but this is really the shortened version x Edit: forgot to mention I haven’t actually received a formal invitation, apparently no one has, it’s just all been verbal, and the details of the ceremony have only recently been confirmed with me.
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