I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/justathrowaway282641
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[New Update]: My family forgot to invite me to my grandparents funeral, but they are convinced I was there.
Trigger Warnings: death of loved ones, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, harassment
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Original Post: November 14, 2023**
I’m 30s F and caused a major blowup in my family and now none of them are talking to me. For background, my hometown is tiny (500pop) and when I went 2 hrs away to “the city” (15,000pop) for college, I loved it. I ended up staying after graduation, got married, and am happy here for a decade. I visit my home town every few weeks or so, call/text my family near daily, and thought we were all good. My family’s pretty small. Just my brother, mom, step dad, dad, step mom, and an aunt and uncle (mom’s siblings, never married, no kids). My mother's grandparents moved to my home town when I was in high school and were just down the street from us. My family has always been pretty drama free (aside from my parent’s divorce when I was a kid) and we’ve been happy. The step-parents were blended in perfectly and we share holidays and celebrations together. We’re all super close and just the perfect little group.
Ever since I moved away, the topic of “when am I moving back?” is constant, and I’ve always laughed it off. My home town has nothing. You have to drive 30 minutes for milk and bread. 60-90 minute one-way commutes to work. And floods shut down the main road every Easter. I love the town, but I love here more. I have parks, stores, community events, a library! The “city” is great. My family grumbles that I need to move back, but I refuse. I've been trying to encourage them to come here, especially since it's not an hour drive to the nearest medical facility.
Now to the meat and potatoes: both my grandparents passed over COVID times. They were both old and their health had been failing for a while so it was only a matter of time. Thankfully they didn’t catch it, but it made visiting them impossible and we survived mostly through FaceTime. They both passed in their sleep months apart. Both were cremated and kept securely under the kitchen sink for safe keeping while the pandemic blew over. That was 2021.
Well, I just found out my family held a funeral for them and scattered the ashes in my uncle’s maple grove over the summer. No one said a word to me about it. I’ve visited numerous times before and after and not one word. I only found out because my great uncle from California posted on Facebook a few weeks ago that he is entering hospice and was so thankful his health stayed strong enough for him to see his little sister (my grandma) to her final resting place. I was confused and called my mom. She was all “Yeah, the funeral we had in July, remember?” Ya’ll, I visited them for the 4th of July. They did the funeral the 8th. Not a word about it to me. They had planned this for months. Long enough to arrange for my infirm great uncle to be brought over from the other side of the country. Apparently, they talked about it “all the time”.
Everyone is convinced I was at the funeral. They SWEAR I was there. I can prove I wasn’t because Google’s got my location history. My hubby is baffled because he was supposedly there, too, but he had to work every weekend in June and July. Time clock doesn’t lie. My family straight up forgot about me. I’m hurt. I’m sad. And they’re pissed at me “for lying”. They think I’m causing drama over nothing. Nothing I say can convince them I wasn’t there. My family is united in this. And they’ve all put me “on read” until I admit I’m wrong. They think I’ve gone nuts. Either there’s a doppelganger of me attending events, or my family doesn’t want to admit they screwed up. I’m not backing down.
Thanksgiving is coming up, and my family’s been vague posting on Facebook about “forgetful kids” and mental health. It’s so freaking weird and I don’t know if I’m in bizzaro world or what’s going on. My mom’s best friend reached out and said I should just admit I was wrong and apologize, that I’m causing my mom so much unnecessary stress. I asked her if she’s checked everyone’s home for CO2. She hung up on me. (We checked our CO2, and our testers are running just fine.) I have reached out to a few people in my home town to check in on my folks, and they all say they're fine. I even spoke with the local volunteer fire fighter group to see if they could check for gas leaks. Not sure if they were able to.
I don’t know what to do. I’ve shown them the proof I wasn’t there, but they know I’m tech savvy and just assume I’ve Photoshopped it. Hubby says we need a break, and we’re going to be staying home this holiday season.
Edit: I don't know the update rules, so I'll post updates to my profile should anyone want them.  
Update #1: November 27, 2023
Not sure how to do updates on posts, so figured I'd post anything on my profile. Folks have private messaged me and this will be easier I think?
It's 11/27 and Thanksgiving just happened. Hubby and I stayed home. We got a small turkey and made our own little thanksgiving. It was nice. We ate around noon, then watched a movie, and later sat outside with a bottle of wine to watch the sun set behind the trees and neighbor houses.
We usually take the day before off, drive to my folks, stay the night, and help with the Thanksgiving Day cooking. So it wasn't until Wednesday night that my mom broke the silence. Mom called and asked when I was showing up, and I told her we were staying home this year, but for them to have a happy Thanksgiving, and to give the rest of the family my love. She was quiet for a long time after I said that, and I think she eventually mumbled an "okay", or something, and hung up. It wasn't an angry hang up. Just a hang up. On Thanksgiving day, I sent a group "Happy Thanksgiving!" gif to our family group chat. I received a few "happy Thanksgiving"'s back. No one's said anything else. There's been no posts on Facebook.  
Update #2: December 12, 2023
So, I think I mentioned in one of my comments that my dad and I usually talk on the phone every Sunday morning. We're both early risers so we'd chat over our morning coffees and watch the sunrise. Him and I haven't really spoken since this all went down and it's been tough. I'm used to talking to him, you know?
Well, I was sitting outside in my usual spot, watching the sun rise and freezing my butt off, and he called me. I'm not entirely sure how to describe the emotions I felt. It was a mix of panic, hope, terror, happiness, and dread. I ended up answering because I just had to know what he wanted. It was an awkward conversation. He didn't address the current "drama", but instead tiptoed around the situation with all the grace of an cow on stilts. For instance, a simple "How are you doing?" Type question was answered with a "Not good." And the whole conversation would stall out for a bit because he knew why I wasn't doing well. So we ended up talking about the weather, the various winter birds we'd seen in our feeders, and the Christmas decorations around town. Things like that.
Eventually he asked if we were coming out for Christmas, and sounded sad when I told him we weren't. He asked if him and step mom could come visit us instead, and I told him it wasn't a good idea this year. That hubby and I were going to spend a quiet holiday together. I let him know he should be receiving some gifts at his PO Box any day now, so to please pick them up from the post office and put them under the family tree for everyone. He said he'd ship ours to us as well.
And that was pretty much it. No crazy drama to report. The only posts on Facebook have been the usual Christmas excitement ones, countdowns, photos of Santa, silly gift ideas, photos of company Christmas parties.
On a personal note: Hubby and I are doing alright. Our health is good, our spirits high, and we're as solid as ever. We each got Christmas bonus' at our jobs, so we're excited about that. They're not large, but we're happy to have them. We have also done advent calendars for the first time ever. I got him a Lego one, and he got me a hot chocolate one. We're going to do the calendars again next year. Maybe make a tradition out of it.
Everyone please have a safe and happy holidays.  
Inheritance: December 16, 2023
I've received a lot - A LOT - of messages and private DMs urging me to check into inheritance and such. I'm really touched a lot of Internet strangers are worried about me and I wanted to ensure everyone that inheritance is most likely not an issue here. I'd almost be relieved if it was, because then it would at least make some sense. Money does weird things to people, you know?
No one in my family is wealthy by any means. After my grandparents' passed, their small estate was used to pay for their end of life expenses and remaining assets split up. Everyone directly related got an equal split (so excluded my dad and the step parents). I don't remember the exact amount I received, but it was around $5k if I recall. My brother gave me his share, too, so I could finish paying off my college debt while the interest freeze was active.
The great uncle from California has kids and grand kids, and great grandkids of his own, and also isn't wealthy. I think one of his kids makes good money doing something in finance, but I'm not entirely sure. I can't imagine he left us anything, as we hardly knew him. My mom, aunt, and uncle only met him a few times in their lives, and my brother and I even less. Grandma and him were close, but I don't think he liked my grandpa much.  
Christmas: December 25, 2023
I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas. I've received a lot of support through my posts and I'm really grateful. Writing these updates have had a therapeutic effect.
Yesterday was Sunday, but I didn't answer my dad when he called. I just really didn't feel up to a pointless chat, so let it go to voicemail. He tried to reach me a few times throughout the day, but I didn't answer.
Our bestie last minute invited us over to his house for Christmas day lunch (today), so husband and I were busy all Christmas Eve making cookies, peanut brittle, and homemade suckers/hard candies for his kids. Mom tried to reach out as well, but I also ignored her calls.
We had a BLAST at lunch! Our friend's kids are a lot of fun to be around. They got some techy presents from their grandparents (Quest vr headset and steam decks, lucky little rascals) Friend and his wife aren't good with tech, while hubby and I are, so we helped get them set up while our friend played a good host to his folks and inlaws. The grandparents didn't realize that a Steam deck required a Steam account, so we got the kids all their own accounts set up, added them to our steam friends lists, and gifted them some games. We also bought them a few VR games for their headset, and they were off to the races with Beat Saber in no time.
As for my folks: My brother texted and asked if we could talk sometime tomorrow. I think me ignoring mom and dad has caused some kind of upset. Which they deserve.  
Brother’s call: December 26, 2023
Spoke with my brother over the phone this morning.
For starters, he apologized for everything. Him and I are good (for now). For a bit of background, my brother and I are only 2 years apart. There weren't a lot of kids around growing up, so the two of us were often stuck doing stuff together. So we have a lot of shared interests and passions. He's been pretty silent on this whole matter, but still "part of the group", if you know what I mean. I think the thought of losing him out of my life was probably the most painful, because he's always been there. He was my rock until I met my husband. He's definitely a Mama's boy, though, so anything mom wanted, he made sure she got. I'm happy to have him back.
Without further ado, here's the story from the horse's mouth:
Mom apparently had a cancer scare late last year (which no one told me about, go figure), and dad had a stint put in his heart back in January (which I did know about). This "sense of mortality" has apparently lit a fire under Mom's ass to get me back home. But since I wasn't reacting to her passive aggressive hinting, she and step mom decided to go full crazy. My great uncle's health was bad, and he'd been asking about funeral arrangements for his sister (my grandma) for a while, so the moms decided to plan it. And use the event as a giant middle finger to me. They kept all the planning pretty hush-hush between the two of them, so no one on our side of the family actually knew about the funeral until like 2 weeks before. The moms said they'd invited hubby and I. No one thought anything about it. No one thought to mention, confirm, or check with me.
The plan was to scatter the ashes, say a few words, and maybe head to town for lunch. It was a small affair. The mom's didn't even tell the family that our great uncle was coming for it. Like I said, it was a small thing. Barely a footnote. No one thought it was odd because we're pretty chill people.
4th of July happens. Hubby and I are out. No one thought to mention it, as we were all busy celebrating and having a great time. Any time the topic of "this weekend" would start, the conversation would be quickly shifted by one of the moms. We went back home.
8th of July happens. Great uncle rolls into town with a few of his kids, grandkids, and great grandkids, and it's a surprise to everyone (but the moms). Everyone drives to the maple grove and the moms have brought a ton of food and stuff. It's a full blown party. No one on my side noticed I wasn't there, because there were so many extra faces outside the usual group. They did the spreading of the ashes, they said their words, they ate, they had a great time. It wasn't until our great uncle left, and all his side left with him, that they realized I wasn't there. And hadn't been there.
And this is where the crazy went up a notch. My brother says the moms were happy no one noticed I wasn't there. And that this was proof to everyone that I needed to move back because I was so easily forgotten about. Because none of them thought to reach out, right? They basically did a ton of guilt tripping manipulation bullshit and it made everyone upset at me for not showing up. Somehow it was my fault for being excluded. So suddenly everyone was on their side with "sticking it to me".
But then a few months went by, and tempers cooled, and then I guess the horror of it set in. Followed by the shame, but by then they were "in too deep". How do you undo something like this? And since I hadn't brought it up, I guess they figured they would all just stay quiet about it and hope I never asked about a funeral.
That's when I discovered the situation from my great uncle's Facebook and called my mom, who panicked and went with the stupidest solution. Claiming I was there. Don't I remember?
I ended up talking with a few friends from high school, mentioning the situation, and word got back to those in town. So suddenly town gossip and little old church ladies got involved. Was I, or wasn't I at the funeral? Did my family forget to invite me to the funeral of the only grandparents I'd ever know? Or am I just causing a ruckus? My brother said they all just went with mom's answer. Of course they wouldn't forget me. Of course I was there. Of course they're good people. And it just snowballed.
The family expected me to eventually fold. I'm usually a nonconfrontational person, so me sticking to my guns was unexpected. And then I missed Thanksgiving. And now Christmas. With no sign of backing down. And I guess the realization that I could just stop being part of their lives is setting in and my parents are panicking. He's tried just getting them to apologize and explain, but stubbornness prevails. They want to rug sweep, but I'm not letting them.
My brother is upset with everything that's happened. He's realized just how crappy it all has been and he wants nothing to do with it anymore. But since he lives with my mom, he can't "get away from it".
He has asked if he can come stay with us for a little bit. I spoke with hubby, and he's in agreement with me that my brother can come crash in our spare bedroom for as long as he wants. Brother works remotely, so it's no trouble for him to pick up and go. I believe he's making the trip today or tomorrow. Not entirely sure, but I expect crap to hit the fan when he arrives.
On a side note, hubby's stoked that my brother and I made up. The two usually game together, but haven't due to "the situation". He's downstairs right now setting up his man cave in preparation for my brother's arrival. I'm happy to see him so excited.  
Brother's Here: December 27, 2023
My brother rolled in late last night. He'd obviously been crying and when I opened the door, he just held me and sobbed. I'd never seen him like that before and soon both of us were just standing in the doorway crying into one another. He kept apologizing. Over and over again. Said he wasn't sure why he went with it. Just kept saying sorry. Hubby got him all set up in the spare bedroom while brother and I talked. My brother's a wreck. He's always been a big guy, but he's lost a lot of weight and his clothes just hang off him. If I didn't know better, I'd think he was on drugs. We talked for a little bit before bed and he re-explained everything for my husband. I'd told hubby the story, but it was just so weird that hearing it again helped.
This morning my brother was up at dawn making some coffee and getting his work day going. Hubby's off all week (lucky) so hubby made us working folk some pancakes and bacon. So far everything's peaceful. We've decided not to answer any calls from our family. They've been made aware that he arrived safely, and that we are going to spend the New Years together, and that we're not answering any calls until January 1st. They may text if they wish. I'm sure they're losing their minds. Serves them right.
Everyone, have a safe and happy new years! Don't drink and drive!  
Happy 2024!: January 2, 2024
I hope everyone has a safe and enjoyable holidays, and may the new year be full of joy and happiness!
Not too much of an update. Things here have been quiet. My brother's settled in nicely and he's a great housemate. Our place isn't very big, but we have full basement and a nice outside patio/porch area so it doesn't feel crowded at all with the extra addition. He's a quiet and clean guy. No hassle at all. He got some fresh clothes from the Walmart, a haircut, and trimmed his beard, so he's more "presentable" now. He's a lady killer when he gets cleaned up. He's made nice with the (very nosy, but kind) retired couple next door and is adapting to "city living" nicely.
Folks back home have been mostly well behaved. There's been a few texts back and forth, as we're not answering calls. Mom mainly wants to know when brother's coming back, but he's keen on staying here for a while. Mom said I can't "keep him" and I told her he's a grown ass man and can do what he wants. Brother says he has her blocked after she ORDERED him to return home.
Brother has tentatively asked if he could stay long term, should he decide to, or at least longer than a usual visitor would stay. Which we're fine with. He has a good paying job and could afford an apartment, but he's never lived on his own and I would guess he has some anxiety about it. Should that be the case, he'll start paying us some rent and we'd probably adjust to give him the basement as his own space.  
Had to change the locks: January 17, 2024
My brother is officially staying with us for the long haul. Hubby and him spent all Sunday organizing the basement and shifting things around so he now has his own area to be comfortable in. He's pretty handy and has also started fixing little things around our house. Our windows and doors have never closed and locked/unlocked smoother. He even fixed one of the closets we never use because we can never get the darn door open. Sadly, he also had to change the locks on our house and get us all new keys.
This is because while hubby and I were out this Saturday, the moms showed up. They'd been calling and texting us all week, but we weren't really answering them, so I guess the two decided to drive over and hash it out in person. They have emergency keys to my place, and just let themselves in. Brother told them to leave, they argued, and my nosy (but kind) neighbors called the police when they noticed the commotion. So, we get a call from neighbor's wife, return home to some cops in our yard, all the neighbors out "vacuuming their trees", and my nosy (but kind) neighbors standing on my porch with my brother behind them, doing their best Gandalf "You shall not pass" impression.
Had to talk with the cops, explain that we were having a family dispute and word vomited. I don't really remember what all I said, and was shaking a lot. Our local cops are really great. Fantastic guys and gals in blue, and took it all in stride. It's really cold here, so one had me join him in his cruiser with the heat on, and gave me a bottle of water to calm down while we talked. They asked if we wanted the moms trespassed but I wasn't sure if that counted as a criminal charge so just asked the cops if they could just make them leave, which the cops did with no fuss. I think the moms were shocked we were taking this so seriously. They didn't fight or scream at us. Just left quietly.
My dad promised me he'd make sure his wife left us alone. "Or else". He said he'd also have a stern talk with my mom. Him and I talked Sunday morning, and he seemed absolutely at the end of his rope. Husband jokingly told my dad he could move in, too. To which he declined.
Not sure where to go from here, but we're getting some ring cameras installed once they arrive. And everyone but my dad is blocked. Hopefully they all just leave us alone.  
Nothing New To Report: February 2, 2024
Had a lot of DMs for updates, but don't have much anything to report on. The moms are behaving themselves. All's quiet on the western front. Felt weird ignoring or copy/pasting "no updates" to everyone, so here's what we've been doing, should anyone care.
Dad got a new bird/squirrel feeder from Amazon (looks like a little picnic table for a child's dolly but has a mesh top for the bird seed. I think it's supposed to be for chickens?) It's totes adorbs. To his horror, it also works as a Cooper hawk feeder, so now he's "fortifying his defenses" and putting up some trellises around it. He'll have to wait till warmer weather before planting anything to grow on them.
We had some ring cameras installed and put in a motion-activated camera that double functions as a light bulb. It goes in the light fixture outside the front door and is pretty cool. Video quality isn't all that great, but it's a nice addition I guess. It does overlook the bird feeders, so I've been watching it on my lunch breaks on the days I have to go into the office.
Hubby and brother are feuding. They started a coop farm in Stardew Valley a few days ago and they both want to romance Leah. My husband confided in me that he's also been romancing Sebastian as a backup. I'm not sure why he's keeping this a secret, but he's pretty smug about it.
RELEVANT COMMENTS
fractal_frog I hope your dad can outsmart the hawks!

OOP: He'll be able to, I just know it. He's used to dealing with the wildlife and having hawks about, but he just wasn't expecting one to snag a meal right from his new feeder.
I told him it was "technically" still a bird feeder. Just....for bigger birds. Which he thought was funny. He said he might make a little "no hawks allowed" sign to put up next to it.

MissOP: keep the updates coming. the moms are so close to folding it's just a little bit more. LMAO also, the bro mance between your husband and brother is so cute. lol Honestly, I think your husband making sure he has a side piece of Sebastian is absolutely the play.

OOP: So far still no word from the moms, but I hope you're right. I would love an apology and for us to begin moving past this. But I NEED that apology. I feel selfish saying that, but I refuse to "be the bigger person" on this. I just won't.
As for my brother and husband, yeah, they're basically soul mates. The two hit it off immediately when they first met, and they've been thick as thieves for years.  

Update: February 27, 2024
My dad came out for a visit over the weekend. We had a good time and the weather was lovely for some grilling and beers. It was really nice to see him again and he seemed healthy and in good spirits.
Here's his report from back home: Step mom (dad's wife) has started to realize she's screwed up. I credit her change of mindset to the fact that my dad sat her down and laid it out for her: she leaves his kids alone, or she's getting divorce papers. That apparently shut her up right quick, because they had a prenup done when they married and I'm not sure the details of it, but it wouldn't end favorably for her. She hasn't worked in years, so I imagine she'd be eligible for alimony? But I'm not versed in any of that legal mumbojumbo. Dad didn't seem too worried about it, so I'm not gonna worry about it.
Step dad was pissed the police were involved in the last "mom visit" (despite no one getting arrested or anything) and was in a "the kids are out of control and need to be reigned back in" mindset. When my dad pointed out that "the kids" in question were all in their mid-30s, it took some of the steam out of stepdad's sails. According to my dad, even my mom looked a little surprised when he said that. So, part of me is wondering if a good chunk of this whole thing is my mom not truly realizing that her kids were grown, and no longer children she could make demands of. Both of the moms have left us alone. I expected my mom to continue to kick up a fuss, but I think the cops spooked her.
There was a wonderful suggestion by a comment or to get their pastor involved, which I passed along to my dad. Dad has since spoken to their pastor about everything. He's a young guy, relatively new to their church, and joked that his first month on the job he had to do 3 funerals in a row and his new "flock" were just dying to get away from him, so he's got a sense of humor which is nice. The new pastor agreed to sit down with everyone and help the family hash it all out in a true "Come to Jesus" type moment next month, so that maybe we could celebrate Easter together as our first holiday as a family. Dad said the pastor was aware our family was having some troubles, but unsure of exactly what was going on, and since he was new, the pastor didn't want to pry. He has also agreed to do a small service down at my uncle's maple grove later in the summer, as it usually floods and is a muddy mess all spring. According to my dad, my aunt and uncle are so over all the drama and just ready to move on, so I expect hugs and apologies from them when we next meet.
Stardew Valley Update: My brother was victorious in the grand fight for Leah. It was a hard battle. Well fought. When my husband exposed his plans to woo Sebastian all this time, it was quite the betrayal. Dramatics aside, their farm is really cute and I'm so happy they're enjoying the game!  
Update 4/1 - Final one I think - April 1, 2024
Happy April Fools everyone! I hope you all check your caramel apples for stray onions before taking a bite! I also hope your Easter weekend was a delightful one.
It is with great joy that I tell you all about our most recent update! Possibly even a conclusion to this whole ordeal.
The entire family (aunt, uncle, moms, dads, brother, me, husband) and pastor met at my dad's house and we all sat down to hash the situation out. As expected from what my dad said, my aunt and uncle greeted us all with apologies and hugs, which was nice. My uncle usually helps host the Easter egg hunts with the church and he brought our Easter baskets to give to us in case us kids weren't sticking around the for the weekend. I'm not sure why but seeing it made me tear up and feel stupid, because it was just a basket of candy but it meant a lot to me for some reason.
The pastor led us in a prayer and talked about forgiveness and such. He then asked us all to talk one at a time about how we're feeling and what we want the end result of today to be. No one was allowed to interrupt so everyone got to talk. It was nice. The consensus for the group was that most everyone wanted things to go back to "normal". The only ones who had any variance off this was my mom and step dad. They both wanted all us kids to move back to the area.
The pastor asked them why they wanted us back, and neither could give a good reason other than "because family", and the pastor asked us if we were thriving where we were. And we said we were. He asked if we were happy there. Which we were. He then asked my mom and step dad if they wanted us to give up our happiness to make them happy.
And Mom broke down and said no. We all had a good cry. The pastor then asked about the funeral and lies that led up to it and followed it and how it made us all feel and what we wished we'd done differently if we had the chance. It was all very emotional, but in a good way, you know? Everyone apologized and admitted they f-ed up and did a really crappy thing.
We all talked for a long, long time and the pastor was a great mediator. Eventually we all reached some sort of resolution and I think we're good now. Emotions are still high and a little raw in areas, but we stayed for Easter weekend and had a nice time. We're going to keep moving forward slowly and try to repair the relationship, but I believe we're well and truly out of the woods.
As for my brother, he's still staying with us, and mom will stop trying to guilt trip him back home. He's thinking about renting a small apartment in our area but we're not pushing him to make a decision. He knows he's welcome to stay as long as he wants. I think he wants to try dating (he's had a few girlfriends but never anything serious) and is embarrassed to bring any girls around our place, lol. He's been going to a few random classes/bookclubs at the local library for something free to do and hitting it off with all the little old ladies who attend, and they keep trying to hook him up with girls his age who they know. He has been on a few lunches/coffee dates with a couple girls, but I think he's too embarrassed by the attention to give it a real try at "dating" any of them. He's happy, though, which is all I could ask for.
I'm not sure if there will be any more updates, as I think it's all be resolved about as much as it can be at the moment. I wanted to thank you all for your words of advice and giving me a place to vent and scream into the void. Please be kind to one another and to yourselves. Thank you.
Relevant Comments
emjkr: What a nice and hopeful update, I’m really glad you stuck to your guns when everyone threw sanity out the window!
But, could your mother explain how she thought this would work out in her favour?

OOP: I don't think mom thought too far ahead. I believe she assumed it would all just magically work out the way she wanted it to. She said she wasn't sure what she was expecting to happen (which I think was a lie, but I wasn't going to push it).

mak_zaddy: This was a great update! But ummmmmm no stardew valley update? What gives? Has Sebastian been woo’ed? How’s Leah? What’s happening?

OOP: Sebastian has indeed been wooed (and whoohooed) There's kids and cows and chickens. The two are still having a wonderful time at the game. They're working on completing the community center but it's slow going as they aren't trying to speedrun and just doing things as they want. I believe they're thinking about going into the desert mines once they complete that bundle, but they're both super chicken shit about it!

-my-cabbages: I don't really understand what you had to apologize for ... but I'm glad you're happy and the situation seems to be settling down

OOP: There wasn't much of an apology on my end, as everyone agreed I had done nothing wrong. Mine was more of a "I'm sorry you didn't feel as though I would listen." Type apology, which I don't really believe is a proper apology because apologies like that push the blame back on another. I mostly expressed my feelings and the shock of it all, and how betrayed I felt.  

----NEW UPDATE----

Small, happy update: May 7, 2024 (1 month later)
Things as wonderful as the moment. Still doing baby steps with The Moms. We're texting and talking on the phones more, which is nice. Very civil.
Dad "accidentally" bought a bunch of hand crafted bird feeders at a craft fair. By accidentally, I mean: he had a little too much fun in the beer tent, went for a stroll while step mom wasn't looking, and stumbled upon a guy's booth and bought "one of each". He wouldn't tell me how MANY "one of each" was, but he cackled like a witch when I asked. Step mom said she's forcing him to give a few to me, so I'm expecting a delivery or a Dad-visit any day now.
My brother is officially "going steady" with a girl. We've met her a few times and she seems like a real sweetheart. She's our age and has a little boy (5-6 years old, I haven't asked) from a previous relationship (The dad's not in the picture from what I can gather). She's the granddaughter of one of his Book Club members, so the old ladies made good match makers in the end. The relationship is still very new and I'm routing for them.
No new Stardew Valley updates. Work has been a little crazy lately and I haven't been able to play much of anything, and brother has been distracted by his new lady friend. So, husband finally started Baldur's Gate 3, and fell for Gale's "magic trick" so now those two are a thing. I expect him to be sufficiently distracted from reality for the next few weeks.
 

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Update 16 May: Added Friday

10 May, Fri

• SCO: Mother‘s Day Concert 2024 母亲节音乐会 2024 - 慈母心 by Singapore Chinese Orchestra - Day 1 of 2 , Singapore Conference Hall @ 7 Shenton Way, IG 📸 $38
• Musical: Piaf! The Show - tribute to Edith Piaf, the theatre @ mediacorp (one-north), $58
• Pop, Folk, Soul: Rochester Commons Garden Music Fest - SEZAIRI, TAY KEWEI, Jack & Rai, JASON Yu, Jem Han, Rochester Commons (buona vista mrt), 630-930pm, free
• Free Festival: Music Matters Live Music Festival Schedule and the conference Creator Week (paid)
  • FOUNTAIN SQUARE Stage: DAY 3 - Psychic Fever from EXILE TRIBE 🇯🇵, Firdaus (MY), Josh MAKAZO (SG), Teo Glacier (NZ), WHO SHOT SCOTT (NZ) , ADRIAN Dvuke (AU), LEMONY (TH), the center area of CQ @ clarke quay fountain square, free
  • SENOR TACO Stage: Tunecore Showcase - Aldi Haqq 🇮🇩, Space Pumpkin 🇹🇭, Grassic 🇻🇳, Mix Fenix 🇵🇭, Peekay 🇮🇳, Eleanor Whisper 🇮🇩, Señor Taco restaurant livehouse at CQ @ Clarke Quay, IG 📸 free
  • PULSE Stage: Music Matters Selects - Adriel 🇲🇾, NAO Yoshiaka 🇯🇵,Good Morning Everyone 🇮🇩, PULSE at CQ @ Clarke Quay (ex Yang Club), free
  • SWEE LEE stage: Joya 🇭🇰, Jewel Owusu 🇦🇺, Celine Wanyi 🇭🇰, Peej 🇵🇭, Ben Swissa 🇦🇺, Dhruv Visvanath 🇮🇳, swee lee music store @ clarke quay, free
  • Hiphop w DEF JAM SEA: The Get Down - Abangsapau, Alyph, BAD M.O.B, DJCZA, Elva, Ismail Izaani, Killa Driz, Krumbs, GRACE LIU, Naufal, KRUMBS, SONAONE, YHB SLEEPSALOT and JOE FLIZZOW (Afrobeats, amapiano, hip-hop, R&B night), 1880 Members Club at Intercontinental Robertson Quay, 1 Nanson Rd, tix 🎟 $68
• Jazz Loft: TROPIC GREEN - Susan Harmer's 7- piece jazz ensemble, Blu Jaz L3 @ bali ln (bugis), $24
• Maduro Jazz: Michelle SgP & Friends - Jazzin' Groovin' Friday, maduro @ sofitel sentosa, $38++ drink credits
• R&B soul: Vamp Sessions - Rai Maia (UK), mandala club at 31 Bukit Pasoh Rd (outram), $33
• Cool Cats: Jamie Aditya presents Funky Town (soul and funk) - day 2 of 3, nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $28

Esplanade - PESTA RAYA Malay Festival Weekend

• ES Film & Music: Samsara – A Cine-Concert by Garin Nugroho 🇮🇩, Concert Hall, $35
• ES Music Free: Malam Nusantara - Adik Adik Hensem & ABANGSAPAU x LEAISM, hiphop, soul, pop, Outdoor Theatre 7pm, 815 930pm, free
• ES Music: Melintasi Galaksi by Yanto Sani x Andy Gan (crossover of alternative electronica and traditional ethnic instruments), Indoor Concourse 730 830 930pm, free
• ES Music : Sanggar Seni by Kelana Purba and Makyong Kedek (dikir barat), Courtyard 640pm, free
• ES Theatre - Bawang Putih Bawang Merah by by Teater Ekamatra, Waterfront Theatre, IG 📸 $45 soldout
• ES Performances Workshop: Jalan Raya by Zarina Muhammad, in collaboration with local artists- Day 2 of 3, Annexe Studio 4pm, 6pm, 8pm, $22
• ES Dance: Mak Yong by Kumpulan Mak Yong Cahaya Matahari & PUSAKA, Waterfront Theatre Lawn 6pm 745pm, free
• ES Kids storytellling: Tales from the Nusantara: The Legend of Hang Tuah and the White Crocodile by Malay Heritage Centre & Hafiz Rashid, PIP's PLAYbox 1145, 115 3pm, free

 

Event Nights & Parties 10

• DJ, CULTURE : Back 2 Two Thousands Presents One Direction & Friends, Cherry Discotheque @ 133 Cecil Street (cbd), $31
• DJ, Cruise Rakyat with CT Selecta 🇲🇾 and HEAVYITCH (DJ Itch b2b DJ VinylHeavy's vintage asian boogie disco city pop), the projector golden mile tower, $15
• DJ, LOCO Parties pres. BAD NEWS - Metro Boomin x Kanye Night, Projector X Golden Village @ Cineleisure Orchard L5 L6 , $28
• DJ, Gabbar Bistro x DJ Mass - Bollywood , Gabbar Indian Bistro at CQ @ Clarke Quay
• DJ, AFROGROOVE SG - Afrofusion Friday - Limehouse Farewell Party , members CLUB EL PICO @ 6 Hongkong St (clarke quay), $15
• DJ, Flashback Friday by UnfilteredPresents (2000s pop to high school musical), hard rock cafe cuscaden (orchard), $30
• DJ, FRESH Fridays @ Here Kitty Kitty (90s 00s Hip Hop, R&B, Reggaeton), Here Kitty Kitty - Speakeasy & Cocktail Lounge @ The Cannery Clarke Quay, free
• DJ, Silent Disco - Silent Recess @ The Tuckshop Assembly with DJ Tang (90s 00s throwback mashups), The Tuckshop Assembly at 403 Guillemard Road (dakota), $12
• DJ, Club Hell: Kpop in Hell, gay lgbt club @ 113 telok ayer st
• Drag Party, Tuckshop Reopening Night, 51 Neil Road (maxwell), lgbt drag bar-club
• DJ, W Hotel Sentosa Cove DJ KiDG, wet deck 🏖
• DJ, Offtrack: Daryl Knows (deep house, jazz not jazz), 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
• DJ, Capasso Friday - DJ Rey & DJ Mery (top 40s mashup rnb, hiphop) , CAPASSO italian restaurant @ 92 Telok Ayer Street

 

Dance Club Guest Performers 10

• DJ, Highh Club: Slushii 🇺🇸 (monstercat edm future bass) , Highh Party @ Pan Pacific Hotel, 7 raffles blvd (esplanade, promenade), tix 🎟 $35
• DJ, Drip: presents Entity - DJ Limmy, Daniel, Kong (hiphop top40s pop edm), drip club @ 100 Orchard Rd Concorde Hotel, $27
• DJ, High House: MinGs & MIKKI SORIANO (melodic house & techno) , High House Rooftop Lounge 🗼@ 1 Raffles Place (old 1-altitude), $38
• DJ, Zouk: One Dance, zouk club clarke quay
• DJ, Tuff: BTRH feat. DEZ, JOSHUA DILLON & TMDDJ, tuff club @ 138 robinson rd cbd, $36
• DJ, Marquee: presents Creeds (🇫🇷 hardstyle techno, psy,), marquee nightclub @ marina bay sands shoppes, $30
• DJ, HQ: Thugshop Presents - ARTHUR ROBERT( 🇦🇹 hypnotic techno), headquarters techno-house club @ 66A boat quay, $36
• DJ, CÉ LA VI: PAIGE TOMLINSON (🇬🇧 90s rave, house techno, electro), marina bay sands hotel rooftop bar-club 🗼, $38
• DJ, ØGravity x Thugshop Presents - JODY WISTERNOFF (🇬🇧 progressive & deep house), MDLR club @ 62 cecil street (cbd), $40, $47

 

Sat, 11 May

• RADWIMPS WORLD TOUR 2024, Singapore Expo Hall 7, $168
• TesseracT (UK prog metal, djent) - WAR OF BEING WORLD TOUR 2024, L5 @ GR.iD mall (selegie), $88
• Nancy Sit 薛家燕 & Friends - Mother’s Day Celebration 爱在心中母亲节演唱会, resort world sentosa, ballroom, $118
• 'EK THA RAJA' BADSHAH LIVE IN SINGAPORE 2024 (🇮🇳 hip hop), Singapore Expo Hall 5, ft YUNG RAJA $148
• Konsert Dato’ Jamal Abdillah Seniman Berjasa (G), The Star Vista Theatre (buona vista), $98
• Mediacorp GOLD 905’s Solid Gold Night, Simply Retro BaClub by Tin Box @ CHIJMES, $88
• 25 Years of Ska Love – Gerhana SKA Cinta - Timeless Rhythm (ska reggae rocksteady ska-punk), capitol theatre city hall, $68
• Indie HC: Destiny "To See Another Day" Release Show ft Doldrey, xdesterx, FUSE, Chaosphere, punk, old dm, hardcore gig, aliwal arts centre (kampong gelam, nicoll highway, $28
• Indie Rock Gig: BOY DINNER - Pines, Blindside, Bear the Remedy, Second Chance, Sound, Quitline, $20
• Indie Rock Gig: CTRL CHAOS, MONDA(E), INTERMISSION, Last Minute, Phil's Studio @ High Street Centre L3 (clarke quay/city hall), tix 🎟 $15
• Music Matters Live Festival Schedule and the conference Creator Week
  • Fountain Square Afternoon: DAY 4 - Adrian Dzvuke 🇦🇺, Dhruv Visvanath 🇮🇳, Jewel Owusu 🇦🇺 , Peej 🇵🇭, Eleanor Whisper 🇮🇩, RANGGA JONES , the center area of CQ @ clarke quay fountain square, free
  • Fountain Square Night: Girls Night Out - MATILDE G, JHM (AU), JOYA (HK), Celine Wanyi (HK), Mali (IN), Nao Yoshioka (JP), Emma Dilemma (NZ), Marian Carmel
  • Senor Taco Stage: DAY 3 - COUNT VERNON, Oliver Cronin 🇦🇺, Balu Brigada 🇳🇿, Teo Glacier🇳🇿 ), Señor Taco restaurant livehouse at CQ @ Clarke Quay, free
  • HIPHOP RNB at IKI: Mic Check with Josh Makazo, Berywam 🇫🇷, ARlo Maverick 🇨🇦, Adrian Dzvuke 🇦🇺, Who Shot Scott 🇳🇿, club iki @ ikigai izakaya riverwalk (clarke quay), pop, R&B, afrobeats and hip-hop free
  • It's a girl thing TALK: Singapore Edition - Inch Chua, Preeti Nair, Marian Carmel, Mali, JOYA, Matalie Dau et al., free with RSVP

 

• Singapore Chinese Orchestra: Mother‘s Day Concert 2024 母亲节音乐会 2024 - 慈母心 by SCO - Day 2 of 2 , Singapore Conference Hall @ 7 Shenton Way, $38 =
• Singapore Symphony Orchestra: SSO Symphony Ball 2024 - SSO Benefit, The Ritz-Carlton, Millenia Singapore, uh $10k
• Cool Cats: Jamie Aditya presents Funky Town (soul and funk) - day 3 of 3, nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $28
• Jazz Loft: JAPANESE FUSION WONDERLAND with Eric Lee and M.I.C, Blu Jaz L3 @ bali ln (bugis), $24,
• Maduro Jazz: Mellow Mixtape by Mila Vidanovic (soul jazz pop), maduro @ sofitel sentosa, $38++ drink credits
• Irish Music and Plays: Lasalle's Red Dot Green Dot 2024 - celebrating Ireland and Singapore culture, LASALLE college of the arts (rochor), $40
• Choral: Resonance of Singapore - Nonsensical Notes - Songs of Innocence by The ROS Singers, Yong Siew Toh Conservatory main Concert Hall, tix 🎟, $17

 

Esplanade Pesta Raya Festival 11

• ES Theatre - Bawang Putih Bawang Merah by by Teater Ekamatra, Waterfront Theatre, $45 soldout
• ES Performances: Jalan Raya by Zarina Muhammad, in collaboration with local artists- Day 3 of 3, Annexe Studio 1 3 and 5pm, $22
• ES Music Kids: tikTOKtik – Children’s Storytelling by Kelana Purba, and folk songs, dikir barat, Indoor Concourse 230 345pm, free
• ES Music Kids: JUARA MIC JUNIOR di Pesta Raya by The Stars of JMJ, Outdoor Theater 3pm 415pme, free
• ES Dance: Mak Yong by Kumpulan Mak Yong Cahaya Matahari & PUSAKA, Waterfront Theatre Lawn 6pm, free
• ES Music: Sanggar Seni by Kelana Purba and Makyong Kedek (dikir barat), Courtyard 645pm, free
• ES Music: Nadi Singapura x Djangat - ethnic folk percussion and electronic soundscapes, Outdoor Theatre 7pm 815 930pm, free
• ES Music: Malam Balada by Zalelo & Fauzie Laily - M-pop ballads and raya hits , Indoor Concourse 730pm 830 930pm, free

- ES Kids storytellling: Tales from the Nusantara: The Legend of Hang Tuah and the White Crocodile by Malay Heritage Centre & Hafiz Rashid, PIP's PLAYbox 1145, 115 3pm, free

• OTHERS
  • 11-13 May: Party & Live Band, Chu-Hi Fiesta, Yoasobi by Kanpai 33-35 Pekin Street , Far East Square(telok ayer), free
  • 11 May: Indie Theatre Ancient Opera: The Inanna Project, At Centre 42 @ 42 Waterloo Street (bras basah mrt), $20
  • The Projector Cineleisure Orchard: Day 1- Mother's Day w The Staircase Duo (pop, rock, acoustic), Projector X Golden Village No Spoilers Box Office Bar @ Cineleisure Orchard L5
  • Chinese Drama: Hwa Chong Institutions 黄城夜韵 2024 An Evening of Drama 2024 (G) - Day 1 of 2, Gateway Theatre Bukit Merah, $18
  • Dance Theatre: MahAlaya - Panchakoshas through the narratives of the 'Kurukshetra War’ and the ‘Thirumanthiram’, Alliance Française de Singapour at Newton mrt, $32
  • Blackbird: DYRT - A 90s Grunge Tribute, Blackbird Music Bar @ Gillman Barracks (labrador park), free/bar

 

Events & Parties 11

• DJ, [Intervention 5 feat. Gabber Modus Operandi 🇮🇩](Fetching Title#aokv, queer, Projector X Golden Village No Spoilers Box Office Bar @ Cineleisure Orchard L5 ,$22
• DJ, SHiOCK x Manifest - House of Mayhem with DJ IMX & Denz Devarez 🇳🇱🇿🇦 - ft Aphad & YZ, Wallich Manor Lounge @ Sofitel City Centre Hotel L6 (tg pagar), [tix 🎟](ttps://eventbrite.sg/e/895772428447) $15
• DJ 🏖, GrooveTop: Hip Hop Pool Party ft. Secret Pals, Durio & AKA Sounds, El Chido 1 Hill Street, Pullman Singapore (city hall), $25
• DJ, Flashback Saturday 90s & 2000s Hip Hop x RnB, Blu Jaz @ bali ln (bugis), $11
• Party Queer: SALUD - united by music - eurofashion, salud cocktail bar @ 19 keong saik rd (maxwell), $25
• DJ,🏖 Fuego Night: Afro Beach 5.0, Sand Bar 53 Siloso Beach Walk, $35
• DJ, Jugaad: The Revolution - Night Of Bollywood X Punjabi Bangers by Untamed, hard rock cafe cuscaden (orchard), $30
• DJ, Club Hell: Sleepover in Hell, gay lgbt club @ 113 telok ayer st, $30
• Drag Party, [The KasiCunt Ball: Yin & Yang]((https://kasicuntball-2024.peatix.com/), MDLR club @ 62 cecil street (cbd), $58
• DJ, 10-11 May: Neil Conversion, Unleash pres. Unhinged - circuit party bar in sg, 43 Neil Road (maxwell), lgbt gay bar-club
• DJ, Zodiac Bar Night Party, gay bar at 50 prinsep st (bencoolen)
• Drag Party, RIOT! LABOUR 11th MAY 2024, hard rock cafe cuscaden (orchard), $15
• DJ, Offtrack: Bongomann (deep house) and Sigmond Fn (aka fzpz), 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
• DJ, Highh Club: ASSEMBLY MAYHEM @ Highh School, Highh Party @ Pan Pacific Hotel, 7 raffles blvd (esplanade, promenade), $20,
• DJ, W Hotel Sentosa Cove Daryl Knows, wet deck 🏖
• DJ 🏖 , Groovetop - Hip Hop Pool Party with Secret Pals, AKA Sounds, Duriop, Pullman Hotel Hill Street pool (city hall), $25
• DJ, HighHouse Fred E & XTVA (melodic techno & trance) , High House Rooftop Lounge 🗼@ 1 Raffles Place (old 1-altitude), $38
• DJ, NoSleepClub - Excessive heat ft DJs Moss and Nez Senja (rnb hiphop), No Sleep Club @ 20 Keong Saik Rd (outram/maxwell)
• DJ, Neon Pigeon - Mothers I’d Love To Feed., Neon Pigeon @ 36 Carpenter St (clarke quay)

 

Club Guest Performers 11

• DJ, ARK 11: AMBER NA 藍星蕾 (🇲🇾 chinese style edm) , ARK 11 Club @ Orchard Central Mall L11, IG 📸 $25
• DJ, .WAV(Y) Remixed Presents: DAVE NUNES (🇳🇱House, Afro, Baile Funk, and Amapiano) with PRAV, XG & KNRCK, Mortar & Pestle rooftop bar @ 269 South Bridge Rd, $27
• DJ, Marquee: Marquee Astrolab, marquee nightclub @ marina bay sands shoppes, $20
• DJ, Tipsy Unicorn Lizzy Wang (🇨🇳Tech House) , tipsy unicorn beach club, $25
• DJ, ArtBeyond X CIEL: Electric Playa! Ft. Patrice Bäumel (🇩🇪 techno) & Guy Mantzur), Rumours Beach Club 🏖 @ 40 Siloso Bch Walk, Sentosa, tix 🎟 $48
• DJ HQ: Thugshop Presents - UFO95 [LIVE, 🇧🇪 techno], headquarters techno-house club @ 66A boat quay, $36

 

12 May, Sun - Mother's Day

• Concert at Botanic Gardens: SSO Mother’s Day Concert 2024 by Singapore Symphony Orchestra, singapore botanic gardens, shaw foundation symphony stage, free
• Retro Rani by Mediacorp 968, orchid country club, ballroom (yishun), $89
• Indie Hiphop Rnb: PRIVATE FUNCTION 5 - Fahmy., Lucky Levi, SUBHAS, Martin Spacely, CHRISKRIS, BCKNIP, AE$OP CA$H, Phil's Studio @ High Street Centre L3 (clarke quay/city hall), $16
• Indie Screamo, HC Grind Gig: ANGUISH IS FOR LOVER - 🇲🇾: TERDERITHA , Dasawarsa, Rugh, 🇸🇬: ANJING, Mordhau, C.A.S.S (Tibetan Punk Band) , moved to rad studio 345, $20
• Crust Punk: Subconscious (🇮🇩 Batam crust) ft Istilah, Vitriol, Topsy Turvy, lithe style (house) near rochor mrt, $20
• Jazzy Ukulele Mother's Day with Daniel Purnomo & Fabian Lee, Crane OCBC at Wisma Atria Orchard, $10 to $30
• SOTA Wind Ensemble x Dunman High Symphonic Band: Where the Sky Meets the Sea, Victoria Concert Hall, $10
• Choral: Songs From Our Childhood - an educational programme by The ROS Singers, National Library Building, Level 1, Lobby, free, dont worry if registrations are full - its open
• Strings & Melodies: A Family Musical Adventure with violinist Alexander Suptel and Alexandra Novicova, At 36/38 Armenian Street, $58 for 2
• Indie Theatre - Ancient Music Songs: An Open Work Session & Dialogue with Thomas Richards, Centre 42 at 42Waterloo Street, $20
• The Projector Cineleisure Orchard: Mother's Day w The Staircase Duo (pop, rock, acoustic), Projector X Golden Village No Spoilers Box Office Bar @ Cineleisure Orchard L5
• Indie Rock Math Pop Gig: Amberhill Motion & Bloom - Album Launch ft MAXIME & ELO ELO, Esplanade Recital Studio, tix 🎟 $25

Esplanade - Pesta Raya Malay Festival Last

• ES Music: Hidup Pop Yeh Yeh! (Long Live Pop Yeh Yeh!) by Dato’ Jeffrydin, Dato’ L. Ramli, S. Mariam & Masdo 🇲🇾, Concert Hall 8pm, $40
• ES Music: Dangdut Koplo Extravaganza! by Ochi Alvira & Syahiba Saufa 🇮🇩, Annexe Studio 5pm 8pm, $40 soldout
• ES Folk Music and Kids Storytelling: tikTOKtik – Children’s Storytelling by Kelana Purba, Indoor Concourse 230 345pm, free
• ES Music Children's: JUARA MIC JUNIOR di Pesta Raya by The Stars of JMJ, Outdoor Theatre 3pm 415pm, free
• ES Theatre - Bawang Putih Bawang Merah by by Teater Ekamatra, Waterfront Theatre, $45 soldout
• ES Dance: Mak Yong by Kumpulan Mak Yong Cahaya Matahari & PUSAKA, Waterfront Theatre Lawn 6pm, free
• ES Music: Irama Nostalgia with Angklung Empire, Indoor Concourse 630 730pm, free
• ES Music: Sanggar Seni by Kelana Purba and Makyong Kedek, Courtyard 640pm, free
• ES: The Cliffters with The Impian Batiks (60s band, malay, english songs) , Outdoor Theatre 7pm 815pm, free
• OTHERS
• Wanna Dance 2024: On Broadway - jazz, tap, ballet, contemporary, musical theatre - by Jitterbugs, Kreta Ayer People's Theatre (maxwell, chinatown), $55

 

• DJ Party and Market: Slow Sundays Vol. 6 - Bring Your Own Mom BYOM, DJs Bongomann, Tasha, Tyler Made, FatCatHeartAttack & the 5210 PM Crew - Loyboy, LTLX, Juhvunnn, Tanglin Gin Jungle at Dempsey Hill, 26B Dempsey Rd (napier), free/bar
• DJ, Afro-Cuban Domingos ft DJ Yuma & DJ Cam, at Ziggy Zaggy 51 Kampong Bugis (kallang riverside park)

 

13 May, Mon

• elijah woods : ilu 24/7, 365 tour in Singapore, ESPLANADE Annexe Studio, $108
• Esplanade: Ebony & Ivory with Erwin Angullia featuring Nur Umairah on vocals (80s contemporary & movies, jazz-pop) Day 1 , Indoor Concourse, free
• Sonic Explorations - a collaboration with Eunoia JC MEP and What the Forte (contemporary, classical), Eunoia Junior College (bright hill), free

 

14 May, Tue

• Cool Cats Jazz: Homegrown Originals feat. Syakirah (jazz rnb pop classical), nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $20
• Simply Jazz: IRESON (Afro-Latin contemporary jazz), simply jazz @ CHIJMES B1 (City hall), free/book
• Esplanade: Ebony & Ivory with Erwin Angullia featuring Nur Umairah on vocals (80s contemporary & movies, jazz-pop) Day 2 , Indoor Concourse, free
• Avocado Piano - Candlelight Concert , Avocado Piano Studio at RV Point (fort canning, 233 River Valley Rod B1) , free,
• Story telling Competition: What's Your Story SLAM : FAMILY, the projector golden mile tower, , $40,
• Timbre+ One North Tribute Fest: One Night Only - Acoustic Tribute to Grunge, Blues, and Rock classics - Trevor Jalla (Ublues) and Danny Loong (Ublues & Raw Earth), Surath Godfrey (reverie), Rene Hombre (shirlyn + the unexpected), Timbre+ One North music food court/beer garden @ 73A Ayer Rajah Crescent (one-north), free

 

15 May, Wed

• Blackbird: Pre Tour Music Gig: Mantravine's Cosmic Goddess (tribal funk, psych), Blackbird Music Bar @ Gillman Barracks (labrador park), tix 🎟 free
• Melomania VII by What the Forte (contemporary music, experimental classical), Eunoia Junior College, tix 🎟, ) free
• Cool Cats Jazz: Hiro Maekawa Presents All About That Bass , nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $20
• Blu Jaz:The Monster Jazz Jam, Blu Jaz @ bali ln (bugis), free
• 15-21 May: ESPLANADE Workshop & Peformances: Day Out! @ with vocal coaches Dionne, Amanda and Deniece, and also bollywood dance crew Royalusion , Various locations around Esplanade, $27
• ESPLANADE: Nostalgia Colours by Khidir Surattee (singer-songwriter), Indoor Concourse, free
• DJ, Offtrack: DJ Itch - Soul Jazz Bossa Nova, 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
• DJ, HighHouse Ladies who Lounge - DJ Tang & Li.A, High House Rooftop Lounge 🗼@ 1 Raffles Place (old 1-altitude)

 

16 May, Thu

• Cool Cats: Rai Maia presents Soul Sessions (neo-soul hiphop) - day 1 of 3, nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $28
• 15-21 May: ESPLANADE Workshop & Peformances: Day Out! @ with vocal coaches Dionne, Amanda and Deniece, and also bollywood dance crew Royalusion , Various locations around Esplanade, $27
• ESPLANADE: Rex (singer-songwriter, indie), Indoor Concourse, free
• Swee Lee Clarke Quay: Open Mic, Swee Lee Clarke Quay, free
• Mad & Midas: SHELF SESSIONS: Live Music featuring The Jukuleles, Mad & Midas cocktails @ 39 ann siang hill (maxwell), free
• (Thai) Club Slim AOF PONGSAK & POP PONGKOOL, Excelsior Shopping Ctr L2, (city hall, 5 coleman st opp funan)
• iki: ROYAL BEATZ - Afrobeats, Hip Hop, R&B, club iki @ ikigai izakaya riverwalk (clarke quay), free, .
• DJ, 🏳️‍🌈 TAURUS SUNZ: Welcome to The Waldorf! , Salud @ 19 Keong Saik Road (maxwell), $28
• DJ, Offtrack: Daryl Knows, 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
• DJ, Fate by Have Fun: Open Deck Night , southeast asian style club @ orchard cineleisure L8, (S239695)

 

Other Arts Events

• Till 9 Jun Musical: Hamilton by Lin-Manuel Miranda, marina bay sands, $80
• Festival 25 Apr- 26 May: Voilah! France Singapore Festival, various
• Festival 1 - 25 May: Singapore HeritageFest 2024
• 16-26 May: Theatre: Paradise or the Impermanence of Ice Cream by Singapore Repertory Theatre aka STC (Advisory - Some Mature Content), KC Arts Centre - Home of STC, $53
• 16-25 May: Theatre - I and You by Lauren Gunderson (G), Gateway Theatre Bukit Merah, $35
• 18-26 May Kids Chinese Theatre - 《小问号和探险家》The wee Question Mark and the Adventurer, 54 Waterloo Street (bras basah), $34
• 23-25 May: Indie Theatre: William Shakespeare's Twelfth Night, The Artground at Goodman Arts Centre (mountbatten mrt), $27
• 23-26 May: Kids Ballet - Peter & Blue's Treasure Hunt 2024 Presented by Singapore Ballet (G), School of The Arts (SOTA) Studio Theatre (bencoolen, dhoby ghaut), $35
• 10 May - 22 Sep Exhibition - Olafur Eliasson: Your curious journey, Singapore Art Museum (SAM) at Tanjong Pagar Distripark, tix 🎟 from $12
• 11-18 May: Fine Art Exhibition - Nanyang Academy of Fine Arts - Our BA (Hons) Fine Art graduating cohort, The Ngee Ann Kongsi Galleries, NAFA Campus 1, free
• Ended: Comedic Theatre - God of Carnage, Drama Centre Black Box @ national library (bugis), $30
• Ended: Teochew Opera - The Pawned Wife 典妻 by Nam Hwa Opera, SCCC Auditorium @ 1 Straits Blvd (shenton way), $10
• Ended: Theatre - Backstage Betrayal, A Crack the Case Mystery (Some Mature Content), KC Arts Centre @ 20 Merbau Rd, $68 \
• 17 May (Fri) 1st Sex-Positive Comedy Show in Singapore, Phil's Studio @ High Street Centre L3 (clarke quay/city hall), $27
• 17 May: Dance: TARI 24: GETARAN JIWA by Atrika Dance Company, national library drama centre L5 (bugis), $32
• 18 May: Comedy - Noted With Thanks by Kuah Jenhan, wild rice @ funan (city hall), $38
• 21 May: The Ladyboss presents- STRANGERS IN-SYNC: Night of Comedy! , Monk's Brew Club at 57 East Coast Road Singapore,
• Till 31 May DJ, ARK11 Club Complementary Entry of all Moms or if you bring your mom, ARK 11 Club @ Orchard Central Mall L11

 

17 May, Fri - Start of Singapore International Festival of Arts (SIFA 2024)

• Arch Enemy (melodic death metal, melodeath) - Deceivers Asia Tour 2024 in Singapore, Scape Orchard, The Ground Theatre (somerset mrt), $118
• SCO: Young Children's Concert 2024 儿童音乐会 2024 - Karung Guni Boy by Singapore Chinese Orchestra - Day 1 of 2 , Singapore Conference Hall @ 7 Shenton Way, $20
• SSO: Chamber: Smetana and Dvořák by Singapore Symphony Orchestra, Victoria Concert Hall, $20
• Reggae Remedy : WITH SURPRISE GUEST (Ska, Rocksteady, Dancehall & Reggae), el pico at 6 Hongkong St (clarke quay), free
• Crust Punk Show: bastarddestroyer (ID), deviare, afterdeath, cass, topsy turvy, rad stuido 345, $10
• NLB: Diabetic Duo (Amanda Ong & Sope) - Open Stage Originals - singer-songwriter duo, folk soul, alt-pop, National Library Building, Level 1 Lobby, free, dont worry about registration its open
• Tribute: Some Might Say Oasis, molly malone's irish pub @ 56 circular rd (raffles place, boat quay)
• Cool Cats: Rai Maia presents Soul Sessions (neo-soul hiphop) - day 2 of 3, nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $28
• Maduro Jazz: A Classical Aftertaste with The David Loke Trio ft Charmaine Teo & Hang Oh, maduro @ sofitel sentosa, $38++ drink credits
• Candlelight: Film Scores at RWS S.E.A. Aquarium w Vocalise String Quartet, S.E.A. Aquarium Sentosa, $73

 

Esplanade

• ES Music: Danny Koh (50s to 70s pop, jazz pop), Indoor Concourse, 645 745pm, free
• ES Music: Rock Weekender Bender: Pennylane (80s, rearranged tunes), Outdoor Theatre, 715pm 845pm free
• ES Theatre: Moby Dick by Plexus Polaire - mutimedia theatre, puppets & live music - Day 1 , SIFA 2024, Waterfront Theatre, $38 #### SIFA 2024
• Theatre/Multimedia AI: Una Isla by Agrupación Señor Serrano (ES) - 1 of 2, SOTA Drama Theatre (bencoolen, dhoby), $38
• Theatre: DIDO AND AENEAS - a riotous reimagination of Henry Purcell's timeless opera by T:>Works (SG) - 1 of 2 , stamford arts centre at 155 waterloo st (bugis), free but $20 refundable deposit
• Theatre & Puppetry: Remember My Party by The Finger Players - 1 of 2, stamford arts centre at 155 waterloo st (bugis), free but $20 refundable deposit
• Theatre: Waiting For Audience《等待观众》by Nine Years Theatre (SG) - 1 of 2, stamford arts centre at 155 waterloo st (bugis), free but $20 refundable deposit
• School Events
• Temasek Poly Theatre:Teatrofest 2024: The Good Person Of Szechwan - 1 of 2, Temasek Polytechnic (tampines west), $6
• ITE College Central Theatre: ITE Theatrical Ensemble presents : Normal #11 , 2 Ang Mo Kio Dr, $10
• Eunoia JC Rock: EPHEMERAL, At Eunoia Junior College 2 Sin Ming Place (bright hill), free

 

Event Theme Nights

• DJ, Offtrack: Ramesh - global grooves, 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
• DJ Club Hell: Exhibitionist in Hell, gay lgbt club @ 113 telok ayer st
• DRAG, Tuckshop: NYMPHIA WIND meet n greet, 51 Neil Road, $68 doors only
  • Main Party: Nymphia Wind - House of Wind x Tuckstop, Projector X Golden Village No Spoilers Box Office Bar @ Cineleisure Orchard L5
• DJ, W Sentosa Cove: DJ Matty
• DJ, High House: HIGH FIDELITY Session #1 ft. AOSWith Andrew T & Julian Quintero, High House Rooftop Lounge 🗼@ 1 Raffles Place (old 1-altitude), $38
• DJ, Blu Jaz: Back To The 2000s (Hip Hop x RnB x Pop) , Blu Jaz @ bali ln (bugis), $10
• DJ, MUGIC with Black Pomade (🇵🇹🇮🇹 PT-IT) ft Halal Sol, Projector X Golden Village Ruby Lounge @ Cineleisure Orchard L6, $37

 

Club Guest Performers

• DJ, HOSPITALITY 2024 feat. P MONEY x WHINEY & ANAЇS (UK 🇬🇧) - Kings of Bass with Hospital Records (the UK DNB label), MDLR club @ 62 cecil street (cbd, tpi building), IG 📸) $37
• DJ, Celestial Seasonings: 1st Anniversary with Aldonna (AU 🇦🇺) ft Miss Lil, JAS, and 3MZY., tuff club @ 138 robinson rd cbd, $37
• DJ, Drip: Posh Singapore edm techno pop with DJs tajima, ling, belle, drip club @ 100 Orchard Rd Concorde Hotel, tix 🎟, $30
• DJ, Marquee: Marquee Utopia - trance & future rave night, marquee nightclub @ marina bay sands shoppes, $20
• DJ, Zouk Phuture: EATS EVERYTHING (UK 🇬🇧 deep tech house), zouk phuture club @ clarke quay, IG 📸 $48
  • DJ, Zouk: Mambo Jambo (70s 80s disco boogie night), zouk club clarke quay, $35

 

Saturday... Soon

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I was exploring today and found Mak Krassido wandering and asked him to join me. I decided I was going to make a separate Star Wars village for him and go search for the other wandering villagers. I went thru the cave back to main world and removed a few villagers I didn’t need to make space and when I came back through the tunnel and went to my Main Rebel village my small storage building, the smallest tattoo e build was gone. It had 4 of the largest chests one with sandstone, the other two had Star Wars materials and the 4th had all the little late game and important items as well as like 3 lightsabers and things I needed for crafting tools and making spaceship. I’m pretty bummed about it consider the Star Wars materials are apparently limited which is crazy to think about considering they are needed for all the sets they are selling and I’ve already been through a bunch of caves before knowing to leave one enemy alive for farming materials. Can anyone confirm that there is going to no more enemies added so once you harvest all of the Star Wars wreckage and decorations on the island and defeat all the storm troopers there will be no way to get any more Star Wars materials?

wait for other results or secure my slot on phinma?
so the title says it all, i am kind of unsure what to do and where to enroll. graduating as SHS grade 12 student, and around april, saint jude emailed me saying that i passed their scholarship exam and im qualified for HK 10. I've seen some good and bad reviews about the school, but mainly what stood out the most is how horrible they treat IT students (im taking BSIT).
i can pay 750 as downpayment para masecure slot ko, or wait for the results sa uMak, PUP, DOST Scholarship, and take the exam on TUP but i don't know, is there anything that i should do in this situation?

I looked through the threads and didn't see anything about this - apologies if it's been discussed.
When I was wandering on the Star Wars island, I ran into a human female Rebel Pilot named Su Sifta in the Frostlands (she was patrolling with two Rebel Troopers). I asked her to adventure with me, and she was a delightful partner while attacking Empire caves. She's got an excitable personality that's fairly charming.
When I brought her back to my Level 9 Rebel Village, I asked her to join - she said she could not unless I asked someone else to leave. I was willing to evict one of the Farming Droids (but there were no options to do so). I eventually brought her back to one of my Mainland Villages and was able to invite her to live there. Interestingly - she shows up as a Named Villager, but has no details in her bio.
My main question - has anyone run into other random Star Wars Villagers while adventuring? I'm curious who else is out there, and if there are Wookiees or Twi'leks or Ewoks, etc.!
Edited to add:
It appears you can find at least 4 named Wandering Star Wars NPCs on SW Island (all are human thus far): -Beck Pirra, a female smuggler -Mak Krissido, a male Rebel Pilot -Su Sifta, a female Rebel Pilot -Tal Tirrus, a male Smuggler
Thanks to many folks below who shared their findings - I can confirm all 4 of these, and I have found them as well.
As pointed out by u/theycallmeKozi: they tend to walk along the paths on your maps; and they usually seem to be in company with 2 Rebel Soldiers (with the white round hats). Once you converse, and request the chattable NPC join you, the other two wander off on their own.
As of now, you are unable to add them to the Rebel Village. You'll need to either start a second village on SW Island; or bring them back to the main Fortnite Island and place them in one of your normal villages. For some reason, they also currently lack bios (although they do show up as Residents on the Resident/Bio screen).
Good luck to all looking - and thanks for those who shared their findings!

Well hello there :) I recentcly aquired a Carl Zeiss Jena sonnar 135 f/4. I would Like to use it for Guiding If possible.
I have No experince with guiding Equipment.
My current rig is a sa gti, a Canon 500d, and a celestron mak 500 f/5.6
I also have a raspi3b+, with i think Astroberry? My understanding is, i Connect the Pi to the sa gti, to my Main Cam(500d) and also to a dedicaded Guide Cam, right? Can the Guide Cam be a Webcam? It would be the only Thing Missing and Id rather buy a Webcam than a Guidecam for ten Times the Price, If possible

I might be a little late to the discussion, but within the community, I've observed a trend of YouTube videos and podcasts discussing problems and suggesting improvements for the game. I won't specifically mention Asmongold's video or the thousands of responses to his comments, but I do want to share some unique thoughts and opinions that haven't been widely expressed. Before diving in, I'd like to mention that I genuinely enjoy World of Warcraft overall. Despite its shortcomings, it still keeps me engaged. However, of all the games I've tried to get my IRL friends to play, WoW is by far the most challenging to recruit new players to.
My comments about WoW aim to improve the game independently of other games. So, when I mention an issue, it's not in comparison to other games. For instance, let's talk about questing and leveling. I think it's leaps and bounds better than some other MMOs I've played, like New World at its release. Yet, there's a reason why the marketing team isn't highlighting leveling and questing prominently in their advertisements or on the box art. (I'll delve into that later.)
Leveling / Questing As previously mentioned, leveling and questing aren't the draws they could be. Players like myself view leveling as a chance to experience the story and, simultaneously, as an obstacle to endgame content. The main issues with questing boil down to it being unchallenging, overly abundant, and insufficiently rewarding.
My solution: "Hero Quests" The main idea is that these quests differ from the main story or side quests in that they send you on an epic journey, following the structure of the hero's journey, a storytelling device.

• Departure: The hero lives in the "ordinary world" and receives a call to adventure.
• Initiation: The hero enters the "special world," faces a series of tasks, and confronts the main obstacle or enemy. Here, the hero applies everything learned on the journey to overcome this challenge.
• Return: Ready to return to his world, the hero undergoes a personal transformation, realizing how the adventure has changed him.

Upon accepting the quest, your character is altered in some way. Some ideas include being unable to heal, having gear stripped (for the duration of the quest), possessing only three potions to use strategically, being cursed so that damaging spells also harm yourself, needing to pull a certain number of mobs at once, or having a specific ability disabled. Hero quests can have different difficulty levels: Normal, Heroic, and Mythic, with adjusted rewards and experience. Rewards could include an Epic item, a powerful consumable, collectibles (Transmog, Mounts, Pets), or a significant amount of gold and EXP.
This concept can also be applied to group quests, enhancing the leveling experience as players improve and tackle higher difficulties, still offering a challenge.
Open World Content In Dragonflight, we saw interesting new open world factions and encounters like Grand Hunts and Siege on Dragonbane's Keep. However, these often become irrelevant quickly. A dynamic idea is for hostile factions to grow in influence if left unchecked. This growth could mean more mobs, increased health, harder-hitting abilities, and territorial expansion. Initially, when rewards are relevant and characters less equipped, these factions see more engagement. As characters become better geared, engagement drops, allowing the factions to expand and drop better gear. If a faction grows excessively, it could trigger a complete takeover of the world, sparking fun weekly quests and events.
PvP PvP gearing is in a good place, but engagement remains low. Solo queue was a positive addition, but it hasn't significantly boosted engagement. Plunderstorm introduced some interesting features but feels like a different game. WoW PvP could learn from Plunder's successes and shortcomings. The community has suggested minor changes to improve the PvP experience, like reducing button bloat, adjusting add-ons, and addressing MMR inflation/deflation, class imbalance, and crowd control. These adjustments might make the mode more accessible and less frustrating but are unlikely to dramatically increase engagement, which is crucial.
An advantage WoW holds as an MMO, unlike League of Legends, Call of Duty, or Fortnite, is its open world. Providing uninstanced experiences for PvPers could heighten excitement and strengthen the community, much like real-life sports. Ideas could include objective-based arena play, races, relay arenas (team 1v1s), and community arenas (Mak'gora). Players could gather at open world arenas hourly to spectate battles, wager gold, or donate to winners. Combatants could earn gold by accepting a quest to be the entertainment. "Pink slip" duels could allow players to wager gold, gear, mounts, or pets, with goblins running their own fighting guild.

As title said, lagi nyari HS/Headphone budget maks 1,5jt , keseharian pake main game+nonton+musik aja sih nothing too competitive, yg penting suara nendang dan awet, kapok beli gaming headset wkwkwk. Thanks ditunggu sarannya

As the title hints, in this post I'll post my recap of the film series and why it didn't work and got cancelled.
After the massive, multi billion dollar success of Harry Potter, everyone, literally everyone (fans, Warner Bross, Rowling, etc..), wanted more. More wizards, more of Harry's world, more magic, more everything... and Rowling delivered, or at least tried to.
And indeed after the first Fantastic Beasts movie (Fantastic Beasts & Where to find them), it seemed like another success of the Wizarding World was on the way. The movie was a hit, Harry Potter fans were back at theaters, Harry Potter (and Fantastic Beasts) merchandise exploded again, etc... Rowling planned 4 additional movies, fans were thrilled worldwide... nobody could suspect how quickly it would be forgotten and fall down, and franchise getting cancelled.
But, that's where the first problem (that nobody noticed) appeared. Billions of fans of Harry Potter worldwide are fans of Harry Potter, not fans of the world of Harry Potter... and Fantastic Beasts weren't Harry Potter. They were never going to be. In many ways, they're a different film genre.. with Harry Potter film series being movies about a wizard kid growing up, discovering who he is, and what he's supposed to do. Harry Potter was targeted to kids, and kids alone.
With FB, Rowling's idea was obviously to tell a story about the big Dumbledore vs Grindelwald war (something billions of fans have been asking for ever since the final book was released), through the eyes and adventures of Newt and Tina. Fantastic Beasts were meant to be more of a romantic comedy, following the story of romantically involved main leads, who deal with the problems they cause, while the big Dumbledore vs Grindelwald conflict loomed in the back. And as such, FB wasn't primarily targeted to kids, it was targeted to young adults most of all. At first it does seem understandable, given the fact that most kids who were growing up obsessed with Harry Potter were young adults now, but the thing is, magic and wands do not really work with young adults as they do with kids... sure, they're all going to go and see the movie, thrilled for more Harry Potter, but they'll need more than that to get hooked to it, and here's where Fantastic Beasts & Where to find them failed imo. Sure it was a nice spin off to Harry Potter, but it failed at getting people hooked up and building it's own franchise.
Another mistake was that the movie was targeted at old Harry Potter fans, not at making new fans. Sure, at first you think how can anything go bigger than Harry Potter, are there really any more fans to be made? And the answer is yes, new generations of kids, that were kids at the time when FB were being released, that weren't born yet at Harry Potter's times... not young adults that already grew up with Harry Potter.
Does this mean that the film series was doomed to failure from the start and there was never any hope? Absolutely not, the movie was a huge success, it just needed to "work harder" to build up the franchise, a strong second movie would do that... but that's where things started to go downhill very fast.
Fantastic Beasts, the Crimes of Grindelwald wasn't that good of a movie. The problem was that Rowling took on the writing all by herself, and though she's a brilliant story writer she lacked experience in writing film scripts... and that's what Crimes of Grindelwald ended up being, a good story (in idea) that wasn't executed that well. Rowling tried to tell two stories and practically squeeze in two movies into one. The result was the worst of both worlds. The movie tried to be both Fantastic Beasts 2, centering on Newt and Tina/Jacob and Queeny with their magical beasts, and Crimes of Grindelwald, with Grindelwald's plans, Lestrange family drama, with Leta Lestrange as the main central character. In the end both plots got cut short, we got an undeveloped central character (Leta Lestrange), Newt and Tina's story cut short, all major plots cut short and going nowhere... the movie wasn't well received at all.
Another huge problem for the already damaged franchised was covid. Warner Bros wasn't sure what to do with it even, before, but said, heck let's try to save it with a third film, but covid got in the way. It delayed both filming and release. With fans not hooked up on the franchise, and disappointed with the second film, waiting for the third film sure wasn't good news... many people lost interest in the franchise as a whole already.
Secrets of Dumbledore was a nail in the coffin sadly. Unlike Crimes of Grindelwald, it was executed well, but the story itself just wasn't that good this time. Partly due to constant rewrites caused by covid, caused by actors entering online feuds with Rowling, Warner Bros and Rowling not being sure weather or not it will be the final installment of the franchise... it was received better than Crimes of Grindelwald, but still not good enough.
Secrets of Dumbledore failed at the box office (it did break even and maybe earn some money, but by Harry Potter standards, that's failure), due to people loosing interest in the franchise and the movie not being that good, again, second in a row in a franchise (due to different reasons though) that didn't hook up the fans to begin with... it was clear that after that Warner Bros will cancel the remaining films and move on. The movie did end on a kind of a final note, at least, leaving the story mostly concluded.
Side note: Rowling's online controversies had nothing to do with the franchise's failure imho. The vast majority of people just do not care about what people write on twitter (Rowling or anyone else, with Donald Trump and Elon Maks being maybe, and a huge maybe, the only exceptions).

(2022) Incantation
It takes the first basic principle of Buddhism and morphs it into this beautiful, disgusting, depressing and frightening montage of horror and trauma.
(2021) The Medium
It was a somber scene before the credits rolled, that made the movie for me. It's super emotionally intelligent and elevates everything above and beyond the fear and shock factor.
(2020) Spontaneous
Even though it's heavy on romance for my personal tastes, within a genre-blending film, it's just too sweet not to love. But in stark contrast, it's also, basically as violent as you can get.
(2019) Swallow
I think the set-up itself is so unsettlingly raw and conducive to the worst of the subject matter but that intensity is needed to drive the message home.
(2018) The Wolf House
The visuals and practical effects are a monumental feat in and of itself, but the way it made me feel, was otherworldly.
(2017) Errementari: The Blacksmith and the Devil
It’s a weird mix of The Cemetery Man, Pan’s Labyrinth, Little Nicky and Jigoku.
(2016) Sweet, Sweet Lonely Girl
It’s a genuinely chilling myopic exhibition of seduction. A.D. Calvo didn’t use every trick in the book but the one he used, he absolutely perfected.
(2015) The Lure
It felt like David Cronenberg and Wes Anderson were just plowing each other for an hour and a half.
(2014) The Incident
Bleak doesn’t even begin to describe this film. It’s pure nihilism, screamed loudly into the universe.
(2013) Jug Face
Perplexing little backwoods horror.
(2012) The Conspiracy
Most of all this film managed to take a dive off the deep end into something really ridiculous that ended up feeling powerful, exciting and scary. It reminded me a lot of Kill List in that sense.
(2011) Guilty of Romance
Especially for fans of ultra-sexual, graphic, Japanese horror but I’d recommend this to anyone. Sono’s visual direction is much more eclectic than his older films and it’s really entertaining.
(2010) Dream Home
Someone was upset over my Fender Bender review and asked me what I consider to be a good slasher. This right here is a good slasher.
(2009) The Forbidden Door
The films creepy atmosphere and general strangeness did plenty to keep me engaged while blinding me from what was really going on.
(2008) Surveillance
It’s a dark and twisted tale that runs you around in circles as you try to figure out who the actual killer is. Like her (Jennifer Lynch) father’s work, this film is largely character driven and relies on some fantastic unstructured narrative.
(2007) Hansel & Gretel
It’s a fantasy that’s woven with sorrow, while also genuinely chilling in a Twilight Zone-esque way.
(2006) Satan
This isn’t for weak stomachs or the faint of heart. It truthfully pushes the limits for what’s even acceptable for a horror film.
(2005) Strange Circus
Strange Circus fills all my horror holes of morbid depravity and in a miraculously graceful fashion.
(2004) Dumplings
Things to note with this would be the graphic scenes which are done out in slower deliberation and add a lot to the gross-out factor. I still really enjoyed Dumplings and anyone who was curious about Three Extremes should check this out.
(2003) Willard
The saga of Willard and Ben finally gets the treatment it deserves with Willard. It’s darkly whimsical, fluid, and engaging. Not to mention, a legendary performance by Crispin Glover.
(2002) In My Skin
If you’ve ever had extreme anxiety, OCD or episodes of self harm; this movie is going to effect you more. The shots are cringe inducing without relying heavily on a gore gross-out effect. The effects that are used however, are extremely well done.
(2001) Trouble Every Day
The lead actor Vincent Gallo apparently broke up with his girlfriend the day before this movie started shooting. If that’s not true, then his performance is even more impressive because it’s wrought with genuine heartache.
(2000) The Gift
You’d think Tarantino put together this cast list with how much amazing star power there is. It’s popular, just not discussed in horror communities, as a strange Raimi film.
(1999) Nang Nak
An earlier adaptation of the same ghost story told in Pee Mak, Nang Nak forgoes all comedy and delivers a rich and moving ghost story.
(1998)** Phantasm IV: Oblivion**
There’s a ton of backstory, time travel and all-in-all, it’s potentially the most ambitious movie of the series. Where all other franchises dove straight into the trash, Oblivion excelled gracefully.
(1997) Cure
If you haven’t seen a Kurosawa film, you really need to experience his gut-wrenching depressive atmosphere firsthand.
(1996) Ebola Syndrome
Holy shit this movie rocks. I’ve never been so entertained watching a man run around raping people and infecting everyone with Ebola.
(1995) The Eternal Evil of Asia
I’ve reviewed several of these now and if this is the Chinese version of a b-movie, they may be leading the revolution.
(1994) Cemetery Man
Soavi crafts these absolutely absurd scenarios that are obviously tongue-in-cheek but done so in such a bold and creative fashion.
(1993) The Untold Story
It’s a crime film that chugs along as most do, except it delightfully derails into pure horror carnage.
(1992) Split Second
It’s goofy, problematic at times but I ultimately enjoyed it quite a bit. The finale is fucking awesome and makes it hard to leave with a negative impression.
(1991) Highway to Hell
This is an absolutely awesome 90’s horror movie. It has cameos from the entire Stiller family, even fucking Gilbert Gottfried. You also have Chad Lowe, who I truthfully didn’t even know existed.
(1990) Der Todesking
While often wavering between the blunt, literal message and depressive expressionism, Der Todesking manages to feel all too real. It’s one of the best arthouse style horror films I’ve seen to date.
(1989) The Woman in Black
It just might be the creepiest made-for-TV movie…ever made.
(1988) Men Behind the Sun
Unit 731 during WW2, I’m not going to delve into it further, you can Wikipedia it.
(1987) The Believers
The entire runtime is a wild ride dude. It gets a bit absurd at certain points but the cult aspects are awesome.
(1986) In a Glass Cage
Nothing like an intense few hours of Nazi inspired child rape to get you through the work week. At its heart, I believe this film to be a revenge horror but its disturbing content makes a lot of the themes hard to distinguish.
(1984) Sole Survivor
I’m going to keep this one simple. It’s Final Destination with zombies, set in the 80’s.
(1983) The Boxer’s Omen
I seriously don’t even know where to begin with one. It’s just a fucking crazy, psychedelic, black magic filled, religious, pseudo kung-fu fucking pile of weirdness. It’s an absolute 80’s meltdown of practical effects that range from completely silly to extravagantly revolting.
(1982) Cat People
I love the original film to death but I couldn’t be more satisfied with the direction this pseudo-remake went in. It’s less of a psychological thriller and more of an erotic, body-horror fever dream.
(1981) Nightmare
This is a pretty nice little 80’s slasher, definitely subsequent in quality to the 80’s greats but something that does seem to feel memorable.
(1980) Hex
Hex is just as chaotic as you’d expect from the same director who did A Boxer’s Omen but it’s almost elegant and hypnotic.
(1979) Driller Killer
If you’re up for some dirty, violent arthouse horror then definitely give this one a shot.
(1978) The Shout
The Shout masquerades as a quick pitched horror idea but really, this film is a horrific, non-linear rabbit hole for psychotic delusion and crisis of identity.
(1977) The Uncanny
I wouldn’t say any of the segments blew me away, but they all surprised me in one way or another.
(1976) God Told Me To
Larry Cohen takes all this religious subtlety and blows it all up for the finale into a very Cronenberg style conclusion.
(1975) Footprints on the Moon
You might think you're getting into some dated, cheesy, sci-fi material but what it transitions to is a psychedelic, fever dream.
(1974) Vampyres
In terms of what to expect from erotic, 1970’s vampire movies; in general, at least? Well, don’t expect much. This is a rare breed. It’s a film that makes Dennis’ idea from It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia about a full-penetration, Dolph Lundgren crime fighting movie seem almost plausible.
(1973) Messiah of Evil
This had a very similar vibe to Let's Scare Jessica to Death, in that the strong aspects of the film almost seem accidental. Like the dreamy, trippy, disjointed feeling of it could be less intentional and more just poor writing. Nevertheless, it's an interesting and unique film.
(1972) Morgiana
Super Psychedelic and visually appeasing. Morgiana is a fantastic intro in Czech horror.
(1971) The Third Part of the Night
A decade before Zulawski made Possession, he made the third Part of the Night. I can understand the divisiveness of his films, but the genius nature of the former was emerging when I watched this one and it was fascinating to see.
(1970) Valerie and her Week of Wonders
Valerie and Her Week of Wonders is a memorable Czech surrealist horror film that weaves in an out of easily dissected symbolism, as well as pure fantasy.
(1969) Horrors of Malformed Men
The plot is so incredibly convoluted that it makes it so fucking difficult to just tell people why this film is so amazing.
(1968) Kuroneko
This is definitely one of the more existential ghost films out there, really tackling themes of death, love, sacrifice and suffering to grand extents.
(1967) *Violated Angels * It’s a tough watch for sure and a tougher film to find value in. You’re thrust into this sexploitation movie that seems murderously cruel and void of meaning. Somehow by the end of it though, it just felt like a much deserved, intimate view of a real crime.
(1965) The Skull
It’s well-produced, for the period. Peter Cushing provides the foundation, and it can be a pretty thrilling film.
(1964)** Lady in a Cage**
I think this movie captures such a helpless nature well. I was invested from start to finish and I loved the writing.
(1963) Matango
Ishiro Honda is a legend and I’m glad I finally got around to watching this one. I absolutely loved the story, the characters, the pacing and just the atmospheric nature of the entire film.
(1961) Night Tide
There are some flash images at one point that are straight up shocking for the time period and actually remind me a lot of (1981) Possession. To say this movie reignited my passion for 60's horror is an understatement.
(1960) The Skeleton of Mrs. Morales
I seriously loved this movie. It's so darkly funny, well-acted and almost unnecessarily well-filmed. I loved the low, uncomfortable close-ups during the nefarious scenes.
(1957) The Incredible Shrinking Man
The film itself is absolutely wonderful and it's mind-blowing how well the effects hold up today.
(1955) Dementia
Despite have no dialogue, the audio is actually really haunting, with this soundtrack that mostly consists of Yoko Ono-style wailing.
(1953) It Came from Outer Space
1950's sci-fi really has the odds stacked up against it in terms of aging well and that makes me appreciate this film so much more.
(1952) The White Reindeer
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a Finnish horror film before, but this was great. It’s super mellow but builds into this atmospheric horror-fantasy.
(1949) The Queen of Spades
Dickinson managed to capture the both literally figuratively cold vibe of imperialistic Russia and I think that’s one of the main components that makes it stand out to me.
(1947) Fireworks
It's simply a homoerotic fever dream and I'm here for it.
(1946)** The Spiral Staircase**
This film is such an excellent murder mystery in the same vein as Hitchcock. It’s super atmospheric and the effects work are fantastic (for the most part).
(1945) The Picture of Dorian Gray
I just love the atmosphere and overall paranoid nature of this film. Some quotable lines seem almost comical in today's climate.
(1944) The Curse of the Cat People
This is more of a spiritual successor than a true sequel, despite the title. Very different filmmakers who had a passion for the original created a psychological horror film that was more akin to a cosmic Christmas story.
(1943) The Seventh Victim
The Seventh Victim is a short but sweet little atmospheric, cult-based horror.
(1941)** Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde**
As with any Jekyll and Hyde film, it all really hinges on the performance of the two and Spencer Tracy fucking killed this role. The first scene with him as Hyde in the bar was super creepy and also pleasantly rape-y. Is that weird to say?
(1940) The Invisible Man Returns
A young Vincent Price plays our perp this time and he’s excellent as always. It’s not paced exactly as intensely as the original, but I enjoyed the steady decent into madness.
(1939) The Hunchback of Notre Dame
I’ve seen quite a few iterations of this story dating back to the silent film era and I can confidently say that this is the definitive version. Charles Laughton is Quasimodo.
(1937) Song at Midnight
Overall, it’s not the easiest watch but I enjoyed it and I also believe it’s China’s first horror film, which is huge.
(1936) The Walking Dead
The Walking Dead is an interesting blend of gangster drama and supernatural horror that works better than one might expect.
(1935) Mark of the Vampire
This is such a clever twist on Tod Browning's own formula and bringing back Bela Lugosi for this role was smart and effective. It actually almost feels like an incredibly early example of meta-horror in some respects.
(1933) Mystery of the Wax Museum
This film is so incredibly interesting. It's really a fantastic, twisted seed of a horror idea that clearly made some simplistic sense at the time as a Universal horror clone. But there was obviously enough perverse interest to inspire remakes throughout the next century.
(1932) Murders in the Rue Morgue
Frankenstein meets King Kong.
(1931) Drácula
Carlos Villarias performance is wild; calculated through consistency but initially seemingly enigmatic.
(1929) Seven Footprints to Satan
This film is fucking insane. It’s a super surrealist spiral through satanic-based situations. It’s indescribable.
(1928) The Fall of the House of Usher
This is a seriously memorable and expressionistic silent film. It's wonderfully shot and a great interpretation of Poe's work.
(1927) The Unknown
This isn’t necessarily directly related but it’s Tod Browning’s initial dip into circus themed horror. As most people know, he would go on to make Freaks, an incredible film. It was very interesting to watch this sort of precursor.
(1926) Faust
This might just be the most remarkable looking silent film I’ve ever seen. The first 30-minutes reignited my passion for movies that I had pre-covid depression. I have no idea how Murnau managed to top Nosferatu but here we are. This is peak German expressionism, up there with The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari.
(1924) Waxworks
Absolutely massively underrated silent film. It's probably one of the earliest, if not the earliest anthology horror film ever made.
(1923) Warning Shadows
The film really evolves into one of the earliest examples of a movie within a movie (or a play within a movie in this case), which has become a really niche, yet effective way of cinematic storytelling.

"hamur" is arabic and means "dough", it describes any kneadable substance.
The Turkic equivalent to it is "Ovut / Ovuş".
İt originates from the proto-Turkic word "Ov(a)mak" (eng.: "to knead, to grind, to rub/massage")
The word is based on the word "Yoğurt", which originates from the process "Yoğurmak" (eng.: "to curdle, to knead")
The "-t" suffix denotes names of (processed) products.
"Ovmak" also means "to crush, to pulverize", which is a nod to flour, its main ingredient.
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"hamur" Arapça'dır ve yoğrulabilir herhangi bir maddeyi tanımlar.
Türkçedeki karşılığı "Ovut / Ovuş "tur.
Proto-Türkçe "Ov(a)mak" (İng: "to knead, to grind, to rub/massage") sözcüğünden türemiştir.
Sözcük, "Yoğurmak" (İng: "to curdle, to knead") işleminden kaynaklanan "Yoğurt" kelimesine dayanmaktadır.
"-t" son eki (işlenmiş) ürünlerin adlarını belirtir.
"Ovmak" aynı zamanda "ezmek, toz haline getirmek" anlamına gelir ve bu da ana malzemesi olan una bir göndermedir.
Sources:
https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/yo%C4%9Furmak
https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/ovmak
https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/-%C4%B1t#Turkish

ramai pesan, kalu bercinta jgn lama2 sbb semakin lama bercinta dugaan semakin byk dan berpenghujung dgn kecundang.
bila aku start bercinta baru aku merasa azabnya. aku mmg tak berminat utk bercinta lama2 sbb tu lepas 6 bulan bercinta aku terus gi jumpa parents dia utk bgtau yg aku minat n nak kawen dgn awek aku tu.
so, parents dia pun setuju dan jemput family aku dtg merisik n ikat tunangan terus.
seminggu lg parents aku nak dtg merisik dia dan seperti yg kwn2 old timer ramai pesan mmg dugaan mesti muncul menggugat hubungan kami. mng kebetulan seminggu tu la berduyun2 awek masuk dm kat yahoomessenger (jaman tu lom ada wasap) aku.
so, sambil bermadah pujangga cintan cintun dgn awek aku, pada waktu sama dok sexting dgn pompan gatal. ntah kenapa makin ramai pulak pompan dtg menggedik menggatal dgn aku so, tiap mlm mmg jari aku bz. haha.
ym punya ym ntah mcm mana aku boleh tersilap send kat awek bakal tunangan aku.
" suck cock? jilat? ramas tetek?? siapa dia XXX nih?? amboi... bukan main gatal lagi ayat2 u nih?? mesti u silap hantar kat i kan?? dgn i takde pulak u chat segatal ni ya! "
demm... acaner la boleh tersilap hantar, adoii... letih jugak aku mujuk si dia. aku kata dorang tu suma aku tak kenal saja2 melayan je.
2hari lepas tu aku kuar dating ngan awek dan sblm balik aku singgah mesjid utk maghrib. selesai je solat aku nampak dari jauh awek aku muka da masam. check poket aku... aduhh, fon tinggal dlm keta.
masam mencuka, awek aku tak bercakap. hanya airmata je mengalir tak henti2. adoii... aku lost. takde perkataan aku boleh ayat utk pujuk dia dah. aku tau dia terbaca sms aku nak dtg pickup fwb lepas hantar awek balik rumah dia.
sbb kantoi big time kali ni. aku cancel jumpa fwb tu. balik termenung kat rumah.
sepanjang 3 hari awek aku tak berkata apa, aku pun takdpt contact dia. balik rumah nangiss je kat bilik. mak dia mmg dah berleter bila si adiknya bgtau bf akak ada pompan lain.
" ko bgtau mak betul2, budak tu kalu ada pompan lain mak cancel tunang tu nanti! "
itulah pengalaman aku kantoi yg da jd sejarah pun.
2006 dia sah jd bini aku cuma sapai skang kami masih honeymoon. akhir2 ni asyik la terpikir nak cari anak angkat. kalu boleh yg comel2 umur 20an jadik la. haha