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Tea on Most Unproblematic Actor*his fans claim*

2024.05.14 22:28 Fine_Pea2739 Tea on Most Unproblematic Actor*his fans claim*

Tea on Most Unproblematic Actor*his fans claim*
All I have been seeing today is shivin fans drama and then comes mohsin khan brother sajjad khan liking a dm which says shivangi cheated on mohsin😂
Shivin fans are abusing shivangi and are saying she is dhokebaaz(I am not her fan, I like mohsin). My point is mohsin shivangi broke up in 2019 so why is he taking sympathy now and why is he liking kushiv reels and morphed pictures with shivangi. The moment shivangi kushal are seen mohsin puts up a sad song on his story and is trying hard to say that he was cheated when infact mohsin has been dating actress priyanka khera he keep unblocking blocking her typical attenton seeking behaviour he is always spotted with priyanka and also took her to his family function video came of his caressing her chin. Being so touchy with every MV actress and taking all of them to parties and to meet his family is beyong cringe.
All I want to say is if there was another actor in place of mohsin, that actor would have been bashed left right and centre but mohsin has smaller fd and gets less attention from audiences he gets away with his attention seeking behaviour. The ss is leaked from shivin group. He likes shipping content with every actress he works with, his jeeju started following priyanka meanwhile his sister is liking shivangi edits.
What do you all think about his behaviour?
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2024.05.12 22:49 AlucardTheVampire69 Why

Ok so she was my crush for 4 years , she said yes in 2023 24 December ,she was a sanskari girl , we kissed and spent two days (6 hours each day ) hugging each other , yeah like a house date you can say , no indecent stuff. Because I would never do that , I think all that stuff should be done after marriage,
We used to talk about some indecent stuff sometimes she used to get very shy , we did it only a couple of times
Now In I think July she cheated on me ,it was a long distance relationship but she was the one who got guilty and confessed, I FORGAVE HER BECAUSE I LOVED HER SO MUCH , i just said to block the guy she cheated with me she blocked him but unblocked him after a week saying he's just a friend , I let it go
Then slowly and slowly she got upset with me for every little thing , that time I couldn't find her a dress for lower price she said pretty rude things,
Now in Feb 2024 , she began responding to my texts after 6-7 hours, I felt immense horror and worry as she was living away , so I used to contact her roommates to know if she's well or not
Now in March she now began responding to texts after 18-19 hours , when I asked she said she was studying and didn't have time so I said okay no worries but little did I know the only one she was busy for was me , she was talking with the guy she cheated , another guy who liked her ( her best friend said Don't do this kinda stuff to her but she didn't listen and she told me with proofs)
Then I said if you are not interested in me then we could just be friends she agreed , I was fucking heartbroken thinking about committing suicide and stuff but here she was talking all night with a guy ( for context this guy spread a rumour about a girl that she was a slut and he had sex with her ) , I was even more heartbroken, then next night I found out she was out there saying I love to random people , demn , and If you are wondering who told me this it was her , yes it was herself
Then I stopped texting her although my laptop's password is still her name and my name .
Then she text me I'm feeling depressed, I quickly respond and even stayed up all nights for 3 nights just in case if texts me I would be there for her and what did I get for that , when I asked her to forget about the problem and chill and talk with her parents what she said to me was "you are nobody to me"
The next day
Now she's sending me a ss of her sexting with numerous guys saying kitne ashleel log h , might i remind you she was sanskari and what pissed me off more was one of the she sexted with was none other than the guy who spread the rumour about that girl , so yeah now that chats must have already been in 10 different groups , and when I told her this she tells me ki baat itni badi h bhi nhi jitna badha rhe ho tum .
So why why it happened to me , what did I do wrong
Edit : now I'm getting to know 2 weeks after breaking up with me , she got a new bf from meerut , how I know that is because her best friend just couldn't take it anymore, she couldn't see me suffering anymore, so she sent the ss and her new bf was asking her best friend to come with her to rishikesh and vouch for her in front of her parents , he also said to bring more girls , his intentions are as clear as a day , but she's too fucking dumb, her best friend explained it to her but instead she got lectured ki gyaan na do
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2024.04.27 19:52 Gracieee_yg Janbi Guy (long post)

I'm (F19) had a previous situationship with this Janbi (M21) (John B.) guy two timed me sa taga RCI (Riverside College) na girl. It hurts so much like paano niya mahimo sa tawo na all I did was to love him in the purest way possible, and also played with your feelings as if you're a toy for him.
He chose to be with the RCI girl and I let him Kay una bes, ndi ko dapat option. And ndi nyako dapat puppet na kung ano gusto nya— himoun ko (He's also a controlling type of guy). So weeks pass and I'm already healing from the damage he has caused sakon life.
Back ground story, we've known and talked na since December pero ga stop2x, and then nag continue ulit sng Feb pero due to conflict ka acads nag stop ko ulit and there comes si taga RCI. When I came back ulit to talk to Him sng March, I did apologized for my fault of ghosting him, (I didn't know pa that time na may Gina sturya na sya) we continue to talk again until this month of April. Few weeks ago, siguro d nya na Kaya mag hide pa sakon he told me about the RCI girl na he's also talking to. I was hurt kay ngaa gin entertain nyako knowing na may Gina sturya na sya gali. He told me na wala naman daw sila ga sturya n RCI girl Kay gin block sya n girl so I told him na the moment na I unblock ka n girl please do tell her about this kay she deserves to know about what you're doing. (Deep inside b before bitter ko kay ndi ko gusto na ako lng ang gakasakitan). He said yes and nag Pati ko sa Iya. After few days nangin ok kami, hambal nya pabay-an ko na so, I did. Everything went well after a week or two ig and then suddenly nag Amat2x sya cold. Super nonchalant like wth. I would asked him if he's talking to the other girl and he would shut me down by saying na "pabay-i na to sya Bala" pero feel ko something was wrong already pero I trusted him. During this time pirme na sya gapang hinala sakon na may ka chat ko or what bisan wala. Moving forward sng exam week namon, I don't usually open my fb account Kay ndi ko trip mag sge fb, pero it was 4 am and wala ko obrahon since that morning I wasn't planning to study pa, so I went through Fb and the first shared post that I saw was his. Nakita ko na may comment and there nakita ko na it was a girl na nag comment na curious ko and I visited the girl's profile and there I saw na she's from RCI, first year Nursing. And mas na kusog akon nga hinala kay he's from Janbi, he's already 3rd year na and that's too impossible for him to have friends na girl na taga RCI and first year Kay ndi sya pala gahod and socialized. So I messaged him that morning, asking him if sin-o n si girl (states her name) if sya n si taga RCI and if ga sturya sila.
And boom pips, sya tuod si taga RCI girl and yes ga sturya sila and not just sturya— flirting beh. Like wth!!! Namamangka ka sa dalawang ilog! how can you even live?! So that was it, I cried the whole morning because I felt so betrayed and I even ask him if ginsugid nya sa girl ang about sa amon and he did not. Like wth. He lied so many times and ako naman sge lng Pati sa Iya because I did trust him. And then gin amin ko man na may sala ko kay I kept on vanishing everytime may conflict and I can't blame him for looking for someone but the fucking problem was why did he do that!! He told me about the situation pero sa girl wala. After that I cried and cried, he blamed for it. And told me na ma stop na kami. Which I was supposed to say pero na unahan nyako Kay I was already crying. So this RCI girl didn't know about this whole thing.
Fast forward after few days he drunk chatted me last Panaad sng Negros season, during sng Lin-ay. He called me baby, like he used to call me and act like he did nothing wrong sakon. Like he didn't plant something sakon system that caused havoc. After messaging him that he shouldn't done that because mas ginapinsar ko ang mabatyagan sng girl nga gin choose nya over me. He apologized and I went back from zero sng akon nga pag move forward because of that drunk chat he did that night.
I was quiet the whole time, wala gid ko nag try na manggamo or gub-an sya sa girl rn kay una bes ndi ko gusto na masakitan si girl, mas better na ako nlng ma suffer sng pain. Let them both live happily, so I didn't do anything. I move forward from it even though sakit sya as in.
And kagina, he did it again. Nag drunk chat naman. Telling me how much he misses me. Like bruh cheater ka gid yah. How can you sleep knowing na you're cheating to someone. How can you even try to talk to her knowing na sa likod ga amo ka na sa Iya. I'm so close to telling her about what you're doing against her back but I don't want to also be the bad person.
He caused me so much pain, and I don't want the other girl he chose over me experience the same thing he did to me. Deep down I want to save this RCI girl Kay ga cheat na sya eh. Pero ndi ko man gusto sng gamo and I really hate becoming the bad person even though I'm just trying to help.
Another thing mag drunk chat sya sa tg, so ndi ko ka ss pirme Kay Gina delete nya kapag mangakig na sya Kay ginasaway ko sya na ndi sya mag sge message sa akon kay may Gina sturya na sya nga Iban and he should think about the girl's feeling if mabal-an nya pero daw sa wala lng sa Iya, and then mangakig sya sa akon and I delete nya ang whole conversation. Wala ko hawid for evidence Kay akon IG and messenger gin delete ko na tanan nga messages namon.
What should I do? Should I approach her and tell the truth or let her know the truth about what this Janbi Guy has been doing behind her back?
Ka conflict ka story huhu pero I hope na mabasahan sya huhu, it's my first time sharing something here daan.
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2024.04.26 15:44 ya-boi-benny Respect Ajna (Indivisible)

In the remote village of Ashwat, Ajna was raised by her father Indr and trained extensively in martial arts. When agents of Lord Ravannavar torch Ashwat and murder Ajna’s father in front of her, she unlocks the strange power of absorbing other people into her own being. After seeking revenge against Ravannavar, Ajna uncovers the truth about her upbringing: she’s actually a piece of Kala, the malevolent deity that resets the universe every eon, and she’s fated to rejoin Kala’s being and usher in the end of all things. Ever the rebel, Ajna seeks to combat Kala instead. To get there, she must join strength with other spiritually strong individuals and learn the virtues of patience and forgiveness.

Ajna

Physicals

Strength
Other Physicals

Exploration Abilities

Movement-Based
General
Equipment-Dependent
Archery
General
Magic Arrows
Counters
Heruka Transformation-Based
Heruka Form Maha Heruka Form Tara Heruka Form
Heruka Hustle
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Other

Combat Moveset

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Supers

Inner Realm

Entering
Exiting
Other

Relationship with Kala

Miscellaneous

Incarnations

The group of individuals residing in Ajna's Inner Realm during her journey. There are 20 combatants to call forth at any given time.

Shared Feats

Blocking
Combat Mechanics

Dhar

An earth-manipulating swordsman and proud lieutenant to Lord Ravannavar. After killing Ajna's father and being trapped inside her Inner Realm, Dhar slowly comes to see the error in his ways. He sacrifices his life in an attempt to calm down a furious Ajna.
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Razmi

A witch who's been banished from her home town due to her knowledge of dark magics. She fights with a lantern that contains the soul of a demon and her pet tiger Bom.
Feats
Moves
Supers

Ginseng and Honey

A kid and their root vegetable on a quest to become world-class botanists. Ginseng carries a giant mortar and pestle, used to grind up enemies and heal their allies.
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Moves
Supers

Zebei

A smug archer from a clan of nomads from the mountains. While initially skeptical about Ajna's ability to responsibly control her powers, he stays with the group to oversee Kala's defeat.
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Supers

Tungar

A knight and a man of action, Tungar doesn't speak too often. He lets his urumi speak for him, a cloth-based weapon that doubles as a turban.
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Supers

Kushi

A member of the same tribe as Zebei and a Protector-in-training, Kushi fights alongside Altun, a massive bird of prey.
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Thorani

A maternal healer who carries magic, restorative water in her hair. While she's typically benevolent and happy to heal anyone in need, she becomes aggressively protective when Ajna or her other teammates are in jeopardy.
Feats
Resuscitation/Healing
Other
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Supers

Qadira

A warrior looking for her lost brother. Although she carries his sword, Qadira opts to do battle with only her shield, keeping the blade sheathed until she finds him.
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Supers

Baozhai

A pirate captain that sails the seas in the warship Teotul. She loves sailing, cannons, women and drinking.
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Supers

Phoebe

Once a freedom fighter alongside her husband, Phoebe watched her husband die in battle against her country's invaders. Now, she trains her two children in an effort to return to her home and fight off the invading killers.
Moves

Nuna

A plant-manipulator from the underground community of Kaanul. While she's used her powers as a farmer for years, the rise of Kala has forced her to use her plants for combat.
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Moves
Supers

Hunoch and Xiboch

Two star athletes in Kanuul's national sport, Tlatchlibol. Xiboch is deceased, having been killed by an Underworld monster, so now both souls take turns occupying the living brother's body.
Feats
Moves
Super

Naga Rider

The resident superhero, last of the Vahana Riders, and protector of Tai Krung’s upstanding citizens. His archnemesis, the Flying Terror, Garuda Cruel, trained with Naga Rider until joining up with the drug kingpin, Mara.
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Yan

A dancer imprisoned in a Tai Krung nightclub. Once freed, Yan uses her absurdly long legs and affinity for dance as a means of acrobatic combat.
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Kampan

Watching both of her parents die of illness, unable to afford medicine, changed young Kampan. Now a master thief and auteur of espionage, she steals from the Iron Kingdom’s rich and gives back to the poor.
Feats
Moves
Super

Leilani

Leilani was a castaway guided to the island continent by a shark spirit called a 'aumakua until they were both caught in a fishing net. The 'aumakua gave Leilani its teeth and enchanted her leiomano, creating a magic-based chainsaw so she could escape.
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Latigo

Latigo was once the leader of a noble group of mercenaries called the Caballeros. His right hand man, Vasco, killed the wrong nobleman and sent the group scattering away from the law. Now, Latigo seeks to kill his old friend with a shot right between the eyes.
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Ren

An assassin without any kind of moral compass, Ren will kill any target for the appropriate price. A regular employee of Tai Krung’s underworld kingpin, Mara, Ren secretly hopes for a quarry that can fight back and show him a good time.
Feats
Moves
Supers

Zahra

A musician specializing in the stringed Oud. She left her village and her potential marriage in order to keep spreading her music to the world.
Feats
Moves
Super

Lanshi

A very good doggy that lives in the monastery in Lhan. But was he always a dog?!?
Moves
Supers

Non-Combatants

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2024.04.17 21:06 gretta_luna I (18f) OD and my boyfriend (18M) never showed up. How should I react?

My parents left for vacations for a month. I’m on antidepressants but haven’t been taking them and this past month I’ve been feeling bad emotionally and mentally and couldn’t take it anymore.So on Saturday I decided to take some pills, I told my bf and he got worried and he called me , I said that I really needed him but he told me he could go because he was doing homework after that I started to regret my decision and decided to call 911, that asked if there was another family member and I stayed yes my sister (who had no idea what I had just done). Paramedics arrived, took me to the er, again I told my bf what was happening, it was around 6pm he did he was working and again around 8pm I tried calling him and he didn’t pick up, he then sent me msg that he’s still working which seem really sketchy, so I checked his Ig profile and notice he had blocked me from his stories, that moment really hurt, cause I knew he was lying, I decided not to say anything till I got home. It was around 11:30 and I confronted him about him blocking me he said he didn’t know, he doesn’t know how to do that etc. I sent him a ss agin denying anything, I checked his Ig again and I was unblocked, also he couldn’t really spell. On Sunday he texted me at 11am saying that they hit his car last night while he was coming to see me that’s why didn’t show up. So this makes me think he went to a party got drunk :/ If it is true I now know I’m not one of his priorities and prefers to do other stuff while I was o almost dying. Should I grab his phone to see if he deleted any stories? And tell him how I feel?
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2024.04.11 01:54 Lilmuscles_ Update

A lot of people have been wanting the update, but before that I wanna make something clear. I did nothing wrong, my bf and his father have both made that very clear to me. No one else in his family has a problem with me, not his brother, not his aunts, not his cousins, absolutely no one. I grew very close with his family. I’ve also known his cousins since high school and we’ve never had issues of any kind. My issues with my family have nothing to die with this situation. I am making peace with my mother and working on our relationship, besides that I have a great relationship with my adoptive father and my seven younger siblings.
Now let’s get to the update. He ended up blocking me after I asked him to meet up with me just so we can talk face to face and just get everything out into the air bc I was getting a lot of mixed messages and he definitely was playing with my heartstrings and emotions. He blocked me for a night and woke up the next morning and unblocked me and then agreed to meeting up with me. Once we met up (in a public place) I got into his car bc he asked me to. He seemed so excited and happy to see me, his face was glowing. We went out for lunch and talked and then he asked me to go to the movies, we did and had a very good time.
After the movie I asked if we could get ice cream and talk more. He said yes and on our way there he turned around and took me to my car. I asked what was going on and he said he can’t do it, he couldn’t sit there and act normal (which I never asked him to or anything, I was just trying to calmly talk and enjoy his company bc it was probably the last time I was going to see him). I asked if we could finish our conversation and then he kinda started going off and raising his voice and told me to get out and to leave him be. I told him if we finished the conversation and after that if he still wants me gone then I will be out of his life for good. He agreed, as we were talking I could tell he was getting mad at me. I asked him what I did so wrong, he started going off saying "she's my mom, ofc I am going to believe my mom" yet again she still had no proof, I showed him all proof I had that showed she was wrong about me. (ofc his mom is going to want the best for her son, I don't blame her at all for that.
But also when I moved in I was sad and heart broken because I felt like I had fully lost my own family. he told me I had a new family and his mom treated me like the daughter she never had. That hurt more than anything.) His mom kept telling him that they didn't know me well enough to trust me, which I have become very close with his dad and his brother, also his extended family. I told him that she may not know me well enough but he forsake does and he should be able to think for himself. At that point he started yelling and cussing me out telling me I am wrong and that he does think for himself. I've never once raised my voice at this man or even cussed him out, but that made me lose it. I tried to keep the peace and tried to be the bigger person but I absolutely lost it on him. Once I started going off he did not even make a sound, after I was finished we sat in silence for a bit. he told me that was surprised because I've dine anything like to him before or even to anyone else that he can think of. I think that flipped something in his head, he started apologizing and breaking down. He told me he never stood up for me when his mother would talk down on me because he didn't wanna trigger her and make a bigger mess out of everything.
He also admitted to downloading several dating apps and flirting with other women because he wanted a distraction, he also told me he met up with another girl once and he felt so bad and heart broken that he left and went home crying and called me that same night crying. He told me to block all those girls in his phone bc he knows he messed up and wants to make it right for me. I told him that I've been thinking about it a lot and that the only way I would ever take him back at this point was if he got his sh*t together. (don't know if I said this or not but I just wanted to meet up to get closer honestly, I was so drained from trying to get him back into my life. I started feeling numb about everything and I wanted closer between us so I could heal.)
He told me he would get his act together, I told him if he starts slipping up and acting like a fool again I am gone bc no one should ever have to be treated like that. Believe it or not but he's actually kept his word. Since I am so close with cousins, like we talk everyday and have been friends for about 5 years now. He told me not to tell them anything about us just yet because he didn't want his mother to find out yet and blow up. He said "give me like 3 weeks to a month so she can cool off". I respected that, but literally two or three days after while I am driving to work at 6am he sends me a ss of him telling his mother. She losttttttt it. what really triggered me was when she said "you're settling for little, use your f8cking head". he stood up for me and told his mother to respect our relationship and that she may not like me but that doesn't mean she can disrespect me as a women and as his s/o.she apologized to him for going off but not for what she said about me nor how she treated me. He's also kept his word about not letting his mom get into his head and thinking for himself. He started being more independent from her, she doesn't clean his room anymore, no more doing his laundry or buying his essentials, he's fully independent from her now.
From what he has told me and his family, she freaking out bc he youngest son is graduating high school this year and he's even so tired of her that he is moving out this summer. she also didn't like that my bf was relying on me and that I was the number one women in his life. she also did in fact stopped taking her meds at this point and she's a serve alcoholic, always has been but its been worse recently.But anyways if she doesn't think I am good enough than okay but at the end of the day its not her relationship or life, we all have to grow up sooner or later.
Now me and my bf are both saving up for a place together in the future, rn I am living with my grandpa and I also started a new job recently with better pay and benefits. I still worry time to time that he is going to start going back and forth again but he's promised me that he won't, he told me he wants to continue our relationship and grow together and as individuals together. A lot of you are going to say or have said that we are too young and this and that. If I would have told you that we are 20 (which we both will be very soon) than no one would bring up our ages. I am very mature for my age and have a good head on my shoulders. no matter what no one is perfect and no situation is, I still want to be with him. I still strongly think he should go get tested, I am going to talk to him more about that soon. he's kept his word and promises and he's really putting in the work to fix us and work on himself, I couldn't be prouder of him for finally starting to realize he's his own person and deserves to be happy in life too.
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2024.03.24 22:27 ketsuha Bryan cheat sheet. People liked the Reina one so here

Bryan cheat sheet. People liked the Reina one so here
WS = while running CH = counter hit
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2024.03.24 22:12 ThrowRA_stuck2 I(19M) feel stuck in this relationship with my gf(18F). What should I do?

Burner account because everyone knows my main. I met my current gf over insta about a couple of months back and apparently she liked me for quite a while. She lives like an hour's drive away and that okay, we get to meet like once a month at least. But the problem is that she's hella clingy and will not let me have any alone time. I'm a college student so ofc I'm busy with my stuff and i also barely get any sleep as it is, but she gets mad at me if I sleep before 3am (She's currently not in any college so she has no problem with this schedule). I try to chat with her as much as I can during the day but she does not appreciate it and says I should do more.
She also has a lot of guy friends, and I'm not insecure about that, but literally almost everyone flirts with her. She's loyal ik i mean she even shows me the ss of these guys trying on her and her just ignoring them but i just feel pissed sometimes. There are a few guys she blocked for me but a couple of guys she keeps blocking and unblocking saying that they're family friends or what not.
And also her ex, she's still in contact with him but doesn't really talk to him as such but he still wants her back (he cheated on her). And here's the part which legit is pushing me to breaking up with her. The other day I slept early (by early I mean 12 midnight) and she got mad and at 2am she texted me saying she misses him and it's my fault. I was like wtf? I legit was disgusted and didn't even feel like talking to her the whole day. She refused to apologize anyways and said it was my fault for leaving her alone?? Like wtf i talk to her the whole day.
It's not that I don't love her, i do. But she loves me a lot more (or is it attachment? Idk) and she's insecure af over me (I'd rather die than cheat) but she keeps thinking that I'm gonna leave her. She also has depression and I don't wanna hurt her more by leaving her and she legit keeps making her promise me that I'll never leave. I keep reassuring her but now honestly I feel tired and after all these events I stopped cuz idek if I wanna continue the relationship anymore.A part of me wants to leave but a part of me wants to stay. And the part of me that wants to leave feels stuck because of the half that wants to stay. Also gotta mention, she followed most of my friends and texted a couple of them(which I was not happy about)cuz she thinks I'm gay for them?? I thought she was joking until she told me she was actually insecure about it?
Tldr: super clingy gf, me busy so very little time for her, but she doesn't appreciate it and wants me to stay up late which I can't. Lot of guy friends who flirt with her and she ignores, but I don't like it. Still in contact with her ex and once said she misses him and blamed me. She does not want me to leave and I feel stuck.
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2024.03.23 23:37 bluefolder7776 Someone tell me I'm not crazy

We've been separated 2 months. Things are starting to get better. We had a nice conversation yesterday about how I'm in counseling and what I'm working on for myself (automatic negative thinking) and he said that makes him very happy. Well something has been bothering me from when we first split up so I decided to ask him how he felt about it and he's still upset with me. Background: My stepson (23) and step daughter in law (38?ish) are very nasty to me. My SS very overtly, my sdil is way more secretive and underhanded, likes to cause fights between the family and me. I blocked both of them before we even separated because I needed to set that boundary. My stbx husband (47) always blames me for whatever goes wrong. E.g. when ss threatened to kill me stbx screamed at me for "baiting" him by giving him a look. SS and Sdil have told me multiple times that I am not family to them and if I'm lucky we might become friends.
So anyway about a week after we split, sdil reached out to MY MOTHER to get info on what was going on because I blocked her. So I told him to handle it and he flipped out that I "brought him into this".
When I brought it up again now 2 months later he still says he's very upset that I brought him into it. I told him that he should handle his family and I would handle mine and he got pissed off that I didn't consider SS and Sdil family.
I just need someone to tell me that I'm not crazy here because I'm starting to feel like maybe I should have just unblocked her and told not to contact my family and that it was wrong for me to ask him to handle his side of the family.
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2024.03.22 13:00 Sir-eena Two of my classmates hate me and i don't know if its entirely my fault

i'll first give you some background info. the two girls, let's call them z and f, are 'best friends' which i don't mean to belittle but the way they behave is slightly immature and i'm actually concerned for both of their mental healths. z is a compulsive liar: she has even faked her own death and one of my friends actually believed her and began to get seriously concerned (the way this happened was that z messaged my friend pretending to be z's brother who was freaking out about his sister's death, yeah, it wasn't very convincing but z was genuinely trying to lie about that) . she lied for a whole year about having a phone and when she actually got one, she had to bring it in and show everyone to make us believe her. she has lied many other times and does it on a regular basis. i don't exactly blame her: i always thought that she was doing it to seem 'interesting' or to get people to care. we even used to be friends, we were friends since the start of high school, so i think i know her pretty well. i even tried extremely hard to sympathize with her and try to convince her that she didn't need to lie to get people to like her, but it didn't work. i believe it's extremely sad that felt like she had to pretend she was dead or that she had louis vuitton bags (she did that too) in order to seem interesting. i guess everyone wants to have something that sets them apart from everyone else, and she felt like she had nothing, so had to make things up instead. she often acts crazily in a way that makes me think that she isn't entirely there. for example, she held a funeral for a chair once it fell over last week, and then screamed at someone when they picked the chair back up. she then threw the chair back on the floor and continued rambling loudly. i smiled because of what she was doing and she yelled at me 'what's so funny' and i just shook my head and ignored her. a teacher came and asked her to pick up the chair, which she agreed to do, and then once the teacher left, z walked off, leaving the chair on the floor despite telling the teacher she would pick it up. she has a habit of laughing loudly, in a way that you can clearly tell is fake. when you talk to her, it sounds as if she isn't even listening, and she often starts looking away and turning her head while you talk, and often interrupts you whilst you're speaking to talk about herself. but she has this habit of always playing the victim, of always appearing to be the one suffering. she used to constantly, i guess, threaten us in the sense that she would say she was going to commit su*cide or sh, sometimes even stabbing herself with a pen/pencil in front of us, and of course this garnered our sympathy and we tried to help her out. it felt like she was emotionally manipulating us. i think even though we knew she was doing a lot of things just to get attention, she made us feel good, in the sense that when you can help someone who seems child-like and naive, it makes you feel like the protector, like you are a good person for helping them out. sometimes it feels like one set of rules applies to her, and another for everyone else. for example, z once took off my friend's shoe as a joke and kicked it slightly away from her, but when my friend tried to do the same to z, she told the deputy head teacher that we were bullying her. she claimed that multiple times, even once when i had temporarily moved schools. randomly, she would become aggressive and ignore me, saying that 'we're not even friends' even though previously that same day she claimed we were best friends. i found it stupid, and eventually i learnt to ignore it because i knew she'd be back to normal in a couple of hours. maybe she has some kind of personality disorder, but im only 14 and i am not a psychiatrist, so i can't diagnose her.
ill move on to f, who i don't know particularly well as we were only friends for a short number of months, but she is know that she is jealous and insecure about herself, which i also find sad. i became friends with her during october of 2022, and i was surprised, to say the least, when i realised how attached she was becoming to me at such a quick speed. i was in a poor mental state and the responsibility of another friendship wasn't helping me feel better, especially as i realised how much my mood and attitude towards her was affecting her. i knew it was likely because she didn't really have any friends, and was neglected by her parents and her siblings bothered her a lot, so when she became friends with me, she clung to me with a sort of desperation that i didn't exactly like or enjoy. i already had preconceptions about her because she was awkward and quiet and insecure, which made me feel bad for her and it was difficult to be around someone i constantly felt bad for, especially due to my already poor mental state. i can provide you with some examples of things she did: 1. within a few days or weeks of our friendship, she lied to me and said that she had gone outside, alone, at night, and was wandering around. obviously, as she was 15 years old and a girl and out at night i freaked out completely. she then told me that a man was following her about. and i gave her advice and told her to pretend to be on call with her parents, or to actually phone them. and then she sent one last message about the creepy man following her before stopping messaging. i was horrified and genuinely was about to phone the police when she messaged again after maybe 30 minutes telling me it was a prank. i was slightly annoyed but i forgave her, but she made me feel guilty by saying things like i didn't really forgive her and that she was so angry at herself, that she was stupid and always messed things up: she always did things like that, making me feel bad by insulting and putting herself down. i fervently tried to convince her that i did really forgive her, which i did, but by being so dramatic she blew everything out of proportion and that event is a lasting memory in my mind. i knew that everything bad she said about herself were things she believed to be true, which made it worse, because although she shouldn't have said those things it didn't change the fact that she was struggling, and i felt responsible to help her feel better.
  1. she used to ask me to call with her every single day. we used to see each other every day at school, and as my sense of overwhelming responsibility increased, i felt i had no choice but to agree even when i didn't feel like it. of course, there were times where i did feel like it: i didn't hate her, i enjoyed her company and liked being her friend, i just felt too drained to constantly be on call with her as she wanted. there were a few times where i refused to call, either because i didn't feel like it or because i wasn't able to, and she made it seem like it wasn't a good enough reason, like my anxiety at having to call wasn't a good enough reason to not call. or that when i told her i had to clean my room or that my screen time was running out, she would reply as though i was making it up to get her off my case. that wasn't true at the time, but it got to the point where i did end up lying to her because me not feeling like calling wasn't a good enough excuse in her book, so the only way i wouldn't have to call would be if i was actually unable to. i just used to feel so guilty, all the time, whenever she was around. of course, when you constantly feel negative emotions around someone, you begin to attach those feelings to them, and begin to see them as a bad person. i knew she was going through things and often excused her behaviour because of that. but she was coming to me every day venting about her problems and i had to comfort her, which was difficult as i was also struggling silently.
  2. her insecurities were probably the main reason why everything went so horribly wrong. her jealousy came especially into play regarding me, when i was talking to someone else or reading or doing anything other than talking to her, she would often get physical, slapping my head or my back to get my attention. one time z and i were walking and talking, side by side, and she tried to forcefully separate us, saying we were 'too close' and she often told z that she was bothered by the fact that z and i spoke to each other so much. i suppose she felt left out, but i think i was also confused as to why she had suddenly inserted herself into our friend group and was expecting so much from us without even trying in return. she would never try and talk to us, and we would try to include her, but it is difficult to do so when someone isolates themselves constantly as she did. when the spotlight was away from her for even a moment, she would recede into the shadows and remove herself from us. and then she thought we were the ones leaving her out. another time, z and i were sat together in class, and we hadn't chosen to sit next to each other, the teacher had put us there, and of course z and i were talking. f was at the other end of the classroom, yet she still complained to z that z and i were 'leaving her out' which didn't make much sense, as how were we supposed to include her in our conversation when she was at the other end of the classroom? another thing was the fact that she DID have a couple of friends, especially one of them who i'll call k, she is extremely nice. i felt bad for k, too, as since f was becoming close to my friends and i, k was often left alone at lunch and break. i made multiple hints, both explicit and implicit, that f should try and talk to k more, both because f really wanted a good friend, and i knew that k was a brilliant friend, but also because i felt tired of the responsibility and i guess, selfishly, i wanted to get rid of f by loading her off onto somebody else. well, saying that i wanted to get rid of her makes me sound evil, i just thought that maybe then both of us could be happy, as well as k.
the two often banded together and i felt like they both brought out the crazy in one another, and not in a good way. they motivated each other, which was nice and all, but something felt off, like how you feel when you see a post of someone saying they cut everyone off and are now only looking out for themselves and someone comments 'slay girl' or something. it felt shallow, i suppose, that's what you could call it. even though they seemed to be quite the pair, 'double trouble', z would often backbite about f to me, and i would do the same. i'm not proud of it, and i regret a lot of the things i said. i mean, i never insulted her or said anything untrue, but if i had said those things to her face, she would have been upset. that counts as backbiting in my book. i guess i complained about her more than anything, because z had started to also do so, and there's something odd about z, that makes you crave her approval or affection, i guess that'd got something to do with 'love bombing', sometimes she would act so nice, complimenting you like you're the best thing in the world, and at other times it'd be like you don't even exist to her. that's manipulative, and i knew that even at the time that how i was feeling was irrational, but it didn't stop me or any of my friends, including f, from feeling that way. anyway, back to my point, i think one of the biggest reasons why we talked so much about f behind her back was because it was, in some twisted way, a way we could bond: i could complain about how uncomfortable f's actions made me feel, and z could talk about how much f's actions affected her, how it made her upset, how it was so unfair that it was always her who these bad things happened to. whilst i stayed just talking about f's actions and how i wanted them to stop, z made everything about her. at the time, i didn't say anything because z was the only one i could rant to. the fact that she didn't really care about how i felt or what i was saying didn't really occur to me at the time. and when z complained about f, i suggested that we confront f, tell her whatever she was doing was bothering us so that maybe we could fix things, but z didn't even want to do that. i basically had to force z to confront f because i felt it was useless complaining about f all the time and that it was unfair on both us and f. even then, things didn't really change.
so then i tried confronting f by myself, something i had done multiple times but to no avail. z insulted me multiple times leading up to my confrontation, saying i had a mustache - which isn't exactly a thing a self conscious teen wants to hear- and that i looked like an old lady. she used to hit me and once slapped my hand multiple times to the point of it getting extremely red and looking inflamed. she used to vent to me every day without end. she used to ask me to do things with her without considering how i felt. she used to make me feel guilty for everything. i told her all of those things. and then she went ahead and made me feel guilty, again, for wanting to clear things up. i was sick of it all. so then i apologised for what i'd said and tried to act like it never happened. but she didn't let it be, and made me feel horrible. thankfully, the abuse ended once i told her i didn't like it.
i guess eventually, everything at my life came to a climax: my parents were fighting, my crush (who i was emotionally attached to) was distancing themselves from me, i felt like i was a burden, and then all my responsibilities: having to care for both f and z because they were so sensitive, having to try and sort my parents relationship out, the endless pile of assignments building up...that was it. i was fed up. things were pushing at me from every direction to just run away. so i made the plans, and asked a couple of friends to come with me. f was one of them. on the day, only f and i ended up running. i felt guilty after a couple of hours and decided that we should go back. i regret running away. but everything fell apart with z and f after that. z and f became best friends, which i found to be two faced after everything z said about f. i almost accepted it, because f could argue that i pressured her into running away, which i didn't, she even made me promise that we actually were running away. she wanted to run away. she wanted to do something to get her parents to care about her, I suppose. they did care about her, but like any teen, i guess she just didn't see it. as an only child, i couldn't exactly understand what she was going through, my parents weren't overly involved with me, because they didn't have much time. I had no siblings to turn to in times of need. anyway, f goes and lies to z saying that f was the one who decided we were going to return after running away. that was untrue, so when z told me that that was what f had said, i immediately called her out. that wasn't the way it was. but then through some ridiculous miscommunication f ended up thinking that i claimed that it wasn't my initial idea to run away in the first place. of course i would never have done that, but this lie gave f a reason to hate me, in her book, anyway.
i tried multiple times to apologise, but both of them had me blocked on all social medias, and talking to them in person was near impossible. i've always had a problem with giving genuine apologies in person, not because i don't genuinely feel sorry, but because i feel like i cant fully explain or express everything i need to to someone's face. as a result, a whole year passed without any apology from my side. again, i wasn't sure what i was even apologising for, because both of them had also backbited about me and my friends multiple times, even whilst we were sitting right in front of them. both of them had emotionally manipulated me to the point of depression. and still, a couple of weeks ago, i sent an apology. and i was met by z acting like i was trying to steal f from her, which i really couldn't care less about. i just find it extremely frustrating that they are both acting like i am the villain, when they made me go through hell. yet i find it difficult to hold them both to account, either, because i know that they both must be going through stuff, or at least were back then, which caused them to act in the way they did. following my apology, f messaged me saying she couldn't ever trust me again and that she didn't think i was being genuine. i didn't challenge what she was saying, as i was already tired of having to defend myself against z, who i didnt even do anything to. f told me she couldn't unblock me. it's all extremely ironic, because I think I have the right to be upset by everything they've done, yet I smile at them whenever i see them and have never acted rudely to them, even though they both give me dirty looks and tell me to shut up constantly, belittling me as a person, insulting my name, saying my name is ugly, saying that i am a snake etcetera. perhaps they are reflecting their own feelings towards themselves onto me, but its also slightly funny because i remember when f used to compliment my name and say it was really nice. anyway, they both didn't really accept my apology, even though it was genuine. i acknowledged that i had said things that might've hurt f's feelings, but i don't feel responsible to apologise to z at all. i stuck by her through thick and thin, i even helped f out when she was struggling. in their heads, they've found a scapegoat: me. everything is my fault in their eyes. because of their actions, i've genuinely considered the fact that i might actually be a horrible person, but i don't believe that now. after everything they did to me, i apologised to them, and they still didn't even have the decency to accept the apology. in person, i spoke with f privately and i told her that if she has a problem with me because i spoke about her behind her back, she should also have a problem with z. i told her i could send ss proof, but she told me that i could just use the inspect tool and tamper with the messages. they really believe im awful. i'm shocked as to how f could go from liking me so much to hating my guts, especially when i tried so hard to be there for her. i don't know what i should do, i've considered writing an extremely long letter to explain everything from my point of view but i don't think they'll even consider what I have to say. especially not z, who never acts reasonably.
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2024.03.20 20:21 Small-Impression6430 The whole story- Part 5

My Aunt was the MC for the wedding so I got to hear about all the fun her and my Sister had planning the wedding. She did a little song and dance, where she just changed some words to fit the situation. I wish I could remember it. I would have LOVED to have made up a song and dance, I grew up directing my siblings and cousins, we’d put on shows for the adults all the time. I was feeling overwhelmed so I went outside before the song finished to collect myself. Not a single member of my family picked up on the fact that I might be hurt, but my sister's best friends managed to piece it together. They followed me outside and asked if I was okay. My SISTER'S FRIENDS managed to ask if I was okay but not a single member of my family did. We had mostly the same people at both of our weddings who would have seen the difference in my wedding compared to my Sisters. They would have noticed that I wasn't at any of the events leading up to the wedding, so I imagine they'd just take whatever excuse my Sister or Aunt gave as to why I wasn't involved and believe it. I was super uncomfortable at the wedding, my Sisters maid of honour had cornered me so I had to make small talk with someone who I felt had replaced me in my Sisters wedding. I just know that if I was in her position, I would be very uncomfortable coming between family and I would have encouraged my friend to really consider the decision to cut out their only Sister from anything to do with the wedding. I wanted so so bad to help, the timing couldn't have been more perfect. My sisters wedding could have been exactly what I needed in order to keep my mind busy instead of dwelling on what I could have done different to save my relationship. I would have been more than happy to contribute financially to the wedding, I would have done anything just to be included.
I'm having a hard time continuing writing this with everything going on right now. My Brother and Nephew have the same birthday so we had my Grandfather and his girlfriend over. I don't ever mean to ruin events in anyway but the evening ended with my Grandfather asking my opinion on Trump and him leaving to go watch “his old buddy Joe Biden” give his big speech he just did. My family watches the news and for whatever reason they hate Trump, it's the Trump derangement syndrome its a real thing, you cannot have a rational conversation with someone with it because they cut you off and yell over you trying to talk. No mature conversations with this group because if i make a single point to my Mom she goes into “you're right, I just suck at everything” when she knows I don't need to be right I'd just like to be heard.
I realise that everyone is just trying to make sense of the information we're given but anyone whose ever known me, knows how much I hate fighting. Biden just stated his plans to continue providing weapons and funds to a war that Trump will end. I will always like the guy that would rather talk to Putin himself rather than making assumptions and generalised statements that aren't based in facts. No one has any interest in learning what I believe in, only to ask specific questions and then be disappointed with my answer when I would be happy to see Trump in office again. The grabbing by the pussy thing really didn't offend me at all but I like to look at things in context and for the other side to have released that recording right before the vote, if that's the worst they got on this guy then that just makes me like him more. Mom bought me a MAGA hat when she went to Florida “as a joke” she said, I wasn't joking when I asked for one so I didn't get the joke. Anyways, after my Grandparents left I just happened to come across the report Tucker Carlson had posted that had to do with the “January 6th attack” being a setup so I sent it to them with a message saying “I just want you guys to have all the information, we are being lied to” sort of thing and as per usual got nothing back in response. My Brother invited them over again this weekend but they didn’t come this time, but they could have had other plans or something.
Then this morning I decided that I was going to check if my ex had messaged me at all because I've had him blocked up till now. He wished me a Happy Birthday on my birthday back in January, then he sent me a YouTube link to the song Please Forgive Me By Brian Adams which melted my heart the more I listened to the words. Since then he texted me “Hey Sarah” on February 24th and “Hi Sarah” on the 25th and then nothing. I sent the link to my Mom and asked if she thought this was him being manipulative and why now? I don’t usually tell my Mom about things until I've had time to process and I’m ready to listen to someone else's perspective of things.
Anyways back to the story. Once all the stress and worrying that I had about going to the wedding was gone, that's when the guilt for having another child in the house multiplied. My boyfriend at the time had just started getting into tattooing, so he was busy practising. I was his first tattoo, he did a great job. But the little boy wasn’t getting the attention he needed and I hated myself when I'd pick him up instead of my own kids and it just sucked. If I would have met this man before I became such a mess of a person we could have had a good life. Another thing that didn't sit well with me was that when I told him that I wanted to build my own house he laughed and said I couldn’t do that. For him not to believe in me, it hurt in a way that it felt like he was insulting me in everyway. It's completely possible that I made something out of nothing, I'm sure it's something I'm capable of doing and I'd never doubt that I've been wrong about the meaning behind a statement. Anyways, the breakup was hard. I could see how this guy could have been a really great role model for my boys, he went to work and did what he had to in order to provide for himself and his son and I really respected that. I think it was his baby Momma and how quick her visits started and then were done and how happy the little boy was to be back to us that I really started to hate other women.
From there I figured out that there's a pattern to when guys get lonely, it could be the same for women for all I know, but I decided that sex without commitment is absolutely pointless and reckless and that's not the example I wanted to set for my children. I hadn’t stopped responding to guys that would message me but when all they wanted was to sleep with me I lost interest in responding to them. Id just imagine what my kids would be seeing and what they must be thinking and it wasn't possible for me to have a “friend with benefits” and lead the example I want to for my kids. I don't want my daughters to think that it's normal to have guy friends that cant keep their hands off of them. I didn't want to be setting up my parents to babysit, just so I can give someone else what they want. I don't need the sex, sex was always about connection for me. I miss having people who genuinely cared about my opinion, who came to me for advice. I miss having someone I can run my ideas by and debate the meaning of life. I don't believe that im super smart or anything, I've had too many instances of me saying the dumbest possible thing for me to believe my intelligence is anything beyond average.
The “soup or salad/super salad” thing people did on Tictok, I really did that. After my Mom told my siblings and I the name of the town we were driving through “Wahnapitae” , I asked “what's a pitae?” thinking she was offering me one. Even as an adult I was working at a clinic and dealing with an incredibly vulgar pompous woman who had said something along the lines of “that explains the colour of your hair”, and it wasn't until I looked in the mirror and remembered I had just recently changed my hair colour to blonde that it clicked in that she was insulting me. I'm not a dumb person by any means, I just have my moments. I don't know how I got so off track with my story..
So he had filled for court once, we agreed that it was a bad idea that we couldn't do it. He kept the money, I kept the girls and he cancelled the court thing the first time. I got served by some kids, I don't remember exactly when but I could look it up, but it's the only time I was ever served something. The first time he filed for court he sent the paperwork over with his Sister to give me, she just said she didn't know what it was. I brought up to him that we had already been through this, he hired a lawyer this time so I tried explaining things to her. I had been in contact with his Mother and we were making plans to get the girls together when I got blocked by her. All of these messages, I'm happy to show because I wasn’t doing anything sinister- I wanted to get the girls together.
I wanted to show his family the messages I had been receiving from him because I hoped that his family would have stepped in and done something, but he made it so I could get in touch with anyone. I just wanted them to be aware of what I was dealing with so they understood my reasons for keeping the girls away from him. I knew if they just saw the texts that it would help them understand, but he made that impossible. My ex has always done this thing where he'll accuse me of doing exactly what he's doing to me and I just came across a message today of him saying that he had been asking for my Dad's number and trying to get in contact with him. He had all my family's cell phone numbers, he deletes the numbers while he's mad and then expects me to give the numbers again when he's going off about what a slut and a whore I am and I'm not putting that onto my family. My Mom and Sister both still have the messages he sent accusing me of neglecting him for not making him food after the attempted overdose he had neglected to inform me of. In what world.. I can't even finish the question. It's so ridiculous, like I'd actually allow him anywhere near the kids if I thought for one second he might die at any point? I didn't find out he had taken any extra medication till the next day, I would have had him in the hospital getting his stomach pumped THAT NIGHT, that's why he didn't mention the pills till the next morning.
I think from here on I started saving the text messages and I might have written down everything that happened with my ex because he used anything he could against me. We had met up because by that time it started to feel like he wasn't a real person anymore and I needed to see how he could turn a completely rational and calm conversation into the opposite. (I forgot to mention that I had been feeling like I was being watched for months and I felt like I was going crazy. I couldn't keep the blinds open, I covered windows I was worried he could look into. I had no reason to worry but I could not shake this feeling. One day my Brother's baby Momma came over and we got to talking for a bit. Within an hour of her leaving my house my ex had messaged her. It could be nothing but it stuck out to me, once my parents parked the trailer in the driveway I felt more covered).
I found what I was looking for, I have the next part of my explanation already written out but I'm going to have to black out addresses and phone numbers and possibly names. I’m mostly just afraid of being sued, so I think because I've already warned my ex that I plan on making our story public if he doesn't leave me alone, that I should be good there. I'm more than willing to share all my conversations with anybody involved in this, I just don't know the rules when it comes to posting the emails between the lawyer and I. I wish I had all my phone calls and interactions with the police.
This whole thing has caused me to hate the police and anything to do with the government being involved in my life. I've wanted nothing more than to move far far away so I wouldn't be on edge every second of the day. Everytime there's a knock at the door, everytime I get a phone call from a private number my heart jumps into my throat and I'm so tired of living like this. I want to have someone I can depend on, I have no interest in being the head of my family.
Yesterday my Sister and her husband dropped off her kids for another sleepover. I LOVE my niece and nephew, so I hate that I feel bitter as soon as I see them walk through the door. It's not their fault that I live here and don't have someone to hang out with. I think it's more because nobody tells me when we'll have the kids. With Mom being in bed most of the time, the kids end up coming downstairs which I really don't mind, but when the kids want to play downstairs where the dogs live, I can't just make it look nice. I can't stand it when the kids get full of dog hair and they insist on crawling down there, so I have to give that entire floor a good wash. The dog pads are gross and smell bad and I won't allow the kids to play next to them while their dirty. I shake out the blankets the dogs sleep on daily but they still need to be washed regularly. Now that my Brother's dog is gone, I don't have to worry about him sniffing out anything and everything that I might have an attachment to. He chewed cords for my brand new plant lights I had just got, he destroyed stuff I bought for making t-shirts and stuff for my Cricuit. He chewed one of my favourite hats, he chewed at least 5 different styles and sizes of baskets, he chewed my son's $400 glasses, he shredded the furniture my parents had down there . He ate his way through 2 gates. I have a lot of things to say about my Brother's dog living with us that I won't go into detail about because this story is already super long. All I will say is that I hope that my Brother has learned from this and won't own another animal until he's living in his own house, not a Co-op. I also hope he can see how much time he wasted playing video games rather than training his dog to be better behaved, especially since he loves the dog so much, you'd think he’d want to give him the best chance at getting adopted first. Buttttt I've come to find out that not a lot of people think like me, so I don't know.
Since I wrote that last paragraph I found out my Brother’s ex girlfriend had posted him on a Facebook group “warning” people of my Brother and how he abandons animals, which simply isn't true. I don't know what happened when I saw that big ass picture of my Brother being blasted, something inside me went Momma Bear and I might have really made that woman think about her actions and opening her mouth. I went in on her so bad that I could watch my family read what I replied and see them react. I used everything I knew about her which is exactly what my ex used to do to me, I don't know know why I felt so bad and wanted to reach out to my Brother’s ex and ask her if she's okay. Why do I feel bad for stating the truth and questioning the purpose of making the post? Why am I so mean about everything? Is it wrong that I expect people to act like adults and put our children and what they might come across first?
Anyways, I think I removed the names. Some of the information is repeated but it's not bad. I was very angry when I started writing my first post, I was writing it almost as stuff was happening. I didn't know who I was writing to but it helped me make sense of things to write down all the dates, please keep in mind that I'm not an angry person, it actually takes a bit for someone to get a reaction from me. I don't want it to be seen as an excuse but I've been different since the break up, I'm still trying to figure out if I’ll ever feel normal again. This whole break up has shaken me to the core, I don't feel like I know anybody like I thought I did and I'm still waiting on the day that someone let's me in on the test or the weird joke.
How is it possible for a man who screamed at me “why are you trying to ruin my life?!” after I told him I hadn’t aborted our youngest daughter, who took my offer of keeping the over $10,000 that we had put into savings so we could buy a house for our family, if he would just walk away and let me raise the girls on my own but then came back once the money was gone and his family began asking questions. How is it possible for a man who goes on insane biblical rants about why he thinks I’m a whore and a pig and how my family is evil, whose called me at 3am after months of no contact asking if we were still meeting the next day because the radio told him to check up on me, HOW IS IT POSSIBLE FOR HIM TO GET EVERYTHING HE ASKED FOR??? I still can’t wrap my head around the fact that I wasn’t invited to the final court date, from the judge’s mouth I was told that the final hearing would take place on September 11, 2023. I did the financial paperwork I could on the courts website, I couldn’t find anywhere to upload my Notice of Assessment but I printed it out and kept it with all my court documents and then I took my kids up to camp to enjoy the summer. I got back in town only to find out that court had taken place already, my ex said I would have been served something but I definitely was not, I ran over to the mailbox but there was nothing, all I’ve seen is this judgement texted over by my ex. Do judges not ask if everyone involved was properly notified before they go ahead and make a judgement with only half the story? I've learned that having the police be included into the court order isn't a normal thing, he went out of his way to make sure it was in there. How could a judge listen to what he was asking for and not even consider that maybe the reason I won't hand over my children is because I have legitimate concerns about exe's's mental health and don't believe this is in the best interest of the girls?
Me You can't just pick them up, they don't know you and won't feel safe if you drive off away from me. Why would you ever do this to your children? We just had a VERY traumatic day yesterday that I and the girls could have used your help but you have no interest in that job. J I was sleeping yesterday when you messaged. J Court is done, court order says I pick them up tomorrow Me How can court be done it was scheduled for the 11th? J I talked to a judge about not traumatising them.. that's why it's just Wednesday's to start J Don't worry I got your back… on everything You need not worry any longer, you can relax
Through my experience with the Sudbury Police I learned it’s best not to bother trying to explain things to them, they have a job to do it’s best just to let them say what they have to and not add to it because it serves no purpose. My ex has called the police on me multiple times now, I don’t believe in calling the police unless it’s a life or death matter, I’ve never called the police on anyone ever, even times that I should have. My ex couldn't understand that I wasn't threatening him, I was making him aware that if he chooses to fight me for the girls I'm going to have to bring up all the shitty things he's done, he called the police accusing me of harassing and extorting him. When the police contacted me the officer's words were "I'd let the lawyers deal with it", the fact that I wasn't allowed to contact him was not made clear, which is why I responded to him when he messaged my Brother's ex literally within the hour of her being over at my house.
Message from my ex to my Brothers baby Momma It's all good, things never got better.. would you be willing to talk to a detective about the things that happened with that post and in the community after I left Sarah? You wouldn't be in trouble or anything.. just give a statement if they find it necessary Brothers Baby Momma to me Does he have a hidden camera at your parents because that was fucking creepy Message from ex to Brother's Baby Momma Jacey! As if you narced on me.. she's not supposed to be messaging me anymore.
So I responded to him with…
Me Nothing happened in the community after I made that post.. you said you liked Moms and I couldn't stand the thought of you putting more innocent children through what our children went through.. I wasn't trying to hurt you, I was trying to save them.. Because when you take you out of the relationship I'm a good person who takes good care of my family.. where with you nobody gets looked after as long as you aren't happy.
Why you choose to involve more and more people into this situation I don't think I'll ever understand.. you just keep digging the hole for yourself and it's making me really scared for your mental health.. like you really thought you were in the right calling the cops on me again when I was literally just texting you things you didn't want to hear yet I have all this proof that you made your own porn and sent explicit photos of me to your family and friends.. you're only doing more damage as you go.. you think this is going to be like the time in court with Ex's Baby Momma but this is a completely different situation and it's not going to go how you think. Us not communicating was a suggestion just so you know.. it's not harassment when all you have to do is hit the block button for it to go away.. I have said it right from the very beginning that I don't want to do this.. I just want to move on with life instead of reliving the bullshit.. putting on a show for complete strangers to talk about amongst themselves and their friends and families.. I never wanted to air out dirty laundry, I just wanted this to be done… you don't think a judge will see how all you do is instigate? You don't ask about the girls or for pictures.. you only ever messaged me to make your demands and then call me as many names as you can before I block you.
Why else would I be unblocked if it wasn't for you just playing games? you don't play games when it comes to children.. Are you honestly not concerned about what would happen if all of a sudden I had to start handing over the girls to you every second weekend? You don't think that could cause mental trauma? You weren't around for anything and any chance you had to take off work, you passed it up! You didn't want to be here changing bums and feeding bottles.
You don't get to do the things you've done and still have unsupervised access to the children we share.. you don't get to steal my medication, and put your hands on me and send my picture and spend all my money then go back on our deal.. you can't just pretend like none of that happened.. it's just facts that you did some incredibly shitty things while you were blaming me for our relationship failing.. I did too.. just nothing as bad as you did.. and I always told you I wasn't doing anything bad.. you always chose to believe that crazy imagination of yours instead of me.
I don't know what he told them but the police officer was already mad at me when he showed up. He claimed that I had already been warned not to contact my ex, which wasn't the case, when I heard "I'd let the lawyers handle it" I took it as a suggestion as you can see, I feel like such an idiot for thinking I knew better than him. I knew there was no way that they read what I had sent my ex. The first one was about how I still manage to miss him sometimes and another asking him to please put the girl's safety above what he feels entitled to. I explained this to the officer, but he shut me down pretty quick. He demanded that I bring out any screenshots and paperwork with regards to the case. I explained that I was hoping to come into the station and make a formal statement while presenting my evidence, but right away he threatened to close the case if I couldn't provide the proof right then. I didn't have everything in one place together, I had all 5 kids in the house behind me and some of the pictures had explicit content which I had already explained, it wasn't the proper circumstances for me to present anything right then standing in my driveway. I couldn't believe that someone could call the police on somebody for harassment, it didn't matter that he could just blocked me "why should he have to?" Were the officers exact words, and I may have responded with "because we're adults" but I'm not sure. By the end of it he had threatened to take me to jail if I contacted my ex again. This is when I let my emotions get the best of me and I slammed the door in his face which is completely unacceptable, regardless of the circumstances, I'm embarrassed I didn't handle it better. Once I calmed down and talked to my Mom and learned that she and my Brother watched the entire interaction on our doorbell camera. I decided to call the police department and explain what had happened. This is a mistake I won't make again, the officer I had on the phone seemed really great until he decided that it wasn't even worth listening to my version of the interaction with the officer at the door even after I was made to wait and listen to what the other officer had reported start to finish. He had flat out lied and said he offered for me to come to the station, he did not. My Mom got him on the phone so she could bitch him out for the way he treated me and lying and he was very apologetic once she told him about the camera, except he never told the other police officer that he lied. I absolutely HATE that the people who are meant to protect me and my children think less of me because my ex likes disturbing my life. He likes it when he can convince somebody new that I'm a horrible person causing him so much pain for all these years, when that isn't what happened at all.
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2024.03.12 18:43 heres2thepast Like anyone would believe she doesn't lurk here 🤣

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2024.03.12 14:25 AlexaPomegranate Hahaha so accurate

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2024.03.04 08:25 SneaselSW2 Personal Warriors/Musou Orochi QoL changes for characters: Wei

Refer to my own Musou scheme changes for these: https://www.reddit.com/dynastywarriors/comments/16r8a7d/personal_musou_warriors_scheme_idea/?share_id=671-p-XmIRhDKGX-74gpI&utm_content=1&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1
Ability type changes here: https://www.reddit.com/dynastywarriors/comments/1b69vop/personal_musou_warriors_scheme_idea_characte
This is mainly since some of the Type Actions across the Orochi games could've been much more. This lists ONLY the R1 attacks.
Notes:
Xiahou Dun: (Power; 力)
Dian Wei: (Defense; 衛)
Xu Chu: (Power; 力)
Cao Cao: (Technique; 技)
Xiahou Yuan: (Wonder; 異)
Zhang Liao: (Power; 力)
Xu Huang: (Technique; 技)
Zhang He: (Wonder; 異)
Zhenji AKA Zhen Luo: (Technique; 技)
Cao Ren: (Defense; 衛)
Cao Pi: (Balance; 平)
Pang De: (Power; 力)
Cai Yan AKA Cai Wenji/Zhaoji: (Technique; 技)
Jia Xu: (Technique; 技)
Wang Yi: (Speed; 速)
Guo Jia: (Wonder; 異)
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2024.03.04 01:16 SneaselSW2 Personal Warriors/Musou Orochi QoL changes for characters: Shu

Refer to my own Musou scheme changes for these: https://www.reddit.com/dynastywarriors/comments/16r8a7d/personal_musou_warriors_scheme_idea/?share_id=671-p-XmIRhDKGX-74gpI&utm_content=1&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1
Ability type changes here: https://www.reddit.com/dynastywarriors/comments/1b69vop/personal_musou_warriors_scheme_idea_characte
This is mainly since some of the Type Actions across the Orochi games could've been much more. This lists ONLY the R1 attacks.
Notes:
Zhao Yun: (Balance; 平)
Guan Yu: (Balance; 平)
Zhang Fei: (Power; 力)
Zhuge Liang: (Balance; 平)
Liu Bei: (Balance; 平)
Ma Chao: (Speed; 速)
Huang Zhong: (Technique; 技)
Wei Yan: (Power; 力)
Jiang Wei: (Balance; 平)
Pang Tong: (Wonder; 異)
Huang Yueying: (Defense; 衛)
Guan Ping: (Balance; 平)
Zhang Xingcai: (Defense; 衛)
Liu Shan: (Balance; 平)
Ma Dai: (Wonder; 異)
Guan Suo: (Balance; 平)
Bao Sanniang: (Wonder; 異)
Xu Shu: (Balance; 平)
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2024.02.26 00:41 jeburkes76 Do I need to tune my pfSense box or buy a new one

Currently dealing with an older pfSense box (2016 or so) that when at 1Gbps load has significant retransmits, etc. Trying to understand if I have something tuned incorrectly and/or the system is too old. When I bought this box my internet was probably around 200Mbps down and 20Mbps up and had 15-20 client devices. Now it has 800Mbps down and 100Mbps up and about 50-60 client devices.
This is pfSense system is for my home network. The box is a Qotom Q355G4 with i5-5200u and 8GB of ram, and Intel I211 NICs which used the old ee and now igb drivers (if I am not mistaken). I only use two of the 4 nics, one for WAN and one for LAN. The LAN port runs 3 VLANS (default, guest, and IOT). I have OpenVPN installed but only use that when not at home. Not running anything significant, no DNS, DHCP, Snort, Zeek, Suricata, etc. System is effectively a routefirewall.
The issue, if I run iperf3 (using default configuration) from a wired PC to the pfSense (Qotom) box, I see significant packet retransmits etc. I also notice sometimes the internet slows down if we have concurrent streaming.
Can I tune this thing to get more out of it or is it beyond the capabilities of sustained ~1Gbps throughput? Looking at the stats etc. on the dashboard leads me to believe it has a bunch of room to operate but I cannot seem to get it tuned correctly. Looking for suggestions.
EDIT (2024-02-25 23:54UTC):
iperf3 test limiting bandwidth to 250Mbps, no drops
iperf3 test limiting bandwidth to 300Mbps, 1-10 drops
iperf3 test limiting bandwidth to 350Mbps, 50-100 drops

dmesg output:
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FreeBSD is a registered trademark of The FreeBSD Foundation.
FreeBSD 14.0-CURRENT amd64 1400094 #1 RELENG_2_7_2-n255948-8d2b56da39c: Wed Dec 6 20:45:47 UTC 2023
root@freebsd:/vajenkins/workspace/pfSense-CE-snapshots-2_7_2-main/obj/amd64/StdASW5b/vajenkins/workspace/pfSense-CE-snapshots-2_7_2-main/sources/FreeBSD-src-RELENG_2_7_2/amd64.amd64/sys/pfSense amd64
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VT-x: PAT,HLT,MTF,PAUSE,EPT,UG,VPID
TSC: P-state invariant, performance statistics
real memory = 8589934592 (8192 MB)
avail memory = 8178253824 (7799 MB)
Event timer "LAPIC" quality 600
ACPI APIC Table:
FreeBSD/SMP: Multiprocessor System Detected: 4 CPUs
FreeBSD/SMP: 1 package(s) x 2 core(s) x 2 hardware threads
random: registering fast source Intel Secure Key RNG
random: fast provider: "Intel Secure Key RNG"
random: unblocking device.
ioapic0 irqs 0-39
Launching APs: 1 2 3
TCP_ratelimit: Is now initialized
random: entropy device external interface
wlan: mac acl policy registered
kbd1 at kbdmux0
WARNING: Device "spkr" is Giant locked and may be deleted before FreeBSD 14.0.
netgate0:
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igb1: Using 2 RX queues 2 TX queues
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igb2: Using 2 RX queues 2 TX queues
igb2: Using MSI-X interrupts with 3 vectors
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igb2: netmap queues/slots: TX 2/1024, RX 2/1024
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hdaa1: at nid 1 on hdacc1
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Trying to mount root from ufs:/dev/gptid/1f429725-05d9-11e9-a256-406231032f72 [rw]...
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ada0: Command Queueing enabled
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uhub2 on uhub0
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Root mount waiting for: usbus1
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aesni0:
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[fib_algo] inet.0 (bsearch4#34) rebuild_fd_flm: switching algo to radix4_lockless
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load_dn_sched dn_sched QFQ loaded
load_dn_sched dn_sched RR loaded
load_dn_sched dn_sched WF2Q+ loaded
load_dn_sched dn_sched PRIO loaded
load_dn_sched dn_sched FQ_CODEL loaded
load_dn_sched dn_sched FQ_PIE loaded
load_dn_aqm dn_aqm CODEL loaded
load_dn_aqm dn_aqm PIE loaded
pflog0: promiscuous mode disabled
ovpns2: link state changed to DOWN
Waiting (max 60 seconds) for system process `vnlru' to stop... done
Waiting (max 60 seconds) for system process `syncer' to stop...
Syncing disks, vnodes remaining... 2 1 0 0 done
All buffers synced.
Uptime: 7m34s
Khelp module "ertt" can't unload until its refcount drops from 3 to 0.
uhub2: detached
uhub0: detached

boot.loader.local:
legal.intel_iwi.license_ack = 1
legal.intel_ipw.license_ack = 1
hw.ix.flow_control = 0
hw.ix.enable_aim = 1
net.isr.dispatch = deferred
net.isr.bindthreads = 1
net.isr.maxthreads = -1
net.inet.tcp.soreceive_stream = 1
hw.igc.rx_process_limit = -1
net.isr.defaultqlimit = 4096
net.link.ifqmaxlen = 2048 (bootloader)
kern.ipc.nmbclusters = 1000000 (bootloader)
kern.ipc.nmbjumbop = 524288 (bootloader)
kern.ipc.nmbjumbo9 = 524288 (bootloader)

system tunables (GUI):
net.inet.tcp.tso = 0
net.inet.tcp.recvbuf_inc = 65536
net.inet.tcp.recvbuf_max = 4194304
net.inet.tcp.sendbuf_inc = 65536
net.inet.tcp.sendbuf_max = 4194304
net.inet.tcp.sendbuf_auto = 1
net.inet.tcp.recvbuf_auto = 1
net.inet.ip.intr_queue_maxlen = 2048
Any and all suggestions welcome.
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2024.02.23 14:47 Terrible_Cycle_6306 AITAH for telling my husband I’m done after he unblocked his ex

So…. HJ my husband’s 20(m)has been talking to this girl Be 16(f) off and on for about 3 years. Mind you it’s his ex. She was 13 and he was 17. And he was told her age and continued the relationship. I caught him texting her yet again so I sent her a text on his account ( stop messaging my husband) then blocked her. She seen the message bf she was blocked I made sure. Well HJ has been accusing me of “cheating” on him. Mind you I don’t hangout with anyone except my mom and my church mom. I have sent him numerous pictures proving to him of who I was with and where I was at. My mother even called him and said she’s with me and she’s not cheating. So here’s the part where I’m pissed. This girl took a picture of myself my mom and my sister sitting at the Chinese restaurant and sent it to hj brothers phone number. First of all, she knows hj through me and has always went for my exes so she doesn’t know HJ brother. He had to have given her the phone number. Anyways, she went on to start a whole bunch of drama at the Chinese restaurant. After HJ texted and said sb I’m the Chinese restaurant took a picture and sent it to me of y’all. I looked around and didn’t notice her at first. Then my mom pointed and I seen her. she called my mom fat, so being the absolute unfiltered bitch that I am. I said some shit back! Then my sister 17(f) interfered and started getting ready to fight this bitch but she kept hiding behind the door of the Chinese restaurant. So my sister threw some fortune cookies at her. One popped her in the head and she ran inside and we left! HJ tried to send the ss to where he blocked her, but he didn’t block her bf he sent the ss. So I automatically knew he didn’t block her and that he had unblocked her from when I had blocked her. So yes I’m very pissed off bc I have zero explanation of why she took a picture and sent it to HJ. AITAH?
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2024.02.22 08:10 Rie_____ My WORST ex.

I just broke up w him and literally what he said just shocked me.
So,I was getting tired of him since he always compare my life with his. Saying I haven't went through as much as him.
So this is a red flag of me but idc anymore. I wanted to leave him for a while now but since he's rich, I never ended the relay cuz he always bought me gifts even without me asking.
So, one time I was done so I told him I wanted a break up. Then he ask why so I just said it's cuz we always fight. And then he said "always fighting means nothing" AND THEN HE IGNORED IT. PRETENDING LIKE I NEVER ASKED FOR A BREAK UP AND CONTINUED LIKE I'M STILL HIS GF.
And now I finally had enough and ask for a break up (again.) then it turn into an argument. And then I curse at him then block his number. I told my brother abt my situation and he asked for his number so I did give it to him. And then my ex's cousin (an older girl) texted me and literally BEGGED for me not to leave him. Ngl, I was actually considering about not leaving him. So I unblocked him. BUT THE NEXT THING HE SAID JUST MADE ME CHANGE MY WHOLE PERSPECTIVE OF HIM.
He literally said "at least I didn't get seually harrsed" I WAS LIKE. BRO?? ARE YOU SERIOUS? NGL ITS MY BIGGEST TRAUMA SO I DROPPED TO THE GROUND AS SOON AS I READ THAT. I HAVE TONS OF FLASHBACKS. And then I ss it and sent it to my brother. My brother said my ex apologize to him BUT I SWEAR IT WASN'T SINCERE AT ALL.
He's my worst ex ngl. I'm so glad I left him.
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2024.02.21 20:01 iogamesfun Play Unblocked IO Games at School

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2024.02.21 19:27 iogamesfun Play Unblocked IO Games at School

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Are you tired of the same old routine during your school breaks? Look no further! Dive into the thrilling world of IO games 2024, the perfect way to unleash your competitive spirit and have a blast with your friends.
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IO games unblocked are not only incredibly fun but also educational, offering a wide range of games that cater to different interests and skills. Whether you're into action-packed shooters or strategic puzzles, there's something for everyone in the world of IO games.
The best part? You can play these games unblocked, which means you can access them anytime during your school day. Say goodbye to boredom and hello to endless hours of entertainment!
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2024.02.07 20:28 MikeClaus I think last update broke placements of some Odd Shards and containers

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2024.01.29 18:49 BinkReddit Hyper-V and SR-IOV

New to FreeBSD and trying to get SR-IOV working with my Hyper-V hosts. Linux and Windows VMs can do SR-IOV just fine, but SR-IOV/VF never gets established by the FreeBSD VM.
Clue sticks appreciated.
Thanks.
# pciconf -lv none0@pci1:0:2:0: class=0x020000 rev=0x00 hdr=0x00 vendor=0x8086 device=0x15a9 subvendor=0x0000 subdevice=0x0000 vendor = 'Intel Corporation' device = 'X552 Virtual Function' class = network subclass = ethernet # dmesg ---<>--- Copyright (c) 1992-2023 The FreeBSD Project. Copyright (c) 1979, 1980, 1983, 1986, 1988, 1989, 1991, 1992, 1993, 1994 The Regents of the University of California. All rights reserved. FreeBSD is a registered trademark of The FreeBSD Foundation. FreeBSD 14.0-RELEASE #0 releng/14.0-n265380-f9716eee8ab4: Fri Nov 10 05:57:23 UTC 2023 root@releng1.nyi.freebsd.org:/usobj/ussrc/amd64.amd64/sys/GENERIC amd64 FreeBSD clang version 16.0.6 (https://github.com/llvm/llvm-project.git llvmorg-16.0.6-0-g7cbf1a259152) SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x80000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x100000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x1000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x10000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x20000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x40000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x80000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x100000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x200000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x400000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x800000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x1000000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x2000000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x4000000000000 SRAT: Ignoring memory at addr 0x8000000000000 VT(efifb): resolution 1024x768 Hyper-V Version: 10.0.20348 [SP2] Features=0x2e7f PM Features=0x20 [C2] Features3=0xe0bed7b2 Timecounter "Hyper-V" frequency 10000000 Hz quality 2000 CPU: Intel(R) Xeon(R) CPU D-1518 @ 2.20GHz (2200.00-MHz K8-class CPU) Origin="GenuineIntel" Id=0x50663 Family=0x6 Model=0x56 Stepping=3 Features=0xf83fbff Features2=0xfefa3203 AMD Features=0x2c100800 AMD Features2=0x121 Structured Extended Features=0x1c2fb9 Structured Extended Features3=0xbc000400 XSAVE Features=0x1 Hypervisor: Origin = "Microsoft Hv" real memory = 2147483648 (2048 MB) avail memory = 2047528960 (1952 MB) Event timer "LAPIC" quality 100 ACPI APIC Table:  random: registering fast source Intel Secure Key RNG random: fast provider: "Intel Secure Key RNG" random: unblocking device. ioapic0  irqs 0-23 random: entropy device external interface Timecounter "Hyper-V-TSC" frequency 10000000 Hz quality 3000 kbd0 at kbdmux0 efirtc0:  efirtc0: registered as a time-of-day clock, resolution 1.000000s smbios0:  at iomem 0x7ffd8000-0x7ffd801e smbios0: Version: 3.1, BCD Revision: 3.1 aesni0:  acpi0:  atrtc0:  port 0x70-0x71 irq 8 on acpi0 atrtc0: registered as a time-of-day clock, resolution 1.000000s Event timer "RTC" frequency 32768 Hz quality 0 Timecounter "ACPI-fast" frequency 3579545 Hz quality 900 acpi_timer0: <32-bit timer at 3.579545MHz> port 0x408-0x40b on acpi0 cpu0:  on acpi0 acpi_syscontainer0:  on acpi0 vmbus0:  on acpi_syscontainer0 vmgenc0:  on acpi0 vmbus_res0:  irq 5 on acpi0 Timecounter "TSC-low" frequency 1099998288 Hz quality 800 Timecounters tick every 10.000 msec usb_needs_explore_all: no devclass vmbus0: version 4.0 hvet0:  on vmbus0 Event timer "Hyper-V" frequency 10000000 Hz quality 1000 hvkbd0:  on vmbus0 kbd1 at hvkbd0 hvheartbeat0:  on vmbus0 hvkvp0:  on vmbus0 hvshutdown0:  on vmbus0 hvtimesync0:  on vmbus0 hvtimesync0: RTT hvvss0:  on vmbus0 hn0:  on vmbus0 hn0: got notify, nvs type 128 hn0: Ethernet address: 00:15:5d:ff:a8:0f storvsc0:  on vmbus0 hn0: link state changed to UP pcib0:  on vmbus0 pcib0: PCI VMBus using version 0x10004 pci0:  on pcib0 pci0:  at device 2.0 (no driver attached) Trying to mount root from ufs:/dev/da0p2 [rw]... cd0 at storvsc0 bus 0 scbus0 target 0 lun 1 cd0:  Removable CD-ROM SPC-3 SCSI device cd0: 300.000MB/s transfers cd0: Attempt to query device size failed: NOT READY, Medium not present - tray closed da0 at storvsc0 bus 0 scbus0 target 0 lun 0 da0:  Fixed Direct Access SPC-3 SCSI device da0: 300.000MB/s transfers da0: Command Queueing enabled da0: 32768MB (67108864 512 byte sectors) hvhid0:  on vmbus0 hidbus0:  on hvhid0 hms0:  on hidbus0 hms0: 5 buttons and [XYW] coordinates ID=0 lo0: link state changed to UP Security policy loaded: MAC/ntpd (mac_ntpd) pci0: detached hvtimesync0: RTT hn0: got notify, nvs type 128 hn0: got notify, nvs type 128 pcib0: detached pcib0:  on vmbus0 pcib0: PCI VMBus using version 0x10004 pci0:  on pcib0 pci0:  at device 2.0 (no driver attached) 

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