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2024.05.15 02:05 DanielAnakBudi Sebuah harapan dibalik orang yang tidak berduit
Di post ini, aku mau cerita bedasarkan kisah nyata dari sebagian besar orang yang pernah ngobrol sama aku (plus dengan pengalamanku pas bersama mereka) dan mungkin ini bisa menggerakkan hati atau kita makin positif sih. Ada 2 cerita yang bakalan aku bahas, dan kalian bisa pilih aja mau cerita mana yang mau kalian baca. And ofc, i make it short to save everyone's time.
The story has 2 perspective : Gojek, dan Tukang parkir (niatnya mau ada tambahan 1 lagi, yaitu cerita tentang guruku.. maybe next time i guess.)
Let's start with Gojek.
Gojek Kejadian ini terjadi pasca tahun 2021-an (kalo ga salah). Ceritanya, Sahabat jauh dari solo pulang ke sentul dan aku main sama beliau sambil ngobrol bareng kondisi-nya disana. Kami bercengkrama sampai dengan jam 8 malam, dan aku memutuskan untuk pulang (karena nyokap udah nyariin). Aku akhirnya dianterin pulang dengan mobil nyokap sahabatku yang kebetulan lagi satu jalan dari AEON. tapi, aku denger kabar kata-nya bokap-nya temen tiba-tiba sakit dan Nyokap-nya perlu beli obat. Aku nawarin untuk nemenin beli obat + nunjukin apotik terdekat, tapi akhirnya aku cukup minta diberhentiin aja di Lampu merah dekat CCM. Karena aku takut-nya mengganggu juga + takut pulang kemaleman. Cukup ucapan semoga cepat sembuh, dan akhirnya pergi ke kantor polisi perempatan CCM buat pesan Gojek.
Jujur, aku kaget ketika yang dateng ketika pesen Gojek yang dateng adalah perempuan. Aku ga permasalahin kamu kerja jadi apa... tapi dengan kondisi malem seperti ini dan beliau berani narik Gojek? oh my. That's a daring move and deserve my respect. Tapi pas aku mau naik, beliau bilang.. ini baru pertama kali dia ambil pesanan malem-malem dan kebetulan aga capek (kalo ga salah inget). Aku tawarin untuk ngendarain motornya (it was a scoopy. its has good handling but slow as snail speed. but it has good fuel economy. hehe, maaf terlalu mendiskripsikan motornya).
Kami ngobrol di jalan dong... tanya-tanya abis ngapain dan ini itu. Sampai aku nanya ke beliau "Ibu kenapa mau kerja jadi Go-Jek?". Beliau dengan lumayan santai-nya bilang something along like "Karena ada-nya ini pada saat ini, dan saya harus membiayain kedua anak saya". Aku sambil mengucapkan maaf nanya kepada beliau "Maaf bu, saya kalo boleh nanya.. Suami ibu apakah tidak kerja?". Beliau bilang "Suami saya kabur". That bring a chill on my spine... karena ini ngobrol secara langsung. Beliau bela-belain Nganter barang sampai malam, dan bahkan nyoba nge-gojek. it's somewhat shows how mother figure should always be. She wants nothing but her kids to become succeed and didnt end up like her.
And today 2024, i share her story to here... it shows that maybe even at the very rock bottom, you cannot see down but only up. and you need to keep on going whatever your situation is.
okay, Mari kita langsung aja cerita kedua.
Tukang ParkirMixue Miksu (ga boleh nyebut merek meskipun keliatan dikit, atleast its for the sake of the funni)
Nah, ini sebenarnya kejadian yag masih baru-baru banget. Cerita-nya ini abis ngampus.. Karena lagi kepengen makan eskrim, pergilah aku ke Miksu deket Sate Tegal Laka-laka yang ada di cibinong. Kebetulan disitu ada tukang parkir (yang kebetulan sering ketemuan dan dia ramah).. ngobrol lah aku sama beliau. He give me many wise words dan saran sebelum beranjak ke dunia yang bener-bener dewasa. it was all fun and game.
But then, i ask him... "Tapi pak, dengan pemikiran dan wawasan yang luas. Kenapa bapak jadi tukang parkir?" He said ketika beliau di pelabuhan tanjung priuk, dulunya dia kerja sebagai pengangkut barang dan disukai sama bos-nya karena etos kerja-nya yang tinggi (Sambil nunjukin kertas kerja-nya, dan dokumen penting lainnya ketika kerja di pelabuhan tanjung priuk. I was surprised how did he trust me to the point to show me this). He got paid handsomely, dan dia kerja dari pagi ke pagi. Sampai ketika orang dalam plays along dan kompetisi yang ga sehat mulai masuk. Dia suka disenggol dan begitu sebagai-nya... dan bahkan sudah berfikir kalo sebagai pengangkut barang udah bukan passion dia lagi (karena terkadang dia mesti berantem pas ngangkut barang di jalan entah sama pungli, dll).
Dan dimasa dimana dia udah kepala 5 atau 6 ini (kalo ga salah). Dia hanya ingin meninggal dengan tenang aja. Dia bilang sama aku "Keinginan muda dan tau pasti berbeda. Semakin kamu tua, kamu semakin belajar kalo dalam hidup itu ga semuanya bisa kamu dapatkan. tapi kamu ga boleh nyerah, dan harus tekun".
He's respectable person... even as tukang parkir. Maybe some people doesnt have a choice and ended up like him. Bahkan orang berjasa kayak beliau aja di-injek". like damn..... Hope he's having a good day
That's the story for today folks. Have a good day !
edit : typo :b
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The story has 2 perspective : Gojek, dan Tukang parkir (niatnya mau ada tambahan 1 lagi, yaitu cerita tentang guruku.. maybe next time i guess.)
Let's start with Gojek.
Gojek Kejadian ini terjadi pasca tahun 2021-an (kalo ga salah). Ceritanya, Sahabat jauh dari solo pulang ke sentul dan aku main sama beliau sambil ngobrol bareng kondisi-nya disana. Kami bercengkrama sampai dengan jam 8 malam, dan aku memutuskan untuk pulang (karena nyokap udah nyariin). Aku akhirnya dianterin pulang dengan mobil nyokap sahabatku yang kebetulan lagi satu jalan dari AEON. tapi, aku denger kabar kata-nya bokap-nya temen tiba-tiba sakit dan Nyokap-nya perlu beli obat. Aku nawarin untuk nemenin beli obat + nunjukin apotik terdekat, tapi akhirnya aku cukup minta diberhentiin aja di Lampu merah dekat CCM. Karena aku takut-nya mengganggu juga + takut pulang kemaleman. Cukup ucapan semoga cepat sembuh, dan akhirnya pergi ke kantor polisi perempatan CCM buat pesan Gojek.
Jujur, aku kaget ketika yang dateng ketika pesen Gojek yang dateng adalah perempuan. Aku ga permasalahin kamu kerja jadi apa... tapi dengan kondisi malem seperti ini dan beliau berani narik Gojek? oh my. That's a daring move and deserve my respect. Tapi pas aku mau naik, beliau bilang.. ini baru pertama kali dia ambil pesanan malem-malem dan kebetulan aga capek (kalo ga salah inget). Aku tawarin untuk ngendarain motornya (it was a scoopy. its has good handling but slow as snail speed. but it has good fuel economy. hehe, maaf terlalu mendiskripsikan motornya).
Kami ngobrol di jalan dong... tanya-tanya abis ngapain dan ini itu. Sampai aku nanya ke beliau "Ibu kenapa mau kerja jadi Go-Jek?". Beliau dengan lumayan santai-nya bilang something along like "Karena ada-nya ini pada saat ini, dan saya harus membiayain kedua anak saya". Aku sambil mengucapkan maaf nanya kepada beliau "Maaf bu, saya kalo boleh nanya.. Suami ibu apakah tidak kerja?". Beliau bilang "Suami saya kabur". That bring a chill on my spine... karena ini ngobrol secara langsung. Beliau bela-belain Nganter barang sampai malam, dan bahkan nyoba nge-gojek. it's somewhat shows how mother figure should always be. She wants nothing but her kids to become succeed and didnt end up like her.
And today 2024, i share her story to here... it shows that maybe even at the very rock bottom, you cannot see down but only up. and you need to keep on going whatever your situation is.
okay, Mari kita langsung aja cerita kedua.
Tukang Parkir
Nah, ini sebenarnya kejadian yag masih baru-baru banget. Cerita-nya ini abis ngampus.. Karena lagi kepengen makan eskrim, pergilah aku ke Miksu deket Sate Tegal Laka-laka yang ada di cibinong. Kebetulan disitu ada tukang parkir (yang kebetulan sering ketemuan dan dia ramah).. ngobrol lah aku sama beliau. He give me many wise words dan saran sebelum beranjak ke dunia yang bener-bener dewasa. it was all fun and game.
But then, i ask him... "Tapi pak, dengan pemikiran dan wawasan yang luas. Kenapa bapak jadi tukang parkir?" He said ketika beliau di pelabuhan tanjung priuk, dulunya dia kerja sebagai pengangkut barang dan disukai sama bos-nya karena etos kerja-nya yang tinggi (Sambil nunjukin kertas kerja-nya, dan dokumen penting lainnya ketika kerja di pelabuhan tanjung priuk. I was surprised how did he trust me to the point to show me this). He got paid handsomely, dan dia kerja dari pagi ke pagi. Sampai ketika orang dalam plays along dan kompetisi yang ga sehat mulai masuk. Dia suka disenggol dan begitu sebagai-nya... dan bahkan sudah berfikir kalo sebagai pengangkut barang udah bukan passion dia lagi (karena terkadang dia mesti berantem pas ngangkut barang di jalan entah sama pungli, dll).
Dan dimasa dimana dia udah kepala 5 atau 6 ini (kalo ga salah). Dia hanya ingin meninggal dengan tenang aja. Dia bilang sama aku "Keinginan muda dan tau pasti berbeda. Semakin kamu tua, kamu semakin belajar kalo dalam hidup itu ga semuanya bisa kamu dapatkan. tapi kamu ga boleh nyerah, dan harus tekun".
He's respectable person... even as tukang parkir. Maybe some people doesnt have a choice and ended up like him. Bahkan orang berjasa kayak beliau aja di-injek". like damn..... Hope he's having a good day
That's the story for today folks. Have a good day !
edit : typo :b
2024.05.14 10:21 NewFaithlessness4611 Chismosa kong ex-friend.
Feeling ko kasalanan ko din na I tolerated my ex-friend's behavior. Matagal kaming magkaibigan at habang tumatagal yun lalo syang lumalala. Sa totoo lang madaming nakakapagsabi sakin na wala daw masamang tinapay sakin kasi kahit alam ko na masama ugali hanggat walang ginagawa sakin e ok lang ako. Itong dati kong kaibigan isa ding scammer ng mga afam online, pati sakin ginagamit nya yung pambubudol abilities nya pag wala na siyang pera. Payag din yung asawa nya sa ginagawa nya dahil nga hirap sila sa buhay. Araw-araw din kami nag-uusap noon at panay sya chismis ng kung sino habang ako nakikinig lang. Sobra na kong natotoxican kasi pati yung mga kamag-anak nya, animo sex life e kinukwento sakin. Mga secrets na sinabi sa kanya. Kung gano kapanget yung mga asawa ng mga kapatid nya. Lagi din syang napaoatawag sa barangay dahil sa ugali nyang ganun. So napaisip ako, pano kaya kung magsabi ako ng something about me na out of character ko? Ichichismis nya kaya sa iba? Kasi lagi nyang sinasabi sakin na yung usapan namin e sa amin lang. So nag-isip ako ng gawa-gawang kwento na kunyari may kinikita akong ibang lalaki o nagchicheat ako. Gumawa pa ako ng dummy account sa fb tapos nagkikipag exchange ako ng conversation na malalaswa sa main account ko. Para may kunyaring mga screenshots ako maipakita sa kanya, para makatotohanan kumbaga. Alam din 'to ng boyfriend ko. Nung sinabi ko sa kanya yun, aba yung gaga tuwang tuwa. Congratulations daw at first time in my life e gumawa daw ako ng kalokohan, atleast daw bago ako mamatay. 🤢🤮 Fast forward, nagkasira kami tungkol sa pera. Ayaw ko na kasi sya pahiramin dahil napakalaki na ng utang nya sakin at marami din akong responsibilidad at tinutulungang kapamilya. After several months, may nag reach out sakin na friend nagtatanong kung totoo daw ba yung sinasabi ni ex-friend. Tawa nalang ako ng tawa. Hindi ko alam kung gano pa karaming tao yung sinabihan nya nun pero wala na kong pake. Para sayo ex-friend, hindi ko parin sasabihin sa iba na pokpok ka at pumapayag yang asawa mo. Pakatino ka na. Dami mo nabubudol pero lubog na lubog kayo sa utang dahil sa asawa mong adik e. Tigil nyo na yan bago kayo matokhang.
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2024.05.10 20:46 Optimal-Equal-2362 Mother in Law na Christian pero hindi alam ang practice what you preach
Hindi ako ganun magaling mag kwento pero gusto ko lang ilabas etong pinagaawayan namin lately ni Hubby.
Si Mother in law mabait siya, giving kapag meron padala sa states galing sa mga kapatid niya is sinisigurado niya mabibigyan ang lahat bali 6 pala ang original magkakapatid si hubby 2 sa stepdad 8 sila magkakapatid in total lahat lalaki. Si stepdad ay pastor, so eto na nga meron kasi silang kapatid na adik, pariwara, black sheep.
Meron 3 anak hiwalay sa asawa etong kuya niya npa mapa bahay man or work nalibot na niya ata lahat ng bpo company sa lugar namin. Lately nagaaway kami ni hubby, dahil binibigyan niya ng pera sinabihan ko na wag bigyan dahil hindi matutoto. Kami na hirap na hirap mag trabaho tapos etong kuya niya panay hingi para ipang bisyo man sasabihin para sa upa or gas.
Si MIL nagcchat kay Hubby na bakit hindi mo bigyan kuya mo kapag meron ka, dahil ba alam niyang well-off kami? Hindi ba kapag Christian ka alam mo ang dapat at hindi dapat, send siya ng send sa amin ng quotes everyday para magbalik loob sa Church nakikita ko naman kasi ang Church nila puro pera na lang issue, tapos plastican kaya nawawalan ako ng gana mag Church. Meron akong paniniwala pero ayaw kong makipag plastican sa Church para lang masabi na nagsisimba kami madagdagan pa kasalanan ko lol.
Si MIL pati kay mama ko nagsend ng quotes about bible rin, parehas kami paniniwala ni mama nag active rin siya sa Church before pero na encounter rin siya ng mga ganun situation.
Ang hirap lang kasi si Hubby kung anong sasabihin ng nanay niya susundin niya, parang nababaliwala yung opinion ko sa marriage namin. Nirerealtak ko na siya minsan kung maghiwalay man kami, kaya kong tumayo sa sarili kong paa at buhayin ang anak namin. Magsama na lang sila ng nanay niya 😂 ako ang main provider ng marriage. Nung siya kasi malaki ang income ng pandemic sa 2 years wala siyang naipon, hindi pa kami magkasama sa iisang bahay paano yung nanay niya pinatira lahat ang asawa ng 2 kapatid pati kuya. Asawa ko ang bumuhay, sana sa MIL ng asawa ko matuto rin na bigyan ng lesson ang mga anak niya sa 8 anak niya 3 ang palahingi at palaasa at hindi nakatapos ng college ang 8 na anak niya.
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Si Mother in law mabait siya, giving kapag meron padala sa states galing sa mga kapatid niya is sinisigurado niya mabibigyan ang lahat bali 6 pala ang original magkakapatid si hubby 2 sa stepdad 8 sila magkakapatid in total lahat lalaki. Si stepdad ay pastor, so eto na nga meron kasi silang kapatid na adik, pariwara, black sheep.
Meron 3 anak hiwalay sa asawa etong kuya niya npa mapa bahay man or work nalibot na niya ata lahat ng bpo company sa lugar namin. Lately nagaaway kami ni hubby, dahil binibigyan niya ng pera sinabihan ko na wag bigyan dahil hindi matutoto. Kami na hirap na hirap mag trabaho tapos etong kuya niya panay hingi para ipang bisyo man sasabihin para sa upa or gas.
Si MIL nagcchat kay Hubby na bakit hindi mo bigyan kuya mo kapag meron ka, dahil ba alam niyang well-off kami? Hindi ba kapag Christian ka alam mo ang dapat at hindi dapat, send siya ng send sa amin ng quotes everyday para magbalik loob sa Church nakikita ko naman kasi ang Church nila puro pera na lang issue, tapos plastican kaya nawawalan ako ng gana mag Church. Meron akong paniniwala pero ayaw kong makipag plastican sa Church para lang masabi na nagsisimba kami madagdagan pa kasalanan ko lol.
Si MIL pati kay mama ko nagsend ng quotes about bible rin, parehas kami paniniwala ni mama nag active rin siya sa Church before pero na encounter rin siya ng mga ganun situation.
Ang hirap lang kasi si Hubby kung anong sasabihin ng nanay niya susundin niya, parang nababaliwala yung opinion ko sa marriage namin. Nirerealtak ko na siya minsan kung maghiwalay man kami, kaya kong tumayo sa sarili kong paa at buhayin ang anak namin. Magsama na lang sila ng nanay niya 😂 ako ang main provider ng marriage. Nung siya kasi malaki ang income ng pandemic sa 2 years wala siyang naipon, hindi pa kami magkasama sa iisang bahay paano yung nanay niya pinatira lahat ang asawa ng 2 kapatid pati kuya. Asawa ko ang bumuhay, sana sa MIL ng asawa ko matuto rin na bigyan ng lesson ang mga anak niya sa 8 anak niya 3 ang palahingi at palaasa at hindi nakatapos ng college ang 8 na anak niya.
2024.05.09 20:17 redditduk [MEGALIST] SG Concerts Gigs Raves - Till Vesak Day (10 - 23 May 2024)
Update 12 May: Added events till Thurs atm.
I am on telegram: search sg music chat or visit t.me/sgmusicchat
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10 May, Fri
- SCO: Mother‘s Day Concert 2024 母亲节音乐会 2024 - 慈母心 by Singapore Chinese Orchestra - Day 1 of 2 , Singapore Conference Hall @ 7 Shenton Way, IG 📸 $38
- Musical: Piaf! The Show - tribute to Edith Piaf, the theatre @ mediacorp (one-north), $58
- Pop, Folk, Soul: Rochester Commons Garden Music Fest - SEZAIRI, TAY KEWEI, Jack & Rai, JASON Yu, Jem Han, Rochester Commons (buona vista mrt), 630-930pm, free
- Free Festival: Music Matters Live Music Festival Schedule and the conference Creator Week (paid)
- FOUNTAIN SQUARE Stage: DAY 3 - Psychic Fever from EXILE TRIBE 🇯🇵, Firdaus (MY), Josh MAKAZO (SG), Teo Glacier (NZ), WHO SHOT SCOTT (NZ) , ADRIAN Dvuke (AU), LEMONY (TH), the center area of CQ @ clarke quay fountain square, free
- SENOR TACO Stage: Tunecore Showcase - Aldi Haqq 🇮🇩, Space Pumpkin 🇹🇭, Grassic 🇻🇳, Mix Fenix 🇵🇭, Peekay 🇮🇳, Eleanor Whisper 🇮🇩, Señor Taco restaurant livehouse at CQ @ Clarke Quay, IG 📸 free
- PULSE Stage: Music Matters Selects - Adriel 🇲🇾, NAO Yoshiaka 🇯🇵,Good Morning Everyone 🇮🇩, PULSE at CQ @ Clarke Quay (ex Yang Club), free
- SWEE LEE stage: Joya 🇭🇰, Jewel Owusu 🇦🇺, Celine Wanyi 🇭🇰, Peej 🇵🇭, Ben Swissa 🇦🇺, Dhruv Visvanath 🇮🇳, swee lee music store @ clarke quay, free
- Hiphop w DEF JAM SEA: The Get Down - Abangsapau, Alyph, BAD M.O.B, DJCZA, Elva, Ismail Izaani, Killa Driz, Krumbs, GRACE LIU, Naufal, KRUMBS, SONAONE, YHB SLEEPSALOT and JOE FLIZZOW (Afrobeats, amapiano, hip-hop, R&B night), 1880 Members Club at Intercontinental Robertson Quay, 1 Nanson Rd, tix 🎟 $68
- Jazz Loft: TROPIC GREEN - Susan Harmer's 7- piece jazz ensemble, Blu Jaz L3 @ bali ln (bugis), $24
- Maduro Jazz: Michelle SgP & Friends - Jazzin' Groovin' Friday, maduro @ sofitel sentosa, $38++ drink credits
- R&B soul: Vamp Sessions - Rai Maia (UK), mandala club at 31 Bukit Pasoh Rd (outram), $33
- Cool Cats: Jamie Aditya presents Funky Town (soul and funk) - day 2 of 3, nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $28
Esplanade- PESTA RAYA Malay Festival Weekend
- ES Film & Music: Samsara – A Cine-Concert by Garin Nugroho 🇮🇩, Concert Hall, $35
- ES Music Free: Malam Nusantara - Adik Adik Hensem & ABANGSAPAU x LEAISM, hiphop, soul, pop, Outdoor Theatre 7pm, 815 930pm, free
- ES Music: Melintasi Galaksi by Yanto Sani x Andy Gan (crossover of alternative electronica and traditional ethnic instruments), Indoor Concourse 730 830 930pm, free
- ES Music : Sanggar Seni by Kelana Purba and Makyong Kedek (dikir barat), Courtyard 640pm, free
- ES Theatre - Bawang Putih Bawang Merah by by Teater Ekamatra, Waterfront Theatre, IG 📸 $45 soldout
- ES Performances Workshop: Jalan Raya by Zarina Muhammad, in collaboration with local artists- Day 2 of 3, Annexe Studio 4pm, 6pm, 8pm, $22
- ES Dance: Mak Yong by Kumpulan Mak Yong Cahaya Matahari & PUSAKA, Waterfront Theatre Lawn 6pm 745pm, free
- ES Kids storytellling: Tales from the Nusantara: The Legend of Hang Tuah and the White Crocodile by Malay Heritage Centre & Hafiz Rashid, PIP's PLAYbox 1145, 115 3pm, free
- OTHERS
- 9-12 May: Teochew Opera The Pawned Wife 典妻 by Nam Hwa Opera, SCCC Auditorium @ 1 Straits Blvd (shenton way), IG 📸, $10
- Chinese Drama: Hwa Chong Institutions 黄城夜韵 2024 An Evening of Drama 2024 (G) - Day 1 of 2, Gateway Theatre Bukit Merah, $18
- Hwa Chong Institution String Orchestra: 'Serenade.' , Hwa Chong Institution (high school) - tan kah kee mrt, free
- Eunioia Junior College Symphonic Band: CANTUS ITINERIS, Eunoia Junior College Auditorium (bright hill mrt), free
- Phil Studio: Rock - Charity fundraiser for supporting education in Cambodia., Phil's Studio @ High Street Centre L3 (clarke quay/city hall), $25 Fundraiser
Event Nights & Parties 10
- DJ, CULTURE : Back 2 Two Thousands Presents One Direction & Friends, Cherry Discotheque @ 133 Cecil Street (cbd), $31
- DJ, Cruise Rakyat with CT Selecta 🇲🇾 and HEAVYITCH (DJ Itch b2b DJ VinylHeavy's vintage asian boogie disco city pop), the projector golden mile tower, tix 🎟 $15
- DJ, LOCO Parties pres. BAD NEWS - Metro Boomin x Kanye Night, Projector X Golden Village @ Cineleisure Orchard L5 L6 , $28
- DJ, Gabbar Bistro x DJ Mass - Bollywood , Gabbar Indian Bistro at CQ @ Clarke Quay
- DJ, AFROGROOVE SG - Afrofusion Friday - Limehouse Farewell Party , members CLUB EL PICO @ 6 Hongkong St (clarke quay), tix 🎟 $15
- DJ, Flashback Friday by UnfilteredPresents (2000s pop to high school musical), hard rock cafe cuscaden (orchard), $30
- DJ, FRESH Fridays @ Here Kitty Kitty (90s 00s Hip Hop, R&B, Reggaeton), Here Kitty Kitty - Speakeasy & Cocktail Lounge @ The Cannery Clarke Quay, free
- DJ, Silent Disco - Silent Recess @ The Tuckshop Assembly with DJ Tang (90s 00s throwback mashups), The Tuckshop Assembly at 403 Guillemard Road (dakota), $12
- DJ, Club Hell: Kpop in Hell, gay lgbt club @ 113 telok ayer st
- Drag Party, Tuckshop Reopening Night, 51 Neil Road (maxwell), lgbt drag bar-club
- DJ, W Hotel Sentosa Cove DJ KiDG, wet deck 🏖
- DJ, Offtrack: Daryl Knows (deep house, jazz not jazz), 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
- DJ, Capasso Friday - DJ Rey & DJ Mery (top 40s mashup rnb, hiphop) , CAPASSO italian restaurant @ 92 Telok Ayer Street
Dance Club Guest Performers 10
- DJ, Highh Club: Slushii 🇺🇸 (monstercat edm future bass) , Highh Party @ Pan Pacific Hotel, 7 raffles blvd (esplanade, promenade), tix 🎟 $35
- DJ, Drip: presents Entity - DJ Limmy, Daniel, Kong (hiphop top40s pop edm), drip club @ 100 Orchard Rd Concorde Hotel, $27
- DJ, High House: MinGs & MIKKI SORIANO (melodic house & techno) , High House Rooftop Lounge 🗼@ 1 Raffles Place (old 1-altitude), $38
- DJ, Zouk: One Dance, zouk club clarke quay
- DJ, Tuff: BTRH feat. DEZ, JOSHUA DILLON & TMDDJ, tuff club @ 138 robinson rd cbd, $36
- DJ, Marquee: presents Creeds (🇫🇷 hardstyle techno, psy,), marquee nightclub @ marina bay sands shoppes, $30
- DJ, HQ: Thugshop Presents - ARTHUR ROBERT( 🇦🇹 hypnotic techno), headquarters techno-house club @ 66A boat quay, $36
- DJ, CÉ LA VI: PAIGE TOMLINSON (🇬🇧 90s rave, house techno, electro), marina bay sands hotel rooftop bar-club 🗼, $38
- DJ, ØGravity x Thugshop Presents - JODY WISTERNOFF (🇬🇧 progressive & deep house), MDLR club @ 62 cecil street (cbd), $40, $47
Other Arts Events
- Festival 25 Apr- 26 May: Voilah! France Singapore Festival, various
- Festival 1 - 25 May: Singapore HeritageFest 2024
- Till 11 May: Theatre - Backstage Betrayal, A Crack the Case Mystery (Some Mature Content), KC Arts Centre @ 20 Merbau Rd (robertson quay, fort canning mrt), $68
- Till 9 Jun Musical: Hamilton by Lin-Manuel Miranda, marina bay sands, $80
- 24 Apr- 25 May: European Film Festival 2024
- 16-26 May: Theatre: Paradise or the Impermanence of Ice Cream by Singapore Repertory Theatre aka STC (Advisory - Some Mature Content), KC Arts Centre - Home of STC, $53
- 16-25 May: Theatre - I and You by Lauren Gunderson (G), Gateway Theatre Bukit Merah, $35
- 8-12 May: Comedic Theatre - God of Carnage (Advisory - Some Mature Content and Coarse Language), Drama Centre Black Box @ national library (bugis), $30
- 9-12 May: Teochew Opera - The Pawned Wife 典妻 by Nam Hwa Opera, SCCC Auditorium @ 1 Straits Blvd (shenton way), IG 📸, $10
- 18-26 May Kids Chinese Theatre - 《小问号和探险家》The wee Question Mark and the Adventurer, 54 Waterloo Street (bras basah), $34
- 23-25 May: Indie Theatre: William Shakespeare's Twelfth Night, The Artground at Goodman Arts Centre (mountbatten mrt), $27
- 23-26 May: Kids Ballet - Peter & Blue's Treasure Hunt 2024 Presented by Singapore Ballet (G), School of The Arts (SOTA) Studio Theatre (bencoolen, dhoby ghaut), $35
- 10 May - 22 Sep Exhibition - Olafur Eliasson: Your curious journey, Singapore Art Museum (SAM) at Tanjong Pagar Distripark, tix 🎟 from $12
- 5-15 May: Exhibition: NTU ADM Show 2024, Tanjong Pagar Distripark
- 11-18 May: Fine Art Exhibition - Nanyang Academy of Fine Arts - Our BA (Hons) Fine Art graduating cohort, The Ngee Ann Kongsi Galleries, NAFA Campus 1, free
- 11-12 May - Anime & Comics Market: DOUJIN MARKET at Suntec City Convention Ctr, $11
- 12 May (Sun): Dance - The Dance Place 2024 Recital: An Evening at The Movies, NUS university cultural centre, $39
- 14 May (Tue): What's Your Story SLAM : FAMILY, the projector golden mile tower (nicoll highway), $40
- 15 May (Wed): Let's go Bannas Stand up Comedy - Local Flavour Comedy Show!, Phil's Studio @ High Street Centre L3 (clarke quay/city hall), free
- 15 May: Eunoia JC Drama: MIND THE GAP, Eunoia Junior College, free
- 16 May (Thu): SIAO CHAR BORS COMEDY presents NEBULOUS NIANG in SLOMOSEXUAL, the projector golden mile tower (nicoll highway)
- 18 May: Comedy - Noted With Thanks by Kuah Jenhan, wild rice @ funan (city hall), $38
- 21 May: The Ladyboss presents- STRANGERS IN-SYNC: Night of Comedy! , Monk's Brew Club at 57 East Coast Road Singapore,
- Till 31 May DJ, ARK11 Club Complementary Entry of all Moms or if you bring your mom, ARK 11 Club @ Orchard Central Mall L11
Sat, 11 May
- RADWIMPS WORLD TOUR 2024, Singapore Expo Hall 7, $168
- TesseracT (UK prog metal, djent) - WAR OF BEING WORLD TOUR 2024, L5 @ GR.iD mall (selegie), $88
- Nancy Sit 薛家燕 & Friends - Mother’s Day Celebration 爱在心中母亲节演唱会, resort world sentosa, ballroom, $118
- 'EK THA RAJA' BADSHAH LIVE IN SINGAPORE 2024 (🇮🇳 hip hop), Singapore Expo Hall 5, ft YUNG RAJA $148
- Konsert Dato’ Jamal Abdillah Seniman Berjasa (G), The Star Vista Theatre (buona vista), $98
- Mediacorp GOLD 905’s Solid Gold Night, Simply Retro BaClub by Tin Box @ CHIJMES, $88
- 25 Years of Ska Love – Gerhana SKA Cinta - Timeless Rhythm (ska reggae rocksteady ska-punk), capitol theatre city hall, tix 🎟$68
- Indie HC: Destiny "To See Another Day" Release Show ft Doldrey, xdesterx, FUSE, Chaosphere, punk, old dm, hardcore gig, aliwal arts centre (kampong gelam, nicoll highway, $28
- Indie Rock Gig: BOY DINNER - Pines, Blindside, Bear the Remedy, Second Chance, Sound, Quitline, $20
- Indie Rock Gig: CTRL CHAOS, MONDA(E), INTERMISSION, Last Minute, Phil's Studio @ High Street Centre L3 (clarke quay/city hall), tix 🎟 $15
- Music Matters Live Festival Schedule and the conference Creator Week
- Fountain Square Afternoon: DAY 4 - Adrian Dzvuke 🇦🇺, Dhruv Visvanath 🇮🇳, Jewel Owusu 🇦🇺 , Peej 🇵🇭, Eleanor Whisper 🇮🇩, RANGGA JONES , the center area of CQ @ clarke quay fountain square, free
- Fountain Square Night: Girls Night Out - MATILDE G, JHM (AU), JOYA (HK), Celine Wanyi (HK), Mali (IN), Nao Yoshioka (JP), Emma Dilemma (NZ), Marian Carmel
- Senor Taco Stage: DAY 3 - COUNT VERNON, Oliver Cronin 🇦🇺, Balu Brigada 🇳🇿, Teo Glacier🇳🇿 ), Señor Taco restaurant livehouse at CQ @ Clarke Quay, free
- HIPHOP RNB at IKI: Mic Check with Josh Makazo, Berywam 🇫🇷, ARlo Maverick 🇨🇦, Adrian Dzvuke 🇦🇺, Who Shot Scott 🇳🇿, club iki @ ikigai izakaya riverwalk (clarke quay), pop, R&B, afrobeats and hip-hop free
- It's a girl thing TALK: Singapore Edition - Inch Chua, Preeti Nair, Marian Carmel, Mali, JOYA, Matalie Dau et al., free with RSVP, tix 🎟
- Singapore Chinese Orchestra: Mother‘s Day Concert 2024 母亲节音乐会 2024 - 慈母心 by SCO - Day 2 of 2 , Singapore Conference Hall @ 7 Shenton Way, $38 =
- Singapore Symphony Orchestra: SSO Symphony Ball 2024 - SSO Benefit, The Ritz-Carlton, Millenia Singapore, uh $10k
- Cool Cats: Jamie Aditya presents Funky Town (soul and funk) - day 3 of 3, nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $28
- Jazz Loft: JAPANESE FUSION WONDERLAND with Eric Lee and M.I.C, Blu Jaz L3 @ bali ln (bugis), $24,
- Maduro Jazz: Mellow Mixtape by Mila Vidanovic (soul jazz pop), maduro @ sofitel sentosa, $38++ drink credits
- Irish Music and Plays: Lasalle's Red Dot Green Dot 2024 - celebrating Ireland and Singapore culture, LASALLE college of the arts (rochor), $40
- Choral: Resonance of Singapore - Nonsensical Notes - Songs of Innocence by The ROS Singers, Yong Siew Toh Conservatory main Concert Hall, tix 🎟, $17
Esplanade Pesta Raya Festival 11
- ES Theatre - Bawang Putih Bawang Merah by by Teater Ekamatra, Waterfront Theatre, IG 📸 $45 soldout
- ES Performances: Jalan Raya by Zarina Muhammad, in collaboration with local artists- Day 3 of 3, Annexe Studio 1 3 and 5pm, $22
- ES Music Kids: tikTOKtik – Children’s Storytelling by Kelana Purba, and folk songs, dikir barat, Indoor Concourse 230 345pm, free
- ES Music Kids: JUARA MIC JUNIOR di Pesta Raya by The Stars of JMJ, Outdoor Theatr 3pm 415pme, free
- ES Dance: Mak Yong by Kumpulan Mak Yong Cahaya Matahari & PUSAKA, Waterfront Theatre Lawn 6pm, free
- ES Music: Sanggar Seni by Kelana Purba and Makyong Kedek (dikir barat), Courtyard 645pm, free
- ES Music: Nadi Singapura x Djangat - ethnic folk percussion and electronic soundscapes, Outdoor Theatre 7pm 815 930pm, free
- ES Music: Malam Balada by Zalelo & Fauzie Laily - M-pop ballads and raya hits , Indoor Concourse 730pm 830 930pm, free
- ES Kids storytellling: Tales from the Nusantara: The Legend of Hang Tuah and the White Crocodile by Malay Heritage Centre & Hafiz Rashid, PIP's PLAYbox 1145, 115 3pm, free
- ES: Self-guided Craft: Make Your Own Kad Raya! by Quirky Offdays, Indoor Concourse 2-5pm, free
- ES Talk: Evolutionary Tales: Stories of Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow by Dr Azhar Ibrahim, Ridhwan Saidi & Syafiqah Jaaffar, Bay Room 2pm, free RSVP
- ES Dance Workshop: Workshop: Introduction to Mak Yong – Menghadap Rebab by Kumpulan Mak Yong Cahaya Matahari & PUSAKA, Rehearsal Studio 11am , free
- ES Music Workshop : Workshop: Gondang Kayat - The 3 Drums of Sajarangan by Djangat, Rehearsal Studio 2pm, free
- OTHERS
- 11-13 May: Party & Live Band, Chu-Hi Fiesta, Yoasobi by Kanpai 33-35 Pekin Street , Far East Square(telok ayer), free
- 11 May: Indie Theatre Ancient Opera: The Inanna Project, At Centre 42 @ 42 Waterloo Street (bras basah mrt), $20
- The Projector Cineleisure Orchard: Day 1- Mother's Day w The Staircase Duo (pop, rock, acoustic), Projector X Golden Village No Spoilers Box Office Bar @ Cineleisure Orchard L5
- Chinese Drama: Hwa Chong Institutions 黄城夜韵 2024 An Evening of Drama 2024 (G) - Day 1 of 2, Gateway Theatre Bukit Merah, $18
- Dance Theatre: MahAlaya - Panchakoshas through the narratives of the 'Kurukshetra War’ and the ‘Thirumanthiram’, Alliance Française de Singapour at Newton mrt, IG 📸 $32
- Blackbird: DYRT - A 90s Grunge Tribute, Blackbird Music Bar @ Gillman Barracks (labrador park), IG 📸 free/bar
Events & Parties 11
- DJ, Intervention 5 feat. Gabber Modus Operandi 🇮🇩, queer, Projector X Golden Village No Spoilers Box Office Bar @ Cineleisure Orchard L5 , IG 📸 $22
- DJ, SHiOCK x Manifest - House of Mayhem with DJ IMX & Denz Devarez 🇳🇱🇿🇦 - ft Aphad & YZ, Wallich Manor Lounge @ Sofitel City Centre Hotel L6 (tg pagar), [tix 🎟](ttps://eventbrite.sg/e/895772428447) $15
- DJ 🏖, GrooveTop: Hip Hop Pool Party ft. Secret Pals, Durio & AKA Sounds, El Chido 1 Hill Street, Pullman Singapore (city hall), $25
- DJ, Flashback Saturday 90s & 2000s Hip Hop x RnB, Blu Jaz @ bali ln (bugis), $11
- Party Queer: SALUD - united by music - eurofashion, salud cocktail bar @ 19 keong saik rd (maxwell), tix 🎟 $25
- DJ,🏖 Fuego Night: Afro Beach 5.0, Sand Bar 53 Siloso Beach Walk, $35
- ==DJ, Jugaad: The Revolution - Night Of Bollywood X Punjabi Bangers by Untamed, hard rock cafe cuscaden (orchard), $30==
- DJ, Club Hell: Sleepover in Hell, gay lgbt club @ 113 telok ayer st, $30
- Drag Party, The KasiCunt Ball: Yin & Yang, MDLR club @ 62 cecil street (cbd), tix 🎟 $58
- After Party: KasiCUM, MDLR club @ 62 cecil street (cbd),
- ==DJ, 10-11 May: Neil Conversion, Unleash pres. Unhinged - circuit party bar in sg, 43 Neil Road (maxwell), lgbt gay bar-club==
- DJ, Zodiac Bar Night Party, gay bar at 50 prinsep st (bencoolen)
- Drag Party, RIOT! LABOUR 11th MAY 2024, hard rock cafe cuscaden (orchard), $15
- DJ, Offtrack: Bongomann (deep house) and Sigmond Fn (aka fzpz), 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
- DJ, Highh Club: ASSEMBLY MAYHEM @ Highh School, Highh Party @ Pan Pacific Hotel, 7 raffles blvd (esplanade, promenade), $20,
- DJ, W Hotel Sentosa Cove Daryl Knows, wet deck 🏖
- DJ 🏖 , Groovetop - Hip Hop Pool Party with Secret Pals, AKA Sounds, Duriop, Pullman Hotel Hill Street pool (city hall), $25
- DJ, HighHouse Fred E & XTVA (melodic techno & trance) , High House Rooftop Lounge 🗼@ 1 Raffles Place (old 1-altitude), $38
- DJ, NoSleepClub - Excessive heat ft DJs Moss and Nez Senja (rnb hiphop), No Sleep Club @ 20 Keong Saik Rd (outram/maxwell)
- DJ, Neon Pigeon - Mothers I’d Love To Feed., Neon Pigeon @ 36 Carpenter St (clarke quay)
Club Guest Performers 11
- DJ, ARK 11: AMBER NA 藍星蕾 (🇲🇾 chinese style edm) , ARK 11 Club @ Orchard Central Mall L11, IG 📸 $25
- DJ, .WAV(Y) Remixed Presents: DAVE NUNES (🇳🇱House, Afro, Baile Funk, and Amapiano) with PRAV, XG & KNRCK, Mortar & Pestle rooftop bar @ 269 South Bridge Rd, $27
- DJ, Cherry: Cherry Discotheque: How I met your mother? edm, 133 cecil st (cbd), $22
- DJ, Zouk: Slime Hip Hop Battle, Glithc, Popparazzi, zouk club clarke quay
- DJ, Marquee: Marquee Astrolab, marquee nightclub @ marina bay sands shoppes, $20
- DJ, Tipsy Unicorn Lizzy Wang (🇨🇳Tech House) , tipsy unicorn beach club, tix 🎟 $25
- DJ, ArtBeyond X CIEL: Electric Playa! Ft. Patrice Bäumel (🇩🇪 techno) & Guy Mantzur), Rumours Beach Club 🏖 @ 40 Siloso Bch Walk, Sentosa, tix 🎟 $48
- DJ HQ: Thugshop Presents - UFO95 [LIVE, 🇧🇪 techno], headquarters techno-house club @ 66A boat quay, $36
12 May, Sun - Mother's Day
- Concert at Botanic Gardens: SSO Mother’s Day Concert 2024 by Singapore Symphony Orchestra, singapore botanic gardens, shaw foundation symphony stage, free
- Retro Rani by Mediacorp 968, orchid country club, ballroom (yishun), $89
- Indie Hiphop Rnb: PRIVATE FUNCTION 5 - Fahmy., Lucky Levi, SUBHAS, Martin Spacely, CHRISKRIS, BCKNIP, AE$OP CA$H, Phil's Studio @ High Street Centre L3 (clarke quay/city hall), $16
- Indie Screamo, HC Grind Gig: ANGUISH IS FOR LOVER - 🇲🇾: TERDERITHA , Dasawarsa, Rugh, 🇸🇬: ANJING, Mordhau, C.A.S.S (Tibetan Punk Band) , moved to rad studio 345, new info $20
- Crust Punk: Subconscious (🇮🇩 Batam crust) ft Istilah, Vitriol, Topsy Turvy, lithe style (house) near rochor mrt, $20
- Jazzy Ukulele Mother's Day with Daniel Purnomo & Fabian Lee, Crane OCBC at Wisma Atria Orchard, $10 to $30
- SOTA Wind Ensemble x Dunman High Symphonic Band: Where the Sky Meets the Sea, Victoria Concert Hall, $10
- Choral: Songs From Our Childhood - an educational programme by The ROS Singers, National Library Building, Level 1, Lobby, free, dont worry if registrations are full - its open
- Strings & Melodies: A Family Musical Adventure with violinist Alexander Suptel and Alexandra Novicova, At 36/38 Armenian Street, $58 for 2
- Indie Theatre - Ancient Music Songs: An Open Work Session & Dialogue with Thomas Richards, Centre 42 at 42Waterloo Street, $20
- The Projector Cineleisure Orchard: Mother's Day w The Staircase Duo (pop, rock, acoustic), Projector X Golden Village No Spoilers Box Office Bar @ Cineleisure Orchard L5
- Indie Rock Math Pop Gig: Amberhill Motion & Bloom - Album Launch ft MAXIME & ELO ELO, Esplanade Recital Studio, tix 🎟 $25
Esplanade - Pesta Raya Malay Festival Last
- ES Music: Hidup Pop Yeh Yeh! (Long Live Pop Yeh Yeh!) by Dato’ Jeffrydin, Dato’ L. Ramli, S. Mariam & Masdo 🇲🇾, Concert Hall 8pm, $40
- ES Music: Dangdut Koplo Extravaganza! by Ochi Alvira & Syahiba Saufa 🇮🇩, Annexe Studio 5pm 8pm, $40 soldout
- ES Folk Music and Kids Storytelling: tikTOKtik – Children’s Storytelling by Kelana Purba, Indoor Concourse 230 345pm, free
- ES Music Children's: JUARA MIC JUNIOR di Pesta Raya by The Stars of JMJ, Outdoor Theatre 3pm 415pm, free
- ES Theatre - Bawang Putih Bawang Merah by by Teater Ekamatra, Waterfront Theatre, IG 📸 $45 soldout
- ES Dance: Mak Yong by Kumpulan Mak Yong Cahaya Matahari & PUSAKA, Waterfront Theatre Lawn 6pm, free
- ES Music: Irama Nostalgia with Angklung Empire, Indoor Concourse 630 730pm, free
- ES Music: Sanggar Seni by Kelana Purba and Makyong Kedek, Courtyard 640pm, free
- ES: The Cliffters with The Impian Batiks (60s band, malay, english songs) , Outdoor Theatre 7pm 815pm, free
- ES Music Workshop w Kids: Parent-Child Workshop: Angklung Fun! by Angklung Empire , Rehearsal Studio 11am, $30 for 2
- Workshop for all: Angklung Workshop by Angklung Empire , Rehearsal Studio 2pm, $15
- ES Storytelling Kids: Tales from the Nusantara: The Legend of Hang Tuah and the White Crocodile by Malay Heritage Centre & Hafiz Rashid, PIP's PLAYbox 1145 3 415pm, free
- ES Activity: Self-guided Craft: Make Your Own Kad Raya! by Quirky Offdays, Indoor Concourse 2-5pm, free
- OTHERS
- Wanna Dance 2024: On Broadway - jazz, tap, ballet, contemporary, musical theatre - by Jitterbugs, Kreta Ayer People's Theatre (maxwell, chinatown), $55
- DJ Party and Market: Slow Sundays Vol. 6 - Bring Your Own Mom BYOM, DJs Bongomann, Tasha, Tyler Made, FatCatHeartAttack & the 5210 PM Crew - Loyboy, LTLX, Juhvunnn, Tanglin Gin Jungle at Dempsey Hill, 26B Dempsey Rd (napier), free/bar
- DJ, W Hotels Sentosa Cove Aldrin
- DJ, Afro-Cuban Domingos ft DJ Yuma & DJ Cam, at Ziggy Zaggy 51 Kampong Bugis (kallang riverside park)
13 May, Mon
- elijah woods : ilu 24/7, 365 tour in Singapore, ESPLANADE Annexe Studio, $108
- Esplanade: Ebony & Ivory with Erwin Angullia featuring Nur Umairah on vocals (80s contemporary & movies, jazz-pop) Day 1 , Indoor Concourse, free
- Sonic Explorations - a collaboration with Eunoia JC MEP and What the Forte (contemporary, classical), Eunoia Junior College (bright hill), free
14 May, Tue
- Cool Cats Jazz: Homegrown Originals feat. Syakirah (jazz rnb pop classical), nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $20
- Simply Jazz: IRESON (Afro-Latin contemporary jazz), simply jazz @ CHIJMES B1 (City hall), free/book
- Esplanade: Ebony & Ivory with Erwin Angullia featuring Nur Umairah on vocals (80s contemporary & movies, jazz-pop) Day 2 , Indoor Concourse, free
- Avocado Piano - Candlelight Concert , Avocado Piano Studio at RV Point (fort canning, 233 River Valley Rod B1) , free,
- Story telling Competition: What's Your Story SLAM : FAMILY, the projector golden mile tower, , $40,
- Timbre+ One North Tribute Fest: One Night Only - Acoustic Tribute to Grunge, Blues, and Rock classics - Trevor Jalla (Ublues) and Danny Loong (Ublues & Raw Earth), Surath Godfrey (reverie), Rene Hombre (shirlyn + the unexpected), Timbre+ One North music food court/beer garden @ 73A Ayer Rajah Crescent (one-north), free
15 May, Wed
- Blackbird: Pre Tour Music Gig: Mantravine's Cosmic Goddess (tribal funk, psych), Blackbird Music Bar @ Gillman Barracks (labrador park), tix 🎟 free
- Melomania VII by What the Forte (contemporary music, experimental classical), Eunoia Junior College, tix 🎟, ) free
- Cool Cats Jazz: Hiro Maekawa Presents All About That Bass , nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $20
- Blu Jaz:The Monster Jazz Jam, Blu Jaz @ bali ln (bugis), free
- 15-21 May: ESPLANADE Workshop & Peformances: Day Out! @ with vocal coaches Dionne, Amanda and Deniece, and also bollywood dance crew Royalusion , Various locations around Esplanade, $27
- ESPLANADE: Nostalgia Colours by Khidir Surattee (singer-songwriter), Indoor Concourse, free
- DJ, Offtrack: DJ Itch - Soul Jazz Bossa Nova, 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
- DJ, HighHouse Ladies who Lounge - DJ Tang & Li.A, High House Rooftop Lounge 🗼@ 1 Raffles Place (old 1-altitude)
- Ladies night at the other clubs ofc
16 May, Thu
- Cool Cats: Rai Maia presents Soul Sessions (neo-soul hiphop) - day 1 of 3, nco club @ 32 beach rd (esplanade), $28
- 15-21 May: ESPLANADE Workshop & Peformances: Day Out! @ with vocal coaches Dionne, Amanda and Deniece, and also bollywood dance crew Royalusion , Various locations around Esplanade, $27
- ESPLANADE: Rex (singer-songwriter, indie), Indoor Concourse, free
- Swee Lee Clarke Quay: Open Mic, Swee Lee Clarke Quay, free
- Mad & Midas: SHELF SESSIONS: Live Music featuring The Jukuleles, Mad & Midas cocktails @ 39 ann siang hill (maxwell), free
- (Thai) Club Slim AOF PONGSAK & POP PONGKOOL, Excelsior Shopping Ctr L2, (city hall, 5 coleman st opp funan)
- iki: ROYAL BEATZ - Afrobeats, Hip Hop, R&B, club iki @ ikigai izakaya riverwalk (clarke quay), free, .
- DJ, 🏳️🌈 TAURUS SUNZ: Welcome to The Waldorf! , Salud @ 19 Keong Saik Road (maxwell), $28
- DJ, Offtrack: Daryl Knows, 34 North Canal Rd (bs hong lim park, clarke quay), music gastro bar
- There's more but word limit and time constraints means i'll update again over the week. Check back again
2024.05.09 06:10 vondhuch Help me find my favorite cartoon!
Every time na may class suspension o absent ako due to sakit, katamaran o walang baon, may naabutan ako na palabas sa GMA 7 tuwing umaga pagkatapos ng unang hirit.
Lalaki yung main character na may blue hat with bell sa dulo. Nakatira siya sa isang small town tapos lagi siya nag d-drive, di ko na matandaan yung kulay ng sasakyan niya. Pula or blue yung damit niya at pinaka-memorable sa akin yung bagpipe niya plus yung dalawang kontrabida na mukhang mga adik na ewan hahaha.
Ilang taon ko na iniisip, nag try din ako mag search pero hindi ko mahanap. Gusto ko sana mapanuod din siya ng magiging anak ko soon.
Help me, please!
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Lalaki yung main character na may blue hat with bell sa dulo. Nakatira siya sa isang small town tapos lagi siya nag d-drive, di ko na matandaan yung kulay ng sasakyan niya. Pula or blue yung damit niya at pinaka-memorable sa akin yung bagpipe niya plus yung dalawang kontrabida na mukhang mga adik na ewan hahaha.
Ilang taon ko na iniisip, nag try din ako mag search pero hindi ko mahanap. Gusto ko sana mapanuod din siya ng magiging anak ko soon.
Help me, please!
2024.05.08 15:22 UltimateTraders 5/8/2024 Daily Plays $YOU and ACMR score a 99 please check their earnings to see why! Need to check 10Qs I have only checked brief headlines, MTCH guide down but ill buy that dip! I may speculate on COIN and DKNG keep trading CAR CVS I did trade OSCR that had a 99 score Tried CVNA puts again!
Good morning everyone. An absolute flood of earnings since yesterday’s closing bell:
KLXE 40 IGIC 75 NVEI 60 DEI 60 IPAR 60 CERT 65 INTA 80 ERO 65
KE 55 ODD 80 [Slight revise up too] AGO 75 PRPL 60 LDI 55 MEC 70
RRR 60 SD 60 GIFI 60 KGC 75 DH 60 VTOL 70 ARIS 80 DO 85 CRCT 60
USPH 60 LEU 50 HCKT 65 GO 55 [Revised down] FLYW 60 TPFM 40
CRC 30 [Sales down 55%] BIO 60 ICHR 55 SCOR 50 LAND 60 UIS 65
ARKO 65 PRO 65 ALAB 85 [Speculative growth stock?] PSTL 70 ENV 70
STKS 55 KIND 65 OLO 70 CMP 60 MEG 55 MRCY 50 DV 65 [Lowered Guidance]
RPD 65 NATR 60 POWI 65 SWIM 55 SNCR 65 AMRK 50 AWR 65 FTK 60
TMCI 60 MTW 60 CHRD 60 EGY 75 RMR 60 SHLS 55 [Lowered Guidance]
SVC 60 BL 75 ANGI 65 HY 80 RDDT 60 AMRC 60 AZPN 75 CDRE 55
AIZ 80 BRP 75 JKHY 60 KD 65 HEAR 70 GMED 90 GXO 60 MTCH 65 [Revise down, I will buy on weakness I see the value in a 10-11x PE] MYGN 65 PWSC 60
SMWB 70 REAL 65 RYAM 60 MGY 65 IAC 60 BROS 85 ANDE 55
ATER 45 [Sales down 42%, sandbag] BKD 65 CLOV 70 [Revise up] MASI 75
PEN 75 PUBM 80 [Revise up] CFLT 75 ICUI 75 MCK 60 NVRO 65 LAZR 65
HASI 90 OPK 55 OXY 55 PR 55 VECO 70 SONO 55 GNL 60 RIVN 60 [Good growth though] QYLS 75 ZI 65 [Lowered Guidance] RNG 70 GPRO 60 [Sandbag] LOPE 75
TOST 60 [Raised guidance though] LYFT 75 [Getting Better] PRTS 65 EA 60
TWLO 75 [Slow Guidance looking at 5-10% growth] ANET 80 RVLV 60 UPST 65 [Sandbag, lowered guidance] SPCE 50 [Revenue under 2 million, REALL!?] KTOS 85
CRSR 60 CRUS 75 WYNN 80 HALO 75 IRBT 65 RDFN 90 [Raised guidance, big bottom line beat] AOSL 70 CPNG 60 IEP 55 FOX 65 IMXI 60 SMRT 55 TGNA 60
GLP 55 ASC 65 ALIT 60 VCEL 65 AY 65 HLLY 60 SATS 55 MMI 65 GNE 65
GFF 80 BAM 55 MCFT 55 [YOY declines in sales and earnings, don’t care to Sandbag]
PAYO 80 KLTR 75 VSH 60 BCO 80 MIDD 55 BKSY 60 TRIP 75 HAIN 60
VERX 70 VVV 60 LCII 80 DIN 55 PFGC 60 NYT 75 BBGI 65 NFE 70 RMBL 60
GENI 60 BR 60 QRTEA 60 SHOP 75 [Lowered Guidance] AFRM 75 [Good growth 51% but still lost 43 cents per share] REYN 65 SUN 65
PERI 80 [This is because valuation was on the floor, they did sandbag, but a 6-7x PE for a software company!? Revise up] TEVA 60 RCM 60 STWD 60 EMR 75 UBER 60 [Great company, growth is slowing, maturing] ODP 55 INSW 70 TH 65 DCO 65 PRKS 65 LEV 60
DINO 60 [1 Billion Buyback] WWW 65 ELAN 65 TBLA 70
ACMR 99 [105% growth and making money!] EPC 70 INGR 60 LL 50 [Sad years ago this was a monster!] LPX 95 YOU 99 [35% growth, double EPS] OPFI 75
I actually spent about an hour last night looking at earnings as well. It is important to always check earnings. A company can make 1 bad decision 1 day and can change the whole path of a company. Each quarter you can see if the company is on the same path.
For instance, SHOP and TWLO earnings were good… but the growth has slowed, they are both maturing at the moment. Can you give these companies the same 50x PE ratio you once did, when they grew 20%+ [Remember, for me, growth has to be at least 20% year over year (This is because on a good year you can see 10-20% for SP500) For me hyper growth has to be at least 30%] UBER earnings weren’t good, I scored it a 60, much of this has to do with the growth and high teens and now the valuation… I was big on UBER a couple of years ago as growth was near 40% and they were just on the brink of making money, at that time, if you recall, the stock was in the 20s! I traded it a lot. You can do a search:
Here at Ultimate traders
Type in UBER
The point is, when you buy a stock, unless you have confidence they will always adapt, you must check every quarter. Earnings season is the best time to make or lose money, to add or subtract stocks to your watch list..
The honest truth…
If you are trading companies coming off an 85+ score, unless it has a PE above 40-50 chances are you will not lose….
I generally like, if possible to be trading companies with at least a 75, this means that the company beat top and bottom line estimates [Both! By at least 5%, that they also had a 5% earnings growth and 10% sales growth year over year! THIS IS FOR MY PROTECTION!] Yes, I am a hard grader, I care about my money!
If you are trading companies with a 65 score, that means they just met analysts estimates, and barely grew sales and earnings… That is like a toss up in the direction of the company… a toss up with what will happen with the stock…. If you are stuck, you are stuck! You can decide to take a loss… because waiting for a company to turn it around generally takes 4-6 quarters, [12 to 18 months and that’s if they do! 90% do not]
PERI sand bagged. I figured… But it was bad news, I saw the financials and saw the insane 155 million cash flow for 2023… and the market cap was near 500 million at the lows… And I wrote a briefing here, a few weeks ago about why I was buying more.. That was stupid! PERI announced a 75 million buyback. [ I need to check report to see if they bought shares]
The MTCH revise down was not good, but a PE under 10 is stupid for the company… PYPL went past 70 and has dipped under 65, that is stupid to me… No, PYPL and MTCH arent growers anymore… PERI is growing near 8-10% this past quarter… and they are all in the dog house.. generally I don’t like dog house companies… CAR was a dog house… I better see value where a PE is like 10 or less… Where sales and earnings arent on the super declines.. that is me…
I traded OSCR which came off of awesome earnings… I do not know if it is the norm, so I wont go in big, but I will trade it again… I did want BILL at 55 [I am in 60.50] I feel a 26-27x PE for a company still growing at 20% is cheap… I can see why it should be near 70…. I will keep trading CAR. I will buy the dips in MTCH and PYPL … I may take a small risk and buy calls in COIN and DKNG if they get crushed more…
5 Trade Ideas:
MTCH – guide down, can this stock hit 28-29, I will be willing to buy 2 blocks and wait
YOU ACMR OSCR – Awesome 99 scores on earnings, let me see how the market trades them
CVS CAR – I have been abusing these tickers, no position in CAR, only CVS at 84 from 2/2023
COIN DKNG – May take small risk in calls, earnings were very good on them both
RDFN – This is purely speculative, I just added it to “Plays” numbers did get better, they did a revise up, this is still speculative, an idea, watching now
The contents of this post are for information and entertainment purposes only and does not constitute financial, accounting, or legal advice. ... By choosing to make a trade you are responsible for your own actions. Please do some due diligence. These are trades I am making and you can follow along. If you make a winning trade, I do not even expect a bravo or thanks but that’s fine, if you lose on a trade the same difference.. I do not even expect an upvote or reward… The Elite team is aware of the risks and volatility in the market.
Good luck everyone let’s make money. Share trades, ideas here during trading hours. Our main goal here is to make money so I hope we can help eachother. I will be in and out of here as well.
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KLXE 40 IGIC 75 NVEI 60 DEI 60 IPAR 60 CERT 65 INTA 80 ERO 65
KE 55 ODD 80 [Slight revise up too] AGO 75 PRPL 60 LDI 55 MEC 70
RRR 60 SD 60 GIFI 60 KGC 75 DH 60 VTOL 70 ARIS 80 DO 85 CRCT 60
USPH 60 LEU 50 HCKT 65 GO 55 [Revised down] FLYW 60 TPFM 40
CRC 30 [Sales down 55%] BIO 60 ICHR 55 SCOR 50 LAND 60 UIS 65
ARKO 65 PRO 65 ALAB 85 [Speculative growth stock?] PSTL 70 ENV 70
STKS 55 KIND 65 OLO 70 CMP 60 MEG 55 MRCY 50 DV 65 [Lowered Guidance]
RPD 65 NATR 60 POWI 65 SWIM 55 SNCR 65 AMRK 50 AWR 65 FTK 60
TMCI 60 MTW 60 CHRD 60 EGY 75 RMR 60 SHLS 55 [Lowered Guidance]
SVC 60 BL 75 ANGI 65 HY 80 RDDT 60 AMRC 60 AZPN 75 CDRE 55
AIZ 80 BRP 75 JKHY 60 KD 65 HEAR 70 GMED 90 GXO 60 MTCH 65 [Revise down, I will buy on weakness I see the value in a 10-11x PE] MYGN 65 PWSC 60
SMWB 70 REAL 65 RYAM 60 MGY 65 IAC 60 BROS 85 ANDE 55
ATER 45 [Sales down 42%, sandbag] BKD 65 CLOV 70 [Revise up] MASI 75
PEN 75 PUBM 80 [Revise up] CFLT 75 ICUI 75 MCK 60 NVRO 65 LAZR 65
HASI 90 OPK 55 OXY 55 PR 55 VECO 70 SONO 55 GNL 60 RIVN 60 [Good growth though] QYLS 75 ZI 65 [Lowered Guidance] RNG 70 GPRO 60 [Sandbag] LOPE 75
TOST 60 [Raised guidance though] LYFT 75 [Getting Better] PRTS 65 EA 60
TWLO 75 [Slow Guidance looking at 5-10% growth] ANET 80 RVLV 60 UPST 65 [Sandbag, lowered guidance] SPCE 50 [Revenue under 2 million, REALL!?] KTOS 85
CRSR 60 CRUS 75 WYNN 80 HALO 75 IRBT 65 RDFN 90 [Raised guidance, big bottom line beat] AOSL 70 CPNG 60 IEP 55 FOX 65 IMXI 60 SMRT 55 TGNA 60
GLP 55 ASC 65 ALIT 60 VCEL 65 AY 65 HLLY 60 SATS 55 MMI 65 GNE 65
GFF 80 BAM 55 MCFT 55 [YOY declines in sales and earnings, don’t care to Sandbag]
PAYO 80 KLTR 75 VSH 60 BCO 80 MIDD 55 BKSY 60 TRIP 75 HAIN 60
VERX 70 VVV 60 LCII 80 DIN 55 PFGC 60 NYT 75 BBGI 65 NFE 70 RMBL 60
GENI 60 BR 60 QRTEA 60 SHOP 75 [Lowered Guidance] AFRM 75 [Good growth 51% but still lost 43 cents per share] REYN 65 SUN 65
PERI 80 [This is because valuation was on the floor, they did sandbag, but a 6-7x PE for a software company!? Revise up] TEVA 60 RCM 60 STWD 60 EMR 75 UBER 60 [Great company, growth is slowing, maturing] ODP 55 INSW 70 TH 65 DCO 65 PRKS 65 LEV 60
DINO 60 [1 Billion Buyback] WWW 65 ELAN 65 TBLA 70
ACMR 99 [105% growth and making money!] EPC 70 INGR 60 LL 50 [Sad years ago this was a monster!] LPX 95 YOU 99 [35% growth, double EPS] OPFI 75
I actually spent about an hour last night looking at earnings as well. It is important to always check earnings. A company can make 1 bad decision 1 day and can change the whole path of a company. Each quarter you can see if the company is on the same path.
For instance, SHOP and TWLO earnings were good… but the growth has slowed, they are both maturing at the moment. Can you give these companies the same 50x PE ratio you once did, when they grew 20%+ [Remember, for me, growth has to be at least 20% year over year (This is because on a good year you can see 10-20% for SP500) For me hyper growth has to be at least 30%] UBER earnings weren’t good, I scored it a 60, much of this has to do with the growth and high teens and now the valuation… I was big on UBER a couple of years ago as growth was near 40% and they were just on the brink of making money, at that time, if you recall, the stock was in the 20s! I traded it a lot. You can do a search:
Here at Ultimate traders
Type in UBER
The point is, when you buy a stock, unless you have confidence they will always adapt, you must check every quarter. Earnings season is the best time to make or lose money, to add or subtract stocks to your watch list..
The honest truth…
If you are trading companies coming off an 85+ score, unless it has a PE above 40-50 chances are you will not lose….
I generally like, if possible to be trading companies with at least a 75, this means that the company beat top and bottom line estimates [Both! By at least 5%, that they also had a 5% earnings growth and 10% sales growth year over year! THIS IS FOR MY PROTECTION!] Yes, I am a hard grader, I care about my money!
If you are trading companies with a 65 score, that means they just met analysts estimates, and barely grew sales and earnings… That is like a toss up in the direction of the company… a toss up with what will happen with the stock…. If you are stuck, you are stuck! You can decide to take a loss… because waiting for a company to turn it around generally takes 4-6 quarters, [12 to 18 months and that’s if they do! 90% do not]
PERI sand bagged. I figured… But it was bad news, I saw the financials and saw the insane 155 million cash flow for 2023… and the market cap was near 500 million at the lows… And I wrote a briefing here, a few weeks ago about why I was buying more.. That was stupid! PERI announced a 75 million buyback. [ I need to check report to see if they bought shares]
The MTCH revise down was not good, but a PE under 10 is stupid for the company… PYPL went past 70 and has dipped under 65, that is stupid to me… No, PYPL and MTCH arent growers anymore… PERI is growing near 8-10% this past quarter… and they are all in the dog house.. generally I don’t like dog house companies… CAR was a dog house… I better see value where a PE is like 10 or less… Where sales and earnings arent on the super declines.. that is me…
I traded OSCR which came off of awesome earnings… I do not know if it is the norm, so I wont go in big, but I will trade it again… I did want BILL at 55 [I am in 60.50] I feel a 26-27x PE for a company still growing at 20% is cheap… I can see why it should be near 70…. I will keep trading CAR. I will buy the dips in MTCH and PYPL … I may take a small risk and buy calls in COIN and DKNG if they get crushed more…
5 Trade Ideas:
MTCH – guide down, can this stock hit 28-29, I will be willing to buy 2 blocks and wait
YOU ACMR OSCR – Awesome 99 scores on earnings, let me see how the market trades them
CVS CAR – I have been abusing these tickers, no position in CAR, only CVS at 84 from 2/2023
COIN DKNG – May take small risk in calls, earnings were very good on them both
RDFN – This is purely speculative, I just added it to “Plays” numbers did get better, they did a revise up, this is still speculative, an idea, watching now
The contents of this post are for information and entertainment purposes only and does not constitute financial, accounting, or legal advice. ... By choosing to make a trade you are responsible for your own actions. Please do some due diligence. These are trades I am making and you can follow along. If you make a winning trade, I do not even expect a bravo or thanks but that’s fine, if you lose on a trade the same difference.. I do not even expect an upvote or reward… The Elite team is aware of the risks and volatility in the market.
Good luck everyone let’s make money. Share trades, ideas here during trading hours. Our main goal here is to make money so I hope we can help eachother. I will be in and out of here as well.
2024.05.08 08:57 Numerous_mango_1919 Long Rant (I think), and question
TLDR; Anak saya mengalami pendarahan masif, tubuhnya gak bisa memproduksi sel darah sendiri dan dia butuh banyak transfusi darah dan platelet (trombosit). Adik saya bilang kalau kami beruntung tinggal di sini (Taiwan), karena gak perlu kesulitan mencari pendonor ke sana sini. "Kadang, mau cari 1 kantong aja, susah," katanya.
Menurut kalian, faktor apa yang membuat Indonesia kekurangan stok darah? Apakah kesadaran masyarakat untuk mendonorkan darah, masih kurang? Ataukah peran pemerintah untuk mengedukasi yang masih kurang?
Tanggal 5 Mei, anak saya masuk RS jalur IGD, karena batuk dan muntah darah yang parah, dia kehilangan sekitar 3 liter darah di rumah dan selama perjalanan ke IGD. Dan lebih banyak lagi saat sampai di IGD, tapi kami gak tau berapa banyak, karena darahnya ada di mana-mana.
Setelah pemeriksaan, pendarahannya berasal dari Varises Esofagus, yang memang sudah ada diagnosanya sejak lama. Saya gak akan jelasin detail itu apa, karena bukan inti ceritanya.
Rupture Esophageal Varices is one of the most "bloody bath" incident, according to the IGD nurses. They don't experience it that often, though. Mungkin karena tekanan darah di dalam Varises itu tinggi, jadi kalau pecah akan terjadi pendarahan masif.
Selain kehilangan darah yang (sangat) banyak, anak saya juga punya diagnosa Anemia Aplastik, basically sumsum tulangnya sudah gak memproduksi sel darah sendiri lagi. No Red blood cell, white blood cell and platelet. Jadi dia bergantung transfusi darah merah dan platelet. Kalau darah putih, it's a different story.
Setelah operasi minor untuk menutup sumber pendarahan dan sedot darah yang sempat terhirup ke paru-paru, kami fokus untuk mengembalikan volume darah yang hilang. Rencananya 30 kantong darah merah dan 30++ kantong platelet. Or even more.
As a reminder, my son's body is not be able to produce its own blood cells, the transfusions are the only way for his blood to back to the goal level. Dia sudah bergantung transfusi darah merah setiap 5-6 hari sekali dan transfusi platelet setiap 3 hari sekali.
Setelah cerita ke keluarga, adik saya bilang kalau kami beruntung tinggal di sini (Taiwan). Karena mendapatkan 30 kantong darah dan 30++ kantong platelet, kelihatan mudah. Kami gak perlu lari dari satu bank darah ke bank darah lain. Gak perlu upload minta bantuan donor ke sana sini.
I don't say Taiwan is perfect. Kalau stok darah lagi tipis banget pun, ada kok yang juga minta tolong orang untuk jadi donor pengganti. Tapi selama lebih dari 10 tahun di Taiwan, baru 1 kali saya dengar kejadian itu.
So menurut kalian, faktor apa yang membuat Indonesia kekurangan stok darah? Apakah kesadaran masyarakat untuk mendonorkan darah, masih kurang? Ataukah peran pemerintah untuk mengedukasi yang masih kurang?
Oh ya, please pray for my son. Dia sudah masuk ke ruang operasi, operasi ususnya yang stricture untuk yang ke sekian kali. :) Crohn's sucks!
Thanks, komodos!
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Menurut kalian, faktor apa yang membuat Indonesia kekurangan stok darah? Apakah kesadaran masyarakat untuk mendonorkan darah, masih kurang? Ataukah peran pemerintah untuk mengedukasi yang masih kurang?
Tanggal 5 Mei, anak saya masuk RS jalur IGD, karena batuk dan muntah darah yang parah, dia kehilangan sekitar 3 liter darah di rumah dan selama perjalanan ke IGD. Dan lebih banyak lagi saat sampai di IGD, tapi kami gak tau berapa banyak, karena darahnya ada di mana-mana.
Setelah pemeriksaan, pendarahannya berasal dari Varises Esofagus, yang memang sudah ada diagnosanya sejak lama. Saya gak akan jelasin detail itu apa, karena bukan inti ceritanya.
Rupture Esophageal Varices is one of the most "bloody bath" incident, according to the IGD nurses. They don't experience it that often, though. Mungkin karena tekanan darah di dalam Varises itu tinggi, jadi kalau pecah akan terjadi pendarahan masif.
Selain kehilangan darah yang (sangat) banyak, anak saya juga punya diagnosa Anemia Aplastik, basically sumsum tulangnya sudah gak memproduksi sel darah sendiri lagi. No Red blood cell, white blood cell and platelet. Jadi dia bergantung transfusi darah merah dan platelet. Kalau darah putih, it's a different story.
Setelah operasi minor untuk menutup sumber pendarahan dan sedot darah yang sempat terhirup ke paru-paru, kami fokus untuk mengembalikan volume darah yang hilang. Rencananya 30 kantong darah merah dan 30++ kantong platelet. Or even more.
As a reminder, my son's body is not be able to produce its own blood cells, the transfusions are the only way for his blood to back to the goal level. Dia sudah bergantung transfusi darah merah setiap 5-6 hari sekali dan transfusi platelet setiap 3 hari sekali.
Setelah cerita ke keluarga, adik saya bilang kalau kami beruntung tinggal di sini (Taiwan). Karena mendapatkan 30 kantong darah dan 30++ kantong platelet, kelihatan mudah. Kami gak perlu lari dari satu bank darah ke bank darah lain. Gak perlu upload minta bantuan donor ke sana sini.
I don't say Taiwan is perfect. Kalau stok darah lagi tipis banget pun, ada kok yang juga minta tolong orang untuk jadi donor pengganti. Tapi selama lebih dari 10 tahun di Taiwan, baru 1 kali saya dengar kejadian itu.
So menurut kalian, faktor apa yang membuat Indonesia kekurangan stok darah? Apakah kesadaran masyarakat untuk mendonorkan darah, masih kurang? Ataukah peran pemerintah untuk mengedukasi yang masih kurang?
Oh ya, please pray for my son. Dia sudah masuk ke ruang operasi, operasi ususnya yang stricture untuk yang ke sekian kali. :) Crohn's sucks!
Thanks, komodos!
2024.05.04 11:54 DescriptionFun8780 PALA SIMBA PERO BAKIT GANOON ANG UGALI?
Hi! I am Diane. It's my first time here on Reddit. Ginawa ko to para ishare yung nararamdaman ko.
I am an intro. Yep. Introvert. Bata pa lang ako mas gusto ko na nasa loob lang ako ng bahay nag babasa kesa sa labas na nag lalaro kasama ang ibang bata. Siguro dahil tampulan ako ng tukso dahil ako yung may pinaka batang edad sa klase pero ako yung pinaka matanda tignan. I really hate people. Lalo na yung mga ka age ko kasi napaka bully ng generation namin (Millenial Gen). Kaya ayun, lumaki din akong ayaw makipag friends. Ayokong masaktan.
Until, one day. Nagkaroon ako ng isang group of friends. Napaka close ng puso ko sa kanila kasi bata palang kami magkakasama na kami. Dun lang kami naging close talaga nung nag sisimula na kaming maging teens. Isang araw, may nangyari. Nilaglag nila ako. Nalaman ng pamilya ko yung kasalanang nagawa ko ( di naman crime yun, wag OA in love lang ako na di pa naman dapat ganoon ang dapat atupagin). Ilang taon din bago ko sila kinausap ulit at pinatawad. Kasi, oo nga naman. Kailangan na nila yung tulong ng family ko kasi di nila kaya yung pagka matigas ng ulo ko. Kahit na gets ko yung ginawa nila. Kahit ok naman na ang lahat nag iwan pa rin yun ng trauma sa akin. Natakot ako mag tiwala. Nagalit ako kasi pala simba siya pero bakit traydor?
Kaya nung nagkaroon ulit ako ng dalawa pang grupo ng tropa di na rin ako nag tiwala. Good choice din kasi plastic din naman yung iba. Na swerte lang ako sa isa ko pang group of friends kasi mga God fearing at good influence kaso dahil sa kurso at school na mag kakaiba halos hindi na kami nag kakausap.
I met another group of people. Yung times na takot na talaga ako ma attach ulit eh dumating sila sa life ko. As in, pinilit nila. Kahit umiiwas ako, dadayo sa bahay para makausap ako. Isasama ako palagi kahit ayaw ko. Isasama ako kahit walakompera. Akala ko totoo kasi bruh solid kami. Wala na ngang privacy. Account ng isa, account din ng lahat. Kita nga namin yung body parts na private kasi sabay nag bibihis. Tinanggap ko sila kasi yung dalawa sa tropa kong iyon mga pala simba, mga God fearing, mga active youth, mga active servant sa music department. Hinayaan ko sila na maging parte ng buhay ko kasi sabi ko sa sarili ko. Baka kailangan ko ng friends na may mabubuting ugali, may mabubuting backgrounds, may good names para naman mahila din sa mabangong side yung pangalan ko na andaming issues at para din mapabuti ako kasi nga pariwara ako at lugmok na lugmok na din sa buhay.
Kasama ko sila sa halos lahat. Kahit nga Sabado at Linggo sila pa rin kasama ko. Naging close sila sa akin at sobrang naging close ako sa kanila. Solid na solid yung bond. Proud na proud ako kasi yung isa anak ng negosyante, yung isa ganun din active pa sa church at napaka talented, yung isa anak ng politician, yung isa guitarist sa isang banda, yung isa napaka bait ng parents, habang yung isa tropa ng partner ko. Iba yung pride na nararamdaman ko kasi hindi basta basta sila. Di din naman ako mag papahuli shala shala din work ng parents ko saka meron din akong itsura at talent.
Di ko talaga inasahan na isang araw. Habang kasama ko silang nag lalakad sa daan meron akong nakitang vision. Vision at gut feeling na merong mangyayari na ikakasira namin.
March 5 dumating yung grad gift nang dad ko na bagong phone. Hiraman silang lahat pang selfie. March 13 nagkaroon kami ng final requirement and phone ko yung ginamit kasi yun yung malaki ang storage tapos maganda ang cam. Doon ako naka notice ng mali. Ako yung may ari nung phone pero halos di ko magamit. Hihiramin ko sana pang contact sa mama ko na ipasundo ako pero di ko nagawa kasi lowbat. Nalowbat kakaselfie at kakavideo nung friend ko pero di naman connected sa activity namin. Na discover ko rin na phone ko yung gamit pero deleted lahat yung caught scenes ko kaya wala akong ibang part kundi sa katapusan lang ng activity namin. Kaya kahit basang sisiw ako, bumyahe ako mag isa. Nag hanap ako ng paraan para makauwi. Wala akong contact. Gladly, nakauwi ako ng safe.
After that, tinapos ko yung group thesis. Kasama ko pa rin sila pero wala akong natanggap ni isang tulong. Lahat ng binigay kong parts sa kanila di nila ginawa. Ang pinaka masakit? Sabi nila tutulungan nila akong tumapos nun. Nag agree ang lahat na mag overnight sa bahay para tapusin yung revision ng thesis. Walang pumunta. Sabi nung isa nagka sakit siya, sabi nung isa di siya pinayagan, sabi nung isa busy siya. Maunawain ako kaya ako na gumawa kasi sabi ko maniningil na lang ako. Chinat ko yung prof para ma address yung problema ko na baka di ako maka pasa on time at maka pag defend kasi ako lang mag isa gumagawa. Nag worry din kasi ako. Grades ko din naman yung nakasalalay. Nag ask si ma'am kung nasan mga kasama ko tapos sabi kong "Ma'am palaging may rason eh ayokong mamilit". Sabi ni ma'am sabihan ko daw na alisin ko o sila ang mag defend. Kaya sinunod ko. Nag end up bilang isang palpak na project yung thesis na yun. Nalaman ko pa na ni isa sa mga palusot nila walang totoo. Lumabas pala sila tapos ang paalam nila sa mga pamilya nila ay matutulog sila sa bahay kasi tatapusin yung dapat namin natatapusin para makapag graduate kami. Nasisi ako ni friend kong pala simba. Sabi pa niya "kapag kasi sinabing gumawa, wag unahin ang jowa yan tuloy palpak kami pa napahiya". Takang taka ako kasi siya yung palaging may kasamang lalake, hindi naman ako. Sa amin lahat ako yung di masyado nakakasama ang jowa. Bakit ako yung nasisi? Bakit parang kasalanan ko?
Nasaktan ako ng sobra doon. Sinabi ko sa isang tropa ko yung nararamdaman ko pero yung sagot niya lang "hayaan mo na lang ganoon lang talaga yun". Mas lalo akong nasaktan. Umuwi akong umiiyak. Nag wala ako sa bahay. Kasi sobrang sakit. Lahat sila pinag ba block ko. Gusto ko silang icut off lahat.
Umalis ako sa gc, sa lahat ng gc na kasama sila. Na open ko yung account ng jowa ko at nakita ko na kasama pa pala siya sa gc namin. Nakita ko yung pinag chachat nung God fearing servant of the Lord ko na friend na babae.
Di ko malilimutan yung mga sinabi niya sa akin pati yung iba kong tropa. Pinag usapan ako sa oras na nag leave ako sa gc.
Sabi pa ni God fearing friend "say present kung na block na kayo ni Dee!".
Until naka basa ako ng mga words galing doon sa tropa kong isa , yung tropa na sinabihan ko ng nangyari pero sabi niya hayaan ko na lang daw? Sabi niya "Diba close si ni Yanii bakit pinaparinggan siya ni Yanii sa fb?"
Sabi pa ni God fearing friend ko "Sama kasi ng ugali!"
As far as I can remember sila yung nag sabi sa akin na wag na naming tropahin yung si Yanii kasi lahing chismosa at pakialamera di pa nakaka sama sa mga gala kasi strikto ang pamilya.
Pero ang ginawa nila sinumbong nila ako kay Yanii na ako daw may pakana ng lahat. Ako daw yung rason bakit tampulan ng chismis si Yanii at pamilya niya kahit di naman ako. Lahat naman sila may fair contribution sa nangyari kay Yanii.
Lahat ng naging topic namin sa inuman nag post din tungkol sa akin. Bakit? Kasi si God fearing friend pinag chachat sila isa isa. Ako lang yung sinumbong kahit meron din silang fair share sa chismis.
Kahit yung relasyon ko sa jowa ko sinubukan niya ring sirain. The moment na napuno yung jowa ko sa ginagawa niya sa akin kahit mahirap mag byahe talaga kinumpronta niya si God fearing friend na yun. Sabi pa ni God fearing friend "iwan mo na yan ilang beses na yan na buntis at nag palaglag doon sa baranggay kuan". Saksi ang buhay na Diyos sa langit na di yun totoo kasi alam niya kung gaano ko kagusto maging mommy sa mga anak ko someday.
Kung nag tataka kayo bakit God fearing at nakaka proud kasama yung mga tropa ko tapos may inuman at galaan?
Yun na nga! Na shock din ako kasi buong buhay ko bilang isang Kristiyano ngayon lang ako naka saksi ng mga God fearing and servant of The Lord once a week tapos nasa tagayan at galaan naman kapag di araw ng pag simba. Di ko sila iniwan, tinanggap ko sila. Sinubukan ko maging mature para sabay kaming mapunta sa tamang landas para maging okay yung future namin pero sa huli na misinterpret ni God fearing servant of the Lord yung ginagawa ko at nahikayat niya buong tropa namin na e hate ako kasi hindi ako supportive at napaka kontrabida ko raw na kaibigan kaya ang sama daw ng ugali ko. Lahat ng naging advice ko binalik sa akin at pinipilosopo ni God fearing and servant of the Lord na friend ko yung mga opinyon niya. Talagang pinagtulungan nila ako. Pinag tulungang laitin at siraan.
Sinabihan pa ako nung isang God fearing na servant of the Lord din na friend ko "Wag kang mag popost ng tungkol sa God tapos di mo ma apply sa sarili mo". Grabi yung sakit kasi kahit sila na halos tumira sa simbahan may sideline din sa inuman at adik sa fornication wala naman akong sinabi sa kanila kahit tadtad sila ng bible verses sa social media.
Grabi yung pinag daanan kong depression. Nagka PCOS din ako. Nagkaroon ng sakit sa kidney at atay kakatagay kasama nila. Habang sila patuloy sa pangungutya sa akin sa messenger tapos pinopost sa social media na sila daw yung kinakawawa ko, sinisiraan ko daw.
Tapos kapag titignan mo yung accounts nila habang ginagawa nila yung mga kabulastugan nila sa akin?
Puro positive quotes, puro bible verses, puro videos at picture na kumakanta at nag paparticipate sa Church activites.
Nung sinubukan kong ipagtanggol sarili ko sa maayos na paraan pero mas lalo akong napahiya. Pinost kumpletong pangalan pati pag mumukha ko tapos ako yung ipapabaranggay. Kasi ang main reason niya natatamaan daw sa posts ko. Pinapahiya daw kasi sila at sinisiraan. Yung posts ko puro rants naka lagay pa sa dump account tapos mga friends ko lang nakakakita. Sinali ko sila doon kasi akala ko ayos na kami kasi nag sorry naman na sila tapos biglang makikipag away kasi natatamaan daw sa posts ko, ang sama daw nung ugali ko. Nag wish lang naman ako na dapat mag mature na siya, awat na sa pag papavictim at pag vivictim blaming sa social media kasi malapit na siyang mag 30. Nagalit yung God fearing servant of the Lord ko na friend.
Nung nag try akong mag reason out sinabihan lang ako na sila, siya daw talaga yun. Kahit hindi naman. Hamakin mo kahit rants ko tungkol sa other friends ko, sa ibang classmates ko, sa jowa kahit na sa kapatid ko pinipilit niyang siya daw yung pinapahiya. Kaya sabi ko "kaya blinock kita agad noon eh kasi ayaw mo makinig at gusto mo makipag debate palagi para ma prove na ikaw yung tama.
Ayaw ko lang mag share sa kanila ng full details kasi may history na sila lalo na si Ate Girl na God fearing servant of the Lord na friend ko. History sa pag papakalat ng maling balita para maging mabango sila sa kapwa nila habang sirang sira naman yung hate nila. Kaya dahil doon, nag duda siya na sila daw yung pinapahiya ko hanggang sa every post ko inaabsorb niya.
Nagkaroon ako ng trust issues sa mga taong God fearing tignan sa social media. Umiiwas talaga ako sa mga taong grabi ka linis tignan yung socmed at sobrang bango nung name sa ibang tao.
Nag tanim ako ng galit sa mga Godly youths.
Pinayuhan ako ni mommy na dapat wag ganoon. Focus kay Lord, wag sa tao. Wag daw sana maapektuhan yung faith ko dahil sa ginawa ng mga taong simbahan sa akin. Tao lang din naman daw sila at nag kakamali. Nag sisimba sila kasi mas kailangan nilang mapalapit sa Lord para matama yung landas nila.
Sabi ko "Bakit ganoon? Bakit ako yung kailangang mag tiis para sa spiritual growth nila? Ano yan gagamiting excuse ang pagmamahal nang Ama para paulit ulit manakit sa akin? Kesyo alam nilang papatawarin sila sa mga ginagawa nila sa akin kasi mahal sila nang Lord. Kung nalilito at naliliko ang landas nila bilang isang Kristiyano, bakit ako yung kailangan maapektuhan? Bakit ako yung kailangan saktan paulit ulit para malaman nilang di tama yung ginagawa nila? Pala simba? Active servant ni Lord? Pala basa ng Bible? Bakit di magawa yung tama? Kasi ba tao sila tulad ng iba? Parang walang pinagkaiba sa taong hindi mananampalataya ah! Bakit mukhang walang alam? Kasi kung merong alam dapat hindi ginagawa ang bawal! Strikto ang church nila, lahat ng nasa bible sinusunod, nakikipag debate sa faith ng iba kasi tama daw yung sa kanila, ayaw kumain ng baboy at shellfish kasi takot mag kasala pero yung bibig kahit anong masasama at masasakit na salita ang lumalabas! Bakit ganoon?"
Sobrang sakit. Habang tinitipa ko bawat letra sa babasahin na ito. Nanunumbalik yung sakit. Hanggang ngayon hindi kami ayos.
Sobrang sakit kasi tinuring ko siya, sila na kadugo habang yung turing sa akin gamit lang na pwedeng itapon kapag di na kailangan.
Palasimba? Nag aaral sa Christian school? Bakit yung ugali parang di lang basta taong naliligaw ng landas? Mukhang isang takas sa mental eh. Normal pa na tawaging naliligaw ng landas yung taong alam niyang siya yung nagkamali at naka sakit pero yung sinasabi sa ibang tao ay sila yung nasaktan at ginawan ng mali? Yung di naman malaki yung gulo sana pero sinubukan mong imanipulate ang lahat para di ka layuan at pandirian kapag lumabas yung tunay mong ginawa at ugali! Alam niya talagang mali yung kasalanan pero paulit ulit ginagawa kasi doon siya masaya kahit pa maka sakit pa ng iba! Ugali ba ng God fearing yung mag bibitaw ng mga salita sa kapwa na "Kailangan ko tong gawin para meron akong peace of mind! Yang peace of mind mo wala akong pake! Kung gusto mo kamutin mo utak mo para gumaling!".
Tapos alam ng lahat na ganyan yung ginawa niya sa akin kahit anong buti ko sa kaniya, sa kanilang lahat. Kahit sobrang sama ang bango bango pa rin niya sa ilong ng mga tao. Mahal pa rin siya kahit napatunayan niya yung ugali niya samantalang ako na nasaktan at nag sabi lang kung ano yung naramdaman ko, ako yung nilayuan at pinangdirian.
Pero yung gusto ko pa rin ay healing
Tanggap ko naman na
Tanggap kong may mga taong ayaw tumanggap ng mali, ipipilit na sila yung tama. Hindi ko na mababago yun.
Gusto ko lang malimutan siya pati yung parte ng memorya ko na kasama ko siya at ang iba pa.
Wala eh. Mahal ko pa rin. Kahit na maraming trauma at maraming maling paniniwala ang pumasok sa utak ko dahil sa mga nangyari.
Sa huli, ang Panginoon pa rin ang nakaka alam ng tama at ipapasakanya ko na lang ang pang huhusga.
Bago ako mag tapos gusto ko lang sabihin na wala akong siniraan kasi kung meron baka nag mention na ako ng real name. Base ito lahat sa pinaka mabigat na pinag dadaanan ko.
Mensahi para sa kanila: Mahal ko kayo. Susubukan kong kalimutan yung parteng masakit sa pinag samahan natin. Kahit hindi totoo yung pag hihingi niyo ng tawad sa akin noon. Gusto ko lang sabihin na alam ko lahat ng ginawa niyo aminin niyo man o hindi pero pinili kong manahimik kahit minsan niyong hiniling yung kamatayan ko. Mahal ko kayo. Kasi kung hindi sana ay sinampahan ko kayo ng kaso nung may isa sa inyo na nag bigay ng death threat sa akin at sa mga mahal ko sa buhay. Iniisip ko na baka ginawa ko yun masira kinabukasan niyo at ayokong mangyari yun. Ito yung huling sakripisyo ko sa samahan natin. Hindi ko ilalabas lahat ng proweba ng ginagawa niyo para masira ako kahit pa araw araw akong pinag tatawanan dahil sa mga posts niyo tungkol sa akin. Sana masaya kayo sa ginagawa niyo sa akin. Salamat pala sa friendship at lessons na iniwan niyo. Hinding hindi ko yun malilimutan.
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I am an intro. Yep. Introvert. Bata pa lang ako mas gusto ko na nasa loob lang ako ng bahay nag babasa kesa sa labas na nag lalaro kasama ang ibang bata. Siguro dahil tampulan ako ng tukso dahil ako yung may pinaka batang edad sa klase pero ako yung pinaka matanda tignan. I really hate people. Lalo na yung mga ka age ko kasi napaka bully ng generation namin (Millenial Gen). Kaya ayun, lumaki din akong ayaw makipag friends. Ayokong masaktan.
Until, one day. Nagkaroon ako ng isang group of friends. Napaka close ng puso ko sa kanila kasi bata palang kami magkakasama na kami. Dun lang kami naging close talaga nung nag sisimula na kaming maging teens. Isang araw, may nangyari. Nilaglag nila ako. Nalaman ng pamilya ko yung kasalanang nagawa ko ( di naman crime yun, wag OA in love lang ako na di pa naman dapat ganoon ang dapat atupagin). Ilang taon din bago ko sila kinausap ulit at pinatawad. Kasi, oo nga naman. Kailangan na nila yung tulong ng family ko kasi di nila kaya yung pagka matigas ng ulo ko. Kahit na gets ko yung ginawa nila. Kahit ok naman na ang lahat nag iwan pa rin yun ng trauma sa akin. Natakot ako mag tiwala. Nagalit ako kasi pala simba siya pero bakit traydor?
Kaya nung nagkaroon ulit ako ng dalawa pang grupo ng tropa di na rin ako nag tiwala. Good choice din kasi plastic din naman yung iba. Na swerte lang ako sa isa ko pang group of friends kasi mga God fearing at good influence kaso dahil sa kurso at school na mag kakaiba halos hindi na kami nag kakausap.
I met another group of people. Yung times na takot na talaga ako ma attach ulit eh dumating sila sa life ko. As in, pinilit nila. Kahit umiiwas ako, dadayo sa bahay para makausap ako. Isasama ako palagi kahit ayaw ko. Isasama ako kahit walakompera. Akala ko totoo kasi bruh solid kami. Wala na ngang privacy. Account ng isa, account din ng lahat. Kita nga namin yung body parts na private kasi sabay nag bibihis. Tinanggap ko sila kasi yung dalawa sa tropa kong iyon mga pala simba, mga God fearing, mga active youth, mga active servant sa music department. Hinayaan ko sila na maging parte ng buhay ko kasi sabi ko sa sarili ko. Baka kailangan ko ng friends na may mabubuting ugali, may mabubuting backgrounds, may good names para naman mahila din sa mabangong side yung pangalan ko na andaming issues at para din mapabuti ako kasi nga pariwara ako at lugmok na lugmok na din sa buhay.
Kasama ko sila sa halos lahat. Kahit nga Sabado at Linggo sila pa rin kasama ko. Naging close sila sa akin at sobrang naging close ako sa kanila. Solid na solid yung bond. Proud na proud ako kasi yung isa anak ng negosyante, yung isa ganun din active pa sa church at napaka talented, yung isa anak ng politician, yung isa guitarist sa isang banda, yung isa napaka bait ng parents, habang yung isa tropa ng partner ko. Iba yung pride na nararamdaman ko kasi hindi basta basta sila. Di din naman ako mag papahuli shala shala din work ng parents ko saka meron din akong itsura at talent.
Di ko talaga inasahan na isang araw. Habang kasama ko silang nag lalakad sa daan meron akong nakitang vision. Vision at gut feeling na merong mangyayari na ikakasira namin.
March 5 dumating yung grad gift nang dad ko na bagong phone. Hiraman silang lahat pang selfie. March 13 nagkaroon kami ng final requirement and phone ko yung ginamit kasi yun yung malaki ang storage tapos maganda ang cam. Doon ako naka notice ng mali. Ako yung may ari nung phone pero halos di ko magamit. Hihiramin ko sana pang contact sa mama ko na ipasundo ako pero di ko nagawa kasi lowbat. Nalowbat kakaselfie at kakavideo nung friend ko pero di naman connected sa activity namin. Na discover ko rin na phone ko yung gamit pero deleted lahat yung caught scenes ko kaya wala akong ibang part kundi sa katapusan lang ng activity namin. Kaya kahit basang sisiw ako, bumyahe ako mag isa. Nag hanap ako ng paraan para makauwi. Wala akong contact. Gladly, nakauwi ako ng safe.
After that, tinapos ko yung group thesis. Kasama ko pa rin sila pero wala akong natanggap ni isang tulong. Lahat ng binigay kong parts sa kanila di nila ginawa. Ang pinaka masakit? Sabi nila tutulungan nila akong tumapos nun. Nag agree ang lahat na mag overnight sa bahay para tapusin yung revision ng thesis. Walang pumunta. Sabi nung isa nagka sakit siya, sabi nung isa di siya pinayagan, sabi nung isa busy siya. Maunawain ako kaya ako na gumawa kasi sabi ko maniningil na lang ako. Chinat ko yung prof para ma address yung problema ko na baka di ako maka pasa on time at maka pag defend kasi ako lang mag isa gumagawa. Nag worry din kasi ako. Grades ko din naman yung nakasalalay. Nag ask si ma'am kung nasan mga kasama ko tapos sabi kong "Ma'am palaging may rason eh ayokong mamilit". Sabi ni ma'am sabihan ko daw na alisin ko o sila ang mag defend. Kaya sinunod ko. Nag end up bilang isang palpak na project yung thesis na yun. Nalaman ko pa na ni isa sa mga palusot nila walang totoo. Lumabas pala sila tapos ang paalam nila sa mga pamilya nila ay matutulog sila sa bahay kasi tatapusin yung dapat namin natatapusin para makapag graduate kami. Nasisi ako ni friend kong pala simba. Sabi pa niya "kapag kasi sinabing gumawa, wag unahin ang jowa yan tuloy palpak kami pa napahiya". Takang taka ako kasi siya yung palaging may kasamang lalake, hindi naman ako. Sa amin lahat ako yung di masyado nakakasama ang jowa. Bakit ako yung nasisi? Bakit parang kasalanan ko?
Nasaktan ako ng sobra doon. Sinabi ko sa isang tropa ko yung nararamdaman ko pero yung sagot niya lang "hayaan mo na lang ganoon lang talaga yun". Mas lalo akong nasaktan. Umuwi akong umiiyak. Nag wala ako sa bahay. Kasi sobrang sakit. Lahat sila pinag ba block ko. Gusto ko silang icut off lahat.
Umalis ako sa gc, sa lahat ng gc na kasama sila. Na open ko yung account ng jowa ko at nakita ko na kasama pa pala siya sa gc namin. Nakita ko yung pinag chachat nung God fearing servant of the Lord ko na friend na babae.
Di ko malilimutan yung mga sinabi niya sa akin pati yung iba kong tropa. Pinag usapan ako sa oras na nag leave ako sa gc.
Sabi pa ni God fearing friend "say present kung na block na kayo ni Dee!".
Until naka basa ako ng mga words galing doon sa tropa kong isa , yung tropa na sinabihan ko ng nangyari pero sabi niya hayaan ko na lang daw? Sabi niya "Diba close si ni Yanii bakit pinaparinggan siya ni Yanii sa fb?"
Sabi pa ni God fearing friend ko "Sama kasi ng ugali!"
As far as I can remember sila yung nag sabi sa akin na wag na naming tropahin yung si Yanii kasi lahing chismosa at pakialamera di pa nakaka sama sa mga gala kasi strikto ang pamilya.
Pero ang ginawa nila sinumbong nila ako kay Yanii na ako daw may pakana ng lahat. Ako daw yung rason bakit tampulan ng chismis si Yanii at pamilya niya kahit di naman ako. Lahat naman sila may fair contribution sa nangyari kay Yanii.
Lahat ng naging topic namin sa inuman nag post din tungkol sa akin. Bakit? Kasi si God fearing friend pinag chachat sila isa isa. Ako lang yung sinumbong kahit meron din silang fair share sa chismis.
Kahit yung relasyon ko sa jowa ko sinubukan niya ring sirain. The moment na napuno yung jowa ko sa ginagawa niya sa akin kahit mahirap mag byahe talaga kinumpronta niya si God fearing friend na yun. Sabi pa ni God fearing friend "iwan mo na yan ilang beses na yan na buntis at nag palaglag doon sa baranggay kuan". Saksi ang buhay na Diyos sa langit na di yun totoo kasi alam niya kung gaano ko kagusto maging mommy sa mga anak ko someday.
Kung nag tataka kayo bakit God fearing at nakaka proud kasama yung mga tropa ko tapos may inuman at galaan?
Yun na nga! Na shock din ako kasi buong buhay ko bilang isang Kristiyano ngayon lang ako naka saksi ng mga God fearing and servant of The Lord once a week tapos nasa tagayan at galaan naman kapag di araw ng pag simba. Di ko sila iniwan, tinanggap ko sila. Sinubukan ko maging mature para sabay kaming mapunta sa tamang landas para maging okay yung future namin pero sa huli na misinterpret ni God fearing servant of the Lord yung ginagawa ko at nahikayat niya buong tropa namin na e hate ako kasi hindi ako supportive at napaka kontrabida ko raw na kaibigan kaya ang sama daw ng ugali ko. Lahat ng naging advice ko binalik sa akin at pinipilosopo ni God fearing and servant of the Lord na friend ko yung mga opinyon niya. Talagang pinagtulungan nila ako. Pinag tulungang laitin at siraan.
Sinabihan pa ako nung isang God fearing na servant of the Lord din na friend ko "Wag kang mag popost ng tungkol sa God tapos di mo ma apply sa sarili mo". Grabi yung sakit kasi kahit sila na halos tumira sa simbahan may sideline din sa inuman at adik sa fornication wala naman akong sinabi sa kanila kahit tadtad sila ng bible verses sa social media.
Grabi yung pinag daanan kong depression. Nagka PCOS din ako. Nagkaroon ng sakit sa kidney at atay kakatagay kasama nila. Habang sila patuloy sa pangungutya sa akin sa messenger tapos pinopost sa social media na sila daw yung kinakawawa ko, sinisiraan ko daw.
Tapos kapag titignan mo yung accounts nila habang ginagawa nila yung mga kabulastugan nila sa akin?
Puro positive quotes, puro bible verses, puro videos at picture na kumakanta at nag paparticipate sa Church activites.
Nung sinubukan kong ipagtanggol sarili ko sa maayos na paraan pero mas lalo akong napahiya. Pinost kumpletong pangalan pati pag mumukha ko tapos ako yung ipapabaranggay. Kasi ang main reason niya natatamaan daw sa posts ko. Pinapahiya daw kasi sila at sinisiraan. Yung posts ko puro rants naka lagay pa sa dump account tapos mga friends ko lang nakakakita. Sinali ko sila doon kasi akala ko ayos na kami kasi nag sorry naman na sila tapos biglang makikipag away kasi natatamaan daw sa posts ko, ang sama daw nung ugali ko. Nag wish lang naman ako na dapat mag mature na siya, awat na sa pag papavictim at pag vivictim blaming sa social media kasi malapit na siyang mag 30. Nagalit yung God fearing servant of the Lord ko na friend.
Nung nag try akong mag reason out sinabihan lang ako na sila, siya daw talaga yun. Kahit hindi naman. Hamakin mo kahit rants ko tungkol sa other friends ko, sa ibang classmates ko, sa jowa kahit na sa kapatid ko pinipilit niyang siya daw yung pinapahiya. Kaya sabi ko "kaya blinock kita agad noon eh kasi ayaw mo makinig at gusto mo makipag debate palagi para ma prove na ikaw yung tama.
Ayaw ko lang mag share sa kanila ng full details kasi may history na sila lalo na si Ate Girl na God fearing servant of the Lord na friend ko. History sa pag papakalat ng maling balita para maging mabango sila sa kapwa nila habang sirang sira naman yung hate nila. Kaya dahil doon, nag duda siya na sila daw yung pinapahiya ko hanggang sa every post ko inaabsorb niya.
Nagkaroon ako ng trust issues sa mga taong God fearing tignan sa social media. Umiiwas talaga ako sa mga taong grabi ka linis tignan yung socmed at sobrang bango nung name sa ibang tao.
Nag tanim ako ng galit sa mga Godly youths.
Pinayuhan ako ni mommy na dapat wag ganoon. Focus kay Lord, wag sa tao. Wag daw sana maapektuhan yung faith ko dahil sa ginawa ng mga taong simbahan sa akin. Tao lang din naman daw sila at nag kakamali. Nag sisimba sila kasi mas kailangan nilang mapalapit sa Lord para matama yung landas nila.
Sabi ko "Bakit ganoon? Bakit ako yung kailangang mag tiis para sa spiritual growth nila? Ano yan gagamiting excuse ang pagmamahal nang Ama para paulit ulit manakit sa akin? Kesyo alam nilang papatawarin sila sa mga ginagawa nila sa akin kasi mahal sila nang Lord. Kung nalilito at naliliko ang landas nila bilang isang Kristiyano, bakit ako yung kailangan maapektuhan? Bakit ako yung kailangan saktan paulit ulit para malaman nilang di tama yung ginagawa nila? Pala simba? Active servant ni Lord? Pala basa ng Bible? Bakit di magawa yung tama? Kasi ba tao sila tulad ng iba? Parang walang pinagkaiba sa taong hindi mananampalataya ah! Bakit mukhang walang alam? Kasi kung merong alam dapat hindi ginagawa ang bawal! Strikto ang church nila, lahat ng nasa bible sinusunod, nakikipag debate sa faith ng iba kasi tama daw yung sa kanila, ayaw kumain ng baboy at shellfish kasi takot mag kasala pero yung bibig kahit anong masasama at masasakit na salita ang lumalabas! Bakit ganoon?"
Sobrang sakit. Habang tinitipa ko bawat letra sa babasahin na ito. Nanunumbalik yung sakit. Hanggang ngayon hindi kami ayos.
Sobrang sakit kasi tinuring ko siya, sila na kadugo habang yung turing sa akin gamit lang na pwedeng itapon kapag di na kailangan.
Palasimba? Nag aaral sa Christian school? Bakit yung ugali parang di lang basta taong naliligaw ng landas? Mukhang isang takas sa mental eh. Normal pa na tawaging naliligaw ng landas yung taong alam niyang siya yung nagkamali at naka sakit pero yung sinasabi sa ibang tao ay sila yung nasaktan at ginawan ng mali? Yung di naman malaki yung gulo sana pero sinubukan mong imanipulate ang lahat para di ka layuan at pandirian kapag lumabas yung tunay mong ginawa at ugali! Alam niya talagang mali yung kasalanan pero paulit ulit ginagawa kasi doon siya masaya kahit pa maka sakit pa ng iba! Ugali ba ng God fearing yung mag bibitaw ng mga salita sa kapwa na "Kailangan ko tong gawin para meron akong peace of mind! Yang peace of mind mo wala akong pake! Kung gusto mo kamutin mo utak mo para gumaling!".
Tapos alam ng lahat na ganyan yung ginawa niya sa akin kahit anong buti ko sa kaniya, sa kanilang lahat. Kahit sobrang sama ang bango bango pa rin niya sa ilong ng mga tao. Mahal pa rin siya kahit napatunayan niya yung ugali niya samantalang ako na nasaktan at nag sabi lang kung ano yung naramdaman ko, ako yung nilayuan at pinangdirian.
Pero yung gusto ko pa rin ay healing
Tanggap ko naman na
Tanggap kong may mga taong ayaw tumanggap ng mali, ipipilit na sila yung tama. Hindi ko na mababago yun.
Gusto ko lang malimutan siya pati yung parte ng memorya ko na kasama ko siya at ang iba pa.
Wala eh. Mahal ko pa rin. Kahit na maraming trauma at maraming maling paniniwala ang pumasok sa utak ko dahil sa mga nangyari.
Sa huli, ang Panginoon pa rin ang nakaka alam ng tama at ipapasakanya ko na lang ang pang huhusga.
Bago ako mag tapos gusto ko lang sabihin na wala akong siniraan kasi kung meron baka nag mention na ako ng real name. Base ito lahat sa pinaka mabigat na pinag dadaanan ko.
Mensahi para sa kanila: Mahal ko kayo. Susubukan kong kalimutan yung parteng masakit sa pinag samahan natin. Kahit hindi totoo yung pag hihingi niyo ng tawad sa akin noon. Gusto ko lang sabihin na alam ko lahat ng ginawa niyo aminin niyo man o hindi pero pinili kong manahimik kahit minsan niyong hiniling yung kamatayan ko. Mahal ko kayo. Kasi kung hindi sana ay sinampahan ko kayo ng kaso nung may isa sa inyo na nag bigay ng death threat sa akin at sa mga mahal ko sa buhay. Iniisip ko na baka ginawa ko yun masira kinabukasan niyo at ayokong mangyari yun. Ito yung huling sakripisyo ko sa samahan natin. Hindi ko ilalabas lahat ng proweba ng ginagawa niyo para masira ako kahit pa araw araw akong pinag tatawanan dahil sa mga posts niyo tungkol sa akin. Sana masaya kayo sa ginagawa niyo sa akin. Salamat pala sa friendship at lessons na iniwan niyo. Hinding hindi ko yun malilimutan.
2024.05.02 08:24 CommercialEnd6772 Uang susu dan Uang tepai
Untuk yang pernah punya pengalaman atau cerita pernikahan etnis tionghoa, boleh info besaran uang susu dan tepai itu berapa ya 🤣🤣🤣
Jd adik aku mau nikah, tapi ini pernikahan pertama dikeluarga. And we confused how much "uang susu" should be given to pihak perempuan, krn ga ada pengalaman. Bokap nyokap (anak tunggal dua duanya) dulu ga pake acara uang susu uang susu soalnya.
Ive already asked some of my friends but some of them ga pake uang susu, dan yang lain cuma jawab "besaran tiap org beda2" but from my family we would like to appreciate the girl's family appropriately, tp kadang takut angkanya kekecilan.
Kita bukan dr upper class sih, dan calonnya juga bukan dr upper class, tengah2 aja. Jd kita bingung angka2nya dan adik aku ga enak nnya calonnya
Terima kasih sblmnyaa 🙏🙏🙏
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Jd adik aku mau nikah, tapi ini pernikahan pertama dikeluarga. And we confused how much "uang susu" should be given to pihak perempuan, krn ga ada pengalaman. Bokap nyokap (anak tunggal dua duanya) dulu ga pake acara uang susu uang susu soalnya.
Ive already asked some of my friends but some of them ga pake uang susu, dan yang lain cuma jawab "besaran tiap org beda2" but from my family we would like to appreciate the girl's family appropriately, tp kadang takut angkanya kekecilan.
Kita bukan dr upper class sih, dan calonnya juga bukan dr upper class, tengah2 aja. Jd kita bingung angka2nya dan adik aku ga enak nnya calonnya
Terima kasih sblmnyaa 🙏🙏🙏
2024.04.30 10:11 its_paradoX123 Not emotionally intelligent
Just wanna share my frustration about sa partner ko. May mga taong hindi na need ng long explanation maiintindihan pa din ung sinasabi mo, may mga tao din naman na need ng long explanation pra maintindihan, but not my partner. Ginawa ko na lahat ng makitang kong ways on explaining things pra maintindihan nya. Long explanation, short explanation, may main point na kasama, naka bulleted form na yet hinding hindi nya magets ung gusto kong iparating. Gaya na lng ngayon, ang laking big deal nanaman sakanya neto, gusto nyang pumunta dto (ldr kami) pero i suggest na okay lng if hindi nya kaya ksi hindi pa sya sumasahod, provider pa sya ng mga kapatid nya. Student pa lng ako and sya nmn nag drop and piniling mag work. Ayun nga hindi pa sya nasahod and may mga bills pa syang need bayaran like upa, wifi and pang kain nila. Sinabi ko na okay lng if hindi muna kami magkita ksi kahit ako walang budget sa pag stayhan namin. Nag bbike lng ksi sya papunta dto (100km layo namin) and gusto ko na comfortable sya pagdating nya dto. Wala kaming budget as for now knowing na madami din syang need bayaran. Inexplain ko sakanya na maiintindihan ko nmn and everything but guess what, ayaw ko daw syang papuntahin. Medyo naiinis ako and na h-hurt ksi kahit anong paliwanag ko hindi nya maintindihan, kailangan nyang iprioritize ung mga bayarin nya bago ako pero ito inaasal sakin ngayon. Ako nagiging masama, naiinis na ako ksi palagi na lng ako nammisunderstood kahit na napaka dali na lng intindihin ng sinasabi ko. Mas pinili nya ung nasa isip nya na mali kesa na pakinggan/ basahin mga sinasabi ko. Ang kitid ng pag iisip nya to the point na gusto nya sya ung nasusunod, gusto nya aminin ko ung nasa isip nya ket di nya nmn aminin alam ko un. Gusto nya nasa tama sya ksi pag hindi nya narinig sakin un pag aawayan namin ng sobrang haba yan and ang ending ako nanaman ang may mali. I dont know how to deal with this person ksi pinipili nyang wag intindihin, pinipili nyang wag makinig. My friends warned me about this and ito nanaman ako.
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2024.04.28 00:38 caule07 Reddit itu seperti apa?
Reddit itu cara mainnya seperti apa ya? Bercerita atau bagaimana menurut kalian pengguna app yang sudah lama?
Karena saya masih baru disini dan melihat cerita orang seru-seru dan ya saya suka membacanya.
Tikok untuk melihat video lucu but the comment bisa dibilang sudah bisa tercemar gitu, F untuk mencari informasi tapi kebanyakan bapak-bapak main burung, then g sekarang yang paling better, twiter sangat frontal tapi bisa juga menjadi tempat berkeluh kesah untuk diri sendiri. setelah ketemu reddit seperti balik ke dimana sosial media masih natural dan no gimmick tempat berkeluh kesah dan bertanya paket kumplit.
Terimakasih untuk pengalaman baru dan saya merasa bernostalgia.
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Karena saya masih baru disini dan melihat cerita orang seru-seru dan ya saya suka membacanya.
Tikok untuk melihat video lucu but the comment bisa dibilang sudah bisa tercemar gitu, F untuk mencari informasi tapi kebanyakan bapak-bapak main burung, then g sekarang yang paling better, twiter sangat frontal tapi bisa juga menjadi tempat berkeluh kesah untuk diri sendiri. setelah ketemu reddit seperti balik ke dimana sosial media masih natural dan no gimmick tempat berkeluh kesah dan bertanya paket kumplit.
Terimakasih untuk pengalaman baru dan saya merasa bernostalgia.
2024.04.21 06:40 novkriz puhhh sepuhh ajarin dong puhh
 | Pada zaman dahulu, tersebutlah kisah seorang puteri raja di Jawa Barat bernama Dayang Sumbi. Dia mempunyai seorang anak laki-laki yang diberi nama Sangkuriang. Anak tersebut sangat gemar berburu dia berburu dengan ditemani oleh Tumang, anjing kesayangan istana. Sangkuriang tidak tahu, bahwa anjing itu adalah titisan dewa dan juga bapaknya. Ketika kembali ke istana, Sangkuriang menceritakan kejadian itu pada Ibunya. Bukan main marahnya Dayang Sumbi begitu mendengar cerita itu. Tanpa sengaja dia memukul kepala Sangkuriang dengan sendok nasi yang dipegangnya. Sangkuriang terluka. Dia sangat kecewa dan pergi mengembara. Setelah kejadian itu, Dayang Sumbi sangat menyesali dirinya. Dia selalu berdoa dan sangat tekun bertapa. Pada suatu ketika, para dewa memberinya sebuah hadiah. Dia akan selamanya muda dan memiliki kecantikan abadi. Setelah bertahun-tahun mengembara, Sangkuriang akhirnya berniat untuk kembali ke tanah airnya. Sesampainya disana, kerajaan itu sudah berubah total. submitted by novkriz to rdatadao [link] [comments] Di sana dijumpainya seorang gadis jelita, yang tak lain adalah Dayang Sumbi. Terpesona oleh kecantikan wanita tersebut maka, Sangkuriang melamarnya. Oleh karena pemuda itu sangat tampan, Dayang Sumbi pun sangat terpesona padanya. Pada suatu hari Sangkuriang minta pamit untuk berburu. Dia minta tolong Dayang Sumbi untuk merapikan ikat kepalanya. Alangkah terkejutnya Dayang Sumbi ketika melihat bekas luka di kepala calon suaminya. Luka itu persis seperti luka anaknya yang telah pergi merantau. Setelah lama diperhatikannya, ternyata wajah pemuda itu sangat mirip dengan wajah anaknya. Dia menjadi sangat ketakutan. Maka kemudian dia mencari upaya untuk menggagalkan lamaran Sangkurian. https://preview.redd.it/00zhln3vhrvc1.png?width=1340&format=png&auto=webp&s=66f1ef4b1beca6db52f61cbb2de4b283fea27427 |
2024.04.20 07:22 Sad-School-6604 What's shared in Reddit, should stay in Reddit
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I am feeling distressed. Actually I don't know what to feel right now. Halo halo. I just woke up feeling super sad, super empty. Drama. Like I wanted to cry for no reason then andaming pumasok sa isip ko.
I was just reading a story here in this sub about their circle of friends at ang dami kong narealize, or probably I already know but I'm just not paying attention to it.
I (25F) had a circle of friends that I've been with since childhood. A (26M), B (26M), C (26F) and D (25F) are my somehow distant relatives and we grew up being friends and classmates together from elem to highschool. Daming away bata, pero at the end of the day, solid pa din kami.
Kahit nung magstop ako sa uni at magtrabaho at the age of 18, they never stopped being my friends. I remember na C and D were with me when I first applied for a job as a call center agent. I don't know the BPO industry. I know nothing about it, but I am proficient with the English language kahit noong elementarya pa lang, so when a headhunter asked me if I'm interested, I said yes. Actually kahit anong job lang talaga ina-apply-an ko. Nung time na yon, kahit sales lady lang. Ang pera namin at most 2h to 3h lang. D had 3h and both C and I only have around 2h. We went there at 11 AM and went home around 3 AM the next day at natanggap naman ako.
We only ate once around lunch time pa. Hahaha! Sabi ko pa sa kanila around 5 PM, mauna na sila umuwi, kaya ko na. Pero hindi nila ako iniwan kasi alam nila yung problem sa bahay at na kailangan ko sobra ang trabaho. Ang pameryenda lang samin ng company is one cup noodles at biscuit tapos water from water dispenser. Hindi ko kinain, binigay ko sa kanila kasi candy na lang kinakain nila nung time na yon. Ayaw pa nila tanggapin, kaso sabi ko nakakain na ako, to which is hindi pa naman. Sobra lang akong nahihiya at naaawa sa kanila. Tapos while waiting sa result ng interview, around 2 AM, nagkausap pa kami na "may takeout kami kanina na tirang chicken sa mang inasal diba? Kinain namin sa cr." Tapos tawanan kami kasi bakit sa cr? Nahihiya daw sila doon sa company kumain kasi maamoy. Noong time na yon, tawa lang kami ng tawa. But now, looking back, while I sacrifice my chance to go to school, they also sacrifice their time and patience para makakuha ako ng trabaho. I was very very grateful sa kanilang dalawa, until now. Tanda ko pa din na nangako akong sa unang sahod ko, treat ko sila, but hindi ko s'ya nagawa agad. It was a few months after pa kasi sobrang daming gastos sa bahay at hindi ko naman nahahawakan ang pera at ang ATM ko to be honest. Pero nabibigyan naman ako ng sapat na baon at pera pangpasok ulit sa work. I had no qualms or misgivings about it. Happy ako makatulong sa bahay.
That time, C and D are in college (they went to different university). C went to a state uni taking financial management while D, who's a bit well off, went to an expensive uni taking customs administration hehe. Me? I was working. For the first year, almost ever weekend kasama sina A and B, na ibang uni din pinapasukan since A chose to go to a uni in a different province to be a policeman, B chose a marine university to be a seafarer, kumakain kami sa labas. Not expensive. Lomi lang. Hahaha! I remember ang dami naming napuntahan na places nearby sa barangay lang namin ha, na lomian talaga. Sometimes ako yung nalilibre kahit ako yung may trabaho which I super duper appreciate talaga.
Since we all went different ways, may mga friendships na mabubuo sila sa college at ako naman sa work. However, I'm the type of person na aakalain mong extrovert kasi I can talk to everyone happily pero I can never open up about a lot of things. Parang I build walls? Na recently ko lang narealize. Around second year of working, we slowly became busy. Sobrang dami nilang school works, at ang daming projects, papers, etc.
(Medyo magulo but I already took two years in college kaso I stopped so at this point, they were all in their third yr to fourth yr in college.)
I realized na we're slowly losing our weekends getaway, papunta sa nawawalan na din kami ng time magreach out sa isa't isa. Then, I noticed that whenever I want to tag them sa memes sa FB or send them memes thru messenger, may iba na silang tinatag or may ibang nagsshare na sa kanila. Especially with C and D.
I remember, I think this was back in 2021. I saw a post about a trio that I can super relate that's about us. Pero nung makita ko yung post, si D pala ang nagshare tapos tagged ang dalawa sa friends n'ya sa college. Understand ko ha, it's just that I can't help but be jealous like, hindi ba ako ang naaalala n'yo sa ganito? Hahaha. Idk. That's so petty of me.
Then, starting from there, I noticed everything I don't want to. It was that I was the only one tagging them sa memes, reaching out and saying "kamusta?" on our GCs. Sending funny videos and memes. They never did that to me. Even until now. Nagsesend pa din ako ng kung ano ano sa "patay" naming GC. Hahaha. Because I still treat them as my main group of friends, even if they don't think the same about me,, although tatlo na lang kami sa GC since may asawa na pareho sina A and B and we don't want their wives to feel jealous about the things we talk about kasi alam n'yo naman siguro, na altho walang malisya, may napapagusapan pa din kaming naught things sa GC namin, so we created a new one na tatlo lang kami.
Right now, I really really felt sad.
Nakagraduate na din naman ako last year although two year course lang, but until now, I don't have the motivation to work. Parang naburnout ako? I want to look for a job, kaso I don't know how to start, and no, I'm not soliciting advises kasi I know how to start, but like I don't have a motivation or something. Magulo? Hahaha. Super. Pati utak ko.
Although, job hopper ako before I went back to school, I started working when I was 18 and it lasted until I was 23. Kahit madalas na sinasabi sakin na, "mas madami nagagastos mo at napapapunta sa'yo kaysa sinusulit mo sa bahay", I felt like I was really really burnout. Like ayokong kumilos, ayokong maligo, ayokong kumain. Tulog nga lang ako ng tulog, kaya taba ako ng taba. Hahahaha. Kain tulog cellphone lang ako. Palamunin. Like a money sucking bitch. Hahahaha.
Adik nga ako ngayon sa pagbabasa ng manhwa, and reading things unrealistically like rebirth wishing for it to be true. Sobrang lagi kong naiisip, can I go back to when I was 17? Before my father was diagnosed with cancer, before he died, before I started working and before being forced to grow up?
I don't know. Siguro kung mababasa to ng mga kapatid ko or ng nanay ko, iiyak sila tapos ako pa ang masusumbatan. Like "hindi naman kita pinilit magtrabaho, gusto kitang makatapos din agad. Pinipilit kitang magaral." That's true. Most of it was my fault, totoo namang pinilit ni nanay na wag ako magquit ng school, since madami scholarships na mapapasukan, kaso yung araw araw na gastos? Baon, pamasahe, pagkain, school projects, libro? I remember pa sabi ng kuya ko, ang luho ko kasi. Mayabang kasi ako. Akala mo anak mayaman. I'm not. Sobrang takaw ko lang talaga. Pero may tama din s'ya. Hahahaha. Kasi I've never really realized na mahirap kami. My mother? Naglalabada or nangangatulungan at times. My father? Driver. Kulang na kulang sa pamilya namin tapos kung makabili ako ng softdrinks at chichiriya dati, kala mo nga naman anak mayaman.
Ahh. You know, recently like a year ago? ko narealize yung implication ng isa sa mga sitwasyon namin sa bahay. Siguro under 10 years old ako noon. Lima kami sa bahay. Kumakain, ang sampung pisong tuyo, may apat na piraso. Ang ulam namin, sabaw ng kape at tagiisang tuyo. "Bakit kape lang sa'yo, tay?" "Ulo ng tuyo ang paborito ko, akin na kung ayaw n'yo." Naiiyak ako ngayon kasi naalala ko, hindi naman sa paborito n'ya ang ulo ng tuyo kung hindi kulang sa aming lima ang apat na piraso kaya ulo lang nakakain n'ya.
I missed tatay ah. Grabe. Hahahaha. Kung siguro, hindi s'ya maaga namatay, kahit papaano, mapapatikim namin s'ya ng maayos na buhay. Ng mamatay s'ya, we're almost there eh. Kakatapos lang ni Kuya ng college at sasakay na s'ya ng barko in a few months, nagttake lang ng boarding exam.
2017 was the worst yr we've had. He was diagnosed with cancer early June. Hospitalized for 20 days in a private hospital with a total bill amounting to more than half a million. Saan kami kumuha ng pera? Utang lahat. Hahaha! His sss and company helped. The medical card he have, helped too. He was told that he'll have at most three months to live, so he was discharged. On my birthday. But he died exactly 3 months after, with only a week before my sister's 18th birthday. I remember sabi ng tatay sa bunso namin, "ano gusto mong pagkain? Anong gusto mong handa? Dalaga na bunso namin." And she answered kahit ano. We never thought na mahahandaan nga n'ya ang bunso namin. Tumapat ng siyaman ang birthday n'ya. Bilang kagustuhan din n'ya na maipaghanda ang bunso namin, nagpacater kami kahit wala din naman kaming pera. But that celebration wasn't really for my sister's birthday, para talaga sa tatay yon. We're all mourning and grieving, but we don't have time to. Ang dami naming utang. Nabaon kami.
But years later, heto na kami. Nakabayad na ng utang, with a special help from my brother. Nakapagpaayos ng bahay. Hindi na putik ang natutungtungan namin, hindi na kami binabaha sa loob pag umuulan, hindi na pumapatak ang tubig sa mga butas sa bubong. Hindi na namin kailangang magising ng disoras ng gabi dahil nabasa ang hinihigaan namin. May kanya kanya na kaming kwarto, kung dati pangarap namin ang may pintura sa bahay, pati kwarto meron na din. May TV na kami at hindi na kailangan pukpukin para magkatao or dumayo sa kapitbahay tapos pagsasarhan ng bintana, may ref na kami at hindi na kailangang magpahabilin ng hotdog. Ang electric fan namin na hindi umiikot at iisa lang, ngayon sa sobrang dami, hindi nagagamit lahat. Hindi naman kami yumaman, pero ngayon, afford na namin yung mga bagay na hindi namin akalaing magkakaroon din kami.
A lot of things happened in the span of those years from when I was 17, 18 to now that I'm 25.
And now, my brother has his own family. He's a seafarer and is married to a very very nice and kind hearted teacher. May baby na sila. My younger sister is an engineer working for a reputable company. Ako? Nakatapos din ako ng hospitality management. Kuya ko nagpaaral sakin. Kasi napangako n'ya yon nung mamatay si tatay. Sobrang thankful ako. Pero to be honest, I don't really want to go back to school. But I was happy I did.
Lahat ng kasabayan ko, graduate na, may magagandang trabaho tapos ako, "ay call center ka lang?". Itinatawa ko lang. Hahahaha.
I don't know what I'm even saying here kasi sobrang halo halo na. Hahahaha. Sorry. I just want an outlet din or a release. I don't think I'm depressed. I also don't think I'm suicidal although the thoughts came in mind every now and then to which is almost everyday. Hahahaha. But I will not act on it.
It's just that it just felt like at some point, I was robbed of my time. I can't say that I was robbed of my childhood kasi di naman na ako bata. Hahahaha! Kind of like it felt like I was forced to grow up.
Please, don't think too badly of me. Okay lang mga 90%, pero sana may 10% na nagegets ako. Parang ang dami kong gustong sabihin, pero wala na akong maitype. Hahaha! I don't know what's the point of this pero I felt like I was able to breathe kahit papaano. It's like telling things to a stranger that I will never meet. Thank you for reading although it's very confusing and is not organized. Hahaha
It was all my fault. It was all my choice that lead me up here, that lead me to where I am now.
I'm almost 26 at wala pa akong nararating sa buhay. I've tried and I'm tired. Pagod na ako.
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I am feeling distressed. Actually I don't know what to feel right now. Halo halo. I just woke up feeling super sad, super empty. Drama. Like I wanted to cry for no reason then andaming pumasok sa isip ko.
I was just reading a story here in this sub about their circle of friends at ang dami kong narealize, or probably I already know but I'm just not paying attention to it.
I (25F) had a circle of friends that I've been with since childhood. A (26M), B (26M), C (26F) and D (25F) are my somehow distant relatives and we grew up being friends and classmates together from elem to highschool. Daming away bata, pero at the end of the day, solid pa din kami.
Kahit nung magstop ako sa uni at magtrabaho at the age of 18, they never stopped being my friends. I remember na C and D were with me when I first applied for a job as a call center agent. I don't know the BPO industry. I know nothing about it, but I am proficient with the English language kahit noong elementarya pa lang, so when a headhunter asked me if I'm interested, I said yes. Actually kahit anong job lang talaga ina-apply-an ko. Nung time na yon, kahit sales lady lang. Ang pera namin at most 2h to 3h lang. D had 3h and both C and I only have around 2h. We went there at 11 AM and went home around 3 AM the next day at natanggap naman ako.
We only ate once around lunch time pa. Hahaha! Sabi ko pa sa kanila around 5 PM, mauna na sila umuwi, kaya ko na. Pero hindi nila ako iniwan kasi alam nila yung problem sa bahay at na kailangan ko sobra ang trabaho. Ang pameryenda lang samin ng company is one cup noodles at biscuit tapos water from water dispenser. Hindi ko kinain, binigay ko sa kanila kasi candy na lang kinakain nila nung time na yon. Ayaw pa nila tanggapin, kaso sabi ko nakakain na ako, to which is hindi pa naman. Sobra lang akong nahihiya at naaawa sa kanila. Tapos while waiting sa result ng interview, around 2 AM, nagkausap pa kami na "may takeout kami kanina na tirang chicken sa mang inasal diba? Kinain namin sa cr." Tapos tawanan kami kasi bakit sa cr? Nahihiya daw sila doon sa company kumain kasi maamoy. Noong time na yon, tawa lang kami ng tawa. But now, looking back, while I sacrifice my chance to go to school, they also sacrifice their time and patience para makakuha ako ng trabaho. I was very very grateful sa kanilang dalawa, until now. Tanda ko pa din na nangako akong sa unang sahod ko, treat ko sila, but hindi ko s'ya nagawa agad. It was a few months after pa kasi sobrang daming gastos sa bahay at hindi ko naman nahahawakan ang pera at ang ATM ko to be honest. Pero nabibigyan naman ako ng sapat na baon at pera pangpasok ulit sa work. I had no qualms or misgivings about it. Happy ako makatulong sa bahay.
That time, C and D are in college (they went to different university). C went to a state uni taking financial management while D, who's a bit well off, went to an expensive uni taking customs administration hehe. Me? I was working. For the first year, almost ever weekend kasama sina A and B, na ibang uni din pinapasukan since A chose to go to a uni in a different province to be a policeman, B chose a marine university to be a seafarer, kumakain kami sa labas. Not expensive. Lomi lang. Hahaha! I remember ang dami naming napuntahan na places nearby sa barangay lang namin ha, na lomian talaga. Sometimes ako yung nalilibre kahit ako yung may trabaho which I super duper appreciate talaga.
Since we all went different ways, may mga friendships na mabubuo sila sa college at ako naman sa work. However, I'm the type of person na aakalain mong extrovert kasi I can talk to everyone happily pero I can never open up about a lot of things. Parang I build walls? Na recently ko lang narealize. Around second year of working, we slowly became busy. Sobrang dami nilang school works, at ang daming projects, papers, etc.
(Medyo magulo but I already took two years in college kaso I stopped so at this point, they were all in their third yr to fourth yr in college.)
I realized na we're slowly losing our weekends getaway, papunta sa nawawalan na din kami ng time magreach out sa isa't isa. Then, I noticed that whenever I want to tag them sa memes sa FB or send them memes thru messenger, may iba na silang tinatag or may ibang nagsshare na sa kanila. Especially with C and D.
I remember, I think this was back in 2021. I saw a post about a trio that I can super relate that's about us. Pero nung makita ko yung post, si D pala ang nagshare tapos tagged ang dalawa sa friends n'ya sa college. Understand ko ha, it's just that I can't help but be jealous like, hindi ba ako ang naaalala n'yo sa ganito? Hahaha. Idk. That's so petty of me.
Then, starting from there, I noticed everything I don't want to. It was that I was the only one tagging them sa memes, reaching out and saying "kamusta?" on our GCs. Sending funny videos and memes. They never did that to me. Even until now. Nagsesend pa din ako ng kung ano ano sa "patay" naming GC. Hahaha. Because I still treat them as my main group of friends, even if they don't think the same about me,, although tatlo na lang kami sa GC since may asawa na pareho sina A and B and we don't want their wives to feel jealous about the things we talk about kasi alam n'yo naman siguro, na altho walang malisya, may napapagusapan pa din kaming naught things sa GC namin, so we created a new one na tatlo lang kami.
Right now, I really really felt sad.
Nakagraduate na din naman ako last year although two year course lang, but until now, I don't have the motivation to work. Parang naburnout ako? I want to look for a job, kaso I don't know how to start, and no, I'm not soliciting advises kasi I know how to start, but like I don't have a motivation or something. Magulo? Hahaha. Super. Pati utak ko.
Although, job hopper ako before I went back to school, I started working when I was 18 and it lasted until I was 23. Kahit madalas na sinasabi sakin na, "mas madami nagagastos mo at napapapunta sa'yo kaysa sinusulit mo sa bahay", I felt like I was really really burnout. Like ayokong kumilos, ayokong maligo, ayokong kumain. Tulog nga lang ako ng tulog, kaya taba ako ng taba. Hahahaha. Kain tulog cellphone lang ako. Palamunin. Like a money sucking bitch. Hahahaha.
Adik nga ako ngayon sa pagbabasa ng manhwa, and reading things unrealistically like rebirth wishing for it to be true. Sobrang lagi kong naiisip, can I go back to when I was 17? Before my father was diagnosed with cancer, before he died, before I started working and before being forced to grow up?
I don't know. Siguro kung mababasa to ng mga kapatid ko or ng nanay ko, iiyak sila tapos ako pa ang masusumbatan. Like "hindi naman kita pinilit magtrabaho, gusto kitang makatapos din agad. Pinipilit kitang magaral." That's true. Most of it was my fault, totoo namang pinilit ni nanay na wag ako magquit ng school, since madami scholarships na mapapasukan, kaso yung araw araw na gastos? Baon, pamasahe, pagkain, school projects, libro? I remember pa sabi ng kuya ko, ang luho ko kasi. Mayabang kasi ako. Akala mo anak mayaman. I'm not. Sobrang takaw ko lang talaga. Pero may tama din s'ya. Hahahaha. Kasi I've never really realized na mahirap kami. My mother? Naglalabada or nangangatulungan at times. My father? Driver. Kulang na kulang sa pamilya namin tapos kung makabili ako ng softdrinks at chichiriya dati, kala mo nga naman anak mayaman.
Ahh. You know, recently like a year ago? ko narealize yung implication ng isa sa mga sitwasyon namin sa bahay. Siguro under 10 years old ako noon. Lima kami sa bahay. Kumakain, ang sampung pisong tuyo, may apat na piraso. Ang ulam namin, sabaw ng kape at tagiisang tuyo. "Bakit kape lang sa'yo, tay?" "Ulo ng tuyo ang paborito ko, akin na kung ayaw n'yo." Naiiyak ako ngayon kasi naalala ko, hindi naman sa paborito n'ya ang ulo ng tuyo kung hindi kulang sa aming lima ang apat na piraso kaya ulo lang nakakain n'ya.
I missed tatay ah. Grabe. Hahahaha. Kung siguro, hindi s'ya maaga namatay, kahit papaano, mapapatikim namin s'ya ng maayos na buhay. Ng mamatay s'ya, we're almost there eh. Kakatapos lang ni Kuya ng college at sasakay na s'ya ng barko in a few months, nagttake lang ng boarding exam.
2017 was the worst yr we've had. He was diagnosed with cancer early June. Hospitalized for 20 days in a private hospital with a total bill amounting to more than half a million. Saan kami kumuha ng pera? Utang lahat. Hahaha! His sss and company helped. The medical card he have, helped too. He was told that he'll have at most three months to live, so he was discharged. On my birthday. But he died exactly 3 months after, with only a week before my sister's 18th birthday. I remember sabi ng tatay sa bunso namin, "ano gusto mong pagkain? Anong gusto mong handa? Dalaga na bunso namin." And she answered kahit ano. We never thought na mahahandaan nga n'ya ang bunso namin. Tumapat ng siyaman ang birthday n'ya. Bilang kagustuhan din n'ya na maipaghanda ang bunso namin, nagpacater kami kahit wala din naman kaming pera. But that celebration wasn't really for my sister's birthday, para talaga sa tatay yon. We're all mourning and grieving, but we don't have time to. Ang dami naming utang. Nabaon kami.
But years later, heto na kami. Nakabayad na ng utang, with a special help from my brother. Nakapagpaayos ng bahay. Hindi na putik ang natutungtungan namin, hindi na kami binabaha sa loob pag umuulan, hindi na pumapatak ang tubig sa mga butas sa bubong. Hindi na namin kailangang magising ng disoras ng gabi dahil nabasa ang hinihigaan namin. May kanya kanya na kaming kwarto, kung dati pangarap namin ang may pintura sa bahay, pati kwarto meron na din. May TV na kami at hindi na kailangan pukpukin para magkatao or dumayo sa kapitbahay tapos pagsasarhan ng bintana, may ref na kami at hindi na kailangang magpahabilin ng hotdog. Ang electric fan namin na hindi umiikot at iisa lang, ngayon sa sobrang dami, hindi nagagamit lahat. Hindi naman kami yumaman, pero ngayon, afford na namin yung mga bagay na hindi namin akalaing magkakaroon din kami.
A lot of things happened in the span of those years from when I was 17, 18 to now that I'm 25.
And now, my brother has his own family. He's a seafarer and is married to a very very nice and kind hearted teacher. May baby na sila. My younger sister is an engineer working for a reputable company. Ako? Nakatapos din ako ng hospitality management. Kuya ko nagpaaral sakin. Kasi napangako n'ya yon nung mamatay si tatay. Sobrang thankful ako. Pero to be honest, I don't really want to go back to school. But I was happy I did.
Lahat ng kasabayan ko, graduate na, may magagandang trabaho tapos ako, "ay call center ka lang?". Itinatawa ko lang. Hahahaha.
I don't know what I'm even saying here kasi sobrang halo halo na. Hahahaha. Sorry. I just want an outlet din or a release. I don't think I'm depressed. I also don't think I'm suicidal although the thoughts came in mind every now and then to which is almost everyday. Hahahaha. But I will not act on it.
It's just that it just felt like at some point, I was robbed of my time. I can't say that I was robbed of my childhood kasi di naman na ako bata. Hahahaha! Kind of like it felt like I was forced to grow up.
Please, don't think too badly of me. Okay lang mga 90%, pero sana may 10% na nagegets ako. Parang ang dami kong gustong sabihin, pero wala na akong maitype. Hahaha! I don't know what's the point of this pero I felt like I was able to breathe kahit papaano. It's like telling things to a stranger that I will never meet. Thank you for reading although it's very confusing and is not organized. Hahaha
It was all my fault. It was all my choice that lead me up here, that lead me to where I am now.
I'm almost 26 at wala pa akong nararating sa buhay. I've tried and I'm tired. Pagod na ako.
2024.04.11 08:44 arbeyz Minta saran & masukannya dong gan
Cerita nya gini aku pribadi lagi mau Deket sama seseorang yang dulunya temen satu kampus kita udah saling kenal satu sama lain sampe sering juga diajak main kerumah dia ataupun main bareng keluar bareng nah permasalahannya selama ±3thn ini hubungan kita tuh gak jelas ntah Itu kita cuma temenan atau ngga nih,
Saran dong kalo aku mau tembak dia tapi nggak bikin canggung kalo semisal ditolak harus gimana ya agan agan semua ?
Terimakasih sebelumnya
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Saran dong kalo aku mau tembak dia tapi nggak bikin canggung kalo semisal ditolak harus gimana ya agan agan semua ?
Terimakasih sebelumnya
2024.04.08 17:40 Xanimal123 The TNI should, in fact, be called out for committing war crimes.
Kemanusiaan yang adil dan beradabThe world’s eyes are currently on Gaza right now, and for VERY good reasons. After Hamas’s October 7th attack, Israel has razed the entirety of Gaza to the ground with missile strikes, in addition to the deliberate starvation of the population in Gaza of any kind of aid like food, water, fuel, and medicine as collective punishment. Many, and I mean many, war crimes have been documented being committed by the IDF including massacres of innocent civilians, rape, and torture. Israeli officials, soldiers, and segments of the public have been astonishingly clear that they want to ethnically cleanse Gaza of all Palestinians. It’s fully obvious right now that what’s happening in Gaza is a genocidal campaign being committed by the Israeli government with the full backing and funding of the US as well as parts of the Western World.
- Sila kedua Pancasila
Some of you may see where I’m going with this, but I think it’s important for me to lay out an example that I’m sure most of you can see is pretty morally unjustifiable and use it to make analogies with what I’m gonna talk about, implicitly or otherwise.
As I’m sure most of you are aware by now, there’s been some recent discourse around the circulation of two video recordings that recently went viral on Indonesian social media where it showed a group of TNI soldiers torturing a Papuan man known as Definaus Kogoya inside a barrel filled with water that was contaminated with his blood. One of the videos shows the soldiers punching, kicking, and beating him in the head, while the other shows someone cutting him with a knife. The soldiers themselves recorded this.
The backlash against the TNI because of the video was so bad that the military had to apologize, investigating 42 soldiers and arresting 13 among them that were suspected of being involved in the torture. The TNI accused the man in the video of being a KKB member who was planning to commit arson, but there’s no evidence of this provided, with members of the man’s family claiming he was just fixing his roof along with another friend of his, Alianus Mirok, when TNI soldiers captured them.
After they were handed over to the police, they were released soon afterwards due to there being a lack of evidence against them. After Defianus was already tortured.
There are also some articles that state that Defianus died from his injuries, which if true would make this whole situation extra fucked.
However, this is far from the only incident of torture that has been committed by the TNI. In February of 2020, a civilian named Jusni was tortured to death by a group of 11 soldiers, with most of the perpetrators only getting 9 to 11 months in prison, and only 2 received a sentence of more than a year as well as getting fired.
Even more recently as I was making this, there was a recent article reporting on how TNI soldiers tortured a journalist in Northern Maluku for reporting on the TNI seizing a ship with minyak tanah and threatened to kill him unless he signed a deal where he promised to stop reporting on their activities and quit being a journalist.
The TNI always had a pattern of behaviour when it comes to this, with there having been 431 cases of torture in Papua by apparatuses happening all the way back from 1963 up until 2010, with only 2 having been committed against pro-independence militants, the rest of them being civilians. Of these cases, 65% of them were committed by the military, 34% by the police, and 1% by separatist militants.
Why was there such a high amount of torture by the military against civilians? Aside from the soldiers having a power complex over other people and for the most part feeling immunity from any kind of punishment, there’s another important reason, racism.
Sangat sulit (mengidentifikasi) karena mukanya hampir sama. Mereka brewokSo, to be clear, because TNI soldiers were incapable of telling the difference between a regular civilian and a separatist militant, they captured civilians who weren’t even involved with the militants in the first place and since they were free to do whatever they want, tortured them. Apparently, this problem is so bad that Papuan men have a term for it, musa (muka sama) because they’re afraid that they’ll be mistakenly captured as being a part of the TPNBP and tortured by TNI soldiers.
- Mayjen Izak Pangemanan, Commander of the Cenderawasih Military Area Command, when asked by the press why the military had a hard time distinguishing between civilians and militants.
Now, with the recent discourse surrounding the use of torture by the TNI in Papua, there’s been some comments by people I’m gonna refer to as “ultranationalists” that try to justify or defend what the TNI soldiers had done in Papua. Some of them are current soldiers that say that because TNI soldiers and POLRI men have been killed by TPNPB members, that they shouldn’t be held accountable for their actions. Then there are your netizens that will basically defend everything the military does and say that the people criticizing them are unpatriotic western bootlickers who should go to Papua themselves if they care so much about HAM.
To put this one straight, I strongly disagree with these deflections, I think they’re war crime apologias and I’m gonna spend the rest of my post arguing against them.
And just to be extra clear, when I say “war crimes,” to my understanding it means violations of international law (including torture) that are committed during an armed conflict, at least from what I read from the UN.
There are 2 main arguments I want to make for this case, the first are the political arguments and the second are the moral arguments.
Political Arguments
If we’re looking exclusively from a realpolitik perspective where the main goal is the integrity of the current borders of NKRI, then what happened in Papua, and most likely continuing to happen, is a fucking optical disaster, and undermines that goal entirely.
In Papua itself, stuff like this would radicalize the fuck out of your average Papuan person, imagine if you found out that a family member of yours was tortured by TNI soldiers and the perpetrators went scot-free, of course you would be fucking livid. It further erodes trust in the institutions of the state and galvanizes the pro-independence movement, as chances are they’ll either join one of the civilian pro-independence organizations, or if they’re in the more rural and mountainous areas take up arms with the TPNPB. TPNPB members don’t just come out of nowhere.
We’ve seen this phenomenon played out countless times already, torturing or oppressing a group of people with the aim to instil fear in a population and subdue them usually leads to the opposite effect. As an example, not long after Oct 7, support for Hamas, which advocates for armed resistance, has increased among Palestinians in both Gaza and the West Bank due to Israel’s incessant bombing of Gaza as well as increasing violence with Ultra-Orthodox settlers in the West Bank, while support for the Palestinian Authority has plummeted to the ground.
Internationally, it hurts Indonesia’s credibility on the world stage, turning public opinion against Indonesia’s handling of Papua. People often forget that one of the reasons why Western governments decided to no longer back Indonesia’s occupation of East Timor (may Henry Kissinger burn in hell) was because of the Santa Cruz massacre, in which Indonesian soldiers gunned down unarmed protesters that killed about at least 250 civilians, with footage of the massacre causing international outcry as well as pressure on Western governments to cut their support for Indonesia, similar to what we’re seeing in Gaza right now.
If your goal IS the integrity of the current Indonesian borders, then you should scream out of the top of your lungs to say that shit like this is unacceptable, because this just leads to the opposite effect.
Moral Arguments
As far as moral arguments go, it essentially boils down to this, torture is morally bad, no exceptions.
For one, torture has terrible effects on the victim. Physically, it can lead to chronic pain, brain damage, hearing and vision loss, cardiovascular and respiratory problems, and physical scars. It also psychologically traumatizes the victim, causing them to have depression, PTSD, sleep deprivation, and in the case of stripping the victim naked, strips them of their identity and causes shame.
Two, torture also affects society at large, as the use of torture can lead to its continued and increased use. If soldiers are allowed to torture someone without any consequences, that leads to the entire military feeling that they can get away with it, leading to more cases like Defianus.
The military should not have leeway when it comes to using extrajudicial punishments, as there’s the rule of law when it comes to stuff like this. The use of torture is a violation of the law itself, as Indonesia is a party of the ICCPR (International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights), which among other things include the prohibition of torture, as well as of UNCAT (United Nations Convention Against Torture). Heck even in the 1945 constitution of Indonesia itself, at verse 28G of chapter 10A (which is a chapter that focuses solely on human rights), it explicitly states the right to be free from torture.
“BuT HAM iS JuSt WeSTeRn SJW ProPagAnda” Pancasila&Orba_supporter_#315645, I dare you say that to our founding fathers.
If we legitimize extrajudicial torture as a legitimate form of punishment by the armed forces, who’s to say that the same tactics can’t be applied to you when you’re, say, protesting or criticizing the government? It sets a bad precedent that your civil rights don't need to be taken into account when it comes to the military or authorities for that matter, as well as further creating a culture of impunity among the military and police. I’m sure most of us here don’t want the return of the Orba regime.
Even if the victim was in fact a KKB member who has done some heinous shit, torture in general, aside from being a bad way to make someone tell the truth as it just leads to people lying in order to escape the pain, is just a harm to the individual and society as a whole, hence why I think it should be universally opposed.
Conclusion
So yeah, that about wraps up the main part of my long fucking Reddit post. Normally in a situation like this, I would just write a comment on a post and call it a day, but certain comments riled up my brain that I felt the need to write this all down.
I’ve seen the same logic espoused by Zionists to justify to their ongoing genocide in Palestine by blaming Hamas being said by Indonesian ultranationalists who try to justify the torture of Papuan civilians because of the actions of the KKB, which is EXTREMELY ironic to me, considering I know that these same people would consider themselves to be Pro-Palestine.
To be extra, extra clear, the killing of civilian workers as well as the burnings of public facilities by Papuan militants are completely unjustified and also constitute war crimes. In the same breath, I’m sure that some TNI soldiers feel pain from the loss of friends to KKB gunshots. But that’s the thing though, some of those people part of KKB probably joined the group at least initially because TNI soldiers did some fucked up shit towards either them or their family and friends, but that surely doesn’t justify their attacks on civilian workers on the vague assumption that they’re “spies for the enemy”, neither should that apply for the TNI (and in case the analogies weren’t obvious enough, this also applies to both Hamas and the IDF).
The insane number of comments, lies, and abuses that were levied against the Rohingya Refugees that landed in Aceh by netizens as well as Acehnese students shows to me how dehumanization rhetoric can affect basically everyone, it just depends on how susceptible you are to it. It’s the main reason why I decided to make this post in the first place. We shouldn’t fall into dehumanization rhetoric of an entire group of people just because of the actions of a few. Terrorism committed by the TPNPB should not give the military impunity to do whatever they want, and vice versa for that matter. If we do, we end up using the same justifications that Zionists use.
Di sila kedua Pancasila, dibilangnya kalau semua kemanusiaan itu adil dan beradab. Which to me certainly suggests that all people have equal rights, a.k.a., HAM (gasp, scary acronym). I’m not sure if ultranationalists Orba types who defend TNI soldiers torturing civilians and tell protesting students at BEM UI to KKN to Papua realize that they’re going against a literal principle of Pancasila but guess we all have our blind spots.
A few of the responses to this post will say that I’m just a stupid, unpatriotic, SJW who’s out of touch with the real situation in Papua, and maybe I am, but hey, at least I’m not a war crime apologist.
2024.04.07 07:11 tanah_jawa Main Seru: Ide Permainan Kreatif untuk Anak
Selamat datang di blog "Main Seru"! Di sini, kami akan berbagi berbagai ide permainan kreatif yang bisa membuat anak-anak Anda tetap aktif dan terhibur. Dari permainan dalam ruangan hingga permainan luar ruangan, kami memiliki banyak ide untuk mengisi waktu luang anak-anak dengan cara yang menyenangkan dan mendidik. Mari kita mulai dengan beberapa ide permainan yang pasti akan membuat mereka senang!
Itulah beberapa ide permainan kreatif yang dapat Anda coba dengan anak-anak Anda. Ingatlah bahwa permainan bukan hanya tentang bersenang-senang, tetapi juga tentang belajar dan tumbuh bersama. Semoga ide-ide ini membantu Anda menciptakan momen-momen berharga bersama anak-anak Anda! Jangan ragu untuk berbagi pengalaman Anda dengan kami di bagian komentar di bawah. Terima kasih telah membaca!
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1. Permainan "Treasure Hunt" (Petualangan Harta Karun)
Petualangan Harta Karun adalah permainan yang menyenangkan dan merangsang imajinasi anak-anak. Sembunyikan beberapa hadiah atau barang-barang kecil di sekitar rumah atau taman, dan berikan petunjuk kepada anak-anak untuk menemukan mereka. Petunjuk bisa berupa teka-teki, gambar, atau pesan tersembunyi. Biarkan anak-anak bersenang-senang mencari harta karun sambil belajar tentang kerjasama dan pemecahan masalah.2. Permainan "Indoor Obstacle Course" (Lintasan Rintangan dalam Ruangan)
Buatlah lintasan rintangan dalam ruangan dengan menggunakan bantal, kursi, dan peralatan rumah tangga lainnya. Anak-anak dapat melompati, merayap di bawah, dan mengelilingi rintangan-rintangan ini secepat mungkin. Permainan ini tidak hanya akan membantu meningkatkan keterampilan motorik mereka, tetapi juga memberikan kesempatan untuk berkreasi dan bergerak secara aktif.3. Permainan "DIY Board Games" (Permainan Papan Buatan Sendiri)
Ajak anak-anak untuk membuat permainan papan mereka sendiri! Mereka dapat membuat papan permainan, kartu, dan potongan-potongan permainan dengan menggunakan kertas, pensil warna, dan barang-barang bekas. Setelah selesai membuatnya, mereka dapat bermain bersama teman atau keluarga. Ini adalah cara yang bagus untuk merangsang kreativitas dan mengajarkan anak-anak tentang aturan dan strategi permainan.4. Permainan "Outdoor Water Balloon Dodgeball" (Dodgeball dengan Balon Air di Luar Ruangan)
Di hari yang cerah, tidak ada yang lebih menyenangkan daripada bermain dodgeball dengan balon air! Isi balon air dan bagi anak-anak menjadi dua tim. Mereka harus menghindari balon air yang dilemparkan oleh lawan sambil mencoba untuk mengenai lawan mereka dengan balon air. Ini adalah cara yang menyegarkan dan menyenangkan untuk menghabiskan waktu di luar rumah.5. Permainan "Storytelling Circle" (Lingkaran Bermain Bersama Cerita)
Buat lingkaran di sekitar anak-anak dan mintalah setiap anak untuk menambahkan satu bagian dari cerita yang sedang dibangun secara bergantian. Cerita bisa menjadi apa pun yang mereka inginkan, dari petualangan di luar angkasa hingga petualangan di hutan yang misterius. Ini adalah cara yang bagus untuk merangsang imajinasi dan keterampilan bahasa anak-anak.6. Permainan "Nature Scavenger Hunt" (Petualangan Cari Barang di Alam)
Ajak anak-anak untuk menjelajahi alam di sekitar rumah dengan permainan mencari barang. Berikan daftar barang-barang yang harus mereka cari, seperti batu, daun, atau bunga. Biarkan mereka menemukan barang-barang ini sendiri sambil menikmati udara segar dan keindahan alam.7. Permainan "DIY Musical Instruments" (Alat Musik Buatan Sendiri)
Biarkan anak-anak mengeksplorasi kreativitas mereka dengan membuat alat musik sederhana dari barang-barang rumah tangga. Mereka bisa membuat drum dari panci, shaker dari botol plastik, atau flute dari sedotan. Setelah selesai membuatnya, biarkan mereka membentuk band dan bermain musik bersama. Ini adalah cara yang menyenangkan untuk mengembangkan keterampilan musik mereka sambil berkreasi.Itulah beberapa ide permainan kreatif yang dapat Anda coba dengan anak-anak Anda. Ingatlah bahwa permainan bukan hanya tentang bersenang-senang, tetapi juga tentang belajar dan tumbuh bersama. Semoga ide-ide ini membantu Anda menciptakan momen-momen berharga bersama anak-anak Anda! Jangan ragu untuk berbagi pengalaman Anda dengan kami di bagian komentar di bawah. Terima kasih telah membaca!
2024.04.02 21:11 Legshooter99 Roast me? AMA? 3rd wipe with max traders :D
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2024.03.27 20:49 -Prizrak- Bataan Coffee-Culture(Shock)
An observation of a Manila boi who is considerably new to Bataan:
•Too many restaurants disguised as a café -Yes. Good food 🤝 shit coffee -As someone who enjoys books with a cup of coffee, it is really hard to enjoy your coffee when you are in a "café" where everyone around you is having a rice meal or pansit. It kills the vibe + ang ingay :(
•A handful of cafés claiming to be thirdwave when they're not. -Red flag talaga yung mga naglalagay ng "A thirdwave cafe in ___, Bataan" sa facebook ads. Lahat talaga pinuntahan ko huhu silly me -Yung iba nasa mismong shop logo pa. Sobrang disappointing pag natikman mo na at natanong kung bakit sila third wave.
•Price over quality -Sadly, nasa pamurahan padin tayo. Compared to our neighbours in Olongapo and Pampanga na nasa quality ang competition, very evident sa Bataan na pababaan padin ng price ang labanan. -Only a few cafés are willing to actually use good beans and raise the bar. Sobrang dami ng naka robusta blend to keep costs low +Hindi pa maayos calibration.
Hay anyways, please feel free to recommend cafés with good quality coffee kahit hindi thirdwave.
Here are a few that I enjoy:
Vaked@Sala - super payapa ambiance + Good coffee + proper café food options. Ligtas tayo sa maiingay na rice meal enjoyers huhu heaven
Dreamlatte - always the go-to when I'm in the mood for a pour-over. Beerhouse equivalent ng mga adik sa kape hahaha may get noisy sometimes pero may option ka umakyat sa mapayapang 2nd floor para makaiwas sa rice meal at pansit enthusiasts
D'Barlits - Masarap na coffee and pastries. Ang lawak ng beverage menu tapos masarap lahat kahit magkakaiba ng vibe. As an americano enjoyer, nakakabaliw lang sa part ko na ang dalas nila magpalit ng beans. May ricemeal at pansit din kaya wag kang aakyat (Main dining area) pag maraming tao haha better stay downstairs
Kurbada - Matcha yung pinunta namin dito pero wow din sa ganda ng coffee - beans roasted by Dreamlatte. Bihira makatikim ng Brazil & Ethiopia blend ng Arabica sa Bataan kaya hindi ako nakapag matcha. Payapa naman when I visited pero mukhang magulo din during dinner time dahil may pansit at steak.
Hanan - Good coffee + good cafe food options, Medyo maingay lang at mainit sa area since nasa park siya beside a court pero so far payapa dito every morning. Lawak din ng beverage menu hahaha lahat ata ng flavor meron dito eh
BFC Orani (Pag duty yung barista na marunong mag calibrate) - Payapa naman as a place pero yung kape hit or miss talaga eh hahaha tinatanaw ko muna kung duty yung maayos na barista para kahit papano hindi sayang pera ko.
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•Too many restaurants disguised as a café -Yes. Good food 🤝 shit coffee -As someone who enjoys books with a cup of coffee, it is really hard to enjoy your coffee when you are in a "café" where everyone around you is having a rice meal or pansit. It kills the vibe + ang ingay :(
•A handful of cafés claiming to be thirdwave when they're not. -Red flag talaga yung mga naglalagay ng "A thirdwave cafe in ___, Bataan" sa facebook ads. Lahat talaga pinuntahan ko huhu silly me -Yung iba nasa mismong shop logo pa. Sobrang disappointing pag natikman mo na at natanong kung bakit sila third wave.
•Price over quality -Sadly, nasa pamurahan padin tayo. Compared to our neighbours in Olongapo and Pampanga na nasa quality ang competition, very evident sa Bataan na pababaan padin ng price ang labanan. -Only a few cafés are willing to actually use good beans and raise the bar. Sobrang dami ng naka robusta blend to keep costs low +Hindi pa maayos calibration.
Hay anyways, please feel free to recommend cafés with good quality coffee kahit hindi thirdwave.
Here are a few that I enjoy:
Vaked@Sala - super payapa ambiance + Good coffee + proper café food options. Ligtas tayo sa maiingay na rice meal enjoyers huhu heaven
Dreamlatte - always the go-to when I'm in the mood for a pour-over. Beerhouse equivalent ng mga adik sa kape hahaha may get noisy sometimes pero may option ka umakyat sa mapayapang 2nd floor para makaiwas sa rice meal at pansit enthusiasts
D'Barlits - Masarap na coffee and pastries. Ang lawak ng beverage menu tapos masarap lahat kahit magkakaiba ng vibe. As an americano enjoyer, nakakabaliw lang sa part ko na ang dalas nila magpalit ng beans. May ricemeal at pansit din kaya wag kang aakyat (Main dining area) pag maraming tao haha better stay downstairs
Kurbada - Matcha yung pinunta namin dito pero wow din sa ganda ng coffee - beans roasted by Dreamlatte. Bihira makatikim ng Brazil & Ethiopia blend ng Arabica sa Bataan kaya hindi ako nakapag matcha. Payapa naman when I visited pero mukhang magulo din during dinner time dahil may pansit at steak.
Hanan - Good coffee + good cafe food options, Medyo maingay lang at mainit sa area since nasa park siya beside a court pero so far payapa dito every morning. Lawak din ng beverage menu hahaha lahat ata ng flavor meron dito eh
BFC Orani (Pag duty yung barista na marunong mag calibrate) - Payapa naman as a place pero yung kape hit or miss talaga eh hahaha tinatanaw ko muna kung duty yung maayos na barista para kahit papano hindi sayang pera ko.
2024.03.23 00:41 Optimal_Constant221 Dicariin Mantan di Facebook
Ini pertamakalinya posting di reddit Indonesia. Semoga ga salah kamar.
Aku mau cerita. Pertengahan tahun lalu mantanku waktu jaman bloon2 dulu tepatnya waktu kuliah inbox aku di fb. Aku kaget tapi seneng karena sebenernya aku juga pernah nyariin dia tapi karena dulu gak tau nama lengkapnya jadi gak pernah ketemu. Singkat cerita dulu aku ninggalin dia kalo gak salah krn kita beda agama. Eh skrg pas dia inbox ngabarin kl kita sdh seagama. Tapi dia sdh nikah. Aku juga.
Dari obrolan2 pendek aja aku ngerasa ada yg salah krn aku ngerasa sdg selingkuh walau pun kita gak ngomongin soal cinta2an. Walau perkawinanku sdg ada masalah dan perkawinannya juga ada masalah tapi aku ttp ngerasa salah. Aku seneng ketemu dia lagi tapi terus aku pamitan dan blokir dia di fb.
Sakit banget rasanya. Perkawinanku sdh di ujung tanduk. Aku sdh dapet pengacara buat ngurus semua. Aku mau berdiri sendiri krn cape punya pasangan yg tak seirama. Suatu waktu aku ingin main ke tempat mantanku itu krn dia tinggal di pulau yg indah. Tapi aku gak niat hubungin dia sih cuma kebetulan aku punya anak yg aku sponsorin juga disana. Aku mulai kerja supaya gak ngandelin suamiku. Tapi stlh kerja bbrpa bulan ternyata penyakitku makin kambuh. Aku gak bisa kerja lagi.
Aku gak mungkin berdiri sendiri lagi. Aku tergantung sama suami apalagi ada anak2. Tapi jauh didalam lubuk hatiku aku tersiksa hidup sama dia.
Anyway, Sepertinya Tuhan benar2 ngelarang aku bahkan untuk sekedar pergi ke tempat mantanku itu karena jalanku langsung diblokir lewat penyakitku. Satu hal yg aku syukuri dr bertemunya aku dgn dia lagi walau cuma di dumay yaitu aku jadi aktif bikin video di youtube. Dari Agustus smp skrg aku sdh bikin 113 video. Cuma video edit mengedit sedikit tapi itu cukup membuat kepalaku lega sedikit tiap melakukannya disamping melakukan pekerjaan rumah plus ngurus anak2.
Kpd yg membaca tolong dido'akan ya semoga suamiku kl tdk cinta lagi mau melepasku baik2.
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Aku mau cerita. Pertengahan tahun lalu mantanku waktu jaman bloon2 dulu tepatnya waktu kuliah inbox aku di fb. Aku kaget tapi seneng karena sebenernya aku juga pernah nyariin dia tapi karena dulu gak tau nama lengkapnya jadi gak pernah ketemu. Singkat cerita dulu aku ninggalin dia kalo gak salah krn kita beda agama. Eh skrg pas dia inbox ngabarin kl kita sdh seagama. Tapi dia sdh nikah. Aku juga.
Dari obrolan2 pendek aja aku ngerasa ada yg salah krn aku ngerasa sdg selingkuh walau pun kita gak ngomongin soal cinta2an. Walau perkawinanku sdg ada masalah dan perkawinannya juga ada masalah tapi aku ttp ngerasa salah. Aku seneng ketemu dia lagi tapi terus aku pamitan dan blokir dia di fb.
Sakit banget rasanya. Perkawinanku sdh di ujung tanduk. Aku sdh dapet pengacara buat ngurus semua. Aku mau berdiri sendiri krn cape punya pasangan yg tak seirama. Suatu waktu aku ingin main ke tempat mantanku itu krn dia tinggal di pulau yg indah. Tapi aku gak niat hubungin dia sih cuma kebetulan aku punya anak yg aku sponsorin juga disana. Aku mulai kerja supaya gak ngandelin suamiku. Tapi stlh kerja bbrpa bulan ternyata penyakitku makin kambuh. Aku gak bisa kerja lagi.
Aku gak mungkin berdiri sendiri lagi. Aku tergantung sama suami apalagi ada anak2. Tapi jauh didalam lubuk hatiku aku tersiksa hidup sama dia.
Anyway, Sepertinya Tuhan benar2 ngelarang aku bahkan untuk sekedar pergi ke tempat mantanku itu karena jalanku langsung diblokir lewat penyakitku. Satu hal yg aku syukuri dr bertemunya aku dgn dia lagi walau cuma di dumay yaitu aku jadi aktif bikin video di youtube. Dari Agustus smp skrg aku sdh bikin 113 video. Cuma video edit mengedit sedikit tapi itu cukup membuat kepalaku lega sedikit tiap melakukannya disamping melakukan pekerjaan rumah plus ngurus anak2.
Kpd yg membaca tolong dido'akan ya semoga suamiku kl tdk cinta lagi mau melepasku baik2.
2024.03.22 12:15 Melosiar The "games"
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THE END
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2024.03.17 12:37 habitbuddy Jual rumah warisan untuk re-investasi bisnis & financial product
Halo!
Saya di sini mau berbagi cerita sekaligus bertanya ke yang berpengalaman atau punya pengetahuan di sini. Sudah setahun ini ayah saya meninggal menyusul ibu yang sudah lebih dulu karena sakit. Warisan harta & utang sudah diterima saya dan kakak-adik sebagai ahli waris, utang sudah diselesaikan bersama dan harta sudah dibagi sesuai kesepakatan.
Saya kebagian rumah tinggal, namun sayangnya tidak ditinggali karena ada pekerjaan di luar kota. Sejak kuliah, saya udah terbiasa untuk investasi di saham, reksadana, dan deposito bank digital. Jadi saat ini lebih tertarik jika rumahnya dijual aja lalu diputar di instrumen keuangan dan investasi bisnis. Anggap saja nilai rumahnya sesuai NJOP Rp703.976.000
Berikut ini ada beberapa opsi yang sempat terlintas dan saya pelajari:
Tapi mungkin ada yang punya pengalaman serupa dan mau berbagi cerita dari perspektfi lain monggo yaa.
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Saya di sini mau berbagi cerita sekaligus bertanya ke yang berpengalaman atau punya pengetahuan di sini. Sudah setahun ini ayah saya meninggal menyusul ibu yang sudah lebih dulu karena sakit. Warisan harta & utang sudah diterima saya dan kakak-adik sebagai ahli waris, utang sudah diselesaikan bersama dan harta sudah dibagi sesuai kesepakatan.
Saya kebagian rumah tinggal, namun sayangnya tidak ditinggali karena ada pekerjaan di luar kota. Sejak kuliah, saya udah terbiasa untuk investasi di saham, reksadana, dan deposito bank digital. Jadi saat ini lebih tertarik jika rumahnya dijual aja lalu diputar di instrumen keuangan dan investasi bisnis. Anggap saja nilai rumahnya sesuai NJOP Rp703.976.000
Berikut ini ada beberapa opsi yang sempat terlintas dan saya pelajari:
- Renovasi rumah untuk disewakan dengan estimasi nilai sewa 20jutaan per tahun. Cons: harus keluar biaya perawatan setiap selesai sewa, atau ada kemungkinan sulit tersewa)
- Jual rumah seharga NJOP kemudian diputar di instrumen investasi. (Misal di SBR020-T5 6.4% per tahun selama 5 tahun = 45jt/tahun)
- Jual rumah seharga NJOP kemudian diputar di investasi bisnis yang udah mature dengan proyeksi ROI sekitar 20% per tahun = 140jt/tahun. Cons: Bisnis termasuk investasi High risk
- Jaminkan rumah untuk KPR Refinance / KUR dan digunakan untuk investasi bisnis seperti poin 3. Cons = Harus bayar cicilan per bulan & resiko gagal bayar jika bisnis sedang lesu
Tapi mungkin ada yang punya pengalaman serupa dan mau berbagi cerita dari perspektfi lain monggo yaa.
2024.03.15 15:59 Responsible-Low-2959 Am I Unkind? Please let me know your thoughts
I work with data and nagalit sakin ang "friends" ko kasi inescalate ko daw sila.
Bakit daw kelangan i-escalate sa boss at iparating sa management, friends ko daw sila bakit di ko daw sila diniretso.., pwede ko naman daw sabihin sa kanila. Mas pinili ko daw maging tama kesa maging mabuting tao. "You chose to be right, you forgot how to be kind.."
The thing though is I only asked for advice from my boss.
(not exact words but probably 80-90% accuracy)
Me: You think, I should be strict about giving data? Should I make a policy na?
Boss: Huh? Bakit?
Me: May nanghihingi kasi sakin na data, sabi naman ni compliance, discretion ko daw yun pero anything na mangyari, ako babalikan sabi nya, and any data request dapat may policy, regardless kung ano yun
Boss: ano ba yung hinihingi sayo?
Me: Ito kasi....
Boss: Ay wag mo bigay, unfair yan.. di naman ganyan dapat wag mo bibigay sino ba yan?
Me: Wala namn.. basta hinihingi lang and sanay naman ako binibigay pero kasi nga since naghigpit, na bother na ko kaya di ko na alam dapat gawin
Boss: Unfair kasi yan sa iba although yung iba may access yung iba wala ganyan..
Me: Yun nga eh, pero wala din kasi sila access kaya gusto ko ibigay kasi unfair din sa kanila, ayoko lang mabalikan kaya gusto ko malaman anong dapat?
long convo with boss.. WAG mo ibigay.. etc etc...
Boss: Sino ba kasi yan?
Me: Eh close ko kasi eh...
another long convo.. and she was insisting na WAG ko bigay..
Boss: Wag mo ibigay kasi ito nga si IT Manager, lagi na lang tumitingin dahil may access nagiging unfair sya..
I also thought, should I tell my friends, na ask ko muna kasi naghihigpit na? Or wag na? But at that time, I figured the right thing to do was not tell them. The main issue was the policy and me being bias, not them.
Sige depende na lang sa decision ni boss, kung sabihin nya na wag na bigay,..sasabihin ko sa kanila.., kung discretion ko talaga at ako bahala, eh di no questions,..bibigay ko..
long convo again.. and then..
Boss: Sino ba kasi yan?
Me: Sila "names" ano eh.. (at nasabi ko na nga din, bumigay ako)
The air shifted...
Boss: aaahhhhhhh hmmmmm...
Me: Diba, gusto ko ibigay ayaw ko lang mabalikan.. and wala nga din sila access dun, if ever kung di pwede, gawa ko policy sabihin ko na di pwede..
Boss: ahh,,, discretion mo na yan
Me: \thinking* hmmm so it changed, did her decision changed because they were my friends or it changed kasi kakilala nya din, did the tide change dahil sakin or because of their boss na close nya? So may bias din ba tong boss ko?*
*I didn't want to make a decision kasi I have a bias and whenever I have a bias, I don't make decisions especially sa work. I am observant too and with the shift in the air I knew may bias din si boss, so I have a choice to be strict OR choose my bias
Me: So discretion ko to??
Boss: Oo discretion mo na lang yan...
long convo again..
Me: ok.
*pag sabihin ng iba na unfair ako, manghingi na lang din sila, di ko naman pinagdadamot*
I SENT THE DATA TO MY FRIEND.
I thought ok na, kasi nabigay ko na yung data and final decision is discretion ko yun from my boss and the compliance officer. It's DONE.
I CHOSE MY BIAS AND FRIENDSHIP OVER "FAIRNESS". I GAVE THEM THE DATA.
I ASKED FOR ADVICE TO REMOVE MY GUILT. I WANT TO DECIDE BASED ON MY BOSS' APPROVAL.
Boss: Ganito na lang para di rin unfair sa iba, magsend tayo ng data every week for that para lahat alam at may access
Me: Aahhh ok mas maganda nga yun, sige ikaw bahala..
Boss: Sige sabihin ko ganon kakausapin ko si *boss ng 2 friends* sabihan ko sya na mag gawa tayo ng policy na mag aannounce tayo sa discord..
Me: Sige.. mas ok nga yun..
Without me thinking anything about it na kasi ok na nga yun, and I thought, yung sasabihin nya sa boss is about dun sa policy na gagawin and no reservation.. yun pala.. iba na pala yung sinabi.. lol
After mag usap ng boss ko and boss nila. Di na ko pinansin nung dalawa for about a week.
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Bakit daw kelangan i-escalate sa boss at iparating sa management, friends ko daw sila bakit di ko daw sila diniretso.., pwede ko naman daw sabihin sa kanila. Mas pinili ko daw maging tama kesa maging mabuting tao. "You chose to be right, you forgot how to be kind.."
The thing though is I only asked for advice from my boss.
(not exact words but probably 80-90% accuracy)
Me: You think, I should be strict about giving data? Should I make a policy na?
Boss: Huh? Bakit?
Me: May nanghihingi kasi sakin na data, sabi naman ni compliance, discretion ko daw yun pero anything na mangyari, ako babalikan sabi nya, and any data request dapat may policy, regardless kung ano yun
Boss: ano ba yung hinihingi sayo?
Me: Ito kasi....
Boss: Ay wag mo bigay, unfair yan.. di naman ganyan dapat wag mo bibigay sino ba yan?
Me: Wala namn.. basta hinihingi lang and sanay naman ako binibigay pero kasi nga since naghigpit, na bother na ko kaya di ko na alam dapat gawin
Boss: Unfair kasi yan sa iba although yung iba may access yung iba wala ganyan..
Me: Yun nga eh, pero wala din kasi sila access kaya gusto ko ibigay kasi unfair din sa kanila, ayoko lang mabalikan kaya gusto ko malaman anong dapat?
long convo with boss.. WAG mo ibigay.. etc etc...
Boss: Sino ba kasi yan?
Me: Eh close ko kasi eh...
another long convo.. and she was insisting na WAG ko bigay..
Boss: Wag mo ibigay kasi ito nga si IT Manager, lagi na lang tumitingin dahil may access nagiging unfair sya..
I also thought, should I tell my friends, na ask ko muna kasi naghihigpit na? Or wag na? But at that time, I figured the right thing to do was not tell them. The main issue was the policy and me being bias, not them.
Sige depende na lang sa decision ni boss, kung sabihin nya na wag na bigay,..sasabihin ko sa kanila.., kung discretion ko talaga at ako bahala, eh di no questions,..bibigay ko..
long convo again.. and then..
Boss: Sino ba kasi yan?
Me: Sila "names" ano eh.. (at nasabi ko na nga din, bumigay ako)
The air shifted...
Boss: aaahhhhhhh hmmmmm...
Me: Diba, gusto ko ibigay ayaw ko lang mabalikan.. and wala nga din sila access dun, if ever kung di pwede, gawa ko policy sabihin ko na di pwede..
Boss: ahh,,, discretion mo na yan
Me: \thinking* hmmm so it changed, did her decision changed because they were my friends or it changed kasi kakilala nya din, did the tide change dahil sakin or because of their boss na close nya? So may bias din ba tong boss ko?*
*I didn't want to make a decision kasi I have a bias and whenever I have a bias, I don't make decisions especially sa work. I am observant too and with the shift in the air I knew may bias din si boss, so I have a choice to be strict OR choose my bias
Me: So discretion ko to??
Boss: Oo discretion mo na lang yan...
long convo again..
Me: ok.
*pag sabihin ng iba na unfair ako, manghingi na lang din sila, di ko naman pinagdadamot*
I SENT THE DATA TO MY FRIEND.
I thought ok na, kasi nabigay ko na yung data and final decision is discretion ko yun from my boss and the compliance officer. It's DONE.
I CHOSE MY BIAS AND FRIENDSHIP OVER "FAIRNESS". I GAVE THEM THE DATA.
I ASKED FOR ADVICE TO REMOVE MY GUILT. I WANT TO DECIDE BASED ON MY BOSS' APPROVAL.
Me: Aahhh ok mas maganda nga yun, sige ikaw bahala..
Boss: Sige sabihin ko ganon kakausapin ko si *boss ng 2 friends* sabihan ko sya na mag gawa tayo ng policy na mag aannounce tayo sa discord..
Me: Sige.. mas ok nga yun..
Without me thinking anything about it na kasi ok na nga yun, and I thought, yung sasabihin nya sa boss is about dun sa policy na gagawin and no reservation.. yun pala.. iba na pala yung sinabi.. lol
After mag usap ng boss ko and boss nila. Di na ko pinansin nung dalawa for about a week.