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2024.05.14 06:19 Fun-Inspector-5739 38 [M4R] #California - SE Asian guy looking for new friends to voicechat, watch shows/movies/anime, or play games with!
Hi hi there! Been finding myself kind of lonely and friendless lately and late so I'm trying to make some new connections out here. Whether it be platonic (with men or women) or if it goes that way naturally, I'm also open to maybe something more (with women only). Just be honest what you're looking for is all I'm asking. Definitely more of an introvert but I can be a yapper! (don't say I didn't warn ya)
Some info about me that might be relevant:
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Some info about me that might be relevant:
- I'm of Southeast Asian descent
- Born and raised in Southern California
- Raised Buddhist but I'm not religious at all
- I love reading fantasies, manga, manhwa, manhua, sci-fi, horror, and poorly written web novels
- Hit me up if you wanna game sometimes! I play mostly on PC nowadays
- Currently focused on self-improvement (going back to school to finish up my degree in CS, try to socialize more, working out, being open to new experiences, being more mindful and just generally a better person)
- Been trying to pick up new outdoor hobbies
- Big fan of crime procedural shows for some reason (Criminal Minds, Numbers, Psych), cartoons like Furturama/Avatar:TLA, Rick and Morty, Simpsons, ect and anime (I used to be a huge weeb), shows like Friends, Psych, Numbers, ect.
2024.05.14 05:54 HelloKrisKris American worried about super submissive fiancé.
We are lesbians, but I didn’t tag this is LGBTQ+ because for you straight people, even if you don’t know any gay couples basically the dynamics are the same. At the end of the day, relationships are relationships. So please give me your advice.
I live in America and I’m currently working on the immigration process for my Filipina fiancé, she is very submissive. Its not very unusual for me as all of my friends are very passive people even here. I have a very strong and dominant personality, but I do not railroad people and I’m very considerate of others.
Here is the issue. My fiancé mentions that she will be a good wife and obey me. While I do not require being obeyed, she is very proud when she says it. She also wants to double down on her submission when we get married. She has basically told me that is when she will completely submit making her a good wife in her eyes.
In my culture submission is either about sex, religion because the man is the head of the household (which does not apply because we’re both women and not religious), or used as a cover to opt out of personal decision-making and responsibility.
I worry, she will do this and eventually become resentful, which is not how I want to start a marriage. However, the reality of it could be very satisfying for me and work well with my natural personality.
Is there an Asian or Filipino way I should be viewing this desire of hers for submission? Can I be understanding this from her cultures perspective instead of my own?
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I live in America and I’m currently working on the immigration process for my Filipina fiancé, she is very submissive. Its not very unusual for me as all of my friends are very passive people even here. I have a very strong and dominant personality, but I do not railroad people and I’m very considerate of others.
Here is the issue. My fiancé mentions that she will be a good wife and obey me. While I do not require being obeyed, she is very proud when she says it. She also wants to double down on her submission when we get married. She has basically told me that is when she will completely submit making her a good wife in her eyes.
In my culture submission is either about sex, religion because the man is the head of the household (which does not apply because we’re both women and not religious), or used as a cover to opt out of personal decision-making and responsibility.
I worry, she will do this and eventually become resentful, which is not how I want to start a marriage. However, the reality of it could be very satisfying for me and work well with my natural personality.
Is there an Asian or Filipino way I should be viewing this desire of hers for submission? Can I be understanding this from her cultures perspective instead of my own?
2024.05.14 05:31 AvantAdvent Help with racial trauma and cognitive dissonance?
A big Thank You to those who gave advice on my last post, it’s been helpful.
My apologies if the following sounds bad, it’s not, but apologies anyway.
So, I’m still working through things. I was going to post this before but then I thought I’d watch the CPTSD stream first. It was an insightful stream, had a lot of information that was useful. I’m planning to get the guide when I can. Probably rewatch the stream too/
However, some of my trauma is “race” based. And I was wondering if people had some thoughts on it?
About me: I’m mixed race. Part European and part South Asian/Southeast Asian. So half white. I want to stress this because no one else seems to care.
The cognitive dissonance comes from the fact that people keep telling me to stay in my lane. I see myself as more white. I grew up in Australia, I only know English, surrounded primarily by Caucasian people. I’m mixed race but culturally white Australian. I’m generally attracted to Caucasian women, again because it’s what I was around ground up, and it’s not like I’m attracted to any Caucasian gal. And I find women like Risa Naka or Park ShinHye attractive. Rashida Jones.
It’s not a fetish or that I’m hyping up white people. I’m attracted to what I find similar to me. What’s annoying is people setting me up with people simply because they are Indian. Or my sibling who says I’m being racist, even though their partner is white…. creating further cognitive dissonance and a feeling of helplessness. Apparently I can’t be with who I want, but others can.
I hope people can try to understand things. I’m trying to figure out a way to explain it better, but the only example I’ve got is an LGBT example. I think it’s why I understand them. That is, a trans person is born a certain way but doesn’t feel or identify that way, and bigots tell them to stay in their lane. Or a lesbian who keeps being told to date men when they aren’t attracted to them. I’m not LGBT but it’s the best example I can think of, I’m sorry to anyone who is and thinks I’m out of line for comparing.
I don’t know what I’m expecting. I guess it’s partly venting. I’m lonely and stressed and tired. And all I want is someone who is attracted to be attracted to me too. Just one.
I mean there’s probably no real answer for this, other than what my psychologist said “just be the best me I can be, be the best color person that others will meet”. So I guess it’s probably sort of pointless posting this. But I like to get answers from everywhere so I figured I’ll give it a final shot then, ignore the ignorant and do good.
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My apologies if the following sounds bad, it’s not, but apologies anyway.
So, I’m still working through things. I was going to post this before but then I thought I’d watch the CPTSD stream first. It was an insightful stream, had a lot of information that was useful. I’m planning to get the guide when I can. Probably rewatch the stream too/
However, some of my trauma is “race” based. And I was wondering if people had some thoughts on it?
About me: I’m mixed race. Part European and part South Asian/Southeast Asian. So half white. I want to stress this because no one else seems to care.
- I’ve had death threats due to my skin from 5 years old.
- Constantly judged for my skin, always picked last in school or treated unfairly.
- Had someone in primary school try to “purify” me, like chasing me around with a something? And saying prayers/mantras.
- 4yo, I was left in the rain because my parents were late to pick me up from daycare. (I don’t blame folks as apparently the daycare was investigated later on)
- People on dating sites ignore me, so it’s not an option for me, with some saying they don’t date Indian looking men (why match then, who knows)
- I was born in Australia. Raised Australian. My folks believed if you move somewhere, you join in the culture, so besides food and my relatives, I guess, I’m Aussie. In that it’s my culture. It’s who I am, generally speaking, culturally white for lack of a better term.
- Even if I explain my background, people only focus on my non European half
- The only saving grace I have is that if people hear me speak, they seem to calm down, almost like they don’t hear an accent so it calms them
The cognitive dissonance comes from the fact that people keep telling me to stay in my lane. I see myself as more white. I grew up in Australia, I only know English, surrounded primarily by Caucasian people. I’m mixed race but culturally white Australian. I’m generally attracted to Caucasian women, again because it’s what I was around ground up, and it’s not like I’m attracted to any Caucasian gal. And I find women like Risa Naka or Park ShinHye attractive. Rashida Jones.
It’s not a fetish or that I’m hyping up white people. I’m attracted to what I find similar to me. What’s annoying is people setting me up with people simply because they are Indian. Or my sibling who says I’m being racist, even though their partner is white…. creating further cognitive dissonance and a feeling of helplessness. Apparently I can’t be with who I want, but others can.
I hope people can try to understand things. I’m trying to figure out a way to explain it better, but the only example I’ve got is an LGBT example. I think it’s why I understand them. That is, a trans person is born a certain way but doesn’t feel or identify that way, and bigots tell them to stay in their lane. Or a lesbian who keeps being told to date men when they aren’t attracted to them. I’m not LGBT but it’s the best example I can think of, I’m sorry to anyone who is and thinks I’m out of line for comparing.
I don’t know what I’m expecting. I guess it’s partly venting. I’m lonely and stressed and tired. And all I want is someone who is attracted to be attracted to me too. Just one.
I mean there’s probably no real answer for this, other than what my psychologist said “just be the best me I can be, be the best color person that others will meet”. So I guess it’s probably sort of pointless posting this. But I like to get answers from everywhere so I figured I’ll give it a final shot then, ignore the ignorant and do good.
2024.05.14 05:11 Titotypes My travels
What’s up guys! Gonna share some insights, especially for the younger guys.
Stats: 20y- 6’0 - Handsome/Cute (6-7/10) - Nice Build Mediterranean looking + Mixes (🇻🇪 fam)
Context: Well travelled since youth, not rich but was a family thing to do. By default became a passport bro haha. Difficult kid, intelligent odd ball, not bad with girls but bad with girls lmao. Good but weird upbringing. Chaotic and a bit of a demon, impulsive, low self control. (Much more mature now)
Mexico 🇲🇽 Ok let’s get into it. My first real experience and love was at 19. I was in a bad place for many years prior and didn’t let people in. Anyways so yeah I met a 🇲🇽 girl who I found really cute through mutuals in the capital. I rarely found any Mexicans cute, so she was special in that point of view. We also had many similarities and I loved how feminine she was compared to girls back home. Beautiful country and culture I thoroughly recommend CDMX as a beginner location. I quickly began solo traveling to 🇲🇽 to see my “friend” and it quickly got out of hand and ended abruptly in a moment of my immaturity. I learned many things though: Long distance is not my style- too complicated and heart wrenching- I quickly made a mental note to not take any relationships serious. Also noted to be weary of girls who approach you haha. Here is where I noticed how insane I pulled outside of the country. I live in a city which has the most hyper-competitive sexual market in the United States (world) and I still do surprisingly well (especially at night lol). But nothing compares. Also I’m a Latino by blood so the dating culture just feels better.
Venezuela 🇻🇪 Anyways after the Mexico era I went on a family trip to Venezuela which I basically haven’t been there since my balls dropped. Wow. The natural beauty of Venezuelans is striking. Beautiful girls everywhere. The country itself is a mess. Everything is slow, expensive, and inconvenient. Had some fun there with a local girl but was not able to enjoy as much as I wanted to as I was with family the entire time. I don’t use tinder- all IRL into instagram as a funnel. Maybe I’ll explore more with dating apps as I get many matches especially overseas but the quality seems shitty and it can be a waste of time also a lame way to meet people. Never got to go out or party solo-dolo so that was a bummer. Will be back soon enough though so I’ll update you guys on Venezuela Nightlife experience. All I can say is it’s the second most beautiful place when it comes women I’ve been to. The country itself is by far the most beautiful place I’ve ever been. Terrible government- felt surprisingly safe though.
Europe 🇪🇺 Ok here’s were it gets weird haha. So Europe is definitely a place with more nuance. With that said I went to both western and eastern locations. It’s much easier to have casual sex in Western Europe due to the culture. Many American and European solo traveling girls as well… they are rather promiscuous. Eastern Europe was by far a beauty haven. From Romania to Russia you will find some of the most beautiful women on earth just walking on the street. The culture shock is large though and dating becomes a bit more “serious” which for me doesn’t work. I would recommend Europe as a traveling destination if you think you’re up for it. I did well and met, partied with, and traveled with girls but I felt like it the more east I went it just wasn’t the right vibe for that. Which is a bummer because Western European girls don’t compare to for example Ukrainians and Moldova. The farthest east I went was Turkey and the girl I was with had to sneak out everyday out of fear of being basically ostracized. Turkish people are very nice though. Spain was the most degenerate place I was in, if I wanted to party everyday I pretty much could. Great food, pricing varies widely based on economy, girls get hotter the more you go east but also more tricky. Great location to party hard, techno, etc.
So when it comes to Europe results may vary on many things. Your relative attractiveness, your ability to adapt and be outgoing even in “colder” nations, and how you carry yourself + where you stay. Staying in good locations is key. As an American you either get a buff or a de-buff and “wealth” is the main factor. European girls are very direct. Which I found off putting. Latin culture can be hyper sexual but I find it more classy.
Pro tips 🧠: - Don’t drink too much- you’ll get robbed or worse - Don’t get attached to anyone if you’re solo traveling it’s “solo” for a reason. Explore man. - Have travel cards with 0 international/atm fees - Learn how to say “hi” “nice to meet you” “my name is” “you’re gorgeous” in whatever language it shows you’re somewhat cultured. - If you’re young fuck the clubs! Go to raves, underground events, concerts, festivals. The young person and pretty girl ratio is 100x better. - Party hostels are a great way to meet “fun” people - Be careful with drug use, have been fine but honestly most of it is just unnecessary lmao. - Pub crawls are the easiest way to get laid in Europe lmao. Everyone is there for a reason. Just don’t do it if the ratio is completely busted as it’s not good for meeting local girls and stay away from the girl guides- trust.
Future travels 🌎 Peru 🇵🇪 - Machu Pichu + Lima Brazil 🇧🇷 - 🤤 nuff said Colombia 🇨🇴 - Venezuela lite more dangerous imo Argentina 🇦🇷 - seems fun
Asia as well- China 🇨🇳 would be crazy. Rarely find Asians cute but some are gorgeous.
Please share your thoughts / tips on these locations as I will be there shortly.
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Stats: 20y- 6’0 - Handsome/Cute (6-7/10) - Nice Build Mediterranean looking + Mixes (🇻🇪 fam)
Context: Well travelled since youth, not rich but was a family thing to do. By default became a passport bro haha. Difficult kid, intelligent odd ball, not bad with girls but bad with girls lmao. Good but weird upbringing. Chaotic and a bit of a demon, impulsive, low self control. (Much more mature now)
Mexico 🇲🇽 Ok let’s get into it. My first real experience and love was at 19. I was in a bad place for many years prior and didn’t let people in. Anyways so yeah I met a 🇲🇽 girl who I found really cute through mutuals in the capital. I rarely found any Mexicans cute, so she was special in that point of view. We also had many similarities and I loved how feminine she was compared to girls back home. Beautiful country and culture I thoroughly recommend CDMX as a beginner location. I quickly began solo traveling to 🇲🇽 to see my “friend” and it quickly got out of hand and ended abruptly in a moment of my immaturity. I learned many things though: Long distance is not my style- too complicated and heart wrenching- I quickly made a mental note to not take any relationships serious. Also noted to be weary of girls who approach you haha. Here is where I noticed how insane I pulled outside of the country. I live in a city which has the most hyper-competitive sexual market in the United States (world) and I still do surprisingly well (especially at night lol). But nothing compares. Also I’m a Latino by blood so the dating culture just feels better.
Venezuela 🇻🇪 Anyways after the Mexico era I went on a family trip to Venezuela which I basically haven’t been there since my balls dropped. Wow. The natural beauty of Venezuelans is striking. Beautiful girls everywhere. The country itself is a mess. Everything is slow, expensive, and inconvenient. Had some fun there with a local girl but was not able to enjoy as much as I wanted to as I was with family the entire time. I don’t use tinder- all IRL into instagram as a funnel. Maybe I’ll explore more with dating apps as I get many matches especially overseas but the quality seems shitty and it can be a waste of time also a lame way to meet people. Never got to go out or party solo-dolo so that was a bummer. Will be back soon enough though so I’ll update you guys on Venezuela Nightlife experience. All I can say is it’s the second most beautiful place when it comes women I’ve been to. The country itself is by far the most beautiful place I’ve ever been. Terrible government- felt surprisingly safe though.
Europe 🇪🇺 Ok here’s were it gets weird haha. So Europe is definitely a place with more nuance. With that said I went to both western and eastern locations. It’s much easier to have casual sex in Western Europe due to the culture. Many American and European solo traveling girls as well… they are rather promiscuous. Eastern Europe was by far a beauty haven. From Romania to Russia you will find some of the most beautiful women on earth just walking on the street. The culture shock is large though and dating becomes a bit more “serious” which for me doesn’t work. I would recommend Europe as a traveling destination if you think you’re up for it. I did well and met, partied with, and traveled with girls but I felt like it the more east I went it just wasn’t the right vibe for that. Which is a bummer because Western European girls don’t compare to for example Ukrainians and Moldova. The farthest east I went was Turkey and the girl I was with had to sneak out everyday out of fear of being basically ostracized. Turkish people are very nice though. Spain was the most degenerate place I was in, if I wanted to party everyday I pretty much could. Great food, pricing varies widely based on economy, girls get hotter the more you go east but also more tricky. Great location to party hard, techno, etc.
So when it comes to Europe results may vary on many things. Your relative attractiveness, your ability to adapt and be outgoing even in “colder” nations, and how you carry yourself + where you stay. Staying in good locations is key. As an American you either get a buff or a de-buff and “wealth” is the main factor. European girls are very direct. Which I found off putting. Latin culture can be hyper sexual but I find it more classy.
Pro tips 🧠: - Don’t drink too much- you’ll get robbed or worse - Don’t get attached to anyone if you’re solo traveling it’s “solo” for a reason. Explore man. - Have travel cards with 0 international/atm fees - Learn how to say “hi” “nice to meet you” “my name is” “you’re gorgeous” in whatever language it shows you’re somewhat cultured. - If you’re young fuck the clubs! Go to raves, underground events, concerts, festivals. The young person and pretty girl ratio is 100x better. - Party hostels are a great way to meet “fun” people - Be careful with drug use, have been fine but honestly most of it is just unnecessary lmao. - Pub crawls are the easiest way to get laid in Europe lmao. Everyone is there for a reason. Just don’t do it if the ratio is completely busted as it’s not good for meeting local girls and stay away from the girl guides- trust.
Future travels 🌎 Peru 🇵🇪 - Machu Pichu + Lima Brazil 🇧🇷 - 🤤 nuff said Colombia 🇨🇴 - Venezuela lite more dangerous imo Argentina 🇦🇷 - seems fun
Asia as well- China 🇨🇳 would be crazy. Rarely find Asians cute but some are gorgeous.
Please share your thoughts / tips on these locations as I will be there shortly.
2024.05.14 04:53 BabyBoy843 Feeling lots of pressure to date while young
So I'm 24 and dating has been really bad for me. I think part of it is that I'm extremely unhappy and my mental health is not well, largely due to the pressure I'm putting on myself.
A bit about myself - I'm a South Asian 5'7 male. I'd say I have a pretty handsome face and I have a good physique (13% body fat). I dress well, have a decent paying sales job, and hobbies I enjoy (eg. reading, writing, gym).
The thing is - I'm still really insecure and I want to be able to prove to myself that I can attract young women as I am now. My last relationship was with a woman who really abused me and destroyed my self esteem - she would poke fun at the fact that I was a virgin before meeting, she would make fun of my height, and she suggested that she wouldn't have been into me some years before we met when she was dating 6ft+ chads that she'd have one night stands with. To be honest, I think she only stuck around with me because of how much I loved her and how well I treated her.
I broke up with her and I got into this "situationship" with this girl studying abroad and we would hook up every now and then. But she would hook up with other guys and kind of just treated me as an option.
I've gone on several dates as well - 2 of them could've led to sex, but I couldn't get hard. And the rest never went anywhere.
But now I'm just sitting here with a mere body count of 2 and I can't even get a woman to glance at me. Dating apps are terrible for me because of my height. And I've asked out women in real life, and most of them have given me their numbers only to ghost or softly reject me. I know deep down that it would be healthy for me to just forget about women for some time until I get my footing right. But I feel like I'm racing with time to get as much sexual experience as possible. So when I do meet a woman I like, I won't feel insecure about her past or mine.
I feel like if I don't live the sexual experiences I want, I'm going to be extremely bitter later in life and presume that any woman who is interested in me then will only like me because of my stability and success.
How do I get over this pressure? What am I doing wrong?
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A bit about myself - I'm a South Asian 5'7 male. I'd say I have a pretty handsome face and I have a good physique (13% body fat). I dress well, have a decent paying sales job, and hobbies I enjoy (eg. reading, writing, gym).
The thing is - I'm still really insecure and I want to be able to prove to myself that I can attract young women as I am now. My last relationship was with a woman who really abused me and destroyed my self esteem - she would poke fun at the fact that I was a virgin before meeting, she would make fun of my height, and she suggested that she wouldn't have been into me some years before we met when she was dating 6ft+ chads that she'd have one night stands with. To be honest, I think she only stuck around with me because of how much I loved her and how well I treated her.
I broke up with her and I got into this "situationship" with this girl studying abroad and we would hook up every now and then. But she would hook up with other guys and kind of just treated me as an option.
I've gone on several dates as well - 2 of them could've led to sex, but I couldn't get hard. And the rest never went anywhere.
But now I'm just sitting here with a mere body count of 2 and I can't even get a woman to glance at me. Dating apps are terrible for me because of my height. And I've asked out women in real life, and most of them have given me their numbers only to ghost or softly reject me. I know deep down that it would be healthy for me to just forget about women for some time until I get my footing right. But I feel like I'm racing with time to get as much sexual experience as possible. So when I do meet a woman I like, I won't feel insecure about her past or mine.
I feel like if I don't live the sexual experiences I want, I'm going to be extremely bitter later in life and presume that any woman who is interested in me then will only like me because of my stability and success.
How do I get over this pressure? What am I doing wrong?
2024.05.14 04:22 Getyodamnwallet I’m so tired of giving and never receiving when dating
I’m a 21M and I have stopped dating for like a year now. I would say I dated like 8 women in my life never been in a relationship but I just feel like I have to put so much effort into everything and the love is never reciprocated. I’ve gotten tired of just being the one to plan everything, clear my schedule, pay for everything just to see the girl say she isn’t over her ex, wasn’t looking for anything serious, or to just get ghosted for another guy. When I talk about my issues the blame is always being put on me like I’m doing something crazy that’s turning women away. I’m not the most conventionally attractive guy (5’8 135) and I just feel like if you’re a girl or a guy who the world doesn’t view as attractive or high status, you have to walk a tightrope while dating and the leash is so much shorter for mistakes. Also being in a majority white area as a brown man, I’ll just tell you straight up white women rarely ever look our way. I’ve heard a lot of my Hispanic/Asian guy friends say once they moved away from where we live they realized they weren’t unattractive they just lived in a white area.
I sound insecure I know, but it’s tough to keep moving forward when the rest of the world doesn’t give you that confidence. The last girl broke me when she said she didn’t want to make things official because she said she was unsure of me because I’ve never been in a relationship before. The next month she posts on her story a pic with a guy.
It’s just exhausting and I’m not trying to sound bitter towards women but just voicing my frustrations cause it’s been like over a year since I’ve dated and now I feel like a shell of myself. I’m not the outgoing person I use to be, I dont pursue women anymore, I have 0 romantic interests in me.
I don’t know what rock bottom is, but can anyone give me advice because I would like to start dating again but I don’t want to go through another 2 and a half years of hell lol.
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I sound insecure I know, but it’s tough to keep moving forward when the rest of the world doesn’t give you that confidence. The last girl broke me when she said she didn’t want to make things official because she said she was unsure of me because I’ve never been in a relationship before. The next month she posts on her story a pic with a guy.
It’s just exhausting and I’m not trying to sound bitter towards women but just voicing my frustrations cause it’s been like over a year since I’ve dated and now I feel like a shell of myself. I’m not the outgoing person I use to be, I dont pursue women anymore, I have 0 romantic interests in me.
I don’t know what rock bottom is, but can anyone give me advice because I would like to start dating again but I don’t want to go through another 2 and a half years of hell lol.
2024.05.14 03:23 Neither_Werewolf_116 If you resonate with Kate and she is your favourite character I would be interested in knowing why because all the stories I've come across of people explaining why they resonate with her are so heartwarming. I thought to do this since this season all the wallflowers are getting represented as well.
I don't even know why I thought to bring this here lol it was just a thought I put into words. Kate is my favourite representation of a female character in a romantic lead for multiple reasons. Many people who have come forward say that they resonate with her and Edwina because of their Indian/South Asian heritage(please correct me if I got it wrong) and to see them represented on such a grand scale is a game-changer. I wholeheartedly agree with this but I am not Indian/South Asian(I am black) so the reason behind Kate being my favourite character is different. I am tall and I struggled with being comfortable with my height for the longest time and honestly, watching romcoms and seeing average height FMC's didn't help lmao. When tall women of colour were finally getting represented on screen they always had the "cool girl" persona, which I have no problem with but still. It's either they were strong female leads and feminists who did not care about love or viewed it as non-existent or they had strong beliefs which would get undermined by mere things like love. Now I am a hopeless romantic but I also have a set of firm beliefs and everywhere I looked the media made it seem as if you can't be both. So when I finally got introduced to Kate it was such a fresh take on a character that I found myself resonating with A LOT. Not only is Kate set on her beliefs and is very vocal about them, but she also believes in love and dare I say is a hopeless romantic. To see these two aspects which I had seen pitted against each other for so long be encompassed by one tall gorgeous woman......my little heart couldn't take it. I have never related to a character more than I do Kate. It felt like little old me was getting represented as well. I will forever love Kate and Simone Ashley for bringing her to life so well. This alone makes me certain that season 2 will forever remain my favourite despite all the other seasons to come and I'm not even saying this out of spite or anything but simply because I gravitate more towards characters that I feel represent me.
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2024.05.14 03:05 yngandrcklss Blackpill/Inceldom is Ruining my Life: Need Advice
I'm an 18-year-old guy, and I recently finished up my first year of university. I've had a lot of free time lately since I don't start working for another week, and I stumbled upon some blackpill/incel content online. Since then, it's been about 3 weeks, and I can easily say that whatever confidence I've built up over the last few years has been completely burnt down.
For reference, I'm about 173 cm (5'8) and live in Canada. I've been weightlifting and working out consistently for 2 years, and am in good shape. I'm South Asian and grew up in a pretty diverse neighborhood, so I didn't feel too out of place because of my race for the most part. Around 20 days ago, I stumbled upon the shortguys and ExposingHeightism subreddits because I saw a TikTok making fun of guys around my height. I don't think I've had serious issues about my relatively short stature up until now, primarily because I haven't started dating seriously and have been extremely occupied with hobbies (chess, politics, comp sci, reading, etc). After watching some of the content here, I feel like I've become addicted to it, and I feel like all my free time is spent watching more and more content about how unattractive my height is. Seeing TikToks and tweets online making fun of guys my height and shorter, and also how many women find short men repulsive has seriously damaged my confidence. Along with that, seeing statistics about how many women put up height requirements in online dating and about how many of them find tall men attractive has made me super insecure about my masculinity as a whole. I feel like I've seen so many TikToks where women around my age view men shorter than them, or just shorter in general as subhuman. I've spent so much time drowning in this incel content that it's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think about before I go to sleep. I've thrown all my hobbies out the window to stay up late and wallow in this depressive content. I'm addicted, and I've spent countless hours over the last few days consuming this content.
I've been constantly comparing myself to other people. I find myself searching up celebrity heights just for the sake of it. I've brought up height so much in casual conversations that my friends and family are starting to pick up on this crippling insecurity. I find myself trying to fix my posture and stand up as straight as possible when I'm around my close friends, just to feel like I'm almost at their eye level. All of them are taller than me (around 182+ cm, 6'0 and up) and it has taken a serious drag at my perspective of masculinity and how people perceive me. I'm constantly thinking about height and feel like I have reduced myself and the people around me to that, and nothing else. I feel as if height is so important, and there's nothing I can do about it. I seriously think being tall is one of the greatest genetic gifts, and it pains me that I will never experience it. To all of you wondering, there is no chance I will get taller as well, my mom is only 4'11, and my dad is 5'4.
A lot of my taller friends (190+ cm, 6'3 and up) have talked about how nice it is to be tall and how much it has positively impacted their dating experience. I haven't even started talking to girls seriously, I've never been on a date, and haven't had my first kiss. I feel like my ethnicity and looks are going to be a huge shortcoming when I start doing so, and I already know that when I get rejected it's going to take me down completely. I used to be confident in myself, happy, and viewed the world and myself optimistically. Now, I've scared myself into believing that dating and finding serious relationships is gonna be a huge struggle, that I'm too ugly to feel good about myself, and that I'll never be good enough. I feel like I can't even look at myself in the mirror without tearing up. My recent obsession with height, facial attractiveness, dating statistics, blackpill content, and the incel movement has transformed me from an extremely happy teenager to a guy that sits in my bed all day feeling depressed and horrible about myself. How can I get myself out of this rabbit hole?
tl;dr: I (18M) consumed a bunch of blackpill/incel content regarding height and looks and now can't take myself seriously. Feeling very insecure and looking for advice.
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For reference, I'm about 173 cm (5'8) and live in Canada. I've been weightlifting and working out consistently for 2 years, and am in good shape. I'm South Asian and grew up in a pretty diverse neighborhood, so I didn't feel too out of place because of my race for the most part. Around 20 days ago, I stumbled upon the shortguys and ExposingHeightism subreddits because I saw a TikTok making fun of guys around my height. I don't think I've had serious issues about my relatively short stature up until now, primarily because I haven't started dating seriously and have been extremely occupied with hobbies (chess, politics, comp sci, reading, etc). After watching some of the content here, I feel like I've become addicted to it, and I feel like all my free time is spent watching more and more content about how unattractive my height is. Seeing TikToks and tweets online making fun of guys my height and shorter, and also how many women find short men repulsive has seriously damaged my confidence. Along with that, seeing statistics about how many women put up height requirements in online dating and about how many of them find tall men attractive has made me super insecure about my masculinity as a whole. I feel like I've seen so many TikToks where women around my age view men shorter than them, or just shorter in general as subhuman. I've spent so much time drowning in this incel content that it's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think about before I go to sleep. I've thrown all my hobbies out the window to stay up late and wallow in this depressive content. I'm addicted, and I've spent countless hours over the last few days consuming this content.
I've been constantly comparing myself to other people. I find myself searching up celebrity heights just for the sake of it. I've brought up height so much in casual conversations that my friends and family are starting to pick up on this crippling insecurity. I find myself trying to fix my posture and stand up as straight as possible when I'm around my close friends, just to feel like I'm almost at their eye level. All of them are taller than me (around 182+ cm, 6'0 and up) and it has taken a serious drag at my perspective of masculinity and how people perceive me. I'm constantly thinking about height and feel like I have reduced myself and the people around me to that, and nothing else. I feel as if height is so important, and there's nothing I can do about it. I seriously think being tall is one of the greatest genetic gifts, and it pains me that I will never experience it. To all of you wondering, there is no chance I will get taller as well, my mom is only 4'11, and my dad is 5'4.
A lot of my taller friends (190+ cm, 6'3 and up) have talked about how nice it is to be tall and how much it has positively impacted their dating experience. I haven't even started talking to girls seriously, I've never been on a date, and haven't had my first kiss. I feel like my ethnicity and looks are going to be a huge shortcoming when I start doing so, and I already know that when I get rejected it's going to take me down completely. I used to be confident in myself, happy, and viewed the world and myself optimistically. Now, I've scared myself into believing that dating and finding serious relationships is gonna be a huge struggle, that I'm too ugly to feel good about myself, and that I'll never be good enough. I feel like I can't even look at myself in the mirror without tearing up. My recent obsession with height, facial attractiveness, dating statistics, blackpill content, and the incel movement has transformed me from an extremely happy teenager to a guy that sits in my bed all day feeling depressed and horrible about myself. How can I get myself out of this rabbit hole?
tl;dr: I (18M) consumed a bunch of blackpill/incel content regarding height and looks and now can't take myself seriously. Feeling very insecure and looking for advice.
2024.05.14 02:57 numpyalchemist Blackpill/Inceldom is Ruining my Life: Need Advice
I'm an 18-year-old guy, and I recently finished up my first year of university. I've had a lot of free time lately since I don't start working for another week, and I stumbled upon some blackpill/incel content online. Since then, it's been about 3 weeks, and I can easily say that whatever confidence I've built up over the last few years has been completely burnt down.
For reference, I'm about 173 cm (5'8) and live in America. I've been weightlifting and working out consistently for 2 years, and am in good shape. I'm South Asian and grew up in a pretty diverse neighborhood, so I didn't feel too out of place because of my race for the most part. Around 20 days ago, I stumbled upon the and ExposingHeightism subreddits because I saw a TikTok making fun of guys around my height. I don't think I've had serious issues about my relatively short stature up until now, primarily because I haven't started dating seriously and have been extremely occupied with hobbies (chess, politics, comp sci, reading, etc). After watching some of the content here, I feel like I've become addicted to it, and I feel like all my free time is spent watching more and more content about how unattractive my height is. Seeing TikToks and tweets online making fun of guys my height and shorter, and also how many women find short men repulsive has seriously damaged my confidence. Along with that, seeing statistics about how many women put up height requirements in online dating and about how many of them find tall men attractive has made me super insecure about my masculinity as a whole. I feel like I've seen so many TikToks where women around my age view men shorter than them, or just shorter in general as subhuman. I've spent so much time drowning in this incel content that it's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think about before I go to sleep. I've thrown all my hobbies out the window to stay up late and wallow in this depressive content. I'm addicted, and I've spent countless hours over the last few days consuming this content.
I've been constantly comparing myself to other people. I find myself searching up celebrity heights just for the sake of it. I've brought up height so much in casual conversations that my friends and family are starting to pick up on this crippling insecurity. I find myself trying to fix my posture and stand up as straight as possible when I'm around my close friends, just to feel like I'm almost at their eye level. All of them are taller than me (around 182+ cm, 6'0 and up) and it has taken a serious drag at my perspective of masculinity and how people perceive me. I'm constantly thinking about height and feel like I have reduced myself and the people around me to that, and nothing else. I feel as if height is so important, and there's nothing I can do about it. I seriously think being tall is one of the greatest genetic gifts, and it pains me that I will never experience it. To all of you wondering, there is no chance I will get taller as well, my mom is only 4'11, and my dad is 5'4.
A lot of my taller friends (190+ cm, 6'3 and up) have talked about how nice it is to be tall and how much it has positively impacted their dating experience. I haven't even started talking to girls seriously, I've never been on a date, and haven't had my first kiss. I feel like my ethnicity and looks are going to be a huge shortcoming when I start doing so, and I already know that when I get rejected it's going to take me down completely. I used to be confident in myself, happy, and viewed the world and myself optimistically. Now, I've scared myself into believing that dating and finding serious relationships is gonna be a huge struggle, that I'm too ugly to feel good about myself, and that I'll never be good enough. I feel like I can't even look at myself in the mirror without tearing up. My recent obsession with height, facial attractiveness, dating statistics, blackpill content, and the incel movement has transformed me from an extremely happy teenager to a guy that sits in my bed all day feeling depressed and horrible about myself. How can I get myself out of this rabbit hole?
tl;dr: I (18M) consumed a bunch of blackpill/incel content regarding height and looks and now can't take myself seriously. Feeling very insecure and looking for advice.
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For reference, I'm about 173 cm (5'8) and live in America. I've been weightlifting and working out consistently for 2 years, and am in good shape. I'm South Asian and grew up in a pretty diverse neighborhood, so I didn't feel too out of place because of my race for the most part. Around 20 days ago, I stumbled upon the and ExposingHeightism subreddits because I saw a TikTok making fun of guys around my height. I don't think I've had serious issues about my relatively short stature up until now, primarily because I haven't started dating seriously and have been extremely occupied with hobbies (chess, politics, comp sci, reading, etc). After watching some of the content here, I feel like I've become addicted to it, and I feel like all my free time is spent watching more and more content about how unattractive my height is. Seeing TikToks and tweets online making fun of guys my height and shorter, and also how many women find short men repulsive has seriously damaged my confidence. Along with that, seeing statistics about how many women put up height requirements in online dating and about how many of them find tall men attractive has made me super insecure about my masculinity as a whole. I feel like I've seen so many TikToks where women around my age view men shorter than them, or just shorter in general as subhuman. I've spent so much time drowning in this incel content that it's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think about before I go to sleep. I've thrown all my hobbies out the window to stay up late and wallow in this depressive content. I'm addicted, and I've spent countless hours over the last few days consuming this content.
I've been constantly comparing myself to other people. I find myself searching up celebrity heights just for the sake of it. I've brought up height so much in casual conversations that my friends and family are starting to pick up on this crippling insecurity. I find myself trying to fix my posture and stand up as straight as possible when I'm around my close friends, just to feel like I'm almost at their eye level. All of them are taller than me (around 182+ cm, 6'0 and up) and it has taken a serious drag at my perspective of masculinity and how people perceive me. I'm constantly thinking about height and feel like I have reduced myself and the people around me to that, and nothing else. I feel as if height is so important, and there's nothing I can do about it. I seriously think being tall is one of the greatest genetic gifts, and it pains me that I will never experience it. To all of you wondering, there is no chance I will get taller as well, my mom is only 4'11, and my dad is 5'4.
A lot of my taller friends (190+ cm, 6'3 and up) have talked about how nice it is to be tall and how much it has positively impacted their dating experience. I haven't even started talking to girls seriously, I've never been on a date, and haven't had my first kiss. I feel like my ethnicity and looks are going to be a huge shortcoming when I start doing so, and I already know that when I get rejected it's going to take me down completely. I used to be confident in myself, happy, and viewed the world and myself optimistically. Now, I've scared myself into believing that dating and finding serious relationships is gonna be a huge struggle, that I'm too ugly to feel good about myself, and that I'll never be good enough. I feel like I can't even look at myself in the mirror without tearing up. My recent obsession with height, facial attractiveness, dating statistics, blackpill content, and the incel movement has transformed me from an extremely happy teenager to a guy that sits in my bed all day feeling depressed and horrible about myself. How can I get myself out of this rabbit hole?
tl;dr: I (18M) consumed a bunch of blackpill/incel content regarding height and looks and now can't take myself seriously. Feeling very insecure and looking for advice.
2024.05.14 02:31 cackitycack Please recommend to me brown influencers with an alternative/ grungy/ punk style aesthetic
Basically the title of the post.
I'm looking for fashion inspo from women (could be influencers or models) with the same sort of body type as me (tall, size 0/XS) with tan/ brown skin and who are preferably of South Asian, darker Hispanic, or Middle Eastern descent.
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I'm looking for fashion inspo from women (could be influencers or models) with the same sort of body type as me (tall, size 0/XS) with tan/ brown skin and who are preferably of South Asian, darker Hispanic, or Middle Eastern descent.
2024.05.14 02:04 Race_War_of2007 I feel like only black people know what it is like to be viewed as ugly, if you aren't black you still have a chance.
Title.
I know I'm ugly, because even black females won't validate me (including the ones in my nuclear family - meaning they hardly talk to me and show favoritism to my female cousin).
I feel like people who aren't black and say that they are "ugly" just want attention. I would take being an "ugly" white, Asian, Latino, or Indian ugly person any day over being a black man. Being a black man makes me suicidal, it's awful. Everyone hates me (basically), I have been teased and bullied my entire life, I'm a 32-year-old kissless virgin - and now I am dealing with the reality that I will probably never be a father (I could adopt, but when women make it clear that your genetics are not wanted, how could I confidently raise a child?).
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I know I'm ugly, because even black females won't validate me (including the ones in my nuclear family - meaning they hardly talk to me and show favoritism to my female cousin).
I feel like people who aren't black and say that they are "ugly" just want attention. I would take being an "ugly" white, Asian, Latino, or Indian ugly person any day over being a black man. Being a black man makes me suicidal, it's awful. Everyone hates me (basically), I have been teased and bullied my entire life, I'm a 32-year-old kissless virgin - and now I am dealing with the reality that I will probably never be a father (I could adopt, but when women make it clear that your genetics are not wanted, how could I confidently raise a child?).
2024.05.14 01:19 kitsuneama Something ive noticed
Maybe i’m just looking to far into this but i am a queer asian girl and i noticed that there are absolutely no representation for queer asian women, i can only think of one time where i’ve seen an asian lesbian in any popular media and it was a “XoKitty” on Netflix which is pretty much just a westernized k drama
The reason i am saying this is because ive seen a good amount of Gay asian man representation in shows and media in general but never an asian girl
I hope that this made sense im not trying to make a whole big deal and bring LGBTQ into all this but its just something i have noticed
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The reason i am saying this is because ive seen a good amount of Gay asian man representation in shows and media in general but never an asian girl
I hope that this made sense im not trying to make a whole big deal and bring LGBTQ into all this but its just something i have noticed
2024.05.14 00:58 alkebulanu WOMBS AREN'T MACHINES. BABIES ARE NOT FOR SALE. WOMEN ARE NOT FOR RENT. STOP TRADING HUMANS‼️
 | 1st, If your country banned this form of exploitation, it's FOR GOOD REASON. don't go abroad to traffick women and babies. submitted by alkebulanu to fourthwavewomen [link] [comments] 2nd slide showcases putting a woman's living children at risk when it comes to benefits so the PIEs (parent identified exploiters) can get their baby. 3rd slide shows heartbreaking situations with disabled baby. remember many surrogates are FORCED to abort disabled babies (either by contract or due to the PIEs abandoning the baby). Disabled babies should not be treated like discarded goods or aborted when the mom (surrogate) doesn't want to abort of HER own volition, not external pressure. 4th shows woman who's experienced significant babyloss considering surrogacy for the money. 5th shows PIEs who want to go the slightly cheaper route of buying babies from adoption agencies. These agencies often seek impoverished pregnant women and say "we will help you, IF you give us your baby." PIEs treat children like products at a market. 6th shows surrogacy agency (aka gestational trafficking organisation) doesn't even do enough to prevent the women they exploit from being on the streets. not that there's a right way to be an exploiter but goddamn. 7th shows spokesperson of a gestation trafficking organisation offering up Asian women for exploitation. I don't think I got it in the SS but the spokesperson goes on to say they have a wasian "available" and describes her ethnicities. SHE'S NOT A PRODUCT. 8th is my seething rage. I'm a child sex trafficking survivor and sure my experience was overtly violent and not ok but when we allow human trafficking in ANY form, we're putting a GREENLIGHT on child abuse, selling humans, exploitation, dehumanizing, and ultimately feeds "worse" trafficking rings like the one I survived. |
2024.05.14 00:51 ThrowRA0048722 How can I (25F) tell my (24M) date that his obsession with OF girls makes me uncomfortable?
I (25F) am currently talking to a guy (24M) who is super sweet, we have many things in common, including anime and videogames. In person he’s been nothing but sweet, he respects my boundaries and is respectful. We’ve been chatting in person and online for about 4 months. We often talk for hours about our interests and we flirt pretty regularly too.
He invited me on a first official date this week and I accepted, but prior to going on this date I wanted to do some light vetting to make sure he wasn’t a creep and I’m not sure how I feel about what I found.
Since he doesn’t post on instagram, I tried his IG @ on Twitter to see if he had an account and accidentally fell into a rabbit hole.
For starters, he follows 1k+ accounts, 85% of the accounts are alternative or asian OF models, all of them who look absolutely nothing like me. I decided to take a peek at his likes and almost all of them are either super slim and cut OF models with big boobs, or manga style drawings of half naked women with the same body proportions. (He has around 40k liked tweets all similar to this)
I don’t know how I feel about this. I don’t really care about men who watch porn or interact with this type of stuff, but for it to be so heavy handed and almost obsessive gives me a bit of the ick. The other thing is that I am completely the opposite of his apparent type (I am chubby and don’t have much cleavage) and it makes me feel gross.
I’d like to say this didn’t affect me, but I was really into him and now I just feel insecure and uncomfortable in my own skin around him. How can I talk to him about this without him blowing me off and invalidating my feelings?
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He invited me on a first official date this week and I accepted, but prior to going on this date I wanted to do some light vetting to make sure he wasn’t a creep and I’m not sure how I feel about what I found.
Since he doesn’t post on instagram, I tried his IG @ on Twitter to see if he had an account and accidentally fell into a rabbit hole.
For starters, he follows 1k+ accounts, 85% of the accounts are alternative or asian OF models, all of them who look absolutely nothing like me. I decided to take a peek at his likes and almost all of them are either super slim and cut OF models with big boobs, or manga style drawings of half naked women with the same body proportions. (He has around 40k liked tweets all similar to this)
I don’t know how I feel about this. I don’t really care about men who watch porn or interact with this type of stuff, but for it to be so heavy handed and almost obsessive gives me a bit of the ick. The other thing is that I am completely the opposite of his apparent type (I am chubby and don’t have much cleavage) and it makes me feel gross.
I’d like to say this didn’t affect me, but I was really into him and now I just feel insecure and uncomfortable in my own skin around him. How can I talk to him about this without him blowing me off and invalidating my feelings?
2024.05.14 00:06 sharkypink90 Is this an impolite question to ask a makeup/hair artist?
There is a local makeup/hair artist I've had my eye on- their makeup style is exactly what I envisioned for myself and my bridesmaids, but looking through their portfolio, I saw very few pictures of their work done on East Asian women. One of my bridesmaids is Chinese so I want to ensure the artist will do as right by her as the rest of my bridal party. Would it be impolite to ask the artist how confident they are doing makeup for people of East Asian ethnicities? Is there a better way I can phrase this question?
Any help is greatly appreciated. If there is ignorance in my inquiry I am happy to be corrected.
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Any help is greatly appreciated. If there is ignorance in my inquiry I am happy to be corrected.
2024.05.13 22:56 x_theNextHokage Is it weird to only have paintings of white people in your house if you're white?
To explain the title more, I'm a queer white woman and I paint a lot. Most of my paintings are of white women in nature (women + nature are my two favorite things to look at), and I just hang them up in my apartment for me. One of my Asian friends pointed out that all the paintings and sculptures in my house are of white women. Even though the paintings are not sexualized in any way, painting women of color somehow feels more fetishistic or appropriative than painting white women. I agree that not having any is also weird though, I live in a very diverse city, and half of my friends are not white. If you walked into a white person's house, is it weirder if they have no art of POC or if they have one or two pieces? This is more a question for POC at large but I didn't see a subreddit for that. I'm probably overthinking this but idk why it feels weird for some reason.
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2024.05.13 22:22 1DMod Sallie Winchester + The Little Mermaid in WAOLOM Eras Visuals
 | I forgot how the west was won… submitted by 1DMod to GaylorSwift [link] [comments] How was the west won? With a shotgun…specifically, a Winchester rifle, Model 73, which is known as “The Gun that Won the West”. (yes, I am well aware the west was “won” via colonization, the massacre of indigenous peoples, the slaughter of animal/plant life, the enslavement of Africans, and the quasi-enslavement of Chinese and Asian peoples) I am going to take you on a journey that is long, meandering, and hopefully loosely braided together by the end. We will be discussing the following topics: The Winchesters, The Winchester Mystery House, Spiritualism, and The Little Mermaid. This is not a fully formed theory, but I do believe it will serve as a building block for other theories that come along. Full WAOLOM Intro Visuals Sarah Winchester: Widow, Heiress, Mad Woman Looking at the visuals for WAOLOM, I was struck by the similarities to the Winchester house and to the story of Sarah Winchester (Sarah Lockwood Pardee), known as Sallie. In 1862, Sallie married William Wirt Winchester, the heir to the Winchester Repeating Arms Company. In 1866, she gave birth to Annie, her daughter who died within a month of birth. Tragically, between the fall of 1880 and the spring of 1881, Sallie’s mother, father-in-law, and her husband died. In 1881, after her father-in-law and husband died within 3 months of one another, Sallie Winchester inherited the Winchester Repeating Arms Company. In 1884, one of Sallie’s sister died. In 1885, at the age of 46, Sallie moved to California from New Haven, CT. In 1886, Sallie purchased a 2-story farmhouse outside of San Jose, California. This house would come to be known as the Llanda Villa during Sallie’s lifetime and later it would be dubbed The Winchester Mystery House. Immediately upon moving in, Sallie began to remodel the home. In 1888, Sallie’s favourite niece, Marion “Daisy” Merriman, moved in with her. For the remainder of Sallie Winchester’s life, her home was under construction – from 1886-1922. At the age of 83, Sallie died on 7 September, 1922. Earliest know image The Winchester Mystery House https://preview.redd.it/raykrlf5490d1.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0f5be2c55de6af4ab8f53912f0622561b92fd5f6 First house visual as Taylor ascends The story I am about to share has many iterations - some are factual, some are embellished, some are entirely fabricated. The recurring theme is that Sallie is presented as a Mad Woman, a savant, or just a woman ahead of her time in every iteration. As the story goes, Sallie was haunted by the tragedy her life had presented her with – a dead baby, an inability to have more children, and many familial deaths clustered together. After meeting with a Spiritualist, Sallie believed that she was cursed, hunted and haunted by the ghosts of those who had been murdered at the hands of Winchester legacy – the Winchester rifle, the gun that won the west. The Spiritualist (Adam Coons) informed Sallie that she needed to construct a house for the ghosts and that it must never be completed. By 1895, locals had begun to discuss the strange woman who was building a home that seemingly never seemed to cease construction. Rumours started that she believed she would die if she ceased construction on the home. Organ music could be heard late at night. There were rumours that she had parties for spirits with gold serving wear and that she used the bell tower to summon the spirits. While the rumours abounded, there were instances of her those close to her refuting them, saying that Sallie was a very sensible and stable woman – she played the organ when she had insomnia, the belltower was used for workers, and there was never any gold serving wear. The Winchester Mystery House is constructed of doors that go to nowhere, staircases that lead to nothing or end at a ceiling, doors that open to a deadly drop off, windows that go to nothing, trap doors in the floor, very shallow stairs, etc. These were rumoured to be traps for spirits, so they’d become confused and trapped, thus unable to haunt Sallie and her family. The counter to this is that the windows once went somewhere, but that they were closed off when the house was extended, that the shallow stairs were for Sallie’s declining health, etc. Was she a Mad Woman or an independent woman at a time when women weren’t allowed to be? https://preview.redd.it/o8u5fqh9490d1.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e0bf97fd1e8261b43a6360032a19a35f32e7b17a https://preview.redd.it/ewdocth9490d1.jpg?width=900&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=15fa2de02d0cc6c11565c67be2d0d67bd42f8fc3 The Winchester 13 The Winchester Mystery House is known for the number 13 – 13 bedrooms, 13 bathrooms, 13 windows in certain rooms, etc. However, according to their website, most of these 13 related features were added after Sallie’s death. That said, the home is still deeply associated with the number 13. Links to Taylor What does all of this have to do with Taylor? I’m not entirely sure! But, I think there is a connection to her because of the imagery and the links to Mad Women, being trapped in houses with spirits haunting you, becoming a myth and a legend while still being alive and misunderstood. The name Sarah also stands out to me…Sarah was called Sallie, so it’s almost like an alter ego that you’ve forsaken, but will always be remembered as, is looking over your shoulder for the duration of your life and into the afterlife. ”Sarahs and Hannahs…” By the end of the visuals, the house has expanded significantly...similar to the Winchester Mansion WAOLOM Imagery I think there is something about the tour imagery where we zoom into the attic window (attics of our mind) and into the silhouette, only to emerge in what feels like that person’s mind/inner world…and then we are pulled out even further to see Taylor in all of her feminine rage (the musical). If she is a spirit trapped inside of the house of her mind, then is what we are seeing the manifestation of her inner thoughts/fears/desires or is the woman in the attic the authentic self that has been locked away and what we are seeing on stage at the Eras tour is the performative self that was forced to lock away the authentic self because she’s an unaccepted Mad Woman? https://reddit.com/link/1cr9du9/video/pelho5wl490d1/player https://reddit.com/link/1cr9du9/video/puf1rye24a0d1/player Taking these thoughts further, the WAOLOM imagery we see progresses even further and encompasses The Little Mermaid. It’s simultaneously showing us that one version of Taylor is The Little Mermaid and one version of Taylor is The Sea Witch – she is both victim and villain, hero and anti-hero. Taylor has both given up her voice and is also wielding it with ferocious power and magic. https://reddit.com/link/1cr9du9/video/58tkllek3a0d1/player I don’t know the show Supernatural well enough to make significant connections to this, but I do find worthy of note:
LWYMMD Music Video This is not the first time we have seen a Winchester Mystery House style of mansion. It is possible the WAOLOM imagery is a continuation of that story, in some way. A house full of spirits with the owner being a summoner? Taylor rising up? https://preview.redd.it/k4z8cvah6a0d1.jpg?width=1921&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=36b54872ce3587f1de718d4341219347b5a7a466 Flowers in the Attic It would also be remise to not mention the similarity of the figure and the house to the cover of Flowers in the Attic. I'm not sure what that means, although I lean towards the New Romantics/Mass Movement theory. Book and movie covers I hope this was entertaining and a somewhat worthwhile contribution to our little fandom! |
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Board Game Night at The Glass Jug in Downtown Durham
5 p.m.
Arts & Drafts at Fullsteam Brewery
6 p.m.
Disc Golf Putting League at The Glass Jug in RTP
6:30 p.m.
Trivia Night at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
7 p.m.
Community Board Game Night at Moon Dog Meadery
Boxyard Run Club at Boxyard RTP
6 p.m.
In Other Words at Arcana
Duke Baseball vs College of Charleston at Jack Coombs Field
Bring Your Own Vinyl with Jaffar at Rubies on Five Points
Women on the Wall at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
6:30 p.m.
Trivia at Durham Food Hall
Pony Ride at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
7 p.m.
Trivia at Beer Study Durham
Not Rocket Science Trivia at DSSOLVR Durham
Tuesday Blues Jam at The Blue Note Grill
8 p.m.
Comedy Night at Bull City Ciderworks
Jeremy 'Bean' Clemons Trio at Kingfisher
Enter Shikari at Motorco Music Hall
Vision Video + Tears For The Dying at The Pinhook
Senior Short Game Clinic at Hillandale Golf Course
10:30 a.m.
Storytime on the Roof with Durham County Library at The Durham Hotel
12 p.m.
Adult Recess at CCB Plaza
3 p.m.
Durham Farmers’ Market at Durham Central Park
4 p.m.
Whiskey Wednesdays at Alley Twenty Six
5 p.m.
Free Wednesday Wine Tasting at Beer Study Durham
5:30 p.m.
Ride of Silence at CCB Plaza
6 p.m.
Queer Craft Night and Tarot with Joy at Arcana
Bimbe Community Block Party at Holton Career & Resource Center
Come Take a Flight With Us: A Bright Black Workshop at Proximity Brewing Company
Free RTP Business Rockstar Connect Networking Event at Sheraton Imperial Hotel
Sweet Social: Auntie's African Ice Cream at The Durham Hotel
6:30 p.m.
Trivia Night with Pickle at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
7 p.m.
Bottle Swap: Homebrew Club at Durty Bull Brewing Brewing Company
Skip The Small Talk: Speed Friending Event at Fullsteam Brewery
Hammered Trivia at Hi-Wire Brewing
Karaoke Night at Mavericks Smokehouse
Music Bingo at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
3rd Wednesday Jazz Jam Session at Succotash Southern & Creole Kitchen
Brett Chambers Open Mic at The Blue Note Grill
8 p.m.
Air Hockey Tournament at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Trivia Night at Bull McCabe's
Karaoke at Moon Dog Meadery
The Weeks at Motorco Music Hall
Blends With Friends at The Pinhook
Harnessing the Power of AI to Ensure Equitable HR Practices at RTI Holden Building
9:30 a.m.
Guide Supported Canoeing, Kayaking, and Standup Paddleboarding at Eno River
12:15 p.m.
Midday Meander: A Strolling Conversation at Sarah P. Duke Gardens
3 p.m.
Guided Museum Tour at 21c Museum Hotels Durham
5 p.m.
Thirsty Thursdays at Dashi
Righteous Roots Reggae Show at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
5:30 p.m.
Walking Club with Bull City Strollers at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham
6 p.m.
Queer Trivia at Arcana
Vinyl Night with DJ Deckades at Gizmo Brew Works
6:15 p.m.
Pony Run at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
6:30 p.m.
AfterHours: Science of Beer at Museum of Life and Science
Line Dance Classes at Mystic Farm and Distillery
Space Code Youth Open Mic at NorthStar Church of the Arts
Boulders & Brews Meetup at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
7 p.m.
Trivia Night at Beer Tooth Taproom
Bimbé Cypher at CCB Plaza
Bring Your Own Vinyl Night at Congress Social Bar
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Summer Jazz Jam (Curated by Al Strong) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
Community Board Game Night at Moon Dog Meadery
Al Strong Presents Jazz on the Roof at The Durham Hotel
7:30 p.m.
Trivia Night with Big Slow Tom at Clouds Brewing Brightleaf Square
Reverend Billy C. Wirtz / Armand Lenchek & Carter Minor at The Blue Note Grill
Pillow Talk: Speed Dating and Conversations About Sex / Sexuality at The Pinhook
8 p.m.
Weekly Single Mingle at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Trivia at Fullsteam Brewery
Danny Lopriore at Motorco Music Hall
9 p.m.
DJ Halo Presents: No Requests at Rubies on Five Points
9:30 p.m.
Karaoke Night at The Tavern
Tasting at Ten at Counter Culture Coffee
12 p.m.
Co-Working Social at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham
4 p.m.
Late Spring Tree Ramble at Sarah P. Duke Gardens
5 p.m.
Guided Museum Tours at 21c Museum Hotels Durham
Food Truck Friday at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
5:30 p.m.
LOJO: Log Off, Jam On at Boxyard RTP
6 p.m.
Aly J & Kevin Clark and Tarot with Kathleen at Arcana
Third Friday Art Walk at Downtown Durham
Friday Night Makes at Durham Arts Council
May Third Friday at Durham Arts Council
Counterpoints Exhibition Reception at Durham Bottling Co.
Third Friday at Golden Belt Arts
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Screenprint Roundup at The Fruit
The Patio Dance Parties : Clueless Fridays at Unscripted Durham
6:30 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
7 p.m.
Live Vinyl Spinning by PhDJ at Beer Study Durham
Early Show: John Howie Jr. / Ramona and The Holy Smokes at The Pinhook
7:30 p.m.
Evening Eno Exploration Paddle at Eno River
Evan Ringel & Ariel Pocock at Sharp 9 Gallery
8 p.m.
Pass the Aux at Boricua Soul
Stereo Reveries at DSSOLVR Durham
Karaoke! at Fullsteam Brewery
Cheekface at Motorco Music Hall
Dance Blues Friday at Studio 5
9 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
10 p.m.
The Floor: Special Guest THEYDYLIKE at Rubies on Five Points
Lookin For A Cure at Bull City Running Company-South
8 a.m.
Durham Farmers' Market at Durham Central Park
parkrun Durham at Southern Boundaries Park
9 a.m.
South Durham Farmers' Market at Greenwood Commons Shopping Center
9:30 a.m.
Guide Supported Canoeing, Kayaking, and Standup Paddleboarding at Eno River
10 a.m.
Pop Up Record Show at Beer Durham
Durham's Home Goods Market at Black Wall St Gardens
Bear Awareness Week at Museum of Life and Science
10:30 a.m.
Mother's Day Brunch at The Durham Hotel
11 a.m.
Battle of the Blades 2024 at Historic Durham Athletic Park
12 p.m.
Springtime Outdoor Market at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Crafternoons at Gizmo Brew Works
Preservation Durham Annual Home Tour: The Rambling Ranch at Orchard Park Picnic Shelter
1 p.m.
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Say It With Glass Workshop - Sam Nguyen at Moon Dog Meadery
Bimbé Celebration at Rock Quarry Park
2 p.m.
Closing Reception — Dan Gottlieb: Figure Ground at Craven Allen Gallery
Durham "Bullpen" Treasure Hunt - Walking Team Scavenger Hunt! at Fullsteam Brewery
3 p.m.
A Beautiful Noise Spring Concert by the Common Woman Chorus at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Peter Pan at The Carolina Theatre
4 p.m.
Family Fun Saturday: May Flowers at Guglhupf Restaurant
5 p.m.
Rooftops and Alleyways Community Canvas Wall Brawl at Dashi
Durham Blues & Brews Festival at Durham Central Park
Hops & Blues at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
6 p.m.
The Moon Unit and Tarot with Emily at Arcana
Peter Pan at The Carolina Theatre
6:30 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
7 p.m.
A Beautiful Noise Spring Concert by the Common Woman Chorus at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Crones of Anarchy: Blues, Rock, Americana at Succotash Southern & Creole Kitchen
7:30 p.m.
Jim Ketch Swingtet at Sharp 9 Gallery
Big Birthday Dance Party: Combo Platter with 2 Sides at The Blue Note Grill
8:15 p.m.
BBYMUTHA: Sleep Paralysis Tour 2024 at Motorco Music Hall
9 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
10 p.m.
Fortune Factory Presents: Taurus Dance Party at Rubies on Five Points
Jazz Brunch at Lula & Sadie's
10:30 a.m.
Al Strong Presents Jazz Brunch at Alley Twenty Six
12 p.m.
Preservation Durham Annual Home Tour: The Rambling Ranch at Orchard Park Picnic Shelter
Sunday Dollar Bin Sale for Charity at Rumors Durham
Supernatural Sunday - Psychic Affair + Healers Market at Weldon Mills Distillery
Farmers Market at ZincHouse Winery & Brewery
12:15 p.m.
Public Tour at Duke Chapel
2 p.m.
Hillandale Golf Beginner Clinic at Hillandale Golf Course
3:30 p.m.
Davis Dance Company Spring Recital 2024 at The Carolina Theatre
4 p.m.
Showings at Scripps: Miguel Gutierrez at ADF's Samuel H. Scripps Studios
Carmina Burana at Baldwin Auditorium
Día de las Madres Kermes at El Futuro’s Therapeutic Green Space
String Break at Fullsteam Brewery
6 p.m.
Emma Jane's EP Release Show and Tarot with Joy at Arcana
Davis Dance Company Spring Recital 2024 at The Carolina Theatre
6:30 p.m.
Open Mic Night at Moon Dog Meadery
7 p.m.
DPW Limit Break at Durham Convention Center
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Noteworthy Events
The Lion King at DPAC- Winner of six Tony Awards®, including Best Musical, this landmark musical event brings together one of the most imaginative creative teams on Broadway.
- Wed, May 15 - Sun, June 9
- $29.50+
- Let your inner child shine as you play games, make crafts, and enjoy the fresh air during your lunch break!
- Wed, May 15
- 12-2 p.m.
- Free admission
- Thu, May 16 - Sat, May 18
- This family-oriented event is a celebration of African and African American history, culture, arts, and traditions. This year's headliner: Monica!
- Sat, May 18
- 1-7 p.m.
- Free admission
- This adventure begins at the London home of the Darling family, a typical evening in 1912, as the weary parents try to settle their children down for bed while the young ones insist on staying up late. Little do Wendy, John, and Michael know that a fantastic journey awaits them that night.
- Sat, May 18
- 3 p.m. and 6 p.m.
- $32+
- Wrestlers from all over the world will gather in one place for a night you won't forget.
- Sun, May 19
- 7 p.m.
- $25+
Multi-Day Events
The NGIN Cityscapes Summit at Durham Convention Center- Hosted by national nonprofit, New Growth Innovation Network, prepare to connect with like-minded professionals and engage with purpose-driven organizations. Immerse yourself in workshops and captivating keynotes from renowned speakers, featuring three tracks of insightful sessions: Inclusive Capital, Community Wealth Building, and Reimagining Systems.
- Wed, May 15 - Fri, May 17
- Registration fees vary
- Enjoy fabulous Greek food, desserts, wine and beer in a festive outdoor atmosphere. Continuous Greek music and scheduled folk dance performances.
- Sat, May 18, 11 a.m. - 9 p.m. and Sun, May 19, 11 a.m. - 7 p.m.
- Free admission
- Enjoy a look inside the historic McCown-Mangum House, Photography Museum, and Mill.
- Sat, May 18 and Sun, May 19
- 10 a.m. - 2 p.m.
- Free admission
- Libeled Lady
- Dirty Harry & Assault on Precinct 13
- Cat City
- Back to Black
- Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
- UHF
Monday, May 13
2 p.m.Board Game Night at The Glass Jug in Downtown Durham
5 p.m.
Arts & Drafts at Fullsteam Brewery
6 p.m.
Disc Golf Putting League at The Glass Jug in RTP
6:30 p.m.
Trivia Night at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
7 p.m.
Community Board Game Night at Moon Dog Meadery
Tuesday, May 14
Events at Durty Bull Brewing Brewing Company- 12-8 p.m. - Food Truck: Mike's Vegan Cookout
- 7-9 p.m. - Bull City Beer Runners Run Club
- 7-8 p.m. - Puzzled Pints Game Night
- 5:45-6:30 p.m. - Community Zumba Classes
- 6-8 p.m. - Music Bingo
- 6-8 p.m. - The Glass Jog Run Club
- 6-9 p.m. - Stitch & Sip
Boxyard Run Club at Boxyard RTP
6 p.m.
In Other Words at Arcana
Duke Baseball vs College of Charleston at Jack Coombs Field
Bring Your Own Vinyl with Jaffar at Rubies on Five Points
Women on the Wall at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
6:30 p.m.
Trivia at Durham Food Hall
Pony Ride at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
7 p.m.
Trivia at Beer Study Durham
Not Rocket Science Trivia at DSSOLVR Durham
Tuesday Blues Jam at The Blue Note Grill
8 p.m.
Comedy Night at Bull City Ciderworks
Jeremy 'Bean' Clemons Trio at Kingfisher
Enter Shikari at Motorco Music Hall
Vision Video + Tears For The Dying at The Pinhook
Wednesday, May 15
Events at Atomic Empire- 6:30 p.m. - Dragon Ball Fusion World Release Event
- 7 p.m. - Flesh and Blood Armory Event
- 12-2 p.m. - Hear & There: Daniel Delorenzo
- 5:30-8:30 p.m. - Game Night
- 7-8 p.m. - Signature Wine Tasting
- 7-8:30 p.m. - Laughs Comedy Night
Senior Short Game Clinic at Hillandale Golf Course
10:30 a.m.
Storytime on the Roof with Durham County Library at The Durham Hotel
12 p.m.
Adult Recess at CCB Plaza
3 p.m.
Durham Farmers’ Market at Durham Central Park
4 p.m.
Whiskey Wednesdays at Alley Twenty Six
5 p.m.
Free Wednesday Wine Tasting at Beer Study Durham
5:30 p.m.
Ride of Silence at CCB Plaza
6 p.m.
Queer Craft Night and Tarot with Joy at Arcana
Bimbe Community Block Party at Holton Career & Resource Center
Come Take a Flight With Us: A Bright Black Workshop at Proximity Brewing Company
Free RTP Business Rockstar Connect Networking Event at Sheraton Imperial Hotel
Sweet Social: Auntie's African Ice Cream at The Durham Hotel
6:30 p.m.
Trivia Night with Pickle at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
7 p.m.
Bottle Swap: Homebrew Club at Durty Bull Brewing Brewing Company
Skip The Small Talk: Speed Friending Event at Fullsteam Brewery
Hammered Trivia at Hi-Wire Brewing
Karaoke Night at Mavericks Smokehouse
Music Bingo at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
3rd Wednesday Jazz Jam Session at Succotash Southern & Creole Kitchen
Brett Chambers Open Mic at The Blue Note Grill
8 p.m.
Air Hockey Tournament at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Trivia Night at Bull McCabe's
Karaoke at Moon Dog Meadery
The Weeks at Motorco Music Hall
Blends With Friends at The Pinhook
Thursday, May 16
Events at Boxyard RTP- 7:30-8 a.m. - Bike Durham: Bike to Work
- 12-2 p.m. - Taking Back Thursday: Sheila Casalett
- 12-8 p.m. -Food Truck: Mike's Vegan Cookout
- 7-9 p.m. - Thursday Trivia with Nick
Harnessing the Power of AI to Ensure Equitable HR Practices at RTI Holden Building
9:30 a.m.
Guide Supported Canoeing, Kayaking, and Standup Paddleboarding at Eno River
12:15 p.m.
Midday Meander: A Strolling Conversation at Sarah P. Duke Gardens
3 p.m.
Guided Museum Tour at 21c Museum Hotels Durham
5 p.m.
Thirsty Thursdays at Dashi
Righteous Roots Reggae Show at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
5:30 p.m.
Walking Club with Bull City Strollers at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham
6 p.m.
Queer Trivia at Arcana
Vinyl Night with DJ Deckades at Gizmo Brew Works
6:15 p.m.
Pony Run at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
6:30 p.m.
AfterHours: Science of Beer at Museum of Life and Science
Line Dance Classes at Mystic Farm and Distillery
Space Code Youth Open Mic at NorthStar Church of the Arts
Boulders & Brews Meetup at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
7 p.m.
Trivia Night at Beer Tooth Taproom
Bimbé Cypher at CCB Plaza
Bring Your Own Vinyl Night at Congress Social Bar
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Summer Jazz Jam (Curated by Al Strong) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
Community Board Game Night at Moon Dog Meadery
Al Strong Presents Jazz on the Roof at The Durham Hotel
7:30 p.m.
Trivia Night with Big Slow Tom at Clouds Brewing Brightleaf Square
Reverend Billy C. Wirtz / Armand Lenchek & Carter Minor at The Blue Note Grill
Pillow Talk: Speed Dating and Conversations About Sex / Sexuality at The Pinhook
8 p.m.
Weekly Single Mingle at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Trivia at Fullsteam Brewery
Danny Lopriore at Motorco Music Hall
9 p.m.
DJ Halo Presents: No Requests at Rubies on Five Points
9:30 p.m.
Karaoke Night at The Tavern
Friday, May 17
Events at Atomic Empire- 6:30 p.m. - Lorcana: Ursula’s Return Release Event
- 6:30 p.m. - Commander Legends: Battle for Baldur's Gate Draft
- 5-9 p.m. - Food Truck: La Republica Taco Truck
- 8-11 p.m. - Open Mic Stand-up Comedy
- 7:30-9 p.m. - Wit: An Improv Comedy Game Show
- 9-10 p.m. - Hush Hush
- 6:45 p.m. - Lindy Hop Lesson + Dance
- 7:30 p.m. - Djam
- 9:30 p.m. - Bachata Dance Night
- 6-8 p.m. - The Duke Street Dogs
- 9:15 p.m. - The Beautiful People Club
Tasting at Ten at Counter Culture Coffee
12 p.m.
Co-Working Social at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham
4 p.m.
Late Spring Tree Ramble at Sarah P. Duke Gardens
5 p.m.
Guided Museum Tours at 21c Museum Hotels Durham
Food Truck Friday at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
5:30 p.m.
LOJO: Log Off, Jam On at Boxyard RTP
6 p.m.
Aly J & Kevin Clark and Tarot with Kathleen at Arcana
Third Friday Art Walk at Downtown Durham
Friday Night Makes at Durham Arts Council
May Third Friday at Durham Arts Council
Counterpoints Exhibition Reception at Durham Bottling Co.
Third Friday at Golden Belt Arts
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Screenprint Roundup at The Fruit
The Patio Dance Parties : Clueless Fridays at Unscripted Durham
6:30 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
7 p.m.
Live Vinyl Spinning by PhDJ at Beer Study Durham
Early Show: John Howie Jr. / Ramona and The Holy Smokes at The Pinhook
7:30 p.m.
Evening Eno Exploration Paddle at Eno River
Evan Ringel & Ariel Pocock at Sharp 9 Gallery
8 p.m.
Pass the Aux at Boricua Soul
Stereo Reveries at DSSOLVR Durham
Karaoke! at Fullsteam Brewery
Cheekface at Motorco Music Hall
Dance Blues Friday at Studio 5
9 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
10 p.m.
The Floor: Special Guest THEYDYLIKE at Rubies on Five Points
Saturday, May 18
Events at Atomic Empire- 11 a.m. - Pokémon TCG: League Cup
- 1 p.m. - Lorcana: Ursula’s Return Release Event
- 2 p.m. - Game Designers of North Carolina Meetup
- 11:30 a.m. - 2:30 p.m. - Saturdaze: DJ k.ward
- 1-8 p.m. - Food Truck: Death By Taco
- 3-7 p.m. - 3rd Saturday Vintage + Maker Market
- 5-9 p.m. - Home Brewed: CNOTE Art Spectacular
- Every Saturday, 10-10:30 a.m. and 11-11:30 a.m.
- 7:30-8:30 p.m. - House Party
- 8:30-9:30 p.m. - Harold Night
- 9:30-10:30 p.m. - Mint Condition Standup Showcase
- 5-8 p.m. - Menace To Society Album Listening Party
- 7:30-10 p.m. - HUMP! Film Festival
- 10 p.m. - 2 a.m. - Puro Perreo Pari
- 7:30 p.m. - Boogie Burly Nights... A Groovy 70s Show
- 10:30 p.m. - Drake and Friends 2
- 2 p.m. - Downtown Durham Walking Tour
- 4 p.m. - Durham African American History Tour
- 6 p.m. - Downtown Durham True Crime Tour
Lookin For A Cure at Bull City Running Company-South
8 a.m.
Durham Farmers' Market at Durham Central Park
parkrun Durham at Southern Boundaries Park
9 a.m.
South Durham Farmers' Market at Greenwood Commons Shopping Center
9:30 a.m.
Guide Supported Canoeing, Kayaking, and Standup Paddleboarding at Eno River
10 a.m.
Pop Up Record Show at Beer Durham
Durham's Home Goods Market at Black Wall St Gardens
Bear Awareness Week at Museum of Life and Science
10:30 a.m.
Mother's Day Brunch at The Durham Hotel
11 a.m.
Battle of the Blades 2024 at Historic Durham Athletic Park
12 p.m.
Springtime Outdoor Market at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Crafternoons at Gizmo Brew Works
Preservation Durham Annual Home Tour: The Rambling Ranch at Orchard Park Picnic Shelter
1 p.m.
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Say It With Glass Workshop - Sam Nguyen at Moon Dog Meadery
Bimbé Celebration at Rock Quarry Park
2 p.m.
Closing Reception — Dan Gottlieb: Figure Ground at Craven Allen Gallery
Durham "Bullpen" Treasure Hunt - Walking Team Scavenger Hunt! at Fullsteam Brewery
3 p.m.
A Beautiful Noise Spring Concert by the Common Woman Chorus at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Peter Pan at The Carolina Theatre
4 p.m.
Family Fun Saturday: May Flowers at Guglhupf Restaurant
5 p.m.
Rooftops and Alleyways Community Canvas Wall Brawl at Dashi
Durham Blues & Brews Festival at Durham Central Park
Hops & Blues at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
6 p.m.
The Moon Unit and Tarot with Emily at Arcana
Peter Pan at The Carolina Theatre
6:30 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
7 p.m.
A Beautiful Noise Spring Concert by the Common Woman Chorus at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Crones of Anarchy: Blues, Rock, Americana at Succotash Southern & Creole Kitchen
7:30 p.m.
Jim Ketch Swingtet at Sharp 9 Gallery
Big Birthday Dance Party: Combo Platter with 2 Sides at The Blue Note Grill
8:15 p.m.
BBYMUTHA: Sleep Paralysis Tour 2024 at Motorco Music Hall
9 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
10 p.m.
Fortune Factory Presents: Taurus Dance Party at Rubies on Five Points
Sunday, May 19
Events at Atomic Empire- 11:30 a.m. - Star Wars: Shatterpoint Tournament
- 12 p.m. - Battletech Campaign Day
- 1 p.m. - Lorcana: Ursula’s Return Release Event
- 2-4 p.m. - Hammered Trivia with Casey
- 4-8 p.m. - The Blood Connection Blood Drive
Jazz Brunch at Lula & Sadie's
10:30 a.m.
Al Strong Presents Jazz Brunch at Alley Twenty Six
12 p.m.
Preservation Durham Annual Home Tour: The Rambling Ranch at Orchard Park Picnic Shelter
Sunday Dollar Bin Sale for Charity at Rumors Durham
Supernatural Sunday - Psychic Affair + Healers Market at Weldon Mills Distillery
Farmers Market at ZincHouse Winery & Brewery
12:15 p.m.
Public Tour at Duke Chapel
2 p.m.
Hillandale Golf Beginner Clinic at Hillandale Golf Course
3:30 p.m.
Davis Dance Company Spring Recital 2024 at The Carolina Theatre
4 p.m.
Showings at Scripps: Miguel Gutierrez at ADF's Samuel H. Scripps Studios
Carmina Burana at Baldwin Auditorium
Día de las Madres Kermes at El Futuro’s Therapeutic Green Space
String Break at Fullsteam Brewery
6 p.m.
Emma Jane's EP Release Show and Tarot with Joy at Arcana
Davis Dance Company Spring Recital 2024 at The Carolina Theatre
6:30 p.m.
Open Mic Night at Moon Dog Meadery
7 p.m.
DPW Limit Break at Durham Convention Center
Running Art Exhibit
Hometown (Inherited): Ten Year Retrospective at The Fruit- This project examines the changing landscape of our city through a series of forty mixed media pieces the artist has created since 2014.
- Third Friday openings on Apr 19 and May 17, 6-9 p.m.
- Drop-in by appointment and Wednesdays 4-7 p.m.
- Free admission
- Each piece begins as a photograph, which is then printed on acrylic and worked with a variety of paints and compounds to create a unique surface.
- Sat, May 4 - Sat, May 18
- Free admission
- Sacred Geometry is an ancient field of physics whose equations are expressed through shape. Shape is a way to explore the universal fabric of our existence.
- Sat, May 4 - Sat, June 1
- Free admission
- It Ain’t All Black and White is a photography exhibition that encourages us to consider emotions such as serenity, apprehension, yearning, and more.
- Captured by 11 dynamic photographers dedicated to documenting the fullness and complexity of Black life, this exhibition offers each of us an opportunity to see ourselves with renewed attention.
- Thu, Apr 25 - Sun, June 2
- María Magdalena Campos-Pons: Behold is a monographic exhibition of a visionary voice in photography, immersive installation, painting and performance.
- Thu, Feb 15 - Sun, Jun 9
- Every week, Tue-Sat 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Sun 12-5 p.m.
- Free admission
- Counterpoints is a curated showcase of local AAPI (Asian American Pacific Islander) artists, delving into the convergence of AAPI identity and mental health. Inspired by the intricate layers of musical counterpoint, its purpose is to weave together diverse narratives and confront the stigma surrounding mental health within our communities.
- Wed, May 1 - Sun, June 16
- Mon - Fri, 10 a.m. - 4 p.m.
- The Divine Nine Legacy Memoir delves deep into the history of the National Panhellenic Council (NPHC) or "Divine Nine," a collective of nine Greek Letter organizations founded on May 10th, 1930.
- These organizations were born out of the necessity to provide a voice for Black American students within the collegiate space. United by principles of service, community, brotherhood, and sisterhood, the Divine Nine work collectively to uplift society through acts of service to underserved areas across the nation.
- Fri, Apr 19 - Sat, June 1
- Free admission
2024.05.13 21:54 samof1994 Anyone here ever meet a real Asian woman on a dating app
I(30M) have no special preference for Asian women, but anyone here(esp. white guys like myself) ever had this happen?? I am mostly saying this because a lot of dating sites are full of "Fake Asian women" who just want to sell you crypto.
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2024.05.13 21:11 Odd-Hand-2026 Muranda made more money with me than without me so many ASIAN women have helped her out but never the other way around .. a charity case . That we do the work.. we bring the men and money guys to us..all her help is from Asian women from jade, Yuki, Loni to another short Asian girl who use to work
all her help is from Asian women from jade, Yuki who usually have good clients, Loni , to another short Asian girl who use to work with us back in the day and I’m sure many others I don’t know of. They use to pull her into rooms all the time.. Big bank. That girl always made money.. I never had that !!! no one helped me i had to learn ! master myself put money into myself .. and become.. Muranda Her stage name was Whitney. All this charity what tf you bring ?? Im dying yo know ! If you bring nothing your a weak race! Weak link !! And she never dealt with finance guy or that real hustle of finding money investors or people but yet we told they “JA” are so fast like deer feet.. but no hustle or wits outside of Fantasy / sex work? No making one work for the other? None of her contacts were like mine.. The amount of help she got from “other women” is a great deal.. We bring the help and money …you? What do you bring? What did you bring of value? Oh wait stank dick.. your best!! A gift from her to me .. Isn’t that what you bought? Or the guy who help pay to build your house in Jamaica 🇯🇲 (but never met him) Would I ever think to bring you stank.. as “help” and did I ever? No never! Your tips were great.. and effort you didn’t have to pull.. She told me this after i hung out with a guy but nothing happened between us he was party guy. Our definition of Party is not Diddy or Kat Williams definition of a party .. your Hollywood cartels of “entertainment” are a different, rank, class , social economic status and caliber of people.. nor do we entertain the poor. Back then as i cant consider two months the door was tight and discriminatory was “suits only” deal.. it wasn’t a color thing but a class thing even for white guys.. only time it was chill to a degree was weekend. And still had to be vetted not to waste our time as in bottles and certain amount of funny money purchased if they thought you couldn’t fit.. Would I ever think to bring you stank ? That was the two months i had went back to work.. and i didn’t work everyday.. i hated it had to go back their.. but I did just a lil to see if i could make some extra funds that was 2016.. this also when i met the guy who she accused of rape.. i was their two months.. its on file .. i also wasn’t coming in often not a real job can work whenever you want .. because i spent 2 weeks def not more then 3? In SF to get all the money i needed . And it was strict afffff up in their.. And I did.. I had great relationship with my manager who i was friends (he Italian American) with even afterwards and we stayed in contact. i do what people cant do.. When I needed help “Mark” he is jewish American said no. And was gonna give collateral when Muranda needed help this was well before I even Moved their or had worked their or knew her. When she needed help Mark gave her the “extortion money” .. for her to pay back as she wished.. she hit a white girl in the head with the bottle (stuff like that didn’t happen here.. even though that was before I got their) the moving swivel chairs move and she said the girl ran over her feet on purpose. So her hot temper hit the girl over the head with a GLASS Liquor bottle she was not in this country lawfully nor WORKING LAWFULLY. The white girl wanted to call the police in a effort to dissuade her from contacting police to report this incident .. as she was here illegally (but she did report “rape” after she was here legally) she was curious in my cousin “Selena” when i had brought family photos once.. when we went out to eat.. the girl said how much she wanted .. Mark fronted the money (in loan) by time i dod start working their she was still paying it but slowly.. he wouldn’t take all her money she made but paid it til it went down.. she also had some money at home in a safe saved she bought back in exchange that white girl would not report the incident and the agreement was that she would no longer come back to the club.. Israeli 🇮🇱 should see their enemies now… all around..
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2024.05.13 21:11 Legal_Law_9541 How to Date Above Your League
I can't commit to an AMA, but I thought this would help others. Don't mean to boast/flex as you'll see from my description below:
Why you might want to listen to me:
I'm just a hair short of 5'4", a school teacher who was broke as in had less than <$1K USD in savings and $50K in debt in my mid-thirties, small dick, no muscles, no game, can't sing or dance, & a jungle Asian (think Cambodian, Filipino, Burmese). The latter is meant to point out it's not the Korean trend that's driving this.
My girl is 5'6"—5'7", 10+ years younger than me, slim, blue-eyed blonde from one of the wealthiest Western European countries with a C/D chest, long legs that go above my stomach, a nice, shapely ass, and perfect hourglass waist/hips. Face-wise, imagine Nicole Kidman and Taylor Swift had a baby. To top it all off, she has a fancy job and makes much more than me, and her family is wealthy, while I grew up on food stamps and attended a low-income school.
My Advice:
The bad news is that I attribute getting her to luck, but here are some things I did right:
If you're in the US, NYC, Boston, or SF are big no-nos. In a place like Boston, where you went to school matters so unless you've got the Ivy pedigree, I would skip.
You're doing it right if she's doing most of the talking. Don't mansplain, talk at her, or lecture.
As luck would have it, I quoted from a book that she happened to like. Don't try to force something witty you have in your head. Let your conversation flow naturally.
Don't be self-deprecating in the beginning. If you're short or overweight, don't bring it up. You can joke about that later.
Don't shit-talk others; people who shit on strangers who aren't hurting them are insecure/projecting something rotten about themselves.
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Why you might want to listen to me:
I'm just a hair short of 5'4", a school teacher who was broke as in had less than <$1K USD in savings and $50K in debt in my mid-thirties, small dick, no muscles, no game, can't sing or dance, & a jungle Asian (think Cambodian, Filipino, Burmese). The latter is meant to point out it's not the Korean trend that's driving this.
My girl is 5'6"—5'7", 10+ years younger than me, slim, blue-eyed blonde from one of the wealthiest Western European countries with a C/D chest, long legs that go above my stomach, a nice, shapely ass, and perfect hourglass waist/hips. Face-wise, imagine Nicole Kidman and Taylor Swift had a baby. To top it all off, she has a fancy job and makes much more than me, and her family is wealthy, while I grew up on food stamps and attended a low-income school.
My Advice:
The bad news is that I attribute getting her to luck, but here are some things I did right:
- This sounds counter-intuitive but pursue only physical 8s and higher. The most attractive women are less impervious to the social stigma of dating a guy who looks like me; they know they can pretty much get any type of guy they want; they don't need the social validation of an attractive man because they get the validation every day. In contrast, a guy like me will only remind an average woman of her plainness.
- Geographic arbitrage. Yes, passport bros get a bad rep, but you can be a passport bro to another wealthy country (I'm US-based, so I'm using the US as a baseline). It doesn't have to be Eastern Europe, Southeast Asia, or LatAm.
If you're in the US, NYC, Boston, or SF are big no-nos. In a place like Boston, where you went to school matters so unless you've got the Ivy pedigree, I would skip.
- Related to geography is to consider women from smaller towns/villages. They'll tend to be more down-to-earth, and you might be more of a novelty.
- You'll be rejected most of the time, so you need to keep at it and not become resentful, bitter, or angry. The negative emotions will surface in your future interactions with women.
- The most important trait I think I had (and I only acquired this in my early 30s) was being comfortable with myself/not caring what others thought. I don't like the word "confidence" because it's too vague. This means not trying to be someone you're not, not trying to show off. Don't mention your job or educational pedigree unless it comes up naturally and definitely not as a way to convey your value.
You're doing it right if she's doing most of the talking. Don't mansplain, talk at her, or lecture.
As luck would have it, I quoted from a book that she happened to like. Don't try to force something witty you have in your head. Let your conversation flow naturally.
Don't be self-deprecating in the beginning. If you're short or overweight, don't bring it up. You can joke about that later.
Don't shit-talk others; people who shit on strangers who aren't hurting them are insecure/projecting something rotten about themselves.
- Talk to and compliment (sincerely) strangers (cash registers are the best) whether it's someone you're romantically interested in or not. This will sharpen your conversation skills. Talk to other men just to shoot the shit. This will put you in a good frame of mind/mood.
- Aim for coffee dates rather than dinner, or if the latter, you will be the one to cut the evening short. Have the mentality that you have enough to talk about that it can wait until the next date.
2024.05.13 20:21 jicamiii Boss said he shut down engineering forum instead of including more people
My company's engineering departments don't talk to each other. I think this is by design so that we don't talk about how much our managers get in our way.
I've been advocating for an engineering forum where all the departments across the company are included. We had one, but it managed to exclude both Black engineers, three women (one of them Asian), and the only Asian and Latino guys. The whole thing was white and there was only one woman included.
When I talked to my boss about bringing something back that includes more people, he said "Yeah I shut that down because it felt gross!"
So... they will literally stop having a conversation rather than include us. Fuckin sucks.
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I've been advocating for an engineering forum where all the departments across the company are included. We had one, but it managed to exclude both Black engineers, three women (one of them Asian), and the only Asian and Latino guys. The whole thing was white and there was only one woman included.
When I talked to my boss about bringing something back that includes more people, he said "Yeah I shut that down because it felt gross!"
So... they will literally stop having a conversation rather than include us. Fuckin sucks.