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2024.05.13 22:28 Dismal_Ad_1702 Found out 2 weeks after getting married that my husband went on a date with another woman when we were dating
The short story is when we were dating, my husband went on a date with a woman, kept in touch with her, and tried to go on another date 2 months before he proposed.
We recently went to an alumni event for his graduate school, and when we were there, a woman came up to me and we had an awkward conversation- she started off by saying that she was inviting herself to my wedding (we got married on paper and are having the ceremony later) and made a comment that “husband sure does know what he wants”. On the way home, husband said “you know how I said that a girl flirted with me very aggressively and groped me? That was her”. The thing is- he absolutely never told me that. When I said he never told me, he insisted that he did. I asked that he give me more information and he told me that she had invited him out to lunch, she was so attractive that he didn’t think she would be hitting on him, she flirted with him, and he shut it down. This happened when we were officially dating about 5 months into our relationship.
Something did not seem right about the story so I pressed him for more information and he said that they had also tried to meet up for tea one more time but it didn’t happen then he got angry and said that he was trying to be patient but I was over reacting so I let it go.
The next day, I brought it up again and asked for more information because I was upset that he had tried to meet up with her again. He then changed his story and said that the second meeting was going to be at a Super Bowl party and he would have brought me along. He said that he never said that he would have met her for tea and I should hear how ridiculous I sounded. I then had to go to work so I said I would text him.
When I was at work, I asked for her Instagram handle because I wanted to get her side of the story. She said that they met up once, kept in touch, had tried to meet up again and she didn’t show up. She specifically said it was not a date. I told her that my husband had said that she was flirting with him and if she had been I wasn’t upset with her because she would have had no way of knowing he was in a relationship. At this, she got offended and said that if he had thought that he should not have asked her out again and say that she would be unfollowing him and would not talk to him anymore.
I reached back out to my husband to let her know what she said and he got angry and said that she absolutely had flirted with him. I asked him again for more information and he said that he walked her back to her car and on the way, they also stopped at a boutique and then she looked at desserts.
This is getting long, so in short : I got home and looked at his phone. He had deleted parts of their conversation and it turns out that he asked her out, they took selfies with her holding his arm, him with his arm around her, spent 3 hours at the first restaurant, took funny pictures at the boutique, went to a second restaurant and spent an hour there. They then kept in touch and he literally never mentioned me once. They had not made plans to met at the Super Bowl party, he had asked her out again to the same restaurant and she literally stood him up. He still talked to her after that and remembered her birthday.
He also tried to meet up with another woman that he had been dating when we were not exclusive well into our relationship.
When I ask him explain, he either says that he doesn’t know why he did it, he forgot it happened or he didn’t think it was a big deal. This is part of a continuing pattern though where he disregards my feelings.
I am really struggling because this absolutely breaks my trust but it never got physical so I’m not sure if it is really that bad?
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We recently went to an alumni event for his graduate school, and when we were there, a woman came up to me and we had an awkward conversation- she started off by saying that she was inviting herself to my wedding (we got married on paper and are having the ceremony later) and made a comment that “husband sure does know what he wants”. On the way home, husband said “you know how I said that a girl flirted with me very aggressively and groped me? That was her”. The thing is- he absolutely never told me that. When I said he never told me, he insisted that he did. I asked that he give me more information and he told me that she had invited him out to lunch, she was so attractive that he didn’t think she would be hitting on him, she flirted with him, and he shut it down. This happened when we were officially dating about 5 months into our relationship.
Something did not seem right about the story so I pressed him for more information and he said that they had also tried to meet up for tea one more time but it didn’t happen then he got angry and said that he was trying to be patient but I was over reacting so I let it go.
The next day, I brought it up again and asked for more information because I was upset that he had tried to meet up with her again. He then changed his story and said that the second meeting was going to be at a Super Bowl party and he would have brought me along. He said that he never said that he would have met her for tea and I should hear how ridiculous I sounded. I then had to go to work so I said I would text him.
When I was at work, I asked for her Instagram handle because I wanted to get her side of the story. She said that they met up once, kept in touch, had tried to meet up again and she didn’t show up. She specifically said it was not a date. I told her that my husband had said that she was flirting with him and if she had been I wasn’t upset with her because she would have had no way of knowing he was in a relationship. At this, she got offended and said that if he had thought that he should not have asked her out again and say that she would be unfollowing him and would not talk to him anymore.
I reached back out to my husband to let her know what she said and he got angry and said that she absolutely had flirted with him. I asked him again for more information and he said that he walked her back to her car and on the way, they also stopped at a boutique and then she looked at desserts.
This is getting long, so in short : I got home and looked at his phone. He had deleted parts of their conversation and it turns out that he asked her out, they took selfies with her holding his arm, him with his arm around her, spent 3 hours at the first restaurant, took funny pictures at the boutique, went to a second restaurant and spent an hour there. They then kept in touch and he literally never mentioned me once. They had not made plans to met at the Super Bowl party, he had asked her out again to the same restaurant and she literally stood him up. He still talked to her after that and remembered her birthday.
He also tried to meet up with another woman that he had been dating when we were not exclusive well into our relationship.
When I ask him explain, he either says that he doesn’t know why he did it, he forgot it happened or he didn’t think it was a big deal. This is part of a continuing pattern though where he disregards my feelings.
I am really struggling because this absolutely breaks my trust but it never got physical so I’m not sure if it is really that bad?
2024.05.13 22:23 A_Literal_Emu AIO for getting upset with my sister sending my a happy mother's day post
I'll keep it short. I have 3 sisters who range from 2-12 years older than me. All three of them have kids but I don't.
I'm approaching my 32 birthday and am single, but I'm also working 2 jobs and in college, so I'm just too busy to date.
Lately all three of my sisters have started bringing up my age and telling me that I'm going to die alone/regret not having kids if I don't change my lifestyle. I've told them all on multiple occasions that I will consider dating when I'm done school next year, and that I'm neutral towards kids, so if I don't end up having any I'm not upset about it.
This morning I checked my messages and realized that yesterday, one of my sisters had send me a gif saying "happy cat mom mother's day." With a lady surrounded by cats. She followed it up with a "its you in the future😂." Caption.
I haven't responded, but I can't tell if she was just trying to be funny, and I should let it go. Or if she was taking a cheap shot and intentionally trying to upset me.
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I'm approaching my 32 birthday and am single, but I'm also working 2 jobs and in college, so I'm just too busy to date.
Lately all three of my sisters have started bringing up my age and telling me that I'm going to die alone/regret not having kids if I don't change my lifestyle. I've told them all on multiple occasions that I will consider dating when I'm done school next year, and that I'm neutral towards kids, so if I don't end up having any I'm not upset about it.
This morning I checked my messages and realized that yesterday, one of my sisters had send me a gif saying "happy cat mom mother's day." With a lady surrounded by cats. She followed it up with a "its you in the future😂." Caption.
I haven't responded, but I can't tell if she was just trying to be funny, and I should let it go. Or if she was taking a cheap shot and intentionally trying to upset me.
2024.05.13 22:22 ChannelZero_Ai War Crime Awards 2024 : and the winner is? Netanyahu
The Palestinian people after 60+ years of colonial rule by the British, with the help of the USA, left the Palestinian people in a very bad place. A serious wrong was in the making... White European Jews with a colonial agenda, invaded Palestine under the guise that the god of the bible, promised the Jews a land of their own and since the bible mentions the Israelites being in Palestine, these Jewish people actually think that they are the Israelites from the African history and therefor the rightful owners of the land of Palestine which they want to turn into Israel. Why do they not identify as Hebrew Israelite? but instead call themselves Jews ! Maybe its because they know it just wouldn't fly as the history of the Hebrew Israelites is well documented and it is no secret that these people were black Africans so, instead these white Europeans decided to go with their own creation called Jew and went about changing history. With their money and influence; the face of the white European Jews; became the poster child for the Lost children of Israel. The European has sought to take everything away from the African including their history, only the African history has been well preserved and is now being recognised.
Here's the thing. 1; The information found in these ancient scrolls came from Africa so, it is African history. 2; Nobody in this African history were, Jews or Christians as these religions were created hundreds of years after these biblical figures had died so neither Moses or Yoshua was a Jew or Christian. 3; In this day and age we would all look foolish trying to claim anything based of the bible and the word of god as the bible is a work of fiction and cannot prove the existence of a god let alone prove that god had said such things. 4. Saying that god said, is one thing, but making such moves to take land that does not belong to you in such a manner is not only scary but very dangerous to the global community.
To witness colonization taking place in 2024 is a; in your face reminder of what can happen to any country since the people who are doing this are too powerful to be stopped and seek to do what they want, when they want and to whom ever they want; 5; The lies that are being upheld by the global West in regards to who these Jews really are. A simple blood test will prove that little to none of these people have any blood relations to that region of the world; yet, here they are, claiming to be descendants of the book. These white European Jews have fabricated history to suit their own requirements. As usual, the European likes to covet what does not belong to them. These Europeans painted themselves into a history that is far older than they are as a race. Such is their jealousy and envy; 6; The identity of being a Jew is a white European creation.
The bible never referred to the Israelite as a Jew, that is a misconception and a deliberate fabrication by those who wrote the modern day bibles. The so called Jew from the bible were called Hebrews who were a black nomadic tribe of people. A select few were called Israelites who came from a Tribe called Judah who today would of came from the region they now call Nigeria. Judaism and Jew are White European creations that were created around African history. Can you see where I'm going with this. If god had really said those things in regards to some promise of a home land for the Jews, then there wouldn't of been any bloodshed involved but the reason why Israel is in turmoil right now is because if such a promise does exist and is true then this promise is for the Israelites not the Jew as the Jew is a European creation and as such is not recognised by the god of the bible;
8; Judaism is a religion not an ethnicity and as a religion, it does not need its own country to exist. Could you imagine if the Christians demanded their own country because god promised them their own home land? that would be absurd, so why is it different for the Jews who are from Europe. Some of them are from a German bloodline or a Slovakian heritage. Most are Russian or Ashkenazi. If any Arab or African blood exists in the Jewish community, it is only through interbreeding.
And finally; The Name Israel was never the name of a place or the name of Ancient Palestine. Yakub otherwise known as Jacob from the bible was later on renamed by god and was given the name Israel. Israel was never the name of a Jewish homeland, this has been fabricated and holds know truth to it and is a construct of colonialism.
We are now moving into an era of enlightenment; were what was once hidden, will now be revealed. What was in the dark, will now see the light. An era were secrets, lies and the truth meet head on.
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Here's the thing. 1; The information found in these ancient scrolls came from Africa so, it is African history. 2; Nobody in this African history were, Jews or Christians as these religions were created hundreds of years after these biblical figures had died so neither Moses or Yoshua was a Jew or Christian. 3; In this day and age we would all look foolish trying to claim anything based of the bible and the word of god as the bible is a work of fiction and cannot prove the existence of a god let alone prove that god had said such things. 4. Saying that god said, is one thing, but making such moves to take land that does not belong to you in such a manner is not only scary but very dangerous to the global community.
To witness colonization taking place in 2024 is a; in your face reminder of what can happen to any country since the people who are doing this are too powerful to be stopped and seek to do what they want, when they want and to whom ever they want; 5; The lies that are being upheld by the global West in regards to who these Jews really are. A simple blood test will prove that little to none of these people have any blood relations to that region of the world; yet, here they are, claiming to be descendants of the book. These white European Jews have fabricated history to suit their own requirements. As usual, the European likes to covet what does not belong to them. These Europeans painted themselves into a history that is far older than they are as a race. Such is their jealousy and envy; 6; The identity of being a Jew is a white European creation.
The bible never referred to the Israelite as a Jew, that is a misconception and a deliberate fabrication by those who wrote the modern day bibles. The so called Jew from the bible were called Hebrews who were a black nomadic tribe of people. A select few were called Israelites who came from a Tribe called Judah who today would of came from the region they now call Nigeria. Judaism and Jew are White European creations that were created around African history. Can you see where I'm going with this. If god had really said those things in regards to some promise of a home land for the Jews, then there wouldn't of been any bloodshed involved but the reason why Israel is in turmoil right now is because if such a promise does exist and is true then this promise is for the Israelites not the Jew as the Jew is a European creation and as such is not recognised by the god of the bible;
8; Judaism is a religion not an ethnicity and as a religion, it does not need its own country to exist. Could you imagine if the Christians demanded their own country because god promised them their own home land? that would be absurd, so why is it different for the Jews who are from Europe. Some of them are from a German bloodline or a Slovakian heritage. Most are Russian or Ashkenazi. If any Arab or African blood exists in the Jewish community, it is only through interbreeding.
And finally; The Name Israel was never the name of a place or the name of Ancient Palestine. Yakub otherwise known as Jacob from the bible was later on renamed by god and was given the name Israel. Israel was never the name of a Jewish homeland, this has been fabricated and holds know truth to it and is a construct of colonialism.
We are now moving into an era of enlightenment; were what was once hidden, will now be revealed. What was in the dark, will now see the light. An era were secrets, lies and the truth meet head on.
Share your thoughts in the comments section below. And if you found this analysis insightful, don't forget to hit the subscribe button. Stay informed, stay engaged, and be a part of the conversation. This is Channel Zero, the channel that brings a brutal; but honest perspective on current affairs. Thanks you for your time.
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2024.05.13 22:21 Arktikos02 So if a medical clinic says that if you want to be a patient you have to give your credit card information and then they offer it through either phone, texting, or the portal through an email, is that suspicious?
Okay so I know that asking it through the phone or texting is suspicious but then they're offering it also through the email portal but I'm not really sure what the thing since they also offer it over phone with voice and phone over text which I find very sus.
And in case you're wondering no, it's not emergency services or anything like that. I'm not dying, I just need to set up an appointment.
I'm just trying to figure out which one I want and this one is like,
We need your insurance information, so I give it, and then they say that they need a bunch of information like my name, my birthday, and stuff like that, and then they say they want my credit card information and then I'm finding that really weird and then they send me an email and there I can log in and then put my credit card information into that but I'm still very nervous and I'm worried they're going to give me a co-pay and I can't afford a copay.
I live in US by the way.
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And in case you're wondering no, it's not emergency services or anything like that. I'm not dying, I just need to set up an appointment.
I'm just trying to figure out which one I want and this one is like,
We need your insurance information, so I give it, and then they say that they need a bunch of information like my name, my birthday, and stuff like that, and then they say they want my credit card information and then I'm finding that really weird and then they send me an email and there I can log in and then put my credit card information into that but I'm still very nervous and I'm worried they're going to give me a co-pay and I can't afford a copay.
I live in US by the way.
2024.05.13 22:20 AverageElectrician My wife left me
I’m 27, she’s 23. We’ve been married a few years, we still have a house together we’re trying to sell. She’s been moved out for over a month. I’ve had plenty of time to digest this and work on accepting it. I’m trying not to be too tore up about it. But it sucks.
We got married young. So we had some moments, sure. Growing together and learning how to be adults together wasn’t easy. But we were getting there. We fought seldom. I loved her deeply, worshipped her even. I stayed in a field of work (non union electrician) that doesn’t pay well and is grueling work because it “stressed her out” too much to even consider me looking for other opportunities. But I learned to love my life, for her. I gave my all, really. I did my best.
I’m not perfect, I’d get mad sometimes, I don’t think she realizes how patient I was though. My anger is slow, but she knows exactly what to say to me to make me angry, and it worked most of the time. “You’re lazy… you’re incompetent… you’re just like your step dad… etc.”
I don’t know. I just feel like we were doing good, all things considered. We were building something, we were growing, learning….
And she did this a week before my birthday, not to mention last year she moved in with her mom for a month during my birthday as well. I just don’t understand how someone can do this to a person that has devoted their entire being to them. Working the job they want them to work, trying to be a better man, going to the gym regularly, working on mental health, all that good shit.
I know I have to just accept this, I’ll never understand.
It’s hard. All I wanted was to love and be loved, and I tried so hard to make that happen.
I should’ve known though. She was never home anymore, avoided me as much as possible, and anytime we did hang out if I let her know I didn’t like something or I wasn’t vibing or whatever I “ruined her entire day” every single time. Even now with the little communication we have she still accuses me of that.
Life is meaningless. Love isn’t real. I’m as worthless as I thought I was when I was a child. Fuck her, fuck this stupid job, fuck that house that ruined my finances, fuck the credit cards that she (she says we) got in my name and put 30k of debt on. Fuck everything. Fuck life. Fuck.
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We got married young. So we had some moments, sure. Growing together and learning how to be adults together wasn’t easy. But we were getting there. We fought seldom. I loved her deeply, worshipped her even. I stayed in a field of work (non union electrician) that doesn’t pay well and is grueling work because it “stressed her out” too much to even consider me looking for other opportunities. But I learned to love my life, for her. I gave my all, really. I did my best.
I’m not perfect, I’d get mad sometimes, I don’t think she realizes how patient I was though. My anger is slow, but she knows exactly what to say to me to make me angry, and it worked most of the time. “You’re lazy… you’re incompetent… you’re just like your step dad… etc.”
I don’t know. I just feel like we were doing good, all things considered. We were building something, we were growing, learning….
And she did this a week before my birthday, not to mention last year she moved in with her mom for a month during my birthday as well. I just don’t understand how someone can do this to a person that has devoted their entire being to them. Working the job they want them to work, trying to be a better man, going to the gym regularly, working on mental health, all that good shit.
I know I have to just accept this, I’ll never understand.
It’s hard. All I wanted was to love and be loved, and I tried so hard to make that happen.
I should’ve known though. She was never home anymore, avoided me as much as possible, and anytime we did hang out if I let her know I didn’t like something or I wasn’t vibing or whatever I “ruined her entire day” every single time. Even now with the little communication we have she still accuses me of that.
Life is meaningless. Love isn’t real. I’m as worthless as I thought I was when I was a child. Fuck her, fuck this stupid job, fuck that house that ruined my finances, fuck the credit cards that she (she says we) got in my name and put 30k of debt on. Fuck everything. Fuck life. Fuck.
2024.05.13 22:14 AstramIsTheBest Every single time I see this boy I want to end my life.
He doesn’t even know my fucking name. I had a whopping 2 conversations with him and thats it. I don’t know why im obsessed with him. Hes my age, around my height, basically me but slightly bigger than I am. I dont know if im envious or i just feel like i missed out on life every single fucking time i look at him but I genuinely cannot take seeing him and ESPECIALLY being near him. I tried to kill myself on my birthday trying to drink enough alcohol to convince myself to slit my wrists but my mom stopped me and my parents called the police to try and get me to a mental asylum but i simply didnt say anything because why the fuck would i?? If i WANT to kill myself why would i tell anything to people trying to stop me. Ive been depressed and alone since highschool and its probably because im gay or some shit. I honestly dont care the reason why. I actually fucking hate my parents for calling the police because i cant do it again until i work up the courage again. Until then im working a 7-5 job an hour away forced to see this guy every single fucking day and it makes me sick. As in i get extremely aggravated and suicidal whenever hes near me and he doesn’t even think a damn thing of me. Im going to kill myself eventually but hopefully i can play the elden ring dlc before i do. If i dont its whatever.
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2024.05.13 22:12 PurpleLeaf_23 Has anyone had their child in building brains early learning centre?
Just as the title says. Has any had (or known anyone who has) a child(ren) or even worked at building brains early learning centre? Now known as fueling brains academy (maybe? Email has a banner that says this).
We know there’s crazy waitlists all over town. We have a tour this Thursday at this location (up by the airport).
It seems nice enough I want to go and check it out. Baby will have her first birthday before she gets in.
Also if you have any recommendations on other daycares to look into or avoid please let me know! We’re interested in licensed centres ONLY.
TIA
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We know there’s crazy waitlists all over town. We have a tour this Thursday at this location (up by the airport).
It seems nice enough I want to go and check it out. Baby will have her first birthday before she gets in.
Also if you have any recommendations on other daycares to look into or avoid please let me know! We’re interested in licensed centres ONLY.
TIA
2024.05.13 22:11 Purtle [PIL] #1305 5/13/2024
edit: i just realized today the title numbers have been wrong the past 20 or so days...so I'll repost them with correct number of the coming days/week because i dont want to get confused with a bot. I haven't decided if I will delete the old ones or not as they get replaced. I think I will but I may delete in batches or as I go im not sure yet.
Purtle's Internet Lineup for May 13th, 2024 3:52pm
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Pics:
- my body https://twitter.com/Sploototo/status/1789772431688691720
- Marketers in the 90s have done irreperable damage to the concept of "bits" https://twitter.com/St1ka/status/1789982753372430764
- Pokemon news
- Today is the birthday of Pokemon artist Kouki Saitou, Kouglof0513 who has drawn the most artwork in the series' history. his style is honestly inseparable with pokemon itself at this point https://twitter.com/Lewchube/status/1789929446482338297
- Morning commute https://old.reddit.com/HolUp/comments/1cqtme1/morning_commute/
- ok youtube is the better streaming platform just because you can do this https://twitter.com/emmnyaa/status/1789744730269524419
- with all the microsoft news recently i just keep thinking back to this bit in episode 27 of double fine psychodyssey (the excellent making-of documentary for psychonauts 2) where matt booty tries to reassure the team post-acquisition and in the process says all the wrong things https://twitter.com/ponettplus/status/1789146095433425004
- my previous post how Super Smash Bros is an inspiration for my monster taming game: The combat is an interactive turn-based, ring-out-based system where monsters get knocked away further the less HP they have. https://twitter.com/MariosMess/status/1789357787455140014
- If Street Fighter was an RPG. - desk https://twitter.com/deskclips/status/1789988972015567133
- Triplets have the same reaction https://clips.twitch.tv/DeterminedEnergeticEagleTBTacoLeft-NPBAzQWaN2tOHX0G
- Whoa! In Switzerland, a mobile overpass bridge is used to carry out road work without stopping traffic https://twitter.com/TansuYegen/status/1789526872298008603
- Joe Biden will double, triple and quadruple tariffs on some Chinese goods, with EV duties jumping to 102.5% from 27.5% https://old.reddit.com/worldnews/comments/1cqufci/joe_biden_will_double_triple_and_quadruple/
- ICYMI: SF6 pr account accidentally revealed jukebox/character specific music settings and then deleted the post. They'll be in the Akuma update. https://twitter.com/kujikawaii/status/1789967110438793493
- Square Enix will "aggressively pursue a multiplatform strategy that includes Nintendo platforms, PlayStation, Xbox, and PCs" https://twitter.com/Wario64/status/1789911362291786066
- Assassin's Creed Shadows officially titled (previously Assassin's Creed Codename Red). Official Cinematic World Premiere Trailer coming May 15th, 9 AM PT https://twitter.com/Wario64/status/1790050212049764677
- Major airlines sue Biden administration over fee disclosure rule https://old.reddit.com/news/comments/1cr18d4/major_airlines_sue_biden_administration_over_fee/
- Ordered back to the office, top tech talent left instead, study finds https://old.reddit.com/technology/comments/1cr4b7f/ordered_back_to_the_office_top_tech_talent_left/
2024.05.13 22:11 Stunning_Travel840 I (19M) was in a kind of relationship with a girl (19F) in my college.But she cheated on me. What to do?
So,basically it happened when I was in second semester.There was a girl who used to stare at me during lectures and there were various moments when we had a eye contact but I used to ignore that thing.Then things started to escalate when she started saying hello to me when I was with my friends.So, my friends suggested me to go and talk to her.So I gathered my confidence and approached her.She interacted with me but left very soon.Later that day she sent me Instagram request and we started having conversation about random things(politics, studies etc).
She knew I was good in academics so she asked for help and as a human being I helped her and then after this we were talking 1-1.5 hrs daily on phone and when I didn't saw her message she used to call me continuously(One time she called me 7 times in interval of 3-4 mins) and every time she would ask me that if I am okay or has she committed some mistake that is why I am ignoring her.She used to ask for my suggestions for every thing.
Then we started going to library,where I used to teach her on the expense of my own academics but I didn't cared.Things were going well. She became a support system for me.We used to go on walks etc. She appreciated my physique (I go to gym).
But things started going downhill on June 3rd,it was her birthday and she didn't invite me,I thought she might be busy with her friends but foolish me called her and asked that am I just for her academic support!She denied and said that she wanted to give me party alone and I said I don't want a party from you .Things were not going well, we didn't called each other much.
Fast forward to 16th June ,I was working on my project and it was around 3 in the morning and she texted me that his boyfriend is asking about you,My heart fell down and I just replied her it's your matter and you have to answer it but she insisted me to tell something to reply him.. Then I wrote a long paragraph in which I said I don't want to become a barrier between both of you.I trusted you but you betrayed me and used me. I wish you all the best and please don't try to text me again.. then she started spamming that sorry,I know it's my mistake. Don't leave me blah blah... I didn't reacted to her messages. Then I went to my bed and it was around 4:30 AM, I am having project submission at 9:00 AM and after 2 days I am having my end semester exams. I tried to sleep but after 1 hour, I woke up and was feeling heavy, I called my friend and told him that everything thing is over and I broke down. Then he and one more friend of mine came running to my room and took me to the balcony and consoled me and told me that don't be sad..
Then afterwards I gathered myself and went for the project evaluation,it went good but I was feeling a void. Then in the evening she texted me again asking me that If I am angry because of her.. my friends suggested me not to reply so I didn't reply.. But the night before the exams she texted me asking for the solutions of worksheets, I didn't send her.Then she called with a different number.But then again she started spamming. Then I texted her that I want to meet and want to end everything, she came and I gave her a short reality check and saw her tears rolling down her cheeks,I again said that please don't cry etc etc.... So I gave my exams and went home.
Again on July 2nd she texted me that I met with an accident and broke my hand. I replied take care. She said are you still angry with me,please give me a chance I want to normalise everything but I asked why should I give you a second chance which she didn't bother to reply.
Now fast forward to 4th semester, everything is going fine(My CG is 9.0) but now again she is staring at me and is trying to initiate a conversation but I ignore her completely but deep down I also want to initiate a conversation again. So what should I do? Kindly guide me!!
Thank You :-D
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She knew I was good in academics so she asked for help and as a human being I helped her and then after this we were talking 1-1.5 hrs daily on phone and when I didn't saw her message she used to call me continuously(One time she called me 7 times in interval of 3-4 mins) and every time she would ask me that if I am okay or has she committed some mistake that is why I am ignoring her.She used to ask for my suggestions for every thing.
Then we started going to library,where I used to teach her on the expense of my own academics but I didn't cared.Things were going well. She became a support system for me.We used to go on walks etc. She appreciated my physique (I go to gym).
But things started going downhill on June 3rd,it was her birthday and she didn't invite me,I thought she might be busy with her friends but foolish me called her and asked that am I just for her academic support!She denied and said that she wanted to give me party alone and I said I don't want a party from you .Things were not going well, we didn't called each other much.
Fast forward to 16th June ,I was working on my project and it was around 3 in the morning and she texted me that his boyfriend is asking about you,My heart fell down and I just replied her it's your matter and you have to answer it but she insisted me to tell something to reply him.. Then I wrote a long paragraph in which I said I don't want to become a barrier between both of you.I trusted you but you betrayed me and used me. I wish you all the best and please don't try to text me again.. then she started spamming that sorry,I know it's my mistake. Don't leave me blah blah... I didn't reacted to her messages. Then I went to my bed and it was around 4:30 AM, I am having project submission at 9:00 AM and after 2 days I am having my end semester exams. I tried to sleep but after 1 hour, I woke up and was feeling heavy, I called my friend and told him that everything thing is over and I broke down. Then he and one more friend of mine came running to my room and took me to the balcony and consoled me and told me that don't be sad..
Then afterwards I gathered myself and went for the project evaluation,it went good but I was feeling a void. Then in the evening she texted me again asking me that If I am angry because of her.. my friends suggested me not to reply so I didn't reply.. But the night before the exams she texted me asking for the solutions of worksheets, I didn't send her.Then she called with a different number.But then again she started spamming. Then I texted her that I want to meet and want to end everything, she came and I gave her a short reality check and saw her tears rolling down her cheeks,I again said that please don't cry etc etc.... So I gave my exams and went home.
Again on July 2nd she texted me that I met with an accident and broke my hand. I replied take care. She said are you still angry with me,please give me a chance I want to normalise everything but I asked why should I give you a second chance which she didn't bother to reply.
Now fast forward to 4th semester, everything is going fine(My CG is 9.0) but now again she is staring at me and is trying to initiate a conversation but I ignore her completely but deep down I also want to initiate a conversation again. So what should I do? Kindly guide me!!
Thank You :-D
2024.05.13 22:10 Snowpiximon Hypo anxiety is ruining my A1c
Pretty much what the title says. Sorry, English is not my first language.
In the autumn of last year, I got put on insulin to get the glucose monitors. Otherwise, the insurance in my country wouldn't cover it. My type of diabetes is just nonexistent for them.
A few months later, everything was fine; my sugar levels went down, and, I was feeling better (12.6 to 7.6 A1c).
And then shit happens, suddenly I wake up in the middle of the night with a blood glucose of 45. I didn't have the cgm back then so no alarm under 60/70.
I didn't eat much that evening so I thought that was that. Furthermore, I ate the next day a bit more in the evening, and my blood glucose was up to 200. Then again, around 03:00, I awoke with a pounding heart, sweating like hell, and shivering. Blood glucose is 40. I ate, went back to sleep, and everything was fine.
This happened again and again. I called my doc, and he said I should turn down the long-lasting insulin.
I did that, and it happened again and again. Then I started eating out of fear of dropping again and dying.
I was sent to the hospital, so I could be monitored and my insulin and stuff would be in the correct range.
I told them about my fear but they kinda just said "ok" and ignored it further on. So I left the hospital after a week and was in a good range, never over 180 after bigger meals, and fine.
I WAS STILL FUCKING SCARED, BUT NO ONE CARED. Not only that, but I was too embarrassed to talk about it, because now it should be fine, but the irrational fear was still there.
My A1c got into the good range of 6.8 Fine by me; I just kind of talked over my fear, and after getting the libre 3, I was a bit more secure.
And then again, my body became more sensitive to insulin, and without even taking my long-lasting one, I would be between 150 and 70. Only really spiking when I went out to eat or a birthday was around the corner, but still no more than 170.
This sounds like a dream for some, but for me, it is hell. I am always checking and wondering how the bowl of ice cream didn't spike me, just with ozempic and no insulin. I am scared, because if that won't spike me, eating normally would make me go hypo. Or that's my fear.
Since spring of this year, I've been eating a lot of carbs out of fear. Now I get barely below 150 during the day but still under 100 at night.
And of course my A1c goes back up again, now I'm at 7.8 again. I feel bad. I want good data, but I also am so fucking scared. I don't know how to cope with that fear.
Also I want to lose weight, but I can't because I am eating so much to not go low. I seriously do not take any insulin what so ever, only ozempic.
I guess I just want to know if someone out there is feeling the same, and what do you guys do about it? How do you cope with the intense and irrational fear of hypoglycemia? I want to go jogging, but I read that it drops your sugar levels fast, so I won't do that, even though I would love to.
I hate this illness. Why couldn't I be born normal?
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In the autumn of last year, I got put on insulin to get the glucose monitors. Otherwise, the insurance in my country wouldn't cover it. My type of diabetes is just nonexistent for them.
A few months later, everything was fine; my sugar levels went down, and, I was feeling better (12.6 to 7.6 A1c).
And then shit happens, suddenly I wake up in the middle of the night with a blood glucose of 45. I didn't have the cgm back then so no alarm under 60/70.
I didn't eat much that evening so I thought that was that. Furthermore, I ate the next day a bit more in the evening, and my blood glucose was up to 200. Then again, around 03:00, I awoke with a pounding heart, sweating like hell, and shivering. Blood glucose is 40. I ate, went back to sleep, and everything was fine.
This happened again and again. I called my doc, and he said I should turn down the long-lasting insulin.
I did that, and it happened again and again. Then I started eating out of fear of dropping again and dying.
I was sent to the hospital, so I could be monitored and my insulin and stuff would be in the correct range.
I told them about my fear but they kinda just said "ok" and ignored it further on. So I left the hospital after a week and was in a good range, never over 180 after bigger meals, and fine.
I WAS STILL FUCKING SCARED, BUT NO ONE CARED. Not only that, but I was too embarrassed to talk about it, because now it should be fine, but the irrational fear was still there.
My A1c got into the good range of 6.8 Fine by me; I just kind of talked over my fear, and after getting the libre 3, I was a bit more secure.
And then again, my body became more sensitive to insulin, and without even taking my long-lasting one, I would be between 150 and 70. Only really spiking when I went out to eat or a birthday was around the corner, but still no more than 170.
This sounds like a dream for some, but for me, it is hell. I am always checking and wondering how the bowl of ice cream didn't spike me, just with ozempic and no insulin. I am scared, because if that won't spike me, eating normally would make me go hypo. Or that's my fear.
Since spring of this year, I've been eating a lot of carbs out of fear. Now I get barely below 150 during the day but still under 100 at night.
And of course my A1c goes back up again, now I'm at 7.8 again. I feel bad. I want good data, but I also am so fucking scared. I don't know how to cope with that fear.
Also I want to lose weight, but I can't because I am eating so much to not go low. I seriously do not take any insulin what so ever, only ozempic.
I guess I just want to know if someone out there is feeling the same, and what do you guys do about it? How do you cope with the intense and irrational fear of hypoglycemia? I want to go jogging, but I read that it drops your sugar levels fast, so I won't do that, even though I would love to.
I hate this illness. Why couldn't I be born normal?
2024.05.13 22:09 bucketofcherryberrie AITA for having been the “Other Woman”
Okay, so I know how that sounds. But it’s a lot more complicated than just being “the other woman”… This happened a few years ago, but still affects my life to this day. And get some popcorn, because it’s a long one.
So backstory, at the time - I, F 18/19 had just graduated high-school and gotten my first “adult job” serving at a popular chain restaurant. This was when COVID mandates were still in place, so instead of the traditional college route, I opted for online Community College while living with my parents and siblings.
Shortly after starting this job we got a new manager, M 25/26. He was from pretty far out of town, and his placement at our location was quite a commute for him, about 45 minutes to an hour one way.
He and I were immediately close, and always got along. I admired his hard work and I wanted to learn everything I could from him. I’ll admit, I had a little crush but it was whatever, I was focused on other things like school and trying to move up in the company. He took me under his wing as what he would call his “personal project”. He said he saw potential in me and wanted to train me to be a manager. Because of his help and training, I was able to move up in the company and made great progress.
After we had gotten to know each other more from working with each-other and the mentorship, I found out he shared a daughter with who he would refer to as “Baby Mama”.
I asked him many times about her and he said they were 100% not together. He also multiple times on multiple occasion’s would say things like “oh yeah, it’s my night with my daughter” or “it’s my turn to have her” - so I assumed they weren’t even living together. And boy does it go down hill from here…
We began to see each other outside of work. Obviously, this is against many companies policies - and for good reason too. So I kept it secret. I didn’t want him to lose his job and I wanted to build a career, I didn’t want to jeopardize any of that. And at this point in the relationship I feel it’s necessary to point out for context that I was a virgin and had never done anything like that before.
A very short while into our relationship he told me he didn’t want to keep secrets from me if this was going to work, and told me that his Baby Mama was expecting again. I asked AGAIN if they were in a relationship and he told me that it was just a “heat of the moment hook up” before we had gotten together and that it was rare - but that it did happen sometimes when they were both single and looking for “convenience”.
Looking back I’m kicking myself for ever believing that shit.
So what do I do? I decide to look on social media for some guidance. I found both his AND his Baby Mama’s Facebook and Instagram pages… and for at least a year, there was NO evidence to be found of them in a relationship. No loving dating posts, no Mothers/Father’s Day posts, no birthday posts, no anniversary posts, and no status on anything that would indicate they were currently together. Both of their information on Facebook didn’t mention each other at all. No “In a relationship with _” on either of the Facebook pages. And scrolling way back on the Baby Mama’s Page, I could see that years ago when they WERE together, those classic couple posts were frequent. So, I took those clues and decided that he was telling the truth. BIG mistake.
So, as evident by the title here, we end up engaging in a relationship. After a few months, after many long discussions about how I wanted ”my first” to be with someone who loved me, our relationship became sexual. I kept it a secret, not for fear that I was the “other woman”, but because until I got the promotion of manager myself, he could lose his job. And I could lose what I was working hard to build.
He gave me no reason to think we were hiding our relationship because he was in another one… until much later down the line when it felt like too late.
This man was very emotionally abusive. And while he never put a hand on me, he often slammed doors, punched walls, screamed. Obviously, it never started that way but it was bad. Bad enough that he actually was later on forced to move locations because the General Manager did not want him in her location any longer.
We continued the relationship after he moved locations. And he was now working at the location it looked like I would be doing my Manager Training at. I had to wait until I was 21 to get the big promotion, but I had already put in a lot of leeway learning with other managers as well. I was dedicated, not only to the job, but to him as well, even with the mental and emotional abuse plus the fear of the possible physical abuse.
Things drastically changed when I noticed him being inconsistent. Since he was at a new location, I felt a little more confident in our relationship. Atleast in the fact that we could be “friends” outside of work without a lot of pushback. Now that he wasn’t directly my boss, it might still be an odd gray area, but he technically couldn’t be fired. And after pushing HARD and being confused as to why he was being weird about it…he told me he was, in fact, still dating his Baby Mama.
Obviously, I was devastated and disgusted. And I fully aknowledge I should have left him right then and there. But to be honest? I was scared. I felt confused by his actions and his words not lining up… and at 19, I was so easily fooled by him saying he loved me. Things like “I want to marry you” and “I’m going to do everything I can to make this work.” His biggest one was that he loved his kids so much he was terrified of what would happen if he left. I’ll admit I was also scared. This man terrified me with his aggression at times, but for some reason I was still in love.
A few weeks after that I found out I was pregnant. And I was terrified. When I told him he was immediately fuming and aggressive. He told me it was all my fault and I wanted to ruin his life. Not only that but what would happen to his career? My budding one I was working so hard towards? What would everyone say? A teen mistress pregnant by her boss? He threw all of these questions at me faster than I could think.
I begged to just give me time to think. That I loved this little one growing inside of me. But he told me I had better just get rid of it.
I was so afraid that I remember that I gave my sister my location and told her that if I wasn’t back by a certain time, it was because he had killed me.
With much pressure from him, I went through with a termination I did not want.
I stayed for three months afterwards. The trauma bond was painful. And with it being so secretive, I felt I had no one else to turn to mourn. No one during the most painful event of my life. And through it all, a weird fucked up part of me still loved him. So, as much as I hate admitting it… I stayed.
It took 3 months to gather my courage, break that trauma bond and leave. (Partially due to a good friend - who is now my long time boyfriend and soon to be fiance.)
It took a few months after that AND me leaving the company to talk to the BabyMama. She admitted to me that he’s done this multiple times before, has gotten another woman pregnant before her, and that he’s never really been faithful. She stayed with him and continued to have more children with him. It’s been 2 years since I’ve told her. During that time I’ve gotten many texts, drunk calls, and an odd mix of hateful messages and then apologies following them. I even had an exchange with her sister (who works at the same company) saying she herself went through a similar situation to mine of being a mistress but that “I was just jealous of BabyMama because at the end of the day her sister won” or something like that.
I guess after kid #3 she just recently left him, friended me on all social media and has wanted to talk more frequently, and she even asked for advice on leaving him. Even now, I still get odd texts here and there, a call from her when she’s drunk, etc.
I definitely am not innocent in this. I too have said things I regret, and obviously done things I regret as well. I’ve started to recently speak up on my experience to deal with some of the trauma instead of just keeping it buried. Some people say I’m just another victim of him and others insist I’m just a straight up awful person, especially because I didn’t “fight hard enough” to keep my baby and if I actually wanted to go through with the pregnancy I just should have.
I wanted to ask here because it’s easier to get a truthful answer sometimes from strangers who have no personal connection to the people being discussed. And this has consumed my life for close to 3 years now… so yeah. AITA?
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So backstory, at the time - I, F 18/19 had just graduated high-school and gotten my first “adult job” serving at a popular chain restaurant. This was when COVID mandates were still in place, so instead of the traditional college route, I opted for online Community College while living with my parents and siblings.
Shortly after starting this job we got a new manager, M 25/26. He was from pretty far out of town, and his placement at our location was quite a commute for him, about 45 minutes to an hour one way.
He and I were immediately close, and always got along. I admired his hard work and I wanted to learn everything I could from him. I’ll admit, I had a little crush but it was whatever, I was focused on other things like school and trying to move up in the company. He took me under his wing as what he would call his “personal project”. He said he saw potential in me and wanted to train me to be a manager. Because of his help and training, I was able to move up in the company and made great progress.
After we had gotten to know each other more from working with each-other and the mentorship, I found out he shared a daughter with who he would refer to as “Baby Mama”.
I asked him many times about her and he said they were 100% not together. He also multiple times on multiple occasion’s would say things like “oh yeah, it’s my night with my daughter” or “it’s my turn to have her” - so I assumed they weren’t even living together. And boy does it go down hill from here…
We began to see each other outside of work. Obviously, this is against many companies policies - and for good reason too. So I kept it secret. I didn’t want him to lose his job and I wanted to build a career, I didn’t want to jeopardize any of that. And at this point in the relationship I feel it’s necessary to point out for context that I was a virgin and had never done anything like that before.
A very short while into our relationship he told me he didn’t want to keep secrets from me if this was going to work, and told me that his Baby Mama was expecting again. I asked AGAIN if they were in a relationship and he told me that it was just a “heat of the moment hook up” before we had gotten together and that it was rare - but that it did happen sometimes when they were both single and looking for “convenience”.
Looking back I’m kicking myself for ever believing that shit.
So what do I do? I decide to look on social media for some guidance. I found both his AND his Baby Mama’s Facebook and Instagram pages… and for at least a year, there was NO evidence to be found of them in a relationship. No loving dating posts, no Mothers/Father’s Day posts, no birthday posts, no anniversary posts, and no status on anything that would indicate they were currently together. Both of their information on Facebook didn’t mention each other at all. No “In a relationship with _” on either of the Facebook pages. And scrolling way back on the Baby Mama’s Page, I could see that years ago when they WERE together, those classic couple posts were frequent. So, I took those clues and decided that he was telling the truth. BIG mistake.
So, as evident by the title here, we end up engaging in a relationship. After a few months, after many long discussions about how I wanted ”my first” to be with someone who loved me, our relationship became sexual. I kept it a secret, not for fear that I was the “other woman”, but because until I got the promotion of manager myself, he could lose his job. And I could lose what I was working hard to build.
He gave me no reason to think we were hiding our relationship because he was in another one… until much later down the line when it felt like too late.
This man was very emotionally abusive. And while he never put a hand on me, he often slammed doors, punched walls, screamed. Obviously, it never started that way but it was bad. Bad enough that he actually was later on forced to move locations because the General Manager did not want him in her location any longer.
We continued the relationship after he moved locations. And he was now working at the location it looked like I would be doing my Manager Training at. I had to wait until I was 21 to get the big promotion, but I had already put in a lot of leeway learning with other managers as well. I was dedicated, not only to the job, but to him as well, even with the mental and emotional abuse plus the fear of the possible physical abuse.
Things drastically changed when I noticed him being inconsistent. Since he was at a new location, I felt a little more confident in our relationship. Atleast in the fact that we could be “friends” outside of work without a lot of pushback. Now that he wasn’t directly my boss, it might still be an odd gray area, but he technically couldn’t be fired. And after pushing HARD and being confused as to why he was being weird about it…he told me he was, in fact, still dating his Baby Mama.
Obviously, I was devastated and disgusted. And I fully aknowledge I should have left him right then and there. But to be honest? I was scared. I felt confused by his actions and his words not lining up… and at 19, I was so easily fooled by him saying he loved me. Things like “I want to marry you” and “I’m going to do everything I can to make this work.” His biggest one was that he loved his kids so much he was terrified of what would happen if he left. I’ll admit I was also scared. This man terrified me with his aggression at times, but for some reason I was still in love.
A few weeks after that I found out I was pregnant. And I was terrified. When I told him he was immediately fuming and aggressive. He told me it was all my fault and I wanted to ruin his life. Not only that but what would happen to his career? My budding one I was working so hard towards? What would everyone say? A teen mistress pregnant by her boss? He threw all of these questions at me faster than I could think.
I begged to just give me time to think. That I loved this little one growing inside of me. But he told me I had better just get rid of it.
I was so afraid that I remember that I gave my sister my location and told her that if I wasn’t back by a certain time, it was because he had killed me.
With much pressure from him, I went through with a termination I did not want.
I stayed for three months afterwards. The trauma bond was painful. And with it being so secretive, I felt I had no one else to turn to mourn. No one during the most painful event of my life. And through it all, a weird fucked up part of me still loved him. So, as much as I hate admitting it… I stayed.
It took 3 months to gather my courage, break that trauma bond and leave. (Partially due to a good friend - who is now my long time boyfriend and soon to be fiance.)
It took a few months after that AND me leaving the company to talk to the BabyMama. She admitted to me that he’s done this multiple times before, has gotten another woman pregnant before her, and that he’s never really been faithful. She stayed with him and continued to have more children with him. It’s been 2 years since I’ve told her. During that time I’ve gotten many texts, drunk calls, and an odd mix of hateful messages and then apologies following them. I even had an exchange with her sister (who works at the same company) saying she herself went through a similar situation to mine of being a mistress but that “I was just jealous of BabyMama because at the end of the day her sister won” or something like that.
I guess after kid #3 she just recently left him, friended me on all social media and has wanted to talk more frequently, and she even asked for advice on leaving him. Even now, I still get odd texts here and there, a call from her when she’s drunk, etc.
I definitely am not innocent in this. I too have said things I regret, and obviously done things I regret as well. I’ve started to recently speak up on my experience to deal with some of the trauma instead of just keeping it buried. Some people say I’m just another victim of him and others insist I’m just a straight up awful person, especially because I didn’t “fight hard enough” to keep my baby and if I actually wanted to go through with the pregnancy I just should have.
I wanted to ask here because it’s easier to get a truthful answer sometimes from strangers who have no personal connection to the people being discussed. And this has consumed my life for close to 3 years now… so yeah. AITA?
2024.05.13 22:06 jaydalogar Got in touch with my first gf after 10 years, what to do next? 32M 31F
I was with my first love for 3 and a bit years, we met in late 2010 before we broke up 10 years ago in early 2014. We were young and in our early 20s back then, things just fizzled out.
I've always thought about her but eventually we went our separate ways, she got in to a relationship with another guy after me for a few years but eventually he ended up cheating on her, this was around 2017.
After her breakup in 2017 I confessed my feelings for her but we didn't go anywhere with it as she was still healing so I told her I need to cut her off at the point because I told her I was struggling to be just friends with her, to which she said that she was heartbroken that's it come to us parting ways. But we wished each other well and went our separate ways. I was really at my lowest at that point but have come a really long way since in terms of having a successful career and have improved a lot financially and mentally.
At the start of 2019, she did add me on social media but she didn't say anything to me so a few days later I ended up deleting her because I realised I still wasn't over her, I regretted deleting her afterwards.
At the end of 2019 I heard that she was engaged, she ended up getting married but then I heard she got divorced around a year and a half ago. A few monthds ago I found out that the reason for her divorce was because her husband cheated on her and was abusive towards her. They got divorced around early 2022.
As for me I did get in to another relationship with someone else but I was also cheated on so I have been single for a few years now, I have been evolving in my career and proud of how far I've come and have recently started a new chapter in my career. I considered getting in touch with her a few months ago but I noticed that she had cut off a lot of people from her social media so I wasnt too sure how she'd react to me adding her, I thought she'd reject me seen as she's cutting off a lot of people.
So around 3 months ago I took the plunge seen as I had nothing to lose and sent her a request on instagram, and she has accepted and also followed me back. She's been viewing my stories and a month ago I posted a life quote on my story which she liked, I haven't spoke to her yet. I posted a few pictures of myself which she hasn't liked but A few weeks ago I posted a quote on my story that said 'be the reason for someone's pain to turn into a smile', she liked that quote and also another one that I posted last week. It was my birthday a few days ago and she liked a birthday story that I posted on instagram. I'm limiting the amount of posts that I like of hers because I don't want to seem too forward.
I'm assuming she is single but not entirely sure. I added her 3 months ago but she deleted me, I was confused because she only liked one of my stories few days prior. I would have liked to see if there was future for us but don't think she's interested now, i have messaged her saying 'Hi, hope your well. I probably should have said something a long time ago but I didn't, my fault. I've been praying for you, today I realise I've been deleted anyways I hope your keeping happy and healthy'. She replied saying 'Hey I'm good thanks hope you are too, that is kind of you, I didn't expect this kind of message'.
I didn't really know what to say back to her, I still don't understand why she deleted me even though days before she was showing an interest in my stories before and now she's deleted me. I have just replied saying 'that's good. Sorry for catching you off guard with it, I wanted to reach out to you earlier. I'm glad your doing well though' and now she has replied back saying 'can I ask why?' I replied back saying 'It's been on my mind for a while to get back in touch with you, I didn't add you for no reason. But we don't need to if it's not something your comfortable with'. She has now sent a long message as follows: 'You don’t make me feel uncomfortable. I have thought about you over the years and wished you well.
I removed you because you have my ex and his family on your instagram and I removed everyone who has any contact with them. You will have heard that I was married there for a short period of time but it was hell and now I’m out of it I don’t want them knowing anything about my life, so I removed everyone who has any link with them. I didn’t realise till that day that you did. It was nothing to do with you personally.' .
Im not actually friends with her ex husband as he is just someone that lives nearby to me and we have never spoken so I have now replied with this: 'I'm sorry that you had to go through that, I hope your okay and I pray god brings you ease. I wouldn't exactly say I have anything to do with them personally though, only thing I know about them is that they're from my area too. It makes sense now and it's understandable why you did that.'
She has replied back again saying 'I'm great, God is the best of planners and it was the best thing for me. Even so, I removed everyone who had us both so sorry about that' and to which I have replied 'That's fair enough, I'm glad to hear your doing well though and that your at peace now. That's what matters most'. She had now asked 'how have you been, what's new with you?' I have just replied saying 'I'm not too bad thanks, life's changed a lot since we last spoke so there's quite a lot that's new lol'. That was few nights ago, and after that we were speaking generally about the holiday that I'm currently on and what to do as she has been here before too and she also asked how long I'm there for, it was in general a short and civilised conversation.
She ended the conversation 6 nights ago by liking my last message, I don't know if she plans to message me again as she did take a few hours to reply between each message, What are the chances that she'll message me even if we don't follow each other on instagram anymore. I am slightly anxious that she won't message me after this due to her deleting me because her ex is on my Instagram. Was thinking of just giving her space for a few more days, then deleting her ex and requesting her back in around a weeks time.
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I've always thought about her but eventually we went our separate ways, she got in to a relationship with another guy after me for a few years but eventually he ended up cheating on her, this was around 2017.
After her breakup in 2017 I confessed my feelings for her but we didn't go anywhere with it as she was still healing so I told her I need to cut her off at the point because I told her I was struggling to be just friends with her, to which she said that she was heartbroken that's it come to us parting ways. But we wished each other well and went our separate ways. I was really at my lowest at that point but have come a really long way since in terms of having a successful career and have improved a lot financially and mentally.
At the start of 2019, she did add me on social media but she didn't say anything to me so a few days later I ended up deleting her because I realised I still wasn't over her, I regretted deleting her afterwards.
At the end of 2019 I heard that she was engaged, she ended up getting married but then I heard she got divorced around a year and a half ago. A few monthds ago I found out that the reason for her divorce was because her husband cheated on her and was abusive towards her. They got divorced around early 2022.
As for me I did get in to another relationship with someone else but I was also cheated on so I have been single for a few years now, I have been evolving in my career and proud of how far I've come and have recently started a new chapter in my career. I considered getting in touch with her a few months ago but I noticed that she had cut off a lot of people from her social media so I wasnt too sure how she'd react to me adding her, I thought she'd reject me seen as she's cutting off a lot of people.
So around 3 months ago I took the plunge seen as I had nothing to lose and sent her a request on instagram, and she has accepted and also followed me back. She's been viewing my stories and a month ago I posted a life quote on my story which she liked, I haven't spoke to her yet. I posted a few pictures of myself which she hasn't liked but A few weeks ago I posted a quote on my story that said 'be the reason for someone's pain to turn into a smile', she liked that quote and also another one that I posted last week. It was my birthday a few days ago and she liked a birthday story that I posted on instagram. I'm limiting the amount of posts that I like of hers because I don't want to seem too forward.
I'm assuming she is single but not entirely sure. I added her 3 months ago but she deleted me, I was confused because she only liked one of my stories few days prior. I would have liked to see if there was future for us but don't think she's interested now, i have messaged her saying 'Hi, hope your well. I probably should have said something a long time ago but I didn't, my fault. I've been praying for you, today I realise I've been deleted anyways I hope your keeping happy and healthy'. She replied saying 'Hey I'm good thanks hope you are too, that is kind of you, I didn't expect this kind of message'.
I didn't really know what to say back to her, I still don't understand why she deleted me even though days before she was showing an interest in my stories before and now she's deleted me. I have just replied saying 'that's good. Sorry for catching you off guard with it, I wanted to reach out to you earlier. I'm glad your doing well though' and now she has replied back saying 'can I ask why?' I replied back saying 'It's been on my mind for a while to get back in touch with you, I didn't add you for no reason. But we don't need to if it's not something your comfortable with'. She has now sent a long message as follows: 'You don’t make me feel uncomfortable. I have thought about you over the years and wished you well.
I removed you because you have my ex and his family on your instagram and I removed everyone who has any contact with them. You will have heard that I was married there for a short period of time but it was hell and now I’m out of it I don’t want them knowing anything about my life, so I removed everyone who has any link with them. I didn’t realise till that day that you did. It was nothing to do with you personally.' .
Im not actually friends with her ex husband as he is just someone that lives nearby to me and we have never spoken so I have now replied with this: 'I'm sorry that you had to go through that, I hope your okay and I pray god brings you ease. I wouldn't exactly say I have anything to do with them personally though, only thing I know about them is that they're from my area too. It makes sense now and it's understandable why you did that.'
She has replied back again saying 'I'm great, God is the best of planners and it was the best thing for me. Even so, I removed everyone who had us both so sorry about that' and to which I have replied 'That's fair enough, I'm glad to hear your doing well though and that your at peace now. That's what matters most'. She had now asked 'how have you been, what's new with you?' I have just replied saying 'I'm not too bad thanks, life's changed a lot since we last spoke so there's quite a lot that's new lol'. That was few nights ago, and after that we were speaking generally about the holiday that I'm currently on and what to do as she has been here before too and she also asked how long I'm there for, it was in general a short and civilised conversation.
She ended the conversation 6 nights ago by liking my last message, I don't know if she plans to message me again as she did take a few hours to reply between each message, What are the chances that she'll message me even if we don't follow each other on instagram anymore. I am slightly anxious that she won't message me after this due to her deleting me because her ex is on my Instagram. Was thinking of just giving her space for a few more days, then deleting her ex and requesting her back in around a weeks time.
2024.05.13 22:05 Puzzleheaded-Ad4167 Need to see if I did the right thing.
Hey there,thanks for stopping here. I am interested in your opinion about my last relationship and if I was wrong. So we were together from October and things went all good until after Christmas,when we had our first fight.It was a fight over her "losing feelings" as she called it,she said I was not what she wanted and blah blah,that got sort out pretty quick because I overturned all her "allegations" against me. From there we started to sort of heal I thought,we were more interested to chat and all that until after new years it was more of my insecurity but a guy flirted with her,I asked her to block him and she didn't want to,eventually I gave up in and talked it through and sorted it out kinda,she was in a state where she said she didn't want a relationship but she still said love you and all that stuff.Then comes the break down,she started being distant from me and pretty much hurting me ig,because she said she got treated this way before in her ex relationship,and didn't want to be treated again like this,but she started treating me like it.I asked her why she was doing this,she gave dry replies like idk and all that so I confronted her and I got into a pretty much depressed state,and on her birthday we "broke up",I say that because in 2 weeks I contacted her because I felt like I couldn't let it end like this and we kinda linked up again after saying what we both did in the last 2 weeks,and my and hers achievements and it was pretty good...for 2 weeks,because after 2 weeks she started treating me somewhat kind of bad and then the day came....One of her boy friends said she needed to meet with her because "there is a rumor about her", I told her not to because he probably lied to her and wanted to ask her out or something and turns out...I was right....and she was scared after that because of her past relationship ig or something like that so I told her crying bcz she hurt me too to stop her friendships with guys who make fun of her or want to f her,bcz she told me and I told her to stop being friends with then and she denied and made me sensible,and disaster struck....she started a rant about me....calling me all kind of names I told her I didn't like,making me sensible,jealous,and told me she would choose all her guy friends over me....imagine after that rant I tried to forgive her and tried to tell her that what she did to me was wrong and that I wanted to help her but I couldn't finish cause I got blocked.... then I turned to whatsapp where I asked her why and she told me that she will cut out relations,and that was the last I heard from her...27th February.I can say I am at an apogee of my activites and all time improvement,but that is not the point,I want to know if i did something wrong in all of this,just curious,thanks.
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2024.05.13 22:05 SourceMedium6031 Daily News Report: 05/11/2024 - 05/13/2024
Date: 05/13/2024
Reading time: 4 minutes, 894 words🏛️ Politics & Government
DRI: Police Actions Illegal and Disproportionate
Democracy Research Institute, a local watchdog, said the facts of physical retaliation by the police against the peaceful rally participants cannot be considered “legal police measures” The watchdog observes that despite the peaceful nature of the protest, the police still used force, clearing the area around Zhvania street near the Parliament.CivilGe, Riot police leave the streets
Georgian PM says foreign official’s arrival at protests against foreign influence bill “manifestation of crude attitude” towards country’s sovereignty
Georgian PM Irakli Kobakhidze criticizes Lithuanian Parliament member's visit to Tbilisi. He said the visit was a “manifestation of crude attitude” towards the sovereignty of the country.AgendaGe, The action against the "transparency of foreign influence" bill at the parliament continues, The Legal Affairs Committee supported the draft law "On transparency of foreign influence" in the third reading., Riot police leave the streets, After one-minute review, Legal Issues Committee supports the draft law “On transparency of foreign influence”, Georgian Dream debates “Russian” law in the 3rd reading as protest continues, Georgian Dream debates “Russian” law in the 3rd reading as protest continues, Students protest re-introduction of “Russian Law,” refuse to attend lectures
PM: Ivanishvili “Refused to Meet” with Assistant Secretary O’Brien, Cites Blackmail and Threats
Prime Minister Irakli Kobakhidze said the U.S. Assistant Secretary of State Jim O'Brien requested a meeting with the honorary chairman of the Georgian Dream party Bidzina Ivanishvili, but that request was rejected. No legal or financial sanctions have been imposed on Ivanishviili by the U., the European Union or the U.'S. According to the Prime Minister, the issue of "sanctions" is at the heart of the problem.CivilGe, Foreign Affairs Committee Chairs of EU Member States Visit Georgia, RFE/RL: EU Top Diplomats Ask for Commission’s Oral Update on Foreign Agents Law Effects, MEPs Ask HVP Borrell for Targeted Sanctions Against MPs if Agents’ Law Adopted
EU “Strongly Condemns” Assaults against Protesters, Politicians, CSOs, Media
EU Foreign Affairs and Security Policy Spokesperson Peter Stano condemned ‘acts of intimidation, threats and physical assaults” against anti-Foreign Agents Bill protesters, media, politicians and CSOs. Stano called on the government to ensure the people’s right to protest, and urged the authorities to investigate possible misconduct and violations.CivilGe
Public Defender calls on MIA not to use excessive force or retaliatory measures against protesters
The Public Defender of Georgia has called on the Ministry of Internal Affairs to act within the framework of legislation. The use of force must be necessary and proportionate, must be aimed at carrying out a specific legal measure, and in no case should it turn into targeted violence/retaliation against citizens.GeorgiaToday
After all-night protester vigil, special police surround Rustaveli Avenue en masse
Thousands of special force police encamped by thousands of protesters to allow MPs to debate foreign agents law. Crowds are at the gates of Parliament shouting ‘Pigs! Pigs!” at gates shouting “Pigs!'” Police in masks brutally attacked a number of peaceful protesters.GeorgiaToday
The Minister of Defense of Russia, Sergei Shoigu, will be replaced by Andrei Belousov
Russian Defense Minister Sergei Shoigu will be replaced by Andrei Belusov, who was the first deputy prime minister in the government of Mikhail Mishustin. He will take the position of Secretary of the National Security Council of Russia. He has been the Minister of Defense since 2012.EuroNewsGeorgia
💵 Economy
Georgia’s Foreign Trade Down 2.7% in January-April 2024
Georgia's external merchandise trade decreased by 2.7% in January-April 2024 compared to the corresponding period of the previous year, amounting USD 6,563.7 million. The trade deficit amounted to USD 3,036 million, representing 46.3% of the overall trade turnover.CivilGe
Date: 05/12/2024
Reading time: 0 minutes, 170 words🏛️ Politics & Government
Interior Minister says “appropriate, proportional” measures will be taken against “violent, unlawful assembly”
Interior Minister Vakhtang Gomelauri said the right to peaceful assembly in Georgia was ensured at “a high standard” in Georgia. He said in case of “violent and unlawful” assembly the state was empowered to take “appropriate, proportional measures”AgendaGe, PM Vows to Adopt Foreign Agents Law, Pledges to Punish Violent Protesters
President Warns Law Enforcement Officials Against Resorting to Violence and Repression
President of Georgia tells protesters not to resort to violence against them. Calls on the government to withdraw the law and not to use it against the protesters.CivilGe, PM Vows to Adopt Foreign Agents Law, Pledges to Punish Violent Protesters
Georgia’s “Europe March” of thousands sends a definitive message to the government
An estimated 20,000 Georgians and Georgia-supporters filled the streets of the capital city to protest the ruling party’s plans to bring in a foreign agents’ transparency law, commonly known as the “Russian Law.”GeorgiaToday
Date: 05/11/2024
Reading time: 1 minutes, 349 words🏛️ Politics & Government
Man Severely Beaten in Car in Another Case of Police Brutality
A video went viral on May 10, showing a citizen being severely beaten in his car by a group of police in the presence of his wife. The incident occurred as the man was driving up a street in central Tbilisi and encountered a police bus moving in the opposite direction on the one-way street. The Special Investigative Service said on May 11 that it had opened an investigation under Article 333 (3b) of the Criminal Code, which deals with exceeding official authority by using force or a weapon.CivilGe
29 U.S. House Members Threaten Sanctions If Agents Law is Not Dropped
29 members of the U.S. House of Representatives sent a strongly worded joint letter to Georgian Prime Minister Irakli Kobakhidze on May 10. The Representatives stress that the Georgian authorities face a choice between hearing the voices of the Georgian people, and continuing to move on the “dark rode” towards “Russian-style authoritarianism” The letter comes as the ruling Georgian Dream readies to pass the bill.CivilGe, US congressmen wrote a letter to Irakli Kobakhidze
According to the US President's adviser, Georgian parliamentarians are facing a critical choice
Jake Sullivan, adviser to US president on national security issues, on social network. Sullivan: "We are deeply alarmed about democratic backsliding in Georgia"EuroNewsGeorgia
MP Maka Botchorishvili on the “Foreign Agents” Bill and Georgia’s Chances at EU Integration under Georgian Dream Leadership
Georgian Dream MP Maka Botchorishvili discusses the widely contested “Foreign Agents” law (Law on Transparency of Foreign Influence) and what it means to her party and for Georgia’s future. The interview has been redacted for clarity.GeorgiaToday
International Reactions to Intimidation, Violence Campaign Against Civil Activists, Opposition Politicians over Foreign Agents Law
Diplomatic missions in Georgia urge the government to take preventive measures and thoroughly investigate these incidents. British Embassy in Georgia called on government to prevent unlawful intimidation of protesters and to investigate all rights abuses. German Ambassador to Georgia, Peter Fischer, stressed that “The rule of law must prevail. Democracy requires non-violence”CivilGe
🎭 Culture
TSU Students Announce Academic Boycott over Foreign Agents’ Law
A part of the students of Tbilisi State University announced the boycott of the academic process. They will refuse to enter the lecture halls from Monday, May 13. The students say they will stand at Rustaveli Avenue instead at 9 o’clock in the morning.CivilGe
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2024.05.13 22:02 himynamegoose Visited in a Dream
Hey Courtney and anyone who decides to read my story, I have a little experience that I thought people might find interesting involving a dream I once had. I'll just set up some background information before jumping into the story.
When I was five, my little brother died of SIDs or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome at seven weeks old. Every year since his death, my mom makes a point to celebrate his birthday and for a lack of a better word, his death day. She always made a point to allow my sister and me to have a place to talk about him because our dad never let us. But, unlike my sister who was nine when he died, I didn't have many memories of him. The only one I could recall was the day he died which I don't like to think about.
This story happened when I was eighteen or so, after we celebrated his birthday. My mom and sister talked all day about their favorite memories of him in the short time we had him in our lives. I, on the other hand, sat there in self pity thinking about how shitty I felt for not remembering him. The day went on like any other day and by the end of it, I was ready for bed. I fell asleep quickly and that's where the real story starts.
I'm going to put this out there but I'm not one to remember dreams ever and if I do, they're very weird and strange. But, this one wasn't. It was quite normal actually. Dream me woke up and went on to get dressed and ready like any other day. From my room upstairs, I could hear my little brother, who was born after the death of the other brother and who we will call Henry for the sake of his privacy, chatting away downstairs but I never heard anyone talking back. But, dream me didn't seem to be weirded out by this and I just continued my morning routine.
Once I was ready, I headed down the stairs and took a right into our kitchen to get something for breakfast. When I turned into the kitchen I saw Henry sitting at the table talking away to some random kid, who looked to be thirteen or fourteen, that I had never seen before. I wasn't afraid of this random teen, in fact, I seemed to know him because I continued on with going to make breakfast. As I made myself breakfast, I felt eyes on me and Henry stopped talking all of a sudden. I turned to look back to the kitchen table where they sat and found the teen looking at me.
This was the first time that I got a good look at him. He looked like me, well a bit like me. He looked like me if I looked more like my dad. The same brown hair and green eyes. As I looked at the teen, he gave me a smile and said "It's okay." I was confused. I thought okay weirdo and went back to making breakfast. And as if he was reading my mind he continued, "It's okay that you don't remember me because we will be together again someday." That's when I woke up with tears streaming down my face.
I can't say 100% that it was my little brother but he would have been the same age as the boy in my dream. Part of me tried to rationalize it. Maybe it could have been my subconscious but I choose to think he came to visit me and tell me that everything was okay. I've only had one other dream like this and in that dream I was a mother to a little boy with sandy blonde hair. Flashforward a few years and now I'm the mother of a little boy with sandy blonde hair. This is why I fully believe my brother did come to visit me and reassure me that it was okay that I didn't remember him fully. But, I would like to know what he meant by "we will be together again someday".
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When I was five, my little brother died of SIDs or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome at seven weeks old. Every year since his death, my mom makes a point to celebrate his birthday and for a lack of a better word, his death day. She always made a point to allow my sister and me to have a place to talk about him because our dad never let us. But, unlike my sister who was nine when he died, I didn't have many memories of him. The only one I could recall was the day he died which I don't like to think about.
This story happened when I was eighteen or so, after we celebrated his birthday. My mom and sister talked all day about their favorite memories of him in the short time we had him in our lives. I, on the other hand, sat there in self pity thinking about how shitty I felt for not remembering him. The day went on like any other day and by the end of it, I was ready for bed. I fell asleep quickly and that's where the real story starts.
I'm going to put this out there but I'm not one to remember dreams ever and if I do, they're very weird and strange. But, this one wasn't. It was quite normal actually. Dream me woke up and went on to get dressed and ready like any other day. From my room upstairs, I could hear my little brother, who was born after the death of the other brother and who we will call Henry for the sake of his privacy, chatting away downstairs but I never heard anyone talking back. But, dream me didn't seem to be weirded out by this and I just continued my morning routine.
Once I was ready, I headed down the stairs and took a right into our kitchen to get something for breakfast. When I turned into the kitchen I saw Henry sitting at the table talking away to some random kid, who looked to be thirteen or fourteen, that I had never seen before. I wasn't afraid of this random teen, in fact, I seemed to know him because I continued on with going to make breakfast. As I made myself breakfast, I felt eyes on me and Henry stopped talking all of a sudden. I turned to look back to the kitchen table where they sat and found the teen looking at me.
This was the first time that I got a good look at him. He looked like me, well a bit like me. He looked like me if I looked more like my dad. The same brown hair and green eyes. As I looked at the teen, he gave me a smile and said "It's okay." I was confused. I thought okay weirdo and went back to making breakfast. And as if he was reading my mind he continued, "It's okay that you don't remember me because we will be together again someday." That's when I woke up with tears streaming down my face.
I can't say 100% that it was my little brother but he would have been the same age as the boy in my dream. Part of me tried to rationalize it. Maybe it could have been my subconscious but I choose to think he came to visit me and tell me that everything was okay. I've only had one other dream like this and in that dream I was a mother to a little boy with sandy blonde hair. Flashforward a few years and now I'm the mother of a little boy with sandy blonde hair. This is why I fully believe my brother did come to visit me and reassure me that it was okay that I didn't remember him fully. But, I would like to know what he meant by "we will be together again someday".
2024.05.13 22:02 Routine-Operation234 Have you dealt with visible or audible signs of trauma from alcoholic parent?
My mom used to say I had a flat ass from my dad and would literally compare my ass to my brothers. ( I am aware this is weird and yes this happened when I was a child ) I’m looking to see if others dealt with something similar. My mom would compare and bring attention to the fact that my brothers took after my moms big ass. Like it was something to be proud of or maybe a way to inflate her ego and squash mine. I internalized this shame and I believe I carried weight disproportionally wrong because of it. I’m still till this day insecure over that part of my body. Now that I have dropped this relationship with my mom the weight is coming off and I see how rude and negative her comments affected me as a child into adulthood. Now I make sure to point out my daughter’s characteristics out with love. I remind her of all the beautiful aspects and similarities that she shares with her dad. I hate that my mom had this much control over my physical appearance and she chose to destroy my self confidence instead. They often wondered why I had no self confidence but she would make comments about everything and none of it helped grow my confidence. When I lost weight my mom made everything about herself; saying she could never gain weight. Whereas i never could lose it; until I could and then she made that about herself too.
Once for my birthday she bought the ugliest fish I had ever seen for my tank. She told me since she hated them that I must love them. I did in fact not like them. She would make comments like this over all my choices of style, mocking each decision I made. Then when I dealt with extreme indecisive everyone wondered why….. it’s so obvious now!
Another one was my voice. She often laughed at my voice and would mimic it in this high pitched extremely embarrassing way. I now believe this was a sign of trauma within myself that I sounded like a little girl even into my mid 20s. I was insecure of my own voice for the longest. But guess what also changed when I got away from my mom? My voice. I grew into it and it’s since deepened. Everyone that I have surrounded myself with never mimics my voice or tries to purposefully embarrass me.
For years I was gaslighted to think my mom cared about me but I truly believe she only cared about the information that was being supplied to her so she could share with her flying monkeys. Because of some these things she did does not scream love to me, it screams abuse.
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Once for my birthday she bought the ugliest fish I had ever seen for my tank. She told me since she hated them that I must love them. I did in fact not like them. She would make comments like this over all my choices of style, mocking each decision I made. Then when I dealt with extreme indecisive everyone wondered why….. it’s so obvious now!
Another one was my voice. She often laughed at my voice and would mimic it in this high pitched extremely embarrassing way. I now believe this was a sign of trauma within myself that I sounded like a little girl even into my mid 20s. I was insecure of my own voice for the longest. But guess what also changed when I got away from my mom? My voice. I grew into it and it’s since deepened. Everyone that I have surrounded myself with never mimics my voice or tries to purposefully embarrass me.
For years I was gaslighted to think my mom cared about me but I truly believe she only cared about the information that was being supplied to her so she could share with her flying monkeys. Because of some these things she did does not scream love to me, it screams abuse.
2024.05.13 22:01 Technical-Anxiety540 Need explanation
This is not a letter but I need some seconds thoughts on something I'm going through regarding a girl and I think this is the right place to share this:
So I've been in love with a girl for like a few years now and I'm a girl as well. I've always had a strong strong feeling that she also liked me back. It all started in 5th grade when I fell in love with her and I was really sure she liked me too because she just gave me so much attention and just treated me differently. Oh, mind you she's muslim. I honestly don't know what I was thinking when I had all this hope that a girl like her could ever choose me but that comes later. We were doing really well, she always wanted to be close to me and even held my hand and stuff like that which seemed weird to me because mind you I at first didn't want anything to do with her and didn't think anything of it at first. Then slowly I started liking her more and more until end of 5th grade came around and we weren't going to be in one class anymore. I cried like a lot cause it was the first time I had become attached to someone like that. After the holidays things were weird with her like we kept like staring at each other and stuff. It was like you know there's something weird going on and you wanna talk to the other person but you just don't. The next 2 years went by like that with just us observing each other and it was pretty obvious that she somehow had the same reaction to me that I had to her like I can't make that up. Her eyes were on me whenever I walked into a room like in the weird way. That's why I was sure she must like me back like I was catching her staring at me and stuff. So one day I impusively confessed my feelings over whatsapp (I know, bad idea) but I just couldn't face her in person anyway and corona was in the way and I just couldn't take it anymore. She ignored my message and the next day when I asked her again she said she doesn't have feelings for me. Honestly I couldn't believe it but I was like okay, if that's the case then fine (nah I was heartbroken but whatever). Then we go back to school and it's just horrible we kept locking eyes while walking by and again the staring whatever and it was just really weird and painful. We weren't in one class at that time so that was all that was going on. Then in 9th grade I magically ended up in one class with her agaim and that in the end turned out to be my worst nightmare. So while we're in one class she starts acting all weird as if I disgust her. First few months she bursts things out like I love you and just weird things for no reason. I thought a hundred percent it's for me like whut. And the staring thing was still there but I noticed she kept complaining and getting all defensove when I had to have anything to do with her as if I was some parasite. Then months later I find out she'd liked some boy in our class since 5th grade which seemed unbelievable to me and he had just started liking her that year (just my luck right 🤡) This girl was so weird to me and what I couldn't understand was she acted like she hated me but secretly looks at me and immediately gets jealous and curious when it comes to absolutely any boy. So I got quite mean because of her behaviour and I gave her the same energy back cause she hurt me all of the time with her childishness and that's why we had a lot of arguments and I cried a lott, can't say the same about her. In one of these arguments I lied about not having feelings for her because I kept complaining about how shitty she's been treating me and how she can't even sit next to me. Like literally while I was sick she asked to change seats in one school subject just because she had to sit next to me but still has no shame to observe to who's jokes I laugh to and who I like. Like everytime I laughed to this one boy's jokes she's stare at me all shocked and once she literally whispered to herself: that's it, JUST BECAUSE She thought I could like this boy. Like in my head that's crazy. She did lots of other stuff to hurt me like as I said she was mean to me all the time and acted annoyed and then blamed me and said I was treating her like an "animal". Yeah right, I was just expressing how hurt I was by her actions. And while she was with him she kept staring at me and stuff, like just the weirdest things which make you want to bang your head into the wall to understand. And she kept whispering to herself once how she "won't make it" while literally LOOKING AT ME and I still don't know what to make of that. Uhm, I was hurt and in the summer holidays I acted impulsively AGAIN. A good friend of mine had noticed how I might have feelings for her and kinds pressured me so I told her and told her exactly what I'm telling you right here (such a good friend, I love her, still complain to her about everything right now even and she listens to me). And she herself was like no way, she told me she loved that boy since 5th grade and stuff and I was like YEAH I'm still confused. So the thing is before that conversation she and everyone else around me was like why are you like this to her and what has she done to you and stuff and my friends mindset immediately changed after I had told her how she'd been treating me. I told her about the absolutely not normal reactions for a person who doesn't have feelings and she agreed that that's not normal. So the holidays went by I was determined to just let her go and let her be with that boy (they aren't together but they're pretty close and it hurts me but whatever). I thought I could you know start again and just survive the year without interacting with her but OH WAS I SO SO WRONG. So my friend started also being friends with her in the same year and they had access to each others phones which I to this day find uhm really not good. So this girl noticed how close I was wirh my friend and decided to PEEK At her phone a FEW TIMES So she basically read all I had told my friend. Then one random day I get pulled out by her with my friend and a about 3 of her friends. Right there and then I find out that they know as well. I GOT LECTURED OUTSIDE OF THE CLASSROOM with her telling me how I'd made it all up in my head and how this and that never happened WHEN I LITERALLY SAW IT WITH MY OWN EYES. All that she did I say and she says she doesn't remember anything. I remained silent because wtf am I supposed to do I was shocked and so traumatized and hurt I couldn't say a word but I told her about some things that she did to hurt me and she says she didn't remember doing any of them. That was that then I told her to stop doing what made me feel bad. I literally told her to stop. I said stop. SHE DIDN'T EVEN APOLOGIZE PROPERLY And said she didn't care who I liked which is a flat out lie like seriously that's not possible. Yeah right that's why you kept getting aggressive and staring at me all shocked and talking to yourself just because i laughed at somebody else's joke or I got hugged or touched. Literally just crazy. Then I let myself her filled with hate for her and question my own fucking reality. So about her friends knowing: allegedly one friend of hers looked into her phone and saw the argument about me not having feelings for her anymore. Then shit got around and her other friend found out. I DON'T CARE IF IT WAS NOT ON PURPOSE. And I even let thst slide but what I found out later just finished me. So days go by and I thought finally I know the truth, I can try and live without this battle in my head everyday trying to understand her. And I thought she'd finally stop but she just didn't. She started singing shit around me like how she can't go on without me and how she wants me to stay by her side. Like literally singing song lyrics to a love song called Sonnenbank by Yakary (german song, you can look up the refrain on google) loudly for me to hear and looks at me while singing it when that boy isn't around and you can tell it's on purpose. Not only that, like trying to play me again but also just saying things to hurt me. Acting like she doesn't remember my birthday when our birthdays are 4 days apart and laughing my face while with that boy and staring at me while with him. Okay I must say sometimes she looked miserable around him and like she's crying but that's not the point. The point is she doesn't respect my boundaries and gives me false hope to hold onto. Saying things like how someone wants to actually be with someone else but can't. It's always can't or isn't allowed to. This had continued for the next 2 months and now it's just ignoring cause I refuse to look at her and refuse to look at her when she talks. And she's with him now (not together). Oh I forgot to mention she used to say things to get my attention regarding him and then says how she thought I would be sad WHILE she literally stares at me all shocked because I could like someone else. Like that makes no sense in my head how you can mess with someone like that and then deny it and then even continue to do it. So a few weeks ago I talked to her other male friend and find out she had told the boy group and him especially that I liked her BEFORE anything went down and it wasn't like anyone was suspicious or something he told me she 💫just said it 💫 (he told me no one cared) but she literally outed me for no fucking reason and because of her stupid friends a few girl of the other class also know and I'm being called a lesbian (nicely tho and how they don't have anything against me) but I'm not even a lesbian I still like boys but I just fell in love with this girl and it's just so painful. She had betrayed me before anything had even gone down yet and while I thought to myself at least I could trust her to keep my secret cause she wasn't such a person before. And her male friend told me to not hope for an apology cause it's obvious that she doesn't feel bad. She literally manipulated me, betrayed me, lied to me and played me at the same time. I know I have to move on and I will, I just need to survive these last two months and then we'll not be in one class anymore (11th grade) but we'll somehow still have class with each other somehow and now she acts all nice in my face and says to my friend how we're "chill" now just because I keep my mouth shut when I could literally call her out but like for what when in the end I'll be the crazy one again. So that's my story, I'd like to know about your opinion on this girl and maybe some kind of explanation for her behaviour. I'm extremely tired and just want to leave but it's so bad that these mindgames with the lyrics and how she can't be without me keep repeating in my head and I give it meaning even if I know it's a lie. So that's my story, thank you for reading! Comment down below what you think. Hey, maybe I'm really the crazy one. 🤡
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So I've been in love with a girl for like a few years now and I'm a girl as well. I've always had a strong strong feeling that she also liked me back. It all started in 5th grade when I fell in love with her and I was really sure she liked me too because she just gave me so much attention and just treated me differently. Oh, mind you she's muslim. I honestly don't know what I was thinking when I had all this hope that a girl like her could ever choose me but that comes later. We were doing really well, she always wanted to be close to me and even held my hand and stuff like that which seemed weird to me because mind you I at first didn't want anything to do with her and didn't think anything of it at first. Then slowly I started liking her more and more until end of 5th grade came around and we weren't going to be in one class anymore. I cried like a lot cause it was the first time I had become attached to someone like that. After the holidays things were weird with her like we kept like staring at each other and stuff. It was like you know there's something weird going on and you wanna talk to the other person but you just don't. The next 2 years went by like that with just us observing each other and it was pretty obvious that she somehow had the same reaction to me that I had to her like I can't make that up. Her eyes were on me whenever I walked into a room like in the weird way. That's why I was sure she must like me back like I was catching her staring at me and stuff. So one day I impusively confessed my feelings over whatsapp (I know, bad idea) but I just couldn't face her in person anyway and corona was in the way and I just couldn't take it anymore. She ignored my message and the next day when I asked her again she said she doesn't have feelings for me. Honestly I couldn't believe it but I was like okay, if that's the case then fine (nah I was heartbroken but whatever). Then we go back to school and it's just horrible we kept locking eyes while walking by and again the staring whatever and it was just really weird and painful. We weren't in one class at that time so that was all that was going on. Then in 9th grade I magically ended up in one class with her agaim and that in the end turned out to be my worst nightmare. So while we're in one class she starts acting all weird as if I disgust her. First few months she bursts things out like I love you and just weird things for no reason. I thought a hundred percent it's for me like whut. And the staring thing was still there but I noticed she kept complaining and getting all defensove when I had to have anything to do with her as if I was some parasite. Then months later I find out she'd liked some boy in our class since 5th grade which seemed unbelievable to me and he had just started liking her that year (just my luck right 🤡) This girl was so weird to me and what I couldn't understand was she acted like she hated me but secretly looks at me and immediately gets jealous and curious when it comes to absolutely any boy. So I got quite mean because of her behaviour and I gave her the same energy back cause she hurt me all of the time with her childishness and that's why we had a lot of arguments and I cried a lott, can't say the same about her. In one of these arguments I lied about not having feelings for her because I kept complaining about how shitty she's been treating me and how she can't even sit next to me. Like literally while I was sick she asked to change seats in one school subject just because she had to sit next to me but still has no shame to observe to who's jokes I laugh to and who I like. Like everytime I laughed to this one boy's jokes she's stare at me all shocked and once she literally whispered to herself: that's it, JUST BECAUSE She thought I could like this boy. Like in my head that's crazy. She did lots of other stuff to hurt me like as I said she was mean to me all the time and acted annoyed and then blamed me and said I was treating her like an "animal". Yeah right, I was just expressing how hurt I was by her actions. And while she was with him she kept staring at me and stuff, like just the weirdest things which make you want to bang your head into the wall to understand. And she kept whispering to herself once how she "won't make it" while literally LOOKING AT ME and I still don't know what to make of that. Uhm, I was hurt and in the summer holidays I acted impulsively AGAIN. A good friend of mine had noticed how I might have feelings for her and kinds pressured me so I told her and told her exactly what I'm telling you right here (such a good friend, I love her, still complain to her about everything right now even and she listens to me). And she herself was like no way, she told me she loved that boy since 5th grade and stuff and I was like YEAH I'm still confused. So the thing is before that conversation she and everyone else around me was like why are you like this to her and what has she done to you and stuff and my friends mindset immediately changed after I had told her how she'd been treating me. I told her about the absolutely not normal reactions for a person who doesn't have feelings and she agreed that that's not normal. So the holidays went by I was determined to just let her go and let her be with that boy (they aren't together but they're pretty close and it hurts me but whatever). I thought I could you know start again and just survive the year without interacting with her but OH WAS I SO SO WRONG. So my friend started also being friends with her in the same year and they had access to each others phones which I to this day find uhm really not good. So this girl noticed how close I was wirh my friend and decided to PEEK At her phone a FEW TIMES So she basically read all I had told my friend. Then one random day I get pulled out by her with my friend and a about 3 of her friends. Right there and then I find out that they know as well. I GOT LECTURED OUTSIDE OF THE CLASSROOM with her telling me how I'd made it all up in my head and how this and that never happened WHEN I LITERALLY SAW IT WITH MY OWN EYES. All that she did I say and she says she doesn't remember anything. I remained silent because wtf am I supposed to do I was shocked and so traumatized and hurt I couldn't say a word but I told her about some things that she did to hurt me and she says she didn't remember doing any of them. That was that then I told her to stop doing what made me feel bad. I literally told her to stop. I said stop. SHE DIDN'T EVEN APOLOGIZE PROPERLY And said she didn't care who I liked which is a flat out lie like seriously that's not possible. Yeah right that's why you kept getting aggressive and staring at me all shocked and talking to yourself just because i laughed at somebody else's joke or I got hugged or touched. Literally just crazy. Then I let myself her filled with hate for her and question my own fucking reality. So about her friends knowing: allegedly one friend of hers looked into her phone and saw the argument about me not having feelings for her anymore. Then shit got around and her other friend found out. I DON'T CARE IF IT WAS NOT ON PURPOSE. And I even let thst slide but what I found out later just finished me. So days go by and I thought finally I know the truth, I can try and live without this battle in my head everyday trying to understand her. And I thought she'd finally stop but she just didn't. She started singing shit around me like how she can't go on without me and how she wants me to stay by her side. Like literally singing song lyrics to a love song called Sonnenbank by Yakary (german song, you can look up the refrain on google) loudly for me to hear and looks at me while singing it when that boy isn't around and you can tell it's on purpose. Not only that, like trying to play me again but also just saying things to hurt me. Acting like she doesn't remember my birthday when our birthdays are 4 days apart and laughing my face while with that boy and staring at me while with him. Okay I must say sometimes she looked miserable around him and like she's crying but that's not the point. The point is she doesn't respect my boundaries and gives me false hope to hold onto. Saying things like how someone wants to actually be with someone else but can't. It's always can't or isn't allowed to. This had continued for the next 2 months and now it's just ignoring cause I refuse to look at her and refuse to look at her when she talks. And she's with him now (not together). Oh I forgot to mention she used to say things to get my attention regarding him and then says how she thought I would be sad WHILE she literally stares at me all shocked because I could like someone else. Like that makes no sense in my head how you can mess with someone like that and then deny it and then even continue to do it. So a few weeks ago I talked to her other male friend and find out she had told the boy group and him especially that I liked her BEFORE anything went down and it wasn't like anyone was suspicious or something he told me she 💫just said it 💫 (he told me no one cared) but she literally outed me for no fucking reason and because of her stupid friends a few girl of the other class also know and I'm being called a lesbian (nicely tho and how they don't have anything against me) but I'm not even a lesbian I still like boys but I just fell in love with this girl and it's just so painful. She had betrayed me before anything had even gone down yet and while I thought to myself at least I could trust her to keep my secret cause she wasn't such a person before. And her male friend told me to not hope for an apology cause it's obvious that she doesn't feel bad. She literally manipulated me, betrayed me, lied to me and played me at the same time. I know I have to move on and I will, I just need to survive these last two months and then we'll not be in one class anymore (11th grade) but we'll somehow still have class with each other somehow and now she acts all nice in my face and says to my friend how we're "chill" now just because I keep my mouth shut when I could literally call her out but like for what when in the end I'll be the crazy one again. So that's my story, I'd like to know about your opinion on this girl and maybe some kind of explanation for her behaviour. I'm extremely tired and just want to leave but it's so bad that these mindgames with the lyrics and how she can't be without me keep repeating in my head and I give it meaning even if I know it's a lie. So that's my story, thank you for reading! Comment down below what you think. Hey, maybe I'm really the crazy one. 🤡
2024.05.13 22:00 DiscoverDurham Things to do in Durham this week!
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Board Game Night at The Glass Jug in Downtown Durham
5 p.m.
Arts & Drafts at Fullsteam Brewery
6 p.m.
Disc Golf Putting League at The Glass Jug in RTP
6:30 p.m.
Trivia Night at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
7 p.m.
Community Board Game Night at Moon Dog Meadery
Boxyard Run Club at Boxyard RTP
6 p.m.
In Other Words at Arcana
Duke Baseball vs College of Charleston at Jack Coombs Field
Bring Your Own Vinyl with Jaffar at Rubies on Five Points
Women on the Wall at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
6:30 p.m.
Trivia at Durham Food Hall
Pony Ride at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
7 p.m.
Trivia at Beer Study Durham
Not Rocket Science Trivia at DSSOLVR Durham
Tuesday Blues Jam at The Blue Note Grill
8 p.m.
Comedy Night at Bull City Ciderworks
Jeremy 'Bean' Clemons Trio at Kingfisher
Enter Shikari at Motorco Music Hall
Vision Video + Tears For The Dying at The Pinhook
Senior Short Game Clinic at Hillandale Golf Course
10:30 a.m.
Storytime on the Roof with Durham County Library at The Durham Hotel
12 p.m.
Adult Recess at CCB Plaza
3 p.m.
Durham Farmers’ Market at Durham Central Park
4 p.m.
Whiskey Wednesdays at Alley Twenty Six
5 p.m.
Free Wednesday Wine Tasting at Beer Study Durham
5:30 p.m.
Ride of Silence at CCB Plaza
6 p.m.
Queer Craft Night and Tarot with Joy at Arcana
Bimbe Community Block Party at Holton Career & Resource Center
Come Take a Flight With Us: A Bright Black Workshop at Proximity Brewing Company
Free RTP Business Rockstar Connect Networking Event at Sheraton Imperial Hotel
Sweet Social: Auntie's African Ice Cream at The Durham Hotel
6:30 p.m.
Trivia Night with Pickle at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
7 p.m.
Bottle Swap: Homebrew Club at Durty Bull Brewing Brewing Company
Skip The Small Talk: Speed Friending Event at Fullsteam Brewery
Hammered Trivia at Hi-Wire Brewing
Karaoke Night at Mavericks Smokehouse
Music Bingo at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
3rd Wednesday Jazz Jam Session at Succotash Southern & Creole Kitchen
Brett Chambers Open Mic at The Blue Note Grill
8 p.m.
Air Hockey Tournament at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Trivia Night at Bull McCabe's
Karaoke at Moon Dog Meadery
The Weeks at Motorco Music Hall
Blends With Friends at The Pinhook
Harnessing the Power of AI to Ensure Equitable HR Practices at RTI Holden Building
9:30 a.m.
Guide Supported Canoeing, Kayaking, and Standup Paddleboarding at Eno River
12:15 p.m.
Midday Meander: A Strolling Conversation at Sarah P. Duke Gardens
3 p.m.
Guided Museum Tour at 21c Museum Hotels Durham
5 p.m.
Thirsty Thursdays at Dashi
Righteous Roots Reggae Show at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
5:30 p.m.
Walking Club with Bull City Strollers at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham
6 p.m.
Queer Trivia at Arcana
Vinyl Night with DJ Deckades at Gizmo Brew Works
6:15 p.m.
Pony Run at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
6:30 p.m.
AfterHours: Science of Beer at Museum of Life and Science
Line Dance Classes at Mystic Farm and Distillery
Space Code Youth Open Mic at NorthStar Church of the Arts
Boulders & Brews Meetup at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
7 p.m.
Trivia Night at Beer Tooth Taproom
Bimbé Cypher at CCB Plaza
Bring Your Own Vinyl Night at Congress Social Bar
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Summer Jazz Jam (Curated by Al Strong) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
Community Board Game Night at Moon Dog Meadery
Al Strong Presents Jazz on the Roof at The Durham Hotel
7:30 p.m.
Trivia Night with Big Slow Tom at Clouds Brewing Brightleaf Square
Reverend Billy C. Wirtz / Armand Lenchek & Carter Minor at The Blue Note Grill
Pillow Talk: Speed Dating and Conversations About Sex / Sexuality at The Pinhook
8 p.m.
Weekly Single Mingle at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Trivia at Fullsteam Brewery
Danny Lopriore at Motorco Music Hall
9 p.m.
DJ Halo Presents: No Requests at Rubies on Five Points
9:30 p.m.
Karaoke Night at The Tavern
Tasting at Ten at Counter Culture Coffee
12 p.m.
Co-Working Social at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham
4 p.m.
Late Spring Tree Ramble at Sarah P. Duke Gardens
5 p.m.
Guided Museum Tours at 21c Museum Hotels Durham
Food Truck Friday at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
5:30 p.m.
LOJO: Log Off, Jam On at Boxyard RTP
6 p.m.
Aly J & Kevin Clark and Tarot with Kathleen at Arcana
Third Friday Art Walk at Downtown Durham
Friday Night Makes at Durham Arts Council
May Third Friday at Durham Arts Council
Counterpoints Exhibition Reception at Durham Bottling Co.
Third Friday at Golden Belt Arts
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Screenprint Roundup at The Fruit
The Patio Dance Parties : Clueless Fridays at Unscripted Durham
6:30 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
7 p.m.
Live Vinyl Spinning by PhDJ at Beer Study Durham
Early Show: John Howie Jr. / Ramona and The Holy Smokes at The Pinhook
7:30 p.m.
Evening Eno Exploration Paddle at Eno River
Evan Ringel & Ariel Pocock at Sharp 9 Gallery
8 p.m.
Pass the Aux at Boricua Soul
Stereo Reveries at DSSOLVR Durham
Karaoke! at Fullsteam Brewery
Cheekface at Motorco Music Hall
Dance Blues Friday at Studio 5
9 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
10 p.m.
The Floor: Special Guest THEYDYLIKE at Rubies on Five Points
Lookin For A Cure at Bull City Running Company-South
8 a.m.
Durham Farmers' Market at Durham Central Park
parkrun Durham at Southern Boundaries Park
9 a.m.
South Durham Farmers' Market at Greenwood Commons Shopping Center
9:30 a.m.
Guide Supported Canoeing, Kayaking, and Standup Paddleboarding at Eno River
10 a.m.
Pop Up Record Show at Beer Durham
Durham's Home Goods Market at Black Wall St Gardens
Bear Awareness Week at Museum of Life and Science
10:30 a.m.
Mother's Day Brunch at The Durham Hotel
11 a.m.
Battle of the Blades 2024 at Historic Durham Athletic Park
12 p.m.
Springtime Outdoor Market at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Crafternoons at Gizmo Brew Works
Preservation Durham Annual Home Tour: The Rambling Ranch at Orchard Park Picnic Shelter
1 p.m.
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Say It With Glass Workshop - Sam Nguyen at Moon Dog Meadery
Bimbé Celebration at Rock Quarry Park
2 p.m.
Closing Reception — Dan Gottlieb: Figure Ground at Craven Allen Gallery
Durham "Bullpen" Treasure Hunt - Walking Team Scavenger Hunt! at Fullsteam Brewery
3 p.m.
A Beautiful Noise Spring Concert by the Common Woman Chorus at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Peter Pan at The Carolina Theatre
4 p.m.
Family Fun Saturday: May Flowers at Guglhupf Restaurant
5 p.m.
Rooftops and Alleyways Community Canvas Wall Brawl at Dashi
Durham Blues & Brews Festival at Durham Central Park
Hops & Blues at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
6 p.m.
The Moon Unit and Tarot with Emily at Arcana
Peter Pan at The Carolina Theatre
6:30 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
7 p.m.
A Beautiful Noise Spring Concert by the Common Woman Chorus at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Crones of Anarchy: Blues, Rock, Americana at Succotash Southern & Creole Kitchen
7:30 p.m.
Jim Ketch Swingtet at Sharp 9 Gallery
Big Birthday Dance Party: Combo Platter with 2 Sides at The Blue Note Grill
8:15 p.m.
BBYMUTHA: Sleep Paralysis Tour 2024 at Motorco Music Hall
9 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
10 p.m.
Fortune Factory Presents: Taurus Dance Party at Rubies on Five Points
Jazz Brunch at Lula & Sadie's
10:30 a.m.
Al Strong Presents Jazz Brunch at Alley Twenty Six
12 p.m.
Preservation Durham Annual Home Tour: The Rambling Ranch at Orchard Park Picnic Shelter
Sunday Dollar Bin Sale for Charity at Rumors Durham
Supernatural Sunday - Psychic Affair + Healers Market at Weldon Mills Distillery
Farmers Market at ZincHouse Winery & Brewery
12:15 p.m.
Public Tour at Duke Chapel
2 p.m.
Hillandale Golf Beginner Clinic at Hillandale Golf Course
3:30 p.m.
Davis Dance Company Spring Recital 2024 at The Carolina Theatre
4 p.m.
Showings at Scripps: Miguel Gutierrez at ADF's Samuel H. Scripps Studios
Carmina Burana at Baldwin Auditorium
Día de las Madres Kermes at El Futuro’s Therapeutic Green Space
String Break at Fullsteam Brewery
6 p.m.
Emma Jane's EP Release Show and Tarot with Joy at Arcana
Davis Dance Company Spring Recital 2024 at The Carolina Theatre
6:30 p.m.
Open Mic Night at Moon Dog Meadery
7 p.m.
DPW Limit Break at Durham Convention Center
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Noteworthy Events
The Lion King at DPAC- Winner of six Tony Awards®, including Best Musical, this landmark musical event brings together one of the most imaginative creative teams on Broadway.
- Wed, May 15 - Sun, June 9
- $29.50+
- Let your inner child shine as you play games, make crafts, and enjoy the fresh air during your lunch break!
- Wed, May 15
- 12-2 p.m.
- Free admission
- Thu, May 16 - Sat, May 18
- This family-oriented event is a celebration of African and African American history, culture, arts, and traditions. This year's headliner: Monica!
- Sat, May 18
- 1-7 p.m.
- Free admission
- This adventure begins at the London home of the Darling family, a typical evening in 1912, as the weary parents try to settle their children down for bed while the young ones insist on staying up late. Little do Wendy, John, and Michael know that a fantastic journey awaits them that night.
- Sat, May 18
- 3 p.m. and 6 p.m.
- $32+
- Wrestlers from all over the world will gather in one place for a night you won't forget.
- Sun, May 19
- 7 p.m.
- $25+
Multi-Day Events
The NGIN Cityscapes Summit at Durham Convention Center- Hosted by national nonprofit, New Growth Innovation Network, prepare to connect with like-minded professionals and engage with purpose-driven organizations. Immerse yourself in workshops and captivating keynotes from renowned speakers, featuring three tracks of insightful sessions: Inclusive Capital, Community Wealth Building, and Reimagining Systems.
- Wed, May 15 - Fri, May 17
- Registration fees vary
- Enjoy fabulous Greek food, desserts, wine and beer in a festive outdoor atmosphere. Continuous Greek music and scheduled folk dance performances.
- Sat, May 18, 11 a.m. - 9 p.m. and Sun, May 19, 11 a.m. - 7 p.m.
- Free admission
- Enjoy a look inside the historic McCown-Mangum House, Photography Museum, and Mill.
- Sat, May 18 and Sun, May 19
- 10 a.m. - 2 p.m.
- Free admission
- Libeled Lady
- Dirty Harry & Assault on Precinct 13
- Cat City
- Back to Black
- Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
- UHF
Monday, May 13
2 p.m.Board Game Night at The Glass Jug in Downtown Durham
5 p.m.
Arts & Drafts at Fullsteam Brewery
6 p.m.
Disc Golf Putting League at The Glass Jug in RTP
6:30 p.m.
Trivia Night at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
7 p.m.
Community Board Game Night at Moon Dog Meadery
Tuesday, May 14
Events at Durty Bull Brewing Brewing Company- 12-8 p.m. - Food Truck: Mike's Vegan Cookout
- 7-9 p.m. - Bull City Beer Runners Run Club
- 7-8 p.m. - Puzzled Pints Game Night
- 5:45-6:30 p.m. - Community Zumba Classes
- 6-8 p.m. - Music Bingo
- 6-8 p.m. - The Glass Jog Run Club
- 6-9 p.m. - Stitch & Sip
Boxyard Run Club at Boxyard RTP
6 p.m.
In Other Words at Arcana
Duke Baseball vs College of Charleston at Jack Coombs Field
Bring Your Own Vinyl with Jaffar at Rubies on Five Points
Women on the Wall at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
6:30 p.m.
Trivia at Durham Food Hall
Pony Ride at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
7 p.m.
Trivia at Beer Study Durham
Not Rocket Science Trivia at DSSOLVR Durham
Tuesday Blues Jam at The Blue Note Grill
8 p.m.
Comedy Night at Bull City Ciderworks
Jeremy 'Bean' Clemons Trio at Kingfisher
Enter Shikari at Motorco Music Hall
Vision Video + Tears For The Dying at The Pinhook
Wednesday, May 15
Events at Atomic Empire- 6:30 p.m. - Dragon Ball Fusion World Release Event
- 7 p.m. - Flesh and Blood Armory Event
- 12-2 p.m. - Hear & There: Daniel Delorenzo
- 5:30-8:30 p.m. - Game Night
- 7-8 p.m. - Signature Wine Tasting
- 7-8:30 p.m. - Laughs Comedy Night
Senior Short Game Clinic at Hillandale Golf Course
10:30 a.m.
Storytime on the Roof with Durham County Library at The Durham Hotel
12 p.m.
Adult Recess at CCB Plaza
3 p.m.
Durham Farmers’ Market at Durham Central Park
4 p.m.
Whiskey Wednesdays at Alley Twenty Six
5 p.m.
Free Wednesday Wine Tasting at Beer Study Durham
5:30 p.m.
Ride of Silence at CCB Plaza
6 p.m.
Queer Craft Night and Tarot with Joy at Arcana
Bimbe Community Block Party at Holton Career & Resource Center
Come Take a Flight With Us: A Bright Black Workshop at Proximity Brewing Company
Free RTP Business Rockstar Connect Networking Event at Sheraton Imperial Hotel
Sweet Social: Auntie's African Ice Cream at The Durham Hotel
6:30 p.m.
Trivia Night with Pickle at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
7 p.m.
Bottle Swap: Homebrew Club at Durty Bull Brewing Brewing Company
Skip The Small Talk: Speed Friending Event at Fullsteam Brewery
Hammered Trivia at Hi-Wire Brewing
Karaoke Night at Mavericks Smokehouse
Music Bingo at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
3rd Wednesday Jazz Jam Session at Succotash Southern & Creole Kitchen
Brett Chambers Open Mic at The Blue Note Grill
8 p.m.
Air Hockey Tournament at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Trivia Night at Bull McCabe's
Karaoke at Moon Dog Meadery
The Weeks at Motorco Music Hall
Blends With Friends at The Pinhook
Thursday, May 16
Events at Boxyard RTP- 7:30-8 a.m. - Bike Durham: Bike to Work
- 12-2 p.m. - Taking Back Thursday: Sheila Casalett
- 12-8 p.m. -Food Truck: Mike's Vegan Cookout
- 7-9 p.m. - Thursday Trivia with Nick
Harnessing the Power of AI to Ensure Equitable HR Practices at RTI Holden Building
9:30 a.m.
Guide Supported Canoeing, Kayaking, and Standup Paddleboarding at Eno River
12:15 p.m.
Midday Meander: A Strolling Conversation at Sarah P. Duke Gardens
3 p.m.
Guided Museum Tour at 21c Museum Hotels Durham
5 p.m.
Thirsty Thursdays at Dashi
Righteous Roots Reggae Show at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
5:30 p.m.
Walking Club with Bull City Strollers at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham
6 p.m.
Queer Trivia at Arcana
Vinyl Night with DJ Deckades at Gizmo Brew Works
6:15 p.m.
Pony Run at Ponysaurus Brewing Company
6:30 p.m.
AfterHours: Science of Beer at Museum of Life and Science
Line Dance Classes at Mystic Farm and Distillery
Space Code Youth Open Mic at NorthStar Church of the Arts
Boulders & Brews Meetup at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
7 p.m.
Trivia Night at Beer Tooth Taproom
Bimbé Cypher at CCB Plaza
Bring Your Own Vinyl Night at Congress Social Bar
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Summer Jazz Jam (Curated by Al Strong) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
Community Board Game Night at Moon Dog Meadery
Al Strong Presents Jazz on the Roof at The Durham Hotel
7:30 p.m.
Trivia Night with Big Slow Tom at Clouds Brewing Brightleaf Square
Reverend Billy C. Wirtz / Armand Lenchek & Carter Minor at The Blue Note Grill
Pillow Talk: Speed Dating and Conversations About Sex / Sexuality at The Pinhook
8 p.m.
Weekly Single Mingle at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Trivia at Fullsteam Brewery
Danny Lopriore at Motorco Music Hall
9 p.m.
DJ Halo Presents: No Requests at Rubies on Five Points
9:30 p.m.
Karaoke Night at The Tavern
Friday, May 17
Events at Atomic Empire- 6:30 p.m. - Lorcana: Ursula’s Return Release Event
- 6:30 p.m. - Commander Legends: Battle for Baldur's Gate Draft
- 5-9 p.m. - Food Truck: La Republica Taco Truck
- 8-11 p.m. - Open Mic Stand-up Comedy
- 7:30-9 p.m. - Wit: An Improv Comedy Game Show
- 9-10 p.m. - Hush Hush
- 6:45 p.m. - Lindy Hop Lesson + Dance
- 7:30 p.m. - Djam
- 9:30 p.m. - Bachata Dance Night
- 6-8 p.m. - The Duke Street Dogs
- 9:15 p.m. - The Beautiful People Club
Tasting at Ten at Counter Culture Coffee
12 p.m.
Co-Working Social at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham
4 p.m.
Late Spring Tree Ramble at Sarah P. Duke Gardens
5 p.m.
Guided Museum Tours at 21c Museum Hotels Durham
Food Truck Friday at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
5:30 p.m.
LOJO: Log Off, Jam On at Boxyard RTP
6 p.m.
Aly J & Kevin Clark and Tarot with Kathleen at Arcana
Third Friday Art Walk at Downtown Durham
Friday Night Makes at Durham Arts Council
May Third Friday at Durham Arts Council
Counterpoints Exhibition Reception at Durham Bottling Co.
Third Friday at Golden Belt Arts
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Screenprint Roundup at The Fruit
The Patio Dance Parties : Clueless Fridays at Unscripted Durham
6:30 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
7 p.m.
Live Vinyl Spinning by PhDJ at Beer Study Durham
Early Show: John Howie Jr. / Ramona and The Holy Smokes at The Pinhook
7:30 p.m.
Evening Eno Exploration Paddle at Eno River
Evan Ringel & Ariel Pocock at Sharp 9 Gallery
8 p.m.
Pass the Aux at Boricua Soul
Stereo Reveries at DSSOLVR Durham
Karaoke! at Fullsteam Brewery
Cheekface at Motorco Music Hall
Dance Blues Friday at Studio 5
9 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
10 p.m.
The Floor: Special Guest THEYDYLIKE at Rubies on Five Points
Saturday, May 18
Events at Atomic Empire- 11 a.m. - Pokémon TCG: League Cup
- 1 p.m. - Lorcana: Ursula’s Return Release Event
- 2 p.m. - Game Designers of North Carolina Meetup
- 11:30 a.m. - 2:30 p.m. - Saturdaze: DJ k.ward
- 1-8 p.m. - Food Truck: Death By Taco
- 3-7 p.m. - 3rd Saturday Vintage + Maker Market
- 5-9 p.m. - Home Brewed: CNOTE Art Spectacular
- Every Saturday, 10-10:30 a.m. and 11-11:30 a.m.
- 7:30-8:30 p.m. - House Party
- 8:30-9:30 p.m. - Harold Night
- 9:30-10:30 p.m. - Mint Condition Standup Showcase
- 5-8 p.m. - Menace To Society Album Listening Party
- 7:30-10 p.m. - HUMP! Film Festival
- 10 p.m. - 2 a.m. - Puro Perreo Pari
- 7:30 p.m. - Boogie Burly Nights... A Groovy 70s Show
- 10:30 p.m. - Drake and Friends 2
- 2 p.m. - Downtown Durham Walking Tour
- 4 p.m. - Durham African American History Tour
- 6 p.m. - Downtown Durham True Crime Tour
Lookin For A Cure at Bull City Running Company-South
8 a.m.
Durham Farmers' Market at Durham Central Park
parkrun Durham at Southern Boundaries Park
9 a.m.
South Durham Farmers' Market at Greenwood Commons Shopping Center
9:30 a.m.
Guide Supported Canoeing, Kayaking, and Standup Paddleboarding at Eno River
10 a.m.
Pop Up Record Show at Beer Durham
Durham's Home Goods Market at Black Wall St Gardens
Bear Awareness Week at Museum of Life and Science
10:30 a.m.
Mother's Day Brunch at The Durham Hotel
11 a.m.
Battle of the Blades 2024 at Historic Durham Athletic Park
12 p.m.
Springtime Outdoor Market at Boxcar Bar + Arcade
Crafternoons at Gizmo Brew Works
Preservation Durham Annual Home Tour: The Rambling Ranch at Orchard Park Picnic Shelter
1 p.m.
Duke Baseball vs UNC at Jack Coombs Field
Say It With Glass Workshop - Sam Nguyen at Moon Dog Meadery
Bimbé Celebration at Rock Quarry Park
2 p.m.
Closing Reception — Dan Gottlieb: Figure Ground at Craven Allen Gallery
Durham "Bullpen" Treasure Hunt - Walking Team Scavenger Hunt! at Fullsteam Brewery
3 p.m.
A Beautiful Noise Spring Concert by the Common Woman Chorus at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Peter Pan at The Carolina Theatre
4 p.m.
Family Fun Saturday: May Flowers at Guglhupf Restaurant
5 p.m.
Rooftops and Alleyways Community Canvas Wall Brawl at Dashi
Durham Blues & Brews Festival at Durham Central Park
Hops & Blues at The Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
6 p.m.
The Moon Unit and Tarot with Emily at Arcana
Peter Pan at The Carolina Theatre
6:30 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
7 p.m.
A Beautiful Noise Spring Concert by the Common Woman Chorus at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
Crones of Anarchy: Blues, Rock, Americana at Succotash Southern & Creole Kitchen
7:30 p.m.
Jim Ketch Swingtet at Sharp 9 Gallery
Big Birthday Dance Party: Combo Platter with 2 Sides at The Blue Note Grill
8:15 p.m.
BBYMUTHA: Sleep Paralysis Tour 2024 at Motorco Music Hall
9 p.m.
Kayla Waters (Hosted by Marcus Anderson) at Missy Lane's Assembly Room
10 p.m.
Fortune Factory Presents: Taurus Dance Party at Rubies on Five Points
Sunday, May 19
Events at Atomic Empire- 11:30 a.m. - Star Wars: Shatterpoint Tournament
- 12 p.m. - Battletech Campaign Day
- 1 p.m. - Lorcana: Ursula’s Return Release Event
- 2-4 p.m. - Hammered Trivia with Casey
- 4-8 p.m. - The Blood Connection Blood Drive
Jazz Brunch at Lula & Sadie's
10:30 a.m.
Al Strong Presents Jazz Brunch at Alley Twenty Six
12 p.m.
Preservation Durham Annual Home Tour: The Rambling Ranch at Orchard Park Picnic Shelter
Sunday Dollar Bin Sale for Charity at Rumors Durham
Supernatural Sunday - Psychic Affair + Healers Market at Weldon Mills Distillery
Farmers Market at ZincHouse Winery & Brewery
12:15 p.m.
Public Tour at Duke Chapel
2 p.m.
Hillandale Golf Beginner Clinic at Hillandale Golf Course
3:30 p.m.
Davis Dance Company Spring Recital 2024 at The Carolina Theatre
4 p.m.
Showings at Scripps: Miguel Gutierrez at ADF's Samuel H. Scripps Studios
Carmina Burana at Baldwin Auditorium
Día de las Madres Kermes at El Futuro’s Therapeutic Green Space
String Break at Fullsteam Brewery
6 p.m.
Emma Jane's EP Release Show and Tarot with Joy at Arcana
Davis Dance Company Spring Recital 2024 at The Carolina Theatre
6:30 p.m.
Open Mic Night at Moon Dog Meadery
7 p.m.
DPW Limit Break at Durham Convention Center
Running Art Exhibit
Hometown (Inherited): Ten Year Retrospective at The Fruit- This project examines the changing landscape of our city through a series of forty mixed media pieces the artist has created since 2014.
- Third Friday openings on Apr 19 and May 17, 6-9 p.m.
- Drop-in by appointment and Wednesdays 4-7 p.m.
- Free admission
- Each piece begins as a photograph, which is then printed on acrylic and worked with a variety of paints and compounds to create a unique surface.
- Sat, May 4 - Sat, May 18
- Free admission
- Sacred Geometry is an ancient field of physics whose equations are expressed through shape. Shape is a way to explore the universal fabric of our existence.
- Sat, May 4 - Sat, June 1
- Free admission
- It Ain’t All Black and White is a photography exhibition that encourages us to consider emotions such as serenity, apprehension, yearning, and more.
- Captured by 11 dynamic photographers dedicated to documenting the fullness and complexity of Black life, this exhibition offers each of us an opportunity to see ourselves with renewed attention.
- Thu, Apr 25 - Sun, June 2
- María Magdalena Campos-Pons: Behold is a monographic exhibition of a visionary voice in photography, immersive installation, painting and performance.
- Thu, Feb 15 - Sun, Jun 9
- Every week, Tue-Sat 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Sun 12-5 p.m.
- Free admission
- Counterpoints is a curated showcase of local AAPI (Asian American Pacific Islander) artists, delving into the convergence of AAPI identity and mental health. Inspired by the intricate layers of musical counterpoint, its purpose is to weave together diverse narratives and confront the stigma surrounding mental health within our communities.
- Wed, May 1 - Sun, June 16
- Mon - Fri, 10 a.m. - 4 p.m.
- The Divine Nine Legacy Memoir delves deep into the history of the National Panhellenic Council (NPHC) or "Divine Nine," a collective of nine Greek Letter organizations founded on May 10th, 1930.
- These organizations were born out of the necessity to provide a voice for Black American students within the collegiate space. United by principles of service, community, brotherhood, and sisterhood, the Divine Nine work collectively to uplift society through acts of service to underserved areas across the nation.
- Fri, Apr 19 - Sat, June 1
- Free admission
2024.05.13 22:00 Alexsrobin Where can you get birthday card washes in OC?
As the title says, I'm curious which car wash locations give out freebie birthday car washes. Checkered Flag in Irvine used to when they were still a hand-wash location, I'm not sure they do anymore.
Two Thumbs Up Express Car Wash (Santa Ana) gives one if you sign up from their texts.
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Two Thumbs Up Express Car Wash (Santa Ana) gives one if you sign up from their texts.
2024.05.13 21:58 K1rtis Is "trusting your gut" a thing and should I pull the trigger? M23 F21
So I (M23) know this girl (F21), who is a very good friend of my cousin. We don't see each other often, but when we do, she acts very strange, and few days ago when I kinda crashed said cousin birthday party and she was there. All her friends were cool, but she seemed very shy. I'm usually the one who jokes most, but not in a bad way (I hope), she always seemed to laugh or giggle even if I was talking complete nonsense. Another weird thing is she never made eye contact once, don't get me wrong I don't try to play staring contest, but eye contacts sort of just happen if you talk to people, and well, in a span of 2 hours we didn't locked eyes one.
Needless to say, there's another dimension to this - she's a very good friend with my cousin, and I don't want to do anything that would make her feel uncomfortable and/or jeopardize their friendship.
Looking for any advice, preferably about how often can you trust your gut about things like these, because I might be rolling a dice here, because my gut says do it.
TL;DR I like a girl and my gut says to reach out to her, but I'm too chickenshit to do it.
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Needless to say, there's another dimension to this - she's a very good friend with my cousin, and I don't want to do anything that would make her feel uncomfortable and/or jeopardize their friendship.
Looking for any advice, preferably about how often can you trust your gut about things like these, because I might be rolling a dice here, because my gut says do it.
TL;DR I like a girl and my gut says to reach out to her, but I'm too chickenshit to do it.
2024.05.13 21:58 Salt-Blacksmith5616 Are completes really that bad?
I got an element complete board for my birthday because i wanted to start skating and my carers grandson is bragging how he has independent trucks and spitfire wheels and his dads olds expensive deck saying he’s better than me because of his stuff. I know this is a stupid question but does it make that much of a difference if ur a beginner because it’s kinda putting me off of skating now. The boys also bragging how he can do ollie’s (he can’t) and he can barely even cruise (he got his board his board a few weeks ago but he only tries to do tricks he didn’t even ride around)
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2024.05.13 21:57 movdqa Canadian Wildfires are back this year
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