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2024.05.16 14:53 No_Funny3533 Miyuki Miyamoto/ Yomi / Jeong Nahyeon Scam Network Sites JPNDATE CUDATE DATESTEADY SAYHIUP
 | UPDATED INFO throughout it. submitted by No_Funny3533 to Romance_Scamer [link] [comments] They have a new Scam Website: https://www.datesteady.com/ (Reuses JPNDATE assets even) I think she Chinese and Korean. They try to scam me a second time, her friend (I just wanted real love) Yomi/ Miyuki Miyamoto/ Jeong Nahyeon Written Before: There is this dangerous woman (same person) running many fake Chinese Romance scam websites, fake Instagram pages, tik tok, We chats, and many Chinese porn sites. It is the same person, she uses her looks with pictures and videos to steal money from men. She has many names she goes by, probably even more than I found. She also uses bots to get fake likes and weird Anime filters to try to look like an idol. She has scam artist female friends also I found. She the leader. I know a lot of scammers steal from other people's identities but that is not the case here. This is the same person as the scammer. My story will explain it. As well as this person has pictures of the same person you can’t find anywhere else on the Internet. Even if you do a Reverse Face image search. They said information that match to an unbelievable level. The person who Scammed me: Has Many names (Such As) And a talent for speaking many languages
https://www.instagram.com/gracegracemei/ Email: [miyukilovee@outlook.com](mailto:miyukilovee@outlook.com) (Something about BlessCeline Lovee) Skype ID: live:.cid.737fb9ac2ad5655c
(Make Sense) u/mingmei1344 https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ https://www.facebook.com/liuliu.meimingmei (Owner of aiu_agency since 2015) u/aiu_agency https://www.instagram.com/aiu_agency/
Hotel Connected: SHILLA STAY Gwanghwamun Her Scam Artist friends who work for both Ai_U Agency and JPNDATE CUDATE (That I found) Vynnie_nat : https://www.instagram.com/vynnie_nat/#jiejierui_ngc: https://www.instagram.com/jiejierui_ngc/Veravera_zhangg: https://www.instagram.com/veravera_zhangg/Elle_owo_elle : https://www.instagram.com/elle_owo_elle/Qiqi_shenglim : https://www.instagram.com/qiqi_shenglim/Myemye_owo_ : https://www.instagram.com/myemye_owo_/Her Friends that are connected somehow but not sure how yet. They appear everywhere with the fake accountsRiyandiwilliam : https://www.instagram.com/riyandiwilliam/https://preview.redd.it/2d0g7b2las0d1.jpg?width=400&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f25ee7d014b3ae338612c980a5db88eca5ef6cb5Summary: Jpndate.com is a dangerous Romance scam. All the women are paid actors for the website from China. They will try to get into a relationship with you very fast, don’t fall for it. They are milking you for money like if you're a cow. They will threaten to kill you or your family if you call out their scam. They might also say they will sue you. If you stop paying them, they will text you very little. They will never video call you face-to-face. Jpndate.com has a sister scam website from the same people called sayhiup.com. When you buy something on Jpndate the payment goes to Cudate Limited, so that site must be part of the scam also. There is a company in China doing all type of illegal and immoral practices. Their name is Zhengzhou Zhongzhiqi Technology Co., Ltd. / 郑州市中之祺科技有限公司 . They have their main technology business but they also run a list of many scam websites stealing money from American men, Asian, and European men. Such as Cudate, JPNDate, SayhiUp. These are romance scam sites where all the women work for the company. If you make a female account it will pend forever. Only men get approved. They claimed before to be an American-owned company then I exposed them now they claim to be Dutch. Their servers are all in China. They never filed paperwork with any foreign country. They are none of these the Chinese pretending to run many dating sites when in fact it’s all fake. They claim to be in nations their not. They have fake terms of service. I used PayPal before I didn't know it was a scam. I paid in dollars, but they refused to refund me till I told PayPal. PayPal made them. Then they refused to pay me the total amount they wanted to pay me on yuan when I paid dollars. I report them to FTC. They also try to hack my laptop for tell the government the truth about them. They probably get funds from the Communist Party government. They are very very bad people. Please look into it or forward this message somewhere where it can be looked into. Pretends to be a legit dating site but feel more like a pay-to-use website for fake love. All women here are paid actors for the site. The same few women have multiple profiles pretending to be different people. Funny part is anytime you call out JPNDate bs they change their terms of service. Screenshot everything people. They have a fake page saying their trying to stop scammers, it all bs they are the scammers. Host of JPNDate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) My Story: (Update): I know it is the same person, They told me in a text message. Do you like Asian women? Real Asian women? These ones are real! I know who they are. Hi! This is Mark Faraday talking to you. This is my story of how a website named JPNDate Idols scammed me out of 4000 American dollars. First, I was on Japan Cupid, a dating site. On Japan Cupid, no one can chat unless one of you has a membership. I bought a 1-week membership. Within 5 minutes to 10 minutes, a woman nicknamed Yomi from Japan messaged me; this should have been a red flag for me. We talked for a while. She said she was interested in me. She asked me if I could move over to the dating site JPNDate because she paid for membership there and not Japan Cupid. She also promised to delete her account on Japan Cupid after we changed sites. She does delete her account off Japan Cupid. Unlike a normal scam artist, who may only have 1 or 2 photos, she has several photos on her profile. My trust in her grows a bit seeing that. She then privately messaged me several more photos of her. She asked me for some photos, which I sent. She then sends back happy and heartfelt emojis. She told me she doesn’t date Asian men anymore because they were violent to her in the past and her last boyfriend cheated on her. She talked about how she didn’t want to fight with me. She also said we could talk about any topic. She would compliment me often, as I did for her. Of course, on my profile page, I try to post my best pictures. Throughout my life, I have had many different hairstyles. She even mentioned this and got very happy and asked if I was a hairstylist. The spam of talking between us was from January 20th, 2024, to March 24th, 2024. On JPNDate, there is an upgrade system. You need Blue Diamond to chat with others. Crown to send videos. Blue Diamond is 20 dollars per month, and Crown is 80 dollars per month. I got the Blue Diamond membership at first. It showed her with it too. After a day or two, she asked me to upgrade like she did to the Crown membership so she could send me a video. I upgraded it, and she did actually send me a video. All pictures and the video match the same person and the same face. Some pictures were in different locations, and some were like three different pictures in the same place. We then later buy a 6-month Crown membership for each other because it is cheaper than 1 month at a time. I bought it for her, and she bought it for me. At this point, I start to believe. This person was giving me all their time. They reply very often, and their texting time was the same as Japan timezones every single day. They spoke not only English but also Japanese almost fluently. However, they did let me know that they're still learning English and sometimes use a translator. She let me know that this website has something called a mall. This should have been red flag number 2. You pay 1 American dollar for each gold point. Paypal is the only thing that works. When we started dating, she said it was normal for couples in Japan to send each other gifts. It was a symbol of forever love in Japan, she claimed. As an American, I didn’t know if this was true. I googled it and couldn’t get a clear answer. She said whatever I bought her, she would buy me as well. She asked if I liked necklaces or charms. I said anything was fine. She wanted me to pick up a necklace. At first, she picked up a $1,000 necklace from the site mall and asked me. I said no; that's way too much money for that. She said how about a 300-dollar Jade Romance charm. She told me to get her white one; she would get me the green one. I questioned if she was legit. She started crying. She somehow convinced me at the time that she was legit again. I did buy it. A few weeks later, I did receive the overpriced Green Jade Romance love charm to my address from her. I never told her which day exactly my tracking information said it would come to my house, but I asked her, and her tracking date was the same week as mine. By the way something almost the same as this necklace is 12 dollars on Amazon. It also broke when I got it in the mail. Probably cost them 2 cent to make. For the next few days, we had a wonderful, happy conversation. It is late January, and I know Valentine's Day is coming. I offered to get her flowers. I got her flowers and chocolate at a very high price of multiple hundred dollars. She then gets so happy. She told me many times how she wanted to go to America and find me. We talked about many topics for several more days. She told me she worked in an office in Tokyo. Yomi told me her real name was Miyuki Miyamoto. Which is very funny because I told her before I was a Nintendo fan, and this is the same last name as Mario and Zelda Creator. She also said she had her apartment to herself, which is true; she does own an apartment. She talked about how life is stressful right now in Japan. She claimed to have grown up in the Japanese town of Nagano, Japan. She also said she had gone to a university in Tokyo with a major in computer science. She wanted to visit America in July for 15 days when she had her time off. July is a normal time for people to get off in Japan for vacation, so I thought nothing of it. I told her that I was from a smaller town in California, but I lived not far from San Francisco. I told her how my town is quiet and how I could see mountains outside my house. She said she wanted a peaceful life and that life in Tokyo is too fast. And she always had great things to say about every picture I sent. We also talk about going on dates. I asked most of the questions, but she did ask me questions as well. I started to ask her a lot of questions about Japan. Like if she visited Himeji Castle, she said no. However, I did say yes to visiting Mount Fuji. I should have asked for a photo of this, but I didn’t. She was very happy; she told me very many topics about Japan. We even briefly talked about anime. She told me she liked Digimon, Dragon Ball Z, One Piece, and Detective Conan. This information is important later. We also talked about how both of us were big Disney fans growing up. One day she told me, how work was busy today. I told her it was okay and we didn’t need to talk today. She did, however, still text me a little bit that day. This was the only day during our whole time talking when she was super busy. There is nothing wrong with this; all humans get busy. I decided to spend my evening drawing a picture of me and Yomi on a date to surprise her. When I sent it to her, she did not react. This was a red flag for me. I tried to convince myself that she just didn’t like drawings that much. I know I sound really dumb right here, but whoever I was talking to is very smart and knows a lot of things. We started talking a few days later about the idea of meeting and going on dates together. I know that the yen is weak against the American dollar right now. I told them I would pay for anything they wanted when they were in America because I was in love. This was a big, big, big mistake. They then asked if I could give them 1500 dollars to buy a plane ticket. Never give money to people you never meet in real life, folks. Don’t be dumb like me. Turns out the ticket was actually 2100, so they asked for another 500 dollars the next day, claiming their friend let them borrow the money, and they paid the difference. They did show me a picture of a plane ticket. With the name Yomi and the correct airports in Tokyo and San Francisco. This gave me more trust in them; I got a lot of photos, videos, and even a picture of a plane ticket. At some point, I talked to them about social media. They claim to only have Skype and Line. I found it very hard to believe a woman in her 20s wasn’t on Instagram or Tik Tok. I went on Instagram and typed Yomi, and I found a Yomi who looked just like her. This made me think: why did she lie? What confused me is that all the pictures on her Instagram were different from the ones she sent me, other than one image that was the same. Meaning that the images were not clearly stolen from there. I looked up JPNDate online; there isn’t much info on this website (Right Now), other than one reddit forum from 1 year ago. Someone said something about being scammed by an IDOL on this site. They also said the website wasn’t in Japan but in China. I was wondering why I never saw new females joining the website; it was the same 23 pages worth of them. I wanted to test the website to see if it was legit. I made another account, a fake male account with AI artwork. It was approved in one second. I then made a fake female account; it said pending approval. It has now been 2 weeks since I made that account, and it still says pending approval. This means all the women on this website have to be fake actors. There is also a setting on JPNDate to see who has been online last or which accounts are the oldest. When I asked weeks before, Yomi claimed she had been on this website only for a short time. Her oldest picture was dated October 20, 2023. Yet she has the sixth-oldest account on JPNDate, according to the website. The reddit forum I talked about before was over a year old. When I was on this website for a month, at least 10 other women tried to text me. There was this one profile of a woman from Taiwan, age 20. She texted me three times in one month. When I joined, her age was listed as 20, and at some point, she changed her age to 25 on her profile. I ignored all these women. This proves again that all these women are fake. I do think they are women based on how they type, but they are not truthful like they act like they are. As I write this, I just realized this is Yomi's sister; it matches the other Yomi account's sister tag. I knew this website wasn’t telling the truth. I found the JPNDate IP address and tracked it to a server in Hong Kong, China, hosted by Alibaba cloud servers. Reddit was right; the website is Chinese. I took pictures of the website code just in case. I asked Yomi if she knew Alibaba. Then she asked if I’m going to China—a very strange follow-up question. At this point, I was confused. Who is Yomi? I couldn’t find anything about Miyuki Miyamoto, only Yomi. On Yomi Instagram, she speaks Chinese, not Japanese. I started to think there are no Japanese women on this website like they claim to be. She does speak Japanese, though. I started using more than 10 different software programs to track who Yomi was. I found like 1000 pictures of an idol, WeChat model, singer, dancer, person on endless Chinese dating sites, and a valiant professional gamer part of the AI’U agency for over 8 years. I found two other Instagram accounts with Yomi's face. Another account in Chinese with an idol name other than Yomi also had a Facebook page. The Chinese account has a post about her going to Australia in early 2024, where she is typing in English words. I also found an account where she speaks only Korean on Instagram. I also found a tik-tok where someone dances and looks 100% the same as Yomi, to whom I’m talking. The part that is crazy is that none of the images are 100% the same, but the person is the same in all of them. This shocked me; I follow all the accounts. I saw the stories daily to see who this person was. Her Yomi account is just her normal pictures and atm company or something. Her Korean account is about traveling to Singapore, Spain, and South Korea. She also posts a lot about Disney toys here. When I talked to the scammer about Disney, I had no idea about this. At this point, I knew that many men had been scammed out of money for fake love, not just me. These women are real women. However, there are actors pretending to be in love. They will crush your heart and call you names after a few weeks if you don’t buy their stuff. It has to be from JPNdate Mall only, nowhere else. JPNdate Mall prices are crazy high. I am not sure if the point of the website is just for money or if it is actually for women to study English or what. Chinese women, pretending to be Japanese (most of them), that have connections to Korean music and gaming on professional teams. Man, what a hell of a story this is. This sounds like a Hollywood movie, but it's real, or at least partly. At this point, everything I say seems to be true based on what I know. Yomi told me early on that she had one older sister and one younger brother. It seems like she is actually a twin, and she is the younger sister. Yomi claims to be 25, but I think she is closer to 27 or 28 based on finding a listing of her work in 2015 at Twitch Gaming. You have to be 18 or older to work at Twitch gaming, unless your parents sign things. When I showed the pictures I found to Yomi on JPNdate, she played the victim card on me. Saying she thinks I’m a liar and she wants to break up. Then she gave me her Skype account to try to prove it was legit, and all the other images and accounts were stolen and fake. Her Skype name is Rose, with a One Piece picture. She sent me many voice clips, crying, trying to convince me that she was real. I put them in software, and the voice was 30% human, 70% AI. Clearly, a woman is changing her Chinese or Korean voice to sound Japanese. A PC gamer would know how to do this; they do it all the time to troll. Yomi told me she didn’t play video games anymore, but I found a picture that wasn’t that old of a woman who looked the same as her; she had a Nintendo Switch with a white OLED in it. Btw it’s a known fact that Yomi uses software to cheat in the Pc FPS games. I can’t let Yomi, her sister, and her idol friends scam men for their time and money. Yomi Chiense's name is Vera Yuanxin (维拉). Her twin sister goes by veravera_zhangg. Yomi “deleted her profile” when I exposed her. But Yomi is still there with no pictures. Two they clearly have other accounts with people who look like she just changed hairstyle, talking and trying to scam other men. Remember when I said the anime part was important? On Yomi's Korean account, she has a friend with whom she talks about Digimon. She gave him a Disney toy. She told me she wanted to cosplay a fox; his profile is a fox. There is just so much proof that these are the same people. Later someone hit me up on Reddit from the Phillippines and told me how the same person Yomi scammed them. How for months Yomi promise them so many things. Then when they said it came to going on the plane to visit him they said they were sick or dying or something. Yomi also made a fake Instagram pretending to be Joe Biden and sent me a friend invite. I messaged and it was so funny how bad it was on their part. I said “Yomi are you trolling me?” then they deleted their account. This was on April 6th, 2024. Yomi tries so hard but use a lot of cheap things that are clearly fake like ai artwork, bots for like at ai_u agency, and fake profiles where she comments herself and attacks anyone who calls her out fairly. After exposing Jpndate they Ip ban my address lol. Then on social media joke about attacking me. If you call out their BS they threaten your family and yourself. Just stay away from all these sites if you're going to date online use well-known legit sites. 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2024.05.16 14:52 ankitam280 Why men get lonely and how to avoid it
Man is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.
Why is loneliness so bad?
In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.
Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it.
Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.
Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.
An active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl.
Look for new hobbies
Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.
Focus on work
A career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.
Meet with friends
Even if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.
Get a pet
When the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.
So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it. Why men get lonely and how to avoid itMan is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.Why is loneliness so bad?In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it. Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.The main reasons for lonelinessSingle men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.High expectationsIf your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?Failed RelationshipsIf a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup. Reluctance to get married and take responsibilityThe world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.Lack of financial well-beingIf you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.Benefits of SolitudeIt’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.How else can you cope with loneliness?Play sportsAn active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl. Look for new hobbies Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.Focus on workA career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.Meet with friendsEven if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.Get a petWhen the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it.
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Why is loneliness so bad?
In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.
Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it.
Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.
Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.
The main reasons for loneliness
Single men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.High expectations
If your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?Failed Relationships
If a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup.Reluctance to get married and take responsibility
The world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.Lack of financial well-being
If you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.Benefits of Solitude
It’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.How else can you cope with loneliness?
Play sportsAn active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl.
Look for new hobbies
Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.
Focus on work
A career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.
Meet with friends
Even if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.
Get a pet
When the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.
So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it. Why men get lonely and how to avoid itMan is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.Why is loneliness so bad?In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it. Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.The main reasons for lonelinessSingle men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.High expectationsIf your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?Failed RelationshipsIf a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup. Reluctance to get married and take responsibilityThe world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.Lack of financial well-beingIf you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.Benefits of SolitudeIt’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.How else can you cope with loneliness?Play sportsAn active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl. Look for new hobbies Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.Focus on workA career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.Meet with friendsEven if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.Get a petWhen the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it.
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2024.05.16 14:51 Best_Value9645 I think my girlfriend is a psychopath, but I don't wanna leave her.
I (18m)am currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend (18f). I was on call with her tonight and she got drunk. she started doing most the talking, before this I knew for a while she was kinda weird. Weird as in before we started dating she told me she likes killing ladybugs for fun. This kinda disturbed me for like a 2 days but I brushed it off.
But back to today, she started talking about things she has done in the past some of which include: Putting a open knife in her older sister bed which resulted in her ankle getting cut, her putting a pillow on a different older sister head while she's sleeping and sitting on it which she didn't wake up but didn't get hurt, and putting neadles in another sisters bed she noticed them and didn't lay down in it and the worst one she said she strangled her youngest sister untill one of her other sister found her she said she probably would've killed her if her sister hadn't stopped her.
She also said before we started dating she made sure to be extra charming so I would date her, which worked apperently, but she said she's stopped being super charming now that we're dating. But I still find her charming.
The thing about this girl is she's incredibly beautiful and I believe she loves me just by the way she acts, she gets super worried everytime I get hurt or sick she wanted me to stop smoking weed which I did because she didn't want me to get cancer among other things, but I could be wrong idk at this point, I love her. Are these traits of a psychopath? Should I leave her? I just wanna brush all this under the rug and pretend it never happend cause I really like her.
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But back to today, she started talking about things she has done in the past some of which include: Putting a open knife in her older sister bed which resulted in her ankle getting cut, her putting a pillow on a different older sister head while she's sleeping and sitting on it which she didn't wake up but didn't get hurt, and putting neadles in another sisters bed she noticed them and didn't lay down in it and the worst one she said she strangled her youngest sister untill one of her other sister found her she said she probably would've killed her if her sister hadn't stopped her.
She also said before we started dating she made sure to be extra charming so I would date her, which worked apperently, but she said she's stopped being super charming now that we're dating. But I still find her charming.
The thing about this girl is she's incredibly beautiful and I believe she loves me just by the way she acts, she gets super worried everytime I get hurt or sick she wanted me to stop smoking weed which I did because she didn't want me to get cancer among other things, but I could be wrong idk at this point, I love her. Are these traits of a psychopath? Should I leave her? I just wanna brush all this under the rug and pretend it never happend cause I really like her.
2024.05.16 14:51 mattrfs Survivor 46 Episode 12 Contender Rankings
 | As Q falls at the final hurdle, so do our chances of having a WTF winner. Regardless of what happens, Charlie, Maria and Kenzie all clearly sweep Ben and Liz at final tribal, but which of them has the best shot to win? submitted by mattrfs to Edgic [link] [comments] Here are my contender rankings heading into the finale ... Who is the winner of Survivor 46? ...
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2024.05.16 14:51 maureenagracia [s3] just finished all routes! a few thoughts (and a rant of sorts)
As said in the title, I've finally finished going through all the boys in TDL S3! Though I didn't aim for best ending or anything, I just wanted to see how it would go for each one. (I'm not sure if the photos will post, so apologies if this post will be wonky!) I thoroughly enjoyed this experience, so here's a silly happy rant :) (Hope I flaired this correctly! This is just really me rambling, but very happily lol)
WARNING: Very long! Will also contain spoilers!!
Chayun is... SO so cute. There's something really mature and cool about him, you know he can take care of you, and you can't help but be charmed. He's not overly affectionate, but also unafraid to show his feelings. He doesn't play any games (unlike SOME people out there...) and is mostly honest.
My favorite thing about him is how much of a simp he is for Seul. This is the guy whose forbidden word was her name because of how much he said it. This is the guy who unknowingly broke another girl's heart because he can't stop mentioning Seul. Ugh. How do I get a Chayun?
I also don't know why and how, but even when I was aiming for the other guys (and following the guides), he STILL keeps choosing Seul. I thought it was just programmed for him to do so, but I've seen posts where he chose Eunchae, so...? Maybe I just never got over my first love and unconsciously made him feel like Seul still likes him. Ha!
Speaking of first loves...
Unfortunately, I 1) didn't have enough gold for all the gifts and 2) couldn't keep up with the timing, so I spent less time with him I guess? I missed the Wicka date with him as well as the cocktail bar. But I won every game and even went on a last date with him (which I didn't get to do with Chayun), so I thought, maybe I'll get the normal ending!
WRONG! Fellas, don't go for someone whose first love is still in the picture. Or, if you do, make sure you have enough gold to control everything. EME!
Gonghyun is really considerate and nice, he gives off major "gwapo" vibes, and he would have ticked all the boxes for "green flag of the year". But he also gives off the vibe of someone I could never fall for completely, like if someone asked me for boyfriend recommendations I would mention him, but if someone asked me if I had a crush on him I'd say no.
Or maybe I'm still bitter over not being chosen. Oh well! I don't choose what doesn't choose me, so.
When I first encountered him during Chayun's route, my eyes went all O_O and I was like, "OMG, ATEEZ Choi San what are you doing here?!". That's literally the same name except for the "ho"! He's polite and mature and RELIABLE! Brains and brawn! Cute and younger-brother-like!
And while he's reliable, I want to take care of HIM instead of the other way around. He's consistently sweet, and while he seems innocent, there's a certain depth to how he speaks that shows his introspection. He's honest and earnest, and I really loved how formal he was lol he's definitely my pick for most charming TDL3 man.
My favorite part? Ironically, it was when I was on Chayun's route. I got Sanho for the snowball date, and at that time I was unsure over Chayun because he felt really cold to me. Sanho contrasted that perfectly by being so sweet and warm. "Warm as the sun," indeed.
Another favorite moment was when he carried Gonghyun during their ski trip! I wished there was a way for Seul to join their trip, but I guess that's predetermined. Oh, maybe I didn't really want Gonghyun... I wanted to BE Gonghyun....
Sanho's route was so lovely that I lowkey dreaded (/lh) the next and final one...
At this point, I was getting sick of TDL3, so I decided to try out TDL1. Considering that Jooyul (who I wasn't aiming for in the beginning but eventually liked) and Seowoo were same-age friends with the main character, I thought, "ah this will be more easy-going".
I was wrong. This was the most annoying, most insufferable, and spiciest route. Also I got the bad ending for Jooyul, so I guess easy-going routes just aren't for me.
Seowoo... Like Jeewan said, our cranky boy. He's so in love, but he doesn't want to admit it. Feel free to correct me, but he's always strikes me as someone who loves so deeply that it scares him, that's why he's always pushing Seul away. The weird thing is that the more he does it, the more I keep wanting to choose him? Because I am SURE he likes Seul, he just has to be convinced that Seul will keep choosing him until the end. (Which Sanho also was, but he was more straightforward about it.)
I was slightly enamored with the whole thing about Eunchae. Like, of COURSE they'd have such an agreement. Before this, I was really rooting for the two of them because the pairing was so weird. In local terms, there's the OA (Eunchae) and the nonchalant (Seowoo).
But I am on his route, so he's mine this time, and he WILL get sick of me!!!
My favorite part was, well, everything. At least, all the dates. He's so annoying and endearing that I have to spend a few minutes ranting into the chat after it's been deactivated. Can the creators see the messages I sent? I apologize for all the swear words. Nakakabwiset naman kasi talaga yang si Kim Seowoo parang tanga!! I would be swearing like this throughout and then he sends a heart and BOOM TIKLOP.
I wish his ending had him returning to Seul's house, like what Chayun did in their NORMAL ending. I get that he's shy about the song, but maybe Seul's final decision could have convinced him that Seul is safe enough for him to fall completely for? Well... I guess this is what fanfiction is for. Heh!
Sanho and Seowoo would be a funny ship, lol. Seowoo being his usual cranky, pakipot self, and Sanho surprising him by being all firm and assertive.
Chayun and Gonghyun... Our knights and nobles... An unlikely pairing, but they're so similar that they might work??
Gonghyun is freaking hilarious. He keeps choosing Seul when I DON'T pick him. Baliw.
I think I was meant to find this game, because the characteristics of my ideal type were found in each of the love interests, so every route was fun. I started with someone who can only look at me, and ended with someone who wrote a song about me - two things that will surely make my heart flutter in real life. I only just realized these things while playing, so I guess it was an eye-opener too!
Now, I will be taking a break from all things TDL until I save up enough gold to open a slot to save Seowoo's ending. I am too lazy to do the extra tasks and too poor to actually buy it. In the meantime, I'm playing Friends Booth and thinking of which boy to target next in TDL1. I want to try for Euntae, but I am so sad about Jooyul's outcome that I want to redo his route, and this time with the guide (I tried following my instinct, as with Chayun). Sigh! Maybe I'll just go with Doha for the funsies.
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WARNING: Very long! Will also contain spoilers!!
- ROUND 1: Chayun (Normal ending)
Chayun is... SO so cute. There's something really mature and cool about him, you know he can take care of you, and you can't help but be charmed. He's not overly affectionate, but also unafraid to show his feelings. He doesn't play any games (unlike SOME people out there...) and is mostly honest.
My favorite thing about him is how much of a simp he is for Seul. This is the guy whose forbidden word was her name because of how much he said it. This is the guy who unknowingly broke another girl's heart because he can't stop mentioning Seul. Ugh. How do I get a Chayun?
I also don't know why and how, but even when I was aiming for the other guys (and following the guides), he STILL keeps choosing Seul. I thought it was just programmed for him to do so, but I've seen posts where he chose Eunchae, so...? Maybe I just never got over my first love and unconsciously made him feel like Seul still likes him. Ha!
Speaking of first loves...
- ROUND 2: Gonghyun (Bad ending)
Unfortunately, I 1) didn't have enough gold for all the gifts and 2) couldn't keep up with the timing, so I spent less time with him I guess? I missed the Wicka date with him as well as the cocktail bar. But I won every game and even went on a last date with him (which I didn't get to do with Chayun), so I thought, maybe I'll get the normal ending!
WRONG! Fellas, don't go for someone whose first love is still in the picture. Or, if you do, make sure you have enough gold to control everything. EME!
Gonghyun is really considerate and nice, he gives off major "gwapo" vibes, and he would have ticked all the boxes for "green flag of the year". But he also gives off the vibe of someone I could never fall for completely, like if someone asked me for boyfriend recommendations I would mention him, but if someone asked me if I had a crush on him I'd say no.
Or maybe I'm still bitter over not being chosen. Oh well! I don't choose what doesn't choose me, so.
- ROUND 3: Sanho (Normal ending)
When I first encountered him during Chayun's route, my eyes went all O_O and I was like, "OMG, ATEEZ Choi San what are you doing here?!". That's literally the same name except for the "ho"! He's polite and mature and RELIABLE! Brains and brawn! Cute and younger-brother-like!
And while he's reliable, I want to take care of HIM instead of the other way around. He's consistently sweet, and while he seems innocent, there's a certain depth to how he speaks that shows his introspection. He's honest and earnest, and I really loved how formal he was lol he's definitely my pick for most charming TDL3 man.
My favorite part? Ironically, it was when I was on Chayun's route. I got Sanho for the snowball date, and at that time I was unsure over Chayun because he felt really cold to me. Sanho contrasted that perfectly by being so sweet and warm. "Warm as the sun," indeed.
Another favorite moment was when he carried Gonghyun during their ski trip! I wished there was a way for Seul to join their trip, but I guess that's predetermined. Oh, maybe I didn't really want Gonghyun... I wanted to BE Gonghyun....
Sanho's route was so lovely that I lowkey dreaded (/lh) the next and final one...
- ROUND 4: Seowoo (Best ending) (WHO WOULD'VE THOUGHT?!?!?!?)
At this point, I was getting sick of TDL3, so I decided to try out TDL1. Considering that Jooyul (who I wasn't aiming for in the beginning but eventually liked) and Seowoo were same-age friends with the main character, I thought, "ah this will be more easy-going".
I was wrong. This was the most annoying, most insufferable, and spiciest route. Also I got the bad ending for Jooyul, so I guess easy-going routes just aren't for me.
Seowoo... Like Jeewan said, our cranky boy. He's so in love, but he doesn't want to admit it. Feel free to correct me, but he's always strikes me as someone who loves so deeply that it scares him, that's why he's always pushing Seul away. The weird thing is that the more he does it, the more I keep wanting to choose him? Because I am SURE he likes Seul, he just has to be convinced that Seul will keep choosing him until the end. (Which Sanho also was, but he was more straightforward about it.)
I was slightly enamored with the whole thing about Eunchae. Like, of COURSE they'd have such an agreement. Before this, I was really rooting for the two of them because the pairing was so weird. In local terms, there's the OA (Eunchae) and the nonchalant (Seowoo).
But I am on his route, so he's mine this time, and he WILL get sick of me!!!
My favorite part was, well, everything. At least, all the dates. He's so annoying and endearing that I have to spend a few minutes ranting into the chat after it's been deactivated. Can the creators see the messages I sent? I apologize for all the swear words. Nakakabwiset naman kasi talaga yang si Kim Seowoo parang tanga!! I would be swearing like this throughout and then he sends a heart and BOOM TIKLOP.
I wish his ending had him returning to Seul's house, like what Chayun did in their NORMAL ending. I get that he's shy about the song, but maybe Seul's final decision could have convinced him that Seul is safe enough for him to fall completely for? Well... I guess this is what fanfiction is for. Heh!
- Additional thoughts
Sanho and Seowoo would be a funny ship, lol. Seowoo being his usual cranky, pakipot self, and Sanho surprising him by being all firm and assertive.
Chayun and Gonghyun... Our knights and nobles... An unlikely pairing, but they're so similar that they might work??
Gonghyun is freaking hilarious. He keeps choosing Seul when I DON'T pick him. Baliw.
I think I was meant to find this game, because the characteristics of my ideal type were found in each of the love interests, so every route was fun. I started with someone who can only look at me, and ended with someone who wrote a song about me - two things that will surely make my heart flutter in real life. I only just realized these things while playing, so I guess it was an eye-opener too!
Now, I will be taking a break from all things TDL until I save up enough gold to open a slot to save Seowoo's ending. I am too lazy to do the extra tasks and too poor to actually buy it. In the meantime, I'm playing Friends Booth and thinking of which boy to target next in TDL1. I want to try for Euntae, but I am so sad about Jooyul's outcome that I want to redo his route, and this time with the guide (I tried following my instinct, as with Chayun). Sigh! Maybe I'll just go with Doha for the funsies.
2024.05.16 14:50 AdorableConstelation My first time playing any Souls like game and I decided to play Elden Ring. I wrote a little bit detailing how the first day went.
Wonderful start, I made my character, tested around with controls, I died to boss, fell in hole, entered tutorial, died to spear guy only three times before beating him! Mad proud of that! This is where the true game started, or so I thought. Apparently the fellow I thought was the first "boss" fellow that called me maidenless and took a while to kill was apparently a "friendly" npc. I found out because of how I flexed to my friend about how it only took 17 tries to beat him. My friend told me it was better to restart because of some questline. (once I complete the game I vowed that I will make a new slot and kill every humanoid npc except for Kale, he gives me arrows.)
Anyways so I made a new game, soloed tutorial knight guy first time! Felt proud, I went Samurai class because I've been reading Chinese cultivation novels recently, I named him Seo after Seo Eun-Hyun. After tutorial, I skipped the guy that called me maidenless because he's rude n stuff. I went down and saw some guy on a horse and was like "Woah that guy looks friendly". He ran me over with his horse, didn't appreciate that, he's on my hitlist now.
I then met Kale my beloved, he gives me arrows from the shop, this reminds me I have a bow! I check my bow damage with the critical, NICE, VERY NICE! I was planning my revenge on the man in the yellow armor, then I saw it. Abuseable wildlife!
Being the absolute PVE demon that I am, I spent a few hours killing sheep and birds and stuff. By the end of it I had like 6k runes so I was feeling pretty good! I went back to Kale and bought a lot of arrows and a torch because I wanted to see if I could burn things to death, I forgot about the torch but I had a lot of fun with the arrows, and that's what matters!
By then I had been eyeing the little outpost with knights in very jolly colored armor, red and green. So I attacked the guys, it went great until one of them blew a horn, that didn't go well. I then adapted a more stealth themed approach to this, I crouched, assassinated some people to get some space. I then used my bow to quickly kill the man with the horn before he could blow it. W strategy right? Well apparently not because some guy probably named Igris is an absolute unit of a knight and ruined my good expedition. I vowed to come back and cheese him in the cheesiest way possible in respect.
I went to go retrieve my runes, which had increased a lot because of all my attempts and the fact that I never die before retrieving them. On the way of running away from the knight that I now dub "Blood-Red-Tree-Green Commander Igris"(Igris for short), I found a new grace to touch! I was pretty excited because that meant I could teleport from Kale to here each time I needed more arrows to snipe the blow horn guy. Instead I was met with a surprise.
There was this cool animation and I'm intoduced to this person who's name I can't spell. For the sake of my time because I don't want to search it up and get spoiled about her lore or something, I'll call her Mellon. Anyways Mellon is a very important npc. She gave me a horse, very epic. She said something about leveling up but why spend runes on levels when I can just spend runes on arrows? Is she stupid?
Horse is great, I ran around with horse until I saw a bridge, on that bridge was something that will probably give me nightmares for a while. I dare not speak about what happened that night, the night rider will find me. Honestly I'm too scared of that to even try to shoot arrows at it, it's too scary :(. Creature on bridge chased me for a while, I realized I could attack on my horse, (future plan to beat man in yellow armor?!)
I went back to Kale on horseback because when you have a horse who the heck wants to fast travel. I sat at grace to recover my runes and when I got up.. wow oh wow I met that BLUE woman! Blue woman my beloved. I forgot her name so I'll call her Blueberry for now. Blueberry gave me dogs. Dogs are important, therefore she is important.
By now the urges were getting to me, I wanted to shoot Kale just to see if I could one shot him. The problem was, Kale was my only source of arrows, and he's pretty chill. So I decided now is the time I beat Igris. So I went to the grace, tested around with dogs and realized how perfect of an opportunity this was. So I did it, I killed every npc except for Igris while still having HP leftover, i summoned the dogs and watched as they mauled him to death. When he was low HP I just had to go for the cool Katana finisher, he ran me through with his spear before I could finish him off and I died. I'm going to finish him later.
By then I was getting curious about what was behind that gate, that the people in the fortress were guarding, and wow oh wow was this the discovery of a lifetime! This introduced me to GIANTS! They give SO many runes! They're VERY slow and practically can't fight back if you have torrent. So anyways I brought the giant outside because I'm not fighting him in an enclosed area with soldiers sniping at me like cowards. After leading him outside I sniped him a lot with my bow while my dogs fought for me till the giant died, he shoot some sonic scream things at me but those were easy to avoid. 1k runes per, I grinded this giant a LOT till I had 10k runes. I spent 3k of the runes on arrows because I was going to explore. This, this was where I truly feel I started moving on the right track!
After a while of searching, I went to the bridge where the horror guy at night was. This time it was day so I was certain he wouldn't be as scary, on the way I found some of )what I believed to be) zombies. After killing all but one of them I found out they're just really really starving civilians. Dang... Anyways I put the last one out of his/her misery and moved onto the bridge. On the bridge was some guy on horseback and I was like "HAH, NOT SO SCARY AT DAY ARE YOU!" And proceeded to show how much better at fighting on horseback I was by dying thrice to him before deciding to just snipe him from a distance with my bow.
After finishing him off I expected a better reward but I guess you should only get the good reward if you beat him at night. Moving on I found it. My glorious grinding method that brings me an endless amount of joy. Just beyond the bridge there are giants. Giants give 1k runes per kill. Normally they're a lot of work but these ones, these ones were special. Special because they are chained up and defenseless!
At first I walked up to them to attack them with my sword, then they stomped on me. Sadge. Then I sniped them from right infront of them, the army fellows helped them. This was where I developed my killer strategy, climb a mountain and shoot their heads till they die! Climbing a mountain so they can't stomp on me OR have army fellows attack me! It was truly foolproof! I saw one of the giants charge up some super attack when it got close to dying, shame it never had iframes because I would never let it charge an attack like that smh my head. Anyways first Giant down, one left.
After killing the other giant I decided why not snipe the guys below me, I had plenty of arrows. and so I did. This, this was where my eyes were opened. I was tryna destroy the cart to spite the army guys because they have Igris on their side, this was where I saw the "Open" button or something. Apparently there was a chest in there. I opened it and wallah! A GREATAXE!!! I was a bit hesitant to stop using my katana, but then I realized, in Elden Ring... there is no Severing Mountain Swordsmanship (단악검법/斷岳劍法), Beyond The Path To Heaven (월도입천), Qi Mountain, Heart Heaven (기산심천/氣山心天), Endless Mountains Beyond Mountains (산외산부진/山外山不盡), Foolish Old Man Moves Mountains (우공이산/愚公移山), and definitely not any Record Of Surpassing Cultivation and Martial Arts (越修越武錄). Therefore I gave up on the blade.
OR SO I THOUGHT! Turns out I need STATS to equip it! 30 Strength and 16 dexterity? This is where all my runes came in. Now I had to split my runes into buying arrows AND stats from Mellon. I already had 16 dexterity, so that's nice. 30 strength is a long way away but I was able to quickly get up to 24 strength.
With my newfound stats and new discovery of the bow critical attack, I went to go fight the man in the yellow armor. You can guess how that went... Actually you can't because I killed him first try, Hah. All it took was climbing a small boulder and yellow armor guy was defenseless, sure he teleported away because he was scared sometimes but I just held right for extra accuracy and sniped him from a larger distance and he ran right back. Then when he had 62 Hp remaining I finished him off up close because I needed the screenshot to show to my friend to make it look like I killed him fair and square.
Well who would have guessed it I got his bisento or something. Apparently I need the same stats for it that I need for the axe, except now I need 12 faith. To be honest I'm still on the edge if I wanna use it, the weapon certainly LOOKED big when the boss used it, I haven't seen the greataxe but I'm sure it's big, but as big as the yellow fellow's? Only time will tell.
Nearing the end of my day I went back to the giants to spawn kill them for more runes, I ran out of arrows and decided to go down there and finish them off with my shield. Shield combat is nice, better than Katana since I don't have Severing Mountain Swordsmanship (단악검법/斷岳劍法), with Severing Mountain (단악/斷岳) as a critical. or Severing Vein Saber Technique (단맥도/斷脈刀) with Returning Home (환향/還鄕) or Saber Tomb (도묘/刀墓) as a critical.
After finishing off the giants I ran off because I'm not fighting the soldiers without arrows. I then found some flowers that summoned divine judgement on me. Of course since I'm a video game character I didn't have to reach Beyond the Path, Treading Heaven(超越踏天之路) to overcome the will of the heavens and just pressed c to dodge. Why didn't Seo Eun-Hyun do this? Is he stupid?
I then found a npc that told me about a dragon before finding grace to touch again. Now I rest for tomorrow to fight a dragon.
Wow what a long rant, writing takes more time than I thought. Even more respect to authors like G3 and Cuttlefish who come out with multiple quality chapters a day.
Why would automod think I am asking for technical support? Are they stupid?
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Anyways so I made a new game, soloed tutorial knight guy first time! Felt proud, I went Samurai class because I've been reading Chinese cultivation novels recently, I named him Seo after Seo Eun-Hyun. After tutorial, I skipped the guy that called me maidenless because he's rude n stuff. I went down and saw some guy on a horse and was like "Woah that guy looks friendly". He ran me over with his horse, didn't appreciate that, he's on my hitlist now.
I then met Kale my beloved, he gives me arrows from the shop, this reminds me I have a bow! I check my bow damage with the critical, NICE, VERY NICE! I was planning my revenge on the man in the yellow armor, then I saw it. Abuseable wildlife!
Being the absolute PVE demon that I am, I spent a few hours killing sheep and birds and stuff. By the end of it I had like 6k runes so I was feeling pretty good! I went back to Kale and bought a lot of arrows and a torch because I wanted to see if I could burn things to death, I forgot about the torch but I had a lot of fun with the arrows, and that's what matters!
By then I had been eyeing the little outpost with knights in very jolly colored armor, red and green. So I attacked the guys, it went great until one of them blew a horn, that didn't go well. I then adapted a more stealth themed approach to this, I crouched, assassinated some people to get some space. I then used my bow to quickly kill the man with the horn before he could blow it. W strategy right? Well apparently not because some guy probably named Igris is an absolute unit of a knight and ruined my good expedition. I vowed to come back and cheese him in the cheesiest way possible in respect.
I went to go retrieve my runes, which had increased a lot because of all my attempts and the fact that I never die before retrieving them. On the way of running away from the knight that I now dub "Blood-Red-Tree-Green Commander Igris"(Igris for short), I found a new grace to touch! I was pretty excited because that meant I could teleport from Kale to here each time I needed more arrows to snipe the blow horn guy. Instead I was met with a surprise.
There was this cool animation and I'm intoduced to this person who's name I can't spell. For the sake of my time because I don't want to search it up and get spoiled about her lore or something, I'll call her Mellon. Anyways Mellon is a very important npc. She gave me a horse, very epic. She said something about leveling up but why spend runes on levels when I can just spend runes on arrows? Is she stupid?
Horse is great, I ran around with horse until I saw a bridge, on that bridge was something that will probably give me nightmares for a while. I dare not speak about what happened that night, the night rider will find me. Honestly I'm too scared of that to even try to shoot arrows at it, it's too scary :(. Creature on bridge chased me for a while, I realized I could attack on my horse, (future plan to beat man in yellow armor?!)
I went back to Kale on horseback because when you have a horse who the heck wants to fast travel. I sat at grace to recover my runes and when I got up.. wow oh wow I met that BLUE woman! Blue woman my beloved. I forgot her name so I'll call her Blueberry for now. Blueberry gave me dogs. Dogs are important, therefore she is important.
By now the urges were getting to me, I wanted to shoot Kale just to see if I could one shot him. The problem was, Kale was my only source of arrows, and he's pretty chill. So I decided now is the time I beat Igris. So I went to the grace, tested around with dogs and realized how perfect of an opportunity this was. So I did it, I killed every npc except for Igris while still having HP leftover, i summoned the dogs and watched as they mauled him to death. When he was low HP I just had to go for the cool Katana finisher, he ran me through with his spear before I could finish him off and I died. I'm going to finish him later.
By then I was getting curious about what was behind that gate, that the people in the fortress were guarding, and wow oh wow was this the discovery of a lifetime! This introduced me to GIANTS! They give SO many runes! They're VERY slow and practically can't fight back if you have torrent. So anyways I brought the giant outside because I'm not fighting him in an enclosed area with soldiers sniping at me like cowards. After leading him outside I sniped him a lot with my bow while my dogs fought for me till the giant died, he shoot some sonic scream things at me but those were easy to avoid. 1k runes per, I grinded this giant a LOT till I had 10k runes. I spent 3k of the runes on arrows because I was going to explore. This, this was where I truly feel I started moving on the right track!
After a while of searching, I went to the bridge where the horror guy at night was. This time it was day so I was certain he wouldn't be as scary, on the way I found some of )what I believed to be) zombies. After killing all but one of them I found out they're just really really starving civilians. Dang... Anyways I put the last one out of his/her misery and moved onto the bridge. On the bridge was some guy on horseback and I was like "HAH, NOT SO SCARY AT DAY ARE YOU!" And proceeded to show how much better at fighting on horseback I was by dying thrice to him before deciding to just snipe him from a distance with my bow.
After finishing him off I expected a better reward but I guess you should only get the good reward if you beat him at night. Moving on I found it. My glorious grinding method that brings me an endless amount of joy. Just beyond the bridge there are giants. Giants give 1k runes per kill. Normally they're a lot of work but these ones, these ones were special. Special because they are chained up and defenseless!
At first I walked up to them to attack them with my sword, then they stomped on me. Sadge. Then I sniped them from right infront of them, the army fellows helped them. This was where I developed my killer strategy, climb a mountain and shoot their heads till they die! Climbing a mountain so they can't stomp on me OR have army fellows attack me! It was truly foolproof! I saw one of the giants charge up some super attack when it got close to dying, shame it never had iframes because I would never let it charge an attack like that smh my head. Anyways first Giant down, one left.
After killing the other giant I decided why not snipe the guys below me, I had plenty of arrows. and so I did. This, this was where my eyes were opened. I was tryna destroy the cart to spite the army guys because they have Igris on their side, this was where I saw the "Open" button or something. Apparently there was a chest in there. I opened it and wallah! A GREATAXE!!! I was a bit hesitant to stop using my katana, but then I realized, in Elden Ring... there is no Severing Mountain Swordsmanship (단악검법/斷岳劍法), Beyond The Path To Heaven (월도입천), Qi Mountain, Heart Heaven (기산심천/氣山心天), Endless Mountains Beyond Mountains (산외산부진/山外山不盡), Foolish Old Man Moves Mountains (우공이산/愚公移山), and definitely not any Record Of Surpassing Cultivation and Martial Arts (越修越武錄). Therefore I gave up on the blade.
OR SO I THOUGHT! Turns out I need STATS to equip it! 30 Strength and 16 dexterity? This is where all my runes came in. Now I had to split my runes into buying arrows AND stats from Mellon. I already had 16 dexterity, so that's nice. 30 strength is a long way away but I was able to quickly get up to 24 strength.
With my newfound stats and new discovery of the bow critical attack, I went to go fight the man in the yellow armor. You can guess how that went... Actually you can't because I killed him first try, Hah. All it took was climbing a small boulder and yellow armor guy was defenseless, sure he teleported away because he was scared sometimes but I just held right for extra accuracy and sniped him from a larger distance and he ran right back. Then when he had 62 Hp remaining I finished him off up close because I needed the screenshot to show to my friend to make it look like I killed him fair and square.
Well who would have guessed it I got his bisento or something. Apparently I need the same stats for it that I need for the axe, except now I need 12 faith. To be honest I'm still on the edge if I wanna use it, the weapon certainly LOOKED big when the boss used it, I haven't seen the greataxe but I'm sure it's big, but as big as the yellow fellow's? Only time will tell.
Nearing the end of my day I went back to the giants to spawn kill them for more runes, I ran out of arrows and decided to go down there and finish them off with my shield. Shield combat is nice, better than Katana since I don't have Severing Mountain Swordsmanship (단악검법/斷岳劍法), with Severing Mountain (단악/斷岳) as a critical. or Severing Vein Saber Technique (단맥도/斷脈刀) with Returning Home (환향/還鄕) or Saber Tomb (도묘/刀墓) as a critical.
After finishing off the giants I ran off because I'm not fighting the soldiers without arrows. I then found some flowers that summoned divine judgement on me. Of course since I'm a video game character I didn't have to reach Beyond the Path, Treading Heaven(超越踏天之路) to overcome the will of the heavens and just pressed c to dodge. Why didn't Seo Eun-Hyun do this? Is he stupid?
I then found a npc that told me about a dragon before finding grace to touch again. Now I rest for tomorrow to fight a dragon.
Wow what a long rant, writing takes more time than I thought. Even more respect to authors like G3 and Cuttlefish who come out with multiple quality chapters a day.
Why would automod think I am asking for technical support? Are they stupid?
2024.05.16 14:49 Savings_Ad_2297 39/M I am the droid you’re looking for if you are looking for a new best friend!
Hey all! This is a bit weird for me being almost 40 and looking for friends. But here I am anyways lol. Mainly looking for someone to message throughout the day and get to know. Maybe game with if we have that in common. I do work from home so there’s no one to really talk to during the day.
I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)
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I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)
2024.05.16 14:49 DancingDorritos Interesting Hallucinations after waking up
For context, I’ve been having hallucinations after waking up more and more often, and there’s been nothing scary so far since it’s usually obvious when i know something is not real - eg: the first time there was a human sized spider floating and spinning infeont of me super fast, which I knew wasn’t real of course. Other times have been rotating patterns on the ceiling after waking up that last for a few seconds before phasing out.
However today’s hallucinations (2 times) were quite cool. The environment I was in was in a pitch black cruise ship hotel room alone. And here is my log:
Had some insane hallucinations / sleep paralysis today.
For the first one when I woke up from my nested dream I couldn’t move and was so confused what was going on cause it felt like I could see the environment I was in (cruise hotel room in complete darkness alone) with my eyes closed. Then all of a sudden there was a sudden calmness n coldness and I felt like I was melting into my bed. From that point onwards for a while, it was actually insane cause I could hallucinate anything I wanted. I looked at my bed and there was a pigeon on it, and I’m like what the fuck. N I was like nah this ain’t real so I decided to try to move n touch it to see if it was real. And yo I grabbed that thing 💀💀 like I could feel my fingers indenting into its feathers.
So it was quite hard to decipher if this was real but I knew it wasn’t cause a pigeon in the room?? Then an intrusive thought was like if I’m hallucinating this then lemme try hallucinating something else. I chose a chicken and when I looked back, there was an entire chicken there 💀 I also did hallucinate a bunch of other things before I could finally properly move and then everything was gone.
I then went to the toilet to shit myself literally (I had stomach upset) n headed back to bed. I fell asleep relatively fast and had normal dreams and “woke up” to my normal bedroom late at night at home, which felt insanely real. I had my monitor in front of me in bed and I opened chrome, which accidentally played some Disney plus ad, and I heard my mom from the other room yelling at me for playing things out loud late, and I could hear her walking towards my room so I tried to put my monitor to sleep, and just waited for her to walk in, where I would pretend to be asleep, as one does. She opened the door, and it was at this point where I actually opened my eyes in real life unable to physically move and my mom was actually there 💀 and I didn’t even know whether I was hallucinating her because she looked VERY real.
Then she started to walk towards me and I’m like what the fuck. This entire time im not even scared because i was geneuinely trying to figure out whether she was actually real or whether I was hallucinating her. She then stopped infeont of the bed, and then she turned into a man with a fanny pack leaning against something looking at me. I was still confused as hell and tried to move a bit to get a better look at him (keep in mind this was in almost complete darkness) and I was just making eye contact with him for a few seconds before he phased out and the hallucinations stopped.
Overall I’d say this was a cool experience, nothing scary as the things I was hallucinating wasn’t too bad. But it was quite interesting that I was able to feel the pigeon, any thoughts on that?
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However today’s hallucinations (2 times) were quite cool. The environment I was in was in a pitch black cruise ship hotel room alone. And here is my log:
Had some insane hallucinations / sleep paralysis today.
For the first one when I woke up from my nested dream I couldn’t move and was so confused what was going on cause it felt like I could see the environment I was in (cruise hotel room in complete darkness alone) with my eyes closed. Then all of a sudden there was a sudden calmness n coldness and I felt like I was melting into my bed. From that point onwards for a while, it was actually insane cause I could hallucinate anything I wanted. I looked at my bed and there was a pigeon on it, and I’m like what the fuck. N I was like nah this ain’t real so I decided to try to move n touch it to see if it was real. And yo I grabbed that thing 💀💀 like I could feel my fingers indenting into its feathers.
So it was quite hard to decipher if this was real but I knew it wasn’t cause a pigeon in the room?? Then an intrusive thought was like if I’m hallucinating this then lemme try hallucinating something else. I chose a chicken and when I looked back, there was an entire chicken there 💀 I also did hallucinate a bunch of other things before I could finally properly move and then everything was gone.
I then went to the toilet to shit myself literally (I had stomach upset) n headed back to bed. I fell asleep relatively fast and had normal dreams and “woke up” to my normal bedroom late at night at home, which felt insanely real. I had my monitor in front of me in bed and I opened chrome, which accidentally played some Disney plus ad, and I heard my mom from the other room yelling at me for playing things out loud late, and I could hear her walking towards my room so I tried to put my monitor to sleep, and just waited for her to walk in, where I would pretend to be asleep, as one does. She opened the door, and it was at this point where I actually opened my eyes in real life unable to physically move and my mom was actually there 💀 and I didn’t even know whether I was hallucinating her because she looked VERY real.
Then she started to walk towards me and I’m like what the fuck. This entire time im not even scared because i was geneuinely trying to figure out whether she was actually real or whether I was hallucinating her. She then stopped infeont of the bed, and then she turned into a man with a fanny pack leaning against something looking at me. I was still confused as hell and tried to move a bit to get a better look at him (keep in mind this was in almost complete darkness) and I was just making eye contact with him for a few seconds before he phased out and the hallucinations stopped.
Overall I’d say this was a cool experience, nothing scary as the things I was hallucinating wasn’t too bad. But it was quite interesting that I was able to feel the pigeon, any thoughts on that?
2024.05.16 14:49 eaglescout1984 Anyone know about Deuteronomy Press/Yeorvelah/Farfields Farm/erkels hunting?
TL:DR Found an odd business in Albemarle County and trying to learn more about it.
What's up with that tile? Well, it's the rabbit hole I just went down. Recently, I've been hearing some large explosions, the kind that may be an extremely powerful target practice explosive. So, looking around at places that they may have originated from, I found a Google Maps business listing for "erkels hunting". I'm not saying that's definitely where it's coming from, but target practice and hunting do tend to go together.
So, if you view the information, there is almost nothing on Google Maps. No category, no website, no phone number, just a vague address: I-64 (although its not accessible from the interstate), Greenwood, VA 22943. You can't even suggest an edit, which leads me to believe someone has "claimed" this business to purposely keep the information limited. Where do you go from there? GIS search of course. The land is owned by "Yeorvelah LLC". Pulling that thread, leads you to a business that is known by two public names: Deuteronomy Press and Farfields Farm.
Farfields Farm seems to be the most open thing about this company. They have a Facebook page, and a Google Maps listing with a little more info (still no phone number or website, beyond a storefront website). They sell various herbal remedies.
Then, there's Deuteronomy Press. They have a website and a Facebook page, but absolutely no information at all besides their business, which is publishing religious and spiritual inspired books. The only way to contact is through a website form.
I know, I sound like an unhinged conspiracy theorist, like Charlie connecting dots on his board. But, I'm just curious about the people who own land in my immediate vicinity and what they might be doing that affects my quality of life. TIA if you might know anything about this!
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What's up with that tile? Well, it's the rabbit hole I just went down. Recently, I've been hearing some large explosions, the kind that may be an extremely powerful target practice explosive. So, looking around at places that they may have originated from, I found a Google Maps business listing for "erkels hunting". I'm not saying that's definitely where it's coming from, but target practice and hunting do tend to go together.
So, if you view the information, there is almost nothing on Google Maps. No category, no website, no phone number, just a vague address: I-64 (although its not accessible from the interstate), Greenwood, VA 22943. You can't even suggest an edit, which leads me to believe someone has "claimed" this business to purposely keep the information limited. Where do you go from there? GIS search of course. The land is owned by "Yeorvelah LLC". Pulling that thread, leads you to a business that is known by two public names: Deuteronomy Press and Farfields Farm.
Farfields Farm seems to be the most open thing about this company. They have a Facebook page, and a Google Maps listing with a little more info (still no phone number or website, beyond a storefront website). They sell various herbal remedies.
Then, there's Deuteronomy Press. They have a website and a Facebook page, but absolutely no information at all besides their business, which is publishing religious and spiritual inspired books. The only way to contact is through a website form.
I know, I sound like an unhinged conspiracy theorist, like Charlie connecting dots on his board. But, I'm just curious about the people who own land in my immediate vicinity and what they might be doing that affects my quality of life. TIA if you might know anything about this!
2024.05.16 14:49 Renikee Rant about Freezeria HD
Okay, I downloaded Freezeria HD on phone, because I really hated the To Go! version (I also have all modern To Go! games and Cupcakeria HD). It has a smaller UI of course, but still playable, and better than the To Go! one. Though, I still have problems with this game...
First and foremost, the customers come way too quickly! I have just finished the first order to give out, but then there comes the 4th customer to ask for something, sometimes I even get two at once basically, or one seconds after taking an order, or after I have just put the shake to blend. The problem is not that they will have a low waiting score, I can deal with that, but omg, they come way too fast, like it's a McDonalds! This game is basically a speedrun, you almost have the whole day of customers when you just finish the first shake.
Also, the button to speed up blending is awful, it gives a bit of challenge, but it's rather just annoying. It barely speeds up the blending, as you can just hold it for seconds, and it takes ages to go back to null. Oh, and it only blends a bit faster while you are holding it. But what if you hold for too long? You break the machine, and have to wait a minute or two until it cools down and can be used again. This speeder is basically useless in this game.
These things are way better in modern To Go! games and Cupcakeria HD, and I really hope the other old games' HD versions aren't like this. I just wish Freezeria HD wasn't like this, and I would also love it, like the other games.
TLDR: Customers come way too fast and the blender accelerator is useless.
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First and foremost, the customers come way too quickly! I have just finished the first order to give out, but then there comes the 4th customer to ask for something, sometimes I even get two at once basically, or one seconds after taking an order, or after I have just put the shake to blend. The problem is not that they will have a low waiting score, I can deal with that, but omg, they come way too fast, like it's a McDonalds! This game is basically a speedrun, you almost have the whole day of customers when you just finish the first shake.
Also, the button to speed up blending is awful, it gives a bit of challenge, but it's rather just annoying. It barely speeds up the blending, as you can just hold it for seconds, and it takes ages to go back to null. Oh, and it only blends a bit faster while you are holding it. But what if you hold for too long? You break the machine, and have to wait a minute or two until it cools down and can be used again. This speeder is basically useless in this game.
These things are way better in modern To Go! games and Cupcakeria HD, and I really hope the other old games' HD versions aren't like this. I just wish Freezeria HD wasn't like this, and I would also love it, like the other games.
TLDR: Customers come way too fast and the blender accelerator is useless.
2024.05.16 14:49 Savings_Ad_2297 39/M I am the droid you’re looking for if you’re looking for an awesome new best friend!
Hey all! This is a bit weird for me being almost 40 and looking for friends. But here I am anyways lol. Mainly looking for someone to message throughout the day and get to know. Maybe game with if we have that in common. I do work from home so there’s no one to really talk to during the day.
I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)
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I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy 🤪 lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)
2024.05.16 14:49 ya-boi-benny Respect Zagor, the Warlock of Firetop Mountain (Fighting Fantasy)
Old peasant legends tell of a magnificent treasure at the peak of Firetop Mountain in the realm of Titan. This treasure is sought out by many adventurers, although few make it back out of the mountains in one piece, and none are able to find the two-locked chest containing the prize. The treasure is guarded by an enigmatic warlock who commands terrible beasts to guard the chest’s keys. Some say he's old, some say he's young, some say his cards are his source of power, others say it’s his black gloves. The only thing that the peasants can agree on was his name; Zagor.
The terrible warlock would fight three different adventurers on their quests to claim his treasure. Each time, if the reader makes the right choices and defeats Zagor in combat, he manages to crawl back from the blackness of death using another morbid spell. Upon his third incarnation, he even made the jump from the realm of Titan to a new world called Amarillia. It's here that the sorcerer would finally meet his end, burned to ashes in the mystical Heartfires.
Feats come from three books, The Warlock of Firetop Mountain, Return to Firetop Mountain and Legend of Zagor. Hover over a feat to see what book it’s from. Since they’re Choose Your Own Adventure books, they aren’t distinguished by chapters but rather by paragraph numbers, which are included in the images themselves.
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The terrible warlock would fight three different adventurers on their quests to claim his treasure. Each time, if the reader makes the right choices and defeats Zagor in combat, he manages to crawl back from the blackness of death using another morbid spell. Upon his third incarnation, he even made the jump from the realm of Titan to a new world called Amarillia. It's here that the sorcerer would finally meet his end, burned to ashes in the mystical Heartfires.
Feats come from three books, The Warlock of Firetop Mountain, Return to Firetop Mountain and Legend of Zagor. Hover over a feat to see what book it’s from. Since they’re Choose Your Own Adventure books, they aren’t distinguished by chapters but rather by paragraph numbers, which are included in the images themselves.
General
Human Form- He has a Skill stat of 11 and a Stamina stat of 18. This makes Zagor more skilled than a Vampire, who can catch the player’s sword, and tougher than a Giant.
- After resurrecting into a patchwork body, he maintains his stats of 11 in Skill and 18 in Stamina
- If the second adventurer kills him a second time, they return to identify the corpse a few days later. Zagor’s body is completely dead, but he’s grinning and his skeletal left hand is missing, something the adventurer worries will lead to a third encounter down the line.
- In another realm called Amarillia, a war with a Bone Demon ended when the Casket of Souls was created, which allowed the humans to banish the demon to another plane. However, Zagor’s pernicious spirit felt this event in the realm of Titan and used the Casket to manifest himself in Amarillia. By crossing into the parallel world, he bonded with the trapped Bone Demon, and Zagor’s third physical form is a demonic/human hybrid. This incarnation grows stronger as Zagor spends time in the demon’s lair, Castle Argent, and can only be killed for good by the Heartfires below the castle.
- Zagor’s Demon form is four meters tall and visibly strong. He fights using a rune-covered staff.
- As his Demon-Thing form, his stats go up to 16 in Skill and 20 in Stamina. He uses a variety of attacks in combat, like a Thunderbolt spell, a Fireball spell, a Life Drain spell that lowers an adventurer’s Skill and Stamina stat, a Poisoned Dagger, and melee attacks with his Taloned Fists. If the Zagor Demon reaches critical health without dying, it will become Frenzied and thrash around violently.
- After beating the Zagor Demon, the adventurer must throw his body into the magic Heartfires to completely destroy him. If he’s not thrown into these flames, he will revive himself and slay the adventurer with his claws.
Magic Abilities
Immunities- He cannot be harmed by non-magical means. Attacks like arrows do no damage to Zagor.
- Zagor is immune to the magic paralysis spell used by a genie
- He can see through the effects of invisibility-granting garments
- If an adventurer attempts to use offensive magic against the Zagor Demon, his reaction depends on if he has a higher Attack Strength than the opponent. If his stat is higher, his Magic Screen spell cancels the offensive spell and damages the adventurer.
- He’s immune to instant Death Spells
- A master thief’s flowing cloak allows the wearer to confuse enemies, lowering the hit rate of their attacks. However, Zagor sees through this technique and is unaffected by the distracting garment.
- If an adventurer uses a handheld catapult on Zagor, and Zagor has a higher Attack Strength stat, the projectile misses and the adventurer is injured
- He’s capable of teleporting around the room as well as levitating
- If the player shoots an arrow at Zagor, he lifts a hand and halts in mid-flight, centimeters away from his chest
- Shoots a plume of blue flames from his hand
- Magically slows the adventurer as they climb up some stairs. As this happens, Zagor magically summons a mid-level, poisonous monster to duel the adventurer. Damage done by this creature is transferred to Zagor himself. This spell can be neutralized by an adventurer’s protective spell.
- He can form invisible barriers, useful for creating obstacles to knock flying adventurers from the air
- While he initially appears as a withered, ancient man, he quickly assumes a younger form in opulent clothing when preparing to fight the player
- Right before his defeat in the fist book, Zagor cast a dark spell on himself called Raise Dead, preventing his spirit from fully dying
- Coming back from the dead was not a perfect process, and most of Zagor’s body is decomposing. He must have his minions claim body parts from living victims in order to replace his failing body, piece by piece.
- He uses a curse to raise deceased residents of Firetop Mountain as his Undead servants
- He’s cursed the land around Firetop Mountain. The once red rocks have turned black, and livestock who graze around the mountain die sickening deaths shortly afterwards.
- He has a hypnotic gaze and his voice seems to come from the walls of the cave rather than his mouth
- If the player finds and uses an Invisibility Potion, Zagor can still sense their presence and track them through scent
- Zagor personally rigs a trap with a spell called Demon’s Breath. If the adventurer stands too close to a wall, a puff of gas is released that continually poisons them until they eat orc fleas.
- Zagor can draw his monsters from other planes of existence. This is how, upon his jump from Titan to Amarillia, Castle Argent is already full of his minions.
- When an adventurer opens a casket, Zagor casts a spell that further decomposes and animates the corpse within to attack the adventurer. This spell is performed over a great distance.
- He can sense when his name is uttered in Castle Argent and dispatch monsters to that location
Magic Artifacts
Zagor's Portrait- The adventurer can come across Zagor’s painting in Firetop Mountain, a frightening portrait that lowers their Skill stat through intimidation
- If the adventurer draws their sword against the artwork, the blade is telekinetically grabbed and dropped on them, wounding their face
- If the adventurer draws a wooden stake against the artwork, their wrist is suddenly wracked with pain and they drop the weapon. They also lose one more Skill point before fleeing.
- If the adventurer throws cheese at the painting, Zagor laughs at them
- If the adventurer produces the jewel found in the Iron Cyclops, the painting is defeated and the adventurer receives two Skill points
- A different painting found in Castle Argent uses a telepathic attack to frighten an adventurer and lower their Luck stat
- As a tradeoff of using the Raise Dead spell on himself, the powers that be placed brought Elementals to his lair in Firetop Mountain. These supernatural beings are the only thing that can truly harm Zagor and must be summoned by using a dragon’s tooth along with an awakening word. However, Zagor can also subjugate these forces under his rule after he gathers his own summoning artifacts.
- If at any point, the adventurer fails to produce the right dragon tooth during the duel with Zagor, then Zagor’s Elemental will pick them up and throw them at a wall, rendering them unconscious. If they fail to say the right magic word, they also be magically rendered unconscious by a telekinetic backlash.
- Upon encountering the adventurer, he first summons his Demonic Air Elemental with a yellow crystal and magic chants
- If his Air Elemental is defeated by the adventurer’s Earth Elemental, Zagor summons a Water Elemental
- If the Water Elemental is defeated by the adventurer’s Air Elemental, Zagor summons an Earth Elemental
- If the Earth Elemental is defeated by the adventurer’s Fire Elemental, Zagor will summon an identical Fire Elemental
- If the Fire Elemental is defeated by the adventurer’s Water Elemental, Zagor will finally get out of his throne and fight personally
- Zagor has complete knowledge of the secrets of Firetop Mountain and controls all of the beasts within. This information has been collected in his spellbook.
- A silver earring is found on a Cave Troll. If the adventurer puts it on, it turns into a living earwig that attempts to enter the person’s ear and attack their brain. This Brainbiter is described as one of Zagor’s enchanted assassins.
- A silver necklace is found on a Goblin. Upon contact with human skin, it turns into a feral rat with poisonous bites. The charm is said to have been created by Zagor.
- Magic cards from his magic set offer a variety of positive and negative effects for those who manage to collect, on, including: one that turns into a magically terrifying face, one that lowers the holder’s Skill and Luck stats, a blank card, one that confers Stamina and Luck into the holder and one that can turn into a silver dagger that can weaken Zagor himself
Weaknesses
2024.05.16 14:49 ya-boi-benny Respect Dmitri Smerdyakov, the Chameleon (Marvel, 616)
The famous baseballer, Jackie Robinson, he once said: “A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives.” I could not agree more. That is why I try to make as much impact on my faces’ lives as possible. After all, they have done so much for me. It is the least I can do. Unlike them, I need not fear what people think of me. So I can be brave where they are weak. For I will just be someone else tomorrow.
He'd move to America and use his talents to pull off high-scale burglary, working for any group that could afford his fee, including the Communist party, Hydra or the Green Goblin. His elicit activity brought him into conflict with the Hulk, Iron Man and most often Spider-Man, all of whom had to act with great caution when the Chameleon was in town. After all, which one of them could tell if that unassuming civilian or their own ally was preparing to stab them in the back?
Dmitri has some mental hangups over his time with the Kravinoffs. He’s managed to repress the memories and considered himself good friends with his half-brother Kraven. In reality, he was more like a whipping boy and slave to the Hunter, and when he has to wrestle with those feelings, he can mentally revert to that scared little boy with no strong sense of identity or independence. But when he’s able to move past these feelings, the Chameleon has proved himself as a powerful, manipulative force, finding his place as temporary Crime Master of New York and member of the Sinister Six.
Notes
During one of Dmitri’s mental breaks, he began to believe that he was his deceased half-brother, Kraven the Hunter. So exact was the Chameleon’s performance that he moved and fought with the hunter’s skill and agility. This was an extreme fringe case and there are no other examples of a disguise altering Chameleon's capabilities like this. Physical and skill-related feats from this period will be marked with [KH].
Hover over a feat to see which issue it's from.
Physicals
General- He’s taken some of Kraven’s potions, which extends his natural lifespan and protects from disease
- Kraven later notes that he only allowed the Chameleon to drink some of his potions, enhancing his strength, although not nearly as much as the Hunter himself
Unarmed Striking
- Downs a cop with a punch to the back of the head
- Boxes Alexei Kravinoff’s ears, flooring the bigger man
- Tackles and restrains Bruce Banner
- While posing as Tigra, he breaks Mysterio’s helmet with a kick
- Knocks Finesse out with two punches to the back of the head
- [KH] Kicks Alexei in the chin mid-leap
- Hurts Spidey with a kick to the face
- Hospitalized the Shocker
- Floors a man with a suitcase
- Clubs Captain America with a fire extinguisher, flooring him for several seconds
- [KH] Smashes through a ceiling and dives at Alexei
- [KH] Impales a man with a spear, then rams him into a wall hard enough to crack it
- Beats a man unconscious with a pistol
Other
- While carrying Betty Ross over his shoulder with one hand, the Chameleon uses the other to smack Major Glenn Talbot
- [KH] Holds a wolf away from him
- Carries and fires this absurdly large gun
Scaling with Spider-Man
- Gets up after a glancing blow from Spider-Man
- Takes a backhand from Spider-Man
- Stays barely conscious after Spider-Man punches him into what looks like a concrete wall hard enough to break it
- Takes two punches from an angry Spider-Man
- While emulating Spider-Man and clinging to a wall with suction cups, he takes a punch from the real Spider-Man but stays clinging and makes an escape
- Spider-Man throws Chameleon head-first into a wall, then smacks him three times, breaking his mask. Despite this, the Chameleon stays conscious and manages to run off.
- Gets kicked in the head by Spider-Man (dressed as Deadpool) but quickly recovers and puts Spidey in a headlock
- Takes a sucker punch from Spider-Man in the Spider-Armor MK III
- [Limit] One casual punch from the Superior Spider-Man knocks Dmitri out
- Gets tackled by the Hulk, who was shrunk down to a few inches at the time
- Takes three heavy blows from Daredevil before falling into unconsciousness
- Takes a backhand punch from Kraven
- He gets up after Captain America throws his shield into his back
- Stays conscious after Deadpool punches him out a window
- Takes a punch from Spidey and an elbow from Deadpool
- Gets punched by Whirlwind
- Gets beat on by Teresa Parker
- Spider-Man punches Vulture, sending the villain flying into Chameleon
- Gets thrown many feet into the air, then falls back-first onto stone
- He jumps off the Brooklyn Bridge and lands in the water below
- [KH, Limit] He’s KO’ed by a woman with a wooden chair
- While disguised as Spider-Man, he gets grabbed and swung around a room by tentacles, at one point getting his head slammed through a concrete wall with no ill effects
- He’s not noticeably harmed after a cop shoots him in the shoulder
- Stays standing after being shot in the thigh
- Twenty minutes after being shot in the shoulder, he’s not noticeably harmed
- Crashes his car into the Hulk
- Crawls from a crashed HYDRA aircraft
- Unharmed after crashing his truck into a wall
- While piloting a giant Galactus robot, a helicarrier crashes into the robot’s head and the Chameleon’s control room. He survives the crash relatively unharmed.
- He survives after being poisoned and being left in a burning bar by the Punisher
- When Captain America breaks one of Chameleon’s stun guns, the resulting blast melts his rubber face mask, burning him
- He eats a full plate of ambien-laced cookies baked by Aunt May
- Spider-Man webs up a big gun that the Chameleon was using, causing it to blow up in his face. Dmitri gets up right after.
- Dodges some charges from Hammerhead, first with a sidestep, then by flipping over the mobster
- [KH] Dodges a tackle attempt from Alexei Kravinoff
- He lands hits on Spider-Man pretty easily once the hero loses his spider-sense
Skill
ImpersonationGeneral
- When posing as someone, the Chameleon copies their gait and posture
- When emulating J. Jonah Jameson, not only does the Chameleon copy his personality, mannerisms and body language, but he copies Jonah’s writing style so he can turn in editorials at the Daily Bugle
- [Limit] In 2009, he took the form of Barack Obama and attempted to get sworn in as the POTUS. However, Spider-Man asked the fake and the real Obama a question that only the real Obama would know the answer to, outing the Chameleon as an imposter.
- Mimics Tigra perfectly, replicating her movements, voice and microexpressions
- When posing as a zombie Ezekiel Sims, Chameleon does something to make himself smell like a long-dead corpse
- Skilled in vocal emulation
- He perfectly emulates voices over the course of minutes after listening to audio recordings or the voices of his hostages
- While posing as the Paris police director, he fools a voice recognition system designed by Henry Pym, allowing him access into an Avengers headquarters
- Can emulate mechanized voices, like Doc Ock’s from when he was a cyborg
- Betty Ross sees through Dmitri’s Bruce Banner disguise thanks to her female intuition
- Daredevil sees through the Chameleon’s disguises because he can hear Dmitri’s distinct heartbeat
- Spider-Man’s Spider-Armor MK III has a Daredevil-inspired feature built in to the helmet that allows Peter to track Chameleon’s specific heartbeat. This allows him to see through the villain’s disguises.
- [KH] Fights evenly with Alexei Kravinoff before restraining him with a rope
- Off-panel, he killed a SHIELD agent and a doctor with a pen
- Shanks Superior Spider-Man in the neck with a pen
- While disguised as Spider-Man, he brawls hand-to-hand with Deadpool
- [Limit] Lost a fight to Mary Jane Watson with a baseball bat
- [KH] Slashes two mens’ throats with a single swipe of a spoon
- [KH] Performs a handstand on a tree stump
- Using Klawe’s sound cannon, he blasts MODOK’s psionic blaster, disabling the head’s main weapon
- Leaps from a second story and lands on an awning to break his fall
- Jumps from the back of an aircraft onto the hood of a pursuing flying car
- Nick Fury boots Dmitri off of a flying car, but the villain manages to grab a ladder on a nearby aircraft
- Cracks a locked vault door, possibly using a stethoscope
- Pilots a giant LMD modeled to look like Galactus
- (Poorly) pilots the Iron Man Model 4 before being dropped by an alternate-universe Ghost Rider
Disguises
Realistic Masks- Originally, the Chameleon employed realistic masks and hairpieces to disguise himself as individuals. He kept these pieces in a multi-pocketed vest, allowing him to alter his appearance on the fly
- After getting one quick glance at Thunderbolt Ross, the Chameleon is able to make a perfect mask of the general’s face in a matter of minutes
- When the Hulk is tearing the Chameleon’s car apart, he quickly changes into the guise of Rick Jones to calm the Hulk, then manipulate him into breaking a friend out of prison
- At one point, he used a gun that squirts fast-drying fluid, which kills victims via suffocation and leaves the Chameleon with a perfect mask of their face
- He once wore four masks layered on top of his plain, white one
- He gets a procedure done to his body that makes his flesh completely malleable, changing in response to electrical stimuli. He also had a specially designed costume that reacted the same way to stimuli. The final piece was a control system built into a belt that could memorize and store any face that the Chameleon encountered. All of these pieces allowed the Chameleon to completely copy someone’s appearance and replicate it through thought alone.
- This exact method of changing his face depends on the comic's art style
- After looking at a photograph of a man, the Chameleon completely embodies him in moments
- When begging for his life, he rapidly switches between a dozen different faces
- When he’s knocked unconscious, his face relaxes and goes back to how it normally looks
- Once made a game out of pretending to be a civilian in need, then attacking Spider-Man when the hero helps him
- [Limit] One time, a very serious Spider-Man shocked and frightened the Chameleon so badly that he let his disguise drop
- Uses convincing costumes when posing as superheroes or supervillains
- Disguises himself as a Statue of Liberty street performer
- Some kind of hidden device emits mist, allowing the Chameleon to change masks and outfits
- Carries a canister of chemical gas that instantly changes the color of his clothing
- Later on, he wears a suit that allows him to instantly change his facial appearance and clothing
- A high-tech costume can resemble any article of clothing that the Chameleon can think of
- When appearing as someone much bigger than he is, like the Kingpin, the Chameleon uses an inflatable suit
- Poses as a hostage, then uses a hologram projector to make it look like Doc Ock is holding him off a roof
- When working for the Superior Spider-Man’s team of “reformed” villains, the Superior Six, Chameleon used hologram tech to aid in his disguises. This let him appear as Loki, with his massive horns and Asgardian outfit being formed with the tech. It otherwise works more or less like his powers did.
- Most recently, the Chameleon requires the use of a serum to be able to change his features at will
Weapons
Non-LethalGuns
- Uses a dart gun that instantly knocks a man out with a shot to the shoulder
- Uses a chemical gas gun to instantly knock out Captain America, keeping him out for a few minutes
- A dart gun that leaves victims unconscious and foaming from the mouth
- A stun gun
- A syringe full of sedative chemicals that KOs Spider-Man and makes Deadpool woozy for a minute until he heals
- A syringe hidden in a prop torch puts Spider-Man to sleep immediately
- He injects Spider-Man with a poisonous chemical. It brings on extreme nausea and vertigo, then later knocks Spider-Man out for two days straight.
- Snuck into Captain Stacy’s room and administered a few drops of sedatives to Stacy’s decanter. This kept him unconscious all day, allowing the Chameleon to assume his identity and steal priceless pieces of art.
- An aerosol can of sedatives
- One time, he coated his clothing in an odorless sedative chemical. When Spider-Man grabs him by his jacket, the hero falls unconscious in a matter of seconds.
- Gas grenades
- He uses some kind of electric weapon on a shallow body of water, shocking Spider-Man, Husk and Deadpool into unconsciousness
Guns
- Normal guns like rifles, a shotgun and a handgun
- A silenced handgun
- A revolver
- A double-barreled shotgun
- He wields a one-handed launcher that carries a variety of capsules, including cyanide gas canisters and concussive explosives
- An absurdly large, Liefeld-esque gun that blows up a computer station
- A energy-based handgun with explosive firepower, used to blast a large hole through Deadpool’s torso and later turn a concrete wall into rubble
- A poison ring that would’ve injected JJJ with a lethal dose during a handshake
- [KH] Shoots Spider-Man with a poison dart that would’ve killed him in ten minutes if he didn’t take the antidote
- Usually carries a dagger or other kind of blade
- A grenade
- A small, box-shaped time bomb
- He once used a Man-Thing parasite to protect himself from gunfire and form combat applicable branch-like tentacles
Other Equipment
Field Gear- Smoke pellets
- When posing as Spider-Man, he used a web-gun to emulate the hero’s web-shooters, although the webbing wasn’t as strong as Spider-Man’s
- While posing as Spider-Man, the Chameleon utilizes suction cup-covered gloves and a web gun to replicate Spidey’s wall-crawling and web-slinging
- A tracking device
- Nose filters protect him from a cloud of cyanide gas
- A jetpack with enough fuel to fly for nearly a full hour
- Typically restrains victims with rope and gags
- Uses a modified radio to send a message across New York that only Spider-Man could hear
- Uses a machine to swap memories with Captain America
- One lair boasts a chair that can be lowered into a pit of acid, used to destroy bodies
- Rigs his lairs to explode if they’re compromised
- He detonates explosives in one of his hideouts that releases napalm-like flames
- He’s helped to design Life Model Decoys that look exactly like Richard and Mary Parker with the goal of investigating Peter Parker and finding out about Spider-Man’s identity. While the false Mary developed a conscience and defied her programming, the false Richard was outfitted with a combat form.
- He holds a gun to the head of a simulacra of Mary Jane. When Spidey determines it’s a fake instead of his real wife, it poofs into smoke.
- Robots that drive his escape vehicles
Miscellaneous
- After coming across a cave full of assorted scrap mechanics, Chameleon builds a missile from the pieces. He later says he “found” the missile, so who knows. At any rate, the missile is strong enough to KO the Hulk when they collide.
- One time, he inexplicably escaped from Spider-Man’s grasp and disappeared from the room
- He kidnaps Spider-Man and imprisons him in Ravencroft Asylum. He then unmasks the hero, puts a realistic mask and straightjacket on him and attempts to gaslight Peter, through the use of psychoactive drugs and fabricated evidence, into believing he’s another man named Herbert Smith. This ruse does convince Peter for a good while until he later remembers his life with Mary Jane.
- He implies that he might be able to disguise his psyche from the telepathic X-Men member, No-Girl, although the claim is not actually proven
- Off-panel, he killed a man, cut off his face and used it for a temporary mask
Monica Rappaccini: I apologize for the delay in initial payment, but we first had to verify your identity. A.I.M.’s intel had been that the Chameleon was dead- or in an insane asylum.
**Chameleon: Yes, well. That would be exactly what I wanted you to think. Faded into the background, imperceptible… that’s where a Chameleon is most comfortable… and where I shall now return
2024.05.16 14:48 Witty-Location-5368 Husband texted coworker
My husband and I are married for 4 years now. I am 29, he is 28 and we have a son who is now 15 months old. When he was born it was all ok until husband started having some problems at work and when he would come home we didn’t interact so much. He would be frustrated and angry, i didn’t have help around house and the baby was a bit difficult, screaming so much every day, didn’t want to sleep in his crib for some time, only when i was holding him. So my husband and i didn’t have much time together so that became frustrating also. Meanwhile he changed the job and that’s when the biggest problem happened. First of all after the job interview he just called me to say he accepted the job without coming home and talking about stuff like that like we always did with each other. So he started dating and i noticed he started acting differently. There was this one female colleague that he would mention a lot, look at schedule to see when they are together on the shift and so he started texting her, i saw different behavior, hiding phone when i was around, excitedly jumping to answer the texts and i got very suspicious, this was going on for 2 weeks. So one day when baby was asleep i confronted him and he confessed everything and showed me all the messages and i had a lot to read. He was texting saying they could go walk her dog before or after shift together, the could go to a movie and stuff like that, there were some intimate things too. All in all not the thing you want to text someone outside of your marriage. He says he did it because he missed me because our marriage got a bit cold because of the baby, which was true, it’s our first baby and it’s been really difficult. The type of texts were just like he texted me at the beginning of our relationship. So he said he will stop with that and he did, after that we were ok for 2 weeks but then something else happened. He went to work a bit too early and i had i strong gut feeling that something is happening that shouldn’t be. So i did something i feel very bad for, i did it for the first time ever in my life and i feel like a piece of shit but it was so much stronger than me. We are connected onto the find my app so i saw he went to her home to pick her up before work which was completely unnecessary because she literally lives 3 minutes of walking distance from their job so i texted him about it, he lied to me when he came home he said signal was bad. He drove her home after work and the next day too. The next day he confessed again that he lied about driving her. He promised he wouldn’t do that again but guess what he did it few days later again. He said he couldn’t say no because he was asking and she very well what kind of problem she was for us and she was asking again even though he told her he wouldn’t do that anymore. So anyway we went to therapy in November 2023, and all this happened in august/September 2023. Due to stress i lost so much weight i was almost anorexic, i couldn’t function normally, i was barely able to hold it together to take care of our baby. There was never anything physical with them but i can’t help to think would happen if i didn’t find out. I told him this was emotional affair and that he cheated on me, he doesn’t think the same. He was and still is sorry about everything, and there a lot more of little details and things that happened but this is already so much to write.
He promised he wouldn’t drive her anymore, he says they are just friends, it’s really good to work with her because she is responsible, they still talk to each other every day but i am so much bothered by that still almost a year after. There has been so much fighting, crying, feeling so bad mentally and physically and i still feel like that most of the time on the inside but we are good in a sense that our relationship is just like it was before we had a baby. Am i crazy that i despise their friendship and the fact that they still work together? I am so hurt that he doesn’t realize why that friendship is so bad. Everything gave me so much anxiety that sometimes all I would do is cry every day all day. I was even thinking about divorce for a really long time. We talked about it only with marriage counselor, we never said anything to our parents or friends even though they were asking questions because of the weight i lost and they sensed something was off. I still sometimes feel like i have to talk about it but i don’t want to talk about it with him until completely figure out my feelings and thoughts so i can be clear about everything to him and so i can tell my side calmly without causing us to fight because i am so tired of fighting. I was thinking about going to therapy myself to take care of me because i feel so much resentment, i despise so many things, i am frustrated and angry but i don’t show it because our relationship is really good like the way it was but on the inside i am still hurting and i am still not over it. I am so full of anxiety still, sometimes can’t sleep, i sometimes fear he will drive her again after he promised he wouldn’t do that anymore. I noticed i now react so much differently when we have a typical marriage argument. It sets me into panick mode, i just cry, i can’t talk, i feel so out of place like i am not myself anymore like i can’t function in situations like that. I have the need to put up a wall between me and him. He tries to calm me down and talk to me about what’s happening but i just can’t make myself to talk because of some fear and so he gets frustrated. He also started saying he would love to have a second child but all of this is a very big reason for me not to have the second one. I can’t put myself emotionally in that place again, our baby was just 6 months old when all of this started happening. Maybe in a few years… I also feel so weird to bring this up to him again after almost a year after everything. We love each other so much, he really is a good husband and dad and he really tries. I know it sounds so awful written like this but i know us and how we are, this happened probably for a reason because some thing did get better with us, with our marriage and our communication but some other thing i wrote i still bothering and make me feel bad and i don’t have anyone to talk to about this. Talking to parents or friends is a no go because there would be taking sides and even more drama and i just can’t take it anymore
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He promised he wouldn’t drive her anymore, he says they are just friends, it’s really good to work with her because she is responsible, they still talk to each other every day but i am so much bothered by that still almost a year after. There has been so much fighting, crying, feeling so bad mentally and physically and i still feel like that most of the time on the inside but we are good in a sense that our relationship is just like it was before we had a baby. Am i crazy that i despise their friendship and the fact that they still work together? I am so hurt that he doesn’t realize why that friendship is so bad. Everything gave me so much anxiety that sometimes all I would do is cry every day all day. I was even thinking about divorce for a really long time. We talked about it only with marriage counselor, we never said anything to our parents or friends even though they were asking questions because of the weight i lost and they sensed something was off. I still sometimes feel like i have to talk about it but i don’t want to talk about it with him until completely figure out my feelings and thoughts so i can be clear about everything to him and so i can tell my side calmly without causing us to fight because i am so tired of fighting. I was thinking about going to therapy myself to take care of me because i feel so much resentment, i despise so many things, i am frustrated and angry but i don’t show it because our relationship is really good like the way it was but on the inside i am still hurting and i am still not over it. I am so full of anxiety still, sometimes can’t sleep, i sometimes fear he will drive her again after he promised he wouldn’t do that anymore. I noticed i now react so much differently when we have a typical marriage argument. It sets me into panick mode, i just cry, i can’t talk, i feel so out of place like i am not myself anymore like i can’t function in situations like that. I have the need to put up a wall between me and him. He tries to calm me down and talk to me about what’s happening but i just can’t make myself to talk because of some fear and so he gets frustrated. He also started saying he would love to have a second child but all of this is a very big reason for me not to have the second one. I can’t put myself emotionally in that place again, our baby was just 6 months old when all of this started happening. Maybe in a few years… I also feel so weird to bring this up to him again after almost a year after everything. We love each other so much, he really is a good husband and dad and he really tries. I know it sounds so awful written like this but i know us and how we are, this happened probably for a reason because some thing did get better with us, with our marriage and our communication but some other thing i wrote i still bothering and make me feel bad and i don’t have anyone to talk to about this. Talking to parents or friends is a no go because there would be taking sides and even more drama and i just can’t take it anymore
2024.05.16 14:48 Ok_Rooster_6454 man of steel review
 | It's a good movie on it's own but it's not a good characterization of superman or a good start to a cinematic universe, starting with the characterization of superman, snyder doesn't seem to understand what makes superman superman, for example making a comparison with other superman media: in superman 78 there is a sequence where superman helps people across metropolis from saving cats struck on trees to stopping a helicopter from crashing, and this was what is missing on mos, superman doesn't help with the small things in mos sure he goes to a save a oil rig but never does he stop to do the smaller things that he can do neither does he inspires someone to do good. Another comparison, in superman & lois at the first appearance of superman when he saves a kid he sees his hat on the ground then he goes picks it up and says "here you go, friend" the kid asnwer "cool costume!" supes asnwers "thanks my mom made it for me!" before flying off, this scene was pure superman (dialogue literally taken off superman for all seasons/lois & clark) this was something common in s&l superman would save someone and have a little interaction with them it makes him very human but this lacked in mos in later movies they would kinda fix this like the first scene of justice league (yeah the mustache scene) shows a good depiction of this side of the character and another similar scene is the end scene of shazam when superman showed up (without his face) those scenes already understood superman a lot more than the whole mos movie (although justice league kinda sucked as a movie) and this becomes even more evident when watching the johnathan kent scenes, he clearly is teaching the wrong lessons to clark the whole thing that he is teaching is that clark maybe shouldn't save people if it indangers his secret identity? I think that would make sense under a different context but it's a school bus full of children drowning there is definetely a comparison to be made with other shows in moments when clark saves someone but put his secret in risk and Jonathan reassures clark that he did the right thing, I understand that mos' johnathan sounds more like a real dad but it's just not a good adaptation of who Johnathan Kent is and it is not consistent with his version of the comics or other adaptations and then there is the hurricane scene...it lacks all sense of subtlety, in other media when Johnathan Kent dies (IF he dies) he dies in a heart attack because, even with all of his powers, is something clark can't stop it's nature and it was his time to go and it is sad but Johnathan dying in the middle of a hurricane when clark could've saved him at any moment is just odd. Okay I wanna wrap this up so I will move on, this is a bad start of a cinematic universe because it simply wasn't structured to be, it was just going to be a elseworlds, a standalone different interpretation of superman even snyder said so but the studio made it into the start of a cinematic universe because of the green lantern fiasco but the movie just really wasn't supposed to be the start of a universe, it's versions of the characters were never created to be part of a "dceu" and that's why they are so different from their normal versions of themselves. Okay this is all, without taking into consideration the mischaracterization of superman and Johnathan kent it is a pretty good sci-fi movie with great action sequences but it's greatest flaw is being a superman movie, a waste of a great casting submitted by Ok_Rooster_6454 to superman [link] [comments] |
2024.05.16 14:48 karl-police Yep, Avast now overrides Microsoft Defender or something
I had this Free Avast thing installed once on a Laptop or something.
Not only does it give funny issues https://i.imgur.com/WirOucZ.png
But this time, they have decided to override Microsoft Defender. I was already wondering where that shield icon went, and noticed that Avast App took it.
Now, if they don't have an option to disable that. Then yep...
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Not only does it give funny issues https://i.imgur.com/WirOucZ.png
But this time, they have decided to override Microsoft Defender. I was already wondering where that shield icon went, and noticed that Avast App took it.
Now, if they don't have an option to disable that. Then yep...
2024.05.16 14:48 Loud-Needleworker-26 I (35m) have been seeking relationship advice from another woman who I now feel understands me more than my wife (41f) ever will, and I told my wife this. Did I just doom my marriage?
I (35M) told my wife(41f) that I have been seeking relationship advice from a female friend who I now feel understands me more than my wife may ever will. Did I just doom our relationship?
My partner (41F) and I (35M) have been together for about 8 years total and got married two years ago. She is a lovely person but has very little life experience. Over the last 6 months or so we have been fighting more and more. I feel like she doesn’t respect my boundaries and expects me to make all the major life decisions for us.
She even recorded one of our arguments without telling me! She said it’s because of the things I would say during our fights and my tone, but that still doesn’t give her the right to record me. She said she deleted it and didn’t share it with anyone but I don’t know if I can believe her. I have no trust in her now.
And it’s been making me depressed. On top of that, she doesn’t have many friends of her own and doesn’t help me try to maintain new friendships I try to create for us. All she seems to care about is her job, cooking (which she isn’t that great at anyway), etc. she doesn’t think about our future or seems to plan for it.
Plus, the “friends “ I thought I had just keep bailing on me and telling me they are too busy to hangout, but then I’ll see them posting things they are doing on social media. So it makes me wonder what is wrong with me? Why don’t these people want to do those things with me? Why can’t my wife listen to what I say I need to make me feel safe in the relationship?
I try to talk to my wife and tell her how depressed I feel but she has no solution or real advice to give. I started reaching out to other people for advice, including this one girl I knew from back in the day
This girl can relate to my trauma in ways my wife can’t because my wife never really had to deal with any trauma growing up. This other girl has her own baggage and has dealt with her own trauma, so I feel like she understands me in ways my wife just can’t. This girl knows my wife from back in the day too and has been wanting to hang out with both of us. But I can’t hang out with her or have her around my wife and I bc I am afraid of what it might lead to…what I Know it will likely lead too…
I told all of this to my wife during a recent argument bc I wanted to be honest. My wife doesn’t seem to understand what her complacency and lack of respect for my boundaries is doing to our relationship. She got a little jealous and upset when it told her this rather really understand that if she was the type of person I needed, I wouldn’t feel this way.
Should I have even said anything? I wouldn’t need to talk to someone else if my wife put more effort into really trying to listen to what I need or to admit she is not capable of being the type of partner I need and ending it
TL;DR I told my wife that I have been venting our problems to another woman who used to be a mutual friend of ours, and that this other woman fulfills me emotionally and intellectually in ways my wife can’t and causing me to question our relationship. My wife won’t leave me. I want to love her but my wife just doesn’t understand my trauma like this other person does… what do I do? Should my wife just leave
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My partner (41F) and I (35M) have been together for about 8 years total and got married two years ago. She is a lovely person but has very little life experience. Over the last 6 months or so we have been fighting more and more. I feel like she doesn’t respect my boundaries and expects me to make all the major life decisions for us.
She even recorded one of our arguments without telling me! She said it’s because of the things I would say during our fights and my tone, but that still doesn’t give her the right to record me. She said she deleted it and didn’t share it with anyone but I don’t know if I can believe her. I have no trust in her now.
And it’s been making me depressed. On top of that, she doesn’t have many friends of her own and doesn’t help me try to maintain new friendships I try to create for us. All she seems to care about is her job, cooking (which she isn’t that great at anyway), etc. she doesn’t think about our future or seems to plan for it.
Plus, the “friends “ I thought I had just keep bailing on me and telling me they are too busy to hangout, but then I’ll see them posting things they are doing on social media. So it makes me wonder what is wrong with me? Why don’t these people want to do those things with me? Why can’t my wife listen to what I say I need to make me feel safe in the relationship?
I try to talk to my wife and tell her how depressed I feel but she has no solution or real advice to give. I started reaching out to other people for advice, including this one girl I knew from back in the day
This girl can relate to my trauma in ways my wife can’t because my wife never really had to deal with any trauma growing up. This other girl has her own baggage and has dealt with her own trauma, so I feel like she understands me in ways my wife just can’t. This girl knows my wife from back in the day too and has been wanting to hang out with both of us. But I can’t hang out with her or have her around my wife and I bc I am afraid of what it might lead to…what I Know it will likely lead too…
I told all of this to my wife during a recent argument bc I wanted to be honest. My wife doesn’t seem to understand what her complacency and lack of respect for my boundaries is doing to our relationship. She got a little jealous and upset when it told her this rather really understand that if she was the type of person I needed, I wouldn’t feel this way.
Should I have even said anything? I wouldn’t need to talk to someone else if my wife put more effort into really trying to listen to what I need or to admit she is not capable of being the type of partner I need and ending it
TL;DR I told my wife that I have been venting our problems to another woman who used to be a mutual friend of ours, and that this other woman fulfills me emotionally and intellectually in ways my wife can’t and causing me to question our relationship. My wife won’t leave me. I want to love her but my wife just doesn’t understand my trauma like this other person does… what do I do? Should my wife just leave
2024.05.16 14:47 _IllaGORILLA_ I'm simply not getting any better at limited and I think I have to wave the white flag.
Not a complaint about bombs or variance, maybe on a bad run or a couple drafts I could claim that. My win percentage is 36.3% for the drafts I've recorded with 17lands (KHM, IKO, STX, OTJ) with a record of 271-475 and 2 trophies. My best set which I didn't record was MKM where I trophied 9 times in BO3. It's an understatement to say I'm poor at draft but I can get to Mythic reliably in constructed playing a few different formats, so I'm not completely awful all around.
I listen to Limited Level-Ups, LR, watch Cheon, Justlolaman, Nummy, etc and try to put the advice into practice. I have also reviewed my draft logs to see if I was blind at the time, could have taken a better line in the draft, or if I would have made the same choices.
One thing I've noticed and I might be off here, it seems like draft decks usually fall in the midrange category and that is by far my worse archetype to play in constructed. Yes, there's are aggro and control decks in every format, although I'm poor at drafting either it seems. It also seems like when I draft what I think is a banger of a deck with some good rares and interaction, I get absolutely smashed like 0-2 in traditional or 0-3/1-3 in premier.
Here are some logs as an example:
0-3 UB OTJ 0-3 BR OTJ 4-3 WR OTJ
If you were in my shoes what would you do? Are there any discords or groups that do drafts on draftmancer and then play one another via direct challenge?
Any constructive advice is very welcomed.
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I listen to Limited Level-Ups, LR, watch Cheon, Justlolaman, Nummy, etc and try to put the advice into practice. I have also reviewed my draft logs to see if I was blind at the time, could have taken a better line in the draft, or if I would have made the same choices.
One thing I've noticed and I might be off here, it seems like draft decks usually fall in the midrange category and that is by far my worse archetype to play in constructed. Yes, there's are aggro and control decks in every format, although I'm poor at drafting either it seems. It also seems like when I draft what I think is a banger of a deck with some good rares and interaction, I get absolutely smashed like 0-2 in traditional or 0-3/1-3 in premier.
Here are some logs as an example:
0-3 UB OTJ 0-3 BR OTJ 4-3 WR OTJ
If you were in my shoes what would you do? Are there any discords or groups that do drafts on draftmancer and then play one another via direct challenge?
Any constructive advice is very welcomed.
2024.05.16 14:46 AcrobaticDuck3536 How do I (F27) tell someone (M26) they really need a better hygiene routine without coming off as “mean”?
I (F27) and my partner (M26) have lived together a few years now and I have noticed several things he just seems to refuse to do. For one he eats his fingernails. I understand biting your nails out of anxiety but is it really normal to eat them? I’ve tried telling him how bacteria and things grow under his nails (he hardly washes his hands unless they’re visibly dirty or he touched something smelly) and he just says I’m being mean. I ask him if he needs nail clippers when I see him gnawing on his fingers and he also calls me mean. I noticed his feet would smell very bad and his socks would be crusty to the point of where they felt like they were starched. (I know they weren’t stiff with something else because I would take them straight from him taking them off to the washer.) I bought him new socks so he had plenty to change every day even multiple times if needed and asked if he had really washed his feet. He told me yes and that when he washes his body the soap goes over his feet and that’s how he cleans them. This is one habit he did change as he scrubs his feet now but still refuses to wear clean socks all the time. The last thing is deodorant. It’s very obvious that sometimes he may forget to put it on. He went to take a shower last night and I told him that deodorant may work best for him to not be stinky if he puts it on directly after he showers. He said I was being mean when I kept asking him if he remembered to put it on. I know I may sound like a nag but I know how cruel people can be and I don’t want him to be known as a crusty stinky man. How can I help?
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2024.05.16 14:46 Timely-Worldliness-3 I’m starting to resent my ex after the fact and I hate it
If you want, you can see my previous very long post about our breakup for more details (this one will also probably be pretty long tbh). These are supposed to be writing exercises for my therapist. Everyone’s comments along with a few therapy sessions made me realize how one sided our relationship was. I’ve been in much longer and more committed relationships than this one, and had much worse breakups all things considered. But I’ve never felt like this. I know that grief isn’t a linear process. It comes in waves. However, I’ve always prided myself on being calm and collected even in the worst of times. I managed to hold it together pretty well when I lost my dad a year and a half ago, and worked through that in a healthy way. Why can’t I do that now? It’s been a month and a half. This should be so much smaller in the grand scheme of things.
I saw her yesterday at the grocery store, we were using self checkouts right next to each other. We ended up basically walking out together. I think she noticed me and just tried to pretend I didn’t exist. I immediately felt sick to my stomach, with this mix of deep sadness and anger. It took everything I had not to fall apart right then and there. I couldn’t eat dinner, and still managed to puke when I got home and then again in the middle of the night after waking up from a dream about us.
A realization that I had after my last post is how little she would compromise on things. A few of you that said that I was a doormat, and you’re right. I somehow let so many things slip that I shouldn’t have. It was her first serious relationship, she wasn’t used to having to compromise much. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She asked so much of me, maybe too much, and I gave to her maybe too freely. But the few times that I asked things of her, she’d almost always say no.
I wanted to watch Home Alone over Christmas. It was a tradition that I shared with my dad, some of my earliest memories are about that. I wanted to continue that tradition and I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone, so I asked her to watch it with me. I explained how important it was. She refused, time after time, every stay at home date we had between Thanksgiving and New Years. She went on rants about how traditions are stupid, and how she hates movies about kids (yet we watched the Harry Potter movies at her request, the first few are made by the same people that made Home Alone). It’s like she didn’t even hear me asking for support when I needed her, she only heard that I was asking her to put up with something she didn’t like for an hour and a half. On the other hand, I never said no to her.
This played out time and time again, in small and big ways. My mom was going to give us the money for our dream vacation to Ireland. All she wanted in return was a nice picture of us in front of something recognizably Irish, a castle or something. She was doing this incredibly nice thing for us, and just asked for that one thing. She just wanted to see me happy, traveling the world with the person I love, after having to give up the last 4 years of my life dealing with my dad’s illness (along with losing all of my grandparents and 2 uncles in the same timeframe) But my ex didn’t like having her picture taken. She would put up with it for friends and family, but if I asked her? Never. We have 3 pictures together, all of which are shitty group photos with her friends. Can’t even tell we were a couple.
Then there’s the big thing that led to our breakup. She wanted me to anticipate her needs without her needing to say them. She hated when I asked how best to help her when she was struggling and overwhelmed, saying that I needed to show initiative. She talked a lot about “mental loads” and such. I tried to support her as much as possible (often doing too much, as many of you said), but sometimes I’d miss the mark. She’d get so frustrated with me, and we’d sit down and talk things out. She’d tell me all of these things she needed from me, and I genuinely put in so much effort trying to work on it.
The only thing that I asked for in return is if I missed the mark, to please guide me to what she needed. I did it all the time for her, she was honestly awful at supporting me. If I was venting, had a bad day, all she’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. Not even a kiss or a hug. I had to show her how I needed support. I never got mad or frustrated, I recognized this was something we had to communicate about and it was my job to open that communication.
So when we’d have those conversations about how she needed support, and she was asking all of these things of me that felt like mind reading, all I asked of her was to do what I did when she missed the mark. Just that one little thing to save our relationship. It was nothing compared to what she was asking from me, and it was for her own benefit. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I begged her time and time again. But instead of listening and guiding me to what she needed, she did the exact opposite. Full silent treatment at the very first text of support from me because she wanted something more/different.
That refusal to compromise ruined everything. I know anger is part of the stages of grief, but I’m just so angry all the time. I know you can’t tell based off of what was said here and in my other post, she is genuinely a great person. She didn’t do any of this maliciously. I don’t believe that she’s evil. But I can’t help but to look at all the work I put in vs all the work that she put in, after being told that I wasn’t doing enough while she was putting more effort into the relationship. I’m sorry, but I don’t see that effort from her. I don’t even know if I’m more angry at her or myself. Should have I been more proactive? Enforced stronger boundaries? Been more clear in what I needed from her? I don’t know. Maybe I am just a doormat. I just know that I hate feeling like this. I don’t want to be that guy that’s angry and bitter about their ex, and I’m terrified that’s exactly what I’m becoming.
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I saw her yesterday at the grocery store, we were using self checkouts right next to each other. We ended up basically walking out together. I think she noticed me and just tried to pretend I didn’t exist. I immediately felt sick to my stomach, with this mix of deep sadness and anger. It took everything I had not to fall apart right then and there. I couldn’t eat dinner, and still managed to puke when I got home and then again in the middle of the night after waking up from a dream about us.
A realization that I had after my last post is how little she would compromise on things. A few of you that said that I was a doormat, and you’re right. I somehow let so many things slip that I shouldn’t have. It was her first serious relationship, she wasn’t used to having to compromise much. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She asked so much of me, maybe too much, and I gave to her maybe too freely. But the few times that I asked things of her, she’d almost always say no.
I wanted to watch Home Alone over Christmas. It was a tradition that I shared with my dad, some of my earliest memories are about that. I wanted to continue that tradition and I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone, so I asked her to watch it with me. I explained how important it was. She refused, time after time, every stay at home date we had between Thanksgiving and New Years. She went on rants about how traditions are stupid, and how she hates movies about kids (yet we watched the Harry Potter movies at her request, the first few are made by the same people that made Home Alone). It’s like she didn’t even hear me asking for support when I needed her, she only heard that I was asking her to put up with something she didn’t like for an hour and a half. On the other hand, I never said no to her.
This played out time and time again, in small and big ways. My mom was going to give us the money for our dream vacation to Ireland. All she wanted in return was a nice picture of us in front of something recognizably Irish, a castle or something. She was doing this incredibly nice thing for us, and just asked for that one thing. She just wanted to see me happy, traveling the world with the person I love, after having to give up the last 4 years of my life dealing with my dad’s illness (along with losing all of my grandparents and 2 uncles in the same timeframe) But my ex didn’t like having her picture taken. She would put up with it for friends and family, but if I asked her? Never. We have 3 pictures together, all of which are shitty group photos with her friends. Can’t even tell we were a couple.
Then there’s the big thing that led to our breakup. She wanted me to anticipate her needs without her needing to say them. She hated when I asked how best to help her when she was struggling and overwhelmed, saying that I needed to show initiative. She talked a lot about “mental loads” and such. I tried to support her as much as possible (often doing too much, as many of you said), but sometimes I’d miss the mark. She’d get so frustrated with me, and we’d sit down and talk things out. She’d tell me all of these things she needed from me, and I genuinely put in so much effort trying to work on it.
The only thing that I asked for in return is if I missed the mark, to please guide me to what she needed. I did it all the time for her, she was honestly awful at supporting me. If I was venting, had a bad day, all she’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. Not even a kiss or a hug. I had to show her how I needed support. I never got mad or frustrated, I recognized this was something we had to communicate about and it was my job to open that communication.
So when we’d have those conversations about how she needed support, and she was asking all of these things of me that felt like mind reading, all I asked of her was to do what I did when she missed the mark. Just that one little thing to save our relationship. It was nothing compared to what she was asking from me, and it was for her own benefit. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I begged her time and time again. But instead of listening and guiding me to what she needed, she did the exact opposite. Full silent treatment at the very first text of support from me because she wanted something more/different.
That refusal to compromise ruined everything. I know anger is part of the stages of grief, but I’m just so angry all the time. I know you can’t tell based off of what was said here and in my other post, she is genuinely a great person. She didn’t do any of this maliciously. I don’t believe that she’s evil. But I can’t help but to look at all the work I put in vs all the work that she put in, after being told that I wasn’t doing enough while she was putting more effort into the relationship. I’m sorry, but I don’t see that effort from her. I don’t even know if I’m more angry at her or myself. Should have I been more proactive? Enforced stronger boundaries? Been more clear in what I needed from her? I don’t know. Maybe I am just a doormat. I just know that I hate feeling like this. I don’t want to be that guy that’s angry and bitter about their ex, and I’m terrified that’s exactly what I’m becoming.
2024.05.16 14:45 ankitam280 Why men get lonely and how to avoid it
Man is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.
Why is loneliness so bad?
In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.
Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it.
Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.
Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.
An active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl.
Look for new hobbies
Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.
Focus on work
A career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.
Meet with friends
Even if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.
Get a pet
When the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.
So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it. Why men get lonely and how to avoid itMan is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.Why is loneliness so bad?In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it. Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.The main reasons for lonelinessSingle men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.High expectationsIf your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?Failed RelationshipsIf a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup. Reluctance to get married and take responsibilityThe world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.Lack of financial well-beingIf you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.Benefits of SolitudeIt’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.How else can you cope with loneliness?Play sportsAn active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl. Look for new hobbies Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.Focus on workA career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.Meet with friendsEven if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.Get a petWhen the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it.
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Why is loneliness so bad?
In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.
Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it.
Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.
Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.
The main reasons for loneliness
Single men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.High expectations
If your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?Failed Relationships
If a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup.Reluctance to get married and take responsibility
The world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.Lack of financial well-being
If you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.Benefits of Solitude
It’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.How else can you cope with loneliness?
Play sportsAn active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl.
Look for new hobbies
Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.
Focus on work
A career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.
Meet with friends
Even if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.
Get a pet
When the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.
So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it. Why men get lonely and how to avoid itMan is a social creature and it is usually uncomfortable for him to live alone. There are many reasons for loneliness, including unsuccessful experiences in relationships, prolonged searches for the ideal soul mate, and lack of self-confidence. It is possible to overcome this condition and it is not so difficult to do. We’ll tell you how.Why is loneliness so bad?In fact, the answer is not as obvious as you might think. In addition to not having a loved one nearby, there are other negative consequences. If you don’t see your friends often and are focused only on work, your social skills are lost and you become more withdrawn.Temporary loneliness develops into chronic — it is simply difficult to let another person into your life, even if you want to. Over time, a career will cease to bring joy, and without support at home, problems will begin in it. Living only for yourself, there is a higher risk of acquiring a destructive addiction, for example, to alcohol, which will affect all areas of life. Also, a significant disadvantage of such a life is the immediate absence of a large number of advantages that stable relationships provide: mutual assistance — domestic and financial, support, and more varied leisure time. In addition, it has been proven that people who are happy in their personal lives live longer.Of course, there will be those who will say that single life also has many advantages, and will not want to change anything. But if you are reading this article, most likely the problem of loneliness is relevant to you. First, it’s worth figuring out whether this is a pattern or a pure coincidence.The main reasons for lonelinessSingle men are not uncommon these days. More and more representatives of the stronger sex are choosing a bachelor lifestyle, ignoring any attempts by women to involve them in a serious relationship. Sometimes the reason for this lies in deep psychological trauma, which must be dealt with exclusively with the help of a therapist. It could be loneliness syndrome, chronic depression, or something similar. But most often the desire to remain single is caused by social factors. Let’s consider the main ones and solutions.High expectationsIf your image of an ideal life partner has little in common with reality, finding “the one” can be extremely difficult. When setting any requirements for a future girlfriend, you need to clearly answer three questions. Are these qualities really important to you, and not imposed by someone? Are there even women who combine such qualities? And do you yourself meet such high criteria?Failed RelationshipsIf a person’s past relationship ended badly, he will not strive to enter into the next one, so as not to get burned again. Usually, it takes time for mental wounds to heal; you definitely don’t need to overpower yourself and look for a new girl immediately after a breakup. Reluctance to get married and take responsibilityThe world is changing rapidly and marriage is no longer the only possible option for two loving people. But here it is important to distinguish your desires from imposed stereotypes. Even in a situation where you are firmly convinced that marriage and children are not for you, it is not at all necessary to remain single. You just need to find a girl whose values coincide with yours. Or maybe you really want a family, but are afraid to destroy the image of the “alpha male”? You shouldn’t give up happiness in order to meet someone else’s expectations.Lack of financial well-beingIf you understand that family is a big responsibility, including finances, that’s good. So you are an adult. The lack of a stable income or the desire to live for oneself for now are fair reasons to avoid a serious relationship. It is important that you continue to develop so that by a certain age you can still achieve financial stability.Benefits of SolitudeIt’s hard to argue that there are many advantages to a single life: freedom, the opportunity to lead a wild life, or, conversely, to be in complete peace 24/7. But many are so carried away by them that they acquire the habit of always living independently. Is this your case? Think about it: do you still want to start a family in the future? If the answer is yes, the main thing is not to prolong this pleasant solitude. After all, sooner or later it will stop making you happy, and there is a risk of missing out on happiness.How else can you cope with loneliness?Play sportsAn active lifestyle is the best cure for any emotional distress. So, when in doubt or after a serious breakup, sport is especially indicated. And in the gym or in the park you can meet the same active girl. Look for new hobbies Communication based on common interests can be a great start to a long, happy relationship. Or you will find a new talent or even a calling. Don’t close yourself within four walls, try different hobbies. Not in order to definitely meet someone, but so that life sparkles with new colors.Focus on workA career is a good way to distract yourself if things are not going very smoothly in your personal life. This will also allow you to gain financial independence, which will also be a plus when you finally want to start a family.Meet with friendsEven if you don’t have a significant other right now, this is not a reason not to communicate with other couples. Who knows, maybe, looking at the relationships of your friends, you yourself will want such stability. And your bachelor friends will definitely help you take your mind off any dreary thoughts.Get a petWhen the feeling of loneliness becomes too strong, you should get a pet. It doesn’t have to be a big dog right away; even small animals will make your life more meaningful and rich. And if you are already so used to loneliness that you don’t know how to start making acquaintances, definitely get a dog. You will have to walk a lot with her and periodically communicate with new people who will not be able to resist your four-legged friend.So, have you realized that being alone has more disadvantages than advantages for you, and are you ready to change the situation? Then it’s a matter of time. An active social life and a positive attitude will be the first steps towards a new relationship. But if you feel that some internal complexes are preventing you from moving forward; or you have developed a strong fear of loneliness, you literally cannot be left alone — this is a signal that you should consult a psychologist. As we noted above, psychological trauma is sometimes to blame for chronic loneliness, and only a specialist can help cope with it.
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2024.05.16 14:44 Foreign_Letter_9999 AITA for telling my friend his wife made him a better person by domesticating him?
Throwaway
Last night, I (M36) was out having dinner with two of my close friends, Rob (M33), and Elliot (M35). Rob was complaining to us about his relationship troubles with his wife, Kay (F35).
Now before I get into the troubles, I'd like to take some time to provide more context on Rob
Rob is kinda a manly man. He'd hold his past gfs to ridiculously high standards (which he wouldn't hold for himself) and when the relationships would fall apart, it'd always be their fault. He's a decent-looking guy and has an excellent job so it wasn't like he had too much trouble starting a relationship, it was holding them down that was the problem and this made him very frustrated.
About two years ago, one of his coworkers introduced him to one of her friends named Kay. Now Kay is a no-nonsense type of person which makes sense since she had two jobs and was raising two kids alone. Despite his reservations, Rob decided to give it a chance and very quickly he realized Kay wasn't going to put up with any of his nonsense or unreasonable standards. She'd clap back at him whenever he'd try and very quickly he became highly respectful of her. My friends and I would always joke that clearly he was a little intimidated by her, and that he seemed to like that, but he'd always deny that. They got married after a few months of dating and the four of them have been living together in Rob's house pretty happily.
Back to last night
Now, after being married for around a year and a half, Rob seems a little disillusioned with the relationship. He loves Kay and the kids with all his heart, but working full-time, being a husband, and father exhausts him. He told us about how the day before yesterday, he and Kay had an argument. She thought he didn't do enough around the house. He argued that he was exhausted from work, playing with the kids, helping them with their homework, etc. They argued but long story short, it ended with him sleeping on the couch.
Rob was fuming and started going on and on about how if any other woman tried he'd be finished with her, but Kay seems to have some sort of control over him that makes him uncomfortable.
Not gonna lie, it was pretty hilarious seeing Rob act like this so I laughed and told him Kay had domesticated him and that he just needed to roll with it after all nobody made him accept all these responsibilities.
He seemed annoyed with my response and Elliot told him that he agreed with me and that he should just apologize to Kay and help out more when he can.
Rob got upset with this and started saying things like he already does enough, how he wouldn't tolerate this from another woman, etc. I told him that Kay had made him a better person by tempering his low-key toxic traits and that he should just deal with it, for his family's sake.
He got upset with this and said Elliot and I were assholes.
IDK, it seemed like everything I told him was normal.
AITA?
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Last night, I (M36) was out having dinner with two of my close friends, Rob (M33), and Elliot (M35). Rob was complaining to us about his relationship troubles with his wife, Kay (F35).
Now before I get into the troubles, I'd like to take some time to provide more context on Rob
Rob is kinda a manly man. He'd hold his past gfs to ridiculously high standards (which he wouldn't hold for himself) and when the relationships would fall apart, it'd always be their fault. He's a decent-looking guy and has an excellent job so it wasn't like he had too much trouble starting a relationship, it was holding them down that was the problem and this made him very frustrated.
About two years ago, one of his coworkers introduced him to one of her friends named Kay. Now Kay is a no-nonsense type of person which makes sense since she had two jobs and was raising two kids alone. Despite his reservations, Rob decided to give it a chance and very quickly he realized Kay wasn't going to put up with any of his nonsense or unreasonable standards. She'd clap back at him whenever he'd try and very quickly he became highly respectful of her. My friends and I would always joke that clearly he was a little intimidated by her, and that he seemed to like that, but he'd always deny that. They got married after a few months of dating and the four of them have been living together in Rob's house pretty happily.
Back to last night
Now, after being married for around a year and a half, Rob seems a little disillusioned with the relationship. He loves Kay and the kids with all his heart, but working full-time, being a husband, and father exhausts him. He told us about how the day before yesterday, he and Kay had an argument. She thought he didn't do enough around the house. He argued that he was exhausted from work, playing with the kids, helping them with their homework, etc. They argued but long story short, it ended with him sleeping on the couch.
Rob was fuming and started going on and on about how if any other woman tried he'd be finished with her, but Kay seems to have some sort of control over him that makes him uncomfortable.
Not gonna lie, it was pretty hilarious seeing Rob act like this so I laughed and told him Kay had domesticated him and that he just needed to roll with it after all nobody made him accept all these responsibilities.
He seemed annoyed with my response and Elliot told him that he agreed with me and that he should just apologize to Kay and help out more when he can.
Rob got upset with this and started saying things like he already does enough, how he wouldn't tolerate this from another woman, etc. I told him that Kay had made him a better person by tempering his low-key toxic traits and that he should just deal with it, for his family's sake.
He got upset with this and said Elliot and I were assholes.
IDK, it seemed like everything I told him was normal.
AITA?